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| 3 | How come for some guys dating and relationships are easy while others struggle ?They had good father figure. | /r/seduction | 27/07/25 07:01 PM |
| 2 | How to meet women in London as a man going into 30’s?Either you get into hobbies which allows you to meet women or online dating. Don’t discredit the latter. If you have a good profile you can be very successful. | /r/seduction | 27/07/25 12:31 PM |
| 213 | Talking to girls gets easy—once you actually understand the world they live in.Isn’t the same thing as you trying win her over? But instead of money you use your “understanding”? The way I see, it is the same thing. In order to break the cycle, you have to think what she can give to you. Does she understands you, the way u understand her? | /r/seduction | 26/07/25 04:32 PM |
| 1 | Lack of Approach went so bad it left me Enlightened ?Can’t believe I read all that. Nevertheless, I think you over complicating. I don’t think the girl you are so invested is interested in you. Women who are into you they show signals. They also help you out. That girl didn’t do any of that. | /r/seduction | 26/07/25 12:26 PM |
| 2 | Why can't I have success with women?Most likely you are making mistakes which you are unaware. It takes going little bit deeper to understand what’s going on. | /r/seduction | 26/07/25 08:12 AM |
| 26 | Age gaps in seductionThe only problem is finding sets. Clubs could work but u gonna standout in a wrong way, unless you can demonstrate high social value. Cold approaching is similar. The ideal scenario is do warm approaches. But for that you need to have either profession or hobby which would allow you to do it. For example, being a vet. | /r/seduction | 25/07/25 11:21 AM |
| 14 | What are your best examples of peacocking?The best peacocking is to be jacked/buffed. | /r/seduction | 24/07/25 12:29 PM |
| 1 | How did you actually improve your text game on apps?I understand that not everyone will find this apeeling. But a lot of them do. Because you need to have some juice to do it. Especially that most guys just text as dry orange. So, don’t be like that, dude. Subtexts are fun. | /r/seduction | 22/07/25 01:02 AM |
| 8 | Help with my text gameYou can’t send these type of messages to women. They receive these questions 100s if not 1000s times per day. U can imagine how exhausting would be to always answer what you do. That’s why messages have to be different, engaging. | /r/seduction | 21/07/25 05:41 PM |
| 12 | How do you stay interested in a girl after sex?By realising that most women are boring. That’s why they need men to entertain them. | /r/seduction | 21/07/25 12:59 PM |
| 24 | How did you actually improve your text game on apps?I will give you one single rule which u have to follow. Threat women you match as equals. Simple as that. Don’t try to impress. Don’t try to win the over. Don’t be afraid to loose the match. Don’t do any of that. Have your standards. And make sure she qualifies it. By quality I don’t mean that is enough for her to be pretty. Qualify her character. Does she understand dark humour? Does she understand references you make? Does she understand your multi layered hidden meanings? Does her IQ meets yo… | /r/seduction | 21/07/25 12:14 PM |
| 1 | How tall are you and what’s your lay count?5”7 6 lays 38 age | /r/seduction | 21/07/25 02:04 AM |
| 1 | What's more attractive for Young Women? - A guy who works as a engineer/chemist at a company, or a guy who is a entrepreneur and has a cleaning company with some employee?Lol. It doesn’t matter. | /r/seduction | 20/07/25 08:08 PM |
| 13 | I feel terrible when I see my friends or men leaving the club with a girl?That’s why I stopped going into the clubs. What’s the point of sitting in the corner, drinking a beer and seeing everyone having fun but you. | /r/seduction | 20/07/25 10:08 AM |
| 3 | Grooming and hygiene are not to be overlookedHe reminds me of me in college days. The thing is some people just don’t know these things. I am not talking about hygiene, it usually taught in school. But the idea of the first impression and how much it affects interaction. During first impression people make judgement about you. And once that judgement is established, that’s it, u won’t be able to change it no matter how hard u will try. That’s because, changing opinion about the person is going against yourself. And brain don’t like that. S… | /r/seduction | 20/07/25 05:41 AM |
| 0 | Most men are confused even “successful” ones who post hereSeduction is like sales. In fact lots of tactics are taken from sales. Yes u can do sales by being honest. But is it effective? No so much. Seduction is the same. There are things which just work better when you have a system. And that system is very effective if it is applied on analytical mind. | /r/seduction | 20/07/25 05:29 AM |
| 1 | First Date Tips - Constantly ghosted after 1st datesExactly. This is example of spontaneous kino. One which u come up on the spot. But the thing is that u can use them next time when u have the same situation. | /r/seduction | 19/07/25 02:03 PM |
| 2 | First Date Tips - Constantly ghosted after 1st datesSure. By body part, lol. Also is better if she touches you than other way around. Hands. Say u want to assert how strong she is. And then do arm wrestling. Forearms. Say u are worried that u have some bump on forearm. And ask her to squeeze it, and whether she feels anything suspicious. Your back. Say that your back is killing you, and whether she can scratch it. Her back. When u sit next to her and she is showing her phone. Put your hands on her back and gently start scratching. Neck. Ask her w… | /r/seduction | 19/07/25 01:19 PM |
| 2 | First Date Tips - Constantly ghosted after 1st datesU need to do kino. Cant wait for girl to initiate it. Have some routines prepared, if u cant do spontaneous stuff. | /r/seduction | 19/07/25 12:56 PM |
| 1 | First Date Tips - Constantly ghosted after 1st datesDo u do any kino? | /r/seduction | 19/07/25 12:48 PM |
| 10 | Missing seductionI am pretty sure u still can do seduction without actually having sex. Seduction is about creating anticipation, the feeling of wanting. And it doesn’t even have to be an opposite sex. As long as you create the feeling in peoples minds that they want to be in your shoes or with you, or around you, you are technically seducing them. | /r/seduction | 19/07/25 12:36 PM |
| 1 | Most men are confused even “successful” ones who post hereSo how to see it without going through? Seems that everyone who came to this conclusion have to go through phase? How to make a person who has zero skills with women, to be genuine, keep trying it. It will work. When his experience says otherwise? | /r/seduction | 19/07/25 09:22 AM |
| 1 | Most men are confused even “successful” ones who post hereDecent person u say? Why would a decent person would discredit opinion just because it doesn’t agree with his? A decent t person at least would try to relate or reason about it. Which makes me think that this is actually not a decent person. It is sounds more like self righteous person. | /r/seduction | 19/07/25 07:14 AM |
| 46 | Most men are confused even “successful” ones who post hereThis advice only works for “normies”, people who already had a good start in life. Loving affectionate parents, non toxic homes and so on. Average Redditor and especially average visitor in seduction. Didn’t had that. And because of that. They didn’t learn social skills, emotional maturity, etc. Hence they don’t know how to make genuine connections you are talking about. The whole PuA movement was born due to this exact reason. You need lifelong therapy to fix all your mental and emotional probl… | /r/seduction | 19/07/25 06:11 AM |
| 44 | How easy is it to seduce college women and if so what do you need to “score” most of the timeYour friend has a point. And yes, in order to “score” you need to relax. Enjoy your time. Make new friends. That’s should be your primary goal. Once u can do that. The scoring will come naturally. Just look for signals and don’t be stupid like me. If a girl invites you to study when her roommates are out. She actually does not want to study but have sex. Unfortunately, I missed a lot due to not understanding these things. And u can’t really get back those years. It’s one in life time opportunity… | /r/seduction | 18/07/25 02:04 AM |
| 2 | Who lies more, men or women?U only lie through social situations. Women have more social situations. Therefore, women lie more. | /r/seduction | 17/07/25 06:36 PM |
| 5 | Western dating market is so screwed, can't even get friendzonedHad a very similar experience. I know Mark Manson talks in his “Models” about honesty, being yourself and so on. But in practice it doesn’t really work. If I don’t use push and pull and PUA stuff, they loose interest. Which sucks. I don’t want to use it. But, people just don’t accept me of who I am. Geeky. Analysing everything. Big ego. Stuck in my own ways. Don’t like compromises. Thinking I am better, smarter, than anyone else. And obviously selfish. If I won’t hide those attributes, people ju… | /r/seduction | 17/07/25 05:27 PM |
| 5 | 30's aged guys how do you source leads offline? (online dont work where i live coz issa small island)I used to go to dance classes. So u can meet people there. But to be fair, unless it’s speed dating the purpose of doing something should not be to meet people. If u go to yoga then u should focus to learn yoga, rather pickup chicks. | /r/seduction | 17/07/25 11:05 AM |
| 59 | I started reviewing my dates and it has changed everythingIt’s called field report. Old school PUA stuff. Very effective to learn and progress. | /r/seduction | 15/07/25 02:33 PM |
| 75 | Called soft by girls i hook upIt’s a compliment. Women prioritise different things than guys. Safety. Trust. Feeling comfortable. Is more important for them than let’s say strength. | /r/seduction | 13/07/25 11:03 PM |
| 2 | Not a huge fan of the bar/club scene, am I shooting it down too quickly?There are some advantages during night game compared to day game. But it’s only the case if u can relax and enjoy. This is prerequisite. Without it. Night game sucks. | /r/seduction | 13/07/25 10:41 PM |
| 12 | How do you not allow your overthinking to affect your confidence?It’s like going into the gym. U have good days, and there are bad days. Nevertheless you still going. And in the end consistency always wins. | /r/seduction | 13/07/25 02:58 AM |
| 10 | I find it easy to start a conversation, but have difficulty maintaining interesting conversations. Any tips?Ask questions about them. The trick is to find a specific thing they are really into. It could be comics. Racing. Anything they are passionate about and talk about it.This method works wonders in person communication. Online not so much. In online communication you have to focus on short messages. Silly jokes. Use qualification often. And move conversation to the goal. Remember messaging is a tool to arrange meetings. Never forget that. | /r/seduction | 13/07/25 01:09 AM |
| 1 | The Only Kiss Routine You Need To KnowI think you are missing the point of seduction. Yes sure, she wants to be kissed and you kiss her. But where’s fun in that? Driving her nuts. It’s way more fun. Yes. Teasing is annoying. Push pull are mind games. That’s technically true. But so what? Those things are fun. They invoke different types of emotions. I would rather try to create a fairytale for her. Even if it’s fake. So that she would remember me after many years. Rather just get into her panties like any other guy. By playing safe … | /r/seduction | 12/07/25 11:53 PM |
| 115 | The Only Kiss Routine You Need To KnowSo basically push & pull or just tease Lots of words to say just that. | /r/seduction | 12/07/25 10:23 PM |
| 8 | How to destory self-limiting beliefsIf u don’t believe in yourself then disassociate your mind from your body. In other words, imagine you are in a TV show. You are the observer. And someone else controlling your body. It’s effective technique to approach a woman in any situation. The main issue it feels like u are an actor when you do. Which is not good for long term. | /r/seduction | 09/07/25 07:28 PM |
| 5 | How to Have Better Conversations Over Text In Order To Make It To The First Date - Amateur Levels of Success?Me: What was the last new thing you’ve done? It’s a good one, engaging, open ended. Also it’s a qualification. You want to know if she is active person Her: Went to the US open! Hbu! Her response was short, low effort. However, she did ask you the same question. Which indicates she wants to continue taking. But not about her trip. Is was too short answer. Me: Ah! That’s exciting! How was it? I was debating about going. Took my dad to a pirate game as a Father’s Day gift so it was my first time p… | /r/seduction | 09/07/25 06:20 PM |
| 1 | How to Have Better Conversations Over Text In Order To Make It To The First Date - Amateur Levels of Success?Have an example? | /r/seduction | 09/07/25 05:41 PM |
| 28 | How to Have Better Conversations Over Text In Order To Make It To The First Date - Amateur Levels of Success?It’s just a psychology. Use same tricks as advertisement media does. People engage with a content which is. Sexual Food About themselves Shocking Provocative Engaging Short. Attention span is highly reduced by most people due to media. For example. “Let’s cut the bullshit. How spontaneous are you?” - it’s a shocking and engaging opener “You seem like trouble” - provocative “Tell me three interesting facts about yourself” - engaging and about them “You are cute. But Taylor Swift is a red flag”. -… | /r/seduction | 09/07/25 05:27 PM |
| 5 | Do you ever organise meetings that last only a few minutes?U have to know how the comfort building works in order understand this. Basically we build comfort not from the total amount of time we spend, but from the experiences we have with the person. Th more experiences u have the more comfortable u are. Sometimes people call this “bonding”. That’s why 5 min meetings at different locations, at different days, times of the day, different pacing, different activity levels, and so on, creates more experiences than 3 hours date in same location sitting acr… | /r/seduction | 09/07/25 05:09 PM |
| 1 | Quick questionBy punching you in a face. | /r/seduction | 09/07/25 04:02 PM |
| 44 | Is Models by Mark Manson still recommended reading in today's dating scene?Therapy. | /r/seduction | 09/07/25 01:24 PM |
| 56 | Is Models by Mark Manson still recommended reading in today's dating scene?Models is the most recommended book, Is it the best? It depends on your skill set. For example if u don’t have problems talk with people. Are social. Had experience with women then models is good. If u are afraid of women, have social anxiety, and other big problems. Models will be waste of time. | /r/seduction | 09/07/25 05:20 AM |
| -2 | my take after years of going out Solo - NightlifeWhat if I don’t care about music and other shite? Just want to get laid. This type of advice doesn’t give any value. It’s not even a game. | /r/seduction | 06/07/25 09:24 PM |
| 26 | Sacrifice all fun just to get more girls? Last night got me thinking.This is normal for PUA. Nothing is free. Social knowledge comes with a price. Once u start digesting every single social interaction. Once u repeat that interaction 1000s of times. You become good at it, but at the same time u loose that feeling of enjoyment. Same with women, same with sex. Once u meet new woman, u just know that she will be like every other woman. She will laugh at that joke u told 100s of times, you know what type of response you will get even before saying anything. Everythin… | /r/seduction | 06/07/25 04:43 PM |
| 7 | How to approach girl and ask her out ?Don’t confess feelings it will be weird. Also don’t try to pick her up or ask for a number when there are lots of people around. She will feel pressure. If you see her daily. Then u don’t have to ask her number straight away. Just exchange couple of sentences. Have a conversation. And see her reaction. If it’s positive then you can ask for a number. | /r/seduction | 05/07/25 07:03 AM |
| 4 | Got Sick the Day we were gonna go to beach.Like missed date will change her attraction. It won’t. If she liked you before she will like you even if u missed the date. Especially that u had a good reason. Stop overthinking. | /r/seduction | 05/07/25 02:11 AM |
| 3 | Too many men approaching women?You have to approach group leader not your target. And then ask for numbers/socials all of them with pretext that they are awesome and fun to talk to. And obviously contact your target later, not a leader. | /r/seduction | 04/07/25 07:11 PM |
| 2 | Awkward silenceUsually in those circumstances you escalate. Bj, sex in public. Or change location and go to yours or hers place. | /r/seduction | 04/07/25 02:04 PM |
| 6 | Too many men approaching women?Lol I met guy like that. I remember I asked him how long u are in the game he says “5 years”. I thought “holy shit, this guy must be good”. But then we wait and I see four girls. And I just approach them. And I thought he will just join me. But, no. After 15min I exchange numbers with them and go back to this guy. And he starts praising me “wow, dude how could u do that? 4 numbers, this was insane? Sick man” I was like “So why didn’t u join me?” He says. “ I only approach single women. Can’t do … | /r/seduction | 04/07/25 01:36 PM |
| 3 | Simplicity is strength - The only Texting Guide you will ever needDude. He is trolling. | /r/seduction | 04/07/25 11:05 AM |
| 3 | Do you try to Talk to women in redditAs I understand is the same thing as everywhere else. Women get lots of dms. So, I don’t even bother. Plus my account is not “women friendly”. If I would game in Reddit then I would create better persona. Join better subs. Etc. But is just too much of work, women are weird on Reddit. And competition is too big. Not worth the time and effort. | /r/seduction | 04/07/25 10:48 AM |
| 6 | How do yall stop freezing when you’re along with a girl and the vibes there?I just tell them what to do. Come here. Sit there. Stand up. Stay still. Close your eyes. Lift your arms. Lie down. And so on. And if they are listening I just proceed doing stuff. From women perspective it’s quite exciting because they don’t know exactly what I will do. Compared to just start kissing. I find it too boring. | /r/seduction | 04/07/25 08:27 AM |
| 1 | How to Best Use Wingmen and Wingwomen When Going Out?Just by surrounding yourself with women and having fun, making them laugh is enough to rise your social proof. | /r/seduction | 04/07/25 08:22 AM |
| 1 | Some people are dying of thirst while others are drowning.Confrontation is not pleasant. But is essential in some situations. For example, Boss makes u work overtime. Wife doesn’t allow to have female friends or go out with friends. Some dude making fun of you or someone else. Scammer trying to scam you. My point is that in some situations u have to stand up for yourself or someone else. And if you can’t do that. Then, what kind of man are u? No one wants to be with that type of man. Woman would rather be with an asshole rather with someone like that. | /r/seduction | 04/07/25 07:56 AM |
| 52 | Some people are dying of thirst while others are drowning.And you wonder why you don’t get laid. You can’t even stand up for yourself. Women don’t like weak men. Not necessarily physically but character wise. | /r/seduction | 04/07/25 03:56 AM |
| 1 | Shit test?Is not a shit test. What happens is when u approach her. Especially man to woman she gets lots of positive emotions. But once those emotions dissipate, she gets back into logical framework and realises u are just a random stranger. That’s why during your interaction you can’t just give her spikes of emotions u also have to make sure she invests in you. It can be her trying to qualify herself to you. Asking questions about you. Following you to places. And so on. | /r/seduction | 03/07/25 08:53 PM |
| 16 | The ONLY post you need to read to attract girlsNot necessarily. When I started I didn’t had confidence. Yet, I imagined how would I act. What actions would do. What things I would say if I would have that confidence. People don’t see inside your head they only see your actions. That’s the main principle of PUA. It was born because if u know what to say, how to act in every situation u still can get results even if u don’t have the confidence. | /r/seduction | 03/07/25 07:09 PM |
| 31 | The ONLY post you need to read to attract girlsYou didn’t get the idea of this post nor what OP meant at all. It’s not about what YOU believe. It’s about what SHE believes. That’s why u don’t need to be confident nor believe u are the prize. As long as she believes in that, you will get results. | /r/seduction | 03/07/25 06:44 PM |
| -1 | Why does this always happen to me?This sub is getting more and more cringe. 10 years ago we were discussing the actual PUA stuff. Now it just dumpster for self improvement, political correctness. Everything except how to actually get laid. | /r/seduction | 03/07/25 06:36 PM |
| -12 | Why does this always happen to me?Rookie mistake. Instead of confessing your intentions, you could have just sad. “Oh no, I don’t mean like that. I mean like friends” Once u throw friends card they forget they have boyfriend and give their number. It’s field tested tactic. | /r/seduction | 03/07/25 05:59 PM |
| -11 | Flirting without be to sweet?I mean. If u have slept with them and they break up with you. Then is not a far stretch to say that is due to your bed skills. Especially when they say you are too sweet. Maybe they don’t want to hurt your ego. | /r/seduction | 03/07/25 03:46 PM |
| -15 | Flirting without be to sweet?It means you suck in bed. | /r/seduction | 03/07/25 03:35 PM |
| 8 | How to win a girl over in limited time?U have very good chances of hooking up with her. That’s because she is only there for two weeks, wants to have fun ands he knows you to some degree. You can’t have better opportunity than this. | /r/seduction | 03/07/25 06:05 AM |
| 1 | What should my dating strategy be?So to find a wiling woman who will date u is surprisingly easy. But to find the one who you genuinely like is hard. People spend years looking and still can’t find. It’s very good that you relying on multiple strategies which considerably increases chances. Also, skills you learn are transferable. For example if u are good at cold approaching on streets. Warm approaches for example at wedding becomes way too easy. Similarly if I go out often let’s say to some events. Your online game will improv… | /r/seduction | 03/07/25 04:12 AM |
| 27 | How to flirt basicsSome examples: Hand touching, I probably know like 100s of ways to touch it, lol, just couple of examples Handshake. But instead of letting go, u slowly brush your fingers over her palm. Ask to show her nails ( if she has nicely done). And gently hold her hand, and brush your fingers on her nail while making assumptions like “I see you chose pink colour, u know u can tell a lot about person based on the colour they like. Blah blah” Learn to do palm reading. Same idea. Gently brush your fingers o… | /r/seduction | 02/07/25 01:06 PM |
| 5 | Processing the difficult reality of women coming and going out of my lifeU need to be more chill when it comes to women. My guess u scare them by being needy or moving things too fast. | /r/seduction | 02/07/25 04:24 AM |
| 4 | I had a date and didn't know what to do to advanceDon’t worry. if her initial attraction towards you was high enough, she will be more forgiven for your mistakes. As to how to flip the script and go from serious conversation to playful is to do something eccentric. It can be anything spontaneous and crazy. Like for example asking her to stand. Give you a hand and then u just spin her around and once she asks why you say “idk, I felt like spinning you”. The idea is to smack her and yourself out of that serious vibe and become playful again. | /r/seduction | 30/06/25 10:55 PM |
| 4 | How can I make her think about me moreIt doesn’t matter., However it only works if she is into you. Think about a girl u really liked. How much time u were thinking about her compared to a girl u barely noticed. So with women is the same. | /r/seduction | 30/06/25 06:41 PM |
| 16 | Why are emojis seen as childish when you texting girls, but not using them makes you come off too serious?Emojis are fine. However, not all. For example these should be avoided. I never use them. Uncertainty. It displays that u are not sure about something. It’s similar to say “maybe”, “probably etc.😅 Anything related to hearts. Unless u are dating her, avoid them. 😍😘🥰🥵❤️ Pleasing. Crying. Shows that u are desperate. Like a puppy asking for a treat. 🥹🥺😢😭😢 Hunger. Avoid at all cost. 🤤 Weird facial expression emojis. It makes u look childish. 😉🤪😜😝😛😈🤡especially wink. Avoid it at all cost. Sexual. I don… | /r/seduction | 30/06/25 06:13 PM |
| 31 | How can I make her think about me moreMake yourself less available and ambiguous. Then she will wonder what’s happening. | /r/seduction | 30/06/25 05:50 PM |
| 0 | Help meNo need. Just do it. | /r/seduction | 30/06/25 04:02 PM |
| 2 | I need some help with replying to this girls storyAsk how did she go into kayaking, it’s more personal and people like to talk about things they like. | /r/seduction | 29/06/25 09:05 PM |
| 1 | Anybody tried “day gaming” outside of the club?Has to be Friday and Saturday evenings. Otherwise is just an ordinary day game. | /r/seduction | 29/06/25 08:19 PM |
| 9 | Anybody tried “day gaming” outside of the club?Street game is probably the easiest mode you can have regarding cold approaches. People are drunk and they are expecting that you would approach. So it’s very easy to get numbers. However, 99% those numbers mean nothing. So, instead you have to go for an insta date. Remember, women go out to have fun. And if u can contribute to this goal in some way. They will gladly accept you and will follow you. But for that you need to have wingmen, because they will not be alone, and need to know good place… | /r/seduction | 29/06/25 02:50 PM |
| 4 | Do any other men feel like it's impossible to make the first move?U do have a mouth don’t you? Just ask if u can hold her hand or other stuff. | /r/seduction | 29/06/25 03:20 AM |
| 58 | Can you really attract women if you’re not doing well inside?U can fake it. Actors, comedians everyone can do it if they really want to. However, it is exhausting. So eventually your mask will fall off. And she will see it But, I usually end things earlier to avoid this. | /r/seduction | 28/06/25 01:16 AM |
| 2 | How often to see girlfriend if she’s local?Depends how horny she is. | /r/seduction | 27/06/25 10:37 PM |
| 5 | Feminist/Fem consent friendly pickup gameSeduction and feminism are totally compatible. Feminism is all about equality, between men and women. Nothing to do with consent. While seduction is all about assumptions, influencing person, some manipulation etc. In other words it is gender neutral. As long as u seduce men and women same way and u don’t discriminate based on gender is all good. In fact, if u ask for consent of the woman but u won’t ask consent of a man while seducing. Then it would be a discrimination. And u would be considere… | /r/seduction | 27/06/25 07:37 PM |
| 2 | How to make a subtle move to see if he’s interested?Just pay attention to his behaviour and you will know if he is interested. People who like someone tend to find logical reasons to be around that person and interact with them. | /r/seduction | 27/06/25 02:52 AM |
| 1 | What tattoos attract women the mostIt’s not about particular tattoos but how they fit specifically for you. | /r/seduction | 25/06/25 09:09 PM |
| 1 | Teasing! The most important ingredient!I got downvoted because it’s Reddit. You have to be politically correct. | /r/seduction | 24/06/25 11:57 AM |
| 9 | How do i get laid for my first time?You can always pay to get laid. Otherwise, you will have to put some work, or at least get rejected. There’s no other way. Not in western world at least. The days when parents would find you a gf is over. The good thing. You ain’t alone. And there are lots of women like yourself. If u are lucky. You will find her. But u have to take a risk. | /r/seduction | 24/06/25 01:24 AM |
| -17 | Teasing! The most important ingredient!Here are couple examples, which I used at some point. Please note, don’t over do it, some of them are quite mean. And it depends on your existing boundaries between her and you, so don’t cross it. And if not calibrated it will not work. Use it only if you confident they can handle it. Blockers. For example, she wants to pass, go somewhere but you bock her way. Denials. She wants to accomplish some task but u deny that. For example, taking her pen and not giving to her. Physical dominance. U lite… | /r/seduction | 24/06/25 01:03 AM |
| 4 | Flirting without neggingThere are multiple tools in your arsenal. Presence. Basically just by having strong presence u already flirting with her. A presence is hard to describe. When u are in a moment u feel very relaxed yet sharp mind. Secrecy. It’s when u are in public and u secretly do something. Is not necessary sexual, although could be. For example having inside joke. Humour. There is not much to talk about it. Proximity. Being close to her always creates more sparks than being far away. Because there is anticipa… | /r/seduction | 24/06/25 12:18 AM |
| 6 | Field Report (Fail)Sounds like she was gaming you. I guess that’s how women feel when we do this to them. Ps. Her talking about herself is basically poorly executed DHV. | /r/seduction | 22/06/25 11:53 PM |
| 0 | If you have a gut does a ‘Compression under shirt’ feel like you’re deceiving?Well u have a shitty way of doing it. | /r/seduction | 22/06/25 11:50 PM |
| 0 | If you have a gut does a ‘Compression under shirt’ feel like you’re deceiving?It’s fine. I wear them as well. It increases blood circulation, emphasises V taper. And in general makes you feel better. | /r/seduction | 22/06/25 11:35 PM |
| 0 | If you have a gut does a ‘Compression under shirt’ feel like you’re deceiving?Who hurt u bro? | /r/seduction | 22/06/25 11:34 PM |
| 176 | All these three first dates asked EXACTLY the same questionsShe wants to know if u are looking for casual or serious relationship. She wants to know if she is rebound or not. She wants to be validated. | /r/seduction | 22/06/25 07:52 PM |
| 2 | Women will try to get you to qualify yourself to them, your job is to play by your own rules, not hers.It’s was hypothetical scenario, not necessarily me. To illustrate that there are people like that where advises like OP’s doesn’t really apply. | /r/seduction | 22/06/25 06:23 PM |
| -5 | Women will try to get you to qualify yourself to them, your job is to play by your own rules, not hers.But what if I literally have nothing to offer? 40 years old. I still live with my parents. I have minimum paying job. No friends. No lifestyle. Am overweight. Have physical and health problems. Diabetes. Depression. Anxiety. Low self esteem. Don’t believe in anything. Am nihilist. Have zero drive to do anything. Below average dick. No experience in dating. Stuck in my own head. I am not even funny. How the fuck I am supposed to be the guy u are describing? | /r/seduction | 22/06/25 06:07 PM |
| 1 | How do I change my beliefs?I never figured it out how to change these types of beliefs. Except actually realise them. If you broke, then stop being broke. If you are fat loose weight. If u are bold get hair transplant. This approach works perfectly for the things u can change however it flops on things u can’t change like your height. But personally I never was bothered on things I can’t change. | /r/seduction | 22/06/25 03:52 PM |
| 8 | If you had to pick between being flirty and being funny, which one would you pick?Being funny is part of flirting. Can’t imagine flirting without humour at least to some degree.. | /r/seduction | 22/06/25 02:44 PM |
| 85 | Getting laid, but feeling emptyMost likely self esteem issues. You go for women u don’t care because you think you don’t deserve to be with one you like. And you friend-zone yourself. | /r/seduction | 20/06/25 05:52 AM |
| 37 | She Was a Feminist. I Told Her I Do Daygame. Here’s What Happened…Talking with a woman you are gaming about the game. Is like talking about sex with gynaecologist. These conversations rarely lead to any closes. | /r/seduction | 19/06/25 07:16 PM |
| 5 | I just don’t get it.It’s subconscious communication. Often referred as flirting. Basically u are talking about boring logical topics, but subconsciously thinking you want to have sex with her. Those feelings get expressed through your micro facial expressions, your body language, the pauses u make between words, the tone of your voice and thousands of other things. Women can “feel” you are flirting with her. And then she responds the same way. It’s subconscious and automatic. Yet is very direct. Your intentions are… | /r/seduction | 17/06/25 03:33 PM |
| 1 | "Deep Conversation" is a bad bad idea in early stages with women.Can confirm. Deep conversations do not lead to closes. | /r/seduction | 17/06/25 03:25 PM |
| 1 | Dating app response times?I know you are making fun but this number is from a book I read long time ago. And to be fair I didn’t really see any difference in practice. I just give what op wants. | /r/seduction | 17/06/25 03:23 PM |
| 0 | Dating app response times?The general rule is x2.5 of her response time. If she replies in 30min. Then wait for 75min. | /r/seduction | 17/06/25 06:41 AM |
| 3 | Did I simp?Where I live, maybe u could find a crackhead for 50€. Usually price starts around 150€. Don’t ask how I know. | /r/seduction | 11/06/25 02:24 AM |
| 37 | Would you hit up a hookup from a long time ago?Do it. She might be thinking same way. | /r/seduction | 09/06/25 04:15 AM |
| 11 | Rule #2 is ALWAYS go for the KillYou should also post all the rejections. | /r/seduction | 09/06/25 02:20 AM |
| 4 | Too old at 43?Nah. It’s fine. But you will have some haters. | /r/seduction | 08/06/25 09:32 PM |
| 14 | Why should I approach?Clearly u have self worth problems. And yes. The way u care yourself can change women opinion about you. I remember once I got jacked. I would just always wear tank tops. Literally everywhere. I thought I looked good and wanted to show off. And obviously I went to clubs. My friend told me “Seriously u wear this?” Or some other guy in club said, “Who comes in club with tank top?” Some people would give me strange looks. But I didn’t care. My confidence was through the roof, it didn’t bothered me … | /r/seduction | 08/06/25 02:00 PM |
| 13 | What am I doing wrong??This is very little talked subject especially in feminist circles. Women can make first move. Send message first. Approach first. Etc. However, once they do the first steps u have to take over. And the sooner the better. That’s because she still expects for you to be a man. You need to lead. Initiate kino. And do the same things as you would have approached them. | /r/seduction | 08/06/25 01:08 PM |
| 6 | Stop Asking What to Say During the Conversation, You Can’t Script FlowAlthough I agree with most of it. But saying that scripts do not work is false. Everyone one knows that a story gets better every time u tell it. Same with jokes, sex or anything else. Interaction with woman is no different. And if u have been with 100s of woman u know what I am talking about. She enjoys everything u say. U can see spark in her eyes. That’s because she is experiencing u for the first time. I on the other hand feel empty, bored. That’s because i told the same things to 100s woman… | /r/seduction | 08/06/25 12:58 PM |
| 8 | Rule Number One is Never take her seriouslyThe job of the man is to make sure that people who he cares about can rely on him. Like friends, family, children. As long as your actions do that then it’s fine. You have a great power over that woman. And u choose to use her for your own pleasure. But that’s not even that. What u like even more is the control. I know cause I can relate. But is not the way to go. | /r/seduction | 08/06/25 02:32 AM |
| 8 | Rule Number One is Never take her seriouslyWhat a pathetic cope. You know u are manipulating her. And what’s worse u are proud of that. Just because she lets u does mean you should. | /r/seduction | 08/06/25 02:18 AM |
| 2 | Airport GameSame game, man. | /r/seduction | 08/06/25 01:27 AM |
| 26 | Rule Number One is Never take her seriouslySo basically u are flexing of being an asshole. | /r/seduction | 08/06/25 01:26 AM |
| 2 | Does she want me to approach her ?Yes. You should. But just because you had eye contact doesn’t mean she will fall for u. Or u will marry her and this will be the story u tell to your kids. U will never know if u don’t try. | /r/seduction | 06/06/25 10:27 PM |
| 1 | Does Accent play a role? (good or bad?)This only matters if u want to go for politics, or be idk CEO etc. For dating is irrelevant. | /r/seduction | 06/06/25 10:14 PM |
| 4 | Does Accent play a role? (good or bad?)As someone who had accent bigger portion of my life. Stop. Don’t try to be someone who you are not. Instead embrace the difference. And u will have more success. | /r/seduction | 06/06/25 10:07 PM |
| 12 | Learned a Valuable Lesson TodayIt’s a last minute resistance. Very well known to any PUA. She needed more time. Don’t blame women for your own incompetence. | /r/seduction | 06/06/25 02:22 PM |
| 12 | How many times have you guys gotten laid from cold approachRandomly approached. Went for insta date. Did kino, kiss etc. Asked if she wants to go back. Literally took me around 1.5 hours from meeting to closing. Unfortunately I don’t have many success stories. Although I did around 700 total approaches before I got laid. | /r/seduction | 06/06/25 04:16 AM |
| 3 | How many times have you guys gotten laid from cold approach2 same days lays. | /r/seduction | 06/06/25 03:01 AM |
| 12 | Which PUA style did you adopt?Style is very important. I think this is what PUA coaches fail to explain. U can’t just copy coach style u need to find your own. Which fits your personality. The best word which describes my own style I think is “childish”. It’s kinda direct, but not as direct as some PUA who do direct game. Because it’s very not serious. I find it hard to seduce someone who thinks too high of herself, example rich hot women. They find me unsophisticated. At the same time I can’t seduce someone who thinks too l… | /r/seduction | 06/06/25 02:15 AM |
| 7 | Do you guys have any morals or boundaries in the Game of Seduction?The only rule I have is to go only for those which I actually like. Anything else is irrelevant. | /r/seduction | 06/06/25 01:23 AM |
| 25 | Used go get girls easily, now I don't even get matches on tinder.It’s very simple explanation. With beard and short hair u look more older. And if u also muscular then it’s intimidating. So if u go for younger 20 or so looking like 30+ u will have less success. U need to change demographics. Go for older ones. It’s a fact that older women like more masculine looking guys while youngers like girly guys. | /r/seduction | 06/06/25 12:36 AM |
| -9 | Hey, I’m thinking about approaching women at a coffee shop but I don’t know what to say. Does anyone have any suggestions?Don’t be discouraged by headphones. In fact it can be advantageous to open someone who wears headphones. That’s because in order to listen what u have to say she has to take her headphones off. And that’s an investment from her side. Which means is harder for her to say no, because she already invested in conversation. The opener should be engaging. Don’t try to be funny. It might come off as weird. Ideally u should make a statement and then ask her a question. The trick is to be genuinely inter… | /r/seduction | 06/06/25 12:25 AM |
| 11 | If you're gonna use AI for dating apps, at least feed it better prompts (here’s mine)ChatGPT openers are quite lame. Is 1000% better than average folk. But worst if u are experienced. | /r/seduction | 05/06/25 11:51 PM |
| 22 | Most Guys Perfect Low-Impact Tactics While Ignoring High-Leverage FundamentalsAlthough there are some truth but smaller cities do have some advantages. For example lower competition. If u are decent, gaming women in smaller towns are quite easy. Because u stand out. Due to lower competition. | /r/seduction | 05/06/25 11:48 PM |
| 7 | Tips for Enhancing Your Dating Profile: Ditch the Selfies!Bad advice. The only thing what works on tinder is uniqueness. If u can create a profile which stands out u will get matches. Shirtless, formal wear, clown costume even sunglasses, doesn’t matter. As long u are unique in some way. It will work. I had a profile where I just did house chores like washing dishes, hovering etc. Obviously shirtless, looking at the camera, good angles. And this profile did way better than one u are describing. | /r/seduction | 05/06/25 10:43 PM |
| 19 | How to Actually Build a Rotation, A No-BS BreakdownMoney is not everything. I know a guy who is 35y earns 400k annually. Have investments. Real estate. Yet, has no friends no social life at all. Just spends free time gaming. Afraid even to look at women. | /r/seduction | 04/06/25 01:00 AM |
| 3 | I suck at closing — help me stop dying at the finish line“It was nice talking to you, let’s catch up later, do u have WhatsApp/IG” or whatever. Works for me | /r/seduction | 02/06/25 08:04 PM |
| 9 | Instagram Story Strategy for Dating: What Actually WorksWhat about followers? Does your count should be similar or higher than hers? Or it doesn’t make any difference? | /r/seduction | 02/06/25 01:00 AM |
| 1 | Ask DeadDogWhat do u do when u bring her at your place and she says doesn’t give in to your escalation. | /r/seduction | 01/06/25 01:36 AM |
| 31 | I smiled at her, but she looked away. Still approach?Next time pay attention at how she looked away. There can be three possibilities. If she looked to the side. It means she is not interested. It’s like her saying “no thanks”. If she looked down. Then it is submissiveness sign. It doesn’t mean she likes u it can be she is not confident person. However, it’s not “no”. So u should approach. In theory she can look up. But it rarely happens. It’s a sign of thinking. | /r/seduction | 01/06/25 01:32 AM |
| 2 | After 4 years, did a quick fuckWhat to recover? U did it. Maybe it was not the best but it’s done. The only thing u can do is do better next time. | /r/seduction | 31/05/25 07:49 PM |
| 2 | 6 things you SHOULD do on a first dateOf course. She might be uncomfortable at first. But assuming u are properly groomed, nice clothes, u have no weird odour etc. it will be fine. Also, u need to do it in a way she can’t say no. It’s like when someone else gives u a hand while talking to u. U don’t even notice how u start shaking it. So the hug should be similar. U need to have that energy around u, like u are a hugger. Bonus point. While u hug her. Take a deep breath. Inhale her perfumes. And then say, “wow u smell so nice” | /r/seduction | 31/05/25 12:01 AM |
| 32 | 6 things you SHOULD do on a first dateAgree. Especially the hug thing. It’s like u straight away telling her that this won’t be two friends talking. And this sets the tone for the whole date. There is a high correlation between hugging at the first sight and getting laid. | /r/seduction | 30/05/25 11:09 PM |
| 40 | men who have no female friends feel unsafe to be aroundThe only thing it shows that a guy is somehow social. That’s all. But whether he is honest, trustworthy , faithful and so on u can’t decide based on how many women friends he has. | /r/seduction | 26/05/25 01:30 AM |
| 8 | men who have no female friends feel unsafe to be aroundI don’t believe that’s true. Have lots of examples of guys being friends with girls. | /r/seduction | 26/05/25 01:19 AM |
| 5 | Man with or without tattoo?There was a study done. For short term relationships women prefer guys with tattoos and for long term without. | /r/seduction | 25/05/25 08:32 PM |
| 1 | What goes through girls mindsInteresting. I also think she had a feeling that u are only after sex. Which makes women loose interest. That explains her excuse for the first rejection. Then u made something nice to her. Even u didn’t have to. Which made her second guess about you. Like “maybe he actually likes me.” She talks about sex like she is the one giving to you. As u made something nice to her so she will say thank you by sleeping with u. She might have a history of sugar daddy type of relationships. | /r/seduction | 23/05/25 03:48 PM |
| 1 | Should I try to reschedule dates with girls who flake?Treat rescheduling as rejection and delete the number. | /r/seduction | 23/05/25 03:38 PM |
| 23 | What goes through girls mindsYou are more into her than she is into you. Plus, you have failed to have sex with her few times. Hence, she is not invested in you. | /r/seduction | 23/05/25 03:34 PM |
| 1 | DM resultIG works but you need to have good amount of followers. Or at least interesting photos. Then u have status. Otherwise, it does more harm than good. | /r/seduction | 12/05/25 03:09 AM |
| 1 | Massage lessonsThe actual massage is useless in practice. What you need is to learn to do a couple of moves especially on the neck. Then u can use it in social settings as kino. | /r/seduction | 12/05/25 01:22 AM |
| 2 | Do most pickup artists struggle to form deep connections beyond hookups?The difference between average Joe and PUA is that PUA had way more sex. But when it comes to forming deep connections it all depends if you had loving parents who were healthy emotionally. | /r/seduction | 05/05/25 12:51 AM |
| 2 | Hey, im new here. I'm 19 and have never even held a girls hand. I've always wanted a girl to hold, cuddle, kiss, pet to sleep and love. Anyone wanna chat? [I'm 19M]Shit is overrated. | /r/seduction | 05/05/25 12:46 AM |
| 9 | I approached a milf at the libraryI actually found it funny. If she had sense of humour she would have as well. | /r/seduction | 29/04/25 04:19 PM |
| 760 | I approached a milf at the libraryYou did good man. You made her day. Most likely she will think about this encounter for months if not years to come. “I am still got it”. Sometimes, is not just about getting laid. | /r/seduction | 29/04/25 03:08 AM |
| 2 | Best ways of cold approachingClearly u have very little experience in cold approaching. There is a reason why eye contact is so important. People who are not interested in you they don’t look at you. Why would they? You are just a prop in the environment, nothing else. Or they are so in their heads or in their phones that they just don’t want to be bothered. However, once someone else looks at you they acknowledge your existence. They have a choice to look to someone else, to look at their phone, yet they look at you. Why? … | /r/seduction | 28/04/25 11:26 PM |
| 5 | Talking to women at the beach feels dirtyWho can blame u? | /r/seduction | 28/04/25 11:08 PM |
| 1 | How to Tease and Keep Them Coming Back for MoreSo where is the “how” part? Title is misleading. | /r/seduction | 28/04/25 06:31 PM |
| 8 | When did cold approach get easier for you?First one is always the hardest. It also depends on the response u get. If interaction went well even if u didn’t get number u feel like approaching another one. But once u get a big ugly rejection, it can demotivate u for couple of days. | /r/seduction | 28/04/25 02:17 AM |
| 3 | Self-improvement / dating life: the true influencers that have contact with reality.I mean I almost believed it. Grammar mistakes. No commas. But the last sentence gave u away Coach. “Drop your thoughts below” Seriously? Who the fck talks like that? The guy been selling his products so long that forgot how to actually sound like a normal dude without using sells gimmicks. | /r/seduction | 28/04/25 01:50 AM |
| 21 | One of the main reasons why you shouldn't feel bad about dating apps and should approach in real lifeIn general I agree. Real life is better. However, dating apps have some advantages as well. There is no reason to choose between real life or dating apps. I would say do both. | /r/seduction | 10/04/25 10:53 PM |
| 1 | Help with what I'm doingWithout any context we won’t be able to help. | /r/seduction | 08/04/25 08:08 PM |
| 9 | Instant dates changed everything for meIn general I agree, but What if she is going to work? Or catching a plane? Or her friends just comes over the corner? Etc. There are situations where insta date is not possible. | /r/seduction | 07/04/25 09:37 PM |
| 2 | Is this a good conversation starter?“Hey can u help me find this product.” It can work, but she will think u are actually looking for the product. It will be hard to transition to getting her number. And any uncalibrated attempt can make u look insincere. “Hey I saw u yesterday and I think we would look cute together, let’s go out” It’s just creepy. Like she doesn’t know u. Very weird. “Can u help me find your phone number”. It’s cheesy. Cheesy openers don’t work. Here are improved versions of your openers. “Hey. U seem like someo… | /r/seduction | 07/04/25 09:32 PM |
| 18 | Instant dates changed everything for meIt only works if she has time for insta date. More often than that she is going somewhere. So u still need to ask for a number if u can’t go for insta date. | /r/seduction | 07/04/25 08:47 PM |
| 17 | My dating life completely changed when I started treating myself as a brandI used to have a photo of myself in my early twenties. Shirtless washing dishes and hovering a room. Took me 5 min to make it. Used to get lots of matches. I didn’t need any motorcycles, boats, guitars or any other brand bs. Just going to the gym. That’s all. | /r/seduction | 07/04/25 08:35 PM |
| 2 | Everything (and I do mean everything) you need to know about how to approach womenGood stuff. One comment about feeling like u own the place. And energy levels. With lots of confidence that’s what happens. However, that’s not necessarily a good thing. Because, people who are less confident will try to avoid you, because your huge confidence makes them uncomfortable. I have seen this on myself. When u projecting confidence. Only “cool kids” are talking to u, while “nerdy kids” avoid u. Which means if u want to seduce someone who has less energy, is nerdy etc your confidence an… | /r/seduction | 07/04/25 08:29 PM |
| 1 | Everything (and I do mean everything) you need to know about how to approach womenThat’s the thing, where imagining scenario and acting on it are too different things. I have approached around 1000 of women like that. The first emotion they feel is the surprise. U can see from their eyes. Like “What’s going on?” However if u approach from the side they do sometimes run away. That’s because u appear like a dodgy guy, who wants to sell something to u. The body language, and how u look plays a huge role on the way people perceive you. | /r/seduction | 07/04/25 08:13 PM |
| 3 | Gonna approach for the first time tommorow.Good luck, bro. | /r/seduction | 07/04/25 07:56 PM |
| 20 | My dating life completely changed when I started treating myself as a brandToo much of work just to get laid. | /r/seduction | 07/04/25 07:53 PM |
| 1 | Big city vs small cityAs a beginner in a small city u will burn through your sets fast. Bigger city has way more advantages. U can do 20-50 approaches per day. In no time u build your skills. Once u gain skills. Let’s say around 2000 approaches. At least 5 single day lays. Then u can go back to smaller city if u wish. | /r/seduction | 05/04/25 11:12 PM |
| -1 | Apart from Models, what single dating book most positively affected you?Started to read models but haven’t finished. Found it to be too boring and not really helpful. U only need two books “Mystery method” for night game “Day game mastery” for day game | /r/seduction | 01/04/25 08:39 PM |
| 5 | Apart from Models, what single dating book most positively affected you?Without those books we would not have the community. They have all lingo and everything. Without them, seduction would be just another self help nonsense. | /r/seduction | 01/04/25 08:34 PM |
| 22 | How important is age?There are advantages and disadvantages. The main problem is other people perception. They are very judgmental. So if u are 40 and u go on a date with 20 something u will get some looks. Same in the club or anywhere u approach in that age range. People just look at you. So often u have to change venues and don’t stick in single place too long, if that makes u uncomfortable. The good thing is that, if u dress well, and can carry yourself properly. No one will say anything to your face. The advanta… | /r/seduction | 01/04/25 07:03 AM |
| 19 | Short (150cm - 5') manU will have to compensate other means. U can’t be just a normal guy like everybody else. U need to be someone. Have extreme confidence. This pitty party won’t work. | /r/seduction | 01/04/25 04:39 AM |
| 1 | What are the best locations, times/days for pickupGeneral shopping is a goal. However, it’s not committed goal. Meaning that woman can spend whole day shopping. They rarely know when they will be done. Therefore. They are good for approaches. One tip. Is to do approaches in the malls rather street shops. That’s because she will be more willing to go for insta date in the same building than outside. So u can always offer to go for a coffee, if u see conversation is going well. | /r/seduction | 01/04/25 04:26 AM |
| 2 | What are the best locations, times/days for pickupHere couple of tips. Where people stand or sit in the venue is important. General rule is that the more visible position the more likely she is okay of being approached. For example, bar at the club, seat outside or next to window of the coffee shop, bench next to pavement rather back, sitting in the middle of the park rather next to a tree. That’s because when we don’t want to be bothered consciously or non consciously will choose the place away from other people. Pay attention of the speed of … | /r/seduction | 01/04/25 03:58 AM |
| 6 | When she says "you're very forward" is that good or badIt’s not a shit test. OP is failing to calibrate and escalating too fast. | /r/seduction | 01/04/25 03:35 AM |
| 2 | When she says "you're very forward" is that good or badWhen she says “you are too forward” it means exactly that. It’s not a shit test. You are escalating too fast. | /r/seduction | 01/04/25 03:33 AM |
| 3 | For Guys Who Like to Read Seduction Books…Same. Read the sample. Didn’t find anything new. | /r/seduction | 31/03/25 07:07 PM |
| 3 | How do you get a hookup/kiss at a nightclub as somebody who overthinks what they doOnce I met someone at pub. Then her friends came and she introduced me. And I kinda join their group. There were guys and girls in the group. I spent time with them. Like couple of hours. Talking. Drinking. And I think they liked me. Anyways, I started to dance with the girl in question. And she was giving me signals. Like grinding, touching etc. And I sad “fck it”. Will go for a kiss. And then boom. She rejected me. Not only that but like she pushed me slightly away and turned to someone else. … | /r/seduction | 30/03/25 02:29 PM |
| 3 | Why I stopped approaching women. And how that gave me relationships as well as unlimited access to attractive womenU forgot to mention that these skills are transferable. My relationship with colleagues at work improved. Same with my family. And in general, every single interaction with a person became so easy. Once u start focus on other people instead of yourself things get better to you. | /r/seduction | 30/03/25 01:55 PM |
| 16 | Why I stopped approaching women. And how that gave me relationships as well as unlimited access to attractive womenStart with any book about body language. And practice, practise and practice. First it takes consciousness effort because u have to read her body language but also be aware of your own. And it’s not only body language but also voice tone. And u have to do that when u are talking. It’s hard. But it gets easier. In fact if u practise long enough it becomes like second nature. And you won’t be communicating with your voice u will be communicating with body language. Also op is talking not only abou… | /r/seduction | 30/03/25 01:43 PM |
| 1 | Opinions on dating coaches.When it comes to coaches they can help u in these areas: PUA Content/theory/knowledge or whatever u want to call it. The interesting thing that u don’t need theory in order to practise. U still can approach, date women without knowing all seduction stages, what is shit test and many more. But it does help. Motivation. When u are on your own it’s hard to approach. Lots of anxiety. But when u are with coach he can give u motivation boost to break that barrier. In addition when u see him approachin… | /r/seduction | 30/03/25 04:19 AM |
| 2 | Tried my first approach need guidanceYou did good. Just keep approaching and u will get better each time. One more thing u should be doing is the field report. It’s like a diary where u write down your approaches their reactions and based on that what u should have done instead. | /r/seduction | 30/03/25 03:52 AM |
| 3 | Lurker situation. Need help!!U already asked her out and she sad no. Unless u can seduce her same way she is doing you. Just move on. | /r/seduction | 30/03/25 03:47 AM |
| 1 | Needing help being sexy with my boyfriendFigure out his kinks and give it to him. This is the best way. | /r/seduction | 29/03/25 04:04 PM |
| 6 | There's never any point in responding to a rejection text from early stage dating (in my experience)My brain says that I should not reply, but my ego got hurt. I can’t let it slide. | /r/seduction | 29/03/25 04:00 PM |
| 1 | Letting Fear Control Me: How to Start Taking the InitiativeFor me helps if I approach them like I approach any other stranger. For example. What do u feel when u approach someone and ask for directions? If u feel uncomfortable, anxious it means u have social anxiety. So work on that before anything else. If u feel nothing, no emotions. Then remember that feeling, and approach them same way. But instead of directions ask for number. | /r/seduction | 29/03/25 08:19 AM |
| 23 | Do girls not like nice guys at all?Being nice is just a synonym for an ass kisser. No one likes that. You should be kind, sincere, honest, tell what u think, don’t take shit from anyone, respect those who respects u, playful, funny, chill, stubborn, jealous, egoistic, generous, caring. Literally anything else but nice. | /r/seduction | 29/03/25 08:10 AM |
| 8 | Ideas on how to get a girl back to your place for close (night game)?There is one precondition which has to be met before u ask her to come to yours It’s “the kiss”. Don’t ask her to come to yours if u haven’t kissed her during the date. It is very unlikely she will agree. Ideally, you should be making out with her before asking. So u are making out, drinking, talking or whatever. Then just randomly say, “I am going home, feel sleepy”. Usually her reaction will be little bit surprised, especially if u guys are having good time. Then, after a pause u add “are u co… | /r/seduction | 27/03/25 01:20 AM |
| 55 | Why am I able to flirt effortlessly while being drunk but not when sober?It’s all about your ability to get relaxed. You don’t need to be drunk to do so. Meditation helps. But mostly it’s just your attitude towards live. Chill and be happy. | /r/seduction | 25/03/25 06:31 AM |
| 7 | Make sure she is walking on the inside of the sidewalk, not close to the road.Don’t listen to those guys. It’s a solid advice and has psychological side. The road side is more dangerous not really due to cars but due to water splashes from them. And if she has to worry about stuff like that she can’t feel comfortable. And making her comfortable is the first step u need to do if u want to progress with a game without this neither kiss, nor sex will happen. To be fair there are more things u can do to accomplish this. Walking on the road side, as u mentioned. If u hold your… | /r/seduction | 24/03/25 10:01 PM |
| 2 | Text game debacleThat’s not really true. It depends on hers initial attraction/investment. If she really wants to meet u. Then she will be fine. If her initial attraction was low to begin with, then sure she might flake. | /r/seduction | 24/03/25 09:30 PM |
| 6 | Getting the conversation going after getting the numberDuring night game you should always be trying to pull. 90% of numbers you will get will be flakes. That’s because women are drunk, they forget people, and emotions they felt, also they are giving numbers to almost everyone who asks. So it’s very unlikely, she will respond. | /r/seduction | 24/03/25 09:23 PM |
| 5 | Need Tips on Using Social DancingI would not game within the actual classes you have been going to. Better is to find local bars or events for Latin dancing and game there. Also, you can always go to the normal club. Although you would need to modify some moves. Make it more seductive. U can also use your skills during day game to spike emotions. Lastly, dancing can also help you during dates themselves. It’s good to break touch barrier. And even transition into kiss, or sex. | /r/seduction | 24/03/25 09:17 PM |
| 1 | Your life would be so much easier with a BMW M2 / M3I don’t have a driving license. And not really into cars. | /r/seduction | 24/03/25 04:03 PM |
| 1 | Your life would be so much easier with a BMW M2 / M3You are missing the point of this sub. | /r/seduction | 24/03/25 12:57 PM |
| 5 | AdvicePunctuation left a chat. | /r/seduction | 24/03/25 12:56 PM |
| 1 | Why I am so afraid of intimacy and sex?The only thing what worked for me is disassociation. Meaning that anytime you want to do something but feel fear, disassociate your actions from yourself. Meaning it’s not you who is controlling your body. But someone else. And you are just an observer. It’s sounds weird but it does work. At least for me. | /r/seduction | 24/03/25 06:44 AM |
| 2 | Improving on gameBetter is to go for those u like. You will get way more out of it. | /r/seduction | 24/03/25 06:36 AM |
| 82 | Find/Do something healthy that feels better than sexThis advice only works if u already have some game. For total beginners with no dating experience this is very bad advice. | /r/seduction | 23/03/25 10:34 PM |
| 23 | Those in serious relationships, what would you do if another girl kissed your girlfriend?Probably just say to my gf that she can’t kiss other girls or we are done. | /r/seduction | 23/03/25 05:24 AM |
| 2 | How to approach the desire for a threesome without pressuring my girlfriend?Just to try things out is very stupid reason to risk your relationship. It’s not the same thing as trying bondage or anal. It may change how you see one another. And there are two perspectives. First you believe that both of you love each other so much that nothing will break you up. Sex is just pleasure. Nothing more. So u can have threesomes, date other people. At the end of the day she is yours and u are hers. Second. Is that the exclusive act of sex is integral part of relationship. And if u… | /r/seduction | 23/03/25 01:39 AM |
| 1 | How do I give off the vibe of a guy that's good for a fun time but not boyfriend material?This worldview is only relevant if u have scarcity. If you have abundance then this doesn’t matter. Yes. You will loose some. But u will feel good about yourself. You did the right thing. | /r/seduction | 22/03/25 03:02 PM |
| 2 | Is seduction without "manipulation" even possible?Not really. Seduction by definition is to influence someone for your own benefits. It’s stems from selfishness. So even if u are natural and not aware what u are doing some of your actions will still be manipulative. | /r/seduction | 22/03/25 02:53 PM |
| 0 | How do I give off the vibe of a guy that's good for a fun time but not boyfriend material?That’s the stupidest advice I heard. Just ghost them. Simple as that. It requires zero effort. | /r/seduction | 22/03/25 02:43 PM |
| 2 | An online collection of chats with women?How can he know if he made mistakes if he doesn’t have any examples? It’s like learning a math without textbook. | /r/seduction | 22/03/25 02:38 PM |
| 1 | let them chase you..Dude, the video literally explained the mindset and how that mindset is reflected in everyday life. I mean, we can go into nitty gritty details like in a video she sad to text less than woman u like. In practice that means allow for her to text to u first in the morning. Your messages should have 1.5 less content than hers. Your reply time should be 2.5 longer than hers. So if she texts in 30min then wait 1.5 hours to text her back. And on and on. All these are just details and arbitrary numbers… | /r/seduction | 21/03/25 09:17 PM |
| 7 | Need help letting go of the hot to the ego when you don't get the girl or someone else in the bar pulls her instead?U go for next one. | /r/seduction | 19/03/25 11:29 AM |
| 12 | My Learnings from Dan Bilzerian, StirIing Cooper & Michael Sartain’s ProgramsSounds like too much of work just to get laid. Unless u really want that type of lifestyle then sure. But most guys won’t achieve it. Not realistic. | /r/seduction | 19/03/25 08:17 AM |
| 0 | Overcome fear of rejectionYou don’t need to have confidence. You just have to trust the game. | /r/seduction | 19/03/25 07:06 AM |
| -3 | 3 Biggest Flirting Mistakes That Kill Attraction (And How To Fix Them)It’s not my problem that u have msinterpreted it. | /r/seduction | 19/03/25 06:53 AM |
| 4 | I don’t know if it’s the right place to speak about this butThe simple answer is that people are fucked up. When they were growing up, they didn’t receive healthy amount of love from parents. So now as adults, they are seeking for approvals from others. It’s like an addiction once u get the dose u feel satisfied for a moment but then the rush dissipate and u want for more approvals. They are emotional junkies. | /r/seduction | 18/03/25 08:38 PM |
| 1 | Thinking about a fuck buddyThe question u should be asking is not whether it’s normal but what do u want? Relationship is like sexuality, is not binary. And u decide how much intimacy u want to have. | /r/seduction | 18/03/25 08:28 PM |
| -1 | How do these guys make it look so easy?If u watch at the end u will see that he literally says it’s for YouTube video. They are not staged. But also he is not running the game at least not seduction game. | /r/seduction | 18/03/25 08:23 PM |
| 0 | My opener for every situationI am literally saying it. “U” | /r/seduction | 18/03/25 05:40 PM |
| 2 | How do these guys make it look so easy?The first guy is good looking so I won’t even comment on that. The second guy just doing YouTube videos. Because these types of opener’s although funny and entertaining they rarely lead to fcloses. Women find them cheesy. And u can see from the reactions. Lots of them say I have bf etc. The guy is doing entertainment not the seduction. | /r/seduction | 18/03/25 05:36 PM |
| 34 | 3 Biggest Flirting Mistakes That Kill Attraction (And How To Fix Them)ChatGPT. What do u expect. | /r/seduction | 18/03/25 11:33 AM |
| 3 | I date this girl in Saturday or not?Unless u are planning to have long time relationship with her, is not worth it. | /r/seduction | 18/03/25 11:25 AM |
| 6 | USA way easier than Britain?The problem is not London. But British chicks in general. Never been in USA but I did meet lots of American women in London. And all of them were amazing. They keen to talk. And are flirty. | /r/seduction | 18/03/25 10:24 AM |
| 1 | And what if the sex is bad?Very unlikely. Those two go hand in hand. | /r/seduction | 18/03/25 01:26 AM |
| 26 | My opener for every situationAvoid self intro. Because it always sounds like a pitch. Let her ask about u. And only then give answers. If she doesn’t ask anything it means u haven’t reached hook point. So do more emotional spikes. Do not open when u both wait for the pedestrian signal. That’s because u want her full attention. But she can’t focus on u when she has to focus on crossing the street. Better is to wait for her to cross and then catch her up and open. “U caught my attention” is a good statement. However, u have t… | /r/seduction | 18/03/25 01:05 AM |
| 1 | My opener for every situationAvoid self intro. Because it always sounds like a pitch. Let her ask about u. And only then give answers. If she doesn’t ask anything it means u haven’t reached hook point. So do more emotional spikes. Do not open when u both wait for the pedestrian signal. That’s because u want her full attention. But she can’t focus on u when she has to focus on crossing the street. Better is to wait for her to cross and then catch her up and open. “U caught my attention” is a good statement. However, u have t… | /r/seduction | 18/03/25 01:04 AM |
| 1 | For beginners: 15 points to become better at approachingFlirting is not what you do. It’s an attitude. It’s like if u have an attitude where u don’t like people. Even if u are trying to be polite they just feel your negative attitude. Same with flirting. Your attitude is that she is hot, and u want to fuck her. So even talking about very ordinary things she will feel that u are flirting with her because of your attitude. | /r/seduction | 17/03/25 08:18 AM |
| 1 | conflicted between desire to keep going and religious upbringingThis is one of those false beliefs in many religious communities. For some reason they like to couple sexuality with morality. However, these are two separate things. And they have no correlation whatsoever. Meaning u can be a slut or fuck boy and still be a good person, father. And the opposite is true as well. There are many examples. I suggest u start using your own head and decide for yourself what’s wrong and right. | /r/seduction | 17/03/25 07:25 AM |
| 1 | Any tips on how can be really desired by woman mostly mentally and emotionallyMaster body language. | /r/seduction | 17/03/25 06:40 AM |
| 0 | How would you seduce a woman that's anti casual sex?Like any other woman. Get her drunk and make a move. It’s not a rocket science. | /r/seduction | 17/03/25 06:36 AM |
| 5 | Anyone getting more matches on Facebook Dating compared to Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, etc.?Don’t have Facebook.. | /r/seduction | 17/03/25 06:32 AM |
| 1 | Would you ever approach one of those loud intimidating girls?Yes. Approaching shy, quiet girl is easy. However, when it comes to chav chicks they are way harder. The reason is that their confidence level is through the roofs. They shit test u like crazy. U need to have really good banter. If not then they will just walk all over u. So, u have to be mentally and emotionally strong. Don’t take shit. Know how to deal with rudeness and so on. And be bold in general. And if u can seduce her. Other women become way easier. Definitely worth it for confidence boo… | /r/seduction | 17/03/25 06:29 AM |
| 7 | I analyzed 120,000+ of your responses to girls’ shit tests, here's one thing you need to know to winBasically she is asked if I am married. Don’t remember exact details why she asked it like that. And I did study medicine and remember that human body has circular muscles which control different types of passages. Medically they are called sphincters but also can be referred as rings. There are lots of them. But I told the most common ones. One in stomach which controls how much food passes to intestine and anal which regulates bowel movement. | /r/seduction | 17/03/25 06:20 AM |
| 1 | How to knock her off a bitHave boundaries. | /r/seduction | 16/03/25 10:16 PM |
| 13 | I don't understand “game”U don’t believe because u didn’t see any examples in real life how this stuff works. That’s normal. I was sceptical as well. I can tell u couple of experiences from the time I started hanging out with guys from PUA community. I met with very experienced guys and we did night game. We go into nightclub and there are literally 10-20 attractive women. I am thinking shit we hit a jackpot let’s approach them. And then look at one of them and he say “there is nothing here”. Another says “yeah let’s go… | /r/seduction | 16/03/25 10:00 PM |
| 1 | Any strategies or tactics to save interaction when interrupted by the friend?Night game without good wing won’t work. To be fair u are better off on your own. | /r/seduction | 16/03/25 05:19 PM |
| 18 | I analyzed 120,000+ of your responses to girls’ shit tests, here's one thing you need to know to winStarted uncontrollably laugh. | /r/seduction | 16/03/25 04:54 PM |
| 47 | I analyzed 120,000+ of your responses to girls’ shit tests, here's one thing you need to know to winOnce a girl asked me “Do u have a ring?” I sad, yes. One round my stomach and other around my ass. | /r/seduction | 16/03/25 04:17 PM |
| 2 | For beginners: 15 points to become better at approachingRegarding smile. I actually get better results when I don’t smile. Everything, feels more natural and not forced. Jokes, compliments, even flirting feels more sincere and less needy. | /r/seduction | 16/03/25 04:07 PM |
| 3 | Successful weekend, after breakupGood stuff. Couple of things which also helps. When u go to new the venue try exploring every corner of the place. Like sit at one table, sofa, then at another one, then at bar, then outside, then walk on stage, then smoking area then inside and so on. The reason for this is that unknown creates distress. While familiarity creates confidence. The more u feel like at home the more u are relaxed. The same principle can be applied when u bring a woman to your place. Just move her around. Kitchen. L… | /r/seduction | 16/03/25 04:00 PM |
| 1 | Having a hard time closing and missed oppurtunities.I see couple of mistakes. First don’t give them your number. Better is to ask theirs because it removes the pressure from their side to call/text u. And also u are more in control. Second. Ask for a number when u finish first round of conversation. U don’t need to make it about dating if u don’t want. In fact asking for contact details with a pretext is better because it reduces stakes and increase chances they will give it. Plus u can ask for numbers in group settings. And yes. Women often are … | /r/seduction | 16/03/25 09:13 AM |
| 1 | Would it be smart to start a local group of fellow 20-something-year-olds to go out clubbing?All coaches operate the same way. Depending on his fame, experience only price differs. He will try to talk u into buying his services or products. That’s the primary goal. If u do that then most likely he will also invite u in some group chat with the rest of his clients where u can ask questions. This will feel nice because u will feel like u belong to some exclusive club. But the main purpose of it is to sell more products. Existing customers are more likely to buy more. The products will be … | /r/seduction | 16/03/25 08:55 AM |
| 1 | Being RealisticI think Nick Krauzer very nicely summarised the game. U meet 3 types of women. No women. Either they have zero attraction towards u or are taken. This accounts like 80%. No matter what u will do u won’t seduce them. Game is useless. Yes women. They have high level of initial attraction towards u. This accounts like 15% of cases. More if u are good looking. Game is not really needed. Lastly 5% falls to women who haven’t decided if they like u or not. And this is where the game shines. In this cas… | /r/seduction | 16/03/25 06:46 AM |
| 3 | Would it be smart to start a local group of fellow 20-something-year-olds to go out clubbing?Yes it’s quite common, at least it used to be. There were lots of telegram groups. Websites. Forums where u can meet like minded PUAs. Unfortunately, those places contain different kind of people. Very asocial guys who have no social skills at all. So they bring your game down when u go out with them. Hardcore PUAs. They have great skills but are narcissist and sociopaths. Very useful to learn things from them but be careful taking everything what they say. Filter shit out. Coaches. Vultures who… | /r/seduction | 16/03/25 06:29 AM |
| 2 | Am I missing something here?Not enough investment from their side. Strangers are cheap commodity. They are everywhere. Unless u make some kinda connection with her. She will flake, because going out with someone she just met especially when she was intoxicated has very poor risk/reward ratio. Simple economics, my friend. That’s why guys who do night game always try to pull girls same night. When emotions are still high. | /r/seduction | 16/03/25 06:10 AM |
| 1 | Looking for EncouragementPeople underestimate the progress they make. The fact that u got out is already a progress. Just one small step at the time. | /r/seduction | 16/03/25 06:03 AM |
| 2 | Israeli wingmanUnless u are ultra orthodox, don’t see how being an Israeli matters in game. | /r/seduction | 16/03/25 06:01 AM |
| 3 | Being RealisticI can’t even count how many times I saw ugly guys with ugly girls. Literally just go outside and look at couples. So your assessment is not correct. The biggest mistake people make when choosing partner is expecting someone who looks way better than they are. Couples like that are the outliers. Not ones where both are ugly, they are common. | /r/seduction | 16/03/25 05:55 AM |
| 21 | How do you talk romantically?Here some practical things when it comes to romantics which I personally do. It’s not really about talking but doing. Show that u are missing her when she is not around. Text in the morning “I missed you” Text in the morning “I was thinking about u” Text in the morning “I had dream about u” If she goes to work/trip/party etc and u have to wait for her at home. Instead, wait at bus station, train station, or just outside rather inside. Always give a hug when u meet her. Make your hugs special by … | /r/seduction | 15/03/25 02:34 PM |
| 2 | Will she lose attraction if I confess my feelings?Don’t go all serious on her. Usually it never ends well because she will have to make a decision. Accept or reject. No one likes to make decisions and think about relationships logically. Next time u meet her. Say that your crush ended with the other girl. Like u are not interested in her. And say u are tired, and won’t date anyone at least for foreseeable future. This will lower her “anti slut defence”. Then start flirting and be playful with her. And once the time is right, u have the moment, … | /r/seduction | 15/03/25 01:44 PM |
| 14 | Tried a few cold approaches at a beach but no successIn order to get a date same day is better to go for insta date. Meaning u ask her if she wants to go for a date straight away, rather later in the evening. However, beach is a bad place for insta date. Because they have stuff with them plus they might be not dressed properly for going out. So the only option is to have date with her on the beach. I mean u already are together half naked. Why not use this time to seduce her. U do kino. Like putting cream on her or asking she would put on u. And o… | /r/seduction | 15/03/25 01:33 PM |
| 1 | Becoming a dating coachIt works until it’s free advice. Interaction between u and him feels like friendship. But once u start charging it becomes a business arrangement. | /r/seduction | 14/03/25 01:03 AM |
| 23 | Professional Coach < Professional Wingman!Cmon dude. No one is gonna read this nonsense. | /r/seduction | 10/03/25 03:54 AM |
| 5 | How does the approach work with different musical styles playing?These excuses become ridiculous with each day. Soon will be “I can’t approach because there isn’t enough oxygen in air”. | /r/seduction | 09/03/25 04:10 PM |
| 10 | I Slept with 40 Women Last Year From Real Life Approaches - Here are 7 Lessons I learnedU can do it. But your whole life is just going, approaching, dating and just sex. I remember u agree on a date then u leave 2 hours earlier and while going to meet her u approach more women. In fact I had to finish my insta date earlier just because I had another date scheduled. Eventually u burn out. U don’t have time for gym, nothing. These guys like him paint too rosy picture of PUA lifestyle. All your friends are as weird as u. Lots of them have mental problems. Plus it changes u. U start lo… | /r/seduction | 09/03/25 04:01 PM |
| 2 | Going out with others vs aloneGoing out with wingmen is always better than alone. However, That’s only true if they know the game. If this is not the case, then they will be just a liability. I would say keep your game buddies and normal buddies separated. This works way better. | /r/seduction | 09/03/25 01:41 PM |
| 1 | Tips for navigating a large group of girls solo?It’s hard to understand your situation from your post. But if u have 4 women friends then take advantage of social proof they give rather gaming them. | /r/seduction | 09/03/25 12:13 PM |
| 3 | I Slept with 40 Women Last Year From Real Life Approaches - Here are 7 Lessons I learnedAny day gamer knows that if u are in a small town. Eventually u will run out of sets. U need to live or at least be present in a city where are a lot of women. Ideally the one with lots of tourists or/and the one which has universities. | /r/seduction | 09/03/25 12:01 PM |
| 97 | I Slept with 40 Women Last Year From Real Life Approaches - Here are 7 Lessons I learnedTo be fair he is not really a chad. In terms of looks he is ordinary. However, he seems over 6 feet in the videos. So the height definitely contributes to his success. But if u watch his video. U will see that he just approaches a lot. So, height helps but his game what gives the results. | /r/seduction | 09/03/25 11:58 AM |
| 12 | I Slept with 40 Women Last Year From Real Life Approaches - Here are 7 Lessons I learnedThat’s very true. OP says 40 women in a year. So it’s like almost 1 per week. Even if u consider that most guys always bump their number by 10-20% still is huge amount . Achieving these numbers through night game is quite doable for everyone who has looks. However, OP seems more day game player. And day game is more complex in a sense that a lot of time u spend looking for the one who is willing to sleep with u. It happens in three ways. By approaching 100s per week. Which is possible to do if u… | /r/seduction | 09/03/25 11:33 AM |
| 4 | Yo Fellas!!!Find balance, Daniel san. | /r/seduction | 07/03/25 02:22 AM |
| 8 | How has The Game by niel straus, changed over the times leading to todayThe game itself didn’t change. All the fundamentals still applies today. What have changed is the deliver of the content. Now the content is wrapped up inside politically correct mainstream layer. In my opinion, it makes less useful. | /r/seduction | 03/03/25 05:25 PM |
| -1 | Do this if she leaves you on read!This is false. I assume u never met someone who actually was really into u. She text firsts and often. She shows lots of effort. U don’t really have to do much just schedule a date anytime it’s convenient for u. And she will agree. | /r/seduction | 03/03/25 12:54 PM |
| 1 | Should I give her more attention or less?Don’t change something if it’s working. | /r/seduction | 03/03/25 12:49 PM |
| 5 | Ask her out again after she couldn't make it?She is flaking. Just delete the number. It will give u peace of mind. | /r/seduction | 03/03/25 12:47 PM |
| 6 | I Confessed to a Woman on a Date That I Practice Approaching - Her Reaction Was PricelessI had couple of times happen to me. Usually they are impressed. And they do encourage. But that’s more friendly thing. Those types of interactions never lead to anything. Which is interesting because that’s the honest answer. U are putting real self out there for her to judge. Yet. U don’t get any results. | /r/seduction | 03/03/25 12:41 PM |
| 3 | DareTry to avoid these over the top approaches. It makes u change personality and become insincere. Just a plain ordinary approach works better. In fact, u don’t even need to smile if u never smile. | /r/seduction | 03/03/25 04:21 AM |
| 7 | People who are really good at first dates, what advice do you have?I am from EU. | /r/seduction | 27/02/25 09:51 AM |
| 45 | People who are really good at first dates, what advice do you have?Jesus. All advises are so generic. So, here is first date 101. Agree to meet her 20min walk from the restaurant/venue rather in the restaurant itself. This way u will have more time with her. Walking is more dynamic activity people tend to be relaxed more. Make sure u are late 3-5 min. Person who makes people wait appears in position of power. More important. Just don’t overdue 10 min is too long. When u meet her, go for a hug. This will break touch barrier. Don’t tell her where the venue is. Ju… | /r/seduction | 27/02/25 04:45 AM |
| 23 | Tips on how to seduce my ex bossIf u haven’t done already it will be hard to do now. So don’t go too direct. It will be weird. Better is to ask for her socials to “keep in touch”. And then slowly start texting and measure her temperature. | /r/seduction | 24/02/25 03:41 PM |
| 2 | Texting between setting up the date and the dateIt’s up to u, but personally I never text. Because there is no reason to. She literally agreed on the date. If she flakes then it just shows that she didn’t like u enough to go on a date with u. And also her poor character because her word/agreement means nothing. | /r/seduction | 20/02/25 11:56 AM |
| 3 | Texting between setting up the date and the dateU don’t need to text especially that monstrosity. If she agreed then is all good. Just text her the day when the date is set. Just to confirm if it is still on. | /r/seduction | 20/02/25 11:44 AM |
| 20 | Your thoughts on a woman texting first in a dating app?It’s nice. It shows she likes u. And u can be 100% u will get a number. Unless u are really bad at texting. However, the biggest mistake u can do is to allow her to carry the conversation. Usually they are really bad at it. So u still have to game. | /r/seduction | 18/02/25 05:38 PM |
| 48 | How is Game different in Europe and USA?Europe is way too diverse to be compared with USA. Game in UK is very different than in Belarus for example. | /r/seduction | 11/02/25 06:42 PM |
| 2 | Not approaching, now what?Do warm u sets. | /r/seduction | 10/02/25 04:23 PM |
| 2 | Was this a shit test? Did I manage well here?Yeah. I think it’s fine. And yes it is a shit test. But don’t make a move. Instead tease the shit out of her until she will make a move herself. | /r/seduction | 09/02/25 09:18 AM |
| 2 | To puaSorry. I don’t understand what u are asking. | /r/seduction | 09/02/25 04:47 AM |
| 18 | I usually only ask for the number when I feel there’s some mutual attraction.Don’t listen to them. U did great. Best approach is one which works for u. | /r/seduction | 09/02/25 03:18 AM |
| 5 | House call questionU will have to be more bold than that if u expect something to happen. | /r/seduction | 03/02/25 11:43 AM |
| 16 | I have some questions about this community, because hearing about it explains so much, and also freaks me out.Yes. Of course. Many people in this community goes through multiple of stages. At first u feel like a looser. U have all types of mental problems. Low self esteem, social anxiety, depression, no confidence, no fashion style, toxic beliefs and many more. When u have all those things from the childhood u kinda belief that u are that type of person. A looser. Then, u find this community and start to change. At first it feels fake. Because all your life u had low self esteem. Now u find something wh… | /r/seduction | 03/02/25 06:51 AM |
| 2 | I can't believe how many people in here still haven't read ModelsIt’s okay to read for general knowledge, but don’t expect it will change your life. | /r/seduction | 30/01/25 04:22 PM |
| 3 | Am I doing it wrong?Try do soft close like. “We can go for a coffee and then watch a movie.” If she says yes. Then is great. If no, then u will know that she is not ready for a movie and just go for a coffee. | /r/seduction | 28/01/25 05:20 PM |
| 4 | Tell someone beforehand my height?Yes. I would. As a shorter guy I always disclose my height. | /r/seduction | 26/01/25 10:50 PM |
| 1 | How can I make a move at her place while cooking for her?If she won’t dance then is game over. It means she doesn’t want to get close to u. And lead u on. | /r/seduction | 26/01/25 10:06 PM |
| 1 | How can I make a move at her place while cooking for her?Follow escalation ladder. You just won’t have enough time to do enough kino. Before going for kiss However, there are some shortcuts. For example, ask to put some music and just start dancing with her. While food is cooking. Dance, check food, dance, check food, and then dance and kiss. After kiss, serve food. | /r/seduction | 26/01/25 09:58 PM |
| 2 | How can I make a move at her place while cooking for her?She knows u like her. And she likes u back. Coworker cooking dinner at her home is a date. So, she expects that something will happen. Otherwise she would not have invited u at her home. To make it more playful. Ask her to help u. Like cut veggies, onions etc. Also u can ask her to hand things to u. To be fair, most likely u won’t be able to kiss before dinner. However, you should do as much kino as u can. All action will happen after it. Make sure to watch the movie. Get some wine. And then mak… | /r/seduction | 26/01/25 09:41 PM |
| 26 | A beautiful girl said hi to me and I got nervous and walked awayYes. I can relate. Don’t know how old u are. But u gonna remember this for the rest of your life. And u always gonna think “what if”. Never, I mean never do this again. | /r/seduction | 26/01/25 10:35 AM |
| 6 | How to Approach Women Without Feeling Sleazy or FakeYeah. It’s a slippery slope. PUA is known to use psychological techniques and exploit vulnerabilities for own benefits. And a lot of people tell themselves that they are doing this for good intentions as u say, but their actions often say differently. I have met 100s of guys in the community and not even a single one made any effort of ensuring if a woman feels safe and comfortable. It’s all about, “how to get a number”, “doing kino no matter what”, being frustrated, “improving one self”. Even i… | /r/seduction | 26/01/25 10:20 AM |
| 5 | Hit it off with a girl at a rave last weekKeep it at minimum. Low effort. Facts. No “good morning, how was your day” ⚠️ | /r/seduction | 25/01/25 10:07 PM |
| 11 | What should be my perspective/mindset to create animal magnetism?You just have to flirt and date and sleep with many many women. It’s the only way. When u do that. Your whole demeanour changes. U just can’t help it but flirt with every woman u meet, colleague, cashier, and so on. It’s so subtle that other people especially guys do not pick up those signals at all. The woman u flirt doesn’t really understand what is happening. She just feels attraction towards u. Even your physiology changes. Your pupils become wide. And eyes gets this glare around them. From … | /r/seduction | 25/01/25 09:52 PM |
| 37 | Guy came over but no action. What did I do wrong? Should I try again, and if so, how?Some guys are clueless. They believe that women don’t even like sex and only give it to guys who are nice to them. Most likely, he was thinking that he can’t be in relationship with u. So didn’t want to lead u on. And it never came to his mind that u might be okay with only sex. U have to be more direct. And I mean it. Just say what u want. | /r/seduction | 25/01/25 09:27 PM |
| 8 | I’ve lurked here long enough. Time for my advice…Totally agree. I knew a guy who dressed like a homeless person and used to go out to pick up chicks. I was “dude, why are u dressing like that?” And he tried to explain me that clothes are like cars or money, something u flash around to pick up women. U are supposed to use your confidence and other seduction skills. I was like 🤯. No, dude. How u look is one of the most neglected aspect in dating. Both online and in real life. Fit, tailored clothes will make huge difference. U don’t need to spend… | /r/seduction | 25/01/25 09:23 PM |
| 0 | "lets get to know each other before meeting"Probably u have playboy profile and they are horny. | /r/seduction | 25/01/25 07:58 PM |
| 3 | Is this dating idea as a 2nd date advisable?If u really want to rock her world. Just take a chisel and do it yourself. I mean how hard could it be? 🤷♂️ If she says no, at least will appreciate u trying. | /r/seduction | 25/01/25 07:49 PM |
| 20 | "lets get to know each other before meeting"It’s not really a bs. It just her being safe. She had way too many bad experiences hence she is looking for confirmation that u are not weirdo and won’t make her feel uncomfortable. Your mistake is asking for a number too soon. Also, talking about boring stuff won’t confirm to her that u are a normal guy. U need to little bit tease, qualify her and just have lighthearted fun during conversation. | /r/seduction | 25/01/25 06:51 PM |
| 2 | Low vs. High Commitment: Why Most Guys Fail in DatingI think the most important is to use situational opener. Say, comment, or just use body language to express something funny. Once u can do that. The rest is relatively easy. Just ask couple of ordinary questions, do some qualification, if u see there was a hook point during conversation ask for a number. Without any indication why are u asking, something like “I have to go. Was nice talking to u. Btw do u have WhatsApp?” During conversation I don’t say any compliments. Also I barely smile. I don… | /r/seduction | 25/01/25 06:00 PM |
| 33 | Stop listening to women for dating/relationship advice100% women are so bad at giving dating advice to men. However, the reverse is also truth. I see some women taking advice from men. The best person to take advice from is one who had lots of experience, knows his shit and ideally is the same gender. | /r/seduction | 25/01/25 02:24 PM |
| 8 | Low vs. High Commitment: Why Most Guys Fail in DatingI appreciate you having different opinion. But I tried direct. All kinds of openers. More than u can imagine. Coming to a woman and stating that u find her attractive it just doesn’t work as good as u describe. Some of them think that there is a hidden camera and u are doing YouTube video. Some just gives disgusted looks. Some start to laugh. Some give positive reaction and even give u a compliment that u have balls. But once all emotions dissipate they flake. I find that being direct with your … | /r/seduction | 25/01/25 01:48 PM |
| 2 | Low vs. High Commitment: Why Most Guys Fail in DatingTo be fair sometimes u don’t even need to tease. I remember when doing warm up sets approach parents and they had a daughter. I didn’t even see how she looked when I approached. Never was my intention get the number. Asked if they know where to find a particular shop. They sad they are not local. Started to talk with a dad. And then noticed that daughter started to give some indication of interest. Asking me questions etc. At the end I asked her number in front of parents. There were literally z… | /r/seduction | 25/01/25 11:46 AM |
| 1 | What are all the frames ?It is a term from psychology. It’s like “mental lens” through which we perceive the reality, situation. In the context of dating, specifically in your example. Two people interacting with each other can be seen as seller and buyer. A seller is the person who tries to “sell” or convince other person about his ideas, his beliefs, his worldview. And the buyer either accept his ideas or dismiss as false or something he doesn’t need at this moment. In a marketing psychology a buyer usually is the one… | /r/seduction | 25/01/25 10:51 AM |
| 1 | How to get 2nd dates?Try to kiss in the middle of the first date. Leaving at the end is never a good idea. But I guess is better than not kissing at all. Regarding texting. If a girl texts u first then it means she has very high investment in you. U only need to match her energy by 90%. Leave 10% for yourself. It’s the easy mode. If she doesn’t text u. Then she has low investment in u. In that case u have to match her energy and increase by 10%. It’s not ideal situation, but if u don’t text at all then it’s game ove… | /r/seduction | 25/01/25 10:31 AM |
| 42 | Low vs. High Commitment: Why Most Guys Fail in DatingI believe u are talking about direct vs indirect approaches. I used to do direct approaches. But don’t do it anymore. There are just too many issues with them. You get many false positives. Meaning that is hard to know whether she is giving u a number because u spiked her emotions or because she is into u. If it is the former, then u have high possibility of flakiness. It is not natural approach. People just don’t go around and give compliments all over the place. And when she goes back home she… | /r/seduction | 25/01/25 10:23 AM |
| 1 | Explaining to a woman that I was "off my game" after a date?If second date sucked u should not offer the same thing again. Inviting her in to your place indicates u want to have sex. So she might be horny and agree. If not, then is game over. | /r/seduction | 24/01/25 07:46 PM |
| 11 | Explaining to a woman that I was "off my game" after a date?It won’t help your case. She already decided. So, just shoot your shot like nothing happened. And see how it goes. | /r/seduction | 24/01/25 07:28 PM |
| 21 | If you could summarize in a phrase the right mindset in dating success, what would it be?“I am a total stranger to her, let’s make sure she feels safe and comfortable with me” | /r/seduction | 24/01/25 06:51 PM |
| 3 | Is it possible to be a nice guy but not boring?Yes | /r/seduction | 24/01/25 01:14 PM |
| 1 | Long dates aren't good?All good. Except u had to have sex with her. She was expecting that. It was her last day. So. Don’t wait for kiss at the end. Do it in the middle of the date. If u will start kissing in the middle of the date. At the end y will be making out and having sex. Transitioning from the first kiss to sex in a matter of minutes almost impossible. And because u didn’t had sex. Things felt awkward next day. | /r/seduction | 24/01/25 07:32 AM |
| 2 | Emotional SupportWhen she feels down. Just hug her. Ask what’s is wrong and listen. Don’t say a word. Just agree. Simple as that. | /r/seduction | 22/01/25 09:24 PM |
| 3 | Emotional SupportJust give a specific example. Cause now is just a word salad. | /r/seduction | 22/01/25 09:07 PM |
| 4 | Does going to the gym make a big difference?No amount of muscle will get you laid if u don’t know the game. However, if you know the game and are buffed. It’s like playing a game on the easiest mode. | /r/seduction | 22/01/25 08:38 PM |
| -2 | rank the best cities for daygame 1-10.Don’t know why downvotes. If u have a good profile and get lots of matches day game is waste of time. | /r/seduction | 22/01/25 08:16 PM |
| 5 | What is some of the worst seduction advice you heard on the internet?To be fair. Once I started to be myself I got better results. U kinda have to play the game while being ourself. I think that’s the goal. | /r/seduction | 22/01/25 08:05 PM |
| 22 | How can I create more sexual tension in a conversation? Am I too picky?Every sentence has emotional/sexual weight attached to it. The weight can be modified by choosing the meaning which is more emotional or by incorporating emotional words. For example. Take two sentences. “She has a face” and “He is a banker”. Which sentence is more emotional? Obviously it’s a first one. Because, we use face to express emotions and plus we are talking about woman which usually is considered more emotional than a man. Can u make first sentence even more emotional without changing … | /r/seduction | 21/01/25 08:34 PM |
| 1 | What’s the protocol when she want to “get to know you better” before a first date?Probably u did mistake and asked her out too soon. So try to avoid this as much as possible next time. Asking too soon is as bad as waiting too long. The problem now u are facing is the framing. Now u are the one who needs to qualify to her. The worst response would be say something like “sure, I am the opened book” or similar. U could flip the frame, like “Okay let’s do it. Tell me three endearing qualities of yourself”. However, this is gonna look like u are avoiding question. I think there is… | /r/seduction | 21/01/25 04:28 AM |
| 5 | too difficult to understandMost likely u are just an orbiter. She throws some snack there and then to keep u engaged, so that you would validate her. But has no real intentions to move forward with u. | /r/seduction | 21/01/25 03:52 AM |
| 54 | How to build the mindset/confidence that you’re good enough?U don’t want to have that mentality. That’s wrong way of thinking. U are not a tool for women. You are your own person. No one else. U don’t need to prove anything to anyone. You are a beautiful soul. And every time u meet someone u give a piece of that soul to a person. Eventually u will find a person who will accept it, and also will share bits of herself to you. That’s how it works. | /r/seduction | 20/01/25 10:24 PM |
| 1 | I want some harsh critiqueAt some point u have to approach and talk to them. Now is just you being a creep. Also what is this being turned on? Are u getting hard? Didn’t understand. Overall I think u have two problems. Approach anxiety. You just have to overcome it. Just do it. Talk to her. Most likely u will fail but that’s the part of the game. Having sex is way too big goal for u. It messes with your head. Break your goal into small pieces. Like “today I will ask for a time” tomorrow “I will say compliment” next day I… | /r/seduction | 20/01/25 07:58 PM |
| 1 | instead of a real man...?Exactly. People are already too dumb to realise that they are being brainwashed by social media. But now imagine if u can influence someone using an AI where a person has personal attachment to it. It’s the holy grail of radicalisation. | /r/seduction | 20/01/25 06:35 PM |
| 23 | What’s your “script” when trying to charm a woman?I don’t have the script. I used to have. But try use it as little as possible. Now. Is all about going for a dinner enjoying a food, the company. Talking shit. Having fun. I don’t even have the goal to kiss her or to have sex with her. Ultimate outcome independence. | /r/seduction | 20/01/25 05:53 PM |
| 20 | instead of a real man...?It is uncharted territory. It’s not clear what are the long term consequences of AI human relationships like that. So be careful. | /r/seduction | 20/01/25 05:42 PM |
| 1 | Miami Field ReportGood job. Btw the one with the dress 100% was looking for sex. | /r/seduction | 20/01/25 05:33 PM |
| 0 | How long should I wait when a girl I’m interested in doesn’t reply to my text?Nothing is a hard rule. Double texting is not recommended, that’s all. You are on your own. | /r/seduction | 20/01/25 05:14 PM |
| 3 | How long should I wait when a girl I’m interested in doesn’t reply to my text?Double texting will make it worse. If she doesn’t reply, then she is not interested. | /r/seduction | 20/01/25 04:56 PM |
| 4 | Best advise for young man looking for femalesWhatever u do, don’t hesitate. | /r/seduction | 20/01/25 04:27 PM |
| 2 | I lack courage.I remember when I started what helped me were two things. First was warm up sessions. Just talking with strangers, asking for directions etc. sometimes I had to do like 30 sets before could start conversation with a woman. Another thing was a realisation that u just have to do it. It’s like when u have a tooth pain and u go to doctor u don’t want to be u still do it. So is the same feeling. Same necessity for the approach. | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 02:15 PM |
| 9 | Should I take more risks when flirting with a girl?If u are struggling it and have problems with calibration. Here are few tips which always work. Flirting. There are lot of things what constitutes to flirting. But if u have no idea then u can do two things. Look her straight into the eyes when u are talking. And when she is taking look at her lips. Obviously u can alternate. It should be enough to create a spark. And is totally safe from rejection. Touching. Ideally u want that she would touch you. For that u can give a logical reason to do so.… | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 11:43 AM |
| 2 | Is there something better then the M3 model?I think Mystery nailed it. Even if there are attempts, it will be just modified version on M3. Attraction. Comfort. Seduction. | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 10:36 AM |
| 29 | 4 Dates In, Strong Chemistry, But She Still Thinks It's Too Quick – Need AdviceFlip the frame. At the moment u are the horny one. Make her to be the one who is chasing u. | /r/seduction | 18/01/25 03:06 PM |
| 5 | hotel bars vs normal bars for game?There are pros and cons. Hotel bars are perfect if u can find someone. It’s a hit and miss. But if u do hit. Then the closing is very easy. In normal bars u have to deal with their friends. And even if she likes u there could be logistical issues to close her. However, u have more opportunities because people change more often. | /r/seduction | 17/01/25 09:10 AM |
| 105 | It's crazy how much of a different texting her less makesYep. Conquer her mind rather phone. | /r/seduction | 17/01/25 12:15 AM |
| 5 | Has anyone read the Alan Roger Curie books and applied the "mode one" in real life?Mode one is basically a synonym for direct approach. This is how I used to do. In real life and online. Unfortunately, it doesn’t work very well. I have tried. First of all complete honesty scares people away. It also destroys all the mystery. And removes ambiguity. All that just lowers her attraction towards u. The best approach is when u combine mode one with mode four. U are honest when it matters and dishonest/manipulative when it’s needed. And to be fair. This is de facto how everyone else … | /r/seduction | 16/01/25 11:16 PM |
| 3 | I want to use Dating Apps for HOOK UPS rather than dating/relationships - how to go about this?U don’t need to say it explicitly, u just need to imply that u are only for hookups. Make sure your photos are tailored for that. Also. Learn how to escalate during the date. | /r/seduction | 16/01/25 08:07 PM |
| 8 | How to spike emotions in womenI think u both are saying the same thing. He sad if she is not emotionally invested then don’t compliment. U are saying if a woman likes a man then complimenting is good. Liking someone and being emotionally invested is the same thing. | /r/seduction | 15/01/25 06:20 PM |
| 1 | playing a characterA lot of bad advices. If u feel like playing character. U feel like an actor in a movie. Then u are doing things wrong. The problem with that approach is that u have created that character from scratch. U moulded it based on the things u read, or think u have to do in order to get numbers. But there is no YOU in there. It’s all fake. What u need to do is to reverse back. Be that nice guy as u are saying. In fact try write it down all the things u currently are. Describe who u are. What are your … | /r/seduction | 15/01/25 05:12 AM |
| 11 | For girls who haven't expressed romantic interest yet, do you think they become more attracted when they see you flirt well with another girl? Why?I don’t know, man. Anytime I tried to flirt with other women during the date. Things didn’t end very well. One time my date started to talk with the women I flirted and they left. Literally left me standing like an idiot. So, I learned my lesson. I think this shit works only in books. | /r/seduction | 14/01/25 05:02 PM |
| 20 | Do attractive women care about a guy's social media presence?Is not a bad advice. However, is not so simple. U probably imaging guys on yachts, with lots of girls, partying etc. But that’s not how it will be. If u are introvert, don’t have social skills, no experience with women. U won’t be that guy on the yacht. In fact, even if u built your business u won’t spent on stupid things like yachts. U would invest your money. Make it work for u. And u won’t have girls around u. U may find some woman which will take advantage of u. She withhold sex and u will b… | /r/seduction | 14/01/25 02:20 PM |
| 2 | Do attractive women care about a guy's social media presence?I have zero social media presence. U won’t find me even on LinkedIn. And I have no problem of getting numbers. Out of 500 of approaches maybe couple of women asked for social media. However, I do believe that social media would help. Especially regarding ghosting. But personally I despise all of that media bs. So, just to get into a panties of some media influencer etc. Is just not worth it. | /r/seduction | 14/01/25 02:06 PM |
| 2 | Do you have to be a one of the cool people to be succesful?There are countless of books written. But most of it boils down to: Building anticipation Removing unnecessary sensory information Being in control Physical restriction All four applies to all women. Some women also like Dom/sub Degradation Pain Etc | /r/seduction | 13/01/25 05:13 PM |
| 2 | What's the best daygame online training course you've taken (self-paced or 1:1 but remote)?Why pay? There are so many free resources to learn this stuff. The only thing what coach can help u is to pinpoint your mistakes. But even then u can find people who could do that for free in communities, or just do self reflection. They are not worth the money. | /r/seduction | 13/01/25 05:04 PM |
| 4 | Do you have to be a one of the cool people to be succesful?Here is a list u need to give to her in order for her to stay with u. Orgasms. This is not optional and is the main reason she will stay with u. If u can’t give that it’s game over. I specifically used word orgasm and not sex, because there is possibility give shitty sex, but I haven’t heard of bad orgasm. Boundaries. Without boundaries there is no concept of any type of relationship. Boundaries give meaning to it. Shoulder to cry. It’s just a woman thing. They like to cry. U just have to listen… | /r/seduction | 13/01/25 04:47 PM |
| 4 | The Brutal Truth About Approaching Women Nobody Wants to HearI agree that human interactions should be genuine and honest, but that’s not how the real world works. I have been in the same shoe as u, virgin and naive. Truth is people can’t read your thoughts. If u tell them a compliment they will believe that u are saying this from the good heart. They never think that u do this to lower their defences to get something out of it. Saying things at the right time. Doing kino, being aware of environmental, spiking emotions, being aware of her and your own bod… | /r/seduction | 13/01/25 03:58 PM |
| 1 | How to chase-frame a girl the right way?!U don’t really want to do that. At least not voice it out. If u tell her anything that implies she is chasing u she will lose interest. Because women are very conscious about looking needy. It’s literally their primary fear. The best way to frame it is to actually let her do the work. For example. After first date don’t text her first. Let her text u first. Instead of asking question say a statement. And let her to continue conversation. Instead of asking her to be exclusive let her to pop this … | /r/seduction | 13/01/25 03:20 PM |
| 1 | I have extreme anxiety about approaching groupsThe one who walks in front of everyone. The one who makes decisions like let’s go there, do that. The one who will first starts talking with u once u approach. The one who uses most facial expressions. And other type of hand movements. The one who talks the most. The one who has power to push u out of the group. To be honest if u observe any group. U will start noticing those small bits. Even in your own friends group there is always a leader. U may not even realise that. But there is. Just thin… | /r/seduction | 13/01/25 06:46 AM |
| 1 | I have extreme anxiety about approaching groupsU just have to do it. It’s the only way to overcome anxiety. As for people being mean. It does happen, especially at the beginning if your approach sucks. But that’s the part of learning. Don’t take it personally. When it comes to technical bits the best approach is indirect. When u approach u have to be confident. Your energy level should be little bit higher than the group. U need to read the room to know. If u approach with lower energy u will be ignored and u will stand like an idiot. If u a… | /r/seduction | 13/01/25 06:06 AM |
| 1 | Having to be flawless with messaging in OLD or get ghosted?Any examples of conversations? | /r/seduction | 12/01/25 08:33 PM |
| 10 | I am getting girls but......Getting laid should be least of your worry. If I were u, I would leave Russia, u are risking to get drafted. | /r/seduction | 12/01/25 05:19 PM |
| 10 | I finally got over my cold-approach fear at bars but I realize I just have no rizzIt would be easier if u could give her reply. | /r/seduction | 12/01/25 04:03 PM |
| 3 | Approach FailureDo warm up sets. Like talk with random people. Ask for directions. What time is it etc. It helps for me to relax and be in social mood. | /r/seduction | 12/01/25 03:06 PM |
| -5 | First night together - what do I do?If u won’t have sex with her in those conditions most likely she will lose attraction. I know it’s sounds illogical especially that u both have agreed, but when it comes to attraction it doesn’t play by the rules. So. Do everything. Kiss, cuddle etc. But also try to lead to sex. Maybe not from the beginning but still do it. | /r/seduction | 12/01/25 11:25 AM |
| 1 | 22y/o m virginU just have to keep trying. There is no other way. With each success it will get easier and easier. | /r/seduction | 12/01/25 08:53 AM |
| 9 | Is caressing during date a good idea?U had last minute resistance. Changing topic, more cuddling etc. would have broken that. Now. It’s game over. | /r/seduction | 12/01/25 08:30 AM |
| 1 | How to cold approach but in a conservative way?If they are in rush don’t even bother. Even if u get the number is very likely they will ghost u because there was no time for her to invest in you. Of course u can offer to walk with her and talk, but this is very weak move. Basically u are following her. Another approach is to go very very direct. Like if she says she is in hurry, then u just say “I will be quick. I saw u. I thought u are attractive. Want to get to know u. Why don’t u give me your number we can catch up later”. I had quite goo… | /r/seduction | 11/01/25 03:45 PM |
| 19 | How would you improve your dating life, if you had some money?Clothes tailored to u. Stock clothes usually are shit. Even branded ones. A good tailor can make you look dapper. Also. Haircut. A good stylist can make you look way better. They understand what works and what does not. Lastly, jewellery. At minimum u should have a good watch. Also I suggest couple of rings as well. | /r/seduction | 11/01/25 03:33 PM |
| 9 | How to cold approach but in a conservative way?Being conservative and approaching them as a friend definitely yields better results in terms of how many social and phone numbers u can get. I can confirm that as well. However, whether all those contacts will lead to f-closes, it’s questionable. So the best approach is to approach them as a friend, while at the same time teasing and flirting with them. | /r/seduction | 11/01/25 12:35 PM |
| 3 | Rate my night out at a clubGood job. It’s very good that u talk with different types of groups. It builds social proof. Regarding blonde. General rule is when u see small group of girls 2 or 3 u should not go straight to the one u like. Instead go talk with the leader of the group. The leader is the most important within the group. Because if she doesn’t like u, even the other girl likes u the leader will cockblock u. So u need to win leaders approval. In fact. I like to compliment a leader while at the same time making f… | /r/seduction | 11/01/25 11:54 AM |
| 1 | O.L.D Premium / Paid subscriptions. Are they worth it?I mean I had similar stats. Buying tinder boosts definitely increased those numbers. Now, whether it had any effect on my normal score. I don’t know. COVID happened and deleted all apps. | /r/seduction | 11/01/25 10:03 AM |
| 1 | O.L.D Premium / Paid subscriptions. Are they worth it?I think it only worth it if u already getting matches. It shows that u have a good profile. By paying premium u get more exposure. So it’s worth it. But only if u have a good profile. With bad profile it will be just a waste of money. | /r/seduction | 11/01/25 07:07 AM |
| 22 | ReminderTotally agree. If all your life u had low self esteem, no experience with women and then u started to get success. Your confidence goes through the roof. It feels like u are on drugs. Which can be very dangerous. U have to ground yourself. | /r/seduction | 11/01/25 06:25 AM |
| 2 | When you cold approach, apologize for the awkwardness.I remember at the beginning of cold approaching I was kinda awkward and not confident. Voice trembling. Bad body language etc. But after a while everything became automated. Too smooth. Or too confident. And I didn’t give a fuck about anything. However, I noticed my results got worse than when I started. I think that don’t give a fuck vibe sometimes can work against u. And the girl feels it. Therefore. I always try to incorporate little bit of that initial awkwardness, just to make more natural … | /r/seduction | 10/01/25 04:02 PM |
| 7 | Seduction in europeHard to tell. Most likely multiple factors. Your looks. Your height. Your dress code. Your approach. And so on. Or just French being French. | /r/seduction | 10/01/25 04:13 AM |
| 4 | I forgot how to have get things started (and have sex), is this a turnoff for men?Don’t worry about. Sex/dating is like driving a car. Once u learn, it’s stays with u for the rest of your of life. | /r/seduction | 10/01/25 02:55 AM |
| 0 | Why (and How) Vulnerability Can Be the Ultimate Confidence MoveYou talk like ChatGPT. That’s not a compliment. Relax bro. U don’t have to avoid conflicts all the time. In fact, it only creates distrust. I met some coaches in the past and they do suffer from this effect. They say only those things which needs to be sad in order to get a particular reaction from other side and accomplish their goals. That’s not how real life conversations work. Don’t be afraid to say what u actually feel, even it will jeopardise your goal. | /r/seduction | 10/01/25 01:29 AM |
| 7 | Getting over the fear of rejectionU don’t. It’s like jumping into a water for the first time. There’s a fear of unknown, and u may actually drown. But u still do it for one reason or other. | /r/seduction | 09/01/25 05:31 PM |
| 44 | How to seduce my boyfriend in 10 waysIt might not be applicable to him, but here are some things u can try. Wear provocative clothes. Such as skirt with no panties, sundress without no panties, a shirt with no pants. Do house chores while wiggling your butt in his face. After shower remove towel, and just lie on the bed, sofa totally naked. Try playfully annoy him and say “I am bad, what u gonna do about it?” Sit on his lap. Lie down on his knees with your stomach and butt in his face while he is sitting. Lie down on his knees with… | /r/seduction | 09/01/25 02:01 PM |
| 2 | Not near my goals for development currently, keep working on myself or improve my game?Do both. In the morning hit the gym, and in the evening hit the streets. | /r/seduction | 09/01/25 03:03 AM |
| 18 | Do you pay on the first date?I do. And I do it cause I like it. | /r/seduction | 08/01/25 04:25 PM |
| 0 | Escalation Guidance Needed: Text GameNext week I am going for —insert whatever— do u wanna join? | /r/seduction | 08/01/25 02:17 AM |
| 0 | A first date idea I’ve been using recently which has some interesting resultsI don’t have a car nor driving license… | /r/seduction | 08/01/25 01:55 AM |
| 1 | Should I give it a shot?U can. But most likely she had forgotten u. | /r/seduction | 07/01/25 05:03 PM |
| 26 | What I wish guys knew about cold approachingIt’s called calibration. Or social intelligence. In any case that guy didn’t have. I did similar mistakes when I started. Any social cues were missed. I remember, trying to kiss her in front of family table full of kids. It takes time to learn social interactions, understanding body language and so on. Don’t take it personally. | /r/seduction | 07/01/25 05:52 AM |
| 5 | Going to Vegas for the first time, tips?Party gives u a social proof, so would not abandon completely. But yeah. U gonna have to start gaming at some point. | /r/seduction | 06/01/25 03:35 AM |
| 15 | Going to Vegas for the first time, tips?There are lots of women playing their own game. So, don’t become a trick. | /r/seduction | 06/01/25 03:07 AM |
| 16 | I know this is Lame… but we need a “moves List” a list of moves to start escalation or confirm attraction.. I’ll go firstCouple more from my own: When u do handshake, try hold it little bit longer. Also when u need to let go don’t let go her hand straight away instead gently brush your fingers over her palm. Whenever u sit next to her start gently scratching her back. This actually is a reflex for me. I used to always do this to my gf. And now happens every time without thinking. I ask her to trust me and close her eyes. Then I very gently and slowly brush my fingers through her face. I am not native English speak… | /r/seduction | 06/01/25 01:13 AM |
| 1 | A strategy I want to suggest, to see if it is potentially of some use to anyone out thereFor some people affirmations work. But for me is a total waste of time. Actually going outside and flirting with women over and over and over which got me that sexual aura u are talking about. | /r/seduction | 06/01/25 12:29 AM |
| 3 | Impossible shit testI am British. | /r/seduction | 05/01/25 11:47 PM |
| 1 | Am I overreacting or is this actually wrong in a relationship?Clearly her mental problems are affecting her worldview and decisions in life. I don’t believe u have future with her. | /r/seduction | 05/01/25 04:14 PM |
| 49 | Today is my 22nd birthday and I am still a virgin. I will quit Reddit but I wanted to say some things before I leave.Happy birthday 🥳 U are in this self loathing stage, I have been there, I know. And it will pass when u find a gf. But then it will come back again. The problem is not your inability to find a woman. The problem is your inability to be happy. No amount of sex, women, money or any other stuff will fill the missing gap in u. It will help, but just temporary. You have to find piece within yourself. Only then u will be happy. | /r/seduction | 05/01/25 01:55 PM |
| 102 | Impossible shit testJust say “Happy new year” and ghost her. | /r/seduction | 05/01/25 01:15 PM |
| 40 | Why did you guys start all this seduction?I saw some videos on YouTube and then bought a bootcamp. It was 15 years ago. And to be fair, now when I am thinking it was never about women, instead I just wanted to have friends, and to belong in community surrounded by people who understood me and what I was going through. | /r/seduction | 05/01/25 08:03 AM |
| 5 | How to open groupsUsually during day game u want to be dominant, confident and assertive. However. At club setting u kinda want to be the opposite, especially with groups. I find being overly polite, less confident, and little bit anxious helps. It lowers their defences especially if u look like lost puppy. So. “Hi. Guys. I am sorry to bother you. I was sitting down there with my friends. Saw you. And wanted to say “hi”. I hope u don’t mind.” | /r/seduction | 05/01/25 07:38 AM |
| 3 | What Spot's Work the Best for Cold Approaching?U can approach anywhere, however the most welcome reaction I get is in places where this is expected like. Bars. Pubs. Clubs. | /r/seduction | 05/01/25 07:21 AM |
| 5 | Hate all you want but routines workThe best routines which really worked were those which I came up by myself. Anytime, I tried to use someone else it feels artificial. | /r/seduction | 04/01/25 07:24 AM |
| 4 | When was the last time you got laid? Asking just to see were the average lies.At least not G. | /r/seduction | 04/01/25 07:11 AM |
| 25 | When was the last time you got laid? Asking just to see were the average lies.E | /r/seduction | 04/01/25 06:39 AM |
| 2 | How to manage relationships and studies?If u are not living together then one per week is good and healthy amount. U study all week and then u meet during weekend. I see no problem. | /r/seduction | 04/01/25 02:22 AM |
| 6 | How to manage relationships and studies?If u have sex all the times u will get bored. It won’t feel special anymore. Absence of something is good. The longer u wait the better it feels. | /r/seduction | 04/01/25 02:17 AM |
| 1 | Can anyone help me?Here is the summary of what has changed. People still date and fuck. Although, sex robots are becoming a thing. Social media is a big thing. Women do expect u to have, but is not a deal breaker. Online dating is very popular. Although majority women and men are miserable. All women are chasing the best 10% men. People still go to clubs but a lot of them have been closed and going out of business. Cold approach is still a thing and works. However, younger generation think is weird. Most people st… | /r/seduction | 04/01/25 12:08 AM |
| 16 | What healthy advice do you have to not feel bitter and jealous of successful guys, especially ones who are younger than you?There is always a balance. They may have a gf but u have loneliness. And loneliness is a very powerful drive. A drive to change. And to change requires effort, hard work. With that u can get what u want. And when u get what u want, u gain insight. A believe that if u put enough work u can get anything u want in life. Which is the key to success. Those guys will never have this. | /r/seduction | 03/01/25 02:51 PM |
| 3 | Should I lie about my height on dating apps?5”7. Never had any need to lie. | /r/seduction | 03/01/25 06:57 AM |
| 4 | Language exchange dateBest dates I had with women who didn’t speak English. There is so much fun u can have with this. Ask her how is “yes” in her language and then anytime she says something u say “yes” no matter what that is Ask her how is “”cheeks”, “nose” and “lips” while touching your face in her language. And then while u are saying touch those parts on her face. Like u are learning. If u speak in your own language which she doesn’t understand. U can ask her if she wants to hear how it sounds. And then ask her … | /r/seduction | 02/01/25 07:01 AM |
| 52 | Euphemism for sleeping togetherI don’t believe I ever used any of them. Just ask if she wants to stay. | /r/seduction | 01/01/25 01:49 PM |
| 1 | What books are good for learning game or changing your mindset?All what u have mentioned contributes to his inner game. It is rare case that u can be happy person without having any friend or any hobby. However. None of those things u have mentioned are relevant when it comes to dating. The only thing what matters is how u make other person to feel. Is all about emotions. Technically u can be a total slob and still give the best emotions to her. But in practice this almost never the case, because u need inner game in order to do so. And to have inner game u… | /r/seduction | 01/01/25 01:27 AM |
| 1 | Sticking point: qualifications and investmentInvestment. The main idea is to provoke an action from her. She must willingly do that action on her own. Examples: Physically pull away from her, step by step, let her to come to u. Leaning back. Let her lean in. Any types of locks. For example by you leaning back next to the wall and she stands in front of u. The idea is that she chooses to stay on her own will instead of leaving. Note! Don’t lock her in while she leans next to the wall. Long pauses. Let her continue conversation. Use statemen… | /r/seduction | 01/01/25 01:15 AM |
| 1 | What books are good for learning game or changing your mindset?Have u ever read any PUA book? Even the most technical ones, they always mentions importance of inner game. | /r/seduction | 01/01/25 12:38 AM |
| 3 | What do you usually do for the second date?There is no correlation between speed of closing and settling down. Not that I have seen. | /r/seduction | 31/12/24 08:43 PM |
| -8 | What do you usually do for the second date?Ask for a walk and then end up at my place. I mean. If u can’t close it in 2 dates most likely u won’t close it at all. | /r/seduction | 31/12/24 08:36 PM |
| 2 | 28 year old Virgin. Help me out guysBeing a new guy in a city is an advantage. U always have a good reason to ask for number. | /r/seduction | 31/12/24 08:34 PM |
| 8 | What books are good for learning game or changing your mindset?lol. Yes the guy wrote the whole book just to say “Be honest”. | /r/seduction | 31/12/24 06:13 PM |
| 32 | 2024 was a record year for me in multiple ways and I have this sub to thank for it so I wanted to share the 5 most important things I've learned over the years with you guysIt might be a stupid question, but “What’s the point of sleeping with so many women?” | /r/seduction | 31/12/24 05:34 PM |
| 5 | I think I’m starting to hate women…It’s pointless to hate women. They are other participants in the game. Just like u they have problems. Different problems, but nevertheless problems. Truth is the game is rigged. It has been front the start. If u really want to hate something, then hate natural selection. | /r/seduction | 31/12/24 02:08 PM |
| 6 | Stop Chasing Numbers: The Real Way to Measure Dating SuccessNonsense. U can’t evaluate inputs before the outcome. If u could, there would be no mistakes. Outcome. Is the only measurement we have. | /r/seduction | 31/12/24 01:52 PM |
| 7 | Skill issue ~ I rarely know how to carry conversationsDude. She is ripe and ready. Sends u message first, talking about kids. Etc. Stop beating to the bush. And ask her out. | /r/seduction | 31/12/24 06:24 AM |
| 0 | Texting Game QuestionChill bro 😎. She ignored u. And then instead of backing off u did the opposite. Asking her out straight away when u came back. It’s needy. Read the room. Gove her space. Let her text u. If she doesn’t then it’s game over. | /r/seduction | 31/12/24 06:19 AM |
| 6 | Seeking RejectionNo, man. Don’t seek rejection. Cause this is what u will get. Just try to get to know the person to see if u click. | /r/seduction | 31/12/24 01:58 AM |
| 3 | Does opener matter?As an opener first is definitely better. Second is not natural. Too fake. No one goes around and asks these type of questions. Plus. It’s not congruent. U don’t actually give a fck about the answer yourself. So you may appear insincere. I wouldn’t even use it as investment builder, for the same reasons. But also, it’s polarising question. Creates, distrust conflict between women and men. The only time I would ask this question, is when I actually want to discuss about it. When I actually care ab… | /r/seduction | 30/12/24 01:53 AM |
| 1 | Does opener matter?The most important part of the game is opener. Which is basically first impression. If first impression is bad, it’s game over. There won’t be any redos. | /r/seduction | 29/12/24 08:52 PM |
| 1 | What’s your best openers in person and on textTried this. It’s so so. Depends on situation. In warmer settings especially on stationary target, when she is sitting, standing etc it can work. For moving targets, when u stop her. This doesn’t work. She gets confused and suspicious. | /r/seduction | 29/12/24 08:48 PM |
| 155 | How to go beastmode and change your dating lifeLol. It is the longest way to say “In order to get good results u have to put time and effort into it” But. At least the message is correct. | /r/seduction | 29/12/24 12:49 PM |
| 16 | Why 'be yourself' is the best AND worst advice in your dating life.The way I see it is quite simple. “Being yourself” is feeling the same way in any social situation as u feel in family settings. I choose family, because usually this is the social situation where we are being ourselves. Is not always the case. But close enough. So u want to feel exactly the same way in any social situation, without fears, anxieties, or judgment. Also. Being yourself doesn’t mean improving one self. These are two different things. U can be most evil person in the world and u can… | /r/seduction | 29/12/24 12:40 PM |
| 29 | What’s your best openers in person and on textBest openers are situational openers. But if u want generic ones, I usually start with “hi” then wait for couple of seconds, so that they would focus on me, and deliver a question. I don’t do statements, because they less engaging. Direct questions are better. Also. Don’t show any intent. Nor I say any direct compliment. Like u are cute, nice hair etc. Used to do but u often get burned. Indirect openers are way better. For groups: “Hi guys, are u local?” In places where repeat visit possible, su… | /r/seduction | 29/12/24 12:12 PM |
| 25 | do women prefer if a man is super jealous if another man is hitting on her and gets defensive or is that a turn off to her?Depends. If they are not dating or just started to date then he will look bad, overprotective and jealous. If they have been in relationship for long. Then same behaviour will be attractive. Because she likes to feel like she belongs to u. But only in healthy relationship. If relationship is not healthy, then same behaviour will be unattractive. | /r/seduction | 29/12/24 04:04 AM |
| 2 | Nightclub Conguency HelpProblem 1: It’s rare case that u need to talk to her when she is dancing. Instead u need to dance in, rather open her. Regarding, how u feel. That’s because u don’t know how to relax. Try to listen the music. Feel the beat. Close the eyes. And start to move in rhythm. Meditation can help with that, as well. Problem 2: Once u can relax. Escalation becomes more easier. It will feel more natural. The way to escalate is to do kino while dancing. Problem 3: Girls dance together in a group to protect … | /r/seduction | 29/12/24 12:36 AM |
| 3 | So what do you guys do to go out for night game?Start a convo with a guy from the group. See if u guys have anything in common. And then either he invites u, or u can ask if u can join them. Just note that once u join the group. U can’t just stay still and say nothing. For time being u will be focus of attention, so u need to be aware of that. And if u give a negative vibe. They will push u out. Also. If it is mixed group, with women, then don’t game any women in the group. Often there are some guys who actually like one of the girls, so they… | /r/seduction | 28/12/24 11:21 PM |
| 3 | So what do you guys do to go out for night game?Ideally u should find a wingman to go out. A good wingman is irreplaceable. U can also go out solo. Then merge into a group. Build social proof. And then start gaming. It’s good way to make friends as well. I also, like to go just to chill. No game, nothing. Just order a drink and chill. Observe environment. Listen to music. And if I see someone interesting start a conversation. And yes, u look like loner, but your vibe is so chill, that it actually works for your advantage. Some chicks are more… | /r/seduction | 28/12/24 11:14 PM |
| 7 | Discovered my boyfriend is lurking here—send advice (or wine).Obviously this will be biased. But u should be proud. A lot of people in this community are shy insecure guys who decided to change. And yes, sometimes we take a wrong turn, but eventually everyone finds the correct path. | /r/seduction | 28/12/24 11:08 PM |
| 22 | How to avoid asking questions that feels like an interview?Here is the usual game I use online. Write intriguing and engaging opener. Intriguing so that I would stand out and spark her interest. Engaging so that she would answer it. If I can’t come up anything I use “Hi, how spontaneous are u?” It is intriguing because “why does he ask me this question” it is engaging because it is easy to answer. Answers range from “what do u mean?”, or “I would say 7 out of 10, why?” Then, instead of loosing the frame and saying something like “I like spontaneous girl… | /r/seduction | 28/12/24 10:39 PM |
| 2 | How to seduce a woman that already have a partner?U can’t seduce her if she doesn’t have any attraction towards u or if she is happy in the relationship. Otherwise, just play game as always. The only difference is that her ASD is higher than normal. So, focus on keeping her emotions high all the time. Don’t go logical on her. | /r/seduction | 28/12/24 06:34 PM |
| 22 | How many approaches did you guys do until you saw results?Around 500 approaches, 50 or so numbers, 10 or so dates. Till my first fclose. It was also my first single day lay. Took me about 2 hours from meeting. From that point onwards my confidence got 100% boost. It depends on your game level. If u already have some skills, it takes way less. If u unlucky, I know a guy who needed to do 1000 of approaches. Best of luck. | /r/seduction | 28/12/24 05:58 PM |
| 86 | Who has dabbled in prostitutes, sex workers, escorts, massage parlors, strippers, and how has that affected your seduction abilities?I dated one. Basically they also play the game. All tricks u can imagine push/pull, qualification, kino etc. However, they learned them on the job rather reading books. And they are masters of it. Compared to their game I was amateur. | /r/seduction | 28/12/24 05:48 PM |
| 37 | Guys diagnosed with depression did it affect your seduction skills?When I have bad days I struggle to go to shower. So.. | /r/seduction | 28/12/24 08:21 AM |
| 3 | How to impress by texting/talkingExamples would be better, now it’s not possible to know. But general recommendation is to use texting to arrange meetings. | /r/seduction | 28/12/24 06:48 AM |
| 1 | If you live in Seattle, your f**ked, and will probably only have hookers to rely on. (unfortunate truth), please prove me wrong.Jeez. Another post on how Seattle is bad. If u don’t like then move out. That’s what I did when burned all the sets in my small town. | /r/seduction | 28/12/24 01:52 AM |
| 5 | Nothing to say/Mind going BlankDon’t be so hard on yourself, bud. It takes time to learn. What helps me a lot is the understanding that the game goes both ways. 50/50. So, if u can’t come up with anything, just say “Hi”. And belief that if she truly likes u she will help u out. If not, u move on. | /r/seduction | 27/12/24 10:45 PM |
| -9 | approach girl on vacationWhen she is lying on the beach, whatever. Come to her and very politely ask if u can put your blanket next to her. Once she agrees. Lie down for a minute or so, then take sunscreen and start applying on your hands etc. Then ask her, if she wouldn’t mind putting sunscreen on your back. If she says yes. Then… | /r/seduction | 27/12/24 09:34 PM |
| 3 | Infield approach helpYou had a chance to talk to her, instead u followed her in IG like any other guy. Move on man. | /r/seduction | 27/12/24 04:27 AM |
| 33 | [ADVANCE] This one is for the guys with many options - how much do you tolerate non-compliances? For eg. if you newly meet a girl and invite her out a couple of times but she says no, how many times do you keep asking before letting go and moving on to the next one? Share stories of persistence!1 time. Even if I like her a lot. I used to keep asking but they never change their mind. Also it helps for your inner game. U have only one chance, so don’t blow it. | /r/seduction | 27/12/24 04:16 AM |
| 22 | What to do when you try to schedule a date and they say they aren't free?You are being too needy. Putting your plans aside for her convenience. Instead, “I am free, this Saturday, are u up for a drink/dinner/meeting?” If she says. “I already have plans” Then, it means u asked too soon, or she actually have plans. It doesn’t matter. What matters that her buying temperature is too low. Continue talking, building attraction. Then ask again next week. Remember, if she really wants to meet u she would offer different time. If she doesn’t. U haven’t done the homework. | /r/seduction | 27/12/24 01:46 AM |
| 9 | How do people walk up to a complete stranger and have a full blown conversation that never ends standing face to face?What do u mean “never ends standing face to face?” | /r/seduction | 27/12/24 01:31 AM |
| 2 | Feedback neededRegarding your opening. Don’t say stuff like “How are u” straight away. It’s weird. Approach them with a “lost tourist” vibe. Like u are about to ask where is some street. Don’t ask that just give that type of vibe. This will make people more at ease. And u won’t get such bad reactions. | /r/seduction | 27/12/24 01:15 AM |
| 4 | Feedback neededIt’s all good, man. It takes practice to work out how to play the game. Regarding direct approach. You are right, it rarely works. And even if she gives number due to high emotions, she flakes when those emotions dissipate. Any caveman can come and declare she is hot and he likes her. That’s not a game. The game is all about showing your intent indirectly. Body language, teasing, DHV etc. | /r/seduction | 27/12/24 01:06 AM |
| -5 | I need an advice how to proceed with a milf | /r/seduction | 26/12/24 11:04 PM |
| 0 | Any tips for women on seducing men?What can u do already? | /r/seduction | 26/12/24 07:44 PM |
| 8 | She pulled back (Help)Are u 16 or something? Idk. I think u already fucked up. Stop talking about relationships, friendships etc. When u like someone you approach and ask her out. If no, then move on. Now. It is just a cluster fuck. | /r/seduction | 26/12/24 07:39 PM |
| 3 | How to Connect with Women on the Dance Floor Without Talking?I totally agree. U have to know what u are doing. | /r/seduction | 26/12/24 07:20 PM |
| 7 | Feeling stuck on decisions with OLD and who to messageSounds like u are sabotaging yourself. Kinda used to do similar thing when I got a number, still didn’t call nor text her because I knew that if she agrees I will have to put a lot of effort and be in so many uncomfortable situations. Which kinda scared me. People mistake that once they overcome approach anxiety they are done. But that’s not true. There is always an anxiety. Anxiety to call. Anxiety to perform. Anxiety to open up. Anxiety to get close. Anxiety that u are not good enough. Etc. Yo… | /r/seduction | 26/12/24 06:52 PM |
| 26 | How to Connect with Women on the Dance Floor Without Talking?There are many ways to do so. First, make sure u are dancing by yourself already before approaching. Do not go to her straight from the bar. Make an eye contact with her. Can be multiple times. Then, either u can sneak in gradually and start dancing with her. A lot of guys do that and it does work. But I don’t like it personally, is very weak approach. Or, if you are like me. Just extend your hand like you are asking her to dance with u. And once u have then spin her, lift her, take her hands an… | /r/seduction | 26/12/24 06:06 PM |
| 4 | How to Connect with Women on the Dance Floor Without Talking?You escalate by dancing. Touching, lifting, spinning etc. and then kiss. You don’t talk on dance floor. It is a mistake. Talking breaks all the sexual energy you built. | /r/seduction | 26/12/24 05:45 PM |
| 8 | Fragances.Nonsense. | /r/seduction | 26/12/24 05:43 PM |
| 54 | How to Connect with Women on the Dance Floor Without Talking?You have to dance in. | /r/seduction | 26/12/24 05:39 PM |
| 7 | Is Bowling a Good 2nd Date? It's usually what I plan for but idk?I see why not. Making second date more physically active works for your advantage. | /r/seduction | 26/12/24 05:15 PM |
| 14 | Would you put your partner through some type of loyalty test before tying the knot?Dude. I think you are missing the point of “trust”. It goes both ways. Yes u might prove that she is trustworthy, but at the same time u broke the trust from her point of view. | /r/seduction | 26/12/24 03:00 PM |
| 1 | One key to confidenceIdk. The only thing which helped to increase my confidence was the experience. No, mumbo jumbo self talk did anything. | /r/seduction | 26/12/24 02:54 PM |
| 22 | Would you put your partner through some type of loyalty test before tying the knot?This is the most stupid idea I ever seen. | /r/seduction | 26/12/24 02:51 PM |
| 1 | I like this girl again, any tips? (teen)U are too much invested in her. This won’t end well. | /r/seduction | 26/12/24 02:28 PM |
| 25 | I made a post a while back. I finally did it, I approached and got the numberLove it! Especially the part of giving her logical reason to give u a number. This removes the pressure from her. Nice job. | /r/seduction | 26/12/24 04:19 AM |
| 16 | do you think the annoying industry of onlyfans girls/ female influencers will eventually reach its peak, and die down.Everything comes with a price, bro. That type of publicity is look down. | /r/seduction | 26/12/24 03:48 AM |
| 2 | Makeup equivalent for menThere are guys who do wear make up. And they look better in some cases. But, that’s only if u are comfortable. Unfortunately, I am old school. Would not wear it, in any circumstances. | /r/seduction | 26/12/24 02:38 AM |
| 0 | Makeup equivalent for menIdk. If I need to improve my photos I just use photoshop or other free apps which does that for me. | /r/seduction | 26/12/24 02:29 AM |
| 3 | Instagram gameIdeally u would create opener tailored to her. Either based on story, photo, name, anything specific to her. That opener should spike her interest, but also be engaging. Either funny statement or a question. Ask yourself a this before u send her a text “if u would receive this, what u would answer?” If u can’t figure out anything then go with pre-made generic opener like. Hi. How spontaneous are u? | /r/seduction | 26/12/24 02:15 AM |
| 1 | Instagram gameCan’t u just follow her. Then see if she follows u. And if she does then u can dm her. It’s like giving a smile and waiting for her reaction in a real life. But, to be honest I don’t even have IG. So, might be totally wrong. | /r/seduction | 26/12/24 01:36 AM |
| 3 | Woman say my ego is too bigNo one would say to someone that they have massive ego if they would not believe in that. So there might be some truth to it, especially if more than one person told u this. | /r/seduction | 25/12/24 11:51 PM |
| 1 | Help with texting game or talking to womenTalk less, fuck more. | /r/seduction | 25/12/24 11:23 PM |
| 0 | It’s likely that I can sleep with three women next week. Should I?I see why not. Use protection and see how it goes. | /r/seduction | 25/12/24 10:43 PM |
| 1 | first date advice for an autistic personYea. Hug her straight away. Like u are meeting close friend. This will break touch barrier. Later u can do fist bumps, compare your and her hands, arm wrestling, exploring her tattoos, asking for a back scratches, asking to feel your jeans material etc. Use your imagination. Talk about deep positive stuff and avoid superficial like work, weather, politics etc. Talk about her and your childhood. About goals in life. Aspirations. Likes, dislikes. Etc. Note. Don’t talk about previous relationships,… | /r/seduction | 25/12/24 09:53 PM |
| 10 | The biggest reason you should quit dating apps is overlooked in todays society.Idk. As much as everyone is going against dating apps I find them useful. First of all. It can improve your texting game. Skills learned online transferred to my outer game. Can’t emphasise this enough. Second. It teaches u correct mindset. Why some profiles get matches some don’t? Yes there is rule number 1 and number 2, but I see guys who are not attractive and they do get matches. So there is more to the story. And is a lot to do with their mindset. It is somehow got transferred into photos a… | /r/seduction | 25/12/24 08:26 PM |
| 1 | How should I ask her to be my girlfriend ?Yeah, first moves. U already did that, don’t you? The rest is up to her. Of course, u can ignore me, and just ask her. However, don’t be surprised that she will loose interest down the line. It’s either u chase her or she chases u. Some people would say otherwise, but having equilibrium in a relationship is like trying to balance scales in the car going 30miles per hour on the mountains. One party will always be more invested than other. | /r/seduction | 25/12/24 05:36 PM |
| 5 | How should I ask her to be my girlfriend ?I would just wait for her to ask this question. | /r/seduction | 25/12/24 04:49 PM |
| 1 | How should I meet people?So u don’t go to shop? Or barber? Or use bus? Doctor? And so on. You can approach any girl in any setting. The most indirect opener I can think of “Excuse me, do u know what time is” u can add “I forgot my phone” You will never be seen as creep with this opener. However, it is hard to pivot from that to getting her number. | /r/seduction | 25/12/24 03:41 AM |
| 1 | How should I meet people?It might sound stupid, but how about instead of going out to meet women you go about your day and if u see someone u like you approach. | /r/seduction | 25/12/24 03:31 AM |
| 45 | What’s the fastest way to get a girl comfortable in order to link?You can little by little increase their compliance level. Once open. Say “Better let’s go here to talk” Ask her to switch sides. Ask them to hold something. Ask them to keep an eye on your stuff. Ask her to switch seats. Ask them to take picture. And so on. The idea is that the more they are willing to comply for small things the higher possibility they will comply when u ask for number or date or sex. This strategy literally taken from sales. | /r/seduction | 24/12/24 07:43 PM |
| 1 | Feel like I’m letting this one get away…Right. Maybe the sex was off. Or “female post nut clarity”, regret. Who knows… | /r/seduction | 24/12/24 06:59 PM |
| 1 | Feel like I’m letting this one get away…She wanted sex you didn’t give that and got pissed. | /r/seduction | 24/12/24 06:55 PM |
| 6 | I don't know how to woo womenSometimes. To be fair what you say doesn’t matter that much. | /r/seduction | 24/12/24 02:05 AM |
| 3 | I don't know how to woo women“Hi. It’s kinda random, but I think you are cute” | /r/seduction | 24/12/24 01:28 AM |
| 21 | I don't know how to woo womenHad same problem as you. So, I just started to approach random women anywhere I saw them. Got rejected 1000s of time. But eventually I learned the game. There are less creepy and healthier approaches, tho. Such as expanding your social circle. Travelling. Building your own brand on social media. Etc. However, no matter what you choose, you will have to approach women and get rejected by them. That part is unavoidable. | /r/seduction | 24/12/24 01:20 AM |
| 32 | Easier with older women?In some ways easier. They have more sexual and dating experience so they understand the game. | /r/seduction | 24/12/24 12:00 AM |
| 66 | I'm starting to understand women and it's disappointment.I don’t see a game as a mind game. But rather a natural law. Being disappointed or angry at women is the same thing as being angry at weather when it’s raining. | /r/seduction | 23/12/24 11:52 PM |
| 38 | Best general places to approach girls?Don’t forget street corners. | /r/seduction | 23/12/24 09:53 PM |
| 1 | 18M I've never had a gf and girls never take interest in me but a girl in gym is holding eye contact. Should I approach and if yes how?Yeah. lol this sub changed a lot, it used to be active 1k online users now is kinda dead, and before that we used to share the actual PUA stuff, now is just self help. Is not necessary bad but is definitely less helpful for people. | /r/seduction | 23/12/24 09:52 PM |
| 3 | When it comes to approaching women, how many phone numbers have you got, and which places have you found the most success in? bars, restaurants, nightclubs, coffee shops, grocery stores, clothing stores, malls, or elsewhere?I recommend doing it where making a mistake won’t cause you too much harm or inconvenience. For example, if u have your favourite coffee shop next to your work. Then, you don’t want to game there because if u make fool of yourself, u will not want to go back there. Or if u are in college then do not game in the same college go to other one. Once u get better then it won’t matter but as beginner choose a place which has no connection to you. | /r/seduction | 23/12/24 08:51 PM |
| 2 | 18M I've never had a gf and girls never take interest in me but a girl in gym is holding eye contact. Should I approach and if yes how?All over the place. From internet, books, this subreddit, other PUAs. But mostly, from trial and error. The sequence of actions are Look for IOI. (E.g her looking at you, or smiling, etc). It is like invitation to approach. Approach. Confident. Use 3s rule. Depends on venue of course. Sometimes u both can look at each other for 30min. Opening. Has two parts. First to grab her attention and then start conversation. Then spike her emotions until you get a hook point. A hook point is when she becom… | /r/seduction | 23/12/24 06:38 PM |
| 1 | 18M I've never had a gf and girls never take interest in me but a girl in gym is holding eye contact. Should I approach and if yes how?What exactly? | /r/seduction | 23/12/24 06:17 PM |
| 2 | 18M I've never had a gf and girls never take interest in me but a girl in gym is holding eye contact. Should I approach and if yes how?Then spike a conversation. Neutral and funny. Does not show any intent. “Four? Really. Your quads will be burning.” If you want to make it more sexy. “Four. Really? Your legs will be burning” Even more sexy. Risky. But shows confidence and intent. “Four? Really? Your ass will be burning” | /r/seduction | 23/12/24 06:09 PM |
| 17 | When it comes to approaching women, how many phone numbers have you got, and which places have you found the most success in? bars, restaurants, nightclubs, coffee shops, grocery stores, clothing stores, malls, or elsewhere?Lost count 200+ maybe. Getting the number is easy. The hard part is to make sure she doesn’t flake afterwards. When it comes which place is better than the more “warmer” the more better. By warmer I mean stronger connection/circumstances between you too. A girl sitting next to you in the coffee shop is “warmer” than a girl who passes you on the street. | /r/seduction | 23/12/24 05:59 PM |
| 5 | When you were in college how many women did you seduce?Zero. Spent all my free time playing video games. Possibility of dating didn’t even occurred to me at that time. However, as I remember now there were so many opportunities. Some girl which was hot used to look at me and even approached me when my roommates were partying every Friday night. And in my head I was like “Why she is talking to me? Leave me alone.” | /r/seduction | 23/12/24 05:48 PM |
| 3 | Do you cold approach without public IOIs from women?Cold approach is when u approach a total random stranger. Like a girl in a shop. Warm approach when u approach someone who you have some sort of connection. Like a girl at your friends party. | /r/seduction | 23/12/24 04:47 PM |
| 4 | Adding someone on IGUsually, it would be weird. But in this case you have a pretext to contact them/her about the study itself or it’s results. | /r/seduction | 23/12/24 04:40 PM |
| 2 | Do you cold approach without public IOIs from women?Yes. | /r/seduction | 23/12/24 04:34 PM |
| 2 | M18 how to get laid in europeFrom all the countries you have mentioned your best bet would be Cezh Republic. Eastern European countries are more open to foreigners. However, everything what I say can be applied to all of them. You can do day game and night game. For night game is simple just go to clubs and try to pull. You are 18 and in most Europe that’s a drinking age. For day game you approach women on streets etc. as a tourist is so easy. Just pretend that you don’t know stuff. Ask her to show you. And so on. At some p… | /r/seduction | 23/12/24 03:00 PM |
| 8 | How do I ask a girl out when she is in a group of friends ?Approach a group. “Hi guys, are you local?” Talk with group leader. DHV yourself. It is import that 70% of your time energy should be focus on a group leader. Do not imply using body language or say anything about your true intentions. With groups direct game sucks. Indirect game got me best results. At some point they might even get compete for your attention, which is a good sign. If they do not engage, and looking to the sides, answering in short words, ignoring you etc, this means you failed… | /r/seduction | 23/12/24 02:31 PM |
| 4 | How to proceedShe is flaking. If she won’t suggest any other time by herself. It’s game over. Say “I see. Maybe other time then.” And then it’s up to her to arrange other time. | /r/seduction | 23/12/24 04:14 AM |
| 1 | Can being 'too nice' be a problem?It’s too abstract to give any reasonable answer. | /r/seduction | 23/12/24 04:12 AM |
| 1 | Is waiting almost 2 weeks for a 2nd date too long?Yeah. I was. Just let her go on the trip. You don’t need to text or anything. Once she comes back wait for couple days and check in with her. | /r/seduction | 23/12/24 01:33 AM |
| 1 | public vs private colleges for day game? dealing with security/rulesFocus on calibration. If you need to worry to be kicked out it means you are going too direct. Try to approach people without intent to increase your social intelligence. | /r/seduction | 23/12/24 12:42 AM |
| 1 | help me understand if this is mainly a seattle problem or a (USA problem) regarding night game. Bars/Clubs in todays generation.Keep grinding, bro. It might not be like in 90s but people still go to clubs to get laid. | /r/seduction | 23/12/24 12:36 AM |
| 5 | Money, status and lifting is outdated advice in 2025Money and status might not give you the expected results with women. Nonetheless, they are important for other reasons. So should not be neglected. | /r/seduction | 23/12/24 12:32 AM |
| 3 | Daygame, High vs Low energy conversation?Calibrate your energy based on the set you are approaching. Let’s take three different scenarios in the shop. At the queue next to the cashier. You would be polite, smile, your body language would be still, you would not use hand gestures. That’s because she has very low energy, she is literally just standing there next to you. Inside the aisle, she is checking some products. Now the energy is higher because there are some hand movements involved, not much but there is. So you would also match h… | /r/seduction | 22/12/24 09:59 PM |
| 3 | Daygame, High vs Low energy conversation?Just use simple rule. Give only 10% more energy than your set. | /r/seduction | 22/12/24 09:15 PM |
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