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Wdym? When I go clubbing and girls are eager to hook up, it's not uncommon they say they're three digits deep. I've started being more picky, and not saying yes just cuz a girl is dtf - it makes for better connections, tho it's cool to have really promiscuous girls in the circle of acquaintances as well. Especially if you're going to kink parties and you need someone to bring.
/r/seduction19/03/26 04:56 PM
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True! But those who want hookups, boy they go around. Girl in my choir feels variety is the spice of life, and boys in books are better - cause they change all the time. She even got the t-shirt.
/r/seduction18/03/26 08:05 AM
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Get a good vibe going and the rest will follow
/r/seduction05/03/26 02:12 PM
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Think less about picking up and more about getting a good vibe going. Good vibes are usually what most pickups start off as. Don't care that much about age or gender either, as you'll get better at your demographic by being open to all people.
/r/seduction03/03/26 02:10 PM
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Just try to create a good vibe and forget about seduction - that's when seduction works best imo. Try to have a good time and forget about age and gender and looks.
/r/seduction02/03/26 03:47 PM
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Girls often tell me such during pillow talk, that they fear rejection, feel insecure etc Pretty or not doesn't matter much. Not sure why /u/karl_ae had pretty in quote marks tho. They often don't stay in relationships either, because that's what insecure attachment does - makes relationships difficult
/r/seduction28/11/25 11:46 AM
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They dress seductively, act seductively, love attention and usually hook up with the hottest guy they can find - as getting sexual attention gives them an ego boost
/r/seduction28/11/25 11:14 AM
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It's like drinking only a sip of your favorite drink. Drink enough and you'll get bored. A loving LTR is the real prize. Sure having sex with plenty girls is fun and exciting and all that, but if you start going to orgies and such you'll get sated. At least I have. IMO fwb is "the worst" because the novelty wears off, and you disappoint if you disappear, but you also start to develop some bond and connection and it all just gets painful eventually. At least that's how I've felt about it.
/r/seduction17/11/25 12:31 PM
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That made smile. Sounds like a great guy!! Quick question. Bad idea right? I am chatting with an ex, who I've been afraid will not only move on but forget me. I literally forgot a woman I was with earlier this year. I said "Hi" and introduced myself, and she said "whaaat, we've had sex together?!" and playfully punched me on my chest and I felt bad for her, even though she was seemingly only pretend-angry. I was first thinking about telling my ex this, that sometimes you forget... But also think…
/r/seduction15/11/25 01:09 AM
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Well put, well put. I have come to think the opposite of "creating jealously" is what works best. To try to make the person feel seen, wanted, appreciated and different from the rest. Preferably by actually feeling these things towards someone, which is easy when you appreciate people for who they are.
/r/seduction14/11/25 11:56 AM
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Curious about your honest take on smt. I feel my stomach twist when girls try to make me jealous about saying they're sleeping with someone else. A girl who was tiny bit flirting with me, seemed to get this same reaction. Her body language changed and she seemed to cut off the subject, indicating she's not interested in listening when I talk about recent hookups. Do you think even hinting at hookups usually is off-putting? I know a lotta people use it for creating jealously, which I guess they d…
/r/seduction14/11/25 11:41 AM
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Join student groups. Student choir, student sports group, etc, you'll meet people regularly that way and if girls like you you'll usually be able to tell.
/r/seduction05/11/25 04:22 PM
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Your friend is most likely doing this from a mindset to amuse himself, not to impress the girl. Try to adopt that mindset. You're absolutely right, there's as much joking when it's just us guys. Sometimes even more. Amusing oneself, good way to put it. Practice! Try saying funny shit. I've been thinking about recording jokes, practicing intonation, pauses and finding jokes I truly like. Perhaps such practice could be of benefit. So much that goes into comedy.
/r/seduction05/11/25 02:55 PM
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I wouldn't be checky, girls hate that, if you are not funny don't try and be, being interesting is easier Thanks! Being interesting and interested falls more natural to me. I guess playing on your strengths is what works. Though it's to a large extent depression holding me back from joking more. I like the guys I hang out with, and how they get the laughs going when it's only us as well.
/r/seduction05/11/25 02:52 PM
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Lmfao. Thanks for sharing. Lists are for guys who only climax when they tell other guys. A great life hack is to forget forgettable lays, and focus on quality over quantity. Having the best time, with the best company. Lists also gets guys trapped in inferiority complexes, comparing oneself to say Gene Simmons 10.000 lays or never settling when being with a great girl.
/r/seduction31/10/25 02:48 PM
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Great video - and thou I think you're handing out sound advice, it ain't exactly the gist of the vid
/r/seduction08/10/25 09:10 PM
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Thanks. Do you think this is a mainly older women thing, or girls in their twenties as well? I can't say I know so much about pickup. I usually make out with someone before leaving a club, but then again, maybe a lot of great girls want to take it slow. Recently I have met girls who were more modest - one wanted hookup but no makeout in public, another was semi-interesed, didn't makeout, exchanged socials and never heard back. I am just loath to spend time on a girl if she doesn't seem intereste…
/r/seduction02/10/25 08:14 PM
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Most women don't want others to see them acting slutty Often overlooked and a good point! In your opinion, do you think this also applies to kissing or making out? Which is quite common on the dancefloor...
/r/seduction02/10/25 07:31 PM
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How do YOU (you personally) usually approach women in clubs, especially when they’re on the dance floor? When they're on the dance floor? Dance next to them, if they like you you'll notice - and it often escalates without taking. Too loud to talk proper anyhow. Girls dance a bit like they tinder: You notice when you've been swiped. What exactly do you say? Short specific compliments or smt I don't dance myself so curious what you guys say cause its like you're interrupting their vibe Perhaps bar…
/r/seduction02/10/25 05:05 PM
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Then I have to ghost them No, you don't have to ghost them. Better to be slow on the reply, replying with few words - and if they still keep going then you can be more direct saying you're not looking for something exclusive etc. Usually girls get the message without you having to spell it out.
/r/seduction17/09/25 12:09 PM
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Might sound odd, but I genuinely think if someone is a selfish prick and don't care about morals at all, I'm still right. Because caring about others gives you so much for free, including better relations and not putting someone on a pedestal, and when things come genuine people notice it.
/r/seduction14/09/25 09:59 AM
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Thanks. I guess it's mostly summer thing, rooftop bars, or something you do year round?
/r/seduction12/09/25 04:37 PM
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A rooftop bar, now that's something unique. It's a great tip! Something girls often haven't been to, so it's kind of like inviting to an experience as well. Big up for that. So, I guess then you go there at LATEST couple hours after midnight, cuz that's when they stop letting in new customers.
/r/seduction12/09/25 04:05 PM
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I'm curious if you could share names of two clubs/bars that can work like this, so I can look it up on Google Streetview and see? I'm curious, because I have never done such before. I understand it if you feel it's too privacy invasive or something, but I'd really like to know. I've been to your capital before. Thanks for your answers anyway.
/r/seduction11/09/25 07:03 PM
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Is it fine if I ask whether you do this yourself? Club to bar. I'm still a little bit confused. Usually bars have customers throughout the day, serving meals and beer, conversely clubs make their money after midnight and have a cover charge, usually. I also find the club to be waaay more sexual than a bar. Dance, make out, leave together to get sexual is the standard escalation. I feel going from a club to a bar would be a de-escalation. Sorry if I get hung up on that single point of yours, I'm …
/r/seduction11/09/25 06:23 PM
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The more you contextualize yourself as playing a game against women and trying to trick them, the more you'll repel the actual women you want to attract. That's most of what this sub is about. Treating women like people, having friends who are women, being honest with others and with yourself, this is the way. The less you focus your attention on 'seduction' the more you actually attract connection with people you're attracted to. In my experience. Wholeheartedly agree! Also the buddies I have a…
/r/seduction11/09/25 06:06 PM
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I was out last weekend, and an acquaintance of mine said to pretty much all girls as his first move "After-party with us, what do you say?" He's a fine man, though not the one most women swoon for. His overtures didn't go well, and I think they're a little bit in line with "hi, I thought you're cute", cuz then the girls immediately ask themselves if they reciprocate. I'm not saying it can't work, surely it can, but that your laid out approach works better. At least for most men.
/r/seduction11/09/25 05:57 PM
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Get a lucrative career, get fit, make friends, get educated, pursue your passions, be a good person and get some good photos taken. Sex follows success. Hear, hear Absolute most important: Gtfo this sub. Say what? There's plenty good advice here. As long as you don't take things as gospel truth, but have critical awareness, I can't see what's the problem with this seddit.
/r/seduction11/09/25 05:19 PM
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Amen! If you approach with a smile and start talking with her and being light-hearted, and playful and teasing and not taking things too seriously Anyone, convince me we're wrong, but I think this is THE way to go. Instead of the "hi, I thought you're cute I just wanted to greet", i.e. being explicit about intentions from the getgo. I think things being implicit makes for more natural convos. And their minds needn't slip into "yes/no" right away.
/r/seduction11/09/25 05:14 PM
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Appreciated! Good stuff! Always have the next step in mind You approach on the street? You already know a coffee place nearby you can take her for an instant date. I have begun thinking about an event in the future, when I meet girls. Such as I have a rave I'm going to, and I'll say like if they wanna join, and if yes we exchange contact info. Not sure if that's the kind of thing you're talking about? Or asked another way, what kind of thing lined up ("next step") would you recommend to have whe…
/r/seduction11/09/25 05:00 PM
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Girls just wanna have fun. Meet her at her energy level and lead both the conversation and the girl to where you want her to go. Good one! I was about to say especially in the club, but maybe also in all walks.
/r/seduction11/09/25 04:48 PM
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teasing doesn't work [...] coming off as needy so it just seems fake/gamey Oh, yes! I got some fun lines in my holster, but if you shoot canned lines they might very well come off as gamey and fake. Still good to practice and try these, to eventually make 'em natural. Do you got any examples of good teases? That's not from the Man, Myth & Legend Craig Ferguson.
/r/seduction11/09/25 04:08 PM
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Or as I like to call it I'd say they're radically different, the approaches you and I lay out. I'm saying genuinely care about mankind and thereby treat people much the same. It takes Herculean effort if this isn't your natural default setting, but it's something that pays off, since people will appreciate you in return. Old, young, women, men. the Shawn Spencer approach: "First treat a woman like a person, then a princess, then a Greek goddess, then a person again." Hm, would you say this is a …
/r/seduction11/09/25 07:44 AM
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just talk with girls how you talk with someone you’re not attracted too This is gold, and I want to flesh out your advice, and say treat the old guy who's had a rough day with the same humanity as you would an attractive girl, i.e. raising the bar of how you treat any stranger
/r/seduction10/09/25 08:42 PM
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Word! And I can't even remember last I teased, def something to work into my repertoar. Anyone got good resources on it, then please post!
/r/seduction10/09/25 05:38 PM
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Openers at a club? Hi girls, how's your evening going? Then ask if she likes to dance or something. Make it simple, and assess based on body language etc.
/r/seduction04/09/25 03:13 PM
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I get the impression that depression could scare many women away You know, when they get to know you, they find out what you're like being around. Some people with depression have a negative affective presence, some a positive. https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2019/01/affective-presence-how-you-make-other-people-feel/579643 I think part of the reason people warn about getting involved with depressed people, is they can drag others down. By being with you, dating you, she'll get to know…
/r/seduction21/08/25 12:11 PM
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Another one is "whats something that you want to do before you die". It really puts into perspective what she finds interesting in her life. That's how you curb being boring. You probe her around to see what interests her. By the end of the date, I have been told so many times after "omg I have met such an amazing time, he showed me the best time, we had deep conversations, but I don't even know anything about him! What's his last name!? Like if we were to get married, I like need to know about …
/r/seduction15/08/25 07:24 PM
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I'm doing therapy currently Good to hear! I added an edit to my post, it's mainly the texting game. I'm rusty as hell with texting and any resources would be great. I've tried using ChatGPT and Gemini to bounce flirty texts off of, but they are ATROCIOUS. Holy fuck, GPT and Gemini can do a lot of amazing things, but they are atrocious when it comes to spitting game. You have your way with words. Try pasting your draft for a reply into ChatGPT, then ask what it thinks about your draft. I find tha…
/r/seduction13/08/25 06:22 AM
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Amen to everything you've been writing. Well put, well said.
/r/seduction12/08/25 11:35 PM
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Yeah, even women who want sex and sex only likes to get attention as if you're looking for something real, it seems. Even though I've been with plenty girls who want rough sex and choking and don't want that lover boy sorta thing on the first night.
/r/seduction11/08/25 04:45 PM
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How would you change your approach/lifestyle/strategy if you were looking for a high quality girlfriend, rather than living the PUA lifestyle? I'm open to something serious and I've noticed: When I approach girls now, I feel my success rate actually INCREASES. So, usually when I meet someone new now, I talk to them as if I'm trying to figure out if they're a good match as a one-life stand, and I find girls are more receptive to such attention than "game", not that I've ever been good at gaming.
/r/seduction11/08/25 04:33 PM
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Thanks, thanks. I aim for treating EVERYONE the same, men, women, young, old.
/r/seduction11/08/25 08:10 AM
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Interesting. I'm curious what you think of this as a rule of thumb: If you treat a girl with the same "niceness" as you'd treat a straight guy, you're on the right track? I try not to differentiate between sexes and ages, just being an alright person to people I meet.
/r/seduction11/08/25 06:02 AM
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Yes, true. But Mr Nice Guy Syndrome is a phrase that refers to something beyond being a nice person. Such as: Underlying Expectations Beneath the surface of their niceness, there's an expectation that their actions will automatically lead to positive outcomes, such as romantic success or affection. Passive-Aggressiveness When their efforts don't yield the desired results, they may become passive-aggressive, resentful, or even bitter. Difficulty with Boundaries They struggle to say no, set bounda…
/r/seduction11/08/25 05:56 AM
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And for me I feel like a Russian roulette. like one girl could like me, but at the same time another girl would get disgusted from my body that more resemble one's of a 14 year old kid. Nobody suits everyone's taste. The fact that some find you attractive is something you should grok, to use a geeky term. Chin up, and keep on keeping on.
/r/seduction08/08/25 10:50 PM
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Great advice. Especially toastmasters, but also the rest.
/r/seduction08/08/25 01:30 PM
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You're saying a geniunely kind man gets the back seat. Trying to understand your position. I'd say kindness is often correlated with trappings of being a pushover, being submissive and such. And crudeness is often correlated with trappings of confidence. Could it be the confidence part which in reality is what you think is attractive? If it's easier by way of example. Many celebs are both confident and kind. Anything from PewDiePie to George Clooney. Do you think they'd be better off if not kind…
/r/seduction07/08/25 01:07 PM
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Not just someone to “pick up chicks” with, but someone grounded, focused on real growth, who’s in it for the long game. Having that social accountability, the shared reference experiences, and even the simple act of debriefing after sets seems like it would level everything up faster. [...] So I wanted to ask this: How did you find a solid wingman or group to grow with — or did you mostly go solo? I'm opting for neither going solo nor finding a "solid wingman" by your definitions. I think someon…
/r/seduction07/08/25 08:24 AM
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Great metaphor. Definitely one I'd steal for whenever someone needs it.
/r/seduction06/08/25 09:57 PM
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Being nice or kind doesn't get you far in life honestly Kind and nice as being a submissive, obsequious pushover don't get you anywhere. Whereas kind and nice as in GENUINELY caring about people around you, sticking up for them, looking after them that is pure gold - both for pickup, making friends and leading a good life.
/r/seduction06/08/25 05:43 PM
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One tip I can give you is to practice conversation by yourself. Look at any object in your room and try talking about that for as long as possible, then based on something you’re saying, you can find ways to talk about that specific thing afterwards, then you find another topic while you’re talking, you get the drill. This will teach you to never run out of things to say Yes, he'd learn to fill the air with noise this way, only a an iota better than awkward silence, but that ain't pickup convers…
/r/seduction06/08/25 05:06 PM
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I meet women, open but after that, when my predecided lines are spoken, I dont know what to say Use the acronym FORD, as people usually get engaged about these topics: Family Occupation/studies Recreation Dreams Also "what's the best part of ..." if she's telling a story. Whether it's her vacey, some thing she likes or whatever
/r/seduction04/08/25 04:43 PM
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Yup, great advice.
/r/seduction01/08/25 11:23 PM
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but the amount of people I have to talk to for each successful close just feels absolutely exhausting and consumes a lot of time You can escalate quickly, to make those not interested in hooking up bow out. Such as asking quite early if they like massage. It need be vanilla enough that you're not breaching TOS. 1800 divided by 34 is roughly 50 matches per hookup. What’re your stats? Wanna know if mine are good or bad so I can know whether the best strategy to get more girls would be to work on m…
/r/seduction30/07/25 08:13 AM
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One where you’re close, possibly without a table between you (or you just grab the chair and put it near her, a power move). This is gold. One venue I've dated in had these beds for chairs, where the table is in front of you. Makes for easier kino and intimacy. Loud environment is a double edged sword: it’s difficult to talk, SO you need to get close with your mouths to talk, or whisper in her ears. Good point!
/r/seduction29/07/25 11:06 AM
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Yes, and I guess it's also easier to feel confident on your own haunts. Picking stuff from the menu, knowing what beverages are good, where to sit etc.
/r/seduction29/07/25 10:35 AM
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Yeah, I agree bars trump cafes! Right now I was asking about cafes, cuz there's someone I see who's more inclined to wanna meet at a cafe than a bar. The perfect pick for a cafe is "anticafe" = which is your home. I find for earlier dates it's easier to start somewhere else than your home, but close proximity to home is great, as you can go there if the mood's right. As you also point out. I don't do regular "cafe" dates in 99,9% of cases. Because cafe = daytime = bright light etc. This I didn't…
/r/seduction29/07/25 10:33 AM
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Getting to know someone, it's good to have something easy to begin with. Somewhere where people feel it's okay to leave at any moment, in case the chemistry isn't right. That's a reason I think cafes and cocktail bars are good for early meetings. Low-threshold. Sure, other things are fine as well. Going for a walk. Meeting at a pub. Meeting in a park. But in my opinion, easy things are best early on. Do come with suggestions if you think other things are better.
/r/seduction29/07/25 09:04 AM
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Yeah I agree, that's what my comment was about. As easy to do as it is to skip.
/r/seduction29/07/25 12:08 AM
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they said I’m good-looking/hot but that I lack that certain “charm” or spark. Actually caring for the people around you, including her, could create spark and charm. But it's not something which is easy to do by the flick of a switch.
/r/seduction29/07/25 12:06 AM
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Hey, it was an okay comment. No need to delete it. We're on the same page. I'm trying to get advice on what y'all look for in cafes, to become better at that aspect of dating. Obviously proximity to your place is good, if the evening progresses - or some place that's easy for her to get to. Perhaps also selection of alcohol to suit most people's taste (i.e. wine, beer, sparkling etc). Cozy atmosphere. Etc.
/r/seduction28/07/25 10:58 PM
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Yeah, I agree! Live music would be too loud, and distracting, but then again as you say, sometimes just go for what you're in the mood for. I think also like your the with the flow comment because if you're in the mood for a concert, you'll be in a good mood which will rub off on her.
/r/seduction28/07/25 10:54 PM
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Yup agree. Though I would say things like candles can be good, as the flickering flame is good when talk gets stale. Maybe also food that's easily shared can be a good thing, if you're grabbing a bite. Though bigger meals usually aren't the best on early dates, unless that's how the day unfolds.
/r/seduction28/07/25 10:51 PM
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How about checking the cafe beforehand, so you can actually hear other there? Having thoughts about good venues doesn't exclude being a listener, which obviously is important. Last time I used online dating I set up bunch of dates without checking cafes first: Which cafe you choose can massively change the interaction.
/r/seduction28/07/25 10:46 PM
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porn should be though of as a guide in form of video Fun that you say it. A lotta people say guys are lousy in bed cuz they do like in porn, but in porn almost all guys give head - whereas in reality that's where a lotta guys fail with sex: Skipping foreplay altogether.
/r/seduction28/07/25 04:25 PM
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HugePhallus2023 Quit watching, began making!
/r/seduction26/07/25 08:23 PM
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True, volleyball's great for inviting! Also you can mix the teams easy, so two girls would be playing against each other, but in a team with you and a team with your pal. A lot of people don't know also it's perfectly fine to have odd numbered team sizes, so the girls group size don't matter much. Team play bonds. Sounds like fun in Santa Monica. You're lucky to have lived there, if I may say.
/r/seduction24/07/25 05:07 PM
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Top advice. Not related to the games I mentioned, but quality advice. Perhaps easier to go this route being there solo.
/r/seduction24/07/25 04:51 PM
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Sorry you've been exposed to her, bro. Likely anxiety, anger and venting her spleen. If it's any solace she's likely struggling big time. Hope you can brush it off.
/r/seduction12/07/25 02:46 AM
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First, I'd have been honest about the meh food. Girls appreciate authenticity. They hate guys who plaster smiles on their faces to appease everyone else when that's not how they're really feeling. AMEN! This is so true! I think girls find "yes men" as boring as a slot machine that always gives win. A genuine answer would trump a pleasing one. Thanks for pointing it out! Second, I'd have called out the spoon feed. Like, wow you're skipping to girlfriend mode already huh? We haven't even been on a…
/r/seduction03/07/25 03:18 AM
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Well, I'd actually put it in either a red flag or green light territory. I know some women are suckers for attention and thereby it could be a red flag. I didn't get such vibes from her, but it's possible I'm wrong. I rather think it was flirty and nice, and changing the frame from one where we both could feel we were just talking about good food, to a more intimate, flirting frame. Like if she had a bf, he wouldn't be happy with her spoon-feeding a stranger off her fork. I missed the opportunit…
/r/seduction03/07/25 03:09 AM
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Yeah true creativity is a fun part about meeting women. I wasn't really in any pick-up mode, I just thought they looked both good and inviting and I started talking, trying to have a good time, also trying to get some info on the food. True what you're saying about how canned lines can make interactions stiff. Also good advice about how planning can feed performance anxiety. I'm hindsight I've been thinking I should've said something like: You girls tourists here too? This would open a bridge to…
/r/seduction03/07/25 02:54 AM
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Yes it does and yes I agree. Hair, clothes, cologne, all those things matter. Our disagreement is more on to what extent.
/r/seduction01/07/25 10:31 PM
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I had to break a few hearts, but it was a nice confidence boost bro youre not breaking hearts Well fitting slacks, nice shoes, a clean white button down, trimmed beard, a good watch. I rolled up the sleeves and unbuttoned the top two to show a little chest hair and Ill tell you ALL women's eyes were on me. My spouse was also swooning. I'm conventionally attractive Good for you. I was out yesterday. Really was going to do late outdoor gymming but one thing led to another and I ended up in an open…
/r/seduction01/07/25 01:51 PM
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it’s said that asking someone out immediately is better than trying to be friends first and taking your time. But what about in social circles? In social circles I'd ask 'em out without putting a date frame around the meetup, though of course you flirt when you meet if you're interested in them. I regularly ask girls out to do something without actually wanting to hook up also, just being social. Galleries, sauna, piknik, standup, karaoke etc. Usually tho as part of a bigger group.
/r/seduction28/06/25 04:48 PM
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Now, can I use my statuses and stories to increase attraction from women that view them by posting myself in highclass places? A few expensive restaurants have opened up in my area IMO average photos of great restaurants is less than great photos of average restaurants. What you'd want to is to show you have an interesting life they'd like to partake in - and photo quality plays a major role, as this is basically advertising. You can keep these stories as highlights on insta, and when you meet s…
/r/seduction26/06/25 12:26 PM
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If I know how to play the guitar, how do I incorporate it into my game? If you're talented, and getting talented takes time, you could sing and play to someone at an afterparty. If you've already got a gf, you could sing and play to her, strengthening your bond. If she's already your gf then good enough is perfect, when it comes to playing and singing skills. Do play guitar though cause you enjoy playing. It's very low yield if you play only to become better at picking up someone.
/r/seduction18/06/25 08:54 AM
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“Hey, sorry to interrupt, I saw the book you’re reading. Had to say hi.” This is gold. Some suspense in why. Natural. Doesn't make things awkward if she her signals show she's not interested. “I was literally about to leave but felt like I’d regret it if I didn’t come say something.” Simple. Clean. Effective. Use the Power of Vulnerability Good stuff, good stuff! “This is totally random, but I just had to come say hi.” “I was gonna chicken out but I didn’t want to.” “I don’t usually do this, but…
/r/seduction07/06/25 09:45 PM
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Worked out well, then, taking photos of each other. Good to hear! Can’t believe guys would rather pay for escorts and hookers as opposed to taking the steps needed to actually improve themselves Me neither. And I can't believe the same people don't see the paradox in paying thru their nose for a real estate agent, getting professional photos of their home - but wouldn't spend a dime on photos which could determine who they end up sharing their home with.
/r/seduction06/06/25 11:44 PM
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I think I've seen some of the videos you're referring to. As I remember it, case in point, he showed that average dudes with great photos did better than great looking dudes with poor photos. But these photos were primarily taken by a photographer, right. So, they could serve as inspiration for what types of photos to have taken, rather than photos to take yourself?
/r/seduction06/06/25 11:31 AM
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As long as you don't cut and paste, it refines your text game to get suggestions from AI, because you incorporate good techniques, making them your own. What it does particularly well is active listening, smooth writing and asking for dates in a way which makes people feel wanted. You may also write your original message and then ask it for comments - which you may or may not heed.
/r/seduction06/06/25 09:07 AM
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Interesting advice you come with! Especially the prompts. Use AI inside Tinder and turn on the screen reader mode, so it gets her profile pics, bio, and the chat thread in real time I have never heard of screen reader mode. Is it feature of the ChatGPT app? And is there a chance such a mode gets you flagged as a bot?
/r/seduction06/06/25 09:03 AM
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Aha, so none of them are like https://www.eventbrite.com/ or https://www.meetup.com/ I'd still appreciate examples of sports events or interest groups that could lead somewhere.
/r/seduction06/06/25 08:13 AM
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Interesting! Also, most of my "real world lays" happened from parties / social events where it is not strictly a cold approach. It's like a semi-warm approach because either they know you a bit from before or we have common friends or at least we both know someone at he party or university or workplace or wherever we met. Could you give us examples of social events that are neither workplace, university or private parties?
/r/seduction06/06/25 07:50 AM
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Honestly, I wouldn't recommend to take them yourself, because they'd either be selfies or tripod photos, which aren't top notch. You may get friends to take photos when you come together. Those can come in handy. You can play around with a tripod and selfies, but I'd say it would be mostly useful in order to find good locations, work with poses and outfits for photos. You can find inspiration for which type of photos you'd like on Instagram, and ask a photographer to take such. But I wouldn't re…
/r/seduction05/06/25 08:22 PM
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Get a good photographer and prepare to have more than one session. If you're on a budget you could reach out to someone who's got some instagram success in your area and ask if they can take photos for cheap.
/r/seduction05/06/25 03:24 PM
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What are some eye opening thing What an immense difference good photos make in online dating. You might think yours are good, but if you're not an Instagram denizen, likely they're not.
/r/seduction05/06/25 02:39 PM
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im 19 with my family in france (paris and nice)for the week and still want to go enjoy a night out see if i can get something to happen Go straight to the dancefloor at a night club. In the strobe lights and smoke from smoke cannons people won't question whether you're there solo. If they do once you're done dancing say it exactly like it is. You're there with family. Else wise you've been given sound advice about having a social attitude on solo nights.
/r/seduction03/06/25 08:59 AM
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I’ve always had the mentality that I don’t want to feel used or chase anyone just to feed their ego. Lose that mentality. Flirting should be FUN and not something where their ego is inflated and yours deflated. Take a look at this and tell in what way he should feel used https://youtu.be/jHf5Uv_ydFY?si=Y7VrUmpj6jv1aLuO How can I start practicing on my flirting skills and actually get some luck? Observe. Get inspiration. Try. Repeat. Find a flirting style that suits your personality. Best of luck…
/r/seduction03/06/25 08:10 AM
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Any tips for winning her back while we are still in touch Depends on why she broke up with you Anyway, you've been some given gold by hunterpua. Such as moving on with your life.
/r/seduction02/06/25 06:24 PM
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Cold reads seem to get a very muted reaction like she sees you as an odd firtune teller or they say something that is ridiculously persumptuous from a 10 second interaction. Maybe assumptions would work better. They're somewhat related to cold reads. Saying things like "So, you like New York" instead of "How do you like New York?" You can use that in many ways. Going clubbing, you can say "So, you like techno" if they're playing that kinda music. It's a way of getting a conversation started. Sub…
/r/seduction30/05/25 07:03 PM
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That dialogue says between the lines "hi, I found you attractive" and if she's dismissive I'd leave it at that. What are your technniques for an interesting convo. I see examples like 'what would you do if you won the lottery' but that just seems to corny to me, especially on a cold approach. Maybe better for a date? Yes, absolutely lottery is more of date question. And more important than lines and words is what kind of energy you create. So yeah, tips for keeping a a convo going (and 'interest…
/r/seduction30/05/25 06:52 PM
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So, you've met someone at a social event. Exchanged contact details. It's a week or two till you potentially meet again. Then I'd say try to keep an interesting (i.e. engaging) conversation going, where you get to know each other. Not sure if we're talking about same scenarios, but leaving someone at a high is also fine. I primarily don't chat because I'm not bothered to unless I'm really attracted, not cuz I think it's ineffective.
/r/seduction30/05/25 12:22 PM
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Yup! Keep the conversation interesting > keep the conversation going And chat with the intent to achieve something. If you're getting to know someone you met at an event, there's value in keeping an in interesting conversation going till next you meet. But talking to talk is only slightly better than giving 'em a wasp in the ear.
/r/seduction30/05/25 11:54 AM
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i go to a social event taking place weekly I introduce myself and we have a chat i try to polarize and end up with none Likely an unpopular opinion but: flirt yes, but try to get to know rather than hit on. These are weekly events, not clubbing, so move slow. Try to get to know them in a way which they'll invite you to whatever later. Also you can casually drop that you're having food and entertainment with some friends in the weekend and they're welcome to join. It can be karaoke, board games, …
/r/seduction29/05/25 01:46 PM
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I think you're right, that it wasn't enough for her to lose interest. I rather think it was mostly that I wasn't genuinely into her and she could tell. That's a big turn off for girls. Yeah, I know some people get set up and scammed or robbed but this wasn't that. I just wrote the incident shorthand because what I'm most interested in is guys experiences with the effects of small unauthentic moments, tiny bluffs, how they affect things. This was a girls night out to get her a boyfriend. She was …
/r/seduction25/05/25 06:41 PM
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Question is really what experiences people have with small stuff having a big impact. My guess is small things may matter A LOT, because it has to do with authenticity. If you're curious about the incident which made me write the post: I went out on Saturday. Entered the dancefloor and I was approached by a girl and things got to "get a room" quite quickly. I didn't really fancy her but she was so eager. I had entered the club with a guy who was joking that we'd fuck, me and him. And when we wer…
/r/seduction25/05/25 06:18 PM
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Want to ask for her number? The best timing is right after you've made her laugh and feel good.
/r/seduction21/05/25 10:43 AM
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This is gold, for keeping relationships going!
/r/seduction14/05/25 08:59 AM
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The obvious answer to this is to tell her before you meet her; problem is, they usually run the other way when this happens I was going to say escalate chats in online dating rather fast. Such as asking whether they like massage, that kinda thing. Thus making them understand what you're after without being explicit. Or setting your dating goals to short term. But I take it you're saying that doesn't work well. Regardless of how you go about things, I'd say let your intentions be known implicitly…
/r/seduction13/05/25 07:24 AM
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Some are, yeah! I know a girl who looks at almost everyone, ogling them. I went for a walk with her and two men (!) hit on her even though we were walking together. She is 100 % attention starved and was 0 % a sign of interest. Few girls are as extreme as her, but many have lacked attention their first life years and are forever hungry afterwards. Others may be shy and don't look even tho really interested.
/r/seduction08/05/25 03:16 PM
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So I’m at the bar [...] enjoying myself So we’re talking, enjoying ourselves This is key. I just had a dance lesson and the tutor said: Smile and enjoy yourself and all is forgiven. Awkward moves? Forgiven. Out of step? Forgiven. Everything is forgiven, as long as you smile and remain eye contact and show you enjoy yourself. Congrats on your double hookup, OP. Sounds like a great experience!
/r/seduction07/05/25 09:04 AM
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I think how to get better in bed should be talked about more on this sub as this is a very important part of modern day dating I agree. I started a thread on it, and it was shut down cuz off-topic. If you know of good subreddits for such discussions, then shout out. Like you say, tongue or fingers first and you're ahead of many guys. I also met a “I felt like I was passing out from pleasure” girl earlier this month. It was just tongue, fingers, sex, massage, repeat - for some hours. Then the sam…
/r/seduction30/04/25 09:08 AM
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Well put! I think a lotta guys forget that you can create attraction by your way of being. One acquaintance of mine is actually an Asian playboy like yourself. He's slept with way more women than anybody should, really, and he's at least a head shorter than me.
/r/seduction02/02/25 09:50 PM
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For real?! Girls call you sexy to your face all the time? I DON'T get that, but I do get IOIs like: *) "Come greet my friend she's out to get some." *) General spontaneous compliments (smile, face, body etc) *) Making out without introducing themselves *) Grinding their ass on my groin on dancefloor *) Giving me small things, drink, tickets etc. *) General IOI: limp wrist; playing with hair; eye contact and a smile; them playfully initiating conversation. I can't recall once that stranger of a g…
/r/seduction02/02/25 02:11 PM
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The desire of the woman is the desire of the man, they say. So compliments to make her feel you really want her are golden when making out. But hey, make them genuine. I guess there's always things you like about girls you meet?
/r/seduction30/01/25 01:17 PM
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Norwegiandoggo speaks words of wisdom. Otherwise if you OP already have come to a place where you're making out, you've come quite far and sparked some attraction. Earlier in the date you should've found something you GENUINELY LIKE about the girl. When making out give those compliments.
/r/seduction30/01/25 06:33 AM
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a girl came up to me (I was just standing alone holding my drink) saying, “ my friends think you’re really fucking creepy,” while proceeding to shoo me away This is about HER not you. Such people are often outraged about something in their own lives, but unable to take out their aggression where it belongs. Therefore they vent their spleen.
/r/seduction28/01/25 11:35 AM
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Put in other words. Treat them like a celebrity and they'll treat you like a fan.
/r/seduction26/01/25 05:50 PM
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Lol. Yeah. If they have an open account with bikini photos their inbox will be flooded, and the whole thing can be almost like an onlyfans. But also there is many who set their insta to private and only allow family and friends into their circle. I'd actually think connecting there is just as good as getting their number.
/r/seduction26/01/25 12:50 PM
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Alcohol removes a lot of insecurity. When drunk you've got (almost) none. I've had plenty of ONS when we don't exchange full names or numbers. I am not surprised that some women find it a higher threshold to give a number to a stranger when sober than hook up when drunk. That said, it's more common for women to go out intending to have a good time ("whatever comes, comes") than to go out intending to hook up. Those in the latter category usually have insecure attachment systems, making sober rel…
/r/seduction24/01/25 08:30 PM
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Thanks for the book tip. I put it on my to-read list! I have read The Charisma Myth previously. It has some great points and some parts that's utter hogwash. I would actually recommend that book as well, but only if being read particularly critically. I see the book you recommended also gets better Amazon and Goodreads reviews than the one I mentioned. Appreciated!
/r/seduction23/01/25 06:36 AM
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Thanks! Great snippet! I think what she talks about is a key element of charisma as well. To genuinely care about the people around you, and take interest in their lives. If you're in addition to this are powerful, show warmth and is a good listener, people are drawn to that.
/r/seduction22/01/25 06:41 AM
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Intriguing! Do share the study if you have it at hand.
/r/seduction21/01/25 12:44 PM
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A more shewed gender ratio could be the culprit. I have the impression more women than men have migrated from Tinder to Hinge, making hookups on Tinder harder, cuz there's more dudes per woman on Tinder, and many pony up to get their likes shown.
/r/seduction20/01/25 06:58 AM
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It's uncomfortable and awkward for her if she can't reciprocate. So, you'd usually wait longer than 2-3 dates to tell them you REALLY like them.
/r/seduction06/01/25 07:57 AM
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Take photos where you COME ACROSS taller and don't list your height unless mandatory
/r/seduction03/01/25 08:03 AM
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Yeah, well. Perhaps it's something to check out, but I don't so much believe in 1:1 in body language and what it means. I believe people are able to pick up general feelings (at ease/tense, interested/uninterested etc) but that things fall apart when you get into more specifics than that. The broad strokes taught in the first book I feel hold true. Maybe it's worthwhile checking out the book you recommended, but I'm puzzled that a good book has only a single rating instead of thousands, when its…
/r/seduction02/01/25 02:51 PM
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Yeah, well. Perhaps it's something to check out, but I don't so much believe it 1:1 in body language and what it means. I believe people are able to pick up general feelings (at ease/tense, interested/uninterested etc) but that things fall apart when you get into more specifics than that. The broad strokes taught in the first book I feel hold true. Maybe it's worthwhile checking out the book you recommended, but I'm puzzled that a good book has god one - 1 - review instead of thousands, when its…
/r/seduction02/01/25 02:51 PM
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Have you read both books? Seemingly the book you're referring to be has only one - 1 - rating on Goodreads. Which usually indicates people ain't reading it.
/r/seduction01/01/25 10:50 PM
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Not strictly a game book, but check out The Definitive Book of Body Language by Pease. You'll get better at immediately reading how whom your speaking to is responding. It's written in crystal clear prose and is quite entertaining.
/r/seduction01/01/25 01:03 PM
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Yeah, honesty is the best policy. But you can avoid brutal honesty. If you OP feel that you don't want to settle down cuz you're young and have options, you could say something like you're in a phase in life when you aren't looking to settle down so you're dating more people.
/r/seduction31/12/24 09:26 AM
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When out drinking: "Hi, how's your evening going?"
/r/seduction30/12/24 07:37 AM
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u/FineManufacturer5907 copy all your messages into ChatGPT and ask what it thinks of your conversation and what to reply next. You're welcome!
/r/seduction28/12/24 03:30 PM
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Why Elon does well? Fame, status, competency. And he's got a world class hair transplant.
/r/seduction28/12/24 12:28 AM
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Sounds like a great book! Thanks for the advice! I've been told to slow down by many women, both with regards to fingering, fucking and massage. Not slow down to make it last longer, but slow down to max out the pleasure. Bet there's plenty other good advice in the book.
/r/seduction27/12/24 03:39 PM
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I think you're right. That's the best. I wish I had higher libido now and more patience, as that would really help. But outside of this I'd also like resources like books, videos, that kinda thing. I don't have any problems making three of the four women I'm involved with orgasm, but I'd like to get better at sex.
/r/seduction27/12/24 03:35 PM
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Thanks for the tip. If you've read it, I'd appreciate a few words about why you liked it. I have heard good things about the book.
/r/seduction27/12/24 03:03 PM
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Politically correct sex books are anti masculine energy, even tho many women want just that. Appreciated the tip about OMG yes.
/r/seduction27/12/24 02:58 PM
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Yeah, women are mostly mental when it comes to sex, and kinks and how they want to be treated overshadows technique. Agree! Though I'd still like to delve more into techniques. I'd like books, videos, quality resources that ain't just politically correct crap.
/r/seduction27/12/24 02:32 PM
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Yeah, I agree practice > theory. But I've picked up some good stuff from theory as well, such as the CAT position. Which is one where you grind the clitoris in missionary. Bet there's much other that could also be nice additions to sex.
/r/seduction27/12/24 02:04 PM
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True, true. I've got that. Several such, actually. Tricky thing is that submissive girls ain't that much of communicators when it comes to what they like, and what they like is usually heavily related to domination.
/r/seduction27/12/24 02:00 PM
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If you're completely new to this, it's easiest to find such touch opportunities by watching a romantic movie in fast-forward. Stop the movie when they touch, see what made them touch, fast-forward again. It can be jokes, laughter, supporting each other, teasing each other, many things.
/r/seduction27/12/24 10:06 AM
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And if you wanna be attacked, hang out at the watering hole. Twilight and later.
/r/seduction17/12/24 06:39 AM
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Go to a sex club, swingers club, or sex positive night club. Most people there are looking for heterosexual encounters, but there's also plenty of couples looking for single women. They often have at least one closed room, if you prefer privacy.
/r/seduction16/12/24 09:32 AM
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Wouldn't this get you banned, tho? I've heard such stories.
/r/seduction16/12/24 09:29 AM
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How you do it is paste in their message, then ask chatgpt what they think of it. Then prompt chatgpt to draft a reply. Or conversely draft your own reply and ask chatgpt what they think of it, chatgpt will make revisions. I have got great response on such chatgpt generated texts. It works magic. Tune the messages to fit your voice.
/r/seduction11/12/24 09:30 AM
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Celebrate every interaction, no matter how small. It's great advice, and like to expand on it. Try to create positive small talk interactions with strangers regardless of their age and gender. It makes it easier to pick up women that way, cause you learn more about how to get good interactions going. Moreover getting turned down feels easier if your approach style is 'getting to know' rather than making your intentions bleeding obvious from the get-go. Cause you don't know they know you were aim…
/r/seduction10/12/24 01:06 PM
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Women using seduction tactics on you. I wouldn't call negging a seduction tactic for females, but rather a way to check what timber you are. Yes, I've been negged and shit-tested, which are sort of similar. But I wouldn't see them as conscious things they do, but rather basic instincts.
/r/seduction10/12/24 11:41 AM
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Why is there absolutely no goid advice on texting? Seriously this is my one holdup. chatgpt, dude
/r/seduction10/12/24 08:06 AM
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This is great advice!
/r/seduction06/12/24 08:47 PM
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I don’t want the girl to think I’m taking her on a date. How does this usually go? A date doesn't mean you'll end up in a regular relationship. FWB often start as an ONS, which may or may not begin on a date. If you feel a coffee date isn't your thing, go to a pub or bar, then. The most likely is that if she doesn't want to sleep with you rather soon, she's not interested in FWB. You'll find that out within a couple of dates.
/r/seduction29/11/24 01:14 PM
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If you WANT TO reply and you want to distance yourself from it, use chatgpt to draft a reply and use whatever seems okay in their draft. Then leave it at that.
/r/seduction20/11/24 08:02 PM
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How do you make small talk with someone? FORD works well, for topics people enjoy talking about: - Family Occupation/studies Recreational activities Dreams Feel your way what's natural in any given occasion.
/r/seduction15/11/24 09:24 AM
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Women who weren't given enough attention when they were small, from their parents, will often have a lifelong need for attention. A need that can only temporarly be satisfied. They usually have what you'd call an insecure attachment system. I'd say most girls who commutate with triple digit of guys fall into this category. Party girls as well. Attention is their currency. Also in the age group OP is writing about (25-40) you'd have a skewed sample, because women with secure attachment systems of…
/r/seduction15/11/24 06:55 AM
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Nice to hear it's been working well for you in Amsterdam. If I may ask, are you living in Norway as a foreigner?
/r/seduction14/11/24 08:12 PM
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She may very well be a good person. I don't doubt it. And married with kids sounds nice. But I would guess she's among them needing attention, and may feel she's lacking that as the honeymoon is over. I bet she'd be happy if you reached out some time.
/r/seduction14/11/24 06:15 PM
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filming non-consensual sex videos of his students with women and then uploading them onto the internet Yikes. I think it's pretty grey zone just candidly filming pickups and giving them a consent form afterwards. What this dude is accused of is truly awful and casts a dark shade on the community as such. Thank goodness not all of the "gurus" are like this.
/r/seduction14/11/24 04:12 PM
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My confidence is low lately, and seeing guys on ig who's so much more attractive and having girls follow them etc also adds to it. This might be an unpopular comment, but I have friend who was in the same situation. He just came out of a LTR and felt low on himself. He went on a trip to SEA and felt like he was treated like a movie star (his words) from the natives. Such experiences might give you a confidence boost. My friend wasn't looking for call girls. Getting a confidence boost might also …
/r/seduction13/11/24 01:55 PM
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If girls are sitting at a bar area of the nightclub, you can go to their table, ask them how their night is going. And ask if anyone likes to dance. Take it from there. Nothing wrong with that. If you're gl girls appreciate it. Good for you with the grinding. If it's happened once, it can happen again. Just get yourself out on the dance floor. Sounds like you're doing good!
/r/seduction28/10/24 07:11 AM
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got her name and her profession If you got her name then it's fine, sure. If she didn't tell her name and you got an okay vibe with her it ain't that bad to reach out even then. Some girls start relationships that way. Best of luck.
/r/seduction23/10/24 05:23 PM
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but I found out [...] her name If she didn't say her name, and you didn't have a super-positive vibe going, don't message her. Rather talk with her once more if you happen to meet her on the same bus, and see where the conversation goes. EDIT. I see you've already written her. Best of luck, bro!
/r/seduction23/10/24 02:30 PM
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Any time, bro. Life can tough. Thanks by the way, for your compliment.
/r/seduction06/10/24 05:11 PM
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Any time, bro. Life can tough. Thanks by the way, for your compliment.
/r/seduction06/10/24 05:11 PM
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getting overly nervous when she doesn't answer, worrying about what if we can't meet, what if she leaves me, etc. To me, it seems like you've got insecure attachment. I'm sorry to hear what happened between you and your ex girlfriend. Surely what happened between you might have fueled this, but I wouldn't be surprised if you have some fear of abandonment which began earlier. Parents often do their best, but their best isn't good enough. Most people DO NOT have secure attachment, so if this is th…
/r/seduction06/10/24 05:02 PM
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Like is it even smart to sext your hinge date or is even conterproducing to get laid. If you're drowning in matches and all you want is something casual, sure you can sext in order to "sort the matches". If you on the other hand is trying to get with a certain person, then don't.
/r/seduction06/10/24 12:24 PM
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Check google for when the store is the least busy, show up then. You could ask her for recommendations about smokes, which smoke is best, and - seeing how she responds to you - casually change the subject into good coffee, that you've had a cup at name-of-local-place that was really good. If you afterwards ask her whether she likes coffee, she'd know that you're hitting on her, but she wouldn't know that you know that she knows. Thus it wouldn't be awkward to show up again if you don't get a pos…
/r/seduction02/10/24 06:43 AM
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cold approaches during the day is the most straightforward way to improve flirting and social skills You should also get a habit of small talking with people when small talk feels natural, with men and women, regardless of age. Casual small talk about things that people find pleasant is a way to up your game and get more socially confident.
/r/seduction26/09/24 06:16 AM
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1) how do you juggle multiple dates or relationships with multiple women? Being open and honest that you're involved with several girls. Many women are okay with it as long as you're open. 2) when they text me to connect, should I be actively replying or just spread it out and invest more in the connection during the date? I ask this because a lot of PUA guys say not to actively text first* and i havent. But they are texting me and I respond but am not invested. You can send more or less the sam…
/r/seduction26/09/24 05:36 AM
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“There’s a lot of girls in ur area, why don’t u have a gf?” You can say: It's easier to find say a banana or peach than a life partner. You got to have chemistry with them, to really vibe, and I'm picky with who I want to give my morrows. What do look for in a potential partner? Besides looks, that is.
/r/seduction25/09/24 01:20 PM
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showering me with so many compliments that my brain was malfunctioning. Is that a red flag? I’m posting this If you're out to get lucky, that's not a red flag but more of a green light. She's touching you, smelling you, complimenting you. It sounds to me like she wanted to get some, and you kissed her too late, not too early. And you escalated too little, not too much. You could accept compliments with a thanks, but I guess there were something about this girl that made you go out with her, so y…
/r/seduction17/09/24 06:18 AM
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Is it normal to approach women at shopping malls, stores and the street? It's not something the average guy does and part of me feels like doing this is weird and forced. If you want the most natural flow, then move as a natural day. Head to the mall, visit a cafe, talk to people, move on to the street, have some errands there, then go to the park. So that you're moving. Having nice experiences and talking with girls all the while.
/r/seduction08/09/24 03:34 PM
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That's true for hotels. Pity it worked out that way. But if people check into hostels w/bar and events, it's way more social and the likelihood of meeting people is high. If travelling to hook up, one can check into hostels that also offer private rooms.
/r/seduction07/09/24 11:23 AM
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If you on some level believe the societal myth of The One who completes you, and you only had this one chance and now you blew it - then realize that that idea is just a myth. It gained traction with Christianity to spread social stability, and it's more right to think of The Ones. Other girls have other qualities. They might have good stuff about them which your oneitis lacks. They could be just as good of a match, if not even better. I think you're onto the best remedy already: The more you ge…
/r/seduction04/09/24 11:42 AM
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Best of luck, bro. It sounds to me like you've got an insecure attachment style, because of life experiences. People who have that can over-interpret neutral signs as negative and negative as it's all over. I thought about canceling plans with her, chilling with friends and pulling back a bit Many people with insecure attachment do just this, and turns out they over-interpreted the other part. I'm not saying she's into you or not into you. I'm just saying listen to yourself when you write your m…
/r/seduction26/08/24 06:01 PM
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You can flirt on most topics. If you haven't covered all the basic topics, then go for them. Such as talk about your families and relations within them, how hers and your studies are going (teachers, fellow students), what stuff you guys like to do for fun, or talk about your dreams in life - or what you'd do if you became a lottery billionaire.
/r/seduction21/08/24 09:27 PM
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A great line I use for #3 “ you remember it however you want to, I’ll remember it the way it actually happened” Well put, Wonderful-Rock. I remember in middle school when girls phoned me I jokingly said "I love you too", often when she knew there were other people in the room. Both of us knowing she just said "bye" or something to that effect. All of this is just playful teasing where both know what really happened. I can't believe some people confuse this with gaslighting. Sigh.
/r/seduction21/08/24 07:16 AM
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So a classic bad example of making a suggestion is a guy saying - well, do you want to come back to my place? Boring and predictable. While in this case you could say - well, we just explored the two best places to have wine and we have one place left. Now it might be surprising but I actually opened up a winery myself and my friends have said it might be the best wine they have ever drunk. So let’s go and explore my winery and you can give me your expert opinion. This is gold, OP. I do such thi…
/r/seduction21/08/24 06:59 AM
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I understand the basics, good hygiene, well dressed, healthy looking, etc. What other things have you tried that have purposefully OR inadvertently have women approach you? One tip, if you go clubbing wear shoes with insoles to gain height. No girl looks down at your feet when clubbing, and even if they do you can get away with half an inch anyhow. Surely height is attractive as such, but you also get more visible on the dancefloor, which may help in getting approached more. The last times I've …
/r/seduction19/08/24 04:46 PM
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Nah, it's rather another thing to check in their list. They want handsome intelligent dudes. They ain't getting wet and ready by dudes like John von Neumann.
/r/seduction19/08/24 04:29 PM
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This was gold. Thanks for sharing.
/r/seduction19/08/24 04:24 PM
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