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I'm sure there are some men out there who would be okay with this. However, in my experience, the 'provider' types want to make a child with their wife. You may have great luck looking for a single dad.
/r/RedPillWives25/04/21 03:48 PM
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It depends. I have a really hard 10 month old and my house is a bit messier than usual and it's much more stressful trying to clean up. I think I would manage better if my baby were a bit easier or ever slept on his own. I think it's doable, but honestly the first year is insane, so don't beat yourself up if you need to change your expectations.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/21 09:57 PM
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Get a new boyfriend. Don't associate with pornsick men.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/21 09:33 PM
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Why don't you learn a NFP method?
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/21 12:32 AM
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As a new mom, yes. Everything on that list. Thankfully, my husband and I have rock-solid communication skills. We both understand that this is a season and we're doing everything we can to keep connecting.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/20 08:31 PM
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A man who befriends a sex worker he's done business with and then chooses her over his actual girlfriend isn't a high value man. It may be a good idea to cut your losses here and move on. I'm sorry you're going through this.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/20 04:09 PM
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How does one become that overweight with Crohn's?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/07/20 07:19 PM
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This isn't relevant to this sub.
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/20 11:45 AM
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I basically just followed the instructions in the book! It's super clear.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/20 07:49 PM
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Getting to I Do worked like a charm for me. Girlfriend to engaged within 7 months.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/20 01:39 AM
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Women's sexuality can be warped too, we just typically have mower rates of porn addiction. You can check out r/pornfreewomen for stories. Also, what is your preoccupation with this question? You've asked the same thing in dozens of subs.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/20 10:15 PM
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Porn addiction warps sexuality. Why do some people escalate to sissyfication porn, or bestiality, or worse? You should find it uncomfortable -- porn is a powerful drug. Definitely check out r/pornfree and r/antipornography -- you can find plenty of stories and links to research in those subs.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/20 10:09 PM
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I second this book!
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/20 12:43 PM
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I third FAM. There's a method out there for most women!
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/20 06:27 PM
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Seconding this suggestion. My husband is PERFECT, and it's because I took this book to heart.
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/20 05:18 PM
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Nope. Serves no purpose for me as a RPW.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/20 04:35 PM
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I just had my first baby about a week ago and Good golly I am exhausted. Thank goodness my husband is home helping!
/r/RedPillWives25/04/20 04:10 PM
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Vitamin B6 with half a unisom tablet helped my nausea.
/r/RedPillWives25/04/20 03:20 PM
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Dating sites
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/20 01:54 AM
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Dude, no. Leave. He 'punishes' you for 'bad behavior' by withholding affection and being rough with you sexually? GTFO of that situation ASAP. RPW don't submit to abusive men. This isn't healthy or normal.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/20 04:01 AM
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To break into tech writing, you pretty much just need a decent portfolio. You can build a portfolio without having actual job experience. Find and rewrite help articles online, document how to do your hobbies, create instructional videos. The field of tech writing is huge, and is leaning more towards 'technical communication' -- including videos and infographics. It's not all help manuals these days. Check out Write the Docs and see if it's something you can do. You could easy make six figures i…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen12/04/20 03:57 AM
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I met mine online, many years after college. You can find decent men online as long as you don't fall into the hookup culture trap.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/20 03:36 AM
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I had great luck with Tinder, and ended up meeting my husband there. Tinder was the only app with a lot of people where I lived at the time, so it was a good choice. I think my success was due to the fact that first dates were always coffee dates, during the day. I vetted pretty well and didn't chase guys. They figured out pretty early on that I wasn't down for casual. I went on 50ish first dates, a dozen or so second dates, and a few third dates. I met my husband and we hit it off and we were m…
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/20 04:45 PM
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I never say no unless it'll make me uncomfortable for some reason, and even then I'll say 'later'. My husband is a gentle and loving man, and it works just fine for us. I never feel unsafe or taken advantage of. He seeks connection through sex. I seek connection through talking. He rarely turns me down for a conversation. If I were with a tyrant I could see how it might look like I'm a doormat. Sex is important to him, and it makes me happy to do it for him, even when I'm not initially in the mo…
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/20 04:31 PM
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I've never had an ingrown hair in my life, so I'm not a good person to answer that.
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/20 06:07 PM
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I had laser on my upper lip. Only did a few sessions, but it really took care of the bulk of the 'witch hairs' I'd get. For me, it was well worth it, just for the reduction in coarser hairs. I still dermaplane at home to take care of the fuzz, but oh man it's wonderful not having coarse black hairs appear constantly. Keep in mind that some people aren't good candidates, but a technician can help you decide whether it's right for you or not.
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/20 04:59 PM
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It was super important to us. I think attitudes toward finances can make or break a couple, no matter how much money you bring in. I don't regret having those conversations, even though some made us feel very awkward and vulnerable.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/20 07:38 PM
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My now-husband and I talked a lot about parenting hypotheticals. How many kids does he want? How would he like to raise his children? What is he most looking forward to about fatherhood. We also talked a lot about finances and attitude about that. It wasn't like a question and answer format -- these things came up in discussion naturally and we just kept talking about them and asking more questions.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/20 06:54 PM
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Okay, there's a lot going on in your post. You seem to not think much of yourself and seem to have an external locus of control. A good first step for you might be talking to a counselor and working on your self-talk.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/20 07:57 PM
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His behavior is abusive. Don't be committed to an abusive man.
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/20 04:06 PM
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Leave him deleted from social media and get therapy to address your problems. You're fixated on this guy and probably using him as a distraction from fixing your deep-rooted problems.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/20 05:06 PM
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Read the sidebar.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/20 09:50 PM
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It's great that you think so highly of yourself and your ability to age well, but you're a 29 year old divorcee looking to marry someone for resources. What's stopping a man with resources from marrying a 24 year old in your racial group, especially if she's got a better attitude/approach to the point of marriage? Your whole post and all your comments make you sound like a desperate and entitled gold digger. You're getting dangerously close to choosing beggar territory. Again, work on improving …
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/20 02:31 AM
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You're 29. A wealthy man isn't going to want to marry you for status. Focus on improving yourself and finding a GOOD man.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/20 01:55 AM
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Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/20 01:54 AM
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9 months pregnant here, so I'm just nesting away and cooking freezer meals!
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/20 11:26 PM
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Wealthy men don't need to settle down with women -- they have their pick of the litter and marriage isn't a great proposition for most men like them. Non-wealthy men are also perfectly acceptable providers. You sound like someone who wants to get knocked up and trap a man solely for resources. Go hang out at femaledatingstrategy, they love cold-hearted, calculating women like you.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/20 11:24 PM
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Stay single then. Any worthwhile man will immediately see through your game.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/20 06:34 PM
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I had a similar experience with my husband. He took it in stride and we continued to develop our relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/20 03:50 PM
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His stoicism and his commitment to his values.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/20 04:12 AM
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What's stopping you from ending it yourself? He sounds unstable and inconsistent.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/20 10:44 PM
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I'm thankful that the last few months of my pregnancy have been so much easier than the first half.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/20 03:49 PM
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My IUD (Skyla) made me have wild mood swings, and toward the end, I think it was making my hair fall out. When I had it removed, my mood and hair loss stabilized within 6 weeks. They can certainly affect some women deeply.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/20 03:40 PM
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I spent much of my young adulthood getting steamrolled by the narcissistic women in my family. I woke up one day and decided I'd had enough. Everyone eventually reaches their limit. I hope you're able to handle all this with grace!
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/20 04:27 AM
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I RELISH in making things awkward with my combative relatives. One particular relative is extremely overbearing and things always get very awkward when I enforce my boundaries. It's honestly quite fun at this point. I'm unwilling to make myself uncomfortable to keep her comfortable and in control. I will say, it gets much easier with practice. It's hard to get out of an ingrained peace-keeping people-pleasing pattern.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/20 04:14 AM
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You can try using the 'gray rock' method. I'm not great at explaining it, but Google should help. Become as dull and uninteresting as possible to her. It's been highly effective with some of my more irritating relatives.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/20 02:34 AM
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Your post history indicates that you're probably not going to like any advice that you receive in this sub. Stop sleeping with men before you're in a committed relationship, simple. When men are only interested in sex, they don't stick around long whether you give it to them or don't.
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/20 12:42 AM
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He's got reason to be afraid you can't keep up -- you weren't able to keep up on the recent hikes. It sounds like you either need to suck it up and work on your fitness level or find someone else who isn't as passionate about fitness. If you don't want to be fit, that's totally fine and within your rights. He clearly cares about you if he's trying to nudge you back into being active like you were when you met. He's basically telling you how you're not meeting his needs, and instead of trying to …
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/20 01:20 AM
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It's sounds like you changed, and you're not as compatible as you originally thought. If you were into fitness, or pretended you were into fitness when you met him, and now you don't care you pulled a bait-and-switch on him -- whether or not you meant to. Tell him flat out how you feel about the gym. This may very well be a deal breaker for him, and if fitness is important to him, then he deserves someone who takes it seriously.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/20 12:05 AM
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I'm in this precise position right now -- pregnant with a wonderfully attentive husband. His job is really demanding, and his way of relaxing is just by hanging out and home and saying videogames or reading. I've been needing more me time, so today I went out and did things by myself after church. I ran some errands, window shopped. It was very restorative. We also have a small home. Sometimes I get me time while he plays videogames in the living room. I'll watch trash tv on my laptop in bed, or…
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/20 10:57 PM
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I met my husband and married at 32. It's not impossible!
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/20 03:29 AM
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Bit fat to be making such demands.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen24/02/20 03:30 AM
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You don't have to frame it as needing a mental health day. You can simply say you need a day for some 'me time' and you're gonna turn your phone on silent. Go hiking, go shopping, go see a film alone. Whatever. It's fine to want time alone. Unless your boyfriend is making you feel smothered, then maybe you should communicate that to him gently.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/20 11:31 PM
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I bet you $100 this man is still married and you are just a potential affair partner for him. Move on and find someone who is interested in a relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/20 11:25 PM
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My husband and I didn't spend the night together until we were already committed and talking about engagement. So for me, anything before that is too soon. Are you already committed, monogamous, and had the requisite talks before becoming intimate?
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/20 10:13 PM
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Do not put your foot down about the holiday stuff. Period. It will end badly. He doesn't want to participate and has no interest in it. That's a YOU thing. I have zero interest in holidays and birthdays. None whatsoever. My husband decided he wanted a Christmas tree and stockings last year. I didn't like the idea at all, but he really wanted to do it. I saw that it was important to him, and said I wouldn't mind if he handled it all. If he had tried to needle me into putting in 'effort' after I t…
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/20 03:22 PM
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Higher-level ngineering managers at some of the big software companies for sure
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/02/20 04:20 PM
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This! Any time I've made a change in my life, folks with habits that are different than mine take it as a personal attack and judgement.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/20 07:18 PM
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Because RPW and RP men aren't after the same thing. We're different.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/20 05:11 AM
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I second this. I work from home and cannot imagine also taking care of my child at the same time. I can barely keep up with the dishes and my own bathroom breaks during work hours. You can't give two things your full attention at the same time.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/20 10:12 PM
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I don't resent my husband because we both understand that I can't "do it all". I tell him when I'm stretched too thin and that I need help. He understands that week both work full time and that I need his help around the house and with errands. Yes, sometimes this means that some stuff just doesn't get done (there's been some laundry languishing on the table all weekend), but I'd rather have a less-than-perfect house than resent my husband. It's not unladylike to communicate your needs clearly.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/20 08:56 PM
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Finish getting my house ready for baby. Finish planning freezer meals for post-partum
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/20 12:21 AM
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I don't think it's so much the cultural difference here -- it's that she clearly didn't want an abortion and was pressured into it.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/20 04:25 PM
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I fail to understand how this post is appropriate for this sub?
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/20 06:58 PM
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Oh no, I understand the appetite thing. I was on a mood stabilizer that people often blame for massive weight gain. I did not gain weight. I adjusted my diet to accommodate a MUCH bigger appetite. Your body isn't demanding anything. That's your mind. If your maintenance was 1500 calories before, and you didn't increase your activity level, your maintenance is still 1500 give or take. You're not starving, that's just a side effect. Until you can get on a medication without the side effect of incr…
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/20 09:13 PM
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This sounds like a troll post, but in case it isn't: Don't stop taking your medication without talking to your doctor. Medication doesn't make you fat. Eating too much makes you fat. If you really feel that you have to eat constantly to stop getting headaches, talk to your doctor. In the meantime, focus on eating lower-calorie foods like vegetables until you can control yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/20 07:32 PM
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Agree with all of this. My husband and I have sub-5 minute commutes, and it really takes a lot of mental pressure off of us. I second this advice about finding simple, healthy weekday meals, and saving the fancy stuff for the weekends. Most nights we do some sort of veggie wok with noodles or rice. I precook a bunch of rice over the weekend, and freeze it in meal portions. That saves a bunch of cleanup and effort during the week.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/20 04:32 PM
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My way was being a typical 'independent woman' and thinking that it made me more attractive to men. It doesn't.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/20 02:09 AM
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My comment has nothing to do with that. You state that you think he only wants you for sex, and that you don't feel 'strong enough' to see him. Stop talking to this guy and move on then. The phrasing of your post and the rest of your comments make it pretty clear that you came here hoping for someone to support your delusions. Some people need therapy to fix their self-esteem or broken thought patterns. At any rate, you sound like a heartsick teenage girl, so either you need to grow up, or you n…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/20 01:48 AM
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This person suggested therapy because your whole post is rambling about how sad you are about a man you saw once in 2019. Healthy people don't fixate like this, and they certainly don't dramatically misread interest levels like you have.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/20 01:37 AM
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Google SMART goals, and then start with something small. Efforts snowball. I went through a period of being unmotivated and sloppy. I set a goal to make my bed every morning. No matter what happened, I needed to make my bed in the morning. From there, I added more and more. Now I have no problem getting things done and my life is good.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/20 07:25 PM
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You said in another post that he's verbally abusive during arguments. You should cut and run. RPW don't support submitting to abusive men.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/20 06:56 PM
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'Currently on maternity leave' and cruising for BB = popped out a baby and realized they're hard and expensive without a father in the picture.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen19/01/20 04:02 AM
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I love this question! People ask me all the time, and I say "don't get fat, don't be a bitch", and just give them my reading list. Eta: I don't actually mention RP at all, ever. I just point them toward the books that helped me get sorted: The Surrendered Wife/Surrendered Single Getting to I Do Fascinating Womanhood (only if they read something else I recommended and want to go further.)
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/20 08:37 PM
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Looks absolutely do matter, but they're not the only thing that matters. Your condition puts you at a disadvantage in the looks department, sure. It has most certainly made your dating life harder than someone without Marfans. Being pleasant isn't enough to attract someone, no. But it definitely helps. I do think about how being close to average has made my life a bit easier. I'm not ugly, but I'm not beautiful. I'm right in an invisible middle and it's a good place to be, for me. Don't beat you…
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/20 07:55 PM
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Yeah no one ever told me this, so I've scooted through life not knowing I was supposed to be miserable for being unattractive.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/20 04:08 AM
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It can take a long time in therapy to work through dysfunction from childhood and family. My advice is to do any 'homework' your therapist suggests, and really work on recovering outside of therapy. A lot of people expect counseling to just magically fix them. It doesn't. You have to do the work. Best of luck ♥️
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/20 05:37 PM
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They want to date because they need constant validation. The other reason I've observed is that being pregnant sucks and it can be physically difficult to do simple chores and errands. If you snag a beta, or a FWB, you've got yourself an errand boy.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen15/01/20 11:05 PM
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I'm very pregnant and not having a good time with it. I feel pretty down about not being able to cook and clean as well as I did before. I'm trying to just accept things the way that they are -- I can barely make it up the stairs without taking a breather. So that's what I've been working on this month. Just accepting that I've got limited physical capacity right now. ♥️
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/20 03:45 PM
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Seems a bit fat and old to be making such demands.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen14/01/20 05:56 PM
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Hard truth incoming: you need to figure that out. You gotta learn to care for yourself -- why would anyone else care about you if you don't? You show people your value in how you treat yourself. Do better. Good luck ♥️
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/20 01:09 AM
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Focus on your studies. Work on improving your self-esteem and your body. Being fat is going to hold you back as you get older, no matter how cute your face is. Stop hanging out with unavailable men. Find fulfilling and interesting hobbies. I think a lot of women have had little crushes on unavailable men, but pursuing them has never ended well. Best of luck ♥️
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/20 01:06 AM
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Hints are never enough when you're not getting something you need. Sex requires communication, sometimes even uncomfortable direct communication. If this is important to you, speak up!
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/20 09:49 PM
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You're probably going to have to tell him flat out. You showed him your interests already and he hasn't responded by naturally becoming more dominant or asking you for more details. He's either not interested or he needs more direction. It's not emasculating to tell him what you like in bed. If this is going to be a deal breaker for you, now's the time. You haven't been together long. Having a good sex life also involves a lot of communication, so if you're afraid to communicate your needs to hi…
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/20 06:10 PM
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I'd spent over 10 years in an on-and-off situation with a man that wouldn't love me. I thought I would rather be alone than with someone, but still wasn't happy. I realized that my way wasn't working and ended up stumbling on this sub (with a different username) and it turned everything around. Now I'm actually happy and it's wonderful.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/20 05:47 PM
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Reading The Surrendered Wife and Fascinating Womanhood turned things around for me. Also, this is my mantra: "I'd rather be happy than right". It's saved so many little spats and my husband treats me like a perfect angel baby.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/20 02:47 PM
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Also keep in mind that libidos can shift given life circumstances. I'm naturally very high libido, but it still waxes and wanes. Having matched libidos isn't enough save you from a dead bedroom.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/20 02:18 AM
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As other commenters have said -- you gotta decide whether marriage is so important to you that you're willing to walk away from your relationship. You can only accept or reject a man. You cannot coerce them into doing what you want and still be happy. It's hard to approach the subject, but you'll need to decide what's best for you. I highly recommend reading Chapter 17 of Getting to I do. Read the examples in the chapter (Jackie and Dean, and Rhoda and Joe). I wish you the best of luck ♥️
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/20 02:14 AM
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The book Getting to I Do covers this situation, I recommend giving it a read. You can't make a man marry you, but if marriage is important to you, you need to think very carefully before you stay on his hook too much longer. You're in a great position age-wise, and it'd be a shame for you to wake up at 30, still unmarried when marriage is your goal.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/20 04:42 PM
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Mostly women in my very small church. They're very feminine, have been married decades, and their husbands absolutely adore them and it shows.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/20 04:33 PM
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Get a food journal and a food scale. If you want to shock yourself, pour what you consider a normal serving of cereal. Then weigh it. If you weigh and track your food, you don't have to worry about 'eating clean' or 'only eating healthy' -- you'll naturally start paying more attention to your portion sizes and the will shift focus to the foods that make you feel good. You also won't have to begrudge yourself 'treats'. The first step is figuring out how much you're currently eating and then takin…
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/20 04:14 PM
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I chose to date for an LTR at 32. I found and vetted a wonderful man and was married less than a year later. I'm now pregnant with our first child. He's incredible and things are as good as I can stand them because I still apply RPW values in our relationship. It's not ideal to wait until your 30s, but I was honestly committed to the idea that I was going to be a spinster aunt, just like my spinster aunts. I'd had one LTR before, but it was off-and-on. It can work out for some of us, but it's cr…
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/20 04:10 PM
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