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My ex basically refused to work after we had a kid, and then she decided to leave. She’s working now, and I didn’t have to pay alimony since it was a short marriage. I got lucky. Never again though. Lesson learned.
/r/MensRights16/07/26 12:59 AM
3

Buy your own house that works for your budget and your kids. You’ve been through this before and so has she. The fairy tales aren’t true. Take care of yourself and your kids first.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/26 04:42 AM
1

Wise man.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/26 10:33 PM
8

Any woman who has access to social media is ruined.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/26 10:16 AM
5

I have almost the same exact story. I met her in another country and sponsored her to come here. Things were great for a few years. We got married, had a kid, and I took care of building a nice little life for us. Right after my son’s second birthday she snapped. She physically attacked me and said a bunch of ugly things, and nothing was the same after that. She left, and I was confused about what happened for a long time. It sucks, but I think there are a few things going on in these circumstan…
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/26 03:54 AM
1

Not really the flex you think it is. I only got 1 chick pregnant. 😂 Bro, 1 more on top of what this guy is already dealing with would be terrible. I got snipped after my divorce (at 40) and it’s fantastic. Such a relief to not have to worry about that anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/26 04:10 PM
2

Sure but he’s not 14, and he said he has kids (plural) already. Plus a vasectomy can usually be reversed. He’s old enough to make the decision himself.
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/26 02:43 PM
3

Yup. If he has a couple kids already and doesn’t want more then just remove the option.
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/26 12:35 AM
2

Malicious compliance. Be obnoxiously nice and compliant anytime you have to interact with him. Just do whatever he asks (within reason) but be absurdly polite. Yes sir, right away sir. Whatever you need sir. Your wish is my command, kind of reactions. Ignore him otherwise. He wants a reaction out of you. Be above it. Just do your own thing otherwise.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/26 08:41 PM
1

Exactly.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/26 12:19 PM
6

She did me a favor there honestly. 🤷‍♂️
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/26 11:23 AM
1

And how’s that going for you?
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/26 03:24 AM
8

I’d rather have shared life with a good partner, but that wasn’t my ex wife before we divorced anyway. Divorce is fine. Just don’t be one of those guys who gets married again. 😂
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/26 12:06 AM
7

No it isn’t. They’d like to think so.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/26 12:04 AM
4

Therapy was a good sanity check for me. Nothing enlightening but somewhat grounding. Worth it for a while but not something I feel like I’d want to do constantly.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/26 11:22 AM
9

I’ve dated women better looking than my ex, but my current partner is just way nicer than her. She’s cute in her own right but she absolutely pampers me, and for me right now, that’s great.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 11:36 AM
-7

This message comes off as needlessly ignorant. Have you used Grindr? 99.9% chance the OP is complaining about some kind of auto response on a fake account in this case. 😂
/r/MensRights09/08/25 01:36 PM
6

Install cameras. Let her physically attack you do nothing. Call cops. 👮 press charges. Divorce. Easy day.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/25 08:20 PM
-1

I’d go with the cop knock on this case. But also if in the US he might get shot so maybe not.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 02:33 PM
3

I’ve always been bi, and I encourage any man who is curious about men to explore the option of dating men. I was married to a woman before, and I was never more grateful for my flexible sexuality than after my divorce. Cum on in boys. The water is fine.
/r/MensRights24/07/25 05:41 PM
-6

Who cares? I literally blocked every page I saw that posted that story. It’s not news, and I do not care about other people’s personal lives if I don’t know them. Just do you.
/r/MensRights22/07/25 09:55 AM
3

Last time we went to court I had what I still think was slam dunk evidence to get what I wanted. I sent it to the lawyer with plenty of time but she didn’t submit it for evidence and didn’t answer or return my calls until the day before court. The outcome was okay. I give the lawyer a C, but I gave her everything she needed to blast it out of the park. That wasn’t the first lawyer I had that kind of experience with either. They’ll never care as much about your case as you do.
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/25 09:13 PM
3

My divorce is long settled, but child support can be reconsidered at some point. I haven’t been impressed with the attorneys I’ve worked with. I’d rather screw myself than pay someone to also screw me. 😂
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/25 08:57 PM
2

I hate it here. Thanks. 😂 Not saying you’re wrong but it all sucks. Able bodied adults who split should just have to take care of themselves, but you’re right, she’d probably want his money if it was the other way. My ex is constantly saying I should be giving her more money. She’s also working on a project that she thinks has potential to do very well for her. I asked if she’d start paying me child support if that takes off. She asked why she should pay me child support on that money.😂 n Never …
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/25 07:25 PM
1

Agreed. I wasn’t joking. 😂 I’ve mostly dated men and trans women since my divorce and I enjoy it. It’s nice to have the option.
/r/MensRights17/07/25 10:27 AM
1

Try dating other men.
/r/MensRights17/07/25 02:48 AM
1

If you don’t agree then she can take you to court and the judge will most likely let her get the passports unless you have really solid evidence that she’s at risk of kidnapping them. And I mean rock solid evidence, not a gut feeling.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/25 07:29 PM
11

I find love all the time, but I don’t take it very seriously anymore. I think that fairy tale happily ever after crap hardly ever exists. It probably never really did. And you know what? That’s okay. Take care of yourself. Be there for your kids. Spend time with people who enrich your life. Leave when it runs its course. Some may say it’s not the best way to live but who cares? Everyone gets their own life to do as they please. Take my advice or don’t. Up to you. We each have our own life to exp…
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/25 05:36 PM
2

SHE hired a lawyer that drafted it up and we submitted it to the court. Apparently she’s still pissed about it because it actually came up today, but that was almost 4 years ago so I think she’s out of luck. I honestly don’t feel bad at all. Maybe it was “legally unfair” but she got what she deserved and agreed to. She had a domestic violence arrest but she wanted 50/50 custody so that’s why she agreed to it. Honestly, I would give up everything else for primary custody. She has not gotten easie…
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/25 02:54 AM
1

This is some kind of cope. Sure, there are some dropouts who have become highly successful but most don’t. Outliers don’t make a rule.
/r/MensRights11/07/25 10:50 PM
3

My ex wife couldn’t get into the gate at my place this morning to bring my son over even though I sent her the gate code, wrote instructions, and shared my location. Women are dumb. Oh, and she has a law degree BTW.
/r/MensRights11/07/25 08:36 PM
-51

Old enough my friend.
/r/MensRights30/05/25 11:22 PM
-68

Oh yeah? Can you give any examples?
/r/MensRights30/05/25 10:48 PM
-67

Please share which party that is.
/r/MensRights30/05/25 10:39 PM
22

Unlike all the other politicians. 🤣
/r/MensRights30/05/25 08:34 PM
-1

🤣 Good one!
/r/MensRights16/05/25 03:03 AM
-3

This is bullshit. I’m not rich and I’m maybe a 7 on a good day but I can get women (or men) when I want. Maybe work on not being insufferable.
/r/MensRights16/05/25 02:53 AM
2

Okay, so as a counselor what do you think of other physiological factors? Por ejemplo, my ex had a miscarriage shortly before things went bad. She actually told me the other day that she still has some issues from it. How do you account for the disruptions events like that can have on a persons behavior and actions? She was going nuts around that time. Shortly after our blow up fight, I saw a claim on our health insurance for a hormonal medication. Right after that she started being more rationa…
/r/MensRights02/05/25 07:18 PM
2

That makes sense, and I agree. I do believe she was being counseled in some of the ways you described. She falsely accused me of cheating being abusive and even just a few months ago she almost refused to attend a parent teacher with me because she “didn’t feel safe” around me. Then her new relationship fell apart and suddenly she wants to hang out and even asked me to take her camping with our son. It’s just wild to me that she “didn’t feel safe” around me at our kids school (what was I going t…
/r/MensRights02/05/25 06:24 PM
3

I don’t like to call my ex a narcissist because she was never diagnosed and everyone has issues, but I will say that she threw the term around about her exes and, low and behold, eventually me. In retrospect it did seem like projection and once I started to learn about narcissists it really made sense. She also did physically attack me, got herself arrested, and then spent about 4 years making coparenting a nightmare. She finally apologized to me recently and is trying to be friends (after a rec…
/r/MensRights02/05/25 05:57 PM
1

Basically. She pretty much yapped all day and ignored the baby. I’d come out of my office and find him alone in front of the TV in a soiled diaper. He was better of in daycare and I stand by that to this day.
/r/MensRights30/03/25 05:09 PM
14

At least you have some self awareness. 👏
/r/MensRights28/03/25 11:51 PM
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When I started working from home I saw what my wife was up to all day, so I told her to get a job. I’m divorced now. Life isn’t exactly better but it isn’t any worse really, and I have no desire to marry again. No ragrets! 🤣
/r/MensRights28/03/25 05:17 PM
14

Bye 👋
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/25 12:17 AM
7

I felt this post. I’ve had my ex make suggestions about how we should communicate, do exchanges, and handle different situations only to have her absolutely refuse to do it that way when I agree. I’ll have stone cold evidence in emails and texts from her, and she’ll still act like she never supported the idea. Just minimize contact. Gray rock.
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/25 10:52 PM
10

Yeah, we also have a shorter life expectancy than many of our peer nations. Turns out we don’t have the best healthcare but at least we pay more than any of our peer countries. /s
/r/MensRights04/03/25 09:51 PM
12

Both my grandpa and my dad remarried their ex (my grandma and my mom 😂) and neither of those worked out the second time either. I don’t intend to carry on that family tradition.
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/25 06:27 PM
16

Guys justifying her reaction don’t understand women. She’s looking for any reason to make you the villain and to justify what she’s about to do to you. Women don’t care about any of your past when they’re happy but when the cracks start to show they want to throw mud at the wall to see what sticks. My ex did the same shit. Even after we divorced she brought up things that happened years before I even met her. What did that matter to our relationship and our custody? Ultimately nothing, but it ma…
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/25 02:50 PM
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Incels don’t exist. They are either people with unrealistic standards or people who are unwilling to try to improve themselves. They are celibate by their own choice. Everyone can find someone if they want barring a serious handicap but even then you can find someone on your level.
/r/MensRights24/01/25 05:41 PM
-27

wtf are you on about?
/r/MensRights23/01/25 11:51 PM
1

Give em the uno reverse.
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/24 09:14 AM
24

Listen man, and I speak from personal experience, do not marry and sponsor one of these women!
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/24 09:11 AM
11

Mine did the same thing. Falsely accused me of cheating and giving her something when I literally never touched another person (sexually) from the day we met until well after she left. Just move on. Get tested, but if infidelity isn’t a factor in your jurisdiction then forget about it.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/24 03:47 PM
9

Why marry? Live together like 10 years first. 😂
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/24 12:30 PM
10

Marriage is unnecessary, and sex is recreational. Think I’ll get the snip and carry on. Good luck with that though.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 09:06 PM
9

Don’t give her any money outside of what is in the court order. Let it play out. If she files to modify then deal with it then. There’s usually a formula. Be sure to include all your expenses for the kids. Remove emotion. It’s a business arrangement now.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/24 05:04 PM
7

This is hard to prove. I’m in basically the same boat as you. My ex actually did get herself arrested for domestic violence against me and I did file a complaint with CPS because my son had a black eye and said she did it. Her new boyfriend has also been aggressive toward me and my son has told me the guy wants to fight me. CPS did basically nothing. In fact I’d say the investigator almost acted like I was the bad guy. Family court is a flawed system. Unless you feel your daughter is in real dan…
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/24 02:39 PM
19

Ehh, sure, people without kids don’t really understand everything that it entails, but single moms have their own baggage. I’ve had good and bad experiences with both. Pick your poison. It’s a case by case situation, in my experience.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/24 02:05 PM
6

Daughter is 18. Not a minor.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/24 02:30 PM
4

Yeah dude. Let go. She’s 18. Give your daughter the passport. I was living on my own and traveling abroad alone at 18. I’m kind of baffled this is even a question.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/24 07:46 AM
7

I think every woman since my kid’s mom just puts her that much further away. Like I’m still not sure what I want now, but life without her is fine. Time helps but time alone won’t heal you. Gotta fill that time with something meaningful or at least with activities and people that keep you moving away from what you don’t have anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/24 05:31 AM
7

It takes time man, especially if you really loved her. Women can be callous once they flip the love switch. I guess anyone can be. Just keep moving forward. I’m 3 years out and just now am able to see my ex and not really care anymore. We just had to renew our son’s passport this week so we had a good chat while waiting in line, and I really don’t feel for her anymore. It took a couple years to get here. She mentioned some things about her new partner and I didn’t feel jealous or anything. It wa…
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/24 04:20 PM
2

I think you’ll be fine. I’m similar. Have a grad degree and work as a technical writer. The laws are usually pretty straightforward and it doesn’t take a genius to understand how it should go. My ex has a law degree (from a different country but still). She and her lawyer have been threatening me for months to try to get more money etc. I’ve learned the laws and stood my ground, so guess what’s come of their threats. Absolutely nothing. I’m seriously unimpressed with all the lawyers in dealt wit…
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/24 02:24 PM
1

If you’re reasonably intelligent and confident and you have time to learn the laws then I’d go pro bono if I were on your shoes. Look for resources on representing yourself. I’ve wasted a lot of money on lawyers with nothing to show for it while things I’ve handled myself went better IMO. Maybe find someone to review documents before you submit them.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/24 01:28 PM
11

If you want to compare the two then don’t date. Everyone has pros and cons. I’ve dated quite a few people in life. Some good and some bad. Just enjoy the experience.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/24 03:00 PM
1

Navy vet who went to school after my enlistment. Dude, you’re in school! That’s a perfect place to make friends. I get that the schedule is tight but find/form a study group. My time in college after the navy was probably when I had the most friends. Get involved in some on campus activities if you can swing it. I’ve contemplated going back to school since my divorce just to meet people. 😆 I work from home as a tech writer and live in a city my ex and I moved to together, so I’ve had a hard time…
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/24 01:06 PM
3

People can’t usually just do that. They have to make a solid case for it and probably go before a judge if you don’t agree. Don’t stress if it isn’t an immediate concern.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/24 11:04 PM
1

It’s been a mixed bag for sure, but that’s why I think it’s important to have some hard no’s right out of the gate. Don’t drive or can’t swim = pass for me. Maybe it sounds petty but think of how many things you use your vehicle for. If you’re in a place with a good infrastructure then maybe it’s not as important but I’m not. I’m also part fish, so if someone doesn’t enjoy the water then we can’t hang out much in the summer because I’ll be in the water every chance I get. I’m not going to skip a…
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/24 07:19 PM
6

Doesn’t drive. Automatic dismissal for me unless there is a good reason. You really want to be a chauffeur? Not interested in activities you enjoy. That’s a close second in automatic rejections. I’m similar to you. 3 years out with moderate success in dating, and those are definitely two big issues for me. I’ve overlooked these to my own peril (including with my ex wife). I’d rather be alone than deal with those things, but you have to judge for yourself. You may not get another fish for a while…
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/24 06:31 PM
1

Unlikely. Wait, are you about 12 years old, from New Zealand, and your mom got pregnant on vacation in Panama? That’s the only unaccounted for shot I could think of.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/24 01:21 PM
7

Go out for smokes and just keep going.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/24 12:53 AM
4

I basically got everything, including the debt, through a joint petition. My ex got herself arrested for domestic violence against me and was very agreeable after. She basically left and started from 0 while I was left holding the bag for the life we’d built, but the housing market blew up around that time so it ultimately worked in my favor.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/24 12:03 PM
8

You’re golden pony boy. Just don’t do it again. 🤣
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/24 01:11 AM
3

Both good books.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/24 02:30 PM
8

Unpopular opinion: just for fun? As long as they’re legal. I personally am not into super young women, but I don’t see a problem with it. Over 18 is legal. Have at it.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 03:37 PM
2

He’s preaching to the choir here.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/24 01:47 PM
2

You don’t know a person until you’ve lived with them, and then you really don’t know a person until you go through a divorce with them. I definitely feel like I have a greater understanding of human nature now and that the human experience is not so unique as I once thought. C’est la vie.
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/24 11:05 PM
3

You know my ex wife too?
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/24 03:55 PM
9

I feel your pain man. Reading through the comments on this one, and it’s like all our ex wives follow the same playbook. Divorce taught me a lot about patience and acceptance. It also taught me that our human experience is not as unique as I once believed. I would minimize contact with her at this point. I’m about 3 years out and my ex still regularly tries to bait me into conflict and throws out random false accusations. So much that I recently took her to court and had a behavioral order issue…
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/24 01:37 PM
10

If you’re not jealous and you share kids then it’s not a bad idea. Who cares if it pisses her off. I recently did something similar. My ex moved to a pretty good school district, and I imagine her plan was to fight to take our son there, so I just sold my house and moved across the street from the school. I’m 1 block away from her now when we used to be like 10 miles. She’s brought it up a few times like it did it to bother her. I did it to be closer to all my son’s stuff. If it annoys her then …
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/24 12:35 AM
1

Exactly. I’m sure people without kids go through some tough times but having a kid turns it up to 11 and drags it out for another 13 to life for me. I still talk to my parents about each other. They’ve been divorced for years and all their kids are totally grown, but they still bring each other up.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/24 02:11 AM
12

I’m going to be real insensitive here. You don’t have kids with her, so move on. Honestly, the piece of paper and all that is meaningless. You’re a free man, go be free. I love my kid to no end, but if I didn’t have him, I wouldn’t think twice about my ex once it was over. You’ll be aight. Just learn from this mistake. Prenup if you ever do it again. 🤣
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/24 07:01 PM
18

People are being told to celebrate destroying their own families. It’s a sick time we’re in.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/24 08:46 PM
2

That’s not necessarily the term either of us used but definitely sounds like a similar principle. I think that’s just generally the trend women are on right now.
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/24 06:06 PM
3

I’ve maintained a few friendships with ex girlfriends, but not all of them. Even then, we’ve never been as close as we used to be. I wouldn’t be against being friends with an ex, but it’s not necessarily good or bad. Really just depends on the relationship you have with that person. My ex wife and I, however, are definitely not friends. 😆
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/24 04:38 PM
3

I actually kind of tried this. I invited them over for dinner when we were doing an exchange. I told her ahead of time and I no shit had everything ready. Don’t get me wrong, I figured they wouldn’t take the invite but I made fajitas on the grill and made sure to have enough for them just in case. She’s pretty much refused to have any actual conversation with me since she decided to leave. I think it would disrupt her narrative if any of the new people on her life actually got to know me so make…
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/24 02:41 PM
2

Strangers on a Reddit forum. I dig it. 😆
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/24 02:36 PM
1

Definitely have had this thought before. 😆 Part of me wants to let him know that she used to lick my asshole and tell me how good it was. It’s okay though, I know. 🤣
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/24 02:33 PM
2

I have no doubt about that.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/24 02:32 PM
1

Parts of this ring true. So, kind of funny story: I’m no Brad Pitt but I do clean up well. Even with all the heinous shit my ex said and did as she was leaving, one thing she did say that I took as a compliment was to ask me why I had to be so damn attractive. One of the final straws of her leaving was one of her friends hitting on me. Nothing happened and it wasn’t my fault but still… So I’d kind of let myself go for a while after the divorce. Grew out my hair and beard, but I was hitting the g…
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/24 02:28 PM
2

For real man. Maybe she doesn’t miss me, and that’s fine, but anyone who makes a big deal about something like parking in the driveway for 2 minutes to drop off a child is fucking miserable. They clearly deserve each other. 😆
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/24 11:23 PM
2

Agreed. I don’t wish them ill because they have to live with themselves and that’s honestly enough punishment. I’m also very avoidant of single moms now. Can’t trust most of them. Any person willing to hate someone without ever even having a real conversation with them is some kind of tool. I just worry about my son, but we probably all know that the laws are not exactly perfect for us.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/24 08:04 PM
2

Agreed. She’s made false allegations from the day she decided to leave. I just worry for my kid is all.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/24 08:00 PM
2

Right? I want to ask him how my asshole tastes. 😆
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/24 07:59 PM
3

Totally on the same page. I’ve stayed single and am pretty happy alone now while she seems to have attached herself to the first guy who came around. Bold strategy cotton. 😆
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/24 07:58 PM
2

I definitely don’t think it’s all going to play out as she imagines. It’s just a matter of time.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/24 07:55 PM
8

This is honestly the approach I’ve been taking, and I do feel that’s it’s been pissing her off more and more. 😆 I got a roof tent on my car and bought a new motorcycle recently. I took my son skiing several times this season and we’re constantly going on little adventures. I’ve been annoyingly upbeat with every message and interaction with her. She keeps getting meaner and meaner, so I think it’s working. 🤪
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/24 07:53 PM
1

Sounds good in theory, but that isn’t the world we live in and probably never really was.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/24 01:45 AM
1

Nah man. If someone wants to leave a relationship with me then I’ll gladly show them the door and clear a path. Those hoops will come back at YOU. Never going to marry again.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/24 12:18 AM
12

Live out of spite for her. If you kill your self then she gets to say she was right about leaving you, and she gets to control the whole story to everyone, including your kids. But if you go get your mojo back then she can fuck right off. I’m 39, so not much younger than you, and you can still have a lot of life in front of you. Women are fickle, but they’re not worth ending it over. It sucks. You’re in a shitty situation, but life is still full of possibilities but death is just nothing.
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/24 12:38 AM
0

I’m with you. Lawyers are just people too, and I’ve been pretty unimpressed by the ones my ex has used and the ones I’ve talked to. Look up pro se dad and other pro se resources. Familiarize yourself with the local laws regarding custody and child support. Don’t let her lawyers intimidate you. Remember, everyone gets diarrhea sometimes, and every one of her scary lawyers has shit themselves at some point and tried to play it cool. Just helps me humanize people who might try to intimidate me. 😂
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/24 10:37 PM
7

That’s a relatively short marriage so lifetime alimony is unlikely, depending on your jurisdiction. But you better act sooner rather than later. Talk to a lawyer. At least do a free consult to get your questions answered by someone familiar with your local laws. If you’re not happy and have no kids then act soon or you will be screwed. Even losing half your assets now will be less than half your assets in another 5 years.
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/24 07:49 PM
2

You just gotta do what you think is right during your time. I’m in the same boat. We split when my kid was 2 and he’s about to be 5. Some milestones have come a little slower. Potty training specifically took longer than I would have liked, but it happened and we’re good now. My ex and I still can’t get on the same page about lots of things. We cannot control any other person, even our coparent or our kids. Your case may be different, but I’ve realized that my ex is just not a reasonable person …
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/24 06:54 PM
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Kids are great. Baby mamas on the other hand…. I recently hooked up with a chick a few times and she tried to get me to nut inside her, but I refused. She was all, you’re so scared of another kid. No, I’m scared of another baby mama. 😂
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/24 10:24 PM
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Women add a lot…of stress. I’m all seriousness, men and women are good at different things and we should compliment each other. The push for “equality” has been detrimental in my opinion. Yes, we should have equal rights and all that stuff, but we aren’t the same, and that used to be a good thing. We evolve or we go extinct. Let’s see how this plays out cotton.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 02:41 PM
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Do it! Solo travel is great. Italy is the best bang for the buck in my opinion. Natural beauty, history, architecture, art, good cheap wine, and fantastic food. Rome to Naples (check out Pompeii) and the amalfi coast would be a nice little trip. Barcelona and the whole Catalonia region could keep you busy for months. So many other options but those are my top 2 for a short trip.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 04:32 PM
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Being alone is better than being in a terrible relationship. I’m a veteran who also married an immigrant from a crappy country. She was terrible. Funny enough, our relationship sounds almost exactly like yours. Is yours Venezuelan by chance? 😂 Anyway man, keep your shit together. Keep your head on straight. Be very careful over the next few months/years. Though I was sick of my ex and had a lot of the same thoughts as you, she actually blind sided me with a divorce. A few key things went my way …
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/24 03:13 PM
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No, but who cares? Just separate everything. She may be acting nice now but they don’t always stay nice. 2 years after my divorce my ex found a new partner and got engaged. Then, out of nowhere, she started making a lot of wild false accusations against me regarding our son and then she had a lawyer threatening to take me back to court for more money, saying our divorce was unconscionable bla bla. And ex wife can never be trusted IMO.
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/24 11:56 AM
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Sell everything and move on. I kept the house for a while and decided to sell later. She was still on the deed. Well she had to sign some paperwork to complete the sell and tried to refuse, but I had been awarded the house in the divorce decree. I wrote her lawyer and asked if she was going to sign or if I needed to have her held in contempt. She signed pretty quickly after that, but still. You never know how they’ll be in a few years.
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/24 03:28 AM
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I’m at almost 3 years split and really only feel like the old me the last maybe 6 months. Here are my key points: Take care of yourself physically. Lay off drugs and alcohol. I used to be a sailor so I’ve drank my fair share, but after the divorce I noticed the depression after drinking. Never had that before. Maybe I never had a reason to be depressed like I did then. Move your body! Not everyone likes the gym. I get it, but we should all most likely be moving more unless you have some physical…
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/24 02:22 PM
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I sponsored my ex wife for her green card and then she bounced. I feel like she manipulated me, but it is what it is. A life well lived, with no attention paid to them, is the best revenge.
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/24 08:07 PM
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Yeah but the woman is already gone for most of us in this group. Now it’s time to live with ourselves.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/24 04:29 PM
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Exactly man. We don’t necessarily need therapy. It’s all well and good and helps some people, but I think a lot of us need to reclaim our manhood after a divorce. I’m the opposite of you. I’ve gotten into working out so I can do all the awesome things I’ve always loved. I’ve been going snowboarding, paddle boarding, swimming, motorcycle riding etc., and being in better shape makes all that easier. I take my son skiing and I can pick him up and help him out when he falls and don’t run into issues…
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/24 02:25 PM
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Hell yeah brotha. I just parted ways with a chick for the same kind of reasons. We’d only been seeing each other a few weeks and she was acting upset because I’m traveling with my kid to see our family for the holidays. I don’t need someone to make me feel bad for doing something with my family. Thanks bye. I’m happy alone anyway. More time for motorcycle and snowboard trips. 🤣
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/23 04:13 PM
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It’s totally normal to gift a kid a car at 16. Doesn’t have to be an expensive car. Maybe work with her to find something you can agree on, or like you said, give the kid the cash. But know that decent used cars aren’t as cheap as they used to be, so giving 1-2 grand isn’t enough. I’d say pitch in $5k and if she’ll match you then you can have the kid in a decent first car. Have the kid work to cover insurance and expenses.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/23 02:34 AM
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I have no doubt that my ex will try to get more money when she can, but I won’t be bullied by some idiot lawyer. It’s funny, her current lawyer actually got her law license suspended a few years ago for lying to clients and basically just being a shitty lawyer, so I sent that info to her and my ex. Basically did a, this you bro? The lawyer got all in a tizzy and said a bunch of stupid stuff then got more intense with her threats. That’s when I outlined my points and shut her down. I’m seriously …
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 05:19 PM
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It’s three years in my state or a 20% change in income. Same with my state. There’s a calculator for CS. When it’s 50/50 then they do the calculation for both parties and subtract the lower from the higher. Higher earner pays. But I can also subtract expenses. I’d argue that my ex is underemployed. Mine has a law degree (from another country but still) and worked as a paralegal here in the US before she decided to work crappy dead end jobs. Her new lawyer was threatening court again to get more …
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 05:12 PM
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Yup. My ex agreed to 50/50 custody, 50/50 split on all expenses, and no child support. Personally, I think that’s fair. We both do our fair share. Her lawyer insisted that $100 child support is the minimum. It’s not but I didn’t feel like fighting it. I also cover our kid’s health insurance, so really I’m doing a bit more than my 50%, but it for my son so fine. She regularly complains that I’m not giving her enough money and recently had a lawyer threaten to take me back to court for more. I sai…
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 04:30 PM
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Financially painless? More or less. Emotionally painless? No
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/23 11:12 PM
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She may get some of what she wants but I’d imagine not just because of MJ use in a legal state. That said, maybe lay off if you can, and stay sober from anything until this is done. You/ he will benefit from a clear mind during the coming months.
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/23 08:49 PM
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Just push the divorce through and get it over with. When someone shows you who they really are, believe them.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/23 06:07 PM
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When I was looking for lawyers they always asked for everyone’s names first and did a check.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/23 06:01 PM
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Seriously. I’ve never been happier with being bisexual than after my divorce from a woman.
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/23 07:48 PM
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In my state, Child support can be reevaluated every 3 years or when there’s a change of more than 20% in the income of either party.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/23 07:59 PM
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Personally I think child support with 50/50 is BS, but most women would take it in a heartbeat if they could. My ex did agree to lesser amount than the law would usually dictate and I’m happy with that, but I worry that she will come back for more later. I’m Pretty sure the only reason she agreed to is because she got herself arrested for DV during out split.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/23 07:05 PM
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Gotta be a troll 🧌 don’t feed it.
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/23 07:16 PM
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My sons mom is Venezuelan, which is a good and bad. That country is so screwed that no US judge will ever say that I have to let her even take him for a visit there, and they’re also a member of The Hague convention agreement. I too worry that she’d try to take my son there and then I’d have a hard time getting him back. I didn’t look but I’d guess that India is part of the Hague convention as well. It deals with international child abduction. https://travel.state.gov/content/travel/en/Internati…
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/23 02:43 PM
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Good response. I don’t think he’s so much worried about how she’s running her property, but it seems like he’s worried about the disparity in their income because of how she’s running her property. In my state, with 50/50, they look at both incomes and the higher earner usually ends up paying the lower earner. I personally find that to be bullshit. Child support should be for absent parents. I’d gladly take my son full time and cover all of his expenses, but if the other parent wants time as wel…
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/23 02:01 PM
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Ain’t that the way it goes? My exes dad cheated on her mom constantly (like gave her VD and things like that) and then she left me over false allegations that I was cheating. Never happened but she’s convinced it did. C’est La vie. I have my son 50/50 so that’s good I guess. I’d rather be primary but I’ve seen it go worse for a lot of men. Overall I’m better off without her. I’ve never had trouble with women, but Now I just don’t feel like dealing with one that much. 😆 You can do everything righ…
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/23 05:11 AM
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My ex was my physically my ideal woman, but she’s emotionally an ugly parasite. she’s was also crazy and selfish, so I take solace knowing that anyone who gets to really know her will one day see the real her and she’ll probably never be happy.
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/23 04:01 AM
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We try to see the best in people when we love them. Don’t beat yourself up, but now you see the real her. Just go from there. You got this man.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/23 07:04 PM
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That’s hard core. She ain’t worth it. Sorry bud but you gotta get out of that situation and never look back. You didn’t mention kids so I hope you don’t have any. I’m also assuming you’re fairly young and haven’t been married that long if she’s stressed about school, so I hope the asset division isn’t too complicated. Just go though. Yeah talk to a lawyer of course but you can’t do anything if she shoots you in the head and you don’t make it. Never be alone with her again.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/23 06:36 PM
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Exactly. I didn’t want my divorce, but since my ex did, I didn’t fight it. What’s the point of fighting for someone who doesn’t want to fight for you anymore?
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/23 01:28 AM
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😆 sorry to laugh. Yes, I tried this tactic. I’m in a divorce men subreddit now. How do you think it went?
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/23 10:44 PM
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I should clarify. If someone abandoned their kid to avoid child support then I’d say go after them. But if they don’t have a kid, then I think alimony is bs anyway.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/23 07:16 PM
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Fair enough. Family law is such crap sometimes.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/23 07:12 PM
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I thought the Hague convention had more to do with things like child kidnapping. Like if they shared a child and he took the kid to Italy, then they’d come after him. My son’s mom is Venezuelan so I looked into some after we split but I never had to pursue anything so I’m no expert.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/23 07:03 PM
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Google just parenting support groups or parenting books. There will be generic titles but then there will be a lot of being the best mommy kind of stuff. Then Google dad books or something like that. Of course there are some things but not nearly as many. Part of the point though is that when searching for just parenting, even then there’s more mom focused material. I get the curiosity, but there are men in the generic divorce groups too. Doesn’t bother me if a women is here but men and dads don…
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/22 11:19 AM
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I’m making myself happy, but there are some decent women to spend some time with too. I’ll probably never marry again though and it’ll be a while before I even consider cohabitation.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/22 10:00 AM
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Actually I like this comment, and this is how I intend to approach all future relationships. We can have everything except the contract. Don’t like it? On to the next one.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/22 03:08 AM
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But having a kid outside of marriage doesn’t give them rights to half your stuff.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/22 08:54 PM
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Check out Nevada. I live in Las Vegas and the CEO at my last job told me he came here specifically for that reason. I divorced here last year (short marriage though), and I’d say it went well for me as far as those things go.
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/22 07:03 PM
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You sound like a complete douche. Go ahead and do her the favor of divorcing so she doesn’t have to deal with you any more.
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/22 06:20 PM
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Not sure where you are but it doesn’t sound like the states. In America, we have the freedom to get fucked by the courts.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/22 06:41 PM
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Talk to a lawyer in your jurisdiction. My state looks at gross income, so this guys strategy would not work. In fact, it’d probably backfire.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/22 06:32 PM
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Not sure where you are but my state looks at gross income, so your strategy wouldn’t work.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/22 06:31 PM
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Just file for divorce already. 😆 people don’t change unless they want to.
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/22 05:43 PM
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Your ex sounds a lot like mine. She blamed me for her getting arrested when she attacked me and then called the cops herself because I wasn’t going to let her take our son to go stay at another man’s house. I strongly suggest you try to at least get final say in decisions. Someone who’s not being reasonable won’t suddenly snap out of it, and if her pride has been hurt then she’ll probably double down on some behaviors. Just what I’ve seen in mine.
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/22 06:42 PM
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Your story sounds similar to mine, but I’m about 2 years ahead of you. Cut the cord. She’s not your responsibility anymore. Go for at least 50% custody if you want it and can handle it, but maybe go for primary or full if you can. I wish I had. I thought eventually that my ex would calm down and we could work together for our son but she’s only gotten worse, and i wish I’d leveraged her domestic violence arrest when I could have. That kind of person will not become easier to work with for a very…
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/22 06:00 PM
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I’d say the opposite has worked for me. Not that I didn’t make mistakes and we all have room to improve, but I realized that my ex was really just an unbearable, selfish cunt all along and I didn’t really see it until too late. My biggest mistake was picking poorly and then putting all my energy into that. What’s made me feel better is realizing that and doing whatever the fuck I want now. Bitches ain’t loyal no more. Don’t put your energy into them thinking they’ll value your effort. Put energy…
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/22 09:28 PM
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I always thought marriage was a sham and never intended to do it, but I fell in love at 33 and gave it a shot. It went south and now I almost feel bad for any woman who falls for me now because I’m going back to my fuck it ways. Luckily my ex got herself arrested for domestic violence against me and then hired an incompetent lawyer so I didn’t even have to try to screw her in the divorce. She did it to herself. 😆
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/22 09:18 PM
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Wait, do we have the same ex? My story is almost exactly the same. Listen, you can’t reason with an unreasonable person, and you need to realize that you’re dealing with an unreasonable person. Don’t give her anything that a court doesn’t order and that includes your attention. Don’t let her breadcrumb you. My ex did the same shit. As soon as she felt me pulling away then she started trying to hug and kiss on me at our child exchanges, but then when I tried to pursue anything she wouldn’t discus…
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/22 07:25 PM
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While most divorces are I initiated by women. Coincidence?
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/22 01:51 AM
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People get too caught up on specific holidays. I was in the military and spent a lot of holidays on duty or just otherwise unable to go see family. Can’t see your kid on the specific day? So what, pick another day and make that special.
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/22 04:18 PM
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This will be my first holiday without my son. Im going on a vacation to Puerto Rico for Christmas! Who’s with me? Just gotta enjoy the situation the best you can. I want to take my son skiing with my family next year so I told my ex that she could have whatever days she wants this year if I can have my choice next year. She said fine and that she wants the whole Christmas/new year break. I’d already planned to take a week off during the time I was supposed to have him so I’m doing a me trip then…
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/22 04:05 PM
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I hate how much I agree with this.
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/22 02:38 PM
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Don’t think you’ll be able to put a limit on child support. It can be adjusted in my state anytime there’s a change in income of like 20% or every 3 years. Wait to do anything major with the business until the divorce the finalized. Mine says that everything from this day forth is ours etc. I got the house and then sold it for a nice profit and my lawyer said I could burn the money for all she’s concerned because she isn’t entitled to a dime.
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/22 04:24 AM
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Unless there’s some legal ramification then it ultimately doesn’t matter. People are going to think what they want, and if someone is going to think that I’m a bad guy over a failed relationship then fuck em. My situation was flipped and reversed. My ex falsely accused me of cheating with 0 proof (because it didn’t happen) and now her whole family, who I was close with, treats me like garbage. Disproving a negative is virtually impossible. Religion thrives on this fact. Fuck the proof and fuck p…
/r/Divorce_Men09/11/22 11:54 PM
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Not necessarily true. Some states do have infidelity/ adultery laws. But if he in a no fault state then I agree. He’ll just drive himself crazy.
/r/Divorce_Men09/11/22 10:43 PM
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I preferred 50/50 AND scorched earth.
/r/Divorce_Men09/11/22 02:12 PM
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Don’t leave until you talk to a lawyer first. Could screw your later.
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/22 10:52 PM
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Didn’t mean to come off as harsh, but this has been something that bothers me from my ex. I rented out a room in my house (to a woman who was finishing nursing school and her son) after my divorce finalized. I offered to let her meet the lady as a courtesy. Nothing romantic ever happened between that lady and myself, but my ex demanded to come to the house to see the arrangement and accused me of being romantically involved with the lady and making our son share a room with the other child. She …
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/22 05:52 PM
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Why is that the right thing? You’re not being delusional, but you’re expecting other people to share the same values as you. You mentioned maturity in one of your responses, but expecting other people to do what YOU think is right isn’t exactly maturity. I’m not saying it is right or wrong, but I am saying that it isn’t really your business. It’s hard with kids, but the reality is that you can’t control what the other parent does.
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/22 05:12 PM
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I think the time frame will make it hard to enforce. I’d read that in my state (NV) that orders older than 5 years don’t exactly expire but they become more complicated. Definitely hire an attorney to at least help you write up and submit the paperwork. We did a joint petition but we still had one lawyer write it up and another lawyer review it. Wasn’t that expensive. We never went to court.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/22 07:55 PM
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Honestly, I’d consider it. I have 50/50 custody of 1 son, and I’d like another kid, but the thought of finding another woman to make a kid with doesn’t feel right. Not because I want my ex back but because it would be easier to deal with 1 baby mama if things did go south in a new relationship. My ex isn’t interested in that but if she was then I’d consider it so my kid could have a sibling and I’d only have to worry about coordinating schedules with 1 woman.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/22 09:38 PM
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That’s my understanding in Nevada as well. If there’s an existing order in place then just stick to that. CS can be recalculated here every 3 years or if either party has a 20% or more change in income, but I don’t think they can make the support retroactive. Maybe if one party got a raise but didn’t notify the other. As always, consult a lawyer on your jurisdiction.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/22 06:09 PM
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Oh, so you know my ex wife?
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/22 04:13 PM
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Fool me once…
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/22 08:25 PM
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Literally had a 70 year old guy with a handful of ex wives give me that advice when I told him I kind of wanted another kid.
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/22 08:23 PM
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I love this. Thank you 🙏
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/22 10:50 PM
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My ex thought similar things and threw accusations at me that were completely false. I’m pretty sure that many women just don’t really think things through on their own. I don’t WANT my ex to suffer, for the sake of our son, but I’ve seen signs that she’s struggling. She hasn’t been able to hold a job down and just told me today that she has another new job (looks like a downward move IMO). I’m sure her rent for a 1 bedroom is about the same as my mortgage and rents keep going up where I live. W…
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/22 10:49 PM
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Talk to a lawyer. They usually do free consults. I’d write down questions as they came up and do a consult with a new lawyer every time I had a decent list. In my state you can do paperwork yourself so we did that and I paid a lawyer to review everything before we submitted. Saved some money and it’s kind of nice to hear a few different opinions. But definitely have a lawyer if you have to appear before a judge. I never did so that was good.
/r/MensRights03/09/22 12:17 AM
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😂 fuck that.
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/22 06:02 PM
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I think Nevada is a good place to divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/22 03:21 PM
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😂 I know but this actually doesn’t bother me. She has a law degree from a Venezuelan school and I always told her she should try to find work as a paralegal or something and she basically refused. I feel a little vindicated now that she finally did it. He’s not a bad guy but maybe not a great lawyer actually. 😆 she kept threatening to go to him every time she didn’t like something I did but nothing has ever come of any of her threats because i follow out divorce decree so it felt good to be able…
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/22 02:19 PM
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Good luck man. Mine went pretty quick because we did a joint petition. I’m pretty sure she isn’t happy with the outcome now, but she’s the one who wanted the divorce and she rushed it through. Hope yours doesn’t turn into a battle. I hear horror stories.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/22 03:20 AM
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She took care of it today. Im sure she’s just bitter because her lawyer told her not to make a big deal about the equity because we’d just bought the house when the divorce started but the housing market blew up right after and I’m making good money on the sell. It’ll make up for all the money I spent on her over the years and I feel good about it, so that upsets her. 😂
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/22 03:14 AM
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For real though. I cooked, cleaned, helped, take care of the kid, and was the sole bread winner for our entire relationship. She all but refused to work, but she wanted me to do more around the house. Modern women seem to want the best of both worlds and then bounce when they can’t have it. It’s funny how she’s now doing all the things she basically refused to do while we were together. She won’t say it but I see signs that she knows I was right all along. I.e. getting the kind of job I always t…
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/22 06:14 PM
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When she said,”I’m leaving you.” And punched me in the head and then tried to take our son and called the cops herself and got herself arrested.
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/22 05:23 PM
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You’re in the rampage stage. Play it safe but get yourself some strange. Don’t commit to anyone. It’ll probably subside after a while. I went through it right after the divorce finalized but it gets old after a while.
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/22 05:03 PM
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Yeah that sucks about military retirement. I’m a vet but didn’t retire and I always felt for those guys who put in all that time and had to split it with some jerk woman. Sounds like you dodged that bullet though. Mine had a law degree (from another country but still, I watched a lawyer explain to her what she’d have to do to practice law in the US and then offer her a job as a paralegal. She never took it.) She never worked while we were together and then took a crappy job at a sushi to go plac…
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/22 05:00 PM
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I did figure it out: she’s either delusional or a liar. It was simple.
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/22 02:51 AM
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You ain’t wrong buddy. I never really wanted to marry before and it’ll be a cold day in hell before I do it again.
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/22 01:37 AM
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No need to apologize. Great fucking response. Never saw combat but I’m a vet too (submariner). I agree that divorce was one of the worst things I’ve been through, and I lost my best buddy from the navy to suicide. That was tough because he’d told me his plan exactly, so when he actually did it I always had a lot of guilt. She even threw that in my face during the split. You get sad about that and I don’t know how to handle it, bla bla bla. Maybe try talking to me and being there instead of aband…
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/22 10:53 PM
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Well this is a divorce group so we’re all a little dumb then? I know I feel it now.
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/22 09:19 PM
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Yeah I suggested we get a tiny home to save some money while she wasn’t working and she absolutely refused so I bought a decent size house for us. The. She left and got a super tiny apt. We’d just bought it so there wasn’t much equity when she left and she signed away rights. Then the housing market blew up and I’m selling it for a decent gain. Makes up for all the money she blew over the years so that’s a silver lining.
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/22 08:53 PM
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Interesting video. Listened to first part but I’m at work. Fits my ex to a t. She’s an aging beauty and im partially convinced that a big reason she left is to use her last few good years to trap another man who will give her all the shit she wants. She would deny this but she’s very vain and was constantly worried about aging. She never sharpened her wit after college and I’d working a menial job. Oh well. Not my problem anymore except we share this kid and she still wants me to partially suppo…
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/22 06:27 PM
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My ex was adamant that all communication needed to be through email. She tried to put in our divorce but her lawyer said now. Now she calls and texts whenever she feels like it. She called this morning to tell me something about our son and then started telling me stuff about her and I said,”okay thanks bye.” And hung up. Same, she was always saying that what she’s doing now is none of my business. Okay then, don’t call me and tell me.
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/22 06:00 PM
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How do they justify wanting to spend and spend and then claim that YOU’RE the one who only cares about money when you try to take steps to avoid them putting you in crippling debt? It’s insane.
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/22 04:48 PM
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Addicts are hard man. My ex was an entitled brat but at least she wasn’t an addict. That’s another level. I took all debt in the divorce. She’d never worked and it was in my name anyway, but the DUI is bullshit. I’d be like, That’s all you babe.
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/22 04:44 PM
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Yeah, mine called me a freeloader when she didn’t work a day while we were married. I literally paid for everything for both of us for years. It was in that moment that I realized the depth of her delusions.
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/22 04:41 PM
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I think women are suffering an identity crisis as a whole. They’re fighting eons of evolution to try to gain some kind of imagined ideal of equal power. Many animals serve different roles depending on their gender. It’s nature man. I’m not saying men should rule and women should do what we say, I’m just saying that the roles we’ve traditionally played in relationships are probably not an accident, and fighting our nature seems to be destroying more families than it helps.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/22 03:14 PM
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Right? I’m only dating Dutch from now on. I did everything for my ex and she never really appreciated it. Not making that mistake again. If a chick can’t or won’t carry her end then it ain’t gonna work. Wish I was just asexual but I miss intimacy. It is also hard with a kid. You have to (or should) be more selective, and dating where I live (Las Vegas) has been a shit show so far. Good luck out there man.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/22 02:55 PM
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When you’re ready. I met a really good looking lady about 2 months after we split but I wasn’t ready and that went south real quick. Went on a little rampage right after the divorce finalized and that also wasn’t great. I’m about a year out from the split and 6 months past the divorce and finally really want someone.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/22 01:28 AM
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Narcissist is the new term women love to throw around so they can justify treating you like shit. Mine called me one. I went to counseling alone and my counselor was like, no, you’re not one. Women just like to avoid any personal responsibility.
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/22 08:25 PM
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It can be done. Just keep a level head. I did free consults with at least half a dozen attorneys for various questions I had and attended some free workshops. I’m not happy to be divorced but I’m satisfied with the way it went. I see all these horror stories on groups like this, but it doesn’t have to be that way. People tend to match your energy, so if you escalate then she probably will too. If you keep a level head then maybe she will too. There’s always the chance that she may try to screw y…
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/22 05:47 PM
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Yes and no. If she hires the attorney then they are ultimately representing her, but if you’re being amicable then this can still work. We did it this way. We were able to agree to terms and my ex wife’s attorney drafted up the paperwork. I had another lawyer look over everything and make some suggestion before we submitted it. We submitted it as a joint petition in Nevada. Judge approved it and we never even had to appear in court. Took about 3 months and cost less than 2 grand Im guessing. I d…
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/22 05:15 PM
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I maintain the insurance for our son and we split everything else 50/50. We also have a pretty significant income difference but she agreed to these terms. If it’s amicable then you guys can agree to whatever.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/22 06:26 PM
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Roof tent so I can easily take my son camping more.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/22 01:18 AM
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No amount of money can guarantee that it’ll stay amicable. A positive relationship can’t be purchased. I’d pay what the court orders and not a penny more.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/22 03:55 PM
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I thought my ex was different and I never thought I’d be divorced. Now I’m raising a kid with someone who’s basically just an impediment in my life. Having a kid is awesome. Coparenting is terrible. Hire a surrogate.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/22 03:16 PM
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Just divorce her before it gets worse. It won’t get better. My ex was the same. Had a law degree but insisted on working inconsistent jobs that a high school drop out could do. We do have a kid together and it’s a nightmare. I have a decent income and she’s working a crappy job. She just threatened to take me back to court again for more child support. Don’t make my mistake. Walk away while it’s still fairly simple.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/22 03:11 PM
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This is gold. The funny thing is that that’s pretty much how I was before I met my now ex wife when I was 32. Never really wanted to get married and I really enjoyed doing my own thing in my 20s while most other people I knew were getting tied down. I always knew the fairy tale was a bullshit idea, but man I thought I’d found a good one, at first. We all know how it goes. You’re right man, I just need to get back into my zone and do the things I love again. Show my son how to be a good and indep…
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/22 03:19 PM
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You know my ex wife too? Narcissism is the new buzzword so they can justify treating you like shit. “He’s a narcissist and nothing I ever did was going to be good enough.” Even though she never actually even tried to do anything to help our situation. She just just took and took, and even called me a cheap freeloader on the way out. She never worked while we were together and i paid for everything. It was that moment that I realized that she was either delusional or simply a liar. I’ve gone to c…
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/22 11:54 PM
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Thanks man. I’ve struggled with this a lot. For better or worse, she is the mother of my child and we have a long road ahead of us. She’s admitted to doing me wrong in some ways but she also makes things more difficult than they need to be. C’est La vie.
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/22 09:16 PM
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She physically attacked me and punched me in the head. Then SHE called the cops because I didn’t want to let her take our son to stay at some other man’s house. They showed up and arrested her when we told them what happened. I wasn’t planning to get her in trouble but what was I supposed to tell the cops when they asked what happened. I was pretty pissed in the moment so I maybe made a bad judgment call, but everything I said was the truth.
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/22 06:05 PM
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My ex was the same. She was mediocre at keeping the house and taking care of our son but she was great at spending our money. She never worked while we were together even though I asked her to look for a job several times. I actually even invested about 5k into a business idea that she had that she never really worked on. She finally left because I was putting too much pressure on her. Luckily (for me) she got herself arrested for domestic violence the day she left, so the divorce went pretty sm…
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/22 05:51 PM
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Because I’d like to leave Vegas and it’s the only place I think she’d go willingly. I love the water so I’m not against it.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/22 01:25 AM
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Lol. Vegas is meh. Been here 4 years and I’m ready for a move. I’m a little nomadic and I’m getting the itch. Lots of women in Miami too, but I’d rather invest in a boat I think.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/22 01:25 AM
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Yeah we’d have to agree to go together or I’d rather just stay here. I have my son every other week and I plan to maintain that. Thought about moving to my home state but she wouldn’t be down for that. I’d live anywhere so I don’t mind as long as I get my time with my son, and if she’s happier then it’s good for him.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/22 01:23 AM
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Great idea! I’ve spoken to a lawyer here about it but hadn’t thought to contact one there. Will do that now.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/22 01:21 AM
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If I had sole custody then I might go somewhere else, but we’re 50/50 and we both just want our time with our son. I don’t really care where I live and will make the best of anywhere, but I’m tired of Vegas and I think she’d be happier in Miami, which would be good for our son, so that’s why I’m considering it. Plus I love the water (navy vet) so I’ll pick up scuba diving again and maybe try to snag a little boat. Kind of a win win.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/22 10:28 PM
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Good call. I did a consult with a lawyer to discuss options but I’m thinking of proposing the idea to her tonight during our custody exchange. We’re on decent terms and she wants to go to the place Im proposing so hopefully it goes smooth.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/22 10:24 PM
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Good ole Uncle Sam, always wants his cut. I’ve spoken to a CPA and know that I’ll have to account for that. Thanks for looking out.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/22 10:23 PM
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Marriage is one of the few contracts that one party can break and make the other party suffer.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/21 11:27 PM
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My (Venezuelan) ex did a similar thing. All the men in her family (Including her dad) are cheaters, so I think she just assumed I was too even though I never touched anyone else from the day I met her until well after she left. I think there’s a lot of cultural differences that are hard to overcome for some.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/21 12:14 AM
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I just finished a divorce and agree with everyone else here. It’s done dude. It sucks and you’re nit going to want to accept it for a while. I tried to get mine back. Started counseling, tried to be better for our family, but she was already gone. I never thought it would happen to me. I thought I had a soul mate. She’s been gone about 8 months and I’m just getting to a decent space. It sucks but start preparing to take next steps as if you’re divorcing. I didn’t do all I could have to prepare, …
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/21 04:21 AM
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My sleep pattern has been crap since she left and it’s been 5 months. Divorce just finalized last week and it was not bad but I’m still grieving. It’s a process. Just have to go through it I guess.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/21 09:26 PM
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