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STRATEGYVaporwaveVampire/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 05:54 AM
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QUEEN SUPREMEVaporwaveVampire/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 03:36 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYVaporwaveVampire/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 08:35 PM
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DISCUSSIONVaporwaveVampire/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 07:26 AM
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LIES MEN TELLVaporwaveVampire/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 09:18 PM
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THINGS SCROTES SAYVaporwaveVampire/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 03:36 AM
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DISCUSSIONVaporwaveVampire/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 02:30 PM
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DISCUSSIONVaporwaveVampire/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 08:56 PM
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DISCUSSIONVaporwaveVampire/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 02:27 AM
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LESSON LEARNEDVaporwaveVampire/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 07:55 AM
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VaporwaveVampire/r/ExRedPill18/10/21 01:18 AM
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DiscussionVaporwaveVampire/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 12:09 AM
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RANTVaporwaveVampire/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 06:56 PM
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RANTVaporwaveVampire/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 08:55 AM
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DISCUSSIONVaporwaveVampire/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 06:38 AM
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MINDSET SHIFTVaporwaveVampire/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 08:02 AM
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Not triggered, but it made me glad that I’m healing ❤️‍🩹. Hope you enjoy the book and give yourself a big hug today!
/r/ExRedPill06/07/22 05:29 AM
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Just stumbled upon this post. Reading this as a woman breaks my heart . I’ve had periods of self loathing and hatred too, and reading this brought me back to those times. If women are incubators, then by that logic men are nothing but sperm shooters. And as banal as this sounds, be the best version of yourself. That way, when you attract people into your life, you will be confident that they are attracted to you and not just the superficial image you created for them. I recommend reading the boo…
/r/ExRedPill04/07/22 09:26 PM
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“Depends what you mean by feminist; there are many different types of feminism. But yes I do support women.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 03:28 AM
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As a woman, this really resonates with me and I feel is an accurate description of some women’s sexuality. All women have different experiences of course.
/r/ExRedPill18/10/21 01:07 AM
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I’m a woman who lurks here 👋 Women’s lives are really not that different from yours. Most of us don’t have some sort of secret scheme or hidden motive, we’re just trying to get by and a lot of us also turn to self help online to deal with issues we have. I’m willing to answer any questions you have.
/r/ExRedPill09/09/21 03:49 AM
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Entitlement, rising rates of mental illness, increase of obvious narcissism due to social media culture, increase of internet culture and lack of playing outside, dating apps.
/r/ExRedPill13/08/21 08:04 AM
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You mean... aging? Everyone ages and it typically makes people less physically conventionally attractive.
/r/ExRedPill27/07/21 09:07 PM
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This is the most accurate reply here, IMO. Us women are not idly waiting around for men and painting our nails or whatever. We’re living life, improving ourselves, and struggling just like men. The rates of depression and anxiety are very high for young women. Most of us have self esteem issues and some of us struggle to even leave the house, and I wish men could see that the emotions they feel are really not that different from us
/r/ExRedPill26/07/21 12:06 PM
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The absence of skid marks really gets me going 😍😍😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 09:53 PM
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A porn addict can never be satisfied. Chances are, if she is curvier, he'd suddenly want her to have a petite adolescent body. If she's brunette, he'd neg her by comparing her to blonde celebrities and blonde porn stars. A guy I dated used to randomly send me photos of women with big boobs, after I told him about my insecurities with my smaller boobs. No matter how beautiful you are, there's no competing with a whole internet's worth of pornography.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 09:25 PM
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Probably a euphemism for corporal punishment aka physical abuse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 04:42 AM
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That’s sounds super cute. What company or artist is it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 04:32 AM
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My definition of femininity is more of a Wild Woman, divine feminine sort of approach. I'm on the journey to embracing my softness and sacred qualities, but also my wild/Old Crone traits. Intuition, wisdom, all-knowing, ancient, soft, lush, wild --> all words that remind me of femininity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 11:32 PM
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Depravity. Also: https://nypost.com/2021/05/10/bill-gates-womanizer-held-nude-pool-parties-biographer/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 09:55 PM
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exactly, no one wakes up and becomes a billionaire by accident.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 09:41 PM
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True, but when you're a billionaire you have the means and connections to do anything you want, even break the law. Plus, power easily corrupts and/or those who chase power relentlessly have dangerous personality traits already. So I would say it's easy to assume the level of depraved actions among billionaires is even higher than the general public
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 09:38 PM
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I truly do love and value beauty and beautiful things. But I will admit that the relentless pursuit of a specific look that garners the most social approval is more exhausting rather than empowering. It becomes even more exhausting when this pursuit has to be portrayed as effortless
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 07:34 PM
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Good. I am happy for you. I’m glad we’re waking up:)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 03:57 PM
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What a horrible way to neg you. That must have felt horrible to hear I’m so sorry
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 05:58 AM
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They say they want nice women, but if you're nice they that means you want to sleep with them. They beg women to sleep with them and give them attention, but if you sleep with them and treat them nicely they'll lose their respect for you. what are women supposed to do?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 04:13 AM
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This sounds ideal and I’m sure it exists somewhere out there, but sadly a lot of women I know who are in long term marriages (like female family members) advise withholding love even after decades of marriage, just so their husband treats them with slightly more respect. It sounds exhausting to withhold love yet never leave and all for what??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 05:41 PM
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Back when we were in tribes, the whole village would raise the kid, so it was more natural to have children. Women would take turns breastfeeding a crying baby if the mother was busy collecting berries But today, it’s the mom who does nearly everything in the nuclear family. So if you marry and kids in our society, it will probably change your whole life trajectory, identity, and will likely suppress you. Having a husband or kids shouldn’t be the default, especially today. Only do it if you real…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 07:09 AM
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Stay at home moms/traditional moms get belittled for not working, yet being a homemaker and mom is one of the most tiresome things to do
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 07:04 AM
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There’s a reason why “suck my d**k” is an insult. Many people (especially men) see this act as especially degrading. Even more so when combined with gagging, vomiting, cum on the face, etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 07:40 PM
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There’s a reason why “suck my di*k” is a common insult, because some men see it as an inherently degrading act (especially when combined with choking on their genitals, other violent things I don’t want to name). The thing is, the degrading aspect is actually what turns many of them on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 05:06 PM
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To any spiritual women here: us sane spiritual people exist! Just be sure to avoid weird retreats, “gurus” (many of them are cultish), and remember that YOU are your best teacher! Trust yourself and your observations of earth... and that toxic narcissistic guy is NOT your twin flame, trust me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 05:27 AM
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First, stop viewing people in relation to you. How high quality, how you can use them, etc. It’s the mentality of a psycho or a narcissist. Everyone has a unique universe inside them, their own hardships, trauma, aspirations, etc. Most of the dating Youtube videos (whether for men or women) are not balanced in thinking and end up becoming very toxic and judgmental, or make you become a pushover. Also, what you should look for in a woman must be comparable to what you already are and your own pos…
/r/ExRedPill18/07/20 03:20 PM
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A good man wouldn’t want her to make a bad decision like that. Plus he’s “unsure about our future” aka she’s a placeholder girlfriend but he’s not sure if he can find someone better for awhile
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 07:36 AM
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When you normalize dating “potential”, you start valuing his breadcrumbs as pieces of gold and signs of his love language when they’re really things normal men should be doing consistently all along
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 06:54 AM
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And what does she gain from this again? This certainly isn’t a great environment to raise a child either
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 12:17 AM
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Sometimes I do feel bad for pick-me and “I hate other women” types of women but they still can’t be trusted. What’s pathetic is men don’t even respect them either!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 08:07 PM
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ItS jUsT a KiNk SwEaTy!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 05:52 PM
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Next is Harvey Weinstein
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 07:51 AM
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To him, it’s not a turn off because it’s a traumatic story, it’s a turn off because now he knows your holes are now used and no longer virginal/factory sealed for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 07:39 AM
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Jesus Christ women supposedly can’t be good rulers because their uterus sheds for three to six days a month, yet men who use their PeePee to make every decision are defended because it’s part of their “human nature”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 07:37 AM
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Swan song 🦢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 06:16 AM
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Feminism is NOT for everyone. If you love to tear down women, see nothing wrong with sleeping with married men, think that rape and pedophilia fantasies are healthy or even masculine, date sexist/racist/homophobic men and see nothing wrong with that, you are not an ally. We have all made mistakes in the past, but if you see no point in changing, you are a selfish yet self hating idiot who thinks doing the most objectifying shit is empowering just because you have dyed hair and a septum piercing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 06:14 AM
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I’m disgusted but sadly not surprised
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 03:27 AM
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Now take what you learned here and share it with women who will listen! Live by your values and there will be nothing to be ashamed about
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 07:17 AM
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Yeah that’s how I meant to say it! It should be a given that men care about personality
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 06:26 AM
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I’m Asian and I can say with certainty that most Asian women who date white men are some of the worst self hating pick-mes and it really puts a bad reputation on us. They often say stuff to put down our race and inflate the egos of sweaty white dudes. It’s super embarrassing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 05:05 PM
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Well, because men are visual! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 04:58 PM
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They only like you when you’re repulsed by them. Rapist mentality
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 04:55 PM
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Well, some of them beat up, rape, and murder women they’re attracted to!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 03:52 PM
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“Men are visual”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 01:03 AM
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Yeah but she might have a few stretch marks and her nipples are different thus making her look different than his favorite porn star
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 08:05 AM
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It’s not a “dad bod”. It’s being overweight and on the verge of life threatening obesity caused by laziness, not having a child
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 08:04 AM
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“A deal is a deal” The way people treat sex like transactional chores is so sad and unhealthy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 08:00 AM
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“You’re too pretty to be wearing a mask. Why don’t you take that mask off for me sweetie 🥺”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 05:22 AM
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But seriously: why do people say men are visual when they often don’t have any sense of aesthetic?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 05:58 PM
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I get so annoyed when Bumblers like this try and act all stupid. It’s not funny or cute
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 05:57 PM
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All the privilege with none of the responsibility
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 09:44 PM
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“It’s not pedophilia! ITS HEBOPHILIA! PLUS, if I got to this state and that country and go through this loophole it’s technically not illegal!” (Don’t know the spelling)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 05:43 PM
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No I’ve met attractive creeps too. I guess there is some sort of bias against unattractive people but creepiness is definitely a behavior, and looking unkempt/unhealthy just adds to it
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/20 05:25 PM
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Yes. I made the mistake of sleeping with someone I didn’t really know in the past and it was bad. It felt so pointless and I felt used
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/20 09:16 PM
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I would love to be intimate with the right person. I think the difference is for some of us love and sex is intertwined and not just a physical act
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/20 03:39 AM
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They shame both
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 04:15 AM
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“That’s what makes you beautiful! O-oh! You know you’re beautiful!” 🎶 I really don’t like that message
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 04:09 AM
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I like a more womanly version of beauty and femininity: strong, nurturing, graceful, occasionally wild, and goddess-like. Also seeing a beautiful person who has skin blemishes makes me feel better about my insecurities
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 04:01 AM
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I’m 20 and I know more women who don’t use dating apps than those who do. Most people I know are either the long term relationship type or are lesbian. Very few do random hookups unless something is kind of “off” about them tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/20 12:30 AM
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Ok then “Chad” I’ll let you have the last word on this one :)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/20 06:57 PM
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Lol I’ll keep this thread going cause I’m bored I’m researching this topic anyways Are they the right reasons? That’s up to someone to self reflect and be honest with themselves. But as a woman, the risk of getting STDs, meeting a stranger, pleasuring a douchebag who likely just jackhammers without pleasure, potentially feeling used, etc is just not worth it. All for what? Faking an orgasm for a fuckboy with a quiff whose only pride is downloading the leaked Yandhi album? You men already know th…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/20 07:18 AM
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But are they the right reasons? It’s like the square rectangle thing. Consent is imperative for healthy sex, but not all consensual sex is healthy. And yeah maybe all things even love have an element of selfishness, but it’s all about degree. In addition, lots of men see women who do frequent hookups as less valuable, so why are they same men then hooking up with women who they then subsequently would view with less respect? Makes no sense The bitterness goes back to sex being equated as somethi…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/20 12:05 AM
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Cool
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/20 10:59 PM
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I don’t think fuck buddies or friends with benefits is healthy for anyone especially women. I’ve seen it with my friends and cousins. It’s rare both parties are 100% content with FWB, and even then, it feels very selfish. Not something we should be associating with sex or friendships. It’s why so many people are bitter these days
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/20 10:57 PM
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To wonder, to create stories that manifest into reality. To look into a person’s eyes or at the stars and realize that there’s a part of you in everything. Life without mysticism is empty, because it’s impossible to determine objective reality. It’s what you make of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/20 09:03 AM
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Yes, kinda. If I want a relationship it would be with someone with good family values who isn’t into weird one night stands and kinky stuff, someone who views sex as a manifestation of love and not vice versa.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/20 08:57 AM
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You should be able to date anyone you want of course, but think about it from their perspective as well. Why are they into you? What do you have in common? Would you be interested in a super young man? Why or why not? There’s intrigue and a weird sort of flattery associated with having an older man be into you, but it’s important to ask yourself these questions too!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/20 08:54 AM
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Dating app women are not representative of the average woman. If you don’t like the sluttiness, crudeness, or aggression of dating app girls, don’t complain; look elsewhere. I don’t suggest having a relationship with this one. She sounds like bad news. This is coming from a woman who knows women like this, or who are both crude yet lack self worth.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/20 08:48 AM
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That is not how most women operate. Why would I want to waste my time pleasuring a fuckboy or a bad boy when I can be improving myself? Waste of time
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/20 08:44 AM
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Attractive guys are more likely to ask me to be their girlfriend or initiate dates upfront (from my experience). Less attractive men play weird games due to lack of confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/20 08:26 AM
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Yeah cause she can’t have vigorous sex anymore when she’s severely ill
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 11:20 PM
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I talked to this dude who has cancer and weird endocrine system issues and he doesn’t see a doctor. He just orders chemo drugs and hormones from the dark web. (I don’t talk to him anymore)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 05:19 AM
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The more confident and attractive yet modest I look, the less men catcall or treat me with disrespect. It still happens occasionally, and it’s never your fault, but it does help I must admit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 05:14 AM
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Translation: I have 0 communication skills and won’t answer calls or texts when I’m busy preying on girls. I’m better in person, on my crusty mattress on the floor. Looking to at least have anal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 05:07 AM
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They’re only attracted to women who don’t want them. Kinda rapey, if you think about it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 05:00 AM
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Men who are in love are conservative. They resort back to their need to provide and please if they truly love you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 04:58 AM
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Your presence is your present :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 04:53 AM
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So from a junkie to a ..... normal dude? Why not just date a normal decent dude from the beginning?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 08:58 PM
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I think women and men can both age badly, but women tend to look better because estrogen prevents aging somewhat, and the average woman cares more about beauty. But women’s youth and beauty standards are way higher, so men end up being too harsh. Everyone should take care of themselves and mind their own business.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/20 11:04 PM
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It seems like some men are really enthusiastic, initiating this date and going to that restaurant, until you agree to meet him and he loses all interest. That “fell asleep” excuse is bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 12:52 AM
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I’d be way more angry about the escort. I’d dump him if he ever saw an escort. One night stand, I’d discuss it and reconsider the relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/20 09:32 PM
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Men on OLD are disproportionately douchey, and I’m not sure if it’s self select or if it’s because there are no real life repercussions of embarrassing themselves that way If you’re wearing normal clothes in those photos, I’d say it’s probably just due to the nature of the app! I quit all those apps awhile back and never looked back
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/20 09:30 PM
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I’ve been downvoted already of course. This is just common sense. When test subjects wear doctor’s coats they perform more confidently. When girls wear skimpy clothing they perform more poorly in tests and have worse body image.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/20 09:11 PM
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The fact this is a pretty neutral male subreddit, got 52 likes, and no criticism is telling. These types of men only bring up men’s issues when it serves as a “gotcha” to dismiss the severity of women’s issues. They don’t care about mental health, only getting their pee pee sucked
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 09:04 PM
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That’s important. Teach them tips as a teen to keep them safe. But in everyday stuff like reacting to their emotions, chores, etc I don’t think they should be treated differently
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/20 08:58 PM
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No. I think femcels (I’m thinking unattractive, manly women I know, likes fast food and looks like either slob or excessive makeup no in between) tend to be obsessed with men’s appearances and super shallow. When they feel kind of ugly, they want a super hot guy for their self esteem
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/20 08:50 PM
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I know super attractive women who have committed suicide from loneliness and depression
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/20 08:48 PM
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This is literally a list of men I actively avoid and refuse to be friends with.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/20 08:44 PM
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Chronic inflammation from sugar/beer consumption.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/20 08:44 PM
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Also stress maybe? Cortisol makes you gain weight around your stomach and back. Also, sugar. Sometimes it’s more complex than calories in calories out. 100 calories of sugar is way worse than 109 calories of vegetables or meat
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/20 08:41 PM
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This is so so true. Short cuts, in addition to taking longer, often result in poorer quality. So in this case, poorer quality relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/20 08:39 PM
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What profile photos do you have? That will impact how people treat you. Back when I used OLD I got a few disrespectful guys but most were seemingly decent at first.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/20 08:37 PM
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I don’t use it because the swiping feels like shopping, it’s fake yet too open, and it’s a hookup/short term sexual relationship app which isn’t what I’m looking for. Also, there’s no background checks
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/20 08:35 PM
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If there are real differences between the sexes, then treating them similarly and having them pick up hobbies they want will result in them being different anyways. Nothing should be forced besides basic manners and morals Ultimately parenting should be tailored to the kid rather than based only on their gender, sexual orientation, race, etc
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/20 08:32 PM
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For what? A relationship or a hookup? I doubt anyone wants to hook up at this time
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/20 08:30 PM
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No. Life struggles are more based on individual circumstances rather than just race, gender, sexual orientation. These things can shape your struggles to be unique, but everyone is different. If you’re thinking of sugar daddies and sex work, I refuse to use sexuality for monetary gain, and so do most women. I have dignity and self respect
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/20 08:28 PM
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After glowing up and dressing better (albeit more modestly), I get catcalled/approached by weird men significantly less but do get stared at often. I think unfortunately, if you’re hit on a lot/approached by weirdos VERY often you might reach a basic bar of attractiveness but you might also be seen as easy instead of a catch. Like someone who will sleep with a man on a first date
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/20 08:15 PM
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If you act/dress classier and modestly you’ll get more of the attention you want (business/professional, promotions, friends, romantic), and less of the attention you don’t want (sexual advances). You’ll also see yourself more positively instead of as an object
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/20 08:05 PM
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As a woman you’ll always get some sort of unwanted attraction, whether it’s whistles, a man following you in a store, stares, etc. That being said if you repeatedly get unwanted attraction from creepy people and not from people who seem nice and educated, you might benefit from changing your wardrobe and how you present yourself Personally, I get stares but it is mainly from men my age and not older creepy men. I still don’t like it, but I’m very tough and take no shit so they usually leave me a…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/20 08:04 PM
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Exactly. Don’t trust online compliments. Also keep in mind we live in a weird time, so just because someone says “I love your makeup” doesn’t mean it’s nice. It could just mean it’s colorful, obvious, or different from the norm
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/20 07:58 PM
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The concept of blowjobs kind of scares me. If I was in a long term relationship I might experiment but I refuse to ever do anything that involves putting it in my mouth or throat and especially not gagging. Why anyone would need to do that when we have hands and vaginas is beyond me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 10:52 AM
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Yeah this is actually so stigmatizing for men, and their wives. It’s basically saying men don’t really have emotions they just care about sex, and that if they are depressed, it might be because the wife doesn’t give enough blowjobs? Screw that I have TMJ
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 04:46 AM
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And even if she was an abusive POS, that doesn’t mean he’s a good person either. Being in a relationship with an abusive woman doesn’t make someone a moral and loving man by default. Sometimes, it can be the opposite. Plus, she could have been abusive, but it was triggered by him cheating, flirting, being a douchebag, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 01:54 AM
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Unfortunately he is taken :/ His partner though seems lovely and she’s a talented artist so I’m happy for them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 05:09 AM
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I’m not having sex until marriage or until I’m sure we’re getting married. I really don’t see the benefit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 01:32 AM
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Where did they say that? Where did I say that?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 06:29 AM
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I have standards and preferences yea. Like funny guys and guys with dark hair and nice eyebrows. Good taste in music and appreciates Janis Joplin and similar artists. Good taste in food/not vegan. Preferences are fine as long as they’re not rooted in weird offensive or unhealthy fetishes
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 06:27 AM
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Listening to me and not just seeing me as a Woman ™. I like really authentic relationships where both parties are thoughtful and putting in effort. Flirting isn’t really my thing
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 05:54 AM
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Usually relief, unless I spent a lot of time with him and am attached. I feel bad blocking someone or telling someone I don’t want to talk to them unless of course they’re rude, send dick pics, or just general assholery like this. Having him stop pursuing me is like “finally I can stop being bothered without being rude” Then again, I’m an extreme introvert and love being single. A lot of flirting tactics men use are really annoying or confusing to me
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 05:16 AM
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Leave in all situations involving infidelity. Why act single when the whole point of marriage is commitment?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 05:10 AM
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If they still cheat when everything is going pretty much perfectly, what makes you think you can prevent them the second time? Doing the same thing again and again expecting different results is the definition of insanity.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 05:03 AM
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I thought women are against being seen as objects? I can’t believe they’re doing this to themselves now.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 04:45 AM
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Having no emotions is a sign something is wrong. Sometimes problems are necessarily crippling depression but just general apathy
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 04:35 AM
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Some are but a lot of us just want a guy with some morality (aka faithful and makes effort). FDS actually hates hookups and “casual” stuff. If you sleep around with Chads as a woman, you’re hurting yourself and being stupid. I look at it as the antithesis of the “YOU propose to him!” and “ask HIM out!” and “sleep with random men as long as you consent UWU” liberal feminism crap
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 04:19 AM
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She could have a health issue or hormonal imbalance? Maybe get it tested not just for the sex but for her health. I have hypothyroidism and low testosterone and it causes sluggishness and lack of sex drive. Stress can impact it too
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 04:09 AM
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What do u mean people don’t do this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 04:06 AM
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I haven’t shaved anything in two months. Good thing I’m not very hairy but still I feel like King Kong
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 04:02 AM
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Men are allowed to talk about everything. Women are expected to only talk about women’s issues and stereotypical women’s things.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 04:01 AM
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Anyone been having lots of weird and super vivid dreams?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 03:59 AM
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100% yes. I would dump him immediately. Everything about that goes against my morals and ideas about sex, relationships, and promiscuity. This involves paying for porn, paying for sex or sexual acts, lap dances, escorts, etc. If he went to a strip club for a Bachelors party and just watched with friends or watched porn out of curiosity that’s fine
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 03:48 AM
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I think porn addiction is a bigger factor. If someone is truly desperate and just needs sex for whatever reason they could hook up with someone obese or super ugly or diseased.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 03:44 AM
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Maybe certain places in Europe like France? I’m not sure though. Now with globalization attitudes are becoming more similar around the world
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 03:37 AM
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I’m a straight woman who’s friends with quite a few bi people. Most bisexual people are normal and great. That being said those that advertise their bisexuality tend to fit into this... category. I don’t want to stereotype but I think you know what I mean. There’s also the issue of the mostly straight girl who has slight attraction to women but never views that relationship as anything more than friends who make out and get nose piercings together But most bi people are chill.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 03:10 AM
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It isn’t a part of most women’s lives either. Only women who are into dating apps, hookups, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 03:03 AM
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If it’s a very sexually frustrated, nerdy, or naive guy then yes. He just wants a crumb of sexually experienced coochie For most quality men with good values, this is a huge red flag and quite often a dealbreaker. At the very least it will make them slightly disrespect you, especially if you still have this demeanor
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 02:38 AM
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Maybe because it was more for sex and the asshole was better looking? Correlation doesn’t equal causation. Maybe the “nice guys” do worse because all they can sell is their niceness. Anyways this crap only applies to hookups and sex obsessed people
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 02:33 AM
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Being a cocky jerk is a red flag. Every time I press a cocky jerk for more info it turns out he’s like broken, has self esteem issues, is lowkey an alcoholic, etc. Strong but genuinely kind men are what I prefer, but to each their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 02:32 AM
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Why would you want your wife or mother of your future children to be someone who sees kindness as weakness? That’s super toxic
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 02:30 AM
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Best way I can describe American sexuality is “theatrical”. Like very showy with little substance
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 02:29 AM
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I’m not one to judge what’s ideal and what’s not, but based on my standards I would say Japan is the least sexually healthy country in the world. They rank very low for sexual satisfaction, have weird sort of pedo standards of attractiveness, etc. My dad’s Chinese and he says Japan freaks him out most out of all Asian countries
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 02:27 AM
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Ok but I do actually know men who refuse to do things like use lotion on their super dry irritated skin because lotion —> homosexuality?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 02:23 AM
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True nature doesn’t search to destroy if it doesn’t make sense. Many men go against this very principle. Some women too, but mostly men.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 02:20 AM
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I was vegetarian for awhile and had a lot of nutrient deficiencies like lack of heme iron which is only found in red meat. You might want to check that out. Don’t underestimate the power of health. I have hypothyroidism and it made me gain 40 lbs mostly in my stomach and my face became so bloated my eyes would sometimes completely covered. Got horrible red irritated pale skin. Without hypothyroidism I was always complimented about my looks. Good health can make you look completely different
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 02:09 AM
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How does SMV and RMV differ and why would it matter? A lot of people will only have sex with someone they’re in a very long term serious relationship anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 02:05 AM
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They have extremely good looks and a large part of that is because they take good care of themselves and have good health and a good mindset. From a young age, things like healthy eating, exercise, proper oral posture, etc. makes a greater difference than you think. Please research the Law of Attraction I think it will help you
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 02:01 AM
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Creatures of logic? Why are there so many obese men then (more obese men than women I believe)? Men with shit diets who drink soda everyday? In many ways I believe men are just as irrational as women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 01:57 AM
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Creatures of logic? Why are there so many obese men then (more obese men than women I believe)? Men with shit diets who drink soda everyday? In many ways I believe men are just as irrational as women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 01:57 AM
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A lot of them have skincare routines that are not based in dermatology, science, etc. They also lack discipline and consistency. The only things that matter are gently but effectively cleansing, moisturizing, avoid fragrance/irritants, sunscreen, and maybe something anti aging like Retin-A or Vitamin C. All these Pinterest woo woo rubbing lemon and sugar on your face, most face masks, actually ruin the skin barrier and make your skin age. Work smart not hard
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 01:55 AM
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I’ve heard of men who refuse to wipe their ass because it’s gay. Like they might splash it in the shower but no tissue or finger pressure 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 01:51 AM
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Healthy and classy is something everyone should strive for. “Appealing” starts becoming gray area. Anyone in the right mind would want to be looked at and valued for what they say and do, not their boobs or butt. Men don’t need their bulges showing to be seen as worthy! There is a way to dress femininely without your figure being the most obvious thing in sight.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 01:47 AM
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There’s a difference between wanting to appear attractive/healthy/well adjusted vs wanting to look sexually provocative. The former is a healthy desire to have for both men and women, to an extent (as long as it doesn’t manifest as a body image issue, obsession, or extreme vanity). The latter can cause issues for one’s self image and how others view you. The sad thing is, there is an increasing expectation of women to be rather provocative to fit the former category. Things like crop tops, super…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 01:43 AM
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I agree 100% unless it’s at the beach or a very hot day. Although she might genuinely believe she is doing it for herself because happiness for some is so conflated with sexual attention, it’s likely that deep inside she isn’t. There’s something called self objectification. Basically viewing yourself as an object especially in the eyes of men, instead of jus seeing the world through your own eyes. Research studies have been done on what girls wear, and girls perform better on tests and more conf…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 01:35 AM
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Aah I see. This sounds bad but sometimes I feel guilt for not being the right kind of crazy. The guy I had sex with said something like “I’m not sure if that qualifies as crazy sex because you’re mentally off but it wasn’t crazy sex” or something
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 01:11 AM
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At least you’re consistent. A lot of men want to whore around then expect a virgin. If you’re gonna be a slutty man you better not disrespect slutty women! Because who were you being intimate with all those years you “sowed your oats”? I also agree sex should happen only in long term relationships. I’m probably waiting until I’m pretty certain I’m getting married. There’s a quote from the band Hole: “once they get what they want they don’t want it again”. Something like that haha I stand by it, …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 12:54 AM
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Speaking from an evolutionary perspective this doesn’t make sense. If you want to mate with someone, wouldn’t it be with someone who has good values, stability, and healthy genes? Imagine being so sick you go against basic instincts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 12:48 AM
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Not true. I’m depressed and lack energy big time. The only guy I had sex with said I’m a starfish and suck in bed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 12:43 AM
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When it comes to BDSM and kinky sex, this sounds weird but think about it from their perspective. From your perspective it’s pretty normalized, wanting your be spanked and choked is seen as kind of “normal” for women (whether or not you agree with this). But think about it from a man’s perspective. Why would he be aroused by seeing you in pain? Calling you derogatory names? Seeing you in humiliating positions? This makes it easier to see how much of a red flag it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 12:41 AM
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Not surprising. Even back when she was doing all the sex ed stuff it was kinda the liberal feminism “if it’s your choice and consenting it’s empowering” kinda vibe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 12:02 AM
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Exactly. It sucks. Finding the balance between thin but not so thin men notice my eating disorder, curvy but not fat, toned but not stronger than a man, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 10:39 PM
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Just being real here: If you take care of yourself, use sunscreen, maybe an anti aging cream with retinol, stay fit for your body type, don’t smoke, eat healthy, and stay happy you can honestly stay traditionally attractive for much longer than that. Look at media from other countries that seem to embrace the beauty of white hairs, wrinkles, etc. There’s many different types of female beauty, and many ways women contribute to society other than beauty. American media is pretty toxic. You’ve been…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 10:38 PM
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This is giving me serious serial killer vibes. Like in the crime movie where they find a photo album and there’s pictures and descriptions of all the victims, and newspaper clippings? Yup. Trust your intuition.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 10:34 PM
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They can’t handle the power haha. She’s hot? Better reduce her to a talentless object!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 10:31 PM
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Imagine paying to be a sweaty man’s domestic and sex slave
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 10:26 PM
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This might be true. It’s sad but you’re not a good parent if you project it into your kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 10:23 PM
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I shave my legs and stuff and not because it’s my choice 100%. It’s cause I don’t want to be judged! I admit that completely
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 10:19 PM
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That’s so pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 10:16 PM
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That’s not true that’s way above average. Certainly not low. Promiscuity is actually often a symptom of many issues
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/20 10:07 PM
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Many poly people admit jealousy is very much a thing. Monogamous relationships have their problems as is. I can’t imagine how chaotic a polyamorous thing would be
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 07:51 AM
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Not always true. At all. Basically you’re saying women are always attention hungry unless they’re seriously ill or traumatized? Not true at all. My reason is trauma, fear of compliments on my appearance, and extreme perfectionism but to generalize all girls like they’re some sort of hive mind with only several subcategories is... telling
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/20 07:54 PM
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Girls get busy or have health problems. Girls value different things. I know a lot of people are just genuinely introverted. For instance, I don’t see the point of having a huge Instagram like that unless I want to make a career out of social media. I get kinda uncomfortable when complimented You can often talk to someone and see if they’re the social media type. A lot of people aren’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/20 07:01 PM
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I see. I think that’s more of a commonality between women who don’t know what they’re looking for, and the consequence of our sex > relationship oriented culture. In circles where relationships and tradition are more valued, it is not like that at all. It’s understandable you’re sick of women like this. Live out your values and meet more friends hopefully you’ll find different women
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/20 06:56 PM
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Followers doesn’t equal attractiveness. I don’t post anything on my Instagram except pictures of leaves and stuff. The only selfie is my profile pic. Some girls are just not interested in having a social media presence and that’s okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/20 06:52 PM
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Yeah I think your definition is more accurate. Of CC.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/20 06:49 PM
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Just because someone is attractive doesn’t mean they’ll act like that wtf. A lot of people who sleep around are actually somewhat unattractive, have masculine tendencies, or something really wrong with them
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/20 06:45 PM
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You guys are hanging around toxic people. This is just sad. Yes I’ve heard people say mean things but it isn’t the norm and it isn’t common or acceptable
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/20 06:43 PM
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You realize the average body count of women is what, like 4 or 5? If most of the women you’re friends with sleep around that’s probably a skewed demographic.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/20 06:40 PM
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In what way is it the same? Also, what’s important is where did you meet these girls? If you met them in a bar or on Tinder that’s going to skew the average mindset by a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/20 06:33 PM
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Dating apps definitely contributes to this mindset. It’s literally viewing people as objects to choose like online shopping or something
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/20 06:31 PM
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Maybe there’s a good reason why? You can’t assume.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/20 06:30 PM
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Cannot agree with this more. A lot of these same guys have a tendency towards the “Madonna-Whore” mindset. Their only interactions with women are either their mom, or porn/typical Instagram models/hentai/dating apps which obviously gives a very incomplete or even completely false view of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/20 06:28 PM
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I know this is nitpicking but she said “I’m not not a feminist” so double negative. So I guess that means she’s not anti feminist?? Regardless, she comes across as a pick me. She blames female alt artists and female writers for the criticism. When a lot of men have criticized her as well. Also note the rivalry with random female artists who have done her no wrong, like Gaga.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 06:13 AM
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My ex liked Eminem 😣 Oh! Another red flag. Refusing to listen to any female artist unless it’s to watch the music video because she’s hot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 04:24 AM
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Shaking your butt is less offensive to me than singing “he hit me and it felt like a kiss” as beautiful reverbed strings play in the background
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 04:05 AM
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Cola
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 03:11 AM
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raises hand I was definitely influenced by LDR and also just “depression” and “broken girl” aesthetic as a whole on tumblr. I don’t think it caused my mental illness, but it made me romanticize suffering instead of incentivizing myself to feel better. It also made me shallow like “it’s better to be sad and cute than frumpy and happy”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 01:11 AM
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Hmm as a WOC I’m not too mad about that race aspect. I don’t see it as too racist tbh. It’s more of an issue of sexism, of women being pit against each other for minor things. But then again, being black those artists she named almost HAD to do sexual behavior and wear crazy outfits to be noticed. She as a white woman didn’t need to romanticize daddy issues and Lolita to be noticed it was an aesthetic choice and a rather irresponsible choice considering how much girls now aspire to live that art…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 09:35 PM
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Yea. I loved her lyrics when I was a pick me who romanticized pining over toxic men. It’s one thing to have occasional pick me songs because everyone feels that way once in awhile, but LDR makes it seem desirable/artsy to be in that position and doesn’t balance it out with a strong persona, songs about other situations, etc. She as a person romanticizes her objectification even outside of her lyrics it seems
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 09:33 PM
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Yeah she’s not telling the story of her cage and how she escaped it. She’s just decorated the cage to make it aesthetic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 09:30 PM
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Here’s a link to her statements: https://imgur.com/a/V2SQphX To me, her second statement is more telling. She definitely contributed to me romanticizing my own trauma, depression, and “pick me I’m not like those other girls” type of behavior. I was a huge fan. Now I don’t know how to feel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 09:27 PM
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It’s not love it’s desperation and escapism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 08:45 PM
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I don’t think “perfect” Anarchism will ever happen. Even if it makes sense (which it doesn’t really to me) anything other than pure anarchism would lead to something that’s extremely horrible AND potentially super corrupt too
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/20 01:09 AM
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I do think many of the members have weird standards but I do agree HVM are like 20%. Even lower. That being said, high value women are quite low as well. High value people are less common than low value value, though ranking people like that is a blunt way to put it haha. For instance, if you’re the typical Cheeto addicted, cheats on boyfriend, can’t cook, no sense of worth or class, burps aloud type of girl, don’t expect people to “treat you like a queen” or whatever. These women don’t deserve …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/20 11:11 PM
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At the end of the day, I don’t think anyone especially straight girls should sleep with someone they’re not in a relationship. I just don’t get the point. It has 0 appeal to me. So idk. Either I’m in a serious relationship or I’m single and working on myself What is the Non Aggression Principle?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/20 11:04 PM
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How do you know her? What’s your current relationship like with her? I usually don’t recommend casual sex for guys or girls. Since you’re a dude, if you don’t treat you nice you’re an absolute douchebag who doesn’t deserve to sleep with her and you’re training yourself to see girls as just sex. And if you do treat her well, you risk her developing feelings and you accidentally leading her on making it risky. Regardless, make it VERY CLEAR what you’re looking for. I don’t agree and I’m confused w…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/20 11:03 PM
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Hmm how does she feel about you? Did you guys go on a date? Made out? Hooked up? Friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/20 10:55 PM
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Hmm that would depend on the details of the situation, and how much you were let on. If someone isn’t into you, they should block you or let you know. When I don’t like a dude I don’t hit them randomly with “wyd” or “heyyyy”. I ignore them. But at the same time girls shouldn’t make that a big deal. Just block him. I don’t get the psychology of liking a guy who isn’t even into you
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/20 10:51 PM
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A HVM isn’t a “perfect” man. I cant speak for all women, but as someone who vaguely follows some FDS strategies, my goal is to feel cared for and not be raped or drugged. Not to find Fabio. A HVM is just someone who is faithful, respectful, cares about you, and is not manipulative or violent. Someone who puts in effort. A lot of men and women nowadays are low value. As a more conservative woman, I believe the sexual revolution is a big part of it, but tbh, there were lots of bad partners for mos…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/20 10:47 PM
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Treating someone like shit is being manipulative and having no regards to the other persons feelings. Applies to both men and women. Leading someone on counts. Continuing to sleep with someone who has feelings for you when you don’t want to commit counts, although in this situation the person who is being led on is also beyond idiotic. Also treating others like shit also encompasses predatory behavior. It often takes two for a bad situation to occur, but still. I wish my cautiousness wasn’t the …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/20 10:40 PM
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A lot of lesbians actually put a lot of effort into their appearance. Not as much as straight women, but they just have a different standard of what’s hot compared to straight men Not lesbian just have lots of lesbian friends
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/20 10:36 PM
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One of the few red pill comments I agree with tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/20 10:35 PM
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As an occasional FDS user, I think it can have occasional toxicity. Like most subreddits, it’s an echo chamber. There are some sexist, toxic, and basically “leg beard” women there. But for a woman who has low self esteem and finds her self worth mainly from male attention, going to that sub will open your eyes and shift your mindset positively. There are also posts that celebrate cute things dads and men do. Which is great. Unlike TRP which never celebrates what women do unless they’re acting li…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/20 10:34 PM
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Humans aren’t meant to live in constant physical comfort. That leads to depression.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/20 02:22 AM
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There are many exceptions, but there is a trend
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/20 12:03 AM
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Many things. First of all kids need a mom and a dad, or at least a father figure and a mother figure. Technology doesn’t help. Fast paced life. People having children at older ages and thus being overprotective and less laissez faire with some aspects of parenting. Extreme individualism leading to selfish and entitled kids. Porn (which groomed kids digitally and taught them strange ideas about sex and the opposite gender, and what makes one sexually worthy). Less close knit communities and exten…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/20 12:02 AM
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Teach your kids to be normal, but discourage casual sex for the most part imo. It’s not good for young girls, and so who would the young boys have sex with? Lost girls they won’t respect because they’re slutty. Teach kids to associate sex with long term love and respect. Instead of having sex be a weapon boys use to turn a good girl into a bad used girl Also, 18 is a normal age? I believe the average age in the US is 17 or 18. I lost my v card at 19 (only a year ago) and I regret it so much. He …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/20 11:52 PM
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If you don’t have morals you are driven by a sense of selfishness. But what do you even want if you aren’t driven by morals? All you’ll have is greed and hedonism Without morals, there would be nothing stopping you from cheating on your gf, nothing that would drive you to help others.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/20 11:42 PM
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Whoops I responded to the wrong comment yea
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/20 11:29 PM
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Wtf is your goal then? Since when is it cool to be a psychopath?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/20 11:26 PM
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Expectations are good. Healthy expectations. Things like interacting with the other gender in a way that doesn’t have to do with sex or your mom, eating right, learning basic skills, grooming, are things ALL people should learn. Both men and women. Can’t believe the scope of neckbeardery. Well, this is reddit haha
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/20 11:21 PM
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This is beautiful. Reminds me of the man who has a YouTube channel to teach basic skills like tying a tie or fixing a toilet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 08:24 PM
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His loss. He’s completely foolish
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 08:22 PM
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Traditional, monogamous relationships are key.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/20 08:21 PM
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Women have an easier time getting laid but most women are not content being someone’s free sex doll. The concept of hookups hurts everyone. Men’s self esteem and view of relationships/women is crushed. Women feel used, lose their class, and are in danger when in vulnerable positions like this. Plus swiping is so dehumanizing! It’s like you’re advertising yourself and consuming a person. Really crude and objectifying
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/20 07:29 PM
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How will being amoral attract people you respect/love and have worthy people love/respect you? The only way this can work is if you’re a narcissist or psychopath, and you view other people as NPCs and pawns you manipulate for your own convenience But oh well. See you on r/trashy or r/ neckbeard in a few years
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/20 07:21 PM
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but they shouldn’t be normalized. The girls who do frequent hookups are super shallow or broken. Leading to men who participate in that to have worse perceptions about both themselves and women. There are plenty of research studies on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/20 07:14 PM
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If everyone is being ammoral, stand our from the crowd, and do the right thing by being moral. You can’t play the same game as people devoid of values. They go REALLY low. Plus what kind of people will you attract? Trash. All those simps and male feminists who pretend to be moral are not moral at all FYI. They just want a crumb of pssy but have little to know success. That’s why they’re like that
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/20 06:50 PM
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You guys need to stop having hookups. Men and women. Hookups are more escapist behavior and what do they even lead to? Obviously more unhappiness for you guys. Women: you will attract pick up artist creepy sexist types who may or may not want to drug and rape you. Men: you will attract wannabe empowered mentally unstable girls who have probably slept with three times as many people as you have.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/20 06:42 PM
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See a godammn therapist and use the law of attraction. Redpill is a cope that if anything goes against basic nature of men courting women. “Maybe my hatred of women is what will win them over.” Let me tell you that it will not and all my friends and I will dump and block a guy the second he uses negging techniques because we have some sense of worth Trash attracts mentally unstable/shallow/unconfident trash. Thus reinforcing that toxic mentality of all men or all women being trash
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/20 06:39 PM
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If you raise your boys with confidence, allow them to play sports, let them hang out with girls their age from a very young age, as parents set a good example of healthy dynamics between men and women, make sure they eat right and groom themselves, etc I doubt they would have issues unless they’re literally deformed or mentally handicapped. Women have higher standards for their self care, or at least have been raised to do so. It’s partially the parents fault for raising a boy who spends little …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/20 06:35 PM
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Why are “redpill men’s” idea of equality always bringing women down? Sexually frustrated much? Let me tell you that sexual attention gets old fast and is of negative value when you’re objectified for it
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/20 06:28 PM
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Oof someone got rejected! Life is more than attention from the opposite sex. Life is being seen as a complex human being. Which men refuse to see me as. Imagine if every time you discuss your research or artwork and people’s only response is “wow she’s pretty AND smart” instead of listening to what you have to say? Imagine talking about current events with a guy and having him just say how cute you are instead of actually treating you like a human being? Imagine your gender talking 15% of the ti…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/20 06:23 PM
20

He knew. He just didn’t care, was a jerk, or knew he was getting what he wanted (like sex or companionship) without putting in the extra work of flowers. He turned the tables so you would be the one who had to beg for his attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 07:44 AM
6

Look at how much more well dressed and put together she is... I understand women on average put more effort but this is just ridiculous. He’s wearing a graphic tee!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 07:37 AM
8

As the famous saying goes, “It takes two to tango”. Sex should be reciprocal, fun, and loving. It’s not a chore. It’s not something men “do” to women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 07:34 AM
2

Bet they split the bill #equality #progressive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 07:33 AM
6

It says nothing about you though! I’m sure you’re amazing and lovely, but when you’re dating someone with a pornified view of the world, they need constant novelty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 07:32 AM
6

Yep. If they’re gonna have all that privilege, at least make them have some accountability!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 07:31 AM
7

Yep. Now he has told her what he values her for, so she better not lose that . Sad mentality
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 07:29 AM
40

Yep. There is no reason a man in a relationship should be following these insta models. He knows what he’s doing. They post sexy pics, he gets to see sexy pics
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 07:25 AM
2

Yeah. If it’s just endearing it’s fine. If I’m explaining my research paper it’s not
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 04:40 AM
4

Don’t get too infatuated too fast! But I am happy you found someone nice to talk to. Him not caring about your body count is just a minimum. Make sure he doesn’t start treating you differently slowly or asking you for weird sexual favors after knowing that. Spend your day working on yourself as well. No one should center their day and energy around a guy, but I know how difficult that is to do because emotions! And brains chemistry haha. Maybe spend less than an hour talking to him a day, but mo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 04:39 AM
2

Ew. Casual shit like that is for when you’ve been dating for like at least 6 months to a year, and it shouldn’t be a date unless he does something really special during it. People’s relationships move super fast yet super slow nowadays and I’m so confused
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 04:34 AM
3

What is the reason you want hookups when deep inside you really want a relationship? Ask yourself that question and answer honestly. Imo, even if it’s a reason like “just wanting to orgasm”, it’s not worth it. They will talk to their friends about that chick they banged. Someone who isn’t worth dating doesn’t deserve getting his dick licked by you! But I do get the appeal. The feeling of being wanted by many men, the dopamine rush and ego boost of getting tons of matches, etc. It’s very likely t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 04:32 AM
4

Ohh god. They can never take a joke when it comes to sex! Just like how women go to male strippers to laugh and have a funny time with their friends, and men go to strip clubs to get lap dances and cheat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 04:26 AM
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Doesn’t matter if you’re praising him or getting angry at him. Effort put into a LVM bleached asshole is wasted effort, wasted energy, and wasted time. It’s even a waste of your phone’s battery life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 04:24 AM
2

See it’s difficult because I’ve never experienced this growing up from my parents. I’ve normalized being disrespected, ignored, and yelled at. I need to learn to have high standards, and the right priorities
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 10:47 AM
1

I think people are slowly waking up to how toxic FWB is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 10:24 AM
2

Those who can’t bear the thought of treating a woman like a homo sapien turn to MGTOW, or claim to be incels
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 10:22 AM
4

There’s no excuse to not have dignity, self respect, and class. I’m so proud of her for leaving that little wart
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 10:05 AM
4

Of course, but to be societally accepted as beautiful, fashionable, and well groomed, it takes work
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 09:41 AM
27

Nah. He had the capabilities to man the decisions of an adult, he’s just an abuser lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 05:54 PM
48

Disgusting. Taking advantage of vulnerable women who need money, and emotionally manipulating/humiliating their wives
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 05:52 PM
15

Definitely. Same with grown adults who know the age of consent in every state.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 04:36 AM
15

Grimes doesn’t come across as autistic to me. I was suspected of being on the spectrum for many years. She looks like she possibly has mild ADHD and is generally insecure and also quirky, though that is part of her image so it is played up. A lot of adults with ADHD and/or autism are actually not talkative and quirky like her. She seems nervous and insecure af though. Possibly uncomfortable in her own body. I think she is just generally immature but very smart
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 08:37 PM
10

He’s so quirky and “different” and such a meme king that he’s able to get away with what is clearly standard douche bag behavior
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 08:31 PM
15

She’s not even married to Elon! If you are gonna have a child with him at least get married (with prenup)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 08:30 PM
52

But she was 14!!!!!! I’m not a pedophile it’s a hebaphilia thing!!!!’nknn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 08:18 PM
27

Exactly. If an attractive woman says something or expresses her opinion, the man will just look at her and think “wow she’s beautiful and smart” or “she’s so cute when she is passionate” instead of actually listening to what she has to say. At this point, I will ignore all men except those who are friends and family, and those who have proved to me that they view me as a human being with complexities and contradictions
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 11:42 PM
1

Get rid of that dating app mindset and meet people in real life you dweeb
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/20 09:06 PM
1

I’ve dumped men for negging. Though I used to let it slide back when I was dealing with severe trauma and low self esteem Who tf hurt you? God bless any woman who has to deal with you
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/20 09:17 AM
4

I would say yes haha until fairly recently people were not commonly masturbating to images or videos of other couples having sex while they were in a relationship. A lot of men admit that their view of sex and relationships positively changed once they gave up porn
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/20 06:33 AM
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The fact some men can only see women as “someone I can potentially bang” is truly sickening. I am absolutely alarmed. Most men I know have both male and female platonic friends. And these are straight men. There is absolutely no excuse for these nice guys. They’re only nice under the condition that you’ll date or have sex with them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 03:00 AM
3

Nahhhh... What does forgiving him teach you and other girls? That it’s just some sort of silly mistake? People change, but she was obviously able to move on without that apology. He’s apologizing for himself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 02:50 AM
1

I’m a woman who doesn’t dig it. What makes Chads attractive isn’t their douche behavior it’s their physique. If two men are equally smart, good looking, and interesting I would pick the nice one over the bleached asshole. First step is viewing people as individuals. Yes, women are different than men on average and we have tendencies, but if your main tactic is acting like a douche you won’t attract good girls. Like wtf pls reflect upon your actions
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/20 02:38 AM
11

Yeah don’t say to a man that you’re progressive or a feminist. Or they’ll start pulling shit like this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 01:02 AM
6

How about girls with daddy issues? Isn’t that trauma caused by men? But no, it’s just seen as a sexual kink
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 12:12 AM
5

It’s adulterous to explicitly search up other women then fantasize to the images of them having sex, yes. How is this different than voyeurism to the brain (albeit without the risk of getting caught)? I would count voyeurism as a form of infidelity. Of course you can’t control what your SO fantasizes to, but watching real images is pretty explicit
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/20 10:08 PM
2

Here’s what I’ve seen works and what doesn’t, based on psychology videos I watch and observations of my friends and family. I am not very experienced with relationships but I like to watch and eavesdrop so take with a grain of salt :) Don’t do anything sexual until you have been committed/official for awhile (“awhile” depends on both of your cultures, can be anything from waiting 5 months to waiting until marriage) Don’t live together until you are married (if the goal is marriage) Don’t have ki…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/20 10:04 PM
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Bruh being purposefully an asshole is abusive. Every abusive relationship whether with a dude, friends, or family has been characteristic of having highs and lows, and I was refusing to leave after a “low” moment because I was reminiscing about and romanticizing the highs. Conflict is a natural part of relationships. It doesn’t need to be forced. And for every 1 negative interaction, there needs to be at least 5 positive interactions. That’s a rule I learned about relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/20 09:48 PM
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I post there. I agree with some, disagree with some. Some people take it too far and become some sort of female neckbeard (leg beard?) where they demand a 6’4” man with a Chippendales body 9+ inches dick millionaire etc etc. Like girl, look in the mirror and reflect upon your own life! That being said, there’s been more effort to highlight HVM behavior that is more related to their values and effort rather than sports cars and private jets. As a college age girl, I’m realistic and know that men …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/20 09:42 PM
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This seems perfectly reasonable. Men who seek out casual sex and one night stands yet demand a virgin are hypocritical and creepy imo. But there’s nothing wrong with not wanting to date a slut lol. I’m a woman and I would refuse to date a man who payed for prostitutes, did orgies, and has a view of sex as something divorced from loving relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/20 09:29 PM
3

Polygamy/polyamory is not a stable way to raise kids, and it can breed sexism and jealousy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/20 09:24 PM
4

As a woman, I wouldn’t want to have sex with a man who did orgies and gangbangs, payed for prostitutes or nudes, or did tons of one night stands and generally has a very casual or wild relationship with sex. Hopefully he will view sex as an expression of love instead of some taboo dirty act. As long as there’s no huge double standard I think it’s fine, especially since I want to have kids in the future and I would want a father for my kids who has a sorta similar view of sexuality as I do. The p…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/20 09:21 PM
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No the teen the husband was cheating on the OP with who likely gave the husband the STD made fun of the baby. And made fun of OP for not being able to satisfy her husband and be good at sex or whatever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 03:01 AM
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I once saw one where she was giving birth to their kid but he couldn’t make it and it turns out he was cheating on her with a teen while she was giving birth, and the baby caught an STD because the man gave her an STD, then the pickmeisha made fun of the baby for getting an STD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 12:18 AM
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Wildest conspiracy theory: men emotionally neglect and/or abandon their children because they know that girls with “daddy issues” are more desperate and willing to do anything to please in bed 😂 /s (kinda)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 08:09 AM
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As a 20 year old, guess I’m hitting the wall
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 05:20 PM
18

For some men it’s a sexual turn on. Getting turned on by childhood trauma? Yup totally normal
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 04:26 PM
13

The worst are those stories where the mom dies or goes away, so instead of the dad cookies for his kids, his oldest daughter is forced to cook everything. Like why??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 04:24 AM
5

I’m not cooking for my boyfriend unless we’re married. The only times I would are cooking together for fun, or making brownies and stuff for his birthday. I’m not making his everyday lunch and dinner. No way
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 04:23 AM
9

Don’t forget porn addicts calling good men “incels”. Somehow, not wanting to jerk off to porn makes you a virgin or a loser?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 10:48 PM
2

Be kind, not nice. Kindness starts with valuing yourself. Pickmeishas are nice mainly for sad reasons like getting male attention, all while throwing their dignity under the bus
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 12:44 PM
1

I’m Asian so no woman in my family has ever changed their last name. Even my grandmothers kept their maiden names
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 12:08 PM
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Normally, with privilege comes responsibility. How do they let their husbands get away with that? All the privilege and none of the responsibility
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 11:51 AM
6

He sees his girlfriend as a free or low cost prostitute/mommy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 02:52 AM
1

No I haven’t I don’t watch movies much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 04:17 AM
1

SE Asia is more white worshipping in general than NE Asia. Because there was more colonialism. It’s not just about the poverty imo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 02:03 PM
1

It’s very common. Sad but I see it a lot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 02:02 PM
23

I try to stay clear of big blockbuster Hollywood type movies. I like more female centric coming of age type stories. Or artsy indie films. Not for some reasons, just because I feel like it’s more intimate, emotional, and relatable. I don’t watch many movies anyways, but I’d love to see a big action movie with an interesting character complex background story for a female character that isn’t explicitly a “feminist” movie
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 06:23 AM
13

It’s almost as if their initial advice telling women to find a better partner is just to shift the blame to the woman when a bad situation occurs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 05:21 AM
2

You are the prize. Not the man. Sit and observe, never try to impress
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 05:19 AM
7

Porn is to sex as watching a McDonalds mukbang is to eating food
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 09:36 AM
8

Something like 85% of porn has some sort of explicit violence or degradation. Like choking, slapping, etc. the number might be higher but it was at least 80%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 09:35 AM
8

Among black women yes. White men with Asian women tends to be a bit different. In some Southeast Asian families, colonialism runs so deep you’re encouraged to date outside of your race as long as he’s not brown or black, so basically white. In my family, looking Asian is seen as a flaw that you just have to come around to accept
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 01:04 PM
7

Not sure about Japan. This is based on statistics in the US, so Asian American men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 07:32 AM
6

I wouldn’t wait until marriage, but I would wait at least a year or two into being committed. I think it’s important to kind of know each other sexually before being that committed on paper
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 04:25 AM
50

MGTOW are ironically some of the most desperate men on this planet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 04:13 AM
72

East Asian men have the lowest infidelity rates among men. Don’t buy into the “white American men are more progressive” crap. They’re progressive in terms of splitting the bill, having threesomes, porn addiction, and wearing a pin that says “equality”. Less so in the important ways
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 04:10 AM
2

Dress in a way that’s flattering to your figure. In a way so people will notice you more for who you are and less your boobs/butt. Male sexual attention isn’t something you need to seek to get. Appearing in a way they perceive as “sexy” or “easy” may get you some temporary perks, but keep in mind that they won’t respect someone just because they want to sleep with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 04:04 AM
3

Same exact story. Every man has insisted on paying except this dude who made at least $100k a year and tried to sexually assault me. That dude wanted me to Venmo him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 03:59 AM
7

Associating abusive behavior or violence with sex (the most intimate act with your loved one) isn’t healthy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 03:51 AM
10

He didn’t want a baby he probably just has a breeding fetish
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 03:45 AM
7

Being a bitch in many ways is the opposite of being a “bad bitch”. Getting mad at men, lecturing them by writing paragraphs, being loud just for the sake of being loud. Nope. Just walk away and block.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 03:38 AM
9

Don’t try to become more extroverted around men or any people you are trying to please. I know this can be hard because as a more quiet person, I try to be loud to appear more friendly sometimes. If anything, talk less around them. Just observe. All those deep insights? Funny stories? Compliments? Save them for when you know they’re deserving of it. Don’t waste your words, because as introverts, it already takes more energy to socialize. Everything you say should be purposeful, and reduce nervou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 03:35 AM
6

Meh not my aesthetic. I think there would be a lot more forests and cottages in a world with no douchebags
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 03:29 AM
13

Also, emotional dangers as well. It’s nice and empowering at first to pretend you don’t have feelings, and that you’re fine with objectifying yourself and keeping things casual. But since when is objectifying yourself and stopping yourself from feeling, separating love from sex, a healthy thing?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 03:27 AM
14

She needs to stock up on Sharpies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 03:23 AM
51

The guy being white just makes this even more hilarious... he wants to act out his favorite porno down to the dialogue lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 03:17 AM
40

If only they could apply that creativity to, you know, helping the world and the people they love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 03:15 AM
35

Anyone with 2 working neurons can look at this and see he has a fetish rooted in stereotypes and deep racism. But no, we’re told not to kinkshame
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 03:14 AM
13

What people need to realize is that sex is not casual! Casual is going out for coffee, hanging out at the park, like friends who are starting to realize they’re sort of attracted to each other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 03:02 AM
13

I don’t want to be all “woe is me” because I’m lucky and privileged in other ways, but being a 20 year old straight woman, I feel I almost can’t date. Living in a “liberal” area (aka pro promiscuity and porn), I have limited options. The non liberals in my area don’t necessarily have good values; they likely still enjoy hookups but might enjoy it with a side of xenophobia. Men my age are porn addicted. Men a few years older are also porn addicted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 02:59 AM
11

Many LVM admit that dating/relationships are free or low cost prostitution.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 02:55 AM
13

They don’t even see themselves as complex human beings anymore. We need a name for pickmeishas with internalized racism. Or pickmeishas who fetishize another race
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 02:42 AM
7

You and your friend sound uniquely beautiful, yet we all look the same to them! It’s no excuse. In Russia and with culturally Eastern European people, I notice they can actually tell the difference between attractive and less attractive Asians, they have Asian/hapa celebrities, and Korean/Japanese culture is seen as pretty cool by the mainstream, not just weird weebs. So it’s not that we all look the same, it’s just that Americans were raised to see women of color as NPCs And yea I’ve seen plent…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 02:39 AM
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Being Asian, it’s super easy to spot a white worshipping Asian pickmeisha. She has a smug look on her face when she’s out with her white boyfriend. Submissive yet super offensive at the same time. Either rejects her Asianness or talks about it like it’s something exotic and separate from her. Self deprecating jokes. No creativity (hard to describe, but everything she does is a wannabe). It’s really sad but pathetic if they don’t change and develop self awareness
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 06:22 PM
44

From an Asian woman to an Asian woman: try to avoid dating white men if you can. I’m not saying never do it, but if you’ve had repeat encounters with creepy men or just bad luck with meeting good guys.... Whether or not all his exes are Asian, he has a high chance of being fetishy. When I talk to white men, it’s as if they don’t see me as fully human. Just an NPC Asian girl. I was born in the US, yet I’ve had white men talk more slowly to me or dumb down their vocabulary. They likely don’t respe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 06:04 PM
67

Yes. Lots of Asian women are gross when it comes to that too. I’m an Asian woman and the shit I’ve heard them say about their own race is just sad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 05:57 PM
1

Don’t plan to get pregnant unless you’re married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 03:41 PM
2

I had a dude I was dating where I stupidly opened up to him like this about feeling sad, depressed, suicidal, and he would say “me too:(“. And the conversation would turn into why he was depressed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 01:41 PM
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Apparently, attractive women cannot be depressed. Or when we’re depressed, it’s just part of our quirky personality. The “artsy” girl. I got kicked out of a depression related subreddit because am girl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 01:39 PM
1

Some guys text “that sucks” or “I’m sorry” or “:(“. Just like you don’t give sex too quickly, don’t open up too quickly either emotionally. Don’t share all those personal stories. Just show up, watch and observe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 01:37 PM
3

I was sad reading this but this comment made be laugh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 01:22 PM
3

Wait. He was cheating while his wife was giving birth? To a baby that has syphilis just because he wanted to raw dog a random girl?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 01:21 PM
15

Trying to convince your partner to do an open marriage is really gross. I’m not into that kind of thing especially if you have a kid, but at least have that agreement since you first proposed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 01:40 AM
3

There’s not a strict number. It’s all about the nuances. But if it’s considered a “relationship with an age difference” or an “age is just a number” relationship or anything with a power imbalance, it’s too much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 02:18 AM
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My interpretation is he’s an attractive hunk of a man but dumb as a sponge. Not malicious or ill intentioned. When he screws up it’s truly cause he is lacking in IQ. I haven’t really met many tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 09:43 PM
2

Some girls are whipped and choked before receiving unconditional love. Can’t be good for your psyche or self esteem
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 08:53 PM
8

Keep in mind “high value” doesn’t mean perfect. It’s ok to be a man or woman with flaws and insecurities. Just don’t be a douche or put others down because of it. And learn from your mistakes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 11:19 AM
1

He better come up with a good response like he was in a coma or he dropped his phone in the bathtub or something. Being busy is never an excuse, especially during this coronavirus. Don’t ask him. He should come up with the explanation himself and be highly apologetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 10:14 AM
20

“Hobosexual” along with “himbo” are currently my two favorite words
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 10:10 AM
32

I’m a broke college kid and never has a broke college aged boy asked to go Dutch. They always pay. I even have some male platonic friends who insist on paying but I kinda feel bad. The only time a man wanted to go Dutch was this dude who was making like at least 100k a year some high tech dude and it was a kebab place 😂. It’s not about money when it’s just a small restaurant date
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 10:07 AM
3

No one meets platonic friends on dating apps. No straight people at least.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 10:04 AM
9

Now anytime he does something questionable it’s because he’s So PrOgGrEsSiVe... Splits bill? Equality. Wants sex on first date? Sexual liberation. Porn addict? Supports sex workers. Cheats? Polyamory.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 10:02 AM
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Only into “women’s empowerment” when it comes to encouraging sexual liberation (more free sex with no commitment), using cringy wokeness as a pickup line, and supporting the sex industry. Probably will split the bill because equality
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 10:00 AM
21

More reasons to withhold sex until you’ve been committed for awhile. Weed out the losers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 09:55 AM
18

Elbows too pointy. 5.3/10 would not bang
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 09:10 AM
41

Is there anyone on this planet incels don’t hate? Jokes on them, they hate themselves the most 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 09:10 AM
6

Yeah it was so sad. I felt so bad for her because she seemed like such an empathetic person who went through shit no one should have to even hear about. The reasoning was something like “people shouldn’t be judged for their worst moments” and moving on from moments of bad judgement. But like????? This was violently premeditated??? Maybe don’t judge a heroin addict for becoming a junkie, someone poor for robbing a store even, but murderers and rapists don’t get that pass
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 09:02 AM
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NAH. You guys seem to have a happy and cute relationship. Maybe he’s stressed out and you guys should take some time for self care together. ☺️☺️☺️☺️☺️☺️☺️☺️☺️☺️☺️☺️☺️☺️☺️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 09:47 PM
33

They should be asking that to men! Men are happier and more sexually satisfied in marriages. The question shouldn’t be “are you married?” It should be “are you happy and fulfilled?” I want to marry but I’d rather marry no one than marry some random dude
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 09:44 PM
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There was once something on another sub about forgiving her rapist (who raped her so violently she had a miscarriage) and it was gilded like 30 times. Meanwhile inspiring stories about women getting over their rape or sexual assault is not gilded and even has a handful of downvotes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 09:43 PM
13

The answer is always something along the lines of communication and compromise. While sometimes that works, it is often mostly or completely one person’s fault. Like cheating. Doing freaky shit like this. Domestic violence (unless self defense).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 09:42 PM
30

Do YoU wAnNa SpLiT tHe BiLl???????? 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 09:39 PM
17

I wonder if there are any Pandemic Pickmeishas even willing to sleep with them, or if they’re just sending these DMs to be asshats
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 11:51 AM
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Poor girl. The world wants you to be a pick me. Really it has to be the woman who has the wake up call
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 03:51 PM
21

Wow. He’s a living example of the “elbows too pointy 6/10 would not bang” meme
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 05:32 AM
1

It makes sense to think that way because guys like this don’t see women as complex people who contain multitudes and contradictions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 05:00 AM
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Just show them a photo of a super muscular gay friend as the “third person” and that should shut them up really quickly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 04:23 AM
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It’s ok to add spice in ways that you’re comfortable with and that both parties feel down to do. Things that are safe emotionally and physically, without coercion. Things like lingerie, changing up positions, different locations, role play, going on romantic dates, etc. You don’t need to start basically cheating in order to spice things up 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 04:21 AM
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Actually I dated a guy who was insistent on an MMF but he was really into porn so maybe he was into cuckhold type fetishes. My gay friend who met him said that he gave bisexual vibes so maybe it was that as well. No clue
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 04:18 AM
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I hope there were more comments other than yours that called her out... and they’ve only been together for a like 5 weeks lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 04:15 AM
14

Is this photoshopped or does he literally have no neck?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 04:07 AM
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This is so true. The times I have caught my reflection in the mirror during times I’m truly happy, free, with people I like, etc. I’m like “damn who is she?” even if I’m not dressed well or wearing makeup. But when I’m all alone, even if I’m all dolled up, I start mentally measuring my short legs compared to my torso, looking at every bump and pore on my T zone, looking at my razor bumps, chicken skin, cellulite, unibrow, etc haha. It’s why I look so much better on video than in photos I think N…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 04:04 AM
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Great job queen! This takes a lot of courage and I’m proud of you. It’s crazy to think how being a sadist used to be a bad and scary thing (which it should be, it was part of the dark triad of personality traits scary criminals had like narcissism, psychopathy, etc). Now sadism is seen as a positive, UWU thing to seek out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 08:29 AM
5

...if you end up staying with him, then one day he will start acting up, and if you call him out, he’ll say “well I warned you”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 05:45 AM
1

Well, you don’t want to look frumpy. It takes a lot for women to be traditionally presentable. Even a natural face and modest clothes takes work if you want to look feminine and not sloppy
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/20 08:56 PM
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Well, I still want to put enough effort into my appearance to look put together. I look at sexual attention as negative attention, and a lot of women who have been assaulted would as well. I guess I do want positive attention, in terms of people being friendly to me, listening to what I have to say, seeing my good qualities, respect, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/20 08:33 PM
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I think a lot of women think like I do, you just don’t see them or notice them as much because they don’t put themselves out there. I don’t online date anymore, and I never plan to again. Dating apps don’t even screen out criminals. Of course I could have been more careful, but still, I don’t like the general philosophy of swiping. Not to act holier than thou, as I used to use apps like bumble, so I’ve been there. I also don’t think you’ll attract the best people when you’re actively looking and…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/20 08:13 PM
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There’s that brief period until you reject them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 07:50 AM
28

How can a mom think that way? That’s horrific and I can’t image what kind of values she taught her kid(s)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 07:06 AM
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What’s weirder is how I heard about the father giving his daughter to the groom. It creeps me out and almost gives me incest vibes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 07:37 AM
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I know men his age. I don’t see them groping women or children. No excuse. No excuses for culture, religion, age, gender, etc. If you keep deliberately invading someone’s personal space (in a pretty sexual way if you ask me) without their consent that’s gross
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 07:00 AM
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What was the point of her making this post?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 05:25 PM
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That’s cause they might have a wife or serious girlfriend already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 03:55 AM
12

Let’s face it: everyone wants to be their partner’s only partner
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 01:26 AM
1

Women also see it as validation and empowerment then get confused when they feel even more lost and depressed Feminism is all about feel good, hedonism, if you consent it’s moral and empowering kind of thing
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/20 10:45 PM
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Mentally damaged hoes who have no dignity. Don’t see how that benefits the majority of decent women, and men who watch lots of porn act different. Trust me when I say us women can sense it lots of the time. It is partially the women’s fault for creating the porn if they’re not starving/in need of money. Plus they’re doing a disservice to everyone. What whatever being seen as an object is what’s feminist and progressive
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/20 06:28 PM
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Oh ho ho you are in for a surprise. Letting my guard down once was all it took to have one of the most traumatic experiences
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/20 06:15 PM
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Many men do! And many end up spending it on video games, collectible Marvel figurines, Only Fans, all while insisting to split the bill like a good egalitarian progressive boi
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/20 06:13 PM
1

Women are not worshipped just for being women. Receiving sexual attention is NOT power. Having your well-being and financial security and self esteem dependent on selling your body and dignity is not power. Women are powerful, but for much of history our power has been feared. Society fears femininity. Society loves emasculated men yes and girlishness (because girly culture is synonymous with shopping and consumption, and submission) but true femininity is rare nowadays.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/20 06:09 PM
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Usually no, but it depends on the reasons why. Women are physically weaker. I doubt people are enjoying hurting women to show their skills. Maybe shibari for rope tying skills? Idk. Rape play where tears and bleeding are created in the vaginal and anal areas are certainly not. 24/7 BDSM relationships certainly are not
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/20 06:03 PM
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Women and men are different and have different expectations from society. Yes, most of us care a bit more about look than men, but none of us came out of the womb wanting a full Brazilian bikini wax. Also, I generally don’t worry about my safety when hanging out with a woman. This is how you differentiate a gentleman from a tit-for-tat, “gender equality so 50/50” man child. If a man cared about you enough, he would pay. It’s in human nature for men to be providers; heck, it’s not even in human n…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/20 03:22 PM
2

I feel bad for your future girlfriend. Literally a forever girlfriend. You won’t attract positive girls with the best self esteem.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/20 07:40 AM
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In order to experience violent sex (which is a common fantasy, yes), there needs to be a sick person involved who gets off of hurting people
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/20 07:38 AM
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Everyone likes some degree of attention. But not being degraded. Very different. I like being respected but also being left alone. You sound sexist. And I don’t throw that word around; I’m not even a liberal or feminist
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/20 07:34 AM
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Nah, not a victim, just out here living my best life. There’s worst shit that happened to me, and my anger towards those people is mainly based on two bad incidents I’d rather talk about. I’m not as angry anymore. They might be shit people, or maybe they have their own traumas. Who knows. I’m just saying my observations. I feel like with the less desirable men, maybe some of them have some sort of chip on the shoulder with women? Combined with some sort of inferiority like “you must not be that …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/20 12:19 AM
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Completely normal and natural I think. As long as it doesn’t get clingy or like, you ban her from talking to men haha
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/20 11:26 PM
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I wasn’t unattractive (although I have glowed up since then, this was when I was like 18-19), but I was low value because I didn’t value or take care of myself. I would match with educated attractive men on dating sites then ignore them and instead hang out with less attractive less educated men because of my low self esteem. No friends. I dressed in weird not classy clothes (hipster egirl in baggy XXL sweatshirts) because I wanted to show I was edgy yet was super uncomfortable in my body, was e…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/20 11:23 PM
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Licensed counselor? Oh god what has the world come to. Helping violence victims in the streets, committing (consensual) violence in the sheets
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/20 11:11 PM
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Ok at least you’re honest. Being a slut is obviously easy. I could easily find 100 not physically repulsive men to sleep with in the next ten minutes by downloading tinder if I wanted to! But getting laid plenty of times isn’t healthy for most women, nor is it really what most of us truly want. Some sluts kid themselves into thinking they’re progressive or liberated, but most feel used and wonder why they’re depressed, or they don’t do that for long time Even for men, eventually most of y’all re…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/20 11:05 PM
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Am girl too. Imagine spending thousands to look fabulous, spending money on hair, makeup, lingerie, putting thought into your outfits, learning how to perfect subtle eyeshadow, worrying about being assaulted on your date, only to have a man say “wanna split the bill?” 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/20 11:00 PM
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Men aren’t naturally that much uglier than women, but some of y’all put in less effort on average. I went on a date (in a restaurant, not michelin rated but not a dingy or chain restaurant either lol) and the guy was wearing basketball shorts. Basketball shorts.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/20 10:58 PM
1

Majority of men have it tough. I feel there’s a wider bell curve/distribution with men’s successes in many areas
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/20 10:55 PM
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Woman here. On the looks thing, I get treated well for my looks, and catch people looking and stuff. I can get free stuff, sweet talk my way into things maybe. But I can’t survive on my looks alone (unless I want to pimp myself or find a sugar daddy, no way in hell is that happening, am short and can’t model). But I can’t just walk into any place and spread my legs and cash will rain sorta thing But I do present myself in a way so that people will not look at me and see SEX so I’m seen for what …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/20 10:54 PM
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Most men don’t use the physical strength oppressively of course! But sometimes, when I’m in a vulnerable situation and I see a man, just the potential is scary. So he better not try to talk to me creepily
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/20 10:44 PM
5

The obsession with Chad is homoerotic. And not in a wholesome way
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/20 10:41 PM
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Are you projecting because you feel this way? Maybe you surround yourself with shit people. Of course, men care about how women look. And they should, it’s evolution and shows that persons health and discipline. (men need to care about their own looks and hygiene too tho) What’s not healthy is not caring about a woman’s personality. Her strength, values, intelligence, etc. are what makes her a good mother (in terms of evolution) and a good person. Red pill loves talking about tradition etc. but …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/20 10:39 PM
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It’s funny how you’re talking about how everyone’s different and how I can’t speak for others, yet you were literally talking about how you make women learn to love to be degraded and how all women want violent sex. So leave everyone alone, until it serves your horny interests? I just don’t see how it’s healthy from a common sense perspective. If you can provide me peer reviewed studies that show simulated abuse is healthy or at least not harmful I’d appreciate it
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/20 10:32 PM
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Life isn’t just about what people say makes them happy. I thought I was happy being a sub! If you would have asked me a year back I would have been like “it’s all Gucci, do what makes you happy, as long as there’s consent UWU” but NO. Nothing UWU about associating abuse (even simulated abuse) with sex. Light slapping, power dynamics, etc are fine, even rough sex is fine, but anything meant to inflict pain, humiliation, or simulating abuse shows a different issue at hand
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/20 10:16 PM
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You can’t separate who you are inside the bedroom from who you are outside, at least not 100%. Those are some atrocious things that people do, degrading, rape play, physical pain, etc. Associated that with the best form of pleasure is not healthy for anyone but especially for people with issues or trauma (which many women who seek out a “dom” have). Also, you sound very “I know better, I know women better than they know themselves”. Very cringey And no, I’m not boring or an incel, I used to be a…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/20 10:12 PM
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This is one of the many reasons “doms” have a bad rep. Throwback to the time I talked about being suicidal due to my rape online, and ten doms started asking if I could be their sub, many in degrading language that was more like ordering me around than conversation 🤢
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/20 10:08 PM
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The issue is less having fantasies of being submissive, but more that some people have fantasies of raping. Like this might not be a good example, but as a middle schooler, maybe you had a crush and fantasizes about idk dating a teacher or an older adult, but if an older adult did the same.... Or a lot of people maybe want to die or be shot, and while that’s not healthy, it’s not nearly as bad as someone who fantasizes about shooting people. Also, many women who sleep around have self esteem iss…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/20 10:01 PM
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Man being in control (which a lot of girls do like! And it’s ok) is different than literal rape play or inflicting pain on another person, or degrading another person. Also, speaking as a woman, I had an ex who would show me weird porn (while comparing me to those girls and making me feel bad) and just based on the media and how boys talked about girls, I guess I thought sex was just a man getting off and masturbating except with a live girl. I know a lot of women have similar experiences and ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/20 09:58 PM
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Why would you want to hurt someone or be hurt emotionally/physically to be sexually satisfied? Little power plays, very light spanks (more like little taps), little nibbles and things that don’t hurt or mimic violence are ok I guess and help change things up, but if you read some of the things on the bdsm subreddit, it’s downright scary. Rape scenes, mimicking pedophilia, causing ruptures and tears in the vaginal and anal canal on purpose, playing with knives and fire, extreme humiliation, etc. …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/20 09:50 PM
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Yes. I don’t know about rough sex, but many girls who like or convince themselves to like BDSM and degrading sex do have issues. Simply put: Why would someone WANT or even need to be in pain or treated “badly” to be sexually satisfied? I only developed these kinks after being emotionally and sexually abused. Of course not everyone does these things for the wrong reasons, but many use it in lieu of therapy. I was certainly seeking validation and it only made things worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/20 09:46 PM
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I wonder if there’s still some fuckboys asking for “Netflix and cuddles ?? 🙈☺️” during this time. Honestly how a guy acts during a pandemic tells you a lot about him, his priorities, his consideration, etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 05:27 PM
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He wants someone he can manipulate, not an equal partner
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 05:21 PM
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Probably the type who thinks Kobe Bryant’s rape and repeatedly cheating on his wife with multiple young girls wasn’t a big deal... oh wait
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 05:20 PM
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It’s basically traditionalism mixed with women’s empowerment. Instead of lying and saying men and women are the same, it takes into account the social differences between how men and women act and use that knowledge to make sure no one is being taken advantage of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 06:41 AM
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“Let’s celebrate our love, devotion, and faithfulness to each other through objectification of women, cheating, and possibly sex trafficking!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 09:48 PM
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Oh God this describes exactly how I feel :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 09:47 PM
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I can relate to all of this so so much. I used to be very smart but after my suicide attempt I had a lot of cognitive decline that I’m super self conscious of and a lot of people make fun of me or try to take advantage. I always get called cute and it’s always in some really demeaning way like I’m saying something and expressing my opinion then I’m called cute or adorable. I’m not a woman to them, I’m a dumb girl. Your brother is not a nice person. I would call him out on his bad behavior. Also,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 12:10 AM
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Imagining having to experience violence or hurt other people to enjoy sex. Can’t relate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 09:20 PM
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If a man was really that great and kind, the problem is I would develop feelings for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 09:14 PM
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Don’t watch porn tho. Teaches you to self objectify
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 09:11 PM
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Most of the time it’s the woman being used. And often someone wants more. That being said, even if it’s equal, I don’t like the idea of a transactional relationship. It’s not good to treat your body as a currency, these men probably don’t respect you, and I don’t like being used even if it means I get to use someone in return.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 09:10 PM
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They don’t see women as dynamic humans it seems
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 09:02 PM
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Some men might not get it. They’ll be like “it’s a compliment!!!! You’re fat and I still wanna fck you reeeeeee”. To them, any sexual attention is positive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 08:55 PM
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Yup! Shows that just because you’re open to degrading sex acts doesn’t mean he’ll be satisfied. It’s not that you’re too boring, it’s that he can’t get off without some weird ass novelty (like in porn, where there are thousands or weird new videos featuring new kinks and bodies)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 08:45 PM
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A lot of porn features violence and women crying. Having a “hot” video featuring suffering teaches you to associate violence with sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 08:42 PM
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Well, to start of with, I’ve been raped (anally) while unconscious on a date, threatened that if I didn’t kiss a guy he wouldn’t leave, and have overall just dealt with really bad people, people i not only wouldn’t want to be in a relationship but wouldn’t even want as acquaintances. People using a “date” as an excuse to coerce. I have of course matched with less scary men, but many are douchebags, abnormal in some way, only care about my appearance and not what I have to say/my interests, or ta…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/20 08:36 PM
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No. Abuse is infinitely worse. But I would still rather be alone than be with someone who views me that way. If not all men are truly annoying like that, then it should be reasonable for me to wait and find someone who listens to me as a human being
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/20 10:36 AM
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Majority of men put in the bare minimum and don’t see attractive women as fully human. Hard to explain but men talk weird to me when they have romantic intentions. They ooh and aah but they never really listen to what I have to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/20 10:33 AM
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I’m a woman. What a lot of men don’t understand is how horrible a relationship can be with an abusive or even just an emotionally absent or inconsiderate person can be. It wrecks you and leaves you feeling 100x more lonely than being single. Also, as a woman, we simply care more. We spend so much more time getting ready for dates, being self conscious, etc. I once spent 3 hours getting ready for a date only to have the guy smell and wear basketball shorts. I walked away. Plus, it’s way more dang…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/20 02:33 AM
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I’d rather starve to death than have a turd sandwich. You don’t understand how much more lonely you feel in an abusive relationship compared to no relationship at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/20 02:30 AM
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I find her persona humorous almost! Some of her lyrics are intentionally over the top and ironic, and she displays some of the dark sides of being a LVM, such as in The Other Woman
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 11:39 PM
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I love her music, and she seems like a cool person, and she doesn’t really sell her body or sexuality much compared to other pop stars. You can’t judge an artist for their persona, and her old Lolita daddy issues persona was for sure problematic and could definitely influence girls in a problematic way but I’m not sure if it’s necessarily an ironic aesthetic or representative of her as a person. At the end of the day, a lot of girls can relate to that feeling about wanting to be rescued by a man…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 11:35 PM
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That sounds so awkward. I see nothing enjoyable for anyone involved, unless the man is into weird power dynamics
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 11:28 PM
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It’s completely normal and almost encouraged to want “consensual” domestic violence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 11:25 PM
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I actually do care, because then, maybe men could start to better themselves. That being said, maybe I’m too optimistic :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 11:22 PM
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“BUT ... BUT... Love and monogamy isn’t natural!!! We’re meant to screw as many women as we can then leave! Just as nature intended HURR HURR”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 09:45 AM
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I’m so proud of you ! Take some time for yourself and your hobbies now 🐆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 09:09 PM
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This makes me proud to be Asian. I hate when East Asians are viewed as this “me live you long time” docile slave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 07:25 PM
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Yea ever since I was a child I was really in tune with nature, animals, and my feminine energy, but bullying, messages from toxic people/media, and abuse has taken a toll on me. I do think modern society, while loving caricatures of hyper sexual women, is actual very masculine, and I’m super sensitive to that. Living in nature, nurturing living things is a recurrent fantasy I have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 06:53 PM
2

being in a bad relationship can feel 100x more lonely than being alone anyways
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 06:49 PM
2

They use “consent” and “for your own good” as excuses for emotional manipulation and abuse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 06:48 PM
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Should have but blocked. But I did start talking to the first who messaged just because I was so lonely, but it was mainly me getting mad at him and him bragging about being a sociopath thank god I didn’t fall for it! Some quotes: “I don’t flirt, I order”, “I help my parents out monetarily, but I don’t love them”, “of course I manipulate emotions”, “it’s for your own good”. Just this self righteous antisocial patronizing air of arrogance, whether or not you want to be a “sub”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 06:46 PM
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Thanks for letting me know! I’m planning on owning very few but having them in a farm with other goats. I do want to learn about the art of making goat cheese
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 06:39 PM
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I’m so sorry. That’s horrible. I hope you’re doing better <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 05:47 AM
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Yea. The number of doms/people wanting sexual stuff was the same as number of people who wanted to help
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 05:46 AM
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Definitely. These men are predators and they can spot then catch a vulnerable woman like an eagle. As women, we need to watch out for each other and ourselves of course.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 05:45 AM
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Yes I have a lot of plans! I was in a liberal arts college on scholarship but had to drop out because I was so damn depressed. Now I’m saving up money to move to a farm out of the country. I’m going to buy a goat. This sounds like a joke but I’m 100% serious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 05:43 AM
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I disagree, at least for myself. It’s not in a lot of our nature. I’m only willing to have sex with someone I really value and like, and that would mean me wanting to date them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 10:03 PM
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As an Asian, sometimes I think I have it tough, with weird fetishizing comments and sly racism, but at least I’m still appreciated by the men of my culture. You guys have it tough, and I really don’t understand why. Black women are some of the most beautiful, intelligent, diverse people on this planet. It’s weird how black men are seen as desirable but not black women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 08:25 PM
1

These aren’t dates; they’re hookups
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 08:03 PM
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It’s less the boundary of the period sex that bothers me (people have different sexual boundaries, and as long as he isn’t scared of periods), but what bothers me is he is only willing to see her if her hole is available. He literally says something like “if sex isn’t on the table there’s no point”. WTF
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 07:49 PM
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You like how he looks because you think he’s attractive, not because he’s some exotic conquest
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 07:10 PM
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Treating women, especially women they’re attracted to, like humans instead of a special species is a good start. Also treating unattractive women and women who reject them with respect. Taking care of you a reasonable amount (paying attention to what you say, making references to your hobbies and jokes you’ve made together) and paying. Whether they trash their ex. These are all signs. Men are always speaking, it’s up to you to listen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 08:03 PM
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Personally I don’t need a man to identify as a feminist because I personally don’t and some of the worst, most perverted, pro-sex work people I’ve met have been male feminists. I would just bring up concepts once in a while surrounding how women are treated, see how he treats women waitresses and women we talk to, his relationship with his mom, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 06:17 PM
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“If I talk about how much I hate women and dating, this will surely woo a woman and get me a date.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 06:11 PM
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Potentially ruining your sex life and how you view your wife by getting off to other women? Sounds like cheating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 06:09 PM
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You don’t just ghost a good friend like that though. Maybe say you can’t hang out as much, or that you have a girlfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 08:51 AM
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I can’t personally see most people in open relationships, but if you’re gonna to do it, it needs to be done enthusiastically and with strict rules, not a compromise to keep one half of the relationship happy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 08:41 AM
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He’s her best friend not boyfriend, and I think it’s likely he’s gay. I knew it; it’s pretty rare straight men do this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 08:37 AM
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I wasted time, got hurt, but I feel like it’s made me a harder, tougher, and less trusting person in a good way. I finally had an awakening, and because of those experiences, I’m aware of many red flags.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 08:30 AM
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For me, I don’t want to reduce other people to sex objects and I don’t want to be reduced to a sex object. And if they happen to be a nice person and treat me well and like a valuable human being, why not go for a relationship all the way? Plus I’m rather prude like and find it difficult to develop attraction. I’m so picky with my sex partners at this point that anyone I would be willing to sleep with I’d want to date first
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 08:19 AM
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It’s not the sex they enjoy a lot of the time it’s the attention and temporary sense of validation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 08:17 AM
68

I miss the days when getting kinky meant buying sexy lingerie or switching up positions or locations
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 08:06 AM
1

I was depressed and pretty much home schooled. So I can relate. I had similar “more than friends” experiences with horrible men who were like 29, and another was 34. I was 18, and would talk on the phone with them for hours.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 02:25 AM
23

Some people actually enjoy good smells.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 10:08 PM
24

Love this post! ♥️ Another thing that bothers me is that a lot of the top makeup beauty gurus are men. Makeup is something women are expected to wear in a lot of situations, and honestly, the average woman is a better makeup artist than even the average gay man. Support women in makeup on YouTube and insta!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 05:47 PM
88

Yeah it’s also because “male” activities are seen as legitimate, even yelling at a TV depicting men chasing balls, the act of which takes no skill. Meanwhile, “female activities” even things that take skill and an eye for aesthetics like makeup are seen as stupid and childish. If a woman cooks, it’s housework. If a man cooks, it’s culinary art.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 06:06 AM
17

It’s crazy how it’s considered healthy and even progressive to beat up your wife/girlfriend/sexual partner. Even if someone says yes or thinks she’s ok with it, it’s not alright. In a BDSM subreddit, I once saw information on creating tears in the vaginal canal from violent penetration.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 01:07 AM
3

Thanks for the suggestions! It is rare but I have hope. I just need to block anyone who wants to ask me out on a walking date lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 04:24 AM
5

Psh do you think they’re gonna remember that or her boobs??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 04:23 AM
4

I know I’m not! I just wanted to make clear what my motives and goals are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 10:56 PM
1

Back when I hooked up with possibly the most low value man possible (I had a horrible pick me phase, luckily this was the only hookup tho) after he “finished” on me and I asked for a towel, he told me to just use the blanket to wipe myself. He didn’t put them in the laundry. Even me as a depressed and suicidal pick me was legitimately disturbed by that. DISGUSTING This dude also lied about his age, refused to have sex with anyone over 20 even though he’s 26, refused to buy or use condoms so made…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 05:00 PM
20

Nah he wasn’t charming or able to fake it in the slightest. Also talked about how hot Mia Khalifa (porn star) is repeatedly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 03:49 PM
35

Yup. Literally nothing redeeming about this guy. He was also most definitely sexist yet tried to come across as super woke and not sexist. Like he viewed female musicians as only singers??? And he considered “female singing” to be like its own genre. Weird
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 03:37 PM
22

I DO NOT recommend casual sex after assault or rape. Trust me, I’ve been there. You will feel even more used and empty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 03:34 PM
2

I’m not going to lie. It will be harder for sure. But if it is an important part of you and you’re dressing that way for yourself and the right reasons, I’m sure you will find someone embracing of that. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 03:28 PM
2

He claims he wants someone who can converse well yet he claims men will care about your boobs more than that???? Wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 03:07 PM
5

Like that AITA where the man brought his mom in when his wife gave birth even though she told him beforehand not to because he didn’t think she said it seriously enough
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 03:02 PM
6

They know it’s wrong. The only reason they act surprised is because they thought they could get away with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 03:00 PM
1

No they don’t care. Maybe because I’m small and girly or something but I’ll be talking about something very important, my interests, something traumatic I’ve even gone through or voicing my opinion or something and they’ll just stare at me longingly and say something like “awwwwww” or “oh really?” Or “you’re so cute......”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 02:49 PM
5

It’s not your responsibility to change anyone! Plus even if you try you won’t be effective. Believe me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 02:39 PM
12

Who the fuck goes on a date in their house? A date in your house???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 02:38 PM
11

Yup. So so so true. Very attractive men are the ones who tell me I’m stunning, beautiful, etc. The bridge trolls with scraggly facial hair maybe tell me I’m cute if they’re really letting their guard down. Kind of counter intuitive, but it’s true. I tend to trust women and gay men better with compliments because they are better at gauging fashion and beauty. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 02:00 AM
4

I don’t think people should be mocked for their genitals unless the man is dirty, no hygiene, or a shit person. Or if he lies about the size of his genitals, or a horrible porn addict in bed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 01:30 AM
6

Me too. I don’t develop feelings fast (as long as I don’t sleep with them of course). I can also usually tell within 3 dates if I like the person. I don’t like the concept of dating around and treating people like options.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 09:35 PM
26

Yep! It was like 5x as long but I had to crop it. After the second date he wanted to be official too. I told him not yet because I’m not sure and that I’m not really for a relationship this second and I think that’s when he started being more quiet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 11:08 AM
10

Yea I have no clue what is up with this dude. He never used Snapchat yet he still watches my stories. I just don’t contact him and I think he gets the hint. He’s cowardly and low self confidence
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 11:07 AM
12

Discovered this sub around a month ago and I’m super grateful! Also, for context, I have a pretty abusive household and he said I could talk about fun things on the phone with him before, so half a day before I sent the texts in the second screenshot, I asked him if I could talk on the phone for a bit and he said yes. Every text I sent in the second photo was read but just not responded to. Also, in the first pic, the original text was maybe 5x linger (no joke) but you get the gist :). I realize…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 08:01 AM
53

They don’t view women as neutral human beings. The default human beings for some guys is a man, and women are this mysterious “other” that doesn’t poop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 06:04 PM
13

When I got sexually assaulted (I guess raped because it involved anal penetration in a cabin while I was unconscious) then attempted suicide the next week, my “boyfriend” at the time told me to text him when I’m feeling less emotional, proceeded to sleep with girls while I was in the hospital, never check up on me, then blocked me because he found someone else. He always showed me pics of girls DMing him who he wanted to sleep with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 05:53 PM
7

Addicted to video games and hentai??? That’s horrible for her, but it’s funny how the jokes write themselves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 05:44 PM
22

She hit the wall 40 years ago according to these neckbeards. I’m twenty and some men think it’s a compliment to say I look 15... I think women look objectively most attractive in their 30s, and even beyond if they take care of themselves!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 05:39 PM
3

Not wanting to die is more ridiculous than forced violent acts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 04:57 PM
7

I’m not like other girls! I don’t care if I’m murdered in a back alley! (I used to kinda be like this; I didn’t value my safety enough and was generally stupid)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 04:55 PM
14

Ugh the men there also suck at determining aesthetics in general. The less like a puffy porn star you look the less aesthetic you are. When I was super low self esteem I posted there (I was super low self confidence and depressed, also I was underaged) and got rated a 6 because of my colored hair, short bob hairstyle, and bangs. I have a gamine look and the wavy lob with bangs suits me more than long hair but no... there’s only one type of beauty in their eyes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 08:17 AM
39

Equal rights politically, but I don’t like this 50/50 idea. Women and men are different and have different roles and society expects different of them (whether this is okay or not is up to you to decide, but you can’t escape it no matter how “woke” you want to be). Women are expected to spend thousands on beautiful outfits and lace lingerie, makeup (natural makeup is as expensive as more glam makeup), hair cuts and styling and often color, skincare, etc. Sure, men say they like “natural” girls, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 06:54 AM
63

Yea because women are static objects; we never change. We’re either Virgin Mary, or a whore. But if we are the Virgin Mary, we better be able to perform like a porn star still.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 12:52 AM
32

Yet they have time to blow money and send thousands of inappropriate texts to random girls they know and e-thots? Yea, no thanks 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 12:48 AM
14

Lol I do the air dispersion from my nostrils too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 12:46 AM
19

Cultivate your feminine/goddess energy. Don’t lower your standards. DON’T.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 12:43 AM
-7

A lot of people aren’t able to be moral without some degree of faith or spirituality. It often goes hand in hand with nihilism. And people who flaunt their atheism are a whole other (not good) breed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 12:41 AM
11

I really don’t get people who are surprised by women who are both smart and cute. Research shows that if you’re attractive, you’re more likely to have a high IQ.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 12:37 AM
4

He also said that sex with prostitutes is more meaningful that sex in relationships, and that all sex is transactional. Projecting much?? Thank god I never did anything with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 12:35 AM
3

One of those incel-rate-woman subreddits actually rated Emma Watson a 6. Not even kidding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 12:10 AM
13

I love people who have their own unique style. I’m really into fashion myself. And of course, at raves, Halloween, festivals, concerts, it can be fun to be a bit wacky :). But if someone is deliberately dressing provocative to the point it looks out of place, inappropriate, or doesn’t fit the situation, I can’t help but feel they may be using their fashion to make a point because they themselves don’t have anything valuable to say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 11:41 PM
12

OMG. This is precisely why I stopped talking to the last dude who wanted to be my bf. 0 initiative. Sometimes I felt like the man of the relationship. He was nice but kinda effeminate and low self esteem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 11:33 PM
13

Hedonism is the worst trait and it’s what defines a lot of people these days (especially neoliberals).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 11:12 PM
2

You know what’s really fragile? Thinking being beat and and degraded is an empowering sexual act
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 08:47 PM
18

I dislike nerdy guys in general. I love smart guys, but nerds/geeks are often unattractive, obsessed with random video games/comics/TV I don’t care about, pseudo-intellectual, porn loving, and either neckbeardy conservative or neo liberals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 08:30 PM
14

Even if he did a 180 I would still be wary. Not worth it for me. I have too much to lose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 08:28 PM
1

I’m more moderate/conservative with politics. I don’t know if I identify as a feminist, and I don’t care. I’m both progressive and traditional, whatever makes sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 08:23 PM
7

It’s the two Ts. Tight and taboo (because of porn)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 08:08 PM
3

I make it very very clear to my male friends that I only want a friendship and nothing more. And if they flirt, I leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 07:58 PM
7

The audacity to not only booty call, but to do it in a “wyd”. Ridiculous
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 07:56 PM
3

There’s different types of pick mes. The worst would probably flirt with your boyfriend. If she’s bad please ditch
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 07:43 PM
13

Low value implies he still has some value. He’s negative value sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 07:39 PM
72

So she made a smart comment and his first reaction is not to talk to her, but mention her in third person and not even about the comment but her appearance???? WTF
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 07:38 PM
41

Yep. Crazy how some guys think it’s a positive trait to brag about in front of a potential partner. Nihilism is literally all about having no purpose or morality, and relationships are all about having purpose and morality. These guys also love bragging about their “genius level IQ” yet they got terrible grades.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 07:26 PM
21

Ugh my philosophy class I couldn’t even talk or participate because even though I raised my hand, a dude or two (who never raised their hand) would always be talking over me so loud I would forget what I was saying and lose my train of thought.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 07:23 PM
10

Porn needs to be cancelled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 07:19 PM
8

According to some (bottom crust) men, it’s healthy and normal. I had one dude tell me “hebephilia, not pedophilia” and me being a stupid 18 year old (he was 30), thought that hebephilia was an attraction to adults. Boy howdy was I wrong
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 07:19 PM
25

For me I experience different. They’re boring with every facet of their life except their sick sexual fantasies. That’s where things get interesting. Like anime-titty-rape interesting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 07:12 PM
12

I agree with most of these so much! Although I do like a guy who appreciates nice things as long as he’s responsible and not spending above his means.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 06:58 PM
2

I have. Very attractive men were more upfront through with their fuckboy behavior, like literally super racist, sexist, etc. upfront. The less attractive men were better at hiding it I guess and were more “soft boys”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 06:55 PM
2

You could still see what they like by briefly scrolling through who they’re following. Following a model or actress or two is ok in my book I guess. If you see porn stars, girls who do nothing but jiggle their butts, or even worse girls who are paid cam girls and e-thots, run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 06:49 PM
12

I love cooking but it’s a hobby, art, and life skill for me. My future SO better know how to cook pasta and sauce at the very least
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 10:18 AM
2

The lowest value men I’ve dealt with have been the ugliest so.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 09:56 AM
2

I can relate to this 100%. I’m still getting over it actually so I’m not one to give advice. But just know they’re not going to treat you better just because they’re uglier or low value compared to you. If a seemingly high value guy shows interest in you and if he’s really high value, he’s not doing it to waste your time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 09:52 AM
8

Small boobs. A few times negative, a few other times in a creepy “I love prepubescents” way. I hate my small boobs now because I feel like jailbait even though I’m 20. I got the most praises when I was anorexic. Also short hair (which I could sort of control but still). I had a horrible crazy hair dyeing phase two years back and had to cut my hair really short because it was all falling out. Every time I saw this male friend (that I was stupid enough to sleep with twice), the first thing he woul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 09:26 AM
1

Maybe but also I’ve been doing a lot of blocking. I deleted all my dating apps and also blocked around 100 men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 09:12 AM
108

It’s too late now but if you get ready then have the plans cancelled go out with some (platonic) friends or by yourself! Do NOT go out with another dude if your plans are cancelled with initial dude. Because you might be in a more desperate state of mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 08:43 AM
2

BARELY LEGAL. TEENS. AMATEUR. LOLI. UWU
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 06:52 AM
1

Yeah I saw this meme that was similar to the surprised Pikachu and it said “that moment you give an ugly guy a chance then after a few dates he starts treating you like the ugly one.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 06:24 AM
4

Wtf dudes only get five matches a week? Must literally be a toad. Us girls can easily get a match a minute
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 06:19 AM
2

Yup. It’s crazy how people claim to be woke and progressive yet can only cum when watching teenage, racial fetish, rape, gang bang scenes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 06:12 AM
3

Yess! This is exactly how I found out this one guy I was dating was a porn addict and also he wanted to split the bill. Luckily that was brief
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 05:56 AM
1

Very cautious optimism is key. And of course knowing your worth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 05:30 AM
2

Is it even legal to spread diseases like that around? Oh my I’m super sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 02:32 AM
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I always told myself I shaved for myself and because it makes me feel clean and hygienic, but when I think about it on a deeper level, I do it because I’ve been told subconsciously it’s gross to have body hair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 01:27 AM
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