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Make it a challenge for yourself to stay very in the moment. Focus on the girl in front of you and the surroundings around you. Focus on your breath and your body in the moment. Our brains are kinda dumb. We need to be focusing on something. So instead of focusing on the other girl, you really need to keep consciously bringing your focus into the moment. Ask her questions, tell her stories, do engaging stuff with her, release any tension you feel in your body throughout the night. I hope it goes…
/r/seduction13/02/15 11:17 PM
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You're misinterpreting that. Valuable people (which attractive women are included in) want to hang out with people who have a lot going on in their lives. When you have a lot to give, you get wary of giving it to people with nothing going on in their lives. Because those are the people who will start manipulating you and stalking you and obsessing over you. So have a full life. This video should help you out man.
/r/seduction23/01/15 11:23 AM
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Dude. Compliment everyone freely. No matter if it's your girlfriend, your mother, a hobo, a fat chick, a cashier, a hot girl, a buddy, whatever. Compliment everyone. Make it a habit to notice things you enjoy about people and give them compliments purely for sake of making their day better. That'll translate to perfect and genuine compliments to your girlfriend.
/r/seduction23/01/15 11:19 AM
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Ease into it man. Build social momentum. Start out with little conversations with safe people (friends and family). Then make small talk with strangers and cashiers. Then make small talk with random people. Also, what's helped me a lot is to ask myself all the basic questions that come up in conversation. What do you do? What are you into? Where are you from? Make sure you know who you are first so you can be honest with people. So many people have no idea who they are because they don't ask the…
/r/seduction23/01/15 11:15 AM
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Work out man and figure out what you want to be passionate about in life. I've always been "cute" and "nice", but once I put on some muscle and started barreling down my life path, girls got aggressively sexual with me. It's wonderful. As long as you're decent looking and have love for women, you should get similar results.
/r/seduction09/01/15 04:54 AM
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Check out meditation man. You can't control your thoughts, but you can control with thoughts you pursue. But that is a muscle that you have to work out. And the work out is called meditation. Here's a beginner's guide.
/r/seduction07/01/15 05:38 AM
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The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida A lot of great ideas on masculine energy; what it is and how it interacts with feminine energy. Also, these videos. Brad Branson: Be the Gorilla Elliott Hulse: The Truth about Alpha Males
/r/seduction19/12/14 06:17 PM
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Alright, some tips. Memorize the acronym FORDEN. I imagine a garden with tiny old rusty Ford trucks sprouting out. Ask questions from these categories: Family, Occupation, Recreation, Dreams (ie, aspirations), Environment (ie, surroundings), News. Make a list of talking topics that you could talk about for an hour with no one helping you out. Have at least 3. (you don't actually have to talk about them for an hour). This will be your backup for any conversation lulls. Save these for after you've…
/r/seduction09/08/14 04:49 AM
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You have to accept your height, you can't change that. Hating yourself for something you can't change is needless suffering for the rest of your life. And for the age thing, take it as a compliment. I look 6 years younger than I really am because I am extremely healthy. But if the age comments are actually from a lack of emotional maturity, you need to be more internally validated and grounded in your own values and beliefs. Reflect on your past, have a plan for your future, and then just do you…
/r/seduction01/06/14 08:44 PM
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I have a couple that I find myself saying a lot. Little dog barking: "He's a really good guard dog." or "I appreciate you not sicking the attack dog on me." Bunch of dogs: "I like your army of dogs." Toddler: "Oh no! The attack baby!" Usually gets a smile. At worst, I make myself laugh all night, haha. Compliments are always good too. If you like something that's not too intrusive, tell them. A flower bed, their house architecture, the smell of their house, the neighborhood, their outfit, their …
/r/seduction25/05/14 04:07 AM
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So first you have to know what you like and what you want. Then when she's going down on you, direct her. Tell her in terms of more/less. Moan or exclaim something when she finds a good spot or motion. Be silent when she's not doing anything for you. If she's killing your boner and not paying attention, grab her head and either do it yourself or just pull her off and move on to PIV or eating her out. And if you really need to talk to her about it, like if it's a FWB and you want to keep seeing h…
/r/seduction25/05/14 03:38 AM
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Models by Mark Manson. And The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida.
/r/seduction08/05/14 08:20 PM
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I recommend dancing during sex. Like, put on some good music and just groove with it while you go in and out of her. It feels fucking amazing for both parties.
/r/seduction18/04/14 08:35 PM
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Watch this video. It'll help a lot. Ok, and you gotta get your own life going again. It's ok and it's good to feel that pain and to mourn the loss of the relationship, but you gotta do things that you did before her that made you happy. Emotional pain is the void of good emotions. You got too dependent on her for your good emotions and that's why you hurt so bad right now. You subconsciously think that you won't be able to feel that level of happiness again. And you won't feel that unique type o…
/r/seduction14/04/14 03:20 PM
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Well that's an interesting one. Polyamory. Thank you sir.
/r/seduction03/04/14 05:19 AM
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We have to lead the conversations though. Going up to a girl and making her lead the conversation is just kind of rude. The subcommunication she'd get would be "hey, I like you, now entertain me." I think I know what you're trying to say though. Like, keep her talking about herself. Ask questions. And I agree. I just wanted to make the distinction between leading with questions versus putting the conversation load on her with questions.
/r/seduction14/03/14 05:00 PM
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Passions and vulnerability. The more personal it is, the more interesting it is. For both you and her. If it excites you, talk about it. If it scares you a little say, talk about it. If it's something you're curious about, ask about it. If you're afraid to talk about something because of social etiquette, talk about it anyways, but you can preface it with something like "I understand this might make you uncomfortable, so just let me know if you want to change subjects." I always tell girls prett…
/r/seduction14/03/14 04:56 PM
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I'm working on this too man. This and this video have helped me immensely.
/r/seduction14/03/14 04:41 PM
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Help him out man. He's asking people like you for help. What's going on in your head that makes it easy for you to escalate?
/r/seduction14/03/14 04:40 PM
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Play songs you can sing to that put you in a good mood. And I mean embarrassing, loud-ass screaming kinda singing where you're just letting the fuck go and laughing at your ridiculousness. That always sets the right mood for me. My personal favorites has to be Tighten Up by The Black Keys
/r/seduction12/03/14 02:26 AM
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My neediness is probably noticeable because I'm a virgin and I can't fuckin close. You need to get to a point where you don't need sex. And you need to be able to own your virginity. If you're depending on a girl to feel good about yourself, she can sense that and she'll be very put off by it. Right now you're throwing out a vibe that's saying "I need to fuck a girl before I can be happy." You want the vibe of "I want have sex with a girl so that we can share a fun, pleasurable experience togeth…
/r/seduction11/03/14 10:49 AM
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You can try malls or parks or busy streets.
/r/seduction11/03/14 10:32 AM
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Build up an ecosystem of good emotions where the girl is only a small part of it. Right now you're relying too much on others to fill up your cup. Do more things purely for your own enjoyment. Do things that make you feel good about yourself just by doing it. Working out, reading, writing, helping others, practicing a hobby, trying new things, etc.
/r/seduction11/03/14 10:16 AM
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Notice the color of their eyes. Really look at the fine details of the colors. Notice the spacing of their eyes. Ask yourself, "if I shared binoculars with this person, would I need to adjust them?" Notice any idiosyncrasies of the area around their eyes. Is one a little droopy? Do they look a little tired? Do their eyes crinkle when they smile? Value what they have to say. If you don't care about what they're talking about then it's going to be hard to pay attention to them. Sometimes when we'r…
/r/seduction11/03/14 08:20 AM
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If it continues being too difficult, try facing fears in another area of your life. Something less overwhelming, but still scary. The strategies you find from pushing through your fear in one area will carry over to all the other areas and help you out.
/r/seduction11/03/14 08:07 AM
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Nah man, I think it's a good trait. "Weird" means "different than the norm". I would say you're in the higher weird minority (cool people) rather than the lower weird minority (psychopaths and whatnot). Just make sure you aim to help. The main difference between between a genius and an insane guy is how much they contribute to society.
/r/seduction11/03/14 07:59 AM
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I disagree sir. On both points. I've had great relationships with women that love fat jokes. Girls that are comfortable with their weight definitely exist and they definitely make fat jokes about themselves because they are incredibly comfortable with themselves. I agree that a lot have issues with their weight, but that's why I do it. I'm seeing what kind of girl I'm dealing with here. The goal of poking fun at their possible insecurities is to see where their insecurities are. Everyone is diff…
/r/seduction08/03/14 05:55 PM
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Call her asap. It would be ideal to ask her in person, but I don't know what your logistics are like. Ok, ideally, you call her and talk to her like you like her a lot and that you know she likes you a lot. See if she wants to hang out. "What're you doing today, you wanna hang out?" If yes, go hang out. Something kinda private. Like a park or something. Plan on asking her, plan on being super fucking terrifyingly honest, but plan on treating her as a good friend if she says no. You can still hav…
/r/seduction08/03/14 05:14 PM
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There could be a couple different ways to interpret what she's saying. I think she's nervous and I think you may have put on an act for her at some point. You need to be honest. You need to know exactly what you want and put it out on the table. A girl like that isn't going to put up with wishy-washy bullshit. You're going to have to choose a position and put it out there. Do you want her to be your girlfriend? If yes, she invited you to ask her. I feel like she really wants you to ask her. At w…
/r/seduction08/03/14 04:57 PM
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My goal when teasing girls is to find out where their insecurities are. Firstly, to see how grounded they are in reality, and secondly, to build them up and help them as best I can. Never do it to embarrass them or to make yourself feel superior. Do it to make them stronger. An example. In high school my sister was a dancer and just generally athletic. So I would call her fat all the time. I would throw marshmallows at her and say "eat your marshmallows fatty". It was funny because we both knew …
/r/seduction08/03/14 04:43 PM
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I'll use that example. So if you're talking to a girl and she says she's from the same area as you, I would say something like "Whaaaaaaaat! That's awesome! I'm from there too! How'd you like it?" Then let her talk. She'll either say something you agree with, disagree with, or something you know nothing about. Regardless, you make sure you understand her and then you give your opinion on what she said, and then you answer the question yourself. Then you can go off on tangents of experiences near…
/r/seduction08/03/14 05:51 AM
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Yes it will turn out bad. It's communicating that you need her, that you're dependent on others. She wants a strong leader that trusts himself. You need to just throw your self out there. What helped me a lot with this man, was just internalizing the worldview of "I'm gonna be me, I want you to be you, and let's just see if we match up." It's terrifying, but it feels much better to polarize someone than it does to live in regret. If yall don't match up (ie, she rejects you), yall just aren't mat…
/r/seduction07/03/14 05:47 PM
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Do you have any solid advice on how to become better at defending yourself ...? You have to learn how to fight. Well first you have to decide learning how to fight is worth the trouble. It's not easy, but you already know how shitty living in a world of fear is. So if you want to learn how to fight, learn it physically and verbally. Don't learn it to hurt people, don't learn it to manipulate people, just learn it to defend yourself. For verbally, learn logic, argumentation, debate, and persuasio…
/r/seduction07/03/14 12:57 AM
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Yessir, that's a good way of putting it. May I ask how you worked on your social skills and networking? Absolutely! First I read a bunch of books and articles, which I'll list for you below. Second I got a job that requires a lot of social interaction. And third I made a very dedicated effort to do more social things. (Wow, I didn't realize how large this list was going to be. So I'm going to very highly recommend the first three books and just say that everything else is going to be beneficial,…
/r/seduction07/03/14 12:41 AM
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You're very welcome sir, I'm glad I could help! I'm really happy to hear about your results too. It only gets better from there man. Good luck with your finals!
/r/seduction06/03/14 10:22 PM
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This means that internally I don't have this self-esteem and thus I can act as 'alpha' as I want, people will always notice that I'm nervous. I think this is where the real problem is. This was a big one for me at least, and I was very much in your situation. I'm much more confident now though. The problem is that you don't feel comfortable, or aren't capable of, defending your actions. Either physically or verbally. I first really started becoming aware of this concept on a ranch trip with a bu…
/r/seduction06/03/14 10:09 PM
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how do you think one should stay out of building fantasies in your head? Stay in the present, don't go too far into the future. Still give a brief once-over of the consequences, but as soon as you want to ask a girl out you need to go ask her out. It's not the person I'm putting on the pedestal, it's the role that person can fill in my life. You need to get your life to a point where you don't need anyone emotionally. The ideal relationship is where both parties are fine on their own but choose …
/r/seduction06/03/14 02:18 AM
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Ahh, gotcha. Ok, this first one is a huge question. "Being true to myself [in the face of fear]." I changed the wording because if you're in a situation of dishonesty, you've already messed up. I think I'm hitting the root issue, but if I missed the mark just let me know. Staying true to yourself in the face of fear. The simple, huge answer is that you need to get stronger. You've already done the hardest part, which is subjecting yourself to a terrifying situation. Now you need to reflect on th…
/r/seduction06/03/14 01:52 AM
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I feel ya man. I'm in a similar spot. The biggest thing is to just practice pushing your boundaries. Create a trigger in your head that says whenever you feel those butterflies of uncertainty, you have to make the move you're scared of. Then just see what happens. Treat it like a scientist treats an experiment. And here's some videos that have been helping me man. This, this, this, this, this, and this.
/r/seduction06/03/14 12:43 AM
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I don't understand what you're trying to ask, you're kind of all over the place. I want to help though and I think I have some suggestions. What exactly do you want help with man? Dealing with rejection? Dealing with oneitis? Being your true self with girls you're attracted to? Or are you just looking for some encouragement?
/r/seduction06/03/14 12:14 AM
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Build a life that you're proud of. Or at least work towards it.
/r/seduction05/03/14 09:47 PM
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I want to address two questions here. The one in the title about "how to be more interesting", and then the one that's asking "how can I find stuff to talk about with this girl". To be more interesting, live a life that people want to learn about. People want to hear about how you overcame your fears, or how you make a decision on the spot and it all went to shit but the pain made you stronger in the end. They don't want to hear about a person that lived a boring life holed up in a cocoon of fea…
/r/seduction05/03/14 04:02 PM
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I've learned this from a mixture of personal experience, hilarious family, cognitive science books (mainly this one), articles, a little Kurt Vonnegut, and a lot of professional comedians. I highly recommend that Steven Pinker book, pages 545-554. You don't have to buy it. Just go to Barnes and Noble and read that section in the coffee shop. He explains it much better than I can. And I'm just going to give the skeleton of what I understand man and you ask questions about what you want me to go d…
/r/seduction05/03/14 02:59 PM
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I think you're just shopping at the wrong stores man. If you're being honest and vulnerable, then you're going to get girls that just don't like you. They'll think you're weird and you, honestly, probably think they're pretty weird. Yall aren't supposed to date. And that's fucking fine man. Just move on. If it keeps happening, check your intentions. If your intentions include valuing the woman as a human being (not an object), then try different venues. A dude that likes deep conversations is go…
/r/seduction05/03/14 01:57 PM
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I always put on music during sex or when we're in my house at all. Partly to help the mood, mostly because I fucking love music, and partly to muffle our moans from my roommate. The main goal dude is to play something with a good beat that matches the mood you want. I think music choice is more about letting her into your world than it is about "finding the perfect song". If you're into EDM, play some EDM man. Talk about why you like it, bring her into your world. People are saying R&B, and that…
/r/seduction05/03/14 01:47 PM
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I think it's possible, but it won't be very much at all. So warmth without power is showing people you're willing to help them, but without being able to actually help them at all. It'd be like a little kid trying to help you cook a complicated dinner. They mean well, but really they're just in the way. And presence without power is the basis of creepiness. It's someone giving you a lot of attention without being able to help you at all. It'd be like a dude you hung out with once, but found out …
/r/seduction05/03/14 06:09 AM
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It can be developed. Phil was just born into a great situation in terms of charisma. His family and early teachers knew enough about it to teach it to him young. Same with any other "natural" at anything. Ok, you need to read this book. The Charisma Myth. The general conclusion is that charisma is the product of 3 things. Power, Warmth, and Presence. Power is the ability to change the world around you. Warmth is how willing you are to use your power to help others. And presence is being in the m…
/r/seduction05/03/14 05:35 AM
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That's actually a good point. It's weird how it intertwines though. I think being vulnerable is just a good way to go about living life. It's the harder way to live, but it makes you strong as hell and makes your connections much deeper. Ok, so I've been diving deep into vulnerability as a way of life lately. Reading a bunch of books on the subject, practicing it in my life, writing about it all the time. The biggest obstacle to living vulnerably seems to be the enemies you'll inevitably make. N…
/r/seduction05/03/14 05:16 AM
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I like thinking of shit-tests like qualifiers. They're testing you. They're giving you chaos and negative feedback and judging how you react to it. I've noticed I do this to women myself. I feel like my sperm is pretty valuable so I don't want to risk having kids with some random shitty chick. I want to make sure she's up to my standards, so I'll throw shit at her and see how she reacts. If she passes, I progress; if she fails, I'll give her more chances, but ultimately I'm fine with just moving…
/r/seduction04/03/14 07:58 PM
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Vulnerability. It's fucking terrifying, but it polarizes people to either love you or hate you. This is how you find those deeply amazing friends. You have to be strong enough to be ok with having enemies though. And alcohol can help get over those initial terrifying steps of being vulnerable. One thing I'm working on right now is how to not get manipulated. When you let people in really deep on your beliefs and experiences and weaknesses, you're giving them all sorts of weapons to take advantag…
/r/seduction24/02/14 11:21 PM
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Use the 60/40 principle. In every interaction, only about 40% is in your control. The other 60% is whatever's going on in their world that you have no control over. Flash smiles at people you want to talk to. If they return them, stop and make conversation. If they don't, then don't. They're busy or preoccupied or afraid or whatever. The majority of their reaction is based on how their life is going. Only about 40% is related to you and your appearance.
/r/seduction24/02/14 10:56 PM
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I've been there man. Ideally, you give everyone eye contact and flash a smile and a nod or a wave to show respect, goodwill, and interest in making a new connection. If they return the eye contact with a positive response, go talk to them. If you're having trouble holding passing eye contact, you probably just don't want a conversation with them. Eye contact and a smile is essentially letting others know that you're friendly and approachable and ready to make some connections. But if you're feel…
/r/seduction24/02/14 10:52 PM
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You need to tell her to stop doing that shit. Because she's your friend girl, you cannot get with her. I don't know how many or how big your social circles are, but getting with a friend's chick will destroy any current and neighboring social circles for you. It's not worth it for one chick man. Give her some verbal validation, but treat her more like a sister. If she holds your hand or sits on you again, gently push her off and say "nono man, as cute as I think you are, you cannot be doing that…
/r/seduction10/01/14 08:22 PM
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lol, this made me laugh pretty good man. Maybe if she gets too close emotionally, I'll start dropping bombs in her bathroom till she hates me.
/r/seduction07/01/14 10:08 PM
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Well shit, ok. I'll keep that in mind man. Thanks
/r/seduction07/01/14 09:59 PM
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A couple suggestions. ask questions and keep the spotlight mostly on them. memorize FORDEN: (F)amily, (O)ccupation, (R)ecreation, (D)reams, (E)nvironment/surroundings, (N)ews. Take topics from whichever category you're genuinely interested in. learn conversation threading, linked from /u/nathanachen lower your standards for "acceptable conversation topics". Think out loud, keep your tone positive and accepting, and let them enjoy where you go. If they don't reciprocate, just move on. watch this …
/r/seduction07/01/14 03:03 AM
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First, it's your job to set the frame. Ask yourself if you want the relationship to be sexual or just friendly. A lot of girls are terrified of making advances because of how society treats the girls that do. If you want the relationship to change, you have to make the move. Learn about escalation ladders and judge how far they're comfortable with you. (good videos here and here) And second, alcohol is good for trying new frames. I'm not saying yall should get black out drunk, but when alcohol i…
/r/seduction07/01/14 02:41 AM
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Learn something new. Something worth learning that you're scared to do because you'll be so bad at it. Every time I've gotten really good at something, I get a big head for a bit and feel myself looking down on others and feeling like they're judging me for being awesome (when really, I'm probably being a dick). But then when I pick up a new passion, I fall into that beginner's mindset, where you have to laugh at yourself and be patient with yourself, and then the world changes into just a bunch…
/r/seduction01/01/14 07:19 AM
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Ok, so you know how an interview is like "I need to know this and this and this, and then I'm going to judge you"? Small talk is more like "Look man.. I'll tell you about me, you tell me about you, and let's just enjoy each other." Rather than going in a straight line, you're both just kind of bouncing around from topic to topic. It's more of a game than a logical conversation. Go into the full range of emotions and the full spectrum of human knowledge. Make em laugh, make em uncomfortable (but …
/r/seduction30/12/13 12:26 PM
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That's a good mindset man. My sister told me of a dude she met that had sex with his 17 y/o gf when he was 18. Her parents found out and called the cops on him. He goes to court and they say he'll spend a year or 3 (I forget) in prison. The parents decide that that's excessive and try to take back their charges, but it's too late and there's nothing they can do. He goes to prison and now lives the rest of his life labeled as a child molester or a sexual predator or something of the sort. He has …
/r/seduction11/06/13 02:40 AM
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Messed the formatting some. If you can keep your head when all about you Are losing theirs and blaming it on you; If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you, But make allowance for their doubting too: If you can wait and not be tired by waiting, Or, being lied about, don't deal in lies, Or being hated don't give way to hating, And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise; If you can dream---and not make dreams your master; If you can think---and not make thoughts your aim, If you can mee…
/r/seduction26/05/13 05:44 AM
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Techniques Memorize this word: FORDS It stands for Family, Occupation, Recreation, Dreams, Surroundings Start your conversation with questions from a category above and use Conversation Threading to go deeper into an area you have in common, or are just super curious about. As long as they feel comfortable with you, you'll end up with enough questions to last you hours, if not days and years. . . Mindsets Get curious about the world, lose a lot of your filters, lower your expectations, and find …
/r/seduction20/09/12 04:12 PM
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Before you go out, write down 4 things you've been thinking about recently that you would love to talk about. Keep it in your pocket and look at it throughout the night. Also, memorize the mnemonic FORDS. Family, Occupation, Recreation, Dreams, Surroundings.
/r/seduction07/09/12 09:01 PM
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