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It messed with my perception for a long time, because I'd be questioning if my diagnosis was accurate or if this thing was even real, because it really felt like no one accepted it until recently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 09:15 PM
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It's hilarious how much people will refuse to believe that women can be autistic. They don't have to hide anything; many people believe that it just doesn't affect women or that "it's different" in women. Maybe for some women, but it definitely was not for me, and people that I knew still didn't get it. They seemed convinced that I was faking an interest in (stereotypical, male) aspie hobbies to get male nerd attention for being different from the other girls. Oh, really?? People put lifetimes o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 07:24 PM
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Women are the ones who are treated poorly for being nerds. Not men. Pandering to make nerds is rampant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 06:59 PM
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Think of a well-known aspergian man who is married. I can think of a few, some of whom were known to be quite antisocial or off-putting in their youth. Do you think they were acting according to TRP? What do you think they did?
/r/ExRedPill14/03/20 11:56 PM
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I feel sorry that you're hung up on a false morality crusade about fairness that isn't going to help anyone or reflect reality, and I'm leaving it at that.
/r/ExRedPill14/03/20 09:34 PM
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Then what's with all of the ex-RPW who say FDS helped to leave the red pill? I suggest reading it.
/r/ExRedPill14/03/20 09:25 PM
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Everything is equivalent in liberal feminism, isn't it? Always two sides, both with bad people, but also some fine people, very fine people on both sides.
/r/ExRedPill14/03/20 09:24 PM
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I learned to ignore this early on, because it's what family did too, lol. If I did anything even a little weird it'd be stony silence and cold shoulder for a while, or sometimes they'd point out the obvious "you made a mistake" first. Trained me to not give a damn when people are silent, because I realized early on that it's irrational, antisocial, and teaches nothing but walking on eggshells, and you can't get anything done that way. When bros are silent, I ignore them entirely and go on, inste…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 04:42 PM
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FDS helped me to get over red pill ideology. What does this have to do with /r/exredpill ? It's helping women to no longer be RPW.
/r/ExRedPill14/03/20 04:29 PM
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I had some similar things that I was exposed to as I was growing up, but a different attitude. I haven't always been stubborn and independent enough, but I probably was more so than average, which protected me from some of the worst effects. I had poor health because of being raised Seventh Day Adventist after my family converted and they attempted to force me to be vegan. My father would talk about the superiority of other cultures and try to make me date outside my own into more misogynistic o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 06:17 AM
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Her King has such an amazing castle that she must take pictures in her car, lest she blind the world with the light and glory of his majesty. All would perish in jealousy to see the throne from which he dines. The wretches, they dare not deserve to look upon its divinity!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 06:02 PM
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That's kind of government / society in general. Conspiracy theories are cool, but the reality is that people collectively made this thing with no plan. Trading is in human nature, but the way that society organizes it, isn't really so.
/r/askFDS13/03/20 01:27 AM
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From 1997? Yep! I vaguely remember having seen it on TV. I remember the savant character.
/r/askFDS13/03/20 12:17 AM
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Male IQs have been going down (probably due to bad low-fat diets of processed food and high-carb, nutrient-depleted man-made produce varieties). Aside from that, I'm going to side with The Last Psychiatrist and say that it has something to do with the rise of hedonistic narcissism that correlates with the cultural decline of men striving to have a family, care for them, and be a good example to them. Or just strive to take care of themselves at all by making a living or having a good lifestyle, …
/r/askFDS12/03/20 10:35 PM
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Shorter men won't date taller women, so it's not like women have a choice in the matter.
/r/askFDS12/03/20 10:16 PM
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Age is not a determining factor. I've met guys that were extremely put together at that age and that had been living independently and making and saving money for years at that point.
/r/askFDS12/03/20 06:16 PM
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turtleneck breasts popping out BRUH PICK ONE DO YOU KNOW WHAT EITHER OF THESE THINGS ARE?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 05:32 PM
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I dated someone who was actually spouting TRP sexist stuff at me daily (women are inferior children and must be ruled by men for their own good — he even chided his own mom for this), and when he complained about me disliking it, he called me hormonal and said that I had anger problems. This is what men are really like. When he says crazy ex, this is probably a sign that he abused her, moreso than it's a sign that he has had problems with women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 05:04 PM
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This was almost literally the story of the Simpsons, and I remember hating that because so many pick-me's said it was cute, but look how awful things turned out. This is what's normalized in our culture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 03:31 PM
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Really shows that they treat women's complaints like noise until it's too late. This is why we shouldn't waste our time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 03:23 PM
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Handbook material. This is important for women to read.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 02:49 PM
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There are still harmful stereotypes out there about women thanks to the endlessly repeated Boomer joke of women refusing to say what's wrong. Bruh. She's told you 100x over what's wrong, yet you keep asking. She gives you an incredulous look instead of repeating herself one more time and you conclude wOmEn aLwAyS sAy NoThInGs WrOnG
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 02:34 PM
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Talking is what toxic males want, because then they can ignore it and call you a nag, or do endless gaslighting circular irrational arguments back at you to try to confuse women out of their opinions. Do males get advised to talk to toxic males? I don't think so. I think this is mostly advice given to women by toxic males or handmaidens that maybe mean well but have no idea what they're talking about. I learned long ago that actions are more important than words to toxic males, and that they lov…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 02:30 PM
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Curious to see opinions on having him move into your home instead. Since I already owned a home and saw no advantage to myself in getting married at the time and didn't want to risk the problems of a divorce, this is what I did. He can never throw me out, and has fewer rights in general. He has to contribute, because I do have the power to evict. I'm cautiously considering marrying, because things have gone well for a long time at this point. I'd love to see an article on making a pre-nup — I ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 01:52 PM
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I think that this will be a common thing with FDS, that women will pretty much "graduate" from here when they're ready. Good for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 02:35 PM
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It doesn't. Some males who aren't scientifically literate have misread some studies about women having DNA of their sons in their bodies (makes sense, because the son was literally part of her) to mean that women retain DNA of every sperm that touches them. Human females aren't equivalent to invertebrates that can store sperm, either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 11:25 PM
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I'm sorry, I just don't get why the fuck it's a problem to be a snob sometimes? Part of having standards is that sometimes we snub people who or things that don't meet them. Everyone does it to somebody for some reason. Guys that preach about snobbery and EqUaLiTy still do it too, but are lying that they don't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 11:15 PM
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I enjoy it, but don't have any strong opinions on it. It's one of those facts of life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 08:29 PM
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Thank you. I felt alone in this opinion. Holidays are not for sex, because sex can happen any time and be the same, and it isn't part of the festivity. I don't like males trying to use every holiday for sex, to the point of isolating women from friends / family to try to get her alone for sex on that day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 02:44 PM
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Yeah, I should emphasize that this was successfully done in 2004. ~16 years ago. The knowledge & means should be here already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 01:07 AM
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Stats seem to show that many times when a man asks for custody, he gets it, which is something that hasn't changed since Victorian times. https://www.huffpost.com/entry/dispelling-the-myth-of-ge_b_1617115
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 02:23 AM
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It's been done successfully with mice: https://www.sciencemag.org/news/2004/04/mouse-two-mothers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 09:14 PM
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I've also dropped "friends" that I thought of as "hopefuls," because even if we weren't FWB, that's what they wanted, and they would stop acting like a friend if I gave a clear sign that I'll never be interested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 08:51 PM
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I don't recommend even lending for a "family emergency" unless you know and like that family member and they have mad respect for you. I knew a LVM whose mom was a serious Pick-me / Hobosexual, really bad about being used and bruised by other people for the benefit of men her entire life, and she would make up some BS like "my puppy is sick" to try to get money out of her kids' families. Because she's such a Pick-me, her attitude is that her sons' wives should take care of her, the son, and what…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 04:38 PM
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How about, just not have sex with him, as long as he's acting like a parasite?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 01:47 PM
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A perfect alternative term for Pick-me's.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 01:45 PM
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That's like a male golddigging classic. Helping him out through school / until he gets a real job / starts his small business, then he leaves or divorces.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 01:42 PM
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This is the kind of advice that we need more of on this sub. The real feminism is focusing on financial independence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 01:36 PM
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DUMPHIM2020 She has zero need for him or his mooching. He's contributing nothing. She needs to enjoy her new position in life, get a job that she enjoys, and if she wants a man, date one who also has money — or at least isn't a leech. Her inheritance is no reason to stop telling him that he needs to pay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 01:34 PM
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It doesn't cure addiction to painkillers. Why would it? That's a chemical addiction, not a depression issue. The meat-only diet and knowing that it cures issues (most specific to or largely impacting women) is knowledge that's a lot older than him. I don't know if it helps men with depression, but if he said it helped him, then sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 08:11 PM
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I don't. I don't want to go into details, but I was severely sick and suffering from PCOS among other things that adversely affect women before trying this diet. I originally found it years ago thanks to radfems and not Petersons, like The Vegetarian Myth by Lierre Keith, Zero Carb Zen (also by a woman), L. Amber O'Hearne, Dr. Georgia Ede, and many other women have written about this and their personal stories of severe health problems improving, including Kelly Hogan who also had PCOS complicat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 08:09 PM
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Unless this boy is too broke to eat, there's literally no excuse for him to not ask her on a picnic to the park, or give her a gift of something homemade. As was said in another post, gifts from TJ's are as low as 99¢ each, and there's no excuse to not plan a free or low-cost date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 04:21 PM
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Why are firemen obsessed with fire safety? What sick and paranoid weirdos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 03:55 PM
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I give feedback, such as telling him what I like and want, and will answer questions if he asks, but I don't plan, book, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 03:39 PM
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I don't want typical Valentine's gifts, but hell if I'm going to pull a nOTLiKeOtHeRGiRLs and judge anyone else for what they want as a gift. I noticed the amount of Valentine's gifts on display in stores has declined drastically, and it's objective evidence that males are increasingly low-effort or single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 03:32 PM
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Just plain low-effort, because it's not even in his best interest (which would be to have a wife who went to a famous school).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 01:34 PM
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Cards are 99¢ at TJ's. They also usually have flower bouquets and plants for <$10.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 02:37 AM
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I loved that movie, and the soundtrack was amazing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 02:28 AM
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My first thought is that this is a troll, but I know that hospital breakups happen, so it could be real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 02:19 AM
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Definitely, the attitude of wanting to give me what he could and more was more important than the amount actually spent. When I met my current partner, he was starting out in his career and didn't have much. However, he still insisted on never wanting me to pay for anything if he invited me out. Sometimes, I'd invite him out, and because I had more than him at the time, I could afford to pay and he couldn't, so I would. I believed in 50/50 at the time and saw no issue with this, but he did — so …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 08:31 PM
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I also should've mentioned, if he can also get away with spying on you, why would you think that he's not? I've definitely had it happen — a guy that was interested in me would tail me to see where I went, and I caught him doing it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 08:26 PM
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I'm trying to find a good tutorial on doing it. Here's a place to start, which is figuring out how to login to your router through your web browser: https://www.computerworld.com/article/2474776/network-security-find-the-ip-address-of-your-home-router.html
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 07:34 PM
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Definitely have a self-defense or escape plan before going to anyone's house. Let people know what you're doing if you know anyone that you can trust. It's still dangerous, but don't go in unprepared.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 06:40 PM
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I had a colleague who made a big deal about how Western white women are all feminazis, he's marrying a Thai girl! She lived off of him for a few years, left him with a daughter, and divorced him and moved away to go pursue her career. Guess his exotic and ideal foreign bride didn't like his shit anymore than American women. Now, he has to raise one, alone. Now he just says all women are bad. He's not the only single father with custody of a daughter that I know who says that. I worry about the k…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 03:29 PM
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She possibly wasn't eating healthily back home due to poverty, so was a little stunted from that — but she'd still take that over some asshole loser's abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 03:23 PM
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Although I had standards that were too low in the past, the #1 reason that I broke it off with guys was because they said something about limiting my potential. I always knew that my independence was VITAL, that women are oppressed through giving us less financial means and feminism should be about fighting that, and that a man being negative toward my self-improvement was the biggest red flag. They told me not to spend time on education, don't go for a good or better job, give up my ameloriatin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 03:13 PM
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Yeah, I'm open to the viewpoint that nuclear families will often isolate a woman with a man that uses or abuses her, but personally as someone who is aware of that and for whom it's not a problem, I prefer having a nuclear family, because my extended family is pretty bad and I want nothing to do with them. I'm my own matriarch and want my own family, away from them — and probably away from any future husband's extended family, too, because I'm not going to assume that they'll be better. Nuclear …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 02:51 PM
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He couldn't go with her, why? That's the part that I didn't get. Have him give up his education / career plans for her. As a man, odds are that he'd be fine, anyway. I've had several male colleagues that had no formal education, but made much more than me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 02:10 PM
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I remember hating that show, but I watched it with my girlfriends from school because they adored it. All of them were and are horrible pick-me's, now as single moms with deadbeat dads, living in poverty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 02:03 PM
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I always hated 90s TV, and now I realize why. It had so many female characters who should've been queens, but gave it up for low-value love with some loser, because so in wuv, wuv is all that matters~ uwu
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 01:56 PM
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Oh shit, he's buying you those $16 burgers! You better be flattered and forever in his debt!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 01:34 AM
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I bought him a ruby chocolate bar, because he likes novel things. That's it. I spent about $2.50.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 01:01 AM
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Good looking people probably get the benefit of the doubt more in general (because fit = healthy in many people's minds), but I've also withstood males going out of their way to intentionally be rude to me because they thought that I had "Stacy privilege" and they wanted to make a point of putting me down "unlike the other men" (I'm not that attractive, don't usually get favoritism due to looks, and often don't even try to look feminine, so this was all in their minds). That may only be the case…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 10:24 PM
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Yes. And "males are more visual" has never been scientifically demonstrated to be true. It's marketing propaganda.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 10:17 PM
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It's been conflated with Lupercalia. Same as how Christmas is conflated with Yule, and Easter had nothing to do with Christ. These weren't originally Christian holidays. https://www.history.com/topics/ancient-rome/lupercalia
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 07:11 PM
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The best way to test for that? Let him pay, let him give gifts, and then see how he acts. If he expects anything in return beyond your willing company, then 🚪 I didn't worry about asking men for anything for so long because I didn't want to be obligated. That was wrong — obligation existed as only a fear in my mind. In reality, no woman in a relationship is EVER obligated to stay or put up with anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 06:34 PM
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I wouldn't call him back after this. He shouldn't stop caring for you just because it's not an official date. That doesn't mean that he comes over and pays your bills, but any time that you two are out together, he should be prioritizing you, or he doesn't really care that much. He should bring you to the counter to order first, or ask you what you want and order it for you. He then orders, and pays for both of you at the same time. He picks up both of your orders and takes them to your seat, wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 05:20 PM
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He has desirable qualities and is going to prioritize me and invest in having a better future together. That's the simplest version.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 05:10 PM
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Men like to be with a woman who knows what she wants and gets it, not meek people-pleasers that are trying to attract him. A strong woman is a high-value goal. If she knows what she wants and is with him, that makes him feel highly desired, because she chose him. It's different if she needs him and is desperate for him; that's not desirable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 05:08 PM
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The thing is that males can get off on their imaginations, without looking at porn at all, and some say this is actually better and healthier for them. I'm inclined to never tolerate porn, for that reason. I agree with your other points, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 03:27 PM
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I don't get "badboy" attraction, but if I had to think of the darker traits that are attractive in the guys that I do like, I'd say they have a "supervillain, but good" vibe that impressed me. Meaning that they're not goody-goody constant people-pleasers or church boy types (which some of the LVM that I dated were, and they were the worst at relationships, because they were always chastising people for not being perfectly "fair" to everyone, which is impossible). It's hard to describe the traits…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 03:00 PM
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It depends highly on your region. If you're in a city that's booming and has jobs that might attract some high-effort, ambitious people, then the percentage will be higher, but still way less than 50%. If you're in a rural area that doesn't have much reason to keep people, that percentage is going to be very low. My guess (take with a grain of salt) based on experience is up to 30% HVM in big (3mil+) cities, 20% average, and 10% in rural areas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 02:39 PM
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I heard a fuckboy tell a woman, "All STDs are curable today." Some males can't science. I wish I could get her away from him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 02:29 PM
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Since the one that I'm with isn't on social media, I'm inclined to agree with this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 02:18 PM
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Its not about looks As a reminder of that, look at how many males will mock the appearances of very successful women who are married to billionaires or celebrities. They're at the top and have attracted the top males, but I see nothing about them on reddit but jokes about how ugly they are. Guys are jealous of the success of women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 01:29 PM
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Professional networking / support group. There were similar ones in the area that were co-ed, which are the other groups that I mentioned; we had the only one that was women-only.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 03:51 AM
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There's a device in the sci-fi novel, Snow Crash, called the dentata. It injects a male's penis with a strong tranquilizer that should knock him out cold for hours. That seems like a better idea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 09:15 PM
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I've held off on marriage because I'm really slow to trust, don't want to pay for divorce, and I wasn't sure that it'd benefit me in my situation, but having kids without marriage & a pre-nup that says he will provide for them and their mom, without trying to take anything from us? Hell no! This is 100% necessary to even consider it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 07:37 PM
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Seen it happen, myself. I used to love my IRL women-only group, put a lot of work into making it successful, and then handmaidens welcomed in women who were known to have abusive husbands, and then the husbands themselves. These enablers then actively recruited the rest of the group to go on the attack against other, similar groups that they'd been kicked out of, for the reason of them "not being inclusive enough" by excluding their abusive asses. They shouted down "false accuser" women who used…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 07:01 PM
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LVM spending money and not getting guaranteed sex is like literally the worst thing that has ever occurred on Earth. Hitler would cry in disgust at how degenerate we are, were he still alive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 06:44 PM
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I'd prefer small, private, regional gatherings, to avoid terrorism from MGTOW types that stalk us on here. I already have to watch my back enough as is just by living in TRPland.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 06:42 PM
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Yeah, I've always refused cruises, because they're not safe for women. They're environments where sleazy guys thrive, and get away with it. Plus, cruises just don't sound fun to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 06:41 PM
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Some guys don't have a type, except female, and will approach any & every woman. Don't worry about it. Don't feel like it's something that you did, or that you have to be careful to avoid attracting guys you don't want, because then you have to do emotional care for them. It's not your job to let them down easy or anything else. Just tell them no and go on with life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 06:37 PM
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This is something that I'm working harder on, thanks to FDS: learning to express disappointment and ask for better, instead of being indifferent or repressed. My HVM is encouraging of it as well, because he wants to be better and wants a HVW who expects better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 06:34 PM
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All men masturbate to women on Facebook? Fuckboy, my LTR doesn't even use Facebook. What kind of garbage do they expect women to put up with?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 06:31 PM
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FDS is making me happier even in my committed LTR with a HVM. I realized that although I'm getting more from him than I ever got from LVM, that's a really low bar, and I'm not asking for more things that could make a difference, when I could be. Now I'm doing so, and it's making me feel better about where we are, and that he'll continue to be good to stay with and commit to when I'm ready. As for the past, I didn't follow FDS thinking enough, but I did get some benefit from Sherry Argov, Updatin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 05:52 PM
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Guys probably will not be that considerate of you, so just keep that in mind, and don't waste your time if it's not working out. I once went out with a fuckboy on a (free) "date" on V-day, and later found out that he stood up some other girl that he had previous plans with, to do this. That made me really mad when I found out. Also, at this stupid free event that we went to, I saw a guy blatantly asking out other women all around him while his date was in the bathroom. Males. 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 04:09 PM
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I like to celebrate, but not really into arbitrary holidays. It's unfortunate that my anniversary falls around this time of year, because I'm indirectly celebrating Valentine's (although I prefer thinking of it as Lupercalia) and it makes it difficult to celebrate because every low-effort guy suddenly wants to arbitrarily take women out to wherever they can on the same day (sorry if that's a negative view, but it just feels less special to me if a man only wants to go out because a commercialize…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 04:03 PM
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Yep, most women gamers (and some males) don't have these "balance" issues. Video game addicts are using the games to avoid their lives, because they don't like them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 03:33 AM
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Saving this to show to men when they say that women do nothing and are worth nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 03:28 AM
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I grew up with (drafted) military people that used to talk about all of the skills that they learned in the service and how it helped them to become responsible adults. Wow, is it not like that today. Every young guy I met in service didn't know shit, didn't care to learn shit, and was just looking for everything to be handed to him. They talked about signing up simply because they had no options (failed out of school, couldn't get a job), and took no pride in it whatsoever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 09:29 PM
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Yep, same experience here. I had exactly one man that I dated who gave me anything or ever paid for dates. We've been together for many years, now. I didn't realize it at the time, but looking back, I can see that this was his way of showing that he values me and wants to invest in me and a future together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 08:28 PM
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If someone is LVM, he won't be a good parent, and you're better off adopting or getting a sperm donor if you really want kids. Being with a LVM can be worse than being a single parent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 08:11 PM
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Reminds me of model government in high school. I was tasked with coming up with some kind of human rights campaign, and so I came up with banning porn to end human trafficking and exploitation. Some of the girls were like 🤔 interesting idea, let's do it... But boys basically staged a walk-out to end that campaign. Porn-addicted and unwilling to hear other viewpoints, even at 14.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 07:36 PM
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I've been saying for years that mainstream feminism is for men, and universally got shouted down by men and women. It feels unbelievably good to finally see other women that think the same thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 07:19 PM
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Maybe she should message the women that he's paying and let them know (if she can find out who they are), in case they also want to tell him that he's stupid and block him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 07:12 PM
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Yeah, I see nothing wrong here. There's that theory that crime and poverty went down because abortion became legal. Nip this problem in the bud entirely by not willingly giving these losers any sex or offspring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 05:38 PM
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Guys who asked for anal were always "polyamorous," aka spinning plates. I didn't have sex with them because I figured they were just going from girl to girl, and if anyone took them up on their ask for unprotected anal, then their peen is covered in random fecal bacteria that they're spreading around — really dangerous, and I'm never touching that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 05:18 PM
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Don't get me started on Vice & their channel. There's a YouTuber, Louis Rossman, who did a video about how Vice offered him a TV show and the contract basically said they'd pay him nothing but get a percentage of everything he makes outside of Vice as payment for Vice promoting him. People that have shows on Vice have zero self-respect. I would never even talk to them, because they've also been known to throw their sources under the bus for interviews. They interviewed a lesbian YouTuber in Chin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 03:13 PM
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I remember boys in school gushing about how they loved "nerd sluts" and really, they were just looking for a way to pressure girls into NSA sex with their low-effort asses. There's not much for women in having sex with a lot of random guys that are going to put in no work before or after and then friend-zone her, but there's plenty in it for the guys. She's better off with a vibrator. Women who do this don't realize that they're addicted to attention and they don't need it because it adds nothin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 03:01 PM
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Damn, I had gone on a couple of coffee dates that I entirely forgot about... I didn't think anything of it at the time, and those guys were entirely forgettable and a coffee date with them was no different than just hanging out at the coffee shop and talking to strangers. I never saw these guys again. I even remember later being like, huh, he told people that we dated? Now that I think about it, more girlfriends have paid for my coffee than men, because actual coffee dates never offered to pay f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 02:49 PM
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Yeah, would've saved me some headaches. I looked for female dating advice back then, and the best I found was Sherry Argov, but her books weren't enough — they didn't go far enough about how to weed out and why. FDS goes directly against the toxic feminism out there that was just feeding directly into TRP back 10 years ago. I would say to women that this isn't working, women need to do more to protect themselves, and they told me to shut up about asking women to care for themselves, put up with …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 02:29 PM
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WSJ is the best paper that's still alive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 01:23 PM
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You dodged one hell of a bullet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 10:59 PM
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It's advice that I got from other women who also got over their PCOS, and it cured me of that, plus more. I don't know if it's women-specific, but it seems to work for women. I read the blogs of a few women in the carnivore community to see what works for them, and have seen them talk about overcoming a wide variety of issues that are specific to or adversely affect women, like PCOS and IIH. I'll keep an eye out for more stuff that seems to be tailored to women. One example that I did see recent…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 10:41 PM
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Auntie was never impressed with anyone who didn't have money and who didn't enjoy working for it. I was brainwashed by American schooling / church that money / job was unimportant, that I should think of people like auntie as superficial or immoral. Guess who turned out to be wrong. Money & work life may not be everything, but it counts for a hell of a lot, because almost everything in life depends on these things. If a man doesn't want them, that says something about him. Looking at men's ambit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 09:10 PM
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I was gaslit for years by women that said, "Every man watches porn whether you know it or not; you should just expect to put up with it." Not true. Men who have better shit to do with their lives do not, and you shouldn't put up with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 08:54 PM
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When in doubt, just don't buy cheap gifts. Better to get the person something that you know they'll use, no matter how small. I'd prefer they give me a $10 gift card than spend $10 on this crap if they really can't afford anything else and have no gift ideas. That's more thoughtful than loading up on cheap stuff that's either going to be returned or thrown out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 08:18 PM
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LVM always asked for degrading porn sex acts and tried to play it off as it being "safe" and "not real sex" as if it would be to my advantage to have them injure my butt so that they could get off. I showed them I was clearly disgusted, like, "You want to put your penis in my anus? WTF? Would you stick it in a toilet full of shit and see if that feels good, too? Do you expect to then put it in some girl's vagina after that?" HVM don't ask for anal and also show disgust at the idea. They don't wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 08:04 PM
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Does he have a healthy lifestyle? Because this doesn't sound normal. If he's eating healthily (not vegan, not eating junk food, not drinking daily), working out occasionally, not using porn, not stressed about job/family, and has an otherwise fine life, he shouldn't have such a low libido as to not be able to go daily without much prompting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 05:55 PM
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I ignore them. If they come to talk to me, I play ignorant without lying. If some flying monkey comes to ask me about my relationship with an ex, I say that I don't confirm or deny any accusations or supposed past relationships and am not going to talk about other people. Inspired by FDS thinking, I might now start responding to guys saying, "hey, she used to be my gf" with something like, "You called that dating? You think you were a bf? I thought we were just hanging out as friends. You asked …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 05:29 PM
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"work mom" is also pretty degrading as a term for the office manager — you're grown ass if you have a job, stop pretending some poor woman is your mom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 04:56 PM
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HAHAHA! As a girl, I was absolutely raised to suppress my emotions, because they were wrong and hysterical. I'm more stoic than 80% of men that I've met. No, girls are NOT supported in their emotions like men. This can be demonstrated by how much LVM felt they could whinge to me about anything, but I almost never shared feelings, and was never asked by them to do so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 11:27 PM
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I'm not who you asked, but here's my advice as someone who looks & feels better now than I did 20 years ago: Visit /r/carnivore Eat meat, mostly meat, and exclusively animal products. Avoid sugar, sweeteners, and alcohol entirely. Get electrolytes in your diet by eating some grey salt, and mostly drink water (but don't force yourself to drink tons of it; that can actually be dehydrating). Fat is your friend; eat it, especially animal fat. Use oil or tallow on your skin. Don't use anything harsh,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 10:32 PM
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Low Value / High Value Male — take a look at the Wiki in the About section. I might well have referred to some as Zero or Negative value, but figured LVM is a good blanket term.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 09:52 PM
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Supposedly progressive guys can be shitty, too. Ones that identified as communist/strongly socialist were the worst. I made a comment a long time ago about one of my classmates telling everyone that he was against jobs for women because they were a union-busting method of devaluing men's labor. These guys tended to be against feminism and LGBT issues because they were "boogie" and a distraction from the class struggles of men. Anyway, I'm not against progressivism, just some of the guys that are…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 09:42 PM
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Agreed. Men should strive to be remarkable, as should women, but no one "earns" submission from their partner. Good people will value each other as equals deserving of each other, and not expect one to live for the other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 09:24 PM
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I found this sub because of the men shit-talking it on others. Shout out to them for helping me to find a good thing. I don't date anymore, but can still learn about how to earn respect, and pass on what I learned from my own mistakes. The biggest thing that I wish that I'd known is that most men really are that bad and don't deserve a chance, no matter how "nice" or what a raw deal they say society is giving them. I was 100% taken in by red-pill bullshit about the poor, pitiful, disposable male…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 09:09 PM
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This is exactly what HVM that I've known do: they recognize that cultural misogyny is real and try to learn and actively do something about it going on around them. They don't have misogynistic friends. This is because they have an attitude of growth and self-responsibility. LVM are the ones whining, what about the men? and always bringing some openly woman-hating clowns around with them. Men worth knowing don't act this way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 08:53 PM
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One time, I gave an ugly guy that I met through online dating a chance. He did a lot of big talking about what a great gentleman he was and no one was more respectful or would treat women better, but women wouldn't give him a chance. After a short time of talking, he did a complete 180 and started sounding like a textbook example of an asshole. It's like be could barely wait to just be like, "HA! You fell for it!" and start doing everything possible to manipulate me and piss me off. Looks are co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 08:36 PM
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Doctors aren't necessarily good people. They're not easily satisfied and are good at passing tests. Working hard is about all they have going for them; they likely don't even have much money. They may be prone to seeking status in order to abuse it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 08:06 PM
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It's not exactly subliminal, because you're telling him what you like or want, just not asking him to do it. The reason that I'd be reluctant to ask is that might be treated as an obligation or exchange, not as a gift freely given. Not all women like chocolate or flowers (I don't, and always get steaks for Valentine's or other holidays), so he can't assume that you do and just get them for you, so it's fine to let him know some way what you do actually want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 07:49 PM
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I've found that if I had to do a lot of talking / asking, it didn't do a lot of good, because he didn't care. Leading with actions and examples was better. That might be harder in some cases. Either way, if he doesn't want to learn, then he won't. Don't ask too much or ask more than once, because IME, that gets ignored, because you shouldn't have to do a lot of asking if he cares and is paying attention. Sometimes he doesn't get things intuitively and needs to be told, but if you find yourself j…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 05:43 PM
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Good on you for wanting to improve. You could've done it without posing as anyone and gained more respect for that, however.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 05:32 PM
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Praise people for the qualities that you want them to develop. E.g. if you have a co-worker who's working on becoming more professional, then praise their professionalism when they demonstrate it. If you want him to do more chores, praise his cleanliness or neatness when he does do them, to show that you like that quality in him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 11:07 AM
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I would get him something small that he wants or needs, but wouldn't get himself. That's the most thoughtful thing that you can do. Whatever it is, it should be high quality — it's better to get something smaller, but better, than to get something cheap. If you can't think of anything (he has everything), then buy a nice treat to enjoy together, like some good steaks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 05:53 PM
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The Desire to Pass Tests — that's what it sounds like pick-me's have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 02:17 PM
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