| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 5 | Can someone explain why a man with mommy issues might crave attention and validation from other women/seek out more female friendships?He wants unconditional love. | /r/askFDS | 27/07/21 01:16 AM |
| 16 | This is an actual “settlement” proposed by the pro se defendant in a divorce case. Unbelievable.This made me laugh so hard | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 05:18 PM |
| 59 | Porn isn't hot.Yes you’re so right. This is the reason so many men don’t begin foreplay with flirting, dinner, then kissing on the pier, etc etc | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 04:27 PM |
| 134 | Porn isn't hot.The moment women and men were no longer acting human on screen was the moment that the eroticism stopped. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 07:32 AM |
| 27 | Male neighbor invited me to his daughter's birthday--red flag?This is the best advice. Do not shy away from “gossip.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 07:17 AM |
| 10 | LVM Men Can't Be Friends w/ Women + My ExperiencesThe mental gymnastics of the guy describing being rejected by a female friend, my god. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 04:37 PM |
| 4 | The restaurant is closedHe contacted me to say he realized that he had made reservations for the wrong night and asked if I was alright with him making reservations for another place instead. I said yes and the date was very nice. He was a total gentleman. | /r/askFDS | 11/07/21 07:50 AM |
| 23 | Is it okay if I try to maintain this relationship?Unfortunately yes. He is getting too comfortable and making you do more work. If he wanted to come to you, then he would find a way. You should keep the app but never force conversation with anyone. The men should be trying to keep up the conversation with you! Wishing you the best in the future. (You don’t have to be this guy’s cheerleader. You have put in so much effort for him. You deserve better.) | /r/askFDS | 06/07/21 12:47 AM |
| 13 | The restaurant is closedThank you | /r/askFDS | 06/07/21 12:40 AM |
| 17 | The restaurant is closedThat sounds terrible. I’m sorry you had to go through that. What a useless man. | /r/askFDS | 06/07/21 12:40 AM |
| 15 | The restaurant is closedWe planned the date last week (I was busy over the weekend). He asked me out and proposed the location, but it occurred to me that I should google it to make sure it was open. | /r/askFDS | 06/07/21 12:38 AM |
| 39 | Healing from past traumasIt sounds like you’re being used as a rebound. Your job is NOT to “help him heal.” That is his therapist’s job. But I don’t like hearing that he talks about her often. You have a relationship with him, not a relationship with him and his ex. You need to draw a boundary NOW. Tell him you want him to be present in your relationship. His intense feelings about his ex show that he is not ready for a relationship with you. FDS says to kick him to the curb. However, because this is askFDS I know that … | /r/askFDS | 05/07/21 08:54 PM |
| 3 | "there's a darkness inside me"A man who raped several women said this to me once. He joined a feminist org I founded. I later found out that he had coerced multiple friends of mine. And he pretended he didn’t know what caused “the darkness.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 07:06 PM |
| 9 | "there's a darkness inside me"Been meaning to make a post about Chris Watts. This guys was such a monster. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 07:03 PM |
| 38 | I honestly think that when women say they want a nice guy this is what we are talking about. This man is masculine but also very sensitive and kind to his wife, it is so nice and attractive. thoughts?I watched my fair share of Turkish soaps to learn the language and it’s exactly as you describe. Wonderful and understanding men and also men that have no chill and behave like spoiled children. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 09:15 PM |
| 27 | ' sEx wOrK iS EmpoWeRiNg 'The harem were not allowed to leave palace grounds. If that’s not slavery then I don’t know what is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 05:45 PM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-InDoes anyone even enjoy being jackhammered? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 02:08 AM |
| 2 | Please share stories of some weirdly specific rules you set after *that* one guyI’m not interested in them, but tell me why! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 01:54 AM |
| 8 | For the women that have been told the lie of “you’ll die single and alone” for not conforming to what men what you to beI thought a man had gotten in here to correct your spelling before I noticed it was just you 😂. No need to criticize yourself! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 05:52 PM |
| 126 | A scrote blocked the sidewalk with his car in order to flirt.I was walking with a small group of women once and we were shot with BB guns for not paying attention to the men in the car that was following us. One hit my friend just above her eye. You can’t even feel safe walking in broad daylight | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 06:36 PM |
| 49 | Jimmy Kimmel segment where men struggle to answer the most basic questions about their girlfriends. Ladies, never settle for someone who doesn't take an active interest in your life.WOW | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 11:41 PM |
| 76 | Saw this on my Instagram feed and I’m completely wrecked for this woman. This man had a “report card” for his wife that he eventually murdered. TW: Domestic Violence, Religious AbuseReading the text this man thinks he’s training her to be the perfect Mormon wife, though he doesn’t seem very modest himself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 09:52 PM |
| 38 | Am I surprised ?This seems to be assuming that they only work 8hr/day? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 09:37 PM |
| 11 | In case you had any remaining doubts about the male ability to devastate women for their own convenience and pleasureI would really appreciate it if there are any medical professionals here that can speak as to whether she will be ok if she decides NOT to seek medical help in order to protect her rapist or save herself the embarrassment. I’m figuring that the mucus is puss from an infection and that the feces is from a tear. I’m really worried and scared for her (I can’t believe I’m distinguishing between the mental and physical health because I hate that often people focus on the physical and don’t pay any mi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 05:26 PM |
| 14 | In case you had any remaining doubts about the male ability to devastate women for their own convenience and pleasureTMI as someone with IBS I’ve taken a lot of shits that caused pain and bleeding, often while I am gagging presumably from the discomfort. I wouldn’t wish that on ANYONE (except for men like him) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 04:47 PM |
| 84 | How to talk to menWhat’s her handle? I want to follow her! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 06:31 PM |
| 33 | Beware of Hidden Forms of ControlLol he thought he got you there | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 06:32 PM |
| 8 | He's 48, she's 19. They met when he was her tennis coach at 13 YEARS OLD. I'm disgusted and outraged for her and at him.I’m sorry to hear you went through this. I think it could be a really good thing if you were to write a post about the tactics your abuser experienced for other young women here to read, but of course I understand if that’s too difficult. Be kind to yourself ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 08:13 PM |
| 17 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-InI’m not a native speaker but could possibly help out! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 05:27 PM |
| 28 | The level of animosity I am feeling right now for this person is indescribable... my blood pressure may never recover.I honestly wouldn’t be surprised if she didn’t have this reaction carrying someone else’s baby | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 05:57 AM |
| 2 | Help me build a feminist library to distribute to my friends. Where are the books on our FDS booklist like “Pornography” by Andrea Dworkin?Yes!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 09:32 AM |
| 23 | Listing all the red flags of the LVM I briefly dated in order to not make the same mistakes again.Wow, this guy was something. Next time, do not tell them that you were with someone who was abusive. They see this as a sign that they can get away with abusing you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 03:18 AM |
| 4 | Help me build a feminist library to distribute to my friends. Where are the books on our FDS booklist like “Pornography” by Andrea Dworkin?There was a brilliant anti-pornography book that was actually written by a man that changed me. I don’t remember his name, but he used to teach at a university in Texas and I remember reading a paper of his online in which he checked out the top grossing porn flicks from Blockbuster and noted that every single film showed women in pain. His question in the end was, are men ignoring their pain or are they getting off to it? This was written before porn became so proudly violent in the mainstream.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 06:50 PM |
| 6 | George Carlin On WomenI’ve never been into guys who like him actually. I never made that connection. I do know women that listen to his podcast though... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 06:45 PM |
| 3 | George Carlin On WomenI don’t know anything about Joe Rohan because apparently I live under a rock. What kind of stuff does he say about women? I only saw one clip of him on here where he was arguing with a woman who denied that porn addiction is real. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 06:38 PM |
| 77 | Pregnancy and Its DiscontentsOh I’m sooo sorry that having a child affected your body like that! Poor man has no control over how all this stress affects him! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 12:51 AM |
| 30 | Pregnancy and Its DiscontentsBrain fog is something that most of the public won’t take seriously. It’s serious. It affects everything. I’m sorry about this and about your pain. I hope that you are being taken seriously by your doctor. If not, then don’t be afraid to change doctors. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 12:48 AM |
| 26 | Pregnancy and Its DiscontentsThat is horrifying. I have a connective tissue disorder and I would be at high risk of this happening. I will never give birth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 12:47 AM |
| 30 | Pregnancy and Its DiscontentsI am afraid too. The risk does not seem to be worth the so-called reward. I’m sorry to hear that your mother suffered so much. That must have been very hard on both of you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 12:45 AM |
| 28 | Pregnancy and Its DiscontentsHow disgusting of your doctor to dismiss you like that. Mental health is still health. Shame on them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 12:44 AM |
| 21 | Pregnancy and Its DiscontentsThank you for writing this. It helps my dysfunctional parents better. After a childhood encompassed by abuse, now at 31 with each of them going weeks without contacting me and not liking to hear about my life, they seem to have these sudden and intense worries about my safety in which they need me to respond immediately. It never made sense to me because I don’t feel love from either of them, they have a lot of limitations, but it must be a biological thing. It’s the only time that I can see my … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 12:42 AM |
| 25 | Needing some support. I am fuming. Boy moms are fucking worst.I ran away to my dad’s when I turned 16. I refused to go back to my mom’s house. I refused to testify at their custody battles. They told me police were going to take me out of my calculus class at the junior college to make me testify. I said ok, let them. The cops never came and no one forced me to go back to my mother 😂. I can’t guarantee that the cops will also leave your daughter alone, but they probably believe that they have better things to be doing with their time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 05:47 PM |
| 15 | Another day another woman suffering from the "I dont know what consent is also men are oppressed" diseaseThis is so confusing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 06:46 PM |
| 24 | The more things change...I want to ask for a link but I also don’t want to ask for a link | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 08:11 PM |
| 98 | Don’t let them baby trap you ladies. Very bad things can happen.He misses the sex with his wife more than anything and is just feeling sorry for himself | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 10:26 PM |
| 11 | Another post that demonstrates why it’s good to weary of so-called male ‘friends’. It always come back to sex and whether they see you as bangable or not.Everything about this, yes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 10:40 PM |
| 13 | I want to share an eye opening conversation i had with a guy friendThe actors on tv were literally consenting though. I once asked a male friend who enjoyed porn how he reconciled with the fact that just logically it doesn’t seem empowering for women at all, it’s just not a job that a healthy person could want. I said it with as little judgment as I could. He said that he listens to all the sex positive women who say that they love participating in sex work and that he feels wrong to invalidate their experience. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 09:07 PM |
| 24 | Have men always been so bad?I took a communications class on porn and society in college. It’s been demonstrated that serial rapists watch rape porn just before they commit the act. Why do we allow this in society? The Canadian prof said that his research was being used by politicians to try to change laws around porn in Canada, but that there was tremendous backlash, interestingly from LGBT groups calling it homophobic because it was a common thing to be featured in lesbian porn. My guess is that this was at the beginning… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 09:12 PM |
| 5 | Have men always been so bad?What made you decide to disengage from your kinks? I was also exposed to porn very young but I didn’t like it. It broke my heart that my dad wasn’t watching naked videos of my mom (this is long before I knew anything about sexuality—it was just an instinctual feeling). I later tried to get into it because I knew that that’s what other 16yo guys wanted. I tried to act like women did in porn when I was raped so that it would be over faster. I regret so much that I did that. I did everything I coul… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 09:05 PM |
| 16 | New concept- womb disciplineThank you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 08:42 PM |
| 35 | Nothing drives a man crazier than...Yes yes yes. Or if it’s my house then I tell him to leave. I once told an angry guy that if he didn’t leave then I would scream and the neighbors would come. He was stunned for a moment but then he got out of there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 12:02 AM |
| 67 | Nothing drives a man crazier than...When they get like this in person, I calmly tell them that if they don’t stop yelling then I’m going to walk away. Then I calmly walk away and don’t look back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 08:41 PM |
| 3 | Can we talk about women who cancel on their friends so they can hang out with a guy?My closest female friend in my city. She had leveled up after her fiancé left her. I didn’t think she would sink back into this and now I harbor resentment towards her. She still calls me to talk about him because I knew him for a few years before I introduced them | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 10:08 PM |
| 28 | Can we talk about women who cancel on their friends so they can hang out with a guy?I don’t know if I saw this comment before from you or from someone else bc this seems to be a regular occurrence. It just makes me rage. My friend had 2 days left with her boyfriend before he moved back to his home country. My boyfriend had just dumped me in the middle of the night because I found out he was cheating and I had nowhere to go because I was in between apartments for that week and staying with him. I went to hers and called her at 4am. She immediately packed up her things from her b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 09:49 PM |
| 4 | Can we talk about women who cancel on their friends so they can hang out with a guy?These faux feminist mindsets are toxic. If you wanted to be in a relationship with her and her boyfriend then you would have invited him to join on a regular basis. It’s not that subtle; why don’t people understand this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 09:45 PM |
| 8 | Can we talk about women who cancel on their friends so they can hang out with a guy?Wished you lived in my city! Where all the strong women at!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 09:44 PM |
| 57 | Can we talk about women who cancel on their friends so they can hang out with a guy?This happened to me a week ago. She showed me the texts between her and the guy in which he negged her (called her a 7), asked her if she was free, and she responded yes. When she could tell I was upset, she asked me what she should do. I wasn’t about to make her hang out with me so I told her to do what she wanted. Then she asked me what would be best for her situationship and I told her to just do what she wanted. I’ve had enough talk of his favorite bras and panties of hers, how much he likes… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 07:42 PM |
| 1 | Don't forget to head over to r/askFDS and help a fellow FDS lady today!Would love to be a specialist :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/21 06:42 AM |
| 33 | Online DatingI paid for a background check service for the past few months due to a stalker situation. I have unlimited searches. I don’t know if this is against the rules, but as long as I don’t get more requests than I can keep up with, I am happy to search someone and let you know if there is criminal history. I recently found out that an acquaintance was dating a rapist and swiftly sent her the report. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 09:18 PM |
| 4 | What Red Flags Have You Ignored That Later Became the Reason You LeftHow long did he wait to say I love you? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 08:08 PM |
| 9 | To all the LVMs who “don’t believe in Valentine’s Day” 🤡🤡🤡I’m shocked, wow. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 07:14 PM |
| 35 | To all the LVMs who “don’t believe in Valentine’s Day” 🤡🤡🤡This is so accurate it hurts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 07:03 PM |
| 8 | Scumbag Steve was ahead of his time. He is the penultimate opportunistic NVM.What happened to him? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 02:21 PM |
| 1 | Maybe he’s trying to do her a favor by kicking himself out of her life so she can move on to better things...He hates her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 11:20 PM |
| 1 | I cant stop feeling disgust towards my mother's choices with men.The child is the puppy. The parent is the adult. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 05:55 AM |
| 46 | Save time: Picture-based vetting on OLDCuddle to them = sex. Block the cuddle bois. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 01:49 AM |
| 27 | It's time for women to start thinking about equity instead of equalityExamples of the difference between equality and equity in the lives of women and men in hetero relationships: A couple is having sex. He goes down on her for 10 minutes and they have sex for 10 minutes. Is this equal? Yes. Equitable? No, because only he got to orgasm. The man in the couple is annoyed that whenever his partner wants sex, she can get it from him, but whenever he wants sex, he can be denied by her. Is this equal? No. Equitable? Yes, because this helps to ensure that no one is coerc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 07:59 PM |
| 45 | Vasopressin Receptors and Male BondingI want to see part 2! What is her handle? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 08:17 AM |
| 21 | Tales from the vault IV: the one time we caught a grown man filming teenage girls in public so we started screaming "PEDOPHILE"They did nothing when I was being stalked and my home was being broken into. They did nothing when I reported my rape. They’re ain’t shit but a state-sponsored gang that only looks out for their own. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 09:08 AM |
| 6 | Tales from the vault IV: the one time we caught a grown man filming teenage girls in public so we started screaming "PEDOPHILE"This is so true. I like to let every Man I date know that I have a couple very close girl friends. I hope that he will know that I will be getting some opinionated feedback if he ever hurts me. Not sure if these guys actually think that far ahead though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 09:06 AM |
| 25 | I just escaped an abuserWow, what a roller coaster. I’m so glad that you’re out. These things can happen to us without warning. My first FDS relationship was like this. He became my anonymous stalker and used the situation to make me stay with him to protect my safety. Block him. You didn’t deserve it. He love-bombed you. Now I check in with my therapist every week about the health of my relationships. Wishing you the best. Pm me if you ever need to talk. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 06:17 AM |
| 2 | I just got flashbacks of a bearded man on a "date", talking about his beard for 45 minutes, while stroking his beard... also why do they make that facial expression?Is this true for head hair as well? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 09:20 AM |
| 2 | I just got flashbacks of a bearded man on a "date", talking about his beard for 45 minutes, while stroking his beard... also why do they make that facial expression?Oh no, what did he do in the funeral pic... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 09:13 AM |
| 3 | I just got flashbacks of a bearded man on a "date", talking about his beard for 45 minutes, while stroking his beard... also why do they make that facial expression?This is valuable information, thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 09:07 PM |
| 19 | I just got flashbacks of a bearded man on a "date", talking about his beard for 45 minutes, while stroking his beard... also why do they make that facial expression?How about several? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 08:59 PM |
| 1 | "johns" = Lowest life formPlease DM me too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 05:16 PM |
| 13 | Another meme summing up relationship subsLost it right here | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 04:49 PM |
| 16 | Combatting touch starvationBe sure to take care of your own needs while you are pursuing your degree! I am in grad school too and I often push my needs aside in order to finish my work. I think every grad student needs a therapist and it’s amazing that you are going to become one! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 08:37 PM |
| 37 | Combatting touch starvationI don’t blame you for having the affair. It sounds like your husband didn’t care about your needs (I am sure that you brought them up with him on numerous occasions) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 08:35 PM |
| 3 | Turn your sound up! 😂I’m confused by this. What is going on? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 07:58 PM |
| 4 | Don't Fall for the Tender TrapAfter finishing, he soulfully looks into your eyes and voices a husky, “Hey.” WHY DO THEY DO THIS! How do they want us to respond to that?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 07:35 PM |
| 1 | Don't Fall for the Tender TrapI thought this too 😂🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 07:34 PM |
| 21 | She realized she’s basically single but with more choresThis guy got massages on top of all the shit he made her deal with alone?? He still got sex when he wanted it?? Helllll no Good for her for leaving his dead weight! #kickhimout2020 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 08:17 PM |
| 23 | Have you ever noticed how single mothers are villainized in movies for setting boundaries concerning their kids with their ex-husbands?This happened constantly in Breaking Bad and everyone hated Skylar for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 09:12 AM |
| 4 | Me and the other girls in my theater class in high school were constructing props in the library late at night and we all had a tearful heart to heart about all the abuse we have received by men. That night we learned that each and every girl had been raped and/or beaten by a bf or family member.I’ve wanted to go there forever! I spent some time around old Turkish women and it really was the same sort of vibe. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 08:54 AM |
| 19 | If your man’s place looks like this - run. Don’t walk. That apartment is a reflection of his inner state.I loved that chair. I want to rescue it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 07:34 AM |
| 5 | Do not let him gaslight you! You're not crazy, it's your intuition saying something's up, follow it.He is likely looking for someone younger than you. I think you should put your age a couple years lower. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 06:31 AM |
| 3 | This made me snort with laughterWow, can you share your penisbread recipe? It’s gluten free! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 04:05 AM |
| 2 | Saw this on twitter - Hinge date puts woman's pictures through an analyzer online to "check if she is actually attractive," tells her her "forehead is too big," then tries to secure a hang out next weekMe too please | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 11:57 PM |
| 10 | I told him (40yo man) about the time someone I previously dated organized to have various bottles of wine sent to me for our video date “cause he wasn’t sure which type I liked”. His response to that was attempting to schedule a FaceTime date with MY groceries 🤡Also confused. What? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 06:34 PM |
| 5 | What is the funniest thing a LVM has said to you?What is the censored word? Sorry | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 05:20 AM |
| 1 | LVM Bingo Time!Wants dry sex? What? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 02:26 AM |
| 3 | midsommar trailer but it's a feel good romantic comedy - thought y'all would find this funnyThis cracked me up, thank you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 11:04 PM |
| 19 | midsommar trailer but it's a feel good romantic comedy - thought y'all would find this funnyI think you misunderstood—this was manipulated into a romantic comedy trailer but the movie is anything but | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 10:56 PM |
| 2 | Do you use hinge?I see hinge profiles where guys purposefully block the algorithm from catching that they are leaving the prompts empty. What’s the point of this? And then they message me and expect to have a conversation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 05:37 PM |
| 15 | Y’ALL! I was dating a guy who treated me the best I’d ever been treated. He then told me he’s on the sex offender registry! Worst part is below...What app was this? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 01:46 AM |
| 19 | My sister-in-law just left her abusive relationship and is feeling a certain way...Midsommar is a good breakup film! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 08:32 AM |
| 2 | Silicone breast implants - from the Museum of Broken Relationships (Zagreb)No but now I want to | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 05:11 PM |
| 17 | This is what porn does. This poor child is being sexually harassed in her own home because of her step-brother’s pornsickness. I hope that she can get the frick frack outta there and that he gets put into intensive therapy (and subject to constant surveillance by his parents) before he escalatesThat boyfriend is terrible!! And the stepbrother, to think that they actually translate porn into their real lives to THAT extent! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 09:16 PM |
| 2 | Oof does she tell it like it is lol wait until the endDemi sexuals are attracted to close emotional bonds | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 10:27 PM |
| 8 | Hi everyone, just wanted to make a quick reminder to not settle!I hope she took the information to someone who could protect her or show it to the cops. I feel so sorry for her and I’m glad she survived. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 04:13 PM |
| 3 | How are some women so accommodating to men who literally don't change their underwear?I read that there are ways to prevent this from happening but it means that they have to either wipe, not have the waistband at the base of the dick when you pee, or press on the perineum. I’ve hounded every boyfriend to do these things so that his underwear doesn’t smell of piss... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 04:02 PM |
| 27 | How are some women so accommodating to men who literally don't change their underwear?They let it drip into their underwear instead shudders | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 10:55 PM |
| 33 | How are some women so accommodating to men who literally don't change their underwear?I have had men give me the same excuse. Even when I’m camping I change my underwear daily or sometimes twice daily. I don’t see how even just sweat and sitting in the same clothes doesn’t feel gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 10:29 PM |
| 36 | If he wanted to, he would.And doing what you tell them not to do | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 07:44 PM |
| 5 | Thanks for your input Teddy; you’ve actually changed my mind. NOT!Do they think it will work? Are they just trying to blow off steam? What is that? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 09:08 AM |
| 30 | Most men my age are permanently undateable because of porn. Yes, permanently.Wow, a pedophile? How did he admit this to you?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 11:20 PM |
| 1 | When even men like Bill Maher can acknowledge and criticize the abusive,rapey and misogynistic nature of modern porn, what's the excuse of the rest of the scores that play stupid?I haven’t listened to his podcast but everyone I know loves it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 09:58 PM |
| 10 | Thanks for your input Teddy; you’ve actually changed my mind. NOT!Lol this isn’t a bad response! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 09:57 PM |
| 25 | Thanks for your input Teddy; you’ve actually changed my mind. NOT!Also illegal in my state. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 09:31 PM |
| 101 | Thanks for your input Teddy; you’ve actually changed my mind. NOT!Over half of his photos are of him holding a young baby, without the face blurred out, and he is unkempt af. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 07:11 PM |
| 5 | Misogyny lives.What does the last one mean? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 06:43 PM |
| 40 | When even men like Bill Maher can acknowledge and criticize the abusive,rapey and misogynistic nature of modern porn, what's the excuse of the rest of the scores that play stupid?Now I’m completely disgusted by Joe Rogan. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 06:42 PM |
| 23 | BasicallyWhat is her handle? I want to follow her but I can’t read it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 04:09 AM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 9 2020Yeet the girl. Much of what you wrote I was expecting, but when you said that she doesn’t take your autoimmune disorder seriously...FUCK her. Really, how can she be SO self-absorbed? You deserve so much better in a friend. Medical matters matter so much. And I am surprised that she managed to combine alllll of these bad traits into one person. I could write so much more about your other bullet points. Know that you did the right thing. ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 11:12 PM |
| 6 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 9 2020I use Hinge so that I don’t have to swipe. That way they come to you. But no one seems to be attractive except for the men who are poly | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 10:26 PM |
| 2 | Honestly nicer than most places I’ve been for dates (Waffle House and then Walmart)This just went to my soul. Yes every time. One even broke up with me on my birthday so that he didn’t have to come up with anything to do for it. Expected me to try and get him back afterwards. Ha HA! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 10:03 AM |
| 4 | lmao oh this is giving me flashbacks“Sorry I can be kind of playful sometimes.” This is so real. I don’t even know how to describe this very interaction but it makes me cringe everytime. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 08:42 AM |
| 3 | This is my pickmeisha story. I was the worst case of pick me I've ever seen and I thought that sharing my story would help me (and maybe some of you as well).I actually think that the friend who warned you about his stinginess would be receptive to hearing about how stingy he was in your relationship. Did you ever talk about his stinginess with this person? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 08:33 AM |
| 3 | This is my pickmeisha story. I was the worst case of pick me I've ever seen and I thought that sharing my story would help me (and maybe some of you as well).How tiny was it? I’m guessing that he was not the best in bed… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 08:32 AM |
| 3 | Dodged a bullet thanks to FDS (story in comments)What is a feve? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 05:21 AM |
| 1 | What do women get out of triads?Nothing good | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 04:15 AM |
| 45 | OP is in the comments talking about how her boyfriend will say ‘looks like she gives good head ‘ to her about other girls. Continues to defend him and refuse to see that how he perceives women is DISGUSTING. She also told me good luck finding a dude 😂😂😂“He looks like he can lick good clit.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 05:34 PM |
| 6 | "National men make dinner day?"Happy birthday though! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 12:46 AM |
| 2 | Thank you - finally found my tribe (and sanity)!You can transfer to a different program if need be. I know I have thought about it many times. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 11:50 PM |
| 15 | Beware the guy who’s too good to be trueHm, I’ve never been in her position so I can’t say how she would feel. I would hope that she would see the other woman as a reminder of the beginning of a better life. But then again, maybe it’s too difficult to detach from a relationship like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 11:46 PM |
| 26 | Beware the guy who’s too good to be trueI want to believe that female friendships resulted from these things. Was that the case for you? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 11:42 PM |
| 25 | Dude is embarrassed because his wife carried his child 🙄Me too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 09:10 PM |
| 6 | And That Was The Moment I Knew. Thank you FDS! I wish I had found this community sooner but at least I’m here now. What are your top tips for making yourself feel better post-break up?Listen to Lundy Bancroft audiobooks while doing puzzles really helped me organize my thoughts into a healthy pattern. Why Does He Do That saved me! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 05:54 PM |
| 21 | Guess the subEW eweweeew | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 05:34 PM |
| 5 | Share your ridiculous OLD storiesHe began to anonymously stalk me after I broke up with him and told me that I should stay with him to keep myself safe from the stalker. I did for some time but he never ceased being a complete fuckhead so after the day he told me “I actually don’t think he was a stalker. I think he was just a guy who wanted to communicate with you,” I never spoke to him again. I didn’t block him however, because I need to know any possible warning signs that he might come and do something violent to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 05:31 PM |
| 10 | Share your ridiculous OLD storiesThe bf I met on OLD shortly before lockdown starts having some kind of mental breakdown shortly after lockdown begins. I ask him to take me out and he says there are no dates to go on during covid. So I asked him to take me on a picnic. I show up to his house and ask about the food bag, wondering if I can put my jacket in there because it’s sunny but also cold. He tells me that we’re not using a bag, so I should just use my purse. Well my jacket doesn’t fit there so I just leave it behind. He ha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 03:47 AM |
| 9 | “Cooking a nice dinner isn’t a sign of being a grown up. Cleaning your kitchen after that dinner and before you go to bed is being an adult.”YES | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 05:49 PM |
| 9 | It should be considered child abuse to teach daughters to be "good, submissive wives."I also grew up in a situation similar to yours but with just one man. He of course cheated on her and broke up with her, but began to come over often when he found out that I was staying with her (which I was doing because I have a stalker in my hometown who I think is dangerous). She taught me horrible values when it comes to men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 11:03 PM |
| 26 | What sex/hook up experience helped catalyze your FDS ideals?You win | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 05:43 AM |
| 70 | If men were written like women:LOL! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 01:31 AM |
| 15 | We need to teach our children about the dangers of hookup cultureI have one friend who was in a frat who is 100% HVM. I didn’t want to talk to him when I met him and learned that he was in a frat. Our social circles mixed though and he’s just a great person! He doesn’t participate in hookup culture. Though I still wouldn’t want to give another man a minute of my day if I knew he was in a frat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 08:14 AM |
| 2 | Never forget 👑I just imagined seeing this in the opening credits for the Simpsons | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 07:45 AM |
| 3 | Personal Security & Self Defense ThreadThis really only works with carpet, for those who are interested. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 06:52 AM |
| 10 | I paused dating this year because of how many creeps I encountered, this morning I found out staying home and not engaging with men doesn't keep me safe either.My bug finder arrived in the mail yesterday but the instructions are in Chinese. I am going to figure out how to use it tonight (I know that you have to flip the breakers to cut electricity before you do it). I brought my car to the mechanic and asked him to search for tracking devices. He said he didn’t see any but there could be some behind the radio or in the door panel. You’re supposed to drive your car to a place without electricity nearby to check it for bugs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 03:35 AM |
| 3 | I paused dating this year because of how many creeps I encountered, this morning I found out staying home and not engaging with men doesn't keep me safe either.It’s called a bug finder, they have them on Amazon | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 03:32 AM |
| 5 | I paused dating this year because of how many creeps I encountered, this morning I found out staying home and not engaging with men doesn't keep me safe either.Read this in Lundy Banckroft! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 02:46 AM |
| 5 | I paused dating this year because of how many creeps I encountered, this morning I found out staying home and not engaging with men doesn't keep me safe either.My stalker broke in and stole my dildo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 12:01 AM |
| 2 | And they wonder why they never get matches.I actually don’t swipe right for that either, partly because I feel too young to be involved with someone who has children, partly because it seems needlessly hostile. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 11:54 PM |
| 1 | And they wonder why they never get matches.Life has put me in a spot where one of my closest friend is a guy. People always though he and I were dating, which I didn’t understand. I recently found out that he wanted to be dating me at the time. Apparently those people saw something I didn’t. No boyfriend of mine has ever let on to feeling threatened by my guy friend though. I think because I don’t flaunt our friendship like somebody would if they were in love with their friend? Or maybe because he’s not muscly or clean-shaven, so he does… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 11:48 PM |
| 14 | I paused dating this year because of how many creeps I encountered, this morning I found out staying home and not engaging with men doesn't keep me safe either.I want to add that a video doorbell can be bypassed with a WiFi jammer because they typically have no local storage. If the camera can’t connect to the internet then it can’t send the footage to the server. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 10:59 PM |
| 26 | I paused dating this year because of how many creeps I encountered, this morning I found out staying home and not engaging with men doesn't keep me safe either.The long version deserves its own post but in “short:” a note and some gifts showed up at my door. Then another note (which I can’t find right now). Then some texts. I looked up the phone number and it belonged to a maintenance worker for my building who had left in 2016 but had since been charged with human trafficking, violating parole, carrying illegal ammunition, etc. The stalker was pretending to be someone who lived in my apartment complex though, and he gave me a fake name that happened t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 10:47 PM |
| 32 | I paused dating this year because of how many creeps I encountered, this morning I found out staying home and not engaging with men doesn't keep me safe either.Don’t throw it away because you may need it again. This really rustled my jimmies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 09:10 PM |
| 40 | I paused dating this year because of how many creeps I encountered, this morning I found out staying home and not engaging with men doesn't keep me safe either.PM me his full name (if you have it) and city and I’ll do a background check through public records. I’m worried for your safety. I went through something very similar to this and he became my stalker and is still breaking into my apartment. You can never be too cautious. I’m following you if that’s ok—I want to know that you’re safe. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 09:04 PM |
| 8 | Always look into a man’s background before meeting them like this (it’s free):I am paying for a background check website for the next few months. If anyone would like me to send a report, PM me and I’ll look someone up for you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 09:01 PM |
| 3 | This documentary shows exactly why FDS is necessary.I feel very sorry for girls today. It was terrible when I was a child and it’s even worse today. I appreciated that the documentary made the point that dates don’t exist—only sex as an audition for a relationship. How disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 11:11 PM |
| 1 | This documentary shows exactly why FDS is necessary.I hope you quoted Mean Girls in that too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 11:07 PM |
| 32 | What pickmes and LVM don't get...Body positivity was supposed to be about accepting people with handicaps, disabilities, deformities, etc. Then it was co-opted. As a disabled person I despise this movement. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 02:57 AM |
| 12 | This documentary shows exactly why FDS is necessary.Thanks so much for posting this. I resonate with it because I grew up right when kids were getting their own phones. Texting didn’t exist until high school, but even then it cost extra money. iPhones changed everything when I was 16, but I didn’t want one because it was consumerist, materialistic. Smart phones cost so much money that our parents wouldn’t have been able to pay for the data. Those were different times. Now my students are in a GroupMe that I babysit so that they don’t exchange any… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 09:30 PM |
| 9 | I’m really curious...is “showing a bad financial situation” a thing on OLD in Canada? My male friend said “Maybe they’re trying to show you that they’re money smart” it’s not attractive to me at all and I don’t think I’ve seen this kind of profile from other countries..If you’re lucky, he may invite you to his bed without a frame or sheets | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 07:42 PM |
| 4 | They’re Allllllmost There. Almost.Ok I don’t know anything about fetlife, but that sounds so crazy that it makes me wonder if any of these are fake profiles made by abusive exes. Is the world really this terrible? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 07:22 PM |
| 19 | Men can’t make women orgasm because they don’t “cOmMUniCatE”Lol at trying to shove in a softy! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 06:07 PM |
| 16 | Men can’t make women orgasm because they don’t “cOmMUniCatE”Who is twisting nipples! Somebody arrest this man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 06:05 PM |
| 4 | This is why I don’t like male teachers ...I hope someone reported him to Harvard’s title ix office with this photo attached | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 11:58 PM |
| 3 | When your ex messages you on Google docsOh god I’ve written resumes and cover letters for boyfriends in my pickme days (because I was sick of always paying for them!) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 09:40 PM |
| 4 | I look like myself againOmg I did not know that there was an overlap between r/curlyhair and FDS beyond only me. That sub makes me so proud of my looks because I did it myself, with my own research, to find out what feels the best, even to the touch. So proud of my curly locks now! And if any of you ladies want curly or wavy hair advice, I’m your girl! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 07:23 PM |
| 7 | But god forbid you don’t take care of a LVM when he has his “man cold”Wishing you the best 🐙 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 02:26 AM |
| 14 | But god forbid you don’t take care of a LVM when he has his “man cold”Lost it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 02:25 AM |
| 1 | Just... WHY IS THIS PIC ON YOUR TINDER PROFILE?!?!Like skid marks? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 12:20 AM |
| 6 | That's how LVM treat women for hookupsI don’t like that she is increasing the risk of exposing her kids to covid as well. Because you can’t expect someone like him to be safe. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 05:09 PM |
| 30 | That's how LVM treat women for hookupsOn top of pregnancy, STIs, and social stigma, she was also risking catching covid, all for a man that lied about where he would take her. Notice he also said nothing about, you know, getting her off. “She seemed really into it.” No, she was waiting for you to finish. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 05:04 PM |
| 8 | Everything was going well…then it turns out he’s into beastiality.🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 08:09 PM |
| 7 | Red Flag: Abuse starts off with control and devaluing the abused partner’s dreams & achievement’s. Throw the whole man out sis!This is even more sinister than it sounds. He is going to stalk her YouTube account and then he will stalk her in real life. But he won’t show her that he is the stalker, rather, it will be his way of punishing her for going against his word. “The stalker” will put her in physical danger and she’ll be forced to leave her apartment and move in with him because he’ll “keep [her] safe from the stalker.” He will use psychological tactics to scare her more, and he will become more and more manipulati… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 10:19 AM |
| 12 | My Standards: A list of “Must-Haves” and “Non-Negotiables”.The last bullet really hit me. So many boyfriends in the past thought that their work was more important than mine when we were both in PhD programs! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 09:27 PM |
| 3 | Aussie scrote loses his job after sending vile & abusive messages to Tinder matchesI see your point. Maybe it’s a sensitivity of mine from having had a handful of anorexic friends that were triggered by those kinds of outlandish comments. I hated seeing them not eat. All because of assholes like that guy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 09:22 PM |
| 19 | Aussie scrote loses his job after sending vile & abusive messages to Tinder matchesNowhere in the article do they mention that SHE’S NOT EVEN FAT. Not that it should make a difference in whether or not she should be abused, but it shows the amount of discrimination that happens on these platforms. For them, a fat woman is “only a fuck.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 05:42 AM |
| 15 | When an LVM demands 50/50 💅Can there be a sub for women who love Midsommar AND practice FDS? Another thing—SO creepy when Pelle said “Do you feel held by him?” There was an interesting split amongst pickmes who loved that line and other women that found it disturbing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 04:14 AM |
| 27 | PickMe no more - Cut off a guy who wanted to be “friends”He wanted to keep you around as a backup | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 11:43 PM |
| 80 | When an LVM demands 50/50 💅This is my favorite movie. I have my theory about it so spoiler alert: Christian’s Swedish friend killed her family so that she had no one else to celebrate her birthday with and would come to Sweden. It would also bring her closer to him because of the whole “orphan” thing and then of course he can replace her family with a cult. There is an amazing deleted scene if you watch the director’s cut: an argument between Dani and Christian. Their relationship is SO realistic. I watched the movie with… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 11:28 PM |
| 2 | Confession from a self described "Daddy Dom" when I criticized his kinkI think it’s whisper | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 09:16 PM |
| 17 | How I never had a bad first date! (Except one)Getting out of the house makes such a big difference in the quality of men you encounter. In the meantime it’s good to invest in yourself and put off dating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 08:49 PM |
| 48 | My favorite part is how her female friends are surrounding her for this epic moment“You should be honored by my lateness” lol good luck with that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 08:32 PM |
| 4 | Queen-to-Queen check-in: how does your gut feel around him?Lolled at Dr. Ramani, I have been there | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 06:15 AM |
| 2 | Can we stop using "walk date" like it's an actual thing? Sis that's not a date. It's a walk.I live near the beach and they are always asking to go for walks on the beach. What do I reply to them? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 05:54 AM |
| 8 | 'THIS IS PARIS' Paris Hilton documentary on YouTube...shows how she was manipulated and pressured into filming sex by an older man at 18What was the camp? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 05:43 AM |
| 10 | Don't fall for "You're the only one who understands me."Lol! Little do they know it’s often the other way around. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 06:33 AM |
| 8 | The “Blood in the Water” TestWow. I have a similar illness but that IS my biggest insecurity. Most people don’t know what to say when they find out so I downplay it and they downplay it more and I start to feel awful about it. How did you get to the place where you are now? (I’ve had mine for 24 years—-I’m 31 now, so time doesn’t seem to have been quite enough for me) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 06:29 AM |
| 6 | The “Blood in the Water” Test👏👏👏👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 06:19 AM |
| 3 | Show Recommendations?Watched this in March and I still think about it every day | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 05:47 AM |
| 3 | Confessions of a former pick meShana Tovah! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 03:43 AM |
| 4 | Confessions of a former pick meWhat is it with these lost bois? Why are they so lost? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 03:42 AM |
| 1 | Future goals: become a painter and live a quiet life ✨I too love plants! Beautiful! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 02:50 AM |
| 10 | SCORCH A SCROTE: Today I burned every single love letter, card, note, drawing he ever gave me- AND I DID IT LITERALLY WEARING A CROWN I ORDERED JUST FOR THIS OCCASION!Shana Tovah! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 02:45 AM |
| 1 | What an asshole. ITS NOT EVEN YOUR HOUSE GTFO. YOU DONT EVEN PAY MY BILLSI love it! Some of the best music has come from “untrained” musicians! My favorite music at least :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 06:01 AM |
| 3 | What an asshole. ITS NOT EVEN YOUR HOUSE GTFO. YOU DONT EVEN PAY MY BILLSHarp! I know what you mean, they are very hard on students in music school. You’re probably healthier for having left >.<. I’m now doing a degree in ethnomusicology so I’m specializing in a middle eastern guitar-like instrument called the oud. What do you play?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 05:59 AM |
| 56 | What an asshole. ITS NOT EVEN YOUR HOUSE GTFO. YOU DONT EVEN PAY MY BILLSI heard things like this in my house too. Now I have a bachelors and masters in music, working on my PhD. I still have a complex about it too, a very intense fear of being perceived as terribly untalented or a total fraud. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 06:18 PM |
| 2 | But who cheats when they’re happy in a relationship?This. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 07:11 AM |
| 1 | But who cheats when they’re happy in a relationship?Due to Reddit’s overwhelming support for the idea | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 07:10 AM |
| 8 | But who cheats when they’re happy in a relationship?Agreed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 01:16 AM |
| 38 | But who cheats when they’re happy in a relationship?You can guess how the comments were. Out of 117 I only saw one that was suspicious that he would cheat again. Probably he’s there because he lost his job or wanted a woman to take care of him as he got older. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 07:19 PM |
| 20 | I think I found a redpiller in the wildCold approaches when the air quality index is 250 out of 300 while in the state with the highest number of covid cases in the nation? That’s a new level that I hadn’t even considered. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 03:56 AM |
| 17 | Having a male gynecologist is a bad idea. 👎🏾Similar story to the gyno at the student health center at UCLA. My friend was a victim of his. I will NEVER trust a man down there and I feel like the women who do are trying to prove to themselves that their apprehension (read: gut) is just them overreacting or being sexist. Never make yourself a guinea pig just to prove to yourself that you aren’t sexist. If we had a manual for teenagers and young women, I would demand that this be included in it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 09:32 AM |
| 13 | What will you not do until engaged or married?I’m interested, why no long vacations? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 09:23 AM |
| 3 | Don't send nudesIs that true? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 05:18 AM |
| 3 | How did a conversation about working out turn into me cooking for him? That’s so cute, the lil’ baby wants something for nothing.🙄 (I have a food blog.)And on top of this he assumes that you don’t like the way you currently look? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 04:52 AM |
| 18 | some HVM energy.Was at my favorite brewery on my birthday waiting in line with a friend. The guy behind us asks us something and we get into conversation. He then asks if we’re a couple. We said no and he said oh he was excited when he thought we were lesbians, then he turned beet red, apologized, and bought our beers. I have no idea what happened there, maybe he punished himself? Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 03:50 AM |
| 2 | "Hi" is not sufficientActually it’s usually been the guy who calls it boring! There’s a lot on my profile to ask me about... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 09:05 PM |
| 2 | What would you do if...When she finally does come home, he’ll accuse her of judging him, complain that he couldn’t relax all evening because of her, and he’ll probably cry about it. He’ll also tell her he’s never had the urge to do this before and it’s the first time this ever happened. Girl is probably leaving out that he was watching his favorite porn star rapist Ron Jeremey do the same on the screen across from him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 05:47 PM |
| 3 | "Hi" is not sufficientI’d had them do this and then comment on how boring the conversation was. Now I don’t even respond with a “hi” anymore | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 05:13 PM |
| 12 | When a LVM tries to drop this hot line to reel you in thinking you are a pickme, but you decide to play stupid to give him a taste of his own medicine before you block & delete for good as an enlightened QueenLet’s just say I’m pro scallion and leave it at that ;). Are you huevos and whiskey? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 01:41 AM |
| 21 | When a LVM tries to drop this hot line to reel you in thinking you are a pickme, but you decide to play stupid to give him a taste of his own medicine before you block & delete for good as an enlightened QueenI agree with you on the tulips, I just hate when people say potatoes. How about orchids or comfy chairs that don’t have arms on them? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 11:51 PM |
| 4 | I’m out of words.Or the MIL trying to murder the DIL | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 07:19 PM |
| 2 | How long should I wait to block him?Is pretending you didn’t receive messages some kind of tactic? I’ve never heard of this before | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 06:20 PM |
| 2 | any advice for a teen trying to get over an ex turned fwb?Your brain in playing a biological trick on you because it is hardwired to keep this connection so that your children will have the protection of a father. Luckily you have no children together yay (and not that they would need a father in today’s day and age anyway)! Just suddenly stop talking to him. No explanation. Take back your power, and after a few weeks of doing this, you’ll see him as the degenerate loser that he is. Level up lady! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 06:08 PM |
| 2 | "if a chick doesn't want you, rape her"What is his name? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 05:51 PM |
| 14 | The pictures you post are inconsiderate, the problem is definitely not the pornsickness I possessDefinitely | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 06:21 AM |
| 25 | Omg. This is so real it hurts.This still made me rage inside. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 07:39 PM |
| 42 | Thoughts?But why are we painting the woman on the left as empowered? She is also going through abuse as her job (if anyone trusts men who pay for sex then we’re gonna need a bigger boat). How much of this is really her choice? Are we going to pretend that if we lived in a society in which everyone was paid a comfortable living wage that women would still be putting themselves in danger? This is some ignoramous Girl Scout feminism to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 07:37 PM |
| 3 | Boyfriend of 2 years ghosted me after a fight and I feel like an idiot.Don’t tell him what he did wrong because that leaves him room to negotiate. Truer words have never been written. He knows. He just doesn’t care. Ghost him back hardcore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 07:22 PM |
| 1 | What Features Would You Like To See in the FDS Wix App?I would like there to be an area where we can collaborate to make a handbook for preteen and teenage girls, even if it doesn’t have FDS in large letters in its title. There is too much terrible dating advice for girls out there today and I think that what I read in Seventeen magazine encouraged me to get on this life’s path. Let’s publish something that can be sold in trade paperback. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 06:43 PM |
| 1 | What Features Would You Like To See in the FDS Wix App?I am worried that it has taken the username from my email that everyone knows! Is there a way to change this? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 06:40 PM |
| 10 | This 24 year old dude who casually announced to me that he has a girlfriend in another country and pressured me into things. It’s a lot to read, sorry, but I had to share with somebody. I’m appalled. Blocked.He took every word that you wrote to him as an invitation to continue talking at you. I can’t believe you had the patience to read this all and also respond! I’m so sorry you went through that. He writes that it’s difficult to negotiate consent. Excuse me? No it’s not. It’s not at all. He cares 0% about you which is why he continued to be pushy. This man is so so dangerous. You don’t owe these men any responses. It will not teach them because they don’t care about you in the first place. Edit: Y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 06:26 PM |
| 8 | Bought a woman a necklace that you regret? Why not traumatise her to get it back? /sI had an ex accuse his ex of stealing $30k from him. When I asked further, he told me that $30k was the sum of all the money he decided to spend on her | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 05:32 PM |
| 4 | LVM masquerading as HVM...never trust 'em ladies!Exactly! It wasn’t a nap. And he could have sent off a quick text to say he was spending the day with his family. This guy was on an in-person date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 07:28 AM |
| 10 | One crazy good trick for avoiding the desire to text back a man who is being crappy or giving mixed signals/an LVM...This is wonderful | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 07:22 AM |
| 12 | Asian Standard for men vs. Western Standard in movies and TV.I’m not Asian, but I noticed that in Korean music videos, the men are very emotional. They’re emotionally available for the women they date. This is seen as a masculine trait. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 06:42 PM |
| 17 | Reminder that a good partner should support you through your bad times as well. How many men drop their wives as soon as it gets bad?SO MANY women are depressed after giving birth. But they don’t leave their children and their husbands to turn partying into a lifestyle. So LV. I feel sorry for the children and the husband | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 06:06 PM |
| 3 | Fed up, done, and ready to learnGreetings from LA! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 04:03 AM |
| 1 | Little boys man.... like what???Lol!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 10:01 PM |
| 13 | Woman wonders why FWB doesn’t care about foreplay. She’s so close to getting it, as well. 🤦🏾♀️This excuse about it only being a girlfriend activity is something I’ve heard before. I think it’s to make you continue pleasuring him in hopes of becoming his girlfriend someday even though he never actually entertained that possibility. Though the idea of trying to become someone’s girlfriend just so they’ll eat you out is really only something that a man would think to do so it’s doubly ridiculous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 07:06 PM |
| 2 | How to quickly get over your LVM ex: Create a collage of his repulsive behaviors & then view it every time you think of him!I don’t think you should be embarrassed at all. He should! I know we’re don’t know each other but I’m very proud of you anyway. That must have taken an unbelievable amount of courage and strength. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 05:05 AM |
| 6 | How to quickly get over your LVM ex: Create a collage of his repulsive behaviors & then view it every time you think of him!Oh my god I am so sorry! You didn’t deserve any of that. The miscarriage idea was so smart. I will always think of your story in the future if I allow another man to get close to me. May I ask how many months it took for him to show his real self? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 08:10 AM |
| 7 | Boyfriend mad she did things to her rapists she “hasn’t done with him”At this point the only problem he must have with his current situation is that she isn’t drugged and is consenting. Rat him out for possession of child pornography. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 08:04 AM |
| 6 | Boyfriend mad she did things to her rapists she “hasn’t done with him”Report him for holding onto child porn! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 08:02 AM |
| 8 | Priding myself on being low maintenance as a pickmeQUEEN | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 07:51 AM |
| 10 | How dare he?! 😂“She caught me sexting an ex and so I hid your number until she dumped me. Anyway, wanna drive over and blow me? Btw I have a new car for you to pay for.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 07:44 AM |
| 3 | How to quickly get over your LVM ex: Create a collage of his repulsive behaviors & then view it every time you think of him!Oh no, he got you pregnant without telling you?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 06:23 AM |
| 8 | "Why do you hate men?"Why do they do this, what are they thinking really | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 06:16 AM |
| 24 | "Why do you hate men?"Who else here has had relatives hit on them? I know I have and they certainly weren’t female! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 11:05 PM |
| 56 | Wow I really hit a nerve talking about the movie Juno in this askreddit about movie villains. Think I hit a nerve?Right, he was making the mature decision by getting married to a woman, agreeing to have a child, grooming a 16 year old, leaving his wife at the last minute so the child won’t have a father, and then being upset when the 16yo doesn’t want to be in a sexual or romantic relationship with someone her father’s age. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 07:24 AM |
| 7 | Saw this on another subreddit, and while everyone was making fun of it, I chuckled because come on, this is true.I think women look great in sweatpants! It’s men, when they’re formless and they have the dick print! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 12:37 AM |
| 4 | To: menThis is hilarious | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 07:35 PM |
| 65 | Saw this on another subreddit, and while everyone was making fun of it, I chuckled because come on, this is true.What is this thing with the gray sweatpants? I’ve seen women on reddit saying that they love them. When I’ve seen men in gray sweatpants they’re usually not even bothering to wear underwear and it shows 🤢 Also sometimes there is swampass. I just can’t 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 07:32 PM |
| 21 | What is your experience with “women’s intuition?”Yes but I mean that because he convinced that many women to sleep with him despite his marriage with you! I also have an autoimmune disorder and I know how hard it can be sometimes. Any man who neglects you because of this isn’t worth a minute of your time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 05:57 AM |
| 1 | I’m quitting birth control.What is the pill you use? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 05:43 AM |
| 27 | What is your experience with “women’s intuition?”Wow, I’m so sorry that happened to you. He must be very manipulative to have slept with so many people that you interact with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 05:37 AM |
| 1 | When was the last time a man you didn't know helped you with your groceries/lift something heavy/held the door for you/ complimented you on something OTHER than your looks?I play the harp. It’s a big instrument. Oftentimes men would see me struggling to hold a door open for myself and do nothing to help. It changed somewhat when I lost weight, but I really don’t like that that was likely the reason. The men tend to be older or they do it so they can strike up a conversation with you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 06:26 AM |
| 30 | Humanity and vulnerability and love = essentials during sexI really feel for mothers who are in this position. I know that when I was in grade school, the boys would go to the friend’s house where no parents were home and then take turns watching porn on the family computer. And once color phones became a thing, I stopped finding playboys hidden in the playgrounds because every guy had videos on his phone instead. You can tell a young man to make good decisions and explain exactly why his decisions are bad, but this stuff is just too addictive for a chi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 05:24 PM |
| 1 | What does this mean?He’s trying to make the argument that if you just had had sex with him, then it would have fixed all the other problems in your relationship. So why give up the relationship so easily without even attempting sex? In his mind you owe it to him to try to fix the relationship in every way possible. So all you need to do is let him plow you for as long as it takes for you to enjoy it and then your relationship will be saved. Clearly it’s your fault that the relationship didn’t work out...I wouldn’t … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 04:29 PM |
| 15 | YikesExactly! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 03:52 PM |
| 2 | Not sure what to do with this guy of questionable value..nip it in the bud?If he wanted to make you his girlfriend, then he would have done that. Instead he’s trying to control what shoes you wear and make you drive him around! Plus he says racist shit?! Girl you deserve to be with someone who would never even think these things, let alone say them out loud. I get the whole thing about not being attracted to your guy friends. But here’s the thing—your don’t have to date them either! Focus on your mental health and on making your baby’s life the best it can be. The last… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 09:15 PM |
| 25 | Not about men. Y’all just have the best advice.I’m no expert here, but my guess is she wants a reaction from you so show can think of herself as better than you in some way. My mother used to tell me “kill them with kindness,” as in, refuse to let it affect you. Harness that queen energy ❤️ I know that my response is very generic—-If you give an example of a typical situation she might put you in, then maybe we can help better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 06:20 AM |
| 11 | Nope.Love this sub ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 06:03 AM |
| 31 | 21 years ago she broke up with him over porn. now he's back and wants to murder her. fmlThat is terrifying. I am also hiding from a stalker ex and the cops have taken reports but done little else. I haven’t been home in two months and the detective told me he’s sure I’ll be fine after the ex broke into my apartment while I was sleeping months after I broke up with him (only a 3-month relationship). I’m so sick of cops allowing men to murder women when they have every probable cause they need to stop the guy. Few living women have trusted the police to keep them safe in situations l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 01:56 AM |
| 6 | Today I broke up with a nice guy. Explanation in comments. Trigger: mentions deathHe tries to negotiate your future this early on? Hella red flags girl, you made the right decision! But he will be back, best to block him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 06:28 AM |
| 3 | Proving their point: Guy feels attacked on thread lamenting men's hygiene, says it is 'unfair' to claim that never washing one's hands is unhygienic. O.oHe was very cheap and didn’t want his money spent on them to go to waste so he sent the socks to me because at least I could wear them. I didn’t wear them, not only because they had lost all elasticity... I’m sure you can imagine my disappointment when I found a package from Japan on my doorstep. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 03:32 AM |
| 23 | I am proud of myself for valuing myself as a woman, creating boundaries, and not staying around for emotionally unavailable men.I actually think that him telling you about the other women was a shit test. He wanted to see you become disappointed and then negotiate your boundaries. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 07:30 PM |
| 19 | Proving their point: Guy feels attacked on thread lamenting men's hygiene, says it is 'unfair' to claim that never washing one's hands is unhygienic. O.oHad a boyfriend who I found out, after two years of us living together, didn’t wash his hands and proceeded to touch everything else in the apartment, including me, afterwards. Bonus: before we were living together he once mailed me his socks that were too small for him. Later when we tried Skype sex (was a pickme...), he put the sock on the end of his dick in anticipation of, I can’t even say it because the memory is so disgusting. When I asked him wtf he was doing, he claimed that he definitel… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 07:00 PM |
| 37 | 10,000 Km away from home to visit this guy I met online. Did I made the right decision?Do you hear that? That’s the sound of this entire sub breathing a sigh of relief. Good for you, and now you’ve got a vacation out of it :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 05:06 PM |
| 1 | I know some of us are strong enough to not get this point but I do know that others have been here and it's quite hard. This makes me feel a lot better.I lived the same situation as you and I promise you that when you feel entirely safe with the man, including emotionally, and you aren’t pressuring yourself to do anything, he will fit inside you. But you have to give it the time you need to be completely comfortable on your own. Never have sex as a favor or as a way to keep someone around. There is a reason that they won’t fit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 06:04 AM |
| 8 | I- have men always been this dirty or is it an uprise of unhygienic guysIt makes me wonder if he just smells like stinky feet all the time. Poor OP has probably bought him all kinds of de-odorizers for his shoes and powders for his feet and he probably refuses to use them at all because he thinks she’s being too controlling. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 12:44 AM |
| 10 | He talked me into a MFF threesomeI think the above comment meant for “she was ALSO drunk” to add to the victimization of OP, because she did what he told her to do while she was in a state in which she couldn’t consent. You’re in agreement but not on the same page | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 11:51 PM |
| 29 | I read this, and I don’t doubt this in the slightest bit. I’ve been in similar shoes like this.He actually makes it sound like he doesn’t really consider her a friend either | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 11:38 PM |
| 17 | Because why admit that you were wrong if you can always gaslight instead 🤷♀️3 days of trying to blame you and you have gone no contact for 5 Sorry for being mean. -In what way? I don’t know, for being selfish. -How? I don’t know I just am. -Do you know what you did wrong? Look I said I’m sorry! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 11:10 PM |
| 7 | Because why admit that you were wrong if you can always gaslight instead 🤷♀️Upvoted for you’re. So tru | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 11:07 PM |
| 15 | Because why admit that you were wrong if you can always gaslight instead 🤷♀️YES! “I’m a good boyfriend. You have to realize that you are way too sensitive.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 11:06 PM |
| 8 | I barely graduated high school and this 23 yr old psycho is talking to me like this. It's insane how men think how easy women can be manipulated. Thinking of sending those SS and many more to his parents. He tried to delete them all.Do it do it doitdoitdoitdoit! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 04:32 PM |
| 5 | Found in r/wholesomememesI’m confused by this meme. How are they not the same man? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 06:40 AM |
| 2 | Men performing noises/grunts during s£xOr someone else’s body on your head. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 07:31 PM |
| 6 | Tonight at the grocery store...This disgusts me even more because he does this during covid. He blatantly doesn’t care whether or not he gives you a deadly virus | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 04:33 PM |
| 2 | How I Deliberately Revamped my OLD Profile to Attract HVM and Deter LVM (Example Profile and Rational Included)I play the oud for belly dancers! So cool. Tell them on your profile that you love dance or Middle Eastern music and when they ask about it, you can use the moment to test their maturity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 04:15 PM |
| 2 | What are some random things you filter out early on OLD?His profile is about his dog and he talks about being a dog dad looking a mom for his dog 🤢 Wears hats in every photo 👎 All of his photos are from the same shoot 🤦🏻♀️ Shows right off the bat that he hasn’t read my profile 🙅🏻♀️ Wants to know if I’m dating anyone else 💩 Thinks that the virus is over exaggerated 🤡 Brings up porn as if it’s given that everyone watches it 🐍 Spells my name wrong (it’s right there!) 🥊 Wants a LV date 🙉 Mansplains 🃏 Anime or video games listed as his hobbies 🥾 No effo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 09:08 PM |
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