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I was hoping to get my youngest son out of high school before the bomb dropped. I was the product of divorce and didn’t want the same for him. We separated the summer before his junior year…🤷🏻‍♂️
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/26 04:22 AM
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I’m sorry, brother. I’m 4 years out and have made a great living for my son and myself. If you built it before, you can build it again. But this time without the vacuum attached to the back end of your net worth.
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/26 05:28 AM
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100%. She lives out of the country and maybe sees him 3-4 times a year…
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/25 05:11 AM
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Saving and investing my money.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/24 06:39 PM
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No, I wouldn’t have gotten married and subsequently divorced.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 10:18 PM
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A fresh, hot homemade dinner every night for the first year. No fast food, no Uber eats, no door dash. It may not sound like a big deal but I got my son full time. Now he makes his own meals and has healthy eating habits.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 04:54 PM
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I went through a mediated divorce in Texas a couple of years ago. I’d say you won, brother. Congratulations!
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/24 03:22 AM
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It was only two…and apparently so.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/24 03:53 PM
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It only took me two months. There were a couple of women who had been waiting patiently in the wings for my marriage to fail.
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/23 03:35 AM
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Same - our media room was basically a receiving warehouse for Amazon packages - at least half of them unopened. After we separated I found a brand new iPad still in the box. She flew to Paris twice and bought from the Louis Vuitton store there. So much waste🤬
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 08:06 PM
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Not seeing every dollar we had turn into a dimes with a side of Luis Vuitton.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 06:13 AM
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I made $5K at a garage sale. The few pieces of furniture I had to take I’ve been slowly replacing as my budget allows.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/23 03:32 AM
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There was lots of stuff like that, unfortunately…
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/23 04:36 AM
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WTF?!
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/23 04:35 AM
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Sorry, man. Right there with you, brother. So much self-indulgent wasted money…🤦🏻‍♂️
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/23 04:34 AM
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Good for you. The shoes, purses and eating out sounds all too familiar. I had to sell the dream house we built but I will make more money in the first six months of this year than my best year when we were together. And what was the point of a good income when your wife spends $1,100 on clothes hangers..?
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/23 03:08 AM
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You married my ex wife. The obsession with self help, the vacuous hole where a soul should be. I feel for you. I believe there are good women out there but we both just picked the wrong ones to marry… Hang in there, brother.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/22 04:22 AM
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Soon to be ex
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/22 03:28 PM
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Summary of all dating articles: If men are lonely, it’s the fault of men. If women are lonely, it’s the fault of men. Any questions?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen20/08/22 03:41 AM
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It’s been 1 year since we separated. I’m still angry at times but jalopkoala is spot on. It won’t be quick or easy but you’ll get over it - we all do. We have to. Stay strong.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/22 11:22 PM
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Wow, this is my story in a nutshell! We separated in July, divorce finalized in March. A woman I had kept in touch with over the years randomly texted me a couple of months after separation asking how life was. When I told her I was getting a divorce she suggested we meet up for drinks. We had sex in the parking lot of my apartment complex. It was hot and I, too, had forgotten what it was like to be desired and have an enthusiastic partner after a couple of sexless years with an ex wife who acte…
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/22 04:28 AM
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Mine, too. The least important person in her life…
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/22 07:11 PM
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Right there with you. We got divorced after 21 years together. In one of life’s most important endeavors, I failed to keep it together. There are times I feel like I failed. But I married a hoarder and spendaholic. We were doomed from the beginning. Our marriage failed, not me. It sucks in that I had to re-orient my vision for the future but I increasingly see it as wide open with possibilities, none of which has bank accounts with black holes in the bottom. It’s okay to feel what you are feelin…
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/22 07:09 PM
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Great advice! Source: I divorced a female covert narcissist after 17 years.
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/22 04:51 AM
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3 months. Hear me out: we were together 21 years, married 17. No sex at all the last year and a half or so. We both knew it was over and it slowly just…unraveled. So I felt single for a while. It turns out there were a few women on the sidelines who were patiently waiting. One made it very clear what she wanted. We hooked up about 2 hours after we met for drinks. And I have to say that being with a woman who was enthusiastic made all the difference in the world. There is someone out there for ev…
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/22 06:40 AM
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We divorced when my youngest was 16 - after 21 years together. The kids turned out just fine but part of me feels like I wasted a big chunk of my life by staying with her. There is no easy answer to your question. I wish you luck - it’s not an easy road to walk down. But it does end.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/22 03:07 AM
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😂🤣😂🤣
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen31/01/22 05:26 AM
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Fuck, I’m so sorry. I had to give my ex wife $20K from my IRA but got sole custody and $1840/month in child support for 31 months… Your story is vomit inducing. Hang in there!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen16/01/22 05:00 AM
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Exactly this. Amazingly simple to keep most of us happy…
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/22 12:18 PM
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Shoot - all my ex had to do was be nice to me, stop burning through our money, and give me some half-assed sex once in a while. Really, most of us don’t ask for much… It was nice to see this tonight. Thanks so much!
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/22 05:55 AM
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Wonderful post! I can only hope to meet a woman like you in the wake of my recent divorce - you rock!💪💪👍👍🙂🙂
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/22 05:40 AM
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My first Christmas alone, too, after 20 years. I plan on not working (I’m a workaholic so this is a big deal), maybe taking a nap, and watching Die Hard before my son comes back from my ex’s sister’s house.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/21 07:23 AM
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Hard no from me. My wife and I separated in July and I want nothing to do with her.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/21 07:37 PM
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From your ex or her lawyer?😂🤣😂🤣
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/21 05:33 PM
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So what would happen if you separated, one of you won the lottery, but your divorce wasn’t yet final?? Clarification #1: Asking for a friend. Clarification #2: The friend is me. We separated end of July (in Texas). Clarification #3: No, sadly, I did not win the lottery.
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/21 06:50 AM
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😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen11/12/21 05:51 AM
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I know - plus add all the divorce porn where it’s empowering to leave your family and become a strong, independent woman and most marriages don’t stand a chance. I don’t think mine cheated because if she had she would have thrown it in my face just to hurt me.
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/21 09:49 PM
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Yeah, go figure…🤦🏻‍♂️
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/21 02:41 AM
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“Forced himself…” so she called the police, right?😂🤣😂🤣😂
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/21 04:12 AM
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Shoot. I’m a fairly smart person but got sucked into the vortex of a covert narcissist. As soon as we separated, I was able to see clearly but while I was elbow-deep in it, I was blind…
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/21 02:27 AM
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100% agree. And that’s exactly where I am. I have my son, my dog and a job I enjoy!
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/21 09:54 PM
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No infidelity on her part (as far as I know) but separated in July. I’m now at a point where I don’t care if she starts sleeping with someone else. She was never all that sexual and I wish whatever poor bastard she hooks up with all the luck in the world - he’ll need it. I was hurt and frustrated at first like a lot of dudes but time really does help. We have kids together so no contact isn’t really an option but I have very little interaction with her. I don’t miss her or the marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/21 07:39 PM
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54 and I was married to a covert narcissist wife who never cared about the kids and I. We were together for 20 years. It was a loveless, sexless merry go round of misery. I think sometimes I should have left earlier but my kids would have been neglected and ignored. We can’t go back only forward. The poster who mentioned sunk cost fallacy nailed it.
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/21 12:20 AM
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She definitely sounds narcissistic. My ex certainly was…she spent $1,100 on clothes hangers - fucking clothes hangers! I hope you can emerge stronger on the other side! You’re like me: you have a kid together so you can’t really go no-contact but you can go minimum contact. I highly recommend it. Good luck!
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/21 05:39 AM
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I did. Divorce s/b final in 30 days or less.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/21 02:53 PM
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During my separation there was a woman who had been on the sidelines, patiently waiting out my marriage. When she found out I was separated she blew me like a pornstar. What a difference it made to be with someone who was enthusiastic to be with me! This is good advice. Regardless of how you feel about a pro (not my thing but go for it if you want), getting some sex will put it all in perspective. Now I wouldn’t care if my ex fucked a pro football team and played the video on the Jumbotron durin…
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/21 12:36 AM
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Congratulations!
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/21 09:36 PM
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Mine started sleeping in a different bedroom. It may be that she checked out from the marriage a while ago and this is her way of preparing for being single. It may also be her way of trying to inflict pain on you (like mine did). It’s a shitty feeling, regardless. I’m sorry for you, my friend. I’ve been there. No matter how bad the marriage, divorce still sucks.
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/21 09:04 PM
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So sorry for your situation. I could never put my finger on it but I always felt like if I ever got sick or crippled, my ex would have been gone in 30 days or less. Hang in there, my friend.
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/21 11:26 PM
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I put mine in a box and put them in storage. If the kids want them someday, they can have them. 20 years together.
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/21 11:23 PM
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The not saving as much is a huge red flag. I noticed the same thing with my ex-wife when we first started dating… It never got better☠️☠️☠️☠️
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/21 03:45 AM
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Nope. You and I are in agreement. No matter how great a woman, I’m not ever getting married again.
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/21 03:42 AM
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Hang in there, dude. Many have walked this path before us and emerged whole on the other side. Many will do so in the future. It is your time now but each passing day will put you a little further forward…
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/21 12:00 PM
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Same here. No more complaining or having some one belittle or devalue me!
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/21 02:01 AM
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I know. It’s scary how similar the behaviors are amongst them…
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/21 07:46 PM
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I feel for you, friend. My divorce from my narcissistic wife is almost complete. Everyone who thinks they know her just loves her - smart, attractive, generous, compassionate. But they don’t know the other side: greedy, selfish, spendaholic, hoarder. It was a false front and the kids and I came in dead last. Whenever I would challenge her on her spending or neglect, she would withhold communication, affection, and sex. A couple of years ago I stopped caring and that was the beginning of the end.…
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/21 03:47 PM
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If I can offer my own perspective: GTFO, now! My nex wife squandered $2.5 mil of our money before she took off and left my son and I. Women who have a spending problem don’t get better, they just spend more and more until there is nothing left. This. Will. Not. Change. Good luck, brother!
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/21 03:24 AM
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This was my biggest struggle, too. I grieved for the life I had imagined we would build together. But the actual life we had built was lonely, sexless, and miserable and in no way resembled our actual marriage. I married a selfish, spendaholic hoarder who invested all her time and our money in trying to impress her friends and co-workers. I was utterly, completely unhappy and I still cried… It’s normal to grieve if you are emotionally healthy so don’t be too hard on yourself. Time will be your f…
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/21 07:02 PM
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Good attitude but I wouldn’t suggest it. Try and take the high road, if possible. Most people will pretend to be sympathetic but they don’t really care. If you become too bitter/vindictive - no matter how tempting - you come off as the bitter loser.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/21 04:42 AM
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Great advice. And you will find it repeated often: work out, eat well, get healthy sleep, minimize booze. Don’t go to functions and pretend…
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/21 03:35 AM
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Thank you! That is unbelievably kind of you. Thank you so much..!
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/21 04:33 AM
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Dude, let it go. I'm kind of in the same boat: STBXW moved out 2 months ago and left my son, his dog, the house, and I w/o a care in the world. She may have my replacement in her life already but I really don't give a f**k. I'm sure after 500-600 years, the twice a year starfish sex will leave the new supply totally exhausted, LOL! My son said she is flying to Colorado this weekend. Who cares. Women are fickle and selfish and perpetually surrounded by divorce porn. You will be stronger and bette…
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/21 12:00 AM
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This is why I love Reddit: there is always someone out there going through the same thing or has already emerged on the other side. I'm 2 weeks away from divorce mediation and it is great to get a reminder such as this. Thanks for posting!
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/21 11:42 PM
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This is such a good response I’m saving it. I am in the middle of a divorce after 20 years with the same woman. I was miserable and came to the same exact conclusion: you win no prize for staying in a miserable marriage. I’m 54 and looking forward to discovering how the dating game has changed… I don’t miss that soulless, Spendaholic woman at all!
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/21 02:51 AM
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Yep. I’m divorcing after 20 years. I should have gotten out 15 years ago…
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/21 12:26 AM
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You’ll get past it, my friend… I’m going through a divorce from a cold, narcissistic woman with no soul who everyone thinks is kind, generous and giving. Time and distance will help. Minimize your contact with her, hit the gym, eat well and healthy, try and sleep, minimize your booze. If you read enough of these posts, that is the advice you will come across the most. There are many, many dudes have have walked this path before us. They survived and flourished. So will you. It likely won’t be ri…
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/21 12:21 AM
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My STBXW is the same. Using the word vile is actually being kind.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/21 11:17 AM
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Oh, trust me that is the tip of the iceberg. We made a lot of money the last 5 years and she spent it all: shoes, purses, handbags, clothes. She was hoarder and when she took off, there were boxes and boxes of clothes, shoes, lingerie, etc with the tags still on… She spent $11K in one month on crap and eating out at fancy restaurants with friends and co-workers - never the family. We should have been on a path to a comfortable retirement instead of a house that served as a receiving warehouse fo…
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/21 02:41 PM
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I was in an unhappy marriage while my STBXW squandered all our money… I would say financial ruin is by far preferable. You can recover from financial ruin but you can’t get back the time you lost being unhappy. Source: divorcing a wastrel after 20 years. She spent over $1,000 on clothes hangers…f*#king clothes hangers…
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/21 03:01 AM
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I’m right in the middle of mine and posts like this really keep me going! Congratulations! I hope in a year I will post something very similar💪👍
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/21 09:52 PM
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Man of Steel - I’ll remember that phrase. My mediation is next week🤞
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/21 09:34 PM
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Sorry, man. This one hurts just read it🤦🏻‍♂️
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/21 04:39 AM
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Good god! My STBXW and I made $2.5M the last 5 years and currently there’s about $40K left - she blew through it all, including over $1,000 on clothes hangers. F#*king clothes hangers… The sense of entitlement with some women is pathological…
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/21 04:36 AM
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Thank you. I have no expectation of alimony but will ask for it as a negotiating tactic. I’m about to go a year with little money coming in as I switch companies. I’ll ask more than offset. I have an attorney, she doesn’t. At least, not yet…
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/21 03:18 AM
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As another person mentioned, I can at least use alimony as a negotiation tool.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/21 04:34 AM
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Wow, great advice. Thank you so very much🙏
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/21 01:46 AM
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Cupcake 😂😂😂😂😂
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/21 01:44 AM
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She sounds like she might have narcissistic tendencies. Talk to a lawyer, if you can. Your kids might be at risk. If there is a way to covertly get her suicide threats on tape, you may be able to get your kids to a relative and away from her and get some kind of protective order. I recognize you might not want any harm to come to her, either, but she is an adult. Note: I am NOT a lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/21 03:39 PM
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Wow. Thanks for sharing and congratulations! And also thanks for sharing about those poor dudes w/o lawyers!
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/21 02:43 PM
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Agreed. Do not engage.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/21 01:51 PM
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Get a lawyer. Do nothing else until you have spoken with one. Source: in the middle of a divorce after 20 years together.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/21 08:44 PM
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That is the way of a boss! I'm keeping this response in my toolbox. Thanks for sharing!!
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/21 04:18 AM
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Great insight and 100% true!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen28/07/21 03:10 PM
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My wife made a lot of money she spent on herself and her friends/co-workers/bosses and ignored the kids and I for our whole marriage. She literally contributed nothing but isolation and misery.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/21 01:43 AM
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Can a sex doll spend all your joint money on shoes, clothes, handbags, and jewelry? Can a sex doll trickle out bland sex twice a year? Can a sex doll ignore you and the kids for 20 years then complain that she isn’t happy? Can a sex doll spend hours watching make up videos every night while her ass gets flat and her tits sag like bota bags? Can a sex doll withhold affection and communication over every perceived slight? Can a sex doll refuse to apologize for 20 years because she is always right?…
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/21 11:52 AM
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Great insight!
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/21 02:14 AM
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Happy for you, brother. I agree in that the Reddit community has been a huge help as I am progressing through my divorce. Best wishes!
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/21 04:23 AM
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My first girlfriend cheated on me and caught HPV. I have zero sympathy for her.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/21 03:04 AM
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Yes to this. Once I stopped caring about my narcissistic wife’s relentless tantrums and ignored her, we were finished. Good riddance.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/21 06:35 AM
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LOL, a timeless quote!
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/21 08:54 PM
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This mirrors my own thoughts. My youngest is 16 and I made it as far as I could. But I’ve been unhappy for years. The life I’d hoped to have with her is much different than the life we were living but I still want to hold onto that vision. It’s a truly awful situation that I hope ends soon.. 🤞
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/21 11:13 AM
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I tried posting this in the main divorce forum but it keeps disappearing. Nothing like pouring your heart out for nothing..
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/21 07:23 PM
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QueenBeeing Healthline Toxic Ties Men’s Divorce Forum I would highly recommend the YouTube videos for Dr Ramani, too.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/21 04:58 PM
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I have friends who are not friends with my ex wife. I can share all the details with them. Anyone in our shared social/professional circle will only get the most basic story of why we are getting divorced. I also am a big believer in therapy. It isn’t a weakness to have someone to talk to. I also enjoy sharing and helping others on forums such as Reddit. My ex was a covert narcissist so there are online blogs/websites that offer insight into that as well.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/21 02:51 AM
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That is my fear: that, against all odds, I will find somebody new and she will be the same soulless, cold monster just in a different package.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/21 02:03 PM
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This is an excellent reply. I would have never known this about my STBXW. But as I was working through some of my marital issues my therapist suggested my wife might have some narcissistic traits. I started doing research and she has 5-6 strong traits right out of the DSM-V. I agree that the term gets thrown around a lot and too many people think narcissism is just vanity or selfishness. But it is orders of magnitude more insidious. It destroys people from within and leaves a trail of destructio…
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/21 07:08 AM
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My STBXW is moving into a downtown high rise to live the Sex and the City lifestyle. She is leaving behind the kids and I. It is scary how similar they all are.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/21 06:59 AM
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Yep. My STBXW is a covert narcissist and all her unhappiness was my fault. They are super predators when it comes to manipulating people - especially those closest to them.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/21 06:58 AM
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Yes. I miss the possibility of our future life together and not the actual life we had. I was quite miserable…
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/21 02:52 AM
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It has really made me question marriage and women. You don’t get awards for sacrificing yourself to take care of your family but a selfish spouse can dump you after 20 years and go live her best life w/o you.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/21 01:55 AM
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I appreciate your kind words. I have some anger and bitterness about her and how little she gave to the kids and I but we will be okay. The sooner she is out of the house the better.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/21 04:20 PM
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I think you may be correct. My son is 15 so I doubt he’ll be calling anyone else mom but fancy dinners and a sex in the city lifestyle is going to be more difficult for a 44 year old woman. She still looks pretty good but the clock is ticking. My son knows who is moving out and who is taking care of him. Right now I just want the best for him.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/21 02:48 PM
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Mine surrounded herself with divorce porn. I saw it on her laptop screensavers. Little sayings like: “there is no greater pain than being stuck where you no longer belong.” Or, “start over, dear. Seek the life you desire and have the courage to pursue it.” She told me she is a strong, empowered woman. Gee, that’s great. Meanwhile, you are abandoning our son and me so you can pursue a high rise apartment and eating in fancy restaurants? It sounds less like empowerment and more like hedonism. And …
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/21 06:46 AM
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I’m going from a 4 bed/5 bath dream home to a dingy 2 bed apt but my son will be living with me so I’m okay with it.
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/21 01:15 AM
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It’s okay to cry. I’ve done a lot of it the past week as I work thru my divorce. Eventually grief morphs into acceptance. You will get there. And then you will focus on your kid and yourself. Most women have a manipulative side but they can’t keep it hidden forever. I’d highly recommend you follow your attorney’s advice. Good luck, buddy🙏🤞
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/21 01:08 AM
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There are a lot of competing pathologies: selfish, greedy, cold, obsessed with beauty, money, and perfect love, believes she is special and superior to others but presents herself as a kind, patient, generous and insightful soul. I have been slowly drained of myself after 20 years with her..
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/21 07:32 PM
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I’m in the same boat. My wife is a strong covert narcissist who has surrounded herself with self help/self improvement pursuits most of which are divorce porn from what I’ve seen. We have been very successful over the last several years and should have $600-700K liquid but she is a shopaholic and we have not much to show for it except a big house neither of us wants. I’m getting custody of our son, thank god. I don’t think she ever really loved me because most narcissists can’t really love someb…
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/21 02:39 PM
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My STBXW is 43. When menopause hits, it should be fun to watch…from afar..
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/21 01:35 AM
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Good luck, anonymous friend. You will prevail.
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/21 02:04 AM
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Your analogy is spot on: it is like being slow boiled where the temperature gets hotter over the course of months or years. I’ve been w/my wife for 20 years. We decided on divorce 2 days ago. It sounds like your ex is more of an overt narcissist while mine is a covert. Not sure which is worse since a covert will suck the life out of you over a longer time horizon. Yours sounds like one of the most extreme examples I’ve ever come across. So sorry, my man. And you had to go to the hell of the Midd…
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/21 01:39 AM
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We are both in real estate, too. High wage earners but she is a spender. We should have a million dollars in the bank but don’t. One of the things I’m looking forward to is re-gaining my financial independence. While I don’t think she cheated, I suspect she has already lined up my replacement.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/21 11:24 PM
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I read every word. Yours sounds like an extreme example. I’m going to share my story when I get home from work. You are not alone…not by a long shot.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/21 10:34 PM
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I really needed to hear this. My wife and I are divorcing after 20 years. We both make good money but mine is commission only and hers is salary plus commission. She has made more than me the last few years. I was convinced I was going to have to move into an apartment even going so far as to visit a couple of nearby complexes. It would be easier for her to make the payments. We have a 16 year old son. When we agreed to divorce, she said she wanted me to stay in the house so as to minimize the d…
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/21 08:51 PM
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You are welcome to PM/DM me if you’d like (not sure if the difference).
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/21 01:47 AM
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My divorce journey officially started last night. This is all great advice and I am saving this for future reference. Wish me luck!
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/21 01:17 AM
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I am right there with you, friend. My wife and I had the talk last night - we are getting a divorce. Here is the rub: I have been the least important person in her life during our 20 years together. She was always there for her friends, co-workers, employees, bosses, but never for the kids and I (she is a covert narcissist). I have been unhappy for more of our years together than not. But the ease and coldness with which she discussed her intent to leave was disappointing. She is at the height o…
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/21 01:12 AM
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I sent this to my 16 year old son. He said, “That’s sad.” I replied, “Because it’s true.”
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/21 12:41 AM
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I’ve been with my wife for 20 years. I’m in the same boat: probably 5 or 6 very clear markers for covert narcissism. Now that I am aware of it, it’s time for her to devalue and discard me for someone else. I know it will hurt when she gets the new guy (and it likely won’t take long) but then I realize that he will end up as miserable as I have been for the last several years. I hope she can find whomever/whatever she is looking for but she won’t. That void will always be there and I won’t be the…
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/21 07:10 PM
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Congratulations - how is your son handling it?
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/21 01:58 AM
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So glad to know there is life on the other side of being married to a wife who is a covert narcissist. I am on my way out, too. Best of luck to you.
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/21 04:46 AM
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This is great, man. I am really happy for you. Hoping my soon-to-be divorce will leave me a better man as well. My best to you.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/21 06:08 AM
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I wish us both lots of luck! Pls let me know how it works out. Your experience will help me as I prep for my divorce. I do have a question for you: does your wife pour all her energy into carefully curating a reputation as a kind, giving, generous person whose dark side is reserved for you only? Our social circle all love her so it’s going to be awkward when people ask me why we split up… For your situation, I’d suggest a nanny cam or two for around the house and maybe an audio recorder. Documen…
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/21 09:22 PM
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I can only offer my experience for what it might be worth. I didn’t know it at the time but I married a covert narcissist. She is obsessed with self improvement to the point where the kids and I are not even in her head/heart anymore. It started off innocently enough: Tony Robbins books, real estate and stock seminars, meditation. But it has grown increasingly bizarre over the years: there was the guy on YouTube who claimed to be from another time/dimension, past lives regression kooks, she read…
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/21 06:52 PM
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I’m married to a female covert narcissist and I am quite confident we will be getting a divorce rather soon. Please DM me if you need somebody to talk to/vent. People who aren’t familiar with narcissists don’t fully understand how skilled they are at manipulation. What clued you in to her narcissism?
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/21 06:31 PM
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She wouldn’t spare my feelings by hiding it. She would enjoy telling me to see it crush me. That is the difference a narcissist brings to the table...
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/21 04:44 PM
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I know what an alpha widow is and she and I both had a past. I met her alpha and he’s no alpha...but she clearly cared more about him than me... We paid for this vacation before Covid hit plus she makes more than me. If she is truly a covert narcissist, she isn’t looking to milk me for money for but for Narcissistic Supply. That is all that truly matters to a narcissist. They are a different breed of human - more manipulative than you can imagine and utterly ruthless. I agree, however, that I sh…
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/21 05:53 AM
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Thanks. It’s late tonight but I will take you up on your offer (I’m in TX, too)!
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/21 05:46 AM
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Same boat here - the kids and I never see her and she would rather go out with friends or co-workers than come home to us…I’ll never understand that as long as I live.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/21 03:56 AM
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Forgot to mention: I bought a copy of The Rational Male for each of my sons👍
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/21 10:28 PM
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Yes to this. At this point I’m more trying to come to terms with my loss than rekindle her dead desire…
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/21 10:20 PM
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I read that quote elsewhere: “Desire can’t be negotiated.” I agree and don’t think we will be able to salvage it.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/21 09:23 PM
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Thanks for sharing. My youngest is 15 and I think he will be fine🤞. I am glad that this didn’t happen earlier in life since my parents divorced when I was 7 and I didn’t fully understand it. That is also one of the reasons I don’t want a divorce but as someone else in this group pointed out, you can’t negotiate desire. I have a great therapist and have suggested we both go or go individually with the idea of working towards joint sessions. I don’t really see it happening, though. My best to you,…
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/21 11:20 PM
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That is so very good to hear. I’m happy for you and all involved! My brain knows it’s the right thing to do but my heart isn’t cooperating...
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/21 08:26 PM
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I really needed to hear this! My wife doesn’t love me anymore and I know what’s coming, probably in 1-3 months. I’m a bit older at 54, but I am still in good shape (gym 4-5 days a week) and not so worried if a woman is interested or not. Ive already started or been doing some of these things. I certainly am happy for you, internet stranger, and want to thank you for your post💪. I will post my story once it becomes official. This subreddit has been of enormous comfort..
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/21 07:50 PM
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You’re a fucking master! Congratulations, MAN!
/r/MGTOW227/10/20 02:25 AM
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Great summary!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen15/04/20 05:16 AM
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Great stuff! Every young woman should be forced to memorize this as a condition of graduating high school.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/03/20 02:17 PM
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Exactly this!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen27/01/20 08:40 PM
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This exactly. Thin, hot and fertile at 24. By 25 they’re a 55-gallon drum with legs..
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen25/01/20 01:56 AM
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Yeah, I think she got fucked in the ass by James Deen. $5,000? I’ll give you 98 cents and a Diet Coke - and you’re getting the better deal. Skank...
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen20/01/20 05:50 AM
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