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I don’t even really know who she is, but the linked article mentions her trying to sneak into his DMs after they met at a party several years ago (while he was married) and him not responding. So, yeah. If there’s any truth to this article then they’re both not great people. But I’m still HIGHLY skeptical, and shame on OP for deliberately using such a misleading title.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 11:09 PM
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I’m having a hard time believing that it’s even true, given that the only source for the claim that she’s pregnant are speculative fans online and a picture of her in a baggy sweatshirt. Sounds like a lot of BS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 06:41 PM
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Yeah it’s just fodder for the rumor mill. There’s no basis to believe it, and yet here everyone is taking it like it’s gospel truth. Edit: people downvoting, did you read the article? The paparazzi got a picture of her wearing a baggy shirt and now people online are making shit up. Don’t be obtuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 06:14 PM
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I mean… she was seen wearing a baggy shirt in public once and now fans- who don’t know them personally and have NO other reason to believe it- are speculating online. I don’t think it’s fair to either of them to jump to conclusions at this point. Sounds like gossip rag trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 06:04 PM
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Yep. When I was a very young woman I wondered if I would be attracted to boys in their late teens/early 20s forever because I couldn’t fathom the idea of being interested in a man any older than that. Now I’m in my 30s and the idea of dating a guy even in his late 20s is 🤢 and I realize that men trying to get with female CHILDREN is absolutely a product of a sick society
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 08:31 PM
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It’s funny because as the pictures started coming out yesterday, my first thought (aside from the embarrassment and horror of what was happening) was how distractingly fugly these losers all were 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 10:26 PM
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Thank you. I just went and bought a stun gun, I’ve been thinking about purchasing a weapon for self-defense for awhile and never pulled the trigger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 10:27 PM
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Not to be a creep because it came up accidentally while I was trying to get back to this thread, but I saw what you posted about your current situation and I am super proud of you for doing what you had to do to get out of the position you were in with that wack ass man. Good luck ❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 02:37 AM
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Oh boy. Right now I have a guy who halfheartedly pretended to date me a few years ago ‘liking’ every post I make on social media and texting me every day even if I don’t respond. It’s hilarious because it’s a complete role reversal (god I was so stupid back then). They only want what they can’t have. Truly amazing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 02:14 AM
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Skincare addiction subreddit is great! I also am a big fan of r/asianbeauty and r/koreanbeauty because I specifically loooove extensive and complicated routines but it can be overwhelming if you’re just starting out! You may want to try r/beautyboxes to build up your collection if you’re REALLY new and want to get some makeup along with skincare :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 02:02 AM
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It always makes me lol when I see guys in other subs talking about how all the FDS women are sad pathetic spinsters who are going to die alone and be eaten by their cats. First of all, what kind of contribution does the average redditor have to make in a relationship aside from a mediocre smelly dick and extremely strong opinions on the Avengers movies? Second of all, many, many of us are in healthy and fulfilling relationships, myself included. In fact, I had difficulty finding a loving partner…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 12:09 AM
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I have had a woman grope me in public at a club... because she was trying to impress a man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 11:53 PM
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I give my boyfriend my extra skincare products (because I tend to hoard and then worry about them going bad; or just because I didn’t enjoy something and would prefer to move on to something else instead) and he l o v e s it. He says it makes him feel so fancy! His skincare routine before we met was bar soap, twice a day, extra water. Now he exfoliates, cleanses, moisturizes, applies sunscreen twice a day, and can identify how to use serums. I even got him to do a sheet mask and 10 step kbeauty …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 08:46 PM
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In my case at least, and I suspect a lot of the women here will say the same, the pickme trash way of thinking came directly from my mom. Saying things like “if you break up with him, you might never find someone else to love you” and “oh, I get it, boys only like you because you have big boobs” did a number on me as a kid. I was a train wreck in my 20s because of the bizarre notions of self-worth she put in my head.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 05:10 AM
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Poly culture is straight up terrible. The women are all pickmes (and not even for the reasons you would think, I’m talking about girls who do stuff like accept money to help their male friends rape their female friends- because those are the ones I used to know) and the men are all pushy and predatory. Not to mention that most of the people who are deeply involved in the lifestyle are generally unattractive- or at the very least believe themselves to be- for one reason or another, and only get i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 05:00 AM
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Jumping on the porn train. Every dude I’ve ever been with, I’ve been able to determine the amount of porn they watch within a few minutes of getting intimate. Did the ones that suck also put a lot of pressure on you to exhibit performative sexuality? Did they have a hard time finishing? Difficulty maintaining an erection in their 20s is usually a pretty good indicator.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 03:53 AM
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lol I was just talking to my therapist about this yesterday. Way back when, I had a boyfriend who I had moved across the country with/for (I’m reluctant to say ‘for’ because realistically it wasn’t for him, he wanted me to and I didn’t have many opportunities where I was living so I went along). Within two weeks of me moving, he started talking about where he wanted to move next- without me. Within two months he started talking about how moving me out to him didn’t mean that he wanted to get mar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 08:58 PM
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I recently switched to an aluminum-free deodorant and was having a hard time keeping on top of my summertime stinkiness after working 11 hour+ shifts and living in an apartment without central AC. I made a couple of jokes about being stinky and my HV boyfriend said “you have never smelled anything other than perfect, and even if you did smell bad I wouldn’t love you any less”. It’s like anti-negging lol. Fuck dudes who want to tear you down to build themselves up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 02:56 AM
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Once I was talking to a man on a dating app. Everything was fine and dandy until I told him what I do for a living (it’s an “edgy” career that sometimes involves touching unclothed bodies, but I’m very professional and most people are grateful to have a woman available to do it). After that, everything became a sex joke. I was still in my pickme phase but was working my way out of it pre-FDS. I got sick of it and straight up asked him what the hell his problem was, and he said he thought I must …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 02:44 AM
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Idk if it’s a generational thing or what (or maybe they’ve spent so many years being beaten down and just don’t give a damn anymore), but most of the people my age who I’ve talked to about it have moms with a touch of that passive-aggressive martyrdom. Not trying to project, because my own mother is a legitimate abusive needs-professional-help-but-will-never-get-it-because-in-her-mind-she’s-perfect narcissist, but it’s a small wonder we have so many young women with codependency and massive self…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 10:54 PM
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“Fine, I’ll just never say anything again” “Maybe I’ll just die, you’d love that wouldn’t you” “I guess I’m the worst person in the world, huh?” Mom, I asked you to not scream like you’re being attacked while I drive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 12:48 AM
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It was just the same repeating cycle, over and over. I’d meet a guy, he’d say he was into me and wanted to date, we’d have sex really quickly (because I still bought into libfem ideology and felt like having a ton of sex all the time was “liberation”) and then he’d start acting annoyed to have me around like, the next day. This happened so many times it made my head spin. I couldn’t figure out what I was doing wrong. I talked to my therapist, my friends, asked the Internet, to find out if I was …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 07:01 PM
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It sucked. That was always what she was telling me- that I was unworthy of love and needed to cling to scraps of whatever I was given because no man would ever really want me. It’s funny because she’s in her 60s, hasn’t been in a real relationship (but sure has been taken for a ride on the carousel of fuckery by several meth heads and “come thru” types... smdh these men never change even as they age) since my father died almost 20 years ago, and is a total pickme whose ideas about men and relati…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 07:37 PM
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Uh yeah, that’s the point of FDS. To warn women, and teach them to protect themselves from being manipulated.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/20 04:30 PM
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I once had a 3-year relationship with an alcoholic, can’t-hold-down-a-job, didn’t-graduate-from-high-school certified loser. After he ghosted on me right before we were supposed to meet up, I got prepared to go into our second meeting ready to tell him to kick rocks. “Oh,” my mother said “he likes you. What if you never meet someone else who likes you? Give him another chance”. I WAS A TEENAGER No wonder I became such a terrible pick me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 11:24 PM
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I don’t trust the DNC. I don’t think they actually want what’s best for the country, the policies AOC is advocating for. If they did, we wouldn’t have two rapists to choose from in November. Their agenda is to placate big business while pushing centrist policy. If she’s gonna win, it’s going to be an uphill battle because the DNC is not going to willingly throw their support behind her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 06:03 PM
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2024 she should be 35, no? Provided that there’s still a US left to govern at that point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 01:58 PM
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Are you serious? This was incredibly well-argued and articulated, just as every video of her turning the tables on male GOP members of the house always is. If I was as as prominent as she is on a global stage and my colleague had disrespected me in the way that she was disrespected, I would have burned the place to the ground. She was measured, collected, used the opportunity to educate and place the spotlight on Mr. Yoho’s hypocrisy and uplift other women in the process. It honestly sounds like…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 01:54 PM
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It hurts, I know. A good friend of mine just broke up with her boyfriend who was the lowest value LVM on earth. It was mind boggling to me how she managed to stay with him for so long when she is objectively so much greater than him in so many ways. I’m sure lots of people in your life are relieved for you just like you will be soon, because you deserve better ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 01:39 PM
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Do you have any actual examples?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 01:25 PM
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And not only that, she raised herself up to public prominence from the stagnation and degradation of the working class by promising to help the disenfranchised members of her own community and then MAKING GOOD ON THAT PROMISE. How many politicians actually do the things they say they’re going to do once they get into office? How many of those things actually benefit the communities they’re a part of?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 01:23 PM
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Men love to talk about how dumb she is, but if you ask them why they think she’s stupid they don’t have an answer, they just “know”. It’s a Madonna/whore thing. She’s young, articulate, attractive, and powerful- all of the things they aren’t. So of course she must be an idiot, ‘cause that’s the only thing they have left to argue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 05:30 AM
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I run in a lot of social and political circles that adopt a very pro-sex work attitude and it makes me seriously uncomfortable. At the end of the day, my feelings basically are boiled down to this: SEX WORKERS should be supported as they are the victims of patriarchal socialization and the conditions of a capitalist culture that ultimately seeks to degrade the most vulnerable individuals who exist within it because of their perceived lower labor value, but SEX WORK should be condemned as it has …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 03:59 AM
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It’s absolutely about loving to watch women in pain. Same reason they want to do anal but if the woman says she likes it they start to lose interest, or the way a man will allow a woman to choose him for sex but don’t want to be chosen for relationships. They need to feel like they’re getting one over or harming us to feel in control. I had an ex who was a big porn user. He told me that he “couldn’t have egalitarian sex anymore” and had to be in control to enjoy it. There were several times that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 03:33 AM
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Hmmm. Somehow this reminds me of the time that an ex pushed me into getting me intoxicated at a party (as in, kept asking people to give me drugs, every time I finished a drink he was waiting behind me with another) and then when I went upstairs to lay down, he raped me while I was passed out. When I confronted him about it the next day he claimed that he was drunk too, and said he didn’t know what I was talking about. Similar energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 05:59 AM
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Dude literally buys his jewelry at gas stations (then brags about it on Instagram) and charges $15 for the whole operation. 10 if you bring a friend. What he’s really making money from is YouTube views, and possibly drugs as well given how ashamed and scared the girls look during these conversations. Come to think of it too, one of the articles I was reading about him said that when he was running the prostitution ring down in Florida he was bringing his captive victim to a town in NJ not far fr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 12:53 AM
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Thank you. I reported him anonymously to a federal agency in the hope that something will actually be done. I’m tired of sitting around and watching girls get assaulted while the police stick their thumbs up their asses and say there’s nothing they can do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 12:05 AM
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I’ll DM you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 11:33 PM
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Somebody needs to. One girl told me her dad sat there in the hotel room while the dude pierced her. What the fuck?!? Who does that??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 11:32 PM
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Well the police just straight up dgaf. We’ve called local precincts, been in contact with the state DA, gone to civil court at the request of the health department. At the end of the day they’re out to protect property and not the bodies of young girls from economically disadvantaged communities. The head of the health department in the city where I worked even told me that the police see it as “well, if those freaks want to go get pierced then they deserve what they get”. First step is social m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 07:13 PM
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He’s a former sex trafficker, I can’t say whether or not he’s still involved in that lifestyle but he has been convicted and done time. I’m in NJ but if it’s a federal number, I will give it a call. I’m also going to speak with my colleagues about going to the media and the implications of that. My boss was trying to hire a private investigator during lockdown (because this guy was still working) to find his home address but someone gave me the address yesterday. It just has to stop. I can’t han…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 07:08 PM
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That’s an excellent idea. I’ve been reporting and sending information about his criminal history to YouTube and Instagram, and was planning on publicly addressing them if they didn’t do anything about it. The idea of getting the media involved hadn’t occurred to me though, thank you:
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 05:41 PM
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Honestly. I completely believed it was possible for men and women to be just friends... until I hooked up with a friend of a friend. I thought we were dating, but he just wanted to fuck around. We maintained a friendship but I later found out he’s slept with every mutual female friend we have. One night I was at a table with him and two of our (girl) friends. Later on one of them said to me “lol it’s kind of weird that he’s slept with all three of us, don’t you think?” like EXCUSE ME I didn’t kn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 06:52 AM
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I try not to be too cynical about that sort of thing because reading is one of the most enriching forms of self-care possible, but damn. I joined a book club awhile back hoping to find some good new releases, but I and most of the women in my group were extremely disappointed. There’s just such a huge platform for mediocrity right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 04:15 PM
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Hahahaha I love it when men think that once they’re freed from the bonds of monogamy, that they’re going to be swimming in free sex and subsequently come to find that it is NOT the case at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 07:23 PM
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This, but the working class in general. Women are FAR more likely to live in poverty than men, but upward mobility resides in the hands of the wealthy and most people can’t afford basic necessities right now. Not working 40+ hours a week while you’re learning a trade is a luxury.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 06:52 PM
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This is mainstream dating advice, just from 25+ years ago. If you look at the way generations before ours approached courtship and relationships, it is 100% FDS. The modern narrative has switched, not the methods that work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 05:43 PM
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It’s funny because my boyfriend agrees with FDS 100%. I haven’t called it that, and I’ve never used the buzzwords that get thrown around, but every time we’re talking about relationships and I’m approaching it from an FDS standpoint he’s completely on the same page. I EVEN SAID THANK YOU for him paying for a meal for me once (I do every time, but this is a specific instance) and he said “we’re dating, I’m here to take care of you”. So there you fucking have it. Losers are pissed because decent m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 03:30 PM
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When I said “I really want you to take me on a date” and he said “I don’t really have time for dating right now but we could hang out, yeah”. On that same date he paid for the first round and then said “your turn now, right?”. When we went out again on a second date and I asked for input on what we should do he said he didn’t know and we ended up going on the first date twice- bar hopping and then going back to my place to spend the night together. Or the other guy who damn near fell in love wit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 03:18 PM
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I’ve been looking for fun art projects to do and I’m a big house plant and gardening hobbyist, so I’ve been pressing flowers and leaves to hopefully make into fun things once the craft stores are allowed to open again. My boyfriend got me a nice bouquet of flowers for Valentine’s Day, and I pressed a bunch of them to make into a bookmark or something for him because he’s a big reader. They came out so perfectly! Yesterday he helped me with a bunch of leaves and vines and stuff, hopefully they wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 10:31 PM
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Ughhhh it’s so cute when they follow you around and can’t get enough of you. My cat is obsessed with me too, but I think he also reciprocates the love from my boyfriend as well hahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 11:00 PM
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I’ve dated lots of LVM, and am with a HVM right now. It’s veeeery different. He remembers my schedule. He knows what nights I like to go out with friends, and plans dates for us around that. He brings me small gifts (books I like, bottles of wine, etc) whenever we see each other. I didn’t have to initiate the “what are we?” talk. He brought it up first, he expressed early on that he wanted me and only me. I never had to wonder if he was into me or not. He lets me pay for things if I say I want t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 02:03 PM
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My boyfriend told me he knew by the third date that he was in love with me. As someone who has been dumped after date 3 on several occasions, I think that’s a weird universal touch point for men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 07:59 PM
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Mine does that too! And then when we switch our orders so we can both try what the other one got, he’ll high five me and say what a great team we make. He’s really into the teamwork mentality. Like, if I tell him I want him to come over later in the day because I need to clean, he’ll suggest that he comes over earlier instead and helps me and then DOES IT. Or like, if I have friends over for a party he’ll be right there in the kitchen with me helping to make drinks and serve people even though w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 02:26 PM
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“They respond to what’s convenient” THIS I’ve sent so many paragraphs that never got to the bottom of anything. I’d ask direct questions and they’d just hyper focus on some other part of what I’d say to get out of having to answer them. Such children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 06:40 PM
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We’ve been dating for four months. So far only two things stand out to me: He’s messy. Like, have to move a bunch of stuff around to sit in his car messy. But I am too? If we ever get married and move in together we can just hire a cleaning service, though. We both make good money and we don’t want kids so that’s not that much of a dealbreaker. Also, usually I find that most guys who are messy tend to neglect their health and wellness too, but he looks after himself better than any man I’ve ever…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 05:11 AM
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I would never date a cop or anyone who basks in having the power to end someone’s life as a career. The stats on law enforcement as a group - both in their personal lives and the way they abuse the citizens they are supposed to protect- is just abysmal. However, I didn’t really think much about EMT’s as a collective. I did work in an emergency room for several years, and the stuff I would hear them spew was pretty bad but I just wrote it off as coping with witnessing trauma that I didn’t necessa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 04:31 AM
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I have learned the hard way over and over again that men ONLY want to be approached for sex and NOT RELATIONSHIPS. If that’s what you want then fine, but if you’re going to put yourself out there like that then just know that if he says yes, that’s where his head is. I’m not saying that this is the way things “should” be. I, for one, prefer to do the choosing and yes, I agree that women should absolutely have the freedom to approach men but IT DOESN’T WORK. Every single man I’ve ever made the fi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 12:01 AM
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My natal Mercury is in retrograde so I usually have a pretty decent time of things when it comes back around, thankfully
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 11:32 PM
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It’s bullshit. It’s dudes learning that mental illness is an untouchable trump card at the moment and deciding to use it to treat women poorly, because no one will challenge them on it. I once dated a narcissist alcoholic who strung me along and abused me for six months before one day I finally got so angry that I lost it on him and told him to never fucking talk to me again. We had a very public breakup, and he was all over social media taking about how his depression means that he’s a fuckup a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 02:07 PM
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No, but the concept is often used to dismiss women who behave “unacceptably” or who have inappropriate relationships with men. I’m not trying to argue with you or anything!! That’s just the way it is and it’s pretty messed up how people apply the term to smear women in certain contexts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 02:01 AM
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“Daddy issues” implies that any resulting problems are somehow the daughter’s fault, rather than the fact that her shitty deadbeat dad failed in his responsibilities to the offspring he helped create 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 11:27 PM
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I have... soooooooo many times... heard “I’m just too broken” for a relationship/to function as a normal person/to treat other people with any amount of respect/be considerate or responsible for the feelings of others AT ALL. Men absolutely can and will use mental health or illness as an excuse to fuck you over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 11:13 PM
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I’m not sure how it works on Bumble, but on tinder and okcupid it asked for a reason for the report. Hopefully dude has been banned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 03:23 AM
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I reported a guy on a couple of different apps who was a well-known local stalker and has multiple restraining orders against him from women. I hope to god they did something about him, I don’t know because every time he came up I blocked him after reporting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 07:36 PM
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I’m into tall, thin waifish guys that couldn’t throw a punch if their life depended on it and are willing to openly cry in front of me. Believe me, there are lots of fuckbois among them. I don’t think it’s exclusive to one “type”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 04:54 PM
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I have to work Friday and all this weekend (I tried to get time off but everyone else at work is insisting on taking this weekend off specifically and I’m not happy about it). I mentioned to my boyfriend about a month ago that I was upset because I wanted to spend time with him this weekend. Yesterday he said that it was okay, that we would make up for it the weekend after, and that he’s already researching nice restaurants to take me to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 03:59 PM
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I’ve dated so many men who were “beneath” me in countless ways- socially dysfunctional, not conventionally attractive, boring personalities, barely employed or unemployed completely- and have gotten fucked over by every. single. one of them. For years I wondered what was wrong with me. YEARS. Because in our culture it’s always the woman’s fault for “not being able to keep a man”. I found FDS and realized that I am not alone. Men, do better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 02:37 PM
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My favorite thing since joining this sub has been to see the number of subscribers increase by the hundreds every single day. This sub gets hate because men know that the tables are turning, and women who know better aren’t going to tolerate their shitty behavior anymore. The bigger we get, the harder it will be for losers to abuse and manipulate us. That, and it’s female voices only. Almost all of history has been NO GIRLS ALLOWED and it fucking k i l l s them to know they can’t control the dia…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 06:00 PM
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When you tell a man exactly what he needs to say/spend/fake for you to be interested in him, you sound like a movie villain monologuing his whole plan just before it all falls apart. You look like you have no idea what you’re doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 10:03 PM
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After 5 dates, it’s completely reasonable to want to know what the other person is thinking and to make sure that you’re on the same page. I do agree that you shouldn’t prioritize him, and should date around until he offers commitment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 02:21 AM
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“Women, in general, tend to have interests and hobbies that are less important than men” “I don’t see myself settling down right now, I need to have lots of other relationships before that happens” <—- said to me by two separate men, I have it on good authority that neither of them have had sex or been on a date since me. “I’m just not very reliable, it’s kind of my thing. I don’t want you to think that I’ll be there for you when I won’t” “Men don’t actually want you, they want a suicide girl of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 10:00 PM
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I’ve spent the past three years “dating” musicians, and the local ones are even worse than the ones who have achieved some amount of success. Every single one of them thinks they’re god’s gift to the world, and that they deserve to have women falling all over them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 09:24 PM
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I have one and it made it so much more difficult to cum with a partner. I’ve started using it only 1-2 times a week instead of multiple times a day and my sex life has never been healthier
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 09:06 AM
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My favorite part was when then someone came in and said “who told you that?” as if to imply that women want a nonstop carousel of nothing but crusty unwashed dick coming at them all day. Which is it? Do we exist as a monolith of whores seeking to fuck and subsequently fuck over every “morally upright” man that we meet? Or are we evil bitches set on trapping men and destroying their freedom because we’re desperate for your Mountain Dew-tainted cum? Make up your minds, you stupid motherfuckers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 07:09 PM
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Nope. Sanders is a democratic socialist who wants to provide healthcare as a human right to all women and POC. Warren, a former republican with comparatively little union support, has a “framework” to maybe, possibly provide a Medicare program for some years after she could theoretically already be out of office. There is no comparison. https://www.jacobinmag.com/2019/10/bernie-sanders-elizabeth-warren-differences-2020-presidential-campaign
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 03:49 PM
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While I would love to see a good progressive female candidate, her stated goals and platform are short-sighted and far less beneficial for low income workers (ie women) than Bernie’s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 02:04 AM
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All the time. I work in a larger city and often will take my breaks outside. Men come up to me and ask for anything they can get, but the ask-for-money-and-then-my-phone-number-when-I-say-no thing is super common. I’ve had a guy ask me for money, and then say he was going to “take me out and buy me something nice” when I said no, then threaten me with violence when I kept saying no. It’s repulsive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 12:08 AM
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My abusive narc pickme of a mother used to do this. Years ago I had a boyfriend who would make plans and then ghost me the day of. One night I got all dressed up and made plans to go see him, she asked where I was going and I said “to go dump a man who isn’t worth my time”. She said “oh give him another chance, you might not be able to find another man to love you” (I WAS 19). What I ended up with was 3 years of an abusive alcoholic who couldn’t hold a job, expected me to pay his way through lif…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 02:55 PM
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You are correct. Unfortunately, the culture of Tinder, porn, and sexual degradation disguised as empowerment has resulted in men thinking they can get whatever they want for nothing because the sun shines out of their assholes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 08:11 PM
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Do it! The information is useful at worst, revolutionary at best.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 06:53 PM
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FDS is, in my mind, more about finding a man who is willing to commit to you and avoiding losers by understanding the psychology behind why they behave the way they do. I don’t necessarily need a man to be fabulously wealthy to be worthy of my love, nor do I need to watch a HVM live beyond his means and put himself in debt in an attempt to win me over with extravagance. The simple fact of the matter is that one of the biggest indicators of investment in a new relationship is a man paying for thi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 06:29 PM
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It’s been removed, can we get a tl;dr for those of us who are late to the party?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 07:42 PM
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My female therapist told me the same thing! When I started dating my current boyfriend, he always tried to pay on dates and it made me uncomfortable because I was used to paying %50+ for dates and living expenses. Also, from the time that I was young I had to pay for myself because my parent/s weren’t really keen on spending money on me, so I didn’t really understand the etiquette of how to show appreciation for financial generosity. Usually this resulted in men being especially shitty to me and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 02:02 AM
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The graph showing messaging success stats is really interesting. By the numbers, it appears that men in the top attractiveness percentile who send messages to women in the lowest attractiveness percentile have some of the lowest odds for messaging success. The article posits the idea that it has to do with a “self-confidence issue” on the side of the women, but I wonder if maybe it’s not more of a respect thing? Like, men who perceive themselves to be significantly more attractive than a prospec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 12:26 AM
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Side note: I just remembered that the character is named Love, and I actively hate the writers of this show for making me cringe so hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 08:36 PM
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I’m so sorry you went through this. I also had a boyfriend who I lived with, and I would routinely wake up to him having full-blown sex with me in my sleep. The first few times I told him it wasn’t a big deal because I had been drinking and I figured that maybe I had consented and blacked out and now years later I realize what actually happened. Reading your comment validated my feelings because I was never sure if it was rape or not. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 06:09 PM
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I just watched the second season of You last night and while I’ve been critical of that show since it came to Netflix because it’s kind of awful, the love interest in the second season struck me as a horrible pickme/manic pixie dream girl combo from the depths of this sub’s worst nightmares. The dude repeatedly stands her up and tells her he doesn’t want a relationship (though he does, he’s just a murderous sociopath with other things on his mind) but she’s like “ohhh we can just be FRIENDS” and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 06:00 PM
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I have a friend who got fucked over by a boyfriend and without ever expressing interest in women, just suddenly switched out of nowhere and is a lesbian now. Guess what? She’s also poly now. Surely it is very healthy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 06:04 PM
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Honestly. The only people I’ve ever met who are super into being poly and want everyone to know are usually pretty unattractive, either physically or in terms of their personality. I think that trying to force other people into accepting their lifestyle is a way of “proving” how hot they are because sOoOo many people want to be with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 05:56 PM
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I think for me it was realizing that I was repeating the same cycles with men, desperately seeking security and validation over and over again. Several years ago I moved across the country because the guy I was dating was starting grad school (the ultimate pickmeisha move). Couple of years later, I realized he wasn’t what I wanted and broke up with him. He chose to go back, but because of a shitty family situation I chose to stay. However, a very limited social network and not much financial opp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 08:42 PM
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My father committed suicide when I was young. I’ve been in and out of therapy since then, but like it or not that’s going to have a long term effect on your relationships with men, no matter who you are. Thankfully, I’ve never met a man who was thoughtful enough to ask about my family so I’ve never had to have that conversation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 07:37 PM
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I’m into it, but from the dominant position. My boyfriend likes it too, as a submissive, BUT we talk about everything before, during, and after. I don’t hurt him, though, but he has agreed to let me restrain him. We don’t get “lost in a scene”, we stay present and communicate with each other and I probably ask him “hey are you into this?” 100 times whenever we experiment. We also have lots of vanilla sex, which I think is very important. If a dude can’t have vanilla sex and has to have crazy ban…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 01:20 AM
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There’s a guy who’s local to the town I live in. He’s a well-known stalker, abuser, and rapist (like, he’s been convicted... I don’t think I need to remind anyone in this sub how hard it is to get law enforcement to take you seriously, let alone a conviction). I’ve reported him on three different dating apps after he tried to message me, and was part of a campaign to get him removed from Facebook for sexual harassment of multiple women. All of the apps encouraged me to block his profile so I hav…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 04:53 AM
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I remember you commented on a post I made a couple of days ago saying that you were working up to leaving. I’m so happy that everything is working according to the plans you made and that you’re leveling up! Live through it, and you won’t look back ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 04:48 AM
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I love this show. I’m not really big on musicals or rom com type stuff, but I gave it a chance and got addicted to it. It’s obviously over exaggerated for tv, but there were definitely certain things about it that gave me pause in regard to the way I used to interact with men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 11:52 PM
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Last night the dude who smashed my heart into pieces over the summer (we still have mutual friends so I occasionally see him when I go out) insisted on walking me to my car at the end of the night, texted me to “let me know he was home safe”, and then blew up my phone all night while I was trying to sleep. No no no, we aren’t playing this fucking game breh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 02:28 PM
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I read through her post history too, this woman is in her 40s... she should know better than this by now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 04:25 AM
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I know that back when I suffered from pickme-itis, it was 100% a reflection of my poor self-esteem. My mother is not a great lady, and mostly taught me that my value was tied up in how many men were attracted to me. She taught me that they were only interested in sex, and that by giving them what they want all the time I would be able to bag a high status man who would bring my own status up- you know, as opposed to bringing myself up on my own and letting men of high status see me for my own va…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 11:52 PM
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By my formula, I would give that two months. But if you can do it in six weeks, more power to you. I hope you are taking care of yourself and that you go on to get everything you want out of your life and relationships! Fuck him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 08:49 PM
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In that situation, I’d say do what feels right to you. I wrote this more or less coming from a place where the relationship isn’t working and you’re either not expecting or not ready for it to be over. If you’re the one initiating the breakup, you take the appropriate amount of time that YOU need to heal yourself and move on. Sometimes, if you’ve already been laying the groundwork to get out you don’t really need much time before you feel comfortable dating again. Sometimes you want to be single…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 08:44 PM
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Right? She wants to be told that she did the right thing soooo badly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 07:30 PM
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This poor woman’s entire post history is her begging for people to tell her what she wants to hear, and then justifying bad behavior on his part by claiming that there’s “more to the story” and never telling the rest of the story. GIRL. Even in my most desperate pickme days I had emotional term limits. If he wasn’t acting right after three months, I bounced and didn’t look back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 07:29 PM
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My current guy is a HVM, we met on bumble. Prior to that I tried tinder (all the guys on there are looking to hook up) and okaycupid (not a fan, that one feels more like a meat market than any of them, I think). I chose bumble because frankly, I am used to being the sexually dominant partner, and I felt like it would make it easier to find guys who are cool with that if I was going through a platform where women are required to make first contact. We haven’t been dating long (maybe about 8 dates…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 02:46 AM
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Oof. I have a male acquaintance that I went on a couple of dates with, and who dumped me right after I slept with him. I still see him around in a “friend of a friend” sort of way. Last week we were on the same trivia team and even though we fucking won he spent so much time mansplaining to me afterward. Bro, YOU’RE the one who told us to write down the wrong answers. I’M the one who got the answer right, but they wrote down what you said because you sounded more confident. Asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 11:10 PM
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OOF I’m going through this with yet another pick me friend right now. I try to hang out with her one-on-one but she always invites whatever shitbag guy she’s dating. Later on, she’ll get drunk and get pissed off at me for interacting with them, calling me a bunch of rude names and implying that I’m trying to seduce them just by being friendly. 2/3 guys she’s dated in 2019 have told her that they want to get with me (as I found out the last time I sat her down and made her explain herself for her…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 02:27 PM
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With OLD, my biggest red flag is men who refuse to ask me questions about myself. I literally have been six months into a relationship with a man, and he’s not asked me a single question about where I work, where I’m from, about my family, goals in life, etc. SEVERAL TIMES
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 12:45 AM
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This, so so so much. I had a friend who wouldn’t ever be happy at the end of the night unless she had some shitty gross dude to come home with her and fuck her, in spite of the fact that she had her own trashy boyfriend who was a misogynistic douche. There was a coke dealer that she would sleep with occasionally in exchange for money. One night she brought me around to his house after we left the bar, and I didn’t realize until afterward but she was pumping me full of alcohol. Like, as soon as t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 12:22 AM
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