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So much work, time and energy for a first date lmao, what if she’s actually not a match for you at all
/r/seduction24/03/26 10:57 PM
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For guys struggling, the advice should be; get down into the dirt and understand who you really are and what you really want in life. This is not a question to be taken lightly. When you start going out there, throwing yourself at things, talk to people, get out of your comfort zone, fail enormously, that’s the moment when you start to learn about yourself and where you need to go. It doesn’t come from sitting still and hoping some brilliant insight will come. You need to even suffer more than y…
/r/seduction19/03/26 11:20 AM
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Great post, I’m autistic and going through the same transformation. Even though I already knew most of these points, it’s still so valuable to be reminded about them again. I would add that for phase 4, it basically means that your neediness has fully subsided, allowing you to fully relax and be yourself with the added seduction skillset that you’ve internalized over time. This is a very important aspect many of us forget. It can only be internalized by lots of practice and failures.
/r/seduction19/03/26 10:39 AM
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Exactly, I cleaned my instagram from those thirst traps, and even the girls I once knew, so not to ever be distracted or triggered by it, and it’s been real good for me.
/r/seduction11/03/26 06:49 PM
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Exactly
/r/seduction07/03/26 07:31 AM
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Great sources man thanks
/r/seduction03/03/26 07:25 PM
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Where did you get those stats from, cause there have been quite some studies showing that the younger generation dates way less
/r/seduction03/03/26 06:27 PM
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Dude I think gen Z is the generation with the lowest body count and sex, guys around 22 date and fuck way less than we millennials did. So no this has not been the reason why dating sucks, the internet, social media, dopamine addiction and immediate gratification are at issue here
/r/seduction03/03/26 06:13 PM
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Go date someone else, and if she never gets back to you after you asked her out once or twice, it is what it is. Don’t invest more than she is doing, early on in dating
/r/seduction03/03/26 11:29 AM
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Yeah I think rejections don’t do shit to me. Unless it’s an experience like this, as an autist, meeting someone so like-minded is an extremely strong experience, especially when you find the person attractive. Because it happens not very often. So even though I do deeply believe that of myself, this still becomes a challenge in these situations. So I have to find ways to keep my cool and downplay it when it happens
/r/seduction04/02/26 07:50 PM
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What are your beliefs?
/r/seduction04/02/26 07:32 PM
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Okay chatgpt bro, but what are you saying, I should pursue friendship with her in the hopes that it will turn into more than friendship. Even though she clearly stated that she is not looking to date after I asked her out. It doesn’t make much sense and it seems to be a waste of my energy. Maybe those people from those stats met their SO’s organically through work and friends (like most relationships besides dating apps), so their connection build up more friendly. But this doesn’t really work w…
/r/seduction04/02/26 07:26 PM
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Yea I think it comes down to knowing when the girl seems receptive, neutral or uninterested, early on when you have stated your intent for the interaction. And when she’s reacting neutrally (but interested in a friendly/chill matter) there is some more work to do. You gotta test her interest levels by means of seduction, throwing the things in there to see how she responds. Because like I said in another comment, if she’s neutral and you just keep being friendly, it will cause no attraction or c…
/r/seduction04/02/26 04:46 PM
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I approached her with complimenting her style, and also made it clear I want to date her. But somehow she was really interested in just making new friends. She just arrived in the country a couple of days ago
/r/seduction04/02/26 04:39 PM
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I wish I could make my autistic brain to think and act as simple as this on all times :')
/r/seduction04/02/26 02:55 PM
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I think it's true in both parts, yes you are right, when she already likes you, it will not make much difference if you're a little too safe or friendly. I have heard countless of stories of women going on several dates with a guy and the guy taking no action or escalation, but the women still wait patiently until he does. But on the other part, if the girl is neutral but still a really great match, it might definitely help to spark some attraction through seduction, with teasing or banter, and …
/r/seduction04/02/26 02:54 PM
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I guess it's the trap I've been dealing with every time I meet someone I really like. I'm autistic and I have to really force learn and use these methods of seduction. And they did really work for me, when I cared way less about the girl. I guess it's a fear I haven't let go yet, of losing the girl I actually like by making a stupid or bold move. I really should just act the same way with every girl, and care less about the consequences in the moment, and just don't deny my desire to have sex wi…
/r/seduction04/02/26 02:13 PM
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It also appears that because she’s staying in my city temporarily (couple months) she already was not planning to date. At least, if I have to believe her word for it
/r/seduction04/02/26 01:37 PM
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Yes but it makes no sense to keep someone as a friend that you were romantically interested in. (Most of the times)
/r/seduction04/02/26 01:24 PM
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I did not agree with everything, and I did tease her and was playful. But I just didn’t turned it into my main focus, cause I was just swept away by how good the conversation was, as I don’t often meet people like that. Why can’t we just see that as a “get to know” interaction and be open for a date, why does it have to be decided permanently within the first 20 minutes. I admit I should remove these borders of how I act on a date and with someone I just met. But damn, can’t we just see where it…
/r/seduction04/02/26 01:22 PM
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So it was my fault for just being my true self? I need to think of seduction games when interacting with women at all times. While the average unattractive guys get in a relationship with an attractive girl by just being friends with them.. it’s a crazy world
/r/seduction04/02/26 01:10 PM
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We just met on the street and had a coffee with a long conversation, but I got so into it that I was nerding out and not thinking about seduction, and not really caring much about it since I thought she would too. Then she kept texting me and I asked her out, and she said she isn’t interested in dating rn, which in my experience just translates to “I don’t see you romantically” This was the second time for me that I turned a cold approach into a date on the spot, but I should have actually frame…
/r/seduction04/02/26 12:48 PM
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Why don’t you just keep doing cold approach and delete the apps if they’re not working for you?
/r/seduction30/12/25 02:44 PM
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Truth, I’m currently busy with shattering these insecurities, by following the abundant mindset concept from Robert Glover, and getting rid of my limiting beliefs about myself
/r/seduction11/12/25 01:23 PM
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Idk man, these guys. Many of the hot women I talked to (atleast my view of hot) weren’t annoying at all. Actually the hottest ones were actually the nicest of all, even with rejection
/r/seduction06/12/25 11:16 PM
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I just started reading the book by Robert Glover, and this reads so much better than any other dating book I’ve read so far, so imma dig in. I had read “No more mr. Nice guy” for a part, but this seems more relevant to me. Thanks for the suggestion
/r/seduction06/12/25 11:14 PM
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Very true yes. Usually rejection itself is not a big issue for me, when it happens clearly right there on the spot. But it’s when I start seeing the mistakes I’m making, and thus blaming myself for screwing it up. I know I’m not the most socially cued person yet because of my autism and introvertedness, and it will take some time. But definitely good point, for sure I’ve been rejected by 5’s and 6’s and the next day got a great interaction with an 8 who’s my type. Hilariously. So indeed it depen…
/r/seduction05/12/25 07:36 PM
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I don’t know where you live, but I’m a 7.5 and women don’t really approach me. Cold approaching has helped me a lot, to overcome my severe social anxiety, has gives me very interesting dates and connections, and improved many things in my life already. So no, don’t believe this advice.
/r/seduction05/12/25 06:50 PM
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Thanks man, appreciate it. I can have a strong imagination sometimes. I know my type is extremely specific and thus so very rare. Which adds extra tension to it. In a way it’s also a double edged sword, because those very interesting girls are also pushing me to actually approach them and make the first step. But on the other hand it’s also easy to label them angels, even though they may be toxic or have red flags. I should find a way to clear my head beforehand, to not start praising them from …
/r/seduction05/12/25 06:45 PM
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Very good one. I feel that. Although I have to say that the many rejections I now experience because of cold approaching, tend to put my confidence down sometimes, even though I know I shouldn’t let that affect my self view, it still hits me subconsciously. What has kept you up in these moments, how did you keep trusting the process no matter the circumstances?
/r/seduction05/12/25 06:24 PM
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That’s definitely not the girl I’m talking about, I didn’t meant hot as in a 10 in conventional hot, but more a 10 in my personal view. I usually tend to filter these attention seekers rather quickly
/r/seduction05/12/25 05:55 PM
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Holy shit dude, so she is like 18 and you’re 50? 😂
/r/seduction13/09/25 07:27 AM
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“I said are you sure? Feel free to decline!” Sounds so simped out 😂 Any real hot girl would have rejected you right there
/r/seduction12/09/25 09:18 PM
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I don’t know about the US but I have had way more success with college girls than girls my age with cold approaching. Most of the girls my age seems to be taken. Since there’s an university in between my house and gym, I just randomly approach a girl sometimes, now im dating 3 students lol
/r/seduction12/09/25 09:09 PM
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Lol yea the college girl I’m hooking up with that I met near my house and near her university told me not to say hello to her when she’s with her classmates if I ever see her on the street. Because she is shy about the age difference.
/r/seduction12/09/25 09:02 PM
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Thanks man, this helps a lot. And if on the dance floor, in a busy crowd, where usually people are facing the Dj like a religious crowd, how do you position yourself to her so that see can see you, do you just go stand directly in front of her, or just by her side and facing her, dancing towards her, until she notices you? I think I find this maybe the most difficult part, since I find non verbal flirting and communication difficult in these crowded settings. Is it like finding a rhythm of looki…
/r/seduction01/08/25 08:54 PM
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Capitalism fuck yeah
/r/seduction31/07/25 08:16 PM
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And the blame is not to women, it’s dating apps and social media, but everyone knows this. We’re getting brain fried globally now, more and more disconnected
/r/seduction29/07/25 10:15 PM
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Not gonna lie tho, I feel like the whole dating scene made a turn, and the book may not be completely up to date anymore. Women are way more likely to suddenly ghost for no good reason. I’ve had many cases where women were super receptive at first and then suddenly disappear. But only in the last year. Every tiny thing can be an “ick”, especially to gen-z. And dating feels like constantly stepping on lego.
/r/seduction29/07/25 10:04 PM
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I think you're looking at it the wrong way, you're dedicating that time to yourself, to have a nice day by yourself. And if there is an interesting person in your path, you approach her, to see if she matches your vibe. But you're looking for a solution, and you hate night game, so I think this is your only solution, go out do something fun, go for a walk, and go to places where you can find people that are in your demographic. You'll realise soon enough that there wasn't anything to be scared a…
/r/seduction27/07/25 07:31 PM
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u/IslandMan01 as a matter of fact I did this today, as I wasn't able to go out yesterday evening because I didn't feel good. I went to my favourite museum and on the way at the train station I talked with a very cute girl, and we shared contacts. So I went from feeling stuck and alone on a Saturday night, to a very chill Sunday with the lookout of a date ahead. So if clubs or bars are not your thing, try cold approaching when you're doing errands or going for a solo daytime activity. You'll neve…
/r/seduction27/07/25 07:18 PM
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Sometimes I have the same issue, of really not having the energy to go to a loud bar or club. Even though I can sometimes enjoy them. My solution is to find concert nights with music I want to checkout, so it feels more okay to go alone, and you don’t have to go crazy or stay till late. And if I really don’t have the energy that evening, I’ll go the next day on a daytime activity with the intention to talk to all the interesting girls, for example I’ll go to an exhibition, and talk to every cute…
/r/seduction27/07/25 07:30 AM
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How are the mods not deleting these highly specific posts about a specific person, but when I type just one letter that is even slightly related to an actual person it gets instantly thrashed and I get banned?
/r/seduction25/06/25 02:12 PM
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Yeah I guess I need to practice way more to get a feeling for it. What are your usual warmup words and flirty innuendos you keep by your side? It would help me to get an idea of the general vibe I should go with
/r/seduction14/06/25 08:11 AM
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Aight, hoe is jouw night game dan?
/r/seduction13/06/25 06:41 PM
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Good point, how would you usually open then?
/r/seduction13/06/25 06:31 PM
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Yeah I get that, but for some reason when talking to a girl in a club, I either go into boring logical convo or I go blank. What are some interesting witty or flirty directions you can take?
/r/seduction13/06/25 06:01 PM
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Netherlands
/r/seduction13/06/25 05:55 PM
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Yea Hinge works so much better for me, but nobody uses it here in NL. Everyone uses Bumble and it’s total shit, I guess I’m shadow/money banned. Tinder I dropped out a long time ago for the same reason
/r/seduction12/06/25 06:35 AM
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Big word, this sounds extremely familiar with the girl I just fell for way too quickly. Fuck she was hot, but damn she was just total chaos and unstable. Ngl indeed one of the best sex I’ve ever had.
/r/seduction18/05/25 12:39 PM
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To be fair though, many of these guys also happened to be in the right place in the right time, e.g. knowing this girl from school / work / friends and just fading into a relationship. Not every guy with a hot girl has “game”, but since most of us don’t have that coincidental luck, we have to work for it. Unless you want a mundane life with a mundane girl.
/r/seduction18/04/25 07:16 AM
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It’s okay, you can summarise it here if you want. If it’s good I might try your book
/r/seduction13/04/25 08:59 PM
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Yeah no I would definitely communicate that then. And I do focus on not being goal oriented, also good point. I do think that “being your best self” can be misleading, when your “self” is the one that caused all the issues regarding dating in the first place. I needed radical change in social understanding and dating, so much of that self is now rather fragmented and finding its place. But I sense that trying to be as much present in the moment / feeling, and as laidback as I can, usually helps …
/r/seduction13/04/25 08:49 PM
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Yeah you’re right, inner game is way more important. But needless to say, with autism, without learning any of the technicalities or social mechanisms, it’s pretty darn difficult to connect. Because you will basically move about like a robot socially. I came a long way already and I guess I’m now still at the point of integrating those normal dating mechanisms into my dating, experimenting and adjusting, while trying to preserve my own self. How did you manage to improve your inner game? How do …
/r/seduction13/04/25 08:37 PM
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Can you elaborate on that strategy, how does it look like?
/r/seduction13/04/25 08:15 PM
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Yeah I’m trying that as well. How do you proceed when you don’t see full compatibility, but just want to turn it into casual dating?
/r/seduction13/04/25 07:21 PM
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Thanks for the comments bro, what does s.m.v. Stand for?
/r/seduction10/04/25 12:04 PM
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I see, so toning down the energy and interest level. And when she shows interest or gives you a compliment, you’re still playing it down, or do you reciprocate? And do you ask her out, or wait till she asks to meet you? And if she’s not showing much interest, do you let her go?
/r/seduction10/04/25 10:50 AM
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Interesting, and I can see the appeal somewhere. But how do you keep the girls invested or interested in you when you don’t show interest or intent yourself. Are they just not gonna assume you’re not interested in them and they move on? Like what is keeping them on that hook? I’m meeting a girl today who I had a first date with before, she’s not so sure about me, so I want to try this out
/r/seduction10/04/25 07:30 AM
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I started doing this more, but still have a hard time with girls who are shy and more closed off, how do you open up these girls emotionally, when they aren’t really sure about themselves? It can kill the vibe really quickly when she gives short answers and you end up going from topic to topic, remaining on the surface
/r/seduction22/03/25 08:28 AM
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Update: Girl ended up not being my vibe, nor a match. Decided to do some sets again today, approached 9 girls, and got a date set with a much better and hotter girl. Even though I was semi hangover today and felt like shit, I was able to turn the day into a win again.
/r/seduction09/03/25 09:51 PM
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Lol I’ve been going to the clubs for 8 years here and never heard or seen that. If people wanna make out they’ll make out. And in the techno clubs people will do whatever they want and nobody cares, except if you visibly go too far in front of others
/r/seduction07/03/25 06:30 AM
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What do you usually open with when it’s just for random socialising?
/r/seduction06/03/25 10:54 PM
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Had the same issue, my screen time went up a lot and I saw the issues it caused. I decided to check my screen time every week and set a goal, going down an hour every week on daily average. I made use of an app called Screenzen, which limits the app time limits much better than IOS itself. I think I’m still sensitive to getting lost in my phone, but trading in screen time for book time or meditation really worked well. Also putting my phone away in another room, when I’m working and setting a ti…
/r/seduction03/03/25 08:13 AM
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Thanks, will do! Your post have been very helpful
/r/seduction02/03/25 08:32 AM
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It may be for some girls indeed. But in my country, direct communication is appreciated. So I usually just ask them at some point in the convo; “can I ask you a direct question? Are you single?” So it won’t be a waste of time. Most girl seem to be giving an honest response
/r/seduction02/03/25 08:30 AM
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True, although receptive people seem to be really scarce. From the 75 approaches, maybe 6 of them were quite receptive. But I guess that could improve when I get more skilled
/r/seduction02/03/25 07:16 AM
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True, I feel intensely free after cold approaching
/r/seduction02/03/25 07:10 AM
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Glad that it resonates with you man. And same, my father always talked with everyone. But I didn’t had that capability at all, I’ve always been extremely shy and socially anxious. One book that really helped me understand my emotions is: Living Like You Mean It by Ronald J. Frederick. I could suddenly see anxiety for what it is, and could actually start to address it. Enjoy the ride
/r/seduction02/03/25 07:09 AM
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I’m maybe a 7 on the looks department, and not short. But I’ve put a lot of attention to style and fitness. Dating has never been easy for me, and autism is the worst card you can draw regarding dating
/r/seduction02/03/25 07:02 AM
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Yeah they can definitely sense that. If it becomes a chore, your energy in the interaction will change. Maybe you can give it a try to change your intention, and just have fun. If they’re boring, then dating them is not gonna be great anyway
/r/seduction01/03/25 10:08 PM
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Word. I’ve been seeing so much improvement in the rest of my social life as well. I even started building a community in the field I work in. Something I would have never done before
/r/seduction01/03/25 09:51 PM
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Ah shit, that sucks. Are you maybe approaching with a specific external outcome, like getting her contact or fixing a date? Because I realised I approved a lot by changing my intentions to “I’m just gonna approach her and see what’s she’s like” and basically see if I can have fun with her. Then if she’s cool we can exchange info. By doing so, the rejections didn’t felt painful at all. Most people are not compatible with you anyways.
/r/seduction01/03/25 09:48 PM
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Props to you if that’s the case, but could also be ADHD I guess, some similarities there in neurodivergence. And well done mate on the game. I’m curious, what tips do you have for the shit tests, did you had a good source for that?
/r/seduction22/02/25 11:12 PM
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You on the spectrum? Cause damn this seems like my flow of thoughts ahah
/r/seduction22/02/25 10:59 PM
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So what do you usually do when the girl doesn’t respond as interested on your flirtation? For example I used your line with hair, (although in my language it seems a bit weird to say) And she said thanks with laughter, and when I dropped the line of “I might have to come and see…” She also responded with just “hahahaha” I just liked her response as well and didn’t continue. But would you always end it there or would you go try something else to still setup a date? Since in this she seemed quite …
/r/seduction27/10/24 02:24 PM
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Yeah it’s definitely a lot of learning about the workings of emotions and reflecting on yourself, and then knowing how to communicate it properly by tuning it right. It’s like you want to be your unfiltered true self, but also not too unfiltered that you will insult or let out all of your intrusive thoughts
/r/seduction03/10/24 06:41 AM
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I asked a girl out that I was going to work with to organise an event. She rejected me because she has a boyfriend, I was totally cool with that and still decided to keep her on the team because she’s chill. After that we met up a couple of times for different things regarding the organisation, and I could see that she became very interested in me, and showing signs of interest. Especially when she saw me work with another girl. Now I’m not sure if she’s still dating her boyfriend, I have to fin…
/r/seduction03/10/24 06:31 AM
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But also don’t drop these tragic backstories right of the bat, it can make the interaction very heavy, and when the person doesn’t know you yet, they can easily label you as an emotional unstable or negative person. It’s important to have a chill and fun conversation as well at first. Unless of course she shares something vulnerable right of the bat as well. By not giving away your whole story right away she also has to put effort into getting to know you.
/r/seduction03/10/24 06:19 AM
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Lol I didn’t say I already know I wanna create a life with her, just that she’s my type and I want to date her
/r/seduction01/09/24 07:54 PM
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Yeah true, the next time I’ll introduce more tension through banter, teasing, flirting and escalation. I felt like maybe playing it bit too safe with the teasing. Thanks for the feedback
/r/seduction01/09/24 06:53 PM
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Yeah, you’re right, it is quite specific. And I did it indeed in the way like you said, we met for a coffee at a cafe, starting with lower emotional energy, and slowly building it up. Asked her to go have a drink together next to the canal with a great view. And just framed it as a date, but acted it out more subtly, light touches when laughing, getting close to her when she speaks, making eye contact (although she’s shy about it). And not too strongly showing my interest, really getting to know…
/r/seduction01/09/24 04:46 PM
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I guess this community only has answers to the same damn recycled questions
/r/seduction01/09/24 06:50 AM
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Word. Man the irony of seeing all those women commenting on Threads (instagram) about young girls dating older men, and that it is disgusting. But then you go out, and the most looks you get are from the younger girls
/r/seduction10/08/24 03:22 PM
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Try growing a moustache, it might make you look more mature. I’m 29 with a babyface, but it has helped, girls my age and younger girls seem to like it. Next to that there is a lot you can do with looking more mature by working on your health e.g. going to the gym, improving your style, and the way you present yourself, the way you move, with confidence. Maybe let them in on your deep interests that are relevant to your age or even more mature than that. I often get comments that I’m an old soul …
/r/seduction10/08/24 03:18 PM
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Truth, couldn’t describe it better
/r/seduction31/07/24 12:35 PM
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So you’re just ignoring the girl in the gym that you’re gaming, or just only after you’ve established sex. I’m also curious about the moment when multiple women you’ve been seeing are in the gym simultaneously, what do you do then? I thought the best way was to keep it very lowkey and slow social progression. By keeping it short in the first interaction, getting her name, smalltalk. And then continue on the next time you see her, build report, ask her what’s she’s doing in the weekend or suggest…
/r/seduction25/07/24 09:22 PM
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Just watch tons of videos on how to approach, then at some point let it rip. And you’ll realise that rejection is actually kinda funny and doesn’t hurt you at all. Maybe just your ego for 5 mins
/r/seduction16/07/24 03:48 PM
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Damn dude, I’m kinda in the same boat as you now, although I only did 23 approaches in total over the last months, with most of them in the last weeks or so. So doing 20 in a week is pretty wild imo. What I’m doing is, I’m keeping track of all the approaches in my note app, and then reflect on the stuff I did, and what I could have done better, basically rescripting the scenario. With that I’m seeing slight improvement in my confidence, and less issues with high nerves / goofy errors. With that …
/r/seduction16/07/24 03:45 PM
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Actually all my experiences with girls in a hurry let me to a quick rejection, as they really didn’t seem to had time to talk to an stranger. But maybe that’s just bad luck in row. It got me to the point that I tend to look for people with a more chill pace or who are standing/waiting, who seem more open to talk
/r/seduction13/07/24 07:55 AM
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I agree with your first point, but regarding the kiss, I don’t think you should ever ask that, it can kill the tension and the whole attraction
/r/seduction12/07/24 01:55 PM
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Damn bro, amen to you
/r/seduction12/07/24 01:46 PM
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Thanks man, that’s some good advice! I’m definitely taking everything through a filter that is being posted on this sub, as many things don’t come natural to me. But if I know the science, I can practice it. That’s why I’m asking these very specific questions, that may sound very dumb to many. Also not sure about that anti coffee date idea, in that perspective it sounds more like you need to fix the girl no matter what, even though you might not like her, that seems rather needy. I think it’s a …
/r/seduction12/07/24 01:44 PM
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That’s not true, she doesn’t like to be approached on the street, so no girl does! The dates you had were fake
/r/seduction12/07/24 06:21 AM
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I mean just do what you like to, and there are so many ways to do foreplay, you don’t have to go down on that licking game to get her screaming for sex. Experiment with different ways
/r/seduction08/07/24 06:34 PM
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Ask her what’s she up too this weekend, if she has a boyfriend she will definitely say something with her bf, if she says she’s gonna do something with her girlfriends, you’re probably good. From there on you can invite her for drinks at a bar, and set a date. Watch the video of gym approach by Denmo, that’s pretty good content
/r/seduction08/07/24 05:52 PM
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Is there a database with all these methods?
/r/seduction07/07/24 08:37 AM
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I always tell this, and it’s the truth, you don’t really have control over wether you suddenly find a “perfect match”
/r/seduction05/07/24 05:57 AM
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That’s something I should have understood better on my last date lol
/r/seduction28/06/24 06:36 AM
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Could you elaborate what the point is of making a two part thing but not posting the second part?
/r/seduction17/06/24 12:36 PM
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Also I don’t think you fully understand what autism means. The brain and its information processing work totally different than people without autism. Atypical people or neurodivergent, need all the information to understand how certain social situations work, it doesn’t come naturally when you let it, literally everything is manually, if you want to exist in this world socially. So that is why autistic people ask a lot of questions here and in general, because we just don’t know, and we need to…
/r/seduction03/06/24 03:07 PM
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Try finding them, because they’re not out there. And if they are, they’re social autists who have been shaped by their environment, where you’re dealing with the same complexities as neurotypical people. Playing the same games, and having the same requirements for making a connection
/r/seduction03/06/24 03:03 PM
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Indeed ahah, I will just reshape my genetically engraved neural pathways by hand and be myself, why didn’t I think of this earlier
/r/seduction03/06/24 02:58 PM
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It’s funny, I just thought you sucked at English, but now I get you’re just a delusional neckbeard developer sitting in their parents basement, talking on Reddit as if he ever leaves the house. Good luck to you man, you might need it more than me
/r/seduction22/05/24 05:16 PM
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Totally agree, but still, you will also get rejected on behaviour that the after date you realised you shouldn’t have done. And I guess that is the part that hurts, knowing that you could have done better, and you failed an amazing match. Especially in 2024, everyone seems to be on edge on the details, and everyone is in a rush, no time to just see and discover. We live in an age of constant comparison, constant competition, with deficiency of time and energy. An amazing thing, that social media…
/r/seduction22/05/24 03:35 PM
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Lmao
/r/seduction22/05/24 03:15 PM
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Congratulations you’ve discovered the whole point of this forum
/r/seduction22/05/24 02:37 PM
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Okay, but instead of being helpful, you shit on people with the worst grammar ever. So maybe you’re responding to posts to feed your ego, but man try to do it properly then
/r/seduction22/05/24 11:51 AM
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The thing is, she was very high interest. I have dated women who had been much lower interest level and they wanted to see me again all the time and they kept texting me to meetup
/r/seduction22/05/24 11:44 AM
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Me women? What are you talking about dude, maybe check your text before posting it
/r/seduction22/05/24 11:39 AM
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Honestly that sounds like investing in her too much, I need to give her space as well. I will let her be and if she doesn’t come with a date suggestion in a week or two I will message her
/r/seduction21/05/24 02:11 PM
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Thanks man! I actually did that now, and I think she’s actually like that, she might not fully know what she wants, but she probably still wants to meetup again. Only that she isn’t in a rush. I think because I’m on the spectrum, I still think about things like this very logically, but it’s great to have some feedback like this
/r/seduction21/05/24 10:29 AM
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She actually did do that when she couldn’t on the first date day that I suggested, she texted me back 7 days later with a day that she can meetup. She is very busy and works two jobs
/r/seduction21/05/24 09:43 AM
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Can you elaborate why she would interpret it as a rejection when u wait 4 days? In this case I was actually busy and somewhere else, but I made it very clear in and after the date that I was interested in her. To ask her 3/4 days later is not that crazy right, as she can understand I’m busy as well
/r/seduction21/05/24 08:44 AM
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Yeah I’ve considered that, but here’s what was said: So **, I had a great time last Thursday and I would like to see you again, would you have time this weekend? Maybe we can go to ** Museum Which she replied to: I’m glad to hear that! I have plans on this weekend😢 I’ll let you know when I’m free If you’re truly interested, wouldn’t you come with a date that works for you? So in a way it feels like the energy changed. As I said in another comment, she is a shy person, so she might take things sl…
/r/seduction21/05/24 07:46 AM
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She texted me back now the next day, with that she can’t this weekend and that she will let me know when she’s free.. shittt. She told me right after date that she had a lovely time. And the whole date there were indicators of interest, touching her hair, laughing at literally everything, complimenting me. And we kissed, so yeah confusing
/r/seduction21/05/24 07:22 AM
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She confirmed it right after she came home after the date, she said “it was lovely to meet you”. We kissed after the date, didn’t had sex. She is a shy person so she might want to take it slow, and maybe even thinks I’m going too fast.
/r/seduction21/05/24 07:19 AM
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I had the same thought when I just started off, I felt like I needed the extra confidence. I actually did it once, had one bacardi coke at home, went out, and it ironically turned out to be a really shitty day weather wise and game wise, because nobody was there. Later I realised that it’s kinda stupid to do mid day, and made me feel like an alcoholic. And I came to the point that you just have to let it rip man, that’s what this is all about anyway, about letting it rip. It’s gonna freaking hur…
/r/seduction14/05/24 09:36 PM
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So what if she straight up asks what your intents about dating are, and she is looking for someone who wants a relationship? You just tell her the same but still keep the same game going of not showing direct intent to her?
/r/seduction14/05/24 06:07 AM
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Stories like this are reminding me that doing cold approaches can be extremely beneficial when you’re just out and about, not having the focus on talking to women and then surprisingly crossing paths with an amazing match. If you hadn’t stepped out your comfort zone by doing cold approaches, you may have never started a convo with her, since you would have still be attuned to the “societal restrictions”, and keeping your mouth shut because oh dear imagine if you say something wrong or creep her …
/r/seduction12/05/24 03:13 PM
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I think if you want to go for the kiss at the end of the date, there had to be some subtle physical escalation during the date, where you build it up slowly and exploring the boundaries to see how she responds. The key tho is that it has to feel natural and not forced. For example using subtle touches on her upper arm / shoulder when you’re both laughing, or as an exclamation in your conversation. Then at the end of the date when saying goodbye outside the bar, if you both had fun and a great ti…
/r/seduction04/05/24 01:50 PM
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True, you’re right. I’m still unlearning a lot of conditioned patterns that made me look needy and desperate. And I’m also realising that real abundance can be a solution to this pain of ghost rejection, and that dating a new girl who might be even a way better fit is the best way to forget about the ghost. I guess sometimes we just want to know why those things happen to us, seeking answers so we can leave it behind.
/r/seduction02/05/24 03:11 PM
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It’s funny that my young (babyface) look is now transforming into an advantage when I start to reach the 30’s, which was sometimes a disadvantage before. Now with a moustache I can look old and young/fit at the same time, and girls seem to like it
/r/seduction02/05/24 03:05 PM
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It’s ironic, I totally feel and understand you. But damn those sudden ghost rejections after everything went smooth, with a girl that seems to be extremely aligned with your vibe and interests, do hurt as hell still. I have no issue at all when a girl directly rejects me. But man those long ones, and knowing she would defo like you when she would get to know you, it doesn’t make sense and really puts me on the edge of quitting. I guess I’m still getting a little too hyped when I meet someone who…
/r/seduction27/04/24 06:11 AM
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Damn bro throwing out his whole life’s story ahah. I appreciate it tho, but damn. Congrats on that twist
/r/seduction16/04/24 09:15 PM
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I wonder in these scenarios you’re naming when you start dating someone they know, or who they’re friends with, won’t they ask the “uninterested” girl about you, where she then will put you in bad light, listing all the bad stuff, maybe even stretch it with some added drama. Cause nowadays it’s easy to check on Instagram and all. I once tried it, but in the end the date didn’t happen because I sensed they might had talked because they could see the connections on Instagram.
/r/seduction16/04/24 06:58 PM
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I’m just above average looking and I had a similar situation last night. A seemingly attractive girl (although not my type) was constantly eyeballing me and standing close to me in the club. At some point I was chatting with another girl outside at the lounge area (we sat next to each other rather closely) and this girl suddenly comes up to us, starting to chat with the girl next to me, a bit of an awkward chat, she was pretending that she knew her, and it felt like as if she was protecting her …
/r/seduction15/04/24 03:59 PM
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You got it, thanks man!
/r/seduction14/04/24 05:22 AM
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I disagree, of course everyone has their own way of approaching. But take in account that most attractive women spend a great deal of time on their looks. If you compliment their style, outfit or their looks, you compliment them on their effort, and not perse their genetically inherited physique. And besides, it’s about setting a context right away on why you’re approaching her, by complimenting her on her style or telling her she’s cute, you’re showing a subtle sign of interest and you’re makin…
/r/seduction13/04/24 08:21 PM
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Hey whatsup, I just saw you sitting from over there and thought you were cute Hey excuse me, I just saw you walking by and I thought you look really cute, I wanted to come over and say hi Hey sorry, I just saw you walking and I really like your style, and I wanted to come meet you really quick Usually I don't remember them exactly by words, but if you have the general idea for the opener, it will come out and it's okay if you mixed up some stuff. Just try out different ones and see what works fo…
/r/seduction13/04/24 04:00 PM
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It's the occurrence of a rapid electrochemical pulse chain of neurotransmitters within the amygdala. Whenever something intense happens, a swift chain of neurotransmitters is fired from one set of neurons to another.
/r/seduction13/04/24 03:37 PM
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Online dating
/r/seduction13/04/24 10:50 AM
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Exactly. I was totally prepared for a harsh and painful rejection, because she was quite hot, but then totally surprised me with that interaction. Most of those fearful thoughts that give you the idea that these woman will be awful/intimidating/mean and that you shouldn't approach them, are really just there to protect your small ego from being hurt. But when that small ego realizes you won't get hurt that much, there is a shift happening inside you.
/r/seduction13/04/24 09:00 AM
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This is why even when I meet the “perfect” match I keep other and new girls running alongside as well. So I won’t invest too much in the beginning. And when the time comes where she shows higher levels of interest, like wanting to meetup more, getting more emotionally invested, it’s time for you to bring in the shift as well. And at that time if you show that you’re not meeting up with other girls anymore and you choose her, it has a stronger impact on her. Because you’re choosing her from a pla…
/r/seduction13/04/24 05:54 AM
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Oh man this must be the worst thing about dating really. Especially when you meet someone who aligns deeply with your interests and ideas, I get so hooked, start talking more, and totally forget about these strange dating rules, that eventually they lose interest, because I’m investing too much (even though she talks as much?!@). But also feel that this happens more in OLD.
/r/seduction13/04/24 05:43 AM
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Demographics dude. If I go to a music/art event that I like, there are many women fitting my description. Women I will never find on dating apps. Swiping endlessly on a dating app to finally have a decent match, to then be ghosted can also be a huge waste of time. Especially since most apps are designed to keep you on there. For me it feels like OLD is dying and people are urging for the real thing again. Since these companies really screwed the dating landscape. But still, I agree that having a…
/r/seduction06/04/24 04:36 AM
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Yeah it’s crazy that women itself now have to deal with a worse and less confident man since that shift of me too and censorship on the internet. Thinking like they made the world a better place, but now complaining that most men don’t know how to attract. Of course it’s not an individual problem, and the fault of women in general, just an unsatisfying side effect of that whole movement and change in our society.
/r/seduction26/03/24 06:36 AM
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It says on the website it takes a month for them to process your GDPR deletion request. Do you live in Europe? Because it’s only applicable in the EU, since it’s an European Union law. (And in California I saw) I haven’t checked Hinge yet, but every company operating in the EU has to abide to this privacy law.
/r/seduction25/03/24 06:15 PM
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Yeah and they also can get a bit of an impression of your life, for example I put my art out there, if they like art it’s an easier match
/r/seduction25/03/24 01:10 PM
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Yeah man, I’m deleting Bumble today, doing the full GDPR reset. Forcing myself to talk to woman IRL only, for a month (that’s how long it takes for your account to fully be deleted). Then I can always make a fresh start on there
/r/seduction25/03/24 06:59 AM
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Isn’t it better for keeping an overview of who you’ve been gaming when you have their IG? You can directly remember “ah yeah it was that girl”. Next to that if you actually made an impression they will make sure to respond anyway, regardless the medium
/r/seduction25/03/24 06:56 AM
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Get outside your head dude, be present in the moment, embrace the actual experience, instead of overthinking what to do next. The whole act should be guided by feeling
/r/seduction11/03/24 09:46 PM
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I feel like opening with a genuine compliment about their style or something else can be good too
/r/seduction08/03/24 09:30 AM
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Solid advice, thanks!
/r/seduction08/03/24 09:29 AM
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I see, how would you go about it with a direct approach, that was successful before?
/r/seduction08/03/24 09:13 AM
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What’s the problem with being direct if you can deliver it confidently? In my country directness is praised highly I agree though with places you go often. This is usually why I haven’t approached the girls in the gym who are eyeballing me
/r/seduction08/03/24 07:35 AM
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This sounds so ridiculously American
/r/seduction08/03/24 07:31 AM
1

Just curious but why do you still say them or they when you identified her as a girl at the start?
/r/seduction08/03/24 07:30 AM
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Yeah that’s actually a good point, especially if the main goal for me is to get over my approach anxiety, it doesn’t really matter if I’m actually going to date the person after fixing their number, I should just approach as often as I can
/r/seduction08/02/24 07:33 AM
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I feel like many American guys complaining about this are also obese/overweight themselves, and are only using dating apps instead of IRL approaches. Maybe start with making the new standard yourself, instead of being part of the problem. I live in a major European city where almost everyone is living healthy, where the general happiness levels are high. But it wasn’t always like this, it had to start somewhere. Be the solution and inspire your peers and surroundings to be healthier as well.
/r/seduction20/09/23 07:07 AM
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