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This is damn near assured. Sigh.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/24 08:20 PM
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To your question I'm not sure why you feel guilty. Additionally, my personal yet unsolicited advice would be to immediately focus on yourself. Doing so requires that you de-prioritize the place that all women hold in your life. Unfortunately, this includes women that may express interest in you, including the ones you refer to in your post/share. Lastly, be well, my brother. I mean that in the most sincere manner.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/24 08:19 PM
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You’re a great man, and, I assume, a great mapmaker.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/23 09:17 PM
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Well presented post! Can you share the B Cooper skit referenced please? I could not find it. Thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 09:49 PM
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Well presented. Seemingly well researched. I support this hypothesis.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 07:57 PM
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Perspective Matters!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 02:50 AM
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Enjoy your like-new Toyota Cresseda!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 01:58 PM
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I believe you. Across the board. If you want a little comic relief and a clue of sorts that you’re not alone in what you are experiencing google: fuck them kids gif
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/23 11:17 AM
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Links are allowed
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/23 06:50 AM
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Hornier you say? I would tend to agree. Thank you for this GEM.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/23 06:48 AM
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So insightful of you to determine this truth prior to marriage. May it remain firmly implanted in your reason/decision area of your brain. May others heed and take sincere note.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/23 06:36 AM
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The way and there is no other way. Ask your obi-wan-kenobi and mr miyagi. This sub is the best dojo ever in all the lands.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/23 06:34 AM
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All good. Figured u were reaching Reddit from a Moses type tablet vs an iPad or whatever. Still hilarious. Thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/23 05:08 AM
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Many of us do get lower than ever, and I am here to chat as often as you can. By phone unless we’re neighbors. How’s that sound? Lady above speaks the truth also. Brave to you for choosing 2 share and I and I’m certain others are there for you with some super relative UNDERSTANDING. hit me up, trade war stories, and find ourselves. Love!!
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/23 06:34 AM
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Helpful to others. More favor in your immediate future, friend. Abracadabra! 🪄🪄🪄🎯
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/23 06:28 AM
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Does TIME magazine still do the phrase/saying of the year big issue? If so I’m buying as many copies as I can this year; Emotionally Unavailable is 2023’s Macarena!
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/23 06:17 AM
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I want to commission this on a large canvas, that’s how well you painted the picture. Is the Rembrandt dude still paintin’???
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/23 06:13 AM
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Bogus TRO/TPO Club is where it’s at! (Tips hat)
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/23 06:11 AM
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SAMESIES! See my other comment here. Awe fucking STRUCK, ya hear me? Grown kids, the lot of them❗️
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/23 06:10 AM
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20 freaking 23. You could have told me she threw out all the color crayons he gave her, and it’d be no less “WTF?”, in a sign of the times way. I wouldn’t mind stumbling upon a TikTok “storytime” from my ex in which she inadvertently admits all her familial failings, but what you saw (or were sent) sounds just as satisfying/confirming. Maybe you can frame the post using some type of NFT/Black Mirror-type momento tech… Thanks for sharing!
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/23 06:04 AM
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May it be so. Thank you!
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/23 05:56 AM
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It’s oh so appropriate for a typical member of this sub. I find myself in a delightfully pitiful apartment right now, yet it’s so much more peaceful and calm than my marital house was toward the end. I still drive by to say hi to it (1st time owner), make sure it’s still structurally sound, and as I pull away, I can hear the faint but noticeable voices of soon-to-be-remunerated home equity dollars speaking sweet nothings to me! (Heads to Zillow). Anyhow, be very well Friend!!
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/23 10:47 PM
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No I mean it. Really.
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/23 10:43 PM
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Get a tenacious attorney that knows all the judges. This is just for the restraining order proceedings. Fuck her sheisty lawyer! But play nice.
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/23 06:53 AM
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This was all our Ex wives and STBXWs when they were dating, and engaged to, US….
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/23 06:50 AM
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El todo. All, not most.
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/23 06:35 AM
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UR A HERO TO MEN YOUVE NEVER MET. thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/23 06:34 AM
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We share in your small victories/confirmations. I appreciate you sharing!
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/23 06:14 AM
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TELL US MORE, please. 🦻🏽
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/23 06:07 AM
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Bless Al Gore and his creation!
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/23 06:04 AM
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All good deeds….. (man’s Achilles heel seems to be just being a good, thoughtful, and helpful person. Bewildering!)
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/23 04:57 AM
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Gives them impenetrable “cover” for being a shit human. Trust the science, remember?
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/23 04:54 AM
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SOOOO many of us congregated here. Can attest.
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/23 04:54 AM
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Assist: https://www.verywellhealth.com/cluster-b-personality-disorders-5235259#:~:text=The%20four%20types%20of%20cluster%20B%20personality%20disorders%20are%20borderline,antisocial%20personality%20disorder%20(ASPD).
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/23 04:53 AM
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She formed this opinion whilst overdosing on some insta- of Tik-tock “guru”. So it’s pretty much solidified, peer reviewed and wholly factual 😏
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/23 04:52 AM
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I feel you, even though I thought you were being insensitive at first. I so feel u!
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/23 04:50 AM
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Love ur screen name!
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/23 04:47 AM
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You’re worth so much!!!
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/23 04:47 AM
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Can I message you, for similar reasons?
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/23 04:43 AM
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U r not an outlier. Look up Silver Bullet divorce strategy. Seeing your story, doesn’t make me feel good, but it lets me know I’m not alone in how BETRAYED I was. Will read a bit more and lean fully in, trust me, you’re coming through this grinder just like I am! Love ya, my brother. I’m sorry, as the person you yearn to hear that from won’t even bother.
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/23 04:42 AM
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Mucho gusto!!
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/23 12:03 PM
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I’m so glad you appreciated. Will watch yours today, actually. The betrayal has been brutal for me!!
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/23 12:03 PM
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SUB-SCRIBED!
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/23 11:53 AM
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Sweep the leg and find that pension, Daniel-son.
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/23 11:50 AM
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The kids iPad is inherently neutral, at least arguably. Often we forget to sign out and erase our tracks when conducting scandalous missions on devices we don’t use every day. Also, I feel there is a dearth of published tips on what I would call DIY-P.I. work. Maybe you can read a shit-ton of final judgments via Google Scholar to see what is uncovered by successful P.I.’s in your area. Or, go meet one and ask if you can drop off donuts and sbux cards during an initial consultation. If done well,…
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/23 11:48 AM
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Troll her, subscribe to shit like Popular Science, Medical Journals, Mensa Monthly, expand and display your non-fiction portion of your library, get some cool ass Bookends, get super active in the phone app that tied to your library card. Bitchez hate Bookends! Chad and Tyrone are rarely INTELLECTUALLY CURIOUS. yeah she’s being petty and projecting but I’m so serious about the BOOKENDS! Report back in 45 days! 🧠🧠🧠🧠🎖️👆🏾🧠🧠🧠🧠🚀
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/23 06:50 AM
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Only skimmed this cuz I’m heading out, but I observed this: THEY LOATHE ANY MOMENTS THAT MAKE THEM FEEL SOMEHOW LESS INTELLIGENT THAN HUBBY. and from my skim, I’m betting dollars to donuts that you hold/held that role, even if it was through simple things like RESEARCH, SOURCES, SCIENTIFIC METHOD and the like. Now I see why “they” want “MOARE WIMMEN INN. S.T.I.M.”!!
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/23 06:46 AM
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THANK YOU! Semi related: https://youtu.be/Jf2CC73eKqk?si=-iCLfnHuV0B6IiRE And https://youtu.be/Y8-ibhrkVuU?si=8NuLyBmGlawzGA0h
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/23 06:17 AM
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You may just like a warm body next to you and the known spooning positions. Don’t mis-diagnose yourself or anyone else. Exception is the female covert narcissist; Biden, Fauci & The Science all AGREE that we are good armchair diagnosing those heifers. Little Shaman on YouTube helped me..
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/23 06:03 AM
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Sounds like she will net payout to you. 401k, pension, short term alimony possibly. You have to privately strategize and publicly sell a version of you being stupid and naive AF. She already is certain she’s better and much smarter than you; THEY ALL DO.
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/23 05:56 AM
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Hi bro, it DOES sound like time to stop trying. Try you, meet yourself, I double dog dare you. Much love and calmness is what I send your way. AbraCadabra! ⚡️
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/23 05:54 AM
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You are an amazing human. Trust me.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/23 12:00 PM
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My favorite clubhouse last couple of years. A well of wit and so many eerily similar betrayal tales….
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/23 07:42 AM
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Main Character in their own Top Rated network series! Way bigger than Cheers or Seinfeld. Duh.
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/23 07:40 AM
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Don’t ignore internal reasons. The whole bible is dotted with warnings about women.
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/23 08:59 PM
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Did ur username used to be NAWALT5923?
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/23 08:58 PM
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Women are so selfish, self centered and self minded, that they truly don’t see how legitimately evil and diabolical they are. Simps are undefeated in the all time simplymics pantheon. May we never underestimate the depths they will travel to for pure, unadulterated simpery. As is often said and hoped for, may the kids eventually see what was what and who was who. I hate it here. Not really but sex IS surely overrated. FIN.
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/23 08:56 PM
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Thank you in the most literal and meaningful way. Enjoy your week!
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/23 08:47 PM
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Spooky; and you write in a nice while compelling format.
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/23 07:34 AM
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More to your share, dollars to donuts she betrayed you in a coordinated effort to “level-up” herself in that same rarified circle that you completely introduced her too. Assuming I’m right, expected and sworn loyalty to you never materialized during her “unhappiest” hour. What I’m saying is, I know she wasn’t cheating with any accounts payable rep or staff accountant. I have a couple of MD friends from school, and on the rare social occasions I come into their weekend world, it seems all the oth…
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/23 07:33 AM
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Doc, if it can happen to you then damn near should have happened to me. Which it did (womp). You know what i mean. Gross earnings aside, know in your heart tonight, that your fraternity of subreddit strangers are herby by your side.
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/23 07:18 AM
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Still cheated on me alongside said frnemies, STB ex in-laws still covered for her lies, never reached out to me at all even when homeless, and are often involved/COMPLICIT in clear PARENTAL ALIENATION bullshittery….
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/23 06:43 AM
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You got me cheesing so wide with how you wrap things up: Blah Blah This That Blah Blah Plus, ever time I see the ex, she’s looking uglier! Smiling again. Thanks.
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/23 06:38 AM
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I bet the young lady’s haircut is superb. Good on you, Dad.
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/23 06:36 AM
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This Is the way. A succinct list that wound comfort and encourage the typical “and now I’m here” post. Peace be upon all the guys.
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/23 06:35 AM
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This read like the best classic Too $hort track. Thanks, playboy.
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/23 06:33 AM
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Like no theory or memory about when or how that switched flipped completely? Come on bro!
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/23 06:31 AM
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Downloaded and like so far. Keep promoting. Keep teaching.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/23 05:22 AM
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I love it, and I love that you took the time it took to get me started. Would you be fine with me messaging g you about my personal situations, or would you prefer I pose questions here in an open thread? I tend to be leery about my stbx or her counsel somehow identifying/doxxing me on Reddit and a couple other platforms. But more pressing is what I do or don’t do in the days between today and a (the?) trial. I’m hereby committing to being dense and thorough vs. piecemeal and cagey. That goes fo…
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/23 05:15 AM
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New term catching on all over Al Gore’s internet: DELULU
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/23 12:50 AM
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That last sentence = THUG LIFE
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/23 12:50 AM
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What is that damn reason though?? Not a rhetorical question at all..
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/23 12:36 AM
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Now why would such a kind soul deserve abandonment? It’s not like she…
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/23 12:34 AM
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Would love to hear a spin-off discussion about the best parting gifts possible for individual situations. I’d sign up so fast..
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/23 12:33 AM
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Wait, are we naming names now? Please say yes. I’m ready.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/23 12:32 AM
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(Audience member): “sir, can you talk more about the network part??”
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/23 12:31 AM
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Look at you, a genius and a saint at the same damn time. I admire you.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/23 12:29 AM
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Google his exact suggestions. Find the related rabbit holes; go down them.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/23 12:24 AM
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Never seen before: a man doing his best to do all the things we collectively express regret over not doing. OP, best of wishes to you and your son/kids, these guys here will hook you up with what you seek. Be well.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/23 12:22 AM
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Heartfelt yes privileged AF? The sound of a hit dog, hollering? Or just sassy and judgmental as a default setting? Seriously, what’s your deal or angle?
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/23 12:19 AM
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OP, please allow me to piggyback your post with a related, but different question: Seems many women file first, immediately seeking/demanding complete custody (on their way to demanding the house, the positive equity, all other marital assets, and only her personal debts). (<~~~a topic worthy of a spin-off discussion!) Has anyone experienced this and then employed a FAFO (FUCK AROUND AND FIND OUT) legal strategy in response? In other words, giving her Full Custody to the point of insisting she g…
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/23 12:14 AM
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May your condition be of minimal annoyance over your long life. I appreciated the entirety of your subtle post also.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/23 12:06 AM
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Ruh Roh; I was about to accept it all without fact checking. Was that a Ronnie Reagan administration thing? Related, have you seen or heard the Louis CK bit about how we have used the word “retarded” over time? You should. This is no insult or critique either, trust me.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/23 12:05 AM
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Where’d you go fishing for $3500? The Bahamas? Otherwise, thanks for the education and testimony. Helpful.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/23 12:02 AM
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You were going for sarcastic bordering on sassy. And here I am thinking you were going for helpful. Silly me.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/23 11:59 PM
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You taught me a great word, thank you!
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/23 11:58 PM
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Wouldn’t know; married a second time and am divorcing again. This is the one that hurts: romantically and financially. GMB = get married brehs (sarcastically used)
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/23 06:11 PM
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That bewildering feeling of knowing the truth, your ex also knowing that same truth, but the ex has fully committed to a tale that is substantially false. May everyone who you once had mutual respect for/from you also know the truth, sooner than later.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/23 05:30 AM
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I read it three times in a row. Exemplary, and what a great primer for a young guy who just had his world rocked. Thank you for indulging me; I’m consistently seeing that men are typically more benevolent, more cerebral and more loyal than we are ever given credit for. Your reply supports all these characteristics! You can write and synopsize extremely well, and you obviously stopped what you were doing to put those thoughts (and stats!) together, just because I asked in good faith. Lastly, even…
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/23 05:19 AM
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Thanks. My best received posts in this sub are ones like this; where my pain and frustration seems to somehow connect to my pen (keyboard). Feels like my brain is only involved as it relates to grammar and proofreading for brevity, etc. in other words, those words came from very specific experiences of mine, some of which persist. The numb pain accosts me daily, and reading about someone in the earlier stages often makes me excited: excited that I can be an early, or even initial voice of unders…
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/23 04:58 AM
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The lopsided inequities you share here encourage me. Thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/23 04:37 PM
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ISWYDT, you are subtly trying to holler. I like your tactics and I bet it works. Yours, Cupid
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/23 04:35 PM
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U smart…. U strategic…. I APPRECIATE YOU. Zero Sum strategy is of interest to me for similar and obvious reasons! Ditto on what some call Administrative Violence!
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/23 03:07 PM
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Shoutout to your teenager!
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/23 03:04 PM
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The seasoned perspective I didn’t know I needed. Thank you. May I remain as risk averse as you as the years progress. Enjoy your Sunday!
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/23 03:02 PM
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Look into 529 plans for college expenses. Schwab would be a great firm to consult with first.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/23 03:00 PM
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Lowbrow media excites these big children. She surely sees herself in one of those VH1 reality people, or some grifting ass “influencer”. This means she doesn’t like her true self and would do anything to feel closer to being whichever “hero” she’s currently cosplaying as. Halloween is coming soon, but she’s never EVER gonna BE Bethany, NeNe or the owner of the toxic insta-Tok-book profile she covets and occasionally stalks. As you know, on- and offline, she has very few followers and struggles t…
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/23 11:13 AM
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This is the only way.
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/23 11:05 AM
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Re: Fumble - that’s 2023 social media language. She is and has been a TRENDHOPPER, a TRENDZILLA. I married two myself. Unless she’s a young gay man, or a sassy young black woman, she’s employing lingo she picked up wherever she goes for her pop culture gossip and like you, I find it to ring as totally IN-AUTHENTIC, and meant to insult only. Demographics aside, she’s sure as shit not giving you constructive criticism. That’s not the verbiage of an altruistic person; she’s parroting bullshit sassy…
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/23 11:01 AM
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Never heard a scenario where ardent no-contact will instantly help. You are not, nor have you ever been one of her girlfriends: she shouldn’t be able to send you pictures nor fucking “I’m out here winning without your ass” darts (dressed up as so-called “normal texts/emails/chat). You must remove all access to yourself and the beautiful soul within. Co-parenting app only if young kids are involved and custody battles loom). I know nothing more than your screen name and I should be able to get a …
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/23 10:48 AM
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ALWAYS here! Around the clock.
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/23 10:27 AM
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They sleep well and probably don’t even mourn for your former side of the bed. Seems like they master the act of quickly forgetting all the humanity in someone that they know better than nearly anyone their entire lived life. Ex-boyfriends are given more consideration and grace than soon to be Ex husbands. Being fully honest about how the hurt of real betrayal plays out in most of your idle thoughts is therapeutic as hell though; I know sharing that image that probably wreaks continuous havoc in…
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/23 10:25 AM
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You express what’s never or hardly mentioned : the massive, and consistent sadness that has nothing to do with red pills or shoulda’ woulda’ shit like maintain frame, it was just our turn, etcetera. I can find things humorous as well as make funny statements, but I can’t ever honestly say that the massive sadness has ever left my body/brain since she filed. You can message me for offline support and actual understanding too; it would be an honor to help someone in the ways I felt wholly un-helpe…
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/23 10:08 AM
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Will happily show you around atlanta if u just wanna get away and forget about the betrayal and dismantled family for a few days. Call your EAP program or equivalent tonight or tomorrow morning. Get the names and numbers of 5 or so male therapists near your zip code that do virtual sessions and are currently taking new clients. Don’t self hurt, please. Also don’t share those feelings with any org beside the one you mentioned. Available by note. Text or call whenever you need a truly understandin…
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/23 10:03 AM
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Support him by doing whatever you can to get him the best attorney for the situation, the legal venue and most of all, the “win” he probably feels very unlikely to see down the road. Message me or probably any of us here for more “workshopping”. For me, that’s primarily listing and knowing all that’s up for grabs, pardon the term. All that hangs in the balance is more poetic, but legal divorce is blunt, and the consequences of the main “up for grabs” disagreements can be, and will probably be, h…
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/23 01:44 AM
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One question: what’s unique or challenging about today’s world? I could write a preamble myself, but it’s like form to lead the witness. Thank you in advance my guy.
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/23 01:26 AM
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Would love to interview you down the road. What you felt worth skipping over will actually save lives and livelihoods. Admirable, indeed. Thanks for sharing today.
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/23 01:24 AM
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This is the way. Best to you, big man. (Your writing style made me envision a big ol’ tall guy. Disregard if too awk, I picked up exactly what you put down).
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/23 01:22 AM
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Until I told her an one of the APs I knew what was up and that both should respect the sanctity of family. She quickly hit me with the silver-est bullet this side of the Mississippi.
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/23 01:20 AM
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Sorry my guy. Can relate way too well. Alas, it was just my turn. Sub, is the conventional wisdom STILL to not expend energy on ANY effort/plan to publicly SHAME these family destroying skanks? Because financial and parental right vindication aside, isn’t the best medicine for an Attention seeking/craving/needing “person” an equally strong and vocal/viral/unmistakable dose of Bad Attention? I seethe at how freely a cheater can galavant around PRETENDING that the divorce was somehow not FUELED an…
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/23 04:49 AM
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IOS VOICE NOTES ARE YOUR FRIEND. MY daughter and I exchange them every day.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/23 02:12 PM
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How’d hearing go?
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/23 02:11 PM
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Some person or internet influencer or internet trend told her to do that. Worm are malleable followers, as you surely know. No legal advice, others will surely help there. You should not afford her any courtesy she withholds from you. Zero Sum. Administrative Violence. Accept nothing and ONLY ignore her bullshit de jour when it’s the best decision for you legally.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/23 09:58 AM
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Married at city hall there, and ate lunch in Napa-proper after. That was my first marriage. Message me though, I’ll point you to a local player or two.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/23 09:53 AM
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This. Plausible Deniability. PWNED hers (sans stones) and mine: 10 percent to 25 percent sounds super accurate. Got a steak or something.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/23 09:50 AM
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Thanks bro. Tell us more you learned from the pure aintshit-ness you experienced from a person that was once a best friend. I’ll match you story for story, I bet. So proud of you seeing it through; they would love to write a sad little narrative for us if we did quit. Nah, we here, beyotches!
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/23 09:46 AM
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I saw the cliff notes her atty helped her craft for my restraining order hearing. I’ve never mentioned it. That’s how dark it was. I got some stories as do you!
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/23 08:05 AM
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I can share my observations directly with you if these two boomers keep ignoring u. Let me know, Krazy.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/23 05:59 AM
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Rude as fuck, the lot of ‘em. Including my teenage son, lil’ twirp.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/23 05:58 AM
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Recognize ur username. You share many gems here IIRC. For that, please accept my thanks.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/23 05:56 AM
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Imagine all the sad sabotage acts we will never know of. Fuck it, we out!
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/23 05:47 AM
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Write a book
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/23 05:30 AM
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Sounds like she had partially pre-spent a chunk of your expected retirement payment and then you “pulled the rug” on her olan$ with that “unilateral” decision. Am I way off? Also, I believe you.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/23 05:29 AM
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Found tons of stuff via ur posts and comments; THANKS
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/23 05:20 AM
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You bring up an interesting point; the subjective and non-verbal, if you will, factors that judges interject into their rulings is beyond scary. Someone should do a book and/or documentary about this. Divorce Corp 2 - Electric Boogaloo
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/23 05:19 AM
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You described something I experienced so beautifully: SHE SAW ME IN A LOW MOMENT AND BOLTED Will be borrowing that; thank you, friend!
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/23 09:21 PM
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That’s the old Craigslist Casual Encounters ratio!
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/23 07:34 PM
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KEEP.DOING.THAT.
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/23 07:33 PM
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How’s the saying go? Not your circus, not your clowns!
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/23 07:30 PM
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Good shit neighbor! I’m in the county too and also plan on writing my first book. Thanks for the motivation for my own situation!!!! Awesome, FRFR.
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/23 07:23 PM
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And after reading your post, I’m firmer in my resolve to continue on Going My Own Way post-divorce. Sound’s rightfully painful; sorry that happened to you!
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/23 07:20 PM
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I think I’m the biggest Elvin Bishop fan alive, but then I met you. Wishing you well, Amigo.
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/23 07:18 PM
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She just texted me so I can tell you that you practice Cultural Appropriation, which some interpret as Racism (sarcasm). Be well, homie!
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/23 07:16 PM
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What did a Zebra symbolize? Vitiligo? Peace be upon you, sir.
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/23 07:15 PM
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Appreciate the balance and nuance of your point. Being wronged does not = you were, and are, always right. Thanks Fuzz.
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/23 07:13 PM
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Their mileage will match ours, inexplicably!
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/23 07:12 PM
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Is your story shared in other posts? Need some of your fortune to rub off on my situation!
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/23 07:00 PM
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EVASIVE EXPERTS, ALL OF THEM.
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/23 06:59 PM
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HOW DARE YOU
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/23 06:58 PM
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Please set a reminder to tell me, or us. But especially me. You will be getting all that is due to you, breh!
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/23 06:57 PM
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They have been in the news lately, check it out. What type of Knick knacks you get?
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/23 06:56 PM
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Thank you for your Expert Testimony today, Mr Lothario!
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/23 11:17 AM
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https://youtube.com/shorts/LrXiMr8GU58?si=XTk5-klNMPd1fM8J
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/23 06:29 AM
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Research “BETRAYAL TRAUMA”.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/23 02:55 AM
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U have not failed! U were fired, then predictably DISCARDED. Same happened to me, including the restraining order and 2 week thing. Will assist you in any way I can.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/23 02:53 AM
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Go watch the movie scene where she dies in a cheap HOE-tel with her gold coins. It will take on new meaning for you. Par, then Bar. Also, Wife, then LIFE. Your future will assuredly be gleaming.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/23 02:42 AM
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No fixing this in my opinion. I can commit to rap with you offline as others did for me as you navigate it all. You’ll get so much good advice in this thread alone. I’m sorry brother. Ask me anything too, headed to trial soon myself. She cheated as well. Cheaters that destroy their own families are SCUM.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/23 02:37 AM
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Yeah TEMU.com
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/23 01:19 AM
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Thank you for this testimony this blessed morning, friend. I say that with full sincerity and in the spirit of his creation, instruction, provision, and divinity. Amen. Sharing this helps some of Us more than it will ever help you. Trust me. (M/43/Georgia)
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/23 09:48 AM
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U already know!
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/23 09:41 PM
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It’s still always jermaine’s fault!
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/23 11:52 AM
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BIIITCH! (Too $hort Voice)
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/23 03:54 PM
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Happy Friday guys just was brought back to this post because I got an alert that one of your fair gentleman reply to something. I apparently said in his thread proximately 98 days ago my comment today is it an extreme compliment I hope it does not fall on deaf ears, for I mean it with every fiber of my soul, as I read posts in our sub here I am continually equal parts, impressed, motivated, inspired, and admiring of the grammatical skill and to a lesser degree, the poetic and humorous elements t…
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/23 03:49 PM
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Mine embraced Magical Thinking too. Super common in this era. Here is an old jam I recently discovered that gives me a weird sense of joy! https://youtu.be/DbfOq4l1jIk
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/23 03:32 PM
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She was my all too It's currently two years in about two months since I discovered one affair and one sexual transmitted disease that she gave me and one bullshit restraining order request approval and subsequent six-month extension with no physical violence alleged occurred etc She just wasn't happy; the recent change in my financial situation was only a coincidencene; and The handful of undeniable proof of recent present and even forward planned incidents of infidelity were just my imagination…
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/23 04:22 PM
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Flip cup, jeez. Thanks for making the following connection crystal-clear for me: *she felt most attractive (read: peak "Supply rate" of frequent male Attention) during years 16-23ish *she also feels certain that said rate has dropped consistently and increasingly dramatically in every-single-year (read: season) that followed. This includes the year she married you. You and the kids are literally making her uglier by the day, 9/10 social media psychics confirmed this as well. The study results ar…
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/23 09:16 PM
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Does not compute. Did you mean Family Destroyer?
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/23 12:41 AM
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+1
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/23 07:14 AM
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Can be valuable to save all pix vids text emails for potential litigation purposes. Ex: phone pix are cleanly stored by date, location (even if you disabled, you’ve been sent pix from others with loc tags), and I know iPhone pix are (creepily?) indexed according to items or people in the pictures. Maybe you need to find a picture from before and after a key argument you two had while at a #beach? Just search beach. Same with anytime you took video or audio document something erratic she was doin…
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/23 04:09 PM
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Thank you for sharing. Never know who you help, most still suffer in slow silence.
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/23 09:52 PM
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You came to the right place. Nice to hear you didn’t gift her your seed as originally planned. A woman in America today finding a way to be truly loyal is like a modern NBA player deciding to not smoke weed so they can be the best athlete possible. You don’t sound mad nor hurt, I bet you have excellent genes and haven’t watched a rom-com in your life. I admire you already bro; I’ll leave the pointed advice to my better veterans here. Love.
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/23 08:33 PM
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Real talk. I’d buy your next two drinks were this a bar. (Tips hat)
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/23 12:42 PM
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(Whispering) you made her relevant all things being equal; think of the futility in winning a PR-battle against that one. Even one battle of the whooooooooole (can feel like) ever-loving-War; it’s like The Brady Bunch except with no Marsha. (Canceled halfway through second season) FRFR, fuck her and that shit. I PROMISE you bro, less people are tuning in than you ever imagined. (Elaborate metaphors are my thing, hope you enjoy)
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/23 12:40 PM
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This is a unique phase that I’ve only observed in the wild. Best left undisturbed they say…. 👻👻👻
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/23 12:30 PM
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The New Killers, Indeed.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/23 12:22 PM
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Slow fucking golf cap. Next level. See my other comment in this thread. Just give the meme-maker all the Pulitzers now and go home. Jack London could never!
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/23 12:19 PM
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Thanks for this. I understand (read: rationalize) how we naively went along with her somehow “giving” us actual sexual exclusivity. But how did I not clearly see that, she’s going to attempt to raise the kid(s) on the basis of her feelings only, bonus points for being diametrically opposed to any input I am silly enough to speak out loud. Maybe we can use the RICO act to bring ‘em down. Any criminal lawyers see that working 🤞???
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/23 12:15 PM
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Got a good laugh out of something the super sloppy cheating STBXW reposted today: “Sometimes your existence is triggering for some people. The fact that you are clear on who you are and who you are not can be intimidating. You didn’t “do” anything.” Let’s unpack this: -The non-accountability, one size fits all, buzzy yet authentically empowering meme industry is booming baby! I’ve built up a substantial long position, plus tons of call options. This is Gamestock 2.0 guys, trust me. -I wouldn’t c…
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/23 11:58 AM
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YouTuber Aaron Clarey hits this societal note a lot. Check out “why women don’t need you” or the totally different “No, again, women don’t need you”.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/23 11:30 AM
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Thanks. Someone else will chime in with more working knowledge about the employment angle. I would familiarize myself with income “imputing”, especially along hemmed lines, in your particular state AND county/court. I’ll dig up this really useful and detailed state-by-state (including metro areas) “current state of affairs”-style research piece someone posted here.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/23 04:11 PM
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Sometimes we learn by choosing the wrong decision. We including me also. Have followed your posts for a long while here, which means I saw saw serious how and a path forward through your story. Than you, Man.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/23 03:50 PM
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All I hear when I read your screenplay is Mercury Blues by Alan Jackson. Let’s get this take optioned, stat!!
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/23 10:36 AM
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Messaged ya’.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/23 10:32 AM
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Can attest: worst thing you can do is “expose” her with some gotcha! moment. It’s not only immaterial in value, it will kick her FYO (fuck you over) instinct into turbo. Delay, chill, but get real stoic internally. They kind of all cheat if that helps. Don’t think your circumstance will garner any pity. Men aren’t pitied; it’s a societal oxymoron.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/23 10:30 AM
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Been there. To you, it seems like a huge shift in your partner for her to start brazenly taking calls with male “friends” right in your (silly, sad) face. For her, it’s a natural progression along a road where she’s disrespected, subjugated, and completely emasculated you too many times to count. Read 25 posts at random here; there’s no coming back from this. More bluntly: she’s not coming back. You’ll survive and become a better man, provided this becomes a mutual pull-apart dynamic, vs. the pu…
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/23 10:26 AM
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Never before has a Reddit reply truly made my day. Noted Re: record it.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/23 04:59 AM
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Sounds like an early Oscar contender! 50 Days Free - in theaters this Fall
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/23 04:03 PM
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I’m listening to When We Were Young by Adele ask I read your post. Fits perfectly. Like an early Scorsese film. Fuck her lmao.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/23 04:00 PM
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Are you me?! Salute to you, bro. Any updates on the Gross Bitch Collective?
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/23 03:55 PM
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Excellent advice. You ride it every day, in every new direction, and ABSOLVE yourself for any “fault” in creating this War of the Roses. From everything I’ve seen and also experienced, nasty scorched earth approach is the way 98 percent of American women choose to handle divorce. Further, 95 percent of that total 98 percent “throw rocks and hide their hands” THROUGHOUT. By this I mean expect to be gaslit continuously with claims of someone else, u/anyone else, being the reason she’s fighting so …
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/23 03:33 PM
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Can verify. Sheriffs were actually on the whole very cool and patient. They take no joy in it and don’t look to punctuate the moment any further by domineering you and tacitly treating you like an actual abuser of any sort. (Not even a, FINANCIAL CRAZED ABUSER; Boo!) Only domineering/unreasonable/bullying person is hiding somewhere around the corner, not-so-patiently waiting to make y’all house hers/theirs. And current “status quo” is more dangerous than FICO on your first paystub as a working a…
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/23 09:49 AM
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The most simple insights can be mind blowing. Thanks for making that minor connection for me. Reminds me of the old “add the entire job description to your resume; but use clear ink and a micro-font” tip.
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/23 09:42 AM
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You are correct; she alleged some sort(s) of abuse. You didn’t get a copy of the complete order? You probably signed on the last page. Go locate it (online filing system, attorney, court, etc). Considering you’ve done well putting it behind you (!), what she wrote should be a comical read. It’s usually handwritten too, which adds to the personal-ness of the backstabbing.
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/23 01:28 PM
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Obviously!
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/23 08:03 AM
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Super funny!
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/23 08:01 AM
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https://forum.mensdivorce.com/viewtopic.php?t=13374
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/23 07:17 AM
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Alimony can be denied for the cheater in many states. I’m sure that’s unevenly applied though and affects men more than women.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/23 06:50 AM
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Check “the list” on men’s divorce forum website. They recommend a specific voice activated model.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/23 06:48 AM
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Til Next Time Love - Larry June
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 07:05 AM
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Single for the Summer - G Perico
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 07:04 AM
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Doggin’ Me Around - Jackie Wilson
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 06:43 AM
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Payback Is a Dog - The Stylistics
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 06:42 AM
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It’s Not Right But It’s Okay - Whitney Houston
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 06:17 AM
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Good News - Mac Miller
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 06:15 AM
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Go Home - Stevie Wonder
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 06:05 AM
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I Love You Too Much - Stevie Wonder
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 06:04 AM
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Skeletons - Stevie Wonder
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 06:04 AM
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Keep Your Head to the Sky - Earth Wind & Fire
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 05:43 AM
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Movin Out - Billy Joel
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 05:28 AM
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And the Beat Goes On - The Whispers
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 05:18 AM
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I Try - Angela Bofill
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 05:16 AM
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That’s the Way I Feel About ‘Cha - Bobby Womack
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 05:14 AM
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Borderline - Madonna
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 05:12 AM
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Good Life - 2Pac
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 05:07 AM
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Rumor (Acoustic Rmx) - Makonnen
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 05:02 AM
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Everything She Wants - Wham!
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 05:02 AM
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I’m Not in Love - 10cc
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 04:53 AM
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Cry Me A River - J Timberlake
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 04:43 AM
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Spring Again - Biz Markie
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 04:43 AM
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It’s Too Late - Carol King
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 04:42 AM
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That’s Life - Frank Sinatra
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 04:39 AM
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Too Hot - Kool and the Gang
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 04:35 AM
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We Are Never Ever… - Taylor Swift
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 04:13 AM
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Lately - Stevie Wonder
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 04:07 AM
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Fooled Around and Fell in Love - Elvin Bishop
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 03:01 AM
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How Long - Ace
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 03:01 AM
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Nevada - NBA Youngboy (Not sure why, probably the “drunker than a skunk” part)
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 02:57 AM
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Sail On - Commodores (chef’s kiss)
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 02:55 AM
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Don’t Start Now - Dua Lipa (Lyrics and chorus are A-1)
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 02:54 AM
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Never Is a Promise - Fiona Apple (thank you unknown Redditor that recommend this!!!!!!)
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 02:52 AM
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Turn off the Lies - Makonnen
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 02:50 AM
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Hoes Mad - Famous Dex
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 02:49 AM
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Punk Rock Bitch - Drakeo the Ruler
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 02:49 AM
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She’s a Roller - Drakeo the Ruler
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 02:48 AM
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Honesty - Billy Joel
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 02:47 AM
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Most of them are no fault states you are overthinking it just a tiny bit breathe brb with a proper reply, I need to read a bit more! (Please don’t edit this. It’s all so relatable. Down to her kicking the shit out the home office door! Adult kids, I swear.
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 02:38 AM
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👆
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/23 07:39 PM
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I believe this is the case: 50/50 is that: half and half. Equitable distribution means distributed as the judge (or jury) sees fit. In other words, the judge decided what is equitable. Equity: In essence courts do the fair thing by court orders such as correction of property lines, taking possession of assets, imposing a lien, dividing assets, or injunctive relief (ordering a person to do something) to prevent irreparable damage. The rules of equity arose in England where the strict limitations …
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/23 02:46 PM
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Thanks 👍
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/23 10:12 AM
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She’s gonna pay too.
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/23 02:22 AM
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It’s not petty. Protect yourself. Now. Trust me. Or ask me why.
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/23 02:21 AM
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You are waaaaayyy to hard on yourself. Cheating is the ultimate betrayal.
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/23 02:19 AM
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Re: the bar That friend will do most of the heavy lifting to have your wife fuck you completely over in court and forever. It’s always that friend. So really think about and analyze that person; they are about to be a lifelong nemesis. Maybe familiarize yourself with their skeletons. Snapchat is quietly marketed almost exclusively for cheating purposes too.
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/23 02:00 AM
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First paragraph: “she would never cheat”, “17 years” 2nd paragraph : “her ex boyfriend “ Stopped reading at that point. She’s cheating. Or angling to, which is cheating. It’s what they do. Free money and a long lost feeling of being chased/wanted are strong and addictive drugs.
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/23 01:56 AM
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Considering salary imputing, help me see the remaining advantages to temporarily lowering your salary. Or even being laid off for a bit. Appreciate your opinion. I’m sure it’s still more of an advantage than a net disadvantage. Thanks!
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/23 01:46 AM
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BRO! If/when you do start the divorce process you won’t even want to read that sub! Trust me. You’ll be here, DIY, men’s living spaces, frugal men’s fashion etc. Mark my words.
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/23 01:43 AM
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They do that. Try to fake flatter your attorney to make them implicitly want to work hard for you. You’re sorry you didn’t listen to all their guidance right off, etc. worked for me. Assume the two attorneys spoke the day the respondent attorney filed themselves into the case. Assume they have faced off in court at least once. Assume they are friends, then get over that. They are industry cousins anyway. All of them. I also feel like XW attorneys get more leeway to be aggressive and unprofession…
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/23 01:35 AM
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Try to find recent rulings from that court. Maybe via google scholar. I forget the proper document term. Or ask 3 Different lawyers and pretend you are unrepresented and reviewing attorney options.
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/23 01:29 AM
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Would not doubt. Quick RE transactions with little or no capital outlay are extremely profitable. Ditto on her being on it.
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/23 01:26 AM
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What of your 401k, if any? I feel like actually expecting a portion of an XW’s retirement is a mirage; technically called for but socially/judicially frowned upon. Constitutional illegitimacy of Family Court aside. I was advised to plan to never actually receive any of it, but to use it as a bargaining chip similar to your situation here.
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/23 01:25 AM
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Don’t withhold. Assist fully if you can, cheerfully. Document it all, quietly. The one-up you gain from this will trump the net cost/benefit of a court action. Also, accept her total freedom to be non-disclosive as she chooses to be. I struggle with this myself. You sound like a great dad.
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/23 12:57 AM
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If equity is not only a negligible amount, be careful of churning YOUR legal hours on the matter. DIY motion responses might work here.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/23 08:58 PM
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I feel the same way. Tell myself it’s better to cut the grass and expose the snakes etcetera, but shit’s super foul.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/23 08:53 PM
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Appreciate ya!
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/23 08:48 PM
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T-206 Honus Wagner. Check Beckett…
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/23 01:16 PM
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Really good to get this out. I completely believe you. I also benefit from recognizing my situation in your writing.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/23 01:12 PM
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I love you. Right there with you!
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/23 12:47 PM
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It’s all spelled out right here. What are you simmering? Potpourri? Gumbo? I hate this trendy phrase, but you need to get all up out of your FEELINGS. Now. Not in a few weeks. “I want half” (practice saying this tonight, 50 times, in front of a mirror.)
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/23 12:46 PM
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See OP?? This is the way. Don’t talk to her at all. Try to do this so well you forget what her voice sounds like. “Discussing” things mid-lawsuit makes us weak. Weak and dumb. She wouldn’t be upset if you died tomorrow. Like not one bit. Know this.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/23 12:43 PM
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My fucking hero. Love your responses in any thread bro.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/23 12:39 PM
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RESCIND ALL PRIOR CONCESSIONS. YOUR NEW NUMBER IS “HALF” ON EVERY.SINGLE.ASSET.DEBT.and CS/visitation. They are generally like this by a wide margin. Make her regret her betrayal of a mask drop. Somehow, someway.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/23 12:37 PM
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You can be nice and charming WITHOUT putting other people and their possible reaction on a pedestal like this. Look within, this seemingly small social-fear* likely impact/ed your life and your ending marriage in a huge way. *while calm/mild/barely-concerned is the overall TONE of your brief remarks here, it’s clear to me that this is giving you anxiety out the wazoo. The fake therapist in me asks: tell us more about both neighbors; the Right and the Left family. Age, hometowns, shared marital a…
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/23 12:32 PM
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Can we explore this? Not even one of my bros from elementary through college hit me with the “I unfollowed her bro”, or “should I unfollow her?” And in an instant, I no longer had any meaningful male friends. It’s like I can’t even picture my groomsmen anymore, and the wedding was 6 years ago. Just baffling! If I by chance see or speak to any of them now, it’s like I’m talking to a nervous robot with a cheap AI Chat software.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/23 12:17 PM
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Masons? Shriners? Kappas? Hells Angels? Re: fraternal order
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/23 12:06 PM
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Not in my experience. And you pay by the hour to get your balls jiggled. YMMV.
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/23 10:26 PM
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Control is what they end up missing the most. Have a super party Dad!
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/23 10:24 PM
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You sound like one of the last good GMs. I support you.
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/23 10:23 PM
1

Finally! Screw her.
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/23 10:21 PM
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Find the proof of the affair starting earlier. Expose him. His job, church, car club, etc. Act unbothered and ignorant in the interim. Been there.
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/23 10:21 PM
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It was just this year that I actually paid attention to the song lyrics.
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/23 06:09 PM
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My kid and I just raided the clearance section at Dollar Tree. Best $10.01 ever spent. A bag of ping pong balls with eyeballs on them, a jump rope, some magnets, etc.
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/23 02:22 AM
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America, baby! Settlements just fall from the sky.
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/23 10:27 AM
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Yep. Plan on losing all her family and “side” instantly. And everyone else fairly quickly. Nearly everyone. Nobody prepares you for this! No lie, my best friends are faceless men in this sub and the homeless guys I see around my way now.
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/23 10:24 AM
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They sound country AF. you may have married down, lineage wise, I think I did. Shit, twice. Me? I find it funny while sad. Possibly evidentiary, possibly not. Don’t mention it before court except to your lawyer if you trust them. Kids are resilient and will be fine. They’ve long since gathered that she’s got a second, bitter and cheat-to-win side she shows everyone but you. Don’t expect this, or anything wrong/evil to impact custody in your favor, but, definitely keep a lil secret hope. Women, t…
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/23 10:19 AM
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🎯
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/23 08:52 AM
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Hey friend. Quick, honest answer below. But first, you and I are both gonna make it. Trust me. Trust the voices in this sub. Answer: She’s about to* try her hardest to ROB you of everything: your cash, your reputation, and your relationship with your children if you share any. * Like a real robbery, like Times Square in 1986. Like a stagecoach in the movie The Hateful Eight. Like a Los Angeles carjacking in 1993. I eventually lost the ability to care at all who’s she kissing, screwing, flirting …
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/23 07:12 AM
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YW bro. I agree that you have to stop the financial bleeding. Life is too short and you will still be Top Dad in the kid’s eyes. You are dealing with the most horrendous betrayal of your life. Most people around you will act like you aren’t. Fuck them.
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/23 01:06 PM
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I’m headed on two years. Same with the scorched earth settlement they presented me. You can contact me too, vent, brainstorm whatever. You just made me appreciate my situation, as fucked up as it is. You haven’t and won’t break, I know that.
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/23 03:33 AM
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Legal aid will consider the case, provided she hasn’t filed any domestic violence stuff against you. Look up the IL chapter.
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/23 03:24 AM
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(raised hand)
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/23 03:24 AM
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I appreciate your words and wisdom so much, especially today!
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/23 06:51 AM
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“North, North!”
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/23 10:09 AM
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This. All of this. The fallacy of being the spouse that’s capable of “winning” most arguments, especially one as morally lopsided as her cheating and fucking up the family. Avoid the trap; you don’t ever “win”arguments with women, you simply refuel them for the next blow/betrayal/bullshit. Exercise: create a logical argument that could ever beat “I’m not happy”.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/22 09:49 AM
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Can relate to the family part. I went ahead and got a new number since so few people actively contact me anymore. I don’t think anyone has noticed.
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/22 03:34 AM
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Wow this update was a true gift to me. I’m serious. Thank you for sharing. Thank you for being strong. I’m so happy for you!
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/22 03:25 PM
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You’re so welcome my guy merry Christmas my child just showed me their gifts that they got from Santa over FaceTime and I’ll be picking them up soon for an overnight with me at a hotel that I got for the night I thought this would be more special than having my child around my roommates. Doing and feeling much better than last year, which was first post filing. And way better than two years ago!
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/22 03:19 PM
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We will. Merry Christmas bro. Much love.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/22 03:09 PM
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Hold your head up. Merry Christmas brother.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/22 03:08 PM
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Appreciate you. However, trust me that those same friends return to fan the flames of her fucking you over to end things. So stop taking solace in that. I knew I made a bad life partner decision my self; any sideline observations are and were irrelevant. Further, these same friends KNOW that alimony, CS, cops bullying your husband for you within minutes, and all the promised peace/freedom/strength/love/light/etc. do not BEGIN to compare to the permanent damage done to the kids, the persistent in…
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/22 08:00 AM
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She is not the she you knew. And those missed opportunities may have still ended up with no repercussions for her due to systemic gender bias. You kept it all the way honorable, be proud. No use for that type of honor going forward though. She’s off to the races in a crush or be crushed game with potentially deadly or severely life diminishing stakes. You have now and the future; fight. Do not considerate nor bargain nor beg this stranger.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/22 03:16 AM
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Hope you remembered it. I’m ignoring her preferences just as you should.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/22 02:53 AM
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Two words: FLYING MONKEYS. My dad won’t even consider breaking the damn Facebook link with my stbx. Total boomer blue pill shit. Them actively, or inadvertently, aiding and comforting the enemy is not surprising, but it is definitely spineless. Hold on and become unbothered. True loyalty has a way of becoming a mirage during this time; was anyone from “your side” ever loyal???? I know my answer.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/22 02:02 AM
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See my little one for 24 hours starting tomorrow afternoon. Their faces never fail to show everyone that their bond with Dad will endure all the treachery you are dealing with. Mean is an understatement; I’m proud of you! Bring some candy canes for each “observer”. Kill them with kindness and show the tact and charm that separates you from their sick actions. Love. Respect.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/22 01:53 AM
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Yes! That was me the last thanksgiving before she filed. I was extremely lonely and could feel the collective back-turn and discard over the horizon. You’re loved bro, please remind yourself. That’s real love, not that situational, aspirational, temporary love she weaponized against you.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/22 01:48 AM
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I hear you as if you are right in this hotel room with me. Thank you, Brother. All you brothers actually. Now pass the shrimp fried rice and turn to the raider game. Cheers to the character defining part of our lives!
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/22 01:44 AM
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As I understand, and am experiencing, going scorched earth is the de facto strategy advised by many attorneys for wives these days. Get a common AGREEMENT with your attorney as to what’s fair and what they will fight with you for. Welcome to the Silver Bullet club as well, glad the first volley of (insidious, anti-family) ammunition did not trip you up. Many of us don’t fare as well (6 month protective order extension in my case). Fighting with you, and looking forward to seeing you succeed.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/22 01:35 AM
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Coach Gang! (I think there’s bbq in there; don’t tell anyone)
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/22 05:06 AM
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Don’t go to jail or even risk it. I’m not able to see my oldest this year and he’s 2 miles away. Sad myself today. Related, what’s up with caving ass lawyers that totally seem like they do not work for you?
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/22 01:36 AM
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A Stranger in your house you say? These lyrics hit home for me: https://youtu.be/diNyoOyTI5g
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/22 03:08 PM
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It really does: Affirms that CS is not allowable in terms of offsetting home equity due. And I really admire and am re-inspired by your fluid familiarity with the moving financial parts of your case. Need to get there myself; familiarity suggests intent and will help me be more succinct and authoritative when those back-of-napkin calls come up in mediation conversations. The part about your ex likely overextending herself to make a point (read: image impression) vs. using a smaller portion of he…
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/22 05:54 PM
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Hey there broseph! Any tips on ensuring home equity payout used against alimony, cs, etc is done in a failroof* way? *i.e.: so that Shady and Shady’s shady attorney don’t attempt to screw me one last time? I trust a pit bull caring for an injured canary more than those two peas in a pod at this point.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/22 02:24 PM
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Can I message you?
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/22 01:39 PM
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Laughing waaaay out loud. Thanks man.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/22 01:37 PM
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(Top post when sorted by “Hot”. He is us. We are him. She is for the streets!) ☄️☄️☄️☄️
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/22 01:31 PM
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Hope you’re well. He’d be good to read many of your posts. Only AFTER he gets the EJECT in motion. Quietly. Rich copper has a gift too; love his stuff. Probably heard about him from you.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/22 01:29 PM
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You had her first. Multiple presidents ago.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/22 01:27 PM
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Stop sharing any friends. Don’t make a scene. Anyone not trying to drive you to lawyer offices on this dear Sunday have long since chosen a side and secretly laugh at you. If you’re like me the last 2-3 thanksgivings at your house were actually fraternity meetings of your main enemies. No regrets but full ahead extraction from them all. Men included. I guarantee some of your blood family never call you again in life once dust settles. More love more laughs. More music from my childhood that was …
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/22 01:25 PM
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Disagree. Shedding your narc/vain/selfish/ever-scrolling/ever-comparing/extortionist/born-again-slutbag GTUTAFU (Girl that used to Actually Fuck You) of a “partner” is the single biggest improvement I’ve ever made.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/22 12:56 PM
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The term of the year we all deserve. A true Dom Draper of our time. And boy was it Scorhin’
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/22 12:51 PM
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Many of us happy to share phone numbers myself included. Crowdsourced redpilling❕
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/22 12:48 PM
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Yes. This post really rallied the troops. Interesting to see. I’d this was a more lighthearted subreddit, I’d offer that we all are OP in This is my tribe now. Didn’t choose it, it chose me. Love and laughs to all. May the truth you deserve flow freely with nary a trickle! Don’t let us down OP, release MadWatermelon!
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/22 12:42 PM
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Slowest rug pull known to man. Why do you add details like “she’s crushing the new job”? It’s as if she’s re-engineered you to add a glowing and innocent detail about her every 150 words. You, like most of us here, would prefer To stay together forever. She, like most of the counter parties here, is convinced she has one more good playoff run in her. Think Tom Brady. The boys are back In Town; but it’s her and the girls. Once you accept that and move prudently and promptly as suggested here by o…
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/22 12:10 PM
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You have to be kinder to yourself. I felt that at many points of your well written share. To do so will result in you settling for way less BullSHIT in what I sense may be all your key relationships. Much love. Don’t let corrective advice received here make you lose sight of how good it was to Vent and just talk it out, no co-pay, no sly justification of you being on board with hurtful bullshit (gaslight shit). That guy friend is the worst kind of bottom feeding coward, irrespective of any physi…
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/22 11:24 AM
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Kids are resilient. Only childhood affected is your soon to be ex attempting to force the start of her own second childhood. Stay the course. Like an airplane, get your oxygen mask fully on before anything else. (Extra dad humor: please note the bag will not fully expand and is working perfectly!)
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/22 11:10 AM
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Haven’t even finished reading, but discard any and all hopes of her “backing off.” Blink if yo understand.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/22 11:06 AM
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As am I. Admirable!
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/22 11:04 AM
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Uncovering cheating, or even just a fair-weather flighty spouse is ultimately the opposite of sucking. That may take a while to reveal itself though. A dedicated long-term charade sucks way more. Much support to you my guy.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/22 11:04 AM
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Act and be normal and pleasant, do not share fears, strategies or opinions of unfairness EXCEPT with the competent attorney you’ll soon be hiring. A quick search here will probably yield shared experiences of men in your same/similar age/earning/health position. Same industry possibly. You’ll be fine. My best regarding your health.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/22 10:59 AM
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Yeah I also let one of these moments just slip away. This was very soon after her executing a Silver Bullet with a shrug and a smile. Drunk as a skunk she was, like the old folks say. It takes a while to realize how dirty she will play, even after she is clearly committed to her moral-less war. (Remember the fear of “dirty bombs” during first Iraq war? Dirty bombs, dirty bombs everywhere…) Re: trauma to the child comment, I’ve never heard anyone describe ANY tactic/strategy/betrayal done to dad …
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/22 10:38 AM
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Same for me. Thank you for the reminder about the undisturbed peace and calm I have now. I get my kid small gifts when I’m out and about and really missing her. Usually have them all set up Ike a school diorama in the backseat on the next pickup. 5 bucks of Knick knacks go a long way with a young kid that loves you unconditionally. They don’t know why dad was abruptly gone one day from day-to-day life, but they do infer more than we can tell them. Important to know I’m unluckier than same but su…
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/22 08:45 PM
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🤞🏾❕
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/22 08:37 PM
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I’m truly sorry bro. I come here to know I’m not the only one getting unbelievably f*cked by someone I used to know. We will be ok.
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/22 03:43 AM
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I’m sure you’re quietly being dared to walk away all together. Whatever you do take care of You first.
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/22 03:31 AM
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can confirm. Also, as suggested above, the mother not knowing their own father well or at all seems to influence this as well; you’d think they want their child to know different but it makes them more dismissive of dad’s involvement at all. Also see my kid across town with anyone and everyone, where I’m only “offered” to help out as a dead last resort. Thanks for stating this phenomenon so eloquently. YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/22 12:07 AM
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Not that i know of. Mine is more celestial and astrology based in her powers.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/22 07:21 PM
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I’m so happy to hear that my advice helped you. Seriously happy!
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/22 07:17 PM
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Yours ascended to the level of Energy Healer too? 💫✨☄️
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/22 06:13 AM
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Yes. Similar story and similar recurring thoughts and fantasies. Happy to talk more about it.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/22 01:41 PM
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Appreciate these positive words, sir. Happy Sunday.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/22 11:44 PM
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Just listened to that song carefully for the first time in my life! A couple days ago. What a charming story. What creative songwriting. I also really paid attention to “Copacabana”. Now that tale is just insane. OP, honor your commitment. If you decide otherwise be upfront with her and don’t leave her with lifetime trauma.
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/22 10:05 PM
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Yep tro and filing same exact day. Annihilator! Never knew she had it in her.
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/22 09:44 PM
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5 years. Caught one of her affairs and she filed for the restraining order the next day. Shouldn’t have exposed a narcissist, should have moved stealthily. Thanks!
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/22 07:23 PM
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He’s not lying. Men may be the true lovers, but we are also truly needy and often searching for a facsimile of our mom. Sure she’s dope but even she knows intrinsically that you don’t need another LTR.
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/22 07:08 AM
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Rough. Glad nobody was hurt badly. From my personal experience and the stories of others, you should know that you can be removed for reasons completely unrelated to physicality or close proximity arguments. Meaning, she had at least a 75 percent chance to get you temporarily removed no matter what. Just because she doesn’t feel safe or whatever. And your chances of having it dismissed seem to be better with an attorney but not by a great deal. Prepare to have the order extended, but not made pe…
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/22 06:43 AM
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I’m sorry too. And upset.
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/22 06:30 AM
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Needed to hear this myself. I hear you loud and clear!
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/22 06:09 AM
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I agree.
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/22 06:06 AM
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Okay. Three vents and you’re Done. Please. Get out those feelings. She cheated and would bury you under the jail or ground if given the chance. Don’t let your feelings for the kids evolve into you buckling. Alternatively, why can’t she give up more of her massive retirement to pay you your home equity, thereby avoiding refinance?
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/22 11:59 PM
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Same here. I’m in an Equitable Distribution (vs. 50/50) state. How about you? I hadn’t even considered the higher interest rate she will have to accept (or walk on). Is this justice? She cheated, filed, sought full custody to be spiteful, etc.
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/22 11:53 PM
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Seriously.
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/22 11:49 PM
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Disinterested and emotionally elsewhere when with you, total opposite when with her family. Can relate. Thanks for sharing that part, I suppress a lot of shit I suffered through with STBXW.
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/22 02:01 AM
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Thank you. I would agree.
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/22 01:55 AM
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Like 18 months and running for me. Concur re: that bitch. Stay strong brother.
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/22 03:51 PM
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Serious question, how do they expect you to ever see them without contempt after pulling this play? To a lesser extent do they also not care at all if your response is to NOT fight passionately to remain in the kids lives? I mean all of sudden I’m wholly unfit and you should have FULL (usually) custody of the kid I see and parent every.single.day? Is the extra lump sum and monthly money the motivation? Is it worth it? Is the need to craft a believable narrative to offset her (usually) cheating t…
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/22 03:50 PM
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Took first or second short bike ride yesterday, got phone numbers for two approved therapists today. Have been unevenly self-recovering for 1.5 years now and finally leaning into the core advice and wisdom you cited. Vids an platforms on narcissist behavior, betrayal trauma etc do help too. A lot.
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/22 07:16 AM
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Good to see you still standing, ability returning by the day. That debilitating feeling… geez!
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/22 06:39 AM
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It’s not about him nearly as much as the freedom to be with him or him or him or him. I think liberation is super alluring and intoxicating for wives. The oft referenced reward avalanche = no hangover from this intoxicant. Better to compare yourself to sweet sweet “freedom” than it is to a particular guy. I so feel you on all that was permanently discarded. Usually effortlessly. Callously. I hadn’t thought about the list possibility of future children. F*ck.
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/22 06:38 AM
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Your kids are awesome!
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/22 08:41 PM
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Just pretend you lost that 150k buying shares in Facebook just before their recent plunge. Put it all behind you. Expect 25 percent and plan a life around that with minimal unplanned time which WILL become sulking and self sabotage time otherwise. If you get 50 percent you have now outperformed! Real talk, 1 of those charges were supposed to stick. Count all five blessings. If you look and act bothered and treated harshly, she will derive real joy from your sullenness. Visual: when Popeye gets h…
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/22 10:13 AM
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This is my life right now. If they get confirmation it bothers or hurts you, they’ll wait even longer next time. Just begin forgiving her now for all the chicken shit micro aggressions she’s gonna do to you. Read stoic prominent quotes and master being at least outwardly unbothered by your new status of “I’ll answer your questions if and when I see fit”. (In the black culture we’d say she answers your question “when I feel like it”. Small potatoes in the scheme of thing. I do “validate” how this…
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/22 10:02 AM
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No infidelity That You Know Of. Just don’t be so certain. It goes against your new number one goal of self preservation. More importantly I too feel the same way you do. No phrasing or posturing will make her decide to uncrack humpty though, i.e: restore the nuclear family that was. If she does feel any guilt at all (unlikely and maybe biologically impossible at this phase) she will never show any guilt to you. It’s rough but it’s already began for you and I and that train is not welcome back at…
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/22 09:52 AM
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Glad you could share today. This makes me think of all the direct influences on my iex I’ll never be able to pinpoint. But I know multiple somebodies put a lot of proverbial “leave him and destroy him” batteries in her back.
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/22 09:14 AM
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Hard users rarely closely associate with non users during their personal/party time. Go to her frequent pubs etc on a night she’s home or elsewhere. Sit at bar and just listen. Observe. The culture of a place has a strong correlation to the behavior of the average regular. Get your nondescript fake name ready. Pay cash. Great amateur PI tips from this guy: https://youtu.be/dcvKpoLVI4I
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/22 09:05 AM
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Try to get out of her entire world and know as little bit about her life PLANS etc as possible. Ten times harder when living together.
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/22 05:18 AM
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Don’t wonder, just know. You’re definitely lonely and jealous. I am too.
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/22 05:15 AM
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Sounds like hard drugs. Keep that possibility on the back burner of your mind.
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/22 12:53 AM
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Three time champion she is? Were you always generally aware?
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/22 12:51 AM
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I’m in the other camp: she filed for full custody and used bogus restraining order to immediately alter status quo as to who the child is with. Pluses and minuses in all of our situations, what’s constant is a woman you loved adopting the character of a lifelong enemy and you’re the last to know about it. And you’ll never know why. You got this. Play to your advantages and her blindspots. You should be hoping she stays gone weeks at a time actually.
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/22 12:49 AM
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Very specific and measurable. Also those are goals i would love to brag about hitting!!! Starting today. NYE I’ll plan on having my effective one month chip! Thanks man; you have a gift.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/22 09:49 PM
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Screen name checks out OP! Mirrors my story so well. We are here for you to vent, keep calm and strategize. Keep on killing dad time. You’ll be grateful soon!
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/22 09:45 PM
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I remember that study.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/22 09:15 AM
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I was being sarcastic. I don’t believe or even dabble in spells or attempts at spellwork. That’s placing them, suffering from them or “removing” them. I respect your beliefs though my guy.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/22 09:14 AM
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The healer is your new wife. No thanks.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/22 08:33 AM
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Right! I’m so compliant with a.t.m.! (all the movements). Me too, earth blue, pe-pe le pew! #staywoke 🦨
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/22 05:34 AM
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Damn this is what mine wanted too.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/22 02:42 AM
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BEAUTIFUL. SIMPLISTIC. women hate anything linear, anything logical. I gotta quit playing ball promptly just as you laid out. Thanks fam! 💎
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/22 02:25 AM
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I support your accomplishment. You will make it work.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/22 02:19 AM
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Oh yeah that’s Exhibit A in the filing, no doubt.
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/22 02:05 AM
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Hey. Best of luck in rehab. Re: I know she wants me to be a huge part of our childrens lives Don’t be sure or count on this. Generally, the “hate” they gain for you outstrips the “love” they have for the children.
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/22 02:04 AM
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No problem. It’s a longer haul than you think. Be steady. Read.
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/22 06:29 AM
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GET. ALL. THAT. IS. DUE. TO. YOU. (because. she. sure. would. )
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/22 07:03 AM
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My man. Thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/22 02:48 AM
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Well whatta ya know, joe?! Seriously, great share.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/22 08:45 AM
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Can you share more about how you were so (relatively) successful at trial? Public or private message would sure be appreciated. Thank you and good job.
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/22 10:41 AM
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You’re welcome. Yes, I am. Seems like you didn’t actually exit last time. This time, exit.
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/22 10:40 PM
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YW bro. Regarding her specific tendencies, I don’t care. I do, but courts, law and the system don’t and won’t. Also, the path forward surely doesn’t involve you convincing her to “change”. Re-read this please. Convincingly capitulate now, aka reconcile. I failed at this. Decide if you want to control your fate, or if you want to leave it in her hands. I made no choice, which means I chose the latter. All the research, legwork, and stealthiness of a choice to exit on your terms will require a dis…
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/22 06:27 PM
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Agree to reconcile. Enthusiastically and convincingly. Then get prepared. Anyone here will let you know what that means. Best in meanwhile to you and your kids.
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/22 05:58 PM
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Re-read your post. Certain people would love if you invest material energy, time and especially re$ources into this during an open divorce case. So vent and seek understanding or acceptance privately. You already know your goals and priorities on the case/public front. This can’t be a part of it.
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/22 07:17 PM
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Doesn’t seem smart to pay an attorney to fix a situation that will me moot when she turns 18. I may be missing something. Also, can relate. My 16 yo son stoped taking my calls when he didn’t get a cash birthday gift from me this year. I pay healthy child support but I can’t leverage that fact with a teenager. His mom won’t help and likely supports his behavior since it’s a jab at me by proxy. Going to have to see him via his school where I’m an authorized visitor. Actually, maybe try that. A vis…
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/22 07:05 PM
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Cats much better. Have a nice day. Lol.
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/22 01:26 PM
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Being cordial outside of kids is like catnip for them and their egos. Or spinach for Popeye. Thank you For this reminder.
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/22 05:52 AM
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A modern poet you are, Sir. (tips hat and bestows all my loose schekels upon your tattered tip jar) 🎯
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/22 05:48 AM
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Samesies! Was briefly dating and digging a woman going through her own divorce. One day it dawned on me that she was successfully divorce-r*ping the father of her two kids. I felt like I was actively betraying another brother and i also noticed that her convenient 100% victim narrative was real familiar sounding! Lesson: don’t feed the Divorce Corp. monster with your little head while it simultaneously tries to annihilate your big head! (Affirmation: I do not hate women, but I fully accept that …
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/22 05:32 AM
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Yo! Yeah you, OP! I love you as my brother in manhood. It’s a love that will never be revoked. Look at your 10 month comment history for me. Just scan it. Now look at mine. Just a scan. What I see is two guys who seemingly haven’t focused on much else than the pain of betrayal. Or of being given up on. Join me in a concerted effort to look in that dreaded rear view mirror just a tiny bit less each day. And re-applying that time and energy into anything that will help the guy will we be in, say, …
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/22 05:21 AM
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We are lucky to have such well versed experienced men like you in this community. Thank you for sharing and please continue to do so. Tomorrow I will put even more effort into showing myself and my future love, and less effort into ruminating on how and why she left me. Who’s with me???
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/22 04:48 AM
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Thanks for the new knowledge. I was unaware of the White Feather Campaign. Per Wikipedia: "White feather, he has a white feather, he is a coward, an allusion to a game cock, where having a white feather, is a proof he is not of the true game breed" Reminds me of the newfangled “High Value Male” (HVM) designation (and it’s lowly sibling, LVM) being heavily pushed by the same good folks who crudely turned “involuntarily celibate” to “incel”. Here’s your feather.
/r/MensRights15/10/22 12:40 PM
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It’s astonishing how a shared goal of destroying a man can bring seemingly any group of women together. Even those that have not-so-secretly disliked one another just prior to.
/r/MensRights15/10/22 07:31 AM
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Sparking* ⚡️
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/22 06:39 AM
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Dating was so pure when we were like 17. Really, I have the fondest memories of the girls I French-kissed only, when we were all virgins and jobless. Thanks for speaking this epiphany.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/22 06:38 AM
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Excellent exhibits A & B, sir. Lose your job as a man and it’s a wrap. Like Eddie says, love and money do not mix.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/22 06:36 AM
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Moral definitely plays, I actually meant LOYAL. Take both to heart. My messages are all now open thanks to another fellow soldier. Keep going, you’re doing great.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/22 02:23 AM
1

Thanks. Just changed those settings for the future. Messaging you now sir.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/22 02:17 AM
1

Would you please send it to me as well? Many many thanks sir.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/22 12:15 AM
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In a word yes in a few words yes most definitely most of us find out on our during our own situation but please reread the advice you get here you can reach out to me for logistical support emotional support or just to vent this is a wonderful community you will be fine
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/22 11:42 PM
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Validation: based on my experience that “I do better by myself” energy is in the air right now; it’s in the media, etc. it’s a sign of our times right now the sooner that you understand it you’ll stop looking for fairness from women, stop expecting her to honor their vows or anything else I don’t even know you and I’m more loyal to you than a modern woman will be I will continue to read you’re gonna get some great responses head up, chin high, you got this
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/22 11:25 PM
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First time caller long time listener calling in from Albuquerque to sincerely say thank you for one specific sentence in your share; “I thought she had special insight regarding me. “ Me too brother; me too. I love learning new things at the ripe age of 44. Well done. Bravo, even.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/22 02:29 AM
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Hilarious. Please send me (your, not the JoyJoyLuckClub) podcast info, Seems I’m a member of your core target demographic. I’ll subscribe, like, comment and share the hell out that shit. I’ll also learn in a long neglected area of life. Thank you. Saw your earlier post about creative income ideas too. Been finding success lately with a few overlooked fields/roles. I’ll share all I know if interested. Continued peace to you my brother!
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/22 11:02 PM
2

🫡
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/22 10:45 PM
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What a smooth way to remind me to abandon all thoughts of a counter-narrative. As Adrian Balboa famously stated, “you can’t win!” (Nor should any man be inclined to try). Thanks!
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/22 10:44 PM
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WE are hanging in there, resolutely! God bless Al Gore and his internet!
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/22 10:38 PM
2

And yes, at some point, those podcast hosts became way more important than you. Textbook. Took me a while to not hate or even think about all the real-life people that seemed to lobby for my marriage to end abruptly, painfully and embarrassingly. In my version, it was old college friends that popped back up like paid talent scouts in college ball. Ultimately, they do what they want to do. I wish them all the best, the college boomerang friends, the pernicious hospital nurses (LOL now but I know …
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/22 10:37 PM
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You sound centered. Seeking that same state in each moment. Thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/22 10:24 PM
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Much love. Much respect. Thanks King!!
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/22 10:21 PM
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We are still kicking bro. I definitely appreciate your response. Need to get myself another bike too. Their values are based on how (all) others see them, not how they see themselves. Pretty hard to grow loyalty from soil like that. Keep going, you’re doing good!
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/22 10:18 PM
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Remembered! Please check out a YouTube page named “Mental Healness”. If you watch even five super-short “stories” I’m certain you’ll find a ton of vindication. I did. Out of all my family members, only my father, and 1 cousin, speak with me in any meaningful manner. Most not at all. No exaggeration. And, yea, spoiler alert: my ex is the one that cheated, bogus temp restraining order, went full “girls night out” mode, etc. Me? After a month or so of the finest 1 star hotels in our city, I moved i…
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/22 09:24 AM
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I thought I wrote this it’s so similar. Was she also really into certain “influencers”? Feels like she knows them and lives to impress them kinda? There’s a great article on Influencers fueling marriage and family doom. I can find it if you like. Also look into the concept of “flying monkeys” as it relates to covert narcissism. Consider sharing it with her employer, and anyone who she wouldn’t want to see this side of her. Women are super sensitive to anyone dismantling the NARRATIVE they aggres…
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/22 08:59 AM
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Humbly, this information makes me (a stranger) think back to your earlier admission that you feel you married down.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/22 04:31 AM
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Super helpful suggestion. Thanks Redditor!
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/22 03:31 AM
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Same bro. Same.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/22 02:06 AM
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Hell yeah! Wish I had some gold. Adding: (not so) Subtly Selfish and self-interested. I mean in a small way; for example: you go down the rabbit hole of her hometown, her undergrad experience, etc. and she hardly, if ever(!), has similar probing questions for you. I don’t mean nosy or pocket watching, I mean any hint of SINCERE interest. Also: vapid. Nothing interesting or worthy of true thought, discussion or debate. I cut one off that was proud about “not being a reader” after she became an ad…
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/22 10:51 AM
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Don’t discuss it at all with her! Play aloof. Busy, semi sad, whatever. Just not talkative and damn sure not bargaining/ negotiating anything. You’re a a dumb, low earning man that’s sad. Trust me! Get in touch w someone who has been through it today (Sunday), hire your attorney by Wednesday.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/22 10:04 AM
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Message me. Happy to do a zoom, duo, FaceTime or just direct messages etc w you TODAY. (Free, not a lawyer, etc). You’re in a good position, relatively speaking, yours not to mess up. Sorry about the heartache etc, trust me that’s the small part. I’m in the southeast too and visit s fl often.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/22 10:02 AM
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Only a filing/legal action should blindside you. Now shut up IRL and internet and file first!
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/22 09:54 AM
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Thank you! My anonymous online male Friends are awesome. This sub, infidelity sub, and mens divorce forum kept me sane and aware that the insta-hell happening to me was not unique at all!
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/22 08:21 PM
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Hey bud. Been there still kinda there. I feel like 95 percent chance of you losing (order affirmed and usually lengthened) WITHOUT a local (known to the court) attorney. With an attorney?; 65 percent chance you losing. Biggest tips: stay alive, don’t give her additional chances to imprison you. Look into moving just like the guy above said. Your ex can have that whole city. DM me if wanted. Stay safe and know that in 2-3 years you’ll be living a life better than you’ve known in years. Or at all.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/22 08:12 PM
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You got the knee half and all your freedom and integrity. Slowly but steadily become unavailable. That’s not not normal your homie. They left so help them completely leave. Deactivate their access card to YOUR personal corporate headquarters.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/22 06:20 AM
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Second this. Cheating is the slow culmination of someone you chose to partner up with against a lifetime demanding a trade bc they think they will win with a whole other team. Burn all their jerseys and find joy in the fact a disloyal person is no longer in YOUR locker room. A gift, I swear.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/22 06:17 AM
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THIS IS THE MF WAY
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/22 06:07 AM
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It’s like a cleansing bro. The same ppl that used to call did so out of custom and group dynamics. My incoming calls log is blank most days. It’s cliche but this is the first time for knowing and kinda dating yourself. Who’s your fav author? New quirky intelligent series you found on your own? Best rooftop bars in town that you found about on your own? Favorite place to park by your personal favorite local park or beach? I think you get my point. You’re not competing with your ex or anyone else.…
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/22 06:05 AM
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Finishing up an amazing weekend with my daughter. My story is so close to yours, so I know the recent pain of infidelity and casually breaking up a family. Your son and you are going to have a better relationship and you will find yourself as an individual again too. Keep going; it’s worth it!
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/22 08:28 PM
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Get it all and do NOT show your hand. Talk to us if need be. Wipe all your digital footprints daily, incl Reddit and this sub. Blessings sir.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/22 08:22 PM
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Got room for one more guys?
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/22 09:45 PM
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Thanks for the free therapy. I rarely think about her and her pack of Instagram as a religion “friends”! Now I have thoughts of “what if I was still stuck in that shit?”. Peace be with you.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/22 08:35 PM
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Just sub’d on YouTube. Keep going.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/22 08:18 PM
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Thanks
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/21 06:42 PM
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She could ruin everything. That could me maliciously or just in the heat of the moment. Travel or stay here and there w friends. Don’t make it feel needy, make it feel adventurous. It just takes one bad morning or interaction. Good job on doing what needed to be done. Peace be with you bro.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/21 05:58 PM
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Same. Same.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/21 07:02 AM
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Curious as well!
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/21 06:43 AM
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Has either party filed? Stay smart above all.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/21 06:38 AM
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