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Field ReportTeachMePersuasion/r/seduction17/01/26 05:50 PM
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Fundamentals TeachMePersuasion/r/seduction04/06/25 05:57 PM
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Outer Game TeachMePersuasion/r/seduction06/11/25 08:39 AM
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Outer Game TeachMePersuasion/r/seduction15/07/25 03:19 PM
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Fundamentals TeachMePersuasion/r/seduction16/09/25 04:34 PM
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Outer Game TeachMePersuasion/r/seduction02/07/25 02:01 PM
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Fundamentals TeachMePersuasion/r/seduction23/07/25 02:19 PM
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LifestyleTeachMePersuasion/r/seduction31/03/25 11:49 PM
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LifestyleTeachMePersuasion/r/seduction13/01/26 07:21 PM
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Outer Game TeachMePersuasion/r/seduction17/03/25 01:27 PM
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LogisticsTeachMePersuasion/r/seduction17/10/25 08:10 PM
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DebateTeachMePersuasion/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 11:01 PM
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Inner Game TeachMePersuasion/r/seduction18/03/25 10:11 PM
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LifestyleTeachMePersuasion/r/seduction29/08/25 11:46 AM
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Outer Game TeachMePersuasion/r/seduction06/01/26 10:19 AM
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Outer Game TeachMePersuasion/r/seduction03/04/25 11:35 PM
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Outer Game TeachMePersuasion/r/seduction30/03/25 09:58 PM
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Fundamentals TeachMePersuasion/r/seduction27/09/25 01:47 AM
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Fundamentals TeachMePersuasion/r/seduction02/12/25 12:54 AM
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Fundamentals TeachMePersuasion/r/seduction11/02/26 07:48 PM
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1

You're telling me that if you look great, but you act like chris chan, you'll have game? Because that would be the case.
/r/seduction16/07/26 01:49 AM
1

Not exactly true, unless you're talking about physique in relation to looks. If you dress like a wealthy man, you give off the aura of a wealthy man. If they find out that you live in a shack, but spend all your money on clothes, you are not wealthy, nor do you have the merits to become wealthy. At that point you're just an idiot and a fake. It's a veneer and nothing more. So no form and function are not the same thing.
/r/seduction15/07/26 10:43 PM
1

Women may approach a man the way they approach a table The purpose of a tablecloth is to make the table look good. It is form but not function. Form will draw them in, but it won't keep them. The form of a table is in its tablecloth, and the function is to be able to function as a table without tipping over. The form of a man is how he looks, and the function of a man is his ability to gain and retain attraction.
/r/seduction15/07/26 10:34 PM
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I am referring to how women will want you She might want to sit at the best looking table, but if it risks tipping over when you put a glass of water on it, they probably won't stay long
/r/seduction15/07/26 09:58 PM
1

Right, you've never experienced love. Maybe you've only ever felt agape before, but I doubt it. Between your reality-defying definitions as to what "love" is and how the Greeks defined it, I'm sticking with the Greeks.
/r/seduction26/06/26 06:28 PM
1

Someone's never loved anyone before. You can experience both. What you call love is "agape", what some would call the highest form of love, but there are four in total. You can selflessly accept when someone wants to leave you (agape), while still feeling the pain of losing a lover (eros).
/r/seduction26/06/26 06:25 PM
1

The more someone loves, the needier they become. At least, the need for that person in their life.
/r/seduction26/06/26 06:12 PM
1

Sad to say, those who love least hold the most power.
/r/seduction26/06/26 06:04 PM
3

Fake it til you make it. Act like a king, people will treat you like one.
/r/seduction26/06/26 05:56 PM
7

Abundance mindset Become the kind of person who can say, in total honesty, "I do not need this person, they need me".
/r/seduction26/06/26 08:21 AM
1

I acknowledge that I am lucky. Have you considered a job in sales? There are many such men like that iIn high dollar industries. My mentor sells timeshares for a living.
/r/seduction21/06/26 08:39 PM
1

Charisma is substance Aesthetics is style A good tablecloth is more likely to get people to put things upon it, but if it's a bad table, no one will use it.
/r/seduction21/06/26 08:17 PM
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Like a very accomplished man who has done all the things in life I want to do. Great job, hot wife, big family, stress free existence.
/r/seduction21/06/26 07:36 PM
51

My mentor had a really good analogy for this. Charisma is the table. Aesthetics is the tablecloth. Aesthetics will draw them in, but it won't keep them.
/r/seduction21/06/26 06:44 PM
17

Don't be toxic, then. Toxic people perpetually cross boundaries. What you should do instead is fine the line and, instead of crossing it, dance on it. Tease. Have fun. Tell dirty jokes, whatever. "Safe" people are boring. Toxic relationships can be fun, but are horrifying and painful after a while. Find the happy medium.
/r/seduction20/02/26 07:42 PM
1

I would say it's less about meeting people in the workplace, and more that I want to be able to meet/pick up women anywhere. Including the workplace.
/r/seduction18/02/26 05:07 PM
1

I like creating desire and tension and not fulfilling it. At least not immediately. To me, "fooling around" is fucking. Pole goes in hole, which i don't do until I've had my fun toying with her first and she's desperate for it. As far as I know baby daddy won't be there. She's still attracted to me, and while she's too unstable to have a relationship with, I wouldn't mind pounding her another day. It'll be a short meeting, probably a precursor to another one another day.
/r/seduction11/02/26 11:31 PM
1

You don't like hitting on women?
/r/seduction11/02/26 11:08 PM
0

There's always something new to learn from well-knowing people, in between the pseudo Chads that fill up the community.
/r/seduction11/02/26 08:20 PM
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Hey, if you have cuck fantasies, that's your business.
/r/seduction11/02/26 08:16 PM
-6

I said you can go.
/r/seduction11/02/26 07:59 PM
-12

You sound like a person that is incapable of enjoying sex or relationships or flirting. You can go now.
/r/seduction11/02/26 07:57 PM
1

Only that I don't know the best way to help them.
/r/seduction18/01/26 12:47 AM
1

It's going great, thank you for asking.
/r/seduction18/01/26 12:30 AM
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What do you mean? Can you spell it out for me?
/r/seduction17/01/26 08:36 PM
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Every once in a while, she'll say something cute.And I'll laugh and make eye contact while lightly touching her chin or her cheek or something like that.
/r/seduction17/01/26 08:14 PM
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Yeah?
/r/seduction17/01/26 07:16 PM
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That we're coworkers and we're just friends. Not that that matters a whole lot. She said " i don't see you as a sexual being" less than ten minutes before we did it, an after we did it, she kept pawing for more.
/r/seduction17/01/26 06:53 PM
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I have never, in my life met a woman whose words hold more weight than her actions. In my experience, women don't keep promises if their emotions lead them away from those promises. They'll sleep with someone they know they shouldn't if they're sufficiently arouse by them. For me it's not a matter of what she said yesterday. So much as it is how she's going to feel tomorrow.
/r/seduction17/01/26 06:43 PM
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That's what i'm thinking. I just don't quite know how to work around her objections.
/r/seduction17/01/26 06:33 PM
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It's a placeholder, until I get a better one in a few months, but I don't feel like quitting. I just wanna go to town on her a bit more.
/r/seduction17/01/26 06:28 PM
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A few. Most people don't want to turn their lives around, though.
/r/seduction17/01/26 01:55 PM
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Probably. In another life, I would have been a psychiatrist.
/r/seduction13/01/26 07:34 PM
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I would choose Lynne, no doubt. I'm just trying to work my way in there. I'm just wondering if I can be a manipulative bastard and go through Tammy (who already wants to fuck me) to net Lynne as well, considering they're already having sex with each other on occasion.
/r/seduction07/01/26 12:59 AM
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Unless I choose what?
/r/seduction07/01/26 12:56 AM
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No I mean a literal girlfriend. Or at least a friends with benefits situation. They're both bisexual, and I wanna fuck both of em at the same time. One of them is a hard nut to crack.
/r/seduction06/01/26 11:02 AM
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It was off the cuff, yeah.
/r/seduction06/01/26 10:52 AM
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Read the OP. It's not a diary post.
/r/seduction02/12/25 02:35 AM
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Keep assuming things about me. It's funny.
/r/seduction02/12/25 02:32 AM
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I'm not looking to get an ex back. I'm looking to boil seduction down to a science.
/r/seduction02/12/25 02:20 AM
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You're not talking to a rando. You're talking to an academic.
/r/seduction02/12/25 02:08 AM
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I acknowledge what you say, but I'm hearing limiting beliefs. I don't believe in limits. I want to know how to win. In all things.
/r/seduction02/12/25 01:56 AM
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"Giving up" isn't winning. It's losing gracefully. I want to know how one can win in all situations. It's literally in my handle. I don't know why people keep thinking this much is some diary post of mine.
/r/seduction02/12/25 01:47 AM
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Unless it ends in extreme hostility, there's always going to be a torch carried. Even then, some woken are addicted to toxic meb.
/r/seduction02/12/25 01:36 AM
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Be part of the solution. All I'm doing is asking how to do whwt everyone says can't be done.
/r/seduction02/12/25 01:27 AM
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I personally have a problem with escalation. Things which I hear some guys do immediately, I do over time.
/r/seduction24/11/25 08:33 PM
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After she confesses to me first.
/r/seduction18/11/25 12:48 PM
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Believe me, I know that now.
/r/seduction17/11/25 02:23 PM
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My best friend and I fell in love after knowing each other our whole lives. We had a future planned out, we were talking about getting married. Then she dumped me for some deadbeat guy, who would eventually be outed for sexual assault and lead to the relationship dissolving. All because, when he showed up in her life, he had alpha traits and I didn't. Being stable, friendly, and reliable weren't alpha traits. It broke my trust in her, in humanity, and in the judgement of other people. So I learn…
/r/seduction17/11/25 02:12 PM
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I like how Mystery used to do it. "You look distracted. You want to kiss me, don't you?"
/r/seduction11/11/25 09:21 PM
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Makes sense. My last partner said she'd only orgasmed half a dozen times in her life, that there's a "buildup" during the second stage, but then it's almost always lost sometime after that. Ever get that problem?
/r/seduction06/11/25 06:42 PM
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I like this answer. Can you elaborate on it, please?
/r/seduction06/11/25 10:22 AM
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That's not an issue for me. I have diffulty cumming, not ease.
/r/seduction06/11/25 09:03 AM
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The only way to get to know women is by talking to them. Talk to them, have fun with them (i.e. tease them), and above all, don't make women your priority. Someone gave me some sage advice... "don't put the pussy on a pedestal... in fact, put it UNDER the pedestal". Women should be at or near the bottom of your list of priorities.
/r/seduction04/11/25 08:35 PM
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I find it does, at least in the vast majority of cases. After a while, approaching feels as natural as breathing.
/r/seduction03/11/25 02:31 AM
1

Not opposed to the idea. I shot her down the first time she suggested, partially because I was busy with work, partially because I don't want to give it up too easily. I just want to make sure that no matter what happens, he's not there.
/r/seduction17/10/25 08:28 PM
1

I stopped negging and started teasing. Life became better.
/r/seduction13/10/25 06:43 AM
1

I recommend teasing because it builds the foundation. You do what you need to do in order to break the ice, and learn to test your social limitations. It's how you internalize "Dale Carnegie principles".
/r/seduction01/10/25 02:00 PM
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Sounds like you're being just a bit forward. Trying to close the deal before it's a done deal. The purpose of teasing isn't to close and get laid. It's to have fun. Be a little cocky, have fun, and invite them in to join in the fun.
/r/seduction30/09/25 03:48 PM
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Tease. Get good an confident enough to tease. Keep it up until women relish your presence. Then you can start worrying about things like training and technique.
/r/seduction30/09/25 03:35 PM
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You just proved my point. No, you can't know what every woman uniquely likes. Yes, you can learn what women generally like. Problem solved.
/r/seduction27/09/25 06:25 AM
1

Cool opinion, bro.
/r/seduction27/09/25 03:06 AM
1

Then you need to learn reading comprehension before you try your luck with women.
/r/seduction27/09/25 02:53 AM
1

I gave evidence. Look at the first two scenarios I posted.
/r/seduction27/09/25 02:44 AM
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"My theory is that if two men fight, coming out on top will cause a shift in your direction, but only a shift, if the violence isn't directed towards the woman. It won't make a loyal and happy wife leave her husband if he loses, but it'll make her doubt his worth as a man. If he wins, she knows his worth. A woman won't leave her man outright unless she was already planning to do so." Where here am I wrong?
/r/seduction27/09/25 02:30 AM
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Yes, I have. Those two scenarios are things that happened to people I know in real life. And I know it's not a game, hence the opening line below the title. "Stop lying online." Take your own advice.
/r/seduction27/09/25 02:02 AM
-1

Then what would be an adult's understanding of all these thing? I'm just calling it as I see it, based on how I've observed other people.
/r/seduction27/09/25 01:59 AM
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Learn how to pick up women from those who pick up women. Learn how to have sex with women from women themselves. Interesting.
/r/seduction27/09/25 01:49 AM
10

I don't see the contradiction. Display that you have a fun social circle, but if you want a wife for life, don't try to find one out clubbing.
/r/seduction26/09/25 10:31 PM
1

Maybe so, but there's definite attraction. That murderous husband? For a few years after that, she still missed him, despite everything. I wish I knew a way to break that kind of attachment.
/r/seduction26/09/25 01:21 AM
1

The women I know being abused? Their partners periodically hit them, sometimes in the face, sometimes lower. They deny them the right to and use pressure tactics to prevent them from talking to/associating with friends and family. One of them used to have a husband (whom they were very loyal to) who'd threaten them with a gun and once cut them up with a hunting knife.
/r/seduction26/09/25 12:58 AM
1

I've always lived by the idea that, for a sufficiently high value man, a woman will do anything. A stereotypical feminist, purple hair and all, will put on a cornflower dress and start baking apple pies if thats what her Adonis would like. Question is, is she worth it?
/r/seduction18/09/25 05:29 PM
1

Shocking, right??
/r/seduction18/09/25 04:47 PM
1

Good for you, man. Good for you.
/r/seduction17/09/25 05:16 PM
1

"I am too clingy" I don't quite see the merit in that.
/r/seduction17/09/25 03:39 PM
1

Lots of people, hence the post.
/r/seduction17/09/25 01:39 AM
2

Oh, you described what the firm hand is, not that you find a firm hand unacceptable.
/r/seduction16/09/25 11:03 PM
2

When I say "a firm hand", what comes to mind?
/r/seduction16/09/25 10:58 PM
2

Most people I'm attracted to, admittedly, are at least a bit immature. Guilt doesn't work because that requires accountability on their part, which they (and from what I've noticed, most people) don't have. It's better to take a firm hand with them. Firm, not abusive, but not relenting either.
/r/seduction16/09/25 09:47 PM
3

This is a call out to people who need to hear this. Yours is an equally good point.
/r/seduction16/09/25 05:14 PM
6

Just have fun with it. Guy friends like to take each other down a peg. So do women.
/r/seduction11/09/25 03:21 PM
88

Tease
/r/seduction10/09/25 05:31 PM
8

Learn to tease. Start with people you know.
/r/seduction04/09/25 10:43 PM
25

Be a tease, without being a malicious piece of crap. Have fun with it.
/r/seduction04/09/25 10:40 PM
48

Right now, despite being comfortably in my 30z.lls. I've pulled people a decade younger than myself. Its not hard, if you work on yourself and tease sufficiently.
/r/seduction04/09/25 10:11 PM
1

The impression ive gotten is that character is good for establishing LTRs, but not attraction.
/r/seduction29/08/25 11:33 PM
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1) learn to tease more; be fun, its better to go a little too far than not far enough 2) learn to ignore a woman's beauty 3) get money for yourself, and no one else 4) never, ever, EVER be needy, clingy, insecure or overbearing Do all that, let me know how it goes.
/r/seduction02/08/25 03:47 PM
1

That makes sense. If I had to guess, theres a "stay away from her" period of time, yeah?
/r/seduction23/07/25 05:27 PM
1

How would you handle them, in any case?
/r/seduction23/07/25 03:23 PM
2

Understandable. Not my thing, though.
/r/seduction23/07/25 03:21 PM
1

Can I get a retort? If I'm wrong, I'd like to hear how.
/r/seduction23/07/25 03:09 PM
3

Damn. I look forward to doing this. Moving some place urban, getting more money. More time to spend and less stress ro make me want to go home and crash.
/r/seduction17/07/25 05:11 PM
0

1) You're reading too much into this. If you read my other commends... no, I'm not looking for targets to cheat with. 2) Answer the question or go away, please. I'm not looking to be lectured on irrelevant crap I already know about.
/r/seduction16/07/25 06:20 AM
0

Why would you assume that?
/r/seduction16/07/25 03:53 AM
0

Trying what?
/r/seduction16/07/25 03:49 AM
1

I try not to directly ask anyone anything, unless I'm trying to gauge their reaction. Most people usually lie. About everything.
/r/seduction16/07/25 02:30 AM
0

The ability to say "this couple is not stable, avoid them". I've got enough drama in my life as-is.
/r/seduction16/07/25 12:19 AM
-5

Not what I'm looking to do. I asked here because of the community. Figured seducers could probably tell better than anyone how to notice this sort of thing. Calm down.
/r/seduction16/07/25 12:18 AM
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Doesn't have to be
/r/seduction15/07/25 06:03 PM
2

I'm talking about other people.
/r/seduction15/07/25 05:19 PM
0

That's actually profound. Is there a way to ask and find out? Being in the room for a "you never" moment is going to be rare unless you spend a lot of time with them.
/r/seduction15/07/25 05:00 PM
-7

Mental prep. I've known some people who've gone through messy breakups and divorces, and it always affects everyone else. I'd like to know in advance "this couple is stable," from "this couple is not stable, avoid them".
/r/seduction15/07/25 04:52 PM
1

Any examples come to mind?
/r/seduction15/07/25 04:47 PM
-2

How can you tell this as an outsider? Couples will try not to argue in front of others, and i dont know any that openly discuss screwing.
/r/seduction15/07/25 04:44 PM
1

Nah, it's just that his advice was directed towards one's partner. Ibwas adding how to tell that with women in general.
/r/seduction15/07/25 04:20 PM
1

Thank you. Valid advice, but I was wondering about women in general.
/r/seduction15/07/25 04:04 PM
48

As I understand (not field-tested, but told to me) the best thing you can do is not to escalate force. If someone puts his hands on you, respond accordingly, but if it's not at that level, just play it off as friendly. It's hard to be pissed off at someone who's playing friendly (not cowardly, not appeasing, but friendly), and if he's among others, either they'll back him up (in which case you need to leave immediately) or they'll calm him down, and he ends up looking like an asshole. Does that …
/r/seduction12/07/25 07:32 PM
3

This is true. Any well-polished aspect of the "charisma community" doesn't look like what most people assume it to be. I work in sales, and the best salespeople I know neither look nor sound like typical salesman. And that's the point. A dangerous hunter (to his prey) doesn't look like a dangerous hunter. They look like nothing at all, until it's too late.
/r/seduction11/07/25 11:28 AM
1

I'm more talking about seduction (a long term process) rather than pickup (short term). Taking a person whose life is busy and stressful and breaking on through, something that others have told me is impossible.
/r/seduction03/07/25 06:13 PM
1

Yeah, but unique doesn't mean good. It'd be unique to punch instead of saying hello, but I wouldn't recommend it.
/r/seduction02/07/25 04:58 PM
1

Yes. Will you please answer my question?
/r/seduction02/07/25 04:44 PM
3

It's a good thing. Players get lots of women for good reason. The ideal man is a dangerous animal caged by his own volition.
/r/seduction30/06/25 01:46 PM
1

Legit question, what here is unfriendly? It's all consensual.
/r/seduction27/06/25 07:19 PM
2

You don't think morale plays a factor?
/r/seduction17/06/25 06:50 PM
3

You forget that your morale is probably the biggest factor in any conflict. If you brim with unshakable confidence, you'll win If just being alive makes you quiver, you won't. The "process over outcome" approach I'm saying is going to keep your morale neutral or higher. The "outcome over process" approach will be gambling with your morale, and make you stop appreciating your successes.
/r/seduction17/06/25 06:46 PM
2

Of course. But you're going to have high days and low days. Some you'll get really lucky and want to quit after just an hour (when you could be making so much more) and others you'll get no luck no matter how many calls you make, and you'll end the day feeling discouraged. Just get a reasonable number of calls you can make, do them, and have that be your goal. If you make $10,000 from them, you'll go home feeling great. If you don't, you'll at least preserve your sanity.
/r/seduction17/06/25 06:40 PM
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Actually it's the sales, which you make at the appointments. But if you spend your time counting appointments ("I made x number today"), you may be disappointed. You can bust your ass to get them all day and turn up empty handed, even if you're doing right. But if you focus on the process, your mental health and overall results will be better for it.
/r/seduction17/06/25 03:31 PM
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Have goals but focus more on the process than the outcome. In sales, I might say "I'd like to get on the phone and make some appointments". I focus on making 300 calls. I count calls, not appointments, as the goal. Effort, not outcome. Work to get a good outcome, but don't become attached to it.
/r/seduction17/06/25 03:22 PM
1

Not in the eyes of the public. You might be better at painting Warhammer miniatures than the person who owns a mansion and a yacht, but the dating market will weigh more towards them than you.
/r/seduction09/06/25 09:38 PM
1

You can do both. Are we going to pretend we're all equal status to one another?
/r/seduction09/06/25 11:55 AM
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There is no bigger turnoff than neediness. The "i dont need you because I'm higher value than you" can be a massive turnon sometimes.
/r/seduction05/06/25 02:32 PM
2

No you haven't. "Give up your religion" isn't advice on seduction.
/r/seduction05/06/25 02:21 PM
0

Considered and done so already.
/r/seduction05/06/25 02:19 PM
-4

Yes we are. Or at least you are. Have you considered throwing your fedora away and actually giving advice?
/r/seduction05/06/25 02:12 PM
0

I hate how everyone is ragging on your new religious status, instead of approaching the actual issue at hand. If you don't mind being celibate, that's great. Fewer sexual partners means a higher probability of marital success. However... as you date these women, ask yourself: Does she WANT to fuck you? If there's clear, unresolved sexual tension, but no aex, that's a good thing. If there's no sex or no sexual tension, gigantic red flag. Better you marry a slut than a woman that will never, ever …
/r/seduction05/06/25 02:09 PM
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There's no such thing as noncomformity. Only conformism to different things. What you're spitting is "pink haired Tumblrina" logic.
/r/seduction05/06/25 02:05 PM
6

Noted. This is where the "treat them like crap" mentality comes from.
/r/seduction04/06/25 09:03 PM
1

Oh, I'm more than familiar with Style. Sounds worth taking another look.
/r/seduction04/06/25 07:47 PM
3

It sounds like I should check him out. Isn't he also the guy that promoted "cocky funny" material back in the day?
/r/seduction04/06/25 07:38 PM
-1

Already addressed that.
/r/seduction04/06/25 06:45 PM
0

I'll say that yeah, there are always limits. No one would date Peter Scully, no matter how high quality he might be, unless there's money involved.
/r/seduction04/06/25 06:40 PM
5

Power isn't the thing you should fear. It's what you do with it. For a lot of people, getting good at picking up girls is the cure to their depression. Those who've grown powerful at doing so, but chose not to abuse it (marriage and children) are some of the happiest people alive.
/r/seduction03/05/25 06:26 PM
1

I known three men who are huge dorks and get laid like crazy.
/r/seduction21/04/25 04:38 PM
452

Because he's charismatic. Charisma beats everything else. Being swole, handsome, rich... all of it pales in comparison to the ability to hit the right emotional buttons.
/r/seduction21/04/25 02:22 AM
14

Simple: Because it's fun. Complex: Because it's fun, it shows you're brave enough to say something negative about someone else (but not petty enough to genuinely mean it), and that you're free enough to break social conventions in the name of having a good time. People who tease are willing to trade weakness for pleasure, and that's the best exchange you can make socially. Like turning mud into gold.
/r/seduction19/04/25 12:26 PM
1

Because he lives with himself every day, and we don't. Perhaps he has that self awareness.
/r/seduction18/04/25 08:56 PM
1

Be yourself, but be your BEST self. That's what matters.
/r/seduction18/04/25 05:26 PM
2

Are you able to see where you went wrong?
/r/seduction18/04/25 05:16 PM
35

Get used to being around beautiful women. Fashion photographers, regardless of sexuality, feel zero stress around hot girls. They're very used to them.
/r/seduction18/04/25 02:58 PM
3

To get her to change her mind and confide in me fully. I had her trust and excitement, then I lost it. It can be reattained.
/r/seduction18/04/25 12:56 AM
7

One of you is going to have to break the silence. I'll tell you what my mentor told me about such situations: The day before her birthday, in your words, send her a text that suggests "hey, I'm busy tomorrow, so I wanted to say in advance Happy Birthday!" It worked for me, and what better day than her birthday... a celebration of her?
/r/seduction17/04/25 11:47 PM
3

When's her birthday?
/r/seduction17/04/25 11:19 PM
4

Good. Happy to hear it.
/r/seduction17/04/25 11:15 PM
2

You want her back?
/r/seduction17/04/25 11:14 PM
4

How long ago was this?
/r/seduction17/04/25 11:13 PM
26

Oh, believe me, I've learned that. Working out, quit my last stressful job, got a fun one in sales that makes far more. I guess I should specify we haven't broken up, but our engagement ended. I could probably get her back if I wanted to.
/r/seduction17/04/25 07:12 PM
239

I had my heart broken.. I learned it's not what you do that causes people to love you, but who you are. I gained her by acting independent. I lost her by acting like a codependent house-husband. Never again.
/r/seduction17/04/25 04:07 PM
-6

What do you think draws them?
/r/seduction16/04/25 11:17 PM
4

Charisma and Game >>>>>>>>>> infinity >>>>>>>>> fitness Getting swole may get you SOME kinds of women (like cardio bunnies), but the real benefit of it is confidence. Women won't fawn over you when you get in shape; you'll get positive attention from your bros who'll praise you for getting swole, which in turn will make you feel like a god. Once you feel like a god, THAT will get you girls.
/r/seduction15/04/25 07:35 PM
0

Alright, yeah, having given it a moment... yeah, I DO want them to laugh. But I can't seem like I want to.
/r/seduction15/04/25 05:22 PM
0

I've found men respect, and women are attracted to, men who aren't afraid to do their own thing, regardless of consequence. That's why Trump won his first election. When people whine about he said, he doubled down and said something even edgier... in a world where most people would meekly take it back. Of course, this requires some degree of attractiveness already. That's the difference between a fat slob telling offensive jokes and a bad boy with a dark sense of humor.
/r/seduction15/04/25 05:17 PM
0

Hey, their loss.
/r/seduction15/04/25 04:58 PM
2

Haha Weird perhaps, but I'm right. Cocky people don't need people to validate them.
/r/seduction15/04/25 04:23 PM
12

Don't use humor to make other people laugh. Make yourself laugh, and invite others to join in.
/r/seduction15/04/25 02:44 PM
1

I've never been poly myself, but I've known plenty of poly people. Dating market rejects, the kind of people who are either temporarily between partnerships (why share a partner you fully enjoy?) or they'd otherwise never get laid.
/r/seduction12/04/25 01:24 PM
2

I've never met a poly person that didn't need years of therapy.
/r/seduction12/04/25 01:12 PM
1

Exactly. Glad we agree, though from what I've observed, poly people, if they have limitations on who can and can't be fucked. will inevitably break them.
/r/seduction12/04/25 12:42 PM
-1

If that's the hill you want to die on, that's your business, but the breakup rate for long term poly relationships is damn near 100%. If you want to shuffle until you're too old to date, enjoy it while you can.
/r/seduction11/04/25 03:10 PM
-2

The 92% divorce rate disproves you completely. People are disgusted with your status because it's an unhealthy and unnatural practice. As they should be.
/r/seduction11/04/25 02:45 PM
8

I remember Style had an objection to that. Mystery responded: "It's not lying, it's flirting." How often do you hear "aren't you gay??" when trying to close?
/r/seduction11/04/25 02:18 PM
1

Every person practicing nonmonogamy nuat admit a few things to themselves: Their existing relationships are temporary. They will inevitably love someone more than their current partner. Their relationship status likely actively disgusts and repels the person out there that's right for them. If they can deal with that, hey... Their life.
/r/seduction11/04/25 09:41 AM
0

Nope.
/r/seduction11/04/25 09:38 AM
6

Why should the answer to that be cuckoldry?
/r/seduction11/04/25 09:37 AM
3

". It’s not some universal biological truth, just a dominant norm in certain cultures." Wrong. It's the biological (and therefore, social) norm as dictated to us by evolution. Which is less likely to suffer from inbreeding and the spread of diseases? Tribes which practice monogamy? Or ones in which anyone can have sex with anyone else at any given time? Poly relationships are often male-dominant and coercive. I never said it was pathological. I said novelty sexual encounters inhibit oxytocin bon…
/r/seduction11/04/25 12:13 AM
15

You're not talking about "connecting", you're talking about sex. "Monogamy is a social and mostly religious construct" The entire field of neurology (namely the relationship between D1 and D2 dopamine, as well as oxytocin) disagrees with you. "Why do you think so many" Hypersexuality. The more you feed your D2 dopamine receptors, via novelty sexual activity (including porn) and drug use, the less capable you are of oxytocin bonding, which in turn renders you less capable of enjoying the pleasure…
/r/seduction10/04/25 11:26 PM
15

If they're in a "beautiful relationship", why do they feel the need to date and have sex with other people? Aren't their needs getting met back at home?
/r/seduction10/04/25 11:04 PM
24

I'd wager she's on the verge of a divorce, and she's sampling the market. Be prepared for her to dump her husband, and you, at a moment's notice. Are you good enough to keep an 8 transfixed? Do you WANT to have such a woman on your arm? Because she'll cheat on you if she gets tired of you, guaranteed.
/r/seduction10/04/25 09:53 PM
37

Be real with me OP: How hot is she? Scale of one to ten.
/r/seduction10/04/25 09:20 PM
1

I have a fair number of women interested in me. I have the charisma to entrance and maintain something long term. What I'd like to learn is how to get good at opening and deepening the relationship (i.e. getting them to obsess over me).
/r/seduction08/04/25 10:44 PM
1

Who wrote Models? It sounds like it'd be useful to me.
/r/seduction08/04/25 08:47 PM
0

To me, I take the phrase "pickup" for what it is: the act of picking up women. Plucking them from the world and putting them in your hands. That's not the same thing as keeping them there. That requires a degree of temperance, negotiation, and frankly, manipulation that pickup doesn't come with.
/r/seduction07/04/25 11:07 PM
1

I know. That's the point.
/r/seduction05/04/25 03:09 PM
1

I admit, I'm obsessive about technique, and attention lovers surrounded by simps seem like hard targets.
/r/seduction04/04/25 04:40 PM
1

Nah, the girls posting ass and tits on various subreddits. I dont want them though. I'm more curious on how someone would pull them if they wanted to.
/r/seduction04/04/25 04:21 PM
1

What's the post you're talking about? Would you give me a link?
/r/seduction04/04/25 02:44 AM
1

I'll check it out. That's a fair assessment, I don't want to go near them either, but I'm more concerned with the "how do I?" than the "should I?" of the matter.
/r/seduction04/04/25 02:36 AM
1

Because women aren't interested in "lots of men". Men might be interested in lots of women, but what women want is "the right man". Some of them try to hide that under the novelty of having different sexual partners, but the fact is, they'd give it up for a man that satisfies all their needs. "What is the perfect game for her?" A man who can satisfy all her needs, whatever they might be. And no woman has quantity as all her needs. Every woman I know, even the sluttiest of them, would give up an …
/r/seduction02/04/25 09:18 PM
2

"Do you think had her exes had a "LOT" of game, they could have prevented her from sleeping with more men?" Yes, absolutely. If he had perfect game, and he wanted to keep her, he could've had her. "What do you think any of the exes of a woman like Bonnie Blue could have done to prevent her from sleeping with more men, or completely satisfied?" Men who have game know how to appeal to a woman's interest. They know how to make a woman fall in love with them, to be obsessed with them. That, in and o…
/r/seduction02/04/25 08:36 PM
1

How does wanting a wife who has traditional interests make someone a simp? My mentor's married to a tradwife, and he's the definition of a Chad.
/r/seduction02/04/25 08:34 PM
2

Neurologically, it'd be difficult, and I don't believe that taking part in a gangbang grants opportunities to use game. But, however, if a man can accomplish a woman's needs.... and I mean every single last one of them... to a ridiculous degree, greater than any other man could, I'm sure he could. Question is, should the man bother? The way my mentor put it was like this: a man who's dating a woman conveys the idea "you can have all of me, if you give me all of you". If he's worth that price, a …
/r/seduction02/04/25 07:45 PM
0

Yes, absolutely. But you'd need a LOT of it.
/r/seduction02/04/25 07:18 PM
6

I believe that if every man woke up Chads who want tradwives, every purple haired feminist would start baking pies for church bake sales by the end of the week. People will bend over backwards for what they want, especially if those people are women.
/r/seduction02/04/25 06:44 PM
1

Warhammer, no. Roleplay, yes. I've known some women who really, really get into TTRPGs, for the "art and theater" aspect of things.
/r/seduction29/03/25 01:54 PM
3

Unless you're into women who are into roleplaying and Warhammer.
/r/seduction28/03/25 09:59 PM
2

Noted. Doesn't sound like preselection is a dealbreaker, when it comes to the women I like. I might even try that when I go talk to my ex again. We have the same social circle, and I'm not gonna lie, I'd like to make her jealous.
/r/seduction17/03/25 08:01 PM
1

The one thing I don't get is how to translate that into something else? Say you go out, you're with a woman you're presumably in a relationship with. What are you going to do? Leave your presumed girlfriend behind at the club to go fool around with another woman?
/r/seduction17/03/25 07:37 PM
3

What kind of women are averse to competition? Shot in the dark, I'm guessing women who are typically used to pulling high value men and those already attracted to you might double down in the face of preselection.
/r/seduction17/03/25 02:00 PM
1

My position remains solid. "I doubt you would accept any evidence" Why don't you test that theory?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 09:57 AM
1

Can you detail your logic a bit more?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 09:37 PM
1

I have an opinion, which is unchallenged by anything and makes sense to me. The onus is on you to change my mind, which you are failing to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 05:19 PM
1

"Change my mind" You're not changing it. I might be wrong, but I'm telling you how I perceive things.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 03:07 PM
1

They're important to me because, should I willingly enter into one, I would want it to work. I've been in a few relationships in the past, some of them ended amicably, some of them didn't. I think understanding how they work hormonally goes a long way in doing that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 10:49 AM
1

It seems you've got this, yeah.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 10:45 AM
0

I'll give you one that I can think of. If you get a couple together, say Jack and Jane, and they hit it off well. They spend time together, they're affectionate with each other, they have sex, they cuddle, they work out their issues, etc. All that good stuff. One can generally conclude they experience a release of dopamine when they have sex, but they also undergo oxytocin bonding too. Sex clearly has an impact on their bonding, that's uncontestable. Other factors may play a role in oxytocin bon…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 03:27 AM
1

Yeah, I'm getting a lot more sass and opinionated garbage than actual information or insights.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 03:01 AM
1

Could I ask you to elaborate on this a bit?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 02:54 AM
3

I'm asking simply if one chemical interacts with another the way I've heard, and you're making value judgements and assuming things about me based on two seconds of thought and an intentional misreading of what I've said. Please keep your mouth shut and never speak to anyone again. You'd be doing the world a favor.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 02:52 AM
1

"There's no limits to how many oxytocin bonds with lovers a person can have, and sexually-induced dopamine doesn't actually affect those bonds whatsoever." Do you agree with this statement?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 01:59 AM
3

I'm not. Granted, poly people tend to agree with my standpoint on oxytocin, but I'm not poly myself and I'm not sure I approve of polyamory. I'm just trying to suss out where the truth is. Marriage/attachment counselors I've spoken to go against me, but I'm not sure I believe them.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 01:46 AM
1

I study it because relationships are important to me. If you want to have a good relationship, having a good understanding of how people bond is very, very useful.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 12:41 AM
4

You're reading too deeply into this. The topic is a very specific issue, pertaining to a very specific pair of brain chemicals, and whether or not they interact in a very specific way. Either stay on topic or go away.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 12:34 AM
1

What are you having a hard time understanding?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 12:13 AM
3

(I believe what I do, but I wouldn't be posting a debate thread if I thought I couldn't be wrong)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 11:47 PM
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