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Gahaha love when they weed themselves out! I had a guy unmatch me when I told him I didn’t have IG lol!! He wanted a harem to breadcrumb and orbit yikes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 06:43 PM
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There is a sub like I think called ladyboners!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 12:01 AM
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Totally not shocking ugh. Reminds me of the time I told a repairman the exact issue with my AC and it took his crew four attempts before he believed me. Then he apologized lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 08:51 PM
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Done the OLD thing for years, stating any standards/boundaries on your profile will still invite LVM to challenge it. You’re essentially revealing your cards and also letting other men know how to manipulate other women on OLD. You shouldn’t have to justify your boundaries to anybody because you’d naturally do that by yourself. Random note: I’d remove the walk bio comment. Now they can find you based on your daily habits, and know it’s behind your house once they narrow the trails by talking to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 02:06 AM
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When I was working in the service industry, we had a customer pay the food bill of a large table when he had the audacity to come in the next day and claim fraud. We showed him the footage of him signing the check and my coworkers and I had a good laugh about it once he left the establishment. Men have no shame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 05:06 AM
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🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 09:38 PM
65

This is a misconception. I’ve used all sorts of apps and surprisingly had better dates on Tinder vs Hinge/CMB/OKC/Match/etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 08:55 PM
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I respond with “What kind of feminist?” to get an idea of what that definition means to them. Why answer a question they don’t understand? shrug
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 11:49 PM
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The handbook also mentions distance and timing for relationships. Don’t bother with 1 month here, 1 month off, long distance, etc so early in the relationship. That’s another red flag/walk away from scenario. Can’t build a relationship with someone who isn’t there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 11:36 PM
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I enjoy reading so I was able to recognize this “list” as books (and some great titles are in there), but the graphic and context is problematic. (Quiet book is about the power of introverts in an extrovert world - a pleasant read.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 07:14 AM
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I can’t wait to be thriving the way you are! ❤️‍🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 08:53 AM
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If there is one thing I learned on OLD, it’s that if a woman writes “NO (insert boundary), guys WILL swipe on you just to challenge it. I think the only time I was not swiped on was if I put in my profile “No dog owners” - it was offensive enough to instantly deter men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 04:43 AM
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1000% Dr. David Burns books. 🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 11:12 PM
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Hated it, I looked older for my age and there were plenty of creeps during my teen years (befriended a pedo at 13 ugh, he’s blocked but still looks for me online). Still hate it as an adult, I have to wear baggy clothes and “dress down” to get some form of invisibility when I exercise/go outside, but at least I give off the “don’t fk with me” vibes when I’m dolled up because so many scrotes lack confidence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 07:40 AM
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I know a guy like this. Don’t bother with him, he’s just background noise and likes the validation because you continue to entertain his interactions. Men enjoy flirting; they like the attention even when they’re not into you and have no interest to pursue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 05:32 PM
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Good luck on your vetting journey! The perfume also arose suspicion in me…not only is it incredibly intimate from a complete stranger - but due to cultural superstitions I grew up with they say gifting perfume is bad luck/invitation for a break-up between partners.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 08:27 PM
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Hot guy actor is actually mixed Japanese irl too, with an irl Asian mom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 11:16 PM
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Everyone has already mentioned the red flag parts about his behavior, however there were two things that immediately jumped out at me from your behavior: He has a reallyyy nice car That doesn’t mean much. There are men with a lot of money that drive shit cars. It is a not a good indicator of HV status. I said I don’t really look for anything I’d rephrase that with something like “I’ll know when I meet him” etc because it emphasize the opposite; you have standards, but that’s not his business to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 12:39 AM
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Yes! It was extremely odd and raised so many red flags. 🚩 He was blocked regardless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 04:34 AM
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Oooh this post is giving me flashbacks! I once dated a man who exposed his baggage on the first date, and down the road I told him I understood his struggle, but he needed to deal with it on his own. Not me…him, solo. His response was pre-fabricated as if I was deadset on helping him when I wasn’t at all. He absolutely was used to manipulating others through his “sensitive emotions” and it still irks me to this day. He too was in therapy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 08:19 PM
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Voice is actually a dealbreaker of mine! Ive met whiny high-pitched voices and my gut was right about their shitty behavior. I prefer ever so slightly deeper voices.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 10:27 PM
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YES 🙌 I’ve been asked the birthday scenario by a male friend for his fiancé numerous times. I got tired of planning her surprises “last minute” because he couldn’t think of anything. I refuse to plan for him/others now because he should know better what his woman wants!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 02:09 AM
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Also want to add to your experience, an HVM that wants a serious relationship will make room and time for one. Being increasingly “too busy” are red flags. Theyll want to make it up to you even if they missed the date with a good reason in a timely fashion. Furthermore, you shouldn’t be reaching out to confirm set plans - they should be doing that already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 07:15 PM
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It’s her birthday in 6 weeks and if he doesn’t get her anything he’s going to tell her to look back at this post? What the hell? He’s scum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 11:43 AM
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I remember the way Reddit would joke about horse girl stereotype and to “avoid them” like the plague on relationship threads. It mostly stemmed from fear of a horse girl spending more time with her horses and less time with the LVM, and they’d also joke and say that they’d have to “expense” that kind of lifestyle that her “daddy” gave her. Essentially they think its a red flag, in reality they’re just broke and projecting disdain towards her passion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 11:23 AM
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Or “kiddo”. They haaaate that. Woah thanks for silver 🥳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 03:06 AM
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This is why lvm men have no issue praising and validating lower standards “youre not like other girls teehee” and pickmeism develops further, but then their actions show otherwise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 11:13 PM
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Article sounds like red pillers trying to describe FDS. 😂 Totally not biased.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 12:36 AM
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You just blew my mind about size conversion!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 11:43 PM
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Back then when I was using OLD, if they didn’t plan the date from the get go, then I immediately blocked them. Most failed on the first try (day, place, time). 🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 10:44 PM
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I can’t help but think he wants to kick you out or something. Or marry you off for the sake of saying “My job is complete, now depend on the next guy” type of deal. Maybe he just wants a son in law that badly. Really strange behavior on his part, and you’ll be better off moving when the opportunity arises because his agenda is not healthy at all. Have you asked him wtf his up with his persistence/eagerness?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 09:25 AM
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In the early FDS days, some women were quick to yell VICTIM BLAMING when others would point it out, even when we’d add resources to help them notice that mindset. Glad more women are waking up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 06:55 PM
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Hey girl welcome! If you’re new, please read the FDS handbook, that will answer many questions. If a man is cheating/flirting openly, FULL STOP. Immediately block him and move on. HVW don’t stoop to the level of low value behavior or continue to entertain it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 06:44 PM
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WHAT A RELIEF. I questioned this phrase for the longest time when another close female friend told me this, but now I see that they simply did not like the boundaries I constantly enforced around them - so much so they told me my boundary “I feel statements” were exhausting in arguments ha! She was upset I wouldn’t coddle her emotions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 08:31 AM
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When scrotes use images of other women, it’s like their dumbassery thinks we want to suddenly compete with the woman in the photo the way men do. This is negging and another instance of men trying to divide women through competition! Pick me’s can fall in this trap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 05:32 PM
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Ohh yes! “I’d love to climb that” is a popular one. Or if you’re tall and wear leather...so much “dominatrix” comments fly my way. I had one guy height check me and his first words were, “great, you’re tall enough!” like some giddy fetish fanboy. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 08:03 AM
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Every time I look at a couple with extreme heights, I cringe and think it’s a domination fetish. Granted I know relationships can form on much more than that, but I trust my gut when I see some of these couplings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 08:28 PM
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I cannot begin to tell you the amount of rich men I have met that have cheated on their wife/gf in some way. Money brings power and control, and the freedom to get away with things. It’s something I’m cautious of whenever I meet a man with money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 07:40 PM
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Great movie; I absolutely hated the both of them and their “relationship” though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 12:38 PM
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Ohhhh OP, I know why you do this. Have you seen those posts on FDS where a scrote says some dumbassery and we have a girl try to explain/tell him off/responds to his bs through text to tell him off? Stop doing that. That’s what you’re doing when you try to “explain” your boundaries. They know and don’t care. It doesn’t matter if you think you were standing up for yourself, they don’t care. You were still engaging with their negative behavior and reinforcing it elicits a response from you. Of cou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 07:38 PM
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I am so relieved to hear this so many years later! The books and movies always felt out of left field with the Ron/Hermione pairing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 01:25 AM
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And/or they can also be on probation. 🚩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 02:59 AM
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This reminds me of Bailey Sarians’ Makeup vids where she (jokingly) mentioned to watch out for guys in their 30s who also happen to be white around the month of August...lots of serial killer stories she’s talked about share these data points HMmM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 09:33 AM
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I despise the good morning texts! I asked a guy to back off and stop doing that since I didn’t know him, and he was offended. Lol!! Blocked and deleted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 10:02 AM
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Yes good on you for trusting your gut! I had something similar happen, he was more interested in someone to listen to him and a girlfriend placeholder, but didn’t particularly care for “me” as a person. I was able to spot it just by chatting for some weeks. I think dating is appropriate when you feel emotionally and physically ready to put yourself out there, not when you’re “perfect”. I learned the most about myself when I went on one time dates with guys because I learned to socialize, communi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 10:42 PM
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I have the kind of tattoos that aren’t visible unless I show them off. And the amount of cringe responses I get from dudes using my tattoos as an icebreaker is just disgusting. One guy even started off with a sperm joke and another got mad when I didn’t shake hands (yes delta!). Fucking idiots.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 10:29 PM
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The only other thing I can think of is to write to your local government/state rep/president about increasing the allotted number of refugee visas in the country. Otherwise I too feel hopeless about this situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 05:21 PM
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I’d rather Red Lobster > a cute food truck or picnic. I don’t plan on standing there uncomfortably holding my grub and drink. That just leads to a park date and a walk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 12:22 PM
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This this this! I made that mistake long ago when I was “adding a FB friend” and he searched for himself using my phone, then used my FB account to follow his pages, etc. I was so confused when I started seeing his fan page updates! Luckily it stopped there once I removed him. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 07:31 AM
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Deleted most of socials (except FB - because family) at the start of pandemic and very few have reached out to me. Best thing for my mental health and I don’t have to deal with LVM orbiters anymore. And ever since I’ve gone off the radar, a copycat “friend” has claimed a new victim. Funny how living your best life works.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 07:17 AM
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I finally watched it the other day, and I dislike so much of it except for Limbro. Holy shit Limbro scenes are the best!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 04:46 AM
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I have met a few IRL. And I’m damn thankful my supervisor is HVM too. I did meet one during my dating days, but ultimately we were not compatible. He approached me in the wild too! They do exist, albeit harder to come by. I use these experiences as my benchmarks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 04:41 AM
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Also agree with this boiling down to misogyny, the other areas are faucets that keep the hated growing. I disagree with the bad parenting one though; even the recent incel shooter had a mom he was close to until his misogyny became overbearing, and if I’m not mistaken his father noticed his changes and tried to get him some help prior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 08:08 PM
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And if this woman is accustomed to violence in her relationships, she might believe that this dysfunction is normal and then justify the current bf’s violence as “protection”. ):
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 08:03 PM
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I still laugh about one of his seminar videos where he asked a room full of women, “raise your hand if you think a man should pay on the (first) date”, and all these hands shot up. He tried to dismiss it and say that’s not how it works! The opposite sex is blatantly telling you as it is Hussey. Listen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 07:57 PM
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Yeah! The first few lines totally sounded like him with an undertone of used car salesman!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 07:51 PM
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Long ago, I had a date with a guy once who I didn’t care much for at the time, but even I was surprised his low effort self managed to get reservations for dinner (and then ate my food and ordered desert and wanted to go half sigh). He just wanted some company...another reason to vet prior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 07:44 PM
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I love this comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 10:28 PM
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These scrotes are also extra salty that they can’t use our pictures as a last ditch effort to hurt us. After all, we’ve been conditioned to think their opinions on how we look should matter too, hence it’s no surprise they aim for just that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 12:46 AM
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One can still have high standards for themselves and be an asshole. We see it in men all the time (you know the type...”I won’t date a chick who’s x weight, she must be an exotic model and must know how to cook and clean and must take care of me and have sex 24/7 or else I won’t date her”) and then we see them physically or mentally abuse their partners like the douche they are. The same can be said about women. Let’s flip it around, if someone says they have high standards and thinks disrespect…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 06:49 PM
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Have you even read the handbook? The basics are covered there. Those men are not HVM if you need to learn to “deal with them”. You block and delete. You ignore and move on. You don’t give them the time of day. And part of being HVW* is leveling up (whatever that means for you), which yes, can imply attractiveness if that is something you personally seek. There will always be someone better, faster, stronger, smarter, prettier, etc in the world. How you choose to live your life is what matters. P…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 06:39 PM
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Yessss there was a post similar to this to stop handicapping our words!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 06:19 AM
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This was my initial thought verbatim lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 01:58 PM
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The aggression one! My benchmark is so off, but I’ve had others tell me thanks for letting them know x when I thought my saying it was too “aggressive”. Now I know it’s because others have tried to silence me by using the word “aggressive” to describe me standing up for myself. 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 06:25 PM
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Agreed! Since I don’t online date, I watch these shows to learn LVM behavior so I can avoid it IRL. Cam/Lauren are my fav!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 01:18 PM
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I had to do a double take when I saw it on a billboard while driving. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 05:19 PM
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Oh did I forget to mention? The island is advertised to also have ✨nice guys✨ based on the show description.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 01:11 PM
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This is one of my favorite questions to ask myself! I recall a former relationship where I was constantly embarrassed by him; his clothes, his manners, his jokes, his sandals, and his loud obnoxious demeanor. He wasn’t like that in the beginning. Now, when a new date describes any of these traits and jokes about it, I move on quickly. I’m not attracted to loud jokester type men because of him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 12:35 PM
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Is it just me or does anyone else cringe when guys call each other “king”?? They’re out here trying to act like they’re the prize puhhlease.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 11:51 AM
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Thank you for sharing, situations like these really resonate deep and manifest in nefarious ways throughout our life! Luckily we’re here now, and no more fuckers are going to steal our glorious pencils and then some. 💅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 12:16 AM
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I agree, but sometimes we have to remember that we’ve all experienced that clownery at least once - and the first time can be a real shocker to the point that we don’t know how to react to it until it after the fact. And that’s ok, so long as we learn from it going forward and adjust accordingly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 10:31 PM
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Pre-FDS, someone once told me that if you’re clingy and a man says that you are, then he isn’t the one for you. The right person for you won’t see it as “clingy”. I’m glad you found your person!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 11:39 AM
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The worst part is seeing all of these sexually provocative, enhanced body parts sensationalized towards young girls. Like girl no, you don’t need filled pouty lips (anyone remember the “DSL - dick sucking lips” days?) and tiny waist, big bum combo while also being a literal child. It’s a form of grooming for the male gaze!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 10:37 AM
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One can actually buy a used festival/EDC tent for $6-8k. I knew someone that did buy one for camping.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 03:29 AM
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Ha tales from my former relationship: Him: I’ll leave you if you get fat! Me: I’ll leave you too if you get fat. Him: * blows up in my face in disbelief *
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 11:33 PM
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Must not forget the classic: Do you own a mattress? A bed frame? A 401k??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 06:08 AM
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Oohhh or you can be like me and have straight posture, shoulders back and neck up physically trained into your brain by ballet. I semi-kid, being tall is in automatic filter for LVM, and add heels, it’s undeniable how quickly you can command a room. And then the typical “You’re so tall! You’re so intimidating oooh” comments come up. Eventually you learn that the neg comments and fetish chasers can’t knock the crown down from all the way up here. 💋
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 05:00 AM
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I have met many of these types of men from my former job and it is 100% true. The ones that talked big or bragged about money literally had nothing to show for it. Confident, secure men will respectfully show you through their actions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 07:18 PM
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A few factors: my location/trail (influencers galore), his subtle not subtle look of disgust by my outfit/appearance (my pants and tshirt aren’t as cute as booty shorts and bra by the locals), his negging about lifestyle choices, his frivolous money talk, and he reminisced of his exes as well as the exes of his brother (aka they were beyond gorgeous models per the bikini pics and they all took great vacations together) lol. He figured my height = instant model and setup the date with me straight…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 10:23 AM
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Pre-FDS, I accepted a walking date one time. This guy was far more interested in the dog next to us than our “date”, mostly talked about himself, and then to find out he was making a shitload of money, selling his house, spent money on fancy gyms, and yet he couldn’t take me out on a proper date - but also wanted me to look like a glam model ON A HIKE?? Nope never again. They’re delusional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 08:55 AM
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I am now obligated to ask the “Are you actually single or legally bound to anyone?” question after an LVM tried to blame his CHEATING onto me (“You should have asked! 🥴“). No scrote, your dumbass got caught.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 08:42 AM
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Yes!! This is one of my mine; if he cannot tell you his intention by verbalizing going on a DATE and not “hang out” or whatever other variation nowadays, I’m not interested!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 05:22 PM
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Body language are subtle clues that tell you a lot about a man’s interest! I can’t help but notice every time a man walks ahead/faster than the women he’s with, it’s almost like he’s embarrassed to be with her and has one foot out the door already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 08:42 AM
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Not a virgin, but lost my virginity to a scummy long term ex at 18. He lied about being a virgin because he was desperate for sex. Still haven’t let that lie go a decade plus later. Stay safe out there!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 09:12 AM
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No no you’re definitely onto something here. This reminds me of a YouTube video (forget the name of the source ah) about men being the “stable” characters in movies so much so that the female characters will often say “So what do we do now?” and look at them for guidance/direct the plot. It’s hard to unsee after that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 04:19 AM
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So interesting to hear such a different perspective! I actually thought he was trying to help his sister, but he knows he can’t force her to change either. Jared on the other hand...ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 03:25 AM
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I just started Season 2, I have quite a bit to go! I do see what you mean, I chalked it up to the math side of him, but I think Michaela’s savior complex is worse (guess it’s a family thing lol).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 05:44 PM
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He is fiercely loyal to his wife, his kids, and his family. He’s compassionate and caring towards his friends and colleagues. He listens, comforts and has no hesitations to save those he cares about. Plus he’s intelligent as hell and attractive to boot. I don’t want to mention any spoilers, but the fact that he stuck by his wife through ahem, certain situations, goes to show he really is a man of his word and he acknowledges when his behavior is less than favorable. It’s really nice to see a fam…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 09:48 AM
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I love this film and watch it numerous times! Not only is this social commentary simply illuminating, it manages to poke fun at all the absurdity of it all brought fresh lens. I am bummed about the ending though, or wish there was a part two. It feels as if he was too eager to go back and show her all of his patriarchal values, almost as if disregarding his character growth entirely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 09:07 AM
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In some instances, they’ll still ask for the ring back just to “win” and be petty/spiteful even if it’s worthless; like how they fight for custody of kids/pets with no intention to take care of them. Their interest is to hurt you more when the going gets rough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 08:49 PM
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If you receive any jewelry from a NVM or LVM, get it checked out by a jeweler. I’ve heard stories of women selling their pieces to find out it’s fake or not worth very much to begin with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 05:14 PM
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Hahaa I remember telling some scrote “WHY YOU LYING” over and over (broken record method) and he finally packed his shit up because I wouldn’t succumb to his gaslighting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 10:43 PM
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This is so true. The amount of times I’ve had guys tell me they’re ok with taller chicks...and then I show up and they got pikachu face going on. They have no idea what they’re into until they’re gobsmacked by it. Then the insecurity/negging starts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 05:19 PM
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Nooo please wear the heels! It’s also way easier to spot the insecure taller folks that way. 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 05:16 PM
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I’m so glad you followed your instincts and checked!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 03:47 AM
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HPV is definitely no joke. I’m mad that it is downplayed regularly “as no big deal”, but my experience has been awful otherwise. I’m currently hoping it clears up on its own because damn, phantom labor cramps was excruciating after my first LEEP procedure (and apparently normal...).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 06:49 PM
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Ugh I used to think Charlie was so attractive until I found out he has a forever gf of 15ish years. ):
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 07:33 AM
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This is giving me flashbacks from the movie He’s Just Not That Into You with that scene about fake wood (floors) being a lie and how Janine dislikes that fake wood is pretending to be real wood.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 10:31 AM
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I try to look at both phrases from a positive angle. I think love has the possibility to conquer all (within our means)....but that’s because I view love as an action that creates a feeling; which also falls in line with “if he wanted to, he would”, as well as actions speak louder than words. We choose how we want to “love” everyday whether it be for ourselves or strangers. Those actions have a ripple effect. I heard a man once say he loved his gf very much, but then openly disrespected her in f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 10:00 AM
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Nooo this poor girl was written as such a pick me! Even after the proposal, she’s trying to defend her honor by selling herself with “I cook, own business, etc” as if that’s all she’s good for?? Ugh men writing women are the worst. Total male gaze objectifying words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 05:12 AM
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Ughhh I actually had this experience, but with a female friend of mine. Just doesn’t make sense to me still. Started distancing away from her instead. ):
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 11:06 AM
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Ohhh ok so when the phrase is reversed to invalidate and harm. Makes sense, thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 06:38 PM
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Can someone explain the “Your emotions are your responsibility” from a gaslighting perspective? Isn’t it though? I’ve been taught that it’s healthy to acknowledge the emotions, but it is my own responsibility to deal with it (action vs reaction) and vice versa. However, I’ve met too many toxic people who expect me to “fix” their emotions by absorbing it too. What am I missing here?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 06:30 PM
25

Oh no, this reminds me of the YouTube video I watched today where some scrote uses the pickup line “Hey I think you dropped this/something.......your standards” - AND - “you’re strong enough to carry my emotional baggage”. 🤮 She was a pick me and chose him too ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 02:23 AM
116

Annnnnnd another reason why we don’t disclose sexual trauma to men either!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 09:14 AM
137

I met a guy, who could only keep it up if he was high!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 06:34 AM
84

These are probably the same scrotes who got mad at Ghostbusters female cast, and Birds of Prey because Harley’s outfits weren’t sexual in nature.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 10:24 PM
33

Been ridiculed when I was enjoying myself once. He told me I didn’t need to be so “vocal”, which was my normal moaning sound?? Dumbass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 09:13 AM
53

I read the first screen summary ...and when I reached page 3 I was still surprised at the surprise picture lmao! That is beyond sweet and loving!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 07:29 AM
22

This happened to a friend of mine! She asked him how he got her number and he said the day she signed up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 03:15 AM
12

MTV has the show called Catfish if anyone wants to see why chasing a (pseudo-)man is pointless. The lengths some women and pick-mes go to....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 07:07 AM
22

Scrotes out here thinking they have every right to police our bodies argh. Ladies also beware of a man that projects his weight onto you! This happened to me on a date, and he was so self conscious of his thick thighs that he was sabotaging what I was eating and telling me to drink some soda, eat his plate or order more food to compensate for his insecurity and his feelings. I noped out so fast. 🚩🚩🚩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 09:01 PM
51

I was watching a video about the issues of normalizing kink and it was mentioned how it’s rampant nowadays (especially TikTok) to “vanilla shame” women who disagree with rough sex being the standard! What is happening to society!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 08:36 PM
36

Isn’t it ironic that so many guys are “non-confrontational”?! How tf you think us women feel if guys are just as afraid?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 07:39 PM
63

My phone is my go-to defense and I will record anyone who thinks their behavior is “ok” when it’s not. It doesn’t get uploaded anywhere, but boy do they switch their tune when the thought of what I might do with it coupled with social media is enough of a paranoia scare tactic for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 06:17 PM
5

I despise how women are just props to these misogynistic comedy skits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 06:29 AM
11

Dang it this reminds me of a previous scenario where my ex-bf made a comment (I now know it’s triangulation) that really hurt my feelings (me thinking wtf is wrong with me), so I excused myself to the bathroom to cry it out (still working on that), and then he came looking for me in the bathroom and was offended I was crying. WTH ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 01:37 AM
223

It honestly feels like men thrive on any perceived failure by women. I just saw a video the other day about a young female influencer and they were so quick to call her a predator in the title. But men? They flip the script and the same male predators are just “creepy” or having “sexual misconduct”. They’re still protecting their perceived ego and not calling it as it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 05:36 PM
5

Yes journaling is an amazing tool! It was also how I realized how confident I was before my ex partner and how abused and exhausted I was afterwards when re-reading past entries. It was very eye-opening indeed. I swore to not allow that to ever happen again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 11:25 PM
23

It will take some time. Be kind to yourself. And in due time, these things will just “click” when you least expect it and it’ll be easier to apply consciously. In the meantime, keep working on yourself. It is a journey after all. 💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 11:12 PM
19

I used to think I was being too picky for wanting to date a guy that could put in his share of emotional labor and know how to critically think and plan stuff without needing my help. (Most failed at the first chance at planning a date on OLD.) Turns out, it’s a shared sentiment for a lot of women and if we settle, we’ll just get these types of partners. Now I 100% know I’m not being picky. Not in the slightest. Good riddance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 11:06 PM
10

After the GME fiasco with WSB, CNBC is the last place I’d listen to. They have no shame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 12:56 PM
13

I date myself because I am my own best friend. I’m #1! I also started using a weekly planner to organize my life, and would you look at that...turns out there is a lot for me to do! Edit: Also maybe look into the stages of grieving. You are after all, mourning the loss of “what could have been” and that’s normal. Just don’t let it consume you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 10:33 PM
5

And even when they see it from a man’s mouth they continue to excuse it. 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 08:26 PM
16

I don’t think it’s a matter of to date or not to date. I think it’s more or less like...is this opportunity presenting itself worth it? Then sure, I’ll take a chance on this “date”. I’m in a similar situation as you, and I love where I’m at, and I was under the impression that these things and skills we’ve learned over time was a natural progression of life. Unfortunately, it’s been difficult to find a partner who matches that level and energy with mine. I’m at a place where I’m looking for adde…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 09:48 AM
27

He can’t even form coherent sentences about his reasoning besides telling us what to do!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 02:50 AM
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Then the logical solution would be to not include me in your scapegoat comments if that were the case. 🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/21 08:30 AM
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Ooooh let’s police a complete Reddit stranger and gaslight what they do and say because they don’t conform to YOUR comment! Aha proving my sarcastic comment to be ever more true it seems. 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/21 07:55 AM
31

Omg the lights! Haha. Now when he has to go out and repurchase some of these items...he’s going to remember you over and over for every. little. thing. Best comeback. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 08:55 AM
79

Not a fan of disclosing past sexual trauma to a stranger who can then lie and take advantage of you after; however a story about a “friend” or acquaintance might work better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 07:29 AM
6

Ned is one of my favs from The Try Guys! They have an “inside joke” about Ned constantly mentioning his wife whenever possible (because he does it so often), and Keith has joined the ranks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 07:01 AM
54

Men’s brains shrivel to the size of a pea when critical thinking and logic is necessary. Bless their little hearts, the mental load just pushes them over the edge most days. Edit: LOL awwww a scrote used this as an example of misandry because he was butthurt boohoo. I’m honored. 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 10:30 PM
8

I feel this to my core! I also found out I’m romantic kibbe type, and the style is something I’ve always loved, but was too insecure to wear (especially dresses and skirts) because I wasn’t the typical “girly girl” and would receive backhanded compliments when I tried. I upgraded my wardrobe during quarantine to more classic and feminine styles, and I realized I was shedding the “cool/young girl aesthetic to appeal to male audiences” trope and becoming much more confident with dressing like a re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 08:55 AM
2

I people watch from my window and realize how glad I am to be where I’m at! And then I make a to-do list.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 07:39 AM
3

I can easily see where that line of thinking can be misconstrued as victim blaming. I think it is also dependent on context, use, tone, etc. The way I interpret it though is like this: shitty people are attracted to everyone, and now it’s up to me to keep shitty people out of my orbit with my standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 12:11 AM
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I am so sorry you’re going through this very difficult time. It’s gonna hurt like hell, but you will be so thankful once this storm passes. This is the start of your grieving phase. I’ve read a few of your responses...and the way I perceive it is if he (bf) wants X things...then your replies are direct responses about what he wants just masked as your wants. Kind of like a butterfly effect if that makes sense? He seems to be the center of your universe, and when that gets rocky, you start to spi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 11:51 PM
29

I believe it. I used to have a shared bathroom and the roommate’s grown ass brother peed on my floor. Completely missed the toilet. I was livid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 09:08 AM
207

And beware of the guys that use you as a placeholder when the ex is gone. He doesn’t know who to turn to now, so you become his new emotional dumping ground. Edit: Ty for the award!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 08:34 AM
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This!! I called police once on a relative when I was a minor because I was being harassed at home; and the scrote cop had the audacity to tell my then 17 year old self to simply “move out” and blamed me instead of talking to the relative to cut his shit out. I was so angry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 08:09 AM
8

We know LVM use women for pseudo relationships for the benefits. Hence why he won’t bother with relationship upkeep down the line. HVM have met their “one” and continue to sustain their relationships to a higher standard. This is why we continue to vet vet vet! If this is you in this pseudo relationship, you ain’t his “one”, so get out girl!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 08:54 PM
5

Can confirm after working in this industry. The ones that game and have a good relationship are the ones who prioritize their relationship with themselves and people over their gaming habit/addiction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 10:29 PM
14

Exactly. This is one of my issues with the occasional FDS posts...absolutely we should level up and do better, and that also means not bashing other women with internalized misogyny! It’s counter productive to queen energy and growth. Empathy and compassion are signs of maturity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 04:48 AM
3

The show she’s on solidifies her pick-me ways. Even her coworkers tried to point out some of her mannerisms and she was having none of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 03:19 AM
25

I have the same “reflex” feeling with certain posts and comments; however it does make me question whether it’s me being truly empathetic or if I’m uncomfortable because the patriarchal norms I’ve grown accustomed to are being challenged within me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 02:52 AM
43

You’ve brought up fantastic points about the lackluster part of the video. Have you seen the movie “I Am Not An Easy Man”? I think you’d really enjoy seeing the role reversal!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 10:44 PM
1

Haha totally; r investing dislikes any semblance of WSB attitude up in their corner so it’s a great alternative. (:
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 09:32 AM
60

This post is similar to the AITA post about the dishwasher story and the wife being tired of taking cold showers in the morning. Yet, the husband continued to turn on the dishwasher despite her repeated attempts of sticky notes, talks, and gentle reminders to stop turning it on in the morning for YEARS. The thread conclusion was that the husband must really dislike the wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 09:27 AM
15

I find Hinge to be the worst offender of all the apps I’ve tried. It’s only on that app that LVM start unnecessary fights with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 10:43 AM
6

Bwahaa love this energy! Reminds me of a scrote I was on a date with who got mad at me when he found out I took time to go home and get ready beforehand ahaa! Your own self-care upsets LV and they project!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 06:57 PM
15

Simple, his words don’t match his actions. If he really took your opinions seriously, you wouldn’t be questioning it right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 06:40 AM
92

Exactly! He was overdue for a block so many messages ago! doesn’t like back and forth wanted a coffee and nice walk?! can ask HIM all the questions he literally told you he’s lazy has the audacity to call this a date does he really need HS validation ?! and of course the rain check This is all in the handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 10:22 PM
10

Given how our society is full of LV everywhere, I treat most shows like a guilty pleasure game of spot the toxic traits since I’m not on OLD anymore. This show is full of it and you’ve mentioned many of the things I noticed as well. Sadly, I need to fulfill my cheesy romance quota somehow lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 04:32 AM
43

Be wary of anyone who has to “claim” anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 04:23 AM
20

Block and delete! He clearly doesn’t respect his relationship with said GF if he: Can’t separate his boundaries with female friends Hides details about his supposed “good female friend” / his life Diminishes her feelings (her gut is right) Clearly lacking effort in his long distance relationship because his energy is being utilized elsewhere with someone else He’s 34! Come on now. He knows exactly what he’s doing. He wants his cake and wants to eat it too. This is not HVM behavior. These are lit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 10:35 PM
108

There is a great book “Women Who Love Too Much” that can be useful reading. When I’m around men, I like to ask myself, “What would an asshole do?” What I consider asshole behavior is mild to being taken advantage of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 11:32 PM
3

There’s a restaurant I used to visit that would make a burger using garlic bread as buns and it was to die for!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 07:15 PM
4

Yes!! The a-spot is magical and literally my fav, but it sucks to risk the cervix punch in order to get there. ):
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 05:26 PM
13

What a wild ride!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 01:21 AM
4

I laughed more than I should have at the “I unmatch all responses that take longer than 5 minutes”. He’s inadvertently saving so many women’s lives this way. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 05:49 AM
5

Oh nooo I want to learn, but I don’t wanna be around red pillers ugh!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 01:43 AM
10

Isn’t that what the new kids describe as a “softboi” nowadays?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 01:41 AM
12

I love Yelp/Google maps street view for this reason. I check the surrounding streets/area and have an exit plan ready if I need to leave. And I check if there are surrounding stores and their business hours. Then I check the food, the restaurant, the menu, dress code and ambiance. And price of food, in case I need to cover my portion. Also check IG and it’s hashtags of the inside. Top it off with sharing my location to loved ones and my general timeframe, plus a mini bio of this dude so they’re …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 10:39 AM
1

It’s subtle negging disguised as a compliment. But yes, definitely most rude. Being feminine is not mutually exclusive to men’s preferences!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 12:46 AM
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When I first read the title, I instantly thought it was his excuse to not do things in the relationship. Because i tOLd U sO But emasculating? That’s a giant red flag about his future behavior and misogyny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 10:04 PM
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It’s an attempt at men controlling our looks. Long hair is deemed feminine and thus more attractive (while short hair is “manly” to them, etc). If you really think about it, a lot of the feminine features that is spewed to us is some variation of being adolescent (long hair, clear skin, dresses, “shaven”, young looking face/body, petiteness, vulnerability, etc).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 06:42 PM
5

Honestly, what do you want OP? No one can dictate what you do in your life, including your friends. If you know they mean well, then heed their advice; however it’s a bit odd that you can’t be friends with them, but they can? Start paying attention to what your friends’ true intentions are. Edit: For clarification, guys are sleazy when they add a bunch of girls so that’s nothing new. Be careful with whom you add based on your personal judgement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 09:57 AM
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Block and delete. Engaging useless scrotes gets nowhere and there are plenty more where he came from.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 09:51 AM
179

Wow, you’re really pretty for a (insert ethnicity). You look better with long hair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 09:36 AM
23

Well that explains a lot lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 09:30 AM
10

I agree...its one thing to not rely on a man to do everything for you, but it’s also ok to actually ask for help when necessary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 09:27 AM
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LVM know how to dish generic compliments. Ask them to elaborate and they squirm when they can’t articulate small things that are unique to you. The same can be applied to “I love you”s. If they’re saying the generic you’re kind, smart, loving, blah blah...guess what? The general population is all that too! Don’t let it fool you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 06:06 AM
7

Along with all of the above, I remembering reading somewhere about men’s lack of emotional maturity to the point of not understating that there are different words for different feelings, and thus they repeat the same word for multiple scenarios. For example, how some dudes will say I’m “mad” when they’re actually feeling embarrassed, etc. (Something that therapy can help them distinguish and understand). I think this also correlates back to that one study someone posted in FDS where some guys c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 05:33 AM
32

Oh there’s plenty on Cavill for sure. His interviews are up there with Mamoa! Both LV. Edit: Google his shady side or read the backlash on his #MeToo comments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 10:53 AM
6

Ohhh! This reminds me of the time some scrote wanted casual, so old pick-me said yes, and then he got mad I didn’t chase him to follow up. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 10:35 AM
3

I had an ex try to record me when I was trying on clothes once (it was the early stages of our relationship). I flipped out and yelled at him while trying to confiscate his phone. What an extreme violation of privacy and disrespect. Almost forgot about it til now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 10:49 PM
45

Friend also got his a day early when his Taco Bell code was a winner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 07:41 AM
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Believe it or not, some women really do not know what to do, especially if they’ve grown up in a cycle of abuse or sheltered living. I was raised to believe it was my duty to make a relationship work at all costs. It takes an outside perspective at times to shatter this sense of “normalcy” and realize what isn’t healthy or safe. It’s why a lot of pickmeishas go on to raise more pickmeishas and thus repeat the cycle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 09:39 AM
4

Ooh I love reading about these wonderful gift surprises! I adore accepting random gifts. I am also not ashamed at work to take someone’s place at lunch meetings because I get to eat at amazing restaurants! Shoo anyone away that tries to guilt trip you otherwise for being treated right/taking advantage of positive opportunities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 07:44 AM
18

Am horrified, but laughing, but horrified again lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 07:27 AM
30

His action to the ending is all you need to know. That is the closure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 09:07 PM
9

Such a wonderful read and congrats to the both of you! No 4 have to agree, although I’ve lived with a roommate who had prior roommates and she still acted like she was living alone. Didn’t divide chores, nothing. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 10:39 PM
1

I would be interested in some tips on navigating the BFF experience!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 02:52 AM
5

Oh no!! That’s terrible. I had another friend try and she was stood up twice so she gave up. I was recently thinking about giving it a shot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 09:27 AM
18

Does Bumble BFF* work!? I hear a lot of flakey stories or girls talking about zodiacs as a basis for friendship lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 08:00 AM
10

I hate when random men do this to me on the street. 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 06:20 AM
16

Yep, her response was unfortunate. She’s already made up her mind that she “doesn’t want to blow up the relationship” so she rather drop her desires in order to maintain this shitty relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 03:45 PM
3

I thought about this along with other shows like the Bachelor, and honestly I feel like it boils down to a few things: Money/clout/social media/15 min of fame/reality TV is cheap to produce Reality TV chasers (that kind of circle jerk really exists) A lot of women are pick-mes and don’t even know it because clown behavior is normalized to the masses in media Desperation for A man/love/marriage/validation/being the exception to the rule with every man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 07:47 PM
4

Right? He mentioned a few times about making fun of people/calling them stupid...etc as if this is a common hobby of his...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 07:29 PM
15

Came to the comments expecting this to be called out! It’s an NVM/LVM relationship standard that if we provide a sexual favor, then we get “treated” to food. 🤢🤢🤢🤮 No different then a guy expecting sex because he took you out on a date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 07:22 PM
13

Plants are living things. He harmed it, period. ): Sorry you’re going through this right now, but absolutely the right call.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 06:21 PM
7

And probably friends with Chad, Brad, and Kyle!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 06:28 AM
13

Oldie but goodie: Don’t feed the trolls!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 06:25 AM
8

Yep! Made that mistake once and this male friend laughed at me and acted like it wasn’t a big deal. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 07:07 PM
3

Sorry this is happening to your family. ): My first instinct was he sounds like he’s gone down the Splenda daddy route.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 07:25 PM
26

I used to ask them if I could stick a dildo up their ass. Haven’t found any takers as of yet!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 10:01 PM
73

Death grip was absolutely one of the reasons why a former ex needed “anal stimulation”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 08:58 AM
17

I figured her response was “I’m just less interested” again !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 07:40 AM
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Literally bust out laughing haha. I need to reach her level of savagery. 💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:39 AM
18

Nah don’t send. They already know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:26 AM
27

LOL!! I’m dead!! I would love to see a future compilation of all the common answers on these dating apps!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 06:08 AM
14

Saving this for later!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 03:42 AM
13

I don’t budge; most times they’ll move over. If they bump into me, I say loudly “EXCUSE ME” to embarrass them. There was a scrote that called me a b**ch once because I “scuffed” his sneakers and he threatened to fight me in crowded mall. Lmao. I just laughed and kept on walking. He was shorter than me and insecure. I do notice though, when I’m dressed to the 9s, boyyyy do they move over real quick and slow down to be in your orbit. Suddenly they’re soooo full of manners! 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 03:37 AM
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To add to that, to also stop marrying these men in hopes that the marriage itself will suddenly resolve their issues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 05:23 PM
13

Ehhh, these are nice reminders...but I’ve still had two different men do a variation of 1-6 and end up LVM after the first initial stages wear off. (7+ months) 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 09:48 PM
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In case people don’t know this...healthy relationships DO talk about the future, and that includes things like finances, rings, marriage and proposals - before it happens.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 09:40 PM
6

It’s literally so dumb when a dude swipes on you, but he knows you in person!! Like come on, you have the real world advantage to be straight forward ugh!! Had a coworker do the same exact thing, we actually talked at work too, but I thought he was matching with me as a joke. Realized he was actually serious about a date (ZEROOO indication) so I politely declined. He went from LVM to NVM in seconds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 03:53 AM
0

This sentence is taken out of context. The onus is still on him to communicate, not her; aka she’s not the problem that we’re emphasizing here. It’s in response to her insecurity about the sex issue. Yes, she should leave though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 05:11 AM
3

I see where you’re coming from with the tips. I’ve been off/on OLD for ~3 years (currently off). I’ve actually followed 95% of your advice just from trial and error and learning the dating curve on my own. And while it does help, it hasn’t helped enough. FDS has allowed me to move on quicker and confirm my gut instincts. I have met some great guys through OLD no doubt, but luck is another important factor to the equation. OLD is just another 40% chance at love, but if we’re busy leveling up, OLD…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 03:38 AM
10

Nope nope nope never again no way. They just use you, and don’t respect you. And then you start to feel crazy wondering why his actions aren’t matching up with his words and before you know it * poof * it’s over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 03:05 AM
16

Nah, if they care about their son, they would teach him proper life skills - which include cooking and cleaning to be a self sufficient adult so he’s prepared when he leaves the nest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 02:34 AM
6

Catfish comment is a neg that sets up the Snapchat/other app comment to “prove yourself”. It was common back in the OLD days for me. It’s a pickmeisha trap. No sense in engaging in useless banter. There’s plenty more of that on OLD so why waste your time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 06:41 PM
13

It’s an instant swipe left when I see any form of “Bonnie and Clyde, ride or die, my other half, partner in crime, etc”. AND SO MANY PROFILES HAVE THESE. Once I leveled up and realized that two whole beings come together to form a healthy union, there is no “50% other half bff” bullshit. I’m not a missing crutch for someone else’s life nor am I here to make them feel c0MPleTe and WHoLe!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 06:22 PM
2

Ah yes good points!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 04:34 PM
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Hey sis your story is eerily similar to my life choices (dad, early death, long term same years, unavailable married man, school, work, the shame, stayed single for several years after ahh)! 😱 The only difference is I started my journey earlier. I didn’t date for about 6 years trying to recover from my long term relationship. I lost my family home, my job, my car, my school grant. I didn’t grow or do anything. Eventually, I got tired of not improving, started working two days a week before apply…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 01:22 PM
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ITS NOT YOU. YOU ARE NOT THE PROBLEM. It’s def him. I had an ex with similar issues, together five years. I thought it was “normal”. Sex didn’t improve and I started to hate it. He didn’t want to fix it, so I left because we weren’t sexually compatible. He was addicted to porn and had death grip. The next sexual encounter I had as a free agent totally affirmed it was him as the source of the problem, and I haven’t had that same issue since because I’d be long gone. HE needs to work on this and c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 11:25 AM
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Because like I mentioned I’m super picky. The audacity with his negging too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 10:35 AM
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TIL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 11:40 PM
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Yes! Part of FDS is being high value yourself and these kinds of petty tactics don’t exemplify that. The understated attribute here is indifference. Edit: Oops replied to wrong person but keeping. Haha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 07:56 PM
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This is a terribly tasteless joke that can be misconstrued as misinformation in FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 07:51 PM
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What?? You’d still subject yourself to such a relationship because he has money and looks?? This is not Queen energy girl!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 07:40 PM
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Furthermore, this exemplifies notions we hear time and time again; like Maya’s “When people show you who they are, believe them” and another one I heard along the lines of “Men tell you exactly who they are, we just need to listen”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 11:07 PM
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🤑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 08:08 PM
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😆 It happens lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 12:03 PM
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I’m surprised the conversation continued after he said “hang out”. And no need for the paragraph explanation about your worth and cheap dates! They can use that against you when you admit your strategy vs “I don’t do cheap dates.” etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 12:00 PM
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Ah I see. There isn’t a right or wrong way to FDS, it’s more of a guideline to take things slower and vet. Which seems more likely given your situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 11:50 AM
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Not really, if you vet him for a few weeks and you feel ready to take it inside, then do so and leave before it escalates. Because of your restrictions, you just need to be more creative while applying FDS. That is pretty extreme not being able to display any kind of PDA. Is it illegal?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 11:47 AM
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Im not sure I understand your point. You are in charge of your boundaries and choices, including sex. If you don’t want it, say no, leave, and don’t set yourself up in a situation where that is likely to occur (which yes, tend to be inside homes...)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 11:23 AM
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I mean...the handbook has all the answers. Just don’t have sex before commitment then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 11:08 AM
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Sounds like Snapchat is your dealbreaker, you even stated you don’t want to date someone with it. Stick to your gut reaction!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 07:22 AM
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Sis, embrace your height. People are going to stare and comment for the rest of your life, you might as well own it and strut with your head high. Regardless of size, confidence will show when your chin is up, not down. It sounds like you may want to practice in self-love and boosting your self worth. New activities and completing new projects can help boost confidence, and help validate your inner self. While height cannot be changed, your ability to brush off negative comments and stereotypes …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 05:35 AM
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So true! I know an HVM at work and while he adores and prefers to have his girls, he was terrified knowing he was going to have two daughters in the world! And he still stresses about them everyday. He was also the one to help me stand up to misogynistic people and build my confidence at work and for that, I’m beyond grateful. He’s a terrific dad. I feed him FDS beliefs and he totally agrees!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 08:52 PM
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You’re not lame for missing certain feelings and aspects of a former memory. Feelings come and go. After all, would you go back to him? Prob not, so you good sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 12:10 PM
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You really out here getting mad some scrote acting like a scrote?! Really?! Omg 😳 And scrotes don’t care if you poly, bi, almost female, alien, they gonna scrote! Hard lesson, but this is why we vet!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 11:23 AM
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It happens naturally in a friendly way within circles through mutual friends or repeated appearances. And if they’re really interested, they’ll flat out ask you out on a date. Keep in mind, one can still flirt and be attracted to you and still not make any moves - they’re in it for the thrill.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 10:57 AM
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Ughhh what a disgraceful image too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 06:59 AM
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You’ll also quickly realize which friends have good taste and which ones do not know you at all when they introduce someone as a prospect. 🤪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 06:53 AM
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Ehhh I can see why you’re angry...but you’re getting mad at them because they wanted to keep their business private. On top of that, you’re mad that you got “involved” in poly drama when lo and behold...you’re involved in poly friendship circles. If HV was easy, we’d all be surrounded by it. It’s a matter of adjusting expectations and choosing wisely. This is another important point why vetting is crucial, and now that he/they have failed the vet test, you know who to block and move on. No need …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 06:50 AM
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I think this varies with the location of where you date. I’m in a populated area, so if a guy says “Let’s hang out” in any form, I unmatch. If a guy says he wants to ask me out or do something, then I respond with some version of “Let me know a time and place. I’m free (this day).” 90% of the time, they get back to me with a time and place, no back and forth. The back and forth is lack of initiative and confidence - eww. The moment they do that, I unmatch. If it’s too far (20min+), I decline or …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 01:34 AM
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Didn’t realize how much pickmeisha and n0t LiKE oThEr gIRls can go hand in hand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 09:17 PM
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I read that as “I treated my last relationship so poorly that my ex prob “cheated”/left me” as well as him having baggage, insecurity, immaturity, and poor judgement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 06:01 AM
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My mom used to tell me to date multiple guys. I was appalled at first, but she right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 02:24 AM
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Oh girrllllll just google his shady side. He’s LVM. ):
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 02:20 AM
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Ohhh that was really shitty of him. Good thing you caught it! When I get recruiter messages, I research their company’s career openings/website to double check if it’s a legitimate head hunt or job opening. I especially loathe recruiters that ask me to refer others....like I’m not going to do your job!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 09:29 AM
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Wow you are a badass!! Stay safe 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 09:17 AM
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I still have a hard time not getting these types. Some of them it’s because their ego is inflated. And the others it’s because I somehow fulfill this high school hot girl wet dream that they have a real shot at (he told me so). They lack the deeper connection. So on the first date, if they’re not asking me actual questions to get to know me and be genuinely interested in what I say, then it’s not going anywhere and I move on. No need to stay longer than that. The ones that are SUPER INTERESTED i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 09:15 AM
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I feel you! It’s been so much worse during pandemic! At the beginning of quarantine during a walk, I had two scrotes come at me in the morning on bikes, some guy in a car hardcore catcalling/asking for number when I was crossing a street in the afternoon, and then some pervert half grope me at night. All in a single day. Like what the actual fuck with the desperation nowadays.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 09:03 AM
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Ohhh I remember reading this post some time ago, and the Reddit comments were upset at HIM and not her for his audacity and saying that she should leave him, and also have him buy back the violin if possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 08:03 PM
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Omg this describes my workplace! HR had to yell at a bunch of man babies to clean up after themselves and wash and place the dirty dishes in the washer correctly. Our office cleaner was not hired to baby sit them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 12:22 AM
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On mobile, if you are in the FDS main page subreddit, there should be the option to swipe left from Posts to About to Menu to Rooms. The Handbook is under About.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 05:51 AM
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Woo also 5’10” here! Also only date 6’ or over. Too many crap experiences with shorter guys saying they’re ok with my height, until I show up in heels. Their insecurity and pikachu face is blatantly obvious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 02:46 AM
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I totally get you. Which is why the thread is even crazier knowing that men also think this among other men. And they’ve also questioned why its so difficult to believe a man intends for the best with kids....the irony of it all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 01:22 AM
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Red flags everywhere! 🚩🚩🚩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 09:49 PM
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“Some men” lol she even placed a disclaimer!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 09:30 PM
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Omg shotgun wedding (cake)! Haha, looks delicious but oh noooo on the meaning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 09:25 PM
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There’s even a comment on the bottom that got downvoted to hell for simply pointing out the negative use and connotation of the word prostitute to describe the title. 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 09:07 PM
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Read the shit show here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 08:50 PM
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Well yea haha. Most of them are, hence the vetting process. Still sucks nonetheless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 04:10 PM
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Yeah they do copy very quickly and that’s normal, but it’s also painful to see adults pushing an agenda (like having them act out romantic gestures) onto a child so quickly. I know of pickmes that do this to their children, and one daughter was even “proud” to have become a gf property to a random boy only at the age of 6. That’s worrisome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 04:06 PM
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Woah there’s a lot to unpack here. He was upfront about casual and you said you were on the same page as casual. But you’re now surprised he meant it? If you want to date seriously, then you need to remove “casual” as an option, otherwise your pattern of meaningless flings will just continue. The handbook covers the vetting stages. Please refer to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 09:34 AM
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Maybe it’s just me but why tf are kids worried about having a romantic interest and courting?? Especially at that age? They’re kids! What!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 09:06 AM
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I like this as an insult...”Show me your portfolio.” Haha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 04:44 AM
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Ahh!! This hits in the guts!! (Excuse the non political terminology) I look white, and I was walking with my male black friend when an older homeless black man congratulated my friend for “his catch” and mentioned something else about race. I was so appalled!! I even told my friend that I am not some trophy prize, especially based on the color of my skin! This was years ago, but still upsets me when I think about it from time to time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 03:42 AM
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But you’re here now yasss!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 02:49 AM
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Yes yes yes! Guys are LITERALLLLLY so desperate/horny/depraved that they have no shame in lying to get laid. I had a guy text me about my camera, pretend to be interested, asked to come over to “see my camera”, and then I called him out on just wanting sex and he flat out REFUSED to admit it. It was so crazy how committed he was to deflecting it. Unbelievable he would lie to my face so shamelessly and blatantly! He was blocked, but anytime a guy thinks of lying to me now, I think of cringey came…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 02:47 AM
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Let’s not forget this cherished quote from M to Bond, “Good...because I think you’re a sexist misogynist dinosaur...a relic of the Cold War” and “If you think for one moment I don’t have the balls to send a man out to die, your instincts are dead wrong.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 07:44 AM
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I cried from A Serbian Film for unrelated reasons; and I admire that they took a huge risk creating their version of “metaphoric horror art”. I’ll never watch it again though. I’m curious if it’s still banned in many countries. On that note, I’d be wary of any dude that liked these films for the power play, violence (mental/physical), sadism and control that these films depict (including the original/American Old Boy.) It’s very disturbing content.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 07:06 AM
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You called?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 12:25 AM
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So sad. Hopefully she sees the light and realizes her worth before it’s too late!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 12:15 PM
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Actually, bare minimum decency is not that rare at all. You’re surrounded by it. Keep dating. This is scarcity mindset. You want “dick is abundant” mindset. It’s quite common for a guy to act accordingly if he has an agenda. Don’t fall for it, continue vetting per handbook, give it 3-4 months at the minimum to see him put his words into action.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 12:08 PM
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Aside from his fishy test time, if he lives out of town that’s like easy code for wanting a casual hookup! And then he knows you’ll be around for his next casual encounter by breadcrumbing you til then. It’s awfully difficult to form a relationship with someone who isn’t even around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 11:58 AM
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“Hold your nose” oh gawd how disgusting were their penises !?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 11:50 AM
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I’d much rather see this than a profile using a pic of the Momo challenge. That was horrifying!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 11:47 AM
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Damnnnn you did this during high school! It took some of us girls years after high school/college to get to this point you’re at now! You should be so effing proud!! Wow what an amazing way to start such formative years as a young adult and learning life’s pains so early on. I know you’re hurting really really bad right now. And it will for awhile. It’s a big deal. But the pain will hurt substantially less as each day passes until it becomes a very dull ache. Get a vision board or something that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 11:06 AM
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Ohhh I really enjoy my alone time! Granted a lot of my activities are usually during the day. If I’m going to look hot hot, I go to bougie restaurants and treat myself. I feel safer there. If not, I really enjoy super early evenings for shows, dinner and cocktails at casual spots. Those times are less crowded. It gets easier the more you do it, and the more often you visit a spot, the more comfortable you’ll be. I got free drinks once from the female manager because I was going all out on dinner…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 10:03 AM
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Text him that it’s over and block. Block on everything. If you are genuinely concerned about your safety, please let your family know and/or also make sure your closest friends are aware too. If he sends anything threatening, screenshot it. Before the breakup, make sure to take any personal items and such that is left at his place, and be logged out if you’ve used his computer or something similar. Can never be too cautious because uncontrolled anger is a scary beast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 09:51 AM
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I’m so sorry this has happened to you! As others have mentioned, please update your email and other security settings. I do hope you find this perp and report (him)! And for future reference, create different types of emails. I have one for personal, professional personal, work, spam, shopping (coupons), and another for dating (for google video pre screening)! That way if one is compromised, not all my contacts/info is affecting all faucets of my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 09:41 AM
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I disapprove this comment from the sheer lack of empathy and callousness to say a women “deserves” this. No one deserves this. We’ve all made shit mistakes in our lives and I’m sure she’s clearly learned that now. Can we support women instead of tearing them down? The outside world and pickmeishas already do that. We’re better than that kind of behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 06:14 AM
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Exactly this! The beauty of this sub is realizing we are on the same team even though we have very different opinions! No need to put each other down. I think part of the disappointment is how quickly the sub is growing and how some users are not reading the handbook/missing the point of the sub, which can lead to misleading FDS principles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 06:03 AM
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I detest this phrase. It would irk me when guys would text me “I miss you”; like DUDE you don’t even know me enough to miss me! We stopped talking for a reason!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 10:20 PM
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mass swiping on every women’s profile This right here! Dudes swipe on practically everyone that the app has a daily limit to control the mass swipe. That’s why I also never message first. Oh and when you come across those profiles of app “mods” who are there for collecting feedback and such, they’re LVM too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 10:08 PM
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This is so common that when I don’t hear a time and place the day/night before (at the latest), then it’s an auto block from me. I don’t do last minute dates with strangers. It shows that they don’t know how to plan, and they are inconsiderate of my time. Not worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 09:36 PM
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Apparently that mod is a she!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 10:54 AM
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I thought the first page was ridiculous and then noticed there were two more pages of this bs!! No way!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 01:20 AM
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I don’t consider myself an extreme feminist, but when I mention anything along the lines of FDS “beliefs”, it sounds alarming to my peers. I’m trying to warm up one of my friends about raising her standards, don’t rely on her forever boyfriend and to keep her car, but pick me culture is deep rooted. It’s a start.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 12:58 AM
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This feels like deja vu...I remember reading this ages ago, but had no idea it was recent. Super scary! I don’t tell any dates where I work by default. But then I met a man who easily identified my workplace based on my industry and the location without me having said much at all, and I was scared for awhile that he would show up to my work and name drop me because he loves my specific workplace. I’m the extreme case where I don’t talk about my job anymore on dating apps. Edit: Also if you googl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 08:16 PM
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Or “I’m not on here much, hit me up @theirighandle” directly on their profile. Like bruh, why you on a dating app then? Lucky me getting to weed you out on my left swipe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 07:31 PM
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Just goes to show how many scrotes felt personally attacked by this video. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 07:24 PM
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I deleted my last app this week! The matches I got and their responses were so cringey and predatory. (“Love your lonnng hair” ....just ew). I used to be enthusiastic with my responses, but then slowly over time I started matching their energy and then I just got to a point where I stopped messaging/answering if it was generic small talk after the initial “Hey”. Lots of guys could benefit by being stimulating with their verbiage, but they choose not to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 07:16 PM
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Congrats on losing the dead weight! Reading the handbook as well as the related titles is just the beginning of the great new path.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 11:18 PM
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I realized I have the luxury to tell dudes off to their face this won’t work or I have to go (my height plays a factor here). My shortest date (time wise lol) was 10 min because I instantly told him I can’t stay long. Vice versa, if it seems like he’s rushing you and being passive aggressive about your standards (or any other red flag), just cut your losses and leave, no explanation needed. I had a date where he was peeved I took time to go home and get ready before the date instead of arriving …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 10:58 PM
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I knew someone that I considered a good friend. His marriage was dissolving, and I found out he had a crush on me. I told him I was not interested in him whatsoever and thus I began distancing myself, and he was visibly upset and said some weird shit. It caused some friction and we faded soon after. That was the first time I truly realized that males can’t be “friends” - married or not. He’s dating someone half his age now. 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 06:10 AM
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Honestly, just write whatever makes you happy. Project and ask for the good things. I realized most dudes don’t even bother to read it unless you really strike their fancy or hurt their ego. I have critical thinking as a requirement in my bio and I still had a scrote tell me I was asking for too much (but still made the effort to read my bio and message me first). 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 07:27 AM
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Conflict resolution is beneficial in many scenarios. HV people actively listen, respect, and resolve issues with collected reasoning. Compassion and empathy make a huge difference in these conversations. The biggest takeaway I’ve noticed in my relationships is the mindset of “teamwork” to resolve and move forward with a shared objective, and not “I must win, therefore I must put you down to get ahead” thinking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 10:19 PM
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Omg yes, block!! I thought I blocked a scrote on everything at the time and he then found me on LinkedIn, so naturally I had to block him there too. Unbelievable the lengths they go too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 09:08 PM
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That’s very unprofessional for her to be “siding” before you’ve stated your case ugh. I’ve heard stories of some therapists being pickmeishas and having preferential treatment towards their male clients, but I can’t imagine you having to go through one. Way to her call out!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 09:23 PM
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Def not lol. They even have an app that reports assaults near you in real time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 02:54 PM
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Damn this was cringey to watch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 02:32 PM
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Oh gosh I’m glad you’re better off now! And to also have the therapist side with him is just adding more salt to the wound. I’m glad you saw through that bs!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 10:59 AM
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🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️ You’ve missed the entirety of my post. I do hope you realize I am on the same side here as you and I’m quite aware of what you speak about. I am merely pointing out the intention behind the meme, not to undermine abuse victims and their situations, nor are we ignoring the accountability of the abuser. Take care. 💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 10:17 AM
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Please read “The Gift of Fear” by Gavin de Becker. It’s a whole book by an expert about trusting your instincts and why!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 09:58 AM
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If people want to tell themselves that, then it is their onus, not ours. They create their own harmful myths by repeating insanity. Have you heard the phrase “Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me” ? But then they also cry wolf too? This summarizes the concept behind the post. I have been a victim. So have many women. But I actively choose not to live the victim life nor be a box 1 mentality, so I had to take personal responsibilities after my abuse to ensure my own safety not o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 05:42 AM
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I get you, you can’t change others actions upon you. That is 100% on them. But this meme is challenging our perception of self awareness and the cognitive dissonance of others. High value is not to blame others. If we can learn to spot and overcome the abuse (insert other actions) of others (box 2), then we won’t be using the “victim” life as a crutch (box 1, the blaming). That is the HVW trait OP is pointing out. It takes courage and growth to see repeating patterns of these predators/shit beha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 01:09 AM
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Ohhhh gotchu! Yeah f**k your ex pft; you know his dirt and he’s being extra nice so you help maintain his nice guy persona.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 07:38 PM
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It’s the broken record logic. Keep repeating!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 07:32 PM
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It could be your parent realizes that old age is setting in, and thus needs to start mending some relationships out of survival. It can come off as unnatural when they want something from you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 07:21 PM
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“Chicks before dicks” (; Edit: or “Sisters before misters”!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 07:01 PM
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Holy shit, I’m just appalled some asshole had the gall to say that to you in high school!! I’m so sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 08:14 AM
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Oh sis, these feelings of insecurity are normal. Let them pass through your life like clouds. There is literally no one in the world like you. I do agree with the others, there is a mental root cause that needs to be dug up and explored inside of you. And no, the grass is not always greener on the other side. Objectively, I’ve been told many times in my life to model. If I reject/ignore someone, I’m automatically labeled a bitch due to my appearance. Sure, the beauty gets my foot in the dating d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 06:57 AM
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I don’t even trust these baselines sadly. I know several guys with all these basics and they’re still LVM. Sigh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 06:24 AM
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Same garbage also ridiculed the judge with racist remarks from a previous case, and thought it was a good idea to possibly ask her out. /facepalm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 06:06 AM
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Appreciate your belly pooch. Too many factors contribute to a “flat tummy”: genetics, diet, exercise, non-bloat days, water loss, disease, filters, sucking it in, etc. There are also many vids from insta fit people that showcase their tummy changes throughout the day; or morning/night before and after pics. My cousin has the flattest of flat stomachs and still gets a pooch after eating and living life lol. Your body is a machine that fluctuates constantly. Relax, it’s normal. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 12:42 AM
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Ohhh I’m a firm believer of actions over words, but this is a nice spin on things. That being said, has anyone watched THE SINGLE WIVES on Netflix? He is their dating coach, and it’s been interesting comparing his “advice” to that of FDS and realizing his tactics aren’t working very well for the ladies. FDS handbook instantly tells us that he isn’t invested or interested based on some of the initial actions. But I think the critique on their first few dates about conversations and pace is good f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 12:56 AM
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Wow reading the comments makes me sad that many have not experienced some form of a picnic date. I had two different guys set up a “first date” picnic, in popular scenic areas in my city, complete with basket, wine, cheese, sandwiches, dessert, blanket, cups etc. Both have asked me what I’m comfortable eating and if I was allergic to anything, and prepared accordingly. I think the gesture was nice and thought out, and still loads better than what LVM offer on the daily. One became my now-ex, and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 07:06 AM
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This was my first thought too. Also looks like bumble...where she would have had to message first. This whole interaction could have been avoided.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 11:47 AM
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Lmao he goes to reddit for advice...gets advice from female...NO, FEMALE PERSPECTIVE WRONG...takes dude advice instead. Repeat cycle. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 12:06 PM
20

It’s not uncommon for some white dudes to have “yellow fever” and fetishize Asian girls (since it can be seen as an extension of anime to some regard), and Asian guys naturally mingle like this as part of the anime/nerd subculture. There def is POC that are involved too...more notably the Kpop movement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 11:50 AM
21

Look for houndstooth/large patterns and materials like tweed/wool/cashmere/flannel to pull off similar looks! I’ve seen Zara on occasion sell such outfits, as well as Max Studio.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 11:36 AM
3

Alright, this could be dependent on location, but I absolutely hate Match.com and OkCupid. But if I had to pick one, I would never pay for OLD again (aka Match.com). I paid for Match for 6 months awhile back. A lot of those “messages” behind the paywall don’t actually exist, there weren’t many good matches or lack thereof when I signed up (and I’m in a MAJOR west coast city), and the same people from Match were all on the other free sites anyways (Tinder, Bumble, Coffee Meets Bagel, Hinge, Plent…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 08:02 AM
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I would describe myself as an intellectual and compassionate man that is secure with himself in all aspects. Sir, you dropped WHO in your sentence. Clearly you’re not the man you think you are. World class my ass. 🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 07:33 AM
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Ah I see! I’d pay special attention to how often he does these favors to her. If he’s actively investing more time in his friendship with her and not investing the time to make a romantic relationship a priority, then he’s setting up the precedent with you. One can’t be looking for serious if not acting on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 06:58 PM
10

Def date other men. You don’t owe them exclusivity off the bat and do NOT ever feel guilty about that. Spread your time out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 06:48 PM
9

The same woman who is married and has a husband? Why can’t the husband fix the pool?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 06:45 PM
6

Hmm one just needs to distinguish and assess the type of butterfly feelings. A lot of times it’s been used to describe quick, fire burning passion (“chemistry”, lustful, the kind of toxic dysfunction we’re comfortable with from unresolved trauma) whereas the “just know” feelings have been described as warm fuzzy glows that grow in time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 10:02 PM
11

Hell even Applebee’s had that 2 for 20$ and so did some other spots! #noexcuses
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 09:51 PM
16

What atrocious subs ugh!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 11:45 PM
1

OP, your dad is right. I’m actually the byproduct of the scenario your dad mentioned! It’s a different kind of struggle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 11:34 AM
1

What?? Are your standards so low that this passes the test already?! Omg.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 10:46 AM
7

No wonder he doesn’t have a gf. Probably slept through all those other dates too. 🥱
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 10:39 AM
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I’m one of those people that do not give my number out until after the first date. Either they set up the date, or they were low effort and the chatting stops. Good riddance. He’s beating around the bush. I wouldn’t even bother with him anymore. He knows exactly what he’s doing and wants you to pick up the slack. Next! Edit: Red flags that he’s so concerned you haven’t responded in a day. Sheesh you have a life! No need to explain your reasoning so early on to him. He’s testing you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 10:34 AM
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Oh my gosh this is giving me literal LVM flashbacks and associated trauma. You’re young, he’s a selfish twat whose actions clearly scream IDGAF about my girl or her feelings. This shit won’t change. Stick around if you do not plan on marrying him, but I’d be saying buh bye if he’s pulled this crap before. The two seconds he used to post about his bike could have been two seconds of involving you in the bike shopping.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 10:04 AM
20

Had an ex buy me a vibrator as a gift. When we broke up, he refused to give me said vibrator because he wanted to keep it for his next girl. Same ex also broke up with me a different time because I refused to bake him cookies on demand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 09:36 AM
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Backing up this comment, start with the mental aspect at the root. The other leveling up tasks will fall in place as you progress. If therapy isn’t available, there is a wonderful book by David Burns called “Feeling Good”, and there you can jump to the section about depression and anxiety. It’s really about starting small and accomplishing “little victories” (getting out of bed...brushing your teeth...smiling, etc). It’s easy for someone to say “well just go do x big victory” if you’re still pro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 04:31 PM
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Sadly, had to apply this to a friendship with a girlfriend today. /:
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 07:45 AM
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“That’s why so many young women are starting to realize that marriage is actually important to them. Because they don’t want to get fucked over when a guy treats them poorly after she’s poured in years of money and effort.” It is exactly as you said. So you’re saying women should stick it out in marriage to make up for mistreatment and wasted effort when the clown won’t even change after so many years? That is sunk cost fallacy at its finest my dear. In case others would like to read more about …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 07:58 PM
2

That line was so upsetting to read. ):
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 07:13 PM
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You’re describing a sunk cost fallacy. It is a trap that many fall victim too and they believe they need to stay in the relationship due to all the time they dedicated to it. I wish more people realized that it is not recommended to do so, and encouraged to leave if a relationship is not making you happy. The concept can be applied to anything in life - career, friends, material items, etc. Life is not about revenge or ‘tit for tat’ if you invested too much time in something. It’s an immature wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 07:08 PM
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Honestly trust your instincts ladies! If you feel like something is off or info is being withheld, there’s probably a reason for it. Had a similar scenario long ago, he gave me his number (another 🚩); so I looked him up. He was fresh out of a divorce, still moping about his ex and his old life, and was no way near ready to date. Unmatched with him immediately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 06:55 PM
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Ugh, the emoji on his hat is so distasteful too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 08:49 PM
14

Agreed! Putting negative traits gives off the impression you don’t know how to filter or stand up for your boundaries, which makes LVM want to try harder regardless. There was also another running joke in other dating forums that MANY ladies put “no hookup” in their bios, but in reality it’s just code for no hookups with ugly people. If the guy is hot enough, pickmeishas are still open to a hookup - hence why LVM also continue to try. It’s more common than you think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 08:52 PM
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Just unmatch when the first red flag comes up and then you wouldn’t be dealing with this kind of aftermath.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 08:45 PM
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I’ve met these types and many were still LVM. Profile is still empty promises, but just enough to get their foot in the door for a swipe. It comes down to their intention and action.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 01:08 AM
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“Serious” haha, surprisingly met more fuckbois on Hinge vs Tinder!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 12:50 AM
2

I don’t get why dudes write “looking for my next ex-wife” or any variation of it on dating profiles. Can someone fill me in on this kinda joke?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 12:46 AM
1

And when you do walk out and block him after planning an exit, make sure to also let your family know of his toxicity ahead of time and if possible, get them to block him too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 05:40 PM
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Have you played Super Princess Peach?! It was around the time of Nintendo Lite, but it’s Peach having to save Mario! It was a really fun game with her as the focus. (:
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 05:07 AM
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And a great way to filter insecure types!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 05:04 AM
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HELLO TWIN. This pretty much sums up what I’m looking for, including the same height thing haha. 🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 04:54 AM
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Also want to chime in and add that a lot of women look good because we’ve been conditioned to care for society and the men it serves. Hence why the subservient attitude is prevalent in some areas, and why media outlets focus so much in our beauty. It is why many service roles are objectively a fantasy role where women are supposed to not only cater to said men, but also look good while doing it. Look at the old Carl’s Jr. ads or Halloween costumes in general. Look at how much of women’s pleasure…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 12:53 AM
10

Thanks for the laugh tonight! Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 04:06 AM
5

Her situation is very eye opening and unfortunate. I’m actually more shocked by her perspective of the world and the “reasoning” behind her responses. Almost like an undertone of manipulation on her end. Felt like I had to carefully listen between the lines.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 10:35 AM
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If he comes back Nah sis, you reject him on your terms which is anytime starting now, not when he stops being emotionally “conflicted”. Congratulations on such a major step to leveling up!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 09:01 PM
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Funny you mention this...r/nofap is trying to fight against the industry too since porn is trying to take them down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 06:57 PM
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Exactly! This kind of joke is tactless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 04:19 PM
8

Damn, bro is negging HARD through that profile. NEXT!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 08:44 AM
5

😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 04:48 AM
10

I’m confused...are you actually giving away your address so food can be sent over or are they sending you money to purchase on your own accord?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 12:34 PM
5

Ah, in that context it would make much more sense then!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 06:54 PM
13

I disagree with the dating with potential part, that’s like wearing rose colored glasses and saying “he’ll change” to something ideal eventually. Like him for who he is now, not in the future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 06:41 PM
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I know this hurts, but I’ve had someone give me insight once in a similar scenario. If he were the hypothetical “one”, an unfortunate event wouldn’t make him cut and run away from you. With that said, he’s more than likely in a place where he’s figuring out what to do with his life, and to hopefully get back to a place where he is feeling confident again. Sounds like he did you a solid. Worry about nurturing your soul, grieving for a bit, and moving on from the “what if” with him. The future is …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 09:00 AM
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I’m just here to say I have witnessed said men firsthand with kids and I too, thought the kid would help them get their act together. Alas, it did not change them. LVM will be LVM regardless of kids or not, with a few exceptions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 08:46 AM
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Texting is easier for breadcrumbing and plating (especially now with the quarantine). So low effort on their end. Be prepared to deal with a lot more of this on OLD. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 08:39 AM
1

Girl if you’re feeling confused, he ain’t all that interested. A guy that is interested will be on you, no doubt about it. Also, if he just compliments you all the time, that’s a bad sign too (only focused on looks, lack of substantial depth, poor communication or social skills, lack of interest in who you are, etc). You’re more than just looks. Don’t let him breadcrumb you. And if you’re feeling this anxious about some rando, time to step back and focus on you and what you want, not what he wan…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 08:30 AM
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This 100%! So annoying when others try to invalidate our feelings when we’re literally telling them as it is!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 04:40 AM
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You sound like a giver, and it’s not uncommon to fall prey to takers. Cherish your qualities because they’re amazing, but now it’s time to learn how to withhold from the takers and determine who deserves your giving. Edit: Check our givers vs. takers. Plenty of resources describing this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 07:40 AM
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The root cause is still disrespect. Everything else is a coverup. He wouldn’t need to defend you if he didn’t disrespect you to begin with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 06:29 PM
2

Second this amazing book. Really helped me understand some underlying issues from a new perspective.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 10:04 PM
1

I’m surprised you even bothered answering after the first/second comment he made. It screamed LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 04:44 AM
4

There is a book called “When I say No, I Feel Guilty”. It helped me reframe my mindset. As well as the book “How To Be An Adult in Relationships”. Therapy and assertive communication books are useful too! You can’t make people do anything, but you can set the standard to what behaviors you accept and do not accept. It is up to you to back up your actions in order to reinforce your boundaries and walk away when someone disrespects it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 07:45 AM
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That was my first instinct when I saw her in the background! Too bad I haven’t run into her outside though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 04:01 PM
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Thanks so much! I can’t get other neighbors involved since he’s off in a corner and the noise only disrupts me. ): I have emailed my rep a few times and started leaving formal complaints with her. He’s actually received notices to pay rent on time or he’ll be evicted so I’d actually be least of their worries! Haha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 03:59 PM
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Yas! Proud of you! I grew up with the notion that if someone approached me (usually guys), then they wanted something from me. I have not been wrong thus far. The only “male friends” I have are those in solid relationships, and they have explicitly told me they view me as a sister.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 09:08 AM
3

Also came from DoT! ( Also left DoT!) lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 09:00 AM
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Haha this reminds me of a time I was asked to smile at work. And I told him I’m not getting paid to smile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 06:10 PM
5

Oh gosh I read some of the snippets there and they’re literally admitting that our tactics work. Guy 1: ‘I feel bad she keeps paying for more when I make more. I want to try to even this out by putting in more effort.’ Guy 2: ‘The only time I really pay is when I really like the girl.’ Guy 3: ‘Dating a RN, she’s empathetic and thoughtful and kind.’ Uhhh buddy, you just described a huge chunk of RNs overall. Wow so enlightening.🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 06:36 PM
10

Everything about that screenshot is just a hot mess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 11:23 AM
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Oh no no no girl! Therapy will help! And if you’re super emotional, the sugar life is def not for you. Been there, done that. There are so many girls who are desperate to pay rent/etc that they low ball like crazy, and if you have the expectation to meet an older man who will “emotionally invest” in you...then you’re asking for a relationship. And relationships are difficult enough to find that can nurture you. You need to learn to nurture yourself, by yourself (with help of course). Guys on tho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 07:20 PM
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Boo you may want to look into therapy. You will never know why he left. And you’re not willing to accept that as truth because you’re in denial. And this pattern will continue to repeat unless you figure out the source of your issues and self worth without a man’s approval. I can’t help but read your questions as if you’re waiting for somebody, anybody, to give you the green light that there was something you could do to get him back. It won’t happen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 07:02 PM
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Omg this!! I came so close to posting on that thread, but ended up leaving the sub entirely after that post! She’s admit she’s looking for hookups. And I believe she also stated that she is a single parent so she seeks single dads. And then added on that she’s ok asking for the first 1-2 dates only, and the guy should also be asking her out after. /facepalm Her whole post reeks of “not like other girls” mixed with desperation in a cesspool that is validating their own agenda.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 06:54 PM
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My response was in response of another comment. Anyhoo the dude negged her twice. Once you pick up on the little nuances of micro aggression disguised as a “pick up lines”, the clearer you can read through LVM’s bs and disrespect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 06:03 PM
2

Yes this exactly! There’s plenty of guys to take your pick for ONS, but she’s already putting in too much work for one picky dude!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 04:28 PM
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After reading FDS, it’s clarified all the BS there ugh. Edit: Guess we’re also a quarantined and banned sub according to DOT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 04:10 PM
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Original: https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/f8om4t/potential_hookup_requesting_clean_sheets/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 10:52 AM
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Oh girl I feel you. Got stood up today too AND he told me a time and place and day prior. So instead I took myself out to dinner and some drunk guy at the bar tried to use me as a therapist! I just can’t today.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 09:43 AM
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One can be cute without belittling someone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 09:07 AM
5

Emotional blindness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 04:55 AM
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First you grieve. Mourn the end of the hope you had, the potential, the what if’s, this relationship. Everyone does this part differently. Don’t grieve by chasing or going back to him. Grieve with friends for a bit. Learn to manage how much time you dedicate to grieving. A few days, then an hour a day for awhile, then a few minutes until it becomes passing thoughts once you heal. Next you learn to be comfortable being alone. By yourself. With your thoughts and feelings and other emotions. Learn …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 09:50 PM
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I enjoy listening to his interviews and his books! His stories from Sex and the City days are also entertaining and he has explained why most of the couples on the show are not to be admired (especially Big and Carrie).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 05:27 AM
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”I’m a gentleman/any other positive descriptor” - I’m really an asshole trying to mask my shit traits because my actions don’t line up with my words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 12:00 AM
3

Still hate all the apps; but at least I can vet smoking, kids, height and location off the bat with Hinge. Only ever had one guy start the conversation after he initially invited me to start the conversation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 10:05 PM
5

Stable relationships have boring elements. Dysfunctional ones are emotional rollercoasters - hence the drama.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 09:59 PM
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I think they’re cute together, but it also feels like Kelly is holding back a bit too much. It was also cringey when Kenny said how gorgeous “G” was off the bat, but a clip prior all he could muster was “You’re so pretty, you’re so pretty” to Kelly. Not even beautiful or gorgeous. Just ...”pretty”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 09:57 PM
5

Essentially realized I was already following FDS mindset for some years, but to have those ideas supported by other women felt like going from years of gaslighting to seeing the light. It has validated my shit dating experiences and strengthened my need to continue prioritizing my life/self. The tough love, dating horrors and funny memes keep me here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:09 PM
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Body language says a lot about a person. The same goes when you are on dates, or work functions, etc. There was an article years back (forgot where) about celebrities who would walk in front of their partners and why those relationships didn’t last. It was very eye-opening and now I can’t unsee it everywhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 07:17 AM
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Wow did we meet the same guy?!! 😂😂😂 Also had some English bloke pull this same crap, but a year later when I already blocked him a year prior. He still found a way to contact me at late hours SMH.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 11:51 PM
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