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If I may become prescriptive (which I'd like to try to avoid), I don't know that he's a good friend for you.
/r/seduction28/12/13 05:30 AM
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Just because you tell him doesn't mean he's changed his mind.
/r/seduction28/12/13 05:11 AM
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This might come as a shock to you, but he's just some guy trying to date you. To you, he's your best friend.
/r/seduction28/12/13 04:58 AM
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It's the way you're looking, not the amount. You're not looking because you're challenging them to a staring contest. You're looking because you're a confident man who looks where he pleases.
/r/seduction03/12/13 12:07 AM
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Do you know which guides/which sections? Thanks for your helpful post
/r/seduction03/12/13 12:06 AM
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Meditate. Honestly. This is the way I see it: There are 3 levels of consciousness for the person who reverts back to habits around people: Deep meditation. Actively applying your good habits Being around people and forgetting what you learned in Step 2. You need to practice getting from Step 2 back to Step 1 in order to bring yourself from a 3 to a 2 consciously.
/r/seduction03/12/13 12:00 AM
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This is the best thing I've ever read on this subreddit
/r/seduction02/12/13 11:55 PM
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I used to get "Why are you looking at me like that?" a lot, and not in a good way. The weirdest thing for me about getting over this hurdle was realizing that just because someone else starts to look embarassed doesn't mean you are. Also be mindful of whether or not your stare is making them blush or making them stifle a cringe and quickly look away. If you feel yourself slide into the "making them blush" area, you're doing it right. There may be a better way to explain it. But first, know that …
/r/seduction02/12/13 11:28 PM
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Honestly I'd turn and hug him and be happy to see him, then pull away from it and introduce him. That way you're unphased, and it all looked natural to everyone around.
/r/seduction30/11/13 05:23 AM
2

bonus points for melee weapon
/r/seduction24/09/13 03:48 AM
2

Can you post the entire text conversation?
/r/seduction24/09/13 03:27 AM
2

Smoking a lot of it makes you lazy, unambitious & boring. I don't think there's an exception. It makes you think you're doing okay with weed, but you don't notice how badly it's affecting you until you stop. It makes you feel anxious when you're not high if you smoke a lot. But then when you cut it out completely you feel twice as you good all the time. Source: Spent two months straight stoned
/r/seduction24/09/13 03:22 AM
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What are you doing with your time that you can't cut something out to work out and talk to girls? I don't think time is your issue.
/r/seduction24/09/13 03:19 AM
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Great post. I'd like to add a couple links that go along with what you're saying. Here's a post by Ryan Holiday about how to digest books way above your level: http://www.ryanholiday.net/read-to-lead-how-to-digest-books-above-your-level/ I highly recommend reading his blog posts about keeping a Commonplace Book as well. It applies to game, or whatever your craft is, or just self-improvement and becoming a man. And then this link. It's a talk done by some chick at an Entrepreneur conference of so…
/r/seduction23/09/13 02:40 AM
1

To be outcome independent and to let your intentions to be known at the same time is to ask for a phone number, then smile and say "Well, nice talking to you anyway" when she doesn't give it to you. You weren't hinging your sense of self on whether she gave you the number or not.
/r/seduction20/07/13 04:49 AM
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One lesson with a good teacher at $90/hr will teach you more than 6 lessons at $60/hr. Just focusing on relaxing your muscles throughout the day. Spine straight, relax everything else. Jaw, eyebrows, cheeks, neck, pecs, shoulders, legs, hands, fingers, etc. Do a full body scan. If you can name a muscle group, you can relax it.
/r/seduction12/05/13 01:32 AM
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i think he was being sarcastic
/r/seduction12/05/13 01:21 AM
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Help those who want help. Helping those who don't want help is just preaching. Also be ready to move on from friends that aren't helping you grow.
/r/seduction12/05/13 01:20 AM
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Go take some vocal lessons. Singing lessons changed my life. People listen to me more. I've released a lot of tension in my jaw & face that I didn't know was there.
/r/seduction12/05/13 12:41 AM
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Pickup is not practice. It is your life now. All those things you're learning how to do when picking up a girl? Do them always. Never turn off. You've taught yourself who you need to be. Now working on being that person always. It shouldn't be a front "until you like a girl". It is your new personality. Any time your old personality is shining through, you are losing your diligence. If you don't want to be someone else, think of this: Does a snake miss its old skin?
/r/seduction12/05/13 12:39 AM
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you ever heard of running drills for sports games? having rehearsals for a band? war games in the army? this shit is so that you have a perfect & controlled ideal, and when the shit hits the fan you're operating at 80%. 80% of perfect is way better than 80% of whatever your body language is right now.
/r/seduction12/05/13 12:37 AM
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or carpet. i mean a gentle toss, not a fastball. fuck. the goal is to throw it so that it sails through the air & lands safely and she goes "WHAT ARE YOU DOING" and you go "haha! you're all mine now" edit: it helps if you're charming
/r/seduction12/05/13 12:26 AM
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rule #1 about Seddit is don't listen to anything you read in Seddit. not unless it resounds with you and you test it. if you are being genuine & loving it, they're going to be genuine & love it. unless they're not into that sort of thing. women are WOMEN. there are no blanket rules. I like when girls lick my asshole. Am I going to write a thread saying "girls, definitely lick a guy's asshole on a first date"? FUCK NO.
/r/seduction12/05/13 12:24 AM
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Put your arms under hers in the hug. Then pick her up.
/r/seduction10/05/13 03:36 AM
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I normally take their phone from them gently, and then throw it across the room in a way that will scare them but not harm the phone. Make it playful. You'll have to find your own solution though, this is just what works for who I am.
/r/seduction10/05/13 03:34 AM
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Religion is following rules, spirituality is surveying all the teachings and finding your own path to enlightenment, through whichever teachings you find to resonate most. You must always question every teacher, and always question your own views. MPUA's are there to wake guys up from thinking they can never get girls. It's still important to wake up from taking everything MPUA's say as law. You will never surpass anybody else's understanding of a topic if you only learn it from other people & d…
/r/seduction09/05/13 03:42 PM
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The key is focus. You don't need to be doing 20 things to be an interesting person. You need to have one or two hobbies, and work. Don't look for free/cheap hobbies, look for a hobby you will love, and find a way to make it work. Don't accept mediocrity in your life. Do everything to stand out, but don't lose yourself as a person. Read a book called "The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle. Don't accept that your degree offers few job prospects - just work on what you can do to find a job. You don't …
/r/seduction09/05/13 03:33 PM
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quit being a keyboard jockey. go make 3 approaches today. no excuses, no expectations. You can walk up to a girl and say "Hi, I like your glasses" and then leave. Just talk to 3 women you don't already know and try to leave the conversation so that they're happier than they were before they met you.
/r/seduction09/05/13 03:28 PM
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The key is how you say "Thanks." Look directly in their eyes, give a big smile, and say "Thank you" with the most genuine gratitude you can muster. It helps if you practice regular genuine gratitude in your life. Don't act as though as stranger just complimented you and you're both just moving on. Act as though she just started a conversation with you and that you're going to contribute something awesome to the conversation. Hold her gaze, hold her attention, stay relaxed.
/r/seduction09/05/13 03:25 PM
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"Hey, I can still move my hips!" is seeking her approval. Don't act like you're seeking her approval. Act like she's seeking yours, and that she has a reason to earn it.
/r/seduction09/05/13 05:39 AM
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Once you move to where you think there is no scarcity, you will come up with new excuses to fill the void of the problems you just solved. The area of scarcity isn't the problem, because this perceived outside scarcity is still in your head. The quicker you accept that, the quicker you can work on the root problems. Perhaps there are other things you can fix in the area. Or perhaps you can move to the city. Everything you perceive as a problem in your life, change it. Once you change the problem…
/r/seduction09/05/13 05:35 AM
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This is like learning to play guitar to get girls. I play guitar & sing but don't ride a bike. If I got a motorcycle just for pickup (and not because I love to ride) it would seem like I got a motorcycle to get girls. It has to be for the love of the thing itself. I'm sure rock climbing/photography/cars/poetry are similar things. I've read poems to girls before, but not because I got into poems for girls. It's not about a sexy object or hobby, it's about the passion for a sexy object or hobby. I…
/r/seduction09/05/13 05:25 AM
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these examples are VERY GOOD and I would like to see a few more if possible
/r/seduction09/05/13 05:18 AM
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Deadpan or smiling? Tough choice
/r/seduction09/05/13 05:17 AM
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One thing that he isn't doing that you might be: making excuses.
/r/seduction09/05/13 05:01 AM
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He just needs female friends to understand the female perspective. Not for pivots
/r/seduction19/02/13 04:07 PM
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Interesting. Moral of the story, everything I'm saying is just my taste. Thanks
/r/seduction19/02/13 03:48 PM
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Vulgar is good - yeah. I guess I should have specified a bit more. Never be vulgar when you're unsure of whether or not he wants to fuck you already. Same as for guys to girls. It is still creepy on the other end. To have a girl you don't want to fuck come on to you & tell you that you should fuck her until she squirts sucks. So much.
/r/seduction19/02/13 05:38 AM
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Yes, you can't shake someone's hand and then go "I can tell by your handshake that you're good in bed. Come back to my place right now. There's a cab waiting." No matter how sexy you are, you must always take it slowly there. But too slowly is unattractive too. Balance, balance, balance.
/r/seduction18/02/13 09:53 PM
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hahahahahaha that goes against everything this subreddit is
/r/seduction18/02/13 06:38 PM
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NEVER BE VULGAR fuck. But don't be shy either. Be sexy and confident without being so forward that you scare him off. Experiment until you find the middle ground. Once was sitting on a bed [her bed] with a girl listening to music, just chatting. We hadn't kissed yet. She looked at me and said, "So, do you want to fuck?" I think I said "I did.. but not when you say it like that." Don't tell him that you want him to fuck his face until you.. oh my god. I can't imagine hearing that from a girl I wa…
/r/seduction18/02/13 06:36 PM
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Work out, dress well, eat well, do your hair, do your makeup. All men are appearance-based. The ones who aren't are the ones you're going to think are slobs. It's not about making yourself look nice for others. Men are interested in a woman who wants to look nice for herself. Just like women are interested in a man who likes to take care of himself. Anyway, as long as you're (impeccably) well-groomed and stylish, your attitude is most important. Find the version of yourself that is sexy, classy,…
/r/seduction18/02/13 06:33 PM
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has worked to my satisfaction in the past. but I normally didn't go for pictures, it was always leading up to an invitation to my place. no emoticon's normally best imo. But "you should see how hard i am" is a risky one unless you're sure the girl is into you & ready for that.
/r/seduction18/02/13 06:29 PM
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Some people are analytical learners. I'm more audio/kinetic so if I try to put it into words, all the magic disappears. If I think in feelings, I learn.
/r/seduction18/02/13 06:28 PM
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But also, don't give up on girls who don't fuck on the first date. These girls are the golden ones, in my experience. Or at least, the ones who have "a rule" that you can convince them to break.
/r/seduction18/02/13 06:26 PM
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Call her up. No expectations. Go say "hey". I was in the same boat, it was like: "This girl really loves me. She must be a needy clinger. I could raise my social value by having an abundance of women, etc etc etc." Bullshit. If she's wonderful, tell her. I know that's cheesy shit you're gonna hear from Facebook reposts by that lame girl from high school, but.. It's true. If you genuinely appreciate something in your life, give it that gratitude. Nothing bad can come from you calling this girl an…
/r/seduction18/02/13 06:25 PM
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They only need names until you know what it feels like. Then why are you even giving it a name? It's like music theory. You don't need to know what the chord is called once you can hear the interactions with the other notes. Joni Mitchell didn't even know what the chords were called. I guess that's why they call it "playing it by ear"
/r/seduction18/02/13 06:21 PM
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You can probably figure em out. Don't even worry about it. Wear sweet sunglasses
/r/seduction18/02/13 06:19 PM
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You're awesome this is great I like you. This gives me faith in humanity. Haha. I guess I just don't like the internet because it's a lot harder to make the people I don't like go away. In real life it's easier to do this with tone of voice, body langue & just plain getting outta there. On Reddit if someone I don't like responds to everything, I get notifications. I can choose not to read the response but it's just harder. I've been cutting down on internet & it's been beneficial. But that's jus…
/r/seduction18/02/13 06:19 PM
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does :S really work after "you should see how hard i am" ? I've never tried, just seems like an odd one to me. I normally opt for winkie or just plain smiley. Or no emoticon.
/r/seduction18/02/13 05:18 AM
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I must have mistyped. I mean not being able to get K-closes with other girls because I'm in a monogamous relationship with someone.
/r/seduction18/02/13 05:17 AM
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never send first. most girls receive way too many pictures of cocks to want to receive an unsolicited one.
/r/seduction18/02/13 04:20 AM
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no.
/r/seduction18/02/13 04:20 AM
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Maybe when they say "face" they actually mean "facial expression". Do you have tension in your face muscles? Work it out.
/r/seduction18/02/13 04:03 AM
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You can be your version of good and be attractive. If you haven't figured attractive out, maybe it's because you still believe it isn't possible. How many people ran the four-minute mile the year after the other guy did it? They found out it was physically possible, and started doing it. I know tons of programmers who get laid. Or at least, guys who aren't gangsters, swagfags, d-bags, frat boys, party boys, etc. Nothing wrong with a party boy anyway. Moderation is key to everything. "Party" just…
/r/seduction18/02/13 04:01 AM
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Yes, of course. I do this for my friends. I will always do this for my friends. But for strangers who are fighting themselves against improvement, it's a lot harder. It's harder to stay motivated when I want my life to be something that isn't a professional dating coach. In the end it's about focus. It's hard to even bother to come back to try to spread something positive when everything I say is countered with "That's not how it works" or even flame-comments. I just can't stand the social dynam…
/r/seduction18/02/13 03:59 AM
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srsly?
/r/seduction18/02/13 01:53 AM
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So go on campus. Never too old..
/r/seduction18/02/13 01:53 AM
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dope. this guy gets it.
/r/seduction18/02/13 01:52 AM
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Nah man. I respect what's going on.
/r/seduction18/02/13 01:52 AM
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You can understand why & reinforce your own positive without having a community to tell you why this is right. You can learn more from social situations than you ever will from analyzing social situations.
/r/seduction18/02/13 01:51 AM
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Clearly you weren't reading anything I wrote then, and you only picked what you thought applied to you. Find the magic in the rest of the words, my friend. Most girls complain about how there's no good guys out there - how they're all douchebags, how they're all two-faced or stupid or whatever. You're none of those things, so they're yours for the taking if you step up to the plate.
/r/seduction18/02/13 01:50 AM
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A lot of people in the community throw that stuff around like it's gospel though too. Either way, having a healthy relationship rules. So I owe you all my thanks.
/r/seduction18/02/13 01:49 AM
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Yeah, even with no material. A guy could open 15 sets with no material and no over-thinking and realize that he can just.. get girls. If he just has to say "Hello" and then try to figure out how to keep her interested in him from then on, he might be good enough at everything but approach anxiety. You're right - I think the monogamous relationship thing is a bit outdated too, but my girl's into it and I'm willing to bend on that to keep someone I love. The "one-itis" thing isn't a drag if you kn…
/r/seduction17/02/13 08:04 AM
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THIS THIS THIS This translates to your whole life. I've noticed the divide in art students vs. professional artists, aspiring actors vs. movie stars, underground hipster bands vs. rock stars. You can't try to bring your friends with you. They're gonna hate you for improving. Drop them if they start hating you - it's not your fault they're jealous. You don't have to tell them this, you don't have to confront them. Just realize that you've graduated and they haven't. It's not your job to make them…
/r/seduction17/02/13 07:08 AM
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Don't worry about why you're not into them, think about what girls feel like when you show too much interest. Then don't show too much interest, and get hotter girls who aren't as interested in you.
/r/seduction17/02/13 02:19 AM
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get some other girl's number
/r/seduction13/01/13 06:46 AM
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I don't think this is gonna work. Check out Jack White in interviews. I think he's someone who used to over-laugh but has started to control it. He just does his best to go back to a straight face, but he doesn't really manage to control his joy. It's infectious.
/r/seduction13/01/13 06:40 AM
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Nah, I mean actors in real life. And while there's nothing wrong with Strauss - much respect to the dude - he's not a person I would want to emulate in terms of fashion. Especially if you're looking for a manly style.
/r/seduction13/01/13 06:36 AM
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Have received some PM's about this too. Everyone: go to a guided meditation. Find a buddhist centre. You needn't convert, you needn't change your lifestyle, you needn't compromise your religion at all. They will just get you used to the concept of meditation. You can meditate to anything - it's just a simple concept of focusing on your breathing and pushing all other thoughts out. Then you focus on one concept while you meditate - this could be just the general feeling of love or peace, etc. I m…
/r/seduction11/01/13 09:06 PM
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Yes. But have you seen Sean Connery, James Dean, Johnny Depp, Brad Pitt, etc etc etc? Why would you want to emulate a man's idol rather than a woman's fantasy? Neil Strauss is not a woman's fantasy. You think he's sexy as hell because he's worked his ass off on pickup. Women don't think he's sexy as hell until they're talking to him. He's a "There's just something about him.." guy. If you want to be an "Oh my god, I wanna talk to that guy" guy, you've gotta man up. EDIT: That being said, nothing…
/r/seduction11/01/13 08:30 PM
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If you have trouble meditating, it means you can't focus. If you can't focus, you need to meditate to improve your focus. In other words, if you're bad at meditating, you need it most.
/r/seduction11/01/13 08:29 PM
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Also meditate. Everyone should meditate. Everyone.
/r/seduction11/01/13 08:15 PM
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Don't let yourself ever not be smooth. Focus on this 100% of the time. Every second you spend not trying to be smooth is a second wasted. Every time you're not consciously acting sexy, you are practicing & reinforcing being unsexy. So.. try harder. Focus.
/r/seduction11/01/13 08:14 PM
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MFA is not going to make you dress more manly. Seddit needs to realize this. MFA is going to make you dress like a pansy metro-boy. Find men that you think are a paradigm of a real man, and copy their style. Read manly fashion magazines. MFA will teach you how to dress very well, but like a man who gets mistaken for being gay a lot. That won't help.
/r/seduction11/01/13 08:13 PM
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Act like all the girls you interact with are trying to pick you up, and that you're casually and politely playing with them while saying no. But let them sway you. You have to find subtlety in this. And go after the girls you really want.
/r/seduction11/01/13 08:10 PM
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Don't put on obviously sexy music. She'll think you're being a cheeseball and trying to woo her. Just put on a playlist that is "what I had on before I went out", but structure the playlist so that it goes from normal stuff (I dunno, throw some Weezer & Neil Young or whatever in there) to stuff that's more sexy. Name the playlist "chillout" or something. AFC Adam has a dope video about this. Think it's on one of his 21 conference videos. Then gradually go deeper. My favourite sexy albums (most g…
/r/seduction11/01/13 08:09 PM
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Nothing in particular - she just did everything wrong. It was so awkward. When I didn't want to have sex with her she almost started crying. I showed up with the intention of doing so, but she ruined it along the way.
/r/seduction11/01/13 03:46 PM
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Don't be afraid to be too enthusiastic. Also, you don't need links or suggestions to tell you how to do it, just look at great storytellers and copy them. Figure out what they're doing (in terms of pacing, descriptions, anything you can think of) and think of a way you can apply it to how you speak without being too out of character. You'll have to go a little outside your comfort zone because you have no idea. Look for tension & release points in the story. The point where everyone hearing the …
/r/seduction11/01/13 07:13 AM
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"So where did your parents go to college?" "Harvard" "Ohhh, my parents went to Cornell. I've been told that children of Cornell alumni are really great at eating pussy. No, but seriously. I'm really good at eating pussy."
/r/seduction11/01/13 07:08 AM
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If an ugly girl or a socially awkward girl or a girl with horrible breath came up to me and said that, I wouldn't respond positively. If she seemed like she probably gets around a lot & might have an STD, I wouldn't respond positively. You're picturing a beautiful, skinny, well-dressed woman coming up to you and saying this, no doubt. Add 20lbs to the girl you were picturing, take off her makeup, dress her like a slob and take away her manners. Do you still wish that chick was coming up to you a…
/r/seduction11/01/13 07:06 AM
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PRETEND your confidence. Think "How would a movie-star confident version of me act?" Then PRETEND you're already that guy. You don't have to agree with it on the inside, just put a lot of focus into making it into a believable performance. Soon it will just start to happen by accident because you'll talk yourself into those mindsets. Same goes for being fun, being sexy, being strong - these are things you have to figure out. Just think of the most authentic way you could bring these feelings to …
/r/seduction11/01/13 06:55 AM
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Had the worst female experience of my life on the weekend. As in the "Oh fuck, get your shoes on and get out before she crazies-out on you." If you think something isn't going along in a sexy way, don't act like it's not sexy. Pretend that everything's fine and the mood is still there. Genuinely allow yourself to feel this. Don't joke too much about sexual things - if you can't say them outright, it means you're probably embarassed by them. This doesn't mean saying "Wanna fuck?" in the least sex…
/r/seduction11/01/13 06:52 AM
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Who cares? Just set your sights. Anything can/should trigger this desire for change.
/r/seduction10/01/13 08:03 AM
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This is great. If you're watching this, make sure to pay attention to his body movements, his tone of voice, his general demeanour. This man commands the room. Relaxed eyelids, relaxed jaw, relaxed (but completely perfect) posture. He moves slowly. He's not worried that nobody's listening - he comfortably knows that everyone is hanging off every word. Acting like everyone's listening has a funny way of making everyone listen to you. This guy's not over the top - he's a very real version of himse…
/r/seduction09/01/13 05:59 PM
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Yeah.. incognito mode. The only thing I'm worried about with girls and my computer is them finding Seddit. Haha
/r/seduction09/01/13 05:45 PM
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Two days ago.
/r/seduction09/01/13 05:43 PM
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Get out of the house. Turn your computer off, get dressed up the best you can with your current wardrobe, and walk outside. Then figure out what's going to happen next. Do this every day.
/r/seduction09/01/13 05:41 PM
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Yeah, the proof is in the pudding. If you're bagging hot girls through your own method, you know what you're doing. Anyone who says anything else is just jealous & self-conscious about how they can't get hot girls while using all these "foolproof" methods.
/r/seduction09/01/13 05:39 PM
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Don't be that guy unless you want to be the guy she goes to for advice. If you're cool with that, do it. If you want her to want you, just let her cry about it and don't try to fix anything. Just make her feel good. She can fix her own problems. If she can't, she's got tons of girlfriends to call otherwise.
/r/seduction09/01/13 01:25 AM
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Be who you want to be. If you want to be an effeminate dude, there's ways to do it in a sexy way. Don't say girly shit that. I wouldn't say stuff like "aww that's so cute" if you want to be perceived as a manly man. If you're cool with being metro, act metro. If you're not, constantly ask yourself if your actions are manly or effeminate. Brainstorm yourself into a manly mindset if that's where you want to be. Don't be her gay friend. Don't let her have you there for that. If you want to be the a…
/r/seduction09/01/13 01:22 AM
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GET A FUCKING SOCIAL LIFE Don't act like you don't need to change in order to find a girl that you're satisfied with. If you're not with a girl you're satisfied with, you still have room for improvement in your life. Don't pull out the "I'm an introvert" bullshit. You should still try to form a little circle of people that you have mutually beneficial relationships with. If you can't give value to friends, how do you expect to give value to a girl? You're just gonna leech off her and she's gonna…
/r/seduction09/01/13 01:18 AM
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Only if you see your thoughts as pervy. If you frame it in an endearing, mutually beneficial sexual way, then you're just turning her on. You've just gotta play with it and figure out where the line is.
/r/seduction08/01/13 06:30 AM
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what
/r/seduction08/01/13 06:23 AM
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You can only practice being social by being social. Walk around your neighbourhood and give people empty compliments "Love your coat!", "Nice shoes!", "Cool sunglasses, man!" and keep walking. Be genuine. Or ask them for the time, where a good restaurant is nearby, etc. If it develops into a conversation, let it. If it doesn't, keep walking. Or call some people.
/r/seduction07/01/13 06:07 PM
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This is great. I'm going to have to get a copy of that book.
/r/seduction07/01/13 05:56 PM
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Don't be the fat kid that jumps in the pool with his t-shirt on. Let the shirt come off when it's time.
/r/seduction07/01/13 02:40 PM
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this. Small boobs are okay, self-consciousness about how small your boobs are fucking sucks. Same is transferable to guys.
/r/seduction07/01/13 02:39 PM
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Your mindset IS the only thing. It is literally the only thing stopping you from getting girls. Adapt the mindset that fits you that gets girls, and you win. Picture a man who has the sexiest, most attractive, most desirable, rich, wonderful attitude. Then spend every moment of every day trying to act like the man you pictured, not the man you are.
/r/seduction07/01/13 04:24 AM
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Stop making it about revenge. Revenge is for boys. If she's not good for your life, let her have a happy life without you. That's mutually beneficial. Men don't make other people hurt just because they can't have something they want.
/r/seduction07/01/13 03:35 AM
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Or bring it into her world. Compare what you do with computers to something to do with what you do. Start with "You know when you're with a guy, and then.." Fill the middle in with an emotional situation involving the senses, getting her gripped into the story, talking about sexy stuff, then say "... That's what I do with computers." If you're in networking, this is pretty easy. Networking is about connections. Sex is about connections. Bring what you do to relate to her. All girls care about se…
/r/seduction07/01/13 12:16 AM
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Stop thinking about books and start thinking about yourself. What can you do to improve your life? Action alone, not absorption, will help. Even if it's "Get a gym membership." Don't read a book about going to the gym - get off your ass and walk to the gym. Kill your excuses as they come up. Don't have gym shorts? Buy gym shorts. Don't know how to work the machines? Ask someone when you're there. Research is going to kill you in this game.
/r/seduction07/01/13 12:07 AM
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Don't try to be like the guy who is more fun - you'll just be pretending. Try to find the version of yourself that's more fun. Ask yourself what a more fun version of you would do. Therefore this is advice you can't get from the community. Find more shit you like, get more interested in it, be more enthusiastic about everything. But don't be fake enthusiastic - that's tiring.
/r/seduction06/01/13 11:55 PM
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Don't get back with your fucking ex. This is rule #1 of being alive. I just broke it a few months ago, and we just broke up again. She is your ex for a reason. There are 5 million other girls to hit on. Go hit on them
/r/seduction06/01/13 11:52 PM
1

The biggest lesson that you learn from a LTR is that every single day is another set. You can show much more interest than you could with a stranger, but you still have to be ready to do all the other things you did that intially attracted her.
/r/seduction02/01/13 03:12 PM
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this. People on this sub overthink shit too much. Sometimes the thing that turns a girl on the most is when you're real with her. Of course, if you don't actually miss her you've gotta be a bit sly. Don't turn on the coy too much. Girls know when you're doing that, especially with something like this that is so obviously not a shit test.
/r/seduction30/12/12 02:21 PM
1

I think the opposite - if she can't find time with you because she has an awesome life, chances are she'd be more fun to be around than the gal sitting around with her cats.
/r/seduction17/12/12 05:52 AM
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Fucking this. Sounds like #2 hasn't happened yet for OP. You work at the mall that's swarming with hot women? Great. So does the guy with the greasy face that runs the frier at A&W.
/r/seduction14/12/12 02:11 AM
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make it as dope as you can. be confident about it. If you're confident and act like you have reasons to be there, it'll be fine. If you wuss out on it you'll just seem like a wuss. Tell her you're saving the difference in rent to buy a rocket ship (or something true that you're actually putting your money towards that is interesting) If you have an issue with it yourself, move. If you can fix your psychological blocks about your life, you'll have an easier time getting the things you want. Other…
/r/seduction09/12/12 05:13 AM
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I don't have one. I think it was at the 21 conference? Or whatever. Watch all his conference speeches. If you don't find it, you win cause you just got hours of the best info on pickup. If you do find it, you win too.
/r/seduction09/12/12 05:12 AM
1

I read "The Game" when I was 15 or 16. I don't think it's gonna hurt. Just ask yourself "Is that going to make me somebody I want to be?"
/r/seduction09/12/12 04:49 AM
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I'm music so I know how you guys feel. QUIT the fucking financial nobody thoughts. If you have the attitude that you can't work harder to get money, you might as well get out of seduction too. It's the same "I'll never be good at pickup, I don't drive a nice car/have a big dick/come from money/have a degree." FUCK THAT. Are there rich writers in the world? Fuck yes. JK Rowling? First writer to become a billionaire. Look at Steven King, look at Brian Lee O'Malley, look at Neil Gaiman. There are t…
/r/seduction09/12/12 04:39 AM
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ingrown hairs. yep. dope.
/r/seduction29/11/12 04:49 AM
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Still a jerk response. "No" would have sufficed.
/r/seduction28/11/12 03:47 PM
1

"How's your day going?" said with genuine interest and a real smile/eye contact will work wonders. They might only say "Good, how about yours?", but this gives you a chance to say "Awesome! I'm still buzzing from the concert/art gallery/rock climbing/skydiving/[other interesting thing you should be doing]" I did last night. If you make an effort to make your life interesting, you can casually drop little conversation crumbs that will lead the person to go "Oh, cool! What concert?/Rock climbing?/…
/r/seduction27/11/12 07:57 PM
2

do more. don't stop. keep trying. baby steps. keep having friendly encounters until it clicks that you can make them romantic.
/r/seduction27/11/12 07:53 PM
1

I'm a pussy! Self-diagnosed. Original post null & void because you already know what your problem is. So cut your problem and bring some girls home. You're giving up before you even started running the race.
/r/seduction27/11/12 07:51 PM
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"I still have a year left at home until I'm done with my degree." If you say this with a smile, conviction, good body language & eye contact, any girl who's already into you will be even more into you. I respect girls who live at home with their parents because they realize it's a good financial decision. Girls worth talking to will respect this also. You aren't looking for a long-term relationship with a girl who makes dumb financial decisions for the sake of image, are you? Own it. Own your de…
/r/seduction27/11/12 07:48 PM
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Don't read anything else about making out. What's posted in the comments & DiCarlo's ladder are MORE than enough. Now you have to go out and make out with a bunch of girls. Pay attention to them, pay attention to what they like and don't like. THEN you'll be a better kisser. The only way to get better at kissing, sex, and social situations in general is by practicing them. Your first few times kissing a girl are going to be awful. If she's a better kisser than you, she'll guide you along. If you…
/r/seduction27/11/12 07:46 PM
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Kind of a prick turning around and giving the finger to some guy chilling out on the beach, haha. A lot of people overthink everything. Or ask for permission or advice. Don't do that, look at yourself and think of the best way you can do it and start doing it. There's always a step you can be taking.
/r/seduction27/11/12 07:42 PM
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in the middle of a herpes scare. going to the doc tomorrow. fuck. wish me luck
/r/seduction26/11/12 03:33 AM
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Who cares if anyone has any interest in it? If you're into the idea, start doing it. Stop looking for confirmation from other for YOUR actions. This is your first step in the transformation from AFC to PUA. Stop thinking about doing things, and start doing things without thinking about how it could go wrong. Realize that everything you're asking in this post is looking for approval from others.
/r/seduction26/11/12 02:20 AM
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You get way more shit done when you're single. Girls know this.
/r/seduction18/11/12 06:06 AM
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I can't tell if this is perfectly executed sarcasm or not. Anyway, I don't know how to fix this problem. Stop acting boyfriend-y. Don't buy them shit, don't take them out. Make it clear that you just want one thing from them, and it's totally okay if they just want that from you too. Don't judge them as if they're being a slut if they're okay with just having sex. Maybe you're scaring away the girls who are DTF by thinking that all girls who are DTF are either sluts or girlfriend material. I hav…
/r/seduction18/11/12 06:05 AM
1

If someone's cooler than you and you feel awkward, you're making it awkward. If you're cooler than them and you feel awkward, they're making it awkward.
/r/seduction15/11/12 05:50 AM
1

Can I use this, and enunciate all the slashes out loud? "Excuse me, slash hey, slash hi: I would regret it all day slash week slash month slash year if I didn't stop and talk to you."
/r/seduction13/11/12 01:48 PM
2

Yeah, don't do it.
/r/seduction13/11/12 01:37 PM
1

I've been desperately trying to scrawl it on the inside of my skull since I came to the realization.
/r/seduction09/11/12 04:53 AM
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Don't ask about it on Seddit. Sit down and think about what you wanna do. Then write down some steps about how to do it easily. Then go do it. EDIT: Have you ever considered that you're actually just lazy and aren't doing anything to change it? I hadn't considered this for a while - but I realized it a couple of months ago... and then started doing shit. Don't ask yourself what you want to do, ask yourself what you SHOULD do. Then ignore all the fuckin' excuses. EDIT2: As for burnout, that's pro…
/r/seduction09/11/12 02:51 AM
2

Coffee shop. I worked at a large chain and this is where most of my conversation skills come from.
/r/seduction09/11/12 02:46 AM
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Think of it this way: If I were a girl (or even now, being a guy for that matter) and you had the balls to approach me in a wheelchair, I'd be talking all day to my friends about how fuckin' big your cojones are. As long as you keep your confidence together, you've got a leg up (no pun intended) on all the competition. Mild confidence + a wheelchair = seemingly outward insanely overwhelming super-confidence.
/r/seduction07/11/12 04:16 PM
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no dude you have to give him $5
/r/seduction07/11/12 04:10 PM
1

Can you elaborate on the second-last paragraph? When you stopped teahing/writing your results got better? Do you have an explanation as to why this might be? Would it be beneficial for guys who are finding a sticking point in their game to just stop thinking about it and go out and forget PU for a while?
/r/seduction07/11/12 03:48 PM
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This is life-changing sort of advice when it comes to listening to a PUA coach. 90% of other coaches would say, "Bro, you've got one-itis. Go fuck ten other women." Until this point I hadn't realized that PUA thinking might have made me a bit less emotional/ready for a stable attachment.
/r/seduction07/11/12 03:45 PM
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I think Reddit has a very negative group of people on it, drawn back for validation via upvotes. There is a distinct lack of self-confidence and willingness to learn overshadowing the site as a whole. Seddit is slightly better than the outside subs, but not a whole lot. What forum should I be going to instead? I go to Seddit cause it's the easiest/best layout of what I've seen. I'm starting to get really tired of the threads though. I've found about 3 threads in the past month valuable to me.
/r/seduction07/11/12 03:34 PM
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This is the kind of comic that you can tell the author is kind of talking about himself in such a way that it just gets right to the core of you and you go, "wait.. is that me?"
/r/seduction07/11/12 02:33 AM
5

this comic makes me so deeply sad
/r/seduction06/11/12 09:36 PM
5

When I started out I was over-negging because I've just.. always done that to everyone. To the point that I'd get girls interested in me, then not be able to show any serious interest back. I still have a bit of trouble qualifying well.
/r/seduction06/11/12 09:29 PM
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I was thinking about this kinda thing today. A girl's running late for coming over. She said she'd be here "early in the morning". No word from her otherwise, and I was gonna just stay here and wait but then I realized: I have shit to do with my life. Any time a girl is flaking/no-showing/ignoring a text, just go on with your life and do what you were going to do if she didn't exist. If you've already put the hook out, either she'll respond or she won't. You don't go fishing by jumping in and fo…
/r/seduction06/11/12 04:10 PM
2

Yeah: The idea of day game is to be "Oh my god, I met this great guy in the most magical and bizarre way", not "Oh my god, that creeper would not back off."
/r/seduction06/11/12 06:43 AM
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upvote for "shrinkzoned"
/r/seduction06/11/12 03:48 AM
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sounds like she was just straight
/r/seduction06/11/12 03:20 AM
1

Yeah. I've heard it said that 9's and 10's are way way friendlier when being approached than 6's or 7's, simply because they've been approached since they were teenagers. They've become used to being polite and friendly to strangers who are interested in them, even if the approach is bad.
/r/seduction05/11/12 08:12 PM
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hahahahaha
/r/seduction05/11/12 08:11 PM
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This is all very well, but day game is more about practicing to be that guy that girls go to their friends and go, "Oh my god, you won't believe what happened to me at the coffee shop earlier. I met this guy.." We're not trying to be that creepy dude that walks up and goes, "Hey sugar! What's your number? Give me your number!" If we're an interesting person who has plenty to contribute to your life, there is no issue in starting a conversation with a random woman on the street. Yes she looks int…
/r/seduction05/11/12 08:10 PM
2

I believe this is called "floorcest", and is inadvisable in a college situation.
/r/seduction05/11/12 06:45 AM
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Good job. Upvoted just for the video.
/r/seduction05/11/12 06:43 AM
2

Get a simple spaghetti carbonara recipe from the internet. It's classy, tasty & easy. Serve with white wine.
/r/seduction05/11/12 06:41 AM
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Certain guided meditations will tell you to clear your mind, let all thoughts float away/wash over you in a wave of relaxation, focus on your breathing, etc. After this they usually go into some stuff about imagining an incredible vast empty space - neither black nor white, just nothingness - or concentrating on the idea of world peace, or universal love, etc. I've started meditating so I push away all thoughts that are non-musical. I suppose you could apply this to pushing away all other though…
/r/seduction04/11/12 05:05 AM
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"Practice talking about yourself in an interesting way. Talk about your passions and in particular how they make you feel. For example, I like to ski, but instead of just sharing that fact I talk about the feeling I get of being "in the zone" when I'm tearing up a run. I use that to transition to asking her if she has anything that makes her feel that way." Absolutely key. Solid advice.
/r/seduction03/11/12 11:17 PM
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This is something that comes with that ever-elusive "calibration". The more time you spend interacting with people and consciously searching for ways to improve, the less you'll be stubborn and the more you'll be assertive.
/r/seduction03/11/12 02:58 PM
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I've had pretty wild ADD for as long as I can remember, but my mom never believed that it was the type of thing that should be medicated. I don't know why they don't prescribe meditation instead of ritalyn.
/r/seduction03/11/12 02:49 PM
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Yes. This. I thought this was new age hullaballoo until I started meditating to music, and then meditating to other concepts as well. It just helps you train your brain to focus on one thing better.
/r/seduction03/11/12 06:10 AM
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Awesome. I'm still waiting on my first cougar F-close.
/r/seduction03/11/12 06:07 AM
3

thumbs up for this one
/r/seduction03/11/12 05:57 AM
2

It wouldn't be a validation of your ego if a better you wouldn't have an ego to validate. Thinking of the "better you" on the fly in every situation eliminates the need for you to backwards rationalize your logic as to why it's better. The constant question of "Would an improved version of me do X or Y?" will turn you into the person you want to be, not the person you don't want to be. It's just about removing all fluff (and, more dangerously, conflicting advice) from the concept of self-improve…
/r/seduction03/11/12 05:39 AM
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I want to see this. As for Rules of the Game. I didn't do it. If you think it will help you, do it. What have you got to lose? Spend a month doing it. It's just a month. It could be nothing, or it could change your life. If you've tried all of it before, don't do it. If you haven't, might as well.
/r/seduction01/11/12 06:51 AM
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For me? Fat girls, bad teeth, bad skin, obnoxious behaviour, extreme unintelligence. All fixable stuff. But that's me. I haven't spent any time learning how to seduce men, I've only spent time learning how to seduce women.
/r/seduction01/11/12 06:29 AM
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Coming from a gay perspective or a girl perspective? I have no experience with this. Hit the gym, care about your appearance a lot. Make sure your makeup is nice and subtle, and that you look all good. For me, I'm not attracted to hot girls, I'm attracted to girls who take care of themselves. Or at least, when I reject kino, it's because a girl doesn't take care of themselves enough. If a girl is slightly unattractive but very well put together, I'll go along with it. I can't think of ways to ma…
/r/seduction01/11/12 06:19 AM
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Exactly. You'd have to fuck up royally. And if that's the worst that can happen and you aren't scared, you have nothing to worry about.
/r/seduction01/11/12 06:16 AM
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Sad thing is, I know friends can grow apart if one becomes very successful and the other becomes jealous. I know that successful friends can become assholes in some situations, but I don't think that will happen. It is more likely that jealousy will snuff these sorts of friendships.
/r/seduction01/11/12 06:15 AM
2

Beautiful.
/r/seduction01/11/12 05:47 AM
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Listen to this guy. Accept what he's saying. Read it over and over until you don't question it any more. It won't hurt you to accept this advice as the gospel truth.
/r/seduction01/11/12 05:43 AM
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Yep. As a guy who has good facial structure/features, I can tell you that I used to be way more of a chode than I am. If you're needy/AFC but good-looking and in relatively good shape, you're gonna get laid less than the fat, ugly (but well-groomed) guy with game.
/r/seduction01/11/12 05:41 AM
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The people who would argue that it's easier for a woman to meet guys is probably a woman who has a hard time meeting guys, or a guy who has trouble getting a woman to admit that she's looking to meet men (i.e. she's not interested in *him)
/r/seduction01/11/12 05:35 AM
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No, this post was very helpful. Not rambling drunk at all. I'm just going through some huge changes in my mindset on these things.
/r/seduction01/11/12 05:31 AM
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And if you do, the worst that can happen is you get punched in the face. ...and then you have a cool story. (- Mystery)
/r/seduction01/11/12 05:17 AM
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Because it's an alpha thing to do to be calm and unaffected. It's an intensely attractive feminine thing to do to submit to the strong man and let him take care of you. Probably evolutionary.
/r/seduction01/11/12 05:16 AM
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Yep. The amount of guys I know that were amazing at 15 that are exactly the same now as they were at 14 - it's mind-blowing. I guess this applies to game. All my friends who think PUA/self-improvement is sleazy are at the same level with women as they were before, whereas I'm making leaps and bounds. Not that that's everything, but the mindset translates.
/r/seduction01/11/12 05:13 AM
1

A really fuckin' big, noisy, "oh my god what did you eat" kinda shit.
/r/seduction01/11/12 04:50 AM
1

the fuck? I've read this before and it's horrible and deeply disturbing (but what I expected from Palahniuk), but has nothing to do with AA.
/r/seduction31/10/12 07:24 PM
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Either way, it doesn't sound good. Try twice in the moment. Don't go back to the same girl and keep trying to seduce her again. Who cares, move on. Make more approaches.
/r/seduction31/10/12 06:58 AM
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relevant username
/r/seduction31/10/12 06:31 AM
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If she told you to back off, she's not into the way you're doing things. Make some approaches on other women. You need more time practicing. Just make smalltalk and eye contact with a couple of girls tomorrow. No pressure. Ask them where the nearest Starbucks is. Then ask if that one's any good. Then get out of there. Whatever.
/r/seduction31/10/12 06:30 AM
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Picture them taking a shit.
/r/seduction31/10/12 05:44 AM
1

hahahaha what that doesn't make any sense. I dunno man. Doesn't matter to me though.
/r/seduction31/10/12 05:30 AM
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This isn't working for me. It won't scroll down.
/r/seduction31/10/12 05:18 AM
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If you have to ask, it's always one-itis. And if it is, move along.
/r/seduction31/10/12 05:10 AM
1

First rule of the game: always assume attraction. Assume she's into you. If she says no to something, try one more time (in an easy-going and non-creepy way), then back off.
/r/seduction31/10/12 04:59 AM
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STOP EVEN THINKING ABOUT THE SIZE IT DOESNT FUCKING MATTER Your dick isn't two inches. She's not going to drool over you for your penis size, but she isn't going to turn you away either. She IS however going to drool over your charming personality, your wonderful taste in just about everything, your social finesse, your sense of humour, how well-groomed and fit your keep yourself, and HOW YOU TREAT HER. She doesn't give a good goddamn about your dick bro. I've had ex-girlfriends cheat on me with…
/r/seduction31/10/12 04:51 AM
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This is weird to me because I'm around 7" and very seldom get girls talking about me being well-endowed. Only usually long-term girlfriends, and never really out of the blue.
/r/seduction31/10/12 04:50 AM
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Stop watching porn. The size doesn't really matter. If you're a turbo-seducer (you're not yet, you won't be soon, and it will only come with tiny changes and lots of hard work), she'll be into you regardless. Make sure to watch this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j72PZY_rzU4 Stop being scared of sex. You're just being scared of the unknown. If the girl doesn't enjoy herself, who cares? NEXT. You're a noobie, and you're getting practice so that when you find the girl you love, you've had lots of…
/r/seduction31/10/12 04:45 AM
1

I find the best thing for me to is to treat girls like they're my friend's girlfriends. My friend's girlfriends always seem so into me. I don't have any sisters.
/r/seduction30/10/12 11:07 PM
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Don't worry about your attractions with women. There are a few hundred million that speak your language that you will be attracted to. Baby steps. There is no process to getting out of the friendzone. I've heard so many stories of guys being friendzoned, then learning some pickup and going back to the old friend having them cry out for their attention - sexual and otherwise.
/r/seduction30/10/12 11:05 PM
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I generally try to discuss sexuality with any girl I'm interested in. Not in a direct, creepy way, but just to show that I'm sexual and that I'm interested and that I'm comfortable with being open. It sets the frame for her to be open too, and to know that I won't think she's a slut if she has sex with me immediately. I wouldn't have told her I wasn't going to text her either. But great job!
/r/seduction30/10/12 04:04 AM
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"giving away your value" If "giving away your value" is showing that you're low value, you need to just working on raising your self-perception of your value. Showing her your value should be demonstrating how cool you are. It's not something you should be afraid of because you'll lower your value.
/r/seduction30/10/12 12:45 AM
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The ED is probably just cause you've been building up to this for a year. I'm in Toronto too, btw.
/r/seduction30/10/12 12:07 AM
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If you believe your shortness makes you unattractive, you're gonna act unattractive and then girls are gonna think you're unattractive. Tom Cruise is only 5'7". Not that he's the paragon of human attraction, but this is in your head. It's your belief that short people are unattractive to women that's making you unattractive. Sure, tall people are attractive to women. But so are rich guys. I'm poor as hell and I'm getting girls at least weekly.
/r/seduction29/10/12 11:47 PM
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http://www.fidelity.com/inside-fidelity/individual-investing/fidelity-2012-millionaire-outlook As wealthy as Mitt Romney? Look at Richard Branson. Have you heard of Virgin? Yeah. Branson started his first company while he was in boarding school and conducted business calls from the payphone down the street. You have a limiting belief.
/r/seduction29/10/12 11:45 PM
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If a girl ever rejects you for a kiss, laugh, look away, and go back to what you were doing before. Then if she asks you why you're laughing just say genuinely, "You're funny" or "Nothing." I've had success with a makeout on the dancefloor after two or three sentences before. You've just gotta get more practice and you'll get used to it. Keep doing what you're doing, but observe more. Look for signals that she is ready to kiss you, and signals that she isn't. I honestly usually just wait for ano…
/r/seduction29/10/12 03:47 AM
3

Yes.
/r/seduction29/10/12 03:21 AM
1

You've got a negative state of mind about yourself, and I can tell from one internet post. Girls can probably tell this right off the bat. You are NOT going to be a superpimp overnight. Keep your chin up, keep being happy with what you've got, develop a grateful mindset, and make tiny improvements EVERY DAMN DAY.
/r/seduction29/10/12 03:00 AM
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Awesome. Glad to see you took some advice and made some progress. To grow for next time, you might want to try just complimenting ten women. Practice a clear voice & nice (non-creepy, smiling, friendly) eye contact. Just walk up to them and say "Hey I really love those shoes/your haircut/your outfit." The goal here is not to build attraction, but just to get you approaching. A girl cannot say something bad to this. Worst case scenario you get "Thanks" in a bitchy tone. In which case, you smile, …
/r/seduction29/10/12 02:55 AM
1

Alright man, keep that attitude. Means more to go around for the rest of us..
/r/seduction27/10/12 02:52 AM
2

I'm 20 and live in a big city with public transport. Have been laid by four or five different girls since coming back, and I only bike in the city. My bike isn't even a cool road bike that shows I have an interesting hobby in biking. It's a ghetto-ass mountain bike I've had since I was a teen. I just.. don't worry about it. That said, I'm chasing college girls. I just take public transit if we're meeting somewhere, then we either walk or take public transit if we're going elsewhere. Or cab every…
/r/seduction27/10/12 02:50 AM
1

I'm going as the Fonz.
/r/seduction27/10/12 02:27 AM
1

Yeah, figured that'd be the consensus. I'm gonna throw her a text every once in a while in a casual "Hey, you flake, let's hang out" sort of vibe. I'm not one to get caught up, but she seemed like she might be worth the fight.
/r/seduction24/10/12 12:30 AM
1

whoaaaaaaaaaa this is the best post I've ever seen on Seddit. I'm going through this shit with approaches right now cause I'm in a bit of financial rut, don't have a great haircut, don't have great clothes, or much money, etc, etc. (post-travelling blues, I'm tellin ya) I needed this. I'll pick one of those cafés and get my ass down there every day.
/r/seduction23/10/12 07:20 AM
1

NO. Clubs are fucking loud. Get used to it. If you want to do this, you must accept this and work with. Game works in sets. If they're with their friend, it's a 2-set. If they're with 2 friends, it's a 3-set. One of those might be a guy. Both of them might be a guy! Who cares!? Get out there and fucking do something. It's only awkward if you make it awkward. In clubs you have to get close to people to talk. The people in clubs know this. If you're in a club and you don't know this, you're going …
/r/seduction23/10/12 05:41 AM
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Thanks for this. For the first time since I broke up with my serious girlfriend, I've met a girl I'm actually into. She's been playing some games though. She gave some real strong IOI's. Took me up from the party to hang out in her apartment. "I don't smoke weed any more", followed by her changing her mind later on (because I didn't smoke when she wouldn't). Saying things like "Damn, it's just not the right time," or "If only we were in another dimension.." And then she hesitated halfway through…
/r/seduction23/10/12 05:38 AM
4

boom.
/r/seduction21/10/12 11:10 PM
2

If you're going to come on Seddit and not listen to advice, you're going to continue not getting laid. The reason you're not getting laid is because you're not accepting our advice with "the beginners mind" [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shoshin]. The girls were standing near those guys, talking to them. If you talk to them, you'll find out that a lot of the girls are single. You might also find out that some of them aren't single but are willing to cheat on their boyfriends or at least flirt wit…
/r/seduction21/10/12 11:08 PM
2

hahahaha
/r/seduction05/10/12 10:01 PM
2

That watch is cool, but I would definitely not call it timeless. So 80's
/r/seduction05/10/12 10:00 PM
3

That shouldn't be emasculating. I got called adorable at work last night, but the girl was totally into me. It's an IOI regardless. Girls probably don't want to call you hot cause they don't want to seem like a slut.
/r/seduction05/10/12 09:54 PM
1

ty Morrowind for shaping my brain into seeing everything in life as something that improves the more I do it.
/r/seduction05/10/12 09:39 PM
6

that's the spirit! that'll get you laid!
/r/seduction05/10/12 09:39 PM
1

Or say it as Mickey Mouse, or in a ridiculously deep faux-sexy voice. This goes for any negative criticism you have for yourself. I think this is just an NLP trick for making you have less negative thoughts about yourself.
/r/seduction05/10/12 09:35 PM
3

I'll normally start real light with something like asking to see one of her rings/bracelets and touching it briefly. In the Lovedrop kino video he talks about how horse trainers do this - a light, brief touch and pulling away so she gets used to the touch. She's also going to have the positive association of you being interested in something she's wearing. That's gonna be linked to your touch. Then your touch = good for her. If it's an intimate setting, play footsies. In a subtle way, of course.
/r/seduction04/10/12 04:27 PM
5

I find that since I started watching porn (at around 18 or so when I moved out of my parents' house) I have a harder time reaching orgasm with girls giving awesome handjobs/blowjobs. It sucks cause they're doing an awesome job and I'm taking like an hour. This is probably a good tactic to remedy that.
/r/seduction04/10/12 04:25 PM
2

Group 2 sucks though. Group 2 is filled with girls who don't like to fuck. Personally I'm attracted to girls with a reputation for being overly sexual, even if it means being with a lot of guys. Experience is hot.
/r/seduction04/10/12 02:25 PM
2

This was actually great. Especially the part about being alpha by hosting events - I'd never thought of that. I used to have 8-person dinners all the time at my old place. At the time I was living with a girlfriend so it wasn't a pickup thing, it was just something we.. did. Now that I'm no longer living with her, I'll have to keep it going. I've had a weird six months where I've sort of let my life slip, but I'm just getting back into building everything up to where I want it to be. I'm focusin…
/r/seduction04/10/12 02:19 PM
1

hahahaha
/r/seduction23/08/12 02:18 PM
2

I'm in my early twenties and fooled around with a girl who's a couple years older than me. She freaked out when she found out I was younger, because she normally only goes for older guys. Most 20-25 year old girls want an older guy. Girls like tall guys. If you're really self-conscious, hit the gym, eat more (healthy food), and bulk up. Girls want to meet cool new fun guys. Be cool, be fun, be interesting. You're going backpacking in South America. You're going to have some interesting stuff goi…
/r/seduction23/08/12 01:37 PM
1

this guy. No glove, no love. Unless you've been with her for a while and you've both been tested during the time that you've been together monogamously.
/r/seduction23/08/12 01:31 PM
1

Do you have any tips for making it not creepy? I like to hold it for a few seconds, break for a very brief moment and then look back with a cheeky grin.
/r/seduction23/08/12 01:22 PM
3

you spelled fuck wrong
/r/seduction18/08/12 11:25 PM
1

Ditch her. yep
/r/seduction17/08/12 11:40 PM
3

You probably just started wussing out once she knew she was yours. Read the sidebar, practice up. Hit on new girls.
/r/seduction17/08/12 11:40 PM
1

itt: blatant hypocrisy
/r/seduction17/08/12 11:39 PM
1

You're not guilty for wanting a woman that will drop your jaw (and everyone else's). Any man should aspire to this, and it's easy to get because most men are aspiring for women that are "in their league" and sticking with them. Some even stick with them even though they're across the country. I think you should break up with her. Slowly break it off and slowly start to improve yourself. Don't expect to jump from having one girlfriend to being surrounded by tons of models, but get out there and s…
/r/seduction17/08/12 11:38 PM
2

Somebody buy this man a beer.
/r/seduction17/08/12 11:29 PM
-1

Actually thought about this the next day. I think saying that someone is subpar is kinda shitty, because they probably have some really redeeming qualities. "Obstacle" and "target" is just tactics talk in the same way that you'd call someone an enemy in battle.
/r/seduction15/08/12 05:48 PM
57

Show disinterest to the hot one. Befriend the obstacle, neg the target. Stop thinking of her as subpar. This makes you an asshole (in reality, not in terms of game) and her hot friend won't like it. Treat all human beings with respect, no matter the circumstances.
/r/seduction14/08/12 12:12 AM
1

They played patty cake!? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=53AP7fGGPoA
/r/seduction06/08/12 11:06 AM
2

I'm pathetically bad at this game.. Like.. never get a hit in kinda bad.
/r/seduction06/08/12 11:04 AM
1

Pretty sure Mystery's Venusian Arts and Savoy's Magic Bullets both talk about being a good wing
/r/seduction03/08/12 11:20 PM
1

This is not a unique problem and it's not worthy of a Seddit thread. Read the sidebar and find out what we're about. If I give you advice based on what the community is: You have one-itis. Go out and sarge, get some numbers, get laid a few times, and get over the girl. She's not the only one for you, and it's over for a reason.
/r/seduction03/08/12 11:06 PM
3

I want that fucking lighter. [awesome field report]
/r/seduction01/08/12 11:02 PM
1

You're in the wrong place. Read the sidebar.
/r/seduction01/08/12 09:30 AM
1

Read the sidebar and decide if you're in the right place.
/r/seduction01/08/12 09:30 AM
3

This is dope. You're dope. That's cool. I wanna be your friend.
/r/seduction01/08/12 09:29 AM
16

I'm crying laughing, can I put my ass on their mouth instead?
/r/seduction31/07/12 10:25 PM
1

clearly you don't play Ultimate
/r/seduction31/07/12 10:02 PM
2

In one of the Cajun videos he talks about "Do your best Jagger." Based on this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kdqMFxDyLMI
/r/seduction31/07/12 12:08 PM
3

Can we all just start responding to bad posts with "Read the sidebar" and downvotes? I've only been on Seddit for a few weeks, but I also have been noticing that there's very little seduction discussion compared to other forums. Way too many absolute new people coming in and going "What do I doooo? I tried saying 'oh my god you're so hot' and she didn't like me." Also, if anyone sees me giving bad advice, correct me, let me know, PM me. I don't wanna be one of the keyboard jockeys dishing out ba…
/r/seduction31/07/12 12:06 PM
3

Hilarious, and awesome. I always wanted to watch WWE when I was a kid but my mom wouldn't let me. Who knew I would be watching it 10 years later to apply to picking up women. Mom would be so unhappy.
/r/seduction30/07/12 08:29 PM
1

The one who opens the set gets first dibs. I think this is completely fair if you're both involved in the community. There's no sense tripping over each other - it makes you both look bad. You're right about the second part though. I must have misread the situation. If OP is jealous about his wing getting a girl's number, he shouldn't be. Just explain to him that when you open a set, it's your choice of target. If not, don't roll with him any more in terms of sarging. You don't have to stop bein…
/r/seduction30/07/12 08:27 PM
1

If this was your first time out, you're doing it right. My first time out was horrible. HORRIBLE. I didn't get blown out really hard, but I felt like such an awkward cunt. Keep doing it, it'll get better.
/r/seduction30/07/12 12:08 PM
2

Talk to a lot of people. Build your social circle back up again. Say yes to everything. Read a couple books about it and start practicing.
/r/seduction30/07/12 12:02 PM
1

Just to chime in, if a girl was awesome & thought I was fun, and made it clear that she was going to x event with a date.. I would go. I'd bring my own date, and I'd make friends with her. I met this really awesome married chick and wanted to be friends with her & meet her husband. I got her number. I'm not sure if she was looking for infidelity and didn't like the fact that I was just being friendly, or if she got cold feet to talk to me at all, but she hasn't responded. I'm not worried and I d…
/r/seduction30/07/12 11:56 AM
1

It's his roommate, she's not that cute, and she said it quietly enough that nobody else noticed. Cajun's advice was on-point though. The situation could have definitely been worse, and I did have words with the guy.
/r/seduction30/07/12 11:42 AM
4

He doesn't know anything about Game though - I just mentioned it to him and talked about him winging me. I don't know anyone who's in the community here (Liverpool, if anyone's reading. PM me) and I thought it might be alright to have an AFC wing. Turns out, nah. It really wasn't an intentional or malicious thing on either part. He's always talking me up. I think it was more along the lines of him telling his roommate about this magic trick I showed him. He didn't realize that it's a sacred thin…
/r/seduction30/07/12 11:42 AM
7

She's not bitchy - she's genuinely interested and very naive. She keeps saying she's gonna go buy The Game so she can watch out for guys like me. She asked me what "lines" she should look out for. I just told her it's not like that and that it's more of an overarching pscyhology thing. I'm not about to say to her "Who lies more, guys or girls?" or tell her about the jealous girlfriend opener. Then some poor transitioning AFC is gonna get disillusioned when he gets blown out because girls know th…
/r/seduction30/07/12 11:40 AM
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I'd like an answer to this one too. I've got a pretty close group of friends and one of the guys let slip to one of the girls that I'm interested in the community. Girl then proceeds to ask me "So how was your 'game' night the other night? Get any numbers?" in front of 8+ people. Wasn't happy. Won't be talking about it to guy friends unless I know they're savvy.
/r/seduction30/07/12 02:19 AM
0

Do your best Jagger
/r/seduction30/07/12 02:18 AM
6

Cajun: I really dig your work. Are you always "on"? I've not been actively practicing game for long - only since my most recent breakup. I just had two Irish girls open me and my buddy while we were on our way home from the movies holding McDonalds. They were cute, but I didn't do shit! I negged a little and then just kept walking, even though they were clearly interested in being shown a good time around the city. I didn't realize that I didn't consciously game until after the interaction was o…
/r/seduction30/07/12 02:12 AM
2

Being friends with a guy like this lowers your value. It makes it look like neither of you have girls around and that you have to fight over girls. It makes it look like you're both self-conscious.
/r/seduction30/07/12 01:33 AM
1

It's an ebook. Buy it. If you're broke I'm sure you can find it through illegal methods - none of which I endorse.
/r/seduction30/07/12 01:03 AM
1

Dope as fuck. Keep up the good work.
/r/seduction29/07/12 04:01 PM
1

I'm 20 and get 25 all the time. Post a picture of your outfit for critique. And the glasses separately, if you're ashamed to show your face. It'd be good to see your hair too. It's probably good to get contacts/laser eye surgery and untuck the shirt. Don't run such direct openers if you're still early on in the game. You're gonna crash and burn every time if you don't have solid confidence and body language. Great job though man, keep slugging.
/r/seduction29/07/12 03:56 PM
70

Don't be jealous, but ditch the friend as far as game goes. He's not a good wing. Read the wingman rules in Magic Bullets. Your target is yours. He gets his choice of anyone else in the group. A good wing will know which one is your target (the hottest one, usually), as will anyone with tight game. You've also gotta ditch those jealousy issues, because girls aren't going to like you if you have them. Any girl out there can be yours with a little more work. Who cares if one of them that you've be…
/r/seduction29/07/12 03:52 PM
2

Are you in the US? If so, who gives a shit? It's just pot. No girl I know would care about a guy getting busted for possession during college. If you were dealing on a large scale, different story. But if you prove that you're past that life now, nobody is really going to view you negatively. I've had friends who were drug dealers - awesome guys, all of them. Oh - just read further along. The only reason you're anxious is because you're a virgin. You're probably a virgin because you're anxious. …
/r/seduction29/07/12 03:49 PM
9

My past LTR cheated on her boyfriend of 3 years to be with me. I saw no evidence of the distance that normally comes along with cheating, and we were together for over a year. She was hopelessly devoted and never did a bad thing to me. Sometimes girls just upgrade, I guess. Not condoning cheating. I hated that I let her do it, and I told her she wasn't going to see me behind his back. Told her she had to end it or stop talking to me. I think a relationship is broken from the beginning if a girl …
/r/seduction29/07/12 03:41 PM
2

Good job. Keep it up. AFC Adam has some interesting stuff about one-night stands. Watch his conference speeches on YouTube
/r/seduction28/07/12 09:19 PM
3

Next time this happens, go up to ten girls, ask them the time. Smile, look them in the eye, say thank you, eject. Then ask ten girls where the nearest coffee shop is. Say thanks. Eject. Then ask ten girls where the nearest men's clothing store is. Then go up to ten girls and give them a genuine compliment. Doesn't matter how AFC. I'd say "You have a really interesting sense of style," is a good general one that can be applicable to anyone, and could potentially lead to conversation. "Hey, I like…
/r/seduction28/07/12 08:57 PM
2

He dropped the disc
/r/seduction28/07/12 08:52 PM
2

If they're not talking, they're not interested. That's not because there's something wrong with you, but you need to change your approach. When you said you tutor a 4-year-old that talks more than her, that was a douchey thing to say. I found when I first starting going out I was negging way too hard. Just throw a couple of light negs and keep a fun atmosphere and then start qualifying them. I definitely use negs and teasing, but it sounds like you weren't being funny with it. Congrats for going…
/r/seduction28/07/12 08:49 PM
1

When it comes to groups, approach with an interaction that includes all of them. Then casually project your interest about one of them.
/r/seduction28/07/12 08:42 PM
1

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2g5Hz17C4is this is what I thought of when you said Shaggy. Was really confused
/r/seduction28/07/12 04:36 PM
3

Thanks for this
/r/seduction28/07/12 02:00 PM
4

YEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE BOIIIIIIIIIIIS let's do this thang I partied last night (only got one number, and a little peck on the lips. Think that was just a friendly goodbye thing though) so I'm pretty tired. Gonna take a nap and hit the town tonight. It's a goodbye party so I dunno how much of an opportunity I'll get to run game and not be afraid of blowing out. I don't wanna ruin any social ties with these potential friends. Still working on rebuilding my social circle in the city I'm in.
/r/seduction27/07/12 04:33 PM
2

Girls on vacation also don't have the social pressure of their friends telling them they're a slut for sleeping with a guy. They only have the friends that are with them, and they're all thinking "We're only on vacation! Let's just have fun!" They know that nothing that happens on vacation will have negative repercussions when they return to their everyday life. If you can't go on a cruise, a week on a resort somewhere nearby should still do the trick. It's a good place to practice blowout game …
/r/seduction27/07/12 04:28 PM
1

Google "Improv class [city name]". Or call local theatres and ask them. Or look on community college websites. It needn't be a high-level professional improv class, just something low-key and amateur to get you out of your shell. An amateur weekly drama meet-up will help you too. Amateur weekly drama meet-ups, in my experience, are full of socially awkward people being outwardly socially awkward with no shame. It's a great place to get over any fear of speaking to people. They're really acceptin…
/r/seduction27/07/12 03:22 PM
1

you are great and all of this advice is great and i want to buy you a beer and hug you
/r/seduction27/07/12 03:16 PM
1

Yeah. I know so many people who have read/heard of The Game and will never be anything but AFC's. I'm not worried.
/r/seduction27/07/12 03:05 PM
1

No don't do that. Casually run into them. You have to have an excuse. Also, don't single out the cute women. Talk to the guys and let the cute women in (slightly reluctantly). Do you see them in the lunch room or passing by in the hallway or anything like that? This is a situation where you don't need to make your game kick in, just be alpha and confident and friendly. Compliment them without seeming like you're hitting on them. "Hey, I like your necklace. My girlfriend had a similar one." If yo…
/r/seduction27/07/12 03:05 PM
3

The less people that are in on the community, the better. It actually works, and if everyone knows how to do it, we have to work that much harder to stay fresh and compete. Yeah, abundance mentality blah blah blah, but the reality is if everyone could run a marathon, you'd have to work a lot harder to do well in a marathon.
/r/seduction27/07/12 02:51 PM
1

Nothing. Make friends with them, and meet their friends that don't work with you. But be very careful, and don't make moves on all of them. You don't want a reputation for being a sleazebag at work. It might be better to make friends with them casually. Read the Magic Bullets section on workplace game before you try anything. If you get 5 good looking female friends that will go out with you when you sarge, you'll have a distinct advantage.
/r/seduction27/07/12 02:49 PM
6

You... thought it was going to go well?
/r/seduction27/07/12 02:43 PM
3

Wow, yeah. The pause. That was a revelation for me. Thanks for sharing. I'll apply this tonight.
/r/seduction27/07/12 02:40 PM
1

I think you're okay, but by no means a looker. But your attitude is on fucking lockdown, and your charisma is huge. You're so good at pickup that guys get convinced you're so goodlooking that it's the reason you get girls.
/r/seduction27/07/12 02:37 PM
1

Afterwards I normally parade around in a giant panda bear suit and ask everyone if they feel like dancing
/r/seduction26/07/12 07:28 PM
1

He looks like a boring dad there. The body language/facial expression is making a huge difference in all these photos too. How's this: http://www.celebrity9.com/img/owen-wilson/owen-wilson-3.jpg
/r/seduction26/07/12 02:10 PM
1

Go with this, and text her the day before saying "See you at 9 tomorrow then?" Tease her a bit about it
/r/seduction26/07/12 02:09 PM
1

I just read the chapter on workplace game in Magic Bullets, and you should do so too.
/r/seduction26/07/12 02:06 PM
12

Smile, eye contact, slow "Thank you", nod slowly. Act as though you took it to hear and it was the most genuine compliment you've ever received. Then keep talking about whatever you were talking about, or change the subject. If you're being really flirty/teasing you could go "Oooh, I know your type. You want something, don't you?" But make sure you don't come across as being serious.
/r/seduction26/07/12 02:04 PM
1

This reminds me of Paul Mckenna stuff about visualizing your ideal/genuine self. He didn't originate it either though - it's just normal NLP stuff, yeah?
/r/seduction26/07/12 02:02 PM
2

Yeah, I've used the Mystery version a couple of times to success. A couple of times I think the girls actually thought I was gay and I didn't get the chance to escalate enough. But I'd never drop the F-bomb in an opener. Personal choice though.
/r/seduction26/07/12 01:58 PM
1

I wouldn't say the second part, and I'd always just say the first one with a really cheeky smile.
/r/seduction26/07/12 01:56 PM
4

Sounds like you're a pothead and it's affecting your life. If you wanna improve at anything, pot is not gonna help you. It may occasionally help artistic pursuits, but it's not going to improve your life.
/r/seduction26/07/12 12:17 AM
1

Whenever I encounter a shit test that I have no idea what to do with, I usually go with "That's not a very polite question, is it?", or some other response that frames it as "I'm really good at social situations and I'm here to help - you've made a little mistake and you shouldn't do it again."
/r/seduction26/07/12 12:15 AM
1

"Dinner. Friday night. I'll pick you up at 8. Dress nice." (leaves her wondering where you're going to take her) "Let's get dinner on Friday. 8 o'clock at X restaurant."
/r/seduction25/07/12 09:37 PM
3

Great stuff. You proofed yourself by being aloof and hitting on either girls. You created a jealousy plotline too, with the HB7's. Regardless of whether or not this was conscious, it's stuff you can apply later. I realized the other day that sometimes my friends'/acquaintances' girlfriends develop crushes on me. This is because I still tease them, but give them silly little backhanded "Oh you're so naughty" type attitude. Drives 'em crazy. Same with when I have a girlfriend and I'm treating them…
/r/seduction25/07/12 09:15 PM
3

Man 17-y/o chicks are so easy. I guess inexperience combined with being around 95% inexperienced AFC guys makes it so that anyone with the tiniest bit of game can kick serious ass. Not to downplay your efforts, it sounds like you really had it together. A bit too cocky/sexual/creepy for my taste (don't expect the "I'm gay, let's fuck" and "He's got a huge dick" stuff to last into your mid-20's) but you got the job done. As for the obstacles/bitch shields: Befriend the shit out of her friends whi…
/r/seduction25/07/12 09:12 PM
1

Read some pop culture stuff or true mystery stuff or something. Chicks would love to hear about buried treasure or what Lady Gaga is like behind closed doors. Only do this if you're interested in it. Just find interesting stuff that you're actually interested in, and go about it. Read & write at the coffee shop. Even if you just write nonsense, or write a journal. Just get your brain turned on. You could also take up sketching and sketch passersby. Nobody will be offended by this and it might ma…
/r/seduction25/07/12 11:46 AM
1

Yeah after 70 approaches you should have fixed some of this stuff. Don't say "excuse me". You're not interrupting her, you're giving her a chance to meet someone great she wouldn't have met any other way. A strong but polite "Hey" or "Hi" will suffice. Don't say "You're cute" either. Say something more like "I don't normally do this, but I thought you looked interesting. Is there more than meets the eye?" That's how I would go direct anyway. My day game needs work but there's no way I'd make 70 …
/r/seduction24/07/12 11:17 PM
1

Sell your car and move out - if the value of the car is more than the loan. Buy a car that you can actually afford. Read www.mrmoneymustache.com with regards to financial problems. It will clash with PUA stuff because he's against spending money on going out.. Pick and choose what you need from it until you figure out your money situation. I'd move out with college loans, but having a car loan is stupid, no matter what your situation. Even if you're just renting a room in a shared house. Doesn't…
/r/seduction24/07/12 10:42 PM
2

Fuck dude, cut TV and Reddit out of your schedule. This is motivating me to get off here and read a book. Join a climbing wall. Join a gym. Go to the same coffee shop every night and spend 2 bucks on the cheapest tea/coffee and sit there with a notebook and write for hours. Reflect more. Hit up a tanning bed too. Spend some money on some decent clothes. Get a nice haircut. This will all make you feel more comfortable in your skin. Do you have your hygiene on lockdown? i.e. have you taken care of…
/r/seduction24/07/12 10:11 PM
2

I've got a few numbers in the past week and they've been flakes. I got the numbers and they text back and flirt but haven't agreed to meeting up. Just slug on and pull through it. Don't even mention it. Acting as though you've been given the wrong number in the past makes it seem as though you've been creepy to other girls and they gave you the wrong number to get you out of there. Assume the frame that you're awesome and she wants to see you again. You're there to help her make that happen. You…
/r/seduction24/07/12 10:02 PM
3

Awesome advice, but I'd cut any cussing out of interactions with girls I'd just met. Up to you though.
/r/seduction24/07/12 09:59 PM
1

What stuff have you been reading/watching? What does your typical approach look like? Walk us through exactly what you do on an average approach.
/r/seduction24/07/12 09:57 PM
2

I was that loud childish kid in high school. It'll fade with age but if you want to push it, just act calm and cool always. I have pretty intense A.D.D. so it's a challenge, but try not to get over-excited. Watch some old Brando movies and be like him - move slow, talk slow, smile subtly. Heavy eye contact.
/r/seduction24/07/12 09:55 PM
15

Everyone: Wear a fucking condom. Going without it is cool until goes wrong. Then it goes wrong. Trust me on this one. Carry 'em with you in your pocket if you have to - I don't care. [jsyk, it wasn't anything major but it was still the biggest pain in the ass]
/r/seduction23/07/12 09:03 PM
1

So she's not keen on you. If she treats you less well than she treats anyone else, drop her.
/r/seduction23/07/12 08:46 PM
2

Be able to smoothly transition from one conversation topic to another. Don't just ask a bunch of questions. Read a lot of non-fiction about interesting topics people might be interested in. Throw out little facts when it's relevant. Subscribe to some magazines that might have interesting stuff too. Read the newspaper too, so you can comment on current events. Don't do this: Girl: I just got back from Berlin You: How was it? Girl: Good. You: That's awesome. Girl: Yeah. You: Cool. Try to take it s…
/r/seduction23/07/12 11:29 AM
1

"Great to meet you. Have a good day/night/whatever. Catch you later." Kiss on the cheek if it's in the club and you're not being blown out.
/r/seduction23/07/12 11:18 AM
1

The best people advice I've ever been given: NEVER, EVER WRITE PEOPLE OFF. Don't go "She's a big soccer fan, she must be stupid" or "She's wearing a short dress and high heels, she must be a slut" or "She doesn't like art, she must have no passion." Accept everyone for who they are and realize that the influences they have in their life have turned them into a different person than you. This is why they are interesting. A vast majority of neckbeards/SAP just have very little tolerance for people…
/r/seduction23/07/12 09:39 AM
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Just don't ever contact her again. If she talks to you in class or around campus just smile and be polite. Act like you're happy to see her, but you've had too much going on to give her the time of day. Your texts were cringe-worthy as far as game goes. Have you read the sidebar?
/r/seduction23/07/12 09:35 AM
1

Don't put your dick in crazy.
/r/seduction23/07/12 09:32 AM
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Yeah, when you get the kiss sometimes the girl will be unhappy that she gave it up so easy, and assume that you're just going to use her for sex if you hang out. You've gotta re-build some comfort, so maybe just text her about your (interesting) day, or make general conversation to see if you can get her to bite. Or call her and chat without suggesting a hangout.
/r/seduction23/07/12 09:29 AM
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I generally talk to the girls who aren't the target first. With a two-set the other night, the girls liked me so much that when they were pulling me to the dancefloor, the obstacle grabbed my friend and pulled him to the dance floor just to let the other chick be alone with me.
/r/seduction23/07/12 09:25 AM
3

Try to change questions into cold-read guesses
/r/seduction23/07/12 12:11 AM
2

You're not a loser - didn't mean it like that.
/r/seduction23/07/12 12:10 AM
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Read the sidebar. Do the newbie challenge (say hi to everyone in a crowded place). Memorize a few openers (3 or 4), a couple of DHV routines and some comfort building stuff. Then go out. There's no other way to learn it. Stop looking at GW, stop being a keyboard jockey. Make interacting with humans your prime directive in life for a few months. In real life, not online.
/r/seduction22/07/12 07:34 PM
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That makes it sound like you've got bad chances with sexy ladies. You could say "Yeah, this girl I was seeing said she'd thought I'd look hot in X. What do you think? Maybe Y would be more my style?" Then she's predisposed to think you'd look hot, and she's also being paid to be nice to you. Her brain would make her want to avoid cognitive dissonance and she might just actually start believing you're hot. But maybe not.
/r/seduction22/07/12 07:31 PM
1

Yes.
/r/seduction22/07/12 07:28 PM
2

Taxi is way more intimate if you can afford it. If you entertain her she won't even notice. Taking the bus isn't exactly sexy but it's not a dealbreaker either.
/r/seduction22/07/12 07:27 PM
1

You banged an ugly. It's not really worth a field report. I mean, all power to you. Have fun with it. I slept with a girl a few weeks ago that was not attractive or interesting at all. The sex was fun, but damn it's not happening again (although she wanted it to).
/r/seduction22/07/12 07:12 PM
2

Practice.
/r/seduction22/07/12 07:02 PM
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I wouldn't phrase that as a question. Be careful of getting into interviews. With the ER thing it might be weird to bring up the people because I'm sure she watches people die on a regular basis. Meeting lots of people is neutral, but it might draw her towards the negativity of the nature of the ER. I'd go for telling her you're so thankful for the strength of the people who work in the ER. Or that the work she does is amazing or.. something.
/r/seduction22/07/12 06:56 PM
2

Drink lemonade. Bars are social. Doesn't matter. Get a coke and tell everyone it's a rum and coke. Nobody is going to wonder why you aren't drunk.
/r/seduction22/07/12 06:35 PM
2

There's an AFC Adam video about how to get back to the girl's place. I'm not gonna take the effort to find it, but I hope you/someone else does. You could also just treat it like sleeping on the couch is the most awesome thing. But I guess that only works if you have a story behind it. I have a feeling that if you were an American guy in Australia sleeping on a couch, the chicks would be all over it. Either find a cool way to present (market) it, or fix your situation. Those are your two choices…
/r/seduction22/07/12 06:34 PM
6

Wake up every day and leave your computer off. Accept that you are leaving the house as soon as you're ready to go. AFTER that, figure out what you're doing that day. Don't bring a laptop with you. Dress in your nicest clothes and shower, shave, clean your ears, brush, floss, Listerine. Start volunteering for something. Talk to everyone you meet. Practice making small talk at the grocery store. Even if it's just compliments. Compliment everyone you see. Do the newbie challenge (walk through a cr…
/r/seduction22/07/12 06:30 PM
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You have a subconscious belief that asshole = laid and that nice = no laid. You can be nice and get the girl. The quicker you realize this, the quicker you get the girl. You still have to change. Keep doing what you're already doing and you'll get more of what you've already got. Learn to be assertive, and don't be afraid of seeming like an asshole. You've gotta try new things before you reach your equilibrium where you're great to be around and get girls. Learn the game, accept the teachings an…
/r/seduction22/07/12 06:21 PM
1

Accomplishments are part of game. You can have small accomplishments that girls find sexy. Get your pilots licence, or racing licence, or build a gyrocopter in your garage. There's always something you can be pushing in your life that you probably aren't. Take piano lessons. It just has to be something interesting to talk about to prove that you're awesome and extraordinary in some way. Don't get down on yourself. Hygiene & style are like 70% of looks. A confident and well-dressed ugly guy with …
/r/seduction20/07/12 11:34 PM
3

Set up your dates so you can have fun without the girl. Or just leave after 15 minutes and plan it so it's only a minor inconvenience. If you're having coffee, take a book and a notebook with you and if she doesn't show, do some work. If you're going rock climbing, be prepared to go by yourself. Etc, etc. Make it so you don't care if she's there or not.
/r/seduction20/07/12 07:59 PM
1

Fuck yeah. Good FR. Will play strip never-have-I-ever at some point before the year is up. Chicken or brave is a good idea too, but I don't think it's one that is well-known in England. Do you think it'd be a DHV gambit to introduce a girl to the idea? Any further advice on becoming the life of the party? I'm doing my best and have improved a lot in the past week or two.
/r/seduction20/07/12 07:45 PM
3

find out about local buddhist centres. Sometimes they have books to give away for free. If not, go to a guided meditation or two. It'll help you way more than books. There's also /r/buddhism
/r/seduction19/07/12 11:20 AM
1

Totally. I know this first-hand and it's the only reason I could get away with it I think. I used it more as a gambit to lead into having a laugh about my name.
/r/seduction19/07/12 10:52 AM
1

Super-broke. Fashion and tattoos will come first. I live walking distance from town and am young enough that a taxi is fine.
/r/seduction18/07/12 07:06 PM
1

http://www.yelp.co.uk/biz/please-dont-tell-new-york-2 ? Haven't been, but it sounds like a cool/mysterious idea.
/r/seduction18/07/12 06:14 PM
3

Read the sidebar. Go see a therapist if there is a way you can have access to it. Not in a bad way. I don't think you're crazy or that there's anything wrong, but it will take a lot of weight off you.
/r/seduction18/07/12 05:51 PM
3

I'm taking notes and reading through Venusian Arts atm, while also watching The Pickup Artist S02. I've been watching AFC Adam videos on YouTube and I've got some StyleLife stuff too. I've been going out casually with friends and doing a few approaches a night, but once I finish Venusian Arts & Magic Bullets and a wing is back in town, I will be actively sarging three or four nights a week. Taking notes has been really helping actually. Practice is huge, definitely. But it's something I put in p…
/r/seduction18/07/12 05:49 PM
3

It wasn't really an apologetic sorry. I think it's just a Canadian thing haha. I ramped up the kino just as I said it, so it might have been working in my favour that way. I was still getting heavy eye contact and IOI's so I wasn't worried about it seeming weak.
/r/seduction18/07/12 05:44 PM
1

Great tactic if you have a good ride, for sure.
/r/seduction18/07/12 05:41 PM
1

I don't think it's cheesy if it's actually cool. You're certainly on the right path with getting a makeout. I think the choice of words was the only thing that really threw your game.
/r/seduction18/07/12 05:40 PM
1

Don't do it. You've got one-itis for your friend's kinda-girl? Fuck that. Social proof amongst your closest friends is far more important than some girl, no matter how cool/hot she is. Get her to be your pivot and go out and find some new girls.
/r/seduction18/07/12 12:49 PM
3

Dude I think she gave you LMR because you were trying to fuck her in a closet in the basement of the University while she had a boyfriend. Closet in the basement of the University might work on a single chick, or fucking a girl with a boyfriend at home might work but.. Yeah, don't push that one. She's a horrible girlfriend if she thinks making out/petting is cool but sex isn't. If she's a cheater she should have the balls to go the whole way.
/r/seduction18/07/12 12:47 PM
1

Listen to this guy. Never blame the interaction on the girl. You weren't paying attention to the situation. If she was ignoring you from the get-go, putting her under more pressure by talking about how she was ignoring you would have made things even worse. She didn't want to look like a bad person in public. I bet she would have been really rude if the same thing had happened in the club. Also, she's probably heard a million times that she's cute. Why didn't you neg her? "Your shoes look really…
/r/seduction18/07/12 12:43 PM
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"Let's go try some more adult moves back at my place" is a pretty fucking ballsy line dude. I'd have kept it casual and maybe bounced alone to build comfort before going straight from the K-Close to "Hey wanna go fuck?" Have you seen the Chris Rock bit about "Want some dick?" You just asked her if she wanted some dick. Next time, give it a shot to say "Hey, I know this REALLY great falafel/Mexican/sushi/etc place, wanna go grab some food real quick and come back?" Go, escalate, grab some food, b…
/r/seduction18/07/12 12:18 PM
12

Women find humour attractive, not necessarily jokes. You don't have to be actively funny. If you aren't, don't try. Just smile and brush things off easily and she'll realize that you're easygoing. As a person who has the ability to make people laugh with conversational improv, I find it painful when a joke falls flat. I don't use canned jokes because I can't tell them. If you are going to make jokes/quips about situational things, make sure you're not going to offend anyone. Don't make midget jo…
/r/seduction18/07/12 11:59 AM
2

This is true - didn't notice this. People telling you you'd be an awesome boyfriend while you're not getting any girls just means you're way too damn nice to girls. Don't be mean, but stop worshipping them and start moving up.
/r/seduction17/07/12 11:12 PM
1

The only advice. "Read THIS and then THIS." Read a couple of books, and get one of your non-single buddies to get out and wing for you. Or go out solo. I'm in a city where I know relatively few people, so I went to a club night that two people I know were hosting. From there, I met their friends & introduced myself to all their friend's friends. Now if I see someone I know with someone I don't know, I approach them and introduce myself. I am not ashamed to get guys phone numbers before getting g…
/r/seduction17/07/12 11:10 PM
5

Approach. You can't be an awesome guy without being socially awesome. Fix your life up during the day and fix your social life up by going out 2-5 nights a week. You needn't drink a lot and you needn't spend a lot, but fill your phone up with male and female contacts. Unless you mean your social life is already cool and you just want to fix your life up for longterms.. But you might as well have some short term stuff while you're waiting for the long term to come around and stick? Your life migh…
/r/seduction17/07/12 10:46 PM
4

There's an AFC Adam video on Youtube about how to go to a girl's place instead of your place. Hunt for it - watching tons of AFC Adam videos to search for it will only help you.
/r/seduction17/07/12 09:33 PM
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As someone who just finished 3 or 4 weeks of sleeping on couches: confidence leads to risky decision making that can lead to biggish problems that can lead to the necessity to sleep on couches. But risky decisions are rad.
/r/seduction17/07/12 09:26 PM
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Yep. I broke up with my past long-term girlfriend because I wasn't seeing the sort of excitement/zest for life that I have. Ambition in terms of career was part of it, but I'm not in a position to judge that at the moment because I don't have my path in order. If you want to get quality girls in the first place, PUA. If you want to keep girls around for any meaningful length of time, make your life awesome. Nobody will want to be a big part of your life if your life revolves around doing mediocr…
/r/seduction17/07/12 09:23 PM
1

Hahaha look what happened to your first little chunk. Got all old-school notepad with word-wrap off EDIT: A bit better, everything's still a wall though. Take the tag off the top and hit enter twice when you want the paragraphs in. It should look like this: sentence, sentence, sentence, sentence, sentence, sentence, sentence, sentence, sentence, sentence, sentence, sentence, sentence, sentence, sentence, sentence, sentence, sentence, sentence, sentence, sentence, sentence, sentence, sentence, se…
/r/seduction17/07/12 09:13 PM
2

I went out last night and met 20+ new people - wasn't gaming hard. I wasn't even dressed my best and I did not encounter a feeling that I seemed as though I didn't have enough money. The other night a chick bought me a drink and her friend came back after & bitched me out about it, saying I was just broke and begging or something. I brushed it off and laughed and talked a bit more before ejecting. Last night I went out after having thought about this some more, and remembering the questions I ke…
/r/seduction17/07/12 04:39 PM
1

Just do it old school hitting enter and getting whitespace in between. Please respond to my comment when you've done it so I can come back and read this.
/r/seduction17/07/12 04:33 PM
1

A friend of a friend apparently gets laid all the time with "Do you like cheese?" as his opener.
/r/seduction17/07/12 04:24 PM
7

This is super solid advice. I went out last night (clubs, not a comic-con, haha) and didn't even try to game - I just focused on winning dudes over. Just a little experiment. When you win the guys over, the girls will flock to you. I focused on learning all the guys' names and making them feel awesome, without coming off as gay. If you feel as though the guys are starting to think you're coming onto them, make a comment like "Man, that girl in the red dress/Misty costume is cute". I made a ton o…
/r/seduction17/07/12 03:39 PM
2

Any advice on this? Obviously improving clothing, etc. What else?
/r/seduction16/07/12 12:18 AM
2

This is damn good advice. I'm a bit broke at the moment but I'm a Canadian in England, so I could always act like I'm a trust fund baby who doesn't give a fuck about his money.
/r/seduction15/07/12 12:15 PM
1

All clubs are loud. Talk louder without yelling. Get your body language to make the chicks lean in. You can talk in clubs, but it sucks until you get used to it.
/r/seduction11/07/12 10:49 AM
2

"No, but I need a female opinion on something.."
/r/seduction10/07/12 09:44 PM
1

I know, ridiculous stupid AFC mistake on that one - probably also a combination of alcohol & laughing gas. Are there routines for rapport building, or should I just talk to her? Haven't done enough reading on phases & stuff. Only have a few negs and openers under my belt & haven't really tried any DHV routines in the field.
/r/seduction10/07/12 06:20 PM
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