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| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI love Greta, but I wish she could get Putin nailed somehow too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/22 01:05 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadIt’s a false narrative , women prefer dating men at least equal to them in income . Or within a certain range. This means the only time a stay at home dead is acceptable is when the women herself is close to poor or poor. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/22 01:04 AM |
| 0 | Happy Birthday!To all the men here who say 30+ women are ugly, please see this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/22 10:13 PM |
| 1 | Hook-up culture is pretty disgusting and deplorable.I mean it defines how you define hookup culture but in many Asian countries prostitution is everywhere lol. Every Chinese hotel has the spa really acting as a brothel for male clients . In Thailand and Cambodia like 80% of men use prostitutes. Not sure if you count that as hooking up but western society isn’t exclusive to casual attitudes towards sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/12/22 09:29 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Women don’t like porn because it raises the bar too high on looks and sexual performanceLooks like you are too mentally unstable, I am blocking you to not trigger you anymore. Sorry. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/22 08:34 AM |
| 1 | How to be more attractive as a man?Found the incel. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/22 06:56 AM |
| 1 | Can woman with traditionally masculine features be conventionally attractiveProminent cheek bones isn’t a masculine feature , the most gorgeous Asian women have big cheek bones , and women get cheek fillers. But assuming you mean androgynous features , probably not , but most women with such features I have seen are lesbians . | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/12/22 07:31 PM |
| – | Passport Bros and people who know them, what are your/their stories?I think the biggest misconception about men who go abroad for love is that they cannot find love at home. People naturally gravitate toward environments more advantageous to them. Women don't like men who get advantages , so they make up lies about how ALL women abroad are only looking to marry for a green card. If I can get 50 tinder matches per day in Taiwan and 1 per day in the USA, where do you think is more interesting for me? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/22 07:16 PM |
| 1 | Should couples have separate bank accounts or share them ?What if she wanted to buy an LV bag that’s $3,000 . Should she ask your permission first ? Or is it just something you should cover ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/12/22 05:48 PM |
| 2 | Should couples have separate bank accounts or share them ?If you only have shared how do you handle larger purchases ? Like furniture, jewelry, or a car ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/12/22 05:43 PM |
| 1 | Should couples have separate bank accounts or share them ?Do you have instances where you ask one another to pay for things ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/12/22 04:10 PM |
| 52 | As a leftist man, I believe that men are better off not pursuing progressive/feminist/leftist women for long-term relationships.Modern China is the most money obsessed society on the planet . No woman in China marries a man who cannot afford house and car. I’ll take a woman that together we can shit on Putin together rather than a conservative woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/22 05:56 PM |
| 2 | Q4W: What type of men do you tend to attract?Trust me I know plenty of guys in China that would love to marry a western woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/22 02:57 AM |
| 6 | Redpillers 'focus on themselves' to get women, thus defeating the pointThis is a paradox seriously. you choose to focus on yourself, but not for yourself, but for validation from the opposite sex. This isn't a paradox. Validation has to come from a mixture of internal and the external. Because we live in the shared world, we cannot purely live from internal validation. The problem is when you have 100% external validation or 100% internal validation. You need 50/50. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/11/22 08:44 PM |
| 6 | Redpillers 'focus on themselves' to get women, thus defeating the pointNo it is not. Stop treating women as a goal. A goal is not the same as a desire though. Yes, men should not view women as a goal, but, they will still have a desire for them. I feel a lot of this messaging around not desiring women is very misleading. Guys will always desire women, but the guys who have their own goals are better off then guys who make women their goal. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/11/22 08:41 PM |
| 8 | Redpillers 'focus on themselves' to get women, thus defeating the pointIf redpill communities really felt that men should find purpose outside women, they would recommend leaving redpill and never returning, instead telling men to immerse themselves in business, fitness, and sports communities. I feel this is confusing MGTOW and redpill. redpill doesn't say to completely disregard women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/11/22 08:39 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadBut needing it all is different from saying you want sex to come 2nd or 3rd on the list . I think I agree with you in that women need it all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/11/22 07:09 PM |
| 1 | Attraction is based off of perception and desire , not literal needsI think your boyfriend likely doesn’t have a high drive or isn’t good at sex. When sex is good , I have rarely seen a case where women don’t want it on a frequent basis . The reason I say your bf is the issue is because if he treasured and adored every inch of your body , you might feel more inclined to try that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/11/22 06:36 PM |
| 2 | N-Count Survey of the USA (2021) ResultsDo you understand how sampling works ? The covid vaccine for Pfizer was tested on 40,000 people to determine if it would work for EA on hundreds of millions of adults. The goal of sampling is to pick a sample that scales to the population , not to sample the entire population. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/11/22 06:28 PM |
| 0 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadExactly , when women find an attractive man they just want him to pleasure her all day long. Not sure why people try and make this difficult to understand. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/11/22 06:17 PM |
| 0 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadWomen who say that they "need a man who values them as a person first, sex second" are confused or insecure about their sexuality. Women need sexual validation to feel secure, like that ass slap walking by from their man . | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/11/22 06:09 PM |
| 5 | Attraction is based off of perception and desire , not literal needsWell yea, thats a very strong desire for a big ass. But I am arguing against people valuing each gender based off literal needs. Women desire dick like men desire ass. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/11/22 06:01 PM |
| -6 | Do the women here define "relationships" as essentially just emotional and financial commitment from a man WITHOUT sex being involved?Looking someone for who they are not because of their body. But then whats the difference between a friend and a girlfriend then ? This is incredibly confusing to most men, and makes me think women say this are just insecure about their sexuality. Do you not want men to pay any attention to you sexually and only value you for your personality ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/11/22 05:04 AM |
| -1 | Do the women here define "relationships" as essentially just emotional and financial commitment from a man WITHOUT sex being involved?Why would i want to spend time with someone who respects me? The issue is most people are respectful to most people they are at least friends with. But what you said was: I want a guy who likes me as a person first and still wants to fuck me. What does like as a person first mean ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/11/22 04:19 AM |
| -5 | Do the women here define "relationships" as essentially just emotional and financial commitment from a man WITHOUT sex being involved?I want a guy who likes me as a person first and still wants to fuck me. I don't want a guy who just puts up with me so that he can fuck me. But what's the effective difference between these two ? OR what's an example between being A or B? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/11/22 04:01 AM |
| 2 | The biggest problem in the dating world is the separation of attractiveness and socioeconomic classJust curious but what do you have against American Jewish women? Too similar to my mother so too much trauma from the past that comes up. And it lasts to this day. My mother basically disowned me when I didn't get into Stanford and then again blew up at me when I got rejected from a Google internship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/11/22 03:58 AM |
| 1 | The biggest problem in the dating world is the separation of attractiveness and socioeconomic classYes , like my girlfriend is Chinese and some Jewish women claim that Chinese women are “stealing” Jewish men. So that comment thread in this post made me realize I don’t actually support in group dating , as I most certainly would not want to date a Jewish woman, at least not an American one. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/11/22 02:27 AM |
| 2 | The biggest problem in the dating world is the separation of attractiveness and socioeconomic classNo I’m a Jew lol. My view was already changed btw for this post . Some other guy made me realize my real issue is against people with in group preferences or dibs , and thus the concept of not mixing classes isn’t what I actually support | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/11/22 01:38 AM |
| 1 | N-Count Survey of the USA (2021) ResultsWhy not click on the link and actually find the things you are looking for ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/11/22 01:33 AM |
| 1 | N-Count Survey of the USA (2021) ResultsThis is a study conducted by medical professionals on thousands of people. It’s a survey , so it won’t be scientific in terms of being double blind , but it’s a reputable survey for sure. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/11/22 01:26 AM |
| 2 | The biggest problem in the dating world is the separation of attractiveness and socioeconomic classAs an example , https://instagram.com/buakaw1?igshid=Nzg3NjI1NGI= this is one of the top Muay Thai fighters in Thailand . He’s obviously fit , but his muscles are tiny compared to USA fighters or body builders. He’s even more just low body fight then muscular . | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/11/22 01:25 AM |
| 1 | N-Count Survey of the USA (2021) ResultsWhy is a survey of thousands of people by medical professionals not reliable ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/11/22 11:41 PM |
| 1 | N-Count Survey of the USA (2021) ResultsDo you not understand how sampling works ? Sampling size does not really matter . The method does . The concept of surveys is a sample scales out the same to a larger population. If you disagree with the sampling method , then that’s a valid critique . But you are just complaining about the concept of studies and surveys themselves, not this particular survey. The covid vaccine was only studied on like 40,000 people before being approved on emergency authorization , for example. But they managed… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/11/22 11:01 PM |
| 1 | N-Count Survey of the USA (2021) ResultsNope, unfortunately. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/11/22 10:59 PM |
| 1 | N-Count Survey of the USA (2021) ResultsNo , sadly. I was choosing it because of how recent it is and a decent sample size. Since in my last post people thought. A study from 2002 was ancient | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/11/22 10:52 PM |
| -1 | N-Count Survey of the USA (2021) ResultsCould it be the doctors or just more recent surveys will naturally be sampling people who have lowered taboos ? Like isn’t it expected as time goes on, people will be more open about sex ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/11/22 10:51 PM |
| 1 | Being the hornier sex (the guy) is such a gigantic weakness for hetero sexual dating dynamics.I disagree , the main problem men face is fear of rejection more than horniness. What you speak of regarding not care whether sex happens or not is how to handle rejection. In many ways guys suppress their horniness too much. I have been in a lot of situations where I didn’t really make any bold moves and the woman lost interest. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/11/22 10:49 PM |
| 4 | N-Count Survey of the USA (2021) ResultsIt’s a fairly liberal place . Not surprised . | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/11/22 10:45 PM |
| 5 | The same behavior that caused me to get friendzoned by women I was attracted to is the same behavior that causes women I'm not attracted to to want to date me.I think women have different attention thresholds from men. Some women are fine being friends with someone they are drawn to , but with other women , you need to make a mover fast or they lose interest in you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/11/22 07:12 PM |
| 2 | The biggest problem in the dating world is the separation of attractiveness and socioeconomic classYou are half right . Women are universally attracted to men with masculine characteristics . Height , big chest , big shoulders , big arms. Some level of working out is always beneficial. I have gotten way more compliments on my body in China and Singapore than ever in the USA. Now , the problem is western culture takes fitness to the extreme. The insane sports culture filled with 6’5” or 6’8” men who are 200+ pounds on TV 24/7 makes the standard of masculinity far far higher. Then add to that g… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/11/22 05:13 PM |
| 1 | A passion for making the world better is an underestimated but very attractive quality in menI need to show her my implementation of malloc? All depends what your confident in and what peaks her interest. A pull request contributing to the Python core language in C would probably be better. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/11/22 05:36 AM |
| 1 | The biggest problem in the dating world is the separation of attractiveness and socioeconomic classAnd nothing in my response could lead a rational person to that conclusion. Oh please, get off your high horse. "shitty dick" is a misandrist insult, just as "cunt" is a misogynist insult. You just want to cheer on women for finding rich guys and shame rich guys for choosing women from other countries. Laughable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/11/22 01:41 AM |
| 1 | The biggest problem in the dating world is the separation of attractiveness and socioeconomic classYou don’t think some white knight American promising the American dream away from a person’s actively war torn country is a power move? It's zero difference from a wall street banker offering an escape from a woman working in a grocery store. to some shitty dick of a guy here Ok you are a misandrist, not a xenophobe. Happy? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/11/22 01:30 AM |
| 1 | can a man be confident on the inside but not show ittype of thing bad because how many women potentially fall for abuse of men thinking that they're abusive is somehow confident Well abuse is a form of confidence, it's a belief in oneself that is enough to motivate someone to commit an evil act. But it's still confidence. Perception of course plays a role. But I think if someone is truly confident, they exude it. It's an energy. Like you can look at a girl and feel yourself penetrating her. It's hard to describe. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/11/22 01:26 AM |
| 0 | The biggest problem in the dating world is the separation of attractiveness and socioeconomic classWhat do you think “foreign countries” mean? Non-western or developing countries. Columbia, Vietnam, Thailand, etc. What do you think women from “foreign countries” are? No idea what you are asking with this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 11:45 PM |
| 1 | The biggest problem in the dating world is the separation of attractiveness and socioeconomic classDo you see how even a poor American could use their wealth to take advantage of a foreigner. $10/hr is hardly something most anyone could live on here, and that’s 10x what the AVERAGE person makes over there Are you aware that the average manhattan socialite earns probably 100x-1000x what a working class woman in NYC might make ? If major wealth gaps == manipulation, that should apply universally. Otherwise it's just prejudice or xenophobia against foreign women. Also not sure if you are aware b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 10:19 PM |
| 3 | The biggest problem in the dating world is the separation of attractiveness and socioeconomic classThat's a fair point. Your right. Maybe my issue is just an opposition to in-group thinking rather than it being to do with hypergamy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 09:27 PM |
| 2 | The biggest problem in the dating world is the separation of attractiveness and socioeconomic classYou come across as being extremely threatened that some well hung drug dealers are going to take up all the girls in your circle. Nope, I only used the term "drug dealer with massive penis" to keep it light hearted. The real thing I am arguing against is women who want to have their cake and eat it too. I have been told by many jewish women how asian women are snagging "our" men, and how I am a bad jew for dating a Chinese woman. The people here seem to accuse my post of entitlement, yet do not … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 08:58 PM |
| 1 | The biggest problem in the dating world is the separation of attractiveness and socioeconomic classI can only speak for asian cultures, but dating in one’s socioeconomy group is highly preferred. Dating down (for woman) is heavily looked down upon. Thousand percent agree. My Chinese girlfriend's parents were skeptical of her dating an American guy until they found out im also a software engineer like her and am Jewish (China has a strong stereotype about wealth and judaism) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 08:40 PM |
| 1 | The biggest problem in the dating world is the separation of attractiveness and socioeconomic classHowever when there is a constant stress looming over you to meet your basic needs you can’t argue that that life is better than the person who is able to meet their basic needs and afford to also do things for their mental well being. Your confusing surviving vs thriving. If someone is homeless or living in shelters then yes, that is not meeting basic needs. But a lot of people dont have luxuries like child care or their own apartment in NYC. They make do by leaving kids at grandmas or uncles ho… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 08:31 PM |
| -2 | The biggest problem in the dating world is the separation of attractiveness and socioeconomic classMy dude, you're the one threatened by working class dudes in your spaces. Oh I am not threatened by them. I have a dual degree in computer science and art, so I love to hang with the working class. I just don't like double standards between men and women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 08:22 PM |
| 1 | The biggest problem in the dating world is the separation of attractiveness and socioeconomic classYour argument is that people are happy to live in a 1 bedroom with multiple people? They can be happy yes. They are not all happy, but it is possible to be happy. Your argument was that people cannot be happy under a certain income level. Happiness is a feeling that can be felt at any income level. So your claim that a certain emotion cannot be felt without a material object doesn't seem possible to prove. Regarding your sources, do you know if they are talking about household income or personal… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 08:21 PM |
| -5 | The biggest problem in the dating world is the separation of attractiveness and socioeconomic classYour frustration for “stem nerds [having] to compete with the gangster bros” and the resulting chaos you say ensues is rooted in entitlement. Why do stem nerds get X kind of women while gangster bros get Y. And who decides that which kind of woman goes to which group? Don't complain when men look to foreign countries for women then. Women aren't entitled to men from their own country either. You can't have your cake and eat it too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 07:44 PM |
| 1 | The biggest problem in the dating world is the separation of attractiveness and socioeconomic classAverage Joes and Janes were too busy trying to not fail their classes to bother with hookup culture. Oh man, you are a bit naive. They might not hook up regularly, but the moment a midterm is over, the fight thing those girls want to do is go to a frat party. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 07:42 PM |
| 1 | The biggest problem in the dating world is the separation of attractiveness and socioeconomic classIt tends to be a problem since the standard is applied unevenly. Someone in this post already said a man going to poorer countries to find women is "totally not the same" as a working class 6'4" guy hitting up the socialites. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 07:40 PM |
| 1 | The biggest problem in the dating world is the separation of attractiveness and socioeconomic classYour personal anecdote is irrelevant to the argument. So please provide the study where it verbtaim says "You need to make X dollars to be happy". Really curious to see that. In NYC child care for ONE child averages 1350. Median rent for a one bedroom is 2k. You know longer qualify for affordable health insurance once you make 17 an hour. Making 16 an hour gets you 2560. You are either extremely naive or delusional if you think that people of low socioeconomic status are making enough money to l… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 07:38 PM |
| -1 | The biggest problem in the dating world is the separation of attractiveness and socioeconomic classIn the first example, the working class dude is in control pursuing the higher class woman, so she’s not using her socioeconomic status as a means to manipulate and control the working class dude In the second example, the higher class dude is absolutely preying on someone else’s dire straits which creates the power differential that people are so offended by So you just applied a sexist standard. Only men can manipulate or control, not women. That being said, if you need to go to some foreign c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 07:32 PM |
| 1 | The biggest problem in the dating world is the separation of attractiveness and socioeconomic classWith that being said; why it is bad that stem bros has to compete with construction workers? This means that they can also compete for working class women and thus have more options. It's not bad as long as dating out is universally accepted. I have found a woman dating a man of lower socioeconomic status is more accepted than a man who does so, such as western men looking abroad for women from poorer countries. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 07:30 PM |
| 1 | The biggest problem in the dating world is the separation of attractiveness and socioeconomic classSo to be clear, you have no issue with either men or women dating of different socio economic classes? Meaning you would view men going to poorer countries abroad to find women no differently then women dating drug dealers ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 07:27 PM |
| -2 | The biggest problem in the dating world is the separation of attractiveness and socioeconomic classIf the 6’4-from-a-working-class dude wants to get down with Manhattan socialites, who are you to judge that? This is 100% rooted in entitlement. You think cuz you have money you shouldn’t be forced to “compete” with dudes who are better looking or taller than you are just cuz their paycheck isn’t as fat as yours…. I think one problem here is when this problem is phrased in terms of men, women claim a man complaining about it is entitled. But when men go to foreign countries to get women who come… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 07:25 PM |
| 1 | The biggest problem in the dating world is the separation of attractiveness and socioeconomic classNo, this just means the stem nerds have to start working out and maybe take up bjj or hunting or something else to come off as more masculine. They might already be doing those things , or maybe they could start. But in a normal situation, they would only compete amongst people of that socioeconomic class, not also worry about gangster bros. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 07:20 PM |
| 2 | The biggest problem in the dating world is the separation of attractiveness and socioeconomic classThere are studies that have showed you need to make a certain amount to be happy. That's an unprovable statement on it's own. I know many people who work for amazon or work at gas stations that are super happy. I also doubt any study that's peer reviewed would use the terminology "need". I’m not sure how you can logically conclude that people who are in financial positions where there are constantly struggling to meet their basic needs are somehow happier than people who are able to do so You ar… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 07:18 PM |
| 1 | The biggest problem in the dating world is the separation of attractiveness and socioeconomic classthird world countries people live in squalor but have families, wives, children and lower suicide rates Thailand, a developing country, is literally called the land of smiles , for a reason. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 07:09 PM |
| 1 | The biggest problem in the dating world is the separation of attractiveness and socioeconomic classThe drug dealer is practicing hyper gamy here , not the sorority girl. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 06:58 PM |
| 2 | The biggest problem in the dating world is the separation of attractiveness and socioeconomic classSocioeconomic class is really based on wealth you attain and own rather than your hereditary wealth. Overtime people develop spending and living habits equal to that class. I’m sure you would agree it would be inaccurate to call Kris Jenner or the kardashians as working class since they weren’t born wealthy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 06:57 PM |
| 2 | The biggest problem in the dating world is the separation of attractiveness and socioeconomic classWhy is this a problem OP? Speaking strictly for myself, I'm extremely happy that my non-working class wife fell in love with working class me. It's not so much an issue for marriages, but it's more an issue for dating and hooking up. Imagine the drug dealer who has a massive penis or is really tall hooking up with many women in software engineering or higher class groups of people. Or men going to poorer countries and having a pussy buffet while local men can't find women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 06:31 PM |
| 2 | The biggest problem in the dating world is the separation of attractiveness and socioeconomic classThis seems kind of interesting because studies have found that people are becoming more and more likely to befriend, date, and socialize within their socioeconomic class. Do you have one to share ? I would be curious to read them. I love economics studies. So these working-class women getting laid by multimillionaire gigachads But see , it doesn't work like that. Mr. Chad doesn't waltz into the post office and have women in postal worker uniform hit on him. College is a place rife with hypergamy… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 06:21 PM |
| 1 | The biggest problem in the dating world is the separation of attractiveness and socioeconomic classI think attractiveness and socioeconomic class should stay separate. Date experientially (how someone makes you feel) not evaluatively (how many shallow trait/perk checkboxes does this person check?) Socioeconomic class isn't about traits and perks. It's about a group of people and how they live their life. Working class, middle classs, upper middle, upper, and more variations are socioeconomic classes. Do you have to calculate and budget every purchase you make on amazon ? Do you travel to diff… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 06:17 PM |
| 1 | Nothing gives greater evidence of hypergamy than the idea women "want commitment" and men "only want sex"I would argue that a consumer getting together with a drug dealer IS a form of hypergamy. On the drug dealers behalf it's hypergamy. The drug dealer is using a social vice to extend his reach to higher social classes. It's a similar effect to sex workers and prostitution using paid sex as a way to extend to higher social classes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 06:10 PM |
| 1 | The biggest problem in the dating world is the separation of attractiveness and socioeconomic classOh yes , in that case I do believe that falls under hypergamy . But it needs to be more in separate socioeconomic classes . Maybe the 40 year old is MD at a bank and the 20 year old is an associate. Or something to that effect | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 05:42 PM |
| 1 | The biggest problem in the dating world is the separation of attractiveness and socioeconomic classNot sure what you are arguing ? Are you agreeing there's a problem of separation between attractiveness and socioeconomic class ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 05:36 PM |
| 1 | The biggest problem in the dating world is the separation of attractiveness and socioeconomic classGreat point. Age gaps are a gray zone because people typically always earn more as they age. As in, a 40 year old who has saved up well and invested well can be substantially in a better spot financially than a 20 year old of the same class. But I don't see how age plays into hypergamy, perhaps you can clarify ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 05:29 PM |
| 1 | The biggest problem in the dating world is the separation of attractiveness and socioeconomic classI don't think you can put people in boxes and judge their level of attractiveness based on how well they fit a certain criteria I'm confused here, before you brought up the concept of people being physically attractive, now you are saying we can't judge people on very prominent characteristics like height ? People are so complex and their preferences vary so much from each other Nope. Very basic things like height are near universal. Do women who love short men and hate tall men exist? Sure. Do … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 05:26 PM |
| 5 | Nothing gives greater evidence of hypergamy than the idea women "want commitment" and men "only want sex"how many other non-hypergamous women like me do you think exist? I think a lot of women like you exist, more so in suburban or rural areas. Urban centers will have more hypergamous people, simply because urban centers tend to mix socioeconomic classes the most. And no, none of the things you describe would be hypergamous in my view. Height preference derives mostly from sexual dimorphism , so desiring taller men is normal in any group. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 05:23 PM |
| 1 | The biggest problem in the dating world is the separation of attractiveness and socioeconomic classI can assure you someone living in a low income housing but gets laid everyday is not living a better quality of life that someone who has the financial means to travel, buy a home in a safe area, spend money on hobbies, etc but doesn’t get laid everyday. Blanket assumption here. Peter Santanello has a number of in depth videos interviewing people in gangs and in hoods. They are fairly happy despite their circumstances. Besides that though, I'm not clear what you are arguing. Do you believe that… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 05:13 PM |
| 1 | The biggest problem in the dating world is the separation of attractiveness and socioeconomic classIt seems to me that you would want belonging to a high socioeconomic class to make you automatically more physically attractive as well. No no no. Not making that argument. I am saying that belonging to a certain socioeconomic class limits your dating scope. This works for people of any physical attractiveness. As an example, say you have Bob, bob is a 6 - 6 - 6, six feet tall, 6 inches down there, and 6 figure income. A fairly desirable man. However, then there's Derek. Derek is a guy who's 6'5… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 05:10 PM |
| -1 | The biggest problem in the dating world is the separation of attractiveness and socioeconomic classWhy exactly is it unfair when people are choosing for themselves who they want to involve themselves with? What definition of fair are we using here ? I am using fair == equitable. Let me give you an example. A celebrity man begins sleeping with women of a middle socioeconomic class. This man has wealth and status no average man can obtain in his life time. However, instead of sticking with fellow celebrity women, he is indulging in many, many average income women. Do you see this as fair or equ… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 05:06 PM |
| 1 | The biggest problem in the dating world is the separation of attractiveness and socioeconomic classYou should attempt to attain a higher socio economic class because it improves your quality of life. Not because you are trying to get laid. The issue there is you are implying quality of life has no relationship with one's sex life. And the same way someone in your socio economic class can date above or date below them so can you. You can, but this has the effect of tumbling the weed down the hill and causing more problems. A common one is men who seek to go abroad to date down with poorer wome… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 05:03 PM |
| 0 | The biggest problem in the dating world is the separation of attractiveness and socioeconomic classWhy would someone not finding someone else's ''socioeconomic class'' important when dating be a problem and why is this important to you? Because it makes competition groups much larger and potentially unfair. Imagine there's a guy from a working class family who's 6'4" and completely jacked. If his working class isn't a factor, he can hook up with an extremely wide range of women, instead of just being limited to fellow working class women. Why do you feel like being of a particular ''socioecon… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 04:58 PM |
| 5 | Nothing gives greater evidence of hypergamy than the idea women "want commitment" and men "only want sex"Just curious, what do you consider hypergamy? Hypergamy to me is when people seek to date or have casual sex with those in a higher socioeconomic class. Like what traits in an individual man would create hypergamy in a woman? I don't think individual traits can cause hypergamy. It's more the environment or culture that plays a greater role. Also, I don't think hypergamy is exclusive to women. Men can be hypergamous if they come from a lower socioeconomic background. For example, in college, ther… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 04:18 PM |
| 8 | Nothing gives greater evidence of hypergamy than the idea women "want commitment" and men "only want sex"Hypergamy is about people dating about their league. I feel your post is just describing hookup dynamics or culture, not reasons for hypergamy. A big cause for hypergamy in my view is the removal of wealth from the concept of attractiveness. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 02:31 PM |
| 2 | Most men here can't help but dehumanize fat and non conventionally attractive people (women especially) when their dating life isn't going as planned? Why?I feel people in general attack those who they feel threatened by. Some men claim any man who’s somewhat muscular uses steroids. Some women claim any woman who has a decent hips to waist ratio has a bbl. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 02:26 PM |
| 2 | How are bigger women improving their dating game if even?Fair enough , I have seen that determination as well | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 02:13 PM |
| -1 | How are bigger women improving their dating game if even?That isn’t a BBl though . Your welcome to believe what you want to believe . Going around claiming any woman who does squats has a bbl makes you look extremely insecure. It’s like blindly claiming any man with large muscles is on steroids . https://www.instagram.com/p/CZ-4qCWAGcW/?igshid=Nzg3NjI1NGI= That’s a bbl , you can clearly see the un natural way the fat on the hips folds out when she raises her leg. https://www.instagram.com/reel/CV_NyMph2wS/?igshid=Nzg3NjI1NGI= this is the same woman I … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 02:01 PM |
| 1 | How are bigger women improving their dating game if even?That’s not surgery holy shit. She has multiple videos showing progress pictures for working out . Your committing the fallacy any woman who works out and does squats == has surgery. Also there’s no “scars” in any of her pics . | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 01:29 PM |
| 2 | How are bigger women improving their dating game if even?overweight / obese as every euphemism in the book but those words. The issue is when talking about attraction, we have to separate women who have pear shaped bodies with small waists from actually over weight/obese women. This is a thick woman This is an overweight woman | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 08:04 AM |
| 2 | Study: “Women who are regular exposed to semen are less depressed”Oh yea , I think it would have a far far greater effect for men. When a woman tells you she wants you to come inside it’s literally the greatest feeling I have ever felt. I feel like super man until post nut clarity hits. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 04:14 AM |
| 2 | Has an increased focus on issues related to the alpha/beta distinction caused men to deliberately act more “dominant”?Yes that’s the issue . The problem with the TRP is it gets a little too bent on topics like the wall or N count . But it’s spot on regarding the division between alpha men and beta man. A woman behaves like gas being ignited when she senses and responds to an alpha, you don’t know there’s gas around you until it ignites. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 04:01 AM |
| 1 | Study: “Women who are regular exposed to semen are less depressed”Prostitutes mostly use condoms , and sperm banks only have frozen sperm | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 03:58 AM |
| 2 | Has an increased focus on issues related to the alpha/beta distinction caused men to deliberately act more “dominant”?I don’t think men are more dominant , but there’s more open conversation about alpha and beta men done by women , such as an social media . Example https://www.instagram.com/reel/Cj3PIdVp5MV/?igshid=Nzg3NjI1NGI= | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 03:37 AM |
| 2 | Has an increased focus on issues related to the alpha/beta distinction caused men to deliberately act more “dominant”?The difference is now women talk more openly about sexual and relationships . https://www.instagram.com/reel/Cj3PIdVp5MV/?igshid=Nzg3NjI1NGI= convos like that on podcasts and social media are more widely circulated. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 03:35 AM |
| 2 | A passion for making the world better is an underestimated but very attractive quality in menNetworking would be with locals , not expats, if the goal is to distribute books to schools. Disagree there on traveling. Needing shots , having to worry about local government issues (like those in Sudan or Cameroon) is not easy stuff. Don’t see how that can be easy compared to traveling in Asia or even the Middle East | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 03:22 AM |
| 1 | Thoughts on the idea that average modern women want super tall men because they are hyper masculine and overweight?I think height has a compensation effect for other areas of attractiveness. Such that the taller a guy is , the more it makes up for other deficits. I have seen 6’6” skinny guys with a plane face pill stunning 5’3” women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 02:53 AM |
| 2 | Daily Community Chat Megathreadwho thought the very idea of friendship was just some pathetic and illogical woman only thing While that's obviously false, I do think there's merit in the idea that women are more likely to form closer, longer term friendships than men. I personally have only kept long term friendships with women, because they seem to be more likely to message to hang out or catch up on whats been going on. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 02:11 AM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat Megathreadincome taxes should be used to subsidize men paying for prostitutes. For example, ballpark numbers here, one hour of sex with a slightly above average looking woman should cost the man about $20. As someone who has used sex workers in SE Asia in the past, I think the issue with what you are proposing is in the USA there's no infrastructure for sex work. Take a look in r/sexworkers . It's a very very weird setup. Where you need to be "screened" then tested for stds, then you need a condom or a de… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 02:09 AM |
| 1 | TRP Dramatically Over Thinks Human NatureIt would help to understand what parts of TRP thought on human nature you disagree with, as it can be a bit broad? Like do you feel women don't hit the wall, or do you believe most women don't like chad, or what is your disagreement? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 01:41 AM |
| 1 | Study: “Women who are regular exposed to semen are less depressed”I'd assume women who let a person nut on them or in them are likely with a partner they trust, are comfortable and happy with. But that doesn't change the notion or support for women needing good sex to help fight depression. But not using protection is a much deeper connection. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 01:38 AM |
| 1 | Study: “Women who are regular exposed to semen are less depressed”And it's bold of you to ask for a source for that sorry excuse of a source you provided This made me chuckle. You just gave a source about Sweden, using less people than my study did (162 sample size vs my 300), and you are touting it as some sort of fact? Correlation does not equal causation king 👑 A woman being a lesbian also does not cause her to be happy. Right back at ya ;) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 01:33 AM |
| 0 | Study: “Women who are regular exposed to semen are less depressed”Can you cite those statistics ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 01:15 AM |
| 0 | can a man be confident on the inside but not show itNope, strongly disagree on this one. True confidence is a natural flow of doing things. You cannot fake true confidence. But when you have it about something, it just flows. And people naturally recognize it. Women have a sharp way of sensing confidence in man. They call it big dick energy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/22 11:33 PM |
| 3 | A passion for making the world better is an underestimated but very attractive quality in menFor example, there was one man who was trained archelogist whose goal it was to bring academic textbooks to children in jungle-schools of Kenya, because he didn't have them growing up. The guy had a basic salary, but holy shit his girlfriend looked like a model. Anytime he spoke about his goal of getting a book in the hands of every poor child his woman looked at him like he was a super hero. So for this example, I don't think the attraction is his goals, but rather what it takes to achieve them… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/22 11:27 PM |
| 7 | A passion for making the world better is an underestimated but very attractive quality in menHitler was actually extremely popular amongst Women in Nazi Germany. His speeches were fiery and fueled with energy. Women likely were guided toward his confidence rather than his ideology. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/22 11:23 PM |
| 1 | Study: “Women who are regular exposed to semen are less depressed”I would argue someone cares MORE about someone if they want to protect them from STIs. That's the male point of view. We are talking about the female point of view. Sex is more pleasurable without condoms, and wanting to give or receive pleasure is also an element of care and passion. both haven't been tested is sort of equivalent to the safety talk for rafts and lifejackets, and air masks every time you are on a plane. Not at all. If the plane crashes, those have little to no effect in safety. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/22 11:18 PM |
| 2 | Study: “Women who are regular exposed to semen are less depressed”You can certainly be depressed without being clinically depressed . We’re you not aware of that ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/22 10:03 PM |
| 1 | Study: “Women who are regular exposed to semen are less depressed”The super small risk of stds just means someone doesn’t love someone or isn’t that attracted to them. Being super nit picky about small risks makes someone neurotic . You could make the same argument for not flying due to the risk of plane crashes or environmental harm. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/22 09:58 PM |
| -1 | Study: “Women who are regular exposed to semen are less depressed”The risk of any std from a blowjob is very very low. I have never heard of someone do that outside of sex workers. Women who insist on using condoms for blow jobs are paranoid and neurotic | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/22 09:56 PM |
| 1 | Study: “Women who are regular exposed to semen are less depressed”But women have a more reactive sexuality and libido . They need the presence of sexy men to feel aroused . So we can’t view men and women equally the same when talking about depression and libido | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/22 08:23 PM |
| 2 | Women can only blame themselves for "number of sexual partners" standard.Disagree , men are definitely picky. You have to go out in real life though and not judge that on Reddit. Women who are over 200+ pounds or obese , or overall ugly do not get much attention at all from men in real life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/22 07:50 PM |
| 0 | Study: “Women who are regular exposed to semen are less depressed”I sort of disagree. Only on a personal level , when ever I go down on a woman and swallow her fluids , I feel this strange sense of attachment to her , like my brain tells me I should spend more time with her , even though before the bedroom I didn’t think that. I do feel there’s some undiscovered compounds in sexual fluids that create attachment | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/22 07:25 PM |
| 1 | If you only want intimacy through sex, you don’t actually care about intimacy. You just want sex.Nope , Your the one who seems a little triggered. Paying for sex has a purpose. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/22 07:02 PM |
| 2 | Study: “Women who are regular exposed to semen are less depressed”But then does that say good sex helps depression ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/22 06:53 PM |
| 1 | Study: “Women who are regular exposed to semen are less depressed”Key term here is super picky. Imagine a woman thinking a blow job can give her HIV. And yes , being super concerned about STDs more than the average population is hysteria | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/22 06:52 PM |
| 1 | Study: “Women who are regular exposed to semen are less depressed”If you are able to take birth control there’s no reason for condoms. You can do STD tests on a basis both people feel comfortable with. What I mean though by neurotic is like where a woman thinks an uncovered blow job will give her HIV | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/22 06:50 PM |
| 0 | Study: “Women who are regular exposed to semen are less depressed”The neurotic part makes sense to be honest. Women are super picky about condoms do seem to be more neurotic | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/22 06:18 PM |
| 3 | Study: “Women who are regular exposed to semen are less depressed”Fair enough , agreed with you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/22 06:17 PM |
| 1 | If you only want intimacy through sex, you don’t actually care about intimacy. You just want sex.The claim is most men are shameful about paying for sex . That’s an assumption and I’m asking for sources. Also I think this line of thinking is very American like . Some countries exist where 80-90% of men pay for sex. Sometimes it’s good to think outside the puritanical box. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/22 06:15 PM |
| 2 | Study: “Women who are regular exposed to semen are less depressed”That’s really interesting . I can see how it makes sense . Younger men are less likely to have casual sex , older woman gets off on getting attention easier from average younger guys. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/22 06:00 PM |
| 0 | Study: “Women who are regular exposed to semen are less depressed”But if you completely separate semen from specific men it probably won’t have the same effect. It would be like receiving a surprise package from a mystery person vs from your lover or partner | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/22 05:55 PM |
| 3 | Study: “Women who are regular exposed to semen are less depressed”Do you have any past posts here or studies to show that ? That’s pretty surprising . Every girl I have been with , which isn’t that many honestly , has been a swallower . Also some studies show most young people don’t use protection for hookups | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/22 05:54 PM |
| 2 | Study: “Women who are regular exposed to semen are less depressed”Women are aroused differently . Women first need to feel sexy in order to want sex. Also women have more body insecurities than men do. So they have to be absolutely sure they like a man and he likes her to feel good with sex. Are you a man or woman? Hard to tell here . | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/22 05:52 PM |
| 2 | Study: “Women who are regular exposed to semen are less depressed”Yes , I’m actually looking for a study that tests that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/22 05:36 PM |
| 2 | Study: “Women who are regular exposed to semen are less depressed”That would be an amazing porno film scene | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/22 05:25 PM |
| 1 | Study: “Women who are regular exposed to semen are less depressed”If your having sex regularly it means your experiencing validation and feeling good about your body. Sure it could be some tangential thing to sex, but it won’t be totally unrelated. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/22 05:25 PM |
| 2 | Study: “Women who are regular exposed to semen are less depressed”That would be a fascinating study. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/22 05:23 PM |
| 1 | Study: “Women who are regular exposed to semen are less depressed”Semen there is frozen so I’m sure it has no effect. Having it pumped inside of you is a totally different experience. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/22 05:15 PM |
| 2 | Study: “Women who are regular exposed to semen are less depressed”All depression based studies will be self reported. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/22 05:15 PM |
| 2 | Study: “Women who are regular exposed to semen are less depressed”I think there’s some truth to that. Sex is a brain activity. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/22 05:13 PM |
| 7 | If you only want intimacy through sex, you don’t actually care about intimacy. You just want sex.I’m really lost here. Intimacy is building a deeper chemical connection with specific people. Sex is a deeper chemical connection. Fluid exchange is a deep connection. Attachment is a chemical connection. Maybe let me explain it this way, if you asked most people would it be harder to not see their SO for a month or their parents , most people would say their SO | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/22 05:13 PM |
| 2 | Study: “Women who are regular exposed to semen are less depressed”How does one be around semen otherwise ? The study looked at oral and penetrative non protected sex | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/22 05:08 PM |
| 3 | If you only want intimacy through sex, you don’t actually care about intimacy. You just want sex.What do you mean dopamine has nothing to do with intimacy ? Are you saying oxytocin plays a bigger role ? We ultimately experience things due to are neuro transmitters. Not sure what you are arguing here honestly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/22 05:07 PM |
| 2 | If you only want intimacy through sex, you don’t actually care about intimacy. You just want sex.Do you have studies or articles to prove that claim ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/22 04:57 PM |
| 3 | If you only want intimacy through sex, you don’t actually care about intimacy. You just want sex.Disagree here , intimacy comes in different degrees. Sure friends offer some intimacy , but that pales in comparison to sex. Especially unprotected sex and coming inside . That is the height of all intimacy in this world. The mistake your making is thinking intimacy is cumulative , it’s not. Going for coffee with friends or going on a date with your partner will never come close to raw sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/22 04:53 PM |
| 1 | If you only want intimacy through sex, you don’t actually care about intimacy. You just want sex.Doubtful on the pride part, because it depends how hot the escort is. Back when I used escorts to recover from a fear of sex , the ones I got were out of this world hot. Tons of surgery for butt , boobs , nose , face , to look immaculate. It’s very unlikely a woman like that could be met for a relationship or normally. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/22 04:48 PM |
| 5 | RP men are doing poorly in foreign countries too.as a black man in mexico this was the best decision i’ve made. This is interesting, I'm assuming you are from the USA originally? How do you feel dating is different in Mexico vs USA for black men ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/22 06:24 AM |
| 5 | RP men are doing poorly in foreign countries too.Nope, expat is the right term. An expat is a national of a different country who simply lives outside of it, on a temporary basis. Immigrants are people who seek to immigrate to a new country, meaning attain PR or citizenship status. If someone wants to actually move to a country and attain long term status, than you could accurately call them immigrants. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/22 06:22 AM |
| 4 | RP men are doing poorly in foreign countries too.I feel like this video is just an anti-expat rant rather than an actual example of going abroad not going well for a man. Nothing here states that he didn't find what he was looking for, which is women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/22 05:59 AM |
| 1 | Are you loyal or do you just lack better options?Disagree, at least for men, because a man's option needs a full end to end test to know if it's an option. My girlfriend is amazing because she's a perfect mix of nerdy / horny / and stylish, while also being cute and humble. I love how we can just be watching anime and she will suddenly be in the mood for some sexy time. Plus she's from China so we can speak in English or Chinese together, I really like bilingual partners. So if we want to talk about a better option, I guess you could say I don… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/22 02:34 AM |
| 1 | Have you tried therapy?In my case I had a fear of sex due to parental abuse. I did try therapy , but it ultimately didn’t really change much as you have to face a phobia . So sex workers helped | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/11/22 08:30 PM |
| 1 | People who say sex is a need don’t understand what needs are.As someone who used prostitutes in SEA to overcome a fear of sex from parenting abuse , I think decriminalization is needed before legalization, and is possibly more important than legalization. In Thailand is technically illegal but you have girls waiting in lobbies and on the streets or in bars soliciting men, policemen don’t do anything . | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/11/22 05:52 PM |
| 1 | Marriage is a form of prostitutionBeing beta isn’t masculine but the acquisition of wealth and resources is definitely masculine, at least in non western cultures. Go to Dubai or Singapore , who has all the ladies ? In China men are not men unless they have money. This concept of being sexually attractive while broke is only in the USA . | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/22 06:16 PM |
| 1 | Marriage is a form of prostitutionI only used prostitutes for a period of time years ago to recover from a very abusive mother that made me afraid of sex. I’ve had plenty of normal sex since and in a long term relationship now | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/22 04:51 PM |
| 0 | Marriage is a form of prostitutionFor all of history relationships between men and women revolves around what a man is capable of. Can he protect her ? Does he have shelter ? Is he strong ? Does he have good sperm? We can’t just suddenly pretend relationships have nothing to do with non sexual exchanges. If a woman cooks for a man , does that make him a prostitute ? No. I feel questions like this look at relationships in a very westernized sense. Outside of the west, this concept of purely sexual masculinity doesn’t exist. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/22 04:42 PM |
| 2 | Marriage is a form of prostitutionAs someone who has visited prostitutes in the past in other countries , I disagree with this entirely. Expecting resources from a man doesn’t make you a prostitute. That’s a normal part of an relationship. Prostitutes largely do not have sex for their own pleasure . The experience is very centered on male pleasure. This is opposite to a real relationship where pleasure is mutual. Also conversely , in a marriage , there’s no real contract for sex . Sexless marriages exist , sexless prostitution d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/22 04:22 PM |
| 1 | Q4M - What Goes Through Your Mind When A Woman Tells You She Is Celibate?Can you elaborate on this pressure ? How I see it it’s simply that society is hyper sexualized via social media and entertainment venues . Not so much a pressure . | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/22 04:15 PM |
| 1 | Q4M - What Goes Through Your Mind When A Woman Tells You She Is Celibate?Assuming someone was an alcohol because they had casual sex before is nonsensical . | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/22 04:13 PM |
| 1 | Q4M - What Goes Through Your Mind When A Woman Tells You She Is Celibate?People have sex because they want to have sex. You are just looking for excuses in which there’s no evidence for most of the time. You are doing the assumptions here , not me. If someone is attracted to me , it’s safe to say they are attracted to me because they like me. Imagining all these other reasons is silly. Also you are assuming here sex is self destructive , it isn’t . Sex is a very deep expression of biological drives . It’s an expression of what’s in our genes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/22 04:12 PM |
| 0 | Q4M - What Goes Through Your Mind When A Woman Tells You She Is Celibate?People’s innate biological drives do not change overtime. If a woman craved casual sex in her college years , she will always crave the same sexual feelings. The goal should be to see who people are and best match with that , and not bet on them changing . | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/22 08:47 AM |
| 4 | Q4M - What Goes Through Your Mind When A Woman Tells You She Is Celibate?She’s trying to attract betas . See , think about what kind of men would be drawn to that ? Men who think they are the good guys for waiting for sex till commitment. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/22 08:45 AM |
| -2 | Is the "killer instinct" attractive in a partner to you? Why or why not?It was wrong but the audio of it went viral on TikTok to millions of people with teenage girls across america saying they want their man to defend them like will Smith . The violence is wrong , the instinct , is not. Not all instincts result in violence . | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/22 04:14 AM |
| 1 | Is the "killer instinct" attractive in a partner to you? Why or why not?but IRL nobody in their right mind would date a murderer. Nicholas Cruz, Ted Bundy, would like to have a chat with you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/22 03:30 AM |
| 0 | Is the "killer instinct" attractive in a partner to you? Why or why not?I'm a woman and no, not at all. I don't think violence in case of self-defence is "killer instinct". It's like reacting with force vs reacting with forgiveness or reconciliation. The man who stands up for himself vs the man who excuses people disrespecting him. Will Smith's on stage slap is an example of the killer instinct. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/22 03:30 AM |
| 1 | There's no such thing as "pump and dump", men never cut off casual sex just for the sake of it.I agree with that , but feelings are a big category. I noticed personally I’ll develop attachment more if there’s bare back sex involved , or in general more fluid exchange , but I think that attachment is still chemical . | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/22 02:55 AM |
| 1 | There's no such thing as "pump and dump", men never cut off casual sex just for the sake of it.Oh ok so that’s a good point. I guess maybe you are right then. I think there’s a separation between casual sex where you are both yearning to pleasure one another versus where there’s not this mutual arousal . | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/22 02:51 AM |
| 0 | There's no such thing as "pump and dump", men never cut off casual sex just for the sake of it.But that implies all people have always have a goal of a relationship , that might not be the case for all. Or are you saying only in cases of pump and dump ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/22 02:10 AM |
| 1 | There's no such thing as "pump and dump", men never cut off casual sex just for the sake of it.So if the same woman texted you the next day and wanted to blow you , you would say no ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/22 02:08 AM |
| 1 | There's no such thing as "pump and dump", men never cut off casual sex just for the sake of it.There’s bad sex certainly , but for a man , the casual element of sex in and of itself is a major boost . Easy access to getting naked quickly. So I was posing a question, can casual sex be so bed the whole ordeal is shitty ? For a man | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/22 02:07 AM |
| -2 | There's no such thing as "pump and dump", men never cut off casual sex just for the sake of it.But you are ceasing content because the sex wasn’t good . That’s not the same as cutting off good sex . | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/22 01:53 AM |
| 0 | There's no such thing as "pump and dump", men never cut off casual sex just for the sake of it.How would casual sex be shitty ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/22 01:52 AM |
| 1 | There's no such thing as "pump and dump", men never cut off casual sex just for the sake of it.That’s the point though. The concept of pump and dump is just a cover up for women to be the victims. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/22 01:52 AM |
| -2 | There's no such thing as "pump and dump", men never cut off casual sex just for the sake of it.The vast majority men do not have a full roster of women for casual sex. But either way , this is a red herring , I am talking about when the sex is good. Men don’t purposefully cut off casual sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/22 01:51 AM |
| 1 | There's no such thing as "pump and dump", men never cut off casual sex just for the sake of it.But they aren’t leaving because they are rejecting them, they are leaving because the requirements and standard of the interaction changed. The issue is pump and dump implies men are purposefully ending casual sex opportunities , which is silly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/22 01:49 AM |
| 2 | How many bad boys do you know have consistent relations?A "bad boy" doesn't necessarily have to have legal issues...or be a drug dealer. Also welcome to 2022, weed is legal in many places. Guys involved with weed business are raking in the pussy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/22 01:04 AM |
| -1 | CMV: Alpha Fucks/Beta Buxx is projection because it’s men who don’t want to settle down until their 30sAlpha / beta don’t really have much to do with when men settle down. It has to do with how women view men. This is a good video of two women in a talk show talking about it https://www.instagram.com/reel/Cj3PIdVp5MV/?igshid=Nzg3NjI1NGI= | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/11/22 09:04 PM |
| 0 | People who knowingly have sex married people, how much backlash do they actually deserve?This is a tough one as one of my biggest fantasies is sleeping with a married woman. I would say normally in these situations the married person is more at fault. People have a responsibility to keep the promises they make, not others. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/11/22 09:02 PM |
| 3 | I figured out what men dislike about women, sometimes, in the context of dating: cowardice.Disagree heavily here because many relationships are based on financial imbalances . Hoards of men go to poorer countries to find wives . If this angered men the sex work industry wouldn’t exist either. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/11/22 06:50 PM |
| 2 | CMV: Women are bad at detecting fake confidence, contrary to popular thoughtMy point here is not comparing , but pointing out confidence isn’t really that compared to looks. Anthony Bourdaine , Steve Harvey , yes they are famous , but the point is being bald with a mustache or having a plain face didn’t stop them from becoming famous and being perceived as confident correctly. One problem with random ugly guys is they typically don’t try to attain success in a specific area of life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/11/22 10:14 AM |
| 2 | Is confidence really tied to dick size?As someone with an above average penis, I say no. I had an abusive mother that ingrained in me that my sexuality is dangerous and I should never do anything with a girl without getting her ( my mother's) permission first. And lots of lies like never touching a woman unless I have already agreed to be her girlfriend, or she might report me for sexual assault. The environment in my upbringing far suppressed any benefit my size had, until I got a job and really lived on my own, far away from my par… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/11/22 07:36 AM |
| 1 | Stabilize the dating scene by making men as comfortable being single as women.how do you define loneliness in this case ? Lonely as a person is different than being lonely as a man. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/11/22 04:06 AM |
| 4 | Stabilize the dating scene by making men as comfortable being single as women.I don’t think there’s a societal pressure for men to have sex honestly . I have plenty heard messaging that women need a kid and a husband, but I’ve never heard something like a man needs to be a father by X age or a man must have 25 hookups. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/11/22 02:41 AM |
| 2 | What separates a relatively content involuntarily single man from a frustrated involuntarily single man?Location. Man A is probably in laid back area, maybe more close to nature, or in area with access to massage parlors or sex workers. Man B is probably in college or in a city environment filled with people going out, drinking, having fun, etc. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/22 10:26 PM |
| -1 | Romance is deadThis is a western/American issue. Romance is very much alive if you date Latinas or Asians. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/22 10:11 PM |
| 5 | Stabilize the dating scene by making men as comfortable being single as women.Women feel more comfortable being single because they get consistent attention and reassurance from men. But it's subjective because that attention is limited to verbal action. Women need deeper, intimate reassurance they get from sex and romance too. Studies show women who have bareback sex are less depressed than women who don't, for example. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/22 10:10 PM |
| 10 | Stabilize the dating scene by making men as comfortable being single as women.We go to therapy and learn how to get our validation ourselves. And be happy with ourselves first. And work through the loneliness and negative emotions. self validation is a misleading term. You can't achieve complete self validation , because we don't live inside ourselves, we live in the outside world. If we could, homeless people could all just be happy by willing it. We need the right environment to create self validation. You need positive feedback signals that what you are doing is good. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/22 10:08 PM |
| 23 | Stabilize the dating scene by making men as comfortable being single as women.Many young men (including myself to a limited extent) have felt consumed by the social pressure to just 'not be single'. From a young age men are implicitly taught that single status is a sign of low social status and it truly eats some of them from the inside out Disagree here. Young men are horny and want sex. We live in a hyper sexualized society. Sexual images are everywhere. We want to come home from a long day at work and have a woman to make love to. It's not a social pressure if there's … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/22 09:31 PM |
| 1 | Most women aren't good at telling what parts of a man make him sexually attractiveFor A , they don’t compartmentalize as much but when they do it can be misleading . Like the “respectful, nice” being considered desirable , yet women do not sleep with men on the basis of their respect or niceness . For B , with men the issue is you have to consider opportunity. A woman who is less available to a man , be it attitude , disposition, or rejection, will be less attractive than a more available woman. A man can become more interested in a woman he deemed not attractive if she offer… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/22 08:02 PM |
| 2 | What personality traits are important to you when it comes to dating?Speaks another language besides English, I love learning new languages and speaking in them with a partner. Current girlfriend is Chinese, for example. Adventurous, open minded, likes spicy food, not masculine or domineering | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/22 05:45 PM |
| 0 | Would you say sex is the highest form of intimacy?No condom sex / cumming inside sex is, not condom sex | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/22 06:50 AM |
| 1 | Your partner should be your best friend. Everything else is just details.You are a guy I assume. Did you agree to sex for the thrill of it being casual / fwb ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/22 06:49 AM |
| 0 | I see countless times women say they are cool with not being in a relationship. Then why even date?Surviving is different than thriving. Most people need relationships and sex to thrive , they don’t need them to survive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/22 03:26 AM |
| 2 | Most women aren't good at telling what parts of a man make him sexually attractiveIt’s a simple math problem. Like in my post , a woman says that an FWB is about friendship first foremost , yet she has many friends she would never dream of sex with. Therefore the set of friends is not all included in the set of FWB. So clearly , FWB is not based on friendship. Another example is a woman saying she prefers average height guys , but is dating a man who’s 6’4” The flaw in your argument is that your making a blanket statement that all women know and can articulate exactly what th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/22 03:24 AM |
| 14 | How many here are still virgins in their 20s? What is your reason for that?Was a virgin until 22. Main reason was obsessive and controlling mother who taught me men are evil and I have to always wait for a woman to make the first move. Directly complementing a woman on her looks is "rude". And that I had to ask her permission before going on dates with any girl. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/22 02:37 AM |
| 1 | Your partner should be your best friend. Everything else is just details.The things he jokes about have to do with him being an Arab Muslim and people in the US thinking he must be a terrorist. Basically all self deprecating. Oh ok, thats different story then. I thought they were more along the lines of like saying women belong in the kitchen or women shouldn't go to school. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/22 02:34 AM |
| 4 | There aren't enough attractive women to go aroundBut what I would like to CMV is that Western men did this to themselves. They themselves are lowering the amount of their own desirable women and are now venturing out of the West to get other women because their own aren't that great anymore. This isn't a western specific problem. China practiced infanticide, the one child policy, for decades and decades, to create a situation where 50 million men may never have a wife. At least before covid there were more Chinese in Thailand then westerners :… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/22 02:31 AM |
| 0 | SUGAR DADDY CULTURE OVERSEAS 👴🏼💸 Passport Bros in Southeast Asia 🇹🇭Never heard it, has anyone here heard it (outside of a visa/easy sex/money situation)? Vast majority of Chinese men love white women. Most of them might not approach them directly, and there aren't many in the mainland, but boy, they love white girls. The issue is that the West seems hellbent on exporting feminism and their cultural zeitgeist globally so that it lowers everything globally. No, the men leaving the west, as in moving out, are the ones escaping western culture. Also, the west's pro… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/22 02:27 AM |
| 0 | Most women aren't good at telling what parts of a man make him sexually attractivea lot women are terrible at explaining what they are attracted to, not bad at knowing. Possibly, but considering explanations like an FWB is primarily about "friendship", that seems a lot more like not knowing. I think the explaining problem is more for relationships. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/22 02:18 AM |
| 1 | Your partner should be your best friend. Everything else is just details.most respectful, most generous, and most considerate man I have ever known. Everyone that knows him comments on how nice and thoughtful he is. He is not a jerk by any stretch of the imagination. The issue is you are saying this, then saying he makes , specifically politically incorrect, sexist jokes. By definition, something politically incorrect or sexist cannot also be respectful and nice. I'm not saying your husband is a jerk, rather jerk behavior signals to women a sense of masculinity and c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/22 02:12 AM |
| 0 | Your partner should be your best friend. Everything else is just details.I love my husband's politically incorrect sexist jokes, haha. He is Arab and I'm white so we have some good jokes. Proof women love jerks | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/22 01:20 AM |
| 0 | Most women aren't good at telling what parts of a man make him sexually attractiveInteresting, but does that mean for you chest + arms + shoulders is more important over abs ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/22 01:13 AM |
| 1 | Most women aren't good at telling what parts of a man make him sexually attractiveOh I see, well I would add it to my knowledge base. But the problem is sometimes when a peer reviewed study is used in a CMV, people challenge or nitpick things about the study , as opposed to challenging the view . That’s why I personally think discussion posts are better for studies . | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/22 11:47 PM |
| 2 | Most women aren't good at telling what parts of a man make him sexually attractiveMost CMVs here do not include studies , let alone peer reviewed ones . Maybe you are looking for discussion threads ? Why not post your own studies if you believe they are useful ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/22 10:42 PM |
| 1 | Most women aren't good at telling what parts of a man make him sexually attractivedon’t be in a social setting even if it’s with your friends where you are at the bottom of the totem pole This is interesting, what is the totem pole in this case ? How much people like you in that setting ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/22 10:29 PM |
| 2 | Most women aren't good at telling what parts of a man make him sexually attractiveNow this is good advice. High five. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/22 10:27 PM |
| 2 | Most women aren't good at telling what parts of a man make him sexually attractiveCan you give an example ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/22 10:10 PM |
| 6 | Most men would have sex with women they find physically attractive regardless of their personality. But women don't always want to have sex with men they find physically attractiveAs much as they say they dislike toxic and narcissistic men, they still gravitate towards them. The type of bad personality they don’t like is awkward, timid, shy, unassertive… Women like dominance and boldness. Toxic is a bit of a subjective term. but you don't need to be a narcissist. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/22 09:34 PM |
| 0 | Most men would have sex with women they find physically attractive regardless of their personality. But women don't always want to have sex with men they find physically attractiveThere are decent and attractive men in my area that I would sleep with if I liked their personalities but it usually does not reach that point! But have they actually approached you ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/22 09:32 PM |
| 3 | CMV: Women are bad at detecting fake confidence, contrary to popular thoughtIf you're ugly, your "confidence" is just perceived as being aggressive, creepy, or obnoxious. Faking confidence won't do you any favors. If you're just average though and get more success from faking "confidence", it's probably because you're inadvertently avoiding some other behavior that turned women away in the past, or you're doing a better job at showcasing favorable qualities like humor. Bill Clinton would like to have a word with you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/22 09:27 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Women are bad at detecting fake confidence, contrary to popular thoughtimpressionable schmuck; You let out the bias there. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/22 09:25 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Women are bad at detecting fake confidence, contrary to popular thoughtReal confidence where men are concerned is big dick energy. The key word here is energy. You cannot fake this energy. You can work and improve yourself to feel this energy overtime, but it cannot be faked. When a man feels it, it feels real to him, and he acts in accordance with it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/22 09:25 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Women are bad at detecting fake confidence, contrary to popular thoughtThey harbor the delusion of importance This is wrong, a belief isn't a delusion. A delusion is something we believe that isn't real. If I believe I am important, or I am important to my girlfriend, that's a thought. If I believe I am an MLB player , then that's a delusion, as I am not one. You should read more about delusions of grandeur | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/22 09:24 PM |
| 0 | CMV: Women are bad at detecting fake confidence, contrary to popular thoughtthat they feel used by men for sex, that suggests that it's a common problem. One of the main ways men try and get casual sex is by promoting an exxagerated image of themselves. This is a slippery slope, women being used by sex has nothing to do with what men exaggerate or don't. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/22 09:19 PM |
| 2 | CMV: Women are bad at detecting fake confidence, contrary to popular thoughtOP is claiming that chads are faking confidence and they absolutely are not. OP is confused of difference between alpha bros and chads. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/22 09:18 PM |
| 1 | Your partner should be your best friend. Everything else is just details.Are you having friends with benefits with all of your good friends ? Even the unattractive ones ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/22 03:27 PM |
| 2 | Your partner should be your best friend. Everything else is just details.That’s a stretch. I mean, to be on friendly terms with someone , yes. But an FWB can arise out of meeting in tinder or meeting in real life but suddenly. All I am saying is we make the mistake too often of equating friendship with attractiveness. It’s important to separate the two. For both men and women sake. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/22 03:20 PM |
| 4 | Your partner should be your best friend. Everything else is just details.Old people are actually doing it more than people younger than them. There’s literally a problem with std’s in nursing homes because of this https://www.forbes.com/sites/claryestes/2020/02/26/historic-high-rates-of-stis-among-older-americans/ People stay in dead bedrooms because of many external factors , kids , finances , family expectations. Not because they are friends. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/22 03:09 PM |
| 2 | Your partner should be your best friend. Everything else is just details.An FWB is chosen on the basis of sexual attraction , not on the basis of how close a friend you are. Friendship does not equal attraction. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/22 03:05 PM |
| 7 | Your partner should be your best friend. Everything else is just details.You aren’t choosing to have sex with someone based on how good of a friend they are to you. You are choosing an fwb among your friends based on your attraction to them. I assume you have friends you would not have sex or anything to do with. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/22 03:04 PM |
| 8 | Your partner should be your best friend. Everything else is just details.Yea , hobbies are just a surface level connection. Attraction is a very deep connection. My girlfriend and I are not together just because we are both engineers and like the same anime’s. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/22 03:02 PM |
| 7 | Your partner should be your best friend. Everything else is just details.Dead bedrooms never start as dead bedrooms. Trying to compare them to friendships is a red herring. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/22 03:01 PM |
| 5 | Your partner should be your best friend. Everything else is just details.I disagree here on the terminology. “Friend” can’t be used to describe any romantic relationship. Romantic relationships embody similar qualities and interactions as friendships do, but they are not the same . The connecting factors are completely different. The way you look into each other’s eyes , smile , is all different. Me and my girlfriend are both software engineers , even though we chat about similar things I do with work colleagues , the energy is so so different. So the problem is when… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/22 02:59 PM |
| 6 | Your partner should be your best friend. Everything else is just details.A friend with benefits is chosen for the benefit of sex first , friends second , or barely considered . | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/22 02:54 PM |
| 1 | Who is more sexually irresponsible: Men or women?https://www.newscientist.com/article/dn2457-semen-acts-as-an-anti-depressant/ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/22 02:53 PM |
| 3 | What’s the female version of game?Depends what you feel comfortable as first. If you are of East Asian ethnicity being thin looks better than an other races IMO , but ultimately there’s IG models that represent every body type. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/22 02:51 PM |
| 2 | What’s the female version of game?Being thicc is better than thin if you want more men into you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/22 02:21 PM |
| 0 | What’s the female version of game?This ! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/22 02:20 PM |
| 1 | Who is more sexually irresponsible: Men or women?Oh of course eating pussy is great too. But the act of cumming inside is like the diamond desert. Studies show also that women receiving semen inside have less depression and more happiness. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/22 04:56 AM |
| 5 | Who will generally have greater success in the current dating scene: A socially awkward unattractive male virgin with a white collar job or a handsome confident man who has 7 kids out of wedlock from 5 different women and has a dead-end job?This comparison is kind of lame as it's not giving guy A any good qualities. You have to give the nerdy guy something to make it reasonable to discuss. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/22 04:06 AM |
| 5 | Who is more sexually irresponsible: Men or women?Men have zero sexual rights in western culture, Can you clarify what is a sexual right ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/22 03:57 AM |
| 4 | Who is more sexually irresponsible: Men or women?So basically women let guys they think are hot hit it raw and men raw dog girls they think are pretty I wish this sub would allow personal advice posts. There's so many bogus one's in r/relationship_advice where like a wife refuses to go raw with her husband on birth control and they all respond "be happy you are with her" lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/22 03:56 AM |
| -4 | Who is more sexually irresponsible: Men or women?Who can have multiple different children with women. That's hot though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/22 03:55 AM |
| -2 | Who is more sexually irresponsible: Men or women?but the guys didn’t even seem to care about that. It boggled my mind that so many guys were willing to take the chance with a woman they barely even know, and I guess just leaving it in her hands to avoid getting knocked up or get an abortion. The pleasure of coming inside a woman you barely know far out weighs any of those things. For me it's a pleasure out of this world. As someone who's highly educated and does well financially, and one time happened to result in pregnancy, I wouldn't mind if… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/22 03:54 AM |
| -3 | Who is more sexually irresponsible: Men or women?I know so many women of different educational levels (nurses, teachers, lawyers) who are quick to hook up with multiple guys with no protection whatsoever. Raw sex is the most pleasurable act a human body can experience. Unloading inside a woman is the purest, most luscious feeling in the entire world. Nothing comes close to it. I feel it's a similar level of pleasure for men and women. Since sex is consensual, men and women hold an equal amount of responsibility. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/22 03:50 AM |
| 1 | RPs: Can I get a "not all men"? Or do y'all cosign this?So the statement in verbatim is obviously false. But he isn't trolling , it's a poorly word chosen reference to the correlation between high value men (athletes / singers) and domestic violence or sexual violence charges. Examples being Chris Brown, Chris Wu (China) , etc. Yet that's also false. Women are not seeking out men who abuse others and rewarding them. These women seek out these attractive men, but for the purposes of attraction. Then, those men will unfortunately abuse or inflict viole… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/22 03:44 AM |
| 2 | Do men you know advocate for their own mental health?Men are desperate because their lives are shit, not because they're mentally ill. I can't tell if you are being supportive of men here or not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/22 03:34 AM |
| 1 | Single Men vs Single WomenI never met an actual incel in my life. We have to define incel though. I know a few 27-30 year old virgins at my work, but they do not have the defining personality traits of an incel. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/22 03:32 AM |
| 5 | Why should men still be the ones to pursue?More and more men should approach the most absolutely drop dead gorgeous women until they get to the point where they are surprised by not getting rejected. Sure, but that's more about asking for the first date / interaction. There's still the escalation beyond that, which is where a lot of guys can get stuck or get meek. Like this video embodies perhaps the absolute worse advice for men https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tjq_ljlb_oI it's about dressing well, picking a good place, finding common in… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/22 03:31 AM |
| 6 | Why should men still be the ones to pursue?women that are submissive. Women don’t seem to put up with that arbitrary gender role Your are confusing gender roles and sexuality. Hillary Clinton is a big time feminist but likely submits to Bill in the bedroom. Two totally separate things. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/22 01:09 AM |
| 1 | Natural Sperm Donors: Men who donate sperm the natural way, free of chargeThat does not change the fact that this man is exploiting desperate women It's also not exploitation because the women could seek out other donors whom do home insemination which involves a specimen jar. There's websites with databases of both kinds. You filter out what kind of donor you want and find a match. Also remember even among natural donors, you choose them. So with so many choices, this cannot be called any exploitation as the women are coming to him. At the end of the day we should re… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/22 01:07 AM |
| 5 | Why should men still be the ones to pursue?and because gender roles are still strong in our society. Attraction is biologically driven though. That's something that cannot change really. Also I think we have to define approaching. Some women I noticed introduce themselves to a guy to make it easier for them to then make the next move, but thats a little different than breaking the ice for the first bold move. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/22 01:00 AM |
| 12 | Why should men still be the ones to pursue?Seems to be like it’s more for your ego It's for libido. Women are aroused by men who are hungry for them. If of course they like the said man. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/22 12:58 AM |
| 30 | Why should men still be the ones to pursue?Because women are much more turned on by male pursuit and boldness from men they are attracted to then going after men themselves. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/22 12:57 AM |
| 1 | Women who have pursued casual sex in the past judging men for doing the same."instinctively inclined to casual sex"..... nothing is instinctual about it. It's an active choice what meaning you put behind sex. Choosing to engage in casual sex is a choice one makes. Nope. Women do not actively decide on Friday night, they are going to get laid. In fact, they heavily insist this is not the case. Like when women are asked if they wear X outfit for male attention, they always respond it's "to impress myself or my girlfriends". Now, women may decide that they want to go out to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/22 12:56 AM |
| 1 | Natural Sperm Donors: Men who donate sperm the natural way, free of chargeIt’s not true consent if it’s coerced. If these women are desperate and can’t get a donor any other way, that’s not consent, it’s coercion. They do not have to have children. This whole activity is entirely voluntary. Your argument makes no sense in this case as no one is entitled to sperm. The woman's health and safety is not compromised by a lack of sperm or children. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/22 12:50 AM |
| 2 | The 80/20 rule is laughableThis is wild to me. I would put way more people in category 2-4 than category 1. Being fuckable is a prerequisite for category 1 but it takes a helluva lot more than just being fuckable to be dateable to me. If that’s true, it kinda makes me get why so many men end up feeling unhappy in their relationships. Well men can put women in category 2 and 3 overtime. I think the difference is men don't categorize women as undatable as quickly, because of the way our lust works. Several summers ago befor… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/22 12:01 AM |
| 0 | Women who have pursued casual sex in the past judging men for doing the same.If you mean a woman who generally states "treat women like people, not piece of meat", they say this because women are only turned on to specific men for casual sex or sex in general. When they are, they will want that man to indulge in them and fulfill all his urges. But in the generic sense, women are not instinctively inclined for casual sex. I think this ties into how women often are confused about needing emotional connection to achieve sexual attraction, when in fact it's the opposite. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/22 11:49 PM |
| 4 | What’s a polite way to reject a guy?and if he isn't ready to eat shit you're not interested haha I mean you never know how desperate a guy is. A guy might agree to it in the hopes of just seeing the woman naked. It's best to steer toward something not ambiguous. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/22 11:44 PM |
| 6 | What’s a polite way to reject a guy?The best response imo is to say you are dating someone currently or already. For guys, this cancels any ambiguity we have about you, but at the same time, it doesn't directly attack us for who we are. So the guy will feel like he just didn't strike at the right time, or it's a luck of the draw. The only guys who still keep pursuing after that are likely creeps or abusers. But DO NOT say , "what if my boyfriend finds out" or "I'm not sure if my boyfriend is ok with this". That's a common line in … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/22 10:58 PM |
| -1 | Simps: What effect do they have on dating and relationships ?The vast majority of women aren’t on OnlyFans, aren’t selling their lingerie, don’t get CashApp or Amazon gifts for no reason from random men, and aren’t fundraising for new boobs. a lot of women who use instagram do have venmo or cash app in their profile links. Obviously younger women are more in this group, but i wouldnt say its like, that rare. You dont feel like getting stuff just for existing inflates ego ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/22 09:26 PM |
| 0 | Most of men's problems with dating comes from shallow men not wanting to admit they're shallow.I think though it’s an issue of potential valuation. I have mostly female friends as I feel women have better personalities as friends then men do. But, if there was a potential of having sex with all of them versus just staying friends , the sex would be a no brainer. Side note: there’s a specific level of turn on of hooking up with a friend then staying friends with them after . Especially if you then hang out with other people and the other people don’t know you two have slept together. Can’t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/22 07:25 PM |
| 2 | Most of men's problems with dating comes from shallow men not wanting to admit they're shallow.This isn’t my problem lol, I have mostly female friends since I prefer them personality / appearance over male friends . But I’m just saying for men that do have this issue , why encourage them to be friends with women they don’t want as friends ? I feel it just hurts both parties . | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/22 07:20 PM |
| 1 | Most of men's problems with dating comes from shallow men not wanting to admit they're shallow.Oh that’s not what I believe , I actually prefer female friends since they are easier to work with and on average nicer to look at then men. I am just saying if a man believes that , why encourage the man otherwise ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/22 07:19 PM |
| -3 | Most of men's problems with dating comes from shallow men not wanting to admit they're shallow.Why is thinking hanging out around women without sex is worthless bad ? On my other post there’s crowds of women telling us men shouldn’t be nice guys tm and don’t view niceness as a reward system for sex. Now your saying the exact opposite. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/22 07:02 PM |
| 1 | most women don't sleep around AND also don't have it easy on dating appsAnd it's not rare for that to happen, says Chloe Carmichael, PhD. "Women release oxytocin, a bonding hormone, when they have sex (and particularly when they orgasm), so in many cases it's hard not to feel at least a little attached," she explains. "And of course, the more you spend any kind of physical time with someone, the more you're likely to learn about them and get to know them on a more personal level." https://www.womenshealthmag.com/relationships/a30224236/casual-sex-feelings/ And I mea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/22 06:56 PM |
| 1 | most women don't sleep around AND also don't have it easy on dating appsWomen need sex to fully emotionally bond with a man. Bad sex hampers a woman’s ability to feel truly connected with a man. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/22 06:28 PM |
| 1 | Natural Sperm Donors: Men who donate sperm the natural way, free of chargeI think anonymous sperm donation has risks though. Being a sperm donor baby myself, despite having a jewish mother and my mother being told the donor is also jewish, DNA tests for me show 50% German heritage. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/22 04:31 PM |
| 1 | most women don't sleep around AND also don't have it easy on dating appsThe national average partner count for the USA was 14 Also your argument is more about the difficulty of finding a good match on dating apps rather than how much women sleep around. In order to find a good man, a woman needs to try a number of them out right ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/22 04:29 PM |
| 1 | The 80/20 rule is laughableSo from the sound of it, you seem to be very in sync with your sexuality and have high emotional intelligence, and can sort out the feelings of sexual attraction vs the other qualities to make up a man. So your standard is simply whatever man you date , also has to be fuckable. I think the two distinct categories issue arises more from women who feel they need some sort of emotional connection in order to feel sexual attraction, but then find themselves sexually attracted to certain men right of… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/22 04:19 PM |
| 1 | Natural Sperm Donors: Men who donate sperm the natural way, free of chargeWell the cost is far less or even free , compared to high cost of sperm banks. Also it prevents fraud . Sperm bank doctors sometimes have placed their own semen secretly instead of the selected donor. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/22 03:28 PM |
| 2 | The 80/20 rule is laughableI have, however, fucked (and became FWB) with men I would never date. They get put in the FWB category because there’s something about them I don’t like enough to date. Do the reasons why you don't like them for dating stem from things outside of their sexual attractiveness ? Like do you feel they wouldn't be faithful, have bad habits, etc ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/22 03:02 PM |
| 2 | Natural Sperm Donors: Men who donate sperm the natural way, free of chargeIf they wanted an intimate connection, they wouldn't be getting a donor What if they don't want to raise a child with a man having custody over it ? And just want to raise a child as a single mother ? Donors aren't telling you what their clients want, but what they want. If you refuse to believe women have the agency to sign contracts and agree to things they also want, the problem is you, not them. The funny part here is, your flair says feminist, but you want to prohibit women being able to si… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/22 02:36 PM |
| 1 | Natural Sperm Donors: Men who donate sperm the natural way, free of chargeHow do you know what they want or don’t want ? Maybe they want a more intimate connection with the donor. The evidence on the websites for these natural donors contradicts what you believe. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/22 02:21 PM |
| 1 | Natural Sperm Donors: Men who donate sperm the natural way, free of chargeHow is it manipulative ? They are providing sperm to women who cannot afford the high costs of sperm banks. And this is with literal contracts. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/22 02:11 PM |
| 0 | Natural Sperm Donors: Men who donate sperm the natural way, free of chargeHow on earth is it rape if it’s consensual with a written contract ? Perhaps you just don’t like it ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/22 01:52 PM |
| 4 | Have you ever kissed another girl?But what does kissing another girl do for you sexually ? Why is it a turn on ? Asking out of curiosity. The thought of any other man disgusts me as a guy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/22 07:49 AM |
| 2 | Natural Sperm Donors: Men who donate sperm the natural way, free of chargeIn this case you don’t need to be top tier because the women are already those that can’t afford regular sperm banks and are well, single and unable to find a man. But now that you mention it , I wonder if a man in the top tier of looks and height has offered a discreet service like this to women in other relationships . Secretly get impregnated with Chad instead of beta bucks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/22 05:01 AM |
| 4 | The 80/20 rule is laughableThe men aren’t in two categories , rather a particular woman has two different categories of men in her perspective. If a woman sleeps with a man casually , and the sex is really good or she is very attracted to him , she would most definitely want a relationship with that man. However , not all men she has relationships with are also in the casual sex category. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/22 04:22 AM |
| 3 | The 80/20 rule is laughableWhat I meant by that is more so by virtue of having more sexual options and having them easily available , a guy tends to value individual options less. This doesn’t mean someone mean or an asshole , but some behavior might be interpreted by women as being jerky or snobby. Like a guy hooking up with a woman a few times than ghosting her. Not an asshole , but the girl might not be too happy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/22 04:16 AM |
| -2 | Natural Sperm Donors: Men who donate sperm the natural way, free of chargethan basically are perfectly happy to have sex just like that. The idea of impregnating a random woman is very very different than just starfish sex. Random impregnation is a huge turn on. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/22 03:29 AM |
| 0 | Natural Sperm Donors: Men who donate sperm the natural way, free of charge. Don’t get so excited by the idea of impregnating a bunch of women that you overlook the giant flashing warning lights about the legal risks to the “donor.” The thing is though there's few enough cases of these challenges where its still a thing. There's many of these natural donors. It's risky, but many sexual activities are also risky. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/22 03:27 AM |
| -1 | Natural Sperm Donors: Men who donate sperm the natural way, free of chargeI personally could never seriously do anything like this but the pleasure of cumming in so many women is very alluring. I can see why the men take this risk. I am getting turned on just thinking about it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/22 03:25 AM |
| 10 | The 80/20 rule is laughableThe flaw in your argument is women would hands down get in a relationship with every guy they would have casual sex with, if the guy also agreed and was for it. There isn't two separate, distinct categories here. Women have relationships with guys they probably wouldn't have casual sex with , but they certainly would be open to relationships with guys from hookups. It just so happens that guys who get lots of casual sex become jerks or snobs. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/22 03:23 AM |
| -4 | Natural Sperm Donors: Men who donate sperm the natural way, free of chargeNope , there’s legal agreements against that. Or else this wouldn’t be a thing | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/22 01:05 AM |
| 1 | Natural Sperm Donors: Men who donate sperm the natural way, free of chargePersonally, I think natural donors are the smartest men on the dating market. They have literally found the most advantageous and easiest way to have massive amounts of casual sex, while helping others in the process. The women involved are genuinely in need of sperm but cannot afford it. There's no risk of fraud , since you directly see who's donating the sperm (IVF doctors have been known to put their own sperm instead secretly) The man gets casual sex | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/22 12:44 AM |
| 1 | Do you think that male “pick me’s” (aka simps & white knights) on the Internet have caused dating to be much more difficult than it otherwise would be?Not sure if you are being sarcastic, but that's false, that's a minority there. Many examples on instagram of real girls https://www.instagram.com/p/ClC2Wwbq1jF/ But the point is it's not about Thailand. The rate at which simps pay women for simply existing far exceeds even what men normally give girlfriends as gifts, or sex workers earn almost any where. That's the issue with it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/22 12:27 AM |
| 14 | Do you think that male “pick me’s” (aka simps & white knights) on the Internet have caused dating to be much more difficult than it otherwise would be?Simps do not need success to cause problems. Sending women $100's just for existing with no real relationship to them causes massive inflation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/22 12:10 AM |
| 1 | Do you think that male “pick me’s” (aka simps & white knights) on the Internet have caused dating to be much more difficult than it otherwise would be?Simps do , not white knights. Simps are the most problematic because they drastically increase hypergamy. They inflate the sexual appeal of all women. This makes it a lot harder to be noticed by women or to stick out amongst the simps. Simps are like massive spending by the government, or a welfare state. If you look on some stripper subs, there's tales of men literally tipping $500 in a night for only visual service, and then sending the same girl $25 a day afterward. You could have literally s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/22 12:09 AM |
| 2 | Nice guys are not mean or creeps, they are men who interact with women platonically in the hopes women will make the first moveYou can’t have sex with toxic/abusive “ men from 16-35, say it’s extremely common for women, then turn around and say women don’t encourage men’s behavior. I think viewing the act of sex as sign of political or social opinion is a very dangerous idea. It's what powers groups that hate on interracial couples and view interracial dating as an "attack" on some specific race. Also, in reality society encourages this behavior as a whole. If you look at the NFL and college football, with so many footb… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/22 12:02 AM |
| 1 | Do dating apps only work for white men?This. I feel all these analysis skips the fact that western countries are majority white countries , and any sort of metric on who’s successful will skew white because of numbers , first and foremost . | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/22 10:49 PM |
| 0 | Do dating apps only work for white men?Nope. White / Jewish guy here . Before current relationship got low matches on tinder . The best guys I know for tinder are black guys or gangster Asian guys. Note I live in the sf Bay Area | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/22 10:48 PM |
| 1 | Nice guys are not mean or creeps, they are men who interact with women platonically in the hopes women will make the first moveDude that's what a Nice Guy™️ is. That is what people are talking about when they call someone that. Get in on the lingo lol I don't think so because then the concept of friendzone and encouraging men to stay in the friendzone doesn't fit with those guys. Like saying "you should at least be her friend or appreciate friendship if she's not interested in you" can only apply to actual nice guys. As no one would say this to a nice guys TM. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/22 08:13 PM |
| 1 | Nice guys are not mean or creeps, they are men who interact with women platonically in the hopes women will make the first moveOk I’ll counter you this way , you say niceness is not a reward system for pussy, I agree with that. But then we need to stop telling men to treat women as people and view them the same as men. The only way niceness became a reward system as you describe is because these men were taught if they are the kind , gracious , and respectful to women , and don’t show direct interest , they will be thought of as good men in society. The only way to solve the problem u speak of is removing the concept of… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/22 07:19 PM |
| 2 | Nice guys are not mean or creeps, they are men who interact with women platonically in the hopes women will make the first moveNo, nice people are rejected all the time for not showing interest or hiding their interest for the belief it harms or hurts women. The nice guy you are likely referring to is directly negotiating nice things for sex , and already showing interest. Not the same | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/22 06:16 PM |
| 3 | Nice guys are not mean or creeps, they are men who interact with women platonically in the hopes women will make the first moveYou are proving my point here. You are ignoring the existence of real nice guys that are rejected for being nice without showing interest. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/22 06:09 PM |
| 5 | Nice guys are not mean or creeps, they are men who interact with women platonically in the hopes women will make the first moveThe issue is that sub’s text screen shots at least are not nice guys , those are guys showing direct interest. Like “hey I am interested in you , bla bla bla “ then they get mad when reject and don’t write back. This is not a nice guy. A nice guy just is friendly and waits for the women to make the first move. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/22 06:07 PM |
| 0 | Nice guys are not mean or creeps, they are men who interact with women platonically in the hopes women will make the first moveI’m not sure it’s about shedding accountability but it’s giving advice to the wrong group of men. The men that need to treat women as people are the men who aren’t doing that already , not actual nice guys. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/22 05:46 PM |
| 4 | Nice guys are not mean or creeps, they are men who interact with women platonically in the hopes women will make the first moveYes for sure , I think based on the comments , that’s what happens in this case . Women are more choosing the wolf in sheep’s clothing , men are choosing the guy who was too nice and didn’t have the guts definition. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/22 05:42 PM |
| 9 | Nice guys are not mean or creeps, they are men who interact with women platonically in the hopes women will make the first moveAs I said , nice guys are not right in being mad . But they certainly are victims of society that sends messages to men that women should be treated as friends , and approaching them directly is harmful or hurtful to them. Also to clarify , this is only talking about guys who do not make any direct move or direct interest. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/22 05:37 PM |
| 0 | Nice guys are not mean or creeps, they are men who interact with women platonically in the hopes women will make the first moveThe men assaulting women and coercing them are not the same men in the nice guy realm. That’s the whole point. Maybe the UK is different than the USA, but what you are describing is the other half of the dating market. It has nothing to do with nice guys. You are actually taking the advice. That might be great for the men who are assaulting and giving it to nice guys , which just makes the situation worse. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/22 05:29 PM |
| 23 | Nice guys are not mean or creeps, they are men who interact with women platonically in the hopes women will make the first moveYup. A lot of women definitely have a threshold when you first meet or start dating of how fast they need you to take things. If you go too slow , they become turned off. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/22 05:24 PM |
| 3 | Nice guys are not mean or creeps, they are men who interact with women platonically in the hopes women will make the first movewhy Men just don't wanna be friends with them particularly if they are attracted to them I think male - female relationships are complex, but people need to stop encouraging staying in the friendzone. That's harmful for both men and women. I have seen many people say "be grateful she's at least your friend". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/22 09:58 AM |
| 4 | Nice guys are not mean or creeps, they are men who interact with women platonically in the hopes women will make the first moveI'm so glad my husband treated me like his friend, like a normal person instead of some thing he thought looked good. It was the most natural way to get to know someone, without expectations or pressure, and then after a time deciding whether you actually click together before making it official. It's not clear in this if by friend do you mean entirely platonic ? Like zero sexual tension or flirting ? What does making it official mean ? Showing interest for the first time ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/22 09:57 AM |
| 14 | Nice guys are not mean or creeps, they are men who interact with women platonically in the hopes women will make the first moveBut they aren’t pretending . That’s the misconception . They legitimately though that expression of platonic interest is the only acceptable manner to interact with a woman | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/22 09:48 AM |
| 3 | CMV Why Red Pill is Dumb Series Part 3: Red Pilled Men Are Overly Concerned With Getting LaidHungry people are overly concerned with getting food. Right, but I think the issue is many men already control their sexual desire too much. That's why you have friendzones and nice guys. It's like a hungry person going to a fancy restaurant with a 2 hour wait. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/22 09:11 AM |
| 2 | CMV Why Red Pill is Dumb Series Part 3: Red Pilled Men Are Overly Concerned With Getting LaidA big problem with modern society is we place having sex with a woman first. Well, this minimizes her character. Learn about her first. Her interests, her wants, without being a doormat. Don't let your penis control you. Too many men end up chasing the beautiful woman who ends up manipulating them just because of her looks because they ignored her character. This is also why so many men fall to Red Pill to begin with: because they're chasing after 9's and 10's and focusing entirely too much on a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/22 09:05 AM |
| 1 | Q4M: Would you rather add two inches in height, gain two inches in length, or add two figures to your income?and I make enough fiat currency. I have a hard time believing 100x income would not drastically change anyone's life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/22 07:45 AM |
| 1 | Q4M: Would you rather add two inches in height, gain two inches in length, or add two figures to your income?I could literally live anywhere on Earth with a harem and afford dozens of baby mamas. Do you think for guys that are somewhat above average or "decent" in the looks / height department, that making more money is a better boost to their dating/sexual potential than just looks maxing ? TRP seems to disregard working and making more money as "beta", which I have never understood. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/22 07:38 AM |
| 2 | Q4M: Would you rather add two inches in height, gain two inches in length, or add two figures to your income?when I can get unlimited hookers and blow. Yea, with that level of income increase (5 mill to 10 mill a year) you could work for a few years then retire to SE Asia and live with like 5 women in mansion. I actually follow some guys who made it off bitcoin who did this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/22 05:27 AM |
| 1 | Q4M: Would you rather add two inches in height, gain two inches in length, or add two figures to your income?Yes but Kanye is rich and Chris humfries was 6’9” . Pete is also far less wealthier than the kardashians themselves | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/22 04:22 AM |
| 2 | Q4M: Would you rather add two inches in height, gain two inches in length, or add two figures to your income?Interesting , which one would you feel on average improve a man’s romance life the most ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/22 03:45 AM |
| 4 | Q4M: Would you rather add two inches in height, gain two inches in length, or add two figures to your income?I was going to choose 3 but since reading about Pete Davidson having a huge one I’m more tempted to pick 2 . Already 6 feet so more height won’t help | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/22 03:40 AM |
| 2 | The link between male sexual drive and attractivenessbecause I couldnt fathom women enjoying sex themselves How do i give an award to this comment ? This is the biggest mistake guys make, 1000%. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/22 12:35 AM |
| 1 | The link between male sexual drive and attractivenessI love the whole concept of "he wants me for sex, doesn't see me as human" .. This is perhaps the biggest lie / confusion that women mention. When sex is good, women develop very strong emotional connection to a man. No man has ever been dumped because the sex was too good. It's always that the sex was good but the man left for a different woman or some other reason. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/22 12:34 AM |
| 2 | The link between male sexual drive and attractivenessi am an unconventionally attractive half asian half british man Really? All hapa people I have met are usually handsome / beautiful. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/22 12:31 AM |
| 1 | POLYGAMY WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADHow many men ever have had this (or at least this) I wonder Probably a fair amount in muslim communities, where a man can have up to 4 wives, so long as he treats each one equal to the others. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/22 05:26 PM |
| 2 | Do you enjoy being friends with someone of the opposite sex?But what defines a non-platonic friend though , or what boundary is there ? I am asking since there’s so many people a man would potentially fuck. Would the limit be not hanging out with them 1 on 1 ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/22 08:03 AM |
| 2 | What is the likelihood of an attractive girl graduating college being a virgin?No , you are talking about incels. For general dating , most men don’t care about N count. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/22 05:37 AM |
| 3 | Do you enjoy being friends with someone of the opposite sex?But why do friendships have to be only platonic ? I have a few female friends that seem interested/like me , and if I was single , I would probably pursue them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/22 05:36 AM |
| 3 | Do you enjoy being friends with someone of the opposite sex?I mostly have female friends actually. I feel even if not for sex women have more soothing personalities and are nicer to look at. Men are usually full of ego , but not all of them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/22 05:31 AM |
| 3 | Why do people call natural bodies fakeYou forgot claiming any guy who’s decently muscular is on steroids | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/22 05:28 AM |
| 3 | Why do people call natural bodies fakeWith men it’s them claiming every guy who’s decently muscular is on steroids , or every rich guy inherited it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/22 05:27 AM |
| 3 | Why do people call natural bodies fakeI think it’s because women feel threatened by other women who are significantly more appealing or attractive than themselves. Also you have to view things regularly since so many people get fillers and Botox nowadays . I mean $300-600 twice or three times a year isn’t an unreasonable expense for beauty. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/22 05:07 AM |
| 0 | Q4W: Can a man's sexual past be reformed?Thailand has legal prostitution , so the percentage of trafficked girls will be low. I mean the police literally shutdown online sex workers there because they don’t want the real life spas to shutdown lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/22 02:01 AM |
| 1 | Is there double standard when it comes to watching pornography while in a relationship?If a man buys a dildo there obviously won’t be an issue , as he’s the one with the penis . The problem is when women buy huge dildos , it can make the man feel not good enough and create jealousy. For women , men watching porn creates jealousy as she might not look like the women in porn. Hopefully that makes sense . | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/22 12:18 AM |
| 23 | Women: Can you expand on or give examples of men not "getting it"?Men don’t get it. If men genuinely tried hard to learn how to please women, women would likely enjoy sex more. For many women, sex often just feels like getting poked for a couple of neutral/unpleasurable minutes. I agree with you, and not only that, I feel women bond emotionally more or are more emotionally open when good sex is in the mix. Lots of men only focus on getting sex and not having sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/22 11:31 PM |
| 1 | Passport Bros. Discuss.It's just that in the US, to be valued for your money, you have to make 6 figures at least.. Its more than that, and even then it depends on your specific area. Here in Argentina, a dude who comes from Europe or the US and is making 3-4k a month by working on a computer, can have the life of a rockstar. That's roughly 8-10 times Exactly, you need to be well above the average for wealth to begin to have an effect on your dating life to the point your status is being boosted by your wealth. For ex… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/22 11:29 PM |
| 3 | Men cheat primarily for emotional reasons, to attain the feeWomen can become emotionally attached to a man after good sex. oooooh this is an excellent point. I didn't think of that before but definitely know what you are talking about. I think it's almost changed my view. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/22 09:58 PM |
| 8 | JealousyI like it when a guy gets a little jealous, it shows that the person is really into you and doesn’t want to lose you to competition. Most men I know love it when women get a little jealous and possessive (keyword: a little, not extremely) because its honestly kinda hot. Yea, the absence of any jealousy can be a sign of boredom/ disinterest. Playful jealousy is fine. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/22 09:24 PM |
| 0 | Men cheat primarily for emotional reasons, to attain the feePhysical pleasure is literally an “emotional boost”? No it isn't. There's no emotional reasoning behind physical pleasure. If your a woman, maybe there's a difference here between what you experience and men do. What I am arguing is men mostly cheat for scenarios that give a psychological / emotional pay off. Not a physical one. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/22 09:21 PM |
| 0 | Men cheat primarily for emotional reasons, to attain the feeThey cheat because they can. Because they actually fall in love with someone. They can cheat to get back at someone. They can cheat accidentally. They can cheat out of pain, angry, fear, laziness. All of these are emotional. Not sure what accidental means but the point is none of these are cheating to enhance sexual pleasure. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/22 09:19 PM |
| 3 | Displaying stereotypical gendered behavior is crucial to get laid as a manThat is a tautology and thus an utterly meaningless statement I don't think it's meaningless but it's certainly expansionist. It's true in the sense that women like different kinds of guys, musicians, engineers, bartenders, doctors, artists etc. But they still mostly expect that guy to embody some form of boldness or confidence that eventually escalates toward dominant behaviors in the bedroom. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/22 09:14 PM |
| 3 | I believe going to the gym is overrated for attracting womenMost people don't exercise, so just being a guy who does puts you at an advantage. I would say it's context specific. You have to be exercising / muscular more than the average man in your social circle. It was much easier to accomplish this for myself post-college working in a tech company (mostly soy lent guys) vs in college (lots of frat bros / IB bros, etc.) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/22 08:23 PM |
| 0 | Is there double standard when it comes to watching pornography while in a relationship?The female equivalent of watching porn is… watching porn. Ah what I mean is, what is the thing women do that men would more likely have an issue with. In my view, there are more potential issues when women bring in a giant dildo to satisfy themselves vs just watching porn. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/22 07:41 PM |
| 1 | Over sexualisationIt’s an inherent contradiction to say all objectification is wrong There's a lot of confusing messaging around sexuality the media tends to spread. Another one is the "acceptable" places to approach women. There's no such thing, as soon as a woman eyes a man as a potential partner, that place becomes "acceptable" to approach. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/22 07:27 PM |
| 2 | Does religion still play any role in modern dating?I think you have to specify if you mean a conscious atheist versus a atheist by circumstance . China has one of the biggest populations of atheists , but there’s no “atheist” thought , just an absence of religion. They still observe a set of holidays of course. My girlfriend is Chinese and very open to Judaism because she does not consciously reject religion , she was just never raised with a specific one. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/22 06:48 PM |
| 4 | Is there double standard when it comes to watching pornography while in a relationship?The female equivalent for porn is really sex toys , so there isn’t a double standard in this regard . Generally either both parties are ok with porn and sex toys or they aren’t | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/22 06:30 PM |
| 1 | Over sexualisationBut then say that being objectified is wrong. Objectification is a complex issue for women. The idea that women do not like sexual attention is absolutely false. But they only want objectification from men they are sexually attracted to, not from any guy. You mean to tell me those women are just “doing it to impress other women?” I’d hope not because that is hogwash. To a woman in the gym doing squats, her butt is like a fishing pole. does she want to snag a measly shrimp or prawn ? No. She want… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/22 05:51 PM |
| 0 | Past sexual partners have zero bearing on any future relationshipsNo , women do not shame promiscuity , they just feel threatened by the power the offer of sex from other women has on their man | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/22 04:53 PM |
| 1 | Can youmake a case for or against promiscuity?In agreement with you here. But many people here seem to think promiscuity is as like substance abuse or something , makes no sense | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/22 04:31 PM |
| 1 | as a man having girls be attracted to you just because of your looks is worse than not being pickedIn my experience guys natural looks can rarely do much purely on their own. I’m what you might call naturally handsome in the face , but I grew up with an abusive mother , whom would threaten me if I ever kissed a girl without asking her first she would call the police or do other things to me. So in the beginning of college , girls would show interest in me but I would be so nervous. It took a long time to get over the anxiety. The point is men need facial looks , a muscular body, and an idgaf … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/22 06:36 AM |
| 2 | Women do not like male virgins and prefer men with skill and experience in bedFirst husband was a virgin, and spent too many years being mad at me that I wasn’t. Yes, I realized that he was shit in bed but new found evangelical garbage kept me around for too long. This is interesting, do you feel your first husband didn't try to improve ? Second husband had much more experience, Much more experience then yourself ? Or just more than the first husband ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/22 04:12 AM |
| 2 | Passport Bros. Discuss.Indeed Korea is an interesting place. One difference with Korea though I feel is there is a lot of consistency in the looks obsession. The standard for looking good is applied equally to men and women. Both men and women spend a lot on skincare , fitness , and cosmetic enhancement. Most couples are looks matched in Korea , you very rarely if ever see hypergamy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/22 03:56 AM |
| 7 | casual sex isn't as fun as I thoughtInteresting , we’re you genuinely attracted to those women ? Or where you lowering your standards ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/22 02:49 AM |
| 2 | Why men and women are hypergamous at a certain threshold.I'm a man myself and if a woman approached me making 100 million dollars a year ? You better believe I'm going for her . Your relationship wouldn't work. Look at what happened with Jeff Bezo's ex , MacKenzie Scott, and the science teacher husband that lasted 9 months. I do agree with you though that hypergamy does have certain limits. But some environments lead to greatly increasing those limits based on work settings. I'm happily dating another software engineer now, but I would be hesitant dat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 10:55 PM |
| 1 | Girl posts me vs the girl he cheated with and it backfired on her, people (largely men) defend the bf cheatingTiktok is filled with trolls. It's a poor place to make any sort of judgement on these issues. Reddit is quite a bit better, as it's data is much richer. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 10:50 PM |
| 2 | Most men would be happier and more successful with women if they focused on relationships instead of multi-datingI don't disagree with this, but I feel this isn't multi-dating. Multi-dating would be when you continue to date others after securing like a 2nd or 3rd date with one woman already. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 10:48 PM |
| 0 | Most men would be happier and more successful with women if they focused on relationships instead of multi-datingI may swipe 100 times get 5 or 6 matches 3 actually respond I get a date with 1 but a couple days later of those 100 swipes I get 3 more matches get 1 date then later that week I get 1 more... What do you do? Just focus on one😄? But why do none of those result in second dates ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 10:12 PM |
| 1 | Most men would be happier and more successful with women if they focused on relationships instead of multi-datingThe guys with girlfriends were always jealous of the single guys going out and partying with single girls. It might be the college type and also dorm type. I was in a dorm primarily for engineering students. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 09:03 PM |
| 1 | Most men would be happier and more successful with women if they focused on relationships instead of multi-datingDid you read my post ? Dating for the primary purposes of shorter term, multiple sex partners means you would reject anyone not up for that or looking for commitment. I explicitly mentioned the downsides of being a thirsty date. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 09:01 PM |
| 2 | Most men would be happier and more successful with women if they focused on relationships instead of multi-datingYou’re basically saying they are not happy and in order to be happy they need to focus on monogamy. If that is not their goal, Did you not read my post ? I am suggesting the common goals of sex, love, romance, are easier to obtain in a relationship at a young age then multi-dating. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 08:33 PM |
| 2 | Most men would be happier and more successful with women if they focused on relationships instead of multi-datingI don't think what I am saying contradicts that. I am saying too many men try to multi-date, instead of trying to get a relationship. Try is the key word here. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 08:26 PM |
| 1 | Most men would be happier and more successful with women if they focused on relationships instead of multi-datingI would say though even guys who don't date but want to focus on "getting laid" rather than relationships. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 08:22 PM |
| 0 | Most men would be happier and more successful with women if they focused on relationships instead of multi-datingtoxic masculinity teaches men they have to dominate women in order to be manly. In the bedroom sex is about domination or being dominant for heterosexuals. Maybe you are referring to domination in a different aspect ? we need to divest from toxic masculinity and embrace wholesome masculinity that teaches men they are manly when they are authentic, loving members of the community. I think what you are referring to is patriarchy and not masculinity. Patriarchal behaviors is better term to use and … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 08:22 PM |
| 1 | Did “common interests/hobbies” ever work for you?Yes, me and my girlfriend are both software engineers and she was super impressed I was very skilled in C/C++ and contributed to large open source projects. And she was impressed with my Chinese speaking ability too | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 08:20 PM |
| 2 | Should there be an institution to develop mens emotional intelligence?Not exactly the way to get your foot in the door with a girl Right, it's not so much about meeting women at said activity, it's just the atmosphere of the work place is very anti-romantic in some ways. I like toast masters too, but I think KTV bars or places where u sing or speak publicly outside of work are also needed | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 08:17 PM |
| 1 | What does Average Adam have to offer for ANYONECompanionship? Women have friends and family, much stronger social circles and networks than men Last i checked you can't cuddle naked with friends and family. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 08:00 PM |
| 3 | Should there be an institution to develop mens emotional intelligence?ToastMasters. Does toast masters operate outside of companies and work places ? I think its good, but I feel men need public speaking / socialization outside of work environments, as those have high barriers to romantic interactions. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 07:59 PM |
| 7 | Should there be an institution to develop mens emotional intelligence?The solution is getting rid of confusing and damaging terms like toxic masculinity which aren't about masculinity. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 07:56 PM |
| 3 | Passport Bros. Discuss.The fact that you think poor and uneducated people having more sex and children is an indication of what’s attractive and of class in the western world is where this part of the conversation needs to end lol Your answers are incredibly obtuse. This whole thread is a discussion of "Can a man have more success with women if he goes abroad or looks for an international relationships". It should be objectively clear more sex = more success with women and relationships , less sex or virgins = less or… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 07:30 PM |
| 4 | Passport Bros. Discuss.The most I developing nations which are characterized by low income and growing economies are also characterized by high birth rates and young populations. This is also true for subsets of cultures in America ( minority groups have more children “ more sex” Well you prove my point even more. You haven't shown anything to suggest being wealthy in the USA increases ones sexual attractiveness or appeal. Being Jewish is indicative with being rich and owning class world wide??? Have you missed the ne… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 07:21 PM |
| 7 | Passport Bros. Discuss.The women just plain seemed mad that men were exercising this option. YES. Bingo. What people aren't seeing here is the women filming these, the woman moved to said country where she has a disadvantage because the men now have more choices. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 07:15 PM |
| 4 | Passport Bros. Discuss.I surely don’t want to be forced to pay 200 bucks every time I wanna sleep with someone Can you stop assuming anyone foreign is poor ? It's like, insanely false. China is number 2 world economy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 06:58 PM |
| 7 | Passport Bros. Discuss.and you don’t think that a lack of wealth is low class? It’s literally the defining factor of class in our culture. The highest ranking universities like MIT have the highest number of virgins https://thetech.com/2009/10/30/survey-v129-n49 The national average in college is around 20% , MIT is close to 50%. Also most people value America for its freedom and liberty, not it's capitalism. If you are so bad that even being a top 1 percent earner in the richest part of the world can’t net you a rela… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 06:56 PM |
| 6 | Passport Bros. Discuss.Why do you make all these assumptions about foreign women ? Have you ever dated even in the USA anyone for a different race or culture ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 06:41 PM |
| 2 | Passport Bros. Discuss.Money is highly valued outside of the USA but not in the USA . Agreed here. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 06:36 PM |
| 2 | Passport Bros. Discuss.Fun fact : there’s many subs run by old Chinese nationalists devoted to mocking the USA and see tourists . It’s kind of funny to see old guys spending retirement time on Reddit | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 06:34 PM |
| 9 | Passport Bros. Discuss.Again , the problem is “reject” is a culture specific term. In America a Stanford educated high earning software engineer can be a reject , while in Asian cultures a tattooed guy who smokes is a reject. The key difference is lack of wealth in Asia = low class, this is not true in the USA | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 06:31 PM |
| 11 | Passport Bros. Discuss.It’s quite dis respectful to assume any person interested in other countries or cultures is only so for sexual reasons. Just FYI | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 06:29 PM |
| 3 | Passport Bros. Discuss.The issue is being a complete virgin in a later age is a unique issue than increasing ones existing dating potential. As a late bloomer at 22 , I found I had a fear of sex from having an abusive mother , and I only got over this with a prostitute . Sad to say but after that it helped me realize there’s no reason to fear sex | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 06:28 PM |
| 9 | Passport Bros. Discuss.Why do you assume anyone outside of the USA is poor , or thinks the same way we do ? Asian cultures highly value intelligence and money. USA does not . Also Personally , Asians are far less anti-Semitic than Americans | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 06:26 PM |
| 12 | Passport Bros. Discuss.I think many people on this sub aren’t well traveled or think primarily with a western mindset . Asian cultures tend to value status , wealth , intelligence , more so than the USA . European looking physical features are more prized in Asia than they are in the USA. This is why the concept of mixed babies is though of as cute . Personally learning Chinese has been the single best thing for my dating life. In the Bay Area it opens the pool to so many women , in addition to spending time in Singap… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 06:24 PM |
| 2 | Why is it always "What would you do to me," but not "Here's what I'd do to you?"Heterosexual intercourse is largely a male dominant female submissive activity. It’s biological turn on. I think you are over complicating this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 04:14 PM |
| 3 | Women do not like male virgins and prefer men with skill and experience in bedThat’s actually what inspired this post . I believe we are talking about the same video perhaps. But yea I feel the people here are instances where they end up marrying the guy who lost his virginity to them, but many virgin guys might not be looking for an LTR off the bat. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 03:51 PM |
| 3 | Can youmake a case for or against promiscuity?Ok so if a playboy model or IG model or someone you are insanely sexually attracted to wanted to marry you , and you have mind blowing sex life , you would still think about N count ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 03:49 PM |
| 3 | More women try to manipulate men into relationships using sex, rather than men promising relationships to manipulate women into sexI disagree because relationship is an abstract concept . It’s not something you feel. Promising a relationship are just words. What women look for is feeling the love of a man wanting her and no one else. So women do not use sex to obtain a relationship , they can use it to influence certain feelings in a man. Additionally in my experience women also use unprotected sex earlier in dating to influence more love and attachment from a man. But the reverse you mention is not true. A man cannot use t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 03:47 PM |
| 0 | How many people here have a neutral stance on feminism, the Red Pill, and modern dating?Did you not read what I wrote? Alpha and beta cannot be debunked because there’s obviously leaders and followers , those that influence or be influenced . What other people have done with the term is irrelevant. It symbolizes a concept in the real world. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 03:19 PM |
| 7 | Can youmake a case for or against promiscuity?Think about how a man would interact with a specific woman. If a man has mind blowing sex with a woman he is in a relationship with , he will not think , how many guys has she been with before ?? Focusing a lot on promiscuity comes only when there is already something not satisfactory going on. Similar to how women ignore toxic parts of a man when they are deeply attracted to him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 03:10 PM |
| 3 | Can youmake a case for or against promiscuity?Promiscuity does not reduce relationship value . The appearance of a woman and her attitude is largely the determiner of attractiveness. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 02:56 PM |
| 2 | On Men claiming they need women, and women feel the need to prove how independent they are...Most first world countries are nearing replacement rates , the bulk of the countries still in full flow growth are third world countries . So it’s not as useful of a metric to look at it world wide . | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 02:54 PM |
| 2 | On Men claiming they need women, and women feel the need to prove how independent they are...I think the problem is independence and need is only looked it in sociological perspectives. In reality , our needs are more at the psychological level. Men and women both need each other to fulfill emotional and physical needs. My girlfriend went to a top tier university and works as a software engineer like myself , but despite fitting the “independent” profile , she still needs me to talk about issues at her work and help her solve problems. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 02:51 PM |
| 2 | How many people here have a neutral stance on feminism, the Red Pill, and modern dating?Not sure what you mean by alpha and beta are horoscopes? It’s personality groupings. You have personalities that illicit influence over others (alpha) and those that are influenced by others (beta). The dating world is a comparative market. You compete against your local potential other suitors. The 80 20 rule is that , a majority of women are most attracted to a minority of men. Also I do not really ascribe to the red pill , my beliefs are primarily formed from observations spending time primar… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 02:43 PM |
| -1 | What are your actual dealbreakers?Wrong , women wanting to be unemployed can mean being a stay at home wife . | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 08:33 AM |
| 4 | One of the best ways to test a man as a women is to get fat in a relationshipIt’s not comparing looks and a job . It’s that male unemployment is treated much more harshly in a relationship than female unemployment. Women don’t like being the unexpected bread winner | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 07:55 AM |
| 2 | One of the best ways to test a man as a women is to get fat in a relationshipAre you arguing this in good faith ? You realize that 650,000 people a year die of heart disease in the USA , and the USA is like 40% obese ? As I said , 20-30 pounds is not the same as 100 pounds | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 07:45 AM |
| 4 | One of the best ways to test a man as a women is to get fat in a relationshipI don’t see how this is a good idea. Getting fat is somewhat subjective as a fair amount of men might like 20-30 pounds extra on their girl if she was thinner before . Gaining enough weight to become obese is bad because it jeopardizes your health . Also all people have a threshold of physical attractiveness in a relationship. No love is entirely unconditional. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 07:39 AM |
| 1 | Women do not like male virgins and prefer men with skill and experience in bedwas a virgin when we met. He didnt disclose it until later on, Were you specifically looking for marriage ? How long did it take for you to sleep with him ? Are we talking 2-3 dates or a long term path ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 05:22 AM |
| 1 | Do you think gym maxing works for men who are considerably unattractive?The question isn’t what would make you really attractive , it’s a relative boost from your starting point. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 04:01 AM |
| 3 | How many people here have a neutral stance on feminism, the Red Pill, and modern dating?I might be neutral , I believe in some red pill concepts like alpha vs beta , the 80/20 rule , but also do not believe in the wall or that looks for men are more important than big dick energy , intelligence , or confidence . | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 03:43 AM |
| 1 | There are two kinds of guys who care about high N counts.No , you are twisting the argument . N-count isn’t a characteristic as you can never know what it is for sure. A woman can tell you it’s 2 when it’s in fact 100 and you will never know. She could have slept with tons of guys in a different state or country you have no way of confirming . That’s why I say it’s a false scenario , it has no way of being real. But to entertain you , I would be more inclined toward the n=50 one because that woman is likely more sexual and likes sex than the n=10 one.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 11:24 PM |
| 1 | There are two kinds of guys who care about high N counts.Lol bad experience means she didn’t want anything more than a kiss until like 6 months into a relationship. That’s a false scenario as women who have different partner counts can’t be the same , they have different life experiences. To give a more discussable scenario , I think would take a super hot n=50 woman over an average looking n=10 woman . Most men would as well | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 11:18 PM |
| 1 | There are two kinds of guys who care about high N counts.Because I don’t care or don’t think about who a woman had sex with before me ? Also I personally had a bad experience with a woman who was a virgin , and generally believe experience is better in women. It makes them less apprehensive about sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 11:09 PM |
| 3 | People like being manipulated and lied to.If you have high amounts of mutual attraction with a stranger you just met then you have lied and deluded yourself about what this stranger might bring to your life. A feeling isn't a lie. It's a true feeling. A lie is an untrue statement. I will admit most of what I argue is quite accelerationist and fatalist. It's more fun to steelman my argument and make it more provocative. Otherwise people focus on misinterpreting my conceded middle grounds. The issue is you haven't defined what truth is (w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 07:31 PM |
| 0 | Women do not like male virgins and prefer men with skill and experience in bedIf every man only needed 20 mins to learn to be good in bed there would be no such thing as bad sex for women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 06:59 PM |
| 1 | Women do not like male virgins and prefer men with skill and experience in bedI agree with that , fully. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 06:57 PM |
| 1 | Women do not like male virgins and prefer men with skill and experience in bedWould u say though you are truly voluntary a virgin though ? I did say incel or ugly , not both. Personally had a bad single mother growing up whom made me fear sex almost . So I was similar to u in that I had anxiety regarding women during college. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 06:56 PM |
| 1 | Women do not like male virgins and prefer men with skill and experience in bedOh I didn’t mean it takes longer for a women to orgasm from oral , I mean it takes longer for a complete virgin to get good at , more than just doing it 3 times. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 06:52 PM |
| 0 | Women do not like male virgins and prefer men with skill and experience in bedYes, but every vehicles parts are in different places, different shapes and sizes, and have different assembly structures, even though they have the same names and functions. Nope. They are very similar. Like if this was the case there wouldn't be generic auto body garages or repair shops. Or similarly, pilot school wouldn't be based almost entirely on flying a a small propeller plane. Just like every person has different body shapes, sizes, sensitivity levels, idealizations, repressions, turn o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 05:44 PM |
| 2 | Women do not like male virgins and prefer men with skill and experience in bedI don’t know what you think experienced guys are doing that inexperienced guy can pick up really quickly but it’s not much. A guy can pick up enough skill to completely satisfy the woman he’s with in 3 sessions or less. No way. It takes way longer than that to eat her out enough to make her orgasm. Also the right amount of foreplay vs piv. Telling how much foreplay she needs before she's aroused enough to take the main course is a skill. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 05:33 PM |
| 6 | Women do not like male virgins and prefer men with skill and experience in bedwho have been preselected. N-count is a measure of preselection. They want the guy because other women do. This is a different argument than mine. What I am saying is , bluntly, women don't like if men make obvious mistakes in the bedroom or appear in experienced. Imagine not finding a clit. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 05:27 PM |
| 2 | Women do not like male virgins and prefer men with skill and experience in bedSaying you are experienced by having sex with one person is like saying your an experienced mechanic even though you have only worked on your own vehicle But every vehicle has the same core parts, 4 tires, spark plugs, hub cabs, exhaust pipe, tail lights, etc. Just like women have the same parts and same nerve endings. People aren't fruits or ice cream flavors. Especially where sex is concerned. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 05:25 PM |
| 3 | Women do not like male virgins and prefer men with skill and experience in bedI was a virgin or low N myself at the time so it was fine. Then I assume this is when you were younger ? Would you date a male virgin that was 26 ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 05:19 PM |
| 10 | Women do not like male virgins and prefer men with skill and experience in bedIn my experience by the post college age most women have extensive sexual experience to judge and sense out inexperienced men. Note: sexual experience happens within relationships too. With my last girlfriend during covid, she chose to quarantine with me since her parents are of poor health. We had a much more amount of sex then usual as a result , and I feel a lot more experienced because of that time period , despite only being with the same girl in that time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 05:16 PM |
| 3 | Women do not like male virgins and prefer men with skill and experience in bedI would not have dated a man with a history of casual sex. Experience was not a thought that crossed my mind and I take ownership of my own sexual pleasure, as a high libido woman. So then you are a high libido woman whom also has a low n-count ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 05:11 PM |
| 5 | CMV: Most women also have a N count preference and threshold, it's just higher than the N count preference of men. Therefore it's hypocritical for women to shame men for having a preference as they also judge men's value over his sexual experiences.This is false. Women do not have an N count preference. If they love a man they will believe he chose her over all the ones. This is actually a big importance in relationships. Men need to tell their partner that they satisfy them more than any other woman has. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 04:48 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: Do you want to work?I felt the same as a stay at home parent, I hated it and it led to isolation and divorce. I'd work even if I won the lottery, What about working from home or hybird office/home setup ? That's what I am doing and many are in silicon valley . | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 04:44 PM |
| 1 | N-count and F-countWhat happens to the males sausage | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 04:39 PM |
| 3 | What are your actual dealbreakers?No tattoos, Why would tattoos be bad? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 04:33 PM |
| 2 | What are your actual dealbreakers?Being unemployed and wishing to stay in that situation Being too much into consumerism Don't you feel these two may conflict ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 04:31 PM |
| 0 | What are your actual dealbreakers?I would say any woman who is monolingual in English. I find it really romantic when you can speak another language to your partner or you learn each others native languages. I love speaking in both English or Chinese to my girlfriend. On a more practical note: women who are too independent are a turn off. Women need some tasks in a relationship that they feel only their men can do. And similarly of course, men have some tasks that only a woman can do. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 04:29 PM |
| 1 | There are two kinds of guys who care about high N counts.Why are you opposed to high N count ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 03:53 PM |
| 2 | There are two kinds of guys who care about high N counts.Paternity fraud has no real correlation with N-count. Your n count 2 wife could have had your kid with the postman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 03:52 PM |
| 1 | There are two kinds of guys who care about high N counts.IMO it’s easier being with an experienced girl your first time. If a girl tells you how she likes it or guides you what to do , will be less nerve racking your first time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 03:45 PM |
| 1 | A woman’s past is important for men in the same way that a man’s height is important to womenRelationships != n-count . Your mixing two different concepts here. Many women do not consider much of their true n-count as part of a relationship. So it seems what your asking is relationship history and count , which people are generally more open to share | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 03:43 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadBecause N count is not verifiable or provable , it’s a false heuristic. Example is claiming that high N count means not discriminate in sexual partners . A high N count women might only be sleeping with very attractive men, while a low n count woman might have slept with 2 random guys because no one else wanted her. Using N count instead of more specific indicators that again one can actually verify reeks of fragile ego. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 11:52 AM |
| 2 | A woman’s past is important for men in the same way that a man’s height is important to womenIf you want to use terms , at least use them correctly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 11:46 AM |
| 3 | A woman’s past is important for men in the same way that a man’s height is important to womenVery sorry to hear you were bullied like that. But I think the issue you are getting at is bullying and harassment, and not standards of masculinity or femininity. Bullying and harassment can happen for any characteristic or trait. Any way someone deviates from the common population, it can be bullied. So the solution is to stop people who bully, as they are the ones with the mental problems to do those things. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 11:41 AM |
| 3 | A woman’s past is important for men in the same way that a man’s height is important to womenAre they impulsive? Impulsivity has zero to do with high N-count. A virgin can impulsively decide to take drugs and get too drunk and go to the hospital. Why couldn’t they find commitment? This one is easily false, many virgin or low n-count women who are ugly cannot find commitment. Are they a serial cheater?” A woman in her first ever relationship can meet a chad and impulsively decide to cheat. N-count = 2. Also applying the concept of "serial" to cheating is silly. Cheating is bad because it… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 11:37 AM |
| 6 | A woman’s past is important for men in the same way that a man’s height is important to womenSome people live by a moral compass inside them and find sex as a very intimate act, religious people being a good example. Ok but religious people then would apply the same standard to themselves, right ? Both men and women need to treat sex as a special act. What I have seen here is men promote the idea of dating and sleeping with multiple women, then somehow for a long term relationship are repulsed by high N-counts. Makes zero sense. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 11:33 AM |
| 2 | A woman’s past is important for men in the same way that a man’s height is important to womenpersecute, humiliate and bully the non-conforming. Who is persecuting people for not being masculine ? Can you give some concrete examples. To be clear, not being thought of in a certain way by others is NOT persecution. I feel you are pleading to emotion and trying to change what persecution or bullying mean. A body builder flexing his muscles does NOT persecute men who do not have muscles. No one is entitled to attention from others. Also similarly, being rejected for dates is NOT persecution … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 11:25 AM |
| 2 | A woman’s past is important for men in the same way that a man’s height is important to womenOnly a psychopath is capable of not caring No sir, a psychopath lacks empathy, which has nothing to do with how you perceive other people's thoughts. Study some psychology. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 11:17 AM |
| 9 | A woman’s past is important for men in the same way that a man’s height is important to womenSo, with these guys trying to be Mr stoic but then worrying about how much sex a woman has had makes me feel like they're weak too. Exactly. It's completely inconsistent. Real strength is the IDGAF attitude. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 11:14 AM |
| 2 | A woman’s past is important for men in the same way that a man’s height is important to womenThe point I am making is that the "correct" mode of dress for men and women is nothing more than a product of societal convention. There's nothing biological in "men wear X, women wear Y". It might not be biological, but its a very slow and hard thing to change. My argument still applies here. Within the our modern society, a guy proclaiming that his tight dress is masculine will not cause society to change it's definition of masculinity. "misandrist" if it is only imposed on male individuals, a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 11:11 AM |
| 4 | A woman’s past is important for men in the same way that a man’s height is important to womenNot that I think badly of them, but I see a lot of people bashing OP for "insecurity". Why can't one have a preference without the insecurity? Because the preference is based on a non-verifiable and non-provable concept. Anyone can have it, but the motivation for having it is likely based off of an insecure feeling of thoughts around a number, that, one has no idea of being true. Women shame men for paying for sex even if the sex workers operate in a competely legal environment by their own will… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 11:04 AM |
| 2 | A woman’s past is important for men in the same way that a man’s height is important to womenMen wore dresses (togas) in Ancient Rome, and they wear skirts (kilts) in Scotland. Indeed, the skirt was a Roman invention intended to improve combat mobility. This supports my argument. In roman society women did not wear kilts. Kilts were exclusively for men. Women didn't fight in combat. Thus, the role of wearing kilts indicates masculinity. A woman attempting to wear a kilt in ancient rome is the parallel to a man attempting to wear a tight dress in modern society. They will not be recogniz… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 10:50 AM |
| 1 | The "30+" figure for women hitting the wall largely depends on how fit you are/where you're from100% agree. Many asian women or black women look much younger. Here's a 41 year old who looks like she's 19 https://www.koreaboo.com/stories/meet-41-year-old-taiwanese-woman-looks-like-teenager/ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 10:22 AM |
| 1 | Could you ever, or have you ever been attracted to someone who wasn’t your “type”?Yes absolutely. Before I studied mandarin or visited China I was largely interested in white women. Now, I am interested primarily in Asians, Latinas, or Black women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 10:20 AM |
| 6 | A woman’s past is important for men in the same way that a man’s height is important to womenThe idea that men have to behave a specific way to have their identity as males respected is misandric. Are you perhaps confusing gender identity and masculinity ? This is a common issue when discussing masculinity. I am referring to masculinity only in the heterosexual , cisgendered context. Meaning for those that only identify as cisgender, and are oriented heterosexually, what do they consider masculine ? "society" can define that man can paint his nails and wear dresses, but this does not ma… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 10:16 AM |
| 7 | A woman’s past is important for men in the same way that a man’s height is important to womenSuffering due to what others think of you is called low self esteem. Having poor mental health is something some people suffer from, but not all humans. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 10:10 AM |
| 8 | A woman’s past is important for men in the same way that a man’s height is important to womenbut there is some evidence to suggest women who have a larger number of partners are more likely to dissolve relationships. Ok where is that evidence ? What is the logic behind it ? In addition, in our society, men generally bear the costs of relationship dissolution. That's a dangerous argument there as it can lead to very bad things like government involvement in relationships. Trust me, you do not want this. China's municipal governments recently started calling newly weds asking them when th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 09:48 AM |
| 3 | A woman’s past is important for men in the same way that a man’s height is important to womenI am arguing what constitutes masculinity. Not sure how that is misandry ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 09:42 AM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI dont like the idea of my future wife being the town bycicle and not being sex selective. Interesting, but in many ways, being sex selective is actually a negative. Being open to sex is good because it means she needs sex and pleasure. Being too selective means she doesn't need sex as much as other women, and thus places more requirements or standards on having sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 09:26 AM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadN count preference is about as logical as a height preference This makes no sense. Height preference is a physical preference. Similar to preferring big butts, breasts, small waist etc. N-count is a non-verifiable and non-provable characteristic. You could be with a woman who's N-count is really 500 and she tells you its 5, you would never know otherwise. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 09:19 AM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI dont like women who slurped a gazillion dicks. Why though ? This is not a physical trait, nor is it a personality trait. It is also never truly verifiable. This is why I say, the only reason is weakness. Rent free thoughts live in a man's head about him being compared to others. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 09:14 AM |
| 5 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadMen who care about n count of a woman are weak and not masculine. Allowing the thoughts of others to live rent free in your head is the epitome of just being pathetic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 08:24 AM |
| 10 | A woman’s past is important for men in the same way that a man’s height is important to womenIf a man suffers due to the thoughts of others he is not a real man. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 08:20 AM |
| 15 | A woman’s past is important for men in the same way that a man’s height is important to womenWhy do I care what she thinks about ? See this is what I mean by weakness . Real men are never swayed by what women thinks of them. If you allow yourself to be vulnerable to “comparison” , you will never have BDE (big duck energy) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 08:19 AM |
| 24 | A woman’s past is important for men in the same way that a man’s height is important to womenHow can a man suffer due to whom his girlfriend or wife had sex with in the past ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 08:13 AM |
| 11 | A woman’s past is important for men in the same way that a man’s height is important to womenAny man who cares who a woman had sex with before him is a weak man. The very idea one canthink about other men when you are alone with a woman is just pathetic . To such men, here is a suggestion, sleep with a prostitute. Sex feels exactly the same with a woman who has had a few thousand partners as a woman who has had 10. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 08:13 AM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadCelebrities have an incredible presence . It just moves your to the core . When I was a child I got an autograph from Shaq when he played for Miami. His charisma is so powerful it’s just hard to describe. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 06:29 AM |
| 10 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadWhy do some men here use celebrities as examples of men being successful at dating ? Like one said since the “sexiest man alive” is 41 , that means all men peak at 41. To me as a man, I do not understand this. Celebrities are almost super human beings in the top 0.001% . I have known few olympians and even those people are so incredibly motivated / smart , it is so beyond the average person. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 05:12 AM |
| 1 | The peak attractiveness age for men is between 27-36The average man is overweight or obese at that age Nope, The age-adjusted prevalence of obesity among college graduates was lower (27.8%) https://www.cdc.gov/mmwr/volumes/66/wr/mm6650a1.htm 28% isn't the average. 72% of college grads are not obese. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 02:25 AM |
| 3 | In response to the lady earlier who was freaking out about the wall, I think this topic needs to be talked about a bit more. specifically, about how the wall does not affect all women equally.women are done at 40 Disagree, good genetics and plastic surgery go a long way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 01:44 AM |
| 1 | Q4M: Do you want to work?Oh I found it now. One thing I think the other post or this one doesn't address is working from home. Since the pandemic, many jobs at least in my area are open to working at home 3-4 days a week. In fact thats what I do , 1-2 days in the office, 3-4 days at home. So I am doing some of the chores you listed, while being at home, but also going to work and attending zoom meetings. I feel working and staying at home might no longer be a binary system in the post covid world. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 12:40 AM |
| 1 | Q4M: Do you want to work?I would want to work. My passion for my job actually exists just because I love doing it so much. I think the issue with this question is it assumes a job doesn't hold any attractiveness value or doesn't improve someones other characteristics. For my girlfriend I feel one thing that attracts her to me is my entrepreneurial or creative spirit , which I really wouldn't have without a job. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 12:31 AM |
| 1 | The peak attractiveness age for men is between 27-36The guys serial dating women here are the same guys you see everywhere else. Good looking, charming, confident, interesting lifestyles. You could be "learning new languages" on your work trips but there are guys who learned new languages because they traveled in the early twenties. Remember though, we are talking about peaks of a man's attractiveness. What I am arguing against is the idea male attractiveness peaks between 20-26 . Similar to what you claim, I studied mandarin for 2 years in colle… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 12:12 AM |
| 1 | The peak attractiveness age for men is between 27-36Do you understand what a peak is in this context ? My logic still applies to your statement. Let's take a look at Chris's performances https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_Chris_Evans_performances His first major hollywood film was in 2012, the Avengers, at which he would be age 30. Becoming a hollywood actor is the peak of attractiveness, not some award ten years later that's decided by fashion directors. My main argument is against the idea mail attractiveness peaks in the 22-26 age range, wh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/22 11:08 PM |
| 1 | The peak attractiveness age for men is between 27-36I'd have thought if you've had two promotions within 5 years, you'll probably get more after. Promotions are exponential rather than linear in difficulty. The more you get promoted, the less people the company can support or promote to the next level. And if you've been travelling, you'll continue to do so. I don't know if this provides continuous boosts though. I feel learning mandarin and spending time traveling in China and Singapore has helped me feel more worldly, but I don't know more trav… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/22 10:48 PM |
| 2 | The peak attractiveness age for men is between 27-36Kind of impressed dude can be in the top 1% The issue is I don't think I am the top 1%. You have to consider local competition is what sets one's percentile. The top 1% in silicon valley would be successful startup founders that had an IPO or sold their startup and are sitting on millions at a similar age as I am (28). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/22 10:44 PM |
| 2 | The peak attractiveness age for men is between 27-36Do you think men's attractiveness drops after 36 and why? I think it does, but not so much because an individual man gets less attractive or ugly on average, but rather external factors. When you get to age 36 or more, you start to compete more with guys in the 27-36 range. But it depends on the age of women you go for. If we assume women prefer guys slightly older, this means for a 40 year old man, the younger the woman he goes after, the more competition he will have. There's also a related is… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/22 10:41 PM |
| 2 | The peak attractiveness age for men is between 27-36I'm 28, sorry i am new to this sub and wasn't sure if there are rules regarding that. Regarding physical attractiveness, i did mention more time for working out and fitness. But in terms of genetic attractiveness, this view is more about how specific men peak. As in , the average man will have some peak, but that peak won't be the same as an attractive or handsome man and their peak. Men have different peaks, the question is when is it most common to have a peak. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/22 10:32 PM |
| 1 | The peak attractiveness age for men is between 27-36Exactly, my point is not so much about a specific salary but the amount of disposable time, income, and experience. In SF, anything below 110k is low income and 50k would be below the poverty line. So you have to consider any salary against cost of living, always. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/22 10:28 PM |
| 0 | The peak attractiveness age for men is between 27-36I personally thought it was late 30s but there's some hard data that implies it's later than this. It makes sense that a man's attractiveness peak would be where his income is as high as possible but before any sort of physical decline begins. There's a paywall, but there's a difference between potential versus most common peaks. In theory yes, if we take the perfect candidate, super good career track, ivy league school, continually makes more and more as he ages, becomes like VP or SVP in a com… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/22 10:21 PM |
| -1 | The peak attractiveness age for men is between 27-36Men in their 30s don’t look better than men in their 20s Are you saying the average man in their 20's vs 30's or the same man ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/22 10:19 PM |
| 1 | The peak attractiveness age for men is between 27-36All four points keep increasing after 36. Why the upper limit? Because then you begin to compete with men in the 27-36 bracket. and conversely, each point becomes harder to increase as times goes on. So the upper limit is what will apply for most men. But not all men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/22 10:16 PM |
| 5 | Can a virgin be good enough at sex?would be the equivalent of training wheels for sex? Prostitutes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/22 07:47 PM |
| 2 | The narrative around Pete Davidson's appeal is a great example societal gaslighting.Not sure why people people overthink the guy’s dating success. Also his jaw line is super defined. chad jaws | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/22 06:29 PM |
| 8 | How would you react if your partner wanted to try non-monogamy?My point is that most people in healthy relationships would ask their partner before even going on the date/exchanging numbers with a guy. I wouldn't say switching from a closed to open relationship is part of a healthy relationship. that's an odd perspective honestly. I understand polyamory and polygamy, but if a relationship was once monogamous, trying to convert it is just an unhealthy way of retaining the previous benefits of monogamy while entertaining multiple partners. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/22 06:24 PM |
| 11 | How would you react if your partner wanted to try non-monogamy?they already cheated No but the only way one knows theres more options if they are aware or have been approached or went on a date with potential partners. AKA, girl in relationship meets cute guy at the gym, he hits on her, he goes on a date with her, then she feels bad about it, then goes to ask her current boyfriend if he wants to open the relationship. Yes they might not be banging, but most people define cheating as much less intimate activities then banging. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/22 05:54 PM |
| 15 | How would you react if your partner wanted to try non-monogamy?It’s not about ethics . It’s about options. Someone wouldn’t bring up non monogamy without believing there’s a possibility of getting more than one partner . | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/22 05:44 PM |
| 6 | How would you react if your partner wanted to try non-monogamy?I would tell her parents , her traditional Chinese father would flip out . And then likely break up | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/22 05:41 PM |
| 1 | Men without money hit the wall way harder than the average womanTrue but it’s not too late for 1 kid. I would assume most people looking to have a medium sized family would be getting married earlier | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/22 05:40 PM |
| 0 | Men without money hit the wall way harder than the average womanI think the issue here is your not looking at things in comparison. The average 30 year old guy is more accomplished in his career and is likely more confident than the average guy thats 20 years old. Women also tend to like men a few years older than them. The average women in college though is relatively desirable as most parties and social events are centered around having attractive women at them. But when u get to around age 30, women who are not married have less social appeal, while men u… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/22 05:28 PM |
| 6 | Men without money hit the wall way harder than the average womanIt’s because younger women are giving sex too easily so you begin to compete with them Women in the 27-35 age range can easily be more attractive than the 20-25 range with exercise and cosmetic enhancement. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/22 05:23 PM |
| 0 | Men without money hit the wall way harder than the average womanWhy would a 34 year old single woman have any hope in the dating market? Depends on your looks. And if you have kept up with possible fillers / enhancements / exercise etc. Many 34 year old women are gorgeous. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/22 05:22 PM |
| 1 | Men without money hit the wall way harder than the average womanThe most dangerous type of skin cancer, melanoma, isn’t related to sun exposure either. Thats medical disinformation For example, ultraviolet (UV) rays are clearly a major cause of melanoma. UV rays can damage the DNA in skin cells. Sometimes this damage affects certain genes that control how the cells grow and divide. If these genes no longer work properly, the affected cells may become cancer cells. https://www.cancer.org/cancer/melanoma-skin-cancer/causes-risks-prevention/what-causes.html | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/22 05:20 PM |
| 2 | Women WANT to be a man's sidepieceI feel like this is mixing different concepts . Women want a man with a set focus and passion in life , for sure . However , they want to be that man’s primary source of pleasure, healing and intimacy. Like how I see it , women want a man who’s successful in his career , but when he comes home , he can’t wait to kiss her or make love to her. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/22 04:30 PM |
| 1 | How much are men influenced by the ever changing beauty standards?I would disagree . That woman barely has any waist to hips ratio. She isn’t even close to a bbl type look. Someone like Demi rose https://www.instagram.com/p/CT8AZMvMFmx/?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y= is more IG model thicc type | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/22 03:55 PM |
| 1 | How much are men influenced by the ever changing beauty standards?Demi rose is a good example , at 20million followers https://www.instagram.com/p/CT8AZMvMFmx/?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y= | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/22 03:54 PM |
| 1 | How much are men influenced by the ever changing beauty standards?That study is from 2012 , before Instagram was even fully operational . I would assure you that’s not accurate as of today anymore . | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/22 03:52 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadWell I’m just trying to indicate to you Trump might be repulsive to half the population but clearly he’s adored by the other half. He’s a polarizing figure . | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/22 04:14 AM |
| 0 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadAre those women conservatives who vote republican ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/22 04:08 AM |
| 0 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadTake a step back and think of the millions of people who voted for Trump. All of those people that even wanted to hug him when he had covid. Then also consider that Trump is married to a model and has had casual sex with porn stars. While I do not support him politically , the idea that no one wants to sleep with him is just false. Can you elaborate more on a broke guy getting women to line up for them? There’s certainly bad boy types that get women, but people like tattoo artists or drug dealer… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/22 03:45 AM |
| 1 | Men have easier and much more dating options after a certain age than womenThanks , I’m going to make one :) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/22 03:08 AM |
| 4 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadWhy do people in this sub seem to separate the concept of the rich guy and the “alpha” or a guy who is successful with women? Generally , I have found these two are the same men. Men become more confident as they earn more and have more time for focusing on looks, usually . | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/22 03:05 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadRed Pillers What's the red pill ? sorry I'm new here. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 11:02 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat Megathreadsupport things like cam girls and only fans but hate prostitution Are you sure those that support only fans consider it sex work though ? Not all people do. I personally don't, unless it's actual porn in a production company. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 11:01 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadJia En, former Miss Singapore | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 11:00 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat Megathreadlol. if ur asking then she probably doesnt. 10 minute chats in the gym are more positives signs. The art of gauging interest is seeing how much does she make time to chat with you or see you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 10:49 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat Megathreadand we had 5-10 minutes chats (which are lengthy imo in gym) Lengthy chats in the gym are potential interest, given she's willing to give you time during a usually self-focused activity. Talk to her more and see if you can ask her out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 10:48 PM |
| 2 | Why is male “insecurity” so demonized?They are also a majority of med students Med students are some of the most overworked, and miserable people around. I don't see how medical students play into dating metrics honestly. Looking at my male medical student friends from college, most of them are huge nerds and likely virgins. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 09:12 PM |
| 1 | Men have easier and much more dating options after a certain age than womenI think it depends when men reach maturity and confidence levels necessary for big dick energy. This can come during college, after college, into their career, etc. For me it came just about now, age 27. Far enough into career that I make a lot of money, have traveled to a dozen countries, learned 2 languages, and feel confident. In college, I wasn't that confident due to lack of good social activities or skills. Would she be able to get a sugar daddy with ease like a 20 - 25 years old girl woul… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 09:06 PM |
| 1 | Bumble doesn't work because women HAVE to message first and they still WANT traditional gender rolesI sort of disagree . Bumble is good because it allows women to choose which matches they really want a response from and just reply hi to it . Tinder or other apps are filled with people that have no intention of even messaging others | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 07:17 PM |
| 2 | Men sex with multiple women because status, rather than pleasure or female companytake away the status "boost" casual sex gives, I'm confused here, sex is largely a private act. Typically the reverse is true, more status gives more access to casual sex. take away the paradigm that a mans value depends on how many women desire him sexually "value" can be a loaded term. What are you implying with it ? A man's attractiveness and his energy governs how many women desire him. nowadays just to get a crump of validationehemsorry i meant coochie is due to how excited men are to "expe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 06:45 PM |
| 0 | Women prefer men who at least offer to pay for things first, rather than assume an equal split.But the bottom line is that we should be equal in theory in 2022 so there's no reason for a man to be expected to pay still Equality is only about laws. Social interactions are always unequal. Men and women are wildly different socially. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 05:26 PM |
| 1 | There is no such thing as 'winning over a girl'. She either likes you or doesn't.Disagree. You are sort of right that a woman needs to show interest first, but at that point, the man needs to then show interest back in the right way in order to foster and grow her attraction toward him. For example, if there's a first date and the guy doesn't touch her at all, or give her compliments on her looks, it's likely she will assume he's not that into her or attracted to her and then lose interest in him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 04:48 PM |
| 2 | Men Who Consider Sex a "Reward" Seem to Forget Women Should Also Be Enjoying ItI've been talking to just straight up asking me to send the money out of nowhere Hmmm now thats odd. What is the context of the conversation when that comes up ? Expecting a man to pay for something is very different than them verbally asking a guy to pay for them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 04:42 PM |
| 13 | Men Who Consider Sex a "Reward" Seem to Forget Women Should Also Be Enjoying ItSome even withhold sex as a manipulative "punishment". I'd never want to have sex with a woman who thinks her body is just some form of leverage. I think the concept of withholding sex in a relationship is a myth. Women don't have sex when they aren't in the mood to have sex. Something happened or was done that lowered their drive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 04:40 PM |
| 2 | Women prefer men who at least offer to pay for things first, rather than assume an equal split.Studies show women orgasm more with higher earning men. It’s not so much about him paying as it is a signal of power or control. There’s other ways to signal that though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 04:12 PM |
| 1 | Do any men here have height requirements for their female partners?So would you be open to dating Shaq ? He’s actually single now | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 03:59 PM |
| 4 | Do any men here have height requirements for their female partners?Where on earth do you find 6 foot tall women ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 03:59 PM |
| -1 | Women prefer men who at least offer to pay for things first, rather than assume an equal split.My current girlfriend did pull out her wallet and try to pay in full for both of us on the first date. It’s a common test in Chinese culture . Thankfully I already paid for it when she went to the restroom. But outside of a cultural norm , yea I agree that would be an interesting social experiment at least. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 03:46 PM |
| -1 | Women prefer men who at least offer to pay for things first, rather than assume an equal split.Why does a car or thing belong only to one person ? What about a large house you couldn’t make 50% of the payments on ? Would you not live in it then ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 03:39 PM |
| 6 | Men sex with multiple women because status, rather than pleasure or female companyI disagree completely . Pleasure from sex for men also comes from the excitement of being with someone new and experiencing a new person’s mind and body. While committed relationships are pleasurable , meeting new people and having sex is a totally different form of pleasure . | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 03:37 PM |
| -1 | Women prefer men who at least offer to pay for things first, rather than assume an equal split.Okay but what about if they were very rich ? And you couldn’t cover 50% of some of the shared expenses that you two would have . Like say if he had a Porsche or Mercedes , would you be ok with him covering the payments for it and you still using it ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 03:30 PM |
| 1 | Women prefer men who at least offer to pay for things first, rather than assume an equal split.But then would you be open to dating men of any income level ? Even if they were completely broke ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 03:17 PM |
| 4 | Women prefer men who at least offer to pay for things first, rather than assume an equal split.It’s more about showing what you are able to afford if you want to. Even drug dealers and gangsters or who would be thought of as “bad boys” have plenty of money and spend it. But yes , this is contextual on culture and location. If you are dating a Chinese girl for example , fighting for the bill is the first test. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 03:15 PM |
| 0 | The ONLY reason women have the upper hand in dating is because men are and always will be way hornier, it is basic biologyMen and women are equally horny but women are much more reactive and conditional in their sex drives . Many many things can turn a woman off or turn her on , more so than men. Men are more drawn to the anatomical presence of a woman , while women are drawn to the psychological presence of a man. This is why erotica novels are almost entirely written for a female audience. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 02:57 PM |
| 1 | Women prefer men who at least offer to pay for things first, rather than assume an equal split.In my experience , it’s more about how capable the man is to provide or be of help in times of need. I might be a little bias here since I’ve dated more Chinese girls than those of other nationalities , but I feel most women like the idea of a guy offering to pay. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 02:50 PM |
| 1 | Women prefer men who at least offer to pay for things first, rather than assume an equal split.I guess from what I have seen in other threads there’s a number of women in this sub saying they want to split the bill and do not expect the man to pay for her or offer to. This is the concept I am challenging. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 02:47 PM |
| 1 | Women prefer men who at least offer to pay for things first, rather than assume an equal split.How would a girl sleep with you if she wasn’t interested or attracted to you ? Do you mean rather at the end of the interaction she was no longer attracted to you? I sort of get what you are saying but I think even if a woman isn’t wanting to leave , she might not have enough chemistry yet to want sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 02:44 PM |
| 2 | Women prefer men who at least offer to pay for things first, rather than assume an equal split.Sure , but I don’t think that changes that women generally prefer a guy to at least offer to pay for whatever date it is, rather than him insist on splitting. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 02:40 PM |
| 5 | Women prefer men who at least offer to pay for things first, rather than assume an equal split.I think it depends on how a woman views splitting vs paying . And of course , how she feels about a particular guy. I don’t personally see how splitting a bill indicates self respect . I think a lack of self respect comes more from overdoing gifts or choice of dates without there being more interest from the woman. Think going out to a super fancy restaurant the very first date. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 02:39 PM |
| 0 | Women prefer men who at least offer to pay for things first, rather than assume an equal split.But isn’t knowing if she wants to leave or not the same thing as knowing if she’s interested in seeing you again or not ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 02:25 PM |
| 2 | Women prefer men who at least offer to pay for things first, rather than assume an equal split.Are you saying women shouldn’t accept being paid for on a date if they don’t intend at that moment to go on a second one or see the man again? I think that generally makes sense , however I would add that most men should be able to tell if a date is going well enough to offer to pay or not at the end. As a general rule , dates that don’t go well should be split . | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 02:07 PM |
| 2 | Women prefer men who at least offer to pay for things first, rather than assume an equal split.But do you agree with me , that women prefer a man to offer to pay or pay rather than insist on splitting ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 01:57 PM |
| 1 | I always thought dating apps were easy for very attractive women. I was wrong.Really ? I’ve never personally heard of meeting directly for sex on a dating app. In my experience at least , everything starts with boba / coffee / a walk and goes from there . I think this is also more reasonable so both people can verify there’s no cat fishing involved . | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 01:11 PM |
| 3 | What advice would you give to someone looking for a woman that wants to have a family?Why did you stay in a relationship for so many years and not get married ? Not criticizing you , but that long of a relationship in ones 20’s not resulting in marriage may indicate some relationship / emotional issues you might want to reflect on before looking for love again. However to your point , women do not know what they want long term. It’s your job to show them or intrigue them in that. What do you want long term ? And what do you bring to the table ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 01:04 PM |
| 3 | Discuss: the market of feet pics and nudes is under threat of collapse; thoughts/opinions?You have it reversed. Women are not competing with porn. Men who choose porn over women are selecting themselves out of the dating market. Such men are not actually the high value men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 01:00 PM |
| 1 | What do you think about women who have "no ONS" written in their tinder bio?Yup it’s a test too weed out guys that are not experienced and too thirsty . It’s like a job application where no one puts 0 years of experience , the minimum is always 1 or more. What women want on dating apps is men with big duck energy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 12:57 PM |
| 6 | Women on this sub, how important is it that a man you date pays the bills for you?Not for everything but where dining and food is concerned it’s extremely important to “fight for the bill” . This applies even for family gatherings or gatherings with friends. Paying for food is important to show one can care and provide for others than just themselves. This is more common in Chinese or East Asian cultures. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 12:44 PM |
| 3 | What percentage of men and women respectively are promiscuous?All people outside of religious folks or people with physically restraining medical conditions have multiple sexual partners. That’s a given. Also , promiscuity isn’t a binary state. All women have a promiscuous period in their lives , meaning they are open to dating casually and potentially having sex casually . All men desire this , but many may not be able to achieve it without paying for it or really putting in effort. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 12:39 PM |
| 6 | Women on this sub, how important is it that a man you date pays the bills for you?Paying is different than offering to pay first. See here it’s a different mind set if a guy offers to pay , and then a woman insists she would rather split it , rather than a guy just assuming they will split the bill. Also judging by answers here , seems majority are not Asian or dating Asians. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 12:33 PM |
| 9 | I always thought dating apps were easy for very attractive women. I was wrong.What does “never really ask” mean? So you are saying your friend got zero offers to meet in person? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 12:25 PM |
| -1 | What do you think about women who have "no ONS" written in their tinder bio?What you do is respect what they've said and assume they're telling the truth. I can't think of many things creepier than a guy thinking "heh heh we'll see about that" when a woman says they're not up for a ONS, just respect their wishes ffs. How can they even know the truth when they haven’t met or even talked to every man on the app? Like we can’t decide things that happen in the future. Especially where the topic of sex comes in, sex is very in the moment , it certainly is not something that … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 12:21 PM |
| 1 | What do you think about women who have "no ONS" written in their tinder bio?When a woman puts that 20% of the time she’s legitimately using the app for the purposes of finding a husband , 80% of the time she’s just trying to weed out guys who are not experienced | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 12:10 PM |
| 15 | I always thought dating apps were easy for very attractive women. I was wrong.I feel what’s missing here is you haven’t stated what would really be required for your friend to agree to go on a date with a guy from the app. In my experience in the USA , generally people do not hold long conversations on apps. I have always after a few words back and forth offer or ask for a phone number and set up an in person meeting. But yes , I would say we need to know what would be needed for your friend to agree to meet the guy in person. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 12:07 PM |
| 3 | Men who leave women who make him wait but not other men previously, is not entitlement, and is more than reasonable for the man's own goals and desires.Sex is different than attraction and desire for women. Or rather a woman needs a higher degree of attraction to a man for sex than just going out with him. In my experience women generally keep going out with a guy as long as there’s a hope he will ignite a spark and increase attraction at some point. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 11:55 AM |
| 1 | A note on desires before a relationshipI’ve been getting critiqued a lot in my personal life for having an interest in only dating women who make (or will make) $500k/yr. A lot of people tend to really narrow in on that and I’ve been trying to analyze why people really don’t get it. I think the issue is you are looking primarily at income from a partner, which is well, odd. Most people have some set qualities they look for in a partner, which of course some are concrete ones like looks, education, profession, etc. Money tends to larg… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 08:14 AM |
| -1 | How is having sex with someone to have your career be promoted any different from moneyThe majority of women would not be attractive enough to have this opportunity. You would have to be so beautiful as to give a man the night of his life for this to be even reasonable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 08:06 AM |
| 14 | Men who leave women who make him wait but not other men previously, is not entitlement, and is more than reasonable for the man's own goals and desires.This is over-complicating things. Women don't really withhold sex. They don't have sex when they don't feel attraction to a man. When women feel attracted to a man, they want sex. Also the second component here makes no sense. Women largely won't feel disappointed a guy they weren't attracted to leaves. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 08:03 AM |
| 2 | Most women aren't as promiscuous as society tries to make you thinkThe issue is promiscuous isn't confined to hookups, and similarly, if something isn't specifically called a hookup, it's unlikely people will consider it as one. Think of it this way, A woman meets guy A, goes on 3 dates, sleeps with him. Goes on a few more dates, realizes its not for her after a month. Then, meets guy B, goes on 3 dates , sleeps with him, realizes its not for her after 2 months. Then meets guy C ... So in the context of these short term relationships, you do have emotional conn… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 05:32 AM |
| 0 | why are most feminists so against sex work?No, its because sex isnt compareable to industries where youre selling your productions rather than yourself. Amazon workers who need to pee in a bottle to make deliveries on time would like a word with you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 02:45 AM |
| 2 | why are most feminists so against sex work?we can see that prostitutes are still from the least advantaged groups in society and have little choice over what they do. Thats false, or a very westernized perspective. Prostitutes generally pursue the trade to earn substantially more than they would with the job they currently have. Like in Thailand, many of the prostitutes come from the north of the country with limited jobs. So that is certainly a choice, that few choose to make. But it's a choice. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 02:44 AM |
| 3 | why are most feminists so against sex work?quite literally sell yourself as a product that results in an interaction where your humane value has no purpose. You are literally an object. Trust me, every amazon worker, is selling their body as an object. They literally pee in bottles in trucks not to miss their delivery times. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 02:40 AM |
| 1 | why are most feminists so against sex work?of exploitation of the production of the equation. Amazon exploits its workers. Should we ban amazon ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 02:36 AM |
| 3 | Do any men here have height requirements for their female partners?Has to be under 5'11" since im close to 6'0". Nothing else besides that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 02:34 AM |
| 2 | Unpopular opinion: For people on the spectrum, moving abroad helps a great deal in terms of datingNew countries bring issues continuously, there are still many things i don't understand about this country after over 20 yrs.. its hard to have that extra stresses in life. I would say for men, extra stress is actually helpful. Men tend to get more lazy and too lax, and those extra stresses of needing to learn or master something like a language keeps them on their toes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 02:32 AM |
| 1 | Most women don't care about toxic masculinity and actively perpetuate it when it suits them.I do agree with you that men who throw a fit over a woman paying is toxic. And women should not be accepting that. Why is paying for a woman on a date toxic ? It's pretty much expected when dating East asian , especially Chinese women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 02:29 AM |
| 2 | Most women don't care about toxic masculinity and actively perpetuate it when it suits them.because of their toxic mindset will ignore that Chris Brown has over 50 million followers on Facebook and 80% of them are women according to Audience Insights data. Chris Brown is a celebrity. Celebs can't be compared to normal people. The difference in social status, fame, wealth, is simply too high. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/22 02:28 AM |
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