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| 2 | Why do men and women get together?Visibility has to be the strangest thing ive ever heard considering I like keeping my shit private. What does liking to keep your stuff private have to do with anything? Are you saying you don’t share anything with anyone? Or maybe you have nothing worth sharing with anyone? Also why do you care about affirmation from other people so much, I explained that. The affirmation of your values from people who share your values is an affirmation of your values. Knowing they are worth pursuing is helpfu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/22 01:34 AM |
| 2 | Why do men and women get together?Why do men and women get together? Visibility. Basically, being chosen for your highest values for sex by someone who has also chosen your highest values and experiencing sex with them is a confirmation that you, your values are good or worthy etc. I've never been in a serious relationship myself and honestly I don't want to try. keep reading about so many horror stories of cheating, opening relationships when issues start only for things to get worse, women baby trapping men, deadbeat father's,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/22 10:52 PM |
| 3 | [deleted by user]Thanks, your comment made me realize I need to focus on shared values and being secure in the relationship. | /r/seduction | 01/11/22 06:44 AM |
| 10 | [deleted by user]Really learn and understand that healthy long term relationships are primarily based upon shared values, upon personality, not upon physical appearance. And that as long as you’re physically attractive enough to the other person, like you have a healthy sex life, then that’s fine. And then find a guy who understands that. Even beautiful women worry that a man is settling on shared values or personality. They also worry that a man is going to leave them for a younger woman when she’s older. | /r/seduction | 31/10/22 11:02 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]It depends on the context. Maybe a woman going to a particular college was as important to her as your excavation business was important to you. But, she should then be willing to have a LDR and acknowledge that you can’t see each other in person often. | /r/seduction | 31/10/22 10:47 PM |
| 6 | How do I get a idgaf attitude?Fundamentally, start enjoying life and doing what ever you reason is best for your life. There’s stuff you can learn to make that easier, but you’ll still have to do that. | /r/seduction | 24/10/22 04:27 AM |
| 2 | How do you get over feeling like you're being an ass or intrusive?If you’re just a thirsty dude unworthy of romance then you probably shouldn’t pursue romance. If you’re not willing to pursue romance because you might upset some irrational woman, then you probably shouldn’t pursue romance. Reasonable women know they are going to approached by reasonable men, particularly at conventions. That’s part of life. Basically, you get over it by pursuing women who share your values, so you’re not just looking for a warm body, and by learning from first hand observation… | /r/seduction | 23/10/22 03:08 AM |
| 3 | I don't know how to get over my fear of rejection when it comes to approaching total strangers, especially girls I'm attracted to.Why is approaching a total stranger, who you usually have pretty much no idea whether you’ll even like her, so important to your life and happiness? | /r/seduction | 19/10/22 01:03 AM |
| 4 | What is your policy on texting one night stands if you don’t intend to see them again?Seems like it would be better than ghosting, or by being honest with “hey I’m kind of repulsed by the fact that I fornicated with you while heavily intoxicated, that’s the reason why I’ll never reach out or make an effort to never see you again” like cmon man. It might be better than all of those things, but those aren’t the only alternatives. Women lie all the time, some would say all is fair in love and war This is a retarded justification for lying or doing anything. | /r/seduction | 18/10/22 06:30 PM |
| 4 | What is your policy on texting one night stands if you don’t intend to see them again?What is your policy on texting one night stands if you don’t intend to see them again? Don’t text them. Don’t ask for their number. You don’t need to ask for their number to make it not awkward. If you’re only after a one night stand, don’t ever imply otherwise from the start to the end. Pretending that you’re interested by asking for their number is worse than not asking for it. | /r/seduction | 18/10/22 05:37 PM |
| 2 | What is your policy on texting one night stands if you don’t intend to see them again?White lies are bad. They aren’t harmless. Your case is an perfect example of the harm. There are very limited circumstances when a temporary white lie is acceptable. | /r/seduction | 18/10/22 05:30 PM |
| 0 | Whats a subtle way to ask someone if they live alone or not?Why are you asking them? | /r/seduction | 12/10/22 11:42 PM |
| 3 | Does the phrase "strike while the iron is hot" applies to dating?Yes, it does. A woman who’s interested enough to go out on a date with you if you ask is normally going to be turned off if you just play pen pals with her. | /r/seduction | 16/09/22 12:07 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]That’s a different question than your original post. Rational women, which includes that they are pursuing a long term romance, are going to prefer someone who is actually good looking over not, but it’s not as important as someone’s values and virtues. | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 11:09 PM |
| 11 | [deleted by user]It depends on the woman and her dating goals. | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 04:44 PM |
| 1 | What exactly does non-neediness mean?Non-neediness vs neediness is not a good way to look at it. Basically, it means having self-esteem, it means pursuing the values you reason are best for your life and happiness in your career, the arts, hobbies/entertainment, health etc. and regarding yourself as competent at life and worthy of living for doing so. With regards to romance, it means pursuing women who share your highest values. With regards to friendships, it means being friends because they share your values. Neediness is when y… | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 12:10 AM |
| 4 | [deleted by user]Are you sex obsessed? Well it partially depends on what else you’ve got going on in your life. Besides that, it’s generally better for living to have highest or most important values for living and to pursue romance, not just sex, with women who share your highest values, not just women who are young and beautiful. | /r/seduction | 20/07/22 02:55 PM |
| 40 | PSA: Just saw a barely 6 swiping left on dudes who are like 8’s. Guys don’t put stock into dating apps.PSA: This doesn’t prove anything. Yeah, being an “8” doesn’t mean that a “6” is automatically going to swipe right on you. And yeah, you probably shouldn’t completely or primarily rely on dating apps. | /r/seduction | 17/07/22 05:55 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Your third sentence is unclear. Would you explain it more fully? Are you saying you want to move your causal relationship with the emotionally unavailable girl to an exclusive FWB relationship? But anyway, for living and achieving happiness, you need to achieve the most important values for that, which are thinking and productive work. Romance is almost as important for achieving happiness. For pursuing your most important values, it’s important to pursue a romantic relationship with someone who… | /r/seduction | 12/07/22 06:27 AM |
| 0 | What do you say when a girl asks if you hook up with a bunch of girls?Who knows and who cares? It depends. Tell her the truth, a woman is worth lying to date or have sex with her. That doesn’t mean telling her who you slept with and when. | /r/seduction | 10/07/22 08:17 PM |
| 7 | [deleted by user]The person who should keep his subjective morality to himself is you. You’re morally condemning others or imposing your morals on others according to your own subjective morality for what you yourself are doing. Learn to think better. | /r/seduction | 08/07/22 12:17 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]By picking up women, I assume you mean pursuing sex without caring about who the woman is too much as opposed to pursuing your values and pursuing women who share your most important values? Is that what you mean? | /r/seduction | 07/07/22 02:10 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]If your goal is a serious romantic relationship and you are in a such a relationship, you can improve the skills necessary for that goal. The sort of skills you’re talking about are relatively not important for that goal or might even hamper your ability to pursue it. | /r/seduction | 07/07/22 01:54 AM |
| 1 | Asking the girl the reason for her you cutting you offThere’s no harm in asking as long as you don’t obsess over getting an answer. | /r/seduction | 05/07/22 04:18 PM |
| 5 | What do you do when a woman questions your manliness?What do you do? Depends on the context. Fundamentally, I guess, you learn what masculininty is, choose to be masculine and then be certain you are masculine even if someone claims otherwise. | /r/seduction | 02/07/22 05:06 PM |
| 1 | The fatal flaw with Mark Manson's ModelsThough Manson doesn’t explain his principle very well, partially because he doesn’t have a objectively formed morality, he doesn’t advocate for absolute vulnerability regardless of context, of what you feel and why you feel it. The real point of what Mark calls being “vulnerable” is that you pursue the rational values that are objectively necessary for you to live and achieve happiness and that the opinions of jerks or “haters” don’t matter for that. Since their opinion doesn’t matter, then you … | /r/seduction | 01/07/22 11:09 PM |
| 1 | How to not be needyBeing genuinely nice and caring for people is often immoral in the way people usually mean it, but is she interested in you? It’s not necessarily the case that you’re being needy. | /r/seduction | 30/06/22 11:48 PM |
| 1 | How to not be needyBeing needy is when want something from women who aren’t worth it, who don’t share enough of your highest values. So learn to want intimacy from women who are worthy of intimacy. | /r/seduction | 30/06/22 11:36 PM |
| 1 | I hate how people believe that women hate each other, compete with each other, are catty and jealous of one and another and that their friendships are not as meaningful as male friendships.No, you shouldn’t go off what you’ve seen online. You’ve jumped to conclusions based on insufficient evidence. | /r/seduction | 28/06/22 03:27 PM |
| 1 | If you're a virgin, how do you juggle between the idea of just wanting "casual" sex (I.e. go from a first or second date right back to your place) with something more gradual?I am torn between what I want, because it seems most women today will just do any guy within the first couple of dates if there is attraction. So why would I wait? Well, it depends on what sort of woman you’re looking to have sex with. I sincerely doubt that you have the evidence to support the assertion that most women will do any guy within in two dates. Yet at the same time, I wonder if waiting, as a virgin, will make things more intimate? I don’t know what you mean by waiting. For achieving … | /r/seduction | 28/06/22 01:49 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]What I realized is that if a girl is thick and has a fat ass she's going to get hit on by A LOT of guys. I just can't compete with that. I just have a feelign that women that are thick get hit on so much that their standards likely become super high which means my chance of being with one gets lower and lower and is basically 0. You have a much better chance of changing your false view here then changing what body type you’re attracted to. Or of gaining some real self-esteem from whatever that t… | /r/seduction | 22/06/22 01:33 AM |
| 1 | Should I hide my "toxic" opinionsIt depends on your goals. | /r/seduction | 21/06/22 01:48 AM |
| 1 | how to tell if she is interested or just being friendlyYou tell if she’s interested by taking the initiative to show you’re interested, by asking her out on a date or something. You don’t have to call it a date. You can just ask her to do X with you at time Y. Or you can spend more time letting her get to know you, seeing what she thinks of you, and getting to know her as well. You can tell her you’re single and ask if she’s single. How is she supposed to know you’re interested in her? | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 01:34 AM |
| 1 | How do you physically escalate without being creepy?Well, the other guy gave some good advice. But I don’t know if you can eliminate the risk. But as long as you incrementally escalate, then if you make a mistake it won’t be too bad and you just apologize or whatever. If you don’t see yourself as a sexual being, then maybe you could use to learn that you are sexually desirable to the right woman or how to become sexually desirable to the right woman. | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 11:23 PM |
| 2 | How to spot a bad egg, before it stinks?You sound competent at spotting bad eggs. It looks like you could learn to not ignore the signs. It sounds like you could use to learn some good standards for yourself and stick to them. Lectures on Psychology: Chapter 5. Toward A Lasting Romantic Relationship, Part I by Dr. Edith Packer has some good general guidelines for romantic relationships, for growing closer together in a romance. I think couples who commit to following those together should be generally fine until they find out the othe… | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 11:00 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Are you having sex with the girl? | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 10:36 PM |
| 1 | How do you stop valuing looks too much?There’s a way. Pursuing the values you think are best for your life and happiness. Value yourself for doing so. As part of living and achieving happiness, pursue romance/sex with a woman who shares your highest values. Looks won’t be so important in comparison to your highest values. | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 04:34 AM |
| 1 | Is it me or the more you try to learn how to get women, the more difficult it gets?Nah, that probably what you’re learning is wrong or it’s wrong for you. | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 12:57 AM |
| 2 | How do you stop putting hot girls on a pedestal?Being hot is nice, but learn that a woman’s values are more important for yourself than her appearance. | /r/seduction | 18/06/22 11:31 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Why is getting a reply from some girl you don’t even know so important to you? | /r/seduction | 17/06/22 03:28 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Why is getting a reply from some girl you don’t even know so important to you? Spend time pursuing what’s more important for you to pursue your own happiness, your career, other women for romance, friendships, the arts, health, hobbies/entertainment etc. | /r/seduction | 17/06/22 03:22 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Why is getting a reply from some girl you don’t even know so important to you? Spend time pursuing what’s more important for you to pursue your own happiness, your career, other women for romance, friendships, the arts, health, hobbies/entertainment etc. | /r/seduction | 17/06/22 03:21 PM |
| 1 | How do you talk to attractive girls like normal human beings?What do you mean by talking to them like they are normal human beings? You shouldn’t really, you should talk to them like you want to get to know each other, because you do, and see if she’s worth going on a date with. | /r/seduction | 17/06/22 01:36 PM |
| 1 | Girl I hit it off with at the Bar wants to reschedule our date to 7 days from now. Should I casually text her daily, or call her a couple times until the date in order to maintain rapport? Or should I just lay back and not contact her until it's time to schedule the date?I don't know whether I should text/call her within these 7-days to maintain rapport, or just not contact her until the day I schedule the date? My fear is if I don't text/call her at all within this 7 day period is that she will forget about me or lose comfort which will make her flake. Why would you not want to get to know her a little better over the next seven days? This is because most women make decisions based on how they feel in the moment, so if I don't talk to her for a whole week she w… | /r/seduction | 16/06/22 08:42 PM |
| 1 | How do you stop putting hot girls on a pedestal?By learning from your own experience and from others that if you are pursuing a romantic relationship for yourself, that personality not looks are what’s most important for that.. | /r/seduction | 15/06/22 09:18 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]What do you mean you feel like you have to prove something? It’s masculine for men to initiate in romance. That means introducing yourself well and getting to know her, so that she can get to know you, you can get to know her and go from there. This is particularly true on dating apps where women get more matches and more messages than men. I think it’s fine to be nervous about messing up, depending on what you mean by that exactly, like being nervous about messing up in other areas you care abo… | /r/seduction | 14/06/22 09:49 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]You’re welcome. If you continue pursuing women you like and recognizing your achievements as good for doing so, you’ll get over it. Good luck. | /r/seduction | 13/06/22 08:25 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Anyway, I did it, right? Kinda? I took a step in overcoming a deep rooted, probably trauma caused fear I have. So why don't I feel any good about myself? Why don't I feel proud of taking that step? Well do you know that it’s moral, necessary for your happiness, to pursue romance for yourself? That includes developing a romantic relationship towards liking each other enough to have sex. Why do you feel self-disgust about pursuing sex with women? The only thing I can really feel is disgust towards… | /r/seduction | 13/06/22 07:55 PM |
| 1 | Need an honest opinionI’m wondering is it a problem that I have or is it just that is hard to find someone that fills the hole package. Well, it’s hard even when you’re pursuing that. But also, it doesn’t sound like you were looking which makes it harder. I might have high expectations or I dunno, but I never could date someone that I didn’t like %110. I don’t know if your expectations are unreasonably high. I’m worried that I’m an ugly person inside, to be honest. Or really shallow or something like that Well, I mea… | /r/seduction | 13/06/22 04:47 PM |
| 1 | Whats the proper response to this “how many girls do you say this to?”You met her last night, so the chances are you don’t really know her that well. You don’t know why she was asking you these questions. Maybe she has low self-esteem, so she can’t believe you’re really interested in her, so you’re like that with all the girls you meet. Or maybe you looked too smooth to her? Or maybe she was starting to like you too fast, so she was scared of your seduction skills and was wondering if you seduced girls often. Or maybe you were indicating too much liking for her gi… | /r/seduction | 13/06/22 07:18 AM |
| 2 | Whats the proper response to this “how many girls do you say this to?”Well, she was possibly asking because you were pursuing sex with her that night, which usually means you’re after sex and not her, ie her personality. So she was, in effect, asking if she was special to you or just another to add to your body count. Generally be honest somehow, women who want you to be dishonest, who don’t like you ie don’t like you for who you are, aren’t worth pursuing for your happiness. | /r/seduction | 13/06/22 06:53 AM |
| 1 | Whats the proper response to this “how many girls do you say this to?”Well, what did you say, how many girls do you say that to and what’s your dating goal? | /r/seduction | 13/06/22 06:36 AM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]Well, it’s necessary for man to pursue happiness to pursue the values he thinks are best for that, not to worry about status because it’s status. So from that perspective, no one can really know how you should best spend your money. Without thinking about it much, since I’d be buying new furnishings, then it’s probably good to buy what I like now instead of having to get rid of the old ones and buy new ones later. But maybe not. And it depends on what my housing situation and plans would be. Aft… | /r/seduction | 13/06/22 03:59 AM |
| 2 | Why do girls avoid holding eye contact even when interested?The same reason guys avoid holding eye contact in general. | /r/seduction | 13/06/22 12:13 AM |
| 75 | What’s a good response to ‘when was the last time you had sex’?That’s private. I only talk about that with the woman I’m sleeping with. Why do you ask? | /r/seduction | 12/06/22 11:41 PM |
| 1 | What is the best book on approaching women?Google up ice breakers, see which ones best fit yourself, use them as inspiration to come up with your own. Or just come up with your own based on yourself, use them and improve them. | /r/seduction | 12/06/22 08:07 PM |
| 2 | What is the best book on approaching women?What do you mean by knowing what to say exactly? | /r/seduction | 12/06/22 07:29 PM |
| 0 | [deleted by user]Well, maybe she wants to have sex with you. Or maybe she wants to make her sister jealous or destroy her sister’s relationship by having sex with you because her boyfriend is in jail or whatever. Maybe she’s jealous and insecure that her sister has a good boyfriend while she, who is hot, doesn’t. Or maybe it’s something else entirely. | /r/seduction | 12/06/22 07:22 PM |
| 4 | Please helpWhy do you want to know if she’s serious? If she only does it in front of your girlfriend, then chances are she’s not really interested in you. | /r/seduction | 12/06/22 06:08 PM |
| 2 | What comes first, chicken or the egg problem.people in general too, I know it's important to be able to talk to any and everyone Not literally for pursuing happiness, no. The problem is if I try to talk to women now I feel uninteresting and I don't even know where to begin or what to say. What are your interests? Do you do stuff you find interesting? That’s generally what you talk about. If you don’t know where to being or what to say, then spend time researching and coming up with that. Models: Attract Women Through Honesty by Mark Manson… | /r/seduction | 11/06/22 11:26 PM |
| 1 | If you're new to dating how do you get comfortable with sexual and romantic feelings?How do you get more comfortable with it though? You start doing it and get used to it. It also might be helpful to understand why you find sexual and romantics feelings uncomfortable, why you’re scared of rejection and deal with those beliefs from there depending on what they are. Models: Attract Women Through Honesty by Mark Manson is a decent book as well, that has a section on dealing with fear of rejection. | /r/seduction | 11/06/22 05:39 AM |
| 1 | Should I just give up and focus and “improve” myself or continue trying to get better at the game and going out and approachingWell, why are you approaching women? What are your dating goals? | /r/seduction | 11/06/22 02:48 AM |
| 1 | Girl acts differently when talking to meWell, it could mean a number of things. It could be that she’s putting on a front for you, she’s putting on a front for others, she’s putting on front for both you and others, she wants to act differently in romance vs than with others, she’s nervous etc. But what it really means is that it’s an interesting thing to talk to her about. | /r/seduction | 10/06/22 09:02 PM |
| 1 | How can an introverted/shy guy approach ladies?I want to have a serious relationship or at least not have to wow a girl with my money before I am able to get her attention. Same. Wowing a girl with money is not useful for pursuing happiness and a serious romance for happiness. I want to be able to approach ladies in any way environment or situation. I think that’s unhelpful for pursuing romance for several reasons. One, you’re going to have the best chances in better circumstances like on a dating app or at place where people are looking for… | /r/seduction | 10/06/22 07:55 PM |
| 1 | I get friendzoned way too much after datesYeah, like others have said, you’re approaching the women platonically and not romantically. Men are expected and properly the initiators in romance, so that means if you’re not initiating then she probably thinks you’re not really interested in her or worth her time or too inexperienced etc., so she’s probably not going to initiate body contact etc. Also, if she doesn’t know you because you don’t tell her about yourself, then she’s probably not going to start liking you. | /r/seduction | 10/06/22 07:21 PM |
| 2 | How can an introverted/shy guy approach ladies?So I am a very introverted and shy guy and I don’t know what to say to a lady to capture her attention and make her want to talk to me again. I don’t think anyone knows what to say to every stranger to capture their attention or make the stranger want to talk to them. That’s not a helpful goal for pursuing romance for yourself. It’s more helpful for yourself to focus on pursuing your values, and finding a woman who shares your values, who you admire for hers and who admires you for yours. Then y… | /r/seduction | 10/06/22 07:03 PM |
| 4 | How do you fake that you care about someone.Why not? Is it because of Asperger’s? | /r/seduction | 10/06/22 04:52 PM |
| 2 | How to lower my standards to get more experienceGood one. | /r/seduction | 10/06/22 06:43 AM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]Learn that rejection isn’t that bad, that it’s not humbling or humiliating. Part of the learning would include learning from getting rejected. Also, set yourself up for success ie approach in good conditions for you, that are not unreasonably difficult for you. Like if you don’t like dancing, loud music, alcohol, don’t go approaching women in a club. | /r/seduction | 10/06/22 06:27 AM |
| -1 | Is Learning To Pick Up Women Morally Sound?The reason I'm asking the question is originally I was reading a philosophy book and it talked about Deontology - Essentially one way to determine if something is morally okay is to say "What if everyone did this? would the world be better or worse" If the world would be worse, then it's probably immoral. Ok. For one, do you think that’s an objective approach to morality? If so, why? Two, there’s moral assumptions within the question. Would the world be better. . . better according to what moral… | /r/seduction | 09/06/22 08:21 AM |
| 1 | How does vulnerability lead to non-neediness?That’s great. Good luck. Also, you’re more likely to repel the better women, particularly the ones who are attracted to you, by not wanting intimacy and sex with them. | /r/seduction | 09/06/22 01:53 AM |
| 1 | How does vulnerability lead to non-neediness?That clears up a lot. I’m curious. What word did they use in what language? Well, it’s a concept that Mark made up in English to describe what he’s talking about, to help him explain himself. It’s not the standard meaning of the term for sure. Anyway, pursuing romance, with a woman worthy of it, is necessary for man to pursue happiness. You can’t get rid of that need and be happy. You definitely can’t get rid of that by being vulnerable. | /r/seduction | 09/06/22 01:41 AM |
| 1 | How does vulnerability lead to non-neediness?Also from Mark A needy man will be more invested in the woman he is with than in himself – he will be more concerned about her opinion, about him, about the weather, about everything other than what he actually thinks and feels. A non-needy man will be more invested in himself than the woman he’s with. By investment, I mean the degree to which you sacrifice/alter your own thoughts, feelings, and motivations for someone else. By less I mean that as a man, you should not be willing to sacrifice yo… | /r/seduction | 09/06/22 01:36 AM |
| 1 | How does vulnerability lead to non-neediness?From Mark Neediness is when a man places a higher priority on others’ perceptions of him than his perception of himself. A needy man’s actions and words will therefore be primarily motivated by impressing and winning approval from others. Non-neediness is when a man places a higher priority on his own perception of himself than the perceptions of others. A non-needy man’s actions and words will therefore be primarily motivated by embodying his own values and desires. | /r/seduction | 09/06/22 01:32 AM |
| 1 | How does vulnerability lead to non-neediness?I appreciate your response, but let me counter argue. Sure. For years I've been hearing this talk about people saying they don't need women, and are happy just seeking their own approval. Okay. Then why do you even date? Fair point. So what that can mean, in the best sense and not necessarily what they mean, is that you live, achieve happiness, gaining self-esteem primarily from yourself, through your own efforts, for yourself. You don’t need to mooch off of others to live. You don’t primarily n… | /r/seduction | 09/06/22 01:19 AM |
| 1 | How does vulnerability lead to non-neediness?If you've red his book "Models" and agree with its concepts, can you please explain how does being vulnerable reduce non-neediness? Well, the thing is that you don’t want to be “non-needy”, you want to have real self-esteem, you want to approach romance by putting yourself first or with self-esteem. You morally put yourself first, never sacrificing what’s best for your life for anyone or never putting anyone above yourself. Your primary source of happiness is from your career, romance is second … | /r/seduction | 08/06/22 10:33 PM |
| 7 | Hooked up with a girl at a club, she ghosted me, now got severe oneitisI’m not sure what you mean by being worth dating, but I’m skeptical that you could know that she was really worth dating in your brief time with her. But part of what makes someone worthy of dating is that they want to date you. She apparently doesn’t, and she’s not even willing to reply to your messages, which is another mark against her. If you like her type, then maybe pursue that more seriously in future. I missed that you’re following each other on Instagram. Maybe you can get to know each … | /r/seduction | 07/06/22 05:45 AM |
| 20 | Hooked up with a girl at a club, she ghosted me, now got severe oneitisSome people just aren’t compatible, and she still liked her ex apparently. She’s not interested in you. And, if you have self-esteem, you probably shouldn’t be pursuing her, which would mean continuing to pursue her would indicate low self-esteem/neediness and possibly correctly worsen her view of you. | /r/seduction | 07/06/22 01:28 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]You don’t have to explain to be honest. If you were rude, you could apologize and then leave it at that. Too much information isn’t good, like if some stranger comes up to you and starts talking about their deepest hopes and dreams or their mom’s death. From what you’ve said, you still have a chance. | /r/seduction | 06/06/22 09:42 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Generally I think it’s better to pursue what you want, and then you can judge how receptive she is to that from her reaction rather than trying to figure out what she wants. Since you and she don’t want a serious romance, that seems good for you two. Have fun. | /r/seduction | 06/06/22 09:25 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Well, it seems like you’re jumping to conclusions without enough evidence. She doesn’t want anything serious. What that means for her exactly depends. It sounds like she’s up for a more casual relationship. But she could reasonably change her mind in the future. Rather than thinking so much about that, I’d think about what you want from her and whether you can get that. Do you want a serious romance? A FWB? To get to know her better? Someone to have some fun dates with? | /r/seduction | 06/06/22 06:10 PM |
| 3 | How do you not be boring?Develop and pursue passions according to what you think is best, according to your independent thinking for your life and happiness. Don’t pursue stuff just so you don’t appear boring to others. | /r/seduction | 30/05/22 11:36 PM |
| 3 | [deleted by user]Google it, there’s plenty of advice on holding hands and kissing. Also, it’s fine to be awkward since you don’t have much experience. It would be a bit weirder if you’re perfectly smooth, since you have no experience. What’s more important is the act and the intention, not the lead up to it. | /r/seduction | 18/05/22 03:13 AM |
| 7 | [deleted by user]Drink tea or hot chocolate or a soda or whatever. | /r/seduction | 26/04/22 12:49 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Is that your main or only way of looking for a girlfriend? | /r/seduction | 13/04/22 04:06 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]I want a girlfriend, that's it. I don't really care for sleeping around or anything like that That’s good. I think that’s objectively moral ie necessary for man to live and pursue happiness. I read Models but to be honest it didn't really help me much, because all it said was "approach" ultimately, but I cant approach because no one ever looks interested Under what conditions are you talking about? What’s a real life, personal example? Idk, any signs of interest, eye contact with a smile, Ive le… | /r/seduction | 13/04/22 03:49 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]What can I do if I simply don't attract any women/am not attractive enough physically? What are your dating goals? You’re physically attractive enough to find a serious romance. You’re at least a decent looking guy. You could post on r/amihot or whatever and check if you want. For finding a serious romance, I’d recommend Models: Attract Women Through Honesty by Mark Manson I've thought about just going to a mall an hour or so away and trying just practicing approaching women and talking with the… | /r/seduction | 13/04/22 03:05 AM |
| 10 | [deleted by user]That might be true, but it still means you were sufficiently attractive enough for them, not that that means anything really depending on their standards. | /r/seduction | 13/04/22 02:58 AM |
| 1 | Does causal sex leave you feeling a bit empty?Ah, I see. I misunderstood you. What was your point here? https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/u080n8/does_causal_sex_leave_you_feeling_a_bit_empty/i44bnud/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&context=3 | /r/seduction | 10/04/22 05:21 PM |
| 9 | Does causal sex leave you feeling a bit empty?I think it’s hard to have pull off an FWB without it interfering with pursuing serious romance, motivation/time/baggage wise. Good luck. | /r/seduction | 10/04/22 03:59 AM |
| 21 | Does causal sex leave you feeling a bit empty?r/seduction is for dating in general, not just guys looking for casual sex. There’s not much of yourself involved in causal sex. It is like acting like a mindless, choice-less, valueless monkey doing what monkeys do. An important, or the most important, part of yourself is your important values. Having sex based on yourself, your important values, would be two individuals, as part of pursuing their happiness, choosing to pursue sex and romance with each other based on theirselves, based on their… | /r/seduction | 10/04/22 03:05 AM |
| 0 | How can I talk about my job in a more interesting way?You should talk about what you find interesting about your job. Also, you could talk about why you make spreadsheets on the job, what purpose it serves within the company. You could check out In Pursuit of Wealth: The Moral Case For Finance by Yaron Brook, which goes into why finance is necessary for man to survive as man, for man to flourish. | /r/seduction | 28/03/22 04:11 PM |
| 21 | [deleted by user]Ask the girls why they think so, it could be a number of things. | /r/seduction | 25/03/22 06:53 AM |
| 2 | How do I get this guy to like me?Go up and talk to him, possibly about your shared interests. It is odd ie its something people usually do if they like the other person or want to be friends with them or get to know them. Read Models: Attract Women Through Honesty by Mark Manson. You can apply some of the same things that guys use to initiate a relationship with women. | /r/seduction | 25/03/22 12:14 AM |
| 2 | losing hope...I heard a female pua say that if you're shy or socially inept then dating apps are your friends. So I downloaded the main ones. Tinder, bumble, hinge, okcupid. I got 0 matches on all of them. The only likes I get are from obese women or gay dudes. Well, I don’t really know how helpful that is for pursuing romance. I’d say apps are always a supplement even if you’re currently shy or socially inept. Also, your profile could be bad for you. How are your friendships going? But, basically, you should… | /r/seduction | 21/03/22 04:58 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Sounds creepy, depending on how much effort it took for you to find her Instagram. You’re probably better off just going back on the same day. | /r/seduction | 21/03/22 04:50 AM |
| 5 | [deleted by user]Meet friends and women while pursuing your values ie your career, hobbies, new friends etc. If you like playing soccer, then find a mixed gender soccer group on the meet-up app or whatever. | /r/seduction | 21/03/22 04:39 AM |
| 2 | Malcolm X's view on relationships between Men and WomenThe thing with women and lying is that they lie in an interesting way. They don't lie directly, they twist the truth just enough so it isn't the truth, but it isn't a lie anymore either. "I didn't lie, I just didn't tell the whole truth." Her is an example, I once asked a girl how many guys she'd had sex with before me. She said she had been with 5, ok whatever right? However, it later turned out that she was only counting the guys she'd seriously dated and not one night stands, see what I mean … | /r/seduction | 06/03/22 08:53 PM |
| 1 | Malcolm X's view on relationships between Men and WomenFurthermore, at one point in the book Malcolm X explains that you should never ask a woman about the other men she is dating or has dated. She will either lie, which will make you unsure when you can trust her again. Or she will tell you the truth which will just make you insecure. If she lies, then you’ll know that about her which is good for evaluating her. Why would the truth make necessarily make you insecure? It won’t, particularly if you have proper self-esteem. That’s not to say you shoul… | /r/seduction | 06/03/22 08:30 PM |
| 1 | Some serious question..I don’t think your numbers are right. And you’re definitely not right about the more reasonable men. But, when it comes to biological differences between men and women without factoring in the choices men and women can make, men are more in control of achieving their pleasure during sex than women and more in control of not being raped, assaulted or impregnated. This makes it easier for a man to approach a women than vice versa, which means a man needs less of a reason to approach than a woman. … | /r/seduction | 04/03/22 02:36 AM |
| 1 | Black pill = bull shitNo, it’s not all about looks. Serious romance is primarily about your central purpose. It’s only necessary that you be sufficiently physically attracted to your lover. But people can be attracted to all sorts of things based on their chosen values, like there was one girl I talked to who was attracted to fatter guys because she thought that pursuing women while fat was a sign of confidence and self-acceptance or something. For example, my sister is considered to be a 9-8/10 and she fell in love … | /r/seduction | 04/03/22 02:17 AM |
| 2 | Missed opportunityModels: Attract Women Through Honesty by Mark Manson | /r/seduction | 04/03/22 01:58 AM |
| 4 | [deleted by user]It’s hard to say whether your comment was appropriate for you, since only you were there and since I don’t know you. If she was willing to hug you while in swimsuits, she laughed, she texted, she didn’t block your number and she was willing to meet you later, then probably not. Thanks, but I may have cock blocked myself with a completely unnecessary comment…we’ll see though Well, I think the issue is that her suggestion was the better one for individuals who have rational self-esteem, from succe… | /r/seduction | 03/03/22 08:54 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]You could try it and find out. But it might not help you find women who share your values, since you don’t drink, go to bars or clubs. You don’t need to drink to learn not to overthink and learn how to talk to women. You could check out Models: Attract Women Through Honesty by Mark Manson | /r/seduction | 02/03/22 08:58 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]I think I put the looks on the pedastool not even thinking she could be a shitty person. Yeah. Or not even thinking whether she’s fun to be around, like I’m sure you know guys that aren’t fun to hang out with even if they aren’t horrible. I have struggled most of my life feeling connection amd when I have really gotten feelings or feel that connection, I have been friendzoned so I stopped making that mistake of expressing feelings. Well was it expressing feelings that was the problem? Or maybe i… | /r/seduction | 01/03/22 06:06 AM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]For achieving the important values that are necessary for you to flourish as a human being, I’d recommend moving to trying to date women who you’re currently attracted to who share your important values. Whenever I am around an attractive girl I blank. So when you’re around an attractive girl, you’d know what to do generally. The goal would be to have fun pursuing her and find out if she’s worth continuing to pursue by getting to know her, including introducing yourself to her and eventually see… | /r/seduction | 28/02/22 06:03 AM |
| 2 | I Struggle with meaningful connectionsDon’t start meaningful conversations to leave a woman wanting more. Figure out what’s valuable to your life, talk about that with women you’re interested in and find out whether she has similar values. | /r/seduction | 28/02/22 03:54 AM |
| 3 | I I think I’m too nice and it may have gotten me in trouble. Like actual trouble. Please be carefulI don’t go to clubs or spend time with those who do, but I imagine rational guys in a club who talk to women are usually looking for women who they are romantically interested in, which includes returned interest, and do not not waste their time with women who are not interested. I imagine women expect guys who approach them to be sexually interested in them, so a guy who seems interested even when they don’t display interest is usually a red flag. It’s important to keep in mind the difference i… | /r/seduction | 26/02/22 10:36 AM |
| 17 | I I think I’m too nice and it may have gotten me in trouble. Like actual trouble. Please be carefulWhat you were doing wasn’t that bad, it only looked bad, so there’s no reason to feel that bad. The issue is that what you were doing, from what I can understand, is irrational for most people who are pursuing their happiness in a club, so you might of looked like you were pursuing some creepy, irrational goal. | /r/seduction | 26/02/22 09:47 AM |
| 57 | I I think I’m too nice and it may have gotten me in trouble. Like actual trouble. Please be carefulIt doesn’t sound like you got reported for helping those two girls find their friend though. They didn’t have time to report you 10 steps after you separated from them at the bathroom. | /r/seduction | 26/02/22 09:11 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]You can only make frequent eye contact with them if they are frequently looking at you back. It’s one way two people can tell if they’re interested in each other, if they find that they’re looking at each other often. | /r/seduction | 26/02/22 04:09 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]How can you tell they want to talk to you but don’t because they’re too shy? I can understand preferring guys that make the first move, but shyness is generally detrimental for pursuing your values and there’s plenty of time for that later in a relationship. Why don’t you want to make the first move? What counts as making the first move? You could go sit nearer to them, make eye contact often and smile, give a small wave. | /r/seduction | 26/02/22 02:17 AM |
| 2 | My curse is that I love women too much - how to manage?Learn to love women who share values that are more important to you than women for living and pursuing happiness. Then your life will revolve around your values even when you find find women like that. | /r/seduction | 25/02/22 06:23 AM |
| 1 | Skinny due to distance runningHow much will this hurt my ability to attract woman? It won’t hurt your ability to attract the better women for romance for you significantly. How do overcome these insecurities? Base your self-worth for romance on more important things. | /r/seduction | 23/02/22 09:34 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]If your goal is to date girls, then set up a quick date. Tell her about what you like about yourself. Ask her about what you like about her, what you’d like to know about her. Models: Attract Women Through Honesty by Mark Manson | /r/seduction | 23/02/22 09:22 AM |
| 1 | Different love languages: What would you do if one of your love languages is giving gifts and your hypothetical person doesn't have the same love languages?Maybe it’s doomed, it depends on whether her other qualities outweighs the incompatibility. | /r/seduction | 20/02/22 09:15 AM |
| 25 | Do you think women give men bad dating advice on purpose?I don’t know how often women tend to give terrible advice, but no I don’t think it’s typically intentional. Men give other men bad dating advice all the time. Women do not have first-hand experience of seducing women. Individuals have different preferences and different romance goals, so what works for one doesn’t work for another. What individuals are attracted to sometimes conflicts what they believe is moral for them. Sometimes they will be flirty but I don't reciprocate as it seems like some… | /r/seduction | 20/02/22 09:12 AM |
| 1 | I'm convinced that women have a 6th senseHmm, they still don’t sound great for pursuing happiness to me, but you’d have to explain you meant by them more. My core values for happiness as a human being? Well two of them are rationality and justice, justice being trying to objectively to judge others and treat them as they deserve. But, those are general values for humans in general, not what’s particular to me as an individual. Like, you want a woman to be honest and not cheat on you, but you can’t fall in love with a woman for that. As… | /r/seduction | 20/02/22 03:44 AM |
| 1 | Managing multiple casual relationshipsIt's a bit silly to start deleting your apps and chats just because you are in the early stages of a fling! If you’re in the early stages of a relationship, before you’ve decided that she’s good enough for you for an exclusive romance, then I don’t see a problem dating other women if they are good enough as long as you’re living a full life (career, friendships, health, hobbies, art/entertainment etc.) and it doesn’t interfere too much with that. Though, once it becomes apparent that a woman isn… | /r/seduction | 20/02/22 02:45 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]I’m sorry for the position you’re in, that sounds awful. I’m sure your doctor has told you about these, but just in case. I don’t know much about them besides that they exist. https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/penile-implants/about/pac-20384916 I feel like my problem goes well beyond words I say, or the way I behave. I’m sure your view of your problem affects the way you behave, your body language, your tone of voice, your actions etc. I'm at the point now I literally just feel like te… | /r/seduction | 20/02/22 02:22 AM |
| 1 | I'm convinced that women have a 6th senseI'd say my core values are genuine open mindedness and empathy Those sounds like horrible core values for living and pursuing happiness, that would necessarily make you desperate for women, would turn away the better women and possibly contribute to the fact that you’re not attracted to more women. What do you mean by them? In the meantime though I seem to push women away when I show interest. I wouldn’t be surprised depending on what you mean by your core values. | /r/seduction | 18/02/22 08:56 AM |
| 1 | I'm convinced that women have a 6th senseSince I'll always feel some level of need and desperation internally when I'm interested in someone, what are a few things I can do to make sure I'm not communicating this? Learn how to successfully pursue happiness independently enough that any new potential woman is an addition to your happiness, not an absolute necessity for it. For pursuing your highest values for happiness, pursue a woman to the extent that she shares your highest values. That is, look for a lover who admires your highest v… | /r/seduction | 18/02/22 08:19 AM |
| 3 | Should you juggle multiple girls?The obvious answer is Yes. The better answer for pursuing flourishing is that it depends. Everyone dreams of having 6+ hotties rotating once or twice a week and this is definitely feasible, I've seen it done. No, not everyone. And no, it’s not feasible for pursuing your flourishing. I try to balance going all in but being left high and dry if it falls through vs keep juggling and stay emotionally unavailable but this makes a relationship more unlikely. It sounds to me like you’re trying to balan… | /r/seduction | 17/02/22 04:06 AM |
| 1 | So a girl at my local Wendy’s played me when I asked for her number. Then after not paying her no mind for a few weeks, she give me her number in a receipt. WHAT?!?Based on the limited and given evidence, I think it’s plausible. If you have more conflicting evidence, then I’ll take that into consideration. | /r/seduction | 16/02/22 11:24 PM |
| 1 | Why would she give me her number and not reply :/Why would that be needy? The fact that your and their schedule isn’t always free isn’t going to ever change no matter when you make the plans. The point of not being needy is that you have a full life pursuing the values necessary for happiness, and you evaluate a woman properly within the hierarchy of those values or of your life, not exchanging values that should be more important to you for pursuing happiness than her for her sake. Like, honesty or your career should be more important to you … | /r/seduction | 16/02/22 08:08 PM |
| 1 | Why would she give me her number and not reply :/I don’t do cold approaches. But you could have made a plan then and there. I think it’s a good idea to have some go to date options like you have for your opener. | /r/seduction | 16/02/22 06:52 PM |
| 1 | Bisexual women how to handle them?There’s a few options, but I don’t think it’s better to stop to try to get her to show interest. Playing games isn’t good. For sensible people, they lose interest in you when you lose interest in them. | /r/seduction | 16/02/22 06:38 AM |
| 6 | Bisexual women how to handle them?If you’re spending time with her to have sex or pursue romance, then stop. You’re barking up the wrong tree. | /r/seduction | 16/02/22 05:58 AM |
| 13 | So a girl at my local Wendy’s played me when I asked for her number. Then after not paying her no mind for a few weeks, she give me her number in a receipt. WHAT?!?Sounds perfectly understandable on her part. What reason did she have to give you her number when you asked for it during work at a fast food joint? None I imagine. After seeing you for a few weeks and thinking about it, she decided to take the risk. If you’re really not interested, then just tell her and move on. | /r/seduction | 16/02/22 05:22 AM |
| 1 | Why would she give me her number and not reply :/I just got started with this cold approach stuff, like I stated earlier its difficult for me to form connections and dont seek them actively at least not for now. I see. Well then, I think you can consider your cold approach with the woman from your post mostly a success then, except for the lying. You’re not really looking for connections and the best women aren’t going to sleep with a guy without having a good connection, so it’s fine if she doesn’t respond to your text. Im still getting over … | /r/seduction | 16/02/22 05:01 AM |
| 1 | Why would she give me her number and not reply :/Well, I personally am a very troubled individual and have confidence issues, I’m sorry to hear that. I’m sure you can figure out how to make your life better. I do my best to not get attached to anyone and avoid connections (not that Ive had any in my 20 years). So no, nothing besides her looks made me ask her out on a date, and nothing besides the other girls looks make me ask them out on a date because I seek nothing but sex. From the evidence I’ve seen, I don’t think that’s what leads to the … | /r/seduction | 16/02/22 04:54 AM |
| 2 | Why would she give me her number and not reply :/The reason I lied was because If I said the truth she would have thought “oh im just another girl that hes trying to bang” seems like a turnoff dont tou rhink? Well, she could have easily known that you were lying. So now you’re a lying guy looking for just another woman to bang. And not only did you lie, you lied after you got her number and she said she was willing to go out on a date. You said that you were just looking for sex, so it’s better to be honest about your intentions, that way a wo… | /r/seduction | 16/02/22 04:42 AM |
| 2 | Why would she give me her number and not reply :/Also, If you knew you do cold approaches often and she asks if you do, would you lie? No, I wouldn’t. Honesty is more important to me for pursuing romance for my happiness than lying for the sake of a woman. Also, either I wouldn’t have anything to be ashamed about for doing it often, so I’d tell the truth. Or, I should have something to be ashamed about, in which case I shouldn’t be doing it. Also, if the relationship continues, she’s going to find out that I lied and that I was willing to lie … | /r/seduction | 16/02/22 04:33 AM |
| 2 | Why would she give me her number and not reply :/Well I made it clear that I approached her because of her looks, can’t think of a way of approaching girls and not making it about her looks. I don’t think there’s necessarily anything wrong with approaching a woman because of her looks. My question was whether there was anything else besides her looks that made you ask her out on a date? That’s the sort of thing that I think it’s good to know before going on a date with a woman. | /r/seduction | 16/02/22 04:30 AM |
| 5 | Why would she give me her number and not reply :/Why would she give me her number and not reply :/ She’s not that interested in you. A bit of small talk ensued, I asked her what she was doing in Mexico etc Did you really establish that she was really worth your time to ask out on date during your small talk? If not and I was her, I’d think the reason you were asking me was because of my looks ie we didn’t establish a good enough connection. I then said I had to go but asked if she had a boyfriend, to which she replied no, I said “well since yo… | /r/seduction | 16/02/22 04:17 AM |
| 1 | Im driving to library with a girl who could be interested in me, what do I do?How long are two going to be driving together? | /r/seduction | 16/02/22 12:18 AM |
| 1 | Can't attract high level girlsSo you don’t recommend “the virtue of selfishness by ayn rand“? It has some interesting topic in it, but if you already read it and don’t recommend I may trust you. Read whichever you think is best. I was just recommending the other one first, but it’s up to you and you know yourself best. I currently don’t have friends that can help me meeting women and it’s gonna be a long road for achieving that , so I wouldn’t count it as a short term solution. Well, as long as you have friends that’s fine I… | /r/seduction | 15/02/22 08:46 PM |
| 1 | Can't attract high level girlsThe book you have quoted is quite interesting, I may buy it. I’d recommend trying a free sample from Amazon or something of The Fountainhead by Ayn Rand, the non-fiction is fairly abstract while the fiction shows you a dramatized example of what she’s talking about. Btw yes, currently I have low motivation for self improvement . That’s unfortunate, for me that’s usual when I have issues with my goals, with the goals themselves or with the means of achieving them. Different methods like what? Ig,… | /r/seduction | 15/02/22 05:02 PM |
| 1 | Is game supposed to feel so exhausting?Yeah I agree, but it still feels like the road to meeting a woman like that has a thousand trapdoors - you may not get the chance to connect with them that deeply because they've already passed on you since you sent too many messages in a row or they misinterpreted one of your comments or something. I think the issue might you’re too focused on what you think you shouldn’t do and not on what you should do. The issue with the “too many messages” is that you’re valuing a woman higher than you shou… | /r/seduction | 15/02/22 04:20 PM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]By showing them your important, serious, positive values and by pursuing them seriously. | /r/seduction | 15/02/22 02:08 AM |
| 1 | Can't attract high level girlsAn individual at an objectively high level for living and pursuing happiness pursues the values necessary for that and focuses most of his efforts on improving his thinking and his productive work, keeping in mind that improving your productive work includes developing a career you’re passionate about and not just making more money. With regards to romance for happiness, that means pursuing a lover who shares your highest values for happiness. For a male in romance, I think that generally means … | /r/seduction | 15/02/22 01:48 AM |
| 1 | Is game supposed to feel so exhausting?Is there any way to make it feel less frustrating? Well what’s your life goal and romantic goal? Pursuing a lover who shares your highest values as part of pursuing happiness isn’t supposed to be exhausting or frustrating. If it is, then you could be doing something better. What are you doing? Issue is everyone has way different preferences and senses of humor and expectations, so it's not even obvious how they're going to respond. For pursuing happiness, it’s necessary for you to figure out the… | /r/seduction | 14/02/22 07:43 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]I might have an idea. I’d recommend considering choosing to put your life or your happiness first, to use your reason to identify what values are necessary for you to pursue happiness, what methods are necessary for to obtain them and do it. With regards to self-esteem, that means successfully pursuing values for happiness and recognizing that you’re both capable of living/achieving happiness and you’re worthy to or you deserve to. With regards to romance, that means pursuing a lover who shares … | /r/seduction | 11/02/22 04:06 PM |
| 2 | Another date ruined because I keep going to boring conversation on the first date.There’s nothing wrong with choosing very attractive women, but physical attractiveness on it’s own isn’t sufficient for a romantic relationship as you’ve found out. For pursuing romance for pursuing happiness, it’s necessary to choose women who share your highest values. | /r/seduction | 10/02/22 06:07 AM |
| 3 | Another date ruined because I keep going to boring conversation on the first date.Try Models: Attract Women Through Honesty by Mark Manson for advice on developing stories to tell during dating. Also, you might not be picking suitable women for yourself well through online dating. Maybe try meeting women through your career or hobbies. | /r/seduction | 10/02/22 05:50 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]She pulled back, so I also pulled back as recourse. But now we're in this constant battle of who is going to put in more effort. I don’t know how she pulled back, but she could have reasonably pulled back because you claim you made a dumb mistake and it’s perfectly reasonable to be less interested in someone then, so if you’re interested in her then you make up for your mistake somehow, not show less interest. When you showed less interest, then she’d lose interest further because not only did y… | /r/seduction | 10/02/22 02:41 AM |
| 2 | Caring about not caringHard disagree. | /r/seduction | 09/02/22 11:35 PM |
| 3 | Caring about not caringYou don’t want to move from caring about what others think or about outcomes, to not caring about them. For living the best life, it’s good to follow what you think is best, which includes caring about what the best people think, best according to your thinking. And it’s good to pick outcomes that you think are best to achieve for living the best life and care about those. This applies to romance as well, where you care about lovers and romantic outcomes that you judge are the best for living th… | /r/seduction | 09/02/22 11:12 PM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]Pursue romance by meeting women through your hobbies and work, so you’re guaranteed to have some shared values and also you benefit by doing your hobby and work and by possibly meeting friends as well. Also, the most important part for romance is your chosen values and virtues, not your unchosen physical appearance. You gain self-esteem or self-confidence from knowing you’re worthy of love because of those, which also required first hand experience in romance. You only need to be sufficiently ph… | /r/seduction | 09/02/22 03:26 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]No, you shouldn’t tell someone for those reasons. But for pursuing a romantic relationship, it’s relevant when both of you are ready for sex. | /r/seduction | 08/02/22 07:28 PM |
| 3 | A girl I’m seeing always moves the time of the date, is it some kind of pyschological trick?If you two like each other, then just ask her why she always changes the time. If changing the time an hour later isn’t good for you then just say so or if it’s better for the date to start at 8 then say so. Edit: Or you could ask her the next time she wants to change the time why she wants to change it. What’s a manipulation tactic is to insist that the date start at a particular time because you want her to go by your schedule and not because it’s important for the date to start at that time, … | /r/seduction | 08/02/22 04:35 PM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]That’s evidence that she should have said something earlier and not waited until you were in the middle of sex. | /r/seduction | 08/02/22 04:31 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Depends on what your and her relationship goals are, if you and her are looking for a serious romance for pursuing happiness, then I’d say you probably should, especially since your virginity is mostly likely not going to be a deal breaker in that context. I can’t really think of a relationship goal where not telling her would be a good idea, unless you were in a situation where you two unexpectedly decided to have sex and saying anything would mean breaking the flow. Though, I don’t know if tha… | /r/seduction | 08/02/22 04:29 PM |
| 1 | How can I escalate on this girl when giving her a massage?Why do you think trying to spontaneously kiss her during a massage is a good idea? It sounds like a terrible idea for pursuing romance to me. The only way I can see that would work for pursuing romance would be if you were certain that she wanted you to kiss her in that moment. Otherwise, it’s going to be such an unexpected shift that she’d rightly be upset with you even if she would have wanted to kiss you during the appropriate moment. Why are you waiting for the next massage? If you like her,… | /r/seduction | 08/02/22 04:18 PM |
| 9 | How can you tell the difference between friendliness and attraction?Sending pictures of yourself while working out might be the problem. | /r/seduction | 04/06/21 05:20 PM |
| 2 | How can you tell the difference between friendliness and attraction?How were you escalating such that you freaked them out? | /r/seduction | 04/06/21 05:03 PM |
| 5 | How can you tell the difference between friendliness and attraction?It’s an easy mistake to make. Different women show attraction in different ways, so what could be signs of attraction for one could be signs of friendliness for others. Also, maybe the woman might not be sure and is acting inconsistently. But it sounds like you’re too worried about rejection. For asking a woman you’re superficially interested in out on a date, or flirting with her or getting to know her, there’s no need to worry about telling the difference between friendliness and attraction in… | /r/seduction | 04/06/21 05:01 PM |
| 3 | What to do when two girls give you their numbers at the same time?Why do you prefer one over the other? But what were you thinking sounds fine. | /r/seduction | 04/06/21 03:05 PM |
| 2 | Need advice on how to stop being jealous of other dudesWell, your romance goals from what I can tell seem irrational for pursuing your own happiness in the long term. You sound desperate for sex and the attention of the other sex when it’s better for happiness over the long run to be focused on using your own reason to determine and be the sort of man you want to be and also to determine and pursue the sort of woman that’s worthy of you and that you’re worthy of. Whether another guy is successful with a woman you’re currently interested in is essent… | /r/seduction | 04/06/21 01:33 AM |
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