How to Actually APPLY Some Old Sappy Advice

The advice: "Be the best version of yourself you can be."

I couldn't actually conceive of a way to apply this advice until tonight. I had constantly tripped over myself, telling myself I wanted more girls, more money, more etc. etc.Then I'd find myself doing things that blocked me from getting what I wanted – just hard-wired into my habits via my belief system.

Believing that girls that have sex too soon are not completely normal human beings stopped me from getting girls I like to fuck on a first date. The "girls I like" part is key: plenty of girls I wasn't into would fuck on a first date. I believed that the type of girls I like =/= the type of girls that fuck on a first date, but I wanted to be fucked on the first date. It gets confusing.

But if I think of a perfect me, one that gets fucked on a first date by girls he likes, he would probably be telling cynical old me that I was just being cynical. If I was someone getting fucked on his first date by someone he liked, I would tell the old me that it's completely possible to do so.

[Any negativity, assume you're just being cynical. Don't even wonder, just assume you are. Act as you would if you were pretending the negative thing doesn't exist/matter.]

I have since had sex with a girl I'm reasonably into on a first date. Before this, I had had sex with plenty of girls I was into, and plenty of girls on a first date – never both.

I'd read about self-help gurus recommend you meditate and think on your ideal self – but this was too abstract for me. I just pictured myself standing in front of myself being ripped and wearing nice clothes. I couldn't think about how to bridge the gap.

The solution is to get an imaginary improved version of yourself to tell you he would do it. You can't fathom how a completely perfect you would function. That's fine. Instead, imagine one that's slightly better than yourself giving you advice. Constantly.

"This approach is so hard. How many girls do I normally talk to in a day? None. I can't get it right."

"Doesn't matter. How many girls would the better version of you talk to?"

"I can't get a good job, the economy's bad."

"Doesn't matter. Figure out what the better version of you would do to make more money given current conditions."

Have this internal conversation with yourself constantly.

What would the better me do?

At first, your instinct might be to say "How do you know what's better for me, internet guy!?" Doesn't matter what I think. If you consider the better version of yourself, from your perspective, you will get what you want. You can't fuck a damn thing up by asking yourself every second of the day how you would do things better. You'll only give yourself honest advice that is beneficial to you. Accept all your improved self's advice without questioning.

You might think this will turn you selfish? Might turn you into an asshole? NO. The better version of you wouldn't turn into an asshole, because he's already better than you. Accept that this imagined better you is always right, and you will run into no problems. Start questioning him, and you'll stay who are you. Forever.

This post over here sorta ties in: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/12ez2n/took_me_a_while_to_get_this_progress_comes_from/

The better version of you would probably do shit you know that would help. You know, the stuff you're a little scared of doing? The stuff you haven't done yet. Not the stuff you already half-assedly do cause you're scared of doing more, but the big thing that will actually help (hint: the one you're scared of). Don't overthink it. The second you stop thinking ”What is better?" is the second you start actually doing what's better. Don't try to define "better", just feel it out. If you wanna be less awkward, do what a less awkward version of you would do. If you want to be smarter, do what a smarter version of you would do.

This has to be genuine, too. It has to be something you genuinely want to be. If you want to be rich, but don't genuinely want to be a drug smuggler, chances are you'll make a half-assed job of being a drug smuggler. If you don't actually want to be attractive, because for some reason you dislike attractive people, you won't become it. You can't become something you despise. Your brain won't let you.

TL;DR: Every single second, every single time you have a choice, ask yourself "What would a better version of me do?"

PS. I wasn't even going to write this article because I'm afraid of being too much of a self-help cheese.. But then I realized that I couldn't be a self-help cheese. Cause I don't give a fuck. And I'm getting better.

PPS. Don't be afraid to make approaches. The slightly better version of you would have already made them. Being afraid of the things you want to do is holding you back. Ignore fear.