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We have an entire sub dedicated to that.
/r/seduction03/02/17 05:42 PM
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It might be cliche but it works. Put whatever spin on the tactic you want. OP's fault if she's evasive for not clarifying this is a date. I agree with you that OP should try to escalate things, but halt your attempts if she clearly doesn't want to.
/r/seduction28/11/16 08:06 AM
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I seriously doubt you changed enough in 4 weeks for her to want you back. Character development takes years. Too often do I see bad couples getting back together and it almost never works out in the end. You may think you're a better person now and that things will be different, but you're more likely just telling yourself that to make yourself feel better. It sounds like drugs played a factor in it. Sure, you can quit smoking and doing drugs cold turkey, but most people who "quit" still do drug…
/r/seduction28/11/16 07:45 AM
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Movie dates are for couples who already know each other and want to be lazy together. It doesn't matter how much you've already talked, if this is the first date it's still the beginning of a different kind of relationship. Never try to force yourself on a girl, especially during the beginning of the relationship which might not work out. If she wants it you will know.
/r/seduction28/11/16 02:22 AM
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Push yourself to do things you'd otherwise wouldn't because you say you're not confident enough. Prove that notion (yourself) wrong. Also checkout NoFap which has helped a lot of people including myself.
/r/seduction27/11/16 11:40 PM
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It's tough to let go of someone you've had such a strong connection with, but the best thing you can do is try to move on. The more you try to get her back, the more she's going to think you're pathetic. When she sees you are no longer paying any attention to her, she will start to miss you and might try to get back into contact with you. Meanwhile, you will be less hurt than if you remained friends, where her existence will constantly remind you that you're not good enough for her and whoever s…
/r/seduction27/11/16 11:37 PM
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Try to avoid physical compliments if you can. Things like "you have beautiful eyes" can come off creepy or charming, but it's also kinda shallow and she won't really know how to respond, it leaves no room for a response. Compliments on her apparel go a lot farther because women like to be complimented on that sort of thing. You can follow up with where she bought it and see where that conversation goes. "Nice weather we're having" can sound pretty generic but you'd be surprised how effective it …
/r/seduction27/11/16 11:28 PM
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I'm in my mid twenties but most of the social events and clubs I've been to the women are on average in their 30's. I think this sub (not necessarily PUA stuff) works better for people in their thirties than those in their late teens - early teens which it seems to be targeting. You might be too old for Tinder or even OKCupid, but I've heard paid dating sites are successful because you get matched based on interests and it's less of a shallow selection where women have hundreds to choose from an…
/r/seduction27/11/16 11:18 PM
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Damn dude... If you really need the money I guess there's nothing you can do about that. Try cleaning up the place first before you invite her over. Go on a few dates and get to know her. Tell her beforehand what to expect so she's not shocked when you bring her there. No doubt, some girls will be turned off by it, but others will be more understanding depending on your situation. But once you can afford something nicer you should consider moving out!
/r/seduction27/11/16 11:09 PM
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Going to the movies on a first date is generally a bad idea because you don't get a lot of time to talk. I suggest going to get food or coffee with her before or after the movie. You can try the old yawn and arm around trick and see if she reciprocates well (leans into you) or not. Don't be too forward about it. You're in a theater, other people are around, she might not be comfortable with PDA even if she's into you. Take it slow. She will give you signals if she wants to get a little more phys…
/r/seduction27/11/16 11:00 PM
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Your shower is a sink?
/r/seduction27/11/16 10:53 PM
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Actually, if you're going for the jacked look. You shouldn't smile. Apparently not smiling in your online persona makes you look more attractive. https://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/the-4-big-myths-of-profile-pictures/ Lol, OK dude. Whatever floats your boat.
/r/seduction14/11/16 06:48 AM
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Learning how to take the best photos of yourself might be the most important thing on Tinder. It's something I still need to work on. Are you sure these are the types of girls you want to attract though?
/r/seduction14/11/16 06:36 AM
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In my experience, their photos were either blurry or very zoomed into the face. After seeing more photos you find out how outrageously fat they are. :(
/r/seduction14/11/16 06:24 AM
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You don't have to be jacked to take pictures like that. I've got some muscle, abs, pecs... nothing to brag about, but in the mirror with proper lighting and angles I think I look pretty good. Have you tried doing the same for yourself? I don't think these girls are attracted to the muscle size, but rather are looking to hookup with a bro, you know? Girls are attracted to arrogance/doucheyness. Bathroom shirtless selfie is probably the best way to become that.
/r/seduction14/11/16 06:22 AM
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Yeah, you can't really tell with online dating pictures. The girls look so different in person. What is the fake picture you are using? Just some guy with his shirt off?
/r/seduction14/11/16 06:01 AM
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But are you doing so using the fake photos?
/r/seduction14/11/16 05:38 AM
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Tinder is a waste of time of the majority of men. That's all I can really say.
/r/seduction14/11/16 04:43 AM
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It's the de facto standard on Reddit.
/r/seduction14/11/16 04:02 AM
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Time to move on. Hopefully next time will work out better.
/r/seduction14/11/16 03:51 AM
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That's good. Try not to send so many texts. Keep them brief and to the point. Remove anything that she doesn't really need/want to know in the text. Basically you just want to use texting to quickly setup dates. Also try calling her instead.
/r/seduction14/11/16 03:03 AM
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When you put it that way, yes. But some girls probably think you're just playing a game with her.
/r/seduction14/11/16 02:59 AM
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If you don't try, nothing will come of it. She won't likely come to you. You can be yourself when you talk to her, but don't expect girls to approach you.
/r/seduction14/11/16 12:52 AM
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It's hard, like going on a roller coaster for the first time. But after the ride is over you will be glad you road it. Even if you are awkward and can't think of anything to say, at least you will be proud that you did it. If you don't take any chances you will regret it forever.
/r/seduction14/11/16 12:42 AM
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You don't know how to speak? Say "Hi, I'm Bruno, nice to meet you." Talk about school or something.
/r/seduction14/11/16 12:35 AM
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Go talk to her.
/r/seduction14/11/16 12:24 AM
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Keep your goals to yourself. Telling someone your goals makes it less likely to happen.
/r/seduction13/11/16 11:19 PM
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You can watch these videos. http://articles.rsdnation.com/authors/
/r/seduction13/11/16 11:13 PM
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Thanks for the input. I gotta try this some day. Not sure if my friends will have the balls to do it though.
/r/seduction13/11/16 10:28 PM
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You're a total beginner, what would you know?
/r/seduction13/11/16 10:15 PM
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Were you playing this game in a bar? I'm curious because I don't drink alcohol but frequently go to cafes. I had a similar game idea involving the loser of a card game, Durak, having to approach a girl in the cafe we were in. My friends are very nerdy and inexperienced with women so I thought it might be a fun way to get them out there. I asked my friend about this idea and she told me she wouldn't mind but some girls would probably take offence since the guy is only approaching her on a dare.
/r/seduction13/11/16 10:11 PM
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The great thing about Reddit is that we're open to everyone's opinions rather than strictly following 1 author's depiction.
/r/seduction13/11/16 10:04 PM
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Could be fluctuation in your testosterone levels. There's not much you can do about it except try to exercise daily and eat more healthily. Fapping will indefinitely lower your sexual energy.
/r/seduction13/11/16 10:01 PM
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Find new friends you are more compatible with and make you the you you want to be. Try taking a class in something you're interested in during your off hours. Learn to cook or dance. Learn a new language, you will get a lot of practice with your classmates and make new friends. You can probably find something you're interested in on https://www.meetup.com/ There are many ways you can build confidence, personally NoFap has been a huge success for me.
/r/seduction13/11/16 09:56 PM
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Don't be an asshole, but don't be a pushover either. Don't let people take advantage of you anymore. Stand up for yourself and don't give into their guilt trips. It's perfectly OK to be nice when you want to be.
/r/seduction13/11/16 09:50 PM
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Read Models by Mark Manson.
/r/seduction13/11/16 09:47 PM
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Did you talk to her or not? The longer you stare the creepier you get. Eye contact is good but if you don't act on it you look creepy. If you want to know if she's attracted to you the easiest way is to ask her out.
/r/seduction13/11/16 09:45 PM
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Or to avoid being hit on altogether. They could just be there to support their gay friends. Not saying you're wrong, I just think you will have much better luck elsewhere.
/r/seduction13/11/16 09:19 PM
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He can't take criticism.
/r/seduction13/11/16 08:59 PM
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Yeah. Responding with silence is pretty rude so I thought maybe you lowered your voice out of nervousness when asking, and she just didn't hear you. But then you end up in your situation which sucks because you don't know her true intentions. :\
/r/seduction13/11/16 08:56 PM
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Maybe she grew tired after 15 days. She was interested in you but you didn't make a move on her, so she gave up. Something similar happened to me with a girl on Facebook. We would reply to each other's comment with a funny gif, this would last a few days. She then stopped and that was that. She was cute but I wasn't interested in her because of other reasons.
/r/seduction13/11/16 07:47 PM
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If your practice skews, you might find yourself becoming what game teaches you not to be when you first started. You're in a relationship because of how you behaved during the initial phase. Becoming clingy, jealous, etc, will probably make her lose interest/respect for you.
/r/seduction13/11/16 07:41 PM
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Go to networking events, join clubs, play sports. It will probably feel awkward asking for their contact information but you can use it as an excuse to keep in touch for whatever is relative to your meeting. Something like "What's your number? Let me know when you want to play ball" tells the person you're not gay, you just want to be friends and stay in contact.
/r/seduction13/11/16 07:37 PM
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1. Mysterious or creepy. Depends on how attractive you are. 2. I think an introvert would more likely be shocked/afraid as they are not comfortable with such confrontation. 5. This is not true. There is no proof that introverts know more about themselves than extroverts. 6. How would an introvert know more about what he likes in a woman more than an extrovert? An extrovert probably has more experience talking to women and can thus make better judgement on that. 8. Extroverts have better inner ga…
/r/seduction13/11/16 06:25 PM
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Yup. Just don't send a hoard of texts afterwards if she fails to respond.
/r/seduction13/11/16 05:53 PM
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Women who go to gay bars are there to get compliments from gay men, they are not interested in meeting a straight man.
/r/seduction13/11/16 05:47 PM
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Be playful but not too forward at first. "I want to fuck your brains out" is probably going to scare most women away, but it would be appropriate for someone you have already experienced or discussed a sexual interaction with. "What are you wearing?" can lead to more sexual talk and you might even get her to send you some tasteful pics. Basically try to express your sexual desire but analyze what stage of the relationship you're at and try not to push past her comfort level.
/r/seduction13/11/16 05:44 PM
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Usually when you're approaching women, you catch them off guard. You were preparing to talk to her, she was not prepared to talk to you. She may have trouble continuing the conversation you started if you don't help her. Even if you're good at the approach, you will only be able to get about 10% of women to reciprocate. This is because of reasons other than just game. She doesn't find you physically attractive You don't fit her preferences You're too young/old for her She only dates guys of her …
/r/seduction13/11/16 05:36 PM
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A lot of these reasons fit an extrovert better than an introvert would.
/r/seduction13/11/16 05:28 PM
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This. Go talk to her if you're interested. You're being creepy by observing her everyday.
/r/seduction13/11/16 05:25 PM
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Exactly what I was going to say. Stop making excuses and just approach her OP.
/r/seduction13/11/16 05:18 PM
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No, and you shouldn't. Society tries to make you look shallow for thinking this way when it's completely natural.
/r/seduction13/11/16 05:11 PM
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Own up to your nervousness. A hot girl started chatting me up one day and caught me off guard. She asked me why I was laughing and smiling so much, I told her I was a bit nervous talking to such a beautiful girl. That showed vulnerability and she ate it up, proceeded to ask me for my phone number before I left. Are you sure that's not your own barrier you're putting up? You see really attractive girls and subconsciously tell yourself she's too good for you. A lot of hot girls are desperate for a…
/r/seduction13/11/16 08:29 AM
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That's true, however, cutting contact works for me as well. I would grow to be resentful if I continued to interact with her.
/r/seduction13/11/16 08:23 AM
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You are being delusional if you think that you should be primarily looking for personality. Sexual attraction is arguably more important than personality in a relationship. A relationship with sexual attraction but lacks interlocking personalities can still survive. A relationship with absence of sexual attraction but compatible personalities probably won't except for some outliers. If you look at our roots, the animal kingdom, physical attraction is the only thing that matters. We are attracted…
/r/seduction13/11/16 08:18 AM
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I wouldn't give her the time of day. That's a lot of effort for somebody that doesn't deserve it.
/r/seduction13/11/16 07:56 AM
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Were you constantly trying to seduce your ex-girlfriend after she rejected you? Look, this girl knows you are attracted to her, that's all she needs to know. Let her go. If she comes back to you, then you have the upper hand and can probably seduce her. But if you continue to try and make her reciprocate, you're only making yourself look needy/unattractive.
/r/seduction13/11/16 07:39 AM
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If you don't mind getting fired.
/r/seduction13/11/16 07:14 AM
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Some people have met on World of Warcraft and eventually married. I would not recommend playing it for that purpose, or at all.
/r/seduction13/11/16 07:12 AM
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Some girls don't like penetration either, and assume the role because they think the guy wants it. You could tell her, but she will either feel nonchalant about it, or worry that you're not going to enjoy it even if she wants it.
/r/seduction13/11/16 07:11 AM
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If you continue to show interest she might make you an orbiter and take advantage of you to get compliments. Orbiters very rarely get to have sex. They are seen as beta.
/r/seduction13/11/16 07:06 AM
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Maybe mild germaphobia? Try talking to her about it.
/r/seduction13/11/16 07:02 AM
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How do you approach women? What do you say to them?
/r/seduction13/11/16 06:59 AM
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Move on. The more you think about her the harder it will be. She's not interested.
/r/seduction13/11/16 06:57 AM
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Continue doing new things that you want to improve yourself. This could be your jealousy kicking in. The best thing you can do for yourself is trust your girlfriend. A lot of other guys are going to be attracted to her, and she will probably be attracted to some of them, but if she is loyal then you will know nothing will come of it. If she were to cheat on you, there's nothing you could have said or done to prevent that. Don't let those thoughts poison your mind. You might also be a cuckold. So…
/r/seduction13/11/16 06:54 AM
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The average guy will have a 10% success rate with cold approaches. Of the 10%, only a handful will be compatible matches. You're doing well, keep up the good work!
/r/seduction13/11/16 06:43 AM
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Join a club, play sports, go to events. Talk to the people there. It doesn't necessarily have to be about creating sexual chemistry. Just approach people to talk to and see if things click.
/r/seduction13/11/16 06:38 AM
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Get off of Reddit and go get practice. Find anything relevant to talk about.
/r/seduction13/11/16 06:36 AM
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Pizza.
/r/seduction13/11/16 06:33 AM
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Does that KBBQ have a lunch special?
/r/seduction13/11/16 06:32 AM
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Don't let other people define you. Introduce yourself and let her decide who to believe.
/r/seduction13/11/16 06:30 AM
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Suggest a day. if (She says she's busy){ Suggest the following day you're available if (She's still busy, ask her when she's free){ if (She gives you a day){ You have a date. } else { She's not interested or an idiot. } } }
/r/seduction13/11/16 06:21 AM
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Were you loud enough for her to hear you when you asked her out?
/r/seduction13/11/16 06:12 AM
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Don't play games. Tell her you want to be fuck buddies and nothing more. It's OK for fuck buddies to tease. It is a type of relationship that comes with some rules, much like a friendship. Friendships have unspoken rules there are common sense, like "never talk bad about your friend." Fuck buddies don't and you should properly discuss boundaries (i.e. no fucking other people).
/r/seduction13/11/16 06:08 AM
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Stop comparing girls to your ex. Your attraction to someone will grow as you spend more intimate time with them. This is why some guys feel like their girlfriends are more attractive than the clearly more attractive women you compare them to. This is why when you look back at pictures of girls you used to date but now never think about look uglier than you remembered.
/r/seduction13/11/16 05:58 AM
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Models by Mark Manson
/r/seduction13/11/16 05:51 AM
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NoFap
/r/seduction13/11/16 05:49 AM
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Practice. No matter how many books you read you will always be awkward when you make the approach. You will only get better as you continue to practice. Keep it up!
/r/seduction13/11/16 05:41 AM
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As long as you were clear about what you wanted from her, you are doing nothing wrong. If you ignore her texts and she gets upset about it, just tell her that you're a busy guy and don't have time for texting. Being forward about what you want without faulting makes you look attractive. It won't work on all girls but some might be down.
/r/seduction13/11/16 05:38 AM
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I think you did well. Your English is good and the accent is not a problem. Everyone feels like their voice is awkward when they hear their own recording. Don't worry about it.
/r/seduction13/11/16 05:33 AM
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I utterly disagree. A shy girl will be harder to talk to because she probably doesn't have much to say. As someone who lacks conversational skills, you'd be better off with a girl who is more outgoing. She would be able to help you more with your conversational skills than a shy girl would. I don't like clubbing or drink alcohol. I would not suggest clubbing, however, if you do enjoy drinking, you will meet all types of women at bars. These are not all extroverted bimbos if that's what you're pi…
/r/seduction13/11/16 05:26 AM
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I think that's fine. Since she said you guys are going to be making out, better to do it in private. She said she wants to wait but you will be pretty flustered and may want to go all the way. Try to go through the bases and see how far she's willing to go with you. But don't force it. If she pushes your hands away or tells you to stop, then stop.
/r/seduction12/11/16 05:15 PM
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Why do you want to target shy girls specifically? If you think you'll be more compatible with them because you're shy that's not necessarily true. Shy girls can sometimes be harder to make conversation with. Shy girls are shy, that's why your best bet is a dating service like OkCupid, because they're too shy to meet guys in public. However it's much harder to meet women online because they have a much better selection pool.
/r/seduction12/11/16 05:11 PM
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Just remember to breathe, seriously. Through your nose. Long make out sessions can end abruptly if you don't remember to breathe. You will get really lightheaded and get flu-like symptoms because you're basically suffocating. Aside from that, it's really just practice. Follow her lead. Try things with your tongue and be careful with your teeth. Have fun!
/r/seduction12/11/16 07:14 AM
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You should tell your friend if you value your friendship. He will probably be mad and may no longer want to be friends with you anymore, but it's better than letting him find out on his own. He has the right to feel angry at you, you betrayed him as a friend, and he may never want to talk to you again. Or, he might forgive you and will want you to be happy. Seeing as he's still in love with this girl, this most likely won't end well. So you decide what's more important: Your friendship with this…
/r/seduction12/11/16 07:07 AM
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I see what you mean. This is true. Tinder is entirely supposed to be shallow. It's based on matching with people you're physically attracted to (nobody really reads those bios). And for the most part it's just a hookup app now. Are you happy with your body? I don't workout to impress the ladies, I do it because it makes me feel better about my health and helps with relieving stress. Looking more attractive for the ladies is just a bonus. If you want to have an extraordinary body to attract the l…
/r/seduction12/11/16 05:47 AM
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Hypersexualized society that encourages sexual expressiveness. For many years women were shunned for talking about sex or showing off the slightest skin. But then people realized that sex sells like crazy, and so it became much more acceptable to society. Kids are just learning about sex at an earlier age than earlier generations. You can thank the internet and unsolicited sexual advertisements on various mediums.
/r/seduction12/11/16 05:38 AM
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I find most of the girls on Tinder don't put in any effort and expect you to magically direct the conversation. This sometimes happens with texting as well, even if the girl is easy to talk to in person. I usually just give up if they're not going to try. I have met women who were much better texters though. They would vomit paragraphs and text about their day. With Tinder on the other hand, those women aren't taking you seriously (yet). They get hundreds of messages, so they're playing the fiel…
/r/seduction12/11/16 05:31 AM
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I don't think this is necessarily true, but it depends on the types of girls you're approaching. I've heard many women say they don't like overly muscular men. A friend of mine has a great personality, but he gets rejected quite often because he's overweight. I believe he would have skyrocketing success if he continues hitting the gym and reaches a healthy weight. Part of why fit and muscular men are successful with women is because they're confident in themselves. They were motivated and worked…
/r/seduction12/11/16 05:11 AM
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Working out not only improves your physical attractiveness, it really helps with your self confidence. Tinder takes a lot of effort for little return. If you can get superb pictures and successfully get matches, you still need to convince girls to go out with you. I'm not really into Tinder anymore but if your objective is to have lots of sex rather than meet someone then it can be a useful tool. By approaching women in real life, you are basically Matching+Showing them who you are. This is much…
/r/seduction12/11/16 04:58 AM
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I have been hitting the gym for several years and am quite satisfied with my body. I don't think having a stellar body would really help girls approach you. That's only going to happen if you're a solid 10 or famous. Regardless, you're right, you're better off approaching girls yourself, shows confidence/vulnerability, which is attractive.
/r/seduction12/11/16 04:18 AM
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Context is important, but if you're crying about something that doesn't deserve tears, I think that would be pretty unattractive.
/r/seduction12/11/16 04:13 AM
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A lot of people spend their days off at home watching TV, playing video games, or whatever introverted thing you choose to do. There's nothing wrong with this, spend your free time and relax however you like, but know that you're losing out on time to meet people and getting yourself out there. A friend of mine is a paramedic and has a hectic schedule, but he managed to meet his future wife volunteering in his youth group. Maybe find an activity you like or have always wanted to try that works f…
/r/seduction12/11/16 03:50 AM
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No. A relationship won't succeed if you don't find her attractive. That just goes against your biological nature. If you want practice, go approach women who attract you!
/r/seduction12/11/16 03:18 AM
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Movie on a first date is not a very good idea because you won't get much chance to talk to her. Take her to a restaurant or cafe, or even go for a walk somewhere nice before or after the movie and get to know each other. Just be confident like when you asked her out. The hard part is already over. Be yourself!
/r/seduction12/11/16 03:11 AM
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You really only have a few minutes when approaching a girl to persuade her to like you. Even if you play all of your cards right, she still might reject you. Considering this girl seemed to take interest in you at first, it might not be too late. I understand the predicament of your situation. "Don't shit where you eat." Tough call. If you take the shot and she turns you down, you will need to handle the embarrassment and don't let your feelings get in the way of school work.
/r/seduction12/11/16 02:20 AM
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She might have been interested but you took too long to ask her out. If you're still interested in her why don't you try asking her out? Don't play games with her.
/r/seduction12/11/16 02:09 AM
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I live in a new big city Go explore. Find things in this city that interest you. https://www.meetup.com/ can help you get started.
/r/seduction12/11/16 01:47 AM
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Rock Climbing Cooking Class Dance Class Karaoke Amusement Park Ice Skating Axe Throwing Paintballing Any interesting events going on in your city?
/r/seduction12/11/16 01:45 AM
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OkCupid Library Reddit Coffee Shop Dance Class
/r/seduction12/11/16 01:43 AM
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Talk to her. The thing about FWB relationships is that one person almost always starts to have feelings for the other, but it is not reciprocated. There is no way you're going to convince her otherwise, so inquire her about this and get a straight answer from her. If she says no, don't push for it. You're only making yourself look more clingy and eventually will not want to be FWB with you anymore. Since you are starting to have feelings for her, I suggest you cut the FWB relationship if she say…
/r/seduction12/11/16 01:35 AM
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This has happened to me in the past as well, I don't have any concrete answers but some guesses: You're coming from high school where you've probably had a few friends to start with. In college you're usually starting anew on your own. Everybody's alone and trying to find where they fit in. Some people will be unintentionally rude because of their different upbringing. Too stressed from course load, not enough sleep. Depending on your college, some schools limit classroom sizes to 30-ish, wherea…
/r/seduction12/11/16 01:26 AM
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Try to find topics of conversation that interests her and bring up some that you like. If you can find some common ground the communication will happen naturally. If you can't, then she's either not interested in talking to you or you might not be very compatible with her. I would not suggest asking her out if you found the conversation boring. No matter how pretty she is.
/r/seduction12/11/16 01:15 AM
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Stop caring about what other people will think about you. It sounds like you've learned from your mistake and will less likely make it again. Don't make it a bigger problem than it actually is. Laugh it off and move on. You have more important things to do than worry about such trivial matters.
/r/seduction12/11/16 01:08 AM
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It depends on the girl. Depending on your demographic: If you have not discussed potential of a 2nd date at the end of your 1st: Short text or 2 within a couple hours - days of the 1st date to ask Same as above but call instead of text. Some girls have a strong preference for one or the other. Inviting a woman to your home after the first date can be a bit forward. She might be interested in you but thinks you're implicating sex and isn't ready yet, and doesn't know how to politely decline/sugge…
/r/seduction12/11/16 01:03 AM
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Don't let it get you down. I used to feel inferior when there were other more "interesting", funny, or attractive guys at the party. This lead to me feeling less inclined to talk and try to contribute to conversations at the party. The problem was not the more attractive person, but the way I reacted to them. I put myself down with disruptive subconscious thoughts like "Shut up, you're not as funny as that guy", and "What's the point? The person I'm talking to right now probably isn't even inter…
/r/seduction12/11/16 12:44 AM
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They were kinda cute. But I guess that depends on your demographic.
/r/seduction11/11/16 05:48 PM
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Looks like you're on the right track already. Good luck!
/r/seduction10/11/16 07:36 PM
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Try not to think about it like you're portraying sexual interest right away. Make it more about wanting to get to know these girls in a friendly manner you would when making male friends. You don't need to devote time to "hit on girls," instead make it an integral part of your daily life to talk to strangers. You shouldn't necessarily limit this advice to girls you're attracted to. It would be good practice to talk to anyone. Ask how your waiter/cashier is doing Old lady reading the newspaper on…
/r/seduction10/11/16 05:56 PM
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It is a pretty common and legitimate question, so don't just take my word for it. Check out some of the responses here if you haven't already: /r/Fitness/ /r/Fitness/ /r/AskMen/ /r/XXFitness PS: Volunteer at an animal shelter and you might be inclined to adopt one. :)
/r/seduction10/11/16 05:12 PM
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I went axe throwing last weekend and saw plenty of girls. You'd be surprised.
/r/seduction10/11/16 05:05 PM
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The gym is one of the last places I would look to meet women. Your best option is finding some clubs / events that interest you. Here are some things you can do after work or during the weekends: Yoga, pilates, crossfit, parkour, spin. (Very different atmosphere than your typical gym. Men meet a lot of women in these places) Cooking classes Dance classes (Swing, Tango, Salsa, Zumba) Art classes (painting, sculpting) Improv Volunteering (animal shelter) Lots of choices on Meetup.com Board game ca…
/r/seduction10/11/16 09:15 AM
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I wouldn't say every girl would be, but they probably would have something to distract them (mindlessly browsing Reddit). It doesn't necessarily have to be after classes end. You can make quick chit-chat in-between classes or even get to class early to meet some of the cute early birds (don't wake them up if they're napping). Don't be afraid to approach groups. If you see a girl you like with her friends, be confident and try to initiate a conversation with the group. But eventually make it clea…
/r/seduction10/11/16 08:58 AM
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When I'm at the gym I typically stare into blank space due to exhaustion. Not saying that's the case for you but it could be what you're witnessing. But you can never really tell if a girl is trying to make eye contact with you or not in almost any scenario, so it's really up to you to build up your confidence and make yourself vulnerable by putting yourself out there. You're going to get rejected most of the time (we all do), but don't let that get you down. I've had a similar experience with a…
/r/seduction10/11/16 08:45 AM
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Generally if she has earphones in she doesn't want to be disturbed (similar to someone reading a book). I would leave them alone unless they're giving you some sort of hints (strong eye contact, smiling at you). Being touched by a stranger can immediately make you look creepy. I would avoid it unless she's about to get hit by a car or something.
/r/seduction10/11/16 08:34 AM
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Absolutely! It's a roller coaster thrill. After getting used to the fear it's a lot more fun than you would have thought. :)
/r/seduction10/11/16 08:21 AM
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General consensus is that it makes you look creepy. Most people who go to the gym are not looking to socialize. Women at the gym tend to wear tight clothing and many probably assume you're only interested in her because she has nice assets. That being said. It is not entirely impossible. You might see familiar faces every week and could use that as a conversation starter. I've seen some awkward situations but YMMV.
/r/seduction10/11/16 08:17 AM
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Practice makes perfect. You’ll always miss 100% of the shots you don’t take It really depends on the girl. Being direct will work on some girls but you will find it is not very effective and some women will feel objectified/offended and think you're shallow. However, this is still better than avoiding the opportunity and later regretting it. Instead, you should try to (quickly) find some topic that you both relate to and try to get to know her as a person before you decide you like her: Seen any…
/r/seduction10/11/16 08:08 AM
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calling out from the back or side. Last night I noticed a classmate standing behind me on a crowded bus. I didn't want to startle her but I knew I would regret it if I didn't take the opportunity to get to know her. I wasn't looking to get her number, just working on initiating social interaction, and I feel like I'm getting better at it! At least she didn't steal all my money.
/r/seduction10/11/16 07:38 AM
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Be confident but not cocky. Make good body language (eye contact, posture, smile). When she is talking, actually listen to her instead of thinking up what to say next. It will eventually flow through you. Be honest, be yourself. Some topics to talk about: Family (Parents, siblings, background, where did she grow up) Occupation Recreation (Festivals, sports, activities) Dreams (Travel, career) Topics you should avoid: Weight Exes Religion Abortion Politics Economics It's normal to feel a bit nerv…
/r/seduction10/11/16 07:18 AM
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