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| 6 | I've asked this elsewhere, but I got no nuanced answers. What do I do when a close friend cheated on her boyfriend, who is also a good friend?So if your bf kissed another girl you wouldn’t care? | /r/askFDS | 11/10/21 04:26 PM |
| 15 | How Does FDS feel about Older Men Going Back to School to Level Up or Change a Career Path?It’s on you in the end but personally if a guy has done nothing wrong and I’m just not into it anymore I’ll give a little explanation before leaving. It’s just common curiosity and I would hope he would do the same for me if he’s not interested anymore. | /r/askFDS | 14/09/21 01:04 AM |
| 11 | How Does FDS feel about Older Men Going Back to School to Level Up or Change a Career Path?We’re you talking/ seeing each other ? If that’s the only thing keeping you away from him and you’re already seeing each other or have been talking for a while then tbh I think blocking and deleting is a bit harsh. Just a short n sweet “ I’m not interested, goodbye” text is sufficient esp if he hasn’t done anything malicious. | /r/askFDS | 13/09/21 11:49 PM |
| 18 | How Does FDS feel about Older Men Going Back to School to Level Up or Change a Career Path?Sorry, is he graduating in may or starting ? Either way, long way to go before becoming a doctor ( if he even gets accepted). It’s great that he’s going back to school and has such big dreams for himself but if you’re looking to settle down soon , it won’t happen with this guy. Med school is very demanding and expensive, he’s not going to be in a place to provide stability. | /r/askFDS | 13/09/21 10:33 PM |
| 15 | HVM with a low value familySorry, but why do they need to financially contribute to you ? | /r/askFDS | 13/09/21 12:02 AM |
| 5 | Being stalked and harassed by a scroteThanks ! | /r/askFDS | 10/09/21 06:35 PM |
| 9 | Being stalked and harassed by a scroteOmg he messaged me again. From what I think his real account is and this dude has a rape kink. Terrifying. | /r/askFDS | 10/09/21 06:25 PM |
| 6 | Being stalked and harassed by a scroteI tried to find that but can I do it from mobile ? | /r/askFDS | 10/09/21 06:24 PM |
| 10 | Being stalked and harassed by a scroteRight ! This guy is obsessed with me. I actually find it laughable that he wants me to believe he is mr Casanova and is pulling left right and centre lololol. I know what men who are suave and get a lot of women are like . This dude has never even kissed a girl | /r/askFDS | 10/09/21 04:52 PM |
| 14 | Being stalked and harassed by a scroteYup, lesson learnt. He made a new account and messaged me about this post , pretending to be caring and tips on how to contact Reddit to permanently block someone’s email. I knew it was him right away because the account was brand new. How much time does this loser have on his hands? | /r/askFDS | 10/09/21 04:25 PM |
| 25 | Driving incompatibility. Is it enough to break up ?Hey, fair enough! I have told her that driving is really important and that her decision to not drive is fine, but she needs to also provide her transportation. My ex didn’t drive and he relied on me. I hated it. | /r/askFDS | 04/09/21 04:34 AM |
| 13 | Driving incompatibility. Is it enough to break up ?We live in Canadá, so yes, while public transportation is good, having a car and driving makes getting around a lot easier . I agree that she should learn to drive, and I help her out with rides too but i can’t do it all the time. I can understand both sides. From what I have gathered, the road trip being cancelled was a huge disappointment. He made it very clear that being the only one driving for hours on end would not be a vacation for him but it also meant a lot to her. | /r/askFDS | 04/09/21 02:40 AM |
| 6 | Should I be worried?This would hurt my feelings too :/. But to be honest , I also have momentos of my ex in my closet as well as gifts. The gifts are nice things he bought for me- clothes, a camera. Why would I get rid of them when I use them all the time? I don’t even associate them with him and I’m 1000% over him. I’s he showing other signs of not being over her? | /r/askFDS | 01/09/21 03:42 PM |
| 2 | My bfs ex gf is dating a friend of mine. Do I need to talk to him about it?True! It’s a little awks . Even tho there’s nothing to be jealous of bringing up an ex is uncomfortable for both parties. But I’ll play it by ear . Just such a weird situation lmao | /r/askFDS | 26/08/21 08:23 PM |
| 2 | My bfs ex gf is dating a friend of mine. Do I need to talk to him about it?I haven’t had social media in almost a year and I really don’t wanna go back. And I’m not huge on him posting anything tbh but maybe . I might just tell my friend but it still feels weird to confide in him and keep it from my bf. I guess I’ll just keep my distance for now ! | /r/askFDS | 26/08/21 04:52 PM |
| 4 | My bfs ex gf is dating a friend of mine. Do I need to talk to him about it?I mean we weren’t super close but we were friends. He was at my birthday party before Covid and I’ve known him for a long time . But yeah, I’m gonna have to make a choice and it’s not going to be him and his gf over my bf. It’s just a very awkward situation. Of all the people Lmao. It’s also awkward bc she and I were following each other on ig and we had messaged each other about all meeting up 😬. I’m pretty extroverted and always looking to make new friends and I was so happy that my friend had… | /r/askFDS | 26/08/21 06:27 AM |
| 18 | Why should you never let a man know how much you love him?If he takes it for granted then he’s not a good dude to begin with and he will have shown signs of this before hand. A man who values you will not take your love for granted but will continue to value it and acknowledge how lucky he is. | /r/askFDS | 26/08/21 04:51 AM |
| 69 | Why should you never let a man know how much you love him?Can you explain a litttle more? Personally I think that if you’re dating a good guy and he tells and shows you how much he loves you then it’s ok to show/ tell him. Expressing love for a partner is important in maintaining a healthy relationship and if you don’t, they may feel like you don’t share their feelings. Of course this is after a relationship has been well established. That being said, never say you would die for anyone lol | /r/askFDS | 25/08/21 11:45 PM |
| 1 | Dating someone who travels for work?My bf works on a two week on two week off schedule so I have a little insight ! It’s rough, I won’t lie. I miss him so much when he’s gone and you need to work hard at it to maintain a strong relationship when there’s distance. When he’s away, plan things out together for when he’ll be back like vacations and activities. It’s fun to do together and it will give you something to look forward to. When my bf is away i also take the time to be with my friends and have some me time . Often when he’s … | /r/askFDS | 21/08/21 07:53 PM |
| 5 | When you're in a relationship with a HVM, how often would you/do you want to have sex?Everyone’s sex drive will be different ! My bf and I have a lot of sex. We are still very much in the honeymoon stage and so far he is v HV. He always focuses on my pleasure,goes down on me and PIV sex is slow , loving and gentle . There have been a few times where he nuts before me and he will still keep going for as long as he can and then finish me off with hands/ oral. It also starts out of the bedroom, he’s very affectionate and sweet and when I receive a lot of non sexual touch, it puts me… | /r/askFDS | 01/07/21 02:58 AM |
| 3 | Once you’re officially bf/gf, how often should you see each other ? How often should sleepovers happen?Very true ! Nothing has changed, but I just wanted to see the different answers out there . Everyone’s relationship is different and it’s interesting to hear about the dynamics | /r/askFDS | 04/06/21 04:05 PM |
| 3 | Am i starting to form an unhealthy attachment ?True! I also don’t sleep as well when we have sleepovers during the week because we stay up later and I sleep in more . So it’ll just be seeing each other for brunch before I go to work. He does love spending time with me as well and often wants to see me the second he gets back and I just always say yes, but again, i don’t want to become too dependent or have him resent me if his other relationships feel neglected. He does see his friends and family during the week but the pandemic rules haven’… | /r/askFDS | 22/05/21 04:38 PM |
| 2 | I (23 F) broke up with my boyfriend (28 M) for certain reasons. I am new to dating. Did I make the right call? Some people are saying my standards are too high or "sexist."Girl don’t listen to this person. They’re not helping at all. | /r/askFDS | 29/04/21 04:26 PM |
| 2 | I (23 F) broke up with my boyfriend (28 M) for certain reasons. I am new to dating. Did I make the right call? Some people are saying my standards are too high or "sexist."This isn’t helpful at all, you’re just being cruel. She dated a shitty guy, realized it and dumped him. Lesson learnt. Who among us hasn’t dated the wrong man? And if you haven’t, then good for you but don’t put down women who have, especially when they have dumped them. | /r/askFDS | 29/04/21 03:06 PM |
| 66 | I’ve been criticized for not hooking up with a guy after seeing him 3 times. My friend told me “we’re older now, so we do more.”Since I didn’t want to sleep with him, he took it as I didn’t want anything to do with him. I might have dodged a bulletStand your ground girl. I’m 26 and I used to sleep with guys too easily and I would just get my heartbroken and feel used. With my latest bf I waited 2 months and I’m so glad I did. He even said he’s glad that we waited , the right guy will wait and not push you to do something you’re not ready for. When I was in The initial stages of dating my bf my friends said similar things, that he would lose interest / think I’m not into him but that’s bs. And If he did, then good! Shows he’s not the one. … | /r/askFDS | 28/04/21 09:58 PM |
| 1 | Introduced FDS principles to friend. Resulted in a fight - need some insight!Oooo ive been there! I used to be a huge pick me. I was so desperate for love and attention and I would sleep with guys way too soon only to end up used and heartbroken. With my mOt recent bf, i waited 2 months ( not even long lol and I wish I had waited a líl more!) and till he asked me to be his gf. I’m glad I did, because it helped me keep a clear mind and get to know him and see that he wanted more than just sex. He told me that he’s glad we waited. Anyways, I’ve tried to gently advice my fr… | /r/askFDS | 28/04/21 06:25 PM |
| 2 | My best friend got love bombed and ghosted. What can I do to make her feel better?Totally! The advice given was so kind and loving . I guess I did see many red flags ( see another comment) but I kept quiet bc I thought “maybe I’m exaggerating , maybe he really is nice” but I know this type of behaviour bc I have had men act like this before . I would never say “ i told you so” bc I know that is useless and painful to hear. I’ll listen and ask her if she found any of his behaviour sus. Sometimes I feel my advice is not well received. I have advised my friends to not sleep with… | /r/askFDS | 28/04/21 06:08 PM |
| 2 | My best friend got love bombed and ghosted. What can I do to make her feel better?Oh for sure ! I have a feeling that this dude has a gf. Some red flags : he deleted his tinder as soon as they met irl, he told her on the first date he wasn’t seeing anyone else, he started acting like her bf right away ie calling her daily, coming to see her before going to see “ friends” ( no indoor dining is open rn and we’re not supposed to be seeing anyone we don’t live with) he only talked to her on snap, he never told her where he worked , he never invited her over, he has no social medi… | /r/askFDS | 28/04/21 06:01 PM |
| 17 | All men are 100% lying when they say they don't notice if a woman pays them attentionLmao when my ex’s ex was dm’ing him replies to his stories like “ bad boy” and “ send me that vid of that concert we went to together so I can post it” he said he didnt think she was flirting, that’s just how she was. Lmao asshole knew. He kept replying after i told him it hurt my feelings do i dumped him . | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 01:33 AM |
| 19 | Trim public hair?Ehhh. He’s hinting at it, and unless he’s made her feel bad/ shamed her I don’t really see the issue. He’s not asking her to wax or shave , just trim and that doesn’t cause any pain/discomfort nor is it costly. If a guy had a full bush I wouldn’t like it , so as long as he’s keeping the same standard for himself then I don’t see this as a big issue. | /r/askFDS | 21/04/21 05:36 AM |
| 1 | Female Dating Strategyhttps://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/mq39k9/i_dumped_my_hvm/gufgj36/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&context=3 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/04/21 02:59 PM |
| 0 | Female Dating StrategyStop lyibg lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/04/21 02:57 PM |
| 2 | Female Dating StrategyGirl everything you say is a lie! You got called out on FDS. Stabp | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/04/21 08:08 AM |
| 2 | Female Dating StrategyShe got caught lying on FDS lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/04/21 08:07 AM |
| 1 | How do I bring up marriage with my bf?Hmm weird! Yeah, I’m very happy with him but i won’t wait around either. He is super loving and kind and giving . He’s generous, empathetic, has told me multiple times that I am everything he wants in a partner and he once aaid I was his dream girl. His words have always matched his actions. I love him so much . | /r/askFDS | 16/04/21 05:53 AM |
| 5 | How do I bring up marriage with my bf?Why are you being down vote; ? | /r/askFDS | 16/04/21 04:22 AM |
| 4 | How do I bring up marriage with my bf?6 months is soon! We’ve been official for 4 of those . He is incredibly loving and kind and I love him so much. He’s told me I am everything he wants in a girl, that I am his dream girl and he never thought he’d meet someone like me. I just want to make it clear that marriage is something I want and I don’t want to wait around for it. | /r/askFDS | 15/04/21 06:40 PM |
| 28 | How do I bring up marriage with my bf?We have both said we want kids, marriage, well it hasn’t been discussed that much . He said he wanted to marry me once but it wasn’t in the most serious convo, and i didn’t say anything back. Another time he brought up when he wanted children but I got nervous and avoided it. So, tough to say. He’s super loving and kind and treats me really well. Im hoping it will come up again soon . | /r/askFDS | 15/04/21 06:39 PM |
| 4 | How often should I do Sleepovers with a bf?True ! It’s tough because he works out of town for Half the month and then is back for 2 weeks so I miss him so much and our time together is precious. But yeah, once a week is enough. I also do like my space and sleeping alone . He’s the type to hold on to me all night lol . | /r/askFDS | 15/04/21 02:23 AM |
| 4 | How often should I do Sleepovers with a bf?Well in this case he’s my boyfriend, so sex is happening . I waited 2 months before we had sex and 4 months before we had our first sleepover ( we have been togetherfor nearly 6) . Right now I only do a sleepover once a week,and I don’t think I would do more than that because I like to keep it limited. I mean, i would want to loo, because I love him so much but I don’t want him to get to used to me etc. | /r/askFDS | 15/04/21 01:58 AM |
| 2 | Is this a red flag ?Yeah, i still disagree. It’s something I’ll keep doing . I’m never baking directly for hm, and i like to share, esp bc he does sweet things for me. | /r/askFDS | 13/04/21 09:31 PM |
| 1 | Is this a red flag ?I see your point, but that’s not going to stop me from doing a hobby. Thanks for your input ! | /r/askFDS | 13/04/21 09:08 PM |
| 2 | Is this a red flag ?Meh . I love baking. I make things for myself and my family all the time and maybe 2x have given him leftovers to take home. Im Not making it jusr for him | /r/askFDS | 12/04/21 08:44 PM |
| 2 | Is this a red flag ?True! And they’re more than guidelines , technically if you’re caught breaking them you can get fined :/ | /r/askFDS | 10/04/21 06:47 AM |
| 2 | Is this a red flag ?Yup! He told me his mom said she wants us to all go out for dinner . | /r/askFDS | 09/04/21 07:41 PM |
| 3 | Is this a red flag ?True ! I feel like it be fishy if his fam didn’t know about me, but i thibk is just on hold until things clear up. His mom also immunocompromised. | /r/askFDS | 09/04/21 07:27 PM |
| 1 | Bf made a “joke” about marriage and idk how to take itTrue men do seem to know pretty fast! | /r/askFDS | 03/04/21 06:24 AM |
| 1 | Bf made a “joke” about marriage and idk how to take itTrue! It was cute that it was on his mind. | /r/askFDS | 02/04/21 04:58 AM |
| 4 | Bf made a “joke” about marriage and idk how to take itI just wasn’t expecting him to say anything marriage related I guess | /r/askFDS | 01/04/21 06:10 PM |
| 3 | Bf made a “joke” about marriage and idk how to take itOh that’s cute 🥺 | /r/askFDS | 01/04/21 05:08 PM |
| 3 | Bf made a “joke” about marriage and idk how to take itOh me neither! I think he’s the marriage type , bc earlier I said a co worker of mine is 24 and married and that it seems a bit young to be married by that age and he shrugged and said nah. I was more taken a back that he said he wouldn’t mind being told to marry me and then “ jk” | /r/askFDS | 01/04/21 04:44 PM |
| 2 | Bf made a “joke” about marriage and idk how to take itYes, exactly . He wouldn’t want an arranged marriage unless it was with me . But the followed up with a “just kidding” | /r/askFDS | 01/04/21 04:38 PM |
| 3 | Should you ever text someone first?I feel that. I’m at the point with my bf where our convos are just continuous, it’s hard to tell when they start or stop . | /r/askFDS | 12/03/21 09:15 PM |
| 13 | Should you ever text someone first?Uhmm depends ! At the beginning of dating , then no. Once you’re in a relationship, then I think it’s okay as long as they text you first most of the time. | /r/askFDS | 12/03/21 06:45 PM |
| 4 | I unknowingly gave my bf chlamydia and now my relationship is on the rocks .I was told by the doctor that I did not need to when I asked him. When my boyfriend called the doctor to get meds , he had to ask him to but in a requisition to get tested again . Otherwise, the doctor would not have put it in and he even asked his doctor if he needed to get re tests and they said normally they don’t . | /r/askFDS | 11/03/21 02:27 AM |
| 3 | I unknowingly gave my bf chlamydia and now my relationship is on the rocks .I already got us medications and he spoke to his doctor on the phone ( Covid does not allow in person visits unless necessary) he asked his doctor questions on it and the doctor confirmed that it is possible for the meds not to work. He also did re search and spoke to the pharmacist and got some more info as well. I am going to show him my old records too, but things are ok now. It’s a hurdle, but he’s made it clear we are getting through this together. | /r/askFDS | 11/03/21 02:23 AM |
| 2 | I unknowingly gave my bf chlamydia and now my relationship is on the rocks .I have seen the negative results. It’s more likely I. Gave it to him than he did to me at this point. | /r/askFDS | 11/03/21 12:54 AM |
| 2 | I unknowingly gave my bf chlamydia and now my relationship is on the rocks .Yeah probably . It be sad if someone told him to dump me because “she’s probably cheating “ . | /r/askFDS | 10/03/21 10:31 PM |
| 1 | I unknowingly gave my bf chlamydia and now my relationship is on the rocks .Agreed! I did everything I could. I woke up early the next morning ( we stayed up till 2 talking about it) and went to the clinic as soon as it opened and brought the meds to him. It’s an unfortunate incident but I think we’re gonna be okay. Thank you for thes support | /r/askFDS | 10/03/21 10:30 PM |
| 8 | I unknowingly gave my bf chlamydia and now my relationship is on the rocks .Agreed. We will get past this . I wonder , I’f the situation were reversed, would FDS give the same advice ?would he be worth trusting ? | /r/askFDS | 10/03/21 10:10 PM |
| 3 | I unknowingly gave my bf chlamydia and now my relationship is on the rocks .Yeah, I will be giving him proof. Since then things have been okay... I feel awful | /r/askFDS | 10/03/21 09:30 PM |
| 25 | I unknowingly gave my bf chlamydia and now my relationship is on the rocks .Isnt it normal to have a sliver of doubt? He asked me what I would do if the situation were reversed and I said I would trust him but also want proof ( I will be showing him my test results from back then ) Putting myself in his shoes I think I would have some doubt. I put his health at risk by not being more responsible :( . He just texted me and said that we are going to get through this together and he loves me. I’m hoping for the best. | /r/askFDS | 10/03/21 09:16 PM |
| 1 | Male co worker being a jerk after I rejected himI have a couple male friends who i adore and have healthy relationships with, but I’ve experienced the “nice guy” too many times now. Luckily I don’t need to see this guy much and when I do need to speak with him at work I will keep ir work related and if he tries to talk about nothing else I will straight ignore it . | /r/askFDS | 19/02/21 05:13 AM |
| 1 | Male co worker being a jerk after I rejected himI stopped texting him ages ago about personal stuff and the last few times , it was to please come on time bc I was tired of waiting. Nothing else This is great advice tho! Will do ! It may be awks , but I shouldn’t entertain him . | /r/askFDS | 18/02/21 11:42 PM |
| -2 | Male co worker being a jerk after I rejected himWhen did I say I wasn’t going to be civil? I said several times i was going to be civil, but not friendly. There’s a difference. I haven’t texted him in ages, plus he blocked me lmao . I dont want him to like me again, but I’m fed up with him trying to get me to leave as soon as get gets on shift. | /r/askFDS | 18/02/21 10:40 PM |
| -2 | Male co worker being a jerk after I rejected himI replied to a Covid related situation and then stopped. It’s on him in the end and I just need to deal with working with this jerk, but at the same time I’m not going to keep letting him talk me down at work when we see each other. | /r/askFDS | 18/02/21 10:23 PM |
| 1 | Male co worker being a jerk after I rejected himWe stopped texting after h told me that. I dont like him talking me down so I’m going to stand up for myself, it’s not lecturing. I have to work with this person everyday so yes, I’m gonna have to find a way to deal with it . And no, it is not entry level lmao what kind of a question is that. | /r/askFDS | 18/02/21 09:53 PM |
| 5 | Potential red flag?nothing has happened , its just something ive always had in the back of my mind. He said its the only time he's done FWB. I did tell him that he led her on and he that that she was okay with the arrangment at first but then caught feelings. She also lived a state over and he maintained that he did not want a LDR. Regardless, he said had liked her and did feel guilty. We are official and have been for 1.5 months now. He puts a lot of effort into our relationship, pays for everything, surprises me… | /r/askFDS | 14/02/21 01:54 AM |
| 1 | Bf almost said “ I love you” but stopped midway . What should I do?So i should bring it up? How do I go about that? I’m so nervous that he didn’t mean to say it or that he maybe didn’t say it and I just misheard. | /r/askFDS | 13/02/21 04:01 AM |
| 1 | Bf almost said “ I love you” but stopped midway . What should I do?Very true ! I do feel it, but it be nice to also hear him say it . I know he’s a little nervous bc when he came back the last time, he told me that he really missed me but that he didn’t want to say it over text too much because he didn’t want to be over bearing. I told him to tell me because I feel the same way and it’s nice to know how we feel . | /r/askFDS | 12/02/21 05:24 PM |
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