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I totally understand. I'm 40 now and honestly, the biggest mindset that I have for dating was that I have my kids and I am an established person. And the main thing is that I don’t NEED another person to make my life complete. I was only looking for someone who would improve my life. This allowed me to take my time and not be too desperate in my choices. I’ve been dating a wonderful woman for the last 9 months and I’m so happy that she is in my life.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/26 09:19 PM
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Mine took 2.2 years in Virginia. Virginia had a 1 year separation minimum before you can file
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/26 11:25 AM
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You can do like my Ex did…but lots of antiques and then claim they are old junk and therefore worthless and cannot be split
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/25 11:29 AM
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If it has broken down that far…. There isn’t anything you can say
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/25 02:54 AM
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The difference is who did the leaving. If the woman is the one who left most likely, they probably don’t regret it, but if they’re the ones that got left, they probably do regret it. It’s a matter of perspective and what their reasons were so it’s hard to make a generalized statement about it.
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/25 04:24 PM
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I’m not a trump supporter but that’s the dumbest reason to get divorced. She is searching for a reason. A marriage is between two people, if they can’t get past your family then they are narrow minded
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/24 09:12 PM
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I am pushing for every other weekend scenario with holidays
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/24 02:08 PM
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Mentally/emotionally abusive where everything has the looming threat of something. If you don’t eat enough dinner she will threaten to never let them have a play date or something
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/24 12:08 AM
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My oldest is 10 and she has also told me her mother has slapped her hand or spanking particularly when I’m not home.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/24 09:16 PM
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This is a very good perspective and the one I’m fearful of
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/24 06:43 PM
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She doesn’t have a diagnosis. I have considered asking for an evaluation
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/24 03:43 PM
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Virginia is a one party consent state so I have a few recordings of a few of our fights. But it is hard to get those little moment that happen all the time where the wife will all of a sudden snap and threaten never let them see friends again if they don’t get dressed this second.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/24 03:40 PM
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Unfortunately I don’t have any police reports. I know my actual evidence is weak. Kind of sucks that mental/emotion abuse is very real but just because it doesn’t leave a physical mark it is harder to prove
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/24 03:36 PM
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I have a meeting with them on Monday, I was just looking for some other people’s experiences
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/24 03:29 PM
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Well the mother has threatened/shown the intent to either move out of the county or even the country since the housing in the school district that satisfies her budget is “blow her satisfaction” she implies living in a town home is not acceptable to her.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/24 03:29 PM
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The only other factor is that I’m moving into the school zone that the children are attending (marital home is outside the school zone….special situation) and neither of us realistically cannot afford to live in the marital home with our individual incomes. So she likely will also have to move soon. But I’ll check out that thread to prepare myself
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/24 03:19 PM
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Thank you, I just worry about fighting when she is a master at twisting words….and when it comes to my word vs hers….who knows the outcome
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/24 03:14 PM
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Mother is full time employed makes nearly the same as I do. Youngest is 3.5, oldest is 10. We are still living together (I move out on the 1st) but the “status quo” is that I take them to school and pick them up every day, and take them to all extra curricular activities with rare exceptions. Edit: forgot to add I am in the US in Virginia
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/24 03:12 PM
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I already have the kids on my taxes, and I pay for medical and dental. I need to find some kind of deal that gives me a benefit too.....I think my biggest problem is she just expects free money and I'm too scared to be 'mean' to say "what's in it for me"
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/24 03:50 PM
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She does a great job of guilting me and perhaps I feel too much. I want to be a business transaction but i always feel cold....I guess that's my problem
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/24 03:09 PM
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is all of that ontop of whatever alimony or child support you are agreeing to? How long are you proposing to assist her?
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/24 02:53 PM
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I also have kids involved. She has no family and my family is 3-6 hours away
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/24 12:19 AM
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I have been in a similar situation. My wife would scream, yell, break things, and sometimes hit me. I stayed in the marriage for 12 years and I just had the balls/spine to end it last week. I know exactly what you are going through, I know that it is paralyzing to stay and it is paralyzing to leave so you are stuck in survival mode and hope nothing gets worse. The thing is no ammount of comments of people telling you to get out will actually give you the balls to do it. You will need to find the…
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/24 03:59 PM
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Any tips that helped you get full custody?
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/24 01:09 AM
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I'm in Virginia and we can cohabitate but we need to live separate lives and no sleeping together etc.
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/23 11:11 PM
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That makes a lot of sense. Thanks!
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/23 03:43 PM
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I've been honestly trying.... She has been "trying" and just hoping I get it out of my system so things can go back to the way things were....when I was a small man who did whatever she wanted whenever she wanted.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/23 12:56 PM
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When I take a look back we never had a good marriage. I have been on the act like a single dad stick for a while now and I want to get her out
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/23 01:40 AM
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I already play golf but I don't feel comfortable leaving the kids with her....so instead I'm teaching the kids golf
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/23 01:17 AM
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If you are separated (depending on the state) you are allowed to see other people. Also unless your state (or country?) Has made homosexuality illegal then I don't see this affecting anything
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/23 11:35 PM
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Not nessisarily.... She could be mentally escaping into work instead of dealing with a crumbling home life
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/23 12:29 PM
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It destroyed more than marriage
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/23 07:53 PM
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Don’t do it. There was a reason you got divorced
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/22 03:01 PM
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I am in a similar boat.... I am reaching my limit but I haven't filed yet. It is hard when there is already so much going on between kids and work and the world. There were multiple things that pushed me to come to the realization that I don't feel appreciated but it was solidified when I confronted her saying I don't feel appreciated and her response was "well I make sure the kids say thank you when you buy things"
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/22 08:20 PM
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I’m feeling a mix of 5 & 6. I’m angry at how they treat the kids and I but I know they are broken due to their numerous traumas in their past. I hope she will eventually get the help she needs but that doesn’t excuse the pain and suffering she caused
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/22 09:05 PM
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The discord phone verification isn't working
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/22 07:50 PM
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This. There is very little chance the military is going to send her back to Georgia. She also has a choice on where she goes after and it sounds like she does not intend to return.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/22 12:55 PM
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Bummer... that's not going to work for me. Thanks for the info
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/22 06:04 PM
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Is that like online mediation? What's the cost look like? Assuming my wife is going to fight everything do you think that site is still good?
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/22 05:57 PM
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He probably refuses because he is scared of upsetting you...and also divorce is still a big scary ordeal. My wife would throw tantrums all the time and threaten divorce and I would back down like a coward because I was scared of losing my kids. Also you said you offered divorce so he would hurt less... basically you said you want a divorce to make him feel better. Ask for a divorce because how the situation makes YOU feel. Don't assume his thoughts and offer a solution to him, that will just ope…
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/22 09:17 AM
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I stopped initiating sec with my wife because she was hyper critical all the time and just generally was not a person I wanted to talk to let alone be intimate with. She yells, and throws things over the slightest problem with me or the kids. Also sex was a chore for me because she did zero foreplay. At most she would run her finger softly over my pants.... Then it was up to me to do the foreplay to her and to perform. And on top of that she had too many rules; only in the bed, missionary or dog…
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/22 09:08 AM
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This sounds sus. Have you done anything to warrant this kind of court order? Does your wife have proof she attended parental training?
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/22 01:48 AM
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Does she have an income of her own? If she does earn her own money then it might be harder for her to get it. However if she does not have an income it is almost a given that you will pay for it
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/22 10:23 AM
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A few questions: 1) why do you want to move to a state that obviously has backwards laws? 2) why are you planning for divorce before you even married or even found the person yet?
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/22 11:43 AM
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I think he needs to put down the bible …. Obviously it is filing his head with nonsense
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/22 05:03 PM
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It really depends on your state and how well the lawyers can argue it. If your state requires alimony then she can be entitled to the potential earnings of it. However if is simply a hobby and doesn't generate revenue then she has no reasonable claim to it. As others say, talk to your lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/21 12:03 PM
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Nope, you are not the only one. I may consider it after i meet my "soulmate" and we have gotten old...getting married makes transferring property after death easier...other than that i see no benefit.
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/21 04:19 PM
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I love those bikes! how do you like it?
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/21 10:54 AM
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I get it...you are angry, she hurt you. but focus on your kids, be a good father and example. Think about it if your kids got into a fight with their friends and they just started yelling "I HATE THEM I WANT THEM TO DIE"....you probably would tell them to calm down and distract them with something more productive. Do that for yourself. As others have recommended; work out. focus on YOU. Be the best man you can be and move on. she obviously isn't worth your time. there will be someone else, and s…
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/21 12:21 PM
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Thanks for this, in the back of my mind I have always known this to be true which is why after knowing she is abusive I have stuck with her for another four something years. I am preparing to be steam rolled but I am trying to do my best to figure out how I can reduce it as much as humanly possible. That’s why I need to find a good lawyer but one who’s not gonna bankrupt me.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/21 09:16 PM
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Awesome thanks for sharing
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/21 06:01 PM
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how did you find out she did it for a fact? did she come clean? also don't think of it as "being alone and happy with it" think of it as a new opportunity/refresh on life away from a cheating spouse.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/21 12:02 PM
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It can be. The biggest factor is finding the right partner. Long dating and king living together times are highly recommended. Even with that I think a prenup is important
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/21 02:49 PM
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