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4/5 are bad when picking up new girls. Also same, I'm over 3 years into a relationship as well, and sure once you've been dating for 2-3 months then these things are generally all good. But texting back instantly when meeting potential partners is a big red flag (incoming or receiving)
/r/seduction06/10/20 06:46 AM
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This list is good, except for 4/5. The rest are pretty average and normal advice around here. 4/5 are absolute trash, and as soon as I read it, I knew that this was written by a female
/r/seduction06/10/20 06:30 AM
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This is decent but 4/5 are pretty trash tbh
/r/seduction06/10/20 06:29 AM
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To just double this, Mark Manson has a sick article called "Fuck Yes". Definitely worth giving it a read.
/r/seduction15/01/20 09:00 AM
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http://redd.it/gjqim
/r/seduction10/12/19 11:07 AM
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Honestly, it's okay to not be looking for girls all the time. Focus on yourself. The best way to do that is start from the bottom up. Create a solid friend group that boosts you up rather than putting you down. Then join social clubs in order to do things that take up your time. Go to work and make $, then buy a gym membership and clothes and get clothes that fit. The gym will help you fill out those clothes and will make you look better as well. I think a lot of guys think they aren't saying th…
/r/seduction10/12/19 03:54 AM
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I disagree. In fact I'm pretty sure I said in this post that an bad looking guy with a good attitude is multitudes more attractive than the opposite.
/r/seduction10/12/19 01:20 AM
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Look through all the posts on the sidebar under inner game and 'the subtle art of not giving a fuck' was a good book to read
/r/seduction09/12/19 11:24 PM
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I'm going to offer something similar but a little different. I don't think it's as simple as 'yes or no' because (I assume) you broke it off and I'm sure it crushed her and she's weighing up how to move on past that. If she's been surpressing her feelings for you, they're probably both good and bad feelings and now that you've reopened that can of worms it'll take a bit for her to figure out. Feel free to stay in the city if that's what you want, but don't be a doormat. You have friends in the c…
/r/seduction05/10/19 12:01 AM
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'things are good but tiring' comes off boring as fuck. You want to be amping your life up not putting it down. 'My life is awesome! I'm doing X Y and Z but could definitely use a few more hours of sleep hahaha' or something that brings more interest into your life. Put your hobbies in. How is she supposed to respond to 'things are good but tiring'. Her lack of response is because of your lack of conversation. I don't even know if this is a girl going for validation because the conversation sucks…
/r/seduction04/10/19 11:20 PM
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Streetwear is where I got my style from. Pretty tight pants + long curved hem tees + shoes + jackets makes for a cleaner than average outfit but it's not a suit and tie. Mfa is a little too businessy for my taste but still has some good Inspo.
/r/seduction24/09/19 01:08 AM
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Double this, it's hard to hit on girls that are friends first because of the dynamic that is already set. She's already made her mind up about you and 99% of the time you're a friend for a reason. Who cares about what she's doing at this point. You (from the sounds of it) awkwardly asked her out and are still being awkward about it (hence why she's appararing offline to you, if that's even a thing tbh. I don't use social media often, minus reddit + snapchat). Stop being weird and act like she's …
/r/seduction19/09/19 02:06 AM
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Set up study groups. Ask friend groups out for drinks. Go to parties that you hear about. Join outside clubs (dance/rock climbing/power lifting/whatever). Join the gym.
/r/seduction17/09/19 05:39 AM
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Damn dude I won't lie, I thought this was going to go into some women hating bs about how they're shitty and being in a relationship is pointless.... But God damn this is good as fuck advice. The relationships I've had all started when I wasn't really looking for it. I was looking for casual sex and was getting it, but after 1-2 dates things weren't clicking as much as I liked. That's until I met my current Gf and things popped off dude. I learned to be my own person and do whatever the fuck I w…
/r/seduction26/08/19 10:15 PM
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Guys who buy girls drinks just to sleep with them are doing it wrong. I think OP thinking that him buying 10 drinks should get him laid is counter intuitive to what he actually wants. I approach girls under the impression that girls are (by default) attracted to me, until they're not. I think it sets your frame and kinda removes the self-doubt a lot of guys have. You say that 'it's not that deep' but I know girls that use guys they're not interested in as a meal/drink ticket and if they weren't …
/r/seduction24/08/19 08:45 PM
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My point was more so that he shouldn't be buying drinks for girls full stop (even if they ask). Saying you don't buy girls drinks doesn't make you look like an ass, it makes it known that you're not a vending machine. If I told a girl that I don't buy girls drinks and they wanted nothing to do with me from that point on, I consider it a bullet dodged. On dates, if it's coffee or some shit, idc about $5. If it's a bar though, it's normally "I'll buy first round, if you buy second". I set from the…
/r/seduction24/08/19 03:15 AM
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I have girl friends that go out, flirt with guys just for the drinks and then go and fuck other dudes later. I've had girls I was taking home have guys come up and buy them shots. They go to the bar and have drinks, I dance with other girls and then they come back to me and we go from there.
/r/seduction23/08/19 11:11 PM
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Honestly that's your call. She's been upfront with you (I assume) so I'm not sure how much talking to her about what you want is going to work... All comes down how important sex in a relationship is for you.
/r/seduction23/08/19 09:52 AM
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Third date rule. If I haven't had sex by the third date I normally stop. Anyone who says sexual chemistry isn't important in a relationship is lying to themselves. It sounds like you're bummed out by it, and rightfully so, but I've read somewhere that divorces normally happen over two things (sex and money). I get frustrated when I haven't had sex in a while (and my Gf knows it, but she has a high libido as well so that's happened like twice in 2 years when we've both been incredibly busy). If y…
/r/seduction23/08/19 01:54 AM
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I think sexual chemistry is super important in an relationship. The 3rd date rule is 'sex on the third date'. If I've gone out with a girl three times and that sexual chemistry isn't there, then it's normally a pass from me. With that said, every situation is different. If you like this chick and she's into you (and the no sex thing isn't a major buzz kill) then decide for yourself. I would probably pass personally, but each their own. I hope you're not paying for all the dates you're going on a…
/r/seduction23/08/19 01:48 AM
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There's a sick section on the sidebar of this sub. Give all of it a read
/r/seduction22/08/19 08:30 AM
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Idk. I get looking for nutty stories and talking about # of lays, etc etc.. But this sub used to be something different a couple years ago. When I first joined this sub I had just gotten out of my first relationship (kissless virgin until that relationship) and I was kind of lost. That relationship was pretty toxic, but it fell into my lap and the virgin I was stayed in it for 1.5 years. This sub really turned shit around for me internally and I read a ton about being a better man. Girls kinda c…
/r/seduction22/08/19 08:25 AM
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Idk tbh. Could do both potentially?
/r/seduction15/08/19 08:35 AM
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Without question expanding your social circle should be happening regardless of whether or not you're looking for chicks. It gives you potential open doors in the future when looking for a grad job and is just nice to have a support system if you need it. With that said, it's even more important when it comes to chicks. Social Proof is extremely effective at helping you get girls. You make friends and join social groups, you go to parties and events. You do cool things and in doing so, yeah you …
/r/seduction15/08/19 08:28 AM
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I normally give it two attempts. She either actually had plans come up or she isn't interested. Try to schedule another date, if she flakes then bail. Obviously up to you, but that's generally my go
/r/seduction15/08/19 03:41 AM
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Hit me up when you get a reply. She's obviously keen and you're playing it well so
/r/seduction15/08/19 02:05 AM
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I normally just keep texting for logistics. Set up the date, confirm the day before etc etc. If a girl is interested she'll make time (or give you a day/time that works for her). If she says she's busy and doesn't try to reschdule then she's probably not interested. I normally try to set up two dates, if both get a 'nah I'm busy' then it's a pretty good indicator
/r/seduction14/08/19 10:12 PM
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You need to have the Abundance Mentality. Girls are all over and one saying 'no' means nothing. Things are awkward because you feel embarrassed for asking this girl out and her saying no, when you should just be acting like asking a girl out is a common occurrence and her saying no doesn't change anything. If she's being awkward, then let her, but don't reflect that as well. Treat her like you'd treat everyone else. I think guys put a lot of chicks on a pedestal when what they should be doing is…
/r/seduction14/08/19 10:07 PM
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I'm genuinely cool. I am top 40 in my uni (CS degree). I dance Bachata. I take photos/have a fancy camera. I gym. I dress pretty nice. I moved to the other side of the world, alone, to finish my degree. I've hitchhiked and met insanely wonderful people. I also speak my mind 100% of the time and while I don't actively hunt out confrontation, I don't avoid it either. Sometimes people need to be told their fucking up. I also work, 15h/week. I'm also genuinely busy as fuck.
/r/seduction14/08/19 10:04 PM
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Bro if you have an ass (shout out squat gang) girls love that shit. My girlfriend grabs my ass constantly (and obviously vice versa)
/r/seduction14/08/19 09:59 PM
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Bro the age of consent is 16 here in Aussie. I'm 23 and wouldn't touch a 16yo. 15 is difficult for 40 and I think you'll be hard pressed to find advice here for that. Best of luck though
/r/seduction14/08/19 09:57 PM
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Nah. See girls say like this shit all the time to drop guys expectations. I've had girls tell me "you're not fucking me tonight" only to (guess what?) have me take them home and do exactly that. She just wants to make sure OP isn't going on the date for sex. Go out, have some drinks, escalate. Odds are if you guys get along and the dates fun, the "friend zone" will go away. Play at her age (Ah don't worry, I won't hold your age against you. I'm sure you'll be able to keep up) or some shit like t…
/r/seduction14/08/19 09:54 PM
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She already agreed to a date. Ease up on the texting (you're a busy man doing cool things remember?). On the actual date, open with a hug and say she looks nice/compliment a jacket/shoes etc etc. Conversation doesn't need to be sexually charged right off the bat. Have a drink or three to relax (if you need it) and just ensure you have a good time. Regardless of whether you click or you kiss or you fuck or if none of those things happen, remember to be outcome independent and focus on enjoying yo…
/r/seduction08/08/19 09:57 AM
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Nah people here who comment that if you're not texting every 10 min it's not gonna happen are dumb. People are busy. I'm busy. I don't have time to sit here and text you every 10 min so why should I expect it to be the same? 4-6 hour gaps (excluding over night) is generally the rule of thumb. As long as the conversation continues (although I'm not huge on texting just to chat, I only text for logistics) it's nbd.
/r/seduction08/08/19 12:31 AM
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Oof versus I think asking isn't the best way to go. If you know the answer is yes, then why even ask? Just go for it. Guys get stuck on the 'right time'. I kissed my current girlfriend while she was talking about how someone recently died driving off of the Harbour bridge to which my response was "ah well life's pretty short then" and kissed her. I have asked before. I went out with a bartender and tbh the date was kinda scuffed. I forgot my ID at the bar so had to drive home to grab it (30min r…
/r/seduction08/08/19 12:28 AM
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Movies are generally frowned upon as a first date, you can't chat/have banter like you would. Ice cream at the beach (although it's cold as fuck rn in NZ) is pretty easy. Can flirt/chat/hangout. It's casual and either of you can bail if the dates shit
/r/seduction08/08/19 12:16 AM
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Can/should swap the "wear ____ for a day" with "pays for the others bottle of wine when we cook"/"pays for the first round of drinks etc etc" or some shit like that. You had an easy 'wager' but made the outcome non-flirty when you easily could've
/r/seduction08/08/19 12:13 AM
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I reckon you could've gone out with a drink. Chat about the guys they're into and flirt the entire time. At somepoint you guys would be alone (manager would leave cause it's late) and you'd have the 1 on 1 you were looking for. Bit late now though. Nah I reckon she's genuinely interested, otherwise I doubt she'd invite you out. I'd just try to set something else up.
/r/seduction07/08/19 03:34 AM
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Dude if I was single and lived in the same country I grew up in, I would without question hit up chicks I went to highschool with. Some of them I still think are pretty good looking. But I'm also completely different. I lost 35kg and put on a good chunk of muscle (hit 82.5kg on bench at 5x5 which I'm fucking super happy with, goal is 1x5 at 100kg) and way more confident. I do more cool shit and my attitude towards life is way better. Some of the girls from high school that I thought were hot the…
/r/seduction07/08/19 03:31 AM
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I mean I won't lie, I've been with my girlfriend for like 2 years and at the start it was 2-3 times everytime we met up, but that was only once or twice a week at the time. Now we live together and we're both busy as fuck (I work 20h/week, dance, lift, and full-time uni (my last semester, lit)) so it's just dropped down because of life. If this is something like 4 months into the relationship then idk man. I put my sexual compatibility super high on my 'needs in a partner list' and my partner's …
/r/seduction07/08/19 03:26 AM
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Establish where they are? They've fucked once. They're literally nowhere. He has to ask her out on dates (or even just for a drink/Netflix if it's a casual fwb type deal). Just purely depends on where OP wants to take it. Do not (and for fucks sake) do not text her and be like "oh hey, just wondering since we fucked what that makes us". That's needy and clingy and bad taste. You want to act (even if it doesn't) that ONS happen all the time and this isn't any different than the rest of them. All …
/r/seduction07/08/19 03:21 AM
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Nah I actually agree with you here. This subs slowly turning into some whiteknight shit and I don't get why. Texting her isn't a bad idea. Something short like "Hey it's ________. I had fun last Friday night. You free to go do X at Y on Z?" All assuming you're going for actual dates ofc. If you're just trying to smash "Hey I've got a bottle of wine and Netflix, want to come have a drink at mine?" You've done all the hard work (already fucking/hooking up) now you decide whether or not you actuall…
/r/seduction07/08/19 03:17 AM
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Based on your last sentence I'm 99% it's just his libido. It sounds like we both have high libidos which isn't good or bad, but you just need to find someone who has something similar. I'd like to fuck every day, but not only can my girlfriend not physically handle that (soreness) idt she wants it every day either. Is normally 2-4 times a week which is enough for me, but less than that isn't ideal.
/r/seduction07/08/19 03:09 AM
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Probably not the right sub but I'll bite regardless Maybe he's just got a low libido? I (23M) pretty much grab my girlfriends (21F) ass as often as I can. Pick her up/throw her on the bed, take her clothes off, etc etc. With that said, I also have a libido that wants to fuck at (almost) every opportunity I have. Just depends on the dude.
/r/seduction07/08/19 02:08 AM
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Curious to know what you think about my comments (ik I've asked for your advice on certain situations before). If you have the time, feel free to pm me or just reply to this idm
/r/seduction06/08/19 10:10 PM
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Kinda the wrong sub. Try /r/relationship_advice
/r/seduction06/08/19 08:16 AM
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Grass is always greener on the other side man. It'll always be easier to say "it would be easier if I was better looking" or "it'd be easier if I had more money" or "it'd be easier if I was just a little bit taller". Everyone has shit they have to work through and it's easy to give up and use the above cop outs. Make sure you grind to make yourself a sick cunt I've got this philosophy and it suits pretty well here. Just like you're not attracted to every girl you see, girls are the same. There a…
/r/seduction06/08/19 06:25 AM
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You can beat around the bush and question whether or not she likes you, or you can ask her out. I'll put this into perspective. I have a friend who was been in nothing but relationships. She broke up with her boyfriend and kinda decided she wanted to live that single life. She was also very vocal about her very active sex life (didn't really spare details) so one of her good friends who was a virgin at the time pretty much just asked her if he could lose his v-card to her. That's cringy as fuck …
/r/seduction06/08/19 06:03 AM
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She's already a friend right so you don't need to emphasize that you'll remain friends. I do want to stress that (and because I've done this) when you ask this chick out, if she says no, you act like nothings happen. You ask chicks out all the time, what's the rejection of one chick? Just make sure you don't make the relationship you already have become awkward because you've expressed how you feel. You're a man and asking out chicks is second nature. She says no and it's no stress off your back…
/r/seduction06/08/19 04:36 AM
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Big difference between trying to get with someone after 12 years and you actively pursuing one girl for 12 years tho. Even if you drop that number from 12 to 4, that's still pretty pathetic if it's the latter and 99% of time it leads nowhere. If you're out dating other girls and 4 years later you bump into eachother and start going out, then yeah dude easy. Good for you. But if you're borderline obsessing over one girl for 4 years while she's dating other dudes, then big BIG yikes.
/r/seduction06/08/19 04:33 AM
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And I get that. It does work both ways, I'm just emphasizing that a majority of the time it works out more in my favour than in hers. It works like this for a lot of guys (including me at one point in my life). You become friends with a girl you're attracted to. You make 0 moves/indication that you want to do anything with this girl because you have the mentality of "once she sees who I am, she'll like me" or "I want to get to know her first". My only response to that is, what do you think dates…
/r/seduction06/08/19 04:26 AM
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But the contrast to that is, yes I'm without question hanging out with a girl because she's pretty. That's why I'm attracted to her. If it ends up that we're a good match then I take it as far as it'll go (coming up 2 years with my current girlfriend). If it ends up that it's just mutual physical attraction (and I don't really like her personality) and the chick isn't that interesting it normally just results in casual sex (still fine with me). Does that make me a dick for asking her out purely …
/r/seduction06/08/19 04:19 AM
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But that's not how the real world works. All the girls I've gone out with and slept with have been strangers initially. For a majority of people, physical attraction is what creates that initial spark. It's why casual sex is becoming more and more common. Her already being his friend probably means she's already made her mind up about him. Which is why it's hard for guys to break out of the "friend zone"
/r/seduction06/08/19 01:47 AM
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"Yo this was fun. I know another good bar that's just down the road. Whats your number? I'll take you sometime" You're just in your head man. You know what you want, you just don't say it because you're (probably) worried about her response. Honestly your best bet is to just not give a fuck. If she says no, then it's sweet, it's nbd. If she's grinding on you all night, she's obviously keen for you to do something, so ask her out to another bar/club
/r/seduction06/08/19 01:45 AM
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She's already a friend though, you just play it off like you're going anyways (regardless of her). Him: I'm going to X to do Y. You want to come? Her: Is this a date? Him: Absolutely. Her: Nah I don't want to go on a date with you. Him: Shame, you're missing out on ______
/r/seduction06/08/19 01:40 AM
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Nah dude. Don't go back on how you feel about it. If she says no then it's nbd, but don't backtrack and go "oh lol jokes, not a date date but a friend date". You're into her and say 'Absolutely' and play off how she responds. If she says no, just be like "ah alright, I know a good place to do ________ and you'd be missing out"
/r/seduction06/08/19 01:38 AM
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I'll entertain that this is real incase you need actual advice, but I'm already skeptic as fuck this is fake. What the fuck are you doing lmfao? She talks about wanting a boyfriend to you, and then at the same time says she wants to fuck your brother. How you think she is into you at all blows my mind. If she's not physically attracted to you (clearly otherwise she'd fuck you) then it'll never work out. My girlfriend tried to date a dude for a bit before me whom she liked for his personality but…
/r/seduction01/08/19 10:18 PM
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Couple of days late responding, my bad. You end up attracting the same type of person that you are. If all the girls you're going out with are boring, you're probably shit at conversation.
/r/seduction27/07/19 11:54 AM
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She's obviously inviting you over because she's interested. If it feels like a good time, then yeah go for it, but don't second guess yourself. Bring a bottle of wine (or two tbh) and just see where the night goes. Chat/drink, but like the other comments don't expect to get laid. Take it as far as it'll go, but regardless of the outcome just make sure you have a good time. If you go into the date with the mindset that you're just going to have a good time (regardless of sex) then you'll be sweet…
/r/seduction27/07/19 11:40 AM
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Nah she's obviously keen. Just ask her out. She asked you to text her for a reason. (I'd keep texting minimal and only use it for scheduling dates)
/r/seduction23/07/19 11:14 PM
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Keep it to a minimum and ask her out when she gets back
/r/seduction23/07/19 12:16 PM
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Fuck that dude. She obviously doesn't value face to face time with you, so why are you even in 'relationship' with this person. I'd be super careful this isn't some catfish/predator type thing. Stop talking to this chick and find someone else
/r/seduction23/07/19 02:31 AM
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I mean normally if they don't want to go they come up with an excuse not to. I normally give it two tries. One flake and sure, fair enough sometimes things come up nbd. Twice in a row without any plans to reschedule? I normally move in afterwards.
/r/seduction23/07/19 02:01 AM
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Whenever I start feeling like that I look at the inner-game sidebar that /u/TofuTofu wrote years ago. Shit has so much information on how to improve 'inner game' its nuts
/r/seduction23/07/19 01:13 AM
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"Ah don't worry, I won't hold your age against you" Come back with something cheeky
/r/seduction23/07/19 12:06 AM
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Mate just start dating other girls. You guys broke up for a reason. Unsure why you're still trying to go back to her. Comes off as desperate/needy. Go fuck other chicks and become independent. You don't need this girl and she doesn't need you (I assume she broke up with you).
/r/seduction23/07/19 12:05 AM
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Nah man completely. That's scary shit and I wasn't trying to be insensitive. I hope he/she gets better soon, and if he/she is close to you I hope you're doing alright.
/r/seduction22/07/19 11:01 PM
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Nah man you leave that shit alone. You're just asking this because you're insecure. Why does it bother you? Cause she potentially will be getting DMs from other dudes? Pro tip, even if your girlfriend isn't posting photos like that she's still going to get DMs. You need to get into the mentality that your girlfriend is hot as fuck, and it would be foolish to not think other guys would be into her for the same reason you are. My girlfriend gets hit on all the time. Welcome to having an attractive…
/r/seduction22/07/19 10:56 PM
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Ooo relatable content. I broke up with my ex, she fucked and started a relationship with one of my best friends from highschool, engaged after a month and moved in together after three (all things she wanted with me). Her actions don't make any difference to who you were. Those are toxic people and why the fuck would you want to be dating/friends with either of them? You are a sick cunt and you have a lifestyle where other sick cunts are around you. Don't worry about girls posting photos. If you…
/r/seduction22/07/19 04:15 AM
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Don't know a whole ton other than what Recyclable said: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/cfq2sg/where_do_i_leave_my_mod_application/euc1f4f
/r/seduction21/07/19 11:43 PM
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Recyclable himself https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/cfq2sg/where_do_i_leave_my_mod_application/euc1f4f
/r/seduction21/07/19 11:40 PM
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They've already commented. Recycle is the only mod atm. One has potentially passed away and the I'm not 100% about the other. He said he's vetting new mods soon.
/r/seduction21/07/19 11:50 AM
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My point was that I my current Morals aren't the same as my 16yo Morals. I also used to be like 290lbs. I also used to think that being a doormat would get me chicks. Me at 16 versus me at 23 are incredibly different so before you harp on people for not doing 'the right thing' its a moot point because older people do their own shit more often. For reference, you thought telling the husband would be a good idea, but what actually happens is it turns into a fight that's centered around you (becaus…
/r/seduction21/07/19 01:41 AM
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One is a close personal relationship and the other is a stranger? Would you give $10 to a beggar on the street? (No) Would you give $10 to your closest friend? (Yes) If your answer is different to both of those questions then my points proven. The situation changes depending on the relationship.
/r/seduction21/07/19 01:21 AM
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Of course the answer would be different because the situation is different. OP would be at 0 fault for fucking this chick. Trying to say he is, is fucking stupid. If he wants to avoid it, then fine. But you're agreeing with the top comment about telling the husband. Morals are, like, a social construct man. You said you're 16. At 16 I couldn't even see my own toes let alone have any idea how to talk/fuck chicks.
/r/seduction21/07/19 01:11 AM
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What type of neckbeard shit is this. "Are you a man of honour?" Who cares dude. Someone is a happy relationship won't cheat. Someone in a poor relationship will. Whether or not she's going to cheat on her husband is inevitable, so why you'd 'pass' that opportunity to someone else is stupid. She's down. He's down, and if OP doesn't have a problem with it then more power to him. If he does have a problem with it, then leave that shit alone. I don't fuck girls with bfs/husband's but I also don't sa…
/r/seduction21/07/19 01:01 AM
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Mobile autocorrect etc etc
/r/seduction21/07/19 12:55 AM
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What are the odds
/r/seduction21/07/19 12:10 AM
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Chuck my hat in as well aye? Would be keen.
/r/seduction21/07/19 12:09 AM
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Except this is coming from a dude who not only fucked girls actively when I was single but have been in a relationship for over 2+ years with one of those chicks. I am telling you full stop OP's inner game is weak. There's nothing to worry about if she's actively going on dates with you. Some people just don't like texting. My current girlfriend and is the same but I'm confident enough to know that her not texting me 'first' means genuinely nothing. The issue isn't about not being able to commun…
/r/seduction16/07/19 10:44 PM
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Yeah I mean that still is kind of the point. This thread is "a girl's going on dates with me, soon to be fucking me and obviously all over me, but I'm unsure if she likes me because she doesn't text me first"
/r/seduction16/07/19 10:37 PM
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If you're talking about the 'Jesus christ', ye I removed it before your comment. Realized it came off as harsh so I took it out dw.
/r/seduction16/07/19 10:35 PM
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The issue with flirting with coworkers is that if something goes wrong, you're going to lose your job. With that said, if a girl smacks my ass, I'm going to definitely think she's interested and I think you should act on it. Ask for her number/a date
/r/seduction16/07/19 10:33 PM
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Nah don't bring it up next time. That's shit advice. It's going to come off as needy and clingy, and you should be neither. The response is gonna be at best "we're fucking and actively going on dates, why does who texts who first matter" and at worst, she'll actually forget about you.
/r/seduction16/07/19 10:30 PM
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The other comment is right. Her texting you 'dry comments' mean nothing if she's actively fucking you. She literally had her mouth wrapped around your dick, and you're still questioning if she's interested? How ridiculous is that. Keep texting strictly for meeting up. Ask her about how the dryer and shit went in person. Get out of your own head. You should be having things going on in your life to the point that whether or not she replies is irrelevant. She's obviously keen, just don't fuck it u…
/r/seduction16/07/19 10:28 PM
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She has had a 2/3ds chance to get a match on every right swipe. I doubt your comment is the case.
/r/seduction16/07/19 10:24 PM
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Ooooooo so I actually really like this topic. I've been lifting weights for like 2-3 years and dancing (Bachata) for 1.5 years. I'm strong and girls around my age (mid-late 20s) really enjoy the strength that comes with my leading. Some guys over do it, some guys under, but for parts that require physically moving the girls hips/shoulders, having the ability to do it firmly is sick. People saying that dancing doesn't help is silly. A lot of single people dance. Girls in my class invite me out to…
/r/seduction15/07/19 06:12 AM
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But she's not doing either of those things anymore. OP was turned down? It's just your mistake OP. You told her you weren't interested in anything more than fucking, she found someone that wanted to be in a relationship with her (I assume) and left you behind (rightfully). I think in your head you feel like she choose someone else over you (hence the self-confidence hit) and you have/had feelings for her. You pushed those feelings away by saying you weren't interested and she found someone that …
/r/seduction19/06/19 06:14 AM
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Honestly asking out girls should become second nature. Asking out chicks you have known for a while is hard because for all people attraction is normally instant. She'll either be into you or not, and anything other than a 'yes' is more often than not a 'no'. Not to burst your bubble, but this girl's probably not into you. Don't let it hit your self-confidence, because just like you're not attracted to every girl, she's not attracted to every guy. Her saying a no isn't because of something you'v…
/r/seduction19/06/19 06:12 AM
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Are you paying for all the dates you go on? I'm friends with some girls that go out with guys for the meal ticket. I'd have a read through of this: https://markmanson.net/fuck-yes Shit can be as flirty as you want, but I normally have a rule that we fuck by the third date, and if not I normally move on to someone else.
/r/seduction19/06/19 06:08 AM
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Doesn't matter. Getting girls numbers should be something that happens all the time. One number means nothing to you.
/r/seduction08/06/19 03:27 AM
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To double this, yeah it's a boring as fuck question. I ask coworkers "what's up/how are things going" not a chicks I'm trying to fuck. That's every generic question everyone gets asked constantly and you used it to open with a girl you're interested in and she called you out for it lol
/r/seduction03/06/19 08:31 AM
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I mean what'd you move for? I moved for uni and stayed in uni halls for like 2 years. Met a ton of people just through going to parties and chatting. I think there's a link in the sidebar for "inner game" and another link inside that post for the 'abundance mentality'. If read through a bunch of stuff on there. /u/TofuTofu wrote a bunch of really high quality shit in the sub like 7-8 years ago and it's worth the read Edit: after thinking about it more, what you moved for doesn't really matter. J…
/r/seduction29/05/19 03:19 AM
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I'm 23 and not, but lost my virginity when I was 19 so I wouldn't stress. I was like 135kg before and kinda upset that girls weren't into me (at the time) so I lost a bunch of weight (like 40kg worth). Girl I lost my virginity to was my first girlfriend and that lasted 1.5ish years. Holy fuck the person I am now would have never dated her back then, but it was a good experience (kinda nuts but fucked a lot). Not really sure what the swap was, but when I turned 21 I kinda just started to get my s…
/r/seduction28/05/19 11:13 PM
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Give it a couple days and then send her a text saying some shit like "I had fun on Monday night (or whatever day it was for you). We should do it again, you free on Monday again?" 4am is weird asf tho. Would've felt like meeting a stranger @ 4am would've gotten me mugged
/r/seduction28/05/19 12:29 PM
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Idk maybe it's just the girls you attract, but I know/been on dates with/friends with a ton of super lovely girls at around 20. I think looking for personality is fine, but it depends on what you're looking for. Just sex? Then you're probably not around long enough to find out anyways. For a relationship? Then obviously that matters. I think writing off all chicks that are ~20yo is silly but it solely depends what OP is looking for
/r/seduction28/05/19 03:47 AM
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I, full stop, would bail. If the response to work out rough spots is to break up with you, then yikes dude. If you think this chicks actually worth breaking up and getting back together then I mean go ahead, but if my girl came up to me and decided to end things in the middle of an argument then I don't think I'd pick the relationship back up. Just shows she makes irrational decisions when things get a little difficult. Once again comes down to what you want, if you just want to fuck her, then I…
/r/seduction28/05/19 03:02 AM
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You kinda contradict yourself here... 99.99% are vapid bitches most chicks are laid back
/r/seduction28/05/19 02:59 AM
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I agree it's all good, but it just depends on his perspective. For me it's the following: Pretty Face Slim/fit Sexual Chem High libido Personality Ass/tits Face/slim normally get me to ask her out. Fucking within the first couple dates knocks out sexual chem/libido, anything past like 3 dates is when personality starts to matter personally.
/r/seduction28/05/19 02:57 AM
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It just depends on what you want. If you want a family and kids one day, obviously personality matters. You'd be living with another adult and if you don't care about personality then you're going to be fucking struggling. If you're just looking to fuck chicks, then who cares about personality lmfao
/r/seduction28/05/19 02:55 AM
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I don't normally date two chicks at once. If one girls interested I normally take it where it goes (or until I don't want to fuck her anymore). Just depends on the type of person you are. If you like the 2nd chick more than the 1st and see something with that, roll with it, if not, maybe go back to the first chick. If you want to fuck both then.. Well do that? Just remember to set expectations for the first chick as if you were dating her exclusively she may want the same thing once you start go…
/r/seduction28/05/19 02:53 AM
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Wait what? She broke up with you 10-11 months ago but she broke up with you again 10 days ago? What is the outcome you're actually looking for here? How much do you think you've actually changed in 10 days?
/r/seduction28/05/19 02:49 AM
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Ooooo I know a good bit about this cause that's how my current relationship started. Met this chick like 2 months before I went back home for the summer (was originally gonna be three months, but I didn't want to be gone that long, so made it 6 weeks). Gave her the option to continue dating during that time or see other people and we both agreed that we wanted to stay together. Fuck me when I came back the entire demeanor changed. Sure we chatted while I was away (I live in a different country b…
/r/seduction27/05/19 11:39 PM
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You're right, I missed the bit about actively looking to improve yourself in your post. I agree completely with that. But you learn the skill to chat with women through that. Idc what semantics you want to use. You learn to use a skill and in this case you learn to improve yourself so that you have better social skills when it comes to your day to day life. Women follow after that. I think I jumped the gun initially with my first response. I think that inner game is 90% of it. You could be the m…
/r/seduction27/05/19 12:54 AM
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Nah that dudes onto it. The guys that are 'good' at game don't fucking talk about it. If you're talking about the number of chicks you've slept with on a regular basis, you're obviously doing it solely for the validation. Real 'game' or whatever you choose to call it should start within. Saying that 'game' isn't a skill is fucking wrong though. Learning to improve yourself takes discipline. Learning to get over anxieties is difficult. Learning to flawlessly chat with women when it comes to 'roma…
/r/seduction26/05/19 11:53 PM
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Honestly I only use texting to set up dates. I very rarely used texting to actually chat with someone else. Everything else should be in person. Super hard to show off your personality through just text itself (everyone puts their own spin on tone, regardless of intent) so I normally just set a time/place, confirm the day before, then chat in person
/r/seduction26/05/19 11:47 PM
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The 'x' is supposed to resemble a kiss? Like 'xoxo' is hugs & kisses? It's silly to use it to show affection in a text
/r/seduction26/05/19 11:44 PM
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I get it. Broke up with my ex in Apr 2017. Was together for like 1.5ish years. Shit kinda fucked me up for a bit. If she isn't interested in dating you, that doesn't mean she isn't interested in being friends. My girlfriends hot and dudes message her all the time. She responds about the same as the chick you're talking do is doing because friendships matter, but none of these guys are actually getting anywhere. Don't think talking with a girl is the same as them being into you. That'd be like me…
/r/seduction26/05/19 09:57 PM
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Mate it's been 5 months. While I get that you probably think you like this girl, it's probably time to move on. You've been chatting for ages and haven't asked her out yet and you putting an "x" in your text messages means literally nothing.
/r/seduction26/05/19 09:28 PM
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90% it's a troll account. I'd ignore it
/r/seduction26/05/19 09:26 PM
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Tbh I've been on this sub for like 2 years now and it's something I feel it's started to lean away from. The inner game side bar straight up changed my life and I feel like too many dudes here are hyper focused on just getting fucked rather than actually doing something for themselves
/r/seduction26/05/19 07:47 AM
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I'm super nice to just about everyone initially, but I also don't give a fuck if people don't like me and I think that's where a lot of guys fuck up. They try to please everyone (at least I did) and it just made me a walking mat for everyone in my life at the time.
/r/seduction09/05/19 08:31 AM
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This 100%. Even if you're antisocial, still go to parties and shit. It's a good way to network and get to know people as time goes on. Shit can be scary/lame but just to into it with an open mind and you'll normally find a person or two you can chat to
/r/seduction09/05/19 08:29 AM
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Oof. Yeah yikes. I don't go into any sort of date with the mindset of changing someone. They've had the habits for years and you're looking to take on a project? I normally give 3-4 days notice, my life is pretty hectic (by choice) and someone asking me to do something within 24h doesn't really work for me. I also hate meals as a date. You're both stuck in an hour+ meal without a way out. Do coffee or something small (and it's less expensive). With all the above said, just ask her out. If she's …
/r/seduction04/05/19 03:52 AM
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I feel like there are a lot of guys here that think doing whatever they want to whoever they want, whenever they want is the best way to pick up chicks. Being a dick doesn't make you good at pick up. Being confident does. I do whatever I want whenever I want as long as it's not screwing someone else over.
/r/seduction04/05/19 12:25 AM
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Kk the first girl I ever 'picked up' was this chick I met at a house party. I just moved across the world and wasn't really digging my long distance relationship (I moved to aussie, my Gf of over a year lived in the US, and was my first Gf). I noticed this chick wasn't having a good time at all. I knew noone there, minus one person at this house party and figured I'd just chat with her. It started off asking how she was doing, but honestly people love talking about themselves. She had a tattoo t…
/r/seduction02/05/19 01:13 PM
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Tbh I'd focus on a social life. You start to realize the most social guys are also some of the most attractive and it isn't always because of looks. Be a definer in your group not just another 'member'. I'm know for being the outspoken one in my group and some people like that and some people don't. In hs I figured that if I was friends with everyone I'd be set. Unfortunately rarely do you fit into every group of people. Once I learned that not everyone has to like me, I finally became happy wit…
/r/seduction02/05/19 09:58 AM
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Depends on what her version of attention is. If her version is "you need to be around me all the time, stop going out, give up things that are important to you" then don't be an idiot and gtfo. But if her version is "let's hangout once or twice more a week" then do that?
/r/seduction02/05/19 08:21 AM
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I normally go for kisses on the first date. Just shows my intentions up front. Not sure why this is a big deal? You've already kissed her? Just kiss her after a couple beers or something. Like I said you've already done the hard work
/r/seduction08/04/19 12:51 AM
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I mean get interests? Idk what else to say doesn't have to be dancing, but everyone who cares about themselves is gymming now. So what do you do that's interesting for chicks? More importantly, that's the easiest way to keep your mind off a specific girl, going out with people, making new friends, doing activities etc
/r/seduction05/04/19 08:23 AM
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I dance aye. Was super nervous going into it but I've been doing salsa for a year+ now. Tons of chicks to meet as well (usually single)
/r/seduction05/04/19 06:54 AM
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By picking up hobbies. Go lift (should be doing this already). Go rock climbing. Get friends together and go drink. Also ask out a fuck ton of girls. If you have other options and other positive things going on in your life, this one chick won't matter. You'll be occupied by other girls and other things, and then you both make time for eachother, rather than you grabbing at the first opportunity that comes.
/r/seduction05/04/19 02:15 AM
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Kind of a redundant post aye
/r/seduction05/04/19 02:11 AM
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Mate ik it seems like a big deal, I've been in your shoes. I was 140kg all the way through highschool and up until 19 was a kissless virgin. I've since shreaded like 40kgs and lift 3x a week. I wouldn't stress it. As for what to do, if you have no confidence that you belong with a chick, that's exactly what will happen. It's a pretty vicious cycle. Get some hobbies, gym (for looks and health) and make sure you enjoy your life. I'm dating an awesome chick now, but before that I was (and still am)…
/r/seduction01/04/19 04:09 AM
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Nah I think this is fine. If she's interested she'll hit you back with a day she's free, and if she's not then she won't. I don't see what you've done wrong tbh? Youve already said she's busy during the week and working weekends, how're you supposed to know her schedule?
/r/seduction28/03/19 07:33 AM
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The first thing in your 'relationship' is drama. Yikes.
/r/seduction17/03/19 11:00 PM
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Let's say for a second she is doing this on purpose (which I'm unsure of how you'd do it), what the fuck are you doing? Why are you letting anyone treat you like this? Fuck this chick. If she's into you she'd respond. Why you'd worry about this chick after weeks of her ignoring you doesn't make sense to me. Oneitis. Go flirt/ask out/fuck other chicks cause this one is not worth your time.
/r/seduction17/03/19 10:55 PM
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100% just ask what they're looking for on the first or second date. I'm primarily relationship focused but I will also fuck a chick if I think she's hot, but is not someone I find myself compatible with. Was doing that for roughly 4-5 months after my first relationship. Slept with girls I thought were hot a couple times, and then ended up meeting current girl.
/r/seduction15/03/19 04:19 AM
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I'd advise not sleeping with anyone you live with. With that said, you're obviously doing weird shit. Kissing her out of the blue when you're not in a relationship is weird and obviously not a turn on for her. Maybe ask her on a proper date? Be like hey, we've done some stuff I think you're attractive, let's do ____. When are you free? If she turns you down then she's obviously not interested. Once again, I'd advice not sleeping with anyone you live with. Creates more problems than it's worth. G…
/r/seduction15/03/19 04:14 AM
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Nah did a movie, got ice cream, went back home and hung out (I lived close to the city) 3rd date was dinner. I like cooking so it's a good way to show off and eat yum food 6 dates in three days. Just come up with one thing, and ask when she's available to do it. If she's agreed to do something already you're sweet, but just relax broski. Glad to see you're hype (and I'm sure she can tell you're into her) but I wouldn't over do it
/r/seduction14/03/19 11:50 PM
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If she's into you she'll meet up again, regardless of if you mentioned doing something again at the end of the first date. I think my first three dates were drinks then a movie (2nd Kiggsman, we were both really big fans of the first one) and then I cooked dinner. I'd do drinks for your 2nd date and dinner for the third (cook something nice but easy)
/r/seduction14/03/19 11:18 PM
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Lots of kino during the date. Kissed her during the first date (we were chatting about people dying and I went "since life seems pretty short" and went in for the kiss). Just be direct. I'm not saying tell her that you're looking to fuck, but if you're touching her, grabbing her hand to lead her places, kissing her, then that's pretty obvious
/r/seduction14/03/19 10:12 PM
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I mean coffee/lunch isn't informal. Idk we just went out for drinks. Pretty much was just like: "Yo, I think you're cute and I think going out for drinks would be fun. When are you free this week?" I'd go for a date once a week. Remember you should be doing things in the meantime
/r/seduction14/03/19 10:06 PM
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Yeah so ezpz. First date I got her top off and she spent the night, 2nd date I had sex with her. Pretty much every date ended with her in my bed. Not everyone moves that quickly, I'm just pretty open/forward with my intentions. I mentioned doing something again at the end of the first date cause I was into her
/r/seduction14/03/19 06:29 AM
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I mean you're not exclusive with anyone, so why the fuck does it matter?
/r/seduction14/03/19 03:05 AM
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Feel free to pm me, but if you're both into eachother just ask her out for drinks or something. Worst she says is no
/r/seduction14/03/19 03:04 AM
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Starting off I did one date a week. Then it transitioned into two, then it transitioned into three/four and now we live together (this is over a 1.5 year period). I'd say we hit 2 times a week probably three weeks into dating? It was always Wednesdays and then it became Monday nights and Wednesday nights, then etc etc. Just depends. If she's down to hang out every day I'm not even sure if I'd want that at the start.
/r/seduction14/03/19 03:03 AM
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I mean is there really a difference between exclusive-ness and gf/bf? You're already clearly a couple, so I doubt she'd care if you called her your girlfriend. My girl and I used it as a label for other people. It changes fuck all in the relationship
/r/seduction14/03/19 03:00 AM
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Nah I disagree. She texted him saying she had broken up with her boyfriend and that she was going to be drinking. If that's not an invite idk what else is
/r/seduction14/03/19 02:58 AM
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M8 she's recently single, and has quite literally asked you out. She's obv into you and all you need to do is make plans. Should've said you'd come over and be a distraction
/r/seduction14/03/19 02:55 AM
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Nah this is bad advice sorry. She's clearly not interested and no matter how much you befriend her (kinda the issue) that's not going to change. Don't bend your back for her, don't help her with other guy problems, you're not a crutch for her to lean on.
/r/seduction05/03/19 03:53 AM
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M8 you've already asked her out and she said no. Classic case of one-itis. Move on and find another chick
/r/seduction05/03/19 03:31 AM
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There is no way you've blown it. You'll be sweet but if you don't make a move you run the risk of her losing interest.
/r/seduction25/02/19 09:46 AM
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I agree with that, as I just commented I have a high libido so finding a partner with the same is (was) important to me
/r/seduction25/02/19 02:31 AM
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Pretty easily tbh. If you're going out for drinks or something equivalent, hug her when you see her. When you go to change venues get up first and extend your hand and be like "let's go, I know this cool place that has ___________" etc etc. Just because it's the 4th date doesn't really matter. Just be 'natural' about it. I'm not saying push sex. I've never EVER pushed sex because it's kinda just happened. What I am saying is that I value sex a ton in a relationship and it's important for the gir…
/r/seduction25/02/19 02:31 AM
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Bro it's been THREE DATES. I have a rule that if I don't have sex by the third date, I move on. Not because I only go out with chicks for sex, but because sexual chemistry is an important part of ANY relationship (and a key part of my preference) Make her a light dinner, get some alcohol and have a good night. Be goofy if that's you, but she's obviously sexually attracted to you as you're going on a fourth date. The only girl I've gone out with for over 4 dates has been my girlfriend of 1.5 year…
/r/seduction25/02/19 01:36 AM
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Drug tests here don't even test for it because the virus is super common
/r/seduction13/02/19 04:16 AM
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Damn dude. You should be outcome independent. Tbh it sounds like you've wasted your time already. You've been chatting for MONTHS and still haven't been on a date yet? That's also probably the vibe you give off as well. "If she doesn't do something for me, I've wasted my time"
/r/seduction08/02/19 09:31 PM
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Just invite her for dinner and get a bottle of wine to split. Ezpz casual valentines day date. Easy to escalate as well since you'll be at home 👌🏻
/r/seduction04/02/19 09:16 PM
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What's the point? You're into her but she's taken Are you hoping that by telling her she'll drop her boyfriend and start dating you? I just don't see a positive outcome while she's dating someone
/r/seduction31/01/19 07:37 AM
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Nah I def wouldn't do that. Also my girl is doing psych at uni and has pr much been taught these tests don't really mean anything. Take the test, own it, if she drops you because of it then this chick is legit nuts and not worth your time.
/r/seduction31/01/19 07:35 AM
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Pretty much haha. Have a good time man
/r/seduction29/01/19 11:06 AM
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Fuck that shit. Google "Mark Manson Fuck Yes" and read the article. If this chick isn't into you as much as you're into her. Why the FUCK would you even give this a second thought?
/r/seduction29/01/19 11:05 AM
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I was 21 and ended up getting with a chick that was 28 in a hostel. She kept going on about how she was "having a quarter life crises" etc etc. Told her that I didn't really care about that shit, so neither should she, that she was hot and I was into her. Age literally doesn't fucking matter. My BEST advice? Go into this date knowing that regardless of the outcome, you're going to have a good time. You can keep yourself amused and don't need the validation of anyone, at any age. Also make this f…
/r/seduction29/01/19 11:00 AM
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Oof that's tough man. Honestly it really depends. I used to do portraits etc at a pretty average level, but I don't know if I could ask a chick to come take photos and escalate without coming across as creepy. It really depends on how you've set it up. If it's "come around and hangout and we can maybe end up taking some pics" then it's not a "photo shoot" it's you guys hanging out. If it's "come over and we'll take photos for your insta" then idk man. It starts to hit professionalism at somepoin…
/r/seduction29/01/19 10:56 AM
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I 100% agree. You went out on multiple dates and didn't do a damn thing. You blew it from the start but without question played the text situation right
/r/seduction29/01/19 10:51 AM
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Depends on the vibe but I go for a hug. It's a good way to get bodies touching within the first 30 seconds of seeing eachother. I think waves/handshakes are WAY too formal and weird for a date. She probably has a place, you've already said you can't host so she's aware of that. Her age doesn't matter, if you're attracted to her and vice versa then you'll be sweet. Don't be 4chan levels of autismo and you'll be grand. Fucking listen. It's so much easier to get a conversation going if you listen a…
/r/seduction29/01/19 10:45 AM
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I used texting for logistics (meeting up/setting dates) but it really just depends. If things are flowing and going well then I don't see an issue with it. I would set up other dates and just go with the flow. This chick isn't your life, so don't text her like she is. You're a busy man with high priorities and you're trying to see if she is a good match to become one of those priorities. Use a condom please. Like full-stop this is a stranger. If she's on the pill and you are more comfortable wit…
/r/seduction18/12/18 06:05 AM
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Fair enough and I get that but it's kind of intuitive thinking. I've been with someone for over a year now and my numbers not that high either (6) but rejecting someone because their count is high when you're trying to achieve something similar is backwards thinking imho
/r/seduction15/10/18 06:21 AM
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Most of my dates have lasted 3-5 hours. If it's fun and you're both enjoying it, then you just hang out and enjoy it. If not someone normally makes an excuse to bounce. 2 hours is all good. If you're busy/have to get home then you have other shit to do
/r/seduction15/10/18 06:19 AM
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But if your count was high that would be all good?
/r/seduction15/10/18 06:16 AM
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Gonna agree with everyone else. You're gonna think about dropping a girl who slept with a bunch of guys, when you're a guy who slept with a bunch of girls. What a joke post this is. You just have trust issues and that's not the girl's fault.
/r/seduction15/10/18 06:14 AM
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Haha fair enough man. Just have fun and enjoy yourself aye. People put stress on relationships in highschool but I'd just make sure you're having a good time aye
/r/seduction21/12/17 03:40 AM
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How old are you? Me and my girl were going out for like 2 months before that boyfriend/girlfriend conversation ever happened (and tbh it only came up because people kept asking how my gf/her bf were doing and we were hanging out 4-6 days a week). From the way the post sounds have you even been on a date with this girl yet? Just seems really immature/childish from my view point aye. Nah flirting's good for getting your foot in the door but the person you are takes you the rest of the way.
/r/seduction21/12/17 01:18 AM
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Yeah the journey isn't easy but it's definitely worth it aye. Idk don't have a ton of advice but you know you have a point you've been before, so it's obviously achievable once again. Take your time and focus on yourself and get back to the state of mine you were before. Pulling girls doesn't mean shit when your entire personality is a facade
/r/seduction17/12/17 08:44 PM
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Can I ask differences in you from when you got into the relationship and when it ended?
/r/seduction17/12/17 07:56 PM
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I've got 6 landscape photos in my room, all of which I took and are ridiculously good (yeah a little bias). Gives me a talking point about my hobbies and looks sick
/r/seduction15/12/17 04:19 AM
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Then our morals don't align and it wasn't meant to be? Once again, didn't dump my girlfriend over it
/r/seduction03/12/17 06:53 PM
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Just a personal thing (also applies to cigarettes). Not a fan of the culture behind it and in my experience, most people become super apathetic when they smoke. I think I'm allowed to have personal preferences I expect in a relationship and someone who doesn't smoke is one of them. All good with legalization however. I think it brings in a ton of tax revenue for the states that have legalized it, I just don't want someone as a partner who smokes.
/r/seduction01/12/17 03:29 PM
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Yeah double on the boundaries. I'm on vacation for a couple weeks and she told me that she tried weed for the first time at a party recently. All good with me, I get experimenting but I've never tried it myself. She did it again a second time and I won't date someone that smokes. Straight up told her it'd suck super hard if that's the way the relationship would end, but it's something I'm big on and not something I can just let slide
/r/seduction30/11/17 10:00 PM
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The gym isn't going to help you if you can't look a girl in the eyes and communicate. The gym helps purely with confidence. My roommate is literally a Dutch model and we've both slept with the same amount of people this semester (I actually may be up one, but our total period is the same). He straight up KNOWS I can talk to girls better, so he motivates me to go to the gym and I'm the wing that helps with his conversations. The gym is important, but doesn't get you laid in it's own.
/r/seduction06/11/17 12:45 PM
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This is actually a big part in why I'm not a huge fan of ONS. I'm an idiot if I turn them down, but sex while in a relationship is so much better. You learn more and get to know what each other enjoys as you are able to communicate better.
/r/seduction06/11/17 12:42 PM
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Nah. I sometimes mention a movie I want to see that had recently come out or a food place I've been to and love just in conversation. Sometimes I'll invite them to go and sometimes I'll just set it up over text. With my girlfriend now (super new and kind of a big part of it was this sub) i did drinks the first date and then a late movie (kinsman 2, sick film) for the second, but I had brought up seeing it with her when she left my place the next day
/r/seduction06/11/17 12:38 PM
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So everything kind of stacks, but if I had to put everything into an order... Gym Clothes Confidence (this should be first, but the first 2 stack into this) Experiences I'll elaborate a little bit. You should be going to the gym regardless. It's healthy, keeps your body in shape and the tip of that is it attracts more girls. It also helps fill your clothes, making them look better. You should also have a sense of fashion. I have worn some ridiculous fucking shit this past year, and I was super a…
/r/seduction02/11/17 05:04 AM
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Drinks, I pay for first round, she pays for second. I just straight up say "I'll pay for first, you pay for second?"
/r/seduction19/10/17 04:31 AM
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Nah I'm in the same boat. I don't actively look for girls to sleep with. Not the person I am or want to be but, yeah I've slept with way more girls than I thought I ever would and I'm working on dating this girl I'm seeing long-term. The self-help stuff is amazing and I can honestly say I've changed a fuckton as a person.
/r/seduction18/10/17 04:09 AM
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It seems to me that the most 'successful' guys are the guys that take the self-help from this sub. It's all I really look at, and everything else fell into line for me. That's not only relating to picking up girls, but also to making new friends.
/r/seduction18/10/17 03:56 AM
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So you're a nerdy guy in a stem field, who can't focus on school because the only thing on his mind is girls. You're also a dude that can't commit to bettering himself (sticking to the gym) and you just expect girls to like you? Why? Take a good hard look at yourself and ask "what makes me interesting?". If the answer is nothing, then that's your issue and a really good first step to fixing that issue. I see so many guys on here saying the same thing over and over, yet they won't take the steps …
/r/seduction17/10/17 07:05 AM
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Pussys great man but what's the point if you're not enjoying it? I'd rather have sex once a week with someone I enjoy being with than sex 3x a week with girls I can't stand. I'd get YOUR priorities straight, then go for chicks afterwards
/r/seduction17/10/17 06:12 AM
2

Soooo I've (a friend) actually has a couple extra chainsmoker tickets (24th of this month), and she does love concerts. Thinking homemade card, some flowers from the farmers market and then the tickets? Like I said, don't want to be super cheesy but the concert would be fun af. I'm going to shoot you a pm, kind of want your opinion on something though. Fuck I won't lie, I'm not normally nervous about girls and shit, but this does raise my anxiety a bit.
/r/seduction13/10/17 11:17 AM
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Haven't really talked about exclusivity, but she knows I don't date multiple people at the same time, so I guess we are? She's not really that type of person either so... Budget isn't crazy big, but not super small? I could probably do like $40-50? Haven't been dating that long, but I feel like since we are going out that I should buy her at least something aye. She's a bit geeky, but does dance as a hobby of hers. She's into memes and korean anime (I couldn't tell you which ones). I know her fa…
/r/seduction13/10/17 09:40 AM
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Past relationship was toxic and lasted 1.5 years. I moved and didn't want to the the long-distance anymore so I cut it. Shit went beyond nuclear. Yeah she's blocked on LITERALLY everything. Facebook, Instagram, snapchat. Any/all social media and I moved countries so #s don't work (but I deleted hers anyways). FUCK that. Cut contact, don't reply. There's no point in dwelling/looking on the past.
/r/seduction13/10/17 04:08 AM
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Chur
/r/seduction10/10/17 02:43 AM
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All good, met this chick now that's into me and I'm into her so we'll just see where that goes :)
/r/seduction10/10/17 01:43 AM
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I mean I've been having sex someone, so what you think at the end of the day doesn't matter to me. Take the advice or don't. Goes parallel with getting laid or not
/r/seduction09/10/17 10:55 PM
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The point I'm trying to make is that telling yourself you're ugly is more of a hindrance on how you perform with girls rather than how you actually look. How I look is irrelevant
/r/seduction09/10/17 10:43 PM
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Nah, I'm fairly confident that sitting around telling yourself you're ugly and unattractive is what keeps you from getting chicks. Does my Dutch model roommate pull girls that are hot as fuck? Of course! Do I pull girls I think are hot as fuck? Of course as well! My self-image isn't the best and it's something that I've been working on. I lost 100lbs and started lifting. Was a kissless virgin until I was 19 (21 atm). Do I sit around and tell myself and others that I can get girls because I think…
/r/seduction09/10/17 10:29 PM
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Do looks help? Of fucking course lmao. Welcome to the world. Does that dude in the picture have 0 chance with any girls? Of course not. Don't be a crybaby bitch
/r/seduction09/10/17 09:09 PM
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What's usually bullshit? Literally had a ons with a girl at a hostel. She slept with me because my roommate (in her words) has no personality while I do. Looks are important but not the entire thing. Go back to trp
/r/seduction09/10/17 09:05 PM
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Uh, yes? I lift but my roommates quite literally a Dutch model (dudes ridiculous and I'm jealous). I've pulled more girls back to our flat this semester. Your post literally proves nothing
/r/seduction09/10/17 08:54 PM
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My response was literally: "well if you're going to be like that the entire night...." We went out for another date but shit was weird man. She was always on her phone and we didn't go out after that. I probably misread the situation, she was probably looking for fwb and I'm not really that kind of dude.
/r/seduction09/10/17 09:39 AM
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So i've been on both sides of it. I've gone out with a girl, grabbed her hand and she teased me about it. She said something to the effect of "aww how cute..." to which I said if she didn't want to hold my hand she could let go, and she didn't. I've also gone to hold a girls hand and she straight up said no. It's also just naturally happened. I'll be on a date and I'll grab a girls hand to lead her through a crowd of people and it kind of just stayed that way. These were all first dates and it j…
/r/seduction06/10/17 04:25 AM
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Nah i get it man, and I wish I had an answer that would fix all your problems but nothing here will fix it. I used to be the same way. Never dated in high-school and I had my first kiss/lost virginity at 19 (same girl, ex-gf). With that said, I also never displayed my intent on girls I met. This girl I'm dating now, I asked her out and literally a day later, another dude asked her out as well. The difference was my text was super forward (it said: "This is a little forward, but I think you're cu…
/r/seduction06/10/17 04:01 AM
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Fuck dude, honestly idk what's up then. Join some clubs or something and meet people. Maybe travel a bit as it gives you the entire "cultured" vibe? The thing about socializing is EVERYBODY (and you're a fucking liar if you don't agree) likes talking about themselves. Everybody has topics and hobbies they enjoy. Fuck dude I even talk about this sub when I'm on dates. I don't call it /r/seduction of course but Irephrase it as "the psychology of dating" and girls love it. I became incredibly big o…
/r/seduction06/10/17 03:29 AM
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I made my original comment about the gym etc before i had read your previous reply, but I think that's good as fuck that you're already lifting etc. It gives you a massive bonus in terms of your confidence and the way girls you view in general. What type of shit are you into? It's awesome you've got your own life going on, but what type of hobbies do you have and what things in general do you enjoy? I do photography as my 'creative' outlet, I'm "foreign" (US to NZ) which gives me an extra bump i…
/r/seduction06/10/17 03:03 AM
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Alright you kind of said it yourself and you know why you're unsuccessful ("not really outgoing at all"). The thing is, a lot of guys think there's "tricks" to picking up girls and applying these "tricks" get you laid. Fuck it's so much further from the truth. Become outgoing. Eat better. Lift more. Dress cleaner. Become interesting. Yeah some of that shit is going to feel unnatural and it will be out of your comfort zone, but that's the point. I see it over and over again with guys that want to…
/r/seduction06/10/17 02:26 AM
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Depends on the setting. If I'm grabbing drinks with a girl (first date or whatever), we'll normally sit next to each other and talk and if she says something I like or she says something that reminds me of a story, I'll place my hand on her arm and say like "oh that reminds me of _____". Then it's honestly just natural for me. We'll both laugh at something or I'll be in the middle of telling a funny story and I'll go to laugh. I'll lean forward while laughing and place my hand on her thigh and l…
/r/seduction05/10/17 01:50 AM
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Nah fuck that. I went out with this chick 3-4 times, we fucked about the same and she ghosted me afterwards (how fucked imo, just be an adult). Saw her pull a dude out of my flat (threw a party at my college dorms), and asked another girl out a day or so after. Don't let people waste your time. You're time is valuable and you don't play games with people who aren't interested. I think one of the mods linked me a post (I'll find it in a min), and it's essentially the "fuck yes, or no" rule. If it…
/r/seduction03/10/17 12:18 PM
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Dude idek if it's worth it tbh. That "crazy love" stuff (at least looking back for me personally) was purely raw physical attraction. I was in a relationship for 1.5 years starting at 19 and if I'm 100% honest with myself, I'm not sure if I was ever "in love". The sex was good, and I mean really good as you learn each other's kinks/pressure points etc, but as for "love"? Find someone you're into and care about and just see where it goes (what I'm doing now)
/r/seduction03/10/17 12:13 PM
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Kinos so important and super easy tbh, but yeah I agree. This girl said she doesn't normally date white guys, and my response was that "I bet you'd like the taste of different cultures"
/r/seduction01/10/17 07:20 AM
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Nah that's not weird imo. Most of my dates last that long, but I make sure that both parties have an "out" if need be. I normally grab drinks at like 8 and then bar hop till like 2am, then back to mine if everythings still going well.
/r/seduction30/09/17 10:41 PM
2

I actually had a conversation with this girl that slept over this past week. I told her IMO that fuckboys are dudes that don't really care about the person they're with (aka how they feel) and are only with them for the sex. I haven't been doing PUA for super long (say like 4 months), and I've had 3 ONS, 1 "relationship" (BIG fucking quotations) that lasted 5 weeks, and I've been seeing this one girl now for the past couple weeks and have a third date planned this week, but the thing that I make…
/r/seduction30/09/17 01:27 AM
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If you're on desktop it's all the links etc on the right side of the screen
/r/seduction28/09/17 09:38 AM
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Just check out the inner-game section of the sidebar. Most if not all are still current and its by far the most useful information found on this sub.
/r/seduction28/09/17 03:12 AM
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I mean... Help? Idk I've never met someone from tinder before, i just prefer meeting people irl. I feel like just because you met through an app doesn't mean it has any less value. I also don't let my "game" be effected by how often I score or a number count. I date people I think are fun and if the night ends with sex then that's a bonus
/r/seduction24/09/17 11:52 PM
1

White, and my last 4 hookups have been white. Also going out with a 5th white girl now. Just my preference.
/r/seduction24/09/17 11:49 PM
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I've only been actively going on dates for like 3 months now, and I was involved with this chick for like a month or so during that time. What's your "right" way of doing college?
/r/seduction18/09/17 07:51 AM
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21yo college student here Basically it depends on the week and what I have coming up for uni (assignments come first). Otherwise my schedule is waking up, gym, breakfast, classes, socializing, dinner, bed. I work out 3-4 times a week for 1.5/2 hours, classes range but my earliest class is noon, latest class ends at 6. I go out at least twice a week (Wednesday nights are student nights and Saturday nights are Saturdays) for drinks with friends. I fit in dates with girls in between (I have one com…
/r/seduction18/09/17 07:33 AM
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I see a lot of dudes on here that seem to think this way. Your "purpose" in life shouldn't be to love a woman. Your purpose in life should be to live how you want to, and let everything else fall into its place. Read the inner-game section on the sidebar. Also, nobody gives a fuck about texting. If there's a girl that's into you, she'll respond and things should be semi-natural. I leave texting for logistics, setting up dates and places to meet. Also, fuck TRP.
/r/seduction15/09/17 03:55 AM
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Honestly that's really shitty of her and you by far dodged a bullet. What type of person willingly and disrespectfully wastes the time of someone else? Don't call her out on it, just delete the number and move on
/r/seduction10/09/17 12:37 AM
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I've been reading "the subtle art of not giving a fuck" by Mark Manson. Actually a pretty decent read and may be worth checking out! Anytime, that's why the sub exists. Best of luck!
/r/seduction07/09/17 04:05 AM
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TL;DR: Don't sleep with girls for your confidence, build your confidence on your own. Your age really doesn't/shouldn't matter that much. Been there. I'm not some fucking guru that knows all, but my first relationship was some chick that was ridiculously mentally unstable and because it was the first chick that had ever taken interest in me (I used to weigh 300lbs, we met when I was 180lbs. I'm not saying fat guys can't get girls, I'm just saying fat guys can't get girls easy). One of the things…
/r/seduction06/09/17 09:19 PM
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Lmao, having "everything" sorted out is bullshit tbh. I took my life and evaluated it. I had just gotten out of my first relationship at 20 (which lasted 1.5 years, was a kissless virgin until that point), and I just wasn't happy with were I was. How can you expect girls to be happy/want to be with you, if you're not happy with yourself? This sub is great because I think it's shifted from picking up girls to being a better person, or at least, that's what I took from it. Break routines, pick up …
/r/seduction06/09/17 09:10 PM
2

Make it the same? Who wants to date someone who's boring? Don't put on an act, but change who you are
/r/seduction06/09/17 09:06 PM
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I assume male unless otherwise told
/r/seduction06/09/17 06:42 AM
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I've been backpacking through a country for the past two weeks and I've been staying in hostels. First major city I stayed in (over the weekend duh for bars/clubs) I slept with this Canadian girl 6 years older than me. She was hot, but in addition to that, she was really fucking cool. I think people here have a really shitty mentality when it comes to sex. I seriously don't actively look for 'hookups' but I've slept with 4 girls in the past 2 months (one multiple times over the past 5 weeks, and…
/r/seduction06/09/17 06:41 AM
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Oh for sure. It's just become routine now haha. I havnt been in about 2 weeks cause I've been hitchhiking for my student holiday, but I'm itching to get back
/r/seduction05/09/17 10:12 PM
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I'm doing sl5x5 for the past like 3-4 months now. Squats 3x a week and Deadlifts twice a week
/r/seduction05/09/17 09:45 PM
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It seems counterintuitive, but the less I focus on girls the more girls I attract. I'm decently good looking but a bit heavy (sitting at like 87kgs atm), but im hitting the gym 3x a week and improving myself. Also just very recently started reading as well, something I never used to do. I've gone out with four different girls in the past 2 months, three of which ended in 'lays' and the fourth I didn't want to sleep with, so I didn't. I agree, live your own life, do your own fun shit and the rest…
/r/seduction01/09/17 11:31 PM
3

Why not just ask for her # next time you see her?
/r/seduction03/08/17 02:07 AM
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Honestly man, at 17 I wouldn't worry all that much. I was a kissless virgin until I was 19 and I got into my first relationship (it lasted 1.5 years and I ended it when I moved for uni). With that said, if you still want to "up your game" check out the sidebar (mainly the inner-game), lose weight, and start lifting. It seems that if you 'master' inner-game everything else will fall into place.
/r/seduction22/07/17 09:09 AM
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Once again I appreciate it. I threw another party and she came and didn't really say anything to me or interacted with me. Yet to be determined if she's just shy or not, but I don't think I'm going to be a fool and act like it wasn't intentional. I also really needed your last point. Like I said, I went out again last night, and her not wanting anything to do with me threw me off all night. Inner-game needs to be a priority and everything else will fall into line when it does. Thanks again for a…
/r/seduction20/07/17 08:35 AM
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So it's a bit tricky, and it'll seem like I'm making excuses back and forth for her, but she was legitimately doing day trips both Saturday and Sunday. Everything I've invited her to is a social gathering. Wednesday I threw a sick party with my flatmate and we did the same thing Friday and Saturday. All the things I've invited her to, havn't been one-on-one. She's also got some culture thing going on Saturday and Sunday this week (I know because her friends mentioned it). If I was going to invit…
/r/seduction18/07/17 08:32 AM
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Yo, incredibly grateful for the response. I agree the lame excuse bit was probably a bit far, but I intended it as playful and that the party/pre-drinks were going to happen regardless. You think I should just next this girl, or try to see if she's available sometime this week? The last time I messaged her was Saturday, and she was out of town at the time. I assume if she wanted to hang out again, she would propose a different day correct? I did mention that I talked to her on Sunday, and her fr…
/r/seduction18/07/17 06:56 AM
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I'd love to go one-on-one without question, but part of me is worried about venue choices. I'd take her to a comedy club etc, but we're both on exchange. She's french and her english is decent enough to have a conversation but there's a struggle sometimes. Ideas for other areas?
/r/seduction18/07/17 04:38 AM
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Nah, I consider myself very chilled and laid back and I'm working on the neediness bit (I'm not super big on ONS and want to see how far I can take this, be it fwb or a short-term relationship). Appreciate it!
/r/seduction18/07/17 03:15 AM
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Nah the plans were set the day before we had met. Would you cancel plans with your friends for a girl you just met? Personally, I wouldn't.
/r/seduction18/07/17 02:43 AM
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She had plans at 8am, I left at 7am. Edit: Plans to travel with friends at 8am* I edited the original post. We slept Wednesday night, I left Thursday morning. My b
/r/seduction18/07/17 02:09 AM
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I think one of the biggest things I've learnt is to just assume attraction. Assume she's into you, and proceed from there. I also think a lot of people here are against using phones for anything other than making plans. I'd let her be on vacation for another week and week and a half, then hit her up to make plans after she gets back. *Disclaimer: I'm pretty new to this
/r/seduction02/07/17 11:53 PM
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Eh. While I agree with you to an extent, I definitely don't think sex is viewed that way anymore
/r/seduction02/07/17 11:46 PM
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Remind me in an hour or so and I'll shoot you a YouTube video. It's all about your jawline. Feels a bit awkward to 'pose' but it looks solid
/r/seduction15/06/17 09:45 AM
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I'm sure you're the dude raging about downvotes and pulling all the chicks g
/r/seduction12/06/17 05:29 AM
1

First off, go to the gym regardless. There's a post on the top of seddit atm and the short answer is yes, it always helps. The long answer is this
/r/seduction04/06/17 06:10 AM
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Muscle weighs more than fat. So if you're a twig atm, you'll probably end up putting on muscle-weight.
/r/seduction04/06/17 06:09 AM
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In general the answer's yes. tone > untoned, and you don't even necessarily have to bulk but at your height/weight lifting will probably make you heavier
/r/seduction04/06/17 06:02 AM
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Honestly, don't over think it. Get drunk and just have a good time and read the situations. The more relaxed and confident you are easier it is to pull
/r/seduction27/05/17 10:54 PM
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I assume it'd be as he/she is leaving, depending on whose apartment they go to.
/r/seduction04/05/17 07:14 AM
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Hitting the gym and shit bro? I know that's the typical response, and it isn't needed but I've recently started (past few weeks 3x a week) and if you can get through the first week of soreness, your mood SKYROCKETS. You start seeing the 'noob gains' and just feel more confident overall.
/r/seduction04/05/17 07:03 AM
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It's a spiral man. Say you can't, try, fail, then that failure reinforces your thought that you can't. I've had one girlfriend my entire life, and that wasn't until last year (I ended it btw). I will tell you, I HAD the same mindset. I was HUGE (290lbs) and nerdy and wasn't all that interesting. I cut the weight (to 200lbs, still cutting to 180/170), cut my shitty hair (was long, curly and unkept af), bought clothes that fit and some expensive cologne to smell good. I went out with a girl Saturd…
/r/seduction03/05/17 12:13 PM
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I personally prefer talking in person as texting is extremely hard to tell tone/emotions. Also a good chance she's just busy and she hangs out with you in the spare time she has?
/r/seduction30/04/17 11:37 PM
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You cheated on your girlfriend of 6 years for a fling with someone twice your age. There is no morality check here and you shouldn't be justifying it. With that said, you really only have two options: Gf or the older chick I will say without a doubt, your girlfriend deserves better than you and it's incredibly selfish to waste her time.
/r/seduction30/04/17 06:32 AM
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