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She goes to work you're fast asleep in bed. She comes home and you're having a nap. Forget the excuses, that is lazy shit actions there. I'd be fucking some other guy too.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/17 01:58 AM
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Further validation of my current hypothesis the my wife isn't a narcissist, it's just AWALT. She really does think she is perfect in every way. Annoys me less and makes me laugh more with every day.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/16 06:07 AM
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"Hey Fatty's quite a guy, if you're gonna fuck him, can I watch?" What quips would you recommend to OP?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/16 05:06 AM
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wore cargo shorts and crocs to my office I suspect your problem is your wife can't unsee that old you.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/16 04:35 AM
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A passionate threat is less creepy. A dispassionate/intellectual threat is what makes psychopaths and genocide so appalling.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/16 03:29 AM
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It IS a position of weakness, you just don't see it. I've probably said similar things to my wife as I grew up with a lot of violence in my youth and removing it from my repertoire has taken a long time. I look back on such comments as weak, fearful and creepy...because they are. Before I ever found reddit and was trying to sort my shit out with my wife I asked her outright if she was having an affair and I knew I had to comfort her by saying I'd never harm the mother of my children...now if I f…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/16 03:14 AM
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This thread would have gone better if you didn't keep arguing how wonderful you were...when you're clearly not. Lose the ego. Whatever, some of the advice you got was helpful to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/16 03:01 AM
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I have always been of the belief that I would rather tell my wife I would rather kill her than divorce her.(she knows this) That's fucked up man. You want your kids to chisel "the douche that killed my mum" on your headstone? Don't be one of those Murder/Suicide weak cunts. I hope there's a God just to fuck those guys up proper. The ONE thing you REALLY need to get comfortable with is: leaving the marriage is a viable option. I had difficulty getting there but when I did it was a zen moment.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/16 02:38 AM
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It is compliments from my wife's female friends that matter.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/16 02:25 AM
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00 _ You opened my eyes a bit there
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/16 01:34 AM
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I have a serious shit-testing harpy Ditto. I find myself swinging between "she is a narcissist" and "AWALT". Right now I am in the AWALT camp. To the points of the OP, she wasn't a harpy when we married...me being a faggot made her one. Accountability: I fucked her up. I need to unfuck her as it were. Work in progress.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/16 01:24 AM
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"PANIC, ANGER, BEING OUT OF CONTROL OF YOUR EMOTIONS will only hinder and hamstring your future" If people only learn one thing from MRP it should be this. Which is why i always just want to punch myself in the face when I fail in this regard. Whatever, next time I will be better.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/16 01:11 AM
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I still visit, this is a great forum. I don't post much as I have to be in just the right mood to be informed what a weak cunt I am ;) I ain't alpha but I am whittling away the beta. MRP helps :)
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/16 12:44 AM
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She did this for two reasons: She is a cunt. You were a bitch. lol
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/16 01:54 AM
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At school the thought lifting attracts pussy, sadly, never crossed my mind. I lifted so that the nutters who did MA would find easier prey...I realized technique trumped natural strength at about 14 or 15 and chose to just keep honing strength as opposed to spending money i didn't have on MA classes.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/16 02:49 AM
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This one post validates this entire sub-reddit's right to exist
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/16 02:39 AM
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Thanks for adding Bill Burr to my life. Describes it perfectly. At least I've stopped losing my shit when she does it. Maybe it is just AWALT PMS or whatever.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/16 03:50 AM
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I've only suspected abusive in literally the last few days. I have a few gambits I want to play before sending us both into mutually assured poverty via a lawyer.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/16 02:17 AM
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Hey at least I won't be alone. After the festivities one of my sons said "if you leave can I come with you?" Heartbreaking and sweet at the same time.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/16 02:06 AM
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Life's too short to tolerate an abusive partner, and you have to consider what impact witnessing or experiencing abuse would have on any kids. Fascinating timing. Thinking this right now and wondering if it is just me being shit at amused mastery etc that causes her at times to just ratchet up the vitriol. "the kids will hate you like you hated your dad"; the fact I have a different opinion on something shows I have a warped reality due to depression (I had depression a year ago but am fine now …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/16 01:52 AM
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Do not get her books so she can change. I see your point. I'm at a point where I feel I am in a good place and applying the side bar reasonably well but she is behaving a little bit nuts. The timing is perhaps good for her to read some viewpoint that suggests everything is perhaps not 100% my fault before I decide maybe, just maybe, she just ain't worth the hassle and separation won't completely blindside her. She was PMS a few days ago and threw a complete tantrum, I was unfazed and was channel…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/16 01:34 AM
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Thanks. Based on this I bought "First Kill all the marriage counselors" and gave it to my wife on the iPad. Told her I haven't read it so I have no particular agenda. "Then how do you know it is any good?" "The internet said it was good". The internet aka BPP. She read the first chapter and liked it. We shall see.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/16 12:56 AM
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There's only so much I can try to stay engaged when you aren't. Even my dick seemingly has better things to do than a wife who doesn't give a fuck. It ain't you with the problem.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/16 02:59 PM
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Good point. Even once you realize and change, or just try to, the things engrained by long years of damaging self image just keep popping up. I used to be in the bottom 2% of society, now I am now in the top <5% ...yet self image is still based on the penniless, girl-shy, gawky, fat kid who had to steal nice clothes.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/16 04:37 AM
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My dad was that man. Poor, alcoholic, low SMV, married the first woman that would have him and spent the rest of his life slowly killing himself with alcohol and tobacco whilst she did the same with food and tobacco. Both eventually succeeded. He didn't teach me what to do, only what not to do.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/16 04:23 AM
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The core problem is that when you have kids, you will love them more than anything in the world (which is amazing and awesome) and their mother will have the power to take them away from you. If she comes to dominate you (and she will try) or if you fail to attract her consistently, she can simply decide one day that you're a loser, she wants to start fucking Chad every night and if you don't like it she can take away the things you love most in the world. All problems are best tackled by consid…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/16 03:58 AM
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I was watching a soap with my wife and a new unmarried father was struggling with the needs of the new baby. Tired, stressed etc. He told the mother. I said "big mistake". Wife said "what?". "He's showing weakness, she'll be disgusted and won't trust him". Sure enough the mother was disgusted and said he couldn't be alone with the baby because he'd put it at risk. Cue soapy relationship melt down and baby taken. Pity this concept wasn't known to me before I admitted I was depressed. Silly me exp…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/16 03:17 AM
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The point is you don't ask for respect, you command it by actions not words. Captain or King, same applies.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/16 02:45 AM
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My wife questioned my changes. "Our marriage is in trouble, I research shit to help me become a better man; I expect you to do the same to become a better woman. Do you think I am a better man?" "Yes, but you are colder." If she researched and linked me to this account and MRP. The same conversation would play out. The theory is: If I'm a better man you WANT to fuck me. If you do, win:win. If not, that's a pity. Jack is right though, her biggest concern would be discussing her sex life on the in…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/16 02:39 AM
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He should have just told the teacher and they would have rectified the problem; violence is never an answer. Oh wait, that's just horseshit that only applies in My Little Pony stories. Good job captain.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/16 04:43 AM
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GOT quote: anyone that has to say "I am the King", isn't.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/16 04:25 AM
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I have considered this question often. If I didn't take the (nearly ruinous) path I chose I would never have met my kids. I'd endure hell for them and it has felt like it at times. I'd do it all again; I'd do it better though.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/16 03:14 PM
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Thanks. DB and MRP have been very helpful in providing endless things to try! Persistence, a willingness to change when something clearly isn't working and some self awareness help. The last two years were hard, the 5 years of "WTF is going on!" before it were a LOT harder. This thing called reddit gave me hope.
/r/askMRP08/04/16 05:50 AM
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"she just waited for me to come to my senses and be a man." lol Glad you asked. Coincidentally just posted the below in DB. I didn't mention MRP by name as people get banned for that apparently. A lot of folk not looking for solutions. Between eighteen months and two years ago I was tossing up which was the better option, suicide or divorce. The fact I have three wonderful children constantly stayed my hand. I am a good problem solver and months later when I was under care for depression the Dr …
/r/askMRP07/04/16 03:28 AM
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Fair enough. Cheers
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/16 02:11 AM
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And when she dies her cat will eat her (as they do). Her fate is sealed.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/16 06:07 AM
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If someone starts a fight with you, you finish it, give them everything you've got. You'll be in trouble at school, but you won't be in trouble at home. Exact same advice I give my kids. Middle kid got into a fight at school (other kid started) and he got in trouble for retaliating; I re-confirmed he did the right thing. A couple of years later the kids are best mates. "Bullying" can just be a pecking order thing especially in a poor area where the cool kids are defined by being the ones that ca…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/16 04:30 AM
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I don't know,depends on how long you've been a giant pussy. So 5 years of confused, angry whiny baby doesn't get fixed over night? Shit, I have a problem ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/16 03:42 AM
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NOW, at 28, I don't have the luxury of waiting until I'm 35 to figure life out. Try working it out at 49! I'd give my left nut to know what I know now at 28. You lucky, lucky bastard have been given a gift of knowledge, use it. The way I look at pretty much everything now is "it could have been worse" and be happy it's not. I could have stumbled upon this insight when I was 59 instead and had my wife and kids living with some guy that DID get it.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/16 12:43 AM
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battling depression You're not alone with that. Find and do shit that makes you happy (regardless of what anyone thinks) and just keep doing it. "I'm buying a Harley" were the magic words that seemed to be the catalyst to get me off the dark spiral of depression.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/16 12:34 AM
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Great post. Sums up my feelings but I am a lot further back on the development curve. the notion of women being interested in me was unfathomable Now that I look back I realize just how many women were interested and I just pissed them off. Now as I go about life as a fitter happy camper, looking strangers in the eye, I've noticed random women do a double take, I smile and their eyes light up. Women at work competing in the lunch room to make conversation with me. At first I thought I was delusi…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/16 12:26 AM
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Three can keep a secret, if two of them are dead. Benjamin Franklin
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/16 01:40 AM
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I tell my wife I am researching and trying to be better to explain my changes. All it would take is her Facebook feed to equate husband lifting/manly change from compliant sexless drone etc with RP and she could be on here looking at my posts in a very short time. I am prepared for her to read every one of my posts as it is a real possibility: she'd identify me in a heartbeat. Others less so. In your case, you are inspiring groups of men...you up the odds of one of your mentees googling aspects …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/16 01:31 AM
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You run real-life MRP sessions with people face to face. Wasn't being 'outed' just a matter of time? A pretty piss weak thing for people to do. It's not like MRP is white supremacist, KKK, rape is Ok, nazi, pedo or some other reprehensible group. MRP is an interesting philosophy. Looking at improving a male's perspective on life is not inherently misogynist. Some do slip into misogyny occasionally; less often than feminist writers in lay press slip in misandry IMHO.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/16 12:51 AM
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Unbeknownst to be me, my wife bought clippers and flashed a very manicured bush on the weekend. The fact she thought to do this for the first time ever is just another reminder this shit works.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/16 11:21 PM
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EXACTLY! I want you to suck my cock every day because you love me, not out of obligation Nice. I need to get to that point.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/16 03:45 AM
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If written today it would have been half the size and not so wordy. And the world would be the lesser for it.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/16 05:32 AM
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My wife has been hitting the gym hard recently :) Wait, what.... :( And I thought it was for me and my aspie-dread {sniffle}
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/16 05:20 AM
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A lack of empathy, looking out for their own best interests, throw you under a bus if a better option turns up (hence the need for you to always BE the better option), can't expect them to have your back in crisis...can't all these base behaviors that women can revert to be trending towards narcissism then? I think I need to research the topic further.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/16 01:55 AM
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I'm not saying that. I'm saying that the behavior described as narcissistic appears to me to be typical behavior of my wife and OP's...is it really narcissistic then?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/16 01:51 AM
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Your wife is a narcissist. Every argument I read somehow circles back to her. Really? Isn't that just AWALT? OP's wife behavior isn't far off mine except for the melodramatic panic attacks...should I be reading up on dealing with narcissists? The fact my wife has NEVER admitted to a mistake and just said sorry had me thinking this originally. But reading about AWALT made me think I was assigning special properties to her by thinking she literally might be fucked up in the head.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/16 11:59 PM
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I really enjoyed reading about someone else being chased around the house and how they handled it as well as the others' comments on handling it even better. It gets surreal after a bit and impossible not to find funny. "Shut that shit down" is easier said than done but every event is a learning exercise. I think I am in a similar place in needing to move on from STFU (which has served me very well to date) and into Fogging, AM etc. I just keep telling myself this is a long (endless) game and al…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/16 11:47 PM
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This creeps you out because you are too freaked out by the idea you're a high status male. It's an unfamiliar feeling. True.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/16 01:53 AM
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The scathing posts do provide me some learnings on my poor insight in social situations. I am not a complete retard and am happy, polite and friendly and likely will have coffee/drinks with said neighbor over the years many times. The fact I find his extroverted nature strangely cloying makes me aspie seems over the top, but I'll give it a lot of thought.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/16 01:52 AM
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Thanks for the efforts here.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/16 01:42 AM
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I really like your posts. Even shredding me they are insightful. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/16 01:19 AM
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her husband is the love of her life and I am the lust of her life As I read this I visualize my wife saying that to you in my mind's eye. A cool comment but fucking disturbing. It should be in a greeting card. She has called me the love of her life many, many times...now it is a little tainted in a lol kind of way.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/16 01:49 AM
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A woman in my team sent me this link and said it reminded her of me. I was pretty pleased though I told her I probably wouldn't get into the kissing. https://www.ted.com/talks/simon_sinek_why_good_leaders_make_you_feel_safe?language=en As /u/il-est-ressuscite said : the people you lead need to feel certain you care about them and that you understand your job is to get barriers out of their way so they can help you make the vision happen If VPs get pissed at them I have their back. I just need to…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/16 11:00 PM
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Hoping it is my baby...WTF My baby or not it could be born in dumpster for all I care. On my beta-ist day doing choreplay with fantasy visions of reward starfish sex dancing in my head I was never even close to that beta. That realization has made my day. Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/16 03:30 AM
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She has to care if you might leave to lay dread. Make yourself better so other chicks notice and she might care if you choose them instead. I think you just need to spend less time with her and see if she gives a shit, if she doesn't her actions are telling you she isn't that in to you. Importantly you MUST not give a single fuck about that, make yourself better and attract other girls...maybe then your princess will run back, maybe not. "Posting pictures that look nude on snapchat? What sort of…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/16 02:50 AM
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Find a washed up slut ready to "settle down," run enough alpha game to be interesting, feed the hamster a bit, slowly dole out some commitment and then repeat with a new one in 6 months. lol sounds like a plan
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/16 03:47 AM
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Took 2 of my kids on a surprise picnic when wife was out with the other one. Sent selfie of us having fun. Did it because I wanted to and she was all "damn I missed out". She bragged how cool that was at a party that night. Beta me asked to take son a couple of hours down the road to see snow for the first time. She harpy'd out because {reasons} and I'm all WTF went anyway but it ruined my day. He still has the photo of him with a snowman from that day on his wall 9 years later and it reminds me…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/16 01:20 AM
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Trouble is, I let that happen and didn't stand up for myself. Same. Not victim; but stupid. Stupid no longer.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/16 11:53 PM
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Didn't particularly mean the flag, i was alluding to implementation of RP in life
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/16 11:46 PM
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a surge of weekend warriors who love to talk tough Hey, the road to Hard Core is a long one; gotta start somewhere. I would consider divorce a failure. I liked my wife so much I married her and, now, she seems to be coming back...sloughing off a bit of the harpy-veneer with every smile that reaches her eyes. She smiles more when I lead. Time will tell.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/16 04:34 AM
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One son likes 'big cuddles' where I squeeze so hard he has trouble breathing and his vertebrae crack. He also likes to be tickled until he almost wets his pants. He'd think it hilarious if I tied him up. My little girl asks me to pick her up and throw her across the room onto bed/couch. The term is horseplay and it is the exact opposite of abuse. My other son doesn't like big cuddles or tickling; so I don't.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/16 01:35 AM
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Q. What does every woman want? A. More. I'm well off and alpha at work. At home I was a beta nice guy wondering why I never got to fuck at our beach house. Money makes everything easier but the chick will inevitably get a sense of entitlement and realize she wants, no, DESERVES, MORE.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/16 03:14 AM
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I was half hoping she was cheating when I last had "the talk" as a good BP husband. It would have meant "there are no rules" and unleashing a scorched earth policy would have been amusing and cathartic. Subsequently in recent learnings I know "there are no rules" anyway and I don't need cathartic I just need happy...I now live by my own rules. You don't need infidelity to shock you out of a BP mindset, it will get you there quicker but I prefer the path I am on.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/16 02:38 AM
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They can't even trust or be friends with each other. Funny coz it's true. Watching my wife's friends parade though and stab each other in the back. "You know they stab you in the back when they with your other friends" gets a blank look. It is hilarious.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/16 03:27 AM
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The government is giving my company a bit of grief. My advice to the team is the facts don't matter, be amused at their ridiculous behavior and don't engage. Everybody shit tests you, don't get angry about it and it really is easy mode.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/16 02:31 AM
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I'd say that the point of red pill is to be attractive. So if I do what I like, and that happens to be sitting on a couch in velvet jumpsuit playing PS4 20 hours a day...that is not attractive and not RP. You can be alpha and lazy I guess. Doing what you like within the construct of being a better and more interesting man does make you attractive. You of course need the will to be a "better man" and the intelligence and insight to know what that actually is and how it presents to others.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/16 02:00 AM
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I took me to deadbedrooms first. The a couple of people PM'd me. Grateful of that i am
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/16 02:56 AM
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Thanks, I appreciate this. Sharing my feelings, mixed with ego as /u/[deleted] suggests, was expecting that she thinks like me and might result in a rational discussion or concern about me. It didn't turn out that way of course...all about her and her mistake-free existence. If my wife were to cheat, leave, cease to bring value I can walk away knowing I'll be alright. It would suck, but I would be alright. Without that feeling it is all a facade and just playing RP and hoping she is impressed: I…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/16 02:32 AM
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And send a selfie of you and the kid having fun. Works a treat.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/16 04:59 AM
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I'd almost do it just to see my MIL scold my wife saying she needs to fuck me more.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/16 04:51 AM
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On a tangental line I recently told my wife I believe she had an affair earlier in the relationship (when we were in a DB). I said I am disappointed but don't particularly care, but if she did it again the marriage is over. She denied it and I just said I don't believe her, but again it doesn't really matter. The fact I don't care is troubling me more than anything. That's what caused me to talk about it. She was travelling on business and went radio silence until after she was supposed to have …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/16 03:48 AM
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I tried getting internet guidance on 'female friendly porn" sent her some links and it turns out it was 2 guys playing with there dicks for 30 minutes and she (not surprisingly) found it boring. "I tried, I don't like porn, but I'll watch it if you want me to if it makes you happy". So that didn't work. I should have vetted better. I was thinking of just sending her to porn hub but the extreme, gaping and misogynist titles put ME off; Christ knows what she would feel. Probably "great, he wants m…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/16 02:36 AM
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Recognize it, but don't let it bother you. I'm tryin', Ringo. I'm tryin' real hard
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/16 12:35 AM
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alcohol is the window into what she is really thinking feeling And she highlights she is unhappy with his behaviors (albeit in a batshit way). If she was happy with his behaviors perhaps it would be alright? I don't blame the alcohol. My dad was a violent alcoholic, I don't blame the alcohol, I blame him being a cunt. I have my own issues with alcohol so this is all potentially self deluding bullshit that an addict would say.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/16 12:10 AM
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Every post from Jack makes my jaw drop. He is very impressive.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/16 11:59 PM
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I actually like Bruno Mars. He does a good Sesame Street song (Youtube it); though not as good as Adam Sandler's song about Elmo. {trying to be a little 'out there' to balance out the Fox News vibe}
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/16 05:14 AM
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A guy at work mentioned he had a mancave and it made me cringe. Reminded me of my alcoholic father hiding out in the shed because he hated his wife and his life. "The whole house is my castle": like it
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/16 02:39 AM
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"Finally someone who will love me unconditionally in spite of my problems" Yeah, and you can count on them to have your back if the going gets rough; not. How can you not be angry when you realize this is all bullshit? AWALT helps with the anger...it makes as much sense being angry at my wife for displaying females' least inspiring traits as it would being angry at a bear for shitting in the woods.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/16 02:30 AM
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Great post. Beautiful definition of IDGAF to end with. My wife is reading me as "I don't care about anything you do or say"; she said as much yesterday. She also said I was angry and I laughed "look at me, I am not angry in the slightest" "stony then" "maybe" he said slipping into her frame {sigh} Selective indifference: i need to drill that into myself. Happy, chipper and altogether pleasant to be around: be this. EDIT though, curiously, she also stated that I am 'normal' with the kids and I th…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/16 02:22 AM
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I have not seen outcome independence better explained. Thanks. I get it now.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/16 11:33 PM
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It is amazing to truly not GAF; liberating. I have also cut back on the unnecessary sorrys. Wife was behind a door when I was carrying stuff and kicked the door out of the way (and into her): "sorry hun, didn't see you there". Forget something "oops" shrug shoulders move on. I also have toned down the "thank yous" for every little thing. Notably after a BJ I have to stop myself saying "thanks" instead I go for "wow, that was great". Praise is better than grateful here I suspect.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/16 11:21 PM
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Its more trouble than its worth. As someone that was contemplating suicide ~12 months ago...that was what I was thinking. I now know that is just weakness bubbling out like pus from a wound.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/16 05:48 AM
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Thanks, I have learnt something. So it is for men who give up...
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/16 04:46 AM
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replacing your underwear Bought Calvin Kline underwear for something new. Wife loves them (look good, trendy, whatever). Wife hates them: expensive, why is he improving grooming? Like cologne it creates amusing dread it seems. I like them as they are comfortable and like the cologne does something positive to my confidence. Sadly can't tan at all or i'd give it a try.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/16 03:48 AM
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:) I look back at me explaining to my wife how I did do more around the house to no effect {cringe}. Open contracts are even sadder. Should have just offered her cash instead of services; if she is going to act like a prostitute might as well make it official.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/16 02:04 AM
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Embarrassed to ask...MGTOW?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/16 01:58 AM
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By definition everyone in this forum is married to one. So you're preaching to the converted here. If my wife didn't have value she'd be ex-.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/16 01:39 AM
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Shit yea I am. I was high value when i met her and even higher value now Maybe you are but she isn't seeing it; so you need to keep working on it.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/16 01:33 AM
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"I never had to ask for sex, it would just happen." Ahhh pre-marriage sex, the memories. "She tells me today that she feels im nagging her cuz basically i try and have sex 5 out of the 7 days." That seems like nagging to me and given the stat of twice a week that means you are being rejected a lot. What are the implications for her when she rejects...do you leave and "be awesome doing something else" (I love the imagery of this advice)? do you turn off the comforts for her? or do you pout? You s…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/16 01:02 AM
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Your wife has no fear of you leaving for another woman. I understand you don't to leave your wife, but if there is no dread she'll do whatever the fuck she thinks she can get away with. exactly. He has high SMV but she seriously has no concerns at all. He should bring up the idea of the band going "on the road" for shits and giggles...if that doesn't open her eyes, nothing will. Thoughts of absence will make her heart grow fonder and send the hamster into apoplexy.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/16 12:02 AM
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I made a comment earlier that some the abuse here is hilarious...like this.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/16 08:24 AM
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and people say there is no God. He gave us coconut oil. What a Guy.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/16 03:25 AM
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Agree. A woman in my team at work had her first kid and i was tempted to say "don't forget you are still a wife when you become a mother". I didn't because that'd be creepy coming from your boss. I wish someone had mentioned it to my wife earlier than me suggesting it was perhaps the reason why I was packing a bag.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/16 03:13 AM
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Beta me arranged a date with my wife all going great, fun times had away from kids get home, get a hard no "so you just want to go on date and expect sex!" I didn't have a covert contract but she thought I did. I have never initiated after a date again. If you are beta you are in an unwinnable position unless you are firing on all cylinders. When you are firing on all cylinders you are no longer beta. Personally I think if you give too much concern to mum's life being oh so hard you are simply i…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/16 03:03 AM
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I gave her maybe 3 years 3 years is very kind of you. I was walking out the door less than a year after I worked out the relationship was fucked up and I can leave because I no longer give a fuck despite 3 kids. I found RP about the same time and it validated the shit i was already doing that was successful was indeed correct...and gave me new coping tactics as well.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/16 02:30 AM
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"But it pissed me off. 16 years and it took me on my way out the door to get her to do any of this." I start packing a bag and "bam" now she can find the energy to fend off apathy and treat me with love and respect that were missing for 5+ years of our 13 year marriage. How can you not be pissed at such behavior? It is like after X kids they think "he's not going anywhere, he REALLY loves his kids, I can treat him like shit now; there will be no ramifications."
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/16 02:19 AM
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How about you tell me what the other guy is doing to you as we go for it when I get home. She's allowed to have fantasies. My wife was over excited as I was going down on her and said "I wish I could have your cock in there at the same time" I laughed and said sorry I'm not THAT flexible. Then later I got worried she was asking for a threesome. Then I just shrugged shoulders and made plans to go down on her with a vibe in (she hasn't used vibes until recently)...didn't like it because it wasn't …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/16 09:25 AM
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My wife leaves notes in the kitchen as a house to do list: "fix fence", fix (whatever)". I say to her "good to see you've completed your part of the project; writing the post it note". I ignore them totally and do what needs doing whether it is on the list or not.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/16 09:03 AM
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You get 3 guys together and it eventually turns into a pissing contest in one form or another. In this forum you have guys who are actually or wannabe alphas ... so it isn't surprising the pissing contests get a little colorful as they're keen to demonstrate just how god damn alpha as fuck they are. Personally I don't mind being called a weak cunt as long as the responder elucidates why I am a weak cunt and how I can turn that around. Most people here do say "why", so I respect that. I am willin…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/16 05:23 AM
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Go the CBR, Honda's are bullet proof reliability-wise and dead easy to maintain. Conversely my Kawa had non-stop camshaft issues.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/16 01:13 AM
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Thanks for the poem. Kipling's "If" is a great one on how to be a man.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/16 12:43 AM
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Not just words. Words are windows to the mind. I would have been cranky. "I win a billion: I'll buy a Tiger tank if I fucking want"
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/16 02:58 AM
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I'm at a place in life where I can afford these things. I don't ask permission. That is a critical understanding milestone to hit on the way to implementing MRP. Married men ask me how I got the motorbike past my wife "i didn't ask, just said I'm getting one". 2 years ago I would have had the same shocked look they give me.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/16 02:55 AM
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Would anyone find any utility, if , when they downvote, saying briefly why? Agree. I don't get downvoting and not making a counter argument if you disagree. I downvote rarely and it usually is just when someone is just hurling abuse because their just so damn macho with their internet anonymity.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/16 02:33 AM
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Not bad. Worth a try.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/16 12:54 AM
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I picked a fight the other day just for fun. She came in bitching about her mother (the right way to cook oatmeal FFS) and I said the reason you have issues is because you are exactly the same: your way, or wrong. It is great fun when you don't give a fuck and can truly enjoy the show.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/16 12:53 AM
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"are you serious?"
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/16 02:38 AM
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Over the holidays my wife has been great. In the occasional fight she has being trying to goad me into being angry by telling me I am angry to which I just laugh and smile and show I’m not, then it is how I am surly and then I just quip she is misreading me as I just don’t have anything I want to say. In each case the fights have just fizzled out with a perplexed look on her face and her questioning her judgment. She gives me sexual attention regularly and I do purposefully “don’t have anything …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/16 02:13 AM
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If you don't have the right frame, it seems like isolation will come across as moping / butthurt. It also might come across as conflict / issue avoidance which is something that low smv guys would do. Interesting point. My early attempts at isolating or removing myself where construed as butthurt by my wife as well as posters here. I couldn't shut the fuck up so she chased me around and kept spewing madness at me. As I have improved over the months, a raised eyebrow, STFU, followed by walking aw…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/16 01:03 AM
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"You'd prefer I looked at guys? Of course I look, I'm human." When she denies looking at guys make a sport of picking out good looking guys..."what about him? he has nice guns...check out the ass!" If she admits it and you want to escalate, embarrass her by telling the guy "hey champ my wife says you have a nice ass"...she'll likely me mortified and you'll be laughing. "Were your other guys gay?" Stop taking your wife's insanity seriously. Once you can just laugh it off life becomes a lot easier…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/16 12:21 AM
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Such shabby treatment. I feel a little bit used. My hamster is saying "but he said he loved me"
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/16 03:55 AM
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Supporting my family IS doing what the fuck I want. Ignoring your family is not MRP.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/16 03:34 AM
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I had a similar thought the other night when I woke up alone. Found wife asleep on the couch (apparently I was snoring) shrugged my shoulders and went back to sleep with the thought "whatever, I am always alone". I was thinking ringbearer 'alone' ala lord of the rings; or as you have explained it.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/16 02:57 AM
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Two minutes later she was apologizing not only to me but to our daughter. Geez if I could get to that position I'd consider it a home run...nice work
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/16 02:28 AM
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All higher education does for a woman is turbocharge her hamster.... Agree. My wife is a PhD and that hamster is one skittish critter that can trample logic better than a herd of wildebeest.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/16 03:22 AM
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"My panties are soaked." Ha ha. My wife has had an IUD removed and a side effect she has is that she is very wet a lot of the time. Has been for a few weeks. She is quite put off by it; soaked panties. I tell to just admit it is that she wants me bad and wants it all day long, who can blame her? The other day I got her to call out, as she was coming, yes, she had really wanted it all day long. SGM is a fine read.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/16 03:05 AM
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Hurts because it is true. My wife has not swallowed since we have been married and I am a step behind OP; but I will never "ask". It is however a perennial disappointment when she quickly whips my cock out of her mouth as I come. I know I need to get RP enough to "tell" instead of "ask" and your painful response has got me closer: thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/16 10:27 PM
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Yeah but the kids will probably love me less if I fuck around on their mother.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/16 10:16 PM
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Great story, thanks. I grew up poor in a tough neighbourhood; wife's distillation: manner-less thug. Depression; wife's distillation: no grasp on reality. "That's not true, it is just your depression twisting reality". The first time she played that card I was disgusted and she was lucky I am not a thug. Subsequent times I just accepted I'd been an idiot for telling her. If I needed someone to lean on That is the truly sad reality, you can't ever need to lean on a woman; wife or not. You can but…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/16 10:11 PM
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Worst mistake I ever made was admitting to my wife I thought I had depression. I did, it's gone... but I suspect in the back of her mind is evermore "can't rely on him 100%". Should of just gone to the Dr and handled that shit on my own. When she mentions my past depression in shit tests I find it repugnant, hard to maintain IDGAF and it just validates what I suspect.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/16 02:10 AM
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Because she is the mother of my kids and they love her? I'll run with that one for now
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/16 01:17 AM
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Great way of looking at, well, everything. Being an amused fatalist about everything BUT my very close relationships, this is quite eye-opening...thanks. Probably explains why I found understanding AWALT so calming, so quickly.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/16 12:26 AM
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And if they aren't invested? "You've made your decision on the relationship; bye." Tough place to be...hurts, but that is real IDGAF.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/15 02:02 PM
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That's fucked up. Dump her. Seriously, where do you think she'd be when the shit hit the fan...not looking after your back; she's shown you she rates you low compared to low life brother. Go and be awesome somewhere else.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/15 01:21 PM
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Cunningly well hidden presents: left for me to trip over as I walk in the door. You want me to apologize? OK, I'm sorry I'm not blind.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/15 06:39 AM
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The only overt hard boundary I consistently had is don't hit me. Every long term relationship I have ever had got to a point where the bitch gets mad and hits me; once. Then I have to say "do that again and I will hit you back"...and it never happened again. It is AWALT, seeing if you are a bitch or not I guess.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/15 06:09 AM
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Next time you get a hard no, simply leave. Stay gone three hours and come back straight to the shower. No picking up texts, no excuses. I see your point and have tried it myself only to be told by others here "you just come across as butthurt in leaving". It is a tough act to pull off. I guess you need to be alpha enough, have done it enough to retain the air of IDGAF as you walk out...and have the hamster spinning instead of her thinking "weak cunt can't even stay in the house when he gets a kn…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/15 05:59 AM
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STFU and Absence have worked well for me but I suspect my wife is feeling lonely at night when I am doing other things. The Nice Guy in me is feeling it. I STFU a lot currently as the hamster is hamstering as I change for the better. She can't respond to anything the kids or I say without being even slightly critical; so I just ratchet back the conversation, my time is better spent without stupid shit ... and the kids "talk back". Yesterday I called her on her being overly critical in the "how c…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/15 02:23 AM
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Even at my beta-ist this would have been game over. Before I realized talking was stupid I asked if she was cheating, I was even nice about how I couldn't be violent with the mother of my kids; there was nothing to fear. Said no, but you never know. AWALT.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/15 02:31 AM
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I prefer IDGAF to the GNO. She texted me she was staying at the work Christmas party a little longer than planned; I said "have fun". A little later "Don't slip over, under the influence of alcohol, and fall on another man's penis". She texted back she was offended. Then that is was mostly girls. I ignored her. When she got home I said to her that I nearly responded to the 'mostly girls' text that if she is going to go that way she needs to bring that stuff home to me as well. She was offended b…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/15 11:21 PM
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This sub is sometimes like "here's my balls, kick them as hard as you can" with poster after poster strap'n' on their kick'n' boots. Got to admire the brutal honesty though.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/15 11:10 PM
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Subtleties I never considered before MRP and MMSLP. Powerful subtleties.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/15 04:31 AM
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I read an article linked at the MRP recently that said a woman has little ways to let you know she wants you to initiate; because she wants to be fucked. That night, lying in bed and I am just thinking of going to sleep. She has her arm over my chest and her thumb did a little, almost imperceptible brushing of the skin on my chest. She does this quite often in cuddles. As per the linked article I started to wonder if this was a subtle "I want you to initiate" signal, so I did and it seems she re…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/15 04:12 AM
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AWALT is real brother, there are no women who will love you the way you want them to. There are no women who will love you the way you love them. You make gay seem attractive. I say that to my wife sometimes when she completely stuns me with a special level of illogical behavior, "I think I understand gay men a little more".
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/15 04:58 AM
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AWALT is good for the anger phase. Stepwise. I lost the fear of divorce (good point you make there). I entered IDGAF and she gets panicky and the shit tests fly. I was pushed into anger phase which is diametrically opposed to IDGAF...so the idea that the crazy shit she was spouting was just AWALT allowed me to just laugh off the insanity. That really, really helped me. AWALT is like a lead shield for my kryptonite (my temper). At work people people don't believe I have a temper, friends and fami…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/15 02:55 AM
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She did it to you, she made herself fair game for a retaliatory strike. I guess the best way to play it would have been to get to the point where the friend was on-side and then go "Oops hang on {friend}, I think we need to redirect the conversation back to how I am an asshole, {wife} is starting to look pissy...have I ever told you how I hate puppies?" No one needs Pyrrhic victories.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/15 12:22 AM
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It's what I want, it's the right decision, I'm doing it. I've toned it down the past 4 years in this relationship and idk if I can live forever like this. Take it from a guy that "toned it down" for 13 years of marriage...don't. Worst mistake you can make. You will be unhappy and she will lose respect and then, consequently, any lust for your cock. Read When I Say No I Feel Guilty...be your own judge. Your GF was attracted to you because you were like this; don't listen to her words. My wife hat…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/15 12:06 AM
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Passionate kisses before leaving and coming home were the ice-breaker that lead to re-connection between myself and my wife. I was sick of the dismissive pecks that grew with a dead bedroom and my growing anger...sucked it up and worked on me...but the kisses were game changing. Hold her face with both hands or holding her hair gives her a dose of dominance. Push in brush/rub against her tits, hand on ass or tits, finish with a cuddle or not. Sometimes i use tongue and sometimes she does. There …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/15 11:53 PM
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Great advice; all of it. Recently my wife was sad, cuddling and whispered "you won't leave me will you?" and I said "nah I am staying" she was happy, comforted, jumped me, yadda yadda yadda but I knew I'd fucked up.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/15 11:19 PM
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When your goal becomes to try and manipulate your wife or her hamster, you've lost. Geez that's a good mindset.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/15 10:46 PM
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She could refuse you sex at will and she could make you come crawling back for the sex too. I read it a bit like that too. She was playing games. He had to do "something" and that is always going to risk looking butthurt...verbal incinerated blender was a tad too much along the "something" scale though.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/15 04:46 AM
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You used to be fun, then you said "I do".
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/15 10:41 PM
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Why deal with that if you don't have to? Exactly. I've written nothing in reddit I wouldn't 100% own if my wife asked "Are you this Sadbeary guy that hangs around misogynist sites?"...but why the hell would I invite that extra distraction from making myself better.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/15 01:25 AM
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However, if I had a time machine, I would have done things differently. That time machine thought gets a lot of consideration from me but I find myself thinking I wouldn't have my current kids and that wouldn't be worth losing. I'd time machine back to me with an ex and slap me when I declined a request to fuck her in the ass. But apart from that I'm OK with most of my good and bad decisions.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/15 01:48 AM
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WTF! It is always a risk seeking anonymous advice on the internet...but I never realized it was THAT bad.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/15 01:35 AM
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I see your point. Even if she is a bitch she can serve my needs if the situation is played well. I know I wouldn't play that well so I'd remove myself for extended time or else I'd get annoyed.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/15 09:46 PM
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I wouldn't go for a new girl. I would just stop caring about fucking her if she is going to be like that. I'd choose IDGAF over AA in this case. She is teasing a guy who she doesn't fuck much because she can; my position would be she can't. As a guy that was almost being treated as bad as this, it is obvious he is months away from passing a simple shit test and getting porn star sex. His first step is to show he is not going to tolerate such disrespect in my newbie opinion.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/15 09:42 PM
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what is her reaction to rough doggie? My wife's reaction is "ow!" MMSLP induced injury. I even got her saying she was sore and I said "you're welcome" as per the book...
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/15 03:56 AM
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Not really. I just wouldn't want to fuck someone that would treat me like that.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/15 02:53 AM
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Human relations is hard. Your wife wants to fuck you but she needs to be attracted to you first. Giving her all the shit she ever wanted doesn't do it (my wife has 2 holiday homes and a convertible so I know first hand that does fuck all to attract her). To be ATTRACTED to you is easy: be a man. The tactics and acronyms are just helpful guidance on how to be a man. Not a metrosexual ass-kissing servant: a man who does what he wants, has fun and invites his wife along for the ride. When a husband…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/15 12:54 AM
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35 year old mother of 3 and SAHM She doesn't think of herself like that. She still thinks she is hot because the butcher looks at her tits and watches her ass as she walks out. She doesn't YET realize that her options are way reduced from where they were because as a SAHM her rarefied world is living in past glory (assuming it is unaltered), kids that jump when she barks and MILF-ogling shopkeeps. Do not assume you are higher SMV, that is underestimating your 'opponent'. When you are higher SMV …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/15 11:29 PM
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"she starts to blow me but then stops, says she's too tired and tells me to finish myself off." That is disgraceful behavior from your wife. I'd never fuck her again unless she truly begged me.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/15 11:14 PM
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I am ashamed of myself for ever asking for sex. I aim never to do it again. If I want sex I will make my actions speak louder than words. Words like "kneel down" and "come here" may be acceptable as an opener, but it will never be a question.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/15 03:18 AM
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If I do something good for one of my team she tells me I shouldn't have (clearly in her eyes I want to fuck them). Every female I mention she worries about, I have lost it with her a couple of times.."do you think I want to fuck her?'..."No I think she wants to fuck you, why wouldn't she?" Almost sweet. If I need to travel for work she tells me why it is not required. Even though she is in my field (but not at my level or company) it has taken me years to realize her opinion is not important and…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/15 06:18 AM
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"Isn't this amazing?" Yes. In my mind I have the image of a phoenix...I think that best mirrors how I feel about me and my life.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/15 04:20 AM
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Probably because she's banging Chad on the side. "Never been happier" because she has Chad as well now? Not something I'd want to think about
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/15 01:48 AM
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lol nice sarcasm My wife has a PhD and holds a senior role at a major global company...eats up my RP behavior with a spoon and is as "happy as the day we married". She literally used the word "tingles" to describe how when I kissed her this morning the 'tingles' went all the way to "there"...she is demure and just pointed. She must be ovulating.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/15 01:28 AM
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"We were pathetic, misguided chumps. And it stings." Funny coz it is true.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/15 12:56 AM
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I expect absolutely nothing from her. Sad it has to come to this, but hey, whatever works. "Hamster is gonna hamster." Love this!
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/15 12:19 AM
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"I don't need to tell you this every day because that's like saying the sky is blue." I'm using that. Goes through your phone and wakes you up as CIA interrogation tactic...yeah you need some firmer boundaries. So not OK. "It's not enough that I work 55 hours a week at work, spend another 10-20 hours do woodworking to bring in more money and another 10 at school to improve myself. No, I have to just gush and talk to her more too since my time is limited and she wants to be involved in my life." …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/15 01:50 AM
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Hard copy is crazy, where could you read it? Even sitting in a park at lunch a colleague would likely walk up and see it...who needs that. Kindle all the way.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/15 10:32 PM
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OP personal abuse is 'cost of business' in this forum but the advice is good.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/15 10:28 PM
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She sensed you were going to initiate and then got out after teasing you like that? I've had exactly the same thing in the past. I have handled it the same. My wife has said "you have a bath in expectation of sex after" and I was all "WTF? I have a bath because I want one to relax"...I suspect she was testing me. I like you response to such behavior ... "what the fuck is wrong with you?" made me smile.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/15 10:21 PM
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Covert contract: She has a call for work, her job, and you try manipulating her with a surprise. I disagree with this. I didn't know she had a meeting until I had plans in mind. I wasn't trying to manipulate and was happy to reschedule ... doing it tonight in fact. "Your wife needed her leader to provide input (for your kids) on a matter and you chose to tap away at some game." I can see that, but I also have a decade of experience of "drop whatever you are doing what I have is more important"..…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/15 02:26 AM
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I can see your point not wanting to engage with her bad behavior could be seen as a tantrum. This does confuse me as the advice to leave in the face of bad behavior is quite common..."not doing what you want? Go lift. Go to a bar. etc". I'm not sure how that could be pulled off in any circumstance without being open to tantrum/petulant teenager/butthurt accusations. Wife declines sex, 'no biggy' get up walk out, go lift...always going to look like tantrum as far as I can see. I handled a lot of …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/15 02:14 AM
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Thanks for this. I appreciate my response was imperfect. Earlier in my life I would simply just did whatever she asked like a good boy or more recently I would have got angry. Both reactions more imperfect than the one I chose I suspect; with a worse endgame. I remain happy I chose to ignore those responses. "You don't need to tolerate her tone but let's not act like her exasperation has no basis." I knew the iPad was stupid and I immediately realized I fucked up there... a suggestion in another…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/15 01:46 AM
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That is good advice. Next time hopefully.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/15 01:24 AM
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I don't know if it is a nest of bees (nice imagery). My mother tried a couple of times to tell my wife what's what in our house (after travelling 1000km) ... telling her that her behavior was unacceptable lead to her saying "well if that's how you feel I'm leaving". My response: "bye". She sat in the car for an hour expecting me to apologize while I had a beer with my dad (who agreed with me but refused to tell her to stop being a brat instead of a grandmother) eventually my dad jumped in the ca…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/15 02:42 AM
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You let another human being disrespect your wife? Would you let him smack your kids too? If your wife is doing shit that "deserves" to be insulted YOU need to work on that, your father needs to learn his place in your (and your wife's) home and STFU. If she doesn't "deserve" to be insulted you need to immediately tell your dad to watch his mouth as it will not be tolerated again.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/15 01:38 AM
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I'd give it to my 13 year old son too...but he'd look at it, look at me, look at his mum...no kid needs that thought process. Though I wish someone DID give it to me when I was 13.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/15 12:46 AM
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(Except maybe antarctica) I am a penguin who came here to get balls to say "you carry the damn egg for a change!"
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/15 03:10 AM
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It is funny. I have never, ever cared what other people thought about my actions. I used to do things because they were fun, friends/family would sometimes mock me and say the things I was doing were lame/uncool and I would laugh and say I don't care. Then I met my wife and cared what her opinion was and it was one of the biggest mistakes of my life. Poor as hell I really liked drinking wine out of Waterford Juliette crystal goblets, when I broke the last one I was no longer poor but my wife sai…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/15 02:59 AM
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Great find, thanks. The lead comment on it: "The real insight of TRP is that a man's only real power lies in his willingness to walk away. An IDGAF mindset." My wife started re-finding the lovely woman I married soon after I started demonstrating IDGAF mentality. Then one day I got a shit test that really annoyed me so I said "Fuck this, we need a break" and grabbed a bag. At that point she knew beyond doubt IDGAF was not a phase, not a game, it was rock solid real. She begged me to stay, I did …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/15 01:01 AM
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I don't know how I would handle an "I don't love you". Probably, "Really? Fair enough, so it is game over then?" and walk away from her. Previously I would have got mad too, but now I know better.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/15 11:36 PM
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My wife also likes the assurance provided by the muscles when "things go bump in the night"...her and the kids are safe. You know lots of (most?) women are scared to walk the streets at night..it is your job to take away that fear.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/15 09:29 PM
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I can understand the misogyny bit with some of the hard core RP folk treating chicks like tissues, but that is why I like MRP. People here want a marriage to work. Years of deadbedroom... last night I get from her "boy I needed that!" after sex. Yeah right, she's oppressed and mistreated.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/15 01:35 AM
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Because women like muscles like men like tits. It's a fact Jack. My wife grabs my biceps during foreplay and loves my "big strong arms".
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/15 01:23 AM
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Another schmo here.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/15 01:06 AM
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Hey, leave deadbedrooms alone. It is like purgatory and a testing ground for those that really want an answer to the problem. Like purgatory, many, sadly, fail to get through and just accept their endless torture.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/15 01:05 AM
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Timely. Last night my wife can to bed expecting sex (sans pants) and I thought to myself "hoping for something? Good for you" and just went to sleep. Pathetic, bitter and weak; but I gave in to that 'annoyance at looking back'.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/15 02:28 AM
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Even at my worst my wife rarely tried the bitchy "I'm the boss" routine in front of friends or family. She did once in front of her mum and a raised eyebrow and "excuse me?" killed that silliness. In front of friends it is just "ummm...no; busy", smile and keep doing what you're doing. There has been fights afterwards of course but "do you really want me to say 'don't talk to me that way in front of your friends?' I will if you want to pick a fight in company". The worst is currently I have to h…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/15 02:19 AM
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She now knows unequivocally what the problem is. Now, STFU. Be happy. When she comes back how you broach the topic of "so how's this going to work?" needs to be IDGAF and not vomiting words. You have told her you're expecting a response after her get away, you can't back away from that now.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/15 03:00 AM
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If it makes you feel better my wife has upped the sex without her needing to cum recently. Puzzled me as well for the same reasons...apparently it is normal, OK and a sign you are on the right track in our quest to be better men.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/15 12:17 AM
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By using that against(or even bringing it up) it will teach her to hold shit from you and make it harder for you to extract the info you'll need to improve your sex game. Scarily good point. Thanks to everyone for the great advice. I suspected I fucked up from trying to be cute and funny, but I erred on a higher level. Appreciated.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/15 11:44 PM
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See the covert contract/validation seeking? Yep, see it now. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/15 08:02 AM
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I love my Harley. Wanted one for years, "wife will be upset", stopped giving a fuck and now as happy as a pig in shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/15 05:10 AM
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What I find truly ironic about the MRP is we do this shit because we actually love our wife and want to make her happy. She just doesn't know what makes her happy and we can't tell her because she'd flip out and the hamster will go rabid. The shit I've done so far has made her much happier, she doesn't need to see the 'magic'.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/15 11:59 PM
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Awesome post. You describe perfectly why I haven't looked at porn in months; it is pathetic. Though on business trips I accept some pathos. Just recently I realized I'd sit in traffic and look for attractive women in cars, I had a feeling it was a stupid thing to do so stopped myself doing it ... again your post explains WHY that is indeed a stupid thing to do. Thanks! I was dropping my kids off at before-school care and my 6 year old daughter was poking my belly button through my shirt as an at…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/15 11:26 PM
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Fucking with your girl can be seem completely disrespectful if she does not sees you with the right light. Now I have got this in a pretty good place with my wife right now. I have built myself way up from beta me to captain 'take no shit anymore" and my wife is responding very well accordingly. HOWEVER my 13 year old boy is mirroring his dad's behavior and he, being very noob, normally just comes across as completely disrespectful. I want him to be like this but HE needs to lift his game and I …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/15 05:09 AM
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So my take on the other responses would be to say "So we are in an open relationship now? Curious way to ask, but OK." My immediate response would have been "are you fucking kidding me!?" but I know that is wrong. Then my next thought would be "how does this dude think he can even ask wife on a date and NOT expect severe ramifications?" But this too is giving a fuck. Tough dilemma.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/15 04:58 AM
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"and gently remind her that we don't talk about the before time." My wife has said similar to me when I stupidly reminded her that, at one point, it wasn't as fun as it is now. I take that as a good sign.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/15 04:34 AM
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Maybe my starfish was bitch induced (me being whiny) and there was no dread at all? Rape-like as per your below excellent link. Real Dread only came later after I had my epiphany and stopped being a bitch?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/15 03:00 AM
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Awesome link. Guess this makes me a rapist {sigh}. "If you aren’t building attraction to the point where a woman is begging and pleading you to thrust your cock into her, you’re doing her a disservice. Because to a woman, anything less feels like rape. So hit the gym, be hot, be confident, be successful, social, interesting, and awesome." At least the challenge has been accepted...
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/15 02:53 AM
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Basically - would you fuck you. Very good point. Looking back, I can't blame my wife for having standards.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/15 02:39 AM
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In my journey at a point I complained about the quantity of sex and that it was not OK. My line was "this has to change or the relationship will"... I got starfish and a week later I said that was not OK either. I believe this to be dread inspired starfish. I stopped caring about sex and focused on me. I realized I was willing to walk out the door based on the issue and this was like a zen moment and becalmed all my confusion. Sex became plentiful and engaged but I was wary. I suspect my SMV was…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/15 02:32 AM
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Early in the piece of standing up for myself my wife blurted out "it is 'bad week'" as a pre-emptive "don't even think about it". I responded "it isn't for me"...and to my complete surprise she went straight to giving me a blow job. Your post gives me ideas for other fun to be had :)
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/15 10:15 PM
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If you're planning on cleaning out the garage as soon as you're done with breakfast, and then during breakfast your wife tells you to clean out the garage, what do you do? Do you not do it out of spite? This is not an uncommon scenario and does confuse me. Sometimes I do escalate task 2 and say I am doing that first an I'll get to the garage later, sometimes I'm just "I was planning to". If she TELLS me to, the chances of something else being a higher priority are dramatically increased.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/15 09:54 PM
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The other says you are willing to get her some coffee because you want sex from her. Getting a coffee as a covert contract? Surprising but I do see it. "I'm not getting coffee because I want sex, I am getting coffee because I am a nice guy...oh wait! {facepalm}"
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/15 09:43 PM
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I have initiated sex probably twice in six months, my wife does all the initiating now (3 or 4 a week). Don't accept starfish (been there, said it was not OK, I'd fuck a prostitute if I ever wanted disinterested sex) cultivate an IDGF attitude about sex if she is doling it out, don't expect sex and if it doesn't come don't be whinny. (Losing the covert contracts was big for me). The key is to work on you and she will be on you like Oprah on a baked ham. Play the long game and don't be tempted to…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/15 02:41 AM
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Impressive response.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/15 01:10 AM
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You are allowed to talk with your wife, STFU to me means do not engage with insanity. There is a risk, my wife commented a few days ago "I told you that and you didn't say anything so I thought you agreed." I said "You were being ridiculous, I was quiet because I chose not to engage with such insanity; I did not agree" I said that without thinking and thought here comes the fight...but, she just looked at me curiously for a few seconds and she continued on merrily for the rest of the day.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/15 12:51 AM
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She thinks you're weak, you have to show her you are not. Words can never prove you are not weak so don't waste your time discussing it with her. As Tywin Lannister said in Game of Thrones: "Anyone that has to tell people 'I am the King' isn't". If my wife said that to me I'd hope to shoot back "Being someone's bitch doesn't mean you've 'made it' in prison you know" ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/15 12:35 AM
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"I get to it on my own time" exactly. My wife will run to the phone when it rings. If my phone rings and is out of reach I just leave it which my wife simply can't understand...if it is important they will leave a message, if they don't why should I interrupt what I am doing for something unimportant? I will get a text my wife will tell me to quickly look at it and I will decline "I'll look later, what's the hurry?". I got a smile once when I said "it isn't you or {eldest son with phone}, how im…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/15 12:05 AM
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"This was a good reminder to always be building anticipation by flirting and gaming her." Based purely on reading your post I did something I've never done (50 year old man)... I text my wife "{pet name} never texts me pictures of her boobs {sad face emoji}" Within minutes I had a picture of her boobs. This from a woman who says flirting in texts is stupid and demeaning. I joked once I would send her a dick pic and she was horrified and disgusted. Notice their actions not their words indeed. RP …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/15 03:44 AM
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"I wanted, to make her happy". "Barely getting laid at all, I thought maybe this is how it's supposed to be." Same here. Came here via Deadbedroom sub where I realized this is not how it is supposed to be and discussing the things I tried that actually worked were considered RP...which lead me here. "I actually started to not give a fuck" That is a pivotal moment I think we all need to go through. When you stop doing things to make her happy; doing things only because they need to be done or bec…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/15 02:34 AM
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Nice. Very Marsellus Wallace of you. "you may feel a slight sting. That's pride fucking with you. Fuck pride. Pride only hurts, it never helps." Pride/ego is that bitchy whiny part of you that tells you that you should be butthurt and say "wha wha wha" when STFU is by far the best option. I am making a ton of mistakes; but I am improving. Thanks for the validation this is normal and OK, and thanks for the very helpful guidance.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/15 05:24 AM
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Thanks. I hadn't appreciated this issue. I get "are you angry?" a bit because if she isn't nice I STFU and distance myself (previously I'd get pissy). When she asks now I just look surprised and say "no"... I have been working hard on the not-being-angry IDGF with some success. Responding "of course not" and kissing her seems a good play. I also look forward to responding to "what are you thinking?" with "coming on your tits" as suggested below.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/15 03:51 AM
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"or when your nice to me." Sentiments I will use, thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/15 05:45 AM
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I'm debating whether or not to introduce her to rpwomen and the surrendered wife or just to lay out my expectations going forward. Just get her a copy of the surrendered wife book: "the reviews on Amazon say it is a good thing not a slave thing; read it and you tell me." It would be silly to show her RP stuff as it will certainly escalate beyond your control as she researches around the subject. A physical book won't escalate.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/15 02:52 AM
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I just let her have it. If you get to that point, just GTFO.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/15 02:35 AM
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A Dr once asked me about fighting with my wife. He asked if she says things purely to upset me and make me angry; partners KNOW the buttons that make you angry. I responded no, I am not in an abusive relationship. He said good and was glad I recognized it as abusive. If your wife is going out of her way to push your buttons...not ALL of it is your fault for reacting. Recognizing she is getting you angry on purpose can hopefully give you the strength to maintain calm...why let her "win" by gettin…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/15 02:33 AM
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The fact my sadness makes you sad makes me sad.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/15 04:05 AM
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Good post. I will listen to your points but I will not get angry. If you are constantly talking nonsense I will disengage. I wish Yoda explained that when I was 4.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/15 12:17 PM
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So the correct response would have been: "That is a ridiculous price to pay for a bed. Take it back." and left it at that. Correct?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/15 07:09 AM
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Genius. Another string to the "you thought it was a good idea to mess with dad?" bow.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/15 02:28 AM
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I have always had a "short fuse" Ditto. Same type of dad too. I think you did fine. "What scene? Stop being silly. I stopped kid from making one. What you need is a champagne so you can see that through the bubbles. No, what you really need is a shagging but I think the peeps have had enough entertainment from this table for the night." "Don't get annoyed" should be a mantra. If I stay calm I can actually say shit like the above in a pinch.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/15 12:33 AM
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Now it is "how long do you want to lose your iPad?"
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/15 12:23 AM
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Funny coz it is true.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/15 12:20 AM
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Warnings work. My kids know that when I start counting, when I get to "3" shit is going to happen; I very rarely ever get to 3. If I get to 3 they are carried to their room, lose iPad /PS/toys whatever.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/15 12:19 AM
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Agree with this. "Making a scene": like I give a fuck what the other people in the restaurant think. If they can't see controlling my kid makes all our lives more pleasant...not my concern.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/15 12:07 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/2zckqu/updated_glossary_of_terms_and_acronyms/ Still not sure about A.A and IO...I think the latter is like Indication of Interest. A.M is Amused Mastery in blowing off a shit test with humor, A.A is something similar, but not sure.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/15 04:04 AM
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it is completely useless when it comes to dealing with a woman who operates on emotions. EXACTLY! It has taken me 50 years of life to realize this! {sigh}
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/15 05:01 AM
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Agree: whatever works. It is less beta than caring about the crazy and trying to help. Perhaps just listening passes a comfort test? :)
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/15 03:25 AM
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I used to jabber along and I'd tell her what to do and then she would jump in and (for example) defend her (useless) sister and I would find myself in a fight with her over something I didn't give a shit about (WTF!). I tried ignoring the "hi honey I'm home" downloads for a while but she just made her even more annoyed. "The maid is alone in the kitchen". So I give her a big kiss when I walk in, buckle up for the ride, sip my wine and let her do her down load and agree with her when appropriate …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/15 01:30 AM
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"I think you are confusing me with one of the kids"
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/15 01:18 AM
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Sounds like she sees the kitchen and cooking as her turf. I hardly ever cook but when I do it shows that I am pretty darn good on "her turf" and I suspect that irritates her. When the kids say their favorite ever meal is dad's chicken and leek casserole (I last made more than 6 months ago) you can see her irritation.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/15 01:13 AM
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You can't take them serious, if you do, they start to think they're your mother. That is an amazing insight...very true,
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/15 01:08 AM
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"Ooh, let me take a picture of this HISTORICAL moment!" I would have walked over picked it up and calmly scraped it into the bin. That scenario is beyond my acceptance limit.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/15 01:02 AM
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"My annoyance, to my mind, IS giving a fuck." My weakness too. I am good at humor but it is hard when annoyed. I am training myself to spell out in my head AWALT when I start getting annoyed and the annoyance really does dissipate and gives me a chance to handle the shit tests with humor. My batting average on this front is increasing...much much more humorous responses than previous "are you fucking kidding me!?" I also get the "is something wrong? Why are you angry?" The stoic, STFU demeanor h…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/15 12:49 AM
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You may get lucky, my wife was super horny during all three pregnancies. A tip on a manly thing to do: renovate the kid's room.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/15 02:46 AM
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Fighting like crazy is one point. Don't engage with crazy. Lead and tell her flat out what is OK and what is not...no need to yell. She is as new to this mother role as you are to dad, teach her what is right.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/15 03:11 AM
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Sounds like she is practically begging him to be a man.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/15 02:56 AM
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That is probably my greatest learning from this reddit: how can I be annoyed when AWALT? When I think that, annoyance dissipates in a heartbeat and I don't get dragged into "Why are you annoyed?", "Because you're talking shit" discussion that pointlessly kills a day of my life.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/15 03:03 AM
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When I moved in with my wife we had separate accounts and split the bills 50/50. In that time I assessed she was not irresponsible with money (previous GFs less so) so when we got married I was fine with joint accounts and have never had a concern with her spending. Friends wives piss their money up against the wall, mine is pretty good. In the worst phase of our marriage I was told I wasn't allowed to buy stuff I wanted I (I earn more) which was pretty much the first sign the marriage was becom…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/15 02:43 AM
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You probably helped me get some last night. She was doing minor annoying crazy shit and started to feel myself get annoyed; remembered your post and thought AWALT and smiled as I spelled that acronym out in my mind and just STFU. Happy not annoyed demeanor ensued. Sure enough as I start getting ready for bed she leaps into bed naked and laughing that I have to turn all the lights out. Normally she wear pajamas, naked means 'fuck me'; so i did.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/15 12:32 AM
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Thanks. My life is roses now after manning up, yet I sit there thinking "why am I so fucking annoyed?"...perfect timing to read the link.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/15 01:46 AM
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7 Habits of Highly Effective People Read it years ago, still remember (and repeat to my kids): I don't HAVE to do ANYTHING, but I need to accept the consequences of my actions/inaction. Seek first to understand, then seek to be understood.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/15 12:42 AM
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A woman demanding cuddles is like a man demanding a blowjob. Is that something you'd say outright? Wondering if I could swing it with humor... I am currently batting 6 sex in 8 days and at least 1 cuddle session a day. I don't mind the cuddling but do I want her to appreciate I am not an inanimate cuddle pillow in the same way she is not a fleshlight.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/15 05:18 AM
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I got the the "AM is awful" spiel when I got home from work a day last week. I said nothing, kept doing my thing as I got home from work. She was saying how she'd like to check up on people from work, her boss, yada yada and I got annoyed but didn't say anything; I was thinking "I know you want to ask me: just do it"....she never did I just kept my mouth shut. I was annoyed she was suggesting I was a cheater and also by the fact she didn't have the balls to just ask. I was more annoyed by the fa…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/15 04:41 AM
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My wife's life would be much more full of anxiety, fear, chaos, indecision, tension, and confusion if I wasn't in it. If she insists on being irrationally opinionated, I have the option to shut her down. I joke with my wife that if I wasn't with her in a day or two she would wake up in a Marrakesh slave market; and she agrees. My ability to shut down her irrational fear needs work though... "{Name}. Stop." is what I use...works often but not always. Occasionally goaded into a fight.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/15 07:29 AM
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My first post in this forum. Great story and analogy.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/15 07:15 AM
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