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Considering that I have a deeply ingrained dislike for all women I meet.. I don't see any problem with that. Women only create problems, inviting them into your life just creates more stress and hurt feelings.
/r/TheRedPill03/01/13 08:54 PM
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Dude, no one should want to be me. I don't want to be me. Being me is something to use as a punishment for the next time Hitler rolls around.
/r/TheRedPill03/01/13 08:53 PM
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Reading through some more of the sidebar and some of the linked material, I just don't think this subreddit is for me. I've always found the obsession /r/seduction has with being the "alpha male" to be incredibly annoying. I enjoy being beta, I'd rather be submissive than assertive.
/r/TheRedPill03/01/13 07:32 PM
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The outline does mention some of this, but after reading the posts in this subreddit as well as the comments I get the feeling that there is a lot of negativity directed at women in general for "Keeping men down", which is a similar attitude to the one in /r/MensRights. Edit: For example in your own comment "the greater feminine imperative." You make it sound like every woman is out to attack men and are part of a secret group. It's like saying "The homosexual agenda", it makes you seem silly an…
/r/TheRedPill03/01/13 04:01 PM
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Gotta watch out with my posts, I can be a crafty one with the ol-sarcasim.
/r/seduction23/03/12 06:16 AM
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So he totally changed who he was just to stick his dick in something? Sounds like someone to look up to.
/r/seduction23/03/12 06:14 AM
1

Honestly, my post was a total troll post. And you seem like you are serious. Get into rehab dude, if you're using drugs just to help pickup loose women at a bar? You have a problem.
/r/seduction23/03/12 06:09 AM
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Well, you can touch lightly, softly, barely, firmly, caressingly, lovingly, protectively... And I'm sure I've missed a few.
/r/seduction23/03/12 05:54 AM
2

As soon as someone uses any of the "Seduction Lingo" I immediately assume they're an idiot. If you use any of those buzzwords out of context you'll see just how annoying they make you sound. When I see all of this seduction and mind games you're required to play just to have a conversation? It makes me want to stop talking to people, all these nonverbal cues and social rules just get in the way of having a conversation with someone.
/r/seduction22/03/12 08:13 PM
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Mostly bored, wanting someone to talk to.
/r/seduction22/03/12 08:02 PM
1

So if women want sex just as much as I do.. Then they don't want sex?
/r/seduction22/03/12 05:42 PM
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In my mind, seduction is nothing but fake pseudo science whose only purpose is to make money. I rank it right up there with cults and other crazies.
/r/seduction22/03/12 02:30 AM
8

He opened and escalated in one action by go in for an insta-makeout. I'm just pointing out that this is clearly a woman who planned on making out with anything nearby.
/r/seduction21/03/12 03:55 AM
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Well, technically speaking. If you have any open sores or wounds on your finger than yes, you can get STD's from sticking your finger in an infected woman's vagina. But what I was referring to is the promoting of promiscuous sexual behavior in this thread. Specifically the "Isn't this the kind of thing we want to be promoting?" post.
/r/seduction21/03/12 02:37 AM
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I think what he means is that a monkey could have "opened" on this woman and the result would have been the same.
/r/seduction21/03/12 02:29 AM
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Venereal disease for everybody! You get an STD! And You get an STD! Everybody gets an STD!
/r/seduction21/03/12 02:28 AM
2

code for guys who can't deal with shit tests So does that mean women do that purposefully? Even after getting into a relationship? The fuck?
/r/seduction21/03/12 02:17 AM
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Funnily enough, the only time I ever feel any motivation is when I'm drinking coffee.
/r/seduction21/03/12 02:13 AM
1

Maybe backwards-ghetto towns in Florida don't work the same way as the rest of the world, but if you just grabbed some woman at a club/bar and twirled her around? The best thing you will get is a slap and kicked out, at worst maybe getting shot/beat up by her boyfriend. Edit* To give you an idea, the one major club around here only holds about 60-70 or so people and has someone die every few months from fights/shooting/stabbings.
/r/seduction21/03/12 01:38 AM
1

"So I've got Herpes." "Really? Tell me all about it I'm so interested!"
/r/seduction20/03/12 07:51 PM
2

Ya! Do it. But be sure to film it, I want to watch as you get your ass slapped and kicked out.
/r/seduction20/03/12 07:43 PM
1

As someone with skin that looks like I had my face dipped in hot oil, I'd like to know if anyone has had any success with using makeup.
/r/seduction20/03/12 07:40 PM
1

Not all colleges are "HB Playground". Depending on the college he is going to or the area he is in, online dating may give better success. I know it has for me.
/r/seduction20/03/12 07:37 PM
1

I've been told that when I smile, I look like I'm I look depressed and it's very obvious that it's a fake smile. Now that I think about it, I haven't genuinely smiled in awhile.
/r/seduction06/03/12 06:47 AM
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Ah, I meant holding their interest once I begin talking. It tends to wane as soon as I open my mouth. Maybe it's my teeth? Perhaps someone inscribed "Fuck You" on my teeth in my sleep. That or it could be my inability to hold a conversation about something I'm not interested in. Combine that with my lack of interest in things outside of my hobbies/life/personal bubble shield, I don't ever seem to be overflowing with the "Oh mah gawwwd Sheila had a baby last week. They are just so cute." genuine …
/r/seduction11/01/12 07:55 AM
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I'm so white I'd be albino if I had the eye color. Surprisingly I live in Florida, but in a rather secluded high-class farm area, I wear the outfit to college. It's not nearly as pink as I described however, while I could never describe how pink that shirt is, the pants only have a slight pink tint. The kind washing white cargo pants with bright pink shirts gets you... I just mean people wanting to talk to me, even when I initiate contact I generally can't keep their interest. Unless they are a …
/r/seduction11/01/12 07:33 AM
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I wear bright pink shirts with dyed pink cargo pants. How have I not picked up any interest from women yet? Edit: And not just pink shirts, Expensive pink shirts.
/r/seduction11/01/12 07:23 AM
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More like a "Read it out loud if the have to" joke. If that qualifies as a thinker joke then we've fallen a long way indeed.
/r/seduction11/01/12 07:21 AM
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Dude I'm so over myself dude. So over myself I don't even are about things I'm interested in. I'm just living in a state of general apathy about everything at this point.
/r/seduction01/01/12 10:37 AM
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"I see you attempted suicide, how did that go?"
/r/seduction31/12/11 09:43 PM
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and if we haven't? I can confidently say I've never been the life of the party, the center of attention. Nor do I want to be, that lifestyle and that level of outside attention makes me uncomfortable. Ideally I'd like to drift by, achieving success while remaining anonymous. I suppose I could tell a story about my lack of story, but lets not get too meta.
/r/seduction31/12/11 09:40 PM
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That assumes your actually interested in what she has to say. Which I think, is what to toohyetoreply is talking about. I'm the same way, I just don't care about what you think of the weather. I care so little the question doesn't even occur to me. People can tell too, fake it as I try it's obvious when someone is trying to make a conversation while not really caring about it.
/r/seduction31/12/11 09:38 PM
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I think you may be underestimating just how much of a social failure some people can be, I go out and approach multiple women every night but the "best" response I've ever gotten was a grunt of disgust followed by her getting up and moving elsewhere.
/r/seduction31/12/11 08:57 PM
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the moment I start feeling something for a female friend (or become attracted to female coworkers) all respect I feel toward them is stripped away and they become a fantasy play-thing in my mind. I think that may be the reason. When he becomes attracted to someone they stop being people and start being sexual objects.
/r/seduction31/12/11 08:54 PM
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I agree, I've been using OkCupid heavily for a few months now without any results, and I've been pretty active when it comes to messages, about 5-10 messages per day with a little over 200 as my total so far.
/r/seduction24/12/11 01:05 AM
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You can also just you know... Lower your standards. I thought the point of seduction was to teach those without natural game how to talk to women? If you are like me and lack any kind of natural game/game instincts than stopping masturbation will just make you more on edge. It also depends on your natural sex drive, if your drive is very high then "quitting" is going to be damn near impossible and will just make you irritable. Or if you are like me and have a very low sex drive quitting won't ha…
/r/seduction21/12/11 07:16 PM
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That implies that we can change who we are, I don't believe we can. I should in theory be an interesting guy; I work out , volunteer at a local homeless shelter, create indie games, build websites in my free time and I'm currently working on building a large scale chalk plotter. But fuck it's just all so boring. It's not fun to talk about, I'm boring not because I lack interests, but because I lack the innate passion fun people have. It's something I was born without and it's not something you c…
/r/seduction21/12/11 07:55 AM
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So you talk to them... and then lose their interest because you're a boring motherfucker thereby reinforcing your idea of not being good enough to talk to them? I'd much rather skip the whole reinforcement stage and just accept that I'm not good enough.
/r/seduction21/12/11 07:33 AM
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Well obviously you're such a better person than I am that I shouldn't even bother. I can never catch up to the "#1 most awesome guy on the planet". Sorry if I sound like an ass but those are my thoughts on the matter. It's great that you think you're amazing, but I'm not amazing. I'm a useless piece of shit. Nothing I do ever works and I'll likely die in my 30's after losing the will to keep on with all of this shit.
/r/seduction21/12/11 07:28 AM
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For those of us who just don't seem to get it; Could you explain how to go about this whole "Self-Validation" thing? Because I still don't think it actually exists.
/r/seduction21/12/11 07:23 AM
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But you don't? How can you lie to yourself, and most importantly convince yourself that such a lie is fact?
/r/seduction21/12/11 07:08 AM
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Seriously, when did seddit become a only-sex-matters circlejerk? Go make friends with ten other girls and you'll realize that there is more to a woman than her pussy.
/r/seduction21/12/11 06:50 AM
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How? I don't find getting rejected to be fun. Nor do I enjoy talking to someone who very clearly doesn't want to talk to me or who leaves half way through the conversation. I'm at the point where I don't mind getting rejected and my night is not ruined because of it (After 100 rejections you start to just not care) but that doesn't make it any funner for me. That's the point really, fuck what the other guys got out of the conversation, I don't have a good time doing it so I simply don't. Or when…
/r/seduction20/12/11 05:35 PM
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Eventually, but after so many approaches I've learned that it doesn't matter. I'm going to be rejected anyway, why bother approaching? It's not fun for either party so there is no point to it.
/r/seduction20/12/11 07:56 AM
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Great, you have witty banter. Now for the rest of us non-Hemingway types need canned material. Hell, I have canned material for when I want to ask the time. I think of it before I even see the person I want to ask, otherwise I would walk up there only to stutter and "uhhh" my way to idiocy.
/r/seduction20/12/11 02:19 AM
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The "Give me your number" is just an illusion though right? It's still entirely up to them whether or not they give you their number. I don't speak for everyone, but I would be hesitant about giving any information to someone who just straight up demands it from me.
/r/seduction20/12/11 02:16 AM
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So you will go with a maybe rather than a sure chance? You're the kind of guy who loves to gamble aren't you?
/r/seduction20/12/11 02:10 AM
1

Sounds like a great way to lose $200. At least for me it would be, tried that awhile back with a $50. My friend got to go home slightly richer that night, never again.
/r/seduction20/12/11 01:54 AM
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I didn't say I don't try, but starting a conversation with "Hi" always (at least for me) leads to the conversation dying off because I can't motivate myself to give a fuck about what they are saying. Now if they actually had something interesting so I didn't have to be 90% of the conversation, I wouldn't be complaining.
/r/seduction06/12/11 04:57 PM
1

Isn't this just kind of blaming her for not liking you? As far as I'm concerned she doesn't have to respond, she doesn't owe anything. Even if you say the most interesting and funniest shit in the world, there is no obligation on her part (Or his) to start a conversation with you.
/r/seduction06/12/11 03:24 PM
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I think "Being yourself" only works if "You" is someone other people like. For example, if I'm "Being myself" I would never serenade you. I would walk up to your lane with my groceries, smile as I pay and walk out the store. Part of "Being myself" is acting how I want to be treated and I would be annoyed if someone bothered me or tried to make me laugh while I was working. I'm one of those Time is of the essence guys, no small talk. I just walk in, do what needs to be done and walk out. I hate p…
/r/seduction06/12/11 03:19 PM
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Sounds like a good way to spend the night getting slapped. I've got a hard as hell time approaching or becoming interested in someone I see, which makes starting up a good conversation almost impossible. Having a few generic lines and statements can get over that hurdle when first trying to meet people.
/r/seduction06/12/11 03:13 PM
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You're apologizing for having fun with some friends? Being yourself? I find that you can tell who someone really is by how they interact with close friends, I know the face I put on for the public and the one reserved for those few friends I have are very different.
/r/seduction03/12/11 07:21 PM
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Shit everyone knows? I've been operating on the fact that no one knows a damn thing.
/r/seduction03/12/11 04:03 AM
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If just saying the word "love" around her is enough to make her alter her behavior, I don't think it's you with the problem mate.
/r/seduction01/12/11 04:40 AM
1

Any tips on arranging said OkCupid dates?
/r/seduction27/11/11 02:29 AM
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If you don't care about the outcome, why bother doing it? Maybe it's because I've spent my whole life always working for the outcome, because I don't see anything else to work for. Just having "fun" doesn't seem worth it. Nor is it "fun", at least not to me. I guess my question is: How did you teach yourself to enjoy doing things like this? I have much of the same problem when trying to read /r/malefashionadvice, I read it and think "Dear god, this is a lot of superficial shit I really don't car…
/r/seduction27/11/11 02:07 AM
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Similar question. If a girl comes up to me asking if I can help her with homework or something. Why should I tell her no? If it costs me nothing to do why shouldn't I do it? I don't see the point in telling someone no when they ask for a favor just so they will respect you more. If I asked someone if they could help me with something, then they said no, I would immediately disqualify them for friendship or anything further. If they are not willing to help me, I'm not willing to help them.
/r/seduction25/11/11 09:21 PM
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I can't condone this message, I tried the "Assume every girl is attracted to you" and all it did was fuck up the friendships I had made with women in my class. I went through ten people (Who now will have nothing to do with me) because I assumed that they were attracted to me, only to be harshly reminded that they weren't. I've been slapped, stood up or just completely ignored. It only took ten people before I realized "Hey, maybe women aren't attracted to me?". So now it's been hell trying to r…
/r/seduction25/11/11 09:04 PM
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How can you justify treating yourself as "a pinnacle" and someone else as a peon? In the grand scheme neither of you matter more than the other.
/r/seduction24/11/11 03:38 PM
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Including yourself. Sorry, I try not remind myself of the scope of the universe. Too many existential panic attacks.
/r/seduction24/11/11 08:32 AM
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As per the agreement I made with my parents upon turning 18, they will continue to pay for my schooling/insurance on the condition I don't get a motorcycle :P. So I got the next best thing, a Jeep Wrangler.
/r/seduction20/11/11 06:46 PM
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Ya, I'm trying to find new more interesting hobbies that I enjoy, looking into flight lessons at the moment.
/r/seduction19/11/11 07:24 PM
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Have any tips?
/r/seduction19/11/11 01:45 AM
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When I say game, I don't mean only go for sex. I mean just keeping their interest, having a good conversation and maybe getting their number so we could meet up again.
/r/seduction18/11/11 07:52 PM
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This seems like an over simplification, the few times I have tried to "game" it was on HB0's, 1's and 2's. But I was still rejected.
/r/seduction18/11/11 05:17 PM
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Isn't there another side to this though? I do things that amuse me, playing some Skyrim, working and my programming hobbies. Those things make me happy, but they don't give me much in the way that I can share with someone else. So not all hobbies and passions are created equal.
/r/seduction18/11/11 02:27 PM
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How do you "Go deep"? I don't really care about other people, what motivates them, why they act the way they do, etc. I just don't see it's relevance. I gained all of my understanding of emotions and how to act/respond to them from movies and books. I don't know why I do those things (Like using hugging as a form of comfort), I just know that hugging is how society expects comfort to be shown. So that's how I do it, I just don't know why. So back to my first question: How do you go deep with som…
/r/seduction18/11/11 02:12 PM
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How would you have handled it? Honestly most of my thoughts have been leading towards the desire to just stop. Stop trying to make friends, stop trying to connect with people, stop dating. Why? Because I can say that doing those things only brings me unhappiness. They likely aren't the underlying source of it, but they tend to exacerbate it's presence. So I'm just going to focus on things that make me happy instead, staying home on the weekend, working at my job and programming.
/r/seduction18/11/11 01:47 PM
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Ha, I wouldn't know. I'm here to learn how to make friends and connect to other people around me. I'm not really interested in sex, maybe it's just my natural sex drive is very low, but the thought it sex doesn't entice me.
/r/seduction18/11/11 01:40 PM
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I'm of the opinion that it's impossible to "Not give a fuck". You can seem to an outsider that you don't give a fuck, or don't care about anything. But I feel that a sense of giving a fuck is required to be , for lack of a better term sentient.
/r/seduction18/11/11 03:36 AM
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Yep, I hate touching people. I don't like touching, nor do I enjoy being touched. It just.... You know that feeling you get? When someone is really invading your sense of personal space? Like getting bumped up against and pushed and shoved while in a crowed? That panicky, gut reaction of fear? When everything seems to be happening too fast, pressure on all sides with no escape? That's how I feel when touching or being touched.
/r/seduction18/11/11 03:31 AM
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How do you view the world as so... worth while? I mean, to me and orange is an orange. Maybe if you wanted to write a bullshit ENC paper you could go on about the magic energy and symbolism that an orange represents, but I'm a technical writing kind of guy. Oranges are orange, women are women, men are men, people are people. There is no magic, there doesn't need to be. It just is. That doesn't mean it can't be fun to dissect these concepts of "man", "woman", "person", "orange. In fact it can be …
/r/seduction18/11/11 03:28 AM
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I have to wonder if this is the kind of attitude "Fuck everyone else, only you matter. Your own happiness trumps everything" that will lead to the downfall of humanity.
/r/seduction18/11/11 03:16 AM
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Sprout Wings and fly, just fly. I know you mean well, but while little one liner sentences may sound cool, they are absolutely fucking useless.
/r/seduction18/11/11 03:14 AM
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You want me to talk and dance with a purely mental construct that was created as a way to defend myself? Is there some sort of guide for this kind of thing? Like "Take a hit of LSD and smoke pot."? I can't comprehend a lot of the concepts and things you have been going on about in this thread, but this "Talk to your subconscious barriers that years of therapy has yet to reach" shit is goes so beyond crazy it's ... well.. crazy. If you mean understand yourself and the motives behind your actions,…
/r/seduction18/11/11 03:10 AM
1

Been awhile, but what if a "Down to earth serious guy" is who we really are? Everyone I talk to tells me to be myself, that if I act like who I really am people will suddenly like me. Well I am acting like who I am. I'm a straight edged (No Drinking/Drugs), young (19) college student whose dream in life is to get a good career. I dislike parties, clubs and bars and find myself more at home at a coffee shop with a book or my laptop. How do you dress that up? I quit the online dating thing because…
/r/seduction16/11/11 02:49 PM
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Sure, go ahead.
/r/seduction13/11/11 05:10 PM
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I did something like this for awhile with OkCupid, it really does work. Before I would spend a few hours each night looking for new people to message and creating a message tailored for their profile. Got to be too time consuming so I hired a good friend to do all of my messages for me. Ended up going from something like a 5% reply rate to over 70% it was crazy.
/r/seduction13/11/11 03:49 PM
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Not sure, the first few times I went I pushed myself until physically sick. Nowadays I just do enough work to maintain and maybe build a little on what I have, by the time I leave the gym driving back home becomes a whole new activity when you can barely turn the wheel.
/r/seduction11/11/11 07:21 PM
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Yes because attracting women is the only thing in life :P. Exercise is great and all, but I've been going to a gym for the past two months and I have yet to experience this "Exercise High" everyone talks about.
/r/seduction11/11/11 04:01 AM
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I agree, my idea of a fun weekend is working overtime. Sadly it's hard to find people that share that belief. Most people seem put off by the fact that I actually enjoy working and would prefer it to going out to a bar or going clubbing.
/r/seduction07/11/11 03:58 AM
1

I know I'm the reason I have so few friends, no need to remind me. If you dont think during a conversation how do you have one? As a man you are expected to be the one carrying the conversation, from my own experiences I have found that if I'm not talking no one is.
/r/seduction27/10/11 11:09 PM
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How did you manage to build up the comfort level enough that she was willing to meet up with you in person? I've been doing online dating for awhile now. My response rate is pretty low, only around 7% and of those that have responded I managed to scare them away by asking if they wanted to meet in person. I had thought that after messaging back and forth for a week they were comfortable enough with me but apparently not. And of course now that they have rejected meeting in person they want nothi…
/r/seduction27/10/11 04:57 AM
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I have to disagree strongly with this There is a necessity for some people to tell themselves mentally to do things, but people forget that attracting the opposite sex is a very natural, and most of all SIMPLE process. Simple? Have you tried it? Are you a human? Because this shit is so far from simple. Calculus is simple compared to this stuff. Before you go on and say "Oh but I bet calculus was hard, before you learned etc, etc". Here is the thing. Calculus has rules. Very well defined rules to…
/r/seduction27/10/11 03:46 AM
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You know what I liked about this post? It's pretty much gender neutral. He/She makes a good point though. Why do I always have to be the one risking my neck, why am I the only one ever putting any effort into it? How about the other party show some fucking initiative for once, take a risk instead of sitting idly by wondering why no one will talk to you. If you expect me to come and start everything, you can fuck off. I expect equality motherfucker. What's really great, is that we can both say th…
/r/seduction27/10/11 02:09 AM
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Actually isn't it the other way? Ejaculation has been shown to lower the amount of testosterone in the blood (same with masturbation). Other than that though I'm just not very interested in sex. I'm not handsome enough to sell my body (nor do I have the time, sitting around street corners at night) and I enjoy my job more than enough as it is. What I'm more interested in right now is forming friendships, which IS something I'm having a hard time with. Not that Seddit can really help me there, mo…
/r/seduction27/10/11 01:12 AM
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Ha, I tend to enjoy money more than I do people. Though lately that is changing now that I have realized just how far behind I am when compared to my age group. Plus it's been proven that having a larger social circle can help with finding opportunities to make money. I also tend to enjoy the possibility of fucking my life up someway or another really exciting. Makes life more fun, I mean, what's the worst that can happen if a woman rejects me? Nothing. So it's just not very fun. The way I see i…
/r/seduction27/10/11 01:02 AM
1

I actually find interviews a lot funner than trying to talk to people casually. I tend to enjoy talking to a potential employer, researching about them beforehand and the "formula and rule-set" that you can follow and twist during an interview. I'll take doing a business interview over talking to a woman any day.
/r/seduction27/10/11 12:42 AM
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I considered this, but ended up getting a job as a tutor instead. I'm great in a professional/business setting but still lacking anywhere else. I guess it doesn't really matter too much, since most of my life will be in a professional setting.
/r/seduction27/10/11 12:39 AM
1

Don't really agree with the online dating thing, we can't all live near major population centers.
/r/seduction27/10/11 12:23 AM
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I'm not sure if there are even 2000 women my age/social group in my area. Do men count? Because I have definitely crossed that number by now.
/r/seduction27/10/11 12:17 AM
1

Yes? It does affect me. If he sees something wrong with me, I'd like to know about it so I can go about fixing it. Chances are he is not the first to have that thought and the more I work towards making myself liked by others the more self-worth I'll have.
/r/seduction27/10/11 12:15 AM
1

Are you sure you have met "Shady" people? The shady people I know of don't give a fuck who you are or how you act. If you have something they want they take it, even if they need to get a little bloody. I never go around those parts of town anymore, because that's exactly what would happen if I did. Hell, we have at least one shooting every week.
/r/seduction27/10/11 12:13 AM
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Been on the practice stages for the past 3 years. Don't really see any way I can improve at this point. This advice is great if you are struggling with confidence, or just talking to people in general. I'm not however, I just fail in other ways that are harder to fix.
/r/seduction21/10/11 02:25 AM
1

That assumes every woman values sex more than friendship. Which not all if them do. Bro's Before Hoes man. Some people do value friendship over sex.
/r/seduction20/10/11 05:02 PM
1

Yes, because if a woman doesn't want to have sex it means she has issues.
/r/seduction20/10/11 01:09 AM
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Guess I'm not average, it's only around once every other week for me.
/r/seduction19/10/11 09:07 PM
8

I'm not starving, I just don't find sex to be very high on my priorities, friends are more important to me right now.
/r/seduction19/10/11 05:47 PM
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Why does everyone act like friendship is the worst thing that could happen to a man? I know I'd appreciate it if I could even become a friend to a woman.
/r/seduction19/10/11 02:54 PM
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True, you must give a fuck on learning how to not give a fuck. This indicates that "fuck"s are required for them to not be required. Making it impossible to truly not give a fuck.
/r/seduction19/10/11 04:58 AM
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That's a great way to get hurt and have your trust broken. Or at least that's what I have found in my short life. Maybe I'm wrong and I judge people too harshly, but if life has taught me anything so far it's to trust only your closest friends and assume everyone else is working for their own agenda. As far as I'm concerned someone has to earn my trust and respect, I don't just it out to anyone.
/r/seduction19/10/11 03:51 AM
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I don't think I'm ever going to be able to understand this kind of mentality. Whenever I try to use it I just become depressed and apathetic. So I don't.
/r/seduction19/10/11 03:43 AM
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How do you be a fun guy? Is it inviting people to events? Because I do that every weekend and I'm still a pretty damn boring person? Is it by drinking or using drugs? How do you be fun? Is it a state of being enjoyable to be around? Because that changes from person to person. Fun is a relative term. Just because you are having fun, doesn't mean those around you are and vice versa.
/r/seduction19/10/11 03:26 AM
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If you don't judge a person based on their behaviors/actions how do you form a model of what kind of person they are? Most people use the mental model they form of a persons personality to predict what that person may be thinking or may plan on doing. Or at least I do, and I assume others do. Mainly because that seems, to me, to be a pretty sensible thing to do.
/r/seduction19/10/11 03:22 AM
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Does Tampa, FL have a pickup club? I checked the sidebar and didn't see one listed.
/r/seduction18/10/11 04:49 AM
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Working on the better friends part, but hell can it be hard. Trying to get new friends is what finally lead me to creating a Facebook/Google+ account not that it has helped any. My general friend making formula is fairly slow paced, not to mention the fact that I use different personalities depending on who I'm with or where I am makes keeping everyone straight a little sanity bending.
/r/seduction18/10/11 03:10 AM
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Ya, that's what I normally do. If you replace "chatting up dudes" with "sitting alone at starbucks". I wish there was more to do down where I live, but when the biggest attraction is a 24/7 starbucks 3 hours away (That's always full), you're limited on what you can do.
/r/seduction18/10/11 02:36 AM
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What about those of us that invite others out to do things, but end up going alone because no one seems to care :/. That's my current social life at the moment. Doesn't mean I don't have fun on the weekends, but it would still be nice to actually have someone accept an invitation.
/r/seduction18/10/11 02:27 AM
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I know Tampa/Sarasota are pretty much empty of any kind of nightlife scene. Not sure about Miami. Florida pretty much closes at 10PM and everyone is too old to do anything.
/r/seduction18/10/11 02:24 AM
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Why does every man I talk to have such a "Whaaaaaa! I could never give up Sex!" attitude then? It's not even an essential function. You can live your entire life without sex and be perfectly fine, people have done it before. So all I'm saying is: Before you ask someone to give up their favorite food, ask yourself if you would be willing to give up sex.
/r/seduction18/10/11 02:19 AM
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Any advice on body language? I have no idea how to act or move so I always over-exaggerate my facial expressions and movements to the point where it's almost a caricature. Or what would your advice be if you are not getting turned down by women, but rather they always ignore you after the first date?
/r/seduction18/10/11 01:26 AM
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I don't think I can ever truly be happy then. If I can't be happy, why be alive? If the point of life is, as you said, to be happy. If happiness is unattainable why strive for it? My life is too strongly tied to what's happening to me and what people think of me. I know it's a problem but I can't fix it. So why bother? Why go through all the trouble of trying to fix some problem just so I can be happy? Does happiness even matter? In the end whether we were happy with our lives doesn't matter. An…
/r/seduction04/10/11 05:56 AM
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Ha, that might be fun. If I had the ability/skill to do any of it. Hitler was a far greater man than I. I would totally incite a country into a world wide war and reign as a dictator if I could. Though I guess starting a small cult isn't too far out of my reach.
/r/seduction04/10/11 05:43 AM
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Ha, if only I had any success to start with. Funny story with this one. She met me through a friend, then tried a relationship with me. Then told me that I'm not good enough to be her boyfriend, but maybe we can be friends. Friends that never talk to each other nor see each other, and do everything they can to stay far away from each other. Only reason I talked to her tonight is due to a moment of weakness, I know she doesn't have to time nor want to deal with my shit. No one does. But I needed …
/r/seduction04/10/11 05:37 AM
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If that was possible I'm sure me or my doctors would have worked something out by now. Besides, I'm not a Jedi. I have yet to master the whole "There is no spoon" spoon bending thing. Ignoring the negative aspects of life will not make them disappear nor will it eliminate them. Sometimes life just sucks and the only way out is suicide. At least that's what I believe. I don't even really know why I bother posting. Maybe it's because I want someone to talk to. Maybe deep down I really do want to b…
/r/seduction04/10/11 05:26 AM
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Well, I've gone this long being nothing and I'll be nothing long after my life passes. It's never hurt me nor have I been harmed by the experience. So I don't fear it or feel the need to believe this life is worth anything. Sure it's short and you only experience it once but... How does that change anything? How does that give it worth? It's a question that each person can have a different answer to. I simply don't believe that this life has any more worth than the nothingness that comes before …
/r/seduction04/10/11 04:54 AM
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How do you people say these things? I break out into a sweat just giving the girl at Starbucks some money. I have seen people say things like this out in the wild... To me they just seem annoying.
/r/seduction04/10/11 04:42 AM
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But I'm not boring! At least I don't think I am. Sadly other people don't find working in a cubical as fun as I do. That's their problem as far as I'm concerned. It does make finding friends with similar interests almost impossible however. The constant panic attacks and feelings that I have wasted the best years of my life and I have no future ahead of me so I might as well just get death out of the way now doesn't help but..... Not much I can do about them. Other than either A. Drug myself all…
/r/seduction04/10/11 04:34 AM
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Helpful - Comment - Not
/r/seduction04/10/11 03:51 AM
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Funny, just asked a female friend of mine why I have such trouble with women and friendships in general. Her reply? "You need to stop going to r/seduction for advice, it's turning you into a boring drone." What do I do right after? Browse r/seduction. I think I have a problem. Send help. Please.
/r/seduction04/10/11 03:25 AM
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I can't really say I have ever done anything for myself, its always been for someone else. Whether it be for my parents (school, college, work) our for my friends (hey lets all go play that one game! (I hate that one game)). I've spent my entire life doing things because other people want me to. At this point I don't know how to do something just for myself
/r/seduction23/09/11 04:29 PM
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If no one else acknowledges it, why bother doing it? It's not like you matter.
/r/seduction23/09/11 11:12 AM
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If I were you I would recommend you do what I do, don't try and get with women you work with or have any kind of daily forced interaction.
/r/seduction23/09/11 02:40 AM
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"The best way to die slowly, is to climb a mountain, and tell no one." Are you saying he should do something risky and not tell anyone about it because that magically creates a feeling of self-worth and confidence? Because it doesn't. To ssj4cage, I would say get angry. Be angry that they are being assholes. The next time you see them, that happens don't be outwardly angry. But make notice, remember who they are and the next time they need help with something don't help them.
/r/seduction23/09/11 02:36 AM
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Whenever I read the things in the sidebar I get a combination of angry and sad. So I just don't read the things in the sidebar.
/r/seduction23/09/11 12:41 AM
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Hah, nah. Most of these other guys somehow get people to like them. Only tried-and-true way I can make friends is if I give them money.
/r/seduction22/09/11 03:39 AM
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When the option has been taken out of your hands. You have nothing to do with how people see you. That's up to them. If everyone wants to say your a piece of shit there is nothing you can do to prevent them from doing so. Some people are just naturally likable, just something about them that makes others like them. Some people are the other way around, everyone hates them for no reason. Nothing that person does can affect what everyone else thinks about them.
/r/seduction22/09/11 03:36 AM
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When it's the only option? I'm just trying to inject some realism into r/seduction is all. Too many happy people with their head in the clouds.
/r/seduction22/09/11 03:30 AM
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Alright, so you said what we should be. That's great. Too bad we can't be. That's something I think everyone in this subreddit needs to learn. We can't always get what we want, and we can't always be who we want to be. Sometimes you just suck.
/r/seduction22/09/11 03:25 AM
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I think my biggest problem is I know I can't dress it up. I know that I am inferior to my peers and it makes me want to not even bother. I mean sure, you could get better. Maybe, but while your getting better so are they. You will always be behind.
/r/seduction22/09/11 03:17 AM
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I understand how you feel. I'm years behind everyone my own age and it's killing me. I feel so inferior to everyone around me that it's making being around others miserable.
/r/seduction22/09/11 03:10 AM
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Everyone hates me, I don't know why. Every time I try to make friends with people (I'm not even talking about dating here) they all ignore/tell me to fuck off after a week or two of knowing me. I have no fucking idea why people seem to hate me so much but it makes me hate myself all the more. I try to go out, hell. I spend more time outside my house than I do inside anymore. At this point I only come home to sleep and I only get about 5 hours of sleep a night anymore. I spend every waking hour t…
/r/seduction22/09/11 03:02 AM
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Why do people think sex is so damn important? I just don't understand it. I mean, if she is willing to have sex with you doesn't that mean she is already interested in you?
/r/seduction21/09/11 05:33 AM
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No idea. Though I think I'm just angry at myself and how worthless I am. Since I don't know how to properly deal with those emotions I direct it outwards, hoping someone will and will help me with it.
/r/seduction16/09/11 04:56 AM
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This question really comes from a bad place, women want sex and they want to be seduced. This question makes it seem like they want to withhold sex and "game" is somehow tricking them into giving it away, thus smarter women are harder to trick. That is crap. This is honestly how I have always viewed (and likely always will) view PUA and relationships in general. I don't really want to and I know my only chance of every having normal life are to learn the things seddit can teach but... Whenever I…
/r/seduction16/09/11 04:19 AM
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Maybe it's just my mindset. For me it takes at least 6 months of exposure for me to engage in small talk.
/r/seduction16/09/11 04:13 AM
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But. Gah. Sex requires an emotional foundation for it to be worthwhile. I can't imagine myself just having sex with a random person, granted this may be because I can't imagine myself even talking to random person but still... If the media/life has taught my anything it's that women don't just enjoy having sex with anyone. There needs to be an emotional connection.
/r/seduction16/09/11 04:04 AM
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How does that even work? I mean. I know I have no idea what I'm talking about when it comes to this but I can't even imagine a woman having sex with someone without dating/getting to know them first. Why would they even agree to sex without knowing you anyway? I read the article but I don't really understand how that kind of thing happens or even what I'm trying to say. Gah! Can't leave this alone until I find the words I'm looking for. [what a lie, your goal wasn't to stuff your stomach and see…
/r/seduction16/09/11 03:56 AM
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She refuses to have anything to do with me at this point.
/r/seduction15/09/11 07:27 PM
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Wish I was trolling. I wish I didn't wake up every morning hating myself and my choices in life. I wish I didn't get irrationally angry at myself every night and I wish I didn't take to cutting myself when I get bad enough. I also wish I wasn't going through any of this and sometimes consider suicide. But they, just got to man up right? Also wish I was sleeping and not on reddit at 3:10AM, can't have everything I guess.
/r/seduction15/09/11 07:10 AM
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A few months from 20 actually. She's not someone I met through college either, but rather someone I have known since maybe 2008? So saying that losing 3 years of friendship not to mention the fact that I can no longer play LoL with her or her group of friends is not a big deal doesn't make any sense to me. Before her I have never had a friendship with a woman. Like I said, I completely ignored them in favor of completing school. From middle school to my junior year of college. I do my best not t…
/r/seduction15/09/11 07:04 AM
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To not even think "HI IMMA TURTLE" For those not getting the reference Turrrrrtle
/r/seduction15/09/11 06:16 AM
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I don't want there to be a next girl is the thing. For all of my life I have devoted my entire being to academics. I never bothered with friends, they would only slow me down if I wanted to transfer schools. I have never been attracted to women before now and I have always put my possible career ahead of any kind of social interaction. Hell my parents encouraged it. "Don't worry about those nasty girls, just keep working on that school. " My biggest problem is that before all of this I was happy…
/r/seduction15/09/11 06:09 AM
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I don't want to flirt with them, as flirting would only make me obsesses over them instead. Think of it this way. If I was a sex offender asking how to stop my sex offendery urges. Would your first answer be to talk to little girls? What I want to know is how the people on this subreddit have managed to become completely detached, emotionally, from their partners. That's what I want to know.
/r/seduction15/09/11 05:54 AM
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I wonder if I should have bolded this part... “Just go fuck 10 women dude, that fixes all my problems” Doing that now.
/r/seduction15/09/11 05:47 AM
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Why do you need to rationalize feeling good about yourself? Maybe some people don't like ignoring the truth and lying to themselves? Some people just suck, I am one of them. With how varied people are you can't just say "Everyone is Awesome" because it's a lie. Some people are just boring or bad people.
/r/seduction15/09/11 05:44 AM
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I don't understand this kino thing. How exactly is being touched by some random stranger comforting? If someone I don't know (Hell, even if they are someone I do know) is touching me, I get weirded the fuck out.
/r/seduction15/09/11 05:00 AM
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I don't think I can do that. I mean, if I ever saw something doing that I would instantly hate them because they are being an ass. In fact, try to get other people to do things they don't want to do. That's called being a manipulative douche. Or a rapist, depends on the context. You don't give a shit what others think and do whatever you want, whenever you want. That's just straight up assholery. Doing whatever you want and not giving a fuck about the well being of the people around you is a gre…
/r/seduction15/09/11 04:47 AM
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Because dominance/aggressiveness/assertiveness are personality traits and your personality is who you are?
/r/seduction15/09/11 04:34 AM
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But... how? I mean to me something like that isn't as easily changed as a say, getting more exercise and eating less. I don't even know the first thing about what you would do. Your example with the fat woman. Ya, she can change her weight but you can't really fix ugly. I mean, I don't see how someone can just... be dominate. It has to be who you are as a person, not some switch you just flick on and off.
/r/seduction15/09/11 04:32 AM
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I don't suppose you have any tips for someone who is not dominant or assertive? Never have been likely never will and I don't want to make a fundamental change to myself just because it might make women like me. I'm sure there is something out there for submissive men, just wondering if you have had any experience with that.
/r/seduction15/09/11 03:12 AM
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I have thought that I may have some kind of Autism, but I never really felt the need to try pursuing it. I always just assumed that it was something I was doing wrong, or it was the result of my upbringing childhood. I pretty much grew up on a farm with no one my age around, when it came time for me to go to school my parents sent me to a highly religious private school and while I did well there I was never really able to connect to any of my classmates. Both of my younger siblings have it howe…
/r/seduction18/05/11 09:28 PM
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I have gotten to the point where I can make out extreme emotions from someones face, but it's normal everyday facial expressions/body language that I have trouble with. As for dealing with situations where someone is obviously distressed.... Lets just say they don't let me handle those at work any more. I mean, I try to act sympathetic but I have been told that I instead act uncaring/mean.
/r/seduction18/05/11 09:24 PM
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