Another one ...

thefudmaster · 2021-06-16T10:26:38+00:00

What is your lawyer telling you? You need to have a digital recorder on you at all times, and record every single interaction that you have with her. She is trying to weaponize the police against you, and you have to have proof as a weapon in court. My guess is that you could use this evidence against her and have a psychological evaluation conducted on her.

You also need to have a nest cam hidden in the room that you sleep in. Do not tell her about this. Pay for the subscription so that you have video back up, which will show that you were not being abusive. Also, have audio recorder‘s going at all times. Also, go to Home Depot or Lowe’s and buy a keypad lock to put on the door of the room you are sleeping in.

From this point forward, no conversations about anything, even the divorce to her. Only speak about matters relating to the child. Do not get heated, always be even keel, and don’t give her any rope to hang out with. Her wild behavior is going to continue until the judge stops her.

LongTimeOn · 2021-06-16T12:58:07+00:00

Seems like you have taken the basic steps to protect yourself by buying audio recorders. Also consider a body cam that will record on a loop and has a button to save events (like the police use). Body language and context is half the battle here. If she's screaming at you to stay away from her and you're 15ft away, it shows she's trying to manipulate the situation, probably knowing you have an audio device. Evidence can be your saviour and her undoing. Maybe get your lawyer to join you talking to the cops about the false allegations so that it's on record that she's abusing the legal system, that you will have evidence and that the police need to understand you will act within the law. Obviously your lawyer needs to advice you here, as the police often are NOT your friend at all. You need to establish a narrative of malicious false accusation on her part, so that when it comes time in court to present to the judge, you have an overwhelming body of proof that she's trying to destroy your relationship with your son, against the best interests of the child. If you have no physical altercations then she will have zero evidence to refute yours.

MartyMcFly7 · 2021-06-16T16:53:48+00:00

It's definitely a delicate and difficult situation. I've experienced this with my older kids. Mothers are often the primary caregivers, and when you separate, they can sometimes take on a more protective role and try to force you out (possibly ensuring they get more custody).

First of all, consult your attorney. But you might try sending a text (so you have it in writing) requesting time with your son independent from her, and ask what kind of schedule would work best for her. Be understanding, professional and courteous, and assume a judge will read this text at some point.

If she says yes, you can negotiate separate hours. If she refuses, you have evidence that she is trying to alienate you and is refusing to allow you to co-parent. At this point, you'd contact your attorney and possibly file an emergency motion.

Unless the court has ordered otherwise, you have as much right to spend time with your son as she does.

sicrm · 2021-06-16T22:31:49+00:00

ask your lawyer what you’re allowed to record and get STD and DNA tests if you haven’t already.

this kind of behavior is very odd.

Title	Another one ...
Author	redditburner4me
Upvotes	17
Comments	16
Date	June 16, 2021 9:58 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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