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46

I’m 43 and I look better and feel much more with it than I did at 23. The only difference is I can’t drink as much anymore, can’t do a hangover lol. Let us age in peace, it’s natural, it’s biological. The only expiration date is actual death.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 03:07 PM
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I hate when they expect you to go on and on and on giving a blow job but 99 out of a 100 dudes will lick your clit for 3 minutes and pout because you should’ve cum by now and their mouth is tired. And god forbid they keep making the same motion because once you start to get excited they change what they are doing. They all seem to have watched the same scene where they flick and rub your clit crazily for like 30 seconds, like that does anything. Also men don’t care about their sexual health at a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 05:42 AM
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In another video she explains she didn’t fall in love with her husband until about 3 years of marriage. In her culture this is normal. I’m a pretty cynical person about love, so this makes sense to me now. Marry up and the best prospect and all.. I always chose on love and potential and I always got burned. That being said I’m not the same culture as her and my parents married after 3 months. They are still happily together 44 years now. It is definitely NOT for everyone, but it’s not impossible…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 09:08 PM
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It’s the only toy I’ve consistently had and reordered over 10 years. I love that it’s plug in. I’m going to try a Satisfyer after reading some of these comments though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 05:31 PM
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The Universe Guru on YouTube has excellent videos about how to tell men you can still date them, but you aren’t looking to be a girlfriend. If you think about it, being a girlfriend is a meaningless title. As I am now 43, I look back on my relationships and engagements and see how silly they were. Those men are gone, they gave me very little. There was absolutely no point emotionally or financially for me to spend my time on them. The harsh reality of experience and years gone by have opened my …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 10:25 PM
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I believe if you truly want marriage, there is no girlfriend stage at all. You should date hypergamously. Also date multiple men at a time until one rises to the occasion of marriage. I am never interested in being someone’s girlfriend ever again. I’d also never buy a man expensive gifts, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 09:46 PM
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Same goes for people that aren’t married yet. You don’t do counseling with a boyfriend. You just leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 07:14 PM
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I own my home and a car and have steady work. If a man can’t get me a better house, car and life I’m uninterested. Men need to be providers and pay. I dearly wish my father who was a provider himself would’ve programmed that into me. Would’ve saved me 20 years of dating complete losers. Where are those men I was “investing” in now? They aren’t here now paying my mortgage that’s for sure..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 01:38 AM
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So much time and energy spent gaming instead of working on themselves, or ya know...just working period. If your hobby is gaming I’m not interested in your zombie ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 01:36 AM
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I used to frequent a waiting forum on a wedding site when I was waiting for my shitty ex to propose. Women just growing resentful and trying to be happy with scraps. It sucks. My ex eventually proposed but I broke it off a month later. He was terrible but also he just took too long to propose and I lost interest. The women on that subreddit should come to FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 12:18 AM
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Did he also propose with a paper mache ring? Seriously leave, like yesterday!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 06:49 PM
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Haha, this movie is brilliant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 05:49 PM
25

Oh lord, I’ve been having to keep myself away from those mommy and marriage subreddits. These “husbands” are all the same and such a drag on society. Kids growing up watching “dads” play video games all day. I can’t even imagine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 06:02 PM
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HVM do not prefer one gender over the other. Being raised by a LVM father that wanted a son more, was damaging to me. I was raised without femininity since my mother was a low value woman. Wish my parents would have cared about my upbringing more. Don’t date or have children for men that discriminates their own child’s sex. They should be happy either way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 12:27 AM
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There is no Covid safe dating in person right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 05:23 AM
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That’s a great stance. Out of all the stepparents situations I know of, only one is happy. And that’s cause the guy is insanely rich. He actually seems to parent, and his ex wife is normal. That’s the exception, not the norm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 01:09 AM
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I guess the term bang nanny is unacceptable to use on that subreddit. But that’s what many of these men are doing. I’ve been banned anyways for telling a woman not to financially help her SO with his divorce. He was still freaking married 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 01:07 AM
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Yep, a lot of these women are paying rent or on the mortgage. And their SOs will remind them it’s not their house and they have no say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 11:54 PM
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Those subs remind me what can happen if I settle for an LVM. It’s good to be single!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 11:53 PM
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The stepparents sub is a shit show. These women are being more of a parent to these kids then the fathers are. And they will always defend their shitty SO. Like boohoo, he has SO much to deal with. Like we all don’t. But women are expected to suck it up, clean the house, care for kids-including kids that aren’t ours, work a job, run errands and on and on...boohoo he can’t take a few minutes to father his own child. The stepmoms in there enjoy being victims..makes me sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 10:54 PM
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I’m in the US with terribly high Covid rates. I don’t trust men to be truthful about having it. Dating can wait until there is a vaccine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 06:55 PM
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Yep, you take that $$ and go home. The stupidity these scrotes come up with boggles the mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 10:34 PM
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Oh man, he considers himself above average...LOL I’m turning 43 and have NO problem getting dates or relationships. Out of the last few guys I went out with the craziest one(also the richest, tallest and most “mature”)insisted on sex by the third date. I ended it and he typed me a letter negging me. He actually took the time to TYPE a letter because he couldn’t handle the rejection. The writer says he’d NEVER put up with a woman waiting a few months to sleep with him. No problem dude, we don’t w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 06:05 PM
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He admits it’s his kink. His kink is sitting in his own filth all day. Not even animals do that unless forced to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 10:28 PM
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I’ve always faked and I regret it because now idiots are out there walking around thinking they can make a woman cum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 08:35 PM
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Trump was either lying or gaslighting the whole time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 07:47 PM
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Yep, no dating for me. Men are dirty and more likely to have Covid. I’m not trying to get that. In the US we definitely have bigger things to worry about right now other than dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 07:46 PM
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Had to stop reading the StepParents sub because it’s literally the same damn story over and over again. I broke up with my last short term relationship mainly over him and his ex wife. Never again!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 09:45 PM
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Certified 👑 !!! You just saved yourself SO much time and energy that you can put back into your life and your happiness!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 04:03 AM
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Yep, one of the so called feminists guys I know is a larping poly nerd.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 07:10 PM
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Every man that has declared himself to be a feminist to me was a piece of shit. They don’t know what that word means.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 06:33 PM
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Yep. I don’t watch the Bachelor anymore because it never works and it is not natural. The Bachelorette on the other hand..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 08:15 PM
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Be happy he told you early one. My last date before lockdown the guy said he was an open book and boy was he ever! I heard all about his ex wife. I knew more about her than him by the end. I ate my expensive dinner and got the fuck outta there lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 02:54 PM
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Stepparents is another sub of women in misery. Ladies don’t date men with children from a previous relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 06:36 PM
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Why are women being so nice in these responses? Stop saying wish ya luck, or best to ya. If you MUST respond say get fucked, fuck you, bugger off, lol in your dreams or you’re a disgusting loser. Stop being so nice to these scrotes. Stop being so nice. Stop explaining. They don’t care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 04:17 PM
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See ladies!! I’m so tired of the stereotype that “we couldn’t find a man...poor thing. What’s wrong with us?” I had a husband at 23 that lasted three months before he cheated on me. He was in his 30s and now I realize he had ED. Two proposals after that that I ended. I found men, I just threw em back. 🙅‍♀️ I’m so happy to be single during this pandemic. Men should be providers. Period. If they can’t provide for a woman and or children they have no business even courting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 04:00 PM
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Marisa Tomei Winona Ryder Lady Gaga Diane Keaton Mindy Kaling Oprah All unmarried. All better than fine. Marriage is not every woman’s dream goal. I’m turning 43 in a month, my sister 33 in January. We are both unmarried and unbothered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 04:53 AM
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Yea, I don’t comment because I’m not a mom and they are strict about it. Pretty much my every reply would be, leave him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 05:12 AM
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The women of breaking mom confirm to me every day that most men are not interested in being fathers, nor are they very good at it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 08:42 PM
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Why won’t they wear sunscreen? Just fucking why?? Never even realized how much of an issue this was until I hit my 30s and men started to look like ass. None of my exes took great care of themselves. And I had to tell them ALL to wear the fucking sunscreen...omg!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 04:13 AM
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You don’t deal with them. Your time is valuable. A man asking you out needs to have a plan and it should be expressed early. Next time some guy suggests something like he did just keep asking, yeah but what’s the plan? If there’s nothing or he is procrastinating then block him. He’s not the man for you..or anyone really.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 03:48 PM
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I downvote the stupid question posts. They know what they are putting up with is wrong already. If you think you’re gonna get validation for what you think is a HVM but he’s treating you shitty you’re gonna have a bad time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 04:59 AM
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Not OP but I just use my vibrator and have lots of fun hobbies. No man I’ve met yet has been so talented in bed I couldn’t live without him. Broke up with my last LVM back in February. I’d rather be single than EVER deal with men like that anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 04:57 AM
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No, no you can’t dude. This is his bare minimum..lol..nope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 04:52 AM
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Welcome queen!! I had to do the same thing with my ex of 5 years that had NO get up and go besides other LVM issues. He finally proposed but it was so lackluster, impersonal and wasn’t worth it. All those years waiting and I just knew I’d didn’t want to live the rest of my life his way. Last I heard from his friends he hasn’t changed at all. LVM stay LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 06:54 PM
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Wait, so r/feminism supports pornography?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 06:18 PM
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You don’t marry someone who doesn’t believe in marriage because what he means by that is he doesn’t want to marry YOU. A guy will be a marriage believer real quick when he meets his prize. You do not put your name on a mortgage for someone you aren’t married to. Leave, like yesterday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 10:47 PM
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I’m 42. Your best years aren’t behind you. But I’m not dating again until there’s a vaccine. Seriously, take more time for yourself. This is a time to invest in you, not a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 09:27 PM
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It was from awhile ago but same story. Woman being taken advantage of and paying for a man and his children. She didn’t like hearing that that was foolish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 05:18 AM
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They act like they’re the first ones to ever try this out. Also I had a poly friend tell me I wouldn’t have to worry so much about finding that one perfect guy if I was poly because I’d have more than one partner 🤦‍♀️ ewwwwwww You basically can’t date someone from Portland or surrounding areas. They have to be from out of town.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 07:02 PM
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“Immaculate sex” LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 03:34 PM
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Polyamory is like a disease here in Portland. Everyone that I know of that does it thinks it’s the smartest lifestyle ever. Yet they can barely be in a relationship with one person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 03:29 AM
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I’m banned from r/stepparents because of my advice. Hopefully they tell her to leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 10:47 PM
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Setting a good example would’ve been being a good husband. And I know people get divorced for different reasons. I also don’t think that’s a good boundary when you are divorced. If my ex husband sent me flowers I’d throw them away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 10:41 PM
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I got about a minute and a half in and once she said they got together after he was in prison I bailed. Just no to this whole situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 01:39 AM
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You just let the minutes pass and keep your mind and body occupied. I do lots of reading, watching new movies, getting rest or exercise, baking and cooking. If I need to call someone I talk to my parents or my brothers. I think of myself as a submarine encased under the arctic ice. I’m impervious to being contacted by him or reaching out to him. I’ve had to do this after SO many breakups and later you always think, wow, why was I ever thinking about that loser at all?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 09:52 PM
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I used to be one of those women. I even did burlesque. You simply cannot change their minds. They have to see it for themselves. But so you know I agree with you. I don’t find anything empowering about WAP. But it’s a song meant to make them $$..that’s why the lyrics are what they are. Attention=$$
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 01:58 AM
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Nah. I’ve always done this work for them. It never changes things. Just throw the whole thing away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 07:49 PM
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I’m 42 and I’m not having sex again until marriage either. If I even decide to do that again. Worked for Russell Wilson and Ciara!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 06:13 AM
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Welcome queen!! 👑 This loser is a supreme mega NVM! Block him in every way possible. Never ever let that loser engage with you. If he comes by DO NOT answer the door. Just call the police. He’s a leech sucking the life out of you. Just stay away. Do tons of nice things for yourself and take care! Honesty so excited for your future!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 12:52 AM
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If leasing a car works for her it’s fine. It’s their money. Can’t believe this post turned into a car lease debate. Super happy for your cousin OP! And you are still a prize at ANY age. I think that is part of the takeaway here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 06:39 PM
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Yep and minimal effort people aren’t my people. In my perfect world we’d all get off OLD and men would actually have to make an effort to talk to you and impress you. That’s how it was in my teens and twenties and it was so much more fun!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 06:33 PM
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Yes somehow people did it before OLD. I’m old enough to remember!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 04:20 PM
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Oh my goodness. I’ve had two long relationships like that where I wanted marriage so badly to men that didn’t contribute at all! It’s been years but I don’t think of them at all anymore. You got this! Take time to heal and be good to yourself. I cannot stress this enough, you will have to get used to putting your own wants and needs FIRST. If you have not already, block him and never respond to him. Once guys like this lose their meal ticket they regret it and they will cry beg and plead. They p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 08:52 PM
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Same. I’m turning 43 in a couple months. What’s even another year of not dating? It’s fine really. I’m enrolled in college and redecorating my house. I’d rather get healthy and ready to meet HVM. In fact I’ll use dating during Covid as a way to sort out LVM. Oh so you dated during Covid? During a pandemic? BLOCK.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 06:41 PM
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Yep, no dating for me until a vaccine starts going round. Probably 2021. Men are dirty and I’m not risking myself or my family to date some desperately horny LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 03:51 PM
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Shouldn’t matchmaking services be free for women? The man should be the one paying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 03:20 PM
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Saw this and hated it. Should be banned from Aww, but it’s just so cute when a women is finally desperate enough to propose, right? 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 03:18 PM
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Yep, dude just get a pet. Maybe just a pet rock though. I think a dog would be too big of a commitment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 03:15 PM
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Welcome queen 👑 🌹
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 08:01 PM
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I used to think the struggle love with Big was romantic..ugh. Carrie is still an idiot, she treated Aiden like garbage. I used to cringe at Miranda, but when I watched it again a few months ago the first couple of seasons she was the best!! Then she took up with Steve and became a huge Pickmeisha. Sigh...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 04:43 PM
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You may feel obligated to give him explanations. But you aren’t. If you want to be nice just text him that you don’t want to see him anymore and not to contact you. Then block him everywhere. If he shows up to your house don’t answer the door. Call the police if he doesn’t leave. Go to a friend, or family members house if you’re scared you’ll cave. I mean, you’ve only been dating 2 months. You could just block him and never think about him again. Don’t be afraid. Men do it to women all the time.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 01:34 AM
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Omg same happened to me a couple years ago. But psycho dude typed me out a letter to say he’d found someone that was younger, blonder and more sexually free. I laughed and laughed because I didn’t believe him at all. Still don’t and don’t care. He was in his 40s, rich and well educated but thought he was entitled to get sex by the third date...nope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 07:25 PM
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You need to make it clear it’s him you are not interested in. Say,” I am not interested in dating YOU.” Then move on or block him. Why would you keep a friend like that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 03:26 AM
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I keep saying it too. I wish mods would delete dating advice questions for the time being.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 05:19 PM
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I watched Jerry McGuire today and was cringing so hard at the story. Last week we couldn’t get through The Wedding Planner because it was so insulting. I don’t like Sleepless in Seattle anymore. Meg Ryan’s character chases aster Tom Hanks and Tom Hanks character is actually NOT a great guy at all. Yep, FDS ruining romcoms for me lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 06:30 AM
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Maybe he is on the toilet. I wouldn’t be surprised 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 12:56 AM
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Hahaha, nope. What is the nasty clothes pile in the background? That’s what he’ll do to your house. Make it nasty!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 11:36 PM
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I’m not. Notice that a global pandemic happening. No man is worth your health or your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 04:51 AM
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He’s doing this for attention and the joke of it. There are SO many men that do the same “outrageous” shit here in Portland. She turned his stupid attention seeking move into a friggin serious article 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 03:05 PM
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Delete them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 02:09 AM
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You’re obsessing. And you got way too emotionally attached. Read the handbook and do not contact him. You have more work to do on yourself before you date again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 02:08 AM
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She’s happily married. I think she gave up her account when reddit went anti women 😞 but man, she was inspiring!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 07:21 PM
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I’ll share this comment I read back in February from JalapeñoPancakes. The most I ever got up to was 4. It was HARD. I’m sure it’s blown up on the face of many an FDSer. I didn’t lie about going on dates with other men(there’s no discussion of commitment)and many dropped off at that discovery. But, from the very beginning I had discussions with every man that I was in it for marriage.they all knew going in and I slept with none of them. From a scheduling standpoint it was nuts. High stress. And …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 01:54 AM
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Men do it all the time. The sooner you break up with him the sooner you can move on with your life. The more time you waste with him is time you could be bettering yourself. Time is the MOST valuable resource in the world. Start valuing yours.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 01:39 AM
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He’s already given you his answer. It would be foolish to keep trying to sway him to how you feel. With men, words don’t work as well as action. You should walk away if marriage within a certain timeframe is extremely important to you. And don’t lie to yourself to keep him. Be true to your desires.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 06:58 PM
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Good for you. OLD has never brought me anyone of worth. I’ve always met people going out socially.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 07:48 PM
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You take yourself to a nice restaurant. Somewhere you’d like to be taken. Men need to approach you. You can join social groups doing things you like. Personally I’m not doing anything until Covid is under control somewhat better in the US. I think men should be working on themselves during this period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 07:47 PM
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Pisces men are the absolute worst! Virgos I dated were lame. Scorpios are stuck up. Aquarius’s were just plan nuts. Capricorn’s are too serious and cold. Is there a good sign for men, lol?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 07:24 PM
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This show melts my cold dead heart. It’s very similar to Undateables from the UK. I love both these shows. If men on the spectrum or with other disabilities can put in such effort then there is NO reason why men without can’t also! The bar is raised!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 02:36 PM
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No dating during a pandemic. Your life isn’t worth it for some LVM No swimming dates. No hiking dates. No walk in the park dates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 01:13 AM
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I’m sickened by this. No amount of counseling can fix an LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 05:05 PM
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I’ll be 43 in October. I’ll just be using men in the future. I have no desire to marry anymore. He’d have to be a real good one. I’ve been spending this time to get in fantastic shape and work on my house. My sister lives with me and she’s 32. She’s not dating either. We are waiting to see how Covid goes. Our lives and health come before any men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 05:16 AM
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The other woman wasn’t interested in him so he’s texting you out of ego/boredom. But who really cares? Block him so you don’t have to deal with this manipulation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 08:22 PM
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Nothing but 👑 energy here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 10:32 PM
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Shoot men that won’t pay on a date into space! Also we should start saying it’s new fashioned for the man to pay, not old fashioned. This should be THE standard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 08:37 PM
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I started going there when I was dating a dad. I never want to do that again. The schedules, the high conflict ex that will be in his life forever, the money. I want to be number 1 and you will never be when someone has kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 11:24 PM
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You are better off never entangling yourself to a man with children from a previous relationship. Especially if you have no children yourself. Go check out r/stepparents for proof!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 07:34 PM
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For me I was always taught to stick it out for a marriage. I put this thinking into relationships too, which was wrong. I realize now that the men I was with just did whatever they wanted regardless of my feelings. So I’m always putting myself first in the future. Men do it, so why not us women too?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 06:22 PM
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r/breakingmom and r/stepparents too. Why anyone would want to spend time in a shitty relationship full of disappointment and pain is beyond me. Lots of women think it just comes with a relationship. So happy to be single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 05:46 PM
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Yep, this whole attitude. 💅🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 11:30 PM
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Lol bugs the shit out of me and I wish people would stop over using it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 05:16 PM
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I’m SO over dudes like this. Hard pass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 04:39 PM
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I’m in the US and I’m not dating at all right now. Men are dirty and more likely to have COVID-19. I’m not interested in giving them any attention. Let them work on their issues for once.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 05:50 PM
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Climate change. Men don’t help equally in raising children. My body won’t be the same. Bloodline, who cares anymore? There may not be anyone around in 30 years to remember my family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 12:05 AM
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I’m done with the dating apps as well forever. It’s such a HUGE waste of time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 09:35 PM
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I’m 42 and if a guy wanted to take me to Applebee’s for a first date I’d laugh and then block him. I mean the only time that’s acceptable is if you live in a teeny tiny town and it’s the nicest restaurant there. I just wouldn’t have said what she said. That’s what’s bringing out the pitchforks on that post. Who even knows if she really said that though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 09:32 PM
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He was keeping financial score the whole time. I’ve dated that guy and he will make your life miserable. This sis dodged a bullet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 09:30 PM
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I have a friend like this too. He cheated on her for a year when she went to his house unannounced and caught him. She fucking stayed. Even moved in with him. Oh but it’s okay because her son told him how shitty he is and he better not do it again! I tried to tell her she deserves better but she bristled. She’s a powerful career woman but she’s a pushover in real life. I lost respect for her and barely speak to her now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 04:19 PM
3

Hahaha, you’re right. Been making lots of smoothies lately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 04:12 PM
162

This man-child shouldn’t have a girlfriend. How did he even make time to date?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 04:12 PM
20

You cannot. You’re 22 and shouldn’t be spending $$ on a boy. Dump him, use your money for yourself and focus on school.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 02:37 PM
68

A man made me cum once at 23 by going down on me and then another man by fingering me at about age 25. I’m 42 now and I can’t even count the lovers after that. I faked every other time since. I know you aren’t supposed to but I just don’t feel like arguing about it. Men are complete fools in bed. They’re boring, selfish and uneducated. Their egos are SO fragile. Even the most woke, “feminist” men haven’t made me cum. Love my Magic Wand. Sometimes it takes all of 3 minutes to climax. Why do I nee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 02:33 PM
31

I’m 42 and it’s not so bad. This is the most stable time in my life. Having no man=no drama.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 05:19 AM
8

I’m 42 and the energy and time I spent worrying about finding someone in my 20s and 30s...well it’s crushing to look back now. I never got what I wanted from men. I agonized and plotted. Wish I would’ve spent that time improving my own mental health. Men took away from my focus.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 04:34 PM
5

That’s wise. Instead of putting energy into trying to get an outcome from an unpredictable man, put it in yourself instead. You’ve got plenty of time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 04:31 PM
5

Then go to therapy to get this solved before dating. It’s really just that simple as to be a whole healthy person before dealing with men. I can tell from your posts that you’re all twisted up in this guy. Untangle yourself. Get some help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 02:00 PM
6

Stop caring so much about how HE feels. This is about making sure your own needs are met. If he’s not meeting them or you feel insecure, level up and delete him. Personally sounds like you need more work on yourself before you date anyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 01:49 PM
6

Actually I think judging off your comments you’ve let yourself become too invested. You need to adjust your feelings and kick that pedestal out from underneath him. Usually when you’re so fearful about losing a man, it’s because you’re not already giving that care to yourself. Just relax and be happy alone. This person is not your whole world and you’re letting him be. STOP IT! Go back and read the handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 01:45 PM
32

Your nagging feelings will only get worse. Being a power couple is also a terrible idea. That almost never ends well. You sound turned off. Don’t let yourself think he’s the “one” cause he’s not. Sunken cost fallacy and thinking he’s such a nice guy will trap you into staying with someone you’re not compatable with. I’m 42, I’ve been there many many times. Break up with him and find someone you are 100% about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 03:14 AM
50

Fucking don’t let the door hit his ass on the fucking way out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 03:10 AM
75

You can certainly pull back and see, but if he’s already disappointing you effort wise it’s not going to change long term. He’s showing you who he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 03:09 AM
38

One check over at r/stepparents or r/breakingmom will cure you of marriage fever. And these are only the women complaining on Reddit. So many will suffer in silence or complain to their friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 11:30 PM
131

Unfortunately this is marriage for billions of women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 09:54 PM
22

Busy and can’t make conversation. Why are you on a dating site little boy? Play your video games instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 03:54 PM
2

I’d reply, “is this something you normally do...or say” Then silence and a look..depends on what it is. You put it back on them to explain their shitty behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 03:48 PM
39

But you aren’t picking out the house, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 08:35 PM
45

I value your input? Have you been giving him house advice and letting him know what you prefer? If not he’s buying it for himself. I’d want a man to propose and then buy me a house that I picked out. Not the other way around. Please update either way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 06:26 PM
55

You don’t deal with people that don’t respect you. You walk away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 06:22 PM
24

I’m 42 and have no problems getting a date or asked out at bars.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 05:00 PM
30

Never ever tell them a date. Just avoid alone time. Avoid grinding and sexual touching in public. You can see Sherry Argovs book Men Love Bitches. She’s got a chapter on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 04:47 PM
40

In 90 days you may know him well enough after his “niceness” has slipped a bit so that you don’t even want to sleep with him! Me personally, I’m 42 and I’m not having sex again until engagement and wedding planning. Somehow sexy Ciara and sexy Russell Wilson waited until marriage so it’s possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 04:45 PM
8

I agree with this. I don’t know what country you’re in but I’d call a women’s crisis center when he’s not around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 02:34 AM
6

I’m 42 and good on you! The world is your oyster now that he’s not dragging you down. There is SO much to look forward to. My life is so full and fun. Congratulations 🎉🎈🍾 and don’t forget to block him everywhere!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 12:08 AM
11

Wow, this guy is a red flag loser on SO many levels. I’ve dated the dad, muslim and the older guy...but separately. This guy is a trifecta. No offense, I just can’t date a Muslim again..bad experience. I can never date a dad or an older guy again either. You can still be friends but I would probably say, “look friend I love you and I want what’s best for you. This relationship isn’t the best for you and I can’t support it. I will support you and we can be friends but I don’t want to talk about h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 10:17 PM
19

Yep, I’m in Oregon and I don’t support Nike.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 04:26 AM
3

It will be a huge weight off your shoulders if you just don’t worry about his reasons, or how did this happen. You won’t change anything by obsessing. Your head is too much in the good times instead of the current reality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 03:05 AM
36

Don’t give him any more time to 180. He won’t. Your wasting your own time. Let the whys keep you up at night until you are sick of it. That’s what I had to do for my last breakup. My brother finally told me that my ex was weak. And he was right. He didn’t change because he was a weak ass bitch. Time went by and I got over him. Now I can’t stand the idea of him and he’s a turn off. Took me about 4 months though. Your guy was acting HVM but he was just acting, now he’s showing his true self. The s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 10:32 PM
23

She already had a conversation. Conversations don’t change feelings. It’s time for action now which is divorce. At 42 now I’ve had every CovErsaTioN with different men about my feelings. They don’t care and they rarely change. If they change it’s a little and not for long.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 03:52 PM
23

You 1000% did the right thing. He may try crawling back. Don’t let him. Take lots of time for yourself. And congratulations! 🍾🎊🎉 the world is your oyster.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 09:56 PM
19

I was 23 when I married my 30 year old ex husband. When I think about it now at 42 it skeeves me out! I started visiting the stepparents sub when I was dating my last LVM. It makes me puke the 20 something’s dating and marrying 30-40 year old men with kids.. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 05:42 AM
118

FWB= benefits for him. He won’t send you flowers, help you around the house or kind words when you’re sick. You’re just a body for him to use. He doesn’t respect you and it’s not worth it. Doing wifey stuff WAY too soon and staying in go nowhere relationships WAY too long. Dating on potential. They NEVER did what they talked about. No more dreamer type guys. If you bring up marriage and they shirk it at all...they aren’t going to marry you..ever. I’ve made every dating mistake in the book! I had…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 11:27 PM
72

If he’s so busy he shouldn't be be dating. But he’s not interested. Don’t text back and block. Move on..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 04:47 PM
8

My father is low value but he did stay with my mom after her debilitating car accident and breast cancer. He’s the exception though. Not the norm sadly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 11:40 PM
70

Yep. I think about her time working at a morgue and how men would remarry quickly after their wives died. I’ll keep that in mind when dating after quarantine. My own grandfather remarried 3 months after my grandmother died in her 40s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 04:16 PM
8

I dated a man I went to high school with 25 years ago. I barely knew him since he was a grade below me but I always remembered him as a genuinely sweet guy. It was a love affair for a couple months until red flags started popping up everywhere. Just too many and around that time I found this sub and broke it off before quarantine. I was definitely in love with the We weNt to High ScHoOl toGether 25 YeaRs ago fantasy...damn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 05:17 AM
24

You sound awesome! Welcome to the club, cheers! 🥂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 04:08 AM
15

You don’t need to explain anything like this ladies. Just block and move on. He doesn’t care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 08:09 PM
13

I can’t stress this enough. Look them up online before you date them. One guy that asked me out at a bar had a DUI from a couple years before...dude was in his 40s!! And he had a kid he didn’t mention. Blocked!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 05:58 AM
17

I’m not dating during Coronavirus so no advice here. Personally I think its a bad look. I’m waiting a few more months at least to see where it goes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 02:08 AM
3

I like him. He opened my eyes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 01:20 AM
14

When you start out the post saying it’s been hard I would advise you to leave. This never ends well. It’s emotional labor and taxing on you. Get out. Leave, block. This is coming from someone with a lot of experience. You’re feeling crazy because you’re doubting your own intuition. Listen to your gut.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 12:01 AM
36

I agree. Ultimatums and talks have never worked for me. Sounds like it’s time to pull your time back from him. He’s not stupid. He knows the deal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 11:57 PM
21

Welcome! The world is your oyster! 42 here, no man and just fine. Cheers! Skol! 👑💅🏻🥂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 05:16 AM
14

Maybe you don’t want that for yourself but there is absolutely nothing wrong with a woman being a homemaker or mother. Shit, be a stay at home wife. It’s all valid to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 04:44 PM
61

I admire Carole Baskin. Takes a real woman to admit her mistakes, which she has. She took on a racist, pedophile animal abusing asshole-amongst other things and won because she’s smarter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 04:32 PM
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Could I post what I would’ve told myself now that I’m 42? Save all the cash you made from that side bar job. Don’t buy that brand new car..again save your money. Don’t go out with that creepy 30 year old guy. Enroll in college. Don’t go out with that creepy 30 year old guy again and definitely don’t marry him....ugh!! Stop spending time with losers that don’t care about you. Don’t go out with that poetic loser you met in Portland. Definitely don’t get into a serious relationship with him!! Gosh …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 05:58 AM
64

I was wondering about that article. Made me raise my eyebrows for sure. I was surprised anyone would sleep with him! I wish her the best. Glad she’s getting away from that scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 02:41 AM
9

I live in the pacific NW of America and some guys try to suggest hiking as a first date. Ugh. I usually tell them I don’t meet strangers in the woods. I mean really does anyone use their brain? But I just write them off because I’m not a hiker and if that’s their idea of a first date they aren’t for me. I believe the pandemic should be a time to get creative when it comes to dating. The men need to come up with some better ideas. God forbid they use some brain power to come up with nice things t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 06:29 PM
17

Some of us-like me- needed that smack in the face from the article to remember to lean into our feminine. It’s something I’m working on. I liked that he wasn’t putting HER down. He was establishing what HIS role is. And that’s refreshing in the day and age of weak minded men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 03:27 PM
11

Men bring their phones into the toilet. They have zero excuses not to contact you. Ghost him and move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 04:59 AM
98

See, I’m 42 and what feminism has become hasn’t worked for me. I want equal pay and equal rights but I would’ve loved to have found a man to lean on. I’ve been taking care of not only myself but LVM men for YEARS. Thank you for posting this. Gives me hope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 04:12 AM
21

Men seem to have no problem stating that they won’t date women with children, or saying they won’t raise someone else’s child. But women are supposed to love single dads and dad bods and become the stepmother... NO thank you! 🙅‍♀️ 🤮 PS-if you ever date a man with kids go to the stepparents subreddit. 90% of the posts are very unhappy stepmothers!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 04:51 PM
10

It’s good you learned your lesson. When red flags present themselves you walk away. You block. Don’t bother explaining. But I really think you have some work to do on loving yourself before you go out dating again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 04:47 AM
189

Marriage is not the epitome of life. The meaning of life is to live. Enjoy it! With a man or without 💅🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 04:42 AM
7

DELETE DELETE DELETE! OLD is just a time waster. It’s my goal some time after quarantine to meet people organically.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 07:39 PM
2

I got so bored by him I didn’t finish reading.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 07:37 PM
4

I told my sister who is 32 about this post and she was equally horrified that such talk was even going on. Men shouldn’t be requesting anything to do with our pubic hair. I’m just over this whole thread..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 03:52 PM
24

I never said you were desperate. But now since I see you are so personally offended by it I wonder 🤔 Listen, sorry you don’t like the advice in here. However, there is a whole world of men out there looking to hurt you. Like WAY worse than the advice you’re getting in here. If you can’t take some criticism from experienced women I really worry for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 06:11 PM
21

Well you learned something didn’t ya? I’ll be blunt, no butterflies for someone you don’t know. You’re also over analyzing your actions too much. I think you have more personal work to do before you date. You are being very defensive in your comments rather than appreciative for the advice. You did come here for advice, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 05:40 PM
6

I personally don’t care if men do it. They are so lazy and terrible at oral I could take it or leave it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 03:49 PM
12

If he hasn’t been doing it already he won’t start later. Besides you’ve already communicated it to him 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 12:11 PM
7

Pfffttt, 22k teenage boys and confused “men”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 04:10 AM
51

He wants a girlfriend but can’t even ask a girl out. The girl in his example dodged a bullet. Instead of reflecting on why he’s too lazy and shitty to ask someone out he makes a whiny Reddit post about it. 👎🏻 Oh god the comments section makes my head hurt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 04:58 PM
13

This asshole is such garbage I can’t believe they let him on tv.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 08:40 PM
5

You’re right. I almost always ignored red flags to progress a relationship sadly. I bet she’s actually put up with more than she’s posting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 06:23 PM
24

Scary that it took 2 years to see his true self. I need to start asking a man to buy me feminine products earlier on in the relationship 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 03:37 PM
6

NO he doesn’t have a right to any preference about HER pubic hair. It’s revolting to me he even mentioned it beforehand. They aren’t married. That’s not her husband and even if he were she shouldn’t have to modify her private area for him. You sound like a Pickmeisha. Do you think men don’t have enough preferences about our bodies already??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 01:08 AM
9

🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🙅‍♀️🙅‍♀️🙅‍♀️🙅‍♀️🙅‍♀️🙅‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 01:04 AM
5

No, no it’s not. A preference for your pubic hair?? No, fuck that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 01:00 AM
59

I have never, in my over 24 years of dating had a guy advise me of any preference he had for my pubic hair. As long as I’m clean I’m not doing anything else for any man. He should be so lucky to eat my pussy. -Edit- what a bunch of Pickmeishas in here. A man doesn’t get to have a preference when it comes to your most intimate body parts. Expressing that preference before you’ve even been really dating is just inappropriate besides. I’m grossed out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 11:29 PM
50

This is the kind of selfish loser that should just have his hand as a girlfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 10:10 PM
41

I’d be going to HR and sending a screenshot to his wife. Gross and inappropriate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 11:48 PM
35

Oh FFS, disgusting. Beyond...just beyond words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 11:46 PM
1

The last guy I was with seemed wonderful and said things like, I mean the world to him. But by his actions that was not true. He was the catalyst for following FDS. I dropped him. He’s the last man with a kid I’ll ever date. Men can SAY all the right things but again, it’s his actions, his patterns especially we need to pay attention to. I’ve got to stop taking what they say at face value. Most men are full of SHIT and shouldn’t be in a relationship or having sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 10:34 PM
12

👏 👏 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 10:38 PM
94

I’m trying to remember a good man I dated or was engaged to in my 24 years of adult dating. 🤔 I’ll have to get back to you..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 08:51 PM
36

That is some queen shit right there! 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 03:04 PM
37

I felt WAY too much pressure in my 30s to have kids. It may be your last chance everyone said !! So glad I didn’t. I never met a man worth having them with and I have money, free time and peace. No regrets. You shouldn’t have kids for the sake of having kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 11:30 PM
86

I wasted my 20s and 30s on losers. Wish I would’ve just stopped worrying about men and leveled myself up. Congratulations. Get ready for lots of personal fulfillment and peace.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 08:11 PM
65

Truth. Not married and no kids happy 42 year old here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 06:22 PM
113

Seems scripted for the medium, but ladies take note. This is how it’s supposed to be. It’s not excessive praise, just a mental note for how an adult man needs to behave. There shouldn’t be any reason you can’t look at his phone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 09:47 PM
6

Amen, NEVER again. I don’t care that I’m 42 and most people have kids now. I’d rather be single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 09:54 PM
31

In my whole 42 years of life I know of only one happy stepmother and that’s because the ex wife remarried and is peaceful. Also the stepwifes husband is rich. Like multimillionaire rich. They live a jet setting lifestyle. So ya..that’s it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 04:00 PM
50

Yea, last guy I dated had a daughter. Cute kid but it sucks not being number 1 to someone you consider number 1. In most cases it’s 1.kid 2.ex wife 3.Ex wife’s family..etc...these guys shouldn’t date and just focus on being good dads. For some reason the people on the stepparents sub think when the kid turns 18 they’ll disappear. Yeah no, college, weddings, grandkids. You’ll get to see his ex or Ex wife forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 05:55 AM
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Go check out the Stepparents forum for all the misery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 04:36 AM
57

The REALLY tragic thing is he will find some pickmeisha willing to let him stay home while she works and then also comes home to clean the skid marks off his undies 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 08:59 PM
31

He’s obviously barely read our FDS posts. I see stories on here all the time of women with HVM, hell I personally know some. If the quality of men were better I’d see so much more. Unfortunately a lot of men don’t care about leveling themselves up or treating women like humans.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 07:28 PM
53

Don’t even waste your time with that sub. BreakingMom, Relationships, StepParents..all these subs are full of martyrs, sadists and masochists. People that derive pleasure from being treated like garbage or lower.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 01:26 AM
63

Into polyamory or open relationships. Separated but not divorced.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 03:57 PM
88

This is an 18 second snapshot of her life. She doesn’t show the groping, the sexual abuse or the degradation of stripping. If you’re lucky enough to get out of it without becoming an addict to -insert substance here- you’re lucky.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 04:08 AM
9

So much this 👆🏻 No fucking beard hairs around my sink, man clutter, toilet seat up in the middle of the night, I painted and decorated my house as I chose. I could go on and ON! You’d have to really convince me at this point to get in a relationship haha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 10:56 PM
15

Sure. I’m 42 and I’ve dated pretty much every guy you can think of out there. Celebrity, much older,much younger, narcs, good old country boy, scientist immigrant, high school crushes, independently wealthy, the lazy philosopher boy, insecure short guy yadda yadda...They are pretty much all the same. I’m not jaded but I’m a realist. I’d rather be alone than unhappily tied to some idiot. Dying alone? That’s not a good enough reason to settle for anybody. There’s no guarantee that man will outlive…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 09:12 PM
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Omg the last poly guy I knew was EXACTLY like this. Dirty glasses, straggly hair, smelly, larped, know it all, with a cluttered dirty house. Polyamorous people are disgusting to me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 02:21 AM
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The stepparents forum is full of Pickmeisha extraordinaires. I’m in my 20s and you’re 10+ years older than me? ✅ Oh you aren’t divorced yet? ✅ You want me to move in and pay half? ✅ Oh babysit your kids whenever? ✅ Take abuse from you and your ex wife? ✅ Don’t go anywhere or take nice trips because the kids. ✅ Dad guilt? ✅ Oh you may not want kids with me because it will make your other kids feel bad? ✅ Clean and cook for someone else’s children? ✅ Yea, that’s just the tip of the iceberg.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 01:46 AM
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Find roommates. It’s better than being in this situation. You’ll want to start seeing a therapist and or psychologist. They can help you if you feel yourself getting depressed. Don’t move in with him, no matter what! See above! You are very young. At this age focus on yourself and no more dating. Break it off with this toxic boy. He’s too old for you. Take care of yourself FIRST!! Do NOT move in with him. Break it off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 04:28 AM
16

I was in this exact same situation years ago with a cheap fiancé. Every time I’d try to break up he’d cry and manipulate.. I wasted 5 years on that douche and for some reason the final straw was that we got into an argument and he returned my diamond earrings he bought me for my birthday. Mind you he’d never bought me anything nice before and said we could go get them again if we made up. Nice. Nothing for sentimental value right? You aren’t trapped. That’s in your mind. At some point you need t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 07:48 PM
17

You aren’t shallow at all! Having expectations for a partner-this is your life after all-isn’t shallow. Sounds like you’ve lost respect for him. It’s really hard to get that back...nearly impossible.. Just based off your story I’d dump him. I mean , you ended the engagement already. Going back is going backwards now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 08:38 PM
3

I’m a grown women and I’ve never had a SO call me cute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 04:04 PM
34

Yep. I was banned from that sub for telling it like it is. They don’t appreciate anything other than, bUT haVE You TAlkeD to Him?? Seriously the abuse and high conflict exes, I don’t know why anyone would want to chose that life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 05:32 AM
75

God he’s ugly. What a huge noggin. And why the fuck would he send that shit to anyone. 🤮🤮🤮🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 12:44 AM
18

Would you treat him like that? If not then you should really end things. A great boyfriend doesn’t treat you with such disrespect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 08:33 PM
24

My own father never trained my brothers how to be good husbands. My dad is not a bad man but emotionally unavailable and had kids to pass on the genes. One brother is a virgin in his late 30s and will never marry thank goodness, the other is single also in his 30s and frankly I wouldn’t date him. So yeah, one reason is no great male role models, no one to teach them any better. I’d also say since the 60s sexual revolution women have given away their power. Just started sleeping with anyone witho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 11:17 PM
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Yep. From what I’ve seen now in my 40s most of the married men I know aren’t great dads or husbands. My own father was there but he wasn’t there, if that makes sense. Probably better off just getting a sperm donor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 11:05 PM
1

I was never interested in children but my clock still ticked in my 30s. I’d rather have raised them alone than with a shit man. I never met a man worth having them with regardless. Go check out r/breakingmom for the horror stories of women with worthless partners. Nothing is wrong with freezing eggs, adopting or fostering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 10:50 PM
2

I’d be fine if I wound up being a Golden Girl in my old age lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 09:30 PM
4

Haha, any time I hear a 20 or 30 something complain about getting old I roll my eyes. I kinda get it though because we all said the same thing when I was younger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 08:40 PM
14

The sky isn’t falling. You’re 26. Finding a man is not the pinnacle of life. I’m 42. I’ve been proposed to, married once, many lovers and many “soul mates”. The sooner you drop the narrative that you’re getting old and panicking about finding someone the better choices you’ll make. I panicked all over my 30s and was also dealing with mental illness so I settled for garbage. Don’t be me. Be patient. Trust the process. STOP thinking about your age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 04:02 PM
1

I was 22/23 when I married my ex husband and he was 31. Now at 42 I look back and I’m creeped out. He took advantage of me, bullied me and eventually cheated on me after marriage. So yeah, the nicest thing I can say is that age gap relationships gross me out. Just realized he’s in his 50s now...ughhhh ewwwwwwww
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 07:20 PM
32

Was watching Married at First Sight the other day and was noticing how they paired up very attractive women with really average looking dudes and I had this exact thought. In fact on my walk yesterday I saw many couples in pairs or with their kids where the woman was much more attractive and I silently wondered how much crap she had to put up with or how much time she had to wait for that scrote to propose, smdh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 09:01 PM
18

I’m not desperate enough to meet up for a date during a global pandemic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 02:47 AM
40

Love that train wreck of a show! Darcy is the biggest Pickmesha ever! Tom needs to never come back on the show.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 11:32 PM
7

I bet a lot of those adults having those discussions wished they could throw those men away. I look at marriages a whole lot differently now since most of them aren’t shit. The woman is usually suffering in silence for years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 05:10 PM
70

Married at 23 and he was older and cheated on me after 3 months. Got engaged to an over emotional bully and stayed by his side for too long in my late 20s. I ended it after he spit on me during an argument because he wouldn’t get a job. Got engaged to a boring cheapskate because I wanted to be married in my 30s. I ended it. Got into a relationship with a guy I overlooked red flags for but he treated me the best by far. He took a job out of state after a few years and I found out he was in the pr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 02:12 AM
4

Yes!! Exactly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 12:03 AM
6

I agree with this statement and I think more evidence is needed before we disavow her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 07:32 PM
15

I adored my last ex and it was a fantasy for me since we had gone to high school together 25 years ago. Don’t you just love those stories? However, there were red flags and he has a problematic ex wife. He showed himself to be weak and not as generous financially as I’d like. And it was long distance. It just wasn't going to work for my future. I’m sad it’s over and I accept that. Thankfully I only had about 4 months in it. I’ll do better next time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 05:48 PM
33

After many many relationships at the ripe old age of 42, and taking back many LVM I can tell you they never change. They may change for a week and that gives you a false sense of security. But the problem never goes away and it becomes a bigger problem now because you’re on guard..because it will happen again. Once I took someone back after I knew I didn’t like him because he cried. Oh Jesus, I wasted so much time with that loser!! But I thought, oh he cried...he must CARE so much. I cared more …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 09:24 PM
16

Yes dude, you are a massive gaping asshole and I hope she dumps you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 09:16 PM
12

Of course but that’s never going to happen. His problems didn’t magically go away. Besides, he’s LVM. I’m not interested in those anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 02:26 PM
40

Full disclosure. I texted my ex back last week. It was NOT worth it. Good job not responding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 02:04 AM
96

I feel like you will respond no matter what we say here. If you respond you are disrespectful to yourself. That’s nice he apologized. But apology without things changing means nothing. The only person who can give you closure is yourself. Just because he texts these things, which is lazy btw...doesn’t mean jack shit. Delete the message, block him and enjoy your new life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 12:52 AM
17

My ex bought my new iPhone and has paid my phone bill for the 2 years we’ve been broken up and he’s not HVM at all. Just feels guilty for stringing me along.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 01:05 AM
57

I hate it when men do this and I wouldn’t tolerate it. It’s a red flag. I prefer the men I’m seeing to not have much of an internet presence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 02:03 AM
9

Check out Alan Robarge videos on YouTube. You should be working on yourself as long as possible before dating. And definitely no dating during a pandemic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 02:20 AM
19

Wesley in The Princess Bride. Colonel Brandon in Sense and Sensibility. George in George of the Jungle. Flash Gordon in Flash Gordon. Jeff Goldblums alien in Earth Girls are Easy. Forrest Gump. Patrick Dempsey in Sweet Home Alabama. Gerard Butler in PS I Love You.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 03:49 AM
2

I’m just not interested in being a stepmom. I don’t think it’s anything to aspire to. When I really objectively think about it he wasn’t a good dad anyways. I mean, most men aren’t. My own dad was terrible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 12:43 AM
2

Yea, exactly. I talked to him about boundaries with his ex wife. He had NONE, ZERO...he nodded along and agreed with what I said..then did absolutely nothing. He did have time to put a model airplane together though. Hope they are happy together!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 12:42 AM
43

Yes. My 30s were fraught with trying to find someone to settle down with and boy did I settle! After my last breakup I decided it was just fine to be on my own. Two lovely years. Then I met up with and dated a guy I went to high school with last winter but his relationship with ex wife was a mess. I just decided i didn’t want to deal with her or at 42 help raise his 5 year old. I’m done with dating at the moment. It would take someone really special. Men just haven’t ever contributed in many pos…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 02:12 AM
22

My LVM ex did this for his daughter. It’s nice but it does not make a man high quality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 09:23 PM
9

I know but stuck his dick in narcissistic, selfish and abusive mother of three is too long. And yes this is my ex and his ex wife is the above description..I didn’t know how bad she was until we went to pick up their daughter one night.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 11:46 PM
25

Omg I noticed that too! Rarely is it a stepdad commenting! Here’s the other thing. Why are the kids birth mothers always high conflict? Are there reasons she hates her ex husband so much? Not every woman is perfect but jeez it seems like there is a lot of birth mom conflict on there. These stepmoms need to look at their partner more carefully. Also if he did stick his dick in crazy and procreate is that a quality man I want to be with? NO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 10:37 PM
83

That sub is a martyr shit show. I was banned from stepparents because I chided a woman for helping her “boyfriend” pay for his divorce. She’s also taking care of his kids. She wants to marry him someday. Nah sis, he’s already married. That was your first mistake. They will literally take all kinds of abuse from their LVM before they get their feelings hurt by a tough love internet comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 07:53 PM
37

Yea. This isn’t r/relationships. If I have to read a paragraph I report them for not reading the FDS handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 08:08 PM
99

At 42 I’ve been in so many shitty, depressing, abusive and pathetic relationships that I’m okay being single forever. I own my home. My little sister lives with me and she’s single at 32. We didn’t know any better and we let ourselves be used. She is okay being single as well. We don’t want to be single but we accept it. Acceptance and gratitude are key.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 02:43 AM
11

One of my exes was a PHD and also one of the stupidest people I’ve ever known!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 04:56 PM
254

I wouldn’t tell men about FDS. Isn’t it great men actually get an explanation when we break up with them. They don’t usually do the same for us. I’m wondering if it’s even worth it to sit them down and let them argue with us anymore?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 03:54 PM
55

Smokes weed 🚭 Messy house 🚯 Complains about condoms 🚩 Too old for you 🚩 What’s up with the car? 🚩 Dating DURING a PANDEMIC 🚩 on BOTH of you! I mean, you know how this will turn out right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 07:32 PM
2

I know right! His dresses fit me like a glove!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 03:56 PM
25

I buy Calvin Klein and Banana Republic dresses. It’s like they are made for me and I know my size. Jessica Simpson shoes. I use Poshmark and Ebay because I’m on a budget. Venus has fun trendy stuff. I’d really love to be able to buy a high fashion handbag one day..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 02:45 AM
47

Oh dear, I may get downvoted to hell but I’m a sports fanatic. I’ve been into football since I was a teenager. I also love baseball. I go to our local collegiate team games every summer. I can’t date a man that wouldn’t watch with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 08:43 PM
11

Are you serious?! They are divorced! You aren’t family if you get a fucking divorce!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 05:12 PM
8

If he was going to favor his ex wife he had NO business in starting a relationship with me. Your last sentence is entirely true though. If he wasn’t going to do anything he shouldn’t have sat there nodding his head like he was listening to what I was saying and agreeing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 04:41 PM
46

Yeah, the comments on this one are straight trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 09:10 PM
39

Any time I’ve ordered an ex flowers they didn’t appreciate it and or it made them feel weird. They can like them sure, but I don’t think it’s worth spending your $$ on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 03:49 PM
9

Whoa there! I’m asking because I’m 42. I have supreme confidence that I’m a catch. I have no fear in aging and still attracting men. Your post reads like you’re aging quickly that it’s causing anxiety. Dare I say, you may want to self care first from your abusive ex first before going on to worry about your attractiveness to men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 06:55 AM
8

Jesus, how old are you? You make it sound like you’re about to be put out to pasture. It’s not about how hot you are. It’s about confidence. I’m getting no confidence in yourself at all from this post. Confident women do not fear aging.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 06:25 AM
37

You block him and level up. He’s been breadcrumbing you and he probably has a girlfriend already or a fwb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 04:40 AM
8

Why are you texting like a pickmeisha? Tight, yo...why are you texting like a dude?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 04:39 AM
40

He’s telling you exactly who he is. He’s told you he’s not good enough for you and you should believe him. P.S.men aren’t shy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 04:36 AM
58

They don’t get better after marriage, they get worse. Don’t waste anymore time. Leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 07:53 PM
19

Eeeeewwwwwwwwwwwwww 😕 Don’t date during the pandemic!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 07:51 PM
15

My response would’ve been. I see you’ve got a pot belly there. You may want to use this quarantine to work out. Best! And then block him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 04:34 PM
86

Step parents, relationship advice, breaking mom, sex and dating over 30 I can’t visit anymore because they are sick sick people. The women I’ve tried to advise have reported my comments. These people have to be willing to fundamentally change and that’s very scary, even if it’s for yourself and your mental and physical health. I don’t even bother anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 04:32 PM
103

I’m so fucking annoyed by all the Carol hate on social media right now. Oh let’s overlook these narcissistic, toxic, violent, Animal abusers, pedophiles and polygamists and trash the bitch! Male privilege is real!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 01:56 PM
105

They are selfish and unattached from their emotions. Their dads were shitty. All of my boyfriends and fiancés have been straight up terrible at caring for my while I was sick. They can’t make it more than a day. Women have children with these men. Makes me sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 03:45 AM
24

Wow, who wouldn’t be impressed with these manly specimens.. 😂 😂 😂 🤮 🤮 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 02:32 AM
21

It’s rare to find anyone in those subs with dignity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 09:44 PM
60

I can smell this picture 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 08:24 PM
23

I’m not having sex with a man again unless I’m engaged or married to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 08:23 PM
93

I know these are venting places but man, what a shit show that sub is. The step parents one isn’t better either. Women in their 20s dating plus 30 year old scrotes with kids, high conflict exes that the weak scrote won’t stand up to, dating and moving in with scrotes that aren’t divorced yet, babysitting and helping to raise kids that aren’t yours while the scrote sits there. The Breaking Mom, Step Parents, relationship and Dating Over 30 subs are SO SO bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 07:24 PM
65

Yep. I saw that my recent ex was LVM. I don’t look at men the same way anymore. Pull off that bandaid and break up with him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 04:59 PM
32

If he doesn’t see it now, he will never see it. A guy I was dating once repulsed me by leaving behind some shit still stuck to the inside of the bowl..in my bathroom! Like who misses that?! Gross...NO..Next! One of the many reasons I dumped him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 03:56 PM
6

Don’t be so hard on yourself and now is the time to take care of you! It’s weird that even though we both rejected THEM we can still feel crappy. I’ve been reading and listening to G.L. Lambert. I got Unicorn Delusion free on Audible. Build yourself up Spartan!! ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 12:24 AM
19

I just got out of one with an LVM I was obsessively thinking about. You just have to feel shitty for awhile. Took me 6 weeks for a 5 month relationship. I mostly thought about how he wasn’t meeting my needs. The shittiness that would’ve been. I ignored obvious red flags. Talking about it with people close to you helps too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 09:35 PM
23

My brother. He retired in his 30s after working hard and saving but still gave some money to me and my sister when we bought our cars. What makes him particularly high value is that he’s never dated. He’s known that he’s not a romantic or really into his feelings guy. He’s had the self awareness to stay out of the dating pool. He’s never hurt anyone or led anyone on. Many, many, many men shouldn’t be dating. They aren’t emotionally capable, they aren’t providers, they are just lonely or horny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 09:30 PM
13

In a chicken fucking nugget?? 🤯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 09:27 PM
116

Every single guy I’ve dated in the past few years, late 30s to early 40s still think they look younger. NO dude, someone told you that like 10 years ago and you’re old so you remembered it as last year 😆 Men don’t wear sunscreen. They look like shit in their 30s to 40s unless genetics were good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 09:24 PM
11

Exactly. Just vibing sounds like something a teenager would say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 10:58 PM
47

Means they are lazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 07:44 PM
14

These men are dead weight in a pandemic. More reason to stay single or date up. What does the dude bring to the table? Judge harshly ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 07:39 PM
64

That subreddit is the best reason to be happily unmarried and child free. The grass isn’t always greener. SO many women marry LVM..it’s sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 05:14 PM
10

It’s just a snippet of a conversation I guess but I’d keep an eye on this one. We should really be judging them all the time, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 11:20 AM
32

He wouldn’t want to be with anyone that didn’t stay safe but yet he requested you to take the train on a 30 minute RT drive? That doesn’t sound HVM to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 10:56 AM
56

I’m 42. I’ve made so many mistakes because NO ONE told me how to date. The 90s were a shit show of bad advice. I’m not married but I’d like to be. I also know if I don’t find a husband I’ll be okay too. I’m glad I bailed on the 2 LVM proposals I had. I feel like you’re younger than me and you have this subreddit. You have more time to get what you want. It will be alright.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 03:45 AM
31

I don’t date men that don’t contact me daily. They should want to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 03:21 AM
57

Ohhh yes! On guy I dated made me have diarrhea. I ended it with him after a few dates and he sent me a psycho letter. Your body will tell you when shit isn’t right...sometimes by giving you the shits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 11:14 PM
43

So much this. 👆🏻 Just broke up with one of these guys. Ex wife was high conflict, he’s passive and I didn’t know until a couple months in. It’s NO ones goal to be a stepmom. Single dads have tons of baggage with their ex’s and I’m not up for that drama. I told him to put up boundaries because he was going to lose me and he did nothing. They really should get back together as they are both low value people. NOPE, NO single dads ever again...EVER! I posted about this on the stepparents subreddit a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 11:49 PM
24

Such praise for doing nothing. And what a bizarre post anyways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 05:31 PM
2

Holy shit you are amazing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 11:04 PM
81

Yep, an apology without change is manipulation. I had to harsh cut off my ex because I had had a serious talk and a break with him last winter about his abusive ex wife. I guess he failed to listen or take me seriously because not only did he not act but was planning an event together with her that was previously going to be separate. I told him sucks it didn’t work out but he had a choice. Men need to take accountability for their action or inaction. We let them off the hook WAY too much. Sucks…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 06:34 PM
8

Don’t play the waiting game. He’ll never catch up to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 02:13 AM
9

And everyone parrots the advice to talk to them...NO..men don’t want advice from women and if they were good men to begin with they wouldn’t be doing this shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 10:06 PM
156

I would add is respectful about when you are ready to have sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 07:42 PM
22

I agree. The screenshot posts should be removed. It should be in the FDS handbook to simply cut these LVM off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 04:56 AM
17

Why are stupid polygamy shows on TV but people don’t slam polyamory? They are both vile and unnatural and shouldn’t be tolerated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 08:22 PM
15

Once my ex fiancé hit on my little sister on Tinder. He had taught her how to drive when she was a teenager.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 02:57 AM
110

No, a lot of people are self isolating right now. For once I think it’s valid to postpone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 11:33 PM
16

It’s disgusting. Do not engage with men that much older than you. I’m 42 now and when I look back on my failed marriage between me at 23 to a 31 year old I’m grossed out!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 09:11 PM
18

I needed this right now. I got really sucked in to a LVM because I loved the way he treated me. He was a LVM in the end though and I’ve been obsessing about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 09:09 PM
18

I’m not dating at the moment. I work in travel so I have bigger things to worry about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 05:26 AM
21

I’d ghost him if he didn’t text me until 2 days after sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 07:33 PM
9

It’s nice to see you have options and there is always someone better around the corner. Enjoy but be wary. Don’t take your ex back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 04:03 PM
27

I’m sure everything financially with these 2 is 50/50 so he’s of no benefit to her. And she got down her knees in the story just doesn’t sound great 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 07:54 PM
55

You aren’t wrong. This story is pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 06:50 PM
14

By my brothers. One brother has even given me some money for a car and to my sister as well. He retired in his 30s and is frugal but not cheap. But no, not by anyone I’ve dated. I’m 42 years old.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 06:46 PM
13

I check this sub more than anything all day. Love it here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 02:58 AM
20

Sarcastic Kink friendly INTJ or whatever that stuff is, any version of that. No go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 03:46 AM
9

I don’t know how old you are but you’ve gotta fake it till you make it. One day you realize that you’re not faking that you’re over him any more...you just are! I’m 42 and each time is tough but it does get easier. But another commenter suggested doing some new stuff. Any time you think about him do something else. And this breakup had NOTHING to do with you. Many “men” are not capable of being in a relationship and that’s not your fault.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 05:20 AM
25

I know right. The first thing I wondered when I had seen a post about this was how do you find so many men to date at once? I’m 42 and don’t do online dating. I’m also tired just thinking about juggling multiple men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 11:13 PM
12

Agreed. We will see how much longer Harry is useful to her. Everyone in here can downvote me to hell but this is a pathetic couple.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 03:42 PM
-2

Probably depends on who you ask.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 03:12 AM
-2

Well now she’s cutting out his too! When you cut everyone out you have to maybe consider that YOU are actually the toxic one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 02:44 AM
-20

Well, had he wanted to leave them until Meghan came along? He seemed to be doing just fine. This doesn’t make Meghan a Jezebel, but I am impressed at how under her thumb she got him in little over a few years. I mean that is seriously narc talent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 02:43 AM
-33

Have you considered cutting Harry away from his family is a bit extreme though? Perhaps narcissistic?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 01:00 AM
11

I’ll add again. Why is Meghan Markle a HVW?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 11:59 PM
127

My eyes just rolled so far to the back of my head I don’t think they’re coming back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 04:43 AM
4

I didn’t have to go through all these stages. I deleted after a few days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 12:27 AM
8

Why are people texting these types of conversations rather than talking in real life?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 11:29 PM
72

I read that sub too. It’s just the best birth control/don’t pick the wrong partner reminder out there. The stepparents sub is one I sometimes still go to when I was dating a man with a kid. Another sub full of women putting up with LVM and their toxic exes. Many aren’t even married but are acting like they are already family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 07:39 PM
6

Im 42 and I have no problem getting asked out in public or finding men. It’s just that they are low quality. I recently got out of a short term thing with someone from high school. In pictures he looked good but was rough looking in person. When I briefly did OLD the men in my range looked rough too. They don’t moisturize or wear sunscreen. They keep eating habits they had in high school.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 12:37 AM
21

It’s true! Wish I would’ve been alone rather than the LVMs I spent my 20s and 30s with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 04:55 AM
5

I listen to Michael Bolton’s Time, Love and Tenderness..I really do! Love yourself, be tender to yourself and let time pass. Make a list of things YOU really want to do. For example I like to get my nails done, go to the zoo, the movies by myself, an art museum, work on a home project or decorate your apartment, work on your wardrobe or your diet, read a new book, hang out at a book store. There are SO many cool things you can do. Breath, breath in fresh air. When you start to think of LVM do th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 03:34 AM
16

Means you should’ve just walked out. Block him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 03:24 AM
23

What a petty piece of shit he was in the end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 09:49 PM
56

What an idiot! What are you on here for?.....DATES dumbass! Take me out on a real date. Another reason why I deleted OLD sites. The men don’t want to take you out. Just chat and then pester you for sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 05:17 AM
16

Just don’t have sex with them, marry them or take them seriously. You don’t realize how young and ripe you are to be taken advantage of. I was 23 when I married my 31 year old husband. He had looks, money and was extremely charming. After marriage he tried to get me pregnant right away. Then he stopped sleeping with me and cheated on me on a business trip...3 months in! Really messed up my life for a long time. Proceed with extreme caution!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 10:01 PM
11

It’s not about when HES available. It’s about him asking when you are. We are the Prize. Had a dude get nasty with me years ago when I couldn’t accommodate his schedule. He showed his true colors of how shitty he was. Never had a second date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 05:54 PM
42

Any time they get distant or pull away end it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 01:51 AM
19

Admiring you! We aren’t here for men to play around with!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 11:09 PM
4

Yea I hope she was just being funny when she said that. Like he was just telling her she was in the wrong spot so she wouldn’t get towed. That’s not a great first impression to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 09:34 PM
62

I’m child free. Never found a man in my 20s or 30s worth having kids with 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 09:11 PM
36

One guy chatted me up then said let’s get to know each other, so I was expecting to be asked out. Crickets for 3 days. Why are you on a dating site if you don’t want to date?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 08:23 PM
5

I know right! Feels like older divorced dudes just use dates as therapy sessions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 03:10 AM
18

I went on a date recently where he said he was an open book and rambled on about himself for 20 minutes..mostly about his divorce 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 03:04 AM
67

Be glad things ended early on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 03:05 AM
3

I think you’re going to to what you want to do regardless of what we tell you on this sub. You’re obviously having doubts or else you wouldn’t have posted. Situations like this remind me of something Don Draper said on Mad Men. “People tell you who they are, but we ignore it -because we want them to be who we want them to be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 05:30 AM
13

Personally this guy has a questionable track record to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 04:35 AM
33

Many men are just crap and I don’t know you so it’s too hard to say why you are having these feelings. Guy above you described is NOT worth it though. Bottom line.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 03:49 AM
26

Have you spent enough time alone to feel good about yourself? Have you addressed these feelings with a counselor or therapist?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 03:43 AM
127

Listen to your intuition. Don’t see him again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 03:40 AM
145

This is a scarcity mindset myth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 10:58 PM
44

Stop caring about this so much. Toughen up a little. The man pays for the date period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 10:57 PM
15

That’s a dealbreaker for me. So sorry 😞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 05:31 PM
6

Oh lord, the Portland Tinder app is littered with these assholes. They should be banned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 06:48 AM
33

Why would you offer so much to a man who gave so little? Never speak to him again and read everything on this sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:02 PM
41

Don’t ever go back to a man after he’s broken up with you. Block him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 05:15 PM
2

Ugh, I thought Austin may be better since it was in Texas at least.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 11:13 PM
13

I just stopped after one day. I’m in Portland and it’s probably the worst for LVM. Plus the couples and poly, ethically non monogamist shit you have to swipe through. Waste of time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 01:31 PM
2

Marisa Tomei.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 03:57 AM
1

Sadly I stayed with a man over 3 years because he treated me really well. PHD with stank breath. Had to constantly tell him to trim his nose hairs. NEVER again. If that’s going on or their house is dirty I walk away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 08:15 PM
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