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| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 5 | Is this a long term relationship with a love bomber?Anxious attachment and insecurity which makes him project on you and that’s not right. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 09:02 PM |
| 2 | Fed up, done, and ready to learn👆🏻😝✅ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 01:50 AM |
| 4 | How do I break up during COVID? Terrified of becoming tied down to a freeloader!“This is not working for me. It would not be best for us to stay in touch. I wish you the best.” You can do a short phone call... but don’t let him take you on a why rollercoaster. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 12:49 AM |
| 32 | If I have to ask, I don't want it.There is a spectrum of experience and existence we all have. Shame she did not leave and honor her true queen energy. But lessons for us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 12:06 AM |
| 60 | Try the “so what” method if someone tries to make you feel about having standards and expectations.My mom used to say “And?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 11:41 PM |
| 95 | If I have to ask, I don't want it.She was FDS strong inside, like many of us, but did not break out of certain circumstances—-fortunately, we are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 11:31 PM |
| 118 | Now this is an HVM!Yes yes I will marry you. I mean FDS. F D S. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 11:07 PM |
| 4 | Insecure yet cocky men men are a disease. Avoid them like the plague.Maybe he is that stupid | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 09:50 PM |
| 60 | Insecure yet cocky men men are a disease. Avoid them like the plague.Tolerable lmao; aw he read about negging and is horrible at it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 09:15 PM |
| 2 | In need of solid advice ladiesThough articulate-ish. Agreed. I can point out exactly why in private, but don’t want to clue the LARPers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 09:07 PM |
| 8 | What were your biggest lightbulb moments from dates/ relationships that went wrong? For example, small things you easily overlooked in the beginning but in retrospect you realise were warning signs he was manipulative? Lets discuss!The idealization and overdramatizing little things based off that image of you. Then when the image crashes and burns because you are a real woman with needs (gasp) and communicating clearly you are the drama queen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 08:57 PM |
| 4 | What were your biggest lightbulb moments from dates/ relationships that went wrong? For example, small things you easily overlooked in the beginning but in retrospect you realise were warning signs he was manipulative? Lets discuss!Gods, one idiot at a bar tried that with me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 08:51 PM |
| 10 | LVM bamboozled me into a shit date where i starved and froze to deathIt feels amazing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 08:49 PM |
| 19 | Julius Fucking Caesar.My head turned all by itself, like in The Exorcist | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 08:42 PM |
| 6 | Julius Fucking Caesar.Julia Effing Child! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 08:41 PM |
| 52 | This is why I don’t date short men.Cool girl pickme alert YUP | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 08:39 PM |
| 7 | So many scrotes are so dirty and unhygienic that they have come up with their own term for why their nether regions smell like shit sometimes. dear scrotes... if you shower regularly, you shouldn’t stink so bad after a sweaty day (explication in the comments)I shall write a petition that this be include in the OED. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 08:37 PM |
| 88 | Boy bye.Nope. Breeders, a fetish. Ewwww. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 08:36 PM |
| 96 | What’s your favourite FDS principle?Never go full paragraph. Men don’t respond to words, they respond to no contact. BLOCK. I love thee. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 08:32 PM |
| 3 | Finally having a man strive to reach your standards is much better than striving to meet the standards of a LVMI think I need to journal it. To many it sounds small, but it is traumatizing. Thank you. I remember being given the job of emptying the ashtray. 🤢 I am glad they (your loved ones) quit sooner... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 05:29 PM |
| 8 | Finally having a man strive to reach your standards is much better than striving to meet the standards of a LVMSeveral decades of smoking led to my own mother’s heart disease and heart attack. It is very serious, esp if you want to share your life with someone. I still get triggered by the smell. It was with me my whole life. I had a slight case of asthma as a child. This was in the 90s—I got blessed out for asking to crack a window in the car. Any fun money she would give me for good grades she would ask back for cigarettes when broke and we were poor. Addictions are no joke. Good that he is making this… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 04:47 PM |
| 5 | Is there recovery after being too nice to a man?Be warm in your responses. Gradually scale back initiation—unless he is already doing most. If it is 50/50, start with going down by 10%. If he brings it up, be neutral but warm. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 03:57 PM |
| 4 | I want to stick to my guns but I feel guiltyEspecially the last part | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 03:53 PM |
| 13 | My LVM ex-boyfriend’s girlfriend called me! What the hellI’m halfway through but this is some mental fuckery. So he has some MAJOR INSECURITY issues regarding his own best friend and cheats and projects the cheating onto his partners... Scrote needs therapy. Okay done... and oh god...ugh... GIRL LEAVE HIM (to the pickme) and I’m sorry you had to get retriggered and go through that. He will probably put her through it again and hopefully she gets out asap but forget that. Do what you need to do. Block everywhere, and if changing the # restores peace of… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 03:46 PM |
| 6 | I want to stick to my guns but I feel guiltyI was JUST about to ref the narcissistic abuse sub. Flying monkeys indeed. If you do have to engage, OP, gray rock ie be boring, short, and neutral. YES it is okay to ghost these people. They (narcs/selfish abusers) always show their ass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 03:37 PM |
| 3 | "child free" Men are manchildsI have met one child-free man looking for serious commitment but we had religious barriers—then he calmed down there years later and we reconnected—everything went smoothly minus his slowness. He used to be assertive and planned dates in advance—ugh. Though he was very handy...he did suffer from a lack of some household knowledge, such as cooking (knows all of three recipes ☠️🙄🤡)... but man he did clean and clean well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 03:32 PM |
| 1 | What are the criteria for HVM and LVM? And do those same standards apply for HVW and LVW?Exactly this. | /r/askFDS | 03/09/20 03:20 PM |
| 28 | Got to talk about dating standards with my 16 year old daughter, but I’m not sure if I got through to her.I echo the shock. I think everything here has covered it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 12:04 PM |
| 12 | Problems with fiance making comments and gaslightingI’m a night owl too. Sadly many people assume that means lazy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 08:34 AM |
| 1 | Getting over discomfort with enforcing boundariesIt was good | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 08:51 PM |
| 24 | How dare he?! 😂Snap snap | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 08:45 PM |
| 29 | As if someone asked men: which one needs a lift because it’s saggy, an enlargement because it’s small, to be hairfree because it’s not hygienic and maybe even smelly, to be altered because it’s uneven?? And which direction will PROJECTION point?!!!! And how is this not cultural GASLIGHTING???https://aedit.com/procedure/scrotoplasty Loose men have loose balls, ladies. Encourage all men to get scrotoplasty. Pornsick? Get a penile brace to return it to its erect and non-curvilinear form! Many health centers also now have wash kits for men and their stinky dick cheese. Satire but yep... if women held men to the same ridiculous shit... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 03:06 PM |
| 9 | What are the criteria for HVM and LVM? And do those same standards apply for HVW and LVW?One common challenge many women face is sadly believing that common decency, respect, and communication are extremely high value—when truly, they should be the baseline. Many women have experiences that are severely disempowering and harmful. Many risks still exist in the world for women. Why would so many women across the world with different belief systems and cultures describe eerily similar experiences. I believe (both men and women, etc. yes) men have deep healing and listening to do within… | /r/askFDS | 02/09/20 12:24 PM |
| 67 | Ladies I need your advice on thisYou are busy this week. Agreed. You made other plans. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 09:29 AM |
| 14 | HVMs Don't Help With HouseworkSaved for the reminder in case of a weak moment when I see “emotional IQ” which should be the next post to follow this lol. 💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 09:14 AM |
| 51 | "going their own way"- manipulation, lies and deflection. Sounds like the woman in question has a restraining order against him & he is a crazy stalker. They claim to "go their own way", then harass a woman they claim to not even want a relationship with, while also blaming her & calling her names.Delusional. Needs therapy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 08:36 AM |
| 4 | Is this too touchy?I have been one of those touchy friends with close friends in my 20s but whenever I found out a male friend was seeing someone I was extra cautious with boundaries. Yeah.. that is off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 06:34 AM |
| 1 | If you're in a relationship are you expected to teach your partner to help out around the house or contribute if they live with you?Yes, you are being used. Either he steps up or he should go home to his real mother. I dropped a grown ass boy who was working on his PhD and lived with his parents—Dad still works and Mom was in good health; no $ issues—but this GAB did not know how to use a washing machine. Not interesting in adopting a child that old. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 06:10 AM |
| 5 | Thank you, mods! ♡Yes! Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 05:59 AM |
| 1 | Thought I found a HVM, then I told him no to hanging out on weekend, explained I’m only comfortable socializing about three times a week to keep my social battery happy...👩🎨🙃❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 05:57 AM |
| 13 | I used FDS in my career. Dealing with a recruiter.About to go scrub some scrotes from my network. TY! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 04:51 AM |
| 14 | I broke up with my boyfriend because he wanted me to lower my expectations.Fuck yes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 04:04 AM |
| 6 | Update! About the husband who insisted I pay him back money. He quickly changed his tune.Proud of you for advocating for yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 04:03 AM |
| 13 | Update! About the husband who insisted I pay him back money. He quickly changed his tune.And he wanted you to pay him back for a trip to see his family? Girrrrl. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 03:48 AM |
| 65 | The social stress of being unwed is the real woman killer 🙄He just told on what married life would be like with him. Hope all his pickmes find us before facing that jail. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 03:23 AM |
| 1 | I just picked up a cutie in the Walmart parking lot!! (Cold approach Story)This | /r/seduction | 01/09/20 06:41 PM |
| 10 | I just picked up a cutie in the Walmart parking lot!! (Cold approach Story)Yeah this whole thing is weird and how some of these weird dudes are talking is like women aren’t even people. Gross. | /r/seduction | 01/09/20 06:39 PM |
| 7 | Pleasing yourself sexually after a break-upTeasing oneself here and there is fun throughout the whole day. Court yourself. Explore the little sensations. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 05:36 PM |
| 7 | Pleasing yourself sexually after a break-upI was never a romance novel fan but historical romance helped lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 05:35 PM |
| 88 | Thought I found a HVM, then I told him no to hanging out on weekend, explained I’m only comfortable socializing about three times a week to keep my social battery happy...🎼🎤 Oh Mickeyy, you're a clown 🤡 You're a clown you stank up my crown, bye Mickeyy, Bye Mickeyy! You've been around all week and that's a little long 🙄 You think you've got it right but I know you've got it wrong 🎼 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 05:28 PM |
| 11 | Do men really think women on OLD will fly 16 hrs to see them?They are interested in international sexual conquests. Sounds absurd and delusional but it is both. Ooh free plane ticket for bad sex. Vomit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 03:11 PM |
| 28 | Madonna/whore complex in action. If a man has sexual double standards, this should be a major red flag 🚩He joined as a member? He is nasty and has issues. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 10:03 AM |
| 75 | We decline these kinds of datesAs you get to know each other and you find drinks become part of it, get a mocktail. Club soda with lime and bitters is good. If he does not see that the drinks are “not real” all the better because you can soberly monitor his behavior. What does he try to pull? Does the “I am a nice guy” mask fall? Does he try to coerce you into drinking or more? Run if so. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 05:23 AM |
| 19 | How can I be/look as high maintenance as possible? What screams “pick me energy”?Posture is everything—including a natural, confident “I am hot af” walk. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 05:15 AM |
| 18 | I’m not even sure who this would work on.C Block | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 05:12 AM |
| 8 | Here ya go ladies...a 26 year old man who doesn’t have his drivers license yet because he’s just “bEeN tOo bUsY”... 😂In my area it is a catch-22 and actually was hard to get a license if you are completely on your own... but I did. Late in life but I did. I also walked to work in 90-degree heat when I had to... Given his other responses... eeek. But please don’t look down on people like that for this one reason in general. I worked really hard and am really saddened by some of the ridicule on this issue and the critique of “friends.” Those opinions are dissuading. It may look easy to some people who have less … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 05:10 PM |
| 10 | Gross old guy feels entitled to using a variety of young women’s bodies for sex and reacts violently when ask why any woman would ever enjoy this.He has his free porn. And probably his sex doll he will blow up at the free air machine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 02:49 PM |
| 25 | The bs that men do everything that they do because of "animal biology"The literal biting off of heads mantis-style | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 08:50 AM |
| 72 | Hope he treats her well and she isn't being used...It’s one thing to preach 50/50, but this is a whole other level... he knows. They know. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 03:55 AM |
| 1 | While Avoidant Partners Are Not #Goals, These Tips Are Good for High Value Communication With Power and BrevityIt addresses old pickme behaviors. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 03:43 AM |
| 9 | Is anyone familiar with the feeling with them like a guy first, but not a guy liking them first?There are two books sometimes recommended Attached and Women Who Love Too Much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 03:33 AM |
| 23 | Am I just a bitch? The amount of times he mentioned my school drive me bananas. I think I may just suck at this online dating thing.Such insecurity | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 02:20 AM |
| 8 | Look at those protectors helping her/sExactly why I go into “yes I will die and take you with me” when I see this—gut instinct. Men put on blinders. I have seen this in public when an ex would try to talk me down and get angry” because then he would have to fight.” Very his woman, my woman bs. Oh I am more of a “man” than you. Run if you want. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 01:22 AM |
| 75 | TerpDerp (redpiller) brags about Dreadgaming abusing a girl with CancerI hope he gets dysentery. Lurkers, you advocate for this by reading, supporting, and practicing that shit. This shows what horrible people you are. Get therapy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 12:40 AM |
| 15 | As requested, the Lasagna of Male DepravityI love you. 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 12:36 AM |
| 68 | Thank you, ladies. I told a man to fuck off for the very first time and feel incredible.Right? Because he’s “not like other guys” asking for nudes right away. He took a whole three days to bring up sex. He really “respects females.” Good for ya! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 11:25 PM |
| 124 | NEVER AGAINThe flatness of the pillow will reflect the effort in the relationship lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 11:08 PM |
| 20 | NEVER AGAIN4 and counting lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 11:08 PM |
| 10 | Ladies, do you use dating apps?It is good to notice red flags and fasttrack your “no” and unmatch/block reflex. I found two decent guys that I gave real chances to and was earnestly interested in getting to know but they were LVM for me. The chance lasted 4 weeks. Far too long for FDS but it was helpful for me. Definitely wasted time on many days but it reinforced the inner work I had done. I kept track of my feelings and flags I noticed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 11:04 PM |
| 10 | Whoever wrote this did not lie. 😂🥴My mom was. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 10:16 PM |
| 45 | Whoever wrote this did not lie. 😂🥴I get it. It is not about overall—it is about “okay, that’s your standard, but you’re not married so you are ragging on yourself—dragging your mom down too.” Single mothers are bad ass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 10:07 PM |
| 123 | Got it twisted when I called him out on his overly sexual flirting with me. Then I get this at 5am. Now he's going to have to wait longer now bc that's his "making it up to me"Bullshit. It was because he thought he could get away with it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 10:01 PM |
| 12 | The best part is that all the women who conceive this way can only have daughters 😌Me. Ready to join the uteropia. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 09:16 PM |
| 2 | Why do guys act like this? What’s the deal?I am not reading any interest here. Seems like a pretty normal exchange. But could also be one of the males that just like to chat and be all over social media for attention. Both men and women do that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 05:24 PM |
| 14 | How often should he text?As soon as I notice the “pull away” I say that I appreciate consistency and leave it at that. Get some fauxpologies. It happens again and I bow out. So much more refreshing than dealing with male drama. They’ll just gaslight you into you being the needy one. I don’t like text bombers either—I have attracted guys in the past that come on strong for several weeks and then go hot and cold and my being consistent (just going with the flow with their old energy/my slowing down would not affect anythi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 05:13 PM |
| 29 | I'm feel shaken RN and need somewhere to put thisRight? But also this woman needs to write because she is a writer. Drop the scrote. Nurture the talent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 05:11 PM |
| 1 | Has it always been this way?Ah | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 08:50 AM |
| 22 | Where do you draw the line between judging a man on his HV vs. LV traits?Sounds HV minus the friends. Why is the band tattoo or tender kissing in public LV? (It is not a lewd tattoo or trying to have sex acts in public...) Aside from maybe religious reasons? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 08:16 AM |
| 23 | Has it always been this way?I don’t think we have another LARPer? Do we? Not all behavior is the same in the animal kingdom among the sexes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 03:17 AM |
| 8 | When men are nice to you.Accurate | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 01:20 AM |
| 12 | What are some questions to be asked on the first date?Do you know what a shallot is? (FDS joke) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 11:32 PM |
| 9 | I’m really confused about how I should feelWell, you won’t know that until it happens. It would be up to him to show the work he has done and to tell you he is ready—then, show you. You won’t be ready for this, anyone, or anything if you do not continue to live your life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 11:23 PM |
| 6 | For Those Women Who Feel They Cannot Leave LVMs Due to Financial Abuse and Lack of Income... My experiences and AdviceIt is like any other natural disaster—have an emergency plan in place. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 09:26 PM |
| 35 | Woman finds out that her husband’s cousin’s ‘secret child’ is actually his from the time he cheated on her.“He can’t do this himself.” Yeah, that means he wants to suck the life out of her while he goes out on a LVM sexual rampage. He can then say “what a good father” he is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 08:57 PM |
| 8 | My dad decorated my mom's garden space.Awwww | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 08:46 PM |
| 8 | A survey from UK anti-extremism charity HOPE not hate warns that half of 16 to 24-year-old men feel feminism makes it harder for them to succeed.And the LVM idea of brotherhood is inceldom, hobbies (good if not an addiction), and overall sex and trashing women. Women build sisterhoods. HVM know how to have deep friendships with other guys. Maybe if there was more of that... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 08:17 PM |
| 9 | Has anybody ever used matchmaking services?There might be a service in your local area and I am sure you could add your caveats. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 08:15 PM |
| 8 | Ladies, is this the "50-50" or actually fair?THIS. Sweet OP. Even a LVM bought me McDonalds. This is NVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 08:10 PM |
| 6 | Ladies, is this the "50-50" or actually fair?Run. When I was poor AF, an ex got my groceries so I wouldn’t go on food stamps (no worries but it also helps others)... and would take me on surprise trips to the bookstore to get a new book he paid for. I did cook for us, and he would help. When he was broke, he traded doing a logo for a B&B in exchange for a 2-night stay for our anniversary. They will find a way. I also made him cute surprises that he appreciated. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 08:07 PM |
| 29 | Why We Avoid 50/50 "Men."Right? When they are asking to split the bill and I pay my half (and never see them again)... “When was the last time you saw a doctor? you might have low T.” Very concerned face. Ok byyyye. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 07:11 PM |
| 3 | Reverse psychology?....Easy no for this one.It was. :-) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 04:50 PM |
| 10 | Should you continue a relationship with a man who cannot find the clit, does not regularly stimulate it, and does not ask for help? Do you have to show him and teach him and remind him with no initiative from him?Tried it a few times. Fruitless. Nope the fuck out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 06:48 AM |
| 6 | I am absolutely horrified of men by witnessing first class of how they speak about us women.Agreed! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 05:10 AM |
| 9 | Re: His true colors have been Revealed. He just emailed me... I guess he doesn't knowing blocked him already....at least he wished me the best👀He cray cray | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 03:03 AM |
| 3 | Told him I wasn't comfortable riding his bike on our first date, he accuses me of "baiting" himThis one read the Seduction forum and is conflicted/riddled with personal insecurities. Again, they know. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 01:40 AM |
| 2 | So a HVM is just a decent good person. That’s what I’ve learned from reading FDS. What percentage of men are decent good people, and what percent are assholes?❤️ | /r/askFDS | 29/08/20 01:18 AM |
| 16 | When he doesn't really care, he's just making a showThis is the difference. Do not settle. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 12:59 AM |
| 83 | Ex sends me this message, 11 months after we broke up 🤔 BLOCK AND DELETE!“We (my issues and I) would like to reach out to you and test your boundaries. As an incentive, we are prepared to offer you a complimentary “I miss you” and a house coffee (small) if we find that there is a 1% chance we might have a crumb of pussy.” Well, obviously less blatant but it was fun for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 11:48 PM |
| 5 | When a bunch of LVMs try to triangulate you.Wait... they can be coordinated? Gasp. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 11:43 PM |
| 4 | Met a guy I thought was an HVM. We really hit it off. He wasn’t really texting me after the fact but we’d already made future plans. Trusted my gut, did some digging, and found his wife and 3 kids. Last kid born in May. This was part of our communication after I found out.❤️❤️❤️❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 11:40 PM |
| 18 | Pickmeisha friend starting to irritate meThis was my first thought. I rechecked my “overthinking” meter... and nah, if those were her exact words... yeah, it has crossed her mind. OP: Trust your gut. Regardless of her blindspots and “ignorance is bliss” mindset—SHE SHRUGGED OFF A MAN ABUSING YOU. This is not a friend. Hugs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 11:23 PM |
| 15 | Met a guy I thought was an HVM. We really hit it off. He wasn’t really texting me after the fact but we’d already made future plans. Trusted my gut, did some digging, and found his wife and 3 kids. Last kid born in May. This was part of our communication after I found out.Damn that crown is blinding me, Queen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 11:18 PM |
| 11 | Met a guy I thought was an HVM. We really hit it off. He wasn’t really texting me after the fact but we’d already made future plans. Trusted my gut, did some digging, and found his wife and 3 kids. Last kid born in May. This was part of our communication after I found out.I was this way and still am—but carefully. Earning it is important. It is a balance. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 11:18 PM |
| 26 | Reverse psychology?....Easy no for this one.But like he totally puts one Fritos bag inside another Fritos bag.... so he’s sustinkable and shit. Totally green. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 11:15 PM |
| 26 | Successful woman is making $200k+, her husband willingly chose to get a job in a field that would destroy his wife's entire carrier, despite she asked him not to. Now he accused her of being selfish and put money before their marriage. LOLOoh point. His life is about to become hell. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 09:39 PM |
| 183 | Dear Men: Your Opinion Holds No Value Here. Did We Fucking Stutter?Including the soft woke bois. Honey, you are barely awake. That is lovely but you got to stretch too. ACTIONS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 08:51 PM |
| 9 | This sub ruined my marriage!!! 🤣I fucking love this. Good for you on your fresh start. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 08:38 PM |
| 12 | Start ostracising men who fail to be decent humans. That’s the only way to make the world safe for girls/women. Don’t excuse friends and family members either.Re the title: Let them grow old alone and die off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 03:28 PM |
| 5 | Have the men you've dated had longterm healthy friendships with other men?It actually was. I was SHOOKETH. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 01:22 AM |
| 9 | Please check the guy’s family background/upbringing before dating seriouslyThis and same. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 12:05 AM |
| 4 | Has anyone been in a position where someone strongarmed you into ending it instead of saying itHe is playing his own broken record. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 12:04 AM |
| 9 | Have the men you've dated had longterm healthy friendships with other men?Dickmeisho friend group. Mediocre value—one perpetually single HVM who had emotional insecurities, one that had a forever girlfriend that he finally married and knocked up once his big bro settled down & other friends, the one generic nvm who thinks all women are holes and is a self-proclaimed asshole. 😅 That rural group that knew e/on since childhood—what little growth they achieve they self-sabotage and base on e/o’s codependency. But sometimes they had some healthy habits. Three lived togethe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 11:06 PM |
| 22 | In need of help/advice in dealing with a NVM30 days eviction notice | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 11:02 PM |
| 1 | Need help with a situation I am in.I can try | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 10:27 PM |
| 13 | When was the last time a man you didn't know helped you with your groceries/lift something heavy/held the door for you/ complimented you on something OTHER than your looks?THIS. Pop on any documentary about serial killers. You will see why. Moms in the 90s preached helping as investment but also stranger danger. OP—calm yer tits. ;-) lol Groceries. Naw. Anything near my place. Naw. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 10:10 PM |
| 16 | I’m so lucky to have my mom (FDS’er by nature). My LV husband keeps using the ‘pity poor little me’ move and this is what my mom wrote me this morning.Get your mom on YouTube | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 09:27 PM |
| 33 | ** TRIGGER WARNING ** We mean nothing to them.Trash. All of them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 07:00 PM |
| 16 | Will this ever end? I know I’m enough, that I would rather be single than with an LVM. But I feel sick w loneliness—I live alone and we’re a communal species. The lockdown is fucking me up. I re-downloaded OLD in a moment of weakness and this was the first guy I matched with. JfcNeckbeard. But Understandable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 05:48 AM |
| 7 | Successes, failures, and lessons learned this week? Let’s discuss.I hate this common male trend and it is ALWAYS predictable. And it hurts. Men should not say things and gaslight but they do and don’t care or are too cowardly. No more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 04:47 AM |
| 101 | Do you girls find it funny how days, weeks, months can easily go by before you ever see a guy that’s even slightly attractive enough to take double take?They work, pump, jerk off/watch porn. Ew. That’s not a life or a man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 04:30 AM |
| 18 | Is this negging??Remedial summer school is needed for this pitiful attempt at negging. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 03:15 AM |
| 5 | What do you tell yourself when you're trying not to fall for a LVM?Keep a file of all the texts you would send him BUT DON’T and look at them later and go “WTF, girl!” Also keep track of the red flags juxtaposed against what you assumed were green/yellow ones. That has helped. Compare the future faking to the myth busting bs he shows later. He dismissed his “representative.” Replace fantasy daydreams with ACTUALLY what I have learned and want is... or do affirmations... or rearrange your shoes. Sage your house ha. Let yourself feel and just know it is a feeling… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 06:19 PM |
| 24 | I told him I wanted a new necklace and some earrings so guess what he got me!Aw and something you could pass down if you wanted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 06:10 PM |
| 10 | Not sure what to do with this guy of questionable value..nip it in the bud?The car thing mehhhh But that whole second half.... girl... instincts on par. The foot fetish thing is not innocent. He is already training you. (I have sources.) Right in the bud with the block as the B. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 04:03 PM |
| 40 | Creating A Dating AppBackground checks for men. ✨ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 02:50 AM |
| 14 | Did I mess up? 4th date - I paid for dinner.More of internal questioning. An old sense of guilt? Just lean back and keep on keeping on. He has enjoyed treating you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 02:49 AM |
| 35 | Ex tries to shame me. Read the room, man. I don’t want you back. I wish the kids and I lived in another country.Past tense, dude. Don’t read into it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 02:44 AM |
| 25 | What do you think? Parenting done right. How to raise a HVM.Wholesome indeed | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 02:37 AM |
| 4 | How Old Were You When You Learned the Bad Men Weren't an Extreme Minority?Teens if most of us are honest and think back; but I think we lose that last bit of hope in our 30s. I’m very fortunate that my grandfather was an amazing man and role model. So, I know what good men look like. As soon as I make some more self-improvements, my primary dating focus will be as a febfemme (my bi self is going to focus on dating cis gender women who are attracted to the same). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 02:28 AM |
| 5 | Guy told me to hit him up when I’m singleYou don’t owe him any dating courtesies because nothing had happened between you. Even so. Lol. They always come back. That is the one male thing we can rely on lmao. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 12:08 AM |
| 1 | "No foreplay" - DeadBedrooms Woman seeks help with Mr Badsex NoProtectionIt is also laziness. For the one’s who aren’t super porn sick—it is lazy conditioning...none of my pornsick friends do it so actually giving a woman what is scientifically proven for her to get wet and turned on is a no. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 10:54 PM |
| 26 | Anyone else here that don't even want to date (anymore)?This. Major waste of time, heart, and even just lust. Total waste of time because these men are emotionally stunted, cannot communicate, and cannot take care of themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 10:17 PM |
| 6 | Something I've encountered on the apps lately as a 30-something...He is a hobosexual. He wants to float between women’s places until his “dream” comes true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 10:07 PM |
| 5 | In need of support from the Queens here 👸🏽 is moving to another city the solution?I’m tired of mine, too. (I tried to make it work, but I feel like I am holding myself back.) I don’t see the benefits in staying aside from biding my time virus-wise and planning-wise. So—nope. :-) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 08:48 AM |
| 12 | paying for dates as a college studentMy first love worked in the grocery store produce department and treated me all the time. Aka No, you are not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 08:42 AM |
| 4 | Had a conversation with a male friend today that confirmed FDS strategiesI support this completely true rant. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 05:15 AM |
| 21 | Even The Instant Pot community on Facebook has too many "bumbling can't cook husband" stories..Nah. You cannot do the basics to care for yourself? I want nothing to do with that kind of man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 02:43 AM |
| 44 | Had a conversation with a male friend today that confirmed FDS strategiesThis is going to continue to be a friend? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 01:18 AM |
| 6 | What options for women who don't want exclusive durable relationship with men but still want to have some companionship from time to time ?I would too but it seems men cant do this beyond a few weeks or so to trick you so you have leave first. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 01:04 AM |
| 22 | How do I know if texting habits is a red flag or not?PUA is hot on dates and cold otherwise. Enough to keep you engaged. FYI. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 12:56 AM |
| 4 | Am I just being a prude or is this too much for someone who has only spoken to me for 5 minutes? #datingwhenyoure30Yes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 12:54 AM |
| 4 | Is this a red flag?Don’t even text him or go near his 1st contact if you do. Agreed. It would be one thing to say he goes to bed early but it is weird. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 11:49 PM |
| 12 | Is not following through on something block worthy?Good check in. It is OKAY to post about something you know but you need that YAS IT IS from your fellow FDSers as you heal. You are seeing a pattern here and one that is not compatible with you. Yes. It is blockworthy. I recently was talking with someone that I noted yellow/red flags about and then came the first big pull away. (I let it go like this because I wanted to observe myself and to see if I was right—I was.) He got a verbal and now he is no more. Your application has been denied. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 09:41 PM |
| 11 | Tried to have an open conversation about our relationship 😬 yikesIf you actually deal with it the first time—no issue. We are no longer being patient with bs “effort”—pure deflection. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 09:37 PM |
| 6 | Has anyone else experienced guys taking control of their health and fitness goals when you tell them about it?I weirdly get some LVM garden variety narcs who copy me. Before FDS and after two longer relationships—I was weak and got out there too soon—I had one guy that red pill rejected me and then copied my leg press story; he couldn’t even do as much as me. I found myself and FDS though. Recently had one guy mirror-ish me by buying airpods because he was jealous of the gold-plated headphones I got on sale (he said this and called me when he was picking them up) & changed his diet to match my efforts: … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 09:31 PM |
| 16 | Three hours between these messages... that mask came off QUICKI could see that message coming in after a few days but a few hours...jeez. It’s like the second they decide they don’t want to be fuckboys, or get tired of paying for sex, they expect women to worship at the altar of a crumb of emotional labor and potential commitment—then they go cry and jerk off to porn when it fails. Grow the fuck up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 08:35 PM |
| 2 | Hey Queens! Recently came across Shallon Lester on YouTube. What are your opinions on her advice?There are some good points, but yeah, take what she says with a grain of salt. Seems like she is trying to improve. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 08:13 PM |
| 9 | What’s Sex Like with a NarcissistMr. Jack Hammer | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 08:07 PM |
| 10 | I Took Out the Trash✨✨✨✨✨✨✨💪 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 07:51 PM |
| 15 | Just...why?!Whisper has the lowest of the LVM | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 07:33 PM |
| 5 | Because why admit that you were wrong if you can always gaslight instead 🤷♀️Sorry if I was an ass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 05:21 AM |
| 21 | Am I too sensitive?He can’t take his own bs behavior. Not “too sensitive.” You are high value. Keep him blocked and never speak with or of him again. He does not exist. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 05:12 AM |
| 8 | How do you muster up the courage?There will be ONE GUY that just has so much audacity it overrides your FREEZE response—you can barely control your laughter as you watch the train wreck unfold. I had one egoic French guy at dinner that was worse than the worst comedy show mixed with bad reality TV. I walked out but offered to pay my half first and apologized for laughing. I was earnest. It increases from there haha. Forget about him. He is a fucking stranger without respect for you. You don’t owe him some code of common “pickme… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 01:12 AM |
| 30 | I’m so sick of LVM and OLDThey know | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 12:38 AM |
| 7 | Women Over 65 Don't Want To Live With Their Partners...This is true... in my field, I see so many elderly younger wives handling business. I’m new to my role—2 months in and have seen 500 cases... mostly the women handling it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 06:19 PM |
| 9 | Women Over 65 Don't Want To Live With Their Partners...With the state of men, yes... I would love love but want my freedom too—aka not be a mommy bangmaid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 06:16 PM |
| 4 | HVM has only known me for a month and wants to get married????One thing that helps—WRITE it down—ANYTHING that feels weird. The correlations will add up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 05:58 PM |
| 50 | What the fuck makes old men think they're a catch and they stand a chance ?Porn addict who probably found sugar baby websites too expensive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 05:45 PM |
| 38 | He talked me into a MFF threesomeThis | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 05:37 PM |
| 20 | He talked me into a MFF threesomeTime to block this guy on everything. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 05:36 PM |
| -4 | Moving back to the US after living in the UK, I dont know shit about American men or their tricks. Help a girl out?More personal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 02:35 AM |
| 4 | Moving back to the US after living in the UK, I dont know shit about American men or their tricks. Help a girl out?Ask a mod for the Discord group. These are private convos lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 01:35 AM |
| 6 | Man gets dumped for a literal cucumber. You love to see it 🤣It is time for delivery! Come to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 01:23 AM |
| 7 | 🙅🏻♀️👩🏻🎓👸🏻😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 01:21 AM |
| 30 | Man gets dumped for a literal cucumber. You love to see it 🤣Right? Now I just want to intimidate random dudes by snacking on cucumbers. Shrug off the attempts at negging and sexual innuendo and deadeye them until they reveal the insecurity. That is why the mom was amused; she knew it was dick-related. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 01:20 AM |
| 32 | Man gets dumped for a literal cucumber. You love to see it 🤣Omfg yes I made sexual parallels. ED. 😂 You know he had a Freudian thing going on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 01:05 AM |
| 1 | Remarrying after starter marriage.Following | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 12:12 AM |
| 5 | The magical brick wall that women hit when they hit 30 that makes them suddenly unattractive lol 😂 even if you hit the gym in the regular and get that Botox. Meanwhile men got limp dick and a receding hairline. So tired of their shit.OmFg NO WAY Jessica! He has a twin that commented on my response the other day! Squuuuuuueeeeee! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 03:26 AM |
| 1 | Update: we broke up❤️❤️💕💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 02:09 AM |
| 13 | Update: we broke upRandom FDS e-hugs. I’m bi and get it. Take some time for you. Just breathe and be. Then you can connect with another gal. ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 12:41 AM |
| 7 | Let's be kind to one anotherWe need more “transition” posts—tough love does not have to come from a condescending place. But also—personal “transition” posts for leveling up can go in the leveling up strategy sub. I was there... we can say. Here is where I am... as I relate, if helpful. Please keep reading the handbook, yes again. But agreed. We can do better. Feel annoyed? Keep scrolling. See no progress in a poster? Well, up to the mods. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 11:42 PM |
| 6 | My boyfriend’s friendship with my worst enemy - is this a red flag forest or am I just jealous and overly sensitive?Burn the letter. Don’t send it. ❤️ No attention, no audience for the show. I know. I’m having similar thoughts on another male bs topic related to basic decency and being consistent—I already know the truth but it still hurts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 10:08 PM |
| 13 | Why are men?Tell me why... I never wanna hear em say anythang. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 08:37 PM |
| 20 | When a former ghosting LVM you haven't talked to in 6 months finally "checks in" to see how you are doing during the pandemic and you are now on the enlightened FDS Queen journey...I just want to declare my undying love for you. ☠️☠️😂 Girl, the upside sunglasses are killing me extra for some reason. It is like a hidden Easter egg. I also remember reading some sad ass shit from a clown on Dating Advice who asked if using pics of him and his ex’s dog in her apartment for Tinder was a bad thing. Because he only wanted to emphasize that he loved dogs and dog walks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 08:30 PM |
| 8 | My boyfriend’s friendship with my worst enemy - is this a red flag forest or am I just jealous and overly sensitive?Yep and he is loving it because he is the one in the middle. So remove the attention from her. He can do what he wants. Keep being yourself with him but increase your attention to other activities. If you wanted the long-term, if this persists, he does not put boundaries in place, and has presented other red flags....get out. But listen to your gut. Now is probably the best time to start planning your exit. This stuff is a mind fuck and you have more important things to do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 05:33 PM |
| 8 | My boyfriend’s friendship with my worst enemy - is this a red flag forest or am I just jealous and overly sensitive?Even at first glance “HV” men — the decent-seeming ones with insecurities — do this. Ex vs New GF. Colleague or Bestie vs GF. Triangulation is the term. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 04:25 PM |
| 2 | Just blocked the first reddit scroteHad one that tried with me last night in a thread. You would not want to date me? Phew! Aw, I amuse you. Mkay thanks. Xo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 02:29 PM |
| 17 | Comment with a 2am fuckboi emoji😏😬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 08:01 AM |
| 10 | Whitney Cummings Explains Why Women Get Called Gold-DiggersMy female friends and I treat each other much better than any “free meal” I would want from some OLD dude. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 04:30 AM |
| 23 | That's all she wroteI read them all. (Hugs you.) Good for you. But yeah that is why we do not paragraph. We don’t repeat ourselves. We just leave. But every step starts somewhere. Good for you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 01:25 AM |
| 2 | Advice needed - do you ladies believe in a spark?I have fallen in love with someone who was a good match and person but there is something to the spark that was missing. I felt something like it but... I do want someone different than me but similar inside.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 10:34 PM |
| 30 | Been practicing Standing up to LVM in my life and got yelled at by my neighbor.Get his shit towed, but a fence is probably best. Keep the texts as proof you gave him warning. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 09:56 PM |
| 6 | FDS PoemSounds like an awesome start for spoken word too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 07:17 PM |
| 20 | LVM PUA tactic: 'Dreadgame'. Make your wife/gf feel so insecure, unvalued and jealous 'so she will start giving bj's and sex, not to lose you'. What a bunch of 🤡 clownery🤪🤣These are the same ones that mention The Art of War but never read the book. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 07:16 PM |
| 4 | This is so refreshing, thoroughly explaining why he might have to cancelI have been here. It is refreshing but just be wary... good behavior at first and all. But also hopefully not 12 pm for lunch the same day—friends have earned that privilege not strangers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 08:59 AM |
| 8 | When did your love bomber do his first pull away?Breadcrumbs and intermittent reinforcement. 😞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 06:51 AM |
| 15 | Yes, please tell me all about your breakup, thats so attractive and endearing.Yeahhhhh weeding through these sucks. Best practice: let them prance merrily in their bullshit rather than become the quick therapy and fuck fix. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 06:41 AM |
| 9 | Of course LVM don’t want to seek help — they’ve been brought up thinking that they’re great!We must have lit the same candles at the LVM altar—ew. Lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 04:08 AM |
| 12 | Girl Didn't Want To Have Sex With Me On First Date..Potential road to incel alert | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 04:06 AM |
| 49 | "Why I'm Giving Up Dating Men and Just Staying Home" A bit old but still relevantExactly “My distress wasn’t merely about having been rejected, though that was part of it. The shock came from the fact that I had taken such pains to clearly articulate what it was I needed, had invited him to have an open conversation and then ended up being entirely disregarded.” This is the exact male bullshit I am completely over. Does not matter if you are casual or wanting marriage or something between... you bend yourself... and this is still the issue... male avoidance and lack of accou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 03:38 AM |
| 19 | Of course LVM don’t want to seek help — they’ve been brought up thinking that they’re great!We need more content like this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 03:32 AM |
| 13 | When did your love bomber do his first pull away?Oh yes, the self-gaslighting is AWFUL. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 03:15 AM |
| 4 | When did your love bomber do his first pull away?:-( Oh, I have been there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 03:12 AM |
| 15 | When did your love bomber do his first pull away?A little on the emotional cycle and damage that occurs if contact and imbalance continues: Emotional intelligence actually comes off good and they seem good at first. You may have one or two normal misunderstandings. You are warm. Bam... suddenly they pull away. I used to give it time and then say I noticed things changed... give it more time... that is when the hot and cold may come in from them and the breadcrumbs which confuses you... excuses hold no more merit....so, are these intentional mi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 03:03 AM |
| 9 | When did your love bomber do his first pull away?I agree. Less than 4 weeks are just hookup focused guys I think; most prevalent seem to be situationships and insecurity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 02:42 AM |
| 26 | Husband risks his life jumping onto great white shark to save his wife, taking ride or die to another levelThey exist 😯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 12:47 AM |
| 15 | Wanted: To be aloneThey do not do the inner work in youth and do not want to do it when they are older. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 10:46 PM |
| 237 | I’m in shockSex doll. Baby factory. Bangmaid. Mommy. Provider. Life coach/therapist. Ego stroker. Free organ warmer. Well, she is awake now 😦 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 10:42 PM |
| 1 | Stories of LVM revealing their true colors after years in a relationship?I’m giving up | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 10:10 PM |
| 10 | FDS is an ExTrEmIsT sub“Respect my nest” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 10:02 PM |
| 1 | Remind me again why I even bother to be friends with men??? Man friend chosing his dick over partners mental health.Sent a message about a socialization idea related to FDS Slow fade if you have to | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 10:01 PM |
| 5 | How do I leave a nice guy?I know and I have been there. Even if there is attraction, it may not be enough... you both deserve happiness and love. It is hard but you do it and it does get better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 08:19 PM |
| 11 | FDS changed my lifeAwwwww yay! Go you! Big inspiration. 💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 08:17 PM |
| 8 | The audacity... At least he's honest, I guess.It is not like the effort is different... But YEP. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 07:09 AM |
| 19 | The audacity... At least he's honest, I guess.True and I thought that once and tried that exactly once—it is always one-sided. It should take as long via talks and build up to see if you are a sexual match vs being a free sex doll. Intimacy and connection—consistent, earnest, honest are huge for women to actually be aroused. But men gaslight us and punk out because they never learned emotional IQ, etc. Plus education about women’s bodies, consent, porn.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 07:02 AM |
| 11 | Why do some women have low/no standards?Yeah and we would take them up on the sex if they were actually good and had depth and empathy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 06:45 AM |
| 20 | We aren’t Incels haha, we’re VUs (voluntarily uninterested)I likey. And yeah... I earnestly do not care anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 06:31 AM |
| 11 | I’m a covert pickmeisha. Thought I had levelled up but this situation showed me otherwiseVetting and healing from conditioning: It is like unpeeling an onion. Stinky and makes you watery-eyed but we get there. It is HIM. His emotional issues are his issues. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 06:29 AM |
| 35 | I'm a firm believer that men catch feelings faster than women do. Unfortunately those feelings are jealousy, controlling, and inequalities in the relationship. They seem to prefer "tricking you" into dick, or somehow giving you unsolicited D, but if you want it on your terms they get all madThis is why all they have is porn and buying nudes/sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 06:19 AM |
| 12 | New standards in your platonic relationshipsI am proud of myself for sticking to my standards and focusing on my growth and prioritizing my peace of heart, mind, body, and spirit. I have a good balance of neutrality toward others without attachment—I still care but I am wiser about my energy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 06:05 AM |
| 13 | I'm a firm believer that men catch feelings faster than women do. Unfortunately those feelings are jealousy, controlling, and inequalities in the relationship. They seem to prefer "tricking you" into dick, or somehow giving you unsolicited D, but if you want it on your terms they get all mad100% | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 04:31 AM |
| 35 | Yeah that's what I thought he was getting at 🤮Neckbeard mutation | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 04:29 AM |
| 17 | Favorite ways to shut down unwanted male attention?I left two HVM guy friends at a coffee shop and went to pick up something at a shop nearby. A LVM tried to get my attention and I kept walking... but when I came out... He said, “Excuse me...” Started walking at me and I said, “No thank you.” He tried again and I said “That’s not my name.” A little light laugh and crossed the street... He crossed diagonally in front of oncoming traffic to try to cut me off, about a few feet away; I got maaaaad. I stopped, “You really want to come at me like that… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 11:46 PM |
| 2 | 36 YO LVM PhD Candidate Does Not Know How to Use a Washing MachineA simple vent is easier in the group discord. Sigh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 06:43 AM |
| 3 | How many of you ladies are childfree?That’s so amazing. 💕 You’re stellar. ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 02:17 AM |
| 20 | She says her relationship is fine other than the fact that he never showers, she has to baby him 24/7, he stinks up the whole house and still expects sex.I had to wash my cat 🤦🏻♀️☠️☠️☠️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 01:57 AM |
| 8 | Wtf 🤦🏾♀️🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 01:14 AM |
| 56 | I found this on Facebook today lolGet a squeaky toy sandwich for when he wants you to cook for him; bring him his chew toy, and never look back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 12:22 AM |
| 54 | We honor our female ancestors by living a life they could have only ever dreamed of.A-B-S-O-effing-lovely | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 12:20 AM |
| 1 | Ladies, please for the love of GOD do not have children OR marry a cheater! Don’t ever take back an ex - EVER. This woman took back her cheating boyfriend after the first year together. Now 5 kids later it’s ramped up online again. He had the AUDACITY to blame her for finding out.That was how it read. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 11:38 PM |
| 15 | If they can’t stand women so much, why don’t they date men...We vibing today lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 11:36 PM |
| 97 | Men are too interested in my job - red flag?Fetishizing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 10:33 PM |
| 9 | "we talk all the time at work so let's keep doing that" 💀💀I like her | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 08:59 PM |
| 10 | Hm interesting 😐Dude had some self hate there | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 08:50 PM |
| 127 | If they can’t stand women so much, why don’t they date men...Go ahead—stick it in the barrel, my dude | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 08:49 PM |
| 15 | Stating facts like they're compliments. 🙄I just noticed your username 🤣❤️😍 and just poured more coffee, not audacity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 08:26 PM |
| 32 | Stating facts like they're compliments. 🙄I wish my pockets were as deep as their AUDACITY. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 08:21 PM |
| 46 | Stating facts like they're compliments. 🙄Because that is all they can offer. 😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 08:10 PM |
| 17 | Does anyone else find it repulsive when men hit on you at your work?Facts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 08:08 PM |
| 15 | Oh wellMakes Sorry and Sorry I was an ass look high effort 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 07:35 PM |
| 185 | Does anyone else find it repulsive when men hit on you at your work?Mini PSA “Oh so I can’t even approach a girl in public anymore,” they say. Lead with a human convo and no expectations, less focus on the dick and insecurity. We get this shit all the time, no matter what we do or how we adjust. Want things to change, lurkers? Fix yourself and call out other men. You don’t do that? Good, but you might to a small degree. Just because you actually are the good guy does not mean you are owed anything; in fact, that take makes you definitely not the good guy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 07:29 PM |
| 4 | Ladies, please for the love of GOD do not have children OR marry a cheater! Don’t ever take back an ex - EVER. This woman took back her cheating boyfriend after the first year together. Now 5 kids later it’s ramped up online again. He had the AUDACITY to blame her for finding out.On top of this: He fucking pulled this shit on his child’s computer. Men are depraved. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 07:13 PM |
| 6 | Pre-Screening Phone Call Script for OLD- Weed Out Time Wasters in 10 MinutesIf he pushes, da blocka button. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 05:11 PM |
| 17 | Pre-Screening Phone Call Script for OLD- Weed Out Time Wasters in 10 MinutesSure! Let’s have coffee on video and chat! I want to get to know you a bit. — We already did coffee, silly. 😬😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 05:00 PM |
| 20 | Pre-Screening Phone Call Script for OLD- Weed Out Time Wasters in 10 MinutesIt can still be telling. A man may be a perpetual degree seeker with debt and no goals or re-inventing himself with a vision. Agree with your points also. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 04:59 PM |
| 17 | I’m soooooo annoyedReading but one edit 🧐 “Unavailable men who only want to have bad sex.” 🙄🤣 All you have to say is: nothing. Block. Or keep slow fading. Just let him drift off into his cosmic cesspool alone...as you shoot for the stars. No more wasted time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 04:54 PM |
| 6 | Title says: My girlfriend cooked this so I guess I have to do it myself next time (LVM trash talking his girl's homemade vegan dessert for karma online)Downvoted | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 12:29 PM |
| 7 | Man: wants to hang out. Me: suspiciousHe is weak ass trying. Ignore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 01:34 AM |
| 19 | My friends are telling me I should’ve given him space and I made a mistake. What do you thinkThis. Keep your respect and give him all that space he wanted. You wanted clarity but he saw it as pestering even though you respected the boundaries—he already had an opinion so he made the reasons to match. It is something in him. Cowardly and selfish. (This is a classic where it magically becomes female drama.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 01:25 AM |
| 3 | So, I’m putting into practise never meeting someone for drinks.... And men insist on being LV. Boy bye. (The photos were of his friend and him driving around and eating sushi? I don’t even know you, why would I care to see this...)🙄🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 01:12 AM |
| 2 | My Experiences With Religious Men Pt. 2Exactly | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 01:02 AM |
| 11 | So, I’m putting into practise never meeting someone for drinks.... And men insist on being LV. Boy bye. (The photos were of his friend and him driving around and eating sushi? I don’t even know you, why would I care to see this...)Video Photo 🤦🏻♀️😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 12:00 AM |
| 25 | So, I’m putting into practise never meeting someone for drinks.... And men insist on being LV. Boy bye. (The photos were of his friend and him driving around and eating sushi? I don’t even know you, why would I care to see this...)Him—Offers to come over and give you a foot massage. Gets blocked. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 11:59 PM |
| 4 | The woman that was kicked out of Paradise and snuck back inSame! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 11:47 PM |
| 46 | How to react to abusive behaviour“Oh, Brad thank you ever so much for bringing me this Nice Guy Alcoholic Beverage after I have repeatedly told you no and you “don’t do boundaries.” I am sure my lovely friend, the grass, will love to partake.” (Pours in grass—dead eyes) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 11:05 PM |
| 7 | How to react to abusive behaviourI don’t know how to—see there is this funny thing called Google | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 11:03 PM |
| 14 | Doesn't want a relationship but calls every day?I had one of these but more loose and my bare minimum was consistency, respect, & there be some feelings between us & it is all even — long as we communicate. 😂🤡🤡🤡🤡😂😂😂 It never works out because any trace of emotional investment means omglikeItotallywannamarryyouRN to these guys—the more you clarify, the more they call you crazy for wanting the bare minimum and they go hot & cold & gaslight you & so you blame yourself and your emotions & re-trigger old wounds & it becomes self-fulfilling in the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 09:53 PM |
| 1 | I'm so stupid to even think about going back.It is a literary reference to very warm to very dark behavior—even mental illness with the sharp changes in drastic mood swings. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 09:28 PM |
| 9 | I'm so stupid to even think about going back.Sounds like any semblance of relationship-like behavior was spotty and in the middle. The cheating cut out the first year. The absence of sex is gone from the last year. He pushes and pulls the people in is life & he is Dr. J & Mr. H. The parents are exceptions because they gave him life biologically (and etc else)... He is doing the thing where he gets to say, “See I am unlovable. I push people away/they abandon me.” Fuck that. He is way BEYOND being functional to be in a relationship and is se… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 09:08 PM |
| 15 | My Experiences With Religious Men Pt. 2Are (LV) men just naturally more addicted to shit—sex/objectification, cult behavior (the stalkerlike reachouts), drugs, etc... they avoid and run from real issues...ie inner work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 08:50 PM |
| 11 | Slightly creepy colleague. Is this real or in my head? How do I navigate in the midst of LVM colleagues?This is part of the Great LVM Delusion! You speak of him like a retired neighbor—oh he is harmless... He is crossing multiple boundaries that are far from professional, even if someone claimed it was considered “coworker comradery.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 08:45 PM |
| 49 | Feel like a hypocrite sometimes ...I understand this and have felt this while in another smaller version of the same damn thing, like peeling a stanky onion.... but detox properties haha. We hope she wakes. We want to be that small still part of her that wakes. We cry for her and with her—we are those emotions in her that she ignores; and we feel ignored too. Still, we cry. We rally and rage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 06:30 PM |
| 9 | “My mum....” is there anything more repulsive than a man mentioning his mother in his dating profile?! & other rants about mama’s boysIt used to be cute to see mom and family photos if fun—but you can usually just read her face and tell a relationship with guy would be hell even if he was decent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 05:49 AM |
| 8 | Canadian Phone Number AppTextNow | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 03:16 AM |
| 5 | They *always, always* come back.Fucking black mold spores | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 01:35 AM |
| 17 | This couple (man is a senator in México) the husband says in a IG live video: "you are showing too much leg" I translate the rest in commentsAh yes—abuse face | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 11:58 PM |
| 26 | This couple (man is a senator in México) the husband says in a IG live video: "you are showing too much leg" I translate the rest in commentsI HONESTLY thought he was 45. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 11:58 PM |
| 8 | Help for a virgin kinkmeisha?Focus on sensation in other ways. Touch your neck, your lips. Sleep nude in fresh sheets. Enjoy your favorite tastes and savor them. Take in the nuances of color. Then you can enjoy the nuances of intimacy which are multifaceted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 11:24 PM |
| 3 | Waiting for the ideal man? Pshaw. This looks like heaven to me!Fire dancing gathering around the new moon again? Hell yah witches. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 10:44 PM |
| 4 | Am I being nitpicky or is this guy being selfish?I think if you notice a pattern of complacency vs comfort then you need to keep that in mind and trust your gut. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 10:17 PM |
| 7 | Are most men from dating apps LVM? What is up with guys thinking it’s okay to invite themselves over to your home DURING a pandemic?No you are not | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 10:15 PM |
| 8 | The bar is this low yet men will still call her standards “too high” 💀2 weeks later WYD Man I saw the show u told mebout and it was GOOD as u or r u bad. U bad baby. Hmu. Bitch. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 08:30 PM |
| 5 | Can a HVM be a single dad?Solid response. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 08:28 PM |
| 1 | 10 years down the road after you marry that LVM. Man couldn't even put up shelving. Or even a switch plate cover!J’dore | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 06:54 PM |
| 3 | We all know why.A P P A R E N T L Y 👀😂😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 06:54 PM |
| 21 | On a post regarding "marriageable" womenToo many men whipping the meat like a dead horse — they are left with audacity over initiative, and brain cells | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 03:55 PM |
| 9 | What do you do when a man is late?I felt that from she knows the plane will leave her ass; be the plane. I am this girl, but I am the MF plane, too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 03:03 PM |
| 1 | HurtOh definitely. But always vigilant. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 06:22 AM |
| 57 | The bar is this low yet men will still call her standards “too high” 💀Wazzzzzzup 😏 WYD 😬 U up 😴😴😴😴 👀🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 06:19 AM |
| 8 | The old scrotes keep popping back up ... go through your contacts and all your social media make sure they are blocked everywhere.Such a fucking metaphor! Lmao. Yeah it’s you, bro. I remember your post. I had an old snapchat I never used and found a stalker’s flying monkey trying to descend and a LVM from three years prior. Nope. Block on everything. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 06:17 AM |
| 1 | 10 years down the road after you marry that LVM. Man couldn't even put up shelving. Or even a switch plate cover!I love my cordless drill, and in studio art we used a miter saw regularly. I taught my male bestie how to build a canvas haha. The staple gun was too much for him but yet he had callouses from playing his guitar lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 05:53 AM |
| 7 | 10 years down the road after you marry that LVM. Man couldn't even put up shelving. Or even a switch plate cover!And cut a Tesla into a truck | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 05:49 AM |
| 1 | Yellow dick paste the revolutionising antibacterial goodnessDating questions... How often do you game? Do you pick up after yourself? How often, if at all, do you wash Little John and his frenz? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 05:36 AM |
| 7 | HurtYep SO INTO you and bam. Right after you show you have a heart and care back. It is bs. Got to ride the wave of detoxing and it will be ok. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 05:33 AM |
| 6 | HVM are friends with other HVMDefinitely watch the shit he lies back and rests on with his friends. Yep. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 03:11 AM |
| 1 | Ultimate Alpha Male Requirements 😂NestDaddy is home | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 02:41 AM |
| 3 | What is your opinion on freemasonry?My best friend was a mason and defines himself as more spiritual now. He said he liked the structure and the sense of duty and discipline it helped instill in him. He outgrew it and some of the “brotherhood” got a bit corporate and “bad behavior” for his taste also, as many also have their own faiths and value systems personally. But he is an amazing & very analytical man with a high emotional IQ. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 01:15 AM |
| 140 | We all know why.I saw two gangly early 20s white scrotz go into UPS and say, “Hey so like if I bring a package in here you’ll like ship it. Right?” Actual quote. “Duh.” I thought I said it in my head. I saw lady behind the counter catch it. Lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 12:10 AM |
| 5 | Those pickmeisha friends who are hard to let go ofShe sounds amazing and needs this sub... and therapy... but maybe the right people pulling away or walking away will wake her up. Either way, your health and growth matter. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 12:06 AM |
| 3 | This scrote made a video about us, part two. Lmaoooo LVM are so bothered by us minding our own business. 🤣THAT is what I was trying to think of but I haven’t even watched it yet. Aw. This seems like a cucky type, too. Eh. I won’t watch—entertainment value has ended. That is what I wanted to remember. She really was a badass on the show. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 12:02 AM |
| 60 | I Guess the r/TheRedPill Dorks' Plan to Rebrand Themselves as "Men's Self Help" rather than Misogynist, Emotionally Abusive Rapists isn't going well. Notice how you have NEVER seen something this manipulative on r/FemaleDatingStrategy despite all the claims we're "the same".Honestly, this shit does not phase me anymore. They are all mad at mommy, but mostly, themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 11:59 PM |
| 43 | We all know why.Retching violently | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 09:47 PM |
| 8 | How to give FDS advice to a preteen???It is not too soon. Girls who are 15 are selling or coerced into trading. A woman in her 30s in a local women’s group confessed in the late 90s she had a 28yo boyfriend at age 13 and he took photos of her and had phone sex with her. It escalated. The average age that boys are exposed to porn is about 11. That said... yeah you may not be the right person to have that talk, but you can be available if it comes up. Bond. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 09:30 PM |
| 5 | It’s worse than I could ever imagine out there with dating men. Have a look at this depressing thread. Women of all ages just giving up on the prospect of dating / settling down, and who could blame them?Also — emotions BIG PART of intimacy Get out before they do I guess—it is what they do | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 08:41 PM |
| 3 | It’s worse than I could ever imagine out there with dating men. Have a look at this depressing thread. Women of all ages just giving up on the prospect of dating / settling down, and who could blame them?This was the most inspiring one to me. Thank you. I’m sure it will inspire others. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 08:39 PM |
| 4 | It’s worse than I could ever imagine out there with dating men. Have a look at this depressing thread. Women of all ages just giving up on the prospect of dating / settling down, and who could blame them?Aw but I REALLY appreciate you posting it. I have cried at least 3x while at work reading this. I resonate with every one. I want to hug them all. Me too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 08:36 PM |
| 3 | Ladies, I just wanted to share my recent victory.💕💕💕💕💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 04:56 PM |
| 11 | Divorced queens with kids who found love again: please share your story. I need inspiration, hope, and strength to follow through on my divorce.I’m so happy for you and your mom. You can do this OP! My mom was a single mom who tried to marry and the “step dad” became an abuser, who she threw on his ass the moment he tried to “teach her” not to leave. You got this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 04:54 PM |
| 18 | LVM on CMB with 1 Pic trying to call me fat. Thank goodness I am well trained in FDS.Due to low value male behavior... 🙄😂😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 05:07 AM |
| 19 | Grown man angry that wife did not pack his camping clothes for him. After she packed literally everything else for their trip!Leave him to the wolves mama | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 04:41 AM |
| 16 | Post from /trueoffmychest shows the reality of how men can take decades to learn that you deserve better than them.Dumbass | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 04:35 AM |
| 5 | How can I approach things with a man who has trust issues due to last relationships?Babe... you do not deserve to be on his emotional rollercoaster. You could slow it down and limit the calls before 11... but chances are... it will still be a rollercoaster. Are you ready to ride that? Can you? Do you deserve that? But you have also been through shit. (Only he can address his own shit.) Be with yourself right now. Reread the handbook. He is sheparding you into FWB right now. HE IS NOT EMOTIONALLY AVAILABLE. His flecks of emotional IQ and the bits of love bombing are going to tur… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 04:28 AM |
| 2 | At least he’s honest about his game? We love a man who self reflectsDid he just get out of the hospital due to the Rona? PUA is weak... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 03:10 AM |
| 29 | Has to get to know me over coffee and THEN we can go on “real” dates 🙄I earnestly do not do coffee dates because I do these meets with others in my profession. It is a turn off haha. I will say that I did have one successful coffee date with a guy but we had a day of creativity—we drew what was around us; so I focused on that while with him and stayed in my element lmao. Afterward, we got dinner (his treat) and walked around. He saw me home and was a gentleman. We dated 2 1/2 yrs and it was mostly great—he saw ME as ME and I did the same with him. I still have the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 03:01 AM |
| 6 | This POS thinks his argument over whether or not his GF should have to serve him is light hearted.Because his dumb ass is taking her for granted. Grow up little boy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 02:59 AM |
| 16 | Why do I only miss my ex when I'm on my period?I get H O R N Y esp the day before my period and sometimes the smad (sad-mad) feelings come before that. 3 days later I’m halfway through and realize Aunt Flo been playing me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 02:55 AM |
| 2 | Can't bring myself to use online dating👏👏👏👏👏👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 11:38 PM |
| 14 | Can't bring myself to use online datingI fucking adore your TED talks. Ratfuck is my new favorite verb. These scrotes tangle like a maladapted attempt at a ratking, fuck themselves, and while more and more women get advanced degrees, these LVM are wasting time gaming and jerking... then they decide to fetishize BBC and etc and literally each other. Please my dudes... have at it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 10:35 PM |
| 7 | Does this seem controlling? I’m no longer dating this guy, but he would tell me I couldn’t wear certain things or make any new guy friends and if I objected, he said that I didn’t give a fuck about him. If I thought he was being controlling he frequently called me crazy and irrationalIt is only because your brain was trying to pump logic into that nonsense and your heart is forgiving according to how you were raised. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 10:25 PM |
| 8 | Does this seem controlling? I’m no longer dating this guy, but he would tell me I couldn’t wear certain things or make any new guy friends and if I objected, he said that I didn’t give a fuck about him. If I thought he was being controlling he frequently called me crazy and irrational“I’m one of them” is the only important thing there. He planted the whole Amazon full of red flags. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 10:23 PM |
| 12 | Why are male dating app profiles literally the most bland things one can waste her time reading with?dying Yes. Just so much yes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 10:19 PM |
| 222 | I wonder how many pickmeishas say "tee hee hee I'd marry/screw you!" in response to this terrible opening question. I unmatched after this exchange.He thought he was psychologically clever with his word placement. 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 10:18 PM |
| 11 | Mother throws herself in front of Pastor who raped TWO of her daughters to keep him from being arrested. Unchecked PickMeism and Unquestioned Male Power creates societal sickness.We have found the lowest of the low. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 10:16 PM |
| 17 | The lamest thing you've hear/seen LVM do?More than a sore loser—he KNEW exactly what this new girl was going through and gleefully triggered her and can escape scot-free. Abuse. The evidence is in his next interaction with you. Same mind games. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 10:13 PM |
| 29 | 😂😂😂This would be me taking that call. We got an ungrateful scrote. Handle it like I’m on the CB radio. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 10:08 PM |
| 2 | Why are men such cowards?And they blow up over small shit—like how dare we betray them | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 10:04 PM |
| 7 | Tried to put the bar undergroundHow fucking hard is it for men to be consistent... Consistent does not equal a ring or being bitchy... if you need to shift shit in your life dude—cool—use your words. This is the great plague among men—a lack of decency and respect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 09:54 PM |
| 3 | How Can I Phrase my Job Quit to Prospective EmployersCompanies love when you link it to personal growth because often they CLAIM they are all about that when really it is a small “leave a book, take a book” reading room and gym membership if you are lucky. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 09:11 PM |
| 1 | How Can I Phrase my Job Quit to Prospective EmployersExactly. The environment was not one that fostered growth beyond a certain ceiling. (Environment including toxicity lol) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 09:08 PM |
| 28 | 😂😂😂“I used to seek the holy grail like you but then I took a shrubbery to the ni” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 09:03 PM |
| 132 | 😂😂😂👏 HOLD 👏 The MF 👏 Bear | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 09:02 PM |
| 3 | PTSD about datingSame. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 08:57 PM |
| 6 | Confused: a man who made me feel so loved and cherished, but then also made me feel very betrayed. Amazing qualities+ adorable moments but still a lot of disappointmentExactly. No one takes the time. Unless it is straight up sex and she goes cold with affection immediately... he will give her the talk and try to coerce her into something physical... some of them will try for more meaningless sex and pay for it and throw themselves into work and still feel like crap. It is only their inner shit. The more women who refuse to be receptacles for this bs, the better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 07:56 PM |
| 19 | Yikes! Predator exposed 😐So many young women have gone through this and these LVM lay on the charm and it turns abusive fast. I’m happy so many young women are smart about this. I have had a successful age gap relationship with a decent guy in my late 20s but he was focused on his goals and not porn obsessed...I meant it to be short term. It was a good relationship, mostly, given LVM out there; but that is the exception. These women being over 18 does not just make it okay—there must be respect. Most of the time these w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 05:21 PM |
| 3 | Confused: a man who made me feel so loved and cherished, but then also made me feel very betrayed. Amazing qualities+ adorable moments but still a lot of disappointmentSounds like it could be akin | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 04:59 PM |
| 39 | He just wants someone he can abuse (Original post from another sub)Pornsick with severe mommy issues, to start | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 07:08 AM |
| 7 | Social Anxiety. Still hung up on ex. What do I do in the future?I saw that Netflix movie and me too girl. You would be friendnapped for a day trip. You are going to pull through. Save those HV traits for the right person, and keep reading all this here. Be as kind to yourself as possible. Feel the feelings out as they happen but get right back up and put your energy into your life. Right now, I’m decluttering. I had a cry and put more shit into bags haha. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 04:44 AM |
| 31 | Confused: a man who made me feel so loved and cherished, but then also made me feel very betrayed. Amazing qualities+ adorable moments but still a lot of disappointmentMy heart goes out to you. Many LVM (or Medium/Mediocre Value Men) will pine over exes and love bomb the hell out of the new girl—it is like a weird high for them, a fantasy. I have seen it and experienced it. I know you had a lot of green seeming flags to give him the benefit of the doubt but... avoid any man still hung up on his ex and trust your gut. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 04:26 AM |
| 15 | Guy: “sometimes I get worried about not finding other people I feel this way about, if we don’t work out. But then I realize that’s ridiculous and there’s so many people out there”FDS teaches us a better sentiment of how one applies that... still keeping your heart in it but being smart as you to who you let in your life. This sounds far too dissociative. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 04:19 AM |
| 4 | What would you do if....No. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 02:48 AM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: August 8 2020 💜If he sees you as a goal—as simply a box to check off, failing to see all of you and valuing that, no. It depends on your values and what you want though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 01:25 AM |
| 6 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: August 8 2020 💜The metaphor that came to mind is to be wary that you are not some piece of his life portfolio he is “investing” in — values mismatch. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 12:48 AM |
| 40 | Sorry!!!! (Not) guy was so damn thirsty.Order Door Dash, Chadwick. Had one guy who clearly makes more than me ask to share my Amazon Prime. I said no. He saw I had gotten new headphones with a mic that look expensive—I got them on a deal and they are not expensive but are well-made. Gold plating and non-tangle—actually my first pair with a mic. A few days later orders airpods and calls me while he picks them up—damn I just realized the last part. He said that that was one of only two times he had been jealous of me. Men are weird. I r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 12:32 AM |
| 6 | Pickme's are the saddest people on the planet. Tragic.Think of pickme as a health condition that is treatable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 10:21 PM |
| 44 | What is the Ultimate LVM name?Brentington Yes. That happened. Not to me as I laughed and swiped left. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 09:36 PM |
| 32 | His ex showed up on the date and said “we broke up yesterday, good luck, hes an asshole”In the first half he just deflects and ignores the whole fact that HE IS a lying sack of shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 09:07 PM |
| 20 | The last two sentences... I wish I could unreadSis your oldest baby is your husband | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 07:40 PM |
| 5 | Hey young women! I know my balls are old and saggy and I need viagra for my porn addled dick to work - but I prefer my women to be 18-23! No red flags here, just into music and working out. -ScrotesYep—part of why part of me never wants to get married ever But I’m still a romantic 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 07:18 AM |
| 25 | This Is SeriousI literally thought earlier that LVM are COVID—They are a STD. Lmao. We have a FDS wavelength going tonight. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 06:09 AM |
| 2 | How many matches should you message at a time when online dating?Good! It felt more natural to me, and it was enough where I would not get too attached too early and feel more confident weeding them out. I was still able to nurture something fairly, too. Do what works for you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 05:45 AM |
| 11 | You Don’t Have to Do ItSame | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 03:35 AM |
| 7 | Princess? Or Queen?This is my FAVORITE thing I have ever seen about Diana. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 03:19 AM |
| 31 | I'm all for this!Dude: Oh I remember the password from last time. It’s consent. Bouncer: Definition? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 02:48 AM |
| 6 | How many matches should you message at a time when online dating?What has worked for me thus far in terms if getting my feet wet: Quality convos between 4-6 in dating app and moving an average 3 out of it until one of them knocks themselves out. (Balance communication as rapport builds or craps out.) 2 solid contenders now and I am taking a break from OLD but the talking has been good to see where I am. These 2 are consistent. No after strategy yet. Also: pandemic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 01:19 AM |
| 1 | I think I am dating a NARCISSIST ... am I? Here are my red flagsAt least garden variety narc with potential to bloom like a mold spore — but red flags all over it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 10:48 PM |
| 5 | Just no!Cut up that Maybe It’s Maybelline lipstick into bite-sized pieces for our perfect little boy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 10:22 PM |
| 3 | Just no!Me. But not this LVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 10:20 PM |
| 21 | Push your own needs aside for a man! No, sis. Bye pickmeisha!👀🙄🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 10:15 PM |
| 76 | Which one of you Queens was this?Love it. Goals. I have one I felt pretty good about. He told me he was going to pay for dinner. Most of the conversation was me listening to him being a vain asshole. I started laughing, so close to crying, yes aloud, due to “Is this really happening? Yes he is saying these things?” He asked me why and I said why. I stood up and offered to pay my half lmao (dinner was done for me; had eaten too) and he shockingly shook my head. I suppressed a laugh and still said sorry (had never vanished in fro… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 10:11 PM |
| 4 | The most LVM I’ve ever met, I finally came to my senses and left him. 3 months later I get a text and after not responding/ immediately blocking, the next morning I get a LinkedIn notification. 😂LinkedIn is a pickmeisha 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 09:58 PM |
| 5 | Thank you FDS!Waaaaay to GO, N | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 09:56 PM |
| 6 | How to reject a guy?Smadfusion. Indeed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 09:54 PM |
| 9 | An open-relationship is an excuse to cheatThis is why a marriage and ring means SHIT ALL with a LVM | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 09:49 PM |
| 5 | An open-relationship is an excuse to cheatOooh the pregnancy thing—I guarantee you he has been watching certain types of porn on top of this mess. Ewwwwwwwwwww. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 09:47 PM |
| 20 | Hey young women! I know my balls are old and saggy and I need viagra for my porn addled dick to work - but I prefer my women to be 18-23! No red flags here, just into music and working out. -ScrotesAnd is married or has a gf—new account lmao If he was a regular perv—he would have a regular perv side account | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 09:45 PM |
| 2 | How should I reject an Instagram thirsty man after 2 months?Also this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 09:34 PM |
| 4 | How should I reject an Instagram thirsty man after 2 months?This one right here — best brief text that is honest and “pleasant” enough considering family potential bs (tho eff that anyway) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 09:32 PM |
| 6 | And this woman or well actually girl not only has a child but posts pictures of her breasts. This is pathetic.The still want them to fawn over them and love/hate them as LVM; just as these men do with women who do not do sex work but approach online—some difference yep but same core. Attention/Ego/Insecurity/“Power” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 09:25 PM |
| 9 | If you are afraid to shine near a man, no amount of attention, people-pleasing, or silence will make him act right towards you. He is withholding love, affection, and effort to chronically devalue you into thinking you deserve to dim your sparkle to deserve love from him. It's a LIE....just move onI love your title. I read, “It’s a LIE” as “He is a LIE.” I like that mind-slip aka truth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 09:22 PM |
| 29 | Unattractive guy I was talking to made me feel like shit. Why am I upset about it? Is it an ego thing?That last part though | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 09:14 PM |
| 42 | Push your own needs aside for a man! No, sis. Bye pickmeisha!Y’all ever meet a man and flip that finger for him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 09:13 PM |
| 17 | That’s enough Reddit for me today! Off to give my ‘female brain’ a little restThis one needs therapy. Giant country-sized red flag. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 12:58 PM |
| 8 | Would you simply block a guy like this?This. RP. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 04:45 AM |
| 8 | Why am I still hurting over thisFanciful fuckboy is all | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 09:43 PM |
| 112 | This makes me mad in a weird way that I don’t know how to explainCall your mama, and if she’s a pickme or a narc... call a domestic violence shelter because grief or not — that’s just outright negligent abuse after everything. Because she IS suffering more and needs someone who actually loves her to care for her. Maybe it’s weird because there are so many emotions this heinous situation brings up in one. Anger for sure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 04:33 PM |
| 13 | How to handle this situation?Exactly—you’re not in a relationship with him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 12:45 PM |
| 8 | A good reminder to NEVER trust a male to be responsible with birth control 🤮r/breakingmom | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 05:57 AM |
| 13 | Married pick me mom friend said the part above the original post...no wonder she’s settling for her LVM husband🤢This is at risk Hoarders honestly | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 05:53 AM |
| 9 | Too good?I empathize with this but it feels good when you notice the transition and you feel so calm in yourself. It comes and goes like a breeze and one day it’s your temperament. But I get it! Let yourself feel whatever emotions and get up and keep going. Appreciate the small stuff with all your senses—small moments with people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 05:32 AM |
| 78 | Proof males will sexualize literally anythingA dark reminder why indifference is the best weapon and tool of self-empowerment. But yes gtfo at danger. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 01:05 AM |
| 32 | Sad cause I really wanted to marry him 😭I slightly miss OLD for AED audacity entertainment purposes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 09:39 PM |
| 64 | Never let your man look at the check, read it for him!When he looks at you to pay and you pick it up and read it aloud and pass it back... 😂 Nah. Pay, block, next. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 09:33 PM |
| 8 | Thing is...as most of us can attest, this isn’t even an unpopular opinion. Dude straight up says in the post making women feel loved feels like work. Yikes.It’s called emotional labor for women because men don’t naturally express themselves. If they did, it would not be work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 09:29 PM |
| 3 | I wish guys could adopt some of the philosophies of FDSHonestly, yes, and also, a lot of what Deb Cooper says on her YouTube channel applies to both sexes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 09:20 PM |
| 10 | An incel DMed me after I posted something on r/twoxchromosomes, calling me a man hater and radical feminist. I really hope he sees this lolI repeat myself. That means I’m right, even though a fifth-grader can write a more coherent, persuasive essay than me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 09:19 PM |
| 5 | first date with this guy and I want to apply our community strategy rightOld school classics: wear ugly ass underwear and don’t shave your legs. Handbook also says to cut the date at 90 mins. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 07:04 AM |
| 2 | When men are amused that you don't know how to do home improvement things?Yes. But it’s fun to shut them up with a random knowledge drop above their grade level once they’re done with their little lectures. Shrug and move on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 07:01 AM |
| 2 | Seeing someone new and we’re keeping things open. Any advice for trying not to move too fast??I would break things off and say that we each need to go through therapy and be on our own for a while. Please read the handbook. You’re setting yourself up for an emotional entanglement that’s going to HURT badly, as much as you try to rationalize and think you’re both being adult about it. Also limit contact with him and don’t talk every day at the very least right now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 05:00 AM |
| 6 | I broke up with him and regret itIntermittent reinforcement is an addictive, traumatizing bish to deal with—been there. Now you know. Read the handbook. Keep reading it. Focus on yourself. Flow with the emotions and journal but don’t dwell in them. You want to cry; cry. Your emotions are valid, but your life is too precious to waste. That “love” you felt has been in you all along. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 04:35 AM |
| 13 | Did he fake his suicide attempt?It is. Just call the emergency line on him. That shit will stop real quick. If he had an actual issue, it would help. And if he turns into a mentally disturbed stalker... you have records. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 04:23 AM |
| 16 | How to navigate through your mantourageOh same. I’m not exclusive, until engagement. I spent my 20s in 3 2-3 yr relationships as a girlfriend, give or take on timing. Fuck that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 04:17 AM |
| 24 | I’m lost for words at this point 🤦🏼♀️It’s supposed to taste like a soy milk no foam vanilla bean latte, okay? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 10:35 PM |
| 18 | I’m lost for words at this point 🤦🏼♀️I’m just stuck on the complete idiocy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 10:34 PM |
| 2 | Had a horrible week so one of my closest girlfriends who lives a hundred miles from me had these vegan treats sent to me as a surprise (all paid for by her) along with a letter. IF a girlfriend can do it, then men can absolutely do more than just the bare minimum.Exactly—I have had my closest girlfriends treat me like royalty and I definitely am reciprocal there. What a great friend! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 10:03 PM |
| 6 | Red Flags!Yes! The whole thing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 06:31 PM |
| 7 | “Women who create things other than children are still considered dangerous by many.” — Literary Witches, Pam GrossmanI like you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 02:38 PM |
| 44 | “Women who create things other than children are still considered dangerous by many.” — Literary Witches, Pam Grossman“Well-behaved women seldom make history.” -Laurel Thatcher Ulrich | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 02:37 PM |
| 15 | Tbh I read “someone who can take my sarcasm” on dating apps as “imma be an asshole to you. Accept that” Is it just me?Profile translation of Scrote Scratch has become second nature. Yes it feels icky but it can amaze you what you pick up on; it can also be daunting; hang in there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 02:29 PM |
| 5 | Are my relationship problems my fault or am I was I dating an abusive man this whole time?Remove all girlfriend privileges immediately. He’s not even a friend; a HVM ex or friend would suggest time apart to heal. You are acquaintances if you have to deal with him. Meanwhile, find the book Why Does He Do That and also read it. Read up on attachment styles and codependency. You’ve gaslighted yourself but you’re not all to blame for that—it was fucked up and also societal conditioning. You just have to work on healing and choosing yourself. DO NOT DATE MEN right now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 06:12 AM |
| 9 | Posted in another group, want female perspectiveYour local social services department may also have a Work First program along with support for your child. Use the resources that are available to get out of this. I’m sorry you’re going through this. Agreed. No more sex. He’s putting you at risk, but don’t say that. Just use the typical excuses — make your plan and get out. Be careful who you confide in too... avoid talking about this with mutual friends. They may not have your back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 05:50 AM |
| 16 | Red Flags!The Price Ain’t Right Here at FDS. (Thinking of the phrase “buying a vowel.”) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 04:27 AM |
| 101 | Red Flags!No 3 this guy has at least been reading the Seduction subreddit. PUA all over that with “escalation” and tell girls what they want. Glad you blocked. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 02:45 AM |
| 4 | Advice needed: Setting boundaries on an engagement/marriage timeline.I hope it’s okay to hop on this post, but I had an interesting resolution on this topic come to me that I want feedback on. If I were to meet a HVM that I would be interested in the long term with, I would want to see if a potential mask would fall during co-habitation before marriage. I would at least want to see their habits more in-depth. So my thought would be that I would agree to live with someone only if they proposed and we had a set time frame (maybe a year; the length of most leases) t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 08:14 PM |
| 38 | Why isn’t he making a move?!Lean way back | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 05:07 AM |
| 23 | Should I end things with this guy?I dated someone who was slightly like this. He could vocalize how he was feeling and we mostly were able to talk through things. However, he let his whole family and everyone in his life run over him and that did affect us. It affected our sex life. He would guilt trip me. I should’ve ended it earlier. He tried to come back but it took me telling him very coldly that it was never going to happen. Months later I did contact him (pre-FDS) and he understood why. He’s been doing well. Good guy but y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 04:43 AM |
| 8 | How To Be A HVW When You're BROKE?I’m just above poverty level and wow. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 02:00 AM |
| 4 | So lazy, so boring....these Hinge profiles send me into a coma“I just want you to be my Nest Koozie” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 12:57 AM |
| 46 | Read the handbook 👑No sis... just no. Pin DIS! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 12:53 AM |
| 89 | Gentlemen of tinder, men can’t think logicallyI have a TasR. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 11:02 PM |
| 11 | Anyone else consider being a febfem?I’m getting SO close to it. Yes and I didn’t know there was a term for it! I knew that I was into women as a teenager but never said anything until age 18. Between het relationships I tried to date women but avoided it because I got picked to be a unicorn when I didn’t want that (pornsick men and their pressured women) — no thanks. Friends would ask me to kiss them to experiment or show off for a guy—hell no. An amazing first date with a woman followed by an amazing second led to her asking casu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 10:56 PM |
| 20 | Would you message a guy your dating family member if you haven’t heard from them in a in a couple of days?Nooooooooooooooooooopppppppe. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 10:54 PM |
| 9 | If his apology has the word 'but' in it, it's not an apology, it's an excuse.Then you’re “always holding on to the past” or “crazy”.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 09:52 PM |
| 7 | The “what are we” textExactly this. It’s going to be better for your heart to just end it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 09:50 PM |
| 2 | The “what are we” textThis | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 09:49 PM |
| 31 | If his apology has the word 'but' in it, it's not an apology, it's an excuse.If his apology does not express how he earnestly hurt you and his corrective behaviors that he plans to implement... walk | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 05:32 PM |
| 56 | Once again proof that HVM behavior does not have to be expensive and also needs to be maintained over timeThis is effing amazing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 06:35 AM |
| 14 | "I don't text quick, 'cause I ain't thirsty" - Girls in the Hood - Megan thee StallionYeah just followed her | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 06:22 AM |
| 14 | Sincerely need advice (tough love but plz don’t be mean)16 years of leeching girl—your anger is latent but highly justified. Evict him immediately. Change the locks. You’ve got this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 06:06 AM |
| 14 | Is it a red flag if a man loved you before you leveled up and stayed with you when you were acting Low Value yourself? I worry that my boyfriend must have something deeply wrong with him for staying with me when I was at my worst. I changed my behavior and leveled up, he stayed and still loves me.Maybe you’re both growing. :-) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 06:01 AM |
| 29 | Too little too late?You need to follow through on the break up. He has to move out. You’re doing a good and high value thing by balancing the showing with communication of your boundaries. Take him back now and he will go back to how it was. He has lost your love, trust, and respect. This has to sink in, but that doesn’t matter to you right now. YOU matter. Maybe he can earn you back if he makes his own high value journey, but that’s his journey. That doesn’t concern you. He doesn’t concern you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 05:46 AM |
| 10 | Finally alonePlay the Midnight Margaritas scene from the Practical Magic movie hehe Good for you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 05:43 AM |
| 17 | Should I cancel the date?I understand those squirmy feelings—both sexes get it when we feel like we could see ourselves getting along with Someone. However, that is the thing—we are still in that stage of “could.” As we grow from where used to be, it can be hard to pull ourselves out of that projected euphoria, but honey, that’s what you have to do right now. You need to decide if you are ready to date if this is the state that will come up every time. Now, it is natural, but you must also be in your logical mind. You h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 05:36 AM |
| 61 | How soon after a first date should a man ask you out again?Tip for the next first date... tell them you enjoyed the date while on the date but don’t text it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 02:31 AM |
| 23 | Can a married man ever be HVM if he flirts with you?No, honey. No. Now, invest in your career, yourself. Find female role models who have pushed passed where this LVM is and where you’d like to go. Cultivate the positive traits in yourself. We have a sister sub r/FemaleLevelUpStrategy and our Discord also has a Career section. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 02:28 AM |
| 31 | While We're on the Subject of Researching Men Online..-Reverse search images. -Search the phone number and name and if social media is found; yes a good skim at posts and followers and reactions. -See if any details he gives you during conversations check out, such as field of work, etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 12:37 AM |
| 96 | Because everything a woman does is for male attention 🙄That’s what’s beautiful about the female body. We can gain or lose weight and still look amazing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 12:28 AM |
| 6 | Thank you from the bottom of my heartThis cheese is tasty. :-) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 11:58 PM |
| 9 | My book list :) my FDS journey through booksLove the categories | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 07:41 PM |
| 8 | I hate that the knowledge has to come from the “lesson” taught by dating an LVMI’m in that feeling spot too. I hear you. But you have made big steps and growth and you’re just healing too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 07:38 PM |
| 40 | Dear men, you don’t get it both ways.And then resent the woman when she feels pressured to be your mommy because literally the house would be a health hazard otherwise. Want more sex and attention? Maybe chill with the gaming addiction and pick up after yourself. Maybe make her a priority too. Maybe make yourself a damn priority sir....instead of wasting your life and then complaining about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 06:59 PM |
| 18 | Girl drives from California to North Carolina for a guy she met off Bumble. He ghosts her as soon as she gets home.It’s a common phrase among women and hella true. Perfect place to put it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 04:58 PM |
| 23 | Men post things like this to get a Pickmeisha to dance for themWhere are them packaged boiled eggs? Mama wants to make some gas for the LVM to run for the hills. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 03:35 AM |
| 24 | I hate these lines.I love when they talk about themselves. 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 01:18 AM |
| 16 | He said, “I lost my father, 4 cousins, a friend, and my ex-girlfriend’s grandfather to COVID-19” after he asks me out for coffee in one of the fastest growing coronavirus states in the USSame. Especially the way he nonchalantly lists off the deaths of those close him and then is like... let’s coffee. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 01:04 AM |
| 47 | He said, “I lost my father, 4 cousins, a friend, and my ex-girlfriend’s grandfather to COVID-19” after he asks me out for coffee in one of the fastest growing coronavirus states in the USAnd his ex-girlfriend’s grandfather... He has some bullshit to unpack. How do you say “That’s some bullshit?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 12:49 AM |
| 17 | “Any dates so far?”Any luck on here? Is the major one Definitely some interesting folks, for sure. lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 12:46 AM |
| 3 | This video talks about how long the bar is for men, and how we need to set standards. She said something like" I have a car, a job, and my own place, does that make me a good man?"I love Deb and need to watch this one | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 12:44 AM |
| 1 | Keep re-reading this until it sinks in.Exactly. 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 12:40 AM |
| 8 | Thank you FDS❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 09:48 PM |
| 9 | Anyone else getting this pickmeisha recommended to them on youtube constantly?Yesssss! 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 09:22 PM |
| 39 | Someone trying to set me up with their son who lives 9 hours away and works at McDonald's and is 15 years younger.Here let me pitch my son and how he would make a great manchild for you. I bet she had a whole 30-second elevator pitch for him. No? Oh? We can be besties. Nahhhhhhh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 09:19 PM |
| 5 | Guy trying to ‘change’ date plansI got Audacity Tea to share: (Jumping off those little things to not put up with early on) One little scrote claimed he was texting me from his mommy’s phone (37yo man). I blocked him on a messaging app after he had missed yet another call. He said he went out with friends and got distracted by the beach. So he sent me this video of a friend taking an impressive jump. I just replied back that it looked cool, it was interesting to talk but I’m talking with more consistent folks. Good luck out the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 08:58 PM |
| 8 | Guy trying to ‘change’ date plansBut they’ll also pull the whiny why why why why — then go silent and cut them off if they don’t get it... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 06:39 PM |
| 15 | My bf threatened to take away my unborn child in a fight we had. Now he says he was emotional and didn’t mean itThere’s already a lot of negative behavior you don’t need. Make plans to leave — agreed. We’re here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 05:26 PM |
| 11 | My bf threatened to take away my unborn child in a fight we had. Now he says he was emotional and didn’t mean itMy mom didn’t put my dad on mine. She tried to get him involved but only because I begged and it ended up hurting us more. No name on certificate—yes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 05:24 PM |
| 13 | If I feed the tender egos of all the future fakers I am talking to by proudly proclaiming that I will cherish a cheap, low effort engagement ring from a negligent LVM, even if he has the means to not be completely negligent or lazy with a once in a lifetime moment, will they pickme?I love you all but I’ve seen this one 4x this week it feels like haha But this meme: it’s THAT true of an ughhhhh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 05:04 PM |
| 7 | Need words of encouragement/adviceUsually I think the tells really start coming at a month depending on the frequency of contact. I’m looking at some yellow flags, too. Most of all, it’s a major thing that you listened to your gut. As you keep moving, you’ll tell the difference... but hypervigilance isn’t just paranoia... it’s because you see a specific pattern and can recognize nuances of it. Yes, your system is on high alert but you did the right thing to trust your gut. That’s the number one thing right now to build that trus… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 04:46 PM |
| 6 | I guess I’m not a real woman then 🤷♀️Advocate for reciprocal licking. 😑😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 04:19 PM |
| 1 | Keep re-reading this until it sinks in.Aw I thought read receipts haha which seemed 🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 01:09 PM |
| 3 | Keep re-reading this until it sinks in.It literally scares the fuck out of them. Especially if they have seen your warmth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 06:51 AM |
| 2 | Keep re-reading this until it sinks in.Also screenshots | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 06:49 AM |
| 2 | Keep re-reading this until it sinks in.This. Then he gets surprised when I had to break up with him by text. Because you made it that way. I tried so many times. They only understand you leaving—they actually blink. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 06:37 AM |
| 2 | I will never allow myself to be gaslighted againBi, too. Thanks for sharing!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 03:26 AM |
| 1 | Am I right to skip this date tomorrow?Yeah at 26+ you can stretch it more I think. At that age a 6 year age gap — yielded a pretty good relationship. Tried a bigger one at 29 and yeahhh no. He was not porn addicted but was married to his work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 03:16 AM |
| 6 | Ugh they want us to do everything even planning the dates...I can’t I can’tMillennial nearing mid thirties and I swear this shit only got mainstream a decade ago. I also had two 2-3 year relationships but even the LVM weren’t this dumb. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 02:10 AM |
| 11 | Ugh they want us to do everything even planning the dates...I can’t I can’tFor real. I’m avoiding this bullshit at all costs. You are supposed to be a grown ass man. If you want to frame it as I want you to choose because I want to to be happy—simple opened ended questions aren’t hard. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 02:02 AM |
| 2 | I fucked up and became too emotionally vulnerable too quickly, and I’m not sure if I should cut my losses and move on or continue.Manic pixie dream girl projection maybe. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 01:57 AM |
| 8 | High Value QualitiesThe bar has slightly risen from hell. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 01:39 AM |
| 2 | High Value QualitiesI hate this catch 152 bullshit, too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 01:38 AM |
| 2 | Height is a flaw “in the eyes of women.” Nah, being a scrote who speaks for all of us does that. 🙄😓Talking to a guy who is 5’8” and went out a guy who was 5’6”. I’m 5’4”. I said my only request is that I want the whole stand on my tiptoes and kiss my man thing because come on... it’s damn cute and feels amazing. Don’t need a basketball player to break my back. That shit doesn’t line up in sex either. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 01:24 AM |
| 9 | Is there even any point in replying to a guy who opens with just a "Hey/Hi" on OLD?In most cases no... in very rare cases, if my interest is piqued, I will look at if they filled out anything with more depth. I’ll maybe say hey back...if low effort after, easy to unmatch. Hi is better than the lame copypasta one liners we have all heard from the 90s or would you rathers... hey is definitely better than hey sexy or some 😏😏😏 emojis | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 09:53 PM |
| 44 | LVM and their heinous tactics about pressuring women for sex.Then take the garbage and dump it on him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 04:10 AM |
| 56 | How do you get your Facebook age wrong? Lol that’s a no for me.OMG 😱 how does this mistake keep happening to so many men only gaaaaaaasssp 🤔🤡 He identifies as a 21 yo male. 🤡🤡🤡🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 02:49 AM |
| 12 | My Boss confirmed as a LVMEep—I’m working with another girl who proudly calls her husband her third child. We get to work from home—which probably means he thinks she can work full time and manage two little kids easily. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 02:42 AM |
| 15 | To ghost or not to ghost“This isn’t working for me” — texts and calls are for someone who may have be awkward or it didn’t work but you could tell they tried. I texted someone recently that kept missing video calls — other communication was nice enough — lo and behold a boatload of texts and excuses suddenly from a different number. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 02:37 AM |
| 19 | How many of you slept with someone mistaking sexual intimacy for emotional intimacy?Be warned that one or two things may be displayed in the list even with a LVM. Consistency also matters. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 11:11 PM |
| 11 | I kicked someone I was dating to the curb due to his inconsistent behavior and game playingIt can be because someone has a rotation just because they are dating and maybe shy but honestly that person would warm up. Something in your gut will see the pattern. Usually it’s the pua bs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 12:33 PM |
| 62 | I kicked someone I was dating to the curb due to his inconsistent behavior and game playingEveryone can date others true but being hot in person and cold on the phone and on text is an actual PUA game. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 03:44 AM |
| 32 | how do i respond to "what are you on here for?"I’ll know it when I feel it/it happens. I’ve used: I’m looking for something real (has some context for more without being intimidating or leaving much room for manipulation and you can usually tell by how they follow up. To me, it gives the right guy who’s a little wary, too, room to be like okay, cool.) I’ve also heard: I’m in no rush. (But it felt a little casual — so I linked it to the “real” one. Revealing too much leaves you open for manipulation unless you are ruthless. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 02:29 AM |
| 8 | "I'm not judging you, I'm just looking at you!"It’s something I’ve repeatedly experienced as someone that has anxiety and PTSD too. My last long term ex couldn’t even say I love you and had the hardest time with crying. Crying would trigger him. Deep emotions would. (He had cuddly moments but yah ugh) It’s not you. Maybe some work on emotional control ie it’s a valid emotion you’re feeling right now and will pass—his bs is his bs. Takes some time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 02:20 AM |
| 18 | My friend's birthday surprise from her boyfriend (who makes less than her and knows this is her favorite brand) 😁🎂Awww so cute and sweet | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 10:52 PM |
| 21 | this makes me so sadIs he seriously feeling emasculated by this? Imagine when she births their child. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 10:23 PM |
| 8 | She should chose neither tbhI stopped at calling herself a hoe and then read it all to see if it was what I figured — ‘‘twas so | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 01:28 AM |
| 5 | What is it about men and the “girl hung up on her ex”?Yeah—I had a dash of that, too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 01:26 AM |
| 20 | What is it about men and the “girl hung up on her ex”?They get to yearn for romance without the risk of attachment and feed her with the nice guy bullshit and then run when she has some semblance of feelings for them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 01:16 AM |
| 2 | So I’m kinda beginning to feel like a fuckboy, becausePerhaps you could could be drawn to someone sapiosexually — have a few deep talks and something casual— but I earnestly believe it’s the same.... in terms of vetting. Decide what your terms are and vet for them religiously. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 01:11 AM |
| 5 | Had a first date that a friend arranged for me and this guy not only was very nice and put together but he changed a stranger’s tire who got a flat on their way into the parking lot!Awwww | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 12:38 AM |
| 33 | Feeling lonely todayIt comes in waves. I know. Months later and I still have the random cry but it gets less and less. The emotions are a wave that come and go—I let myself feel them and then fill my time. Maybe it sounds hokey and feels awkward first but really court yourself right now. We’re here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 08:51 PM |
| 30 | LVM getting 8K likes for saying with he physically silences women because he can’t afford a restaurant 🤦🏾♀️There are a ton of ways to do unique and affordable dates. (I know because I’ve done them for female friends who had shit weeks or months and I wanted to treat them and was broke af.) Asking her what she likes and how she likes to be courted, even if a man is still working hard on himself.... is like omg so hard and so high maintenance. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 08:45 PM |
| 29 | LVM getting 8K likes for saying with he physically silences women because he can’t afford a restaurant 🤦🏾♀️I am the table. Instruct the waiter to arrange a new booth and treat myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 08:43 PM |
| 3 | Are my expectations actually too highSadly, this has been a repeat pattern for many women it seems. Especially if they are SO INTO and future fake and freak out when you actually show “hey I like you too.” And we’re talking men of an age that should actually be men. Anyway, YES! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 07:41 PM |
| 2 | Any tips on figuring out red flags quickly?Write it down. The minute you find yourself making excuses and rationalizing for him... track it. Then you can look back and tell. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 06:40 PM |
| 8 | Thank you FDS members for your support. Here is my update.Some will even spin as they didn’t want to hurt you, keep hiding it, and then will gaslight you afterward. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 06:38 PM |
| 7 | Are my expectations actually too highThis is reasonable — you each may need to make adjustments based on life but your standards seem already reasonable and have taken that into account. A HVM would be honest about what he can and can’t do and strive to make something equal to your standards happen... if life happened. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 06:34 PM |
| 4 | A "friend" tweetet this just minutes ago. He cheated on his last three girlfriends and broke up contact with his mother and sister...He probably will while taking a reflective dump...then grunt, wipe the wrong way, and upon standing, fall head first into the toilet—a brain aneurysm felling him into the most adequate metaphor of his existence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 06:29 PM |
| 2 | I have no clue what just happened here. Not entirely convinced I’m not being punk’d or something....The Oh killed me dead | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 05:47 AM |
| 198 | Where's the lie though?I will always hold the door open for my fellow woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 05:12 AM |
| 52 | Share your world? This guy is single-handedly repopulating it!If this were the last man in the world...nah imma die | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 05:11 AM |
| 1 | "Aren’t they all just swooning for a man who’s whole personality and manhood revolves around paying things for women? Just call an escort"Isn’t this still slightly true in Germany? Nouns get capitalized? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 10:09 PM |
| 5 | BeardfishingWhat about eye fishing... where they pick the glasses that make them look 30 years older instead of ones that actually flatter them | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 10:02 PM |
| 7 | To you who message me warning about FDSI love how they do free marketing for us and help the women they are so insecure about | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 10:00 PM |
| 13 | DO NOT GIVE MEN YOUR REAL PHONE NUMBERI love the space background—just float off into a black hole 🕳 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 07:25 PM |
| 2 | Advice For Women Married To LVM?It’s a really good site for that and get notifications for different search terms sent to your email. Sometimes, something good comes up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 03:12 AM |
| 9 | LVM Bingo Time!NVM: Nest | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 01:29 AM |
| 5 | Just a little story about a scroteHe beats off to porn and has no real friends. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 01:26 AM |
| 1 | Advice For Women Married To LVM?https://www.indeed.com/jobs?q=IT+support&l=remote If anything catches the eye | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 09:41 PM |
| 3 | Since FDS... I’ve been unable to trust men. ANY man.This is the most accurate description of joining FDS ever | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 09:22 PM |
| 5 | She’s supposed to “cOmMuNIcaTe” to her grown ass husband that he shouldn’t treat her like a maid 🤦🏻♀️Exactly One girl in my professional circle jokes about having a third child—her husband and she works remotely — nope nope nope | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 11:33 PM |
| 5 | She’s supposed to “cOmMuNIcaTe” to her grown ass husband that he shouldn’t treat her like a maid 🤦🏻♀️I DID see one woman post about how she wished she were a lesbian and the rest of the post was “I am thinking pickmeisha me needs to die...” There are some folks in there that have hope. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 10:25 PM |
| 11 | She’s supposed to “cOmMuNIcaTe” to her grown ass husband that he shouldn’t treat her like a maid 🤦🏻♀️The more and more I read about men’s approach to parenting... aka waddling in a grunting... no thanks, no kids. Or adoption for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 10:23 PM |
| 15 | Since FDS... I’ve been unable to trust men. ANY man.I’m having that issue too—it’s like being a fish flapping in a puddle but with the ability to go back to the lake (FDS)... okay shit metaphor but I get it. Baby steps... and you can shut them out anytime. It’s a process. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 09:50 PM |
| 5 | Why do men feel like they have a right to give their opinion on your body and lifestyle???!“It’s nice that you lost weight and you look good but don’t lose too much or I’ll be worried about you” — I’m just 5 lbs short of being in my BMI — where I’m comfortable and not underweight. IE—more people looking and out of my comfy bubble of thinking you could transition from my fantasy harem to real harem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 09:48 PM |
| 1 | Will you win the contest?😉 😖With all that going for herself, why him? LMAO | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 09:25 PM |
| 8 | FDS stance on suggesting a date?Pickme territory with word choice. If the energy is there and actual word and actions are dancing around the subject, a little light banter can show your openness... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 02:57 AM |
| 2 | HVM Sexual behaviorNever got that one haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 03:58 AM |
| 74 | Presented without comment. Swipe to read all of it.That’s exactly what happens. You stop taking yourself seriously. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 02:31 AM |
| 2 | What Benefits Does He Offer for Your Love & #Commitment?-Deborah Cooper YouTube) Schools Us...Deb is the realest | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/20 10:03 PM |
| 9 | Married man (with kids) cut his wife out of his profile pic and still had the audacity to "search for friends, something more tbd". Blocked and reported.I think some pickmes also see this as oh he wants emotional connection with sex so it’s not just sex and he won’t leave his wife so no pressure but also maybe he will .... lots of wooooow please fix your psychology. And yes... women who think they are taking advantage of the LVM pool to finance their future. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/20 09:59 PM |
| 11 | "But I am getting help!"LVM relationships of year’s past where I felt like I’m the therapist after sleeping in my eyeliner. Possibly crying over his bs. 🙄 Nope. This is cue for... I’m talking to my ex or female friend I’m sexually interested in and want to put you on my roster. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/20 09:55 PM |
| 9 | HVM Sexual behaviorTease each other and let it build hehehehehe. Those sensory nuances are hot. The more you enliven the senses, the richer the experience. I just feel so satisfied getting a little moan out of them. Gotcha. You showed yourself and it was sexy as heck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/20 09:50 PM |
| 3 | How do you feel ok about your life after rejectionsFeel it. Feel what you need to feel. One thing that helped me some was yes it was real... what you felt was real... but what you felt about yourself... how good that person “made you feel” is still true. That’s you. That’s in you. It doesn’t go anywhere. You’re just grieving and feeling different emotions and that’s okay. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/20 09:46 PM |
| 7 | Guess who just ended a 10 month relationship with a LVMLeast it wasn’t a situationship hahaha. That was me. 🙋🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ Go you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/20 09:16 PM |
| 2 | 'I Think Quarantine Will Change Fuckboy Culture,' Says Stupid IdiotDefinitely a favorite | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/20 06:37 PM |
| 7 | Thank youHiiiii! :-) Welcome!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/20 05:36 AM |
| 34 | MY fiance “jokingly” said he wants to marry MY bestfriendThis. It was a neg and that’s low as heck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/20 03:11 AM |
| 33 | Re: men age like wine and are in their prime in their 40s. GOD HOW I WISH THAT WERE TRUEI know we had hookup culture in my mid twenties... things were just ramping up with Tinder coming on the scene etc but everything has gotten so much worse in just 6-8 years. That Halloween mask reference is on point. I had one guy who was 31 to my 33 and was a little muscular but mainly squishy, pre-dad bod. Not bad. But he turned me on so much... made my heart and clit flutter....and I was down for short term at the time (even long term but incompatible and pre FDS) but he was a fuck boy who di… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/20 02:57 AM |
| 10 | Male lurkers: cold approaching strange women is creepy and weirdSeduction the sub recently had a cold approach challenge. 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 10:07 PM |
| 11 | 'I Think Quarantine Will Change Fuckboy Culture,' Says Stupid IdiotReductress is a satire magazine | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 10:05 PM |
| 31 | Why do modern men act like taking a woman out on a date is a 'chore' and not a privilege?Their self esteem is that low. Yes. It lowers women’s self esteem too. Y’all let’s just work on ourselves. Come on men. Y’all can do this shit too. Plus shift the entire culture but yeah that’s totally doable in one generation haha. 😫 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 04:03 PM |
| 34 | If they want to impress you they will 👏That’s cool | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 09:47 PM |
| 13 | I got desperate during covid and ignored the FDS rules, and now I'm seeing the loser in him and want to break up with him but don't know how to do it nicelyThis isn’t working for me. That said...good for working on YOU. You’re making moves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 08:28 PM |
| 90 | Come on Brittany, you are better than this...Brittany, darling girl, the only thing average about you is your pick me mindset, and you deserve more than to lie there for three minute of drilling. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 05:40 PM |
| 19 | What do we think about burping and farting?Boiled eggs ladies. If they want to get rotten. Just boil a bunch, consume, and wait. Get him under the covers and go. Then grab your stuff and ghost. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 04:46 AM |
| 13 | She's a marriage therapist...has several other posts like this as well. Mostly men salivating over her posts as expected.Separation of church and state in therapy unless it’s the couple’s values. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 01:07 AM |
| 35 | Saw this on Bunny Michael’s ig story a few weeks agoToo many men go “oppsy I changed my mind” right after or said “I just said I was open.” Stop with the mind games. Women would be open to going with the flow with respect, expression, depth, and consistency but (LV) men aren’t capable of these bare minimum things. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 03:17 PM |
| 6 | Date with potential HVM but in need of some advice so I dont get bamboozledWell if nothing happens two days beforehand.... no plans, no presence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 02:13 PM |
| 14 | Date with potential HVM but in need of some advice so I dont get bamboozledGuys will drive hours for a chance in your pants. Yep. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 02:12 PM |
| 21 | Please help. This was the first person I dated after my divorce. He knew my husband had cheated and he did the same, all while promising he'd love me better. I need a brutal response befitting his scrotacity. All I can do is clench my jaw in silence.Yep. Three dots by reply in Gmail app and block. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 03:23 AM |
| 40 | Toxic ex sent me a “friendly” email to try to get in touch with me again. Don’t fall for it!“I need to own noobs” and “relentless campaign into three minutes of jackhammering” DEAD | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 04:50 PM |
| 63 | I just thought you deserved more presents...It’s very cute. See. NOT HARD. Very classy while being funny and unique. Score. Even if something is awkward but sweet and you really tried, heck yes I’ll blush. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 04:47 PM |
| 10 | I’m not falling for that shit anymore.👏👏👏👏👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/20 07:12 PM |
| 19 | Scrote 30+ year old targeting young 20 year old girlsThat’s very reasonable for your age. I dated two guys that were six years older—one HV and one LV. Eek. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/20 07:10 PM |
| 13 | I recently did a purge of all men I suspected were only friends because they wanted to sleep with me. Now I have literally no one around.I hear you! Join the FDS Discord. Lots of girl talk and it’s helping me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 05:59 PM |
| 8 | If a men is on one dating app he’s most certainly using all the dating apps available to him. Don’t take an action of deleting a profile as a sign of commitment.Yes. Round two of a textuationship. No thanks. Stick with the video games as your socialization and get off dating apps. Or, maybe level up irl? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 02:04 PM |
| 5 | If a men is on one dating app he’s most certainly using all the dating apps available to him. Don’t take an action of deleting a profile as a sign of commitment.Haha. I actually briefly worked for one of those sites in the UK (curiosity and books needed for school) not those specifically, but in the very bottom in the fine print it indicates that profiles are role players haha. It was so easy to quickly Google things and fool the fools. It was made up of photos they had commissioned and copywritten profiles targeting older men. Guys really believe younger women want them, but it’s all fake and being capitalized on because (low value) men lack self contr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 01:59 PM |
| 38 | i’m so glad this gave men another reason to generalize women and let them think they can do no wrong“WE wERe oN a BrEaK” comes to mind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 04:12 AM |
| 39 | I'm single until I'm married.Same after 3 2-3 year relationships. Bye. Done. Yes if it doesn’t happen I’ll be perfectly happy too haha. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 12:36 AM |
| 1 | Please fuck the robot and leave me alone. No loss on my half.Oh please... please be with the sex dolls. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 02:26 AM |
| 12 | Why Men In Their Thirties Won't Commit — Solitary BeastFree advertising 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 01:35 AM |
| 2 | Should the guy always text first?80/20 And in the rarest of cases maybe 65/35 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 06:59 PM |
| 13 | Trying to put FDS into practice. Critique me, ladies!Lmao I love the last line Raincheck ain’t gonna get cashed, buddy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 10:38 AM |
| 2 | Body issues and HV- Are they incompatibleI’m talking 9 months pregnant with beer baby men Yes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/20 02:27 AM |
| 3 | Body issues and HV- Are they incompatibleThe body does what it does. My type is more fit and average—I like squishy to hug. But I ended up with some pot bellies. I always read profiles first but I see so many people start to have health issues, major ones. I’m glad that I am holding myself to what I want. Comparably, I’m working on my health too. I want a life partner, not to be a caretaker, especially to a manchild that harmed himself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/20 10:24 PM |
| 5 | I am not beautiful. I am socially awkward and don't know how to flirt. He can do so much better than me. Yet, he chooses to spend his time/energy/money on me. Is this a red flag?Can verify that I did the pushing away | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/20 07:16 PM |
| 11 | My best friend of ~20 years keeps ditching me for her BFSeconded. A friend of mine had to slowly realize she was doing this, and part of it was that another female friend and I decided to pull back when she suddenly became available. The reciprocity rule works for all relationships--if you're investing more, stop. Also, it would help if you can nail down concrete plans with her, like a date. Instead of go with the flow-which is easier to flake out of... She has a pattern she's now used to with him and with you... Here's hoping you can form a healthie… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/20 09:13 AM |
| 12 | SheRaSeven1: Throw him in the friend zone before he can throw you in the fwb zone & counter mstatements to male bsHer baby voice gets me everytime | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/20 06:13 AM |
| 15 | SheRaSeven1: Throw him in the friend zone before he can throw you in the fwb zone & counter mstatements to male bsI play them when I’m doing longer stuff around the house too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/20 02:47 AM |
| 1 | “Let’s just see where this goes”Yes! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 03:18 PM |
| 5 | I can't even. I'm good enough to fuck but not date wtfI feel the same and am in this age range | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 02:15 PM |
| 2 | Is there such a thing as a male pick-me?It’s exhausting and life draining to fill their holes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 02:07 AM |
| 3 | The 10 Stages of Giving Up on OLD.. I'm currently at stage 9 - withdrawal and FOMO - but I'm sticking to it! Anyone got any stages to add?10 1/2 but basically over dating and even marriage and men in general. Luckily, I’m bi. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 02:00 AM |
| 72 | I was reading replies from non-cheating married who were asked why they had refrained from cheating on their wives. The overwhelming response?I’ve sadly come to realize this, too, and wow. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 01:40 AM |
| 2 | Please support me this crisis, ladiesHi Twin! ❤️😈 👏👏👏 Thank you! That last sentence especially hit home. I’m in my early 30s so that last decade makes me go 🙄. Good for you! We got this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 12:11 AM |
| 10 | Men: You don’t need constant positive reinforcement or attention for doing minor chores. Just do them and shut up like every other adult woman has to do without flattery or compliment. Stop being man-children, step up and do your share.I feel like "Do you wash your penis?" is a dating/sex qualifier -ew | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 03:48 PM |
| 1 | Please support me this crisis, ladiesSame. I've had personal circumstances that really forced me to go into solitude and really look at every part of my life (still doing this) and figure out what exactly I'm doing here and with my future time (still doing this, hah). I'm not realy on social media anymore, and it feels great. I'm also not in touch with many folks, and it's let me know who is HV in my life in a reciprocal way. I really let the last LVM get to me--I let it all out, and was the voicemail and paragraph-sending pickmeis… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 03:15 PM |
| 19 | I went on my first date in months.We all have to navigate the pickmeisha deprogramming and good on you for asserting yourself! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 05:44 AM |
| 6 | Done with dudesI’m done, too, and it’s honestly freeing. If they come, they come. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/20 01:44 AM |
| 2 | How do you women feel about uncircumcised penises?I’m good with them and past partners seemed to feel more and stay harder longer and get off more than once | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/02/20 10:29 PM |
| 2 | How does FDS rule on inexperienced men?It’s still about their personality and if they are consistent. Value is still there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 11:34 PM |
| 15 | Being high maintenance is the ultimate self-defense.Hence the Hentai and video game addiction. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 11:32 PM |
| 12 | Did I do the right thing?Yes—otherwise it would be drawn out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 02:54 AM |
| 16 | He'll evEnTuaLLy fINd SoMeOne wHo will be available 24h7, also he's saying he's a busy man, he's a kindergarten teacher (I'm still waiting for him to block me lol)Sounds like someone mentioned this to him before | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 11:39 PM |
| 3 | Lovely FDS ladiesSo, maybe it's for vibes but Mine by Bebe Rexha AND lately especially Own Me by bulow. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 05:35 AM |
| 6 | Lazy menGirl I already went through this too and got into broken record mode—stare your piece and see (not for too long) or just vanish. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 01:44 AM |
| 8 | Yet another LVMStAY iN sKoOL | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 11:48 PM |
| 2 | Don’t apologize unless it was actually your faultThis is my biggest hang up | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 10:46 PM |
| 2 | I left a decent, good guy because I didn't feel worthy of himI left a guy like that because he had no backbone and it was just comfortable | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 10:46 PM |
| 10 | LVM thought he could get away with a $6 engagement ring from Amazon. His fiancee found out when she was going to resize it at a jewelry store otherwise she would've been fooled.He can just go back to Burger King to have it his way and Rule 34 his limp dick needs | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 10:39 PM |
| 8 | Another 40+ LVM for your pleasure.. as fun as it is to scour my past screenshots for you ladies this is just depressing and remind me why I'm so happy to be off the apps!🧐👌🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 10:25 PM |
| 4 | Speak on it, sisBare miminum asks sadly that ArE SoO HaRrD | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 10:24 PM |
| 4 | No Fuckboy Zone (Google Cal Reminders)Hehehe 🙄❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 10:20 PM |
| 4 | My leveling up.Congratulations on your accomplishments! I’m so happy for you. I also love the “I know I’m dangerous for men because I know I don’t need them sentence.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 08:55 PM |
| 9 | Crusty Paul McKenna "It was time to stop dating hot women", marries loyal PA of 25 years, someone please inform her she's too good for him!🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 08:00 PM |
| 70 | Comment: “just take this as a valuable lesson that if you want some ass, go look up porn”...as if that’s not the entire problem of why he felt like doing this🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡 Clowning early | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 09:59 AM |
| 5 | Dumped the FWB LVM Last Night“No.” Gorgeous 🧐😬🤡🤡🤡🤡🤣👌🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 09:36 AM |
| 2 | Dumped the FWB LVM Last NightSo beautiful and rewarding bahahaha PoOr HiM | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 09:34 AM |
| 3 | Dumped the FWB LVM Last NightBut 👀 one FDS lady might consider going a tad Dark Triad 👏😈 briefly and bye of course | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 09:33 AM |
| 1 | why I'm against paid nudesI knew (very briefly obviously) one straight guy who used to sell content to gay guys to pay for books | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 09:23 AM |
| 1 | there is no wall!Holy Duck, Goddess. And ok so let’s find some other women and post them 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 09:18 AM |
| 7 | Seven Friends Buy Mansion So They Can All Live Together When They’re Old - Healthy Food HouseI’m in | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 09:15 AM |
| 7 | Seven Friends Buy Mansion So They Can All Live Together When They’re Old - Healthy Food HouseI was just talking about something like this with another female friend. Glad to see other women are actualizing this. Fuck being some man’s mom or toy. Lol. I honestly want to open a community arts living room too and the other idea was a living/working artsy space. I can see this going in there. 😮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 09:13 AM |
| 3 | Frogs rule, LVMs drool!I have a terrarium. Keep the frogs lovely! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 08:55 AM |
| 2 | Frogs rule, LVMs drool!Frogs 🐸 Those frogs changed her life for the positive more than he will | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 08:54 AM |
| 2 | Every. Time.Looks like it is trying to be perv Primitivism which fits with the whole topic lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 08:22 AM |
| 1 | I swear, most men on OLD don’t even proofread their bios if they bother to include one at all.mostmen | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 08:17 AM |
| 25 | The so called pressure from society men are talking about is just regular life.Basic minimum Is JuST SoO HaRD PoOr Meeeeeeee | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 08:14 AM |
| 22 | The so called pressure from society men are talking about is just regular life.Or they are being “pressured” to pay for spreading their seed to all the baby mamas | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 08:13 AM |
| 11 | The third time he’s come crawling back offering nothing more than the audacity. It’s the truth ladies: guys only want you when you don’t want them. The only guy who one tries harder than a true HVM is a LVM who’s been nexted; their egos simply can’t handle it 😂I’m all for some of this bad bitchness lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 06:11 AM |
| 4 | Experienced FDSers - translation requestNot necessarily = situationship at best | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 06:03 AM |
| 8 | Level Up Check-In: what have you done lately to improve yourself?Signed up for online courses to level up my career. Taking more control of finances. Watching my favorite Queen YouTubers. Making better habits—well baby steps, like drinking the right amount of water daily. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 05:02 AM |
| 21 | All rappers are LVM and you can’t change my mindOh please, 2 men I used to date wanted: 1) me to move to his state and into his house on my terms 🙄 2) wanted to cook me one of the 3 meals he could make (chili) and show me the room that could be my art studio (yet couldn’t lock down a date). Boys no. Yes I financially struggled at the time but fuck that. I’m a Queen. Stop flashing your assets and showing your ass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 04:36 AM |
| 2 | Guy was straight up trying to use me for sex, I started ignoring him and three months later he pops back up with this gem... of course you regret it babe, I was the best you were ever going to get.It’s not our duty anymore 🙄😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/20 05:42 AM |
| 5 | Not Sure If He's Normal Or an LVMThis! They idealize you and romance you to partially stroke their ego to say see I’m a romantic guy and then you’re at their place. Minus divorce, I let myself stay in a relationship with a man who did this (he had been single for years and a workaholic) — took me out dancing and to dinner & then it was mostly his place / work always came before me unless I begged — he took on extra days last minute and would tell me when I had already gotten ready. He made tiny progress but I was always a pickm… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/20 12:42 AM |
| 7 | Saw this, promptly deleted CMB - Ladies, It’s Now Your Turn To Pay On The First Date - Coffee Meets BagelAnd do his emotional and mental labor Fap until he decides he wants to be a sissy since he can’t get it up anymore due to too much and...still complain | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 11:49 PM |
| 1 | Is romance an act men use to get sex?It’s definitely in the little details. They will show little annoyances that “they never do this” — I once had my shoes stuck and asked if one guy would help me unbuckle my shoe and thought it was cute when he went to help until he said that — and there was such disdain on his face. (The mask always drops — NEVER vocalize or show emotion when it drops; just leave. You will feel it— the moment your confusion hurts you, go.) It was sick. He turned out to be a real creep with a criminal record. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 11:46 PM |
| 0 | Is it me or are most men on OLD so f*cking boring?Which is why it’s also old 😬😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 11:29 PM |
| 8 | Is it me or are most men on OLD so f*cking boring?Yep—ye old jackhammer, if that. I’m moaning because it’s like being sea sick and I’m just trying to hold on. Was it good for you? Ummmmmm—no. I put up with that shit for 10 years in various relationships. I ignored taking out the trash. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 11:27 PM |
| 3 | Is it me or are most men on OLD so f*cking boring?That’s beautiful | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 11:24 PM |
| 5 | Is it me or are most men on OLD so f*cking boring?So boring and little basement boys who live with mommy or whoop-dee-do—you “leveled up” and have a job you hate and a house and fish you hold up to the camera like a cat that just killed a rat and wants to show me its asshole in the morning and gasp 😮 a motorcycle and your emotional support animal but your hobbies are still sportzing, video games and jerking off? Showing your toys doesn’t impress me nor does living in your house as your new mommy. Hard pass. I want a partner with an actual perso… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 11:20 PM |
| 1 | He chose game night. Should I dump him?No—to flip this—my ex worked long hours and it was pulling teeth to get him to go to something that meant the world to me. When I started keeping my plans, he got upset. (Before I found FDS) Balance in anything. Respect is mutual. But your standards are your own. That said. I really do believe that each person in a relationship should sometimes say screw this routine—we’re going to make special time—I’m going to make this happen for you—because it reinforces being special to someone—being someon… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 02:47 AM |
| 7 | How to justify a guy paying for the date if I realize I am definitely not interested?Point | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/20 11:33 PM |
| 13 | How to justify a guy paying for the date if I realize I am definitely not interested?Then there’s also mutual respect — he’s a genuine gentleman but there’s no spark; and that’s okay. So... this isn’t one you’ll block or not text back to say “It was nice getting to know you but I didn’t feel a spark—good luck out there.” (depending on your preferences and how you handle things)... You met each other’s standards and mutual attraction to go out once and it didn’t work out — that’s ok. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/20 11:28 PM |
| 41 | Visualize your ideal self, then start acting like herExactly #queenshit | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/20 11:24 PM |
| 3 | BEWARE OF MARRIED MEN!It’s a whole fetish for many | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/20 02:22 AM |
| 3 | Being with my "friend" from flirtationship in the same dancing classHe is nothing. This is your passion. What do you choose? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/20 02:21 AM |
| 9 | Should I block him?Block him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/20 01:44 AM |
| 1 | Remove Your Ego — You Don’t Need to Respond to Subpar Behavior (Just Because He Chases Doesn’t Mean He Wants You) ouch but trueNever let a man take up over 20% of your time... don’t slip into love bombing or spoil testing—$ + consistent attention... you trust him and let your guard down. It’s like rent—don’t let him rent all the space on your head. https://youtu.be/rUJSqJ3P2ZI Avoid this male ego trip | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/20 01:02 AM |
| 2 | I just need to ventI dated an older man who immigrated, but thing is — he put in the work to get his degree. You have to do the work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/20 05:44 AM |
| 4 | He hurt me as a mean of revenge for hurting him in the past. What should I do? It hurts, but I want him.I’ve been there... at least declare no contact for one month and see how it affects you. Xo Don’t call yourself pathetic—you’re empathetic. But you have to put yourself first. Here’s your permission, lovely. I did fall in love with mine a little but I didn’t fall in love with this bull shit. 🤣 byyyyyeeeee | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/20 02:20 AM |
| 2 | Failing at the first hurdle - help on being assertiveI downloaded it to read. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/20 02:16 AM |
| 13 | Is anyone here watching Love is Blind on Netflix? Interesting from a FDS perspective!Yeah the way he freaked out — he really needs some more therapy with emotional regulation. He does seem like he’s worked hard to do some self work but deep rooted trauma needs a big support network—especially since men have repressed their emotions for generations. I hope male lurkers work on that. I have childhood trauma and plan to seek more therapy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/20 02:16 AM |
| 3 | I am 20 years old and have never been approached by a male in a 'normal' setting or even very much at nightclubs. What can I do to find a high quality male?Go to a poetry reading!!! :-) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/20 01:42 AM |
| 1 | Do not devote energy to leveling up LVMOooh yeah; a cluster B person mirrored and sucked my life away. Run. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/20 01:39 AM |
| 9 | You're Dating a LVM who has "the potential" to be a HVM. Should you leave automatically, or try to help him level up?You’re doing way too much work for him and to stick around and have him on rotation — I’d say he should be making progress. Any connection should add value—reciprocation. Dramatically step back and the stop being the facilitator and give it a brief time limit—see what happens. If anything, maybe this is something you need to learn too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/20 01:22 AM |
| 7 | You're Dating a LVM who has "the potential" to be a HVM. Should you leave automatically, or try to help him level up?I considered a guy who was like this for FWB/but there were feelings too & got looped in by his heart vs inconsistency, though he was good in many ways — to me, he needs to meet my bare minimum & that’s reciprocation and give and take. If you expected more than he can give and stay after repeatedly “trying” and “waiting,” what’s the point... My situation did teach me my own weak areas though and I don’t regret meeting him. Just be realistic and always be prepared to leave AND definitely have a r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/20 01:19 AM |
| 10 | This guy has been hinting for weeks that he hopes we can get together soon but never offers any ideas. It finally made me snap.Just cut off 2 who couldn’t make plans either and it was disappointing—and I gave them more slack than I should’ve but no. Bye. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/20 07:50 PM |
| 5 | The carecrow - let me introduce you to one of my least favorite types of LVM!This is what traps so many women in their 20s. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/20 01:32 AM |
| 3 | The carecrow - let me introduce you to one of my least favorite types of LVM!Or well someone gives a damn about me and is my mama-therapist | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/20 01:28 AM |
| 7 | What if I don’t want to get married? Am I not a HVW?Some threads have addressed this, but I really think that we should add some posts to the handbook in its own section if this is a goal. There’s enough demand. Yes, FDS is more focused on leveling up our lives and selves, but this is a topic that keeps coming up and something I’m interested in in terms of proactive experiences and not negativity. However, there is a real risk of being a GF for life in terms of just being a role and being comfortable (not in being your full selves with each other… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/20 01:20 AM |
| 22 | Yes they do...The minute you show COLDNESS.It’s that high? 4.3% lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/20 12:57 AM |
| 27 | Yes they do...The minute you show COLDNESS.They do in the first few weeks and ride the high and then panic lmao and that leads to our heartbreak because we keep it consistent and finally start to trust the rush around the time they pull away. 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/20 12:56 AM |
| 4 | What I do [27F] with my boyfriend [23M] that start to talk about his ex?You’re not his mama, bestie or free therapist, he has to go. Take out the trash. “Ok. Well, good luck with that.” Don’t reply to him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/20 12:54 AM |
| 25 | Well, your advice turned out to be true, thanks.Oh they’ll lie and say they didn’t intend it or pull some go with the flow thing... they know. I fell into these traps and stated by boundaries every step but they view that as simply plastic barriers to knock down. One guy I had told about the dating bs both men and women have to go through— you’re dating “the wrong men” 🙄🤔👀 but he actually had depth and kindness—so I trusted when “he forgot something” and said I could come in or wait outside and pulled a PUA tactic—looked it up later and it wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/20 12:35 AM |
| 30 | We are changing lives out hereNo shame in feeling your emotions and analyzing yourself and wanting to be the best person you can be. The most whole person who can be there for themselves and others in a healthy way. Love this. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/20 12:29 AM |
| 42 | HVM...but kinda just...not feeling it.It’s early—keep him on the rotation. If you don’t feel it later, take him off rotation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/20 12:22 AM |
| 27 | Anyone else wonder what dating a woman would be like?As a bi woman, I’ve been use by other LVW who are bi and it really put me off of exploring that part of me—every time it was linked to their LVM ex in a way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/20 10:24 AM |
| 39 | To Male Lurkers: Match Her Effort or She'll Think You're RepulsiveI pictured her hosting a brunch and there he is scratching his belly and hawking up some chew and spitting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/20 07:59 AM |
| 1 | How do you feel about sending additional photos?ALSO one dude did to it to have a preferred pic of me to taunt his ex—I swear—glad I dodged that drama | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/20 05:45 AM |
| 8 | Marriage Is HardAnd also go out with some girlfriends — if you had this situation, I’d doll up with you and go out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/20 09:47 PM |
| 21 | I hate how I constantly crave male attentionYeah just tell him and be honest. That’s something that men and women need to do better by for each other. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/20 08:36 PM |
| 89 | Watch as men get exposed for failing to know basic information about their significant otherBasic favorite meal of most men and she had a tattoo—woooow | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/20 05:26 PM |
| 5 | Would you date a boring man? Does a boring man = LVM?It’s a version of settling to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/20 04:23 PM |
| 3 | (TMI for some) Self-Love with masturbationI literally haven’t touched myself in three months and did this twice in one month with routine outside adjustments (self work and habits) but okay. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/20 02:52 PM |
| 4 | Can we create a 12 step program for fuckboy. Want to keep it a #FUCKBOYFREE2020The chemical thing yessssss | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/20 08:45 AM |
| 20 | At Risk Pick Me Youth Seeking AdviceHey hon—I got into a situationship and let that continue on after my breakup with my LVM ex. And jumped into dating at the urging of my situationship dude and none of it was pretty. I even reasoned I’d make it hurt my heart anyway by chasing so I wouldn’t fall for bs anymore. Yeah that was dumb as hell. Many don’t endorse FWB here in FDS. I know I need emotional connection for sex. Sounds like him hooking up affected you and it’s still disgusting that it was right in front of you. Definitely sea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/20 08:02 AM |
| 4 | (TMI for some) Self-Love with masturbationWell, yeah, that'd be weird. Just had a good result lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/20 07:35 AM |
| 6 | When men go to gym - lift weightsGood | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/20 06:51 AM |
| 16 | Stay at home mum takes care of 5 kids and LVM husband doesn’t even manage to get her gifts.Men just want to run on autopilot and this guy can’t even do that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/20 04:55 AM |
| 18 | Love. This. Sub.❤️❤️❤️❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/20 04:47 AM |
| 8 | Should I lose the weight before I start dating again?Agree—you don’t sound ready to date. I think I’ve been through so much, too, that I need to take some dance classes or boxing. Twirl and punch, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/20 06:43 PM |
| 19 | A recent date with a LVMHe was intimidated and just generally LVM | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/20 04:41 PM |
| 2 | Poor him. It must’ve been so hard for him. She should have been more understanding...❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/20 04:28 PM |
| 7 | Why are women so heavily sexualized, but not men?couch creatures | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/20 09:21 AM |
| 59 | (F36) (M36) My ex-fiancé (8yrs) is on a Valentine’s Day overnight date and used my Hotels.com account to book it. We’ve been broken up for 9 months.The cancellation would have been sweet. Take the free nights. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/20 09:20 AM |
| 6 | What I’ve been saying!Exactly xo But it’s so hard to find these days | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/20 07:54 AM |
| 61 | A literal herd of LVMs. 🤡 🤡Awwwww poor baby is without mommy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/20 03:02 AM |
| 43 | What I’ve been saying!The they complain about how they can’t connect and find love 👀🤷🏻♀️🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/20 01:27 AM |
| 43 | Poor him. It must’ve been so hard for him. She should have been more understanding...Say it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/20 01:25 AM |
| 47 | Ladies, I really need your opinion/advice...16 years vs Now Noooooo He’d have a long history to make up for. Agree. Ignore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/20 12:33 AM |
| 1 | Getting a plant helped me focus on myself and change old habitsI made a terrarium out of my old aquarium. The plants live. I had cycled my tank properly but 🤷🏻♀️. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/20 07:36 PM |
| 8 | DomDaddy? Mommy Is Disappointed He Hasn’t Cleaned His Basement Yet. He can offer you Coca-Cola bottles he has sipped from! Line up young thangs!He probably doesn’t even wash his balls | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/20 04:36 AM |
| 10 | Is this grounds to breakup with my boyfriend or am I being dramatic?Lots of red flags and he doesn’t even want to improve his own life. Run hon. We got you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/20 03:15 AM |
| 5 | DomDaddy? Mommy Is Disappointed He Hasn’t Cleaned His Basement Yet. He can offer you Coca-Cola bottles he has sipped from! Line up young thangs!“35” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/20 01:52 AM |
| 5 | Some random man just messaged me asking me to be his sugar baby....👏👏👏👏👏🤡👏👏👏👏👏👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/20 01:52 AM |
| 7 | Iraqi women march in Baghdad’s Tahrir Square to demand equality❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/20 10:58 PM |
| 1 | What is this creature on his face? Please tell me it’s one of those animal onesies from WalMart?I really hate this comparison because it’s sad—but it makes me think of people who don’t treat their dogs well and then after months take them to the pet salon to clip off the matted fur because the poor baby can’t function—use the restroom or walk. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/20 10:56 PM |
| 7 | Ladies, can we talk about Love is Blind on Netflix!?Ok I’m watching this now while I work | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/20 08:13 PM |
| 10 | Some random man just messaged me asking me to be his sugar baby....I’ve been on the bus—nah, this is walking home 5 miles from your job because the bus isn’t reliable but he’s going to meet you at your house with a tulip he plucked out of the dirt from the lil old lady’s yard for some..... 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/20 08:09 PM |
| 29 | Some random man just messaged me asking me to be his sugar baby....So basically he’s so porn sick that he’s been jacking off on the regular and thinks his little Target budget will work on anyone. 🤧🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/20 08:06 PM |
| 16 | Tinder scammers trick the app into showing their profiles overThis is literally every tool on OLD or the insecure little boys that had one girl break their heart—then they just give up to turn into fuckboys and expect us to go along with it. Love doesn’t exist anymore because boys are too afraid of emotion or even talking about them. No emotional resilience. Jeez. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/20 08:03 PM |
| 4 | What is this creature on his face? Please tell me it’s one of those animal onesies from WalMart?Scroties have new tactics. When they can’t do the whole “push up bra = beard fake level up,” when they can’t grow one, they glue the belly button lint collection to their faces. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/20 07:53 PM |
| 9 | What is this creature on his face? Please tell me it’s one of those animal onesies from WalMart?😖😭🧐🧐🧐😛🧐 You hit all my feelings | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/20 07:50 PM |
| 14 | DomDaddy? Mommy Is Disappointed He Hasn’t Cleaned His Basement Yet. He can offer you Coca-Cola bottles he has sipped from! Line up young thangs!Yesssssssssssssssassasasss 🙈🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡💩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/20 07:49 PM |
| 11 | I’m having a hard time accepting HVM behavior and treatmentThis is still about what you want, too. Don’t forget that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/20 09:52 PM |
| 12 | Talk is cheapI’m friends still with a guy who felt really bad years ago for a failed relationship/situationship with me and every single time he’s been there to provide emotional support and helped financially with no strings. It ain’t broke. 🤷🏻♀️ I actively listen, too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/20 06:16 PM |
| 14 | Need some advice. Ya girl is lost. Complicated FWB situation.And it also sounds like he’s caught up in his confused personal drama... so even if the start hadn’t happened like this... is it worth it? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/20 03:29 AM |
| 19 | Need some advice. Ya girl is lost. Complicated FWB situation.Girl don’t get into the pattern. You did right. You deserve better. Dick is abundant. He needs to fix himself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/20 03:24 AM |
| 2 | He Didn’t Lock Down Valentine’s Day & 😲 Can’t Believe It’s Not Butter (HVW/FDS traits)Yessssssssss | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/20 02:39 AM |
| 3 | OLD but FDSThisssss Was it for good for you? 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/20 02:13 AM |
| 6 | Uncertain❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ We have all had our share of LVM and pickmeisha fails Run. Run. Run. And block. Block. Block. He’s gaslighting you. Drinking isn’t an excuse. All the red flags are there. Runnn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/20 02:11 AM |
| 2 | I'm enjoying the 90s Pickmeishas, but how about a 00s Queen for inspiration ;)Reverse Felicity | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/20 01:54 AM |
| 2 | How often did older men stare at you when you're younger?As soon as puberty hit, but especially age 14, they’d follow me around the thrift store was the scariest one... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/20 01:53 AM |
| 3 | Tips to recover your self esteem after falling for a fuckboyI neeeeed this toooooooooo Focus hard on career and goals and things that make you feel amazing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/20 12:12 AM |
| 9 | I really need to vent in a safe space like this sub :)Keep the FDS days to set & confirm in advance in mind—this will show more about him. :-) Keep us updated. ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/20 12:07 AM |
| 10 | I really need to vent in a safe space like this sub :)Listen—I am in my early 30s and went out with a 37yo and he had an 8 year relationship end a while ago—it takes a while to get over that and it sounds like you are not in a place to deal with potential gray area drama. He shows up with some HVM traits but got “busy.” We are too old for this nonsense. Avoid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/20 11:45 PM |
| 13 | Are nuclear families bad for women, who become isolated with a male partner? Or do they give her freedom from her extended family? - Atlantic Article: The Nuclear Family Was a MistakeI really liked the point about kinship—thousands of years ago, people migrated and hunted together and were often not related. Today, many adults are single and isolated—many of us want to give up on love and want a family but don’t want the lazy toxic bullshit that comes with it. So, some people do find their tribes and still maybe have families that work for them and are happy. Here’s hoping. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/20 04:44 PM |
| 16 | "Good Vibes Only"Yep and it’s the same as “no drama” IE have no opinion or emotions. Be a GFE and sex doll. But add some 420. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/20 10:46 AM |
| 12 | He Didn’t Lock Down Valentine’s Day & 😲 Can’t Believe It’s Not Butter (HVW/FDS traits)They whine when she feels unloved and won’t do the bare minimum & thinking they are gentlemen for letting all the women do the work too... 💯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/20 11:47 PM |
| 9 | He Didn’t Lock Down Valentine’s Day & 😲 Can’t Believe It’s Not Butter (HVW/FDS traits)Yesssss | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/20 11:45 PM |
| 27 | Calmly tell a LVM that you don't like something he does early on and watch his reaction!ALSO He may riding the high emotionally of getting to know each other—had one apologize and even explain his emotions well haha and then poof — I got pickmeisha like when he thought I was more into him. He always has to be more into you or keep that under wraps for a bit...but either way, yessss he doesn’t handle it well—door. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/20 09:42 PM |
| 21 | He Didn’t Lock Down Valentine’s Day & 😲 Can’t Believe It’s Not Butter (HVW/FDS traits)Yessssssssssssss | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/20 09:11 PM |
| 45 | He Didn’t Lock Down Valentine’s Day & 😲 Can’t Believe It’s Not Butter (HVW/FDS traits)I love the second to last paragraph “...cause that’s supposed to be romantic.” Ooh you have some feelings that now you think are heavier, huh, man? Might want to do something about that. You got a window but it’s closing. Communication matters. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/20 08:51 PM |
| 33 | He Didn’t Lock Down Valentine’s Day & 😲 Can’t Believe It’s Not Butter (HVW/FDS traits)Yessssss This is why I shareddd Mr Waffle 🧇😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/20 08:46 PM |
| 5 | [Discussion] How should I proceed with trust - can I reasonably require men to show me their phones in relationships?Yup you can hide app icons now — so like whisper and tinder could look like something else—plus password protected vaults etc...why headache... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/20 08:37 PM |
| 5 | Recent breakup and trying to figure it all outDodgy as af with anyone; look at his history. I know it is so hard to detangle all this, but you don’t have to—I have to keep telling myself that last part too. Sometimes, these guys they do honestly do some very good things and they have the heart of gold and they are so real with you, but they also have a fuck ton of baggage. Now, we all have our baggage, but when stuff goes on for too long, and there’s all this dodgy behavior, just know you did right by getting out. It’s time to set your stan… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/20 08:28 PM |
| 15 | Is there a sub similar to this one for friendships with other HVWI had a copycat friend that I tried to be gracious with and set boundaries only to be stalked and had my life taken over. My mom died at the same time and I ended a long term relationship last year. It made me feel low value. I isolated. I’m in the process of rebuilding and putting myself first, recovering everything I put on the back burner. I feel this. Emotionally, I’m still hypervigilant. Cut her out of your life and ignore, or slowly ghost because these people can be crazy—just get her out … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/20 05:30 PM |
| 41 | I get this line maybe five times a day. This is my response.Some guys have that fetish too 👀🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/20 07:09 AM |
| 26 | Why Are They Non-committal?Yup always check the questions—the radar usually spots inconsistencies—so even if they lie lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/20 07:01 AM |
| 33 | JLo Discusses How Being with LVM Ben Affleck Almost Finished her - But Knowing Her Own Worth and Value Eventually Saved Her.🤣 Literally just put a chip in my mouth at the time I clicked on his pic 👀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/20 06:43 AM |
| 8 | Can we talk about “I’m not like other girl” pickmes? Like what kind of mental gymnastics must they be performing here?I’m confused too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/20 04:07 AM |
| 4 | Guy friend zoned me ?Exactly—gotta drill it into myself | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/20 03:49 AM |
| 4 | A freaky incident with my former LVM and a new (hopefully) HVM I'm seeing...That’s great!!!! Forward March. ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/20 02:05 AM |
| 5 | Oops, I did it againAnd don’t repeat the words lol That was my problem—being a broken record with enough intermittent reinforcement and mixed signals. Bail at the confusion first. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/20 01:59 AM |
| 2 | He literally WON'T contact me over the phone. But acts interested when we see each other.Yep, this is the link: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/f11yry/20_dark_psychological_tactics_undercover_lvm_will/ to the post u/modernmedusaa made | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/20 12:40 AM |
| 9 | Tinder creature remains determined and persistent 🤡But did you text her about the choking? It’s the new woke of sexual liberation in feminism. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/20 12:02 AM |
| 5 | Does anyone know of any FDS approved dating blogs or coaches?The celebrity relationship analysis ones are interesting because it’s a lot of personal reflection and some things have got me to think. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/20 08:21 PM |
| 8 | "FDS is sexist, they don't allow men to post" MEANWHILE...Hee hee thankee | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/20 06:13 PM |
| 3 | Ladies: read it once, and read it again. Your self-esteem may fluctuate, but your self-worth is CONSTANT. A daily reminder to take no shit (including mean thoughts from your own brain).That hit home | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/20 09:59 AM |
| 0 | Did I take it too far?I definitely have had the worst time with this as a pickmeisha behavior (reactivity due to frustration, especially at going unheard and not walking—got so sensitive that I just get anxiety; work in progress) that I need to get rid of and this is so great to put into practice as a HVW trait. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/20 09:57 AM |
| 3 | [Discussion] What are your deal breakers, and why?Distancing/stonewalling — leave a little space for reasonable excuses. But wait no longer. Bail. You have to let your person know they matter—those little special moments matter—and we should be doing those for our loved ones, too. HVM trait I’d definitely look for—if busy, does he still take 5 mins out of his day to do something earnest and special for someone? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/20 09:52 AM |
| 17 | Advice from the Aunties-Manners: Does he help others? Is he polite, but stands by his values? Does he hold open the door, walk on the side of traffic to protect you? My grandparents were very Christian and had some traditional roles but also grew up poor and the women had to work. My grandmother farmed and worked—she was the last to retire and became the breadwinner. They split the heavy work on the farm but he mowed and she cooked and cleaned, except with car stuff etc. But he also taught me how to change the oil and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/20 06:49 PM |
| 4 | What are some ways of implementing FDS when I have the higher libido in the relationship?And some related aspects of smoking, diet, and other poor habits...but yup porn sickness. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/20 01:41 PM |
| 8 | My experience of LVM vs HVMLove how you handled the housework contribution— I ain’t your mama, indeed. Same with child rearing. You have to be there—end point blank—for the important things and diaper stuff—better be sure we can hire help. If kids at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/20 10:04 PM |
| 5 | Marriage Dynamics-- can they be broken?Getttttt itt 😜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/20 08:59 PM |
| 7 | Don’t you dare put the letters back...😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/20 01:55 AM |
| 6 | Is it ever appropriate to initiate a date?I saw another post that little gestures are ok once you feel secure but I am definitely learning!!! I don’t know about at the two month mark but maybe a small thoughtful gesture would be ok, still with him being the man you know lol. I’m sure the other ladies will have ideas. I’ve wondered about this, too, some. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 09:39 PM |
| 2 | I wonder if I should change my profile to make it so I am a HVW.Yes! Open ended ones are great! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/20 07:48 PM |
| 4 | I wonder if I should change my profile to make it so I am a HVW.Also adding: Break up big paragraphs. Eliminate repetition. Avoid passive voice: “I would...” Rework sentence structure to avoid multiple uses of “I.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/20 07:46 PM |
| 3 | Last text was a week ago, don't buy their excuses lady, even if they're hot afHaha I have friends that only check in once a week or so, but we have a quality exchange which is nice so I know they’re not blowing me off and things happen. So not really. Ironically, I know that I have a bad habit of not reaching out to some others that aren’t my main folks so I do a habit of “hey just checking in and hope you’re well...” once in a while. Everyone’s different | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/20 05:15 PM |
| 21 | I think reddit may be affecting my mental healthA younger male friend said they worry about the same — is she going to text back soon, should I text first, did I mess up? So that’s relieving... a few are still out there... but I really feel this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/20 03:10 PM |
| 4 | Friendships Between Men And WomenMy male bestie and I were originally attracted to each other...but life took a different course and he and I are very close friends who respect each other. I adore him and vice versa. We even talked about it—maybe life could have been different but I don’t look at it like I missed out. I’m happy and so is he. I also have close male friends who there was no spark with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/20 03:06 PM |
| 2 | Female Long-term Relationship/Marriage Strategy?Yeasss hehehe Or actually that is a point—I wish we could have a blingy gif that just linked right to all the FDS Success flairdom 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/20 07:13 PM |
| 31 | Shame about that wall...Thisssssss | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/20 02:49 PM |
| 1 | WWYD? The Morphing ManHe is cleaning up and working on himself but that has to come from himself too—I’m worried about his own insecurities here. It has a tinge of Barbara the Builder. Invest less is my advice and keep dating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/20 10:44 AM |
| 2 | Update on previous post. Need adviceMark it as a squinty-eyes moment and go ahead. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/20 11:07 PM |
| 1 | Need advice!Low value with efforts to appear to do the bare minimum | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/20 08:22 PM |
| 15 | Where’s the lie“I don’t want to disappoint you...” Ok.. here’s who I am, how I work, etc... oh so you didn’t mean that, and I just gave you the key to breaking my heart, even though you seemed to listen to me and want to know me. We would talk every day, and then suddenly you wanted to ignore me for all the reasons you said you cared about and for me. That’s the way of it. Yeah, bullshit, FDS all the way! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/20 08:28 AM |
| 2 | What’s your strategy when dudes just drop their # in convo?Text Now is good too. You can get calls and make them for free. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/20 01:17 AM |
| 5 | The same trash is choking the ocean ladiesRadiation 👀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/20 02:11 PM |
| 8 | Seeking advice - some examples of dating/relationship issues with HVMI assume communication issues too, but 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/20 02:09 PM |
| 1 | So his flirting is a little 🙄 but I used the “I’m overqualified” for the “Y U Single, girrrrrl?” Q 😂🤷🏻♀️💃Yeah this question always bugged me for that reason | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/20 09:16 AM |
| 1 | Miles Seeks Muse 🙄He came at me with “beautiful lips” and “wonder what you could do with them.” 🤔😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/20 09:15 AM |
| 3 | So his flirting is a little 🙄 but I used the “I’m overqualified” for the “Y U Single, girrrrrl?” Q 😂🤷🏻♀️💃It just seems too over the top. Got another honey. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/20 09:14 AM |
| 3 | So his flirting is a little 🙄 but I used the “I’m overqualified” for the “Y U Single, girrrrrl?” Q 😂🤷🏻♀️💃Yuppppp | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/20 12:02 AM |
| 8 | So his flirting is a little 🙄 but I used the “I’m overqualified” for the “Y U Single, girrrrrl?” Q 😂🤷🏻♀️💃Yuppppp | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/20 12:02 AM |
| 4 | “I’m a Feminist and apologize for all men...Oh and I’m a Dom and Plumber” ❤️😂Exactly | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/20 10:56 PM |
| 15 | The propaganda has arrived!💪 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/20 09:30 PM |
| 6 | “I’m a Feminist and apologize for all men...Oh and I’m a Dom and Plumber” ❤️😂dOmplUMinaturrrrr | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/20 09:05 PM |
| 20 | Trust Your Bodily Instinct When Matching & MeetingI think a lot of it actually is that many of us have high emotional intelligence and are sensitive, and in a very positive way, but we are so used to doing extra mental and emotional labor. So, in the face of silence and mixed signals, we see everything. But we don’t have to deal in that mess with others. So, I appreciate what you’re sharing here, and it’s definitely a reminder that I have to give myself very strongly this new year. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/20 07:26 PM |
| 1 | Best and Worst Cities for HVM200,000-ish size city populations & depends on the man... but two guys I knew that were very religious but open to actual discussion with people of other faiths without pushing their beliefs... grew... one is now an atheist and the other is Moravian but more easy going. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/20 07:16 PM |
| 1 | Podcasts - what do we think of Call her daddy?Actually, recently just heard about them. I like what I hear so far. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/20 05:12 PM |
| 3 | This is a mood!FDS but lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/20 08:49 AM |
| 5 | How to handle finances when you make 3x the amount that he does?This | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/20 03:48 AM |
| 5 | How to handle finances when you make 3x the amount that he does?It really comes down to you then and hopefully those questions help. Also, if things shift, how are you prepared to handle that? Will you resort to waiting around and letting it go? Will you enforce boundaries? How? :-) I thinks it’s important to really consider all that and your dreams too to keep it in perspective even while pursuing something you have faith in. Always protect your heart. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/20 03:29 AM |
| 6 | I realized I'm a low value woman and I'm feeling a bit downI hear you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/20 03:23 AM |
| 2 | A HVM can become a LVMOMG That first line! Yesssss I think many of us get caught up in that. Here’s a reversal aspect of that: So just as you have to wait for sex, you have to wait out his idealization projections of you... it’s almost like a fetish unto itself—I speak more of then”accidental nice guy fuck boys” — they are a plague. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/20 03:19 AM |
| 3 | A HVM can become a LVMI’m talking with someone who sounds HV but just mentioned video games and how he invested in a fancy gaming chair etc—gaming can be a cool hobby but I picture tabletop games and model painting more so... he said he plays 30 minutes in the evening and then on the weekend. (I had asked him: What’s the nerdiest thing about you? A potentially good vetting question.) I find that guys have their my life is boring habits (we do too ladies) and then get caught up in the honey moon stage and then once th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/20 03:17 AM |
| 10 | The men in my city are trash so I hired an elite matchmaking service to set me up with men in better cities #levelupbitchesI write! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/20 03:06 AM |
| 11 | Am I the only one thinking about turning gay?I’m bi and thinking of leaning toward the female side more. But it is different. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/20 03:00 AM |
| 2 | What to do about a guy I met online.You are young and beautiful, and you have many opportunities ahead of you. Distance creates its own challenges also, even two hours away. My first love (18M) and I (19F) met on MySpace (where it was social before music focused) and he lived 45 mins away. We started as friends and would have deep conversations. We talked all the time. We finally met after three months and confessed we liked each other. We were together for two years but it was intense. He also had mental health issues he finally … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/20 02:39 AM |
| 8 | WeAr sUmtHiNg sExYNo I completely agreed with you but I appreciate the clarification. I think they do have man mood periods though haha. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/20 02:08 AM |
| 5 | Is planning and paying for dates still HVM behaviour if they always ask what you want to do on the dates?I unmatched someone for this but because he wanted the info for a place when he could just Google it. I had done enough and it was hand holding at that point. I don’t want that relationship—Ask me what I want to do, sure, but have some originality—otherwise it’s like he wants a mama to give him permission. I think there’s a line we all have where we see the pattern. I told him why and wished him luck with others in a kind way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/20 09:08 PM |
| 12 | 1. FDSers don’t have crushes. 2. We don’t fall for mind games either. #blockdeleteIt’s good to have a crush on someone that is invested in you and it has momentum—otherwise you’re setting yourself up and we’ve all been there. But def keep the crush volume down. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/20 08:30 PM |
| 38 | This is a whole moodIf I were a man I would’ve been on time with flowers and treated her royal | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/20 08:23 AM |
| 5 | So here I am, loving dating and being single, not looking for a relationship. . . . and I meet a really great man!This is my case in my early 30s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/20 08:10 AM |
| 3 | Cringing at LVM OLD profiles may be giving me wrinkles “they messaged you” 🤢Ooooooh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 09:55 PM |
| 2 | I miss the guy who mentally abused me and played mind gamesThis is true | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 09:54 PM |
| 3 | [serious] any way to filter for well endowed men?Get a little hugging you from behind action on if appropriate to the timing of your connection. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 08:36 PM |
| 2 | I think I fucked upI DEF feel you though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 08:35 PM |
| 1 | I think I fucked upMaybe not. You set the standard. Don’t doubt yourself — we’ve done that far too long. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 08:34 PM |
| 6 | Should we give up online dating?It’s accurate | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 08:33 PM |
| 18 | This idiotI hate that passive aggressive backhanded bs showing insecurity. I got some comments on my art where it was “pretty good” and then “actually very good, you are very talented.” I said “Yes, yes I am.” Left it there and he asked if I was busy. 👎🤣 “Work.” More of that bs and he’s unmatched. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 07:42 PM |
| 17 | Enough said🤣🙌🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 07:30 PM |
| 15 | This sub saved me from a dangerous manI’m so glad you are safe honey and good for you!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 07:29 PM |
| 2 | Cringing at LVM OLD profiles may be giving me wrinkles “they messaged you” 🤢I’m mainly being funny, but I have considered some softmaxxing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 05:46 PM |
| 4 | Cringing at LVM OLD profiles may be giving me wrinkles “they messaged you” 🤢Lots of water especially!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 05:45 PM |
| 8 | Dating is awfulWherrrrrrrrre? Agree | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 05:23 PM |
| 63 | People really unravel over timeEverything you wrote was diplomatic and then I got to your edit and felt an extra special oh hell no | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 05:22 PM |
| 13 | Salvageable or not?Don’t think too hard. So far it seems balanced. Keep contact consistent but let him lead. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 04:27 PM |
| 12 | FDS as applied to F/F relationships; what works, what doesn'tI’m in my 30s hehe 😉 I exaggerate | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 06:19 AM |
| 1 | Is he worth it?Thing is...this has been a more than once situation. Look at the timing and the pattern. At least take inventory of the past. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 03:11 AM |
| 1 | Is he worth it?This. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 03:10 AM |
| 6 | We are going to be 50k very soon!! <3I do this in anonymous advice apps | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 03:08 AM |
| 1 | I need advice (30) FGo see family or a friend who will have your back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 03:07 AM |
| 1 | What makes a man commit?Just start being busy and filling your life with stuff that fill you up and date around (you take dating at your pace). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 03:00 AM |
| 20 | Separated, living at home with soon-to-be ex-wife -- he shouldn't be dating, right?It’s all about him—agreed. Do you just want to be a warm body? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 02:26 AM |
| 5 | Younger me earned the "Maybe he's just not that into you" BadgeIdealization and discard But demonstrating value after the fact like that sucks yep | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 01:54 AM |
| 3 | He asked me to coffee—I think I did pretty good?I’m getting clueless...and having to make a case for everything. He described his hobbies as watching movies and going to the gym. Granted I need to do self work too but 👀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 01:53 AM |
| 5 | He asked me to coffee—I think I did pretty good?I’m new to it too. And I think depending I might consider coffee as a prescreen too. I did have a good experience; he was a great guy but I was only ever comfortable with him. I did love him. Though I have heard some guys try to escalate the coffee to a walk to sex—that happened to me too 🙄. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 01:26 AM |
| 1 | He asked me to coffee—I think I did pretty good?I’ve gotten a HVM from coffee and agree but it’s against FDS I thought and wanted to try and what am I going to backtrack now? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 12:44 AM |
| 2 | Feeling despondent about OLD, LVM, and just dating in general.I feel like I should’ve told the wife but he had some traceable info about me and I had already been stalked myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 12:42 AM |
| 2 | TLDR must be an unicornI went right to height fetish | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 12:02 AM |
| 3 | Younger me earned the "Maybe he's just not that into you" BadgeThese are all great and super (sadly) relatable words. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 11:38 PM |
| 11 | Younger me earned the "Maybe he's just not that into you" BadgeThis 💩 Do not level up a man. I’m noticing you can tell if you are at similar levels and if he has ambition and passion in his life from initial convos too—-mostly they don’t. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 11:34 PM |
| 2 | Feeling despondent about OLD, LVM, and just dating in general.I know. 😔 I’ve been taking breaks too...but I’m so happy for you with all these amazing things you are doing and you are seriously inspiring me! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 11:29 PM |
| 5 | He asked me to coffee—I think I did pretty good?Point taken. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 11:17 PM |
| 2 | Should I tell my fwbI think a lot of young women are in this situation as the “norm” and it can feel confusing. I got back into dating after six years and fell into this trap. Look back at how you got to sex? Did he escalate it after you were hesitant—a HVM would back off. That happened to me. Eventually even what looked like an exception — oh he’s a good guy (please Google “nice guy fuck boy”) was a big NO. Agreed that you have to be clear. Somewhere there’s a post about saying — sex so early on really isn’t my st… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 11:12 PM |
| 14 | Not sure if I fucked upThe post mention is giving my gut bad feelings and also he hasn’t yet contacted you. We are now at Monday and nothing. Block. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 11:07 PM |
| 9 | Is this negging?waste of DNA 👌🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 04:58 PM |
| 13 | When things don’t happen..+2 willpower | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 04:48 PM |
| 18 | I graduated from university today! :)Congratulations 🎉🎊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 04:46 PM |
| 3 | Hacks to Improve Makeup Technique as You Ageanother from the YouTuber on posing for photos | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 01:07 PM |
| 21 | I’m half way in denial but I know I’m being groomed. Relapsed on my pickmeisha shit.I don’t have experience but you may want to look up typical Narcissistic techniques such as gaslighting. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 01:01 PM |
| 8 | Distinguishing the details in fuckboys and lvms. A roadmap to protecting yourself from heartbreak and dangerous menI dated a scientist who was 27 and plateaued in his 30s—going bald with no ambition and the same attitude. Don’t associate high value with high status symbols. Fuckboys can collect degrees the way they flash cars and their precious fish. Throw it all back! 🤣👀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 09:45 AM |
| 17 | "I'm looking for a woman who will clean my house, cook for me, and pay the bills. No gold diggers."His onesie awwwww; Mama’s basement boy! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 09:11 AM |
| 6 | As a woman who has really benefited from the this sub, I have some advice I've been nervous to ask at the fear of sounding overly materialistic.You need to be gathering this info now for compatibility and look at how he has or has not achieved short term goals. Is he making moves? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 09:10 AM |
| 12 | Wake up callKick him out. His mama needs to come get him because he is not your son. Is he on a lease or anything? Also the power, etc should be in your name; so he can’t pull petty stuff. If he’s on a phone plan with you—stop paying it, etc. You may need to think a little about timing depending on your situation... It’d be funny to drop his stuff at his mom’s house and change the locks. Definitely change all passwords and the locks — he should have no access. Prevention. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 09:01 AM |
| 39 | He is 28 and has never had a serious relationshipKeep observing. He’s aware of it being a flag — that’s a good sign. He’s communicating — good. Keep watch his actions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 08:58 AM |
| 28 | Friendships with HVW vs PickmeishasI’ve been going through some life stuff and had a friend who liked to have long LONG talks about issues. I love deep conversations about growth and want to work out issues, but I didn’t have the time or space at the moment—I was overwhelmed so I told her I could understand if she wanted to end the friendship. She did, and I respect her for it. We all have our limits and rough areas, but we still respect each other as HVW. Only a few people can handle aspects of where I am so I have stepped away … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 08:56 AM |
| – | Anyone in Tokyo: Tips for "inviting" date to a love hotel?Wow. | /r/seduction | 27/01/20 08:18 AM |
| 5 | I finally leveled up. Just gotta announce this to celebrate.Yesss and I finally learned to do this—check his followers and who he follows | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 05:06 AM |
| 12 | Do you text after the first time sleeping togetherStay no contact — let him reach out and don’t accept hookups from him. Reset your standards. I think there was something in the handbook/wiki about what to say to him. I finally let go of someone that I had that connection with too. 🙄😅😔😣😢 But also honestly — I think it’s true. They have to care more. It sucks. The handbook also pointed or a minimum of 6 weeks as a no sex guide — but it’s up to you. Most seem to prefer the 90 days as more effective. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 05:04 AM |
| 2 | Made me chuckle. Accurate!See this always makes me think of the cat killing animals and bringing it back to the owner—look!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 04:10 AM |
| 1 | Made me chuckle. Accurate!Or good old country boys in their late 20s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 04:04 AM |
| 2 | Men who keep talking about how hot powerful women areAnd if a c!ck, it’s still control thing—he could ask to bring another guy home and control the acts subtly and then claim abuse 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 04:03 AM |
| 3 | Men who keep talking about how hot powerful women are-4 especially They’ll pose it as questions with follow up questions to coerce to their narrative—manipulative | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 03:51 AM |
| 2 | Men who keep talking about how hot powerful women areThere’s should be a term for more of the LVM clingy ones aside from Bob the builder dustys | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 03:43 AM |
| 2 | Men who keep talking about how hot powerful women areTrue it can be a kink | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 03:40 AM |
| 5 | FDS FAQs Answered! Becky vs. DreamgirlI'd guess it's similar to the oops we had sex tip. Set the boundary/standard. That you were raised a certain way... or some other plausible reason tied up in your standards. I've seen a comment to not reach for your purse or anything but sit and be relaxed. Most likely he'll go for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/20 10:10 AM |
| 3 | RED FLAGS: Signs a Man Should Be Cut OffYou are in a relationship where you never meet his family and there's always an excuse (three years is plenty of time to meet family across the country) & doesn't count if he says certain people know. Whatever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/20 09:42 AM |
| 12 | RED FLAGS: Signs a Man Should Be Cut OffMirroring is another to lookout for. It's so strange how all of a sudden their interests match yours. There may be some originality, but that could be likely sourced from another partner or maybe they are a low-grade Narcissist, garden variety with major insecurity issues. Mirroring is natural to some degree, mirroring your posture and little catch phrases, but I have seen this in both OLD and IRL. Keep a tally of how many things they have similar to yours. One guy coincidentally had the same My… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/20 09:24 AM |
| 2 | Save your nurturing tendenciesUnfortunately too many people don’t know how to say this (I care but stop.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/20 06:21 AM |
| 3 | Save your nurturing tendenciesBut it’s a really interesting poetic image | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/20 06:20 AM |
| 8 | HVM with ? traits or baggage🤟 Good for him. Glad got healthy and took that HV action for you both then. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/20 06:09 AM |
| 14 | HVM with ? traits or baggageOh I hear that! Bare minimum 🙄🤷🏻♀️ And it’s not unreasonable | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/20 03:23 AM |
| 3 | Miles Seeks Muse 🙄Fragile pretty things I ended up doing a crying laughing emoji (you know what to do with them lips) and told him to call an escort and blocked. So predictable but 😂. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/20 02:36 AM |
| 3 | Miles Seeks Muse 🙄Yeah most just bumble through everything so it is pointless...but other times it’s pointless and even educational fun. No popcorn so I’ve been brewing coffee. I am much quicker to catch faux HVM and am just trying to see how I may react to some things and catch myself. Such had how I had a tendency to overshare in an emotionally escalating convo—they may relate now but will flip and use it as an excuse later. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/20 02:33 AM |
| 11 | Men who keep talking about how hot powerful women areHe’s got a fetish, especially if he keeps escalating that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/20 01:41 AM |
| 2 | Mostly Ignoring Men's Compliments on TinderTruth | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/20 07:18 PM |
| 2 | Mostly Ignoring Men's Compliments on TinderExactly. Do I care? NOPE. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/20 07:06 PM |
| 6 | Mostly Ignoring Men's Compliments on TinderI'm not expecting anything out of it. That's the point. I'm just being amused and thinking more thoughtfully and jokingly about my replies. I'm seeing what they will pull and am intrigued. In reality, I'd block. Right now, I'm bored. To me, it's helping me and it's fun to share. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/20 05:55 PM |
| 3 | Matt likes fish: Matt likes fish so much he had two pictures of him holding fish (LOOK MA!)Snapchat mentions 👈 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/20 05:08 PM |
| 2 | Matt likes fish: Matt likes fish so much he had two pictures of him holding fish (LOOK MA!)But twice! Lol His other one was like here is the fish right in the camera lol “LOOK MA!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/20 05:07 PM |
| 18 | Miles Seeks Muse 🙄Yessss I named him Fauxbrandt. He’s nadtastic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/20 05:06 PM |
| 5 | Matt likes fish: Matt likes fish so much he had two pictures of him holding fish (LOOK MA!)Yep | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/20 03:58 PM |
| 7 | How should I answer this question? If you tell them you want something serious they will morph themselves into boyfriend mode to make you comfortable enough to put out eventually. I don’t even know how to respond anymore. ***Overthinking***Hmmm 🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/20 02:42 PM |
| 55 | How should I answer this question? If you tell them you want something serious they will morph themselves into boyfriend mode to make you comfortable enough to put out eventually. I don’t even know how to respond anymore. ***Overthinking***The “thousands of years of instinct” and also remember if they go into too much detail... yeahhhh... “I’m just seeing what’s out there” if turning it against him doesn’t work... Honestly sounds like he is looking for booty. Right now I have a guy mirroring me 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/20 02:39 PM |
| 25 | Miles Seeks Muse 🙄Yup I caught one — he gave me his Instagram business and it took all of two minutes to find the wife he said cheated first. Idiots. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/20 02:29 PM |
| 5 | Desperate Housewives Fans? Which housewife was a FDS-minded HVW, and who was a Pickmesha?Bree had HVW traits but her insecurities about her extremes put her in a pickmeisha position. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/20 05:51 AM |
| 2 | Communicating boundaries/standards with him vs simply dropping him?It will go back and forth—I wasted my time for a few months. Ew. Walk. If he comes back he has to earn you with extra effort but I agree—do you want this? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/20 05:43 AM |
| 1 | Nipping Disappointing Behavior in the BudA little attention but you are the one who leaves first. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/20 05:33 AM |
| 2 | How can you keep/maintain a girlfriend when they just like to chase ?Also keep part of yourself for yourself. That’s essentially the advice male/female coaches give as care about them less... make sure you keep growing and she should too—is reality. I honestly think that’s why people are so sad and get divorced lol. And they feel like the lose themselves. | /r/seduction | 25/01/20 05:20 AM |
| 16 | Keep an eye on r/seduction the "pick up artist" subreddit. You need to know the new "tricks" they plot to manipulate women.Yep | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/20 05:16 AM |
| 2 | How can you keep/maintain a girlfriend when they just like to chase ?Too much ignoring — it was the point where I wanted some reassurance — consistent communication, respect and emotional connection since we both had feelings — it was supposed to be temporary and I was down because life is short. Dude was busy but it’s the little things that make a girl feel special — so I get the push and pull (I love teasing too) but pick up her call real quick for five minutes...but you can end it first. Little stuff escalates it enough. I know that I definitely have my own ov… | /r/seduction | 25/01/20 05:11 AM |
| 2 | “Fickle and shallow”Be friendly and fun but aloof and bring him to his emotional knees with minimal effort. Right now it’s the no contact rule. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/20 04:07 AM |
| 1 | What is the one thing you learned from PUA's that got you the most "bang" for your buck.Exactly — give me the real deal, let me know your communication pattern and overall needs and otherwise enjoy the connection and let it be. Respect. I appreciate that. It’s just really hard to know because most seem to be playing games and then women are made to feel too needy when they’re just checking in. | /r/seduction | 25/01/20 04:03 AM |
| 1 | First ever cold approache(s) (at 25 years old)Just laugh and say you know what you’re right — but thanks. And move on. | /r/seduction | 25/01/20 02:29 AM |
| 1 | I just went on my first date ever and it was the most awkward thing everFucking thank you | /r/seduction | 25/01/20 02:20 AM |
| 1 | I just went on my first date ever and it was the most awkward thing everThis is being sensual and you both get to find out what you like—from a woman. Wish more guys actually paid attention to a woman’s reactions and respected boundaries after the first no. Go back to the chemistry. It’ll naturally escalate or not. If you’re really into her. | /r/seduction | 25/01/20 02:18 AM |
| 1 | I just went on my first date ever and it was the most awkward thing everFrom all women please don’t boob grope or escalate to your dick | /r/seduction | 25/01/20 02:17 AM |
| 1 | What is the one thing you learned from PUA's that got you the most "bang" for your buck.As a woman—yeahhh me too. But I only fall into neediness when the pulling away goes too far and I actually liked the guy and he was full on with attention before. Unless you just want to fuck with a girls’ mind and get pussy. This is where games go too far sadly and hurts dating for all. | /r/seduction | 25/01/20 02:12 AM |
| 1 | What is the one thing you learned from PUA's that got you the most "bang" for your buck.Just don’t go to the other end of the spectrum. Be real. | /r/seduction | 25/01/20 02:11 AM |
| 1 | What is the one thing you learned from PUA's that got you the most "bang" for your buck.This—that’s high value | /r/seduction | 25/01/20 02:10 AM |
| – | What is the one thing you learned from PUA's that got you the most "bang" for your buck.Yeah but many women go on more dates than men and fall into fuckboy traps and that shit hurts and is disgusting—so no coercion guys. It really fucks with dating...especially when you actually like someone for who they are and would be dtf or do something short term if the guy was more emotionally invested. Just be real and shit will feel real, and be man enough to be comfortable with your emotions and holding your boundaries too. If you want to walk, walk, but be real. That’s high value for both… | /r/seduction | 25/01/20 02:07 AM |
| 1 | What is the one thing you learned from PUA's that got you the most "bang" for your buck.Women definitely need emotional and intellectual connection so build it up sensually and with confidence but be a real man and be honest. | /r/seduction | 25/01/20 02:05 AM |
| 1 | Quick tips for combating neediness and overthinking.As a woman, can’t say I disagree—but please just be real and upfront. | /r/seduction | 25/01/20 02:01 AM |
| – | Best Way To Set Up a Solid Date Over TextTip from a woman—also follow up the day before and not the day of—shows respect for you both but leaves enough of the push-pull. | /r/seduction | 25/01/20 01:58 AM |
| – | How can you keep/maintain a girlfriend when they just like to chase ?No this is negging and a narcissistic tactic. If you want sex and to be an asshole. Ok...if you want the girl, balance it with the real you. | /r/seduction | 25/01/20 01:49 AM |
| 1 | How can you keep/maintain a girlfriend when they just like to chase ?If you ignore her, eventually she will leave. | /r/seduction | 25/01/20 01:48 AM |
| – | How can you keep/maintain a girlfriend when they just like to chase ?I just walked away from a guy who took this too far and really loved him. Broke me. | /r/seduction | 25/01/20 01:47 AM |
| 2 | Do you tell a woman how much you like her?Thank you ❤️ | /r/seduction | 25/01/20 01:45 AM |
| 1 | Do you tell a woman how much you like her?But don’t wait too long. Men need uncertainty and women need security yes—mss with her heart and mind and you’ll break it which is why most women are they way they are because of pua tactics taken too far. | /r/seduction | 25/01/20 01:44 AM |
| – | Anyone in Tokyo: Tips for "inviting" date to a love hotel?Please don’t be this deceptive. This is coercion and you’re fucking with someone’s trust. | /r/seduction | 25/01/20 01:41 AM |
| 1 | 2nd time with 2 different girls i’ve ended up in a bedroom and they said they aren’t comfortable with going all the way?Serious just be honest respectfully or wait if you want her that much and be real with. Don’t escalate when she says no—that’s coercion. Makes a man look like shit. Or move on. | /r/seduction | 25/01/20 01:40 AM |
| 22 | HVM will want you to have a successful career and invest in itThanks for the glimpse that it exists hehehe | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/20 05:15 PM |
| 7 | Nobody:..... LVMs:Chest pubes exalting the uterus — whaaaaaaat | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/20 03:33 PM |
| 15 | Post Breakup Timeline😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/20 09:38 AM |
| 3 | How do you find meaning after building your whole life around one day settling down with a man?Early 30s here. Just went through something where I trusted someone and it’s the last time. (Never love a man more than he loves you—it’s true because women are more emotionally intelligent.) I pushed hard leaning into my pickmeisha tendencies seeing it wouldn’t go anywhere so I’d break my heart but hated myself for even ruining “potential” which I know all that sounds stupid as hell. But it kinda worked. My heart is just so throughly broken though but I’m bi so there’s that—but the few times I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/20 08:42 AM |
| 21 | Received this trash from a man with whom I've had a couple dates over the past year. All they have is audacity.The 💩 placement 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/20 06:46 AM |
| 1 | Romantic CompetenceDefinitely and I have a high emotional intelligence but need to regulate better because some people have a higher cognitive empathy (and are analytical) versus a more heart-centered empathy. Especially employing FDS, it’s something I need. I’ve been dealing with anxiety and it’s as a result of some serious life stuff — FDS is totally right that we can’t trust men with this, sadly. They just don’t have the capacity. I feel even more alone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/20 05:13 AM |
| 1 | Weighing choosing my LTR with a LVM, or giving a chance with a very young possible HVMGirl I’m in my early 30s and this this this this THIS | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/20 10:07 PM |
| 8 | I’ll bet she’s just playing hard to getThis is what one guy is about to look like from me. 🤬😢🥳🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/20 08:49 PM |
| 14 | Been there done that - If you don't want to get married againThis makes much more sense to me and I just had my heart broken and yeah it put me in a pickmeisha place but I think it would have happened even without a pickmeisha reaction. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/20 08:47 PM |
| 8 | Been there done that - If you don't want to get married againTHIS—so much reading of things like this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/20 08:46 PM |
| 13 | Been there done that - If you don't want to get married againI’m in my early 30s and already feeling this way. But I doubt that even that’s possible—it’s like we can have no hope at all. None. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/20 08:45 PM |
| 3 | Can I hear thoughts on yay or nay or any other comments on this situationBosses get off on the power trip. Avoid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/20 07:29 AM |
| 0 | Playings games bad or good ?All I said was communication, and making logical deductions (based on her standards) about his behavior toward her and how he upholds a boundary matters. If she chooses not to communicate, fine too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/20 03:45 PM |
| 1 | The “Hinge” dating and relationships app (among others) is bullshit.Only a “slightly better” app because they hide behind “see where it goes.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/20 12:09 PM |
| 2 | FDS works and I’m bummedCome in hot Queen! Do it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/20 11:17 AM |
| 3 | Yelled at during sex for showing him what she needs sexually. Questioning if she has a right to be angry. Sigh.“Don’t do that” is the classic lmao. I once bought the one nearly HVM in my 20s a book on how to eat out from a female perspective and he grumpily read it in his car on breaks. Ugh but also lmao. Cocktail time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/20 11:00 AM |
| 8 | LVM made a younger female teacher in my art class (adult evening class) extremely uncomfortable by commenting on how incredibly phallic her choice of still life was. Here’s a pic.Nah y’all— it’s reverse Freud—dude is vaginally envious of femininity | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/20 10:02 AM |
| 8 | LVM made a younger female teacher in my art class (adult evening class) extremely uncomfortable by commenting on how incredibly phallic her choice of still life was. Here’s a pic.Analogous colors simulataneously contrasted with LVM chroma bs 👀👩🎨 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/20 10:00 AM |
| 1 | French/European women of FDS: Advice for an American woman dealing with Parisian men?I didn’t lean in that far. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/20 06:41 AM |
| 1 | How do you find a good FWB? Do they exist?😜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 02:40 AM |
| 3 | I Followed FDS and I still don’t know. I’ve been overthinking and confused. Instead of calling me “pickmeisha” please help me.You had good boundaries but he seems lost in his life—and that’s key for LVM behavior. Bow your head too much and you’ll keep bowing it. Maybe bow out? Sounds like it’s still a bit of a rebound and many (LVM?) dudes do pull away, it’s important to do the same—but is this going somewhere worthy of you? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 02:31 AM |
| 9 | What's up witg playing the wifey card early?Peace out | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 02:27 AM |
| 15 | Date men who have bathroom etiquettePickmeisha naivety that thought a guy could be a friend back in the day m: One guy tried to poke and prod around my apartment after commenting how much he loved my natural look and how he wanted to see the real me—okay nosy. Then he planned down on my couch and tried to unzip his pants explaining he was making himself comfortable. Nope. And then got defensive. Ugh. Gtfo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 02:11 AM |
| 2 | Nipping Disappointing Behavior in the BudPoint | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 02:03 AM |
| 7 | Don't have the energy for over-discussing.Good! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 03:24 PM |
| 25 | Quick questionEven LVM will drive an hour and a half to groom a potential fwb so yeah that’s lazy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 03:23 PM |
| 3 | Nipping Disappointing Behavior in the BudYep! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 02:35 PM |
| 2 | Nipping Disappointing Behavior in the BudEdit ftw | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 02:34 PM |
| 10 | Anyone else feel like there are NO attractive men out there?Hahaha 😂 Every 3 months It’s like they’re on the endangered list and we have to tag them and track their movements through the wild—like geese flying n—>s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 12:08 PM |
| 15 | Anyone else feel like there are NO attractive men out there?Annnnd the map thing — it can show where you are | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 12:05 PM |
| 20 | Anyone else feel like there are NO attractive men out there?Mainly commenting on the looks point: Yes! I’m in my early 30s and ran across I guy I dated in my mid-20s. We checked up on each other a little. But I haven’t seen him much. The photos he used...receding hairline all the way back and all the gray hair and weight gain. I had gained some weight too due to a bunch of life stuff but lost it—I’m literally 5 lbs away from my college weight like 10 years ago and basically look the same. Obviously swiped left. Another ex I dated after him, were together… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 12:01 PM |
| 5 | Want to have high standards but I also miss sexI am totally that cuddly friend and send everyone major hugs and snuggles! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 09:13 AM |
| 63 | PRACTICAL TIPS MEGA ESSAY! Easy classy ways to signal your standards.I’ve given a sweet gentle laugh and said “oh my grandmother used to say...” and had a man immediately put himself between the sidewalk and me at that. HVM with traditional values. Too bad he didn’t have spine when it came to family. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 07:19 AM |
| 5 | Exactly:-) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/20 02:14 AM |
| 4 | Am I being gaslighted?Exactly—if they are taking steps, yes. He’s backpedaling and blaming you. No, girl. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/20 01:45 AM |
| 2 | Am I being gaslighted?He’s deep in his shit and this will continue—don’t placate him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/20 01:41 AM |
| 1 | [Rant] LVM get SALTY when you assert yourself... even if they don't want to sleep with you smhExactly | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/20 08:28 PM |
| 1 | Join FemaleDatingStrategy's buzzing Discord community! We maintain an active server where we talk about FDS essentials, how to become a high value woman, and other fun topics. Be a part of the FDS sisterhood now!Heads up—vocaroo didn’t work on mobile — had to use my laptop | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/20 06:49 AM |
| 5 | Anyone else here not actively dating/hooking up and not planning to ?Me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/20 06:15 AM |
| 6 | TF is going on tonight; their ways of saying casual is evolving. Wasted my daily OLD 20 minutes!That’s the response I’ve been looking for! 👌🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/20 06:10 AM |
| 15 | The REAL clingy sexYesssssssssss | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/20 06:07 AM |
| 17 | Most LVM dating strategy. *WARNING ONCE SEEN CANNOT BE UNSEEN*Accurate | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/20 04:18 AM |
| 14 | I fucked up and approached a LVM about "dating" and now he's spooked and I think it's finishedSh!t happens. Let’s not keep wading in it. dear self: take your own advice | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/20 12:40 AM |
| 1 | OLD Message Exchange—He asked me to coffee. My response (good?)+ what should I say next?Hahaha! Actually I wanted to see where the church thing went (He claimed time be a church going man), laughed and said bye. But I will let the sass out hah. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/20 12:26 AM |
| 2 | OLD Message Exchange—He asked me to coffee. My response (good?)+ what should I say next?Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/20 10:43 PM |
| -1 | How Do You Land a HVM FWB?Wow thanks—it’s not very HVW to be so disrespectful to another woman. I respect your opinion but this is not someone I’d want around me. Blunt yes but mean... wow. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/20 10:41 PM |
| 0 | How Do You Land a HVM FWB?It’s the age but I hear ya | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/20 10:41 PM |
| 3 | OLD Message Exchange—He asked me to coffee. My response (good?)+ what should I say next?Done | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/20 06:10 PM |
| 3 | OLD Message Exchange—He asked me to coffee. My response (good?)+ what should I say next?That’s brilliant | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/20 06:09 PM |
| 4 | How Do You Land a HVM FWB?Yeah I had one potential, couldn’t be together because of religious differences but 🤷🏻♀️ I know you’re probably right You are right That’s the case and I needed someone to show me that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/20 05:23 PM |
| 2 | How Do You Land a HVM FWB?Been there enough —appreciate you 🌹 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/20 04:45 PM |
| 19 | Any stories about a LVM who somehow manage to turn his life around and become HVM?I don’t know this magical stick that they pull out of their butt and magically transform but one day maybe haha But it’s the old pickmeisha hope That curse of potential | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/20 04:14 PM |
| 3 | OLD Message Exchange—He asked me to coffee. My response (good?)+ what should I say next?I like that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/20 04:11 PM |
| 8 | The most Pickme thing I’ve ever seen on Facebook 😂 Could never be meSee this is where I hope my mama issues don’t take me & they won’t because ew | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/20 03:55 PM |
| 11 | LVM are TRIGGERED by our 90 day rule 😂😂😂Awwwww so precious | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/20 03:49 PM |
| 2 | OLD Message Exchange—He asked me to coffee. My response (good?)+ what should I say next?I’m going to seem like a pickmeisha but he’s now a man of God... 🤷🏻♀️😂. I’m using him to study. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/20 03:45 PM |
| 10 | OLD Message Exchange—He asked me to coffee. My response (good?)+ what should I say next?Apparently he’s a church going man now and his last relationship lasted 6 mos. It was very hard not have sex . 🤐😂He invited me to church. And mentioned volunteering but no specific volunteer spots when I asked for recommendations “it’s a place that feed the hungry” — uh huh. This is entertaining. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/20 03:41 PM |
| 6 | Please Post Vetting Practice Examples (specifically when a HVM vs LVM asks for a date)Love the last paragraph esp thank you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/20 02:51 PM |
| -2 | How Do You Land a HVM FWB?Because that is not where I am at the moment and am hoping someone else has been in this position. We do not all have the same goals. I appreciate your statement and humor though. ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/20 02:47 PM |
| 0 | Advice for highly sensitive former LVW?Hi fellow Demi! I need to figure out my ratio too. I’m trying to figure out how to be Demi in a fuckboy world while seeking short term relationships(?) on my way to long term. Squee!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/20 01:21 PM |
| 21 | OLD Message Exchange—He asked me to coffee. My response (good?)+ what should I say next?Oh god — all men | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/20 12:44 PM |
| 15 | OLD Message Exchange—He asked me to coffee. My response (good?)+ what should I say next?OP: Yeah, I pinged on the what would it take bit... and I fell into these traps a few months ago and got into to some bad situations where I went ahead with sex or “foreplay” to see where I was and etc. I did feel pressured or guilty...and trusted too much. I even found one guy’s gimmick on a guy’s player site. I was nearly assaulted and blamed for it. Yeahhhhhhh. I had been in pickmeisha relationships for 5 years before that (medium grade men). Right now, I’m mainly still on the app to analyze … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/20 12:29 PM |
| 6 | Advice for highly sensitive former LVW?I agree with the giving others sympathy part too ( and so much more ) — it’s like we epitomize the Golden Rule but we can’t expect that trust out of others and it’s sad. We have to let others be where they are and be where we are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/20 12:21 PM |
| 31 | My mom is 51 and divorcedAny slight form of rejection when they actually let their emotions hang out for once? gasp Go, Mom! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/20 12:04 PM |
| 1 | Newbie-- Is he a LVM? Do I go out with him?Good-I’m glad | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/20 11:22 PM |
| 1 | I’ve 95% of the people I’ve slept with I wasn’t attracted to.Yup and then be clear—it’s only a hookup or i am maybe looking for an ongoing fwb to also hang with a little but no relationship. Sometimes you have to communicate because yeah we’re all human beings. Or you can out right say I don’t text unless you meet or do feelings — otherwise yeah naturally a girl is going to have some confused emotions. And is going to naturally be pissed at being used or getting mixed signals. And if you don’t like something speak up or move on. | /r/seduction | 15/01/20 09:36 PM |
| 12 | OLD Red Flag #4: Peek-a-boo abs picOooh so one Hinge guy I went out with... we had good phone calls and the first date was BS...BUT he followed me on social media and anytime I worked out he did suddenly too. The mirroring was awkward. Not a Narc...just insecure. He hadn’t clearly worked out in ages—looked good irl either way though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/20 11:39 AM |
| 9 | So where do I meet a HVM?Agreed — you can learn their behavior over time in how they act around you if you end up getting one on one some. Not completely obviously, but I met my ex at dance classes. He was older but respectful. This was before this sub. He kept his hands in the respectful spot with respectful distance, bought drinks but never asked anything untoward or even asked me out, except once offered to drive me home and asked if I wanted to go to his place. I told him a strong no and stopped talking to him...but… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/20 11:31 AM |
| 8 | Something I need to work onMe too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/20 11:20 AM |
| 13 | Time to delete TenderI’m very confused by this photo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/20 11:18 AM |
| 7 | How do I (21F) stop myself from wanting his attention?I’m in this position too. I got clingy af because he’d come around and ask what’s wrong when I was leaving or taking a break and would say why. Thing is that we were not fwb to begin but he switched things up as there was a stagnant period where I chased and got mad he’d want to talk on his time. Girl I left voicemails and texts and over apologized because yeah — ugh — I had also opened up and asked honestly what was happening in a fair tone first. Mind fuck—mind fucking myself too. Honestly—tak… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/20 08:06 AM |
| 4 | Radical Change: Woman should ONLY accept casual sex from decent men who make them orgasm every time.This is the problem I have with casual sex — the masturbatory aspect of it for men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/20 07:48 AM |
| 1 | Radical Change: Woman should ONLY accept casual sex from decent men who make them orgasm every time.I need an emotional connection. I keep hoping there’s some sort of between where you can have some emotional and mental investment and just enjoy each other until you have to quit it. But you are clear and respect each other. Though I had that then got too emotional and was accountable for my part. Then it turned into him distancing and that triggering me and me being an overly apologetic pickmeisha. I hate it. Because it earnestly just flowed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/20 07:47 AM |
| 3 | Update on my depression and guyIf you want a writing buddy to keep each other accountable, you can DM me. Congratulations on the forward motion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/20 05:27 AM |
| 3 | Travel buddies?Yes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/20 05:17 AM |
| 10 | Even good guys will TRY for the low hanging fruit, right??Nice guy fuck boys are the plague that exhibit or project a few HVM traits but don’t let that throw you off your standards. Dear self: make sure you take your own advice. But for him to outright suggest that — he’s not even a nice guy fuck boy. Still, in my mind, it’s better than the ones that “respect” you and “forget something in their apartment” or suggest a casual activity in their apartment and may have gained your trust and then they get coercive and think it’s fine when it’s all been a mi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/20 01:52 AM |
| 1 | How do I take girls off the "pedestal"?But also remember the connection is especially important for some women and yes it’s still a relationship if it’s more than one night. Don’t coerce her. It may not be a boyfriend girlfriend thing but you still have to meet each other in the middle. Be real and honest and if not move on. | /r/seduction | 14/01/20 11:37 PM |
| 1 | How should you invite a girl home with youI’m tired of this lame stuff to get a girl in bed — I’m not down for a one night but maybe down for short term if we were both adding intellectual and emotional investment and we can work our way up to it sensually...and respect is there. You wanna move on anytime fine but be real...not coercion. | /r/seduction | 14/01/20 11:34 PM |
| 1 | How cold do you have to be?I’d actually appreciate this as a woman. Depends on what you want. But if this is a mutual level of respect—do it. | /r/seduction | 14/01/20 11:05 PM |
| 1 | I feel tired being someone I'm not when I'm playing "The Game", I feel like I'm being a fraud and she'll leave when she finds out about my true self, so I never open upMe too. I’m tired. | /r/seduction | 14/01/20 11:00 PM |
| 1 | I feel tired being someone I'm not when I'm playing "The Game", I feel like I'm being a fraud and she'll leave when she finds out about my true self, so I never open upI want this too and am a woman that needs emotional connection and consistent communication for sex, you want to move on, ok tell me but see all of me and communicate on that level—if a dude was just real with me — I’d be ok but all this coercion and gaming has seriously just broken me and I hate it. | /r/seduction | 14/01/20 10:59 PM |
| 4 | Bumble and the wallI’m only 5 pounds from my weight in college over 10 years ago. I had gained weight in my last relationship and with a bunch of life stuff which dropped when I let go—the only thing aging women is wasted tears and time over LVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/20 09:27 AM |
| 3 | Is it a red flag when a man says he likes the book Lolita?Look at his language and slope ended questions— how does he talk about the characters | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/20 02:40 AM |
| 2 | Amen.😮👏👏👏👏👏👏👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/20 12:58 AM |
| 2 | I found a man who treats me right and I don't know how to handle it!Take it at your pace hon. Xo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/20 12:51 AM |
| 3 | I found a man who treats me right and I don't know how to handle it!You’re getting what you deserve and it sucks because all the messed up LVM encounters—don’t overthink hon. I did. Xo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/20 12:46 AM |
| 1 | Level up your tech game/s: when did he actually take that pic he just sent via iMessage?Websites online can show you metadata too for free—just search | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/20 11:56 AM |
| 13 | How Have Men Reacted When You Told Them They’re Bad At Sex?This | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/20 10:14 AM |
| 79 | How Have Men Reacted When You Told Them They’re Bad At Sex?Men are so ruined by porn and fake orgasms | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/20 10:11 AM |
| 25 | How Have Men Reacted When You Told Them They’re Bad At Sex?Oh because he actually took the time to try to touch you somewhere because he’s not like most men bs—🤔😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/20 10:11 AM |
| 15 | How Have Men Reacted When You Told Them They’re Bad At Sex?I figured something was turning into a situationship and tried to go with it as a possible fwb. He drilled. Ugh. Even put something down because I’m a squirter and he didn’t want to clean his sheets—like a thin ass towel is going to help. This was the second time. Then had the classic roll over and clean off and dared to ask me if it was good... I said no. 😂 I ended it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/20 10:09 AM |
| 1 | FDS queens who use OLD--how long do you entertain texting before moving on?This is good. If they have made effort to fill out their profile, I may message first. Some I get a gut instinct to not message first, and I usually don't message first. I give them 1 day to first engage and 2 days to show me they can continue the convo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/20 09:21 AM |
| 1 | Initiating sex... (in a relationship)Definitely less hot/cold and LOVE the phrase "Move that energy..." YES. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/20 09:14 AM |
| 2 | Please help me get over this jackass, because I'm starting to lose my mindPractice a little more mystery and emotional detachment. Be real, but be mindful of the natural push and pull of a relationship/connection. If you're feeling more confused than anything, you're not listening to your gut hon. Also, I think my new rule is to observe and then when it does reach my first threshold and I feel the urge to speak up, I do. If nothing changes, bye. And one thing I need to stop doing is oversharing and overspeaking... just act. Actions speak. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/20 08:57 AM |
| 2 | Please help me get over this jackass, because I'm starting to lose my mindGIRL, I KNOW. I'm doing a BS communication dance with a dude right now. And maybe it was pickme behavior but I got it out of my system. I recorded a voice memo and sent it and left it up to him. I'm not saying you do that, but I'm looking at my transitional phase to FDS leveling up as an analysis and experimental period as I gain confidence in myself. Mostly I'm just focused on myself right now. It could be any number of things, but it's not your job to do emotional labor for him and analyzing t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/20 08:54 AM |
| 4 | Losing friends while enforcing boundaries?You may also have HVFF (high value female friends? :P ) but they lapse into awkward areas because of life stuff. I've been there and told a friend to go ahead and end the friendship if that was her decision. My emotional threshold for dealing with certain things was not at a certain level, and this friend had to talk every little thing out. I get that to a certain level but had also communicated where I was. I just didn't have the energy to meet and do that at the time she required. I also didn'… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/20 08:47 AM |
| 2 | Tinder and lvm ?Mehground lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/20 08:29 AM |
| 7 | Tinder and lvm ?Update: Fuckboy behavior has moved to Hinge en mass. Right now, I'm just using apps like that to observe from a distance the exchanges and analyze myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/20 08:27 AM |
| 5 | Colour me shocked. Incel apologised. I replied to a NSFW ask reddit and surprisingly this was the only hate I received.Praise F*cking Be?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/20 08:12 AM |
| 4 | Men use you for lots of things, not just sexIt's almost one of those tests. That's how it always feels. So, a shrug works for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/20 08:09 AM |
| 5 | Men use you for lots of things, not just sexOh yeah - Bob the Builder decade for me too, except one solid relationship, but he was far too passive and missing a spine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/20 08:08 AM |
| 5 | Men who string women along for sex are a special kind of evil.This was my recent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/20 07:33 AM |
| 4 | You are under ZERO obligation to be the “cool girlfriend”This first part | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/20 11:23 PM |
| 25 | You are under ZERO obligation to be the “cool girlfriend”My experience as a bi woman has been horrible too for this reason — my first real date with a woman (after half fails) went great until she felt she built enough trust to casually mention driving to see her ex and fucking him (three way).I felt so sick and disappointed but reasoned it away for her too—that she just wasn’t over him. I think she tried to make it up to me and planned a romantic date but it felt so fake and cliche. I felt nothing when she kissed me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/20 11:22 PM |
| 5 | How do you feel about pet names/terms of endearment in a relationship?I came up with an unique pet name for one guy and used it sparingly and had used it in a poem for him a few times—even though he tried to play it cool with the poetry, you could hear his voice melt when I said it off hand. A little pick me but used more sparingly it’s gold. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/20 02:49 PM |
| 1 | What was your worst pickmeisha experience like with a LV ex?I just did this emotionally | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/20 04:36 AM |
| 2 | Unpaid ValidationI’ve gotten “so that’s how you’d look if I woke up next to you” morning text after a night of staying up talking and then falling asleep on the phone. Turns out it was a lie. Always actions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/20 07:19 AM |
| 2 | I’m really curious - does having higher smv gives you upper hand in relationship ?Reading some things here makes me wonder about letting go of the one guy who could be a hvm but I’ve always just felt comfortable with him(2.5 yr relationship 3 yrs ago)—I want passion in sex and love and for us to both achieve our goals in life and inspire each other as individuals and partners but apparently that’s too much to ask for. My hvm didn’t have a backbone with his family and I can easily fall into a caretaker/empath role and lose myself in that “love.” I’m anxious and avoidant—clingy… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/20 11:53 PM |
| 5 | My strategy this yearThis year is no relationships & no alcohol & leveling up career and my badass bitch self (I was a horrible pickmeisha with a rebound) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/20 05:48 AM |
| 3 | What are some of your dealmakers?Consistency (has to be maintained after feelings are revealed) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/20 05:44 AM |
| 8 | Should I cut this off before it starts?Run unless you want a fwb or hookup. Sis I recently was on an app and heard this from countless men — even one on the first date who paid and then we had an in-depth emotional conversation— he displayed EQ. Lies. Run girl run. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/20 05:40 AM |
| 8 | PSA - BLOCK HIM TODAYI just went against this multiple times but he’s blocked now — part of me knew it wasn’t going anywhere so I pushed him away more / lessons | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/20 12:55 AM |
| 3 | Should I continue seeing this guy?Run | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/19 08:48 AM |
| 9 | Wow the irony lol.I swear the guys who make the swipe comments have gotten that tip from a blog lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/19 06:52 AM |
| 8 | I found this sub a few months ago and since then I’ve weeded out and blocked no less than 5 lvm fuckboys due to the advice here.Oh I’m going to do set up another dating profile just for the joy of this journey. And try to chart/tick mark lol! Owning my inner badass Queen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/19 09:38 PM |
| 8 | RED FLAGS: Signs a Man Should Be Cut OffHe invited you back to his place for any reason or excuse at first — even to “get his keys.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/19 03:30 AM |
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