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If you're with a girl who is being somewhat bitchy about using it... Better to ditch the girl.
/r/seduction24/07/11 10:06 PM
1

That's a valid fear, but I don't think you have anything to worry about. You're talking about your own sexual life in an offhand way, quickly changing the subject because it's nothing special to you. You don't wait for or expect a reaction, so she has no reason to think that this is some attempt to elicit an admission that she is also dating other people. You're not bringing up a conversation, you're just letting her know that you're dating around and then moving on your merry way. Ideally, you'…
/r/seduction29/06/11 04:26 AM
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If only women would take this same advice before dragging a guy around in the friend zone when its clear that he wants more. You got that right. If only all people cared about the emotional well-being of those around them... Yea this would be kind of odd. She may be very well be ok that you could be seeing/talking to other girls but talking about them while you are with her would seem out of place. I haven't found any other way to tactfully broach the subject. If you have any ideas, I'm all ears…
/r/seduction29/06/11 03:49 AM
3

Remember that most people these days get their ideas of relationships from shitty teen sitcoms and sparkly vampire books -- a girl's idealized version of your romantic intentions will almost never match the truth. So it can certainly be lying by omission if she erroneously assumes that you're a monogamous man. Lying by omission or not, your chief concern should be her emotional well-being. Will she be hurt more by learning the truth early on or by discovering it later when she's already emotiona…
/r/seduction29/06/11 12:37 AM
6

This is the exact mistake that I made. Assuming that it's the girl's obligation to ask you about anyone else you're sleeping with is like assuming that the same girl is obligated to ask you about those STDs you might have. She should, but it's still lying by omission if you don't tell her.
/r/seduction29/06/11 12:25 AM
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One thing needs to be emphasized: If you're dating multiple women, you need to be completely honest with all of them. Speaking from personal experience, fucking this up is a disaster and will make you a complete asshole. It also violates the rule of "always leave a woman better off than when you found her"; that requires openness and honesty about all of your other relationships. Conversely, being honest does exactly what the OP described. This is the key to it all: Also, by not being needy and …
/r/seduction28/06/11 06:44 PM
2

Perhaps the people around you can be role models for your next stage of self-actualization. I would use that to my advantage if I was in your position.
/r/seduction27/05/11 01:57 AM
27

You're going a little Patrick Bateman on us. :D Good tips anyway.
/r/seduction26/05/11 03:47 AM
3

You and I would be an unstoppable duo.
/r/seduction20/05/11 06:38 AM
8

I am a confident man. I've always had moderate success meeting men and attracting women, being adventurous, etc. But going out alone to pick up girls in bars and clubs scares the shit out of me. Props to you for having brass balls. One small lesson I've learned: subdue the part of your mind that wants to think about things. Company slogans tend to be vapid shit, but if anyone got it right then it was Nike. Let your inner, thoughtless caveman do the work of getting you up to a group of women to e…
/r/seduction20/05/11 06:30 AM
4

I can't even begin to tell you how many girls I slept with -- and only slept with -- when I was younger. How frustrated and stupid I was... I'm not going to give you any advice on what to do other than this: make a move, any move, and let her reject you if that's what needs to happen. Because here's the alternative: you will hate yourself for lusting after a girl that you never do anything with. She will move on to someone else, probably because of your lack of balls, and you'll be jealous but y…
/r/seduction31/01/11 05:10 AM
2

Oneitis here. Don't be angry at me, I'm just doing you a favor. Oneitis is getting stuck on a woman that isn't interested. The OP is talking about having found a connection with someone who is interested. Completely different scenario. Edit: On an unrelated note, it's frustrating the way people are downvoting you. While I disagree with your perspective, it doesn't seem like you've been anything but honest and relatively tame. Here are some upvotes to offset the actions of people who don't seem t…
/r/seduction23/01/11 07:17 PM
1

Wow. You're like a past version of me, living through my mistakes all over again. Everything down to the dry hand job. I can't give you any advice other than what has already been given, just take heart in the fact that, if you are Past Vijchti, you will get better at this. Edit: And don't go to that frat party tomorrow where you're going to get drunk and she's going to dance with other guys to make you jealous. It will work and you will turn into a gigantic pussy that night.
/r/seduction17/01/11 03:48 AM
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It seems as though ThrowawayPUA is asking you to learn the lessons that Phil Connors did, but in less time and without all the craziness that happened in the first 90% of the movie. Don't worry about how you look to the people around you. Most of them will forget you after that day. In real life, the ones that see your nonchalance will be impressed, as long as you aren't an asshole. Be interesting. Connors memorized his favorite poems in another language, learned to play the piano, sculpt ice, o…
/r/seduction09/01/11 08:59 PM
14

Seduction only exists because men require women's validation. :) The real irony is that we achieve that validation by learning not to seek it. The real rebuttal to your point, though, is that there is a large difference between requiring the validation of a woman (ie., requiring a woman's approval to support your sense of self-worth) and having a woman validate your techniques (letting you know if she's convinced that the technique would work on her). Validation means different things in each co…
/r/seduction26/12/10 12:57 AM
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Also it's interesting to know what guys are attempting to 'use' to seduce me and be one step ahead. God forbid you have a good time with one of us. :) Just kidding. Having women around to validate or counter our pet techniques is always helpful.
/r/seduction25/12/10 11:28 PM
1

Yep. No sense being romantically involved with anyone that's actively looking for a different partner.
/r/seduction18/12/10 09:30 PM
5

Speaking from experience, this is a good way to get your friend dumped. You: "You have a boyfriend who is also my friend, that's a problem and therefore we cannot date." Her thinking: "Well, I'll just dump the boyfriend and then there'll be no problem."
/r/seduction18/12/10 08:23 PM
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The group of friends I used for a while was a pack of energetic, beautiful women, two of whom I'd slept with and another who was interested. It was the greatest DHV ever -- dates couldn't help but notice how I had at least three women flirting with me at every opportunity and any time I'd steal a kiss from my date, the other girls would flirt more assiduously. I would never do the same thing with a group of guy friends (though I did, at times, bring guys along with the group of girls). That bein…
/r/seduction12/12/10 02:15 AM
1

Some problems I can pick out from your post: If you haven't already slept with a girl, don't ask her out. Plan a night with your friends and invite her along. Tell her that she should come. That way it's noncommittal and friendly. For example: "Some friends and I are going to Bar West tonight. You should come." If she doesn't want to come, she doesn't have to reply and both of you can play it cool. Text her in a few days for something else. Appose that to: "Want to get drinks at Bar West tonight…
/r/seduction11/12/10 03:51 AM
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There is another trick along the lines of the first one you mentioned: people will tend to copy the mannerisms and speech patterns of someone they like or someone they perceive to have higher status than themselves. So, on one level, it's a great way to gain quick rapport: just subtly copy the mannerisms (hand gestures, posture, facial expressions, moments of laughter) and speech patterns (rate, colloquialisms, level of energy) of anyone you're talking to. Once they've accepted that you're not a…
/r/seduction27/11/10 05:12 AM
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It depends on how strong the relationship is. Are they serious and in a functional, long-term relationship? Leave them to their happiness. Is one of them unhappy with the other? Go in and help them out. Remember that you'll always be looking at the relationship from the outside, so err on the side of caution and leave them alone when you can't tell how close they are. The only other important rule I follow is this: always leave the woman better off than when you found her. Leave her happy, satis…
/r/seduction21/11/10 06:50 PM
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Fake the confidence until you realize that you don't need any special abilities or tricks to be naturally confident. Then it'll flow on its own. As for thinking quickly in front of a crowd, you have to do it often enough that it becomes second-nature. The approach I'd use, however, is to just tell people that you need a moment to think about it or tell them that you can deliver an answer at some later time so that the pressure is off of you.
/r/seduction20/10/10 03:12 AM
2

This. The first woman I ever slept with was 6'3". I'm 5'8". Most women will be attracted no matter how tall you are, as long as your game is strong.
/r/seduction19/10/10 08:25 PM
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:D Well done. The time you spend in areas with people will always give you the opportunity to talk to women and will allow you to become comfortable interacting in and with groups. Just remember not to act too far from normal around your friends. They will almost always react negatively when you begin emphasizing your better personality traits, unless you find some way to bring them into the game with you or unless you decide you don't give a fuck. ;) Edit: By the way, don't expect your approach…
/r/seduction19/10/10 03:44 AM
5

I take women to the noisy parts of clubs when I'm tired of talking, when she's comfortable with me touching her and vice versa, when and we want to dance closely. It's a great place for a first kiss. Otherwise, like you said, you can't run game. Maybe you could have some fun improvising your own sign language with her as a kind of game, but you need rapport beforehand. And if the novelty of it wears off, you'll have to recognize that, grab her hand, and either guide her to the dance floor or awa…
/r/seduction16/10/10 10:26 AM
10

I've been watching Clint Eastwood movies all day and your post just took on his growl and irony. It's a good fit. Can't figure out why you're being downvoted.
/r/seduction16/10/10 10:20 AM
4

I got the whole idea of negs wrong once. There was this cute girl playing billiards at my friend's house, so I walked up and said, "You suck at pool."
/r/seduction28/09/10 03:38 PM
3

With that kind of job, I'll bet you have. Any good stories?
/r/seduction14/09/10 08:58 PM
8

Oh turn your gay-nausea histrionics off. It really isn't so terrible and can be a bit flattering, but it's a good hint that you shouldn't be doing the same stuff to women, especially because they're much more aware of their body and of protecting it than we are.
/r/seduction14/09/10 08:34 PM
5

I couldn't have given a better example. It also teaches you how creepy it is to be touched or handled when you aren't expecting it.
/r/seduction14/09/10 08:11 PM
1

You should get yourself to a rock climbing gym then. They're full of beautiful, athletic women who are open to conversation.
/r/seduction12/09/10 08:42 PM
2

Find several hobbies you enjoy and stick with them, then do something different every so often. And keep tabs on the things you've been thinking about throughout the day. That's a never-ending source of things to talk about: what you've been doing, what you're planning on doing, what you were thinking, etc. And ask her topical questions. For example: Her: Hey, what's up? You: Watching Robot Chicken, do you like that show? Her: Not really. You: What kind of shows do you like? or if you know her f…
/r/seduction12/09/10 04:13 AM
3

A small meal side-by-side at the bar does wonders, though. Symphony isn't the best for kino, but if he can get some in before he goes then he might be able to play with her throughout the performance. And once that's all done, she'll still be hungry so he can pull a grocery store + home cooking date to top it all off.
/r/seduction09/09/10 07:00 PM
1

All the more motivation to get yourself back in the game.
/r/seduction09/09/10 07:49 AM
1

I agree, but I'd take it a bit further. In terms of responding emotionally, most people, women especially, let their words get in the way of what they're really trying to say. If you can pick up on that and steer the conversation towards the topic she's hitting upon, you'll engage her much more meaningfully. It's a way of showing that you understand without having to tell her that you do. For example: Her: "I've been looking at jobs in [some cities really far away]." You: "I've always wanted to …
/r/seduction07/09/10 07:48 PM
1

That's some of the worst advice I've ever been given. It's really just emotional vomit? That mindset is how you make an argument worse. Emotions are important experiences in life, despite the fact that we're so numb to them. What we miss, women are acutely sensitive to. Even if emotions don't mean much to you, if you want to argue with a woman, or stay out of arguments with women, you'll have to learn just how much emotions mean to them. When a woman is jealous and pissed off about it, there's a…
/r/seduction27/08/10 07:43 AM
5

or she'll admit it and you can be like "I KNEW IT!" Hahaha: "YESSSSSSS" as I moonwalk ten feet across the floor and make a touchdown signal. I'll try that next time and see what happens.
/r/seduction26/08/10 06:30 PM
1

The argument was weird as hell. I told her that we weren't in a relationship and that we can't expect to be exclusive, but it went downhill fast from there. I think it was my fault for pulling that explanation out before she actually admitted that she was jealous -- either that, or she truly wasn't jealous and was pissed off for some reason that I don't understand. I just said "Fair enough. I'm heading out in a few minutes, so goodnight," and ended the conversation.
/r/seduction26/08/10 05:44 PM
1

Yeah. That too.
/r/seduction26/08/10 05:35 PM
5

Her: Ha, you sound modest too. Might as well be a hot stalker. xx on facebook. Did she say that or did you? It seems like it should have been your comment.
/r/seduction25/08/10 12:08 AM
4

True. Whenever I'm caught doing something any normal person would be embarrassed to be seen doing, I find that the best response is to not be embarrassed or try to explain it away. If you just pretend like it's absolutely normal then people tend to accept it as an eccentricity, which makes you more interesting. But sometimes I fluster before I can catch myself. The only recovery is to do something bold.
/r/seduction22/08/10 06:42 AM
6

She asked me what the Gunwitch Method was. I couldn't think of anything distracting to say, so I spun around and kissed her. I'm sure she knew exactly what she read, but she very tactfully ignored it after that.
/r/seduction22/08/10 05:09 AM
1

"Good-bye, Elsie," she said, and they walked up the street, she holding her parasol erect and walking as if she expected to meet some one round the corner, while for the first time in his life Charles Tansley felt an extraordinary pride; a man digging in a drain stopped digging and looked at her, let his arm fall down and looked at her; for the first time in his life Charles Tansley felt an extraordinary pride; felt the wind and the cyclamen and the violets for he was walking with a beautiful wo…
/r/seduction22/08/10 04:07 AM
2

It depends. I don't often notice women checking me out and have to rely upon girlfriends to tell me when it happens. Stop being so sneaky about it. Edit: On the other hand, though, some women, especially black women, go so far over the top that it's off-putting.
/r/seduction31/07/10 03:07 PM
7

He sounds nerdy, which is the kind of leftover that I'd expect from a man who transformed himself from a nerd to a seducer.
/r/seduction28/07/10 04:03 AM
3

:D That sounds like great fun.
/r/seduction19/07/10 08:57 PM
2

"Are you friendly?" I am absolutely testing this one out.
/r/seduction18/07/10 07:06 PM
3

Yeah. A simple single-dollar bet would work just as well.
/r/seduction13/07/10 07:38 PM
-5

Alternate option provided by my father years ago: use a little bit of bleach on your armpits in the shower. You'll regain a smell after a few days, but it'll be different and hopefully more pleasing than your old one.
/r/seduction04/07/10 03:55 AM
3

Your anxiety is making you over-analyze the situation, like you're looking to bow out of the conversation at the first sign of rejection if only to relieve the social pain of talking to strangers. Of course, that all fucks you up, gets you rejected, and you can bow out and be happy that you aren't stuck talking to someone while your heart beats itself silly against your ribcage. Fuck it. Get into meditation if you have to, but just get used to the "fuck it" mentality. Until then, push through co…
/r/seduction01/07/10 07:41 PM
1

The key to a neg is that it's a take-away compliment to some superficial aspect of the other person that they value and care about. You're basically showing that, while other people might find that thing attractive, it's nothing special to you, but you're doing it all without being insulting. Something like nails, hair, clothing, and shoes work well on women because a large part of their self-esteem depends upon how they perceive these things. If you're going to find negs to use on men, it's goi…
/r/seduction29/06/10 07:09 AM
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Don't worry about the downvotes. Those of us who appreciate contributions, regardless of our personal prejudices against armchair PUAs, are helping you out.
/r/seduction25/06/10 04:24 PM
1

I like that subtle chiding for the "no" option. I'd like to hear back from the OP once he tries these out, especially if he uses your responses.
/r/seduction22/06/10 07:49 PM
3

:D I love you.
/r/seduction22/06/10 06:44 PM
21

Interesting, but: If they've given a fake number to someone, then they'll suddenly remember the creep they gave it to and how low-value he was. While she's remembering these negative emotions, she'll be looking at you. You've just unintentionally linked "low-value" and "creep" with her idea of you. She may even be thinking about how desired she was by that creep, causing her to suddenly feel more important than you. She'll feel like the prize, which is the opposite of what you want. And if all g…
/r/seduction22/06/10 05:53 PM
2

Precarious is better described as "unstable" or "uncertain," as in "everything may go wrong at any moment." Your car just veered off the road and is now poised on the edge of a cliff. You and your car are currently unharmed and undamaged, but your condition and position are both precarious. Your skills, though, are not precarious. If you want to convey a negative attitude, "bad condition" would be an apt descriptor of your skills. If you want to be straightforward, "incipient" would work. If you…
/r/seduction13/06/10 05:37 PM
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