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| 18 | Newly single at 36 | Fundamentals | ThrowRA_fajsdklfas | /r/seduction | 01/12/25 10:20 PM |
| 8 | What are your odds? | Conversation | ThrowRA_fajsdklfas | /r/seduction | 25/12/25 12:14 AM |
| 1 | She asked me if I’m a bad texter | Logistics | ThrowRA_fajsdklfas | /r/seduction | 02/02/26 06:24 AM |
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| 14 | appart from dating apps, day game and night game, what are the top 2 hobbies/side jobs one can do that can reliably generate long term relationships?Every city is going to be different. The last place I lived most coed sports were dead or the average age was 40+. The city I’m in is a good mix of 20-30’s. Coed soccer, kickball, pickleball I’d say are the most active groups for me now. | /r/seduction | 17/02/26 05:49 PM |
| 1 | appart from dating apps, day game and night game, what are the top 2 hobbies/side jobs one can do that can reliably generate long term relationships?I’m not white and most of my friends aren’t white. Most women don’t hate men. They hate men with crappy attitudes. Good luck. | /r/seduction | 17/02/26 01:03 AM |
| 1 | appart from dating apps, day game and night game, what are the top 2 hobbies/side jobs one can do that can reliably generate long term relationships?You know what, keep up the negative attitude. Less competition for the rest of us. Lol | /r/seduction | 17/02/26 01:00 AM |
| 1 | appart from dating apps, day game and night game, what are the top 2 hobbies/side jobs one can do that can reliably generate long term relationships?That negative attitude is holding you back far more than women apparently not liking brown guys. There’s tons of women that love brown guys. Work on your confidence first. That negative attitude is going to be easily picked up by any woman and is a huge turn off. | /r/seduction | 17/02/26 12:56 AM |
| 1 | appart from dating apps, day game and night game, what are the top 2 hobbies/side jobs one can do that can reliably generate long term relationships?As someone that is 5’9”. Yes. There’s going to be women that will only want a 6’+ guy. Most realize, that’s a minority of the population. | /r/seduction | 17/02/26 12:31 AM |
| 46 | appart from dating apps, day game and night game, what are the top 2 hobbies/side jobs one can do that can reliably generate long term relationships?Coed sports. Recently moved to a new city. This place is big on outdoor sports. Meeting tons of people, both guys and girls. It’s probably the easiest way imho. Gym classes can work as well, personally hate gym classes though. Prefer to workout alone. Expanding your social circle should be priority. | /r/seduction | 16/02/26 11:25 PM |
| 15 | appart from dating apps, day game and night game, what are the top 2 hobbies/side jobs one can do that can reliably generate long term relationships?It really depends on the place. I’ve been to some venues where it’s true, I’ve been to others where it’s the opposite. Most recently tried swing dancing, it was more guys than women. | /r/seduction | 16/02/26 11:23 PM |
| 1 | Beautiful Receptionist at work, need advice on landing her numberI would normally say go for it, but she could just be friendly and this is not one but two jobs you’d have to see her in if things go sour…additionally she also has your phone number already. You either shoot your shot or sit back and things may or may not happen. | /r/seduction | 15/02/26 09:09 PM |
| 1 | Never had game before. I'm 3137, whole new person recently. My best recommendation is get out and do as many social events as possible. Meet guys, learn to talk to them and joke around with them. Hangout, get their numbers to hangout and grab a drink or shoot the shit. Networking/mixers are hard at first, but being able to go up to other guys and introduce yourself is not much different than doing it to women. Starting with talking to guys will generally be easier as you’re not physically interested in them if you’re a hete… | /r/seduction | 14/02/26 07:24 PM |
| 2 | Advice on canceling date plans?Just say you had a change of heart of things. You don’t owe her more than that. If she presses wanting an answer just leave her on read. She’s obviously trouble, don’t feed the beast. | /r/seduction | 09/02/26 04:00 PM |
| 25 | Tips to open this girl on ig ?Oh boy. Never bring up politics you disagree with. Additionally, if a woman is posting tons of political posts, left or right, I’ve personally found them to be more of a headache than not. | /r/seduction | 09/02/26 12:17 PM |
| 1 | How many of you have herpes?I’m going to second this. I still say the odds are in favor of OP not having it. Especially since she’s had cold sores. If OP has anything pop up again, get a swab test asap. That will give you a definitive answer. | /r/seduction | 08/02/26 03:38 PM |
| 2 | How many of you have herpes?Did you talk to a doctor about this? Did they inspect the bumps/sores? Ideally a swab test of those bumps when they were still around would have been the best way to know for sure. The swab test is the most accurate test, it looks for the virus at that exact spot. If you got a blood test you will very likely get a positive test result for HSV-1 as you have had cold sores (HSV-1 orally). The blood test only tells you if you have the antibodies for HSV1 or HSV2. It won’t tell you if it’s oral or g… | /r/seduction | 07/02/26 05:30 AM |
| 3 | How many of you have herpes?Did the test come back? Have you had a cold sore before? If so you also have HSV-1 (herpes). There’s some data that shows it’s far less likely to go to another area of the body if you’ve had it in another area already. Additionally, you could have been exposed to HSV-1 orally years ago as a child and never had any sores, most people do. This is why blood tests are kind of useless. Have you had any genitalia sores? If not, you’re probably fine. | /r/seduction | 07/02/26 05:10 AM |
| 2 | How many of you have herpes?Ok, you need to calm down. This isn’t the end of the world. Somewhere between 60-85% of people have oral HSV-1 (cold sores). It can be transmitted oral to genital. Historically it was much less common as once you had it orally it was less likely to transfer to another location. HSV-2 used to be much more common for genital, but research is showing that the decrease in childhood HSV-1 oral is starting to show up that it is becoming more prevalent in genitals. Did she have a cold sore? If not the … | /r/seduction | 07/02/26 05:05 AM |
| 2 | How many of you have herpes?I’m sorry to hear that. How did you find out they lied? Did you get tested? Did they have any visible sores? If no sores, the odds are significantly lower, although not 0. Did you use protection? This reduces skin to skin contact but areas not covered can still be exposed to the shedding virus. Get an igG type test. It will tell you if you have anti bodies for type 1 and 2. If this was recent, you’ll need to wait about 3-4 months to know for certain for your body to develop enough antibodies. Th… | /r/seduction | 07/02/26 04:55 AM |
| 14 | How many of you have herpes?Never done a blood test for it. Last I read it was somewhere like 1 in 10 people have been exposed to it. Of those people over 80% don’t show symptoms and don’t know they even carry the virus. So it could be higher. Honestly it’s not on the top of my things to worry about. You could technically spread it even without symptoms but it’s much less likely than if you were to have a sore. HPV is also one that many people have, show no symptoms, and never know they have. I’d be more concerned with som… | /r/seduction | 07/02/26 02:15 AM |
| 1 | how to find things to talk about on a date?Bold move cotton! | /r/seduction | 06/02/26 01:55 PM |
| 2 | What car do you drive?23yro Honda beater and 15 yro Volvo in good shape. The antithesis of 🐈🧲. I prefer not to waste my money on cars. I have a good job and can afford a nice new car. Would rather not drop $50k+ on a depreciating asset or have a steep increase in insurance. Exes never cared, women I’ve dated/slept with never cared. Could I get more women excited if I had a nice new car off the bat? Very likely. Do I care? Nope, still going to drive what I drive. I think what’s more important is just keeping it clean.… | /r/seduction | 04/02/26 01:41 PM |
| 1 | She asked me if I’m a bad texterShe’s 34, I’m 37 lol. At certain period of my life, texting didn’t exist. 😂 | /r/seduction | 02/02/26 06:47 AM |
| 0 | She asked me if I’m a bad texterHonestly, I would probably do that if this were after a couple dates…that could come off a little f-boy which I’m not looking for. I’ve only been on one date with her. | /r/seduction | 02/02/26 06:45 AM |
| 2 | She asked me if I’m a bad texterYou’re probably right. I think she surprised me with this as I’ve never had someone be so forward about it and call me out before. I’ll just be blunt that I like to talk in person when getting to know someone and I’ve genuinely been busy. | /r/seduction | 02/02/26 06:41 AM |
| 9 | How to build confidence for wanting to start dating when you still live at home?As someone that used to be in that situation, you’re saving up for your own place. Say it with confidence. Pensiveness or hesitation will turn off any woman. Some women will care, some will not. If it gets serious enough, you can always go to her place. Never brought them back to my parent’s place. Had plenty of success with women, most understood, a lot more people live at home due to rising cost of living, nothing to be ashamed of if you’re trying to improve your life. | /r/seduction | 01/02/26 07:10 PM |
| 4 | Not sure how to manage post hinge date.This is my go to after a date and it avoids ever putting myself in this situation if you’re into this girl. Right after the date: “Hope you got home safe, had a great time, would love to do it again.” Her: “Just got home and I had a good time as well, would love that” or “I had a great time, but to be honest I’m not feeling much of a spark between us…” or on the very rare case she goes ghost. I think saying you hope she got home safe portrays you as being a kind person and they feel compelled to… | /r/seduction | 01/02/26 01:42 PM |
| 11 | Accept the New Rules or Be Left BehindI still will talk to and go out with women. I think being recently single, I genuinely don’t care if they’re interested. Would it be fun to makeout/sleep with them? Sure, but I’m also not really a big fan of casual sex so I don’t really try for it. If it leads there, cool. Additionally, I plan all my dates around going to new places I’ve never been to and make it the goal of the date to experience/explore a new place. Even if the date isn’t going well, I get to try a new place. I’ve always been … | /r/seduction | 28/01/26 08:22 PM |
| 71 | Accept the New Rules or Be Left BehindAs someone recently single out of a 3yr relationship that 100% genuinely does not give a s*** about any woman I’ve gone out with/talked to the last couple months as I’m tired/overworked and more interested in making friends…holy crap does it work. I’ve had two girls change their plans for me recently, start chasing after me, and have never been out with women as gorgeous. I think partly being in the best shape I’ve ever been in, older (37), have my shit together, and genuinely not caring, has ma… | /r/seduction | 27/01/26 10:46 PM |
| 86 | Date was going very well until I said one sentenceThis is sooo true, never ask her if she wants to go. Tell her, “hey let’s go over here.” Doesn’t even need to be in the bar…shoot you could say let’s go over here, and keep walking your ass out of the bar with her. Take the lead. Also never apologize for something like that…it’s a shit test. If it ever happens again, just say YOU would rather not make out in front of everyone at a bar. | /r/seduction | 27/01/26 09:10 PM |
| 2 | Is hookup culture cooked?It definitely was the cool thing back in the day. I for one welcome it. As an older millennial I was never a fan of getting drunk and going to clubs/bars. I was always in the gym and going to bed early and now that seems to be the cool thing to do. Hookups have never really been my cup of tea either. Not too keen on the idea of taking the chance on catching a life altering disease. To each their own though. While it’s definitely easier online for women to get casual sex, I think in person for ma… | /r/seduction | 17/01/26 10:13 PM |
| 5 | Is hookup culture cooked?I’d say those looking for a relationship, yes. At the same time, the women wanting to sleep with a dude can do so easily by going to a bar/club at night. They’re still out there. In addition to wanting to meet in person I think more people are choosing to live healthier lives. Going out, getting drunk and hooking up is definitely not as popular. Running clubs, workout groups, even sober events have taken off where I live. Hooking up has generally been associated with unhealthy choices… | /r/seduction | 17/01/26 10:01 PM |
| 13 | Is hookup culture cooked?I think the opposite is becoming true with people wanting to move away from the apps and meet in person. I’m older and lived through no apps, apps taking off (probably the pinnacle of online dating at the beginning), people hating it, and now people wanting to meet in person again. I don’t think it’s going away but it’s definitely become more apparent people want to meet more naturally. Heck, even speed dating has made a comeback. | /r/seduction | 17/01/26 09:51 PM |
| 1 | 39M - How do I find a dedicated wingman for daygame/nightgame in a college town (Ann Arbor/Detroit)?37M…not in your area but wondering the same. | /r/seduction | 17/01/26 03:52 PM |
| 44 | Matched with a woman I’ve seen at my gym for monthsAs someone that goes to the gym religiously, I hate working out with anyone. I always find it to be a distraction, even when I had a GF that would also go to the gym we never worked out together. Personally I always keep a first date casual. Coffee or a drink in a casual/calm bar. If it’s going well, ask if they want to walk around the area (pick a place with places you can walk to or around after) and if it’s going really well maybe even grab some food. If it’s not off to a good start at the be… | /r/seduction | 15/01/26 08:33 PM |
| 7 | You ever hire a dating coach? Is it worth it?This is the only benefit I could see from hiring one. A lot of guys don’t have friends that want to wing or push you to approach. The information that anyone can teach you is out there freely. | /r/seduction | 15/01/26 08:10 PM |
| 2 | Did post gym stuff help?Do you do any gym classes? Hyrox is the new “craze” and it seems like every guy that does it is shirtless…at least in my city. Also seems like every guy around here has photos of themselves doing a Hyrox event shirtless. If not maybe a workout at the park or beach? Run club near you? Seems to be the new way of meeting people in person as well, at least in my city. Everyone I see has a bunch of shirtless guys. Personally not a fan of any of the classes/run clubs/Hyrox stuff. I just got a buddy to… | /r/seduction | 14/01/26 02:30 AM |
| 5 | Did post gym stuff help?Don’t have a six pack or ig but have lifted for the last 18yrs and definitely above average. Gym pic in tank top with a pump made a huge difference with online dating I think what’s more important is if they’re tasteful. Shirtless gym selfies can be cringe to some women. Shirtless pic at beach/run/working out is far better. | /r/seduction | 14/01/26 01:34 AM |
| 17 | What are some underrated qualities a guy can have that can be absolutelly magnetic?Thisssss! I have lifted for 18 years, not a huge guy but definitely larger than average. Women always love/are surprised when I tell them I know how to sew and do crafts. It shows that you’re not afraid to be pigeonholed into a stereotype and do what you want because you enjoy it. | /r/seduction | 12/01/26 05:19 AM |
| 1 | Is Venue rotation important when you go on a date at least once a weekI’d say most staff know better than to ever do that to a customer. I’d say the only potential negative is seeing someone you dated at this spot again if it’s a place you introduced them to. I’ve had this happen to me twice. Once I was seated in a booth right next to a girl I dated for a couple months…was a little uncomfortable trying to joke/flirt when the girl I used to date was right there listening to everything. The other time was running into another girl I dated for a couple months at a ba… | /r/seduction | 12/01/26 05:10 AM |
| 0 | You’ve had a good date, she’s agreed to come home, now how do you escalate?If you’re at her place or your place the odds you’re at bare minimum going to make out are pretty damn high. I usually keep things super chill, act comfortable and they will be comfortable. If we’re chilling on the couch talking or something I’ll look over and randomly say “hey”, smile, look at her lips, and go in most of the way, let her go in the rest…the “hey” stops and gives an opportunity for a kiss to happen if it’s going to happen. It’s definitely a “Hitch” movie move to go 90% and let he… | /r/seduction | 10/01/26 07:20 PM |
| 2 | Girl Asked to Have sexThe meet somewhere private is a hint to go over to her place or invite her over to your place. Personally not a fan of bringing over someone to my place I haven’t met in person in the event I can’t get rid of them or I’m just not feeling the vibe. In situations like this, pick a place near their place or yours walking distance. If things aren’t going well, call it quits and head out. If they’re going well, invite them over to your place or offer to walk them home if it’s near them. Texting doesn… | /r/seduction | 09/01/26 05:13 AM |
| 46 | Men, how the hell do I know when to make a move while on a date with a woman?I do this same thing, the other thing I like to do is if you start at one place and walk somewhere else lightly bump into them “on accident” especially if the area requires one of you to move around something or squeeze through an area. If they don’t back away it’s usually a sign they are ok with some physical escalation. | /r/seduction | 05/01/26 04:01 AM |
| 2 | Stripper SeductionMoney…just money. They get hit on alllll the time at work. Don’t bother, your money, time, and energy is better spent elsewhere. | /r/seduction | 05/01/26 03:03 AM |
| 8 | There’s a lot of hate and judgment coming my way but who cares it is what it is.So let me get this straight…you’re having trouble finding someone to cheat on your wife with? 🤦♂️ | /r/seduction | 04/01/26 09:26 PM |
| 5 | How to reject a girl?This is the only right answer. Be a grown man and tell her what you think. Any other advice to beat around the bush or string her along is the immature way of handling things. If you think she’s growing too close tell her that is not what you want and were upfront from the beginning about your intentions. You told her already you wanted to keep things casual, if she is getting feelings that is on her. You’re going to get one of two things to happen. She’ll back off and keep it more friends with … | /r/seduction | 04/01/26 07:42 PM |
| 55 | What do 18-20y.o girls want on tinder? I get matches, one reply then silence. Why?How old are you? At that age they’re barely adults. Chances are they don’t even know what they want. | /r/seduction | 03/01/26 10:02 PM |
| 1 | I also have 5 f×ck buddies. AMA!I’ve only ever had two at once for a short period. It became too much to handle between work and other life responsibilities. How do you manage it? How old are you? Do you work or take them on dates? | /r/seduction | 02/01/26 05:44 PM |
| 6 | Game changersI have zero interest dating someone in their 20’s. My limit is 30+. The majority have been in the 31-33 range. I’m not really looking for anything casual and there absolutely is a maturity/life experiences difference between older women and women in their 20’s. | /r/seduction | 02/01/26 04:17 PM |
| 4 | Game changersI always looked young for my age. I remember being in college and some people thought I was still in high school. | /r/seduction | 02/01/26 04:14 PM |
| 26 | Game changersAge. Being 37 recently single, best shape of my life, and finally matured looks wise. I always looked young. People regularly think I’m early 30’s. | /r/seduction | 02/01/26 04:12 PM |
| 18 | My first cold approach (20M, college)Props to you! Screw the friends making fun of you. They’re just jealous. | /r/seduction | 02/01/26 04:00 PM |
| 9 | Hmmm self respect or play the gameMatch that energy. Let her plan something or ask you out at this point. If she doesn’t, don’t pursue. You’re a backup plan right now. | /r/seduction | 01/01/26 06:49 PM |
| 9 | Who else is going out for NYES?My old ass is in bed at 9. Goodnight, happy hunting, and happy new years all. 🫡 | /r/seduction | 29/12/25 06:13 PM |
| 20 | In 2026 you will find more success than ever beforeEating at bars and striking conversations with people is a great place to practice. I used to travel a ton for work and would go earlier in the night to have dinner. I’d usually eat at the bar simply because I didn’t want to take an entire table just for myself. When you sit down, whether it’s a single lady, guy, or couple I always smiled at them and asked if anyone was sitting there. It is an easy harmless ice breaker that helps. If they’re eating as well a simple “may I ask what you’re having?… | /r/seduction | 29/12/25 04:54 PM |
| 1 | Is this message I am sending boring?That’s a pretty generic message. She’s probably got 50-100 messages saying she has a great X, Y, or Z. Unlike most guys, women are getting bombarded with messages from guys online. Truth is, you need to find something in her profile that stands out and try to tailor a unique message to try to catch her attention. | /r/seduction | 29/12/25 05:38 AM |
| 3 | Is this message I am sending boring?IMHO it is a little cringey/corny pick up line. Some, but most women in my experience don’t like the corny pickup lines…especially online. It might work a little bit in person if you joke about it and knowingly play along that it’s corny. I’d file it in the same category as: Did it hurt? Did what hurt? When you fell from heaven. | /r/seduction | 29/12/25 04:50 AM |
| 4 | 20+ Hinge dates , 0 second dates [ SF ]The second thing I’d question is your profile photos. Are you catfishing? Most people put their best photos forward, but they may be a bit too good. I’ve met some women that definitely looked better online. Especially since cold approach seems to be working for you but online isn’t… | /r/seduction | 28/12/25 07:45 PM |
| 130 | 20+ Hinge dates , 0 second dates [ SF ]The only thing that stood out to me: “One girl said she didn’t like the race of my ex, even though she was that race” Why are you bringing up an ex on the first date? | /r/seduction | 28/12/25 02:25 AM |
| 2 | Saw her again, pursued again, now were texting .Slow burn. You shot your shot twice. Let her take the lead if she’s really interested. Don’t over text her and don’t text her frequently. Since you said you’re just looking for a hookup, find someone else to date…takes the nerves off and keeps you from getting too invested/excited/needy about her. | /r/seduction | 28/12/25 01:49 AM |
| 2 | Do girls appreciate "non gym but sporty" physiques at all?I used to cycle quite a bit back in the day and lift heavy. Don’t competitively cycle anymore and have focused more so on lifting over the last 12 years. At one point I was ~130lb and on the other end bulked to nearly 200lbs at 5’9”. I swing up and down in weight from cuts/bulk and deloading/breaks. Bulking 100% significantly helps with women in my experience. Filling in a shirt makes a BIG difference in women’s perception from my personal experiences, even if I put on a little belly. Having bee… | /r/seduction | 25/12/25 09:39 PM |
| 1 | What are your odds?In all honesty it’s been more like 30 matches. I’ve only been out on 3 dates. Funny you mentioned a girl at the gym. Caught one last night locking eye contact with me through the mirror and she smiled. Personally, she wasn’t my type though. I don’t think I’d approach at the gym simply because I really like this one and don’t want to shit where I eat. | /r/seduction | 25/12/25 02:32 PM |
| 3 | Are bars and clubs still worth it in 2025?The city I am in now is hyper focused on staying fit and active. Drinking happens, but far less people go out drinking/clubbing compared to when I was in college. Being in my 30’s I also value my sleep and health so seldom visit bars unless I’m already going on a date. The only time I’m going to a bar is if it’s a quiet place that serves wine and I already have a date. I’m not going to them to pickup women. | /r/seduction | 25/12/25 12:03 AM |
| 81 | "No Spark" text after dateIt happens, not everyone is going to actually vibe with you. Just because you had fun together doesn’t mean they see it going long term. From a guys point of view, I always text a girl as soon as I get home after a date. It’s either something along the lines of: “Hope you got home safe, I had a great time tonight would love to do it again.” Or “Hope you got home safe, I had a great time tonight but I have to be honest, I’m not feeling the spark, best of luck” Sometimes you’re just not feeling th… | /r/seduction | 22/12/25 03:19 AM |
| 1 | Did I ask out too soon?If it’s an iPhone selecting contacts/phone is generally one and the same app. Unless she had it open up to already creating a new contact on her phone, then I’d take that as a pretty clear indicator that she wanted your number. Since you are likely going to see this person again in the gym, you’ve already built a rapport with her. If it were me personally, next time you see her at the gym, I’d joke about losing my phone again. I’d probably jokingly say something about “you’re going to see me sho… | /r/seduction | 20/12/25 09:03 PM |
| 3 | Height growth surgery in this ageSecond this. Knew a guy 5’3” and women loved him. He had the personality and confidence. | /r/seduction | 20/12/25 02:37 PM |
| 3 | Anyone got a quick way to estimate a girls age during daygame?I’m absolutely horrible at judging people’s age…being 36, the last thing I want to deal with is an early 20’s girl. Flat out ask. Just say “you look young, how old are you?” Women say it’s rude to ask, but if she’s older she’ll be flattered that you told her she looks young. If she’s young…I probably don’t have the energy for a party girl anyway and don’t care what they think. | /r/seduction | 20/12/25 04:32 AM |
| 84 | Seductive ways to initiate sexUs guys are simple. Kiss, grab his crotch, unzip his pants, and go to town. | /r/seduction | 19/12/25 09:57 PM |
| 6 | What are some subtle ways you can come off as needy without realizing it?Agreeing with everything she says. | /r/seduction | 18/12/25 06:25 PM |
| 6 | I think I'm deleting TinderTinder was a waste of time for me. Virtually zero matches. Hinge on the other hand has surprisingly been good. Uploaded my profiles to ChatGPT…told me I give off a more mature profile and Tinder isn’t the place for me as it’s more for casual flings. 🤷 Either way, 2026 goal is start cold approaching. Never done it in my entire life and I’m 36. | /r/seduction | 17/12/25 03:52 PM |
| 2 | conservative vs liberal cities for picking up womenIn my experience…it honestly doesn’t matter. The extreme fringe on both sides aren’t worth the headache. Luckily my city is a good mix. I don’t want to date either side that makes politics their entire personality. | /r/seduction | 17/12/25 06:26 AM |
| 1 | How do I get laidYou’re young and hormones are going crazy at that age. For starters. If for whatever reason you do get laid, WEAR PROTECTION. Second, stop focusing on getting laid. Your personality, choices, and how you act will come off as desperate and needy which women will pick up on. I know, easier said than done at your age. You need to convince yourself that you’re not desperate and it’s not a big deal. Third, learn to flirt and just be friendly to girls. Being comfortable with them is most of it. They w… | /r/seduction | 16/12/25 10:10 PM |
| 1 | Does getting older make game harder? Will it be harder to get dates?30-36. Majority I’ve gone out with have been early 30’s. | /r/seduction | 16/12/25 10:05 PM |
| 3 | Does getting older make game harder? Will it be harder to get dates?100% became easier. 36M recently single after 3 years. I’ve matured a lot since then. | /r/seduction | 16/12/25 01:54 AM |
| 2 | I've become to lazy with escalation I think, anyone else have this problem?I’ve gotten to this point, but in all honesty I’m happy I did. I think it’s just that I value my time and energy and trying to do this shouldn’t be work. I’m either having fun and things are moving along mutually, trying to play pretend to escalate and entice is work. I went out with this knockout recently, serious 10/10. Date was going well, lots of laughing, and seemed ok, truth is I could sense things weren’t 100% and ended things early on the date. Funny enough I think it’s even itself out. … | /r/seduction | 15/12/25 10:17 PM |
| 11 | Do women actually prefer "older" guys?I’m not rich, but I have a respectable career and make over median income in my city. The majority of women I’ve dated recently I have been out with are in careers with more or less the same income bracket or slightly less. I’d say it’s been 29-45. Most I have been out with are 31-33…probably my own choice to be honest. I’m generally not interested in women under 30. | /r/seduction | 12/12/25 11:55 PM |
| 36 | Do women actually prefer "older" guys?Recently single after a few years. Mid 30’s…getting dates has never been easier in my life. I’ve matured a lot, in the best shape of my life, have my stuff together, experimented with clothing and hairstyles that work for me. The second part to that is I think you have a larger age range to work with. At 36yro dating 26 isn’t really out of the norm. Now at 26, dating someone 10 years younger is probably illegal. Personally at 36 I have no interest in dating someone with that age gap because I’m … | /r/seduction | 12/12/25 11:33 PM |
| 21 | Has anyone flirt based on Menstrual cycle?There’s no sound way of knowing a woman’s cycle unless you’re seriously dating her and track it. Women’s cycle change for plenty of reasons. | /r/seduction | 10/12/25 03:39 PM |
| 2 | How serious and fixed are Dating-Intentions on Dating-Apps?I’ve had casual flings with ones that say they’re looking for long term and long term things from ones that say they want short term. Everyone is different in how they mesh with you. Pick up on their queues and play it as it comes. Take it with a grain of salt. | /r/seduction | 06/12/25 05:52 PM |
| 9 | How to learn texting womenYou’re asking a question in English on a predominantly English speaking subreddit. If you’re not texting English, cultural norms, slang, flirting, what women in your country like are likely going to be different. | /r/seduction | 04/12/25 10:38 PM |
| 31 | How to learn texting womenStart with proper grammar and punctuation. Reading this was difficult in itself. | /r/seduction | 04/12/25 10:18 PM |
| 1 | Club flirting adviceShe definitely wasn’t lol. She probably saw an older guy, got him to buy her a drink and left. Never buy a girl a drink unless she’s already all over you in a club and spent some time talking to you/dancing with you. | /r/seduction | 02/12/25 11:40 PM |
| 1 | Smallest step to take to start to approach?Thanks for this! 36 recently single after 3 years. Not a fan of OLD and want to finally break through approach anxiety! | /r/seduction | 02/12/25 07:00 AM |
| 1 | Newly single at 36This is motivating. I’m going to push myself…even if it’s 1/100. I still like those odds. I only need one. 🤣 | /r/seduction | 02/12/25 06:35 AM |
| 34 | Why do girls want to do only foreplay but not have sex?Age range of these girls? Feel younger girls back in the day had some hesitation to have sex but were ok with foreplay. Are they flat out turning down sex? Play by play example? | /r/seduction | 02/12/25 05:53 AM |
| 3 | Getting An Ex Back?This is potentially setting yourself up for heartbreak. If they’re just out of a relationship, they’re very likely looking for familiarity and to fill the void of no longer being in a relationship. They’re likely reminiscing the good not bad of your relationship. There is a possibility that there is some genuine part of them that has changed and things could work. The odds generally are against that though. I’m guilty of dating an ex a few years after a breakup. Some things changed, other things… | /r/seduction | 02/12/25 01:09 AM |
| 1 | Your attractiveness is largely dependant on your social validationI highly recommend people expand their social circle anyway possible for this reason. I’ve learned this in my late 30’s and it significantly changes things. I’ve been doing everything possible to get out face to face with any and everyone male or female. If you’re in a major city, the best thing you can do is attend any and every meetup/social event possible. You’ll quickly start noticing the same people at these events. A simple, “hey weren’t you at he xyz event a couple weeks ago?” gets the ba… | /r/seduction | 01/12/25 08:12 PM |
| 1 | How much does big arms/good physique help pulling on a night out?As someone that’s lifted on and off for 17 years and is of average attractiveness, it definitely helps being in shape. My size changes throughout the year. Dieting isn’t easy, lifting can feel like a chore sometimes, schedule/work can make getting a good workout/diet in difficult at times. I’ve never really been fat, but going from kind of in shape to noticeably above average absolutely makes a difference in how women have perceived me. That aside, there are plenty of women that really don’t car… | /r/seduction | 01/12/25 08:00 PM |
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