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85

My ex said the same shit and when he finally did go down on me it was terrible….
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 09:49 AM
10

Ugh I used to LOVE Playboy back in ‘04-‘05 (freshman year of HS) now they look gross and tacky to me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 12:30 AM
20

Honestly…depression was the main factor. I was sad about being single and genuinely believed he had changed (how many of us are the same person from HS?) and wanted to give him a second chance. That relationship should have STAYED in HS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 01:06 PM
178

Ex from HS. We were on and off our freshman and sophomore year, mainly on his end. After sophomore year, we kept fooling around cuz I still had hardcore feelings for him and he knew that. After HS, I deliberately fell out of touch with him because he treated me terribly the 4 years we were in school together. Fast forward to 26, I was single and depressed all my friends were getting engaged and married and he sends me a message, we talk and he asks me out, apologizing for the way he treated me i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 11:53 PM
21

I went to a gaming convention with my ex (shared interest). Before the convention, he said how broke he was and blah blah blah. When we got to the convention, suddenly he wasn’t broke anymore and spent a small fortune there. Then accused me of “pocket watching” because I was pissed he spent that much on that shit but couldn’t do anything with me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 03:38 PM
29

My ex tried this this past November. Idk how you treat the person you claim to “love” like shit and then beg for them back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 05:24 PM
39

I believe this is why my ex literally kept contacting me 6 years after high school. I gave him a chance due to depression and I wish I hadn’t. Lesson learned
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 05:10 PM
12

Was complaining about my ex in a thread and someone sent me a link. Suddenly everything clicked and I was validated on my anger
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 05:01 PM
24

Oh god this describes my experience with my ex to a tee
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 01:18 AM
44

Back in November 2021, he asked to hang out and said he wasn’t getting any younger, he wanted a stable relationship, and he was ready to settle down. He is tired of being single. I just told him I’m not interested and good luck finding someone else. It’s funny cuz when I deleted him off all my SM, he called me petty and jealous and told me to grow up cuz it had happened while he was on a date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 12:30 PM
5

This was when I had (then undiagnosed) pneumonia. I stupidly stayed one more year after this, but this was definitely the beginning of the end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 11:51 AM
4

My ex used to try to come over before wok like it’s a ret stop, then got “sad” when I said no
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 08:24 PM
29

Yes. Chalked up our teen years to emotional immaturity. Also I was depressed that I was 26 and single while my classmates were married and having babies. Dated him from 26-29, and ended it because he was flaky and cheap but was so comfortable trying to get me over his house for sex. Did “stay friends” on SM, but last year decided to delete him cuz I wanted actual people I loved to see me, he found out immediately and called me jealous and petty cuz “he was on date and I must have been so pressed…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 11:02 PM
11

Constantly. It took me telling my friends that my ex used to drive to empty lots at night and literally “cmon please” me to death and see the look on their face that that wasn’t common
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 04:47 PM
9

Congratulations! How did you lose the 35 pounds? Was it weights, cardio, or a combination of both?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 07:20 PM
60

That, even thought I’m a homebody, I do like to go out. My ex used to come up with excuses as to why he had to cancel after asking me to go out with him. Now that I reconnected with friends (life just got in the way) we literally hang out every weekend and I don’t feel drained and anxious (maybe cuz my friends ain’t trying to coerce me into sex).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 01:43 AM
5

Damn this was my ex SPOT ON! 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 11:16 AM
33

My ex definitely didn’t expect me to dump him when he went cold and didn’t see me for 4 months (pre-Covid) under the guise of being “busy”. When I told him I was ended it, his “busy” schedule opened up and he had time to see me!😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 09:16 AM
286

I feel like she’s only doing this because when she was 18, she was preyed upon by that Brian guy (her first husband) and never really got a chance to experience life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 02:35 AM
15

My ex used to give me no foreplay, shove a flaccid penis in me dry, and then take me to empty parking lots at night after our “dates” (if you wanna call them that) and literally beg for blowjobs. Now he’s single and wonders why I refuse to get back together with him. It got so bad that when I broke up with him, I definitely didn’t give the full details of why to my friends and family cuz I knew if they heard the full scope, he’d be dead
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 03:01 PM
5

He was “too busy” to take me out and spend time with me, but not too busy to hang out with his friends or text me when he wanted to stop by for sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 02:45 PM
29

Dated my ex for 3 years. We only really did movies (on AMC Tuesdays) and the occasional dinner. Ended it September 2019 when, during that summer, he saw me twice from May to September and texted me to, not take me out or do anything, but to come over and “get eaten out”, “hang out” or “fuck”. He circled back this year and I told him nah
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 02:17 AM
250

Men who hate on women who are happy in their relationships. Just unfriended a dude I dated a while back for reposting a video of a man surprising his gf with a trip and saying “she’s probably fucking other men while she’s with him!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 10:17 PM
13

I took oxy once for a wisdom tooth removal and that shit had me fucked up all day. Mom saw how I was reacting to it, and dumped the pills while I was sleeping.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 10:21 AM
5

Yeah. After college, all my friends started to get in relationships, engaged, or married and I got depressed seeing their pics on SM. It led me back into a relationship with a old high school ex because “high school was 10 years ago and he’s changed!” In reality, I just wanted anyone, just to say I was in a relationship. Long story short, that relationship was a mistake. I was constantly groped, ignored (unless he wanted sex), and when he did wanna go out, it was only movies on Tuesday. Ended up…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 10:18 AM
17

My ex circled back and said this exact same phrase. Why would I let a man who played me at 16 and I 26 come back and play me at 31? He thought shit was sweet over here😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 08:56 PM
45

All me and my ex did was last minute shit. He used to last minute date me on a Saturday and then when it came time to actually have the date, suddenly something came up and he had to cancel. Towards the end, I started seeing his shit for what it was and whenever he tried to pull the last minute shit, I’d tell him I’d already had plans. Didn’t change shit but the rose colored glasses started to come off and that’s when I knew it had to end cuz I started looking at him and getting disgusted lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 12:08 PM
32

Yep. I was friends with my ex in high school before we dated. Everything I loved as a friend became down right annoying when I dated him lol. I went from “wow I love your jokes, you’re funny” to “everything is a fucking joke to you, huh” when I try to bring up stuff that he said that I didn’t like under the guise of a “joke”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 10:05 PM
172

I couldn’t imagine being someone’s gf for 10 years with nothing moving forward. I did 3 and decided that was enough time. And of course he was just starting to turn his life around, meaning he was wasting her time for a while before this happened 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 10:46 AM
135

My ex ignoring me for 4 months and then texting me to come over and fuck. Broke up with him and haven’t laid eyes in him in 2 years but he recently tried to circle back under the guise of he’s a changed man and I was like “nah”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 09:54 PM
210

I have 2 full sleeve tattoos and the amount of both older men and women that like to neg me with “why would you do that to your body, your skin looked better before” or the classic Christian neg “I would never do that to my body because I’m religious”. Ok but like I don’t remember asking for your opinion on my tattoos…at ALL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 10:33 AM
81

When I was 13, my dad and I had a huge fight because I said “what’s up” instead of “good afternoon” when I got off the bus. He made me walk home at 4:30 in the dark (my mom was PISSED). He refused to pick me up after that (my parents are separated). One day when I was waiting for my mom (she had fridays off), an old guy walked past and said to his friend how sexy I looked in my school clothes. My mom told me to call my dad and tell him what happened, and ever since then, he was at that bus stop …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 11:25 AM
67

Yeah I felt insulted because he said “I’m 31, not getting any younger, and I’m too old to play games anymore so I want to MAYBE marry you and settle down”. Even my cousin was like wtf?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 01:59 AM
153

This might be controversial, but I’d say therapy. My ex circled back this week and asked me to date him again because “he was tired of being single, he went to therapy and he isn’t getting any younger so he wants to settle down and get married.” He was using therapy in a way that says “ok I’m fixed now let’s get back together” disregarding if I even wanted that. Also my friend had brought up a great point, if he had been in therapy and single for 2 years, he hasn’t had the opportunity to apply w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 11:27 PM
19

My cousin just passed and her “husband” (not legally married) insists he can’t work because he had surgery on his foot. My cousin was the breadwinner of the family and he had always worked low paying jobs (was a car washer, then he delivered pizzas, now he’s an Uber driver) and now the family is in a crisis because he doesn’t know how to support himself. It’s telling that, when she passed, the dental practice where she was a dental assistant paid for the whole service and gave the check to her b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 11:49 AM
114

When I hadn’t seen him in 4 months, and he asked when my day off was so we could fuck😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 06:46 PM
35

Right? Let’s not get greedy now🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 01:44 AM
19

Our old store manager was told in a meeting this happens to cashiers and he didn’t believe it until he went to every single woman in our store and asked…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 12:36 PM
31

As someone who works at HD, I’ve had to not put certain cashiers down in the lumber aisle because the customers will flirt with them ENDLESSLY and buy them food and write their phone numbers on the packages. Had one cashier get a brand new iPhone 7 from a contractor and 5 $100 gift cards because the contractor wanted her (he’s married)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 11:28 AM
18

My 2 male doctors misdiagnosed me (first one told me to wait it out, second told me it was bronchitis) before I saw a female doctor and was told I had pneumonia in my entire right lung. Thankfully I didn’t have to stay in the hospital but I was out for 2 weeks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 03:43 PM
7

Once I reconnected with my friends, the relationship lasted only 9 more months before I got tired of his shit and broke up with him 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 11:42 PM
6

Lol what a post to see days before my birthday. I blocked him on my SM so we’ll see if he reaches out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 09:10 AM
43

Listen, it’s been over a year and I’m still bitter at this man for chasing me for years, just to waste my time in the end. Finally deleted him off all my socials because I got tired of this idea of “me and my ex are cool”, like what he did (constantly groping me, only texting when the conversation is sexual, shit/no dates, 50/50) didn’t hurt and still affects me to this day (my friends have picked up that I HATE physical contact). I stayed “friends” to try to keep the peace, but I woke up and sa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 08:31 PM
129

I was like this. We barely went out (only to AMC $5 Tuesday’s) and he barely texted (under the guise of being “busy”). Even my family and friends picked up on the fact I barely liked him towards the end of my relationship. We never met each other’s friends, I met his mom once, he never met my parents (even after I told him several times). I was SO unhappy in the relationship. He probably thought the relationship was going well, because he had a gf that wouldn’t bother him, wouldn’t demand much o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 08:19 PM
87

The guy my mom was “seeing” (didn’t know at the time) would always come over to fix things or jumpstart the house when the power went down. After he stole a grand from my brother (at the time, he was saving up for a car) my mom got pissed and finally kicked him out. I found out my mom was having an affair, and we found out that since he’d left, nothing else has broken down meaning he was sabotaging things so that my mom would call him to come over so he’d look like Superman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 05:27 PM
26

My ex constantly bitched about how female so called best friend, how she was jealous that he was seeing all the marvel movies with me and not her, how she brags about her police salary, how she’s getting played by a Jamaican dude… He had tried to date her multiple times and she said no
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 11:32 AM
58

Yep. Dumped my ex because I’m the 3 years (🤡) that we dated, we literally did fuck all expect movies and dinner
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 12:24 AM
19

I LOVE comic con…but by myself where I can come and go as I please. I like doing what I want and leaving when I want, it wasn’t like he was buying me anything at these conventions, I had to hear how broke he was while watching him spend hundreds of dollars on comic book/anime shit and you had NO idea how much it pissed me off lol. Also even though I love that shit, I also love doing /watching other things, I can’t watch Marvel/DC/anime all damn day like he can, it’s the lowest common entertainme…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 11:21 PM
71

My ex used to take me on “dates” to the comic book store, then try to grab my ass in between the racks 😒. Most other “dates” consisted of me buying tickets to a convention, him asking if I was going, and then him buying his own ticket to tag along. We never did anything of substance and his excuse (when I ended it for those reasons) was “I was planning on, I was gonna, if you gave me more time we would have…” Blah blah blah never again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 11:06 PM
8

Started going to the gym 4x a week (2days upper, 2 days lower), eating better, and playing less video games (too busy with work and studying for grad school to do that)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 05:13 PM
109

I started working out and lost 10 pounds. Planning on going back to grad school once Covid settles down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 10:46 PM
27

Whew…trying to be the “cool girl” all the time was exhausting. Tried to be understanding, but it gets to the point where you gotta start being a “bitch” and that definitely happened the last 2 months in my relationship. I started arguing more. I know FDS says to delete conversations, but I kept the thread to remind myself how far I’ve come. I cringe whenever I re-read old conversations begging him to act right or spend some damn time with me but it shows that I’m progressing…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 10:38 PM
100

When I broke up with my ex for seeing me twice during the summer of ‘19, his excuse was “my schedule is just all over the place, I’m so busy with work.” Yet, he could text me to come over for sex😒 He also expected me to pity him cuz his poor friends kept making him hang out and he wanted to stay home. I told him “tell them no like you tell me no tf?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 01:50 PM
54

Yep. I invited my ex to my brothers wedding. Told him about it months in advance. Told him all important members of my family would be there and are looking forward to meeting him. When it came down to crunch time, his excuse was “I have to work I can’t take 2 days off”. After that, my parents HATED him and didn’t wanna be bothered with him after that. He kept texting me through out the event and I just ended up ignoring it because I didn’t wanna be in my phone all night with his stupid ass
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 01:38 PM
8

My former coworkers got into an age gap relationship with each other. He looked young, I got he was in his late 20s, early 30s. Turns out, he was in his 50s. He dated a coworker who, at the time, was new to the US and had just turned 18. He had met her parents and they said “you guys can be friends, but we don’t want no n-word babies”. After he broke up with her, he met another girl who was 21 at the same job. Married her and had kids. His other kids HATE her. Ended up buying a house together an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 07:58 PM
498

My ex used to slap his dick on my vagina like it was a pack of Newport’s😒😒 still never got hard
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 07:48 PM
152

Whew a WORD. Give an ugly guy a chance, and he starts treating you like you’re the ugly one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 05:17 PM
61

“Must inhale oxygen and exhale carbon dioxide”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 05:10 PM
4

This is why I’m so glad most of the people at my retail job assumes I was gay and didn’t hit on me lmfaoo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 04:13 PM
10

My ex wanted to stay friends after I ended it and I said ok. Staying “friends” meant he would hit me up to bitch about his best friend (who is a girl he tried to date multiple times in the past) being a cop and bragging about her salary. He also hit me up mid pandemic to “check on me”. This year, Valentine’s Day, I deleted him permanently while he happened to be on a date, and he threw a whole tantrum on his FB TL, calling me petty and jealous and telling me to grow up 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 06:58 PM
18

Same! My ex perused me, just to be flaky, hot/cold, and just an all around shit stain. We had anime/video games in common and that’s about it. My ex was constantly broke too and I would be wary about spending time with him because idk who was gonna pay. My ex caught me during my “I’m old and will never get married” depression phase and talked a good game. Stayed with him for 3 years being miserable. It’s funny, when I started hanging out with my friends I hadn’t seen in years and started describ…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 11:50 PM
5

My ex did this constantly to the point where I’d only seen him twice over the summer of 2019…was totally surprised when I ended it in September
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 01:24 PM
4

I deleted my ex this year, finally a year after I broke up with him. He wanted to remain “friends” (texting me whenever he felt like it). I kept him in my social media at first to be “nice” but I realized I didn’t wanna be friends with him. I can’t be friends with someone who disrespected and treated me like a doll he could put away and pick up when he felt like it. We would never go back to how we used to be because I truly hate him and hated seeing his face all over my profiles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 10:00 AM
2

When I thought I was locked out of my house, my ex (who lives with his parents) offered his house to stay at. Thank god I had a spare out because there is no way I’d feel comfortable sleeping over knowing how handsy he was
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 09:53 AM
48

My ex to a T. He even talked about how he had a crush on his girl BFF and how he tried to date her at one point. Found out after I broke up with him, he was making her paintings and gifts. He used to tell me how she was dating this Jamaican guy and how he was playing her blah blah blah…I wonder if she knew how much he resented the fact that she wasn’t dating him. Ended up breaking up with him after he didn’t see me for 4 months, the more I think about it, the more I think he was ditching me to h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 10:34 AM
32

Yep. When that wasn’t there, I was left alone for 4 months 🥲
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 09:45 AM
17

When him and Jennie broke up, I was hurt for her got DAYUM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 08:51 PM
5

Sounds about right. An old coworker of mine (Dominican) got cheated on by her baby daddy and he had a son with the other woman. She kept asking me what I would do, and I told her to leave his ass… They’re still together cuz he takes very good care of her (buying her designer stuff) so I don’t think she’s going anywhere
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 12:53 PM
42

I had a male customer (part time retail) last week ask me if I was going to “take him out to dinner”. I told him I don’t take men out to dinner, that’s hustling backwards, that’s not how that shit works. He kept trying to get my number so I can “cook for him”. I said why would I cook for someone I’m not married to? On top of that he was way older than me, if men have anything, it’s the audacity…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 04:56 PM
12

My former childhood best friend is married to a guy who turned 50 and qualifies for AARP…we’re both 31😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 09:56 AM
157

If I still talked to my ex, I’d send this to him lmfaooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 03:03 PM
12

The #1 reason why I ended my relationship. Would disappear and then reappear, just to cancel plans and then disappear again. Ended it because we had stopped literally doing anything as a couple. Suddenly, he had free time and wanted to take me out because he’d realized “he hasn’t been fair to me.” Had he listened when I pulled him aside a month ago and told him what was up, it wouldn’t have ended that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 12:26 PM
50

My ex kept asking (begging) to cum on my face and chest and was “sad” when I said no😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 11:34 PM
69

My ex is bitching on FB about how girls don’t like nice guys and only like fuck boys, so I’m gonna correctly assume he’s still single lmfaooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 05:02 PM
194

My ex was so out of sight (he didn’t see me for 4 months summer of ‘19), he was surprised when I gasp moved on because I fell out of love with him. He tried to come back and say “he still loves me and cares about me” and I was like “…ok…”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 03:26 PM
10

You’re right lol. My birthday was in July and when I ended it, it was September. I wanted to wait but I was so unhappy, that I said “fuck it” because I was just so unhappy that I decided it wasn’t worth staying (even my mom and friends could see it).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 03:18 PM
66

Paid for 5 dates in a row because he was “broke” Said “it’s ok” when I didn’t orgasm from anything he did Agreed to $5 AMC Tuesday movie “dates” Agreed to “dates” to the mall and comic book store Bought him a Nintendo Switch 🤡🤡 and didn’t get anything for my birthday because I ended up breaking up with him (I should have stayed to get the gift)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 10:36 AM
77

I vaguely remember she ended up deleting the tweet. I think he ended up cheating on her or something plus they had been together for 6 years
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 10:30 AM
128

Omg please lol you just brought me back to summer of 2016, when I went over my ex’s house and he was sweating before he had even pulled it out. He got on top and he was soaked and flaccid trying desperately to get me wet (his idea of foreplay was sucking on my tits HARD to the point it was painful) so he could stick it in 😂😒 Edit: lmfaooo some scrote got super pissed at me for this post and sent me a message. He’s probably the guy I dated 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 10:14 AM
18

Yeah. A guy I work with got upset because “I ignored him.” I said hi when I walked in and didn’t speak to him for the rest of the night cuz I was busy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 03:51 PM
10

Tomorrow I’m getting back to the gym. Haven’t been since Covid kicked off and I gained back thr 10 pounds I lost
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 11:15 PM
20

I was amicable with my ex when I ended it. However, as time went on and I went to therapy (and joined FDS), I realized he’s done some fucked up shit to me not just as an adult, but when I dated him as a teen too. Plus, he kept texting me randomly like I wanted to talk to him. I finally deleted him this year (on Valentine’s Day no less) and I didn’t think he’d notice, but he noticed right away and called me petty and jealous because he happened to be on a date when I blocked him 😂 talk about delu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 09:27 PM
9

I left my ex after 3 and when I did, he said how he “wanted to get serious” with me and how he was “planning on traveling with me” and how he “wanted to start a family” with me… It doesn’t take 3 years to decide any of this. What I don’t understand is the fact that he chased me for YEARS (since 2008)…only to waste my time. Originally, I chalked it up to him being immature since it was high school we dated, but when he was doing the same shit as a 26-29 year old, yeah no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 08:21 AM
35

I looked at his IG (before I deleted him) and damn near vomited in my mouth. Wtf did I see in him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 03:24 AM
21

You become the very best, like no one ever was!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 02:32 AM
37

Yep. I went to a PWI from second grade to college and I basically had to represent “my race”. I was one of 2 black kids in class. Whenever the topic of slavery was brought up (every year from 5th grade on), every kid would look at me like I’m supposed to have all the answers cuz I’m black
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 12:56 PM
33

My ex used to pull the same shit. I ended up stopping buying him drinks and he’d just stand there awkwardly as I’d buy my drinks and I wouldn’t offer him anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 10:19 PM
16

Dude…this was my ex to a T. He used to plan dates with me and then “cancel” because he’d get into arguments with his dad and then “emotionally support” his mom…when I needed it (after being assaulted by a student or when I had pneumonia) though it was “womp womp lol” He was essentially an “only child” all of his siblings are way older than him and he was basically allowed to live as a kid for a long ass time. I went over to his house once, and he had Star Wars sheets on his bed (I know, I’m asha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 04:07 PM
32

My ex said he was “blindsided” by me ending the relationship…except the fact I brought it up 30 days before I ended it that the relationship wasn’t working and I was unhappy. Internally, I gave him 30 days. I told myself if, after this conversation nothing changes, I have to end this relationship. I gave him the benefit of the doubt (🤡) and thought “well he just doesn’t KNOW he’s treating me like shit”. After I had that conversation, and it kept happening (I asked him to take me out, he called m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 03:58 PM
1

My ex! Treated me like an option (because he always ditched me to hang with friends) and now he doesn’t have one because the girl he was writing flirty comments to (he didn’t know that I knew) doesn’t want him no matter how hard he tries
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 11:10 AM
54

My ex bought himself a used BMW (from the actual bmw dealer no less) on a retail salary, bought tons of gaming/anime stuff, but accused me of “pocket watching” when I asked him about going on a date that he should pay for because he didn’t take me out in 2 months
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 08:59 PM
21

I probably have vaginismus too. Penetration is damn near impossible. It’s probably cuz of my ex. I’d never get foreplay, he’d just try to stick his limp penis into me and then wonder why it never went in (I was dry as a bone). I’m 30 and I’ve never had the exam because the last couple times they tried, it has been super painful. Got another appointment in may and I’m not looking forward to it 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 11:25 AM
83

Yep. Told my ex I got assaulted by a student, and all he said was “womp womp lol” couldn’t understand why I canceled “date night” (which was just going to the movies anyways).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 08:09 PM
3

This is the main reason I HATED my ex. Even in the movie theater, he’s trying to grope me. I pity whatever girl he ends up with because he’s just constantly sexual and horny for literally no reason
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 04:09 PM
75

Can’t blame her I felt like that too at her age. Ended up settling for a guy who chased me and ended up treating me like an option. Now I’m happy and content being single. I lost 10 pounds (then gained it back due to gyms closing but it’s coming off again) and it’s really peaceful being single. My ex used to just text me sexual bullshit first thing in the morning like sir you haven’t even eaten breakfast yet...relax
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 02:04 PM
28

I would literally dread hanging out with him. Got to the point when he started canceling on me regularly towards the end of the relationship, I breathed a sigh of relief because I know I was free. Thankfully, he was stupid as hell because I used to use “I got my period” 5 times a month and he was none the wiser
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 11:08 AM
57

My ex used to literally “cmon please” me to DEATH during the course of our relationship. I used to have terrible anxiety and I couldn’t figure out why. Once I left him, I never got anxious again. I ended up deleting him off my socials when I was getting the same feeling whenever I’d see his posts. Finally able to scroll without seeing his name everywhere
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 11:00 AM
2

My ex did this to me all the time. It’s why, when I ended it, it felt like a massive weight off my shoulders
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 02:57 PM
16

I’m currently a sub who was supposed to go back to school to get her degree (before Covid hit). I like my school now, but before I came here I subbed at another school. I kept getting out in lab cluster classes (the really really emotionally disturbed kids) where I’d get assaulted regularly by the students. I used to wake up and wanna call out because I had to find reasons to go to work (sometimes it wasn’t about the money). The final straw was when I was out in another lab class (after they fir…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 02:16 AM
1

I used to be a huge fan of GG (got me through my lonely college years). Fuck man, I liked Dan this shit is disappointing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 02:05 AM
13

Are we going full lord of the flies(minus the murder lol)? Count me in!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 01:02 PM
62

My very obviously extremely lesbian coworker gets hit on by men all the time and she looks like a stud...male attention is worthless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 09:47 AM
7

Been there, so glad I left and I’m happy you left too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 02:04 PM
11

Yeah it’s certainly nice not getting texts in the morning, first thing in the morning, asking “when are we going to fuck” or “can I see your titties?” Or any of the other foolishness he used to send.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 12:57 PM
7

I was anxious every time I got in the car with him at night, because I knew he was gonna pull into an empty lot and ask for a blowjob ever time we went out. After I left and started hanging out with my friends more at night, my anxiety went away
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 12:53 PM
2

I was dumb enough not to dump him right away after that. My stupid ass let him hang around till September of that year 🤦🏾‍♀️oh well you live and you learn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 01:23 PM
42

Whew my ex kept going on and on about how he wanted to date his girl BFF and how she didn’t want him, and how she acted like a jealous gf when he went to see marvel movies with me and not her... Of course he is an unreliable narrator, she probably wasn’t even doing all of that, but I’m sure he told me this to attempt to make me jealous and make me hate her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 10:48 AM
45

Yeah I ended it September 2019, kept him on my social media for a year, and then on Valentine’s Day deleted him because I’ve come to realize there’s no point in keeping someone on my profiles who did me dirty. He thought I deleted him cuz he was on a date and I was “jealous”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 04:00 PM
44

He really thought there was nothing wrong with what he said...when I told my mom even she was like “what the fuck is up with that?!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 03:11 PM
108

I had pneumonia and was laid in bed for 2 weeks. This is what he said to me and he couldn’t understand why I was mad Edit: THANK YOU FOR THR SILVER!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 02:59 PM
2

I deleted my ex off of all my social media and he had a fit. I don’t have any beef with him (I have healed) but we’re 30 years old and he constantly bitches about how girls only like fuck boys and how he’s such a “nice guy”...like stfu. He constantly exhibits incel behavior on Facebook and in person and then wonders why he’s single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 05:51 PM
3

I got a 9 pm text from an associate when I worked full time at Home Depot...like why the fuck are you texting my ass that late?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 11:42 AM
11

My ex couldn’t get it up and blamed it on his meds. Ended up not wanting to have sex with him because every time, it’d be a struggle
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 10:49 AM
4

Strongly agree, it’s why my last relationship didn’t work out. Kept telling his ass I wanted him to take me out on a date, and he kept saying ok with 0 follow up. Didn’t see him for a month after not seeing him for 3 months before that. Had to leave. In the process of ending it, SUDDENLY he realized he wasn’t being fair to me and told me to just tell him when I was free because we can go out now😒 So glad to be free
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 01:27 PM
13

Which is weird because I ended the relationship due to his lack of effort so idk where he got that I was jealous...also bless that poor girl who he ranted to about me deleting him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 09:55 PM
10

Probably not lmfaoo. The funny thing is I didn’t post about “cleansing my TL” or stuff people normally post after deleting someone. I just did it and moved on. Part of me does wonder what the girl he took out thinks about it because when we dated, he’d literally praddle on and on about girls he had issues with
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 09:54 PM
49

I deleted my ex on Valentine’s Day, not thinking anything of it. He noticed within the minutes and posted this on his TL: Imagine being so pressed that somebody you once dated years ago and still cool with is on a Valentine’s date so you block them out of pettiness and jealousy 😂 grow up ma. I only found out cuz my cousin told me. I unfollowed him because, even though I was still cool with him, I grew tired of his “I’m a nice guy, women don’t like that. They prefer Future over a Russel like me” …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 08:47 PM
5

I deleted my ex on V Day. He noticed 2 hours later and said this: Imagine being so pressed that somebody you once dated years ago and still cool with is on a Valentine’s date so you block them out of pettiness and jealousy 😂 grow up ma.” I only found out when my friend told me lmfaooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 05:58 PM
7

I just did this! Deleted him off of every social media I frequent. The final straw was he went out to eat with someone for V-Day. Not that big of a deal but he went out to a super expensive restaurant, a restaurant he claimed he couldn’t take me to because “money was tight”. I got curious and looked up the menu, $50 steaks but I got Applebee’s... So I said fuck it and kinda in a fit of rage just removed him off of everything...it’s peaceful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 07:47 PM
17

From 2016-2019, I saw damn near every marvel/dc movie out...not by choice. I used to love them when I was a kid but now I really don’t care about them. My ex dragged me to every one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 08:18 PM
21

You described my ex perfectly except the living in filth part lol. Surprisingly, his room was clean...he did sleep on fucking Star Wars sheets made for kids tho so 🤷🏾‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 08:14 PM
36

My ex used to do this shit. “I wanna see you” but didn’t wanna plan anything and our “dates” were AMC Tuesdays
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 02:04 AM
8

They always come back lmfaoo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 02:03 AM
19

This I gotta work on, so many dudes at my part time retail job think I wanna fuck them 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 07:56 PM
3

My ex texted me last week “hey what’s up”. Pre-FDS me would have answered to be “nice” but it’s a new year, so I just cleared the notification and moved on. I used to answer his texts about random shit after I ended it, that was my fault, now he probably thinks I’ll answer whenever he texts me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 01:15 PM
138

When I was younger, I thought Hilary Duff dating the lead singer of good Charlotte was so cool cuz she had an older boyfriend (she was 16, he was 24). When I got older, I thought “where the hell were her parents?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 07:52 PM
161

Same. My ex keeps talking about how he attracts “fuck girls” and I’m like “sir, you don’t attract anyone, you’ve been single since I dumped you.” We need to bottle and sell men’s confidence
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 02:13 PM
27

Same. Mines went bowling with his female “coworkers” and called it a spur of the moment choice...never took my ass bowling tho
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 01:33 PM
11

“Bad at texting” - wouldn’t respond to texts for HOURS claiming it was because he’s at work. But then did the same shit on his days off “Broke” - I was too understanding of his lack of money and he took advantage of that. Did spend a lot of money at the conventions we went to tho “Sexual talk before we even saw each other” - should have told me everything I needed to know before I even agreed to date him “Never wanted to do anything that required money” - I’m a gamer and wanted him to come to Pa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 01:32 PM
74

Men will literally make anime their entire personality. My ex used to wear a naruto headband...in public, not at a convention
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 07:21 PM
134

That whole thread was a wild ride lmfaoo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 04:43 PM
27

It’s the COVID loneliness isn’t it? I mean why else would a man who treated me like an option, suddenly hit me up at 2pm on a Tuesday?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 01:34 AM
82

😂😂I definitely needed this. I woke up from a nap to a “hey what’s up” text from my ex. I ignored it because ain’t no way, ain’t no fucking way this man scrolled through his texts threads to hit me up. Last time I spoke to this man in depth was when I broke up with him lmfaoo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 01:21 AM
8

Fell foe that once, “dated” (if you wanna call it that) for 3 years, waste of my time. Now he keeps trying to “check” on me and wants me to follow his photography IG account
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 05:27 PM
34

That was my last break up. Everyone was so concerned lol. I broke up with him before I went to work, and walked in with a big smile on my face lmfaoo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 09:43 PM
3

Same. While I’m chilling, in the movie theater, while he’s driving...it was fucking never ending.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 10:33 PM
14

When I approached him about his tendency to “take me out” and then disappear for weeks on end. He claimed that we texted every day so at least we were talking in between those gaps he wasn’t seeing me. He said he’d do better... Texted me a couple times to “come over and eat my pussy” and then texted me asking when my day off was so I could come over his house to hang out or fuck. When I said “I wanted to see you” that was not what I meant 🤦🏾‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 12:11 PM
1

I fell into this trap back in 2015 when my LVM ex texted me. Ended up “dating” him for 3 years. He had apologized for treating me like shit and claimed he was a different person from high school. He ended up being worse, at least the person he was in high school would break up with me and not waste my time. He claimed he loved me while not taking me nowhere, not doing anything and not even bothering to meet my family or anyone of importance to me. Block and delete, don’t be like me and give this…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 10:21 AM
20

Surprisingly, I didn’t get a thanksgiving or Christmas text. Got one last year when we freshly broke up...must have moved on to some other poor girl 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 05:49 PM
2

My friends were the reason I’m single now. I rekindled the relationship and they helped me see the light and realize that my ex wasn’t shit. Forever grateful for them 🙏🏾
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 08:36 AM
21

I rekindled my female friendships in 2018 after a childhood mutual friend was murdered. Literally a year after I had rekindled the friendship, I ended it with my ex. They helped me realize he wasn’t shit because before then, I never had to talk about my relationship. They thought I had stopped talking to them because I was off doing my own thing and didn’t like them anymore. While yes, I was in college doing my own thing, I didn’t even know they were hanging out till I saw the pics on Facebook. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 08:30 AM
14

I have an older brother. He was the favorite and I bring it up to my parents all the time, but they don’t wanna acknowledge it. He was allowed to hang out off the street when we were kids, I couldn’t go past the end of the street. He was the one they paid for to participate in sports. Any sport he wanted to play, they’d pony up the money for it. At one point, he was doing football, basketball, and track...but they told me they didn’t have any money for me to play an instrument (guitar) like I wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 08:23 AM
18

I got Applebee’s and ask to “hang out at his house” where he proceeded to grope me constantly while his mom was in the other room😒😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 12:43 AM
19

I was way too understanding in my last relationship. Yes, cancel a date I rushed home for 2 hours after you were supposed to show up. Yes, I’m fine with you canceling 4x and only seeing me 2 days out of the entire summer (pre-Covid). It’s totally fine... No it’s not fine. It’s not ok for you to keep missing dates and still thinking I’m gonna still like you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 11:37 AM
84

I caught the ICK when I had been asking him to take me out on a date for weeks. He tried to call out of work to do it “because he didn’t want a fight” and suggested we go to the movies on Tuesday when it’s $5. All august I had asked him to take me out because before then, I hadn’t seen him since may. He then asks when my day off was so I could come over to his house and “hang out, get my pussy eaten (terribly), or get dick (also awful).” That’s when I knew it was done because it finally hit me t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 06:23 PM
13

Bought my ex a Nintendo switch out last year together. He said he had to “save up” for mines despite working 2 retail jobs and having a 2013 BMW. Never got a gift for my birthday that last year. Was planning on waiting till I got the switch to end it but by that point, I hated/resented him so much that it didn’t seem worth it for me to wait so I just took an L and moved on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 04:26 PM
7

My ex and I are both gamers. Never again. He used to try to “let’s play games together” as a ploy to get me over to his house in order to try to have sex with me. When that stopped working (because why would I go over to your house to game, when I can stay at mines and not be bothered), he’d attempt to guilt trip me by saying “I jUST wAnTeD tO sEe YoU”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 04:53 PM
7

Promise ring? Are we 12?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 03:15 PM
5

What is with men making “jokes” about their SO’s dying? When I was seriously sick 2 years ago battling then unknown pneumonia, my ex didn’t contact me for 2 days, knowing I was sick. When I called his ass out for not checking up on me, he said that “he’ll be the first person at my funeral to make up for not checking on me” ...but was wondering why I was mad....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 03:10 PM
11

I only met my ex’s mom when I went over to sleep with him (god I was such a pick me) and never outside that. I invited him to my brothers wedding (he knew my brother since we all went to the same school) and he said he’d come, until it got down to the wire to finalize the guest list/ hotel room and then he said he “had to work” and couldn’t make it 😒. My mom was basically over him at that point cuz he never made an effort to actually meet her (he’d stay in the car and text me that he’s outside).…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 05:50 PM
45

This sounds like I could have written it. Stay strong OP, it’s been 1 year in September since I’ve ended it and I have 0 regrets. I, too asked my ex to take me out on a date only for him to claim he’s “saving up” but still wanted to see me in the meantime (sex). I’m glad women are waking up and not taking any more bullshit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 05:38 PM
7

I got a “date” to the comic book store 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 02:32 PM
30

100%. That’s why I left. There’s only so much communication you can do before you say fuck it, and leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 10:26 PM
28

Old enough to be my father. He literally looked like he could be my dads brother (we’re Jamaican)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 03:46 PM
70

When I first got hired at my retail job, I made friends with the guys there and even gave them my number. The more seasoned women associates pulled me aside and was like “no, they’re trying to fuck you” ...sure enough, the texts after 9 started coming in. He was WAY older than me and gave me a ride home once. Mom didn’t like that and arranged my dad to start picking me up lol. I was 24 at the time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 11:10 AM
6

Yes. I have my bachelors. My ex only had his associates and still hasn’t gotten his bachelors even though we graduated from high school in the same year (2008). The only reason I’m not in grad school now is because of Covid-19. Dump him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 11:37 AM
44

Let him waste my time. I used to come home early on Saturday because he wanted to “hang out”, only for him to “get into a fight with his dad”. He’d leave me waiting up for him until 10 (our meet up time was 8:30) and then he’d say “oh I can come get you now”. Who the fuck wants to be out past 1 am when I had to work in the morning? I’d just say don’t bother and leave. Same ex tried to “stop by and say hi” knowing that no one was home. I was mad at him (because this had been the first time he had…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 08:18 PM
6

This was me. It took him asking when my day off was so I could come over his house to fuck him, that made me see he only wanted me for sex after not seeing me for 4 months. Hard pill to swallow but I never enjoyed the sex. It was selfish and I had to bring up the fact that I was not having an orgasm to him. He thought I got turned on by giving him a blowjob and pleasing him, probably because that’s what happens in porn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 04:45 PM
6

On top of that, it turns out I had undiagnosed pneumonia so I legit could have died
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 09:21 PM
8

My ex, after not texting me for 2 days, asked me if I was still sick. When I called him out on not caring, he said “sorry I got a life, but I’ll be the first one at your funeral to make up for it.” He claimed he was joking. And yet he wonders why I ended the relationship and don’t wanna be his “friend” anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 08:00 PM
18

My ex went on and on how he loved doing it. I had to ask him to do it, and when he did finally do it, he licked my clit like he was mailing a letter 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 10:17 PM
10

My ex, once he found out I went back to my old job, came back 3x and even walked down the same aisle I stand at, just to quietly stare at me 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 11:46 AM
10

Yep. And that was the end of my relationship lmfaoo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 09:55 PM
34

When I told my mom about our “relationship” (of you could even call it that), she was LIVID. “You mean he can’t even buy you a fucking drink?!” She’d say
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 12:04 PM
44

Same worst date, but when it came time to pay for the tickets, he stepped aside and let me handle it. When we went to the concession stand, he couldn’t even buy a drink. I bought him a drink once. He never offered to buy a drink for me so I stopped paying for his and made him just go thirsty the entire movie
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 11:38 AM
7

My friend got her 13 year old son an iPhone and he’s lying on chats saying he’s 16 and sexually role playing with other “boys his age” and looking at gay porn (he’s bi)...I told her she needs to give his ass a flip phone he does not need a smart phone at that age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 08:35 PM
39

...you know what? I should do the same thing. I ended my relationship a year ago and just left him on my socials because tbh I don’t post that often on them anymore....I’m gonna do that right now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 09:41 PM
29

Like I said, I saw myself in those tweets. I was a straight up clown allowing him to not even meet the bare minimum. Birthday is the literal 1 day where I want everything about me and the fact he couldn’t even call her? She’s single
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 02:09 PM
69

Sometimes, even less than nothing. Saw a tweet from a woman whose boyfriend didn’t call or text her on her birthday 🙄. They had been dating for 3 years...I saw myself in that tweet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 01:53 PM
30

I am from Boston lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 06:07 PM
38

Bruh how did you know lmfaoo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 05:28 PM
9

Women detach emotionally before they detach physically. After I started emotionally detaching, everything I loved about my ex became fucking annoying. His laugh? Annoying. Jokes? Shut the fuck up. Sexual come ons? OMG fuck off and leave me alone. He was selfish in bed, 50/50 me on “dates”, cheap as hell (only took me to the movies for “dates” and only on Tuesdays for the $5), was constantly broke (couldn’t even buy me a drink at the movies if I wanted it). Once that emotional detachment hit, the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 05:12 PM
49

Lmfaoo my ex was flaccid, and kept trying to shove it in dry. He kept flopping out, but still kept doing the thrusting motion. Instead of foreplay, he handed me a bottle of lube and told me to “put it on”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 05:01 PM
33

Me. BF choked me with his penis one time and face fucked me another time. Said I made him “get to into it”. I legit never wanna do that again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 04:59 PM
4

Did that in my relationship and I regret it. Even once rushed home from being with friends, just to get ready and be told “oh I got into a fight with my dad” 2 hours after we were supposed to meet up. Never again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 05:27 PM
7

Exactly! I got to the “I’m done” stage with my ex, and suddenly he was trying to make it up to me because he realized “he hasn’t been fair to me”. Nah keep that, and leave me alone. If you wanted to, you would have
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 12:14 AM
12

Same. His excuse was “he got carried away”. 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 10:52 AM
2

I broke up with my ex in September 2019, but we still follow each other on various social media accounts. Tbh I don’t really delete people off of them, mainly cuz I barely look at my accounts myself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 03:36 PM
5

Told my ex I had a severe sore throat and was super sick, and he told me some cum would soothe that...I had (then unknown) pneumonia 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 11:30 PM
19

lol that’s how it was for me. I tried to be “cool and understanding” when my ex couldn’t spend time with me because he was just “so busy”. It all came ahead when, after not taking me out/seeing me for 4 months, he asked me when my next day off was so I can come over his house for sex. When I blew up on him, his excuse for not taking me out was “he wanted to hang out with me while saving up for a big date”. He never apologized for it, just asked me if I was “still mad from earlier”. Ended it 3 da…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 04:38 PM
7

My ex didn’t text me back for 2 days because he was just “sUpEr BuSy” knowing I was sick with (unknown) pneumonia. He was just sO bUsY he “forgot”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 09:24 AM
21

My ex, when he didn’t make me cum would say “I haven’t had sex in 5 years, so I’m a little rusty. You’re putting too much pressure on me.” So glad he’s an ex lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 08:56 AM
7

Sanitation engineer lmfaoo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 04:38 PM
7

Girl same, sometimes within hours of. I rushed home one Saturday to hang out with him, got ready, and didn’t hear anything from him and it was past our pick up time, just for him to text me and say he’s “arguing with his dad”. He was 28, a grown ass man arguing with his dad 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 03:51 PM
115

My ex used to tell me “when I go down on you don’t squirt on me!” Bold of you to assume you’re that good lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 01:42 PM
38

Men always tell on themselves unprompted
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 12:22 PM
84

We must have slept with the same guy because that was spot on. My ex literally sucked on my nipples for 2 seconds and then immediately tried to shove flaccid penis into me, while saying “wow you’re so tight”. He’s gone down on me twice, and in those 2 times after he’s licked down there, I was still dry as a bone. How the fuck am I dry after having saliva on me? Got to the point where he’d try to initiate sex and I just straight up couldn’t be bothered lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 12:17 PM
11

Did we date the same guy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 08:52 PM
2

I answered that text and it was the worst relationship I ever had lmfaooo. “I’m not the same kid from high school” you’re right, you’re worse!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 04:17 PM
13

Wooow did y’all really have to come at me like this? 😔 It’s a learning experience though. Now that I know better, I can do better. My friends/parents used to call my ex “ghost” because he never made any plans to meet them. He even bailed on my brother’s wedding
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 09:40 AM
3

I did. While I did have fun, I still would have preferred an actual date. The temp dropped and I was freezing my ass off on the park bench He didn’t know what an “actual date” meant though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 02:20 PM
2

My ex took me to the science museum too watch a cosplay fashion show (he didn’t pay for me) and there was just a whole bunch of kids blocking all the interesting exhibits and a bunch of sweaty adults dressed up as anime characters I didn’t care about
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 10:43 AM
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Comic book store - we didn’t even buy anything, he just looked Park - he wanted to catch Pokémon when Pokémon Go had just come out The movies - not necessarily a bad date, but when mainly every date is a $5 AMC Tuesday movie, that’s when it sucks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 07:07 PM
32

Lol the reason I ended my relationship. His schedule was “all over the place” and he was “so busy” but had time to go bowling with other women and, after I ended it, was doing karaoke every Thursday. He had time to see me though when I sent him the “I wanna break up” text. Then he said “tell me when you’re free and I’ll come see you.” He did text me to tell me that he missed me and I said “how? You barely saw me or made time for me” 😭😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 05:01 PM
21

My brother was the same way in college. Thick layers of dust everywhere, q tips full of ear wax, bathroom looked like it came out of silent hill. His now wife wiped her mascara on a towel of his and the towel was there every time she visited for 3 months. Thankfully, he got better when he got married to her, now the place is spotless
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 06:00 PM
16

I definitely got the “pay you by Tuesday” con with my ex. He wanted to “hang out” with me (sex) while he was saving up for a “big date” (probably also sex). 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 08:54 PM
1

Thanks. I’ve been single ever since (September 2019 was when I ended it), and he keeps trying to come back but I’ve shut and locked that door. I feel such a weight off my shoulders now that I’m not with him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 03:06 AM
9

Man, this post brought back memories. My ex would constantly, either grope me while he was driving (by squeezing my boobs out of nowhere) or turn into empty lots at night and “cmon please” until I finally gave in. Even on days where I explicitly said I didn’t want sex or I was on my “period”, he’d say he was ok with it, then when my guard was down “cmon please”. I let him in my house one day, but got annoyed cuz he was acting like Quagmire (doing the stupid ‘giggity’ shit) so I said I needed to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 01:57 PM
37

Oof lol. My male coworker was asking me out on dates when I was with my ex. When I told him I had a boyfriend, he was like “ok so? we can date after you break up with him.” 😂😂 He’s Haitian and I heard from my friends Haitian men don’t care if you’re in a relationship or not, they’ll still try to get with you 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 01:38 PM
10

My ex said “I haven’t had sex in 5 years so maybe I’m a little rusty.” Rusty being selfish and trying to shove flaccid penis into my very dry foreplay-less vagina. Then complaining about how “tight” I was and how he can’t get in...😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 03:39 PM
26

Yep. Said it on stream and called it a “heated gamer moment”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 02:59 PM
71

My ex thought I’d never leave him after I communicated that I want to spend more time. Internally I gave him 30 days from the time I addressed the issue. I said “if he doesn’t change within 30 days imma leave.” 30 days later I ended it. He said he “realized I haven’t been fair to you, I can take you out now” and I was like “nah I’m good” 😂😂 Now he posts either “sad boy I’m single” memes or “I’m a nice guy, women date assholes. Sakura (from Naruto) is a bitch for staying with Sasuke and ignoring …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 05:14 PM
18

My ex trash talked his best female friend since high school cuz she talked about how much she made. She told me she needed to “humble herself” 😒 I wonder what he was saying about me to her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 05:06 PM
13

SAME. I became resentful once I started looking at FB and seeing people I knew from high school and college actually going on dates and spending time with their spouses and I was getting...AMC Tuesday dates with the groping afterwards 😒 I legit went from “omg he just text me back” to “ugh wtf does he want? gets a sexual text at 8 am omg leave me alone”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 10:39 AM
21

Same. I once rushed home from being out, only to have my ex stand me up cuz “he got into an argument with his dad”. 8:00 turned into 8:30, which turned into 9. I don’t believe he got into any argument, he probably went out and used that as an excuse. I had been off for 3 weeks doing nothing, told him I was off, and not once did he ask me to go out. He did ask me if I wanted to get “dick, pussy eaten, or hang out at his house” which we all know are 3 of the same choices.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 10:35 AM
32

I will never give another BJ again. The last time I did it with my ex, when I came up for air, he held my head down. He later apologized for “getting carried away”. He then wanted to “cum on my tits”. I stayed firm while he literally “cmon please”d me to death.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 04:14 PM
50

My ex was like “don’t squirt on my face once I go down on you”. He went down on me...and I was as dry as the Sahara
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:10 AM
5

What’s up!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 06:10 PM
1

Employee only in that corner. Whenever we see customers go over there we tell them they can’t be in that corner and make them move
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 05:47 PM
0

It’s basically a desk in the corner where we keep extra masks, water for cashiers...stuff like that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 05:46 PM
0

It’s on a clipboard by the HC station.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 05:45 PM
10

Thank you so much!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 04:36 PM
18

So the reason I ended it was because he wasn’t taking me anywhere besides the $5 AMC Tuesday movies. Last summer, I saw him 2 days (not even full days) out of the entire summer, and when he did want to see me, it was for sex and not to take me out, even though I told him I wanted to do something other than the movies on multiple occasions. Ended up hanging out with him on his birthday in October and justified it by thinking “well I broke up with him a month before his birthday”...to the movies, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 04:35 PM
12

When I look back on my last relationship, I just think “damn, I let him get away with murder”. Never again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 12:02 PM
3

As someone whose only dates were to the movies on $5 AMC Tuesdays, seeing Marvel/DC movies that I honestly don’t give a shit about anymore...going to the movies is not a date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 09:36 PM
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I did the “communication” and told my ex I wanted to be taken out... He called me to have sex under the guise of a date, and when I told him off, he backtracked and said “well I was saving up! But I wanna see you before then”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 08:04 PM
6

Lol my ex. “I miss you” but made 0 effort to see me (beyond the 2 days he saw me for in 2019) for 4 months until I ended the relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 02:56 AM
8

I bought my ex a switch 😒 dumbest mistake ever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 12:39 AM
15

On top of that, when Kim Porter died he was going on about how Kim was the love of his life, he should have married her...blah blah blah. No shade to Kim (she is the mother of his children), but Diddy literally waited till she died in order to profess his undying love and kept Cassie as basically a rebound for 10 years
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 01:41 PM
8

Can’t believe I used to believe that bullshit 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 01:36 PM
3

That’s the thing. They’re always broke with you, yet have money to buy drinks with his friends/spend money with his friends. My ex and I both like games and he spent so much money at conventions, yet I asked to go on a date and he had to “save up” but still expected me to sleep with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 11:27 AM
12

Facts. Was nice to a new coworker, since he didn’t know what departments certain products were. He asked me for my number to take me out on a date...DURING A PANDEMIC. I told him no, and I haven’t spoken to him since
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 08:49 AM
42

Whew, a READ!!! Doesn’t even have his own shit together, but expects someone who does to submit to him. A 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 01:22 PM
11

Lol yeah, was gonna give my ex till November 2019 to straighten up when he wouldn’t see me (this was in August 2019). Tried to wait till he bought me my Nintendo switch that was supposed to be for my birthday in July. Ended up breaking up with him that September cuz I was just miserable and waiting for the switch wasn’t worth it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 02:47 PM
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Lol that’s why I was never really allowed to wear girls clothes growing up. If I wore shorts, my mom always got them in the boys section because of how short the shorts were in the girls section.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 05:22 PM
7

Yep same. Since we texted every day, he used that as an excuse to not make any attempts to see me for 3 months. We’d make plans to see each other, only for him the day sometimes hours of, to cancel on me because he got “busy”. Until he wanted sex, then it was “when are you free” constantly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 12:56 PM
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My ex (after not seeing me for 3 months) told me that “well we texted every day” like that should have placated me while he spent more time with his friends/coworkers/literally anyone else than me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 06:04 PM
7

My ex was “sarcastic”, which really meant “saying hurtful things and claim he was joking when I was rightfully mad”. Then when called out, he’d say “sorry for joking around with you” like a kicked puppy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 09:18 PM
17

Lol me. We got into a huge fight about how he only contacts me to get his dick wet and he never apologized for it, just asked me if I was still mad. Everything went back to normal until it hit the month mark for him not taking me out and I left him lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 12:28 PM
9

My parents don’t know I’m bi and I got out of a real shitty relationship back in September. I wanna take the plunge, but with Covid going on idk. Also I’m super awkward around pretty girls so there’s that...it’d be like being back in high school
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 02:07 AM
15

Let a man slide once, and he’ll start ice skating
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 01:39 AM
8

We must have dated the same dude...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 01:37 AM
26

Exactly. While breaking up with my ex, he told me how he was planning on traveling with me and was planning on getting serious and planning on starting a family....everything was in the planning stages. We’re 30
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 01:36 AM
8

My ex “joked” that he’d be the first person at my funeral if I died from (then unknown) pneumonia. Couldn’t figure out why I wasn’t happy after he said that...🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 08:50 AM
7

My ex said he got “carried away” when he did the same shit to me. Dump him please, it’s not gonna get better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 01:23 AM
5

I discovered a good ramen restaurant in Quincy that I LOVE because of my ex. I took my friends there and told them I found the place
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 10:00 PM
6

The only time my ex wanted to see me. He’d take me to a movie to shut me up about not going out, then afterwards drive to an empty lot and “cmon please” me to death...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 09:46 PM
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Happened to me in my last relationship countless times. One time he asked to see me...at 10 pm and got “sad” that I said no because at the time, I was getting up at 4 am for work. Like I was really gonna come out of my house that damn late
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 09:38 PM
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Omg my ex constantly did this! I didn’t even know this was a thing until this sub. Where the fuck do they get this info from? Not even porn does the squeeze boobs thing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 12:36 PM
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Yep. I allowed my boyfriend to come over once when I was alone (even told him no sex cuz I was on my “period” which he agreed to, just to try to touch my chest and ask to watch me shower before I hit the gym. Mind you, I invited him over to explain how mad I was because he wasn’t spending time with me and he still thought he could get his dick wet. A month later, it was over. .....why are men?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 12:34 PM
6

Are you me?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 11:05 AM
2

My ex reached out in 2016 because he wanted to apologize and try again after he treated me like shit in high school. 3 years later...🤡🤡🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 01:29 PM
9

Suddenly my ex was free to spend time with me after I broke up with him because he flaked on me for 4 months last year 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 04:57 PM
3

That was me in my early to mid 20s. Wish I found this sub sooner
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 09:02 PM
35

Girl, I totally feel you. My ex constantly asked for nudes, was always badgering me for sex. I couldn’t even eat a lollipop without him making some crude sexual comment. I get it and I feel the same way. I refuse to be in a relationship, I’m working on me and my self esteem. When I got with him I was depressed that I was 26 and still in no relationship so I pretty much let him get away with whatever because “hey, I have a boyfriend” but I’d rather be single than be groped and pressured into sex …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 02:49 AM
5

My ex didn’t text me for 2 days while I was (unknowingly) battling pneumonia, just to make a “joke” about how he’ll be the first one at my funeral to make up for not texting me to check in on me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 12:47 PM
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I’ve said in other posts, the more I go through the old text messages, the clearer it’s become. It’s been really eye opening/infuriating the more I read it lol. Mistakes were made
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 02:54 AM
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I think my ex said we were “dating” just to get laid. Because he prioritized literally everyone and everything before me, until he wanted to get laid, then it was “can I come over?” Or “when are you gonna come over and get naked?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 01:46 AM
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This was the #1 reason I ended it with my BF. He was going bowling with “coworkers”, Dave and Busters with friends, karaoke with friends every week...and yet all he could do with me was $5 movies and trying to get me to fuck at his parents house (while they’re home mind you). With me, he always told me he needs to “save up”. Honestly, I’d end it. He doesn’t care about your feelings and no matter how many times you tell him how this is making you feel, he won’t listen. If he’s anything like my ex…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 01:15 PM
14

Exactly. When I look back at old texts and his actions, I’m like “how could I have been so stupid?”. Mine ex kept me around for sex and not much else, took a while for me to realize that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 06:28 PM
7

Not even “playful” insults, I don’t like when a guy is “playfully” mean, that shit pisses me off. Here, what my ex said while I was really sick with (I didn’t know at the time) pneumonia.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 01:00 PM
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Probably every date with my ex lol. One “date” he took me to the comic book store and tried to make out with me in between the figures display. Another “date” he didn’t even pay for my ticket. If I was already going, he’d just buy a ticket too and would “go with me” as a “date” (Anime Boston, Boston comic con...). We’d go to the movies on Tuesday cuz AMC Tuesdays. We never did any fun shit that our peers were doing and it makes me both sad and angry that I wasted 3 years with someone who would p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 12:51 PM
4

this was my ex’s response when I told him what he was doing wrong
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 01:10 PM
7

I bought a magic wand and fucking squirted within 20 seconds. I wish I bought it sooner, I would have ended the relationship a long ass time ago. He’d go from kissing, straight to penetration and wonder why I’m dry as hell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 02:26 AM
13

Yep. I lost 23 pounds and I car another 20 to go before I hit my goal weight. My knees don’t hurt and I don’t get winded after walking up steps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 06:27 PM
34

I was so depressed seeing my friends find their soul mate and getting married in their 20s. It probably caused me to get in the crappy relationship I was in and settle for less. Now that I’m out of that crappy relationship, I genuinely don’t mind being single. Most people I know who got married ended up getting divorced and telling me how much they regret getting married so young so...🤷🏾‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 09:56 PM
12

Ah that explains why my ex from high school “hey”d me for the past 10 years...we graduated in 2008
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 01:38 PM
16

Yep. Got hit on by a homeless guy outside my local Starbucks, and he saw the ring and asked if I was married. When I said “yes” he immediately apologized and stopped hitting on me 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 12:22 PM
8

My ex just moved his tongue back and forth rapidly like he was licking envelopes to send. It was the WORST! 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 02:08 PM
14

Yep my ex eventually went bare minimum. I cOmMuNiCaTeD my feelings and he said “he’d do better”. Internally, I told myself that if he didn’t change in 30 days, I’d leave. Exactly 30 days from the last time I saw him, I ended it. Looking back at old texts, I missed/downright ignored so many red flags. Especially the ones where I’d tell him I’m watching something, and he would say “you’re watching porn lol” and then pivot into sex talk. Also didn’t text me for 2 days after I had told him I had pne…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 01:53 PM
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My ex used to ask me to “hang out” constantly. When I got mad and told him I didn’t wanna “hang out” (my options were hang out, get my pussy eaten terribly, or get dick) at his house and wanted to go on a date, he said he wanted to hang out with me while saving up for a big date. Like no lol you wanted to fuck me until I went off on you, now you’re trying to backtrack
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 03:08 AM
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Being invited over his house (he lived with his parents) under the guise of “playing video games” (which I do love), only to be surprised with him trying to fuck me while his parents are literally in the next room over...I’d give in, only to have him give 0 foreplay and try to shove his dick in and attempt to jackhammer me to death. I stopped accepting invitations to his house once I started catching on to the bait and switch. Then he kept trying to come over to mines cuz my mom would leave work…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 06:35 PM
56

Yep. Once I removed the glasses, stepped back and actually looked at my relationship, I realized that he was a loser who still hasn’t gotten his bachelors after 10 years, that the relationship isn’t going anywhere, that he wanted me to wait for him to get his shit together wasting my best years on him. I was seeing people on FB actually spending time with their spouses, and yet I’m getting movies and Netflix and chill dates. I started resenting and hating him and by the time he could “finally” m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 12:03 PM
12

My ex would ask me to spend time with him on Friday, and then text me nothing till Saturday and say he was asleep all day. I thought I was being the “understanding” gf, but he probably saw me as a doormat that would take any kind of treatment and would still stay with him. His flakiness got to a point where I told him I would no longer spend any of my weekend days on him because he’s flaked so many times and wasted my entire Saturday/Sunday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 01:27 PM
23

He looks like he skipped an evolution stage
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 01:25 AM
28

When I told my ex I needed foreplay (because he kept trying to shove dick in me while dry) and how I wanted head longer than 10 seconds, he said he was “planning on pleasing me, but I’m putting too much pressure on him”....like huh?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 07:16 PM
7

I used to have awful anxiety before I saw my boyfriend cuz I hated having sex with him and didn’t know if one of our late night movie “dates” was gonna end with him driving into an empty parking lot, unzipping his pants and asking for a blowjob. Even when I wasn’t seeing him at night, him simply asking “wyd” would never make me want to tell him I’m home because I knew I’d be followed up with a “can I swing by to say hi”, something he’d only ask when I’m home alone. Once I ended it, my anxiety pr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 01:03 PM
15

When I broke up with my ex because he wasn’t making an effort, he said he was working so much because he was “planning on traveling with me”. He asked me in March 2019 if I wanted to go to New York to go to the Nintendo store and during the summer, and nothing came out of it. He got mad because I went with my friends and “didn’t wait to go with him.” I told him “if I waited for you, we wouldn’t be going” and sure enough...🤷🏾‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 01:39 AM
3

Me when I brought up my grievances with my ex and he said he’d do better but after a month nothing changed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 03:31 PM
14

Man, I wish I found this earlier. My ex said he “learned a lot from watching porn”...that was my first red flag
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 07:46 PM
7

Just @ me why don’t you? 😭😭😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 01:32 AM
17

My ex, before we had sex went on and on about how he loved to eat pussy blah blah blah. When he actually did it, it was the worst head I’ve ever gotten. It felt like I let a dog lick my pussy, that’s how bad it was. No matter how many times I tried to tell him, it was still the same bleh bleh motion. One time I got sooo close to an orgasm (first one he had given me in 3 years)...then he stopped and asked me something stupid and it went goodbye...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 01:51 PM
10

Lol omg are you me? Our dates consisted of $5 AMC Tuesday movies and comic book store runs. Meanwhile, I’m seeing friends on FB actually doing shit with their spouses. He always claimed he had no money to take me out to do nice stuff, but when I took him to a convention, he was buying EVERYTHING. When I ended my relationship and told him it was because we did nothing, he was like “well I was planning on traveling with you”. We had dated for 3 years, when was this “plan” gonna be put into motion?…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 10:45 AM
13

...the pick me was strong in me at that time 😞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 12:05 AM
20

Bruh, my ex had Star Wars sheets on his bed and a TMNT kids body pillow. I wish I was making this up 😩 Why I stayed this long is beyond me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 11:07 PM
19

My ex was a gamer and this is spot on. I used to get ignored for days over smash, and our “dates” consisted of comic book movies and comic book stores. Yeah, those are nice, but I actually wanna go on a date. Visiting comic book stores/watching comic book movies screams “hanging out” as friends and not bf/gf material. As much as I like games, I wouldn’t date another gamer again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 11:03 PM
12

My ex did that constantly. Once I put my foot down and ended the relationship, he suddenly had free time. Funny how that works 🧐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 12:45 AM
13

It is. Before I got with my ex, he would go on and on about how he loved sex, and how he wanted to go down on me for hours blah blah blah... fast forward to us having sex for the first time and he tried to insert his flaccid penis into me with 0 foreplay after sucking on my nipples for 2.5 seconds. He tried to do the jackhammer motion but because he wasn’t hard, he kept flopping out. When I brought up how the sex was unsatisfying, he chalked it up to being “rusty” because he hadn’t had sex in 5 …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 09:49 AM
9

Coerced into sex by my ex back in high school while still in the school (my mom was stricter with me than my older brother). When we got caught and suspended, I got suspended longer because he told the principal and his mom that I came on to him. The pick me in me still stupidly liked him, dated him again 10 years later until I finally got tired of his shit and dumped him (he basically chased me for 10 years since 2006)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 07:30 PM
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I lost 25 pounds. Started eating better and working out 5x a week. I was planning on studying for the MTELS for grad school, but Covid put a stop to that. Gonna shoot for next year. My car broke down, and I found one I was interested in and I’ve asked the credit union loan me the money for the car. Hopefully, I get approved for this car today
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 12:52 PM
7

I broke up with my ex and posted about it on a different subreddit. Someone messaged me and sent me the link for this and I immediately subbed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 02:26 AM
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Loool my ex wasted my whole summer last year by only seeing me twice, and when I ended it in September he was like “I can make up for lost time, tell me when you’re free and I’ll come see you, I realized I haven’t been fair to you.” Apparently he only realized it when I left, not when I told him 3-4 times during the summer that he was ignoring me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 12:57 PM
6

My most recent ex chased me from when I was 16 (2006) to 26 just to waste my time. Don’t do it lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 07:23 AM
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Yep lol. I cringe at the shit I tolerated cuz of my depression. I told him I never wanted to see another movie with him (because that’s literally all we did) and that I’d do anything else besides go to his house, and he was all out of ideas to take me on a date asking me “where do I want to go/what do I want to do?” Ended up getting A list so whenever he’d ask me to see a movie with him as a “date”, I’d tell him I already saw it and he’d get mad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 03:53 PM
11

Yeah. My ex plays video games. I do too and he tried to use that as an excuse to get me over his house so he could “teach me how to play.” When I was a pick me, I was cool with him watching porn, until he decided to try to re-create the shit he saw in the scenes on me. Choking me with his dick when I’d come up for air, trying to cum on me (after I said no), and trying to get me to give him road head . Thank god I finally came to my damn senses
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 01:36 PM
4

Oh god yeah. I do like comic book movies but I wasn’t interested in seeing them in theaters, I prefer to watch it at home so I can stop/start as I please. I always got dragged to a marvel movie (only on Tuesday) under the guise of a “date”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 01:32 PM
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My ex used to do that shit all the time. In movie theaters, his car, everything. He’d invite me over his house, insist nothing would happen, and then try to grope me into sex. He has tried to handle out with me after the break up, and I’m still uncomfortable being around him. If he did this to his ex, no wonder he stayed single for 5 years
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 04:58 PM
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Lol my ex called me over the house to “get dick, my pussy eaten, or hang out”. When I flipped out on him, he backtracked and said “we could play video games instead”. Like...I have video games at my own house that I can play in peace, why would I go over to your house to play and get negged for sex?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 04:08 PM
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Good thing this sub was recommended to me so I could recognize the signs. When I broke it off with my ex, SUDDENLY he wasn’t busy anymore and he missed me and loved spending time with me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 04:23 PM
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So true. I go to Canada every year and would always bring my ex back a hat he couldn’t get in the states. My mom told me to stop because when he would go to the penn relays, he never brought me back anything, not even a magnet. He went to Jamaica last year and I had to ask for a souvenir, when I would just pick shit out and ask him if he wanted it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 10:25 AM
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So true. In my last relationship, deep down I knew it wasn’t going anywhere. His finances were shit, his job was shit, and his education was shit and I still hung on for 3 years hoping that something would come out of it. I wanted to marry him at one point, but I’m glad we didn’t make it that far cuz it would have definitely ended in divorce. Can’t be with a stingy person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 10:21 AM
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I was 13 when I was hit on. Was waiting for my mom to pick me up at the bus stop and a 50 year old guy walked by and said how cute I looked in my clothes but how he can’t talk to me because there’s too many people around. I told my mom, who then told me to tell my dad (we had gotten into an argument earlier in the week because I said “what’s up” instead of “good afternoon” and he refused to pick me up and kicked me out of the car and made me walk home when it was pitch black outside). My dad was…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 12:26 PM
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I literally had to tell my ex not to face fuck me or shove it in dry and his excuse was “I got carried away”. It was obvious he watched too much porn. I literally had to tell him I wanted an orgasm too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 11:30 PM
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Girl my ex went from telling me I’d have to wait 20 years for a ring from him to, after the break up, tell me he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. Mind you, other than that quip, in the 3 years we dated, he never talked about marriage. He only talked about putting a baby in me and trapping me. Girl my ex had Star Wars sheets on his bed with the Nickelodeon TMNT pillow...I get it 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 11:03 PM
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Same. He bought a used 2013 BMW on a retail salary and had to get another job, plus drive for Uber to pay for it. On top of that, he was going bowling and going out to eat with friends...but with me, $5 amc movies/trips to the comic book store was the best he could do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 09:03 PM
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Let a dude I dated in high school have a second chance because I was lonely and all my friends were in relationships/married at the time. He claimed he changed... He was still the overly horny boy I dated back in HS, except now he’s grown. I FINALLY understand why they call men dogs. I re-read our texts from 2016 and I should have stopped when he started talking about sex and publicly calling me nips and we had just started talking again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 12:59 AM
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My ex would “what do you wanna do” me all day
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 10:19 AM
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It took a while. It took my friends, mom, and my sister-in-law to finally make me realize that I don’t have to be treated this way. My brother took me out to dinner for my birthday, let me get what I wanted, and immediately scooped up the check, I don’t even know what the price was. My sister-in-law was excited to meet my boyfriend before their wedding, but when it came down to the wire, he bailed claiming he “has to go to work” even though he was told months in advance. She hasn’t liked him sin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 09:37 AM
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My ex was too busy for me but went “spur of the moment” bowling with his coworkers...who he sees every day. And went for night walks on the beach with his friends. And went out for ramen...with his friends. But claimed he was too busy and broke to do anything for/with me except take me to a $5 movie and drop off some dick 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 08:55 AM
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Can’t tell you how many times my ex tried to bend me in a position that I wasn’t built for like I was a fucking Barbie doll
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 05:20 PM
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When I had pneumonia, I told my ex that I was sick. That was last year, February 4. He texted me February 6 asking me if I was still sick. I said “gee good on you to finally remember.” He said sorry he has a life, but he’ll make up for it by being the first one at my funeral...dickhead. He said he was joking...I did not find it funny
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 05:05 PM
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Someone sent me a hate DM about asking why my ex needed permission to touch me and did he have to fill out a form. He said I was being ridiculous. I said I don’t have to justify myself to someone I don’t know or talk to and I just blocked him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 10:35 AM
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At the time, it had been 2 years. However even before the 2 year mark, it was constant sex talk with him. Couldn’t even wear shorts in the summer without him telling me how much he was turned on and kept rubbing my thigh and trying to put his hands down my pants...while driving. He stopped taking me out anywhere this past summer and basically ghosted me unless he wanted to “stop by” when I was alone either before or after work. What got me after he fondled my chest when we left the restaurant, w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 11:46 AM
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I desired intimacy like that with my ex, but everything was about sex with him. I couldn’t even trust him to come into my house when I was alone because he’d swear up and down he’s just trying to spend time with me, no sex stuff...only to try to make a move. Even in a movie theater, he tried to put his hand up my shirt, so whenever we went, I’d sit with my hands in my pockets. I didn’t even want him standing behind me, he’d start pressing his junk on my ass MIND YOU WE’RE IN PUBLIC!! Everything …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 10:05 AM
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Yeah been there. My ex took me out for my birthday, and when we left the restaurant, he came behind me and shoved both hands up my shirt and fondled me. Same like you, I was shocked and didn’t know what to say. I’ve been going to therapy and gaining my confidence back, it really helps! I’m planning on staying single until I feel ready
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 10:00 AM
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I know I watch the ones actually produced by bisexual/lesbian women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 08:18 PM
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My ex was the worst at it. No foreplay, tried to essentially suck my nipple rings off, head was so wack that I was still dry AFTER he finished licking (basically moving his tongue back and forth. I almost had one, and then he stopped. After that, I lost it and it didn’t come back). He would cum and that was the end of that... Sometimes I just think I’m bi cuz I can literally be soaked watching lesbian porn and can get off multiple times, but with him no matter what he did, I could never get wet.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 12:51 AM
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Yeah. When he couldn’t get hard, he blamed it on his medication but was able to maintain an erection when I would blow him. The sex was so bad that it got to the point where I didn’t wanna have sex with him cuz I knew only one of us was going to have an orgasm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 09:12 PM
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Dude my ex chased me for 10 years (2006-2016)..10 YEARS!!! Just to waste my time in the end. It was only when I left, he told me he had plans to marry me, travel, do all the shit I was begging him to do when we were dating...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 10:50 PM
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Yep. When I broke up with my ex after WEEKS of telling him to put more effort, only then did he “realize” that he wasn’t being fair to me...or so he claims. He knew he just didn’t give a shit until I was walking out the door with the only sex he’s gotten in 5 years
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 10:43 PM
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Totally! I was 5’2 and 187 pounds when I decided I needed to make a change. I am now 167. My goal weight is 130-140. I’d be lying if my recent break up didn’t spur my desire to lose weight. This is the longest that I’ve ever gone to the gym consistently. Even my self esteem is up because now my pants are super baggy and people notice and comment (in a good way). I’m hoping to get to my goal weight by the summer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 12:29 PM
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As someone who like(d) anime...you’re absolutely right 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 12:07 AM
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My ex forced me down on his dick to choke me during a blowjob and then started asking me if I liked sucking dick while he was facefucking me (w/o my permission obviously). I hate giving them now and I’m glad I’m single so I don’t have to do it anymore. God he was such a shithead...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 09:54 PM
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Yep. I’m a gamer myself (I go to pax east every year) and I honestly don’t know if I’d date another gamer again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 10:47 PM
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Everything but 6 for me. I got ignored for smash brothers, didn’t really hear from him in depth for a week. Cheap DEFINITELY, I stupidly paid for some of our dates cuz he said he was “broke”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 12:55 AM
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DEFINITELY #2!!! My ex used to complain about how broke he was. I bought him tickets to Pax East last year and he spent $1k there. When we went to Anime Boston together, he spent another k. I called him out on it, and he said that I need to stop pocket watching and said that it was tax/overtime money 😒.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 12:37 AM
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When I ended my relationship, I did some therapy and realized that my low self esteem (due to being overweight for my height) was what caused me to get into my last relationship. I was basically single from high school through college, and seeing everyone dating (and getting married) made me super lonely and depressed (the depo-provera certainly didn’t help) and I accepted being treated like that just because I was lonely. I’ve been going to the gym since October and have lost 20 pounds and my e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 01:49 AM
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Damn even my LVM ex waiting till I got in the house to leave to make sure I was safe...he’s an asshole
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 10:08 AM
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Yep. Spent 3 years being the easy going chill gf...only to get taken for granted, be an option, and get $5 movie dates and nothing else. I saw a tweet that said “let a n***a slide once, and he’ll start ice skating”. I let him slide for a lot of shit because at the beginning of our relationship, we both worked retail, so when he said he was tired and didn’t wanna meet up, I was ok with that. He started canceling on me saying his schedule (he worked 2 jobs and school) was crazy but SOMEHOW had tim…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 10:07 AM
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I notice that. My ex put more effort in once I dumped him than he did when we were dating. Suddenly, he started talking about how he wanted to grow old with me, start a family and plan our life together. I forgot he worked in the Whole Foods close to my house, and he came from behind the counter trying to ask me to hang out with him...I dated him for 3 years and the only thing this dude said in those 3 years when I brought it up was that “I’d be waiting 20 years for a ring from him.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 09:54 AM
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Never again! Got rapid fire responses any time we talked about sex, but when I told him and texted him “what you’re doing is making me unhappy”, he simply said “ok I’ll do better” and nothing came from that. Had me looking like a damn 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 09:50 AM
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I broke up with my LVM ex because he called me his girlfriend, but treated me like a side chick. Never had any money to take me out or only wanted to take me to the $5 AMC Tuesday movies (he never paid, I have AMC A list), was always “busy”, but always had time to try to come over my house before/after work for a quick fuck. The last straw was when he asked me when my day off was (only saw me may 14 and August 9 this past summer) so I could come over to his house to “hang out, get my pussy eaten…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 12:25 AM
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Congrats! I’m 5 months single and since dumping my ex, I started eating better and going to the gym. I’ve lost 20 pounds so far. I was so thirsty for a relationship when I was single but now that I dumped him...being single ain’t that bad lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 09:36 PM
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Yep. In my case, I addressed the issue and he said he was gonna do better. Internally, I gave him a month and told myself if he doesn’t chance, then I’ll leave. He didn’t, so I left. Only then, did he try to make amends but by that time, it was too late
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 12:11 PM
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