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This is fucking terrifying. These CRIMINALS have access to people’s homes when they work on renovations, roofs, etc. Women and children are often home while they are working. Family photos are up, which is another way to advertise would-be victims who are not present. Once these criminals scope out the home, they can be very confident at picking a woman, teenager or child to victimise later. They know the layout of the house, and they know who to choose. WTF is wrong with construction companies?…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 01:08 PM
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You are literally talking about your life dating a single father and details about his ex-wife and I’m the one projecting. Sure, Jan! 😂😂😂🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 10:56 PM
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Ohhhh, let me tell you this one. I am an attractive, well put together woman minding my own business at the pool, reading a book. There is this man- and you truly need a photograph to appreciate this, I’m telling you. He is at least 25 years older, he is honestly about 325lbs. He is suntanned to the point of looking like a basted turkey, he is wearing a FLUFFY BROWN WIG perched on top of his head, and he has a prune sized BLACK GROWTH perched on his upper back. Yet he swaggers on over to me, sta…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 12:47 PM
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Your entire post is about how he and his mother feel about you- what they want, how they think about the situation. Where is what YOU want? You don’t say YOU love him, that YOU see building a life with him- at all. Just that you’ve been “hanging out for a year” and have known him since you were 12. This is some kind of a great love story? No. You sound way too young with limited life experience to be making any kind of decisions about marriage to a man that you don’t even have clear, identifiabl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 01:24 PM
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Any time somebody thinks, oh, I could never do that... Those coming years will still pass whether or not you work toward that goal. The time will pass ANYWAYS. Do you want to be in the same place in ten years? Or wouldn’t it make sense to at least TRY? Time waits for NO ONE. You will never be younger than you are TODAY. GO FOR IT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 05:58 PM
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Well somebody should be getting a commission- SOLD! Some of those reviews were hilarious! BTW, anyone considering a thruster- avoid the Fun Factory Stronic “Drei”. A $200 epic disappointment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 02:14 AM
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Boundary pushing, love-bombing, stalker incel nutjob... aisle 666!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 03:10 PM
6

Yeah, that’s just more crap that they’d like you to believe. The reality is a satisfying big D, PLUS he knows how to use it is what women want. It’s not a choice between a micropenis and being good in bed, and having a big dick and being garbage in bed. Believe it or not, you can have BOTH size and expertise in a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 04:43 AM
8

GOOD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 02:00 PM
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I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: if you have a small dick, I don’t care if you live in a palace and shit thousand dollar bills- you are useless to me. I got some loser DM me and ask would I rather date a short guy with a big dick, or a tall guy with a micropenis, and he was all smug like he was giving me some great philosophical “choice”. Yeah....no. I wouldn’t date either, dipshit. Obviously I’d go for the 6 foot tall guy who is well hung, and knows exactly how to flood my basement, t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 12:36 AM
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Read the handbook. Not everything in life is judged as “better” because it happens to be easy, cheap or convenient. Eating fast food is easy, cheap and convenient- it doesn’t mean it is the best choice for you. Dating requires conscious effort on both parts. What you think is easy, “low pressure” or convenient for you today will be exactly what you will be complaining about later- should you date some low effort, “easy going” man who will take you for granted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 01:22 PM
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I love these types of posts. They are eye-opening & incredibly valuable, because while the behavioural expression might be different, the reasons are always identical: entitlement, laziness, triangulation, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 12:32 PM
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Yes, exactly. However I’m guessing it’s going to fly over the heads of most. Giving out a 555-1234 so perfectly says GFY, even the simplest of scrotes will get it. LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 03:02 PM
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Upvote this a billion times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 02:26 PM
21

Better yet- 555-1234
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 01:18 PM
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This should be the top comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 01:07 PM
1

And don’t forget to add the pig-ignorant comment that assumes conservative women are all brainless, bible-thumping house robots living under a man’s thumb. Newsflash: It is more than possible to be a pro-choice, feminist, FDS values, Conservative woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 02:00 PM
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Thisssssss. Very important: ask THEM if they are the dog. Then they can’t make a “bitch” joke so easily.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 01:46 PM
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BAHAHAHAHA! I cannot properly express how much I F love this! 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 01:42 PM
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Yes to all of this. Personally, I’d be absolutely horrified by a big public song and dance type of proposal. I’m a private person, and I would want this most personal and beautifully intimate moment kept for only us. I also love how quiet, everyday type of moments can become the most perfect and special memories we end up carrying in our hearts for a lifetime. I would much rather have a proposal at home, curled up on the couch after a delicious dinner he prepared with a sneaky bottle of champagn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 04:51 AM
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This is... completely true! What a way to look at it! Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 04:08 AM
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Right?? 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 04:07 AM
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GMAFB. Garbage men exist regardless of political affiliation. Don’t come on here tooting one party over another as if one half of the country magically gets a free pass on their personal BS because of how they vote. It’s weak and pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 02:44 PM
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I’m sorry- and I don’t say this very often about another sister, but I just can’t with this. I cannot. If you are that stupid to put up with this type of behaviour that you literally have a burning need to ask other people if any of this is “okay” or “normal”.... you deserve what you get. Even an amoeba would know better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 06:25 AM
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For starters, refuse to perform emotional labour/housekeeping duties at work. You do not need to plan the Christmas party or decorate the office lunchroom because you possess a vagina. You don’t need to run out to get the milk for the coffee, you do not need to wash the sink full of mugs left behind by “busy” colleagues who think the dish fairy will magically appear just like at home. Men never sign up for all this extra shit to look “nice”, why should you? You are too busy with work that you ar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 05:44 AM
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I cannot love this post more than I do! Amazing. You sound like a fabulous person and a fabulous, high quality friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 05:02 AM
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At least there’s some awareness now. Because in my first marriage, I couldn’t understand how we were in a dead bedroom in our twenties. I genuinely believed it was my fault. I cannot tell you how many times I’d dress up in the most gorgeous lingerie- stockings, suspenders, the works- only to have him pat my thigh like, “attaboy”, and then roll over and go to sleep. I’d take everything off in the bathroom and cry in the shower so he couldn’t hear me. I thought I must be physically repulsive, yet …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 04:22 AM
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My very favourite thing to do when I worked in a mall bookstore in university (in the 90’s) that sold porno mags was this: I’d wait as loooooooong as humanly possible to bag them. Dude would come up to the counter to pay, usually with one porno mag plus a couple others to sandwich in his filth. I’d key in the price of the regular ones first, then hold up the pervert shit for the entire line to see, “trying” to read the tiny price on the cover. Sometimes I would hold it up in my hand and call out…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 10:55 PM
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I will LITERALLY say this, I promise you- internet sister, if this sad situation ever comes up in my existence. GOLD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 10:43 PM
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Excellent comment, and completely true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 05:53 PM
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My last LTR was with an abusive man. It’s still hard for me to say that because I have a hard time believing it really happened to me. “Making everyone in the house nervous” as you said, hit a nerve. One of the earliest cues in my relationship was how jumpy his son got when his dad wasn’t happy. You could literally see him on high alert, doing anything in his power to joke, entertain, and appease his dad when he could sense a dark mood was coming on. It was unnerving. Slowly, I began to do the s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 01:59 AM
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How is he mad? Is there much more to the conversation that you didn’t bother to post? Because he simply sounds like he is answering your basic question.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 02:35 PM
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😂😂🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 02:05 PM
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And you are entitled to your opinion, just like OP is entitled to share her happy news- without having to appease anyone on this forum who has XYZ views on marriage. In fact, I’d say part of being a HVW is being able to remove yourself from the situation of comparing what makes YOU happy vs another woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 05:25 AM
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Good for you! We are happy to hear your good news, and I wish you a lifetime of love and happiness. Enjoy this special time, and don’t let anyone shit on your parade.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 05:20 AM
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Ah yes. The same “religion” that has women sitting on the dirty floor in airports eating food while the men sit on chairs. You too can be brainwashed into bigamy, servitude and open misogyny under the guise of a religious cult.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 01:51 AM
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It truly boggles the mind just how fucking stupid and clueless men are. I read stuff like this, and I want to round them all up into a pit on the moon and cover it over with cement. Maybe then we can all have a little peace.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 11:19 PM
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I will reject him for not knowing how to use an apostrophe correctly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 11:13 PM
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I cackled!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 04:59 AM
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WTF does he think an “older woman” is going to do with a THIRTY ONE YEAR OLD VIRGIN? Like, I’m crying laughing over here. I’m 45, and I ‘d have more use for a pair of rubber crutches than some sad sack of shit who has zero sexual experience trying to date me. What does he think he can offer? This is just more magical male thinking- that they somehow assume we’ve got some kind of equal “virgin fantasy” the way they lust over inexperienced girls. Plot twist: We don’t. In fact I can think of nothin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 04:17 AM
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Even better- the LVM who are 40 or 50 who live like permanent bachelors, monkey branching from woman to woman, balls deep in the self-delusion that they still look like a 24 year old Adonis, and will continue to have sexual marketability until they fart dust. It’s so pathetic it is actually funny. Receding hairlines, increasing ED, getting tired at 9pm. No, your stamina is NOT the same. No, you look ridiculous in those jeans with your ear hair and jowls. Yet they still feel in with a chance, thi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 11:26 PM
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In what UNIVERSE is this OK or appropriate? Oh. 🤡🍆🌎. That’s where.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 10:46 PM
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Tarnation! This word requires a comeback!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 12:19 PM
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I just wanted to say this is a fabulous post. All of this is spot-on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 11:54 AM
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Count me in! I could use the laughs!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 04:54 AM
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My god- this is one of the greatest FDS posts of all time. Seriously. Saved and gonna be printed out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 02:08 AM
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Your question is a great one- because it’s realistic and not ideological. I hate porn and porn culture. I’m also a hypocrite, because I sometimes look at it. (Maybe once or twice in a month? I prefer my imagination TBH, but there are times when a person is lazy, and 5 mins is enough to do it.) Also one of the reasons I prefer my imagination is that 99.9% of porn is ridiculous to me. Like, I can’t get past how stupid it is- people with dirty shoes on the bed, or cheap ugly furniture, or terrible …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 01:06 PM
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Right? LMAOOOOOO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 01:21 PM
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I literally cannot think of a better way to waste a life than video games. You learn nothing. You turn off the screen and you instantly have done nothing with yourself. No skill has been learned, nothing of value has been accomplished to benefit yourself, your brain or your life. It is the most empty, worthless pursuit. It is like saying TV is your “hobby”. It’s entertainment. Not a skill or a talent. You don’t make anything. You don’t actually do anything. It’s braindead escapism. Any man who s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 12:51 PM
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Er... PLOT TWIST. I’m more concerned that he’s thinking about learning how to tango or paso doble with a dude... while they are separated because of work. Who’s going to lead? Who’s going to wear the chacha heels? This would not be the exact “after work hobby” that would come first in my mind, TBH. This sounds like the beginning of a beautiful prison love story. LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 12:29 PM
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All of this. A million times THIS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 12:09 PM
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Do you not think she’s probably taken the time to research this, especially as it pertains to all of the other details regarding leaving her husband? Or is your comment more likely intended to publicly judge her for travelling, “during a pandemic”, as if a grown woman requires permission from anyone- much less strangers on the internet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 05:34 PM
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Accurate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 05:21 PM
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I saw a photo of myself from earlier this spring, and it was one of the things that shook me to my foundations. I’ve never seen myself look so... old. My skin looked dull and dry, I had lines around my eyes, my eyes looked dull. I looked like I needed to sleep for two weeks straight. I still cannot believe it. About a month later, I dumped him once and for all. About four weeks after that, one morning I was washing my face, and as I leaned up and caught my reflection in the mirror, I started to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 05:09 PM
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The mental illness is real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 01:20 AM
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Hey Joey: And y’all scrotes wonder why you’ve got lobster claw hands and ED, and you can’t get off with a woman 😥... well Chad, if you didn’t rot your pea brains out with porn, and require more and more degrading garbage to get the same effect, maybe you wouldn’t have issues like pushing rope 😲, but no... you wanna turn your brain into tapicoca pudding and your sad lil dick into a limp, impotent spaghetti noodle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 01:15 AM
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Outstanding post. Thanks for writing it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 09:35 PM
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Yes, I get that. But how are these huge, heavy discussions coming up... at all? Are you saying that he spontaneously just unloaded his entire life story on you, while you sat there chewing? My greater point is first dates are NOT about figuring out politics, life philosophy, childhood abuse, and life timelines since birth to today. First dates ARE superficial- and they are SUPPOSED TO BE. It’s the first hurdle. Did he arrive on time? Is he appropriately dressed? Does he open the door for you and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 04:57 PM
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I think part of the problem here is that overwhelming need to connect with someone makes all of this seem so HEAVY. Look, I get that you are a person who thrives on “real connection” rather than the superficial. I’m very much like that too. But a first date shouldn’t be an extended therapy session over dinner, confessing all your pain and trauma, and talking about your childhoods and previous relationships! That’s the first mistake right there. Why would any of this come up in great detail with …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 04:37 PM
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Not only agreeing with everything OP said above, but I also wanted to add- Women and men have very different emotional maturity levels, and mastery over delayed gratification. Whether it’s biology or sociology or a bit of both, women innately are better at delaying gratification, as a generalisation. Case in point, from caveman days onwards, if we were wired like men and ran around fucking everything indiscriminately like men, we’d constantly be pregnant with low quality offspring and no social …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 09:18 AM
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He’s butthurt and embarrassed because after a YEAR he’s still existing on Mommy’s tit, at home- instead of like a competent adult making his way independently in the world. Also, it was probably his ex-gf’s apartment and he moved in and was living like a parasite with her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 08:57 AM
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Yes. And my narc ex used to constantly claim I was cheating on him when I’d FINALLY refuse to answer his multiple daily phone calls and texts. I don’t want or need to text or talk to you five times a day, I literally have nothing new to say since the last time we spoke. He’d throw it back on me that I “had a secret life” constantly with other men when I was just drained and emotionally exhausted from his constant possessive check-ups. Plot twist: He was actually cheating on me the entire time wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 01:21 AM
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Grocery store bouquets? Like, from a man? No. Just, no. That’s the flower equivalent of a walk in the park date. Shrunken roses that never open properly and just die and blue daisies could never be me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 11:52 AM
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HANDBOOK PLS THX ⭐️💥🔥⭐️💥🔥⭐️💥🔥⭐️💥🔥⭐️💥🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 11:27 PM
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That last paragraph is perfection. I have my preferences too- and the joke is on them. Because unlike their “perfect robot wish list” I actually stick to mine, and will not entertain any low value scrotes. Too bad, so sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 12:04 PM
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A tip from someone who has lived with depression for 20+ years... Find out about adding a small dose of Celexa to your antidepressant. This is done all the time, and in almost everyone it really, REALLY helps negate the sexual side effects of antidepressants. It’s pretty common knowledge at this point to doctors- google it so you can talk to your doctor about it. It helps a lot!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 12:00 PM
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👑👑👑QUEEN ENERGY👑👑👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 12:06 PM
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Holy shit. I don’t even know what to say to this. I am F furious on your behalf!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 03:02 AM
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“Shrink to fit”: This needs to be added to our official FSD definitions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 03:12 PM
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Oh. My. GOD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 03:58 AM
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I just want to say to you, and to your story in particular: I hear you. And I believe you a million percent. You are telling the truth, and I believe every single part and detail. It happened, and I am so, so sorry for how you were hurt, how you suffered, and how the pain was compounded even more because nobody you loved or trusted noticed or did right by you when you told, or when you came to work clearly injured. You deserved to be comforted and believed, and you were failed. And for all of th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 03:46 AM
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It took me YEARS to believe my ex was abusive. Now that I’m well read in the tiniest details, I finally believe it. Why did I doubt it? I doubted it for a bunch of reasons- the three biggest ones were: I was already sure I knew what abuse was- hell, I watched plenty of Oprah, was “woke” to women’s issues, could tell you all about the cycle of abuse, and was the wise, strong one my friends would come to for life advice. I knew what the textbook symptoms of abuse were all about- being nice, then b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 03:32 AM
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“Botanical gardens” is just a “park date” with better plants.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 02:54 AM
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My ex-husband used to go out of his way to be a stroller carrying, door opening “white knight hero” for women in public. At home he was quite happy to let me lug in a week’s worth of shopping at Costco and handle all the yardwork while he sat on his ass playing video games. That is, when he wasn’t actually abusing me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 11:53 PM
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Add to this: He is a narcissist who requires a harem orbiting around him at all times. He is constantly searching for attention from women to feed his ego, so as soon as he fights with you (discard in the cycle of narcissistic abuse) he feels entitled to monkey-branch to another “just a friend” so he can cheat on you. Don’t fall for it. Unless he’s gayer than an eclair, female friends means he is a gutless cheater.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 11:43 PM
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This is great- but speaking frankly (as someone who lived there for a good chunk of my adult life) if there’s drinking during the “meeting” not much is going to be accomplished, unfortunately. But good for them and I hope it works out. It’s a great idea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 12:48 AM
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I don’t care if he looks like an Adonis, lives in a castle and farts million dollar bills- if he’s got a tiny, useless penis, I’m out. I love sex way too much to ever put up with a man who has a micro dick or doesn’t put MY PLEASURE 100% FIRST in bed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 12:36 AM
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The post we never knew that we needed to read today. Completely brilliant!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 12:20 AM
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My ex-narc future faking bf was furious at me when I got a kitten. How dare I get a kitten without consulting him, he kept expecting I would drop my standards and live with him. That was never going to happen and I said it many, many times, but he preferred to live in his own version of reality. I had the kitten for not even 2 days, and he threw a shoe at him, hitting him on purpose. A baby kitten.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 03:01 AM
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This may be one of her best videos yet. Outstanding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 04:18 PM
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Champion! 😂🙌🏼😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 03:21 PM
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COMMENT OF THE CENTURY.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 03:12 PM
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“I will study the issue further... with my hand, because that’s the only option I have.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 12:21 PM
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Even the actions can be cheap, TBH. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 12:05 PM
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HANDBOOK MATERIAL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 12:00 PM
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See, and I agree with the spirit of what you are saying and the importance of educating girls and women on abuse- because we currently do a terrible job. We commonly “know” that hitting is bad, but there is so, so much more. And it happens so slowly, so imperceptibly, that by the time you start wondering if you are OK, if all of “this” is OK, you are stuck because of “love”. I am a street smart woman. I’ve come through a lot in my life. I’m the person most people would come to for advice on how …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 11:18 PM
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THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 10:54 PM
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No thanks. If you are an adult, and you invite someone to your home for a dinner party, there had better be a proper meal with a set table, candles, a great playlist, and excellent cocktails and wine. Nicest “home date” I ever had that wasn’t dinner was a guy who drove to an airport in the afternoon to pick up oysters he ordered overnight from the east coast and had 3 different bottles of champagne in the fridge to suit what I might like best. Plus fois gras, great cheeses, fresh fruit. In my ci…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 11:51 AM
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I promise you, this kink already exists. It’s called FemDom and I love it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 11:42 AM
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This was my last relationship. I would have NEVER believed I could scream until my voice was hoarse at another human being until this entire experience happened to me. Watching this is so, so hard because I can feel how that woman is feeling. She has been worn down until she’s a nub, she’s mentally drained and emotionally exhausted, she’s trapped in a closed space with a person who attacks her, she’s backed into a corner and she cannot escape. She’s been beaten down long past her breaking point.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 11:34 AM
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I talk up this sub at every opportunity. Most recently on a large public social media group, and I mention it in comments in online newspapers. The more Queens, the merrier!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 10:50 AM
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Oh my god! I LOVE THIS SOOOOO MUCH! It’s so satisfying to put a lazy, entitled POS firmly in his place... under the bottom of your high heel! 😂❤️🙌🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 10:36 AM
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😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🤡🌎
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 12:46 AM
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Thanks for that book recommendation. I read the preview, and it’s spot on. Wow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 12:28 PM
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“Chaos demon” This is the description I have waited my entire life to hear!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 12:18 PM
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Of course not. Free whore, free maid, free chef, free surrogate, free social director, free babysitter? What’s not to love?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 10:51 PM
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Ever hear of the “INFJ doorslam”? Happily, no contact is incredibly easy! I may have had a lot of problems getting to the point of kicking him out of my life, thank god no contact is actually the one thing that is easy to do!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 11:28 PM
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His name is Shai. He carries around a thrift store paperback of Plato that he never reads. He brags about his hummus recipe. He’s a “nice guy” and a self proclaimed “feminist”. Now he has two women he can sexually disappoint.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 12:19 PM
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One more time for the sisters in the back: CHEATING IS ABUSE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 11:56 AM
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My advice to you is “care less”. One month, and you are in a fantasy relationship. What can you possibly know about a person in one month? Virtually nothing. Being sad about this is a waste of time, and a scarcity mindset. There are literally BILLIONS of men on planet earth- move on!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 12:54 AM
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Yes! I’ve silenced myself my entire life- dealing with shitty people. No more!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 10:26 PM
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All of this! ALL OF IT. Self esteem, boundaries and dignity are not limited to dating. It’s how you allow yourself to be treated in the workplace, with friends, with family, your landlord, your child’s school, at your doctor’s office. The entire world treats women as grinning idiots and perennial people pleasers- valuing the social currency of being “nice” over speaking up for yourself and demanding respect. Be DONE with accepting BS and eating shit in attempt to “not rock the boat” and make oth…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 10:19 PM
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"Agreed. I'm breaking up with you. Bye." Then block and delete. Perfection. ~chef’s kiss~
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 02:53 AM
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Comment SAVED. This is the truth!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 02:45 PM
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BRILLIANT. And all of it is TRUTH. A person with a chaotic house has a chaotic mind and life. Your environment reflects what is going on in your life, and is a physical representation of your world and how you live within it. There is no such thing as an organised, intelligent, motivated and successful person who actively lives in a shithole. If their home is a shithole, there is something else going on. No, it’s not about having a “feminine touch” as if having a vagina magically makes you bette…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 09:18 AM
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No. Absolutely not. All this “niceness” of thanking someone for their time and wishing them “good luck in finding the one” yaddayaddayadda must STOP NOW. You say NOTHING. Just leave. Trying to look nice or like the bigger person is a disease called people pleasing, and this is the last bastion of pickme behaviour in otherwise FDS women. All it accomplishes is that the scrote continues his entitlement in being “right” that whatever judgment he made about the woman was correct, he IS a “good guy” …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 08:55 AM
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Ended abruptly? Because you got a cheque and instantly left skid marks backing out of the driveway while your girlfriend was struggling to survive at yhe time? Fuck you too, from me, who doesn’t even know you, on her behalf, six years later!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 08:26 AM
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Oh...... the detail about the Cinderella story. My heart is just bursting! ❤️👑❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 08:11 AM
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Wow. This was such a powerful read! I can’t believe how perfectly you expressed everything about how draining it was being with your ex, and specifically the “whys”. How you internalised his shit behaviour, and how it was like a stain that was seeping through your entire life- I’m pretty speechless because you just perfectly expressed everything I felt about my ex-husband when I lived across the world in his country. I could really feel the part where you said, “if only I could fix my job situat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 08:07 AM
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POWER
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 03:15 AM
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The last Christmas together I cried my eyes out. I never felt lonelier in my entire life. He got me a shitty pair of knit gloves and a travel candle. Like, airport presents. Or the kind of thing you grab at a store checkout, impulse items, before you pay for a dress or sweater. I will remember the feeling of my heart literally breaking- that cooling and sinking feeling kind of like reverse helium- when I opened it. I have never felt less loved or wanted in my life- 15 years together, and this wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 11:38 PM
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YES! Welcome to your (much happier, much healthier) future! You are more than enough- and you certainly do not need to settle for some lying, pornsick, selfish loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 11:14 PM
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Deceased! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 12:13 PM
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“Not that obvious”?? What else could some filthy fucking semi-hobo with a criminal record living at a rooming house be doing, standing up on cinder blocks, looking into the bedroom of a young woman? Inspecting the triple glazing? Getting ideas for what colour to paint his living room? GTFO with this bullshit! Please PLEASE report this useless cop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 02:24 AM
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I disagree. I think when the occasion warrants it, it is a good thing for YOURSELF (and for the bozo as collateral damage) in question to experience a bit of a succinct, brutal explanation. Particularly if you are just discovering your personal Queen power, it is highly confidence building to let someone know exactly why you are unimpressed. And OP did it the most perfect way possible- she did not bitch him out or moan, she stated what SHE expects for HERSELF, rather than trying to “teach” him a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 12:05 PM
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I like, “Yeah, sorry, I don’t speak English.” Said in perfect English.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 12:00 PM
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THIS. Want to know the last time I dumped my abusive ex? We had just enjoyed a perfectly fine evening. He was tired from work, and fell asleep before I did, so I continued reading etc for about an hour and a half while he slept. He woke up, and out of the blue- I cannot stress this enough- proceeded to try to pick a fight with me. One minute he was dead asleep, the next he was awake, and was accusing me that I never did anything for him, that I never wanted to move in together, that I probably w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 11:48 AM
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Haha, that was so deliciously specific
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 11:18 AM
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Aaaaaaaaaaaaaand that would be the perfect response to his shit, right before you block him. Exceptional!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 01:29 PM
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...And they could go fuck themselves. Legitimately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 12:58 PM
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What the hell is that gorgeous tree house thing called? I want to look up more of those!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 12:45 PM
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On a secondary note, I am trying to figure out what exactly that photo has to do with representing acne. A Christmas ornament half exposed with a potato chip? Wait- no it’s an orange peel? What?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 11:37 AM
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His friend’s little brother is not in town. You were his second choice for Saturday night. He also asked another woman for a date, and between then and now he’s been talking to her and likes her more. So that’s who he is going out with tomorrow night, instead. Do not accept a booby-prize date next Tuesday with this dope. He’s already proved he is NOT a man of his word. Is this what you deserve? Giving a second chance to some goon who can’t even keep his word BEFORE you have even met him once? Wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 11:42 PM
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That’s exactly how it’s come off. We’re all grown ass women here, fully capable of colloquialisms and banter, and nobody has any use for The Speech Police.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 06:41 PM
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AMAZING! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 06:38 PM
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🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤷‍♀️🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🙌🏼🍾👑👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 06:22 PM
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I say “great!” to that, BTW. If they are going to be porn obsessed until they are the direct cause of their own useless, rope-like limp dick, then I surely hope in the process of objectifying women, they also pick up a nice dick dysmorphia for themselves in the end. A gift that will last a lifetime! No woman truly likes a small penis. You can try and dress it up, fake the sentiment that “sex is moooooore than muh PIV!” and be an oral genius or whatever you want to try and delude yourself into be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 06:08 PM
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Take ten thousand upvotes. Please!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 12:29 PM
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THIS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 12:29 PM
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OMG. Is there any earth left behind? NO. The entire world is now a solid black lump of coal because you just SCORCHED IT DOWN. Outstanding post! I laughed, I cried, it was much better than Cats, it changed me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 12:11 PM
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Like... my jaw is hanging open and I hear crickets chirping after that. What more could possibly be said?? You’d have to laugh or you’ll cry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 12:29 AM
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Thank you for this! My previous partner was all about oral. Like, obsessed with it. For some women, maybe that’s a dream come true, and don’t get me wrong, I like it. But my orgasms from PIV are so much more intense, so deep and long, that’s my preference. My ex had ED, and refused to do anything about it, so all he ever wanted to do was oral. Even chocolate cake every day gets painfully boring. I asked him once, right before we broke up what he liked about it so much. Bear in mind he was also a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 12:04 AM
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Exactly. You can try and spin this garbage as “helping” the gay community all you like, and that is all it is- spin. Let’s stop pretending that they have been biting their fists and wringing their hands at all the injustice for the “millions” of cases of age gaps in gay relationships that are clogging up the California justice system: news flash, there aren’t any. We’re talking about a MINUSCULE MINORITY. Whereas there are PLENTY of child rapists and molesters out there, preying on children. Lib…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 08:49 PM
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California is a shithole. End of story. You get who you vote for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 08:36 PM
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The response to “wanna try anal?” is ALWAYS: “Sure! I thought you’d never ask! I’ve got a big black 12 inch strap on! You first!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 08:30 PM
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Why not, exactly? Why would you not want to go out and enjoy yourself once a week? It almost sounds like you have decided that this expectation is too much, so why bother at all??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 08:23 PM
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I would say “expand your horizons”. Levelling up is about living your life to the fullest: that means instead of just deciding to stay in a comfort zone of board games and video games in someone’s house, TRY NEW THINGS. Enrich your life. You can be introverted and still go put and experience the world. Home dates are for when you are already comfortable and exclusive together- not before! Home dates in a new relationship is lazy, low effort, and a convenient way for a man to test how little you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 08:21 PM
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This. Fucking meatbag, waste of skin and oxygen. Teaching her to stop crying and “be brave” while his quivering weak ass is perched on the roof of a car, giving instructions like he thinks he’s some kind of war general??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 01:33 PM
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THIS. Comment of the year!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 01:02 PM
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Why do they always have utterly limp, thinning hair, a weak jawline, and adolescent “new pubes” growing out of their face?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 12:10 PM
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Fantastic article, saved! Thanks for posting!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 01:30 PM
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ANTHEMS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 01:15 PM
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“You could train me” “What are you, a fucking seal? Does it look like I work at Sealand?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 11:27 AM
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Right? He’s just fishing for compliments at this point, wanting her to say, “Ooooooh! It was AMAZING! Where did you learn all of that, your HUGE MAGICAL DICK is the best I’ve ever had!” 😂🤡🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 11:25 AM
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Exactly. People are so rude and selfish. The moment you “have” to cancel plans, the first thing out of your yapper is instantly an alternate date & time. That’s what high quality human beings do- and it applies to men and women, dates AND plans with friends. Bad manners is a social disease.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 11:11 AM
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The entitlement is real. Good for you for finding out now, rather than later, when you are far more emotionally invested and it’s just harder to leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 02:33 AM
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COMMENT OF THE YEAR
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 02:29 AM
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Amen to that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 02:27 AM
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I’m dead at your comebacks! Oh man, how I needed to read this today! xo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 02:26 AM
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Well said!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 02:18 AM
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It’s enough to make a girl want to change teams, I swear! LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 02:06 AM
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It’s not being seen as downplaying. Your post was eloquent and perfectly fine, and everyone understood your message just fine- except for one person looking to simply argue on the internet for nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 11:49 AM
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...says the person who just stamps her foot and says “change all the laws all over the world!” Because there’s an example concrete substance, hey? Really, you couldn’t make it up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 11:46 AM
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Exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 11:38 AM
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What are you coming for her for, exactly? Levelling up IS the very first step in demanding better for ALL WOMEN. Was Malala making a statement about all girls at first, or was she standing up for herself and demanding an education, then it turned into a worldwide movement? You start with yourself- it’s a primary mindset and a belief. After that, anything is possible. Be the change you want to see in the world. Some people will truly find something to complain about for anything, I swear to god. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 11:27 AM
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By and large I agree 99% with you. For every ONE respectful, sane, and personally responsible man or woman in the BDSM world, there are 1000 lunatics. I’ve always laughed at people who get triggered by “kink shaming”. Guess what? I very much enjoy BDSM (as a Domme) but if your “kink” is inhumane garbage like abusing women, or “ageplay” or necrophilia etc etc, you can fuck right off. I will very happily kink shame you. Some things DESERVE to be shamed. It’s truth that there are plenty of nutjob m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 03:05 AM
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I feel like your question is a good one, but on this sub, all BDSM is categorised the same way: bad. Of course, BDSM includes female dominant roles where the man is submissive to her needs and desires. In practise (and personal experience) female Mistresses and dommes still end up doing quite a bit of pandering to men, simply because it can end up being more about his fantasy than hers, even when she is in control. It gets tiresome. However I feel it’s a mistake and pretty selective to just labe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 03:16 PM
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Whenever I was told that by some scrote, my instant response was, “I see. And does your girlfriend know?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 03:11 PM
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Yes... and no. I refused to let it go. I demanded that since he was caught lying, it couldn’t possibly be any worse for him, so he may as well tell me where he went. He refused and we went back and forth on it, him trying to blame me for checking up on him because- get this- I should have just believed him in the first place. I said, do you not get it? YOU LIED. So I should have just believed your lie? Is that seriously what you are suggesting? If only I would have TRUSTED YOUR LIE? It was like …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 03:24 AM
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To this day, I do not know. But I remember clear as a bell sitting on the couch, tablet in my hand, and the thought literally popped into my head: “You could see if there is such a car.” It sounds koo-koo, but my grandma was a firecracker. If she was still around, she’d put up with no shit and she wouldn’t mince words. I have a little urn of some of her ashes on a shelf in my living room. Part of me thinks she gave me the tap on the shoulder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 03:08 AM
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God almighty, this is beyond gross. Literally running up the street to stick his D into someone, and then trots back home. Intuition is a hell of a thing. Sometimes I think about hundreds of years ago when they blamed witchcraft on women, and I kinda go, yup. Our intuition can be so sharp, it really looks magical and otherworldly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 03:04 AM
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What? I’m just... speechless. How do they DO this? I’m convinced that lying in this manner is no garden variety deception. This is full blown, mental illness and personality disordered type lying. I will never understand. The kitten. It’s so demented.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 03:00 AM
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Winner winner chicken dinner! Line starts this way, ladies!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 12:10 AM
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Loooooooove this! 😂🤡😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 11:59 PM
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See? And I’m totally fine with “dehumanising” child molesters and rapists. The innocent victims they harm will carry a life sentence, why don’t they deserve one? There’s NO SUCH THING as a pedophile who doesn’t act on their urges- because you are simply missing the word “yet”. A civilised society protects women and children ABOVE any “rights” of a pedophile to be “free” and living their dreams of depravity. Enough of this woke bullshit nonsense. If everything can be apologised away, you have NO …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 11:47 PM
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❤️THIS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 11:24 PM
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You know what is just amazing? Get one of those weighted anti-anxiety blankets. I looked up some top ten list of them on Amazon, and I bought one that is queen sized (there’s a joke in there somewhere) for $50. I think the brand is Hypnoser? Anyhow, it’s glass beads and had 1000’s of 5 star ratings, and I cofirm it has changed my life! ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 10:16 PM
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Good question. There were things that made me feel very anxious throughout the relationship. This was before I knew anything about narcissism, and that there were names and definitions for the things I was experiencing. Triangulation was huge. This “nice” guy had so many female “friends”. It seemed that all of his female friends (harem) always were in some sort of crisis, and he was such a “nice guy” to lend an ear and help out. His best female friend was married, unhappy, and constantly dating …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 05:31 PM
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You 100% did the RIGHT thing. This is called a “fantasy relationship”. As in, all the good things you want with all your heart are “real” and all the logical practicalities of it actually happening are just tiny little roadblocks to this grand, impossibly beautiful “true love” in the romcom that is your life. Also, British men are the worst. Ask me how I know, LOL. They will blow sunshine up your arse and dodge direct questions and conversations because they are so “nice” and gentlemanly. Meanwh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 04:12 PM
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Right? What could possibly be the misunderstanding? That I don’t have ears? That my eyes are broken and invent visions? If that’s the case, scientists should study us, because we’re walking medical miracles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 03:46 PM
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It was so ridiculous, it was hilarious. I could see him through the phone, grinning and carrying on like Mr Fucking Bigshot, the babbling brook of bullshit, yapping about an invisible car. He may as well been talking about test driving a fucking unicorn. It didn’t exist. Then when he was caught, the audacity. His stupid mouth hanging open, like a child caught with chocolate smeared all over their face when they insist they haven’t touched the cake with the fingerprints in it. Comic lying, really…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 03:41 PM
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The truth is, even after all of that, I didn’t leave. I dumped him, intended NEVER to see his face one more second. I went NC for 6 weeks. In that time, he did everything in his power to hoover me back, including an engagement ring. I gave him one more “last chance” and felt sick to my stomach knowing I was being dragged back into the abuse AGAIN. I used to feel really bad about the “why didn’t you leave whens....” I have to say, it is incredibly easy to say “you should leave” when we read the d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 03:22 PM
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The best part was truly when he was just going to have “someone” call me, to mansplain whatever was the “misunderstanding”. I should have let him do it. It would have been super entertaining! Can you imagine how that conversation would have went? I could have played right along, and at the very end asked for the name of the “salesperson” I was speaking to, and what their extension was, at Toyota so I could call them back. These are 50 year old men we’re talking about, BTW.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 02:20 PM
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So many ridiculously good things have happened to me in my life in the last two months since I kicked him out of my house at midnight. First of all, I have had peace in my life like I have never known before! I sleep like I’m dead at night. ALL my anxiety is GONE, as if a magic wand has been waved. In my brand new job, I just made the biggest sale of the entire year for my company (over $200K!) which the company president called me into his office for recognition and gratitude. I literally look …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 02:08 PM
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Superb post! Saved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 09:11 PM
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I’ve never understood the argument of, “oh you need to live with them first to see if you’re compatible!” If you’ve been dating exclusively long enough to be in a position of making a future plan to combine your lives, chances are you’ve spent multiple nights/days at each other’s home. You mean to tell me you don’t have eyes to see if they are a slob living in filth? You’ve never witnessed what they do with dirty clothes or towels after they come out of a shower? You’ve never seen what happens w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 09:00 PM
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Redditors incoming responses will be: “Well no, it’s actually a positive thing- instead of shaming pedophiles for their urges that they cannot choose or control, this is a ‘safe’ way to explore healthier ways of living out their fantasies because no actual children will be harmed!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 12:54 PM
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Oh sis, I. AM. HOWLING! In the middle of my soft cozy bed, like a glorious starfish, on a sunny Saturday morning. I’m going to make a good cup of coffee, have a croissant, take as long as I please to get up and get ready, and go about my day doing whatever the F I please! No dancing about on the head of a pin to keep some whiny, moody, entitled man happy, because nothing is good enough. Yeah..... it’s a hard pass. No thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 12:49 PM
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This reminds me of the STRANGEST date I have ever been on in my life: I had a beautiful dinner date with a smart, well presented, funny and very nice man. Zero red flags- he was just charming enough without being saccharine, talkative without being all about himself, well dressed without being a Guido. Truly a normal but upgraded in all the right ways type of guy. Dinner was at a great place, the date went so well he asked if we could walk over to a pretty park nearby, and continue to talk a lit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 12:35 PM
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The reason hurricanes, ships, vehicles etc are historically referred to as feminine isn’t because of their power. They are referred to as such because they are “temperamental”, “fussy”, “unpredictable” and “require control” or “taming” by men. More negative garbage against women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 11:55 AM
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I agree with you. I don’t like giving out my phone number unless I’ve met the guy in person, and want to see him again. And I have zero interest in jumping through hoops of Google numbers and what not all to accomodate someone else’s preferences instead of my own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 12:52 PM
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Good! I was going to do it, but you beat me to it. Tell her we’re discussing her post in particular!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 12:17 PM
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“No, sorry, that doesn’t work for me.” That’s what you say. No other explanation required.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 12:06 PM
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I don’t date short men (I’m 5’9) because dating a man shorter than I am would feel maternal. I’m not going to hug my bf and have his face jammed into my tit like a fourth grader. Size matters. Height matters. Facts are facts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 11:37 AM
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Instant break up. I swear to god, if any “man” I’m ever dating has a fucking pea brain with half a twitching synapse to even BRING UP the mere feelers out on the idea of screwing about like this, I’d legit let him babble away till he’s finished, give him a 7 second murderous stare, then I’d silently get my purse and leave without a single word. Not a single word more. Ever hear of the “INFJ Door Slam”? That. If they have the audacity to even entertain the thought you might be into it, they have …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 11:27 AM
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I SCREAMED at “that one time he left the concert with our friend group and forgot I was in the bathroom”. ~chef’s kiss~
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 11:03 AM
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THIS. The ACCURACY.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 02:59 AM
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TRUTH. Read it one more time, girls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 02:54 AM
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HANDBOOK THIS. ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 01:02 PM
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You forgot the dirty futon directly on the floor!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 12:10 PM
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😂😂😂 Deceased!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 12:50 AM
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What a beautiful sentiment. Thanks for writing it. ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 12:23 AM
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This was your guardian angel. You got a second chance instead of being beaten... in public. Next time, it will happen in private. Who will look out for you then? Leave. There is no such thing as a second time. Only a pattern.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 12:21 AM
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Loooooooove this! Good for you, Queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 12:17 AM
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Right? Like meeting a friend of a friend socially somehow becomes a leap of logic of being childish?? Uh, no. It’s an instant invitation to the “circle of trust” as they say. Given the free choice, I’d much rather be introduced by someone I already value and respect, instead of having Guido over here on Tinder trying to introduce himself with one tooth in his head and a dirty bathroom taking a selfie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 12:10 AM
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And here’s the thing- which only occurred to me even after the fact. Initially, I was like Scooby Doo “huuuurrrrrrrugh?” happily surprised to receive an intelligent message. You know, like with proper grammar and not writing words with missing letters. (Cannot do crap like “How r u” and all that amputated garbage. That nanosecond “saved” of not typing two letters makes you look lazy and stupid in my opinion. I’m a GenXer and sorry, it’s a personal pet peeve.) Then I thought about how ridiculous …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 12:04 AM
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If your house is on fire, what outcome would be most helpful? Would you like some water? Or would you rather have firefighters arrive, tsk tsk at the unfortunate situation, then look up and offer statistics about how many house fires are attributed to faulty electronics, or kitchen accidents, or gas leaks? Would a lesson on identifying fuses and faulty wiring for your next house be useful in that moment, or would you rather get some water, and worry about your next house later? Advice in this su…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 12:21 PM
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Please pace this. Do not see him more than once, (MAXIMUM twice!) in a week, for the first two months. Cut every possible chance of him blowtorching or lovebombing you. It’s a marathon, not a sprint. Seeing a man multiple times a week increases the chance of getting too emotionally invested, especially if you say this is the best you have ever been treated. Exude confidence that this type of thing happens all the time, and while it is lovely and appreciated, you have your head screwed on straigh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 09:40 PM
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Except what you are doing is nothing of the sort. You’re not holding anyone “accountable”. You are simply shaming a person who needs help TODAY- telling them they shouldn’t have had their child or bought a home with their partner does sweet FA to help her with her life as it is, TODAY. Which is what she is asking about- NOT what should she have done four years ago. I agree she should leave, and I’ve clearly said so in an earlier post. And I managed to do it without shaming or embarrassing her ab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 09:23 PM
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This may be helpful for other women as a generality, but it serves zero purpose to the OP for her current situation, other than make her feel stupid or shameful about her experience right now. What would you like her to do? Shove the child back into her vagina? Walk away from the house she purchased as some sort of morally righteous idealism? The horse has bolted, the barn door is already open. Good for you that you can look up that information in a book. Better you show some sensitivity and con…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 01:59 PM
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Let me look into the crystal ball for you, and I’ll tell you what is going to happen in the future if you choose to stay with him: You will continue to do everything- in the relationship, in the parenting of your child, in the domestics... Hans Solo. And the more you do, the further he will withdraw, because.... he can. You clearly can handle doing everything, so what incentive is there for him to participate? This man is a passenger in his own life. He’s just along for the ride because you make…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 01:48 PM
3

THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 01:50 PM
3

Great video. Thanks for the heads-up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 12:06 PM
5

Clearly, we were married once to the exact same man. Neveragain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 11:31 AM
6

That last paragraph. It's everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 11:21 AM
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My god, it’s like we dated the exact same man. It’s freaky how they operate. It’s like they all got some kind of weirdo abuse manual handed out by a demon. Everything. I could have written everything you just wrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 03:22 AM
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I hear you, and I know exactly where you are right now. I’m out of a LTR myself, with zero girlfriends, because I’m a single parent (divorced) who spent so much emotional energy trying to keep my relationship with my narcissist partner going, I literally did not have one free moment to myself. All my energy went either towards being the best mom I could be, and then trying to deal with his shitgarbage. If there was a spare second left over, it was for sleeping. I could not maintain another human…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 03:05 AM
2

Saved! This needs to be in the handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 02:24 AM
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Actually, don’t be so quick to call him a gold digger. I thought he was just a joke of a human being previously, but apparently the dude is a very good hands-on father. He actually has full custody of their children while Britney is mentally incapacitated and making endless videos of her stomach in peasant tops with her 20 something year old bf. Federline stepped up for his kids and her own family thinks he’s a decent parent. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 04:06 AM
1

This. ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 03:48 PM
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Skip the “coffee dates” too, getting a $4 drink in a paper cup doesn’t qualify remotely as a “date” in ANY realm of the universe for a self-respecting woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 11:08 AM
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Yeah, no. Maybe if it was a photo of his wife and their child at home, doing something like having breakfast together, or a family photo in the backyard. This photo is strictly about showing off that they are sitting in a private plane. It is literally the only reason he posted it, and added the sentiment to look like a “nice guy” and get thirsty praise from other women online. This will be the same man who tries to screw his wife out of child support saying the amount is a “hardship” on him fin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 11:27 AM
2

I’m not going to offer advice on what kind of garbage person I think this guy is- but if there is one thing his depressed girlfriend should know BEFORE she abandons her medication for depression it is absolutely this: Adding Wellbutrin to conventional antidepressants like Celexa is nearly foolproof for removing sexual side effects. Anyone taking antidepressants who is suffering sexual side effects need to know this information. Look it up yourself online. It’s common knowledge, yet lots of peopl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 01:13 PM
3

OMG. Please please PLEASE do a longer post about this- I cannot tell you how many times my life was interrupted by him answering her calls about bitching about her condo, how to shop for a new car, needing advice on dating, screaming about their kid... I look back on it all, and I don’t know whether to laugh or cry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 10:24 AM
4

This post really touched me. I am almost 2 months out of dumping my bf of 4 years (on and off, pretty much once a year breakups by me, then being hoovered back in. I didn’t even have words for what was happening to me- now I see it was classic a abuse/narcissism cycle.) This man was like a white knight to me, after my separation. Walked on water. Attentive, giving, emotionally clued in, great sex, took me out everywhere and always paid, always cleaned up perfectly if I cooked dinner without ever…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 10:12 AM
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Size matters. Anything else is a lie- and we’re all sick to the back teeth of being “nice” bc of his fragile male ego. This isn’t body shaming, it is a simple fact: size absolutely and irrefutably matters. So what if he’s overcompensating with his hands or his mouth? He should be getting you off six ways to Sunday like that in the first place, in ADDITION to the D. You don’t have to be satisfied with only choosing one thing off the menu- expect the full five course banquet. Zero tolerance for ba…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 12:45 AM
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I’d upvote this post a million times if I could. Do NOT accept dates with any bozo who asks, like they are literally throwing spaghetti at women instead of walls to see what sticks. Your time is a finite, valuable resource. Spend it wisely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 12:00 AM
6

Great post! That last line is EVERYTHING.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 12:04 PM
5

This post.... I’m dead 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 11:51 AM
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Get out of that company. GET OUT. What you have just said about how they rescinded the promotion and how they “question YOUR judgement” when you are dealing with domestic violence says EVERYTHING you need to know. That’s what this is: domestic violence. Workplaces can be just as abusive as relationships. A job is just a another type of relationship- Never forget that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 11:46 AM
4

Children are not “baggage”. They are human beings. And they didn’t ask to be the leftovers of a broken home. Check yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 04:36 AM
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How can it be that in every product development meeting, and at every stage of sample and presentation, NOT ONE SINGLE ADULT HUMAN BEING AND PARENT EMPLOYED BY HASBRO said, “Uh, wait a second.....” We are living in a F clown universe, I swear to god. WTF is wrong with people? The grooming and sexualisation of children is an EPIDEMIC.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 04:03 AM
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I bought the first book you mentioned. Can’t wait for it to be delivered tomorrow!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 02:21 PM
7

This is exactly why I wanted to post it- it helped me beyond measure. Please let it help someone else who needs those words too. Onwards, sis! 🍾💕🙌🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 02:20 PM
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Life changing article. It’s more than just information- it is uplifting, powerful, affirming, and has made me think about every. single. detail. of my relationship that was even more crazy and abusive than I ever thought it was in the first place. I knew it was awful- such crazy highs and lows. Never once in my life did I ever remotely consider I could get trapped in something like abusive quicksand. I watched my mom make all kinds of stupid dating and marriage choices, and I openly counselled h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 02:16 PM
1

Amazing! Saving this one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 02:42 PM
1

This needs to be in the handbook 100%. WOW!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 01:40 PM
5

Bahaha!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 08:18 PM
25

I legit wonder if his WIFE knows he’s “poly”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 12:26 PM
11

The stupid cubic zirconia earring was the thing I noticed, TBH. That alone was enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 12:06 PM
4

STICKY STICKY STICKY ADD TO FDS HANDBOOK, PLS THX
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 11:52 AM
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That’s a straight up lie. Men invest in the stock market all the time. They have no idea if their investment is a hit or miss. Investing in a woman is probably the greatest choice they can make in their lives. Marriage statistics show happily married couples live longer, do better together financially, and are healthier together, emotionally and physically. Those statistics go up even higher comparing married men to single men, directly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 11:47 AM
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Ladies need to flat out refuse “walks” (you are not a dog) and “coffee” as dates... period. Going for coffee is what work colleagues or friends do- not a man trying to impress you as his potential Dreamgirl. I’m sure as fuck not getting dolled up with fresh makeup, a pretty dress, hair, shoes etc like a proper effort DATE to go sit at Starbucks or some crap for a $3 paper cup of coffee. He gets all of that for $3? Make me laugh! In my entire dating life, I have not yet ONCE done a coffee date. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 11:36 AM
1

This.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 11:13 AM
1

And all I can think is “did I even ask you for your opinion or advice??”. Stop just thinking this. Time to start flat out SAYING IT. And congratulations for sticking to such a great new routine! I know how hard it is. 30lbs is really fantastic! You sure as don’t need any advice from Mr Mountain Dew and Cheetos!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 11:10 AM
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Bravo. Standing ovation for your response.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 02:52 AM
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Tall... and, uhm, not last in line when the D was being given out. Sorry boys, it’s totally true. It absolutely matters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 04:17 AM
2

I literally LOLed and startled the cat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 09:04 AM
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Amen. Equality with time spent cleaning the house, doing all domestics, looking after kids, emotional labour, social planning, cooking, shopping and preparing for holidays and the work of creating family celebrations, caring for extended family.... the list could go on forever. In ANY of my long term relationships or my (ended) marriage, did I EVER see any of the above “equality”. I’m so done with this shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 08:23 AM
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Top comment in a nutshell. We teach people how to treat us. Period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 07:47 AM
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Check out her website. I thought the whole "shine your sink" thing seemed goofy and simplistic, empty headed, even. Then I thought, WTF, what have I got to lose by just shutting up and trying it. Yeah well, more fool me. It's a great system! If you do nothing else but make your bed each morning and do the sink thing, you will change your life. These two small actions are like rocks landing in a pond, and from there all the goodness just ripples outward over everything. I love me some Fly Lady!
/r/RedPillWives07/09/17 06:09 PM
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I'm so, so glad you posted this! I get like this too- most recently over the weekend. We had a beautiful weekend together, he is loving, completely present, supportive and wonderful- and when he left for work I had a panic attack in the bathroom. Overthinking everything, brain inventing non-existent problems, etc etc. I kept gritting my teeth and saying, "A feeling is just a feeling, it doesn't mean anything is wrong." I went for a walk outside. I came back and made myself a screwdriver to drink…
/r/RedPillWives29/05/17 04:41 PM
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