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A useful and interesting point. I actually think unwillingness to cause pain has been one of the more important choke points in my learning for a long time (apparently still is given above question).
/r/seduction08/05/18 02:17 AM
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Good point, I do next extremely fast if I dont sense attraction or Im not interested in her (regardless if shes interested in me). I tend to run social circle game so the only way to "up" my numbers is accelerating social circles, which is of course more work than other styles. I dont invest in friendships when I first meet people so perhaps that is something I should do more of (also I think Im fairly transparent - women know when Im interested or if Im in "hitting on women" mode). On models, m…
/r/seduction06/12/17 05:07 AM
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Dont expect to get anything from the attractive women that are already in your life. Focus solely on new women as they are they ones making new impressions and interpreting you as you are right now (not clinging to some old perception of you where you are friendzoned). That said some might come around, but dont think or act based on the ones you already know. Dont expect that you can capitalize later. Best approach is to firmly friendzone all of them in your mind and use them as leverage to meet…
/r/seduction05/12/17 06:54 AM
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Ends by me leaving the continent. Not intentionally as a way to end relationships but it is a trend for the last 4 It makes the breakup a lot easier for me (obviously), but also for her. I think they're able to interpret the breakup as a statement of our incompatibility in terms of life conditions and not a statement of them as a person.
/r/seduction05/12/17 06:40 AM
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If you dont like them then dont bring them in your social circle...
/r/seduction25/09/17 12:20 AM
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I mean Im always in favor of assume attraction until proven otherwise But honestly if shes just showing everyone her tattoo all the time she may just forget. i was guilty of that after i had surgery and have had other friends show me tattoos/piercings multiple times. That said, if you are bothered to try to find excuses for her liking you, obviously you want to go for it. So go for it
/r/seduction17/09/17 02:44 PM
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Great initial and great addition. Id only add that DO NOT WAIT TO KISS UNTIL THE END. This is something you want out there after she is comfortable (so think middle or even early). What many people dont realize is that pre-kiss and post-kiss date mechanics are fundamentally different. If you havent kissed yet, you are basically building to go for it... if you have kissed and it was accepted, you're in the new and wonderful terrain of building sexual tension for further things down the line Im su…
/r/seduction16/09/17 02:13 AM
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let her know you are doing X interesting thing at this time and she is free to join. Your plans are independent of her but she can join. The pressure is off for you cause youre doing you thing no matter what Idk, ive always found weekday evenings or weekend days to be the best date times. this is because weekend nights people tend to group to their "circle" harder than any other occasion. sounds like youre the opposite though
/r/seduction16/09/17 02:04 AM
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U a good bot too
/r/seduction15/09/17 08:53 PM
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Good bot
/r/seduction15/09/17 08:41 PM
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Linkedin implies professional interaction Social media of any sort implies social interaction Unless you are looking for a professional interaction... use a different form of reaching out, number woulda been ideal of course
/r/seduction15/09/17 12:29 PM
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she made effort to approach and tease you publicly in front of a group of guys... assume yes
/r/seduction14/09/17 10:38 PM
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other people have good advice but dont forget: focus on learning to give better sex. once you get good at sex the obstacles tend to be pre-sex gaming and the post-sex relationship takes care of itself (not forever, but for a while)
/r/seduction14/09/17 10:36 PM
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look up some resources on logistics and planning ahead. its not just about "a place", you want a structure to a date. You want a flow to the date, mix up locations since new venues makes it feel like she knows you for longer. I always go: drink 1, drink 2 (optional), short walk, my place Under 21 version could be: coffee, walk/drive to park, your place The flow tends to be something structure (drinks, coffee, event, lunch) but low key. something that sends the signals date but isnt high pressure…
/r/seduction14/09/17 10:30 PM
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bad romantic poetry is a whole different league of bad compared to flowers...
/r/seduction14/09/17 10:24 PM
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Then I wouldnt worry too much about the rose or not... sounds like something to not overthink if youre already banging constantly
/r/seduction14/09/17 10:22 PM
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Still a descendant of badasses that needed no social media, no way around that Lol sounds like some TRP bs that wants to put everything down to evolutionary psychology. Sometimes I cant handle the pseudo-intellectual bs that the PUA community promotes. Ah well they all want this grand theory of men and women that explains why they have a hard time getting laid...
/r/seduction14/09/17 12:36 AM
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Another good option is turn it back on her. Reframe it as that was her plan all along. Be sure to be super teasing when you call her out, otherwise 2 might backfire lol 1) i was just thinking of your safety but now i see where you're mind is at... 2) get your head out of the gutter, you think im gonna take you home? this date wasnt that good!
/r/seduction13/09/17 12:41 AM
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Remember that you come from a long line of badasses who survived in a world where everything thought they were food and even managed to reproduce along the way without any social media whatsoever. You got this
/r/seduction13/09/17 12:03 AM
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Suggestions are good. No need to be subtle, I think women sometimes don't realize how hot it is to the guy when the woman is direct
/r/seduction12/09/17 11:51 PM
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You get social license to talk to everyone (no opener needed), make intros and leave conversation whenever you want (on grounds of "seeing how things are going"). Enjoy it Also this is your space so you'll naturally feel more confident and comfortable. Think of some excuse to have a smaller group in your room going during the party too
/r/seduction12/09/17 11:47 PM
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Don't try to break up any marriages if they've lasted over 30 yrs, otherwise go for it!!! But actually age group is old but that gives you an automatic reason to talk to every young person. Don't need an opener just chat with everyone your age
/r/seduction12/09/17 04:37 PM
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That's fair. In fairness my hottest women examples from above were also not in "classic game" scenarios. Friend of friend visiting from abroad, tinder date w city girl stuck in small town, stuff like that. Because I wasn't approaching in a classic sense there were no defenses to break through, just horny women impatient with their surroundings But the point stands... hot women on average are more comfortable with their sexuality and easier to have sex with once you've got through the door
/r/seduction12/09/17 04:28 PM
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Lol does TRP have good resources? From poking around there seems mostly like a bunch of dudes that desperately believe in a spergs concept of "alpha" and spend a lot of time being butthurt about feminism That said one could argue that my description is true of many pua forums... you always gotta dig through shit to find gold
/r/seduction12/09/17 04:18 PM
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In my experience it's the opposite. Hotter women are more comfortable with their sexuality and for obvious reasons have more sex. Having more sex overall means they also have more good sex. Having more good sex than others means they like sex more. Positive feedback loop. This is just a theory but it is backed by all my experiences. The hottest women ive been with, we were fucking in a few hours whereas the less attractive (still at least 7s though) the more time I've had to invest more time. Da…
/r/seduction12/09/17 04:08 PM
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This is a good article. Ive got 6 hot neighbors and I met one last week. Basically said "after I get back from Europe all of you ladies are coming over for dinner" Will do everything as outlined here
/r/seduction11/09/17 08:53 PM
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Tell your friend who knows a ton of women to bring them all. Problem solved, now its not 5 dudes and a chick its 5 dudes and 10 women That is if i understand your first sentence... I believe I read 17-20 girls
/r/seduction11/09/17 08:41 PM
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maybe dont be asking people to borrow money for a bit. dont worry about it too much. people forget stuff fast talk to more women, as many as you can
/r/seduction11/09/17 08:38 PM
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Protip: talk to her! worrying about the how is often an excuse to not do it.
/r/seduction11/09/17 08:36 PM
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One middle ground that used to be more standard in PUA circles, but is apparently not loved on Seddit these days... Her: LJBF You: No but you can keep hanging out with me if you want me that bad Or whatever, just something that full on rejects the "platonic friendship" but doesnt completely cut her out of your life. Basically if you make 100% clear that you're still interested and are not going to stop flirting or making moves, and then leave continuing maintaining the relationship on her... if …
/r/seduction11/09/17 08:33 PM
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makes gatecrashing twice as fun
/r/seduction11/09/17 08:25 PM
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Dinner parties
/r/seduction11/09/17 08:15 PM
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Dont they have meetups for this
/r/seduction11/09/17 08:14 PM
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Lol. Well you got a nice mixed bag of contradictory advice here! So my two nuggets... Treating a bratty girl with zero sympathy is a good idea, but telling someone depressed to "not dwell on negative thoughts" is useless advice. Also "gaming" and relationship are different worlds... A few things that might be universal: ensure your response is unique and also not the "standard guy" response teach self-awareness (for example: you keep saying this about yourself but that thought actually comes fro…
/r/seduction11/09/17 08:11 PM
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There's only 5.75 million Singaporeans Even though durian is their national fruit, its still banned on the subways! Some people like how they taste, but I think everyone agrees they smell funky I think there's an analogy here but I dont actually want to dig too deep lest things get weird
/r/seduction10/09/17 08:23 PM
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Hey man kumquats are fine. Maybe hes a durian?
/r/seduction10/09/17 06:47 PM
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Lol well I think that its probably more like 250,000 young, dateable women in reasonable distance from where i live - but the point is fair! I do focus my efforts outside of work, which i made clear. its more that i find myself regularly socializing with a lot attractive, single women my age simply because of my work and it seems like im wasting opportunities that are literally in front of me
/r/seduction10/09/17 12:29 PM
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Yeah but i dont think tactics are an issue, we have enough social work events and in that sense its pretty simple to go to a work happy hour and hit on someone im interested. Whenever i want to I find myself blocked by the whole "i work with this person..." I may end up just with trying to be flirty and sexual with the ones im interested but not doing anything too forward
/r/seduction10/09/17 12:25 PM
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Lol I've got a friend reading Mansons latest book and trying to get me to read it. I didn't tell her that is rather read Models (haven't had the chance yet). I think most people are actually on board with the concepts in the pickup community they just have stereotypes
/r/seduction08/09/17 01:11 PM
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In the moment, most women like to think "it just happened" even though on our end there is frequently a ton of thought. Basically keep that "ton of thought" part to yourself or these kinds of forums, since it sounds way to calculated. For example I only go on dates in walking of my house. They usually have the same format: drinks 1, drinks 2, short walk, oh look we're at mine want to see X cool thing we talked about? oh look we're in my bedroom... While I'll talk to my female friends (or male wh…
/r/seduction08/09/17 01:06 PM
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I talk about concepts but never use the same language. I think there is a lot of stigma against it but if you just discuss your ideas about women in ordinary language seems fine. For example I'd never say cold approach, kino, hb9, calculating logistics beforehand, etc with my any of my friends. That said my female friends all take interest in my romantic life and absolutely love hearing what basically amounts to a pua field report. They even give suggestions (which I usually ignore because theyr…
/r/seduction08/09/17 12:51 PM
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Im all for going by the ladys! Once got taken home to a house she was building lol. But anyway it's just standard logistics but harder... Need to be in her neighborhood, ideally walking distance Figure out if she had roommates and all that Identify and activity or thing that the two of you could do at hers (movie coffee drink whatever) and be sure you've discussed it so you have legitimate excuse to stop by hers What is she doing in the morning? Get up early sleeping in late? This is key And I'd…
/r/seduction08/09/17 12:32 PM
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I tend to assume that predicting future-you will always fail. We are fickle. If you're saying that right now you are too interested for option 3... then you now know what you want. Option 2. Now you can think about the appropriate steps I wouldnt overthink it, but I also would suggest not becoming too focused on just one woman
/r/seduction07/09/17 07:56 PM
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Yea ive seen this attitude plenty on this sub, but lets be honest, you want to be good at something you track measurable results. Sports, career, whatever. This sub has a little too much: "external results dont matter just be yourself and have fun" for me, which may well be good advice for many of the readers but is not relevant to me. We should be clear in our objectives, but thats just a point of framing. For example, objective is to develop a habit of seizing every opportunity, IT IS NOT get …
/r/seduction07/09/17 07:50 PM
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No one can give advice if you don't know what you want. Decide what you want, then take appropriate actions. Option 1. Friend her, leverage her to meet more women, all that. Option 2. Go for it. Option 3 [higher risk]. Friend her, but keep applying seduction techniques. Goal is honing skills, not her. Risk is women you meet through her might think youre her orbiter, so you have to be super clear about your intentions and flirtations with new women you meet when around her. If done properly this …
/r/seduction07/09/17 09:09 AM
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That really sucks man. But rather than dwell on it, think about a set of steps that can move the right direction. Sounds like your confidence needs a boost, a strong social network is in order, more humor and visibility within the school, and preferably one thing that you are better than everyone else at. My school had two black guys in it (the rest white and asian). One was insane at sports and in the popular sports crowd. The other incredible at jazz bass and one of the goofiest kids in class.…
/r/seduction07/09/17 07:33 AM
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And to be slightly more useful... always get a private room while traveling. the extra $$$ spent and simple logistics gives you multiple incentives to hit on all the foreign ladies
/r/seduction07/09/17 07:20 AM
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That you should get better friends
/r/seduction07/09/17 07:17 AM
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Different tack to other responses, though their advice is good too. There are two people in the seduction process. Honestly with some women, absolutely. Im 27 and live in an ambitious city (think NYC, DC, London), women DO judge men based on their career, education, and pretending that all value derives from inner game undermines the self-improvement aspect of this sub. Women want to see a man who is passionate about his career, has a strong sense of what he wants, and has a vision for his own f…
/r/seduction07/09/17 07:11 AM
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just kiss her. kissing really isnt a big deal. but youll only get how not a big deal it is if you start doing it
/r/seduction06/09/17 09:18 PM
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i think other people covered the ignore rules stuff... ill add a bit. you say chess but its basically anything with a structured order to it. ive always found that learning the fundamentals of the structure (whether chess, strategy games, seduction, sports) behind the activity actually enhances the activity. someone who knows a lot about soccer has far more fun watching a soccer game because they understand the subtleties and know what is important. learning the structure of seduction is the sam…
/r/seduction06/09/17 09:05 PM
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change results framing... you still think the objective is to "get with this woman". shift to objective is "discover whether this person and i are right for each other and learn or hone skills along the way". when the objective is learning (both if you two connect and developing skills), it isn't a wasted investment
/r/seduction06/09/17 08:56 PM
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100% don't condone the rapey-ness above, and thanks for being quick on it. I believe this whole thread has got a little off track too, it was less about tactics and more about avg % that's out there (which will of course vary)
/r/seduction05/09/17 03:14 PM
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great to know, will get used to this and how to deal. case 1 backed off too much, obvious in retrospect. case 2, tried to be cold then re-assertive. case 2 was a bit odd since she wasnt super into it but also made absolutely zero moves to leave. tried again several more times but idk what to do when a girl rejects advances but stays sitting on your bed? wants you to keep trying, but then repeatedly says no? i suspect it comes down to indecision on their part, its just my job to help them answer …
/r/seduction04/09/17 09:02 PM
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Yeah I know about push/pull, hot/cold, and all that. also ive just been reminded that backing out of the kiss is a terrible idea if shes still not committed. Damn this finnish girl was incredibly hot, but many lessons have been learned so it was a success
/r/seduction04/09/17 08:57 PM
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elbows, nudges, shoulder taps, hip bumps, back hand taps. you got an entire body - use it. I love the elbow nudge or hip bump
/r/seduction04/09/17 08:43 PM
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This, although idk if "show the thing" is necessary. That said, I've been hitting a streak of LMR after getting ladies back to my room, so maybe thats where Im going wrong lol
/r/seduction04/09/17 08:42 PM
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This
/r/seduction25/08/17 02:06 AM
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100% agree with what he said ^ up top. Logistically, men/women passiveness/activeness, all things point to that being by far the best answer...
/r/seduction23/08/17 11:59 PM
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First week - why stop? (Unless you go to a tiny liberal arts school where everyone recognizes everyone...)
/r/seduction23/08/17 11:55 PM
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I once had a shitty night out. I had an uber ride home were my driver was an Ethiopian immigrant who was really grateful to live in America and work nightshifts driving drunk people home after their night out so he could support his wife and three kids who moved to America with him and the rest of his family back home. Reminded me that my problems were nothing in the grand scheme. Perspective is key
/r/seduction23/08/17 11:37 PM
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I recently moved to a new city, and it's the fourth time I've done this. I think meetups suck as well. Focus on a skill/activity that you have that builds friend groups. For me its dinner parties since I'm a good cook. That way you are hosting and in control of the social situation, invites, etc. Also regarding coworkers or girls you see a lot - I always focus on using them to build social networks to other women before actually trying to get with them. It doesn't make sense to alienate someone …
/r/seduction15/08/17 03:20 AM
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Im a strong believer that the best place to meet women is where you are... Otherwise, its real difficult
/r/seduction24/07/17 11:46 PM
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I think the line between creep and non-creep is receptiveness to her. If you subtly hint sexual things and she has a positive response and you escalate--great. If you drop sexual hints and she has a negative response and you escalate... you are a Grade A creep. (ABC is a fast track to creepiness) Now the real point is what to do if you drop sexual hints and she has a negative response. You dont escalate but you do regroup, try a different tactic, demonstrate value directed at someone else, treat…
/r/seduction24/07/17 11:36 PM
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Then start with the women friends you have and climb the ladder. Think of it this way - all the female friends in your life are on your side in this endeavor. The one's with SOs, the ones that friendzoned you, all of them! Basically use the allies you have to grow the pool, then repeat, then repeat again. If you literally have zero female friends, then yeah I agree, this probably isn't going to help... but that is a whole different topic
/r/seduction24/07/17 11:25 PM
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That's a very reasonable question... I honestly completely forget how it came up in conversation. I did frame it as a game though. I said I'll do it if the other fellow does it, and then the girl wanted in on it too (even though she has a bf). We went dancing after I came back though so not all ends of the deal were followed through with. Honestly both your suggestions sound fine by me. I feel like 80% is just not over-thinking things in the moment. That said, non-judgemental retroactive analysi…
/r/seduction24/07/17 11:19 PM
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Sounds like multiple issues and you can't solve everything at once... As someone who just moved to new city this was my plan: Step 1: Establish strong base social circle of people (not just coworkers--men/women, shared hobbies, friends of friends, etc.) Step 2: Get routine of interesting, healthy, awesome activities that you love (and can bring people to, but you are running show) Step 3: Meet women in multiple ways--not just tinder!--and bring them along on your awesome life
/r/seduction23/07/17 05:40 PM
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Relevant to my experience with this last night... In short I made a game with a hot friend (alas taken) to have her select women for me to cold approach. By reframing the objective from "I need to be getting numbers and dates" from cold approaching to "cold approaching is a playful activity that can be used to demonstrate your confidence and social value to those you are with and those you approach" I had a lot of fun. Now the girls I approached had bf or babies but that's a different story alto…
/r/seduction23/07/17 05:30 PM
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Let's reverse this... stop thinking about how other perceive you and start thinking about how you perceive others. MOST IMPORTANT: Do not ever think of your girlfriend as a loser! That's gonna be a bad path for both of you. Think: I want other women to be jealous of my girlfriend
/r/seduction23/07/17 05:26 PM
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