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5

Drop her. Don’t look back.
/r/MensRights06/07/25 02:22 AM
4

Figure out where your feelings of inadequacy come from. Get your testosterone checked, and get it up. In the meantime, work hard and have a good attitude.
/r/askTRP03/06/21 03:45 AM
1

For most guys, I would recommend: Man up and start a family. Being a husband and a father is just about the most alpha thing a man can do.
/r/askTRP06/04/21 01:48 AM
11

I have been there, brother. I am there. Her love for you endures. And someone else will love you unconditionally. Your children.
/r/askTRP05/04/21 03:32 AM
9

Write an ebook and coach people to do what you did.
/r/askTRP14/12/20 02:27 AM
1

They are women. End of story. If you really want to know, they are jealous their co-worker is getting laid and they aren’t. It has nothing to do with you. Again, find a new job.
/r/askTRP02/12/20 10:02 PM
14

Once you started sleeping with one of them, you opened the door for drama. Find a new job.
/r/askTRP02/12/20 06:31 PM
2

“Oh, do you want to make me dinner?”
/r/askTRP01/12/20 04:01 AM
3

Good for you brother. No good advice but to meditate between now and then. Practice your breathing, and be ready to take deep breaths during the hearing to keep your emotions steady. And focus on facts and details. She will try to drag you into her emotional whirlwind, but you are almost clear! You are a tree with deep roots, and she will not take you down.
/r/askTRP01/12/20 03:58 AM
18

Stay the course, young man. You are doing the right things, and sowing seeds that will soon begin to produce. The associates you lost were not really friends. And you lost them because they did not have the courage to improve that you have. But finally you are developing the capacity for true friendship. You will begin to see this soon. Good luck.
/r/askTRP26/11/20 03:55 AM
167

You are not overreacting. It doesn’t sound like either of them makes your life better.
/r/askTRP14/11/20 03:38 AM
7

Go to the gym and find the squat rack. Enlightenment lies underneath.
/r/askTRP10/11/20 01:20 AM
12

There is nothing more alpha than raising alpha sons, and daughters who can bear them.
/r/askTRP03/10/20 11:49 AM
8

I’m sorry dude. That is brutal. I’m glad to hear you are on your way back from rock bottom. The one thing I hope younger gents take away from the story: Do not marry the mother of someone else’s child. Women with kids will say or do anything to be protected. Do not let them manipulate you into doing the job another man wouldn’t.
/r/askTRP01/10/20 02:38 AM
3

Couples therapy = it’s over. Don’t waste your time or money.
/r/askTRP27/09/20 12:27 AM
2

A month is not a long time. Not long enough to be jumping into anything. If you like her and want to keep hanging out with her but still see other people, say that.
/r/askTRP13/09/20 04:14 AM
1

You’ve been dating for a year, and she says you don’t take her around your parents. Maybe she wanted to know if you were into marrying her?
/r/askTRP02/09/20 03:13 AM
3

Life is long. A lot can happen. You changed, so he can too. But I would recommend that you set the terms of the relationship from here on out. If he wants to hang with you, it’s to lift or do something else productive.
/r/askTRP02/09/20 02:15 AM
10

This is the right answer. On the first date she is barking orders at you? No. How a woman worth pursuing would have played it: Wait in the car. Until you look at her, and she smiles sweetly back. And you realize she is asking you gently to do her this kindness, and making it flirtatious.
/r/askTRP29/08/20 02:39 AM
3

Sounds like you’re the plate and she’s spinning you.
/r/askTRP23/06/20 11:32 AM
6

Do you want to have friends, or do you want to have rules?
/r/askTRP23/06/20 11:30 AM
3

Why would you leave all of that to come to an American university where they will try to make you hate yourself as a man? Unless you are going to MIT to study engineering, or something like that, stay in paradise.
/r/askTRP21/06/20 04:17 AM
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I’m sorry, friend. I have a good friend on a ventilator with COVID now, and I’m waiting for the same call. When I lost my mother ten years ago, to a bad fentanyl patch, it helped me to find a grief counselor. Maybe there is some kind of grief support group or Al-Anon you could go to. You need help now, anybody would. And it’s ok to seek it. Finally, It sounds like maybe you don’t have a father in the picture. Look for strong male figures who can mentor you. I did not have that, and I learned onl…
/r/askTRP12/05/20 01:40 AM
2

Fair enough. The important part about journaling is not simply the writing. It is, instead, to develop a habit of challenging and reframing negative thought patterns. Also, do your best to be social. I have been depressed before and I know those times were the hardest times to be social. But those relationships can help raise you up.
/r/askTRP28/01/20 12:17 AM
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Lashing out at people who respond when you ask for advice is not going to help you. Journaling is not the same as cognitive behavioral therapy, which is what I explained to you (without using the name). If you just write down all of you shitty thoughts, you are going to continue to have a shitty mindset. And if you continue to lash out at people who try to help you, you will find yourself alone... which I imagine is a big part of your problem.
/r/askTRP27/01/20 01:44 PM
11

Journal. Write down things you are grateful for, and things you’ve accomplished. Also, write down some of your negative thoughts, then write about why they are wrong or inaccurate or unfair.
/r/askTRP27/01/20 12:08 PM
34

Lift. Eat right. Work hard. Sell your product or yourself. Repeat. Do this for a few weeks and you won’t have time to stew over your past. Do it for a year and you’ll be a new person.
/r/MGTOW04/12/19 01:49 PM
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My comment isn’t about lifting, but about the conversation. If you do make a move, and you are rejected, think about the tone you will use when you tell her you are going to the gym. You probably shouldn’t let it be a harsh or angry tone. That might reinforce any belief she might have that she can control you with her pussy. Maybe just a shrug of the shoulders... “Ok, well then I’m going to the gym. See you later.” That should be enough to invoke dread.
/r/askTRP03/12/19 10:17 PM
2

How are you doing today?
/r/MensRights14/05/19 03:41 PM
15

First, call the suicide prevention hotline, 1-800-273-8255. You deserve help. Second, remember this is a big world. You may not have found your group yet, but they are out there. Don’t lose hope. Third, if you can I recommend you find a place to lift weights. This will help you in so many ways. Exercise immediately lifts your mood. Seeing your body get stronger will give you a sense of accomplishment and pride. Physical strength will also change the way people think about you. You were put on th…
/r/MensRights14/05/19 02:38 AM
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No, you are not a simp. A simp is someone who believes he has no control over himself, his environment, his relationships. It is true that culturally, women have become much more spoiled, bitter, and unpleasant in the past few decades. There are fewer of them worth spending time with. It is also true that legally, marriage is a much riskier proposition than ever before. But there are decent women out there who can enrich your life. And you are capable of rising to the occasion of being the leade…
/r/MGTOW20/04/19 10:51 PM
1

Yeah, totally inappropriate. I’m not sure how you can prepare for that kind of grilling. Either way she is not responsible for her parents. Maybe it can’t work out, but it seems like you helped her get a little bit out from under their thumb at least.
/r/askTRP22/03/19 08:13 PM
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I kind of think you’ll regret this. Not a lot of high quality, wealthy, virgin women out there. And it seems like you may have lied pretty blatantly to her parents to make yourself out to be much less successful than you are. Seems strange to go that far out of the way to pretend you are poor. She was probably left defending you to her parents after their (inappropriate) grilling of you, and she may be devastated that she lost you.
/r/askTRP22/03/19 01:10 AM
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See a male therapist. Join a gym and lift weights. It will be a good way to deal with stress and to meet other men. Take care brother.
/r/askTRP13/03/19 10:12 PM
5

Ignore.
/r/askTRP10/03/19 05:28 PM
7

Sassy.
/r/MGTOW09/03/19 06:29 PM
19

Troll.
/r/MGTOW09/03/19 11:58 AM
179

Whoa. Glad you’re ok. Six guy friends... huge red flag.
/r/MGTOW09/03/19 04:03 AM
1

I think you are on to something. A person hasn’t really gone their own way, hasn’t really left something behind, if they are still motivated by their hatred of that thing. I don’t know what else to say about it, other than this: Red-pilled men can focus on our anger about what we lost living under the blue pill, or we could focus on what we have gained by taking the red pill. But doing the latter is harder because it forces us to ask who we should be as men. It is always easier not to grow.
/r/MGTOW17/02/19 07:37 PM
5

The death of 400,000 strong, brave, fit, virile men in WWII must have left us with fewer strong male role models, and with a weaker gene pool.
/r/askTRP02/01/19 06:01 PM
1

Maybe there’s a bro near you with a home gym. Wouldn’t it be great if this was more than just a virtual community?
/r/askTRP01/01/19 06:47 PM
3

I have a son with my second wife. Fatherhood is the best experience of my life. Marriage after taking the red pill has been great. Here are a few thoughts, in case they are valuable to you. I wish I had known of the red pill before my first marriage. The red pill helped me to set expectations for our relationship, and any future family, with my current wife, well before we were married. That process of expectation setting helped her to see me as strong, as a leader, as an alpha. I did not marry …
/r/MGTOW21/12/18 04:16 AM
3

Obviously I have no idea what your parents’ custody arrangements are, but you are old enough for them, and the court, to consider your wishes. Good luck.
/r/MensRights14/12/18 08:11 PM
4

You say that you don’t get to see your dad often, though he is a great person. As a new father, this makes me profoundly sad to hear. By your writing, you seem very mature — certainly mature enough to communicate with, and even choose to see, your father. I hope you do find a way to deepen your relationship with your father. Nothing can replace that bond, for father or for son. Good luck.
/r/MensRights14/12/18 06:48 PM
3

But she’ll find a way to believe in divorcing you.
/r/MGTOW14/12/18 05:33 PM
6

Narcissism.
/r/askTRP14/12/18 03:17 AM
5

I wonder if anyone commenting on this thread has a son. My lesson to my son is this: Every man should take the red pill. Some men should go their own way. (But let’s not forget that going one’s own way can sometimes mean being cowardly.) You, son, should develop the alpha traits necessary to win a woman worthy to bear your children, and to hold her to the standards your children deserve. It is not easy, and there is no guarantee you will be successful. That’s why it takes courage.
/r/MGTOW13/12/18 02:31 AM
0

How can anybody answer what went wrong if you don’t say what you wanted out of the relationship?
/r/askTRP12/12/18 07:14 PM
1

Lift. Pursue your own goals. Don’t give a thought to what is going on in the minds or the feelz of a woman.
/r/askTRP06/12/18 04:11 PM
1

You are a moron and a jackass. Leave the guy alone.
/r/askTRP05/12/18 04:08 PM
1

Are you a psychiatrist? If you are not, then you need to stop giving medical advice. OP is bipolar. Do you have any idea what that means? And you’re going to bitch at him because he is not listening to your reasoning? It is better for everybody if you just leave him alone.
/r/askTRP05/12/18 02:23 PM
1

Jesus, people, lay off OP. None of you knows a goddamn thing about the medication he is on, or about the consequences of adjusting it. When my brother went on meds like this he had the same rapid weight gain. But it beats being manic. So if you don’t have anything helpful to say, say nothing. OP, sorry about your situation. Seems like your doctors are handling things ok, so that’s good. Meditation, mindfulness, and journaling may help you, too. Maybe volunteering would be a way both to help you …
/r/askTRP05/12/18 06:48 AM
2

Pregnant at a chipotle. Is this why the other guy puts hot sauce in his condoms?
/r/askTRP05/12/18 06:34 AM
3

Make sure to bill them for the exit interview. Don’t say anything about your replacement. “If you need my services at a later date, here is how you can reach me.”
/r/askTRP30/11/18 11:31 PM
1

You’re getting good advice here. Be grateful for the sacrifices your father has made for you, and patient with his flaws. Be focused on improving yourself. (This includes being aware of the negative lessons you may have learned at home, and changing your thinking.) Be an example to your brother. Find other good male role models.
/r/askTRP30/11/18 07:39 PM
2

Sorry dude, this is rough. I had a similar revelation that my dad was beta after my mom died. He decided he couldn’t be on his own and found a new woman within a few months. I told him he should date around when the time was right, but that he was probably too emotionally raw to start yet. He accused me of not wanting him to be happy. Our relationship has been almost nonexistent since. But enough about me. ;-) The lesson I took from all of this is that my dad was so beta, nothing I did in that s…
/r/askTRP30/11/18 03:47 AM
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Might want to edit your phrasing here.
/r/MGTOW30/11/18 02:40 AM
1

Instagram... Isn’t that for chicks?
/r/askTRP28/11/18 03:05 AM
1

I agree with those who say he gave you good advice. Part of taking the Red Pill for a man is realizing it is a mistake to look to women for fulfillment. Instead, we have to find fulfillment through setting and teaching our own goals. I think your psychiatrist was encouraging you to apply that lesson... get out your journal, write down a few goals, and act. (Red Pill men act, rather than over analyze.) When you are busy doing things that advance your goals, you will attract the right kinds of peo…
/r/askTRP28/11/18 02:22 AM
1

She sounds immature and lacking in self-confidence. (Probably has daddy issues too.) You don’t owe her an explanation if you decide not to see her again. But she’s probably fragile emotionally, and, personally, I think the most Red Pill way of treating women is to leave them better than you found them. At least don’t be harsh on the way out.
/r/askTRP25/11/18 03:41 PM
0

She doesn’t sound like girlfriend material to me.
/r/askTRP24/11/18 06:34 PM
3

Yeah, she seems like a sociopath to me, too. I’d like to see OP “break up” with her over it. Shame her for it — which she deserves — and throw her out of the social circle. She has somehow learned that it is OK to be entirely self-centered and narcissistic, to the point of lacking any empathy for the suffering of a fellow human being. She is, literally, anti-social.
/r/askTRP23/11/18 03:23 PM
1

Uncomfortable for who? For you? Surely you would rather have the discomfort of a conversation over the ongoing discomfort of being the butt of his jokes. For him? Who gives a damn about him. As a man, you are responsible for creating your own circumstances and reality. Sometimes that means conflict. It can be hard, but this is where you learn to respect yourself. Then others learn to respect you. Good luck.
/r/askTRP22/11/18 12:04 PM
1

Men can be rough on each other, as is apparent in this thread. Women can be rougher on us. First, good for you for working on your physique. Keep doing it. But don’t do it for women. Do it for yourself. When you do it for yourself, for your own satisfaction, to achieve your own goals, that’s when you will get mental improvement to go with physical improvement. Also, remember that women are not like men. Average women will give you obvious indications of interest. Women who get a lot of attention…
/r/askTRP21/11/18 02:51 AM
2

Oneitis is closely related to a lack of self esteem. If a man doesn’t think he is worth love, he will do anything to stay in even a shitty relationship. OP should be kicking this girl out or moving out himself, lifting, fixing his diet and mindset, and sharpening his game.
/r/askTRP18/11/18 07:18 AM
2

I think you got caught in a double standard. She thinks it is ok to call you a hoe, but you can’t call her that — especially in writing that her friend can read. It seems like she needed to save her reputation in front of her friend, and that’s why she went off so fast. In any event, you can’t cave now.
/r/askTRP13/11/18 03:34 AM
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Honestly, it wouldn’t surprise me if she had been sexually assaulted in the past, or if she had been promiscuous earlier in life and was ashamed of it. Of course there are other explanations, but she may be carrying some baggage. If it were me, I would let her know I’d see her again when she is ready, then let her explain the situation. I would also get on with my dating life in the meantime. Good luck.
/r/askTRP13/11/18 03:19 AM
2

Good for you, bro. I like that you are self-aware and letting your head guide your heart. It is hard to do, and I’m sure a lot of us here, myself included, didn’t do it in our own lives and made a lot of mistakes as a result! Learn from our fails. ;-)
/r/askTRP11/11/18 04:47 PM
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This girl is a drama queen. She is using you and all these other guys for her own amusement. Beware.
/r/askTRP11/11/18 02:49 PM
5

Yeah, she lied to you multiple times. You have to assume she was going to the party, with this group of friends, for a reason they all knew going in. You don’t owe her another word. Also, you mention she may be good wife material... good wife material is at least five years younger than you. Mine is ten years younger. Do not compromise here.
/r/askTRP07/11/18 06:56 PM
1

A few questions that may help you: Do you want children? Do you want children soon? Do you think she would be a good mother to your children? If so, maybe you want to rethink things. Others may disagree with me, but I feel that having a son is the most alpha, Red Pill thing I’ve ever done. I believe the urge to procreate is in our nature. The problem with the Blue Pill is that women take it to subvert nature. They ride the carousel, have their careers, then hit the wall and are barren and bitter…
/r/askTRP05/11/18 11:43 PM
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Grow up.
/r/askTRP05/11/18 12:38 PM
2

Every woman is prone to emotionally charged drama. Usually it is a cry for attention. What you describe could be just silly quirks, or it could be complete obliviousness to reality. In any case you have to decide what you are willing to put up with. You are young still. When my son is your age I will advise him not to date anyone exclusively unless he is interviewing her to be the mother of his children. If not, keep the connection loose.
/r/askTRP03/11/18 11:18 PM
1

I was assuming you were in the US, where college is irredeemably corrupt!
/r/askTRP03/11/18 09:13 PM
6

Well, at least you dodged a bullet with her. Count your blessings.
/r/askTRP03/11/18 06:37 PM
5

Journaling has helped me to change my perspective on things. It was always easy for me to let the comments of others dominate my thinking. Journaling helps me reframe these comments. “So-and-so thinks X about me. But so-and-so is just a jerk, or doesn’t know my real goal, so it is ok for me to ignore their comment. And let me take this chance to refocus on my goals for today.” Win each day, brother. Even if they feel like small wins, they add up.
/r/askTRP03/11/18 05:24 PM
1

Is the man she accused of rape unaware that she accused him of rape? By “expose,” do you mean tell the man she cheated on you with that she accused him of rape? If yes to both, a calm and discreet conversation with the other man might be in order - one bro trying to help another bro out. But only if you could have the conversation without coming off as jealous or vindictive, or as actually believing her.
/r/askTRP03/11/18 05:17 PM
7

Her roommate may even have been conspiring to get you alone with her. But don’t assume this gal will start being nice to you again.
/r/askTRP03/11/18 04:51 PM
1

I work in higher ed. I strongly advise you not to go to college!!!! At least not immediately. College is a cynical system by which you go into debt for the purpose of your own brainwashing. They promise you a high paying job, but that rarely occurs. (And those fortunate enough to get high-paying corporate jobs are forced to play by the rules of the identity politics system, however they are being applied on any given day.) You should only go if you are dead set on a career in the sciences. I rec…
/r/askTRP03/11/18 04:45 PM
1

Yeah. No offense, but there is such a thing as being too young to be in a relationship. At any rate, this girl is a mess, and you owe it to yourself not to let yourself get dragged into someone else’s problems. Tell her you don’t think you are ready for a relationship. Then work on yourself for a while.
/r/askTRP02/11/18 07:15 PM
2

Agreed. Also agree with others who raised question about “LTR.” Don’t respond to her text, ignore anything else that comes from her, and don’t communicate with her anymore.
/r/askTRP01/11/18 06:35 PM
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First, if you still believe in “true love,” you haven’t taken the red pill. “True love” is the phrase women use to describe the feeling they get when they’ve found the man they see as their alpha and their brains are flooded with oxytocin. Take the red pill, and stop looking for “true love.” Instead, figure out what you want from women. If you want a woman so you don’t feel lonely and insecure, STOP! They will destroy you, even if they are not trying to.
/r/askTRP29/10/18 08:04 PM
1

This is good advice. In addition to reminding yourself you got dealt a bad hand, also remind yourself that you did nothing to deserve the abuse you received. Nothing. And after what your parents have put you through you owe them nothing. Nothing. You deserve happiness. Nobody is going to hand it to you; you’ll have to fight for it, even if it means building a new life at a safe distance from your family. But you deserve it.
/r/askTRP17/10/18 02:18 AM
1

Be confident in yourself for your own sake.
/r/askTRP07/10/18 12:23 PM
1

I worked at an organization with two transgendered employees. One regularly spent time during work hours in social media writing derogatory posts about religious people on social media - including posts targeting some who were friendly to the organization. The other, at one point, just didn’t show up to work for a week, without requesting vacation time or notifying manager about sick time. When that employee was confronted, the explanation was “I needed the time for my mental health.”
/r/MensRights02/04/18 03:54 PM
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