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You go pro se
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/22 02:04 AM
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You know that white speck on top of chicken shit, people can call it whatever they want, but it's still chicken shit.
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/22 09:25 PM
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When did this sub become so full of incels and alt right nuts? You guys are a self defeating prophecy.
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/22 05:09 PM
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Strong incel vibes in this post. The basis of this leaked abortion decision is going to ripple out and impact America in very negatives ways.
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/22 02:15 PM
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Damn brother, I say this with respect...but you need therapy man. Life is too short to be that upset at 50% of the population. You don't want to go down the path of an incel.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/22 11:50 PM
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I've been doing that. I think bottling up feelings for years probably didn't help my marriage and definitely hurt my relationship with my kids. It was hard at one point to even be able to tell my kids I loved them without choking up or compliment them for the little things. Today really sucked but I'd rather hurt emotionally rather than be a cold individual and not allow myself to feel the good in life as well.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/22 01:53 AM
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Anxiety and pure sadness hitting me hard. I don't even understand why. I poured my heart and soul into this community and our home for years and at the end of the day all that is left is my kid(s) and a ton of memories, good and bad. I've been struggling mentally for a few weeks and it's kind of come to a head this week. I have to meet up with coworkers I haven't seen since the pandemic this week as well.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/22 06:39 PM
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This starts off reading like you're going down the path of an incel. Don't do that brother. You can harbor some negative feelings for your ex, but don't transfer that to every woman. Nothing good comes from that! Women and men are both flawed creatures. Becoming the best version of ourselves for our kids and most importantly for yourself attracts the right individuals.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/22 11:26 PM
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No one would ask about your medication. No one has to know. Do what's best for you and if if medication gets you to a stable and healthy place, that's something employers definitely want.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/22 02:13 PM
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It's a process. If you're not seeing a therapist I'd highly recommend doing so. I'm a year and a half out from when she quit on the marriage and have been through high and lows. Struggling with anxiety right now myself but working everyday to get better. Life is and can be pretty damn good if we can just get out of our own heads! Don't be afraid to go on medication other. You're stronger for admitting you need some help rather than bottling it up.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/22 02:23 AM
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Filed a motion to expedite based in multiple factors and was shocked to find out the judge agreed. It's done. No more $2k monthly legal bills to lawyers in different states. No more fighting over child custody schedules. I'm relieved it's over but also have been fighting for so long I'm anxious about what comes next. I never wanted this in the first place, mostly glad it happened. My relationship with my kids has never been stronger. I actually feel like a father again rather than just someone w…
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/22 01:31 AM
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You're at two different stages in your life. Think back to where you were at 24. You were the comforting factor in her life for a while and you got some young tail out of it. I'm in my 40s now and don't think I could date someone in their 20s or 30s for this reason alone. Find someone who is on the same speed as you in life.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/22 02:33 AM
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In a place where 50/50 custody doesn't happen unless you negotiate before court.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/22 06:00 PM
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Until any agreement is signed, it doesn't hold up in court. Can't even mention the negotiations.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/22 01:18 PM
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Thankfully all but the child support is already worked out. She walked away with $400k in cash and still has a chunk of my retirement accounts. I worked my ass off, and did all the investments in our marriage. She shopped amazon and took time off from work as she was stressed.
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/22 05:21 PM
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I want to fight back, but at the same time she's the mother of my children. I don't want them in the middle of this. I've had them in therapy for 6 months already.
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/22 05:18 PM
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Thank you! In every proposal yet there's things I don't like but can live with long term.
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/22 03:02 PM
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In my state getting 50/50 custody without an agreement in place before going to court is at best a crapshoot. My lawyer is continuing to advise against it.
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/22 03:01 PM
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Congrats! Enjoy your new life as a single dad, it's amazing how bright life is without a burden on your shoulders all day every day.
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/22 03:01 PM
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Yes, one in each state. They ain't cheap :(
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/22 02:16 AM
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I get that, but so is she. I've made 100% certain that my kid(s) needs are taken care of. She makes just under 6 figures herself as well. I guess what I'm asking, are my actions ethically justifiable?
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/22 06:59 PM
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Oh I am. But the hearing date is months out.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/22 06:51 PM
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Both the attorneys I've spoken to (and hired) here are saying that that UCCJEA applies and NC still has jurisdiction until 6 months.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/21 01:20 PM
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KS is the new state and they've been here for 4 and a half months now. enrolled in school and everything.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/21 12:26 AM
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Thank you!
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/21 08:18 PM
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Thank you, appreciate the advice!
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/21 04:21 PM
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Thank you
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/21 04:45 PM
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How is order of man? Any political overtones? The first article on their page talks about resisting employer mandates and that reeks of politics to me. Wanting to avoid all that.
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/21 02:39 PM
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Sock?
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/21 01:51 PM
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So much this. My STBX hosed bought a new place that is an absolute shithole she has no idea how to fix (other than to stroke checks from her "half"). The moving company she hired and was 3 days late on picking up her shit is now holding onto it for 30 days, so she's sleeping on a blow up mattress. She can't even manage to get an account for internet at her new place. Karma is a bitch! She used to complain to me that when she talked to me I would try to solve her problems, and then she'd complain…
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/21 12:10 PM
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Unfortunately that's just for the separation agreement and temp custody orders. I am still going to fight for 50/50 custody.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/21 12:10 PM
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I spent $9300 in 6 weeks to negotiate a settlement agreement. $4400 of it in a single day during mediation. $3k last week alone fighting over one sentence in the stupid custody order. Valuable advice but painful to pay.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/21 03:04 PM
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Sums up the evangelicals perfectly.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/21 01:51 PM
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No More Mr. Nice Guy" by Robert Glover. I just googled that. Holy shit it sounds toxic. Rush Limbaugh and Bill O'Reily are the folks who backed it? I certainly am guilty of being the nice guy myself that has bitten me more times than once in my still fairly new divorce, but taking advice from people that align with those two don't seem to be in any single males best interest in a modern world.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/21 10:33 PM
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Hopefully that was in an email or a text. Lawyers love those things.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/21 03:21 PM
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