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| 23 | Dad’s an HVM ❤️I am confused. Please enlighten me. I am culturally from a muuuuch more conservative background so That may have to do with it. How is her dad a hvm? He’s enabeling a 17 y.o boy to be living with his daughter. Free of charge, just because she likes him? Isn’t he enabeling the boy? What did the boy do to earn the trust of this family, the roof over his head and the free meal? Just because she likes him? And it takes aaallll this for him to remember to hold this guy accountable Please enlighten me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 09:01 AM |
| 46 | I’vE cHaSeD a LoT oF tAiL 🤮🤮🤮He is purposely trying to mess it up because he actually doesn’t love her! But wants her to believe he does. What a game player!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 08:32 PM |
| 43 | I’vE cHaSeD a LoT oF tAiL 🤮🤮🤮Yeah that’s weird. That’s not I love you. What’s the other inside joke now? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 07:02 PM |
| 6 | What are your dealbreakers?unhealthy/ overweight and bad eating and exercise habits complains and had a victim mindset , blames others for his issues smoking or drinking more than occasionally: addicted to any substance religious ( this is the only way to be saved/go to heaven/ be right ) also, it’s a deal breaker if he s not well off or if he s not very comfortable financially with an abundant mindset . Edited to add: he must enjoy reading books and proactively seek to expand his mind | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 05:27 AM |
| 3 | To me this screams predatory older man looking for a younger inexperienced woman/teen to manipulate.That turns into ****** SomE sOrT of RelaTiOnShit **** Hahhahahaaa | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 04:50 AM |
| 14 | how can I spot LVM Chameleons 🦎 👀Yes when your trust and love for yourself is strong that’s the guarantee that YOU will thrive no matter what. Be in the present. Enjoy the gift of the HVM relationship, but no one can know the future. Does that mean we don’t live? No girl ! Live your life and trust in YOUR ability to deal with whatever challenges come your way because people DO change and people can be complex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 04:15 AM |
| 11 | how can I spot LVM Chameleons 🦎 👀Look, people CHANGE . HVM become LVM LVM become HVM ( DISCLAIMER : NO, NOT BECAUSE OF YOU, OR FOR YOU!!!!) The rule of life is that PEOPLE change, so don’t lower your standards because they were ONCE HVM , and vice versa. The only constant of life is change. They aren’t chameleons, they are people . And people change . I ve seen women gain weight, let go of their standards because somehow now that they are married they become a sort of pickmeisha to the marriage. Being a HVW is something inside … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 04:12 AM |
| 11 | He bought himself a gift and pretended it was also for her and she still described him as a great guy and she felt bad about having to call him out on it.Denial . Hardcore denial. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 04:44 AM |
| 36 | This sounds like my last relationship!My ex husband!!! Edited to add: and I believed him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 12:38 AM |
| 10 | Even when in a happy relationship they want to ruin things. This is disgusting, can't help but feel sorry for her.Good catch about reading him well | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 08:21 AM |
| 14 | Even when in a happy relationship they want to ruin things. This is disgusting, can't help but feel sorry for her.I want to do what I want but I really really really don’t want to look bad. I want to look good. How do I go about that? That’s a translation | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 05:49 AM |
| 9 | Hitting his pregnant wife in the face with confetti during the gender reveal. I feel like LVM being blatantly abusive as a “prank” on social media is becoming more and more popularPinch me, tell me I am dreaming . Why why? Why is she ok with that ? I hope she leaves him. What a LOOSER!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 06:27 AM |
| 3 | HVM or nah?This hit the nail on the head. Met this lvm: 49 years old. Divorced after 18 years of marriage . And yup... married her because she was first to say yes basically. Smart, handsome , but had low self esteem scars from childhood that he carried through first relationship and 18 years of marriage and divorce. God. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 05:12 AM |
| 2 | HVM or nah?This is what I would say. I need you to say ILY and compliment me more often. Like xyz times more often. I need this because it provides this xyz emotional need ( explain): it makes me feel safe, wanted, less anxious etc etc For example, I need to hear you say xyz , like the other day. But I need it regularly ( specify what that means for you ) What do you need from me so that you do this from me? ( maybe he ll need examples of how that looks like, maybe he ll need reminders ( NOT OK!!) maybe he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 05:05 AM |
| 13 | Vanilla Convert (anti BDSM finally!)Thank you for sharing this. Definitely still grappling with my bdsm kinks... I love vanilla sex and had amazing bonding lovemaking with previous men I dated. But I love my kinky side and still seek that kind of variety. Still a mindset shift I am not grasping yet . Intellectually it makes sense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 04:58 AM |
| 4 | Men who can satisfy in bed > flowersBoth. And it’s not even a “ nice to have” it’s just... what I need . Like.. basics . And one has absolutely nothing to do with the other. Edit: imagine the same meme for a man: “ I don’t want “ I just want you to find my d*ck. Really??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 08:23 PM |
| 11 | Share your stories about dating a workaholic.That’s why I don’t date guys who are still In building stage. I don’t have any problem with guys who are workaholics. Good for them let them build their empire. But I am a queen either he behaves like a king and have my needs met ( time, attention etc ) or he can find someone else. Boundaries : workaholic or not, don’t let anyone convince you that their choices influence yours I don’t think the workaholic is an issue here, there are hvm who are workaholic but organized and smart enough to make t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 05:26 AM |
| 346 | My husband of 3 weeks now, said he wished he married his x instead of me.In 5 years from now you ll be asking the same exact question “ he said bl bla bla ... should I get divorced? “ Save yourself a few years and get the hell out now. The fact that you had to ask him in the first place, shows you where you guys are at. He was honest . Either lie to yourself and stay or wake up and go. Edit to add: what’s extreme is staying married after am conversation like this. It’s extremely sad. You owe it to yourself to get out . | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 04:03 AM |
| 9 | Mood for lifeWho is she? Goddess Edited to add: just googled her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 12:54 AM |
| 16 | Men and spittingIn some cultures it’s a sign of dominance and masculinity. Yup. So if you see a random man spitting know that he either grew up in that culture or he s plain disgusting if he grew up in a western household or in the us. Either way, stay away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 12:52 AM |
| 2 | Anyone else not comfortable with the idea of introducing their bf to their friends?Yes! You sound like you are on a path that will help you grow. Good for you. If you can’t afford therapy right now consider 1- taking on meditation. There are many guides online 2- read books about healing and this type of work: start with the 4 agreements from Don Miguel Ruiz or the Mastery of Love by the same author . Good luck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 03:49 AM |
| 6 | Anyone else not comfortable with the idea of introducing their bf to their friends?Have you considered therapy? You are worth it! I had a very dysfunctional and toxic family dynamics, i went to therapy because i didn’t want to pass them to my kids or into my relationships. Best investments in my happiness and life ever. It will save you years of being in the wrong relationships or learning lessons the very hard way. You got this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 03:26 AM |
| 10 | Anyone else not comfortable with the idea of introducing their bf to their friends?Ok. 1- friends part: If your friends are the type that would even remotely entertain flirting with your boyfriend then you are the equivalent of a “ friendmeisha “ ... why would you accept such liv people in your life ? 2- BF part: 1- Nothing wrong with “ I have my friend and he has his” actually that sounds pretty healthy, but if you are actively trying to keep them apart and spending mental energy keeping them apart something is off. He should respect, appreciate and approve of your friends ju… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 03:11 AM |
| 3 | Why do friendship breakups hurt more than relationship breakups? :(I broke up with my best friend of 8+ years. It broke my heart. Take care if yourself and be gentle with yourself these days | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 06:37 PM |
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