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I would suggest the app cyber dust. My friend uses it to send me baby pics so she can keep her kid off social media.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/16 11:11 PM
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Okay. I'll let you know when I set it up!
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/16 04:26 AM
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This is on my list!!
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/16 06:18 PM
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I want to start a book club with some of my twitter friends and was hoping if there was a RPW I could maybe get ideas and tips. Since mine will be coed and more #tradlife
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/16 02:34 PM
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You would always hope -- but he's already saying, "we don't need condoms I'll pull out" I wouldn't trust a guy like that.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/16 03:10 PM
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My husband gets back from a week long work trip that Friday so I splurged on Adore Me and he's coming home to new bra and panties sets 😊😊😊😊
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/16 12:29 AM
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Agreed. The health issue here... STD/STI situation is defiantly a red flag. Protection must be used!
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/16 12:01 AM
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I literally wanted to take a spoon and dig out my eye it got so bad. Hubby was at a loss what to do.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/16 10:26 PM
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My matron of honor had her 3 year old as her flower girl because of the pull out method.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/16 10:06 PM
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Have you talked to your SO? I ask because this can really change you. And he should be part of the conversation. I was on BC for 8+ years and suffered through really bad migraine. They got worst each year until we decided I need to be on them. So for now my husband and I are trying a few natural family planning methods + barrier method to avoid pregnancy until next year when we'll try to convince. If the only reason you are looking at the pill is for the ability to avoid pregnancy there are LOTs…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/16 10:03 PM
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I've been following this project for quite some time. I'm really eager to see it. One my university mentors is going to watch it and then we're getting coffee to discuss. 😊
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/16 04:16 PM
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Exactly. I had trouble putting it into words last night.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/16 02:10 PM
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Cut back on work. You relationship is important. If you want your career more than your man you are gonna have a bad time. Wife first, mother second. My dream job will be my kids, but my husband is the only one that can bring me that. 51% wife, 49% mother.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/16 12:19 AM
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My husband lost his mother 2 years ago - It's very rough and like Tempest said you can only just be there for him. You may want to recruit someone to take a pizza over, or make sure his fridge is stocked, when people grieve they often don't eat. Other than that you'll just have to see how he takes things and try to support from there. I'm very sorry for your loss.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/16 06:19 PM
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Hi, awesome post. I'm actually curious what her second job was. My husband would like me to be a SAHM but we still have a lot of student loans. He and I have been looking at any options that I can make money to put toward debt but still stay home.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/16 11:23 AM
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We're married now. Just the two of us in the house (plus puppy)
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/16 02:58 PM
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I've been there. I actually wrote it all down and had a letter of sorts I could read to him. I get really emotional and I wanted to stay factual. Plus I struggle to ask for help (independent woman hear me roar!) He thought it was cute. Also, he was able to make the adjustments I needed to reach the goals I had.
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/16 02:47 PM
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I'd suggest you first talk to your boyfriend. Let him know what your goals are (weight loss, work out, quality sleep, etc) you let him know the facts and the time this would require on your part. You inform him of why you have these goals. And then you ask. "Boyfriend will you help me reach my goals?" You need to approach the conversation with facts and then open your ears and your heart to his response. The hope is he sees the end goal is a benefit to not just you but him, and possibly his fami…
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/16 02:39 PM
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I'm a girl, but whatever :)
/r/askTRP30/12/15 01:07 AM
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Well then my advice is pointless haha.
/r/askTRP30/12/15 12:13 AM
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Skimmed through your post. Have you tried cutting dairy out? My brother-in-law and my sister both did and it did better for them than accutane ever did. My sister still consumes some dairy on occasion. My BIL maybe once a month.
/r/askTRP29/12/15 05:39 PM
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Feeling like a princess is fun, until you move your foot and it hurts like the dickens. Maybe i can talk him into going and getting me ice cream. mmmmmm :)
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/15 03:23 PM
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I get migraines to, but never more than like a night and move on. How do you deal with MONTHS of them???
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/15 02:47 PM
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I was in such a productive mood yesterday though haha. But that's also how I managed to hurt myself. Oh well, it is what it is. :(
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/15 02:42 PM
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I'll jump on later today!!
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/15 02:41 PM
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Congrats girly welcome to the married lady club!
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/15 04:07 AM
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Really? Rollo is the author of the book, and website Rationale Male. Which is one of the most, of not the most, notable red pill texts. Maybe check the attitude?
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/15 03:10 AM
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RPW boils down to (I know I've said this 1,000,000 times, hahaha) look good, don't be a bitch, keep his belly full and his balls empty. All else is whatever you two decide as a couple. Had to steal this for a tweet, I love it!
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/15 07:21 PM
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Being in charge doesn't mean "making demands all the time", it just means "having the final say" Good Point! This one should be stressed to the newbies. Which I still am one haha.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/15 08:48 PM
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I found TRP a little over a year ago, and I tried to go really hard at it -- really change me. I had a lot of good intentions with a lot of bad ideas. He called me out at one point for just kind of being odd, and different, and weird. I think we both chalked it up to engagement jitters/wedding planning. We were married in May and I think I'm on another "try to be perfect" kick which really makes life stressful because again - good intentions with poor ideas. I need to take a chill pill to tell y…
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/15 07:32 PM
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This is actually a current struggle for me. Some men are just not openly dominate in bed, nor do they initiate on a regular basis. Some men have no interest in being that Red Pill Sex God kind of attitude. I thought 'Hey the more I surrender the more he'll step up his bed room game'. Nope, nope, nope. I was trying to change so he would change. He wont change, he'll never change (unless he wants to make a change) but the truth is he's quite happy in our relationship, this whole this is a personal…
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/15 07:19 PM
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haha, oh! I had no idea.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/15 06:24 PM
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see who linked her. What??
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/15 06:11 PM
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I sent that one to hubby with a wink face. My husband doesn't initiate sex often, it's just not his style. But, when he does things like that it helps me know he is in the mood to be playful and maybe I can get something going later that night.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/15 05:56 PM
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Maybe some time you could give me some tips? I mod a small sub on my other reddit account and it needs to be beautified. :)
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/15 05:26 PM
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She's on twitter -- you could ask her? Or comment on the blog. I bet she'd appreciate knowing people are reading.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/15 05:06 PM
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Great Job Tempest!
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/15 04:53 PM
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Agreed, but that just happened to be the most recent when I posted. I think this one is funny - http://www.leeleeinbabylon.com/married-man-game-smacking-butts/
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/15 04:49 PM
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True on that regard. I think there is something about wanting to protect her from what may lie out there. Some of the manosphere blogs are really just outright PUA raunchy tactics. A good RPW doesn't need to spend her time reading that nonsense.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/15 02:25 PM
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I also thought it was odd he "banned her" but yeah - guess it worked for them? Also agree with your take on the analogy. Being nice and polite can be super sexy to a lot of guys, but just because you're being nice doesn't mean he's going to jump your bones each and every night. (but that's a personal struggle I'm dealing with)
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/15 02:21 PM
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Don't ever take TSM seriously and you'll be a lot happier :)
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/15 01:15 AM
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It's very very common for dogs to Velcro to one "parent". My dog did with me, I sat with her calming her the whole drive home from her adoption (2 hours) and I handled most of her feeding. If your BF would like more bonding with the dog then he should take the pup for walks and be more hands on with the training. Most dogs aren't going to understand a good cop/bad cop -- they just like the one that loves and feeds them. and also tried to give them more time alone to bond. A says that's unnecessa…
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/15 03:14 PM
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My husband is the same (but he likes coffee) - I started making myself smoothies and he asked I make him one. Especially since he started lifting I make a heavily protein smoothie for him. I get flirty/cuddly in the morning, sometimes that leads to things -- sometimes he asks me to join in the shower - makes for a fun morning.
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/15 01:18 AM
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While it's annacdotal evidence I agree that women negotiate for things other than hourly rate. I work in staffing which is a heavily female dominated industry and all my coworkers opt for more vacation, work from home days, flex time, pto.... they don't ask for raises as often.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/15 04:11 PM
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My husband's family's health is weak. Because of this he's constantly making sure I'm aware of everything in the house - how to handle fixing anything he fixes. He was already teaching me about my car but now he's got me at the gun range, he's got me learning to sweat pipe, he is teaching me about our riding lawn mower. If anything happens to him he wants to make sure I'm completely self sufficient. I'm not worried about losing him any time soon I'm appreciative of the fact that he cares and he …
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/15 05:31 PM
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I second the motion.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/15 08:38 PM
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I have 2 events I throw yearly and it's a little tradition with the ladies. One is a jewlery party just because my friends happen to enjoy them. And the other is the holiday cookie exchange. I always throw the exchange the 1st Sunday in December and it's just expected now they know they'll get the invite some time early October and we all talk cookies until the event.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/15 01:16 AM
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I love those paint and wine nights. My friends and I do them often. One of the night things is since it's BYOB you can easily check your drinking level while never looking like the fuddy duddy. "Oh, I just brought this... naw I don't wanna take any of yours, thanks though"
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/15 01:14 AM
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Not a bad idea! Maybe I should do that. He says my back massages are weak haha. I have little hands and my thumbs get sore pretty quick. Though I give a killer foot massage. I fill up a wash tub with hot water and oils and he soaks. The I massage, pumice, and exfoliate. Lots of heavy foot cream plus I clip his nails and file them. Mainly cause he use to scratch me in bed with his toenails so I just handle that now.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/15 11:28 PM
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I think I need to step that game up
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/15 09:21 PM
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Nice metaphor.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/15 09:20 PM
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Exactly! Yes, I am making this about me ... and it's so hard not to. Just need to keep chugging along and working toward letting go/surrendering. I think I just need to express to him my plate is pretty empty so anything you'd like to transfer to mine feel free - and if he chooses to delegate then I'll help and if he chooses not to then Trust that he has it handled. Thanks for the advice Tempest!
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/15 02:01 PM
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my parents made marriage look too damn easy! haha, like my mom would just handle it all and I'm over here going.... how do I not just know what to do!?!!?
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/15 01:56 PM
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It's just such a rough month and I don't want him to feel ignored because I'm super busy at work.... now he's stressed about work....and on top of that we're getting close to the anniversary of his mom's death and I don't know how to ask "is it all too much right now?" I feel like I SHOULD be doing something. Like.... doing nothing scares me. And leaving him alone FEELS like I'm doing nothing.... does that make sence??
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/15 01:14 PM
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Thank you, I think I just needed to hear someone else say it.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/15 12:56 PM
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haha right? Don't be one of those girls
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/15 02:03 PM
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haha, I don't think it constitutes its own post. At my reception D and his wife L got into it. I'm not sure how it started, I'm not even sure what it was about. Every time I turned around they were arguing.... okay, not THEY were arguing. SHE was arguing. He was sitting there annoyed unable to control her and really just not saying anything. Like, just right there at the table while people were drinking and dancing around them. D and the other men at the 8 person table are all co-workers of Hubb…
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/15 01:31 AM
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See a doctor and stop being a bitch to him. This is the answer. OP, if you know you have mood swings you either work with an MD to check your hormone levels and perhaps find a BC that helps you out or you just simply start to own your OWN actions and your OWN behavior. Stop acting like a child. I vote you do both.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/15 10:09 PM
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You're welcome :)
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/15 07:50 PM
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The end all be all is just simply never embaressed him. If we're talking about times when you're on his arm... You don't talk before him, he introduces you. You don't inturupted him even to correct a detail in his story. You don't change the subject at the table unless the current subject is causing tenting and then a good hostess would. I have a fun story about how a couple had a verbal altercation during my wedding reception. It's almost all anyone talked about even now... months after the wed…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/15 02:44 AM
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My mother is a fantastic quilter so I lean that way since I have a great resource a phone call away. I don't have pictures but I'm currently working on this spiderweb project . I can post pictures when I have one done.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/15 06:52 PM
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Great suggestion, Kitch! I will add it to my goodreads. :)
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/15 04:44 PM
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51% Wife, 49% Mother. I guess that doesn't leave much for self - but the saying makes it's point. You are a wife first, and then a mother.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/15 03:03 PM
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I'm a fan of 10/$10 sales in the freezer section and I just buy them and them force myself to put one on the table with each dinner (unless the dish I'm making is already veg heavy). I also really like Arbonne Essentials Greens Balance in my smoothies, it's like a daily vitamin that's ground up instead of a pill so I can mix it into just about anything
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/15 08:39 PM
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Gotcha, I get what you are saying.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/15 07:33 PM
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Do you have a kitchen scale? My baking had a noticeable difference when I measured my flour by weight. (120g = 1 cup)
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/15 11:34 PM
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I do find it odd that a college class would require you to spend an extra 200-300 dollars on top of all your other college expenses. That sucks. I would view it as the same as asking students to buy text books. My degree is in architecture and you just knew going in you'd be spending $250+ on your final project each semester.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/15 09:08 PM
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My husband requests this at least once a month -- I do NOT do the Edamame/soy and swap in peas like the site suggests http://www.food.com/recipe/tortellini-with-edamame-496708
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/15 06:27 PM
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Bras that fit well couldn't agree more, and never machine wash your bras ladies - the more you can hand wash and line dry the longer your clothes with last. Also /r/abrathatfits
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/15 06:23 PM
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When I was working on my wedding registry many women reached out saying don't go witht he 6qt Kitchen Aid, go with the 5 qt tilt head. The reason being - It's less expensive and just as good. It takes up less space and if you're not use to a stand mixer the 6qt can be a bit much. So I did opt for the 5qt and I use it all the time. Every kitchen needs a kitchen aid.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/15 06:17 PM
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Never leave a room empty handed. It's a good habit to keep your home decluttered. As for orginization, if you don't have a spot for it maybe you don't need it.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/15 01:32 AM
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Rule of 3. One for the bed, one for the closet, one for the laundry room.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/15 01:28 AM
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Me too!! I flip between cotton nighties and the tanktop cute booty short combo. Plus you should put in the extra effort to be in a matching set if possible with your hair brushed (if you sleep with it down) and your face/breath fresh. It's also an unspoken signal to hubby. If I'm in booty shorts I am in the mood to initiate if I'm in the nightie please initiate. I don't know how we got into that rhythm but it happened.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/15 02:04 AM
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I mean as long as He's happy ..... but odd for sure.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/15 01:58 AM
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I have a total girl crush on Kate Middleton. She's so poised and elegant. I'm thankful girls today have a style icon like her. She's modest, feminine, and beautiful in the way she carries herself.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/15 12:36 PM
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She's SO supportive of Dexter even though he's a nut job, I totally see it :)
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/15 12:35 PM
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I hadn't really followed her much I knew she was - of the four full house girls - the one that had the least controversy and drama. I get why, she's fantastic! I added one of her books to my amazon wishlist this morning. She makes a great roll model.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/15 12:34 PM
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Understandable they would keep it private. Thanks for the info :)
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/15 08:19 PM
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How do you find the group?
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/15 09:36 PM
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I second this advice. Something that is often mentioned here is how if you're hitting the gym you can find like minded women, and Alpha males. When you go to the gym you go to work out and see healthy changes, but do give a little time to socializing, be friendly, smile, say Hi. If OP doesn't want to meet people at the bar, at crowded clubs, then the gym is a great place to go.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/15 03:13 PM
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I worked for a catering company in college... it was something the stressed.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/15 02:06 AM
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I agree with Trad - Somethings are more important than the dishes. One thing that really helped me was to never walk into our out of a room with empty hands. Cleaning up behind yourself so you don't have a cluttered house come Friday night when all you want to do is cuddle up and Netflix.
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/15 10:57 PM
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My style is dresses, all kinds of dresses. I shop primarily at the Limited and The Loft. AE for more casual clothes. How close are you to a good sized outlet mall? That's my go to for something new and different.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/15 10:36 AM
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Interesting. I have used coconut oil on the inside of my cheek when I bite it (nervous habit) and it helps so much!
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/15 07:40 PM
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What the heck is Oil-Pulling?
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/15 03:28 PM
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Change is hard from any side. I thought I was a good girlfriend until RPW opened my eyes. I still have a long way to go to be a good wife. But I take pride in being a good wife so I keep chugging along.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/15 01:01 AM
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I enjoy cooking, but I know very little about it. My mother cooked, but didn't really teach me to cook. I'm very good at following recipies. Eventually I can evolve them, but until then I need recipes and this site not only gives me that it offers side parrings that work well with the main dish.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/15 10:01 PM
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I guess what pushed me to write this post is because when a woman come to rpw and start surrendering to her captain she gets hung up on the decisions she knows she's making. You don't have to surrender the kitchen. It isn't until we get deeper into surrendering we realize the things we didn't even know we were making decisions on. Then we can actually surrender.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/15 09:59 PM
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I'm in a massive food rut, but he eats whatever I make. So i'm just going to shake it up in hopes of finding some new favorites.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/15 03:36 PM
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Excellent, glad I could help.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/15 03:35 PM
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You're welcome.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/15 03:34 PM
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Noone else I know uses it. I want friends on the site haha. My menus are kinda puny but it's just us 2, so we eat leftovers 2 nights a week, often out with friends on friday/sat, so I really only need 3-4 meals a week.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/15 03:34 PM
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There are a few good ones out there. Actually search pinterest on here and I think there is the link to a girlgame one.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/15 10:55 PM
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I met him through greek rush week. He was in a fraternity (he's 2 years older), I was rushing the sororities. I basically stalked the shit out of him on campus until we started dating and made sure I was always working out when I knew him and his brothers would go to the field house for weights -- it's a cute story ;)
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/15 01:17 PM
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Because it's an amazing movie or because minty BJ's make it easier to swallow? Lol.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/15 01:58 AM
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I'm childishly reminded of the scene in Bring It On where they are brushing their teeth... it's adorable. Also, I find BJ's more pleasurable when I have a minty fresh mouth so night time routine is easily transitioned into adult fun.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/15 09:47 PM
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I don't think I am you, but we can be friends :) I found, through RPW, that the whole point of being a good first mate is so he can delegate to you. Just gotta find the balance for your individual relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/15 05:44 PM
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Honestly, when I first started reading RPW I got really hung up on "what do you want for dinner - why wont YOU pick" My husband just doesn't like picking dinner. He has other things on his mind. Why should he spend the time and energy picking out a menu, that's my job. Do you know what foods he likes? Do you know what foods he dislikes? Great - you know enough to handle dinner yourself. If he makes a suggestion then you comply to the best of your abilities. how can I gently encourage him to be m…
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/15 01:44 PM
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Thanks :) I will check it out!
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/15 03:25 AM
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I second the public speaking class. I am a social butterfly but that gets me into almost as much trouble as being shy - just the other extreme. Taking a public speaking class really helped me slow down and think before I speak. As for the being pressured into sexual situations (i.e. higher partner count) getting a job in any customer service role will really help her hone skills on standing her ground in a polite and poised manner. /u/KlaiFrai, I think it's great she's acknowledging these things…
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/15 05:14 PM
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There has to be something more to it. How can I not be desperate given that my two year old relationship with a woman who wanted to get engaged suddenly ended? I don't know....how would any of us know? We don't know you, or her. Go read the red pill side bar.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/15 01:41 PM
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I was raised in a faith based healing Christian church. I struggled a lot with that but I loved the community of my church. After moving out and college and all that I've continued to seek that kind of community I had at home with my parents and church. I also find faith to be a very private matter. Even other peers raised on the bible are very judgemental of my religion. Plus my husband was raised faith free but his parents were Lutheranish. He says 'the jury is still out' whenever people ask h…
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/15 01:31 PM
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When does he get back?
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/15 01:21 PM
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Welcome! We love new blood ;) it's great to hear you are reading that book. So many women swear by it.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/15 01:52 AM
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You have been with him 6 months and the issues started a few months ago? Honestly, it may not be worth it to stick around if this is already an issue. You're 22 so you do have time to find someone you are actually compatability with. Do not settle. Focus on yourself for a bit and then find a captain worth the title.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/15 11:18 AM
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Good suggestion, it was actually raining last night and I think it helped :D
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/15 12:14 PM
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That's a wonderful suggestion but unfortunately not a possibility.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/15 12:14 PM
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Thanks, I'll certainly talk to my husband about the ideas.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/15 10:46 PM
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haha, but I don't have babies yet!!! And to be honest -- this is also a fear of mine, being their strength. i'm the baby of the family, a big family. I've always had someone taking care of me - While i love to give and i love to help I've rarely been the one someone leans on - especially for safety.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/15 10:46 PM
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Thanks :)
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/15 10:44 PM
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oh, even with him home I don't do scary movies haha.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/15 10:44 PM
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Yeah, I just have to unlock and rack and shoot.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/15 05:42 PM
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Or being jealous.... that thought has crossed my mind too.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/15 05:41 PM
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Has he taken you to the range to teach you to shoot? I actually shoot better than him haha. I just have never shot in a self defense style. I shoot clay pidgins. We live in a nice area, I'm stupidly paranoid and I was very proud of myself I didn't turn to alcohol to fall asleep last night. It sucked, and I'm very tired now. But I hate feeling this way. Being an adult should not be this hard. I'm 27! Why is this scary?!
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/15 04:43 PM
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My cleaning schedule is every evolving. And because of that it's written down a lot. Whenever I find myself slacking it's typically because of a big schedule change that forced my old way of doing things out. I just put a list up on the fridge and I write down everything i do as I do it with what day it got done. Slowly it evolves into my weekly to-dos. I cross off and move and it is basically a messy scrap paper in plain view so I'm always reminded of what needs to be done and the last time it …
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/15 04:09 PM
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Makes a lot of sense. My sister cloths but has a service. We also don't live where you could line dry 365
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/15 02:50 AM
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Do you pay for a service or wash your own?
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/15 09:51 PM
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Fun! I think that's really sweet you did all that, and will make a great story when you show him/her the items from their baby box.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/15 06:43 PM
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I wish I was as witty as some of you ladies haha.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/15 10:10 AM
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Fantastic!
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/15 02:21 PM
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Maybe the mods could give me a flair haha. "Happily married RPW" :) I don't want to make a new username though because I feel I've grown and have some good posts on this one.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/15 10:54 AM
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I would assume so as it's very volunteering oriented.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/15 01:40 AM
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Alright thanks!!
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/15 06:09 PM
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How much of time commitment would you say? It's a good 30 minutes from me but the closest chapter.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/15 05:51 PM
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I would say the only reason it has a rich white woman stereotype is because typically an historically those are and were the kind of people that could afford to not work and participate in the league. Makes sense, and I have nothing against it but I also joined the DAR being told it's way younger these days.... no, no it's not. the DAR is a lot of really old ladies. And I can learn from them but can not relate to them. And most of the 30 something women are single, so I really can not relate to …
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/15 03:38 PM
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Thanks for the suggestion I will look into it!
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/15 03:36 PM
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Agreed /u/Frozen_Strawberry. And another thing, look at the amount of couples who are still homesteading. Those women who don't rely on buying everything they need. I think there are lots of RPW traits OP can still show even being an outdoorsy gal. Eve, on Discovery's Alaska TV show is one of my idols, she's pretty awesome.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/15 01:38 AM
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I really agree with the first part. When He gets sick he likes to sleep either in the guest room, or propt up on the couch. I would take it personal. But it's actually sweet and very considerate. I get the best sleep when I'm alone. The dog ends up in the hall so she can see us both and so I have nothing to disrupt my sleep. I still dislike it and when he returns to our bed the next night I make him feel extra wanted. But realizing it was nothing personal really helped me adjust my attitude and …
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/15 04:28 PM
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Great way to put it. Always remain feminine in all things you do.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/15 12:45 AM
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A lot of it comes from the fact that I'm an excitable person with a large family. We interrupt, we talk over each other, we are eager to chat. When I'm around his friends I really have to watch myself.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/15 01:43 PM
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Thank you! I feel like we're to a point where he's actually proud of me again. It's a good feeling.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/15 09:37 AM
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Well I'm glad I talked my self into posting it. :)
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/15 11:27 PM
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You're welcome. I'm really glad I found this community. :)
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/15 11:26 PM
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I bet she would agree with that. She's a good role model.
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/15 07:04 PM
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We're going to have 1 joint and 2 separate. Our paychecks enter the joint and then we auto transfer to our separate. His auto transfer will be larger but he also makes noticeably more than I do. Currently we have the joint account and we each put in the money we need to pay house bills. half are in his name, half are in mine. He puts in about 60% of the needed amount for all the house bills and I cover 40%. I recently got a new job with a raise so we're going to sit down and re-figure everything…
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/15 06:51 PM
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Congrats!!! My sister had a 25 guest wedding. The one thing she always said is never tell a vendor you are planning a wedding - you are simply planning a small party, or family reunion. It's like they have separate jacked up pricing for weddings. The other piece of advise she had was not to skimp on a photographer. Other than that every was very minimal. Mother of the Groom made cakes, mother of bride made dress. I think maybe the grandparents received formal invitations but everyone else knew b…
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/15 06:48 PM
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I know how you feel. Work was really beating me up last fall, it was a busy season for one customer and I lost another customer all in the same month. That evening I just lost it in bed, sobbed and cried and just clung to him. I couldn't even string a coherent sentence together. The next morning I made a point to pack his lunch with a note and it just said. "Thank You" and I gave him a big hug when he left for work. He texted me that afternoon. "You're welcome!" and that was all. We haven't talk…
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/15 04:12 PM
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Plate status is when you allow yourself to be one of his many "plates" You have entered FWB, or a casual hook up phase with a guy. It's highly frowned upon with RPW.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/15 04:05 PM
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I find partner count discussions fascinating because my SO raised my count. My SO has a kink that he opened up to me about, and asked if I would try - we did it for about a year and then reevaluated after a year. I told him while I enjoy pleasing him this particular kink does not satisfy me it actually makes me less satisfied and we stopped and investigated other things. During that year my partner count grew from 3 to 5, it remains at 5 and since I'm marrying my SO I have full faith that it wil…
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/15 12:45 PM
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I love the idea, but SO would not be comfortable with me sharing my address to anyone on Reddit. Please be safe with who you give an address to u/saffronbelle.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/15 12:35 PM
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I walked away from my faith when I went to college, I grew up in a bit of an extreme religion (faith healing) but I do miss the community that I had at church. There are a lot of people who are not particularly religious but enjoy having a loving community that looks after their own. Perhaps another way to think about going to church.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/15 11:29 PM
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I had one in collage. It was so nice! Especially when I was sore from the gym or not feeling my best. I'd crank it up, pass out, sweat it out and then strip my sheets for the laundry the next day. But I was also sleeping alone in bed back then so I could get away with being gross and sweaty.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/15 02:38 AM
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As RPW, we are trying to find that 'balance'. Some men are just absolutely not interested in a relationship no matter how awesome you are; and thats fine. But we need not waste our youth and vitality. Sometimes the best bet is to let go. Well put. In my journey over the last few months on RPW I have found it's really about loving him for who he is, not who you want him to be. What is that old saying? "men marry women and hope they don't change, women marry men hoping they will." For those who to…
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/15 02:49 PM
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My dad raised a large family of only daughters. His best advice was simply a reminder that I have his last name. That my actions have a direct impact on how people view him and out family. He was well known and respected where I grew up. He would tell me to change clothes before going to school and when I fought it he would remind me that I go out with his name attached. I'll be getting married and it's the same with my husband. My actions are an extension of him. So I better watch what I say an…
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/15 10:33 AM
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Agreed. If anything my SO loves that I can keep up with his conversation. He appreciates when I'm analytic and rational. If anything I think being a women in STEM helps keep your chick-crazy a little more in check. You have the ability to think rationally why would a guy be intimidated by that? And you look a hell of a lot better than the guys in the field :)
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/15 10:26 AM
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Always. He's not a decisive person though.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/15 11:30 PM
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Are you both on the mortgage?
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/15 08:16 PM
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May I rephrase? My dad is paying for my reception, because dads pay for their daughter's receptions.
/r/TheRedPill13/03/15 05:46 PM
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Very true, but it was also his choice to get engaged, it was not something I had expected when it happened. He has made it clear he's getting married once and only once, if it doesn't work with me he won't get married again. The weight of that conversation is something I keep in mind daily. It was a very sobering moment for me when he explained it to me. I also understand that it is my responsibility daily to make sure he never regrets that decision.
/r/TheRedPill13/03/15 05:43 PM
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See, that's what we're thinking about doing too so I'm glad to hear it works for others. We both understand bills need to be paid, but we also want to spend the money we earn at work on things we enjoy. He has a particular hobby that can get pricey and while I'd never stop him he also wants to be able to put money toward it whenever he wants.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/15 05:38 PM
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Not something I've thought about. Thanks for the response! Will defiantly definitely have to check it out.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/15 05:36 PM
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As a side note, what benefit does he get from marrying you? Unlimited blow jobs. K thanks :-)
/r/TheRedPill13/03/15 05:03 PM
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LMAO. That was his ring tone for me all through collage.
/r/TheRedPill13/03/15 03:41 PM
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My parents are throwing me the reception I want. We're financing everything that has to do with the wedding (Chapel, officiant, flowers....) My parents are paying for all the reception costs. But I think we're still under 15k for the day. Yes, wedding are expensive. But, for me, weddings are family reunions. So we do the whole shindig with dinner and brunch the next morning because they are coming in from out of town. Family is a huge deal for me, I think 70% of the guest list is blood related t…
/r/TheRedPill13/03/15 03:19 PM
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Thanks :) No question I'm changing my name. We have a joint checking all the house bills are paid from, but he'd like to keep our separate checking accounts also after the wedding. I have a savings that I'm building and I'll add him to it once we are married. I can never have enough nightgowns, I think he got me 4 for Christmas. He always makes sure 1 is ... well, not something I actually sleep in :)
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/15 02:34 PM
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Backyard wedding are becoming increasingly popular. It's almost a race to see who can have a cheaper DIY wedding on pinterest these days.
/r/TheRedPill13/03/15 09:55 AM
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Moisturiser. Everything from the nipples up. Lots of women moisturize their face but neck and collar are super important too because they see the sun just as much. Hands can show age also. So! Sunscreen and hats. A lot of water. And limit your alcohol. Don't ever smoke. Smoking really messes with the elasticity in your skin.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/15 10:11 PM
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Aww! That's super cute!
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/15 09:45 AM
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Been there! If your mind is in it to fix this and surrender then you can make that change. Surrendering is hard if it's not your norm but you can do it.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/15 11:36 AM
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Does he find it funny? I constantly catch myself answering back to him, being a bitch and I know he hates it. Yesterday he even left without a word after I could now constrain myself again. I really want to be with him and want to change myself...
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/15 11:32 AM
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Hannah you're a plate. Maybe he's thinking about upgrading you but you better surrender to him and fast. Bite your tongue, at all times, the good piece of advice I received when I started my RPW journey was to give up all control. Make no decisions and when he makes one you smile and don't ever sass back.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/15 11:19 AM
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Since our second date (about 4 weeks ago) we have sex every time we see each other. Your title leads me to understand you are not yet in a LTR? Are you monogamous? Is he?
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/15 10:59 AM
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Hey now. I fully enjoy being my hubby's sex toy ;)
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/15 04:03 PM
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What is the male:female ratio on reddit. I think that alone will show why we are a smaller group. On top of that women feel they are benefiting from feminism. Why swallow the pill?
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/15 11:12 PM
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Her diet is very good, we cook home meals all the time with fresh and organic ingredients. As others have said.... What's her dairy intake like? I've known 2 people who were not blood relatives that both found a lot of success by taking the bulk of the dairy out of the diet. The female still has some, but the male is almost 100% dairy free. Their skin is fantastic. It sounds like an old wives tail or snake oil - just avoid dairy! But dairy can have a lot of hormones.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/15 07:42 PM
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I only run the dishwasher in the evening right before bedtime as it makes me feel accomplished. Also, then I unload it first thing in the morning before making R's lunch for him to take from work. When this became a habit my kitchen stayed much cleaner during the week. I would like to get into the habit of 1 load of laundry a day but it still all gets done on Saturday.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/15 01:50 AM
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Congratulations!! Such a fun and exciting time for you!
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/15 12:57 AM
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This is me. Every time we are at home depot. I fail about 50% of the time and get naggy. He has a very good understanding of our finance so I'm not sure why I can't let go. But it's a lot better than it use to be where I would quite literally pout the whole car ride there because he was spending his money on something I didn't deem important. Since swallowing the pill and making a conscious effort to let him lead I think this is one area I have improved the most.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/15 09:42 PM
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Urban outfitters! :)
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/15 01:25 AM
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Check out my first post and some of the responses there. Sometimes we have this idea of what we want our captain to be....we think a captain should be one way or another. Does he feel he has a problem? Or are you embaressed because you want a guy who does well socially and yours does not. I thought my SO lacked confidence because he dislikes large parties. But the truth is he hates all the small talk bull shit at parties. When I really sat back and watched he is the life of the party when we are…
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/14 02:46 AM
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I hope so :) cause I'm marrying him. (192 days but who's counting).
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/14 11:53 AM
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Oh I left him a note today it just wasn't a honey-do list haha. And based on the text I got a few hours ago he saw it!! I'm pretty excited for tonight....
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/14 08:25 PM
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Thanks! I'm trying so hard to hear what he is saying. Also I love your pinterest!!
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/14 06:32 PM
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When he makes lists I make sure to stay focused on how he prioritizes :)
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/14 04:32 PM
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He generally ignores them and does his own thing. Usually if I look I'll find his list on his desk. But my monthly goal is to stay out of his office.... It's his space. He actually told me Saturday night he doesn't like how often I come into his office all "whatcha doing babe?". So my goal is to stop nagging and stay out of his space. He deserves time away from me.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/14 04:32 PM
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My Future Husband told me, when we first started dating, that he wanted a woman who could take care of herself. He taught me all about my car and how to change a tire. He doesn't want me stranded. But he still loves taking care of me. It's in his nature. He sets things up financially so if anything were to ever happen to him I'm safe and I wont lose our house. He often wont drink if i'm at an evening event with my sorority so if something happens he's good to come get me. When I'm home we really…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/14 02:42 PM
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I use to cut Future Hubbie's hair but when he started his most recent job he wanted to change his look from college kid to professional engineer. So I found him a good hair stylist and now she takes care of him. We had a Wahl and we loved it when I did cut his hair. I still trim his up if he has an important meeting and the sides are getting a little long around his ears or neck.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/14 02:22 PM
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How did you find the group without being a member of the church? I guess that's where I'm struggling. I don't have a kid yet but a women's community group would be fun. We don't have a church out here as Hubby is an atheist and I have mixed feelings on churches.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/14 04:06 PM
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My SO didn't like the idea when I told him (in collage) I wanted to work part time, or be a SAHM once I have kids. Now, I think he sees the benefit. I had a job that I worked different shifts than him. I got all the house work doe during the day while he was at work. He came home to a clean house, dinner in the crockpot, then I came home a few hours later. Now that I'm working a 9-5 he sees all these things I was doing while he was gone. And I think he understands why I want to be a SAHM.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/14 09:48 PM
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nonono, we just want everything to be "Fair" it's totes 50-50 /s
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/14 02:39 PM
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MLM aka legal pyramid schemes can be really bad relationships. Source: I technically am in one. But SO set boundaries I follow and it is a completely separate checking account. He is completely aware of the financial side and I don't have any notions of taking it full time. It's something I do once every 3 months to keep my discount on all the beauty products I use daily. MLM can be a huge place if tension for a couple because she doesn't see the logical side you do, she sees the stuff they sell…
/r/askTRP22/08/14 04:02 PM
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Ok, I understand!
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/14 06:33 PM
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I was going to PM you about last night but figured I'd place it out here as others could comment. I'm following your, and /u/blondie_brownie 's advice on not suggesting anything. /u/sierrasecho had a really good point about suggestions are just woman's ways of saying 'do it this way, but I'll let you think it was your way' Last night I made a conscious decision to bite my tongue and boy was it challenging. Right off the bat as I left work I texted him as I typically do that I was headed home. He…
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/14 02:47 PM
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Maybe, I know work is applying more and more pressure. He's been commenting lately how he doesn't have time for himself so I'm trying to make time and just deal with everything so he doesn't have to, but then I feel like I'm undermining him. I ask him what he needs - do you need me to XYZ so you can work out tonight? and he just get's aggravated "I know I should but....." and then I just bite my tongue to avoid nagging.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/14 06:57 PM
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So you make the conscious decision to step back - and then no decisions are getting decided. How do I quiet my fears because I just want to have a decision. "Well if no one will do it I'll do it myself" or "If you want it done right - do it yourself" How do I quiet that part of me?
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/14 06:27 PM
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your reputation with your SO is still one of a selfish woman Take the time to really appreciate the consequences of acting like you are the center of the world. Ouch!!! But I think I needed to hear that. Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/14 04:33 PM
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Thanks Blondie, I know that one of my flaws is the need for praise. It's something he brought to my attention early on in our relationship - that I do things simply to be praised. so I know he holds praise for only the proper times. I just need to keep chugging because when the time comes I know he'll feel it's appropriate to make those comments. At this point, I'd say don't even suggest, because you need to show him that you're behind his decisions 100%. This is an interesting suggestion and I'…
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/14 04:32 PM
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Thank you, I know I left a lot of information out when we chatted and honestly, I think it's because I'm still embarrassed by my actions and I don't like to admit what a shitty GF I was. I want to be a better person who doesn't so easily cave to the attention of others but it is something I struggle with.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/14 04:30 PM
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I'm sorry you view marriage in that way. I personally plan on marrying for life and am seeking advice from other's that feel the same.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/14 02:50 PM
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