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You're right. I should.
/r/askTRP06/07/20 06:53 PM
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it means youre using the correct words for their context, and for a specific audience Nope. The situation I was responding to is that this is new to the audience. So your job, as a teacher, is to teach them. That means you break it down into as many words as necessary so they understand you. This involves using terms and fundamentals they already know, and building upon that. So if I gave you (personally) one paragraph about quantum chromatography and expected you to be an expert on it, then I a…
/r/askTRP06/07/20 06:37 PM
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You don't know one of the most influential philosophers of the early 19th century No, I don't. This isn't required knowledge to be a successful person in the year 2020. Perhaps still useful, but by no means required. Do you know enough computer programming to write an Android application? Do you know how to rebuild a car engine? These, too, are very useful things to know, yet no one could fault you for not. full ignorant Oh... I'm sorry for not being omniscient! Boy, is my face red right now! wr…
/r/askTRP06/07/20 06:13 PM
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fewer words than you Fewer words doesn't lead to better understanding. I can summarize some concepts in quantum chromatography in just one paragraph; I guarantee you will not understand it. Hence, it will be an utter waste of time if my goal was to teach you. Totally worth it, though, if I needed to sound smart to compensate. Or I could break it down into many paragraphs, teach you the core concepts using terms and fundamentals you already know, and successfully transfer knowledge. Which of thes…
/r/askTRP06/07/20 05:50 PM
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1.) Where in my post did I claim this? 2.) I don't even know who he is. And I don't care. Every person I've ever met who's tried this hard to sound smart were really just slightly above average intelligence, but desperately wished they were smarter. To top it off, see how overly complicated this guy makes a simple concept? If this is a representative sample of how he writes, then he utterly is dog-shit at teaching.
/r/askTRP06/07/20 05:32 PM
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Sounds like a blow-hard who enjoys jerking himself off with complex sentences and fancy words. Pro-tip: if you want to communicate an idea, use easy-to-understand words and concepts. A great teacher is one who is easily understood. A great teacher is someone who can break difficult concepts into simple terms that everyone can learn. "while a hundred considerations carry weight in our case, in theirs there is only one, namely, with which man they have found favor" He's saying that it takes a lot …
/r/askTRP06/07/20 05:11 PM
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How do I stop being so blue pilled? Most guys get the motivation needed to change from hitting rock bottom. From the sound of this post, you're still on your way there. I'm in a poly relationship and I've found myself feeling worse and worse Perfect! Keep de-valuing yourself and soon your life will implode. Then you'll be ready to improve. I feel like no matter what I do, I won't be good enough for her You cannot use RP tactics to achieve BP goals. Full stop. Until you realize that women are nev…
/r/askTRP06/07/20 02:23 PM
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Yes, you drop anyone in your life who is toxic. It doesn't matter if they are an immediate family member. As for how to do it, it's very straightforward: withdraw all your attention to them. Ignore their calls/texts/emails. If you think it'll help you, you can tell them "We are different people on different paths in life. We are not compatible with each other. I wish you the best of luck." Then hard-next and never look back.
/r/askTRP03/07/20 11:46 PM
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Addiction is a red flag for the LTR level. When you notice this, you change nothing but make note that they are permanently disqualified from LTR status. If her addiction is serious enough, it's a dealbreaker at the plate and FWB levels as well; you don't want to get dragged down in a whirlwind of drama and bullshit that comes along with that. Lastly, ANY behavior that bothers you personally is a red flag. So if you don't like even light/moderate use, then your abundance mentality should tell yo…
/r/askTRP03/07/20 11:42 PM
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Why are women like this? Because they can be. Most women are not LTR material, even though their biology compels them to seek out a provider. It's on you to vet them properly and weed out the bad candidates. This is why it's strongly recommended that your vetting process take 6+ months; some red flags take a while to come out. I eventually changed our date from romantic river skyline Why the fuck are you doing romantic dates with strangers to begin with? That's something a woman needs to earn ov…
/r/askTRP03/07/20 11:39 PM
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This sounds like a serious situation. One that requires professional intervention. Go to a doctor and get evaluated. They can get the process started for finding the root cause, whether its biological, psychological, or a combination of both. In the meantime, admitting your problems is the first step. Now spend the next week without junk food, porn, games, or social media. Get your ass out of bed after 8 hours, and start doing body weight exercises. Go outside for a walk or bike ride. You'll fin…
/r/askTRP03/07/20 03:29 PM
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You probably played your cards right. Just because you didn't overtly escalate on every opportunity, doesn't mean you fucked up. It's ok to play a long game. There are many ways you can proceed. Personally, I'd be my typical charming self, then only flirt back a bit once she initiated it. I'd mirror her level of effort. If another guy started making moves, I'd just quietly slink off and make myself scarce. That would make her chase me. Eventually, she'd start really throwing herself at me.
/r/askTRP03/07/20 03:23 PM
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I expect respect And again... here is your problem. You should not be expecting ANYTHING from plates. Nothing. They are wet holes that you stick your cock into. That. Is. All. The fact that you have expectations from them prove that you have the wrong mindset. Fix this. If I continue giving her validation & attention after that it would almost be as if [...] Text-book perfect example of a covert contract. "I'm entitled to X because I have been doing Y..." Nope.
/r/askTRP03/07/20 03:09 PM
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What bullshit, exactly? That you expect loyalty from a PLATE? Why would a set of wet holes connected to a human owe you loyalty? The lesson to learn here is that you shouldn't be feeling entitled to exclusivity from some low-value rando. Your mindset is wrong, and if you don't fix it now, it'll lead you down the wrong path with other women too.
/r/askTRP03/07/20 02:39 PM
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I am just fed up with the same routine where they eventually reveal their true fucked up selves If it's a problem for you, then... it's a problem for you. You don't need anyone else's permission to drop her out of your rotation. You should always be spending time with people who bring value to your life. If, at some point, someone starts to become a pain in your ass... then you simply minimize them and shift your attention to your other options. I've seen her 8 times in the last 2 months and 5 o…
/r/askTRP03/07/20 02:33 PM
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but the plate works with me Never shit where you eat. Thinking about soft nexting Plates are allowed to fuck other guys. In fact, you ought to be expecting this. The fact that you're assuming she's exclusive to you shows that your perspective about plates is wrong. The only difference this makes is that she is permanently disqualified from LTR status. Other than that, you just keep fucking her for as long as she's interesting.
/r/askTRP03/07/20 02:27 PM
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If she was a plate or FWB, this would not faze me. I would simply note that she is permanently disqualified from future LTR status; then I'd continue fucking her. If my LTR did this, I would immediately 1.) silently demote her to FWB status (no talking, no arguing... just demotion), then 2.) start reflecting how I poorly vetted my LTR candidate such that I promoted someone unworthy.
/r/askTRP03/07/20 02:23 PM
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Plates break. That's part of the lifecycle. Or it was a shit-test and she'll come back. Either way, your move is to get more plates and soft-next this one.
/r/askTRP02/07/20 07:54 PM
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First of all, why are you even surprised about this? Ghetto women are ghetto. This date went exactly as I'd expect it to. If you don't like this entire experience, don't meet with ghetto women anymore. I know she has been abused in the past Red flag. These types usually invite drama and violence into their lives--and yours, if you stick around. she has 6 foot 3 brothers who went to jail who cld drop me if i got rude See? She lives in a culture of violence. Hard next. when i smoked a cigarette Dr…
/r/askTRP02/07/20 07:48 PM
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It works in all situations, as does amused mastery.
/r/askTRP01/07/20 05:48 PM
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She's making a move to extract more commitment from you. Head over to the side-bar for techniques for dealing with this. The chances are high that this situation will end soon. But you shouldn't be caring due to abundance and outcome-independence, right?
/r/askTRP01/07/20 05:47 PM
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Has anyone else found themselves in this situation? This is extremely common. So common, in fact, that there's an entire section in the side-bar dedicated to The Talk.
/r/askTRP01/07/20 05:41 PM
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Women don't date down. The only date up.
/r/askTRP30/06/20 07:27 PM
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Having a first-mate who makes plans and executes on them is a good thing. You're still the captain if you retain your ability to make the final decision. turns down a lot of her suggestions since he is busy This is exactly what being the captain looks like. Things happen on your schedule--nobody else's. [LTR] always calls You decide how to allocate your time and attention. If she calls you too often, simply tell her "I'm busy right now. I'll call you when I'm done in three hours." If she doesn't…
/r/askTRP30/06/20 07:19 PM
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I recently sexted a bit with a girl i work with. So you took a shit where you eat? Bad move.
/r/askTRP30/06/20 07:12 PM
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How should I read this? She either wants to fuck, or she wants an orbiter. You find out which it is by escalating. Either she's receptive to your moves and you put your P into her V, or you soft-next her until she's ready to play ball. I should mention this girl is nuts You do not involve yourself with mentally ill women. Hard-next. but is actually rumored to still be a virgin Are you sure you "got RP'ed"? I've moved on and am in a pretty serious LTR. [...] How should I play it? You said she's c…
/r/askTRP30/06/20 07:10 PM
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PUAs got exposed a long time ago as frauds... for multiple reasons. You're better off tossing out anything you learned from them unless it's been verified by the RP community and/or scientific sources.
/r/askTRP30/06/20 04:28 PM
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it's the hottest 20% I've ever met This is not a coincidence. They can have shitty personalities because so many guys give them free passes. And if you give them a free pass for this bullshit too, then you contributing to the problem. not sure if I can break through that bullshit and turn it to my advantage Yes. Start throwing negs at them. "You're not attractive enough to have this shitty of an attitude." "What are you going to do in 10 years when your looks faded but you still don't have a per…
/r/askTRP30/06/20 04:24 PM
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I kind of want to say something but not sure what to say. Here's the proof that you're coming at this from a place of insecurity. A valid reason to ask would be because you're genuinely curious. But you're not. His looks make you feel threatened. A man with strong frame wouldn't be giving a shit.
/r/askTRP30/06/20 03:56 PM
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And this comes from what peer-reviewed scientific study? Sounds like made-up bullshit. Get your SMV up, and you'll find plenty of women get comfortable with you in under 10 minutes.
/r/askTRP30/06/20 03:45 PM
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So the question is: am I still soft for not being able to handle a chick with a resting bitch face and depressing attitude? Or are they just not interested in me? In my opinion, none of this matters. When a woman does something that is a huge turn-off, I stop giving a shit about them. They're done. Over the last year I encountered a couple women who turned out to be retarded. On the second date with one, she starts talking about her ability to talk to fucking dead people. Hard next. The first da…
/r/askTRP30/06/20 03:38 PM
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The sidebar has information about applying dread and dread levels. You're going to be fighting an uphill battle, but I think there's good value in using it as a learning experience.
/r/askTRP30/06/20 03:31 PM
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Usually in my experience people who size me up are secretly insecure. I kind of want to say something You know who else is secretly insecure? Guys who get sized up, then feel compelled to say something about it. Theres this new guy at my job and he keeps watching me, like a lot. Maybe he's just DTF.
/r/askTRP30/06/20 03:28 PM
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What the fuck is the "seven hour rule"? Also, you're better off asking a more specific question.
/r/askTRP30/06/20 03:26 PM
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If being tempted by other men is "evolutionarily programmed", then it's impossible to vet her by this standard. You select an LTR based on how well she follows your lead and ISN'T tempted by other men easily. Most women will not; they are poor LTR candidates. Your job is to watch how a woman behaves over time while she is in the FWB category. This is where you fucked up. Though give me a break, this was the first girlfriend. It doesn't matter what I personally think of you. Life showed you the m…
/r/askTRP30/06/20 02:24 AM
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If they agreed to pay you $600 and didn't, then they owe you. Stop talking to your mom about it, and reach out to them directly. Also: "the squeaky wheel gets the oil." If they say they will pay you "soon", then get a solid date (which should be within the next two weeks). On that date, ask them again. Ask them every day after that until you get your money. Be a pain in the ass until you get what you earned. Ramp up the pressure until you win.
/r/askTRP30/06/20 01:21 AM
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I follow her "spam" on Instagram Monitoring her social media use should have been done during the vetting phase while you were considering her for LTR status. That's where you look for the red flags. Secretly watching what she does after this phase shows that 1.) you have weak frame, and 2.) you didn't properly vet her for LTR status, because if you did, you would already know that she isn't tempted by other men. she posted that a "cute guy asked for my number and I got really nervous and told h…
/r/askTRP30/06/20 01:13 AM
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Would you ever take a solo trip like that? [...] I know, I know, the trip should be for myself, not for others. You answered your own question. Yes, the core of RP theory is you should always be doing what YOU want. You get the creepy looks just for going alone [...] Automatically you're considered a loser, or have no friends, or no life. If you'd be alone on the beach that'd be amplified tenfold. People might just run away from you. What the flying fuck do you give a shit about what strangers t…
/r/askTRP29/06/20 06:36 PM
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People who recognize that you're usually right and have wisdom on a topic will always respect you. The fact that your colleagues don't tell you for sure they don't see you this way. Why? Do they think your ideas aren't usually right? Do they think your experience isn't relevant? Think about how they see you from their perspective.
/r/askTRP29/06/20 04:02 PM
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I've had this weird cough ... during a pandemic where the main symptom is a "weird cough". I'm 80% sure this is a troll post, and 20% sure you're a fucking retard. I wish that second figure was 0%, but sadly there are way too many fucking retards on this planet...
/r/askTRP29/06/20 03:46 PM
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How long have you been lifting for? Sounds like you just started. If you've been lifting consistently for under 3 years, you shouldn't be whining. Otherwise, what shoulder, chest, and upper back exercises are you doing? How often?
/r/askTRP29/06/20 03:44 PM
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How can I be alpha of the group? You shouldn't be directly focused on trying to be the leader. Focus on doing the best job you can; this will get people to notice and make you the leader out of merit. is there any reason in particular people see him as more approachable is it his appearance or the way he talks and body language? Hard to say without seeing the both of you. But yes, your (and his) body language does matter. people would speak over me more. Because they don't respect what you have …
/r/askTRP29/06/20 03:42 PM
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You handled it wrong. FWB stands for friends with benefits. Notice the friend part? It means they are someone fun enough to hang out with outside the bedroom. You treat them like a male friend, except you also fuck them. That said, re-read your own post. Would you still think it would be appropriate if you hung out with one male friend, then saw another male friend and completely ignored his existence? Nope. I also saw the FWB (2) on tinder the next day. Plates and FWBs are free to do this. Howe…
/r/askTRP29/06/20 02:33 PM
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You cannot control other people. You can only control yourself. People either want to hang out with you, or they don't. There's nothing wrong if they're not interested, but a pattern means you should re-assess your friendship. I'd guess that your friendship group could use some pruning.
/r/askTRP26/06/20 06:35 PM
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Who gives a shit? Masculine women are unattractive. Do you worry about what fat women want too? Get a non-bullshit mission and focus on it.
/r/askTRP26/06/20 06:30 PM
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Soft-next. The ball is in her court to start things up again.
/r/askTRP26/06/20 06:28 PM
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The discipline, carrying and handling guns is enormous and not for the weak There are plenty of fuck-asses who handle firearms who absolutely shouldn't. And there are many people who do it because they want to LARP. (The armed protestors in Michigan recently come to mind...) My theory is TRP doesnt want to be labeled as another crazy gun groups, am I right? I'm a gun advocate. I've brought up the benefits of carrying concealed on here before, too. But the reason it isn't talked about as much is …
/r/askTRP26/06/20 06:25 PM
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Her: ayyy that’s dope I hope she really doesn't talk like a retard. The sidebar says don’t ask girls out. What? Where? No, it's the man's job to make the plans. And as you can see, retard-girl is receptive to your idea of meeting. Your next move is to suggest a specific time and place to meet.
/r/askTRP26/06/20 01:37 PM
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Thanks for this blog post, but this is AskTRP. See Rule #1 in the sidebar.
/r/askTRP26/06/20 01:35 PM
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Would there be a way to approach a marriage No, because the fundamental concept of "permanently" tying yourself to another person and being happy forever is based on a fairy tale. Sure, laws can be changed to lessen the burden on men, but if you were to fix ALL the legal problems, you would whittle down marriage into state-approved dating with no commitment... which would be no different than the dating with no commitment you already have the option for. Hence, marriage cannot be fixed while sti…
/r/askTRP26/06/20 01:33 PM
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You're wasting time worrying about a hypothetical situation. You mention precisely zero fallout from something that happened months ago. If someone does start asking about it, though, just deny, deny deny. It'll blow over.
/r/askTRP26/06/20 01:22 PM
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Oh, I DID help you. I gave you the tough love that you needed. You're a fuck-ass with an un-earned ego. Although I shouldn't use the term "un-earned", because it implies that an ego can be justified. They cannot. An ego only blocks your path of growth by stopping you from seeing the world for what it is. An ego stops you from being honest with yourself. An ego makes you angry when you see someone farther along in life than you are. Kill your ego. That's the lesson you need to learn.
/r/askTRP24/06/20 03:38 PM
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Wow!! You are so gangsta! I read this 6 or 7 times, trying my hardest to find even a single flaw in your life. I failed. You are absolutely maximum red-pilled! Now I understand why you tried to repeatedly tear me down: because a True Alpha has arrived, and he needs to clean house. Your extensive life experience and raw power means I am fully obsolete. Today I will delete all of the comments in my post history, then delete my account itself. Thank you for opening my eyes to the true potential of …
/r/askTRP24/06/20 03:19 PM
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If she's angry because you're being a shitty captain, then you need to listen. For all other reasons, I would not react to the anger. Treat her words as if they were said calmly. Lastly, if anger was a pattern with her, I'd start reconsidering her LTR status. A girlfriend isn't worth that level of constant stress in my life.
/r/askTRP24/06/20 01:07 PM
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The point of AskTRP is for the experienced guys to guide the beginners down the right path. I'm just doing my job. So let's talk about your mission. What are some things you're good at? What did you dream about doing as a kid? How old are you now?
/r/askTRP23/06/20 08:56 PM
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Oh, that's good that you already started lifting. How long ago did you start? What's your workout routine? One of the best programs for beginners is the StrongLifts 5x5. What's nice is that there's a free phone app that helps you track your progress. Since you twice dodged my question about your mission, I'll assume you don't have one. I can help you with that too. How old are you? What are some things you're naturally good at? I can point you in the right direction once you tell me those two th…
/r/askTRP23/06/20 07:27 PM
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I mean she was normal at first? How does one know craziness before it reveals itself? When your perceptive abilities aren't dog-shit, you pick up on the red flags rather quickly. Then you immediately exit. Instead, it sounds like you had dozens of red flags waving in your face that you missed early on. Then you noticed them AND kept fucking her... for months. The thirst is real. I live in a private high rise apartment with tight security and have no pets/family besides myself. Oh that's nice. Th…
/r/askTRP23/06/20 07:25 PM
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Lots of big words that hit deep. You dodged my important questions, so I'll repeat them: Are you pumping iron at least three times a week? Do you have a non-bullshit mission that you're making progress on? Your behavior here strongly suggests no to all of them. And that explains why you feel so insecure around strong men who put in the hard work to build themselves up, not just pretend to. Now get to work. The clock is ticking.
/r/askTRP23/06/20 06:35 PM
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How to stop messing with crazy girl? How to stop? You just fucking STOP. Smack yourself upside the head for being that retard who stuck his dick in crazy. You're welcome. hard ghost seems obvious Boy, the retardation just doesn't stop with you, huh? Here's a hint: ghosting a legit crazy woman = she sets your dog on fire, then files a rape claim against you. No. You do not ghost a crazy woman who once tried to kill her entire family. You become Billy Beta. Start over-texting her. If each text doe…
/r/askTRP23/06/20 06:32 PM
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Based on this conversation, I pieced together what you meant by "So gangsta". My post threatened your weak frame. The idea that a high-SMV man exists with a strong sense of identity triggered you. It made you feel inferior since you're burdened by lack of choice in the dating market. Hence your "so gangsta" comment was designed to try to test my frame. You were hoping that I was just pretending. No. It's real. I've been following my path to self-actualization for quite some time. I put in many, …
/r/askTRP23/06/20 05:09 PM
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I didn't downvote you. Pro-tip #2: other people can actually downvote responses on Reddit! So what are you babbling about? Please refer to my Pro-tip #1 for help in constructing effective arguments.
/r/askTRP23/06/20 04:39 PM
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No, I'm asking what you're babbling about. Pro-tip: to make an effective argument, state a counter-point, followed by supporting evidence. In your response, "So gangsta" does not clearly state any position opposing mine, nor does is it provide any evidence in your favor. Hence, it is fully ineffective. Encountering this, a reader would reasonably think to themselves "what is this guy babbling about?" because they do not understand the purpose of those words. Please try again.
/r/askTRP23/06/20 04:35 PM
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Ok, let's break this down. 95% of the time its a thug. Thugs understand body language. They're attracted to people who look like easy targets. By looking like an easy victim, you increase your chances of getting attacked. Projecting power in this case works to your advantage. 5% of the time its someone on drugs acting aggressively (most other druggies area docile and aren't dealt with here). Let's say half of those still understand body language, and half don't. So in that remaining 2.5%, you pr…
/r/askTRP23/06/20 04:16 PM
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What are you babbling about?
/r/askTRP23/06/20 04:02 PM
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I'd be betting more by looking like an easy victim.
/r/askTRP23/06/20 02:53 PM
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You don't engage rambling crazy people. They're just walking, talking cartoons that aren't to be taken seriously. But that becomes something else when they start to threaten you. Your best move is to project power to strongly discourage them, not act like an easy victim. you don’t know if they’re armed And they don't know if you're armed, either. So they think to themselves, "why is this guy acting like a real badass? There's got to be a reason..." In my case, aside from having a physical presen…
/r/askTRP23/06/20 02:51 AM
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And how does that matter? Either you stick your pee-pee into her crotch-hole, or she has zero value to you.
/r/askTRP23/06/20 02:34 AM
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Yes. And I strongly suspect that by projecting power, I changed the guy's mind about attacking me. Using your words and your body language to prevent a physical confrontation is far superior to winning a fight. On the flip side, showing fear can attract violence. That idea of "ignore the bully and they'll go away" got debunked decades ago.
/r/askTRP23/06/20 02:30 AM
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how do I broach the subject to get nudes from her? Coomer detected. Your goal should be to plate her, not get nudes. Did you know that sex is better than imaginary sex?
/r/askTRP23/06/20 01:41 AM
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Of course it still happens. Unless you LTR a 350lb homeless woman with no teeth, she's going to get hit on. Guys will come up to her at the grocery store. Rando's will give her flowers in public. She'll be standing in line for a coffee and find that her order's already been paid for. The lesson to learn here is that when you vet your LTR properly, you've selected a woman who filters this noise out. She doesn't give a shit about the 6/10, 7/10 guys acting like chumps. When you're not around (whic…
/r/askTRP23/06/20 01:36 AM
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What would you do? I'd look him dead in the eye and inform him that he is leaving immediately. Assuming he didn't comply, I'd stop, square up my body to his so I can closely watch what he does. He's free to continue running his mouth while I'd stand there in silence, staring at his hands. This will continue for as long as it has to until one of the following two things happens: 1.) he backs off, or 2.) he crosses the line and I get a green light to engage in self-defense. I do some kickboxing Th…
/r/askTRP22/06/20 11:45 PM
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I spent so many years improving myself and did a damn good job getting fit, goodlooking and stable Explain. Because all the other guys who made good progress are doing really well for themselves.
/r/askTRP22/06/20 11:14 PM
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Most women i meet are so fucking boring and pretentious. I filter these types out immediately. I can spot them out on dating apps within the first 223 milliseconds; they never even have a chance with me. why there seem to be guys who can get into it. The thirst is real. Many guys are willing to fall all over themselves for some bimbo with zero personality. That's not your problem, though. I can assure you that you are not missing out on anything. There are plenty of other women with substance th…
/r/askTRP22/06/20 11:13 PM
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Dial down your attention to her when you'd rather do other things and/or she's not following your lead like she should be.
/r/askTRP22/06/20 11:10 PM
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This is no different than any other boundary enforcement scenario. If you didn't already, start by directly telling her that you need space to work. You'll come find her when you're done. That will work 90% of the time. For the other 10%, simply get up, lead her by the hand away from your space, then pat her on the head and tell her to be a good girl. Threaten to not feed her dinner if she's a bad girl again. Or use any number of other amused mastery responses.
/r/askTRP22/06/20 11:08 PM
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What are you babbling about?
/r/askTRP22/06/20 10:45 PM
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I'd soft-next in this case. Then when/if she comes back, invite her straight over to your place. Either she accepts and you fuck her, or she's done.
/r/askTRP22/06/20 08:41 PM
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If you vetted your LTR properly, you'd already know that you don't have anything to worry about. You'd already know that other guys have zero effect on her because she only seeks attention and validation from you. The fact that you're coming in here and worried about it tells us two things: 1.) You didn't vet her properly, and 2.) your frame is weak. Those are your real problems. At this point, either ignore her comments, or use AA/AM responses. It's entirely her job to shut him down and keep th…
/r/askTRP22/06/20 06:59 PM
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Side-bar. You have deep, fundamental problems in ALL areas. You've got years of hard work ahead of you to turn this ship around.
/r/askTRP22/06/20 05:54 PM
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For starters, LTR's are to grow organically after you spend 6+ months properly vetting them. Your post reeks of scarcity, and implies that you're considering just jumping in. Mistake. Stop giving a shit about your height. Part of the vetting process is to observe how well she follows your lead. If she's not 100% excited to follow your success train through life, then she is not to be promoted past FWB level. She says she only wants a relationship Of course she does. She's a woman who is biologic…
/r/askTRP22/06/20 03:55 PM
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and the past week she’s been pretty aloof to me for some reason. That's when you mirror her attention level. and now I wish I soft nexted her instead of asking her out You should always be doing what you want. So if you changed your mind, then cancel the date. I’d like to bring it up to her/call her out tonight, but I want to in a way that doesn’t sound needy. Is this possible? Is it possible to call a girl out on her games? "Hey, your power moves are really getting to me because my frame is wea…
/r/askTRP22/06/20 03:48 PM
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You're asking how to patch up a torn wet paper bag of a frame instead of how to make it fundamentally stronger. Don't bother wasting your time on short-term fixes that only trick other people on occasion. Start putting in the years of hard work to build yourself up as a man. Real confidence will follow, which is the base for any strong frame.
/r/askTRP22/06/20 03:39 PM
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I chose to be homeless [...] in the woods to be with her. Is this a troll post? How the fuck do I shape up my life and get someone who will respect me - or rather, how do I become deserving of respect? Read, master, and internalize the side-bar material.
/r/askTRP22/06/20 02:15 AM
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Read about anti-slut defense (ASD) in the side-bar.
/r/askTRP22/06/20 02:07 AM
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What in the flying fuck is a "plate/LTR"? Those are completely different things. The fact that you don't know this tells me that you have MUCH bigger fundamental problems than some woman losing interest in you.
/r/askTRP22/06/20 02:06 AM
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Firstly, someone having a meltdown like this isn't likely to be taken seriously. She'll quickly earn a reputation for being a false accuser. I'd take screen shots of all her posts as evidence in case she tries to deny this in the future. Secondly, anyone that feels they are being libeled by her posts can (and should) have the matter decided in civil court. Yes, this means hiring a lawyer.
/r/askTRP22/06/20 02:02 AM
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Why are insecure people like this in your life to begin with? Toxic people are to be ejected ASAP. The only situation you can't control is the workplace. In that case, fix your mistakes without apologizing and giving them ammo against you.
/r/askTRP22/06/20 12:05 AM
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and didn't get the hint that people did not want to hang out with him. The hint? Why are you giving hints? No, you tell them point-blank that they are not welcome and they need to leave immediately. You do not give hints. What is up with these people though? Who gives a shit? If some region of the world has a shitty culture, eject them from your life. Problem solved. I run into retarded people all the time. Once they show me who they are, I drop them like a ton of bricks and never look back. No …
/r/askTRP21/06/20 11:08 PM
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She fucks like a pornstar and has a tolerable personality so I want to keep her around Scarcity mentality. How do I undo this fuckup? Dialing down your attention level is the correct move. You may be able to smooth things over by giving less fucks and working on your mission. She may pick up on the fact that you're not a chump. Or this plate breaks. You shouldn't be giving a shit, due to outcome-independence.
/r/askTRP21/06/20 10:38 PM
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What’s the end goal of spinning plates? [...] I’m just getting tired of it and kind of sick of doing the same thing. Dating apps make me sick. This is like asking "What is the end goal of playing mini-golf?" The point is to enjoy yourself. Mini-golf isn't going to give you some mind-blowing insight on the meaning of your life. It's just a fun distraction from your responsibilities. That's it. You've made the same mistakes as many beginners to RP theory have: to think that women are a goal. They …
/r/askTRP21/06/20 10:34 PM
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but what about guys like me who are just starting You want an honest answer? You're fucked, basically. Until you get your SMV up, you're going to be an after-thought... at best. Now here's your motivation to lift your fucking face off at the gym and make progress on your mission. Once you make it, though, you stop giving a shit. You'd be well beyond most guys, and women will know it. When they're with you, all the losers who hit on her become background noise. Filtered out automatically.
/r/askTRP21/06/20 10:30 PM
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Those of the RP philosophy do not seek out marriage because of its many fundamental flaws. So right off the bat, your question is incorrect. However, a valid question would be to ask what qualities an LTR should have. In that case, the #1 quality is that she follows your lead. She doesn't start arguments. Her social media use is reasonable (i.e.: not excessive, and doesn't run a thirst-trap). She only seeks attention and validation from you, not from other men. There's more, but those are the bi…
/r/askTRP21/06/20 08:54 PM
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There's no "figuring a girl out." You make your move, and her actions speak for themselves. In this case, she told you--point blank--she isn't interested in moving things forward with you. Your move is to soft-next her on a personal level. Act "normal" towards her in the professional setting. Stop giving a shit.
/r/askTRP21/06/20 08:49 PM
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To even ask this question proves that your mindset is wrong. To seek out marriage implies that you're trying to achieve BP goals... with RP tactics. This is impossible.
/r/askTRP21/06/20 08:46 PM
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"Self-actualization" sounds a lot like the post-modernism, relative BS many in western societies are trying to push these days. No, self-actualization means "become the best version of you that can possibly exist." That means max out your physical power. Practice your natural talents and skills, and develop them to their full potential. If you're good at woodworking, your goal (and job) is to become a master at it. Long-term studies have shown "But I'm not going to link you to the direct PDF fro…
/r/askTRP20/06/20 07:44 PM
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I would like to imagine a perfect fantasy love life It's time to wake up from this blue-pill dream, son. How to get over distrust of all women? Realize that women are human. They are self-interested creatures, just like all humans are. You developed a distrust because your expectations of them were wrong. The solution is to accept them for what they are--flawed people--and take things from there. You also need to find a mission in your life. It's OK to want a family and kids, but they do not bri…
/r/askTRP20/06/20 05:23 PM
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How the fuck are you even asking this question?
/r/askTRP20/06/20 05:17 PM
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Now I'm 70% sure this is a troll. Surely, you can't be this retarded. How many chromosomes do your kids have?
/r/askTRP19/06/20 01:28 PM
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Am confused as to why she would’ve came back to my place after already known my personality and expect me to not make a move... It's called last-minute resistance (LMR). The side-bar covers strategies on how to deal with it. I’m now cringing at myself for making the move in the first place It's a shit-test, and you failed it. Study up on shit-tests, too, while you're on the side-bar.
/r/askTRP19/06/20 12:13 PM
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You're wasting your time with this mental masturbation. Did you pump iron at least three times this week? What is your mission? What are your goals in the next 1, 3, and 5 years? Those are what you need to be focused on, not daydreaming about useless shit. Now get to work. The clock is ticking.
/r/askTRP19/06/20 12:12 PM
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Delete this blog post, and go put it on your Tumblr account. This is AskTRP. It's for asking questions, retard.
/r/askTRP19/06/20 12:09 PM
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What now? You get yourself into professional therapy, that's what. Losing control of yourself to the point of physical violence is a MAJOR red flag. Like I said... the only reason you're not in prison right now is sheer luck. Because let's face it: this wasn't the first time you physically battered someone. You've got years of hard work before you're no longer a threat to yourself or others. Until then, do not interact with women. Women test you by nature, and SOON this will result in you catchi…
/r/askTRP19/06/20 12:06 PM
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She became my boss. I legitimately laughed out loud when I read this. How the FUCK did you think this was a good idea?? If someone handed you a hammer and said, "Hey, I think you should smash yourself in the face with this!", would you say "Hmm... yeah... I could maybe do that..."? Legit question. She spent 1,5 weeks distant, only sex twice a week. We sit down and spoke. Ahh, yes. Talking. That always splooshes the panties! I freaked out shouted with her and pushed her Firstly, shouting is a mas…
/r/askTRP19/06/20 11:03 AM
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Cheating is exceptionally rare when you properly vet a woman for LTR status over the course of 6+ months like you're supposed to. Don't be an idiot and pay attention to red flags, and you'll weed out the worthless women long before you commit to them. Then continue paying attention to their behaviors during the relationship and you'll be able to spot the moment she starts to lose interest in you. I find it hilarious how guys come in here, describe how they LTR'ed a piece of trash, then get surpr…
/r/askTRP19/06/20 10:43 AM
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i posted this earlier but felt like it didnt have a lot of coherent thoughts so im reposting You're still babbling. What do you want, dude? Someone to come hug you and tell you that you did well?
/r/askTRP19/06/20 10:36 AM
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I can't get a boner around dudes. So guess what? I don't try to fuck dudes! I am a genius.
/r/askTRP19/06/20 10:35 AM
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Connected dots to some red flags. Then why is she still your LTR? The moment you connected those dots is the moment you should have silently demoted to FWB. She is always hanging out with her brother and his friends (all guys). Demote. One of the friends, she dated for a short time Demote. She told me she didn’t want me meeting the bro’s because Demote. She doesn’t text or call me at all when she’s with them (kind of ghosts). Demote. The real question you should be asking yourself is: "why am I …
/r/askTRP19/06/20 10:24 AM
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what does it mean to be a MAN in today's world. The same as it's always meant. The only thing that's changed is the shit-tests that society now gives us. But after you pass those shit-tests, you still get rewarded handsomely. This is a topic in and of itself, but know that feminism is a true godsend to those minority of men who have their shit together. Let me explain. One of feminism's main goals is to drag down men. And it's succeeding. Take a look around. See all the soyboys and effeminate gu…
/r/askTRP18/06/20 07:19 PM
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How to deal with arguments with LTR You don't. You don't argue with women. Full stop. Your LTR should have been selected based on how well she follows your lead. This is a major component to the 6+-month vetting process you should have done. Moving forward, you need to internalize the idea that you are the captain of this ship. Your LTR is free to follow you through life, but if she doesn't get in line, she is to exit. There is no arguing.
/r/askTRP18/06/20 04:30 PM
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how to just go without seeming butthurt? Well the #1 way to not look like you're butthurt is to not BE butthurt. I once had to leave an LTR's place soon after arriving. She pestered me with questions and I told her I didn't want to talk about it. So I stood up and said, "well, since you're not stopping, I have to leave now." She replies, "don't go... I still want to talk." Me: "We just did. We'll hang out another time." I got my shoes on and walked out the door. I didn't show butthurt because I …
/r/askTRP18/06/20 03:24 PM
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It's possible that you set off his insecurity because she mentions you every once in a while. Maybe you left an impression on her, or maybe she's just using your stories to shit-test him. Maybe both.
/r/askTRP18/06/20 02:22 PM
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Even though I am Red Pilled [...] Did I make her feel unsafe? Why do you care about what a plate thinks? Someone who is "red pilled" should know the basics of plate management. Would it have helped if I waited until after I got the test results to call instead? You did the right thing, based on health issues. But asking yourself these questions shows that you are not living in your own frame. I have more women lined up to date me and I need to be sure whether or not I should bring up this whole …
/r/askTRP18/06/20 02:17 PM
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But I don't understand where this dude is coming from. Massive, massive insecurity... that's where. Continue blocking them both any time they show up in your life again.
/r/askTRP18/06/20 02:11 PM
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What went wrong here? Nothing. The plate broke. This is part of the normal plate lifecycle. At this point, soft-next her. You had plans to meet and she cancelled, so the ball is entirely in her court. She might come crawling back in a couple months. In the meantime, get more plates.
/r/askTRP18/06/20 02:09 PM
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It would work over text, phone, or in person. If you did it in person, and you reached the point where you need to cut her off and put her into time-out again, then you need to physically leave immediately. Take that into account when you decide how to deal with it. Personally, I'd handle it over the phone so she can better understand that she needs to get in line. Then if she refuses, I didn't waste 20 minutes or so driving out to her, talking for 41 seconds, and driving home another 20 minutes…
/r/askTRP18/06/20 02:06 PM
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Blue pill
/r/askTRP17/06/20 07:55 PM
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Doesn't matter. In the end, you're chasing a BP dream. Nobody here can help you with that. After you get divorced, though... feel free to come back here for real advice.
/r/askTRP17/06/20 07:43 PM
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Currently soft nexting her for a few days. Proper soft nexts don't have expirations on them, FYI. But there's nothing wrong with putting her into a time-out. That's your call based on the details. Do I act like nothing has happened or should I address the situation? You know the situation best. What are the chances this will happen again? If you think she realized her mistake, then act like nothing happened. Otherwise, if she still thinks she was right to act like that, then address it. Keep it …
/r/askTRP17/06/20 07:41 PM
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I'm not going to read this novel, but here's something that jumped out in the one paragraph I read: My goal was to find another virgin/inexperienced girl as I wanted an LTR that leads to marriage and kids You cannot use RP tactics to achieve BP goals. Full stop.
/r/askTRP17/06/20 07:30 PM
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if I'm not attracted to her and she has an annoying personality, I won't give a fuck how much she makes or how prestigious her career is. If you're not attracted to her, and/or find her annoying, then why the fuck are you considering her for an LTR?? I do know a lot of "leech" types who just want an easy access to the wallet Why does it matter what they want? All that matters is what boundaries you have and enforce. A woman wants you to pay for everything. "No." Done. Now either she gets in line…
/r/askTRP17/06/20 07:28 PM
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She's shown interest in you over time, and she even came to your park date dressed "very sexy." These are good signs. When she tossed a shit-test at you, you reacted with a strong power-move. This isn't necessarily wrong (because this can really raise her interest levels in you), but the fact that you're here asking questions implies you didn't do this on purpose. Here's where the problem is. You effectively soft-nexted her. Now you need to stick to it, otherwise you'll appear very weak. There's…
/r/askTRP17/06/20 04:07 PM
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losing the girl for being “too mean” or something. Scarcity mentality. I’m more concerned with how using those techniques would affect me. What do you think this stuff will do? Permanently brainwash you? You're always in control of your own actions. If you try something and it doesn't go the way you want... change tactics. But hey man... you do you. Part of the reason why so many married women want to fuck me is because the overwhelming majority of guys are too afraid to improve. So I'm very OK …
/r/askTRP17/06/20 02:45 PM
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And I’ve read about dread I’ve just always been worried about opening something I couldn’t get the lid back on. Sounds like you need to also read about frame and outcome-independence, because this statement proves you're lacking in both.
/r/askTRP17/06/20 02:41 AM
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Plates break. That's part of the lifecycle. But you can apply dread to perhaps get her back on board. You have nothing to lose. Do you think the redpill methods wouldn’t work on a chick that’s actually different Hah. No, she ISN'T different. She just has higher SMV and you're catching oneitis. She isn't yours. It's only your turn.
/r/askTRP17/06/20 01:23 AM
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Is she interested or am I delusional? There's only one way to know for sure: escalate and see how she reacts. Either she's receptive to it and your penis enters her vagina, or she isn't and you soft-next her until she wants the D. Simple.
/r/askTRP17/06/20 01:00 AM
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I was wondering if there’s any other good resources or guides to dealing with your plates. Yes: the side-bar. But if you have specific questions, ask away. how do most guys here manage to keep themselves detached from all these different women? Your focus in life should be on your mission, not on women. Women are just the fun distraction when you need a break from time to time. Internalize this idea, and you'll automatically tune them out when you're busy; then they'll pounce on you when you're …
/r/askTRP17/06/20 12:59 AM
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Sounds like your friend is immature. As long as he sees you with a woman while he doesn't have his own, he's going to get in your way. Talking to him about it will only drive you apart. One option is to game women well away from him. Use your time at his place to indirectly build attraction, but don't act on it with him around. Later invite them out somewhere else and leverage the interest levels you already raised. Another option is to be his wingman. Get him a woman first to neutralize his jea…
/r/askTRP17/06/20 12:56 AM
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she does not know her real dad, is good friends with a psychic medium who she visits often, had a miscarriage 6 years ago, wants to buy a new car even though her's is perfectly fine and modern anyway, wants a relationship and a baby, she said to me "You know sex without a rubber feels so much better.." Precisely NONE of these are deal-breakers at the plate/FWB level. The fact that you think so proves that you don't understand what plates/FWBs are. Plates are wet holes you slam your cock into. Th…
/r/askTRP17/06/20 12:50 AM
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Good to remember that staying friends is a bad idea though. Friendship with women isn't a bad idea. It's simply impossible. Men and women are different creatures. There isn't the same level of understanding between them.
/r/askTRP15/06/20 09:19 PM
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I miss flirting and spinning plates badly. Well here's your answer. You should always be doing what YOU want in life. I don't want to hurt my LTR because she's a really good, sweet girl, but I know it would fuck her up pretty badly Two things. First, do you think she'd give a flying fuck about you if you had failed those shit-tests early on? Nope. She'd ditch your ass without a second thought. Secondly, is that the way you want to live your life? Afraid to do what's best for you because it might…
/r/askTRP15/06/20 06:24 PM
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Most of the time Immediately smack yourself upside the head. You're welcome.
/r/askTRP12/06/20 08:12 PM
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Its called last-minute resistance (LMR). It's in the side-bar. Also, you should always be using a condom, you moron.
/r/askTRP12/06/20 06:17 PM
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What made you think that AskTRP is your personal doctor, licensed to practice medicine on you remotely? Fuck, dude... get off the internet and go see a real doctor.
/r/askTRP12/06/20 06:16 PM
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It is possible, actually. Once you gain a high degree of control over yourself, you can allow some emotion with women, while still being able to slow it down when you need to. You get to this level by accepting and internalizing the idea that all things eventually end. Enjoy them while they last, but realize that change is always coming. Mindfulness, discipline, and life experience are the keys to attaining this control. I'd say this is the end-game for the RP path. Don't expect to be able to re…
/r/askTRP12/06/20 06:14 PM
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just recently movedin together. [...] She has gotten lazier lately This is no a coincidence. She knows she can take you for granted, because you're not applying dread when you should be. complains she looks fat [...] I can tell she's not as fit as of late? "Hey I just testing to see if I can put on weight and still keep you wrapped around my finger." Keep on this path, and she WILL be fat. And she'll lose interest, turn into a nag, etc. Your move is to apply dread. A good start might be to say "…
/r/askTRP12/06/20 03:38 PM
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I’m fully aware of all of this. Yet you have not internalized it. But I still feel a block is kinda odd. "because I'm living in this nobody's frame instead of my own."
/r/askTRP12/06/20 03:35 AM
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Currently soft nexting a chick who was having my buddy over for sleepovers and I wasn’t fucking with it Uhh... what? You don't soft-next plates for fucking other guys. They're plates. You shouldn't be expecting anything at all from them, except to be a warm, moist hole for you. How long should I ignore that? Well, if you knew what a soft-next was, you'd know that you should just resume fucking her like nothing happened. You need more side-bar.
/r/askTRP12/06/20 02:33 AM
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You got blocked because she doesn't want you, not because you showed interest. Also, stop giving a fuck. One woman turns you down, so you just move on to the next. This planet has 3,500,000,000 females on it right now.
/r/askTRP12/06/20 02:31 AM
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Uhh... if they can con guys into paying for expensive dates, why are these women involuntarily celibate? They could get dick in the parking lot both before and after this date if they wanted to, no?
/r/askTRP11/06/20 04:43 AM
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In that case, you gotta just play the game for a while and earn a good reputation.
/r/askTRP11/06/20 12:54 AM
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Narcissism and arrogance are associated with success I agree. But this on its own doesn't work. You need something to start with. Each narcissist I've ever known has had at least some initial ability or skill. Sure, they play it up and twist the facts around, but they all start with a kernel of truth. You're just plain wrong. Pro-tip: a well-formed argument consists of a claim in conjunction with supporting evidence. Simple stating a claim might make you feel good, but it doesn't convince anyone…
/r/askTRP10/06/20 11:54 PM
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It doesn't seem like you're flaunting your advantages, so there's nothing to suppress. Can you avoid eating your healthy food near your jealous co-workers? Other than that, just keep doing the best job you can. You're getting tested because you're the new guy. Chances are it'll stop in the next couple months. Personally, I'm in a very high-demand field. If I got this attitude from anybody, I'd just bluntly ask, "Do you want me to resign?" I'd already know they'd shit bricks, panic, and say no. B…
/r/askTRP10/06/20 11:50 PM
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A guy got elected president When your daddy is rich and you're riding on his coat tails, you start on Square 1 with status. Then you can act like an arrogant narcissist and people will yield to you automatically. A nobody would need to get that initial success first in order for this to not backfire miserably.
/r/askTRP10/06/20 11:41 PM
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What the fuck is FDS. Bro, you got that new ATG going? I got my SMT off the EGD last Wednesday and actually managed to FRT my TDQ off the fucking charts!!!
/r/askTRP10/06/20 10:47 PM
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I learned she was seeing her ex again, so I just decided to send a text basically saying no hard feelings but we should move on Mistake. Seeing her ex would only disqualify her from LTR status in the future. This isn't even a good reason for a soft-next because she's done nothing wrong. Plates are free to do absolutely anything they want. Going legitimately crazy or becoming physically unattractive are the only two valid reasons for hard-nexting a plate. Fast forward a couple months and she keep…
/r/askTRP09/06/20 08:59 PM
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Why do people try to bring you down when you’re on your self-improvement journey? Because you're putting pressure on them to up their game, which they don't want to do. They also don't want you to be more successful than they are. Jealousy. Why do your friends make fun of you when instead of hanging out with them every single day, doing the same things and wasting money; you choose to go to the library to study? See above. Also, this can eventually cross the line where they are simply not your f…
/r/askTRP09/06/20 08:54 PM
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Looking to go back out there, ultimately for an LTR. You don't look for LTRs. LTRs are to grow organically after a woman has proven her worthiness and working through the levels of plate and FWB. Guys who specifically look for relationships usually do so because they think this will fulfill them. Nope. Only your path to self-actualization will lead to happiness. how can you tell that a girl, especially LTR is keenly sexually attracted to you? Does she inhale your penis the moment you walk in the…
/r/askTRP08/06/20 11:10 PM
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I protest my gun rights being taken away because I strongly believe in personal protection and the defense of democracy. So fuck off with this "all protesting = you're a puppet" cock-barf.
/r/askTRP04/06/20 04:07 PM
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If women cared that much about hair, then baldness would have been weeded out of the gene pool a long time ago. Some women do care about it, but a lot don't. Some women really like beards, and some don't. Accept that you can't be all things to all people. A while back I had a newly single short friend (5'6") who was worried that most women would reject him for his height. So I jumped on Match and in 20 minutes of searching, I found 7 or 8 cute women with their shit together who claimed to like g…
/r/askTRP03/06/20 06:14 PM
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Oh yeah, don't block her man. That is salty and childish, just ignore her and never contact her. I agree that you should never block someone out of spite. But if OP feels like he just can't handle the drama and manipulation that might occur, then he should block her.... for his own sanity.
/r/askTRP02/06/20 09:53 PM
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Why are you living so deep in this nobody's frame that you're here asking about her actions? I suspect the root cause is because you don't have a real mission keeping you busy.
/r/askTRP01/06/20 08:51 PM
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here we use to solve things in a more physical way. What, in the lose-frame-and-risk-jail-and-injuries-just-because-your-ego-is-fragile way? I can easily beat the shit out of this dude. The fact that you're even thinking of this shows that your frame is weak. confront him and say something like "Do you have a problem dude?" Dealing with the problem head-on would normally be a good move. But in this case, he's the low man on the totem pole. You said everyone shits on him. And they ignore his joke…
/r/askTRP01/06/20 08:47 PM
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wants to start a family [...] she is extremely unintelligent Do you want dumb kids? Because that's how you get dumb kids.
/r/askMRP01/06/20 01:12 AM
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It was a joke, actually You should get your angry incel detector fixed, or don't buy the shitty off-brand one This is a forum where incels are known to comment and say things very similar to your joke. You should get your situational awareness detector fixed, or don't buy the shitty off-brand one.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/20 04:17 PM
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Angry incel detected. How about you re-direct that anger into pumping iron? Then get yourself a good career. That's what I did. After putting in many years of hard work, I get plenty of hookups off Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge. I even found some relationships through this supposedly over-saturated market in the last 10+ years. Fact is, the online dating market ISN'T over-saturated with quality guys. There's a surplus of shitty guys that women don't want. So don't be one of them. You have a lot more…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/20 01:30 PM
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Nope. And I'm OK with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/20 11:28 PM
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I'm aware. In the end, successful guys have absolutely no trouble with online dating. I've landed many hookups, along with a couple LTRs in the last 10+ years.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/20 08:31 PM
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Great, actually. I'm a complete person as-is. I don't need a relationship to complete me. They compliment my life, and they last for as long as they need to.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/20 08:28 PM
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I mentioned in another thread that you need a hook of some kind. Humor works well, or you ask an insightful question based on her profile. Don't send a wall of text. On the e-mail-based sites like Match, I found that 2-3 short paragraphs worked best. On the swiping apps, just a couple sentences worked best. Have at least decent pictures posted. Your profile needs to imply that you have your shit together in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/20 03:40 PM
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Well if you have that dim of a view of online dating, feel free to not use it! Aside from hookups, I've landed several LTRs that landed over a year each. But you do you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/20 03:37 PM
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"You miss 100% of the shots you don't take." I've been very successful with online dating in the last 10+ years. It's possible, and you don't strictly need to have good genetics to pull it off (although, I'm not going to lie, that does help).
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/20 02:40 AM
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I don't have the reference offhand, but I once read that a third of all hookups turn into real relationships. That's pretty unexpected. Even if you're not into hookups, you can still find someone looking for something serious online. I run into them often (if you believe their words, that is). And FYI, the older women look for hookups much less often, it seems. If you're into MILFs...
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/20 02:37 AM
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It was loads of free entertainment! It ended when OKCupid terminated my account without an explanation. I'm guessing they realized I was using the G-rated pictures of a not-so-well-known-but-still-pretty-cute porn star. I had a good run, so I didn't bother starting it back up.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/20 02:34 AM
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Thanks for the link. However, it doesn't quite paint the picture that half of all women aren't doing online dating. It says Tinder's percentage of total women is 45%, Bumble's is 40%, and Match is 45%. If only half of all women were on there, it would show 25% instead (assuming that 100% of single men are on it...).
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/20 02:32 AM
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It's not a healthy online environment at all. It works for me! I've gotten plenty of dates and sex with Tinder, and I spent $0 on it. What you have on Tinder are the desperate being fleeced by the manipulative. If that's happening to you, then you need to re-tune your bullshit detector. I spot that out within the first 211 milliseconds. No wonder you get messages from guys saying that stuff. They've been on the app This was on OKCupid 10+ years ago... well before the swiping apps existed. Any ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/20 02:27 AM
1

Not from that one woman, but there are always some that just installed it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/20 11:44 PM
2

I have my shit together in life, and it comes through in my body language.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/20 09:46 PM
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but if a guy makes specific mentions about her profile, he is merely ignored. This doesn't happen to me. I get plenty of responses.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/20 08:07 PM
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Women typically hop on, get a match, get off. Which would mean that high-quality guys get women, and the remaining guys that linger are losers. Sounds about right, actually.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/20 07:56 PM
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In precisely none of those cases would a confident, well-adjusted man feel it appropriate to respond with "fuck you", "fuck off", or "shut the fuck up". It's actually possible to disagree with someone and not use those phrases.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/20 07:54 PM
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That doesn't answer the question. If you had a bowl of ice cream in front of you (your choice of flavor), and a bowl of ice cream with a little bit of women's feces in it, which would you choose to eat? Edit: I just realized now I'm talking to a new poop-taster...
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/20 07:51 PM
1

What's their poop taste like?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/20 07:48 PM
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Given their responses of "fuck you", "fuck off", and "shut the fuck up", I'm having trouble imagining anything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/20 07:47 PM
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The general point is that no matter how you slice it, men vastly outnumber women on dating apps. Vastly! This isn't true just because you perceive it to be. Or because you want it to be. It's only true if an objective study shows proof. Which may be hidden in those 99 pages of data that you pointed out... or not. I'll believe absolutely anything with evidence. Oh, you can shoot lasers out of your eyes? Neat. Show me!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/20 07:46 PM
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is this a conversation leading up to me eating shit? No, we established early on that you already tasted feces. 6% of the time, you said. ass taste like ass. the smell is what it taste like. So even the clean anuses taste like feces? Now that's surprising. And you're OK with this? ultimately, me having this username, girls prepare accordingly You're picking up chicks on Reddit? What subs?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/20 06:22 PM
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There's one source that actually says it's 78% Well! You actually dropped a reference! I very much appreciate this. This is a very, very long article, however. Most of it talks about Tinder specifically, though. Some of it mentions Bumble, Hinge, Badoo, and others, but I'm not seeing a summary that says only 50% of women are using any dating site/app. And if I wanted to nitpick, I'd like to see what the overall usage is for women 18-45. I'd think that women in the 50+ age group would skew the nu…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/20 06:19 PM
1

No, and I'm not sure what that has to do with you consuming small amounts of feces from time to time when you meet strange women for the first time. Does all poop taste the same, or do different women have their own distinct flavor?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/20 06:03 PM
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Are you saying that, when you meet a stranger and are about to shove your tongue up their anus, that you spread their cheeks, shine a flashlight, and... do a wipe-test before diving in?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/20 05:58 PM
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The simple fact is that OLD is 70+% men. I'd only believe that if I was given a reference. Because it doesn't make sense. Where are the other 50% of women going to find guys in the year 2020? Just church on Sundays and nowhere else? No... they're doing things in person AND they're maintaining an online presence as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/20 05:55 PM
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Yep. And those people do not do well in the online dating market...
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/20 05:50 PM
2

That's about what I was going to guess, actually: 5-10%. I can't imagine than over 90% of people wipe extremely well ALL of the time. Sometimes they're in a rush and they figure "ok, that's good enough... I gotta get going now!" A gay guy once wrote that it's really "disappointing" when he goes there and it tastes "all grainy." Have you run into that with women?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/20 05:50 PM
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They'd beg. I'd start out with a simple "not interested, but good luck" response, but they'd come back with "but I'm a good guy, I'll show you! We'll go on a nice dinner and I'll just kiss you on the cheek good-night." After that, I'd get "Oh come on! That's bullshit that you won't even give me a chance. You can't just reject me without meeting me!!" Meanwhile, the guy's got pictures looking like redneck trash, his profile proudly proclaims that he works minimum-wage jobs and drinks & smokes all…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/20 05:45 PM
5

For science, what percentage of the time have you stuck your tongue up a stranger's asshole and tasted feces?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/20 05:38 PM
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In another thread, I mentioned that in modern times, there are hundreds of videos, posts, etc. that are begging for your attention 24/7. So if you want to get someone's attention, you need to come out strong right away. Have at least decent pictures, your profile needs to be interesting without being wordy, and your initial messages need have a hook of some sort (humor works, as does asking an insightful question based on her profile). Above all, do NOT take rejection personally. Nobody is entit…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/20 05:36 PM
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I’ve been guilty of one word messages like ‘hey’ These are the worst messages to send. A woman sees that and immediately learns that you are a boring guy with no personality. In modern times, there's hundreds of apps, websites, and posts vying for your attention every minute of every day. You got one shot at hooking someone's attention, so you need to make it count. You gotta come out of the gate with something interesting otherwise you'll get filtered out as background noise. So if truly well m…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/20 05:29 PM
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Btw, /u/ieatassonfirstdate, I hope you use a dental dam when you're performing analingus on strangers you just met. Otherwise, you run the risk of contracting Hepatitis A, Hepatitis B, HSV-1, HSV-2, Syphilis, and Gonorrhea. Just FYI.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/20 05:18 PM
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My advice was appearing to come from an attractive, petite blonde woman. Most guys found this to be threatening, I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/20 05:09 PM
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Nope. Check my post history.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/20 05:07 PM
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Many, many moons ago I made a fake female profile on OKCupid to see what the online dating experience was like for women. So many loser guys came in with a sense of entitlement. They DEMANDED a date. I'd try to respond like a real woman would; I'd just say "no thanks, you're not my type. good luck though! ;)" Often times this would set them off. At best, they'd beg for days to be "given a chance." At worst, they'd respond with threats of violence. I got an avalanche of lame "hey" messages with n…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/20 04:01 PM
1

You're the autist. Well that settles it.
/r/askTRP27/05/20 05:40 AM
1

I'd need to see a specific example, then. I'm having a really hard time imagining ONE double-text causing a high-SMV guy's entire operation to crash & burn. If that guy paid attention to how much effort she's putting in, this concern becomes irrelevant.
/r/askTRP26/05/20 11:09 PM
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The rule of "never double-text" is autistic as fuck. This isn't a bullshit PUA forum where we swap stupid rules that don't take context into account. Context matters. You should develop a sense of when you're initiating too much or putting in significantly more effort than she is. When that happens, you back off/soft-next. Sometimes a conversation ends on your last text, and later you have something else to say or ask. Just fucking say it. If this forms a pattern, you're probably putting in too …
/r/askTRP26/05/20 10:47 PM
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Words are just words. What matters is action. Once you're able to meet in person, escalate as if she never said that. Either she consents or you next her. In the meantime, you shouldn't be spending too much effort texting her. Enough to keep the flame going, but don't get over-invested.
/r/askTRP26/05/20 10:35 PM
1

spends 10+ hours a day playing video games. People like this eventually find a network of enablers. Guess who that is now? my parents dont know what to do either. They could enforce boundaries and stop enabling shitty behavior. But that's on your parents to do. How do I talk to someone like this and tell him they he needs to step up as a man It's extremely unlikely that your words will change him. The only real hope you have is to convince your parents and sister to stop enabling him. Your paren…
/r/askTRP26/05/20 10:32 PM
0

You're being an ass and a total cunt "You're destroying me with logic. I don't like that and you're a bad person." which is why women are discouraged from posting on this sub. This isn't a place for women to post responses. They don't have the RP perspective needed to help. "To know the road ahead, ask those coming back from it." this sub is for men Indeed it is. And not for women. You need to step back and take a deep breath. You got triggered by OP's post. Reflect on why that happened. After t…
/r/askTRP26/05/20 10:07 PM
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You made claims here with absolutely zero supporting evidence or logic. "That which is asserted without evidence can be discarded without evidence." Don't forget to downvote this reply. You know... so you can feel powerful.
/r/askTRP26/05/20 09:40 PM
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He should get an attorney for the university, and threaten to sue. Threaten to sue? You think large organizations give a shit about legal threats? They have full-time legal departments specifically to deal with this. So let's say OP sues and wins. Then what? A chunk of change isn't going to make his bitterness and depression go away. My advice was aimed towards dealing with that. One way or another, that needs to get solved otherwise he'll stay miserable in life. He should NOT talk with his ex f…
/r/askTRP26/05/20 02:17 PM
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Sorry to hear this happened to you. Even if you did everything right, you can still get unlucky and land a crazy woman who didn't show any red flags. But you need to move forward with your life. The first is to get your university to start treating you like a human being again. They need to lift all the restrictions on you. Harp on the fact that its been over a year and no charges were filed. If they drag their feet, be a pain in the ass. Find their pressure points, and call them repeatedly unti…
/r/askTRP26/05/20 03:13 AM
5

There isn't a set of simple steps to do this. It comes down to playing hard to get, hot & cold tactics, teasing, and leaving them wanting more. Generally, you raise their interest levels massively, then you don't act on it. Drives them crazy causes them to pounce on you.
/r/askTRP25/05/20 10:46 PM
0

Wait, you thought OP bragged? Because when I read his post, I thought I was on the suicidebywords sub.
/r/askTRP25/05/20 10:41 PM
4

All this word diarrhea to justify your thirst... AND you failed you answer my important question. Good luck, dude. You're gonna need it...
/r/askTRP25/05/20 10:39 PM
1

Do you want trade long-term happiness and fulfillment for a couple fleeting short-term highs? I'd recommend against that. Many people (with low self-control) have gone down that road and ended up miserable. You're the captain of your ship. And this world doesn't give a shit about you, me, or anybody else. Nobody is going to come save you from yourself, so I recommend you plan far ahead.
/r/askTRP25/05/20 09:16 PM
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I moved back to my home town after graduating last year and I have literally made 0 friends Welcome to life after college for most people. However, its not all a lost cause. Is the Meetup website/app available in your area? If so, use it to see what interest-based groups are doing nearby. You can find a chess club, volleyball league, volunteer group, etc. on there. Or, if you don't find exactly what you're looking for, you can spend a little bit of money to start your own group. Sounds like you …
/r/askTRP25/05/20 09:12 PM
319

I kiss her goodbye. You should have baited her into kissing you goodbye. A few hours after she left I texted her "I don't have other options since my SMV isn't very high, despite the fact that I've been red pilled for 3 years. You can probably do better than me, but can I please, please, PLEASE see you again????" to which she replied "[...]". So now I'm like WTF Butthurt due to weak frame. The entire day she doesn't send me a single text or snap...[...] So finally at 9pm I texted her "Are you ok…
/r/askTRP25/05/20 09:08 PM
1

they can tell me if I’m too ugly? What, so you can psych yourself out and fulfill your own prophecy of failure? Having solid frame, money, and status get you MUCH farther with women than winning the genetic lottery and being a loser. "Women are born, but men are made." Focus on the things you can control. Find your mission, work hard on it, and women will notice. Even if success doesn't come as easily as it does for others, in a couple years you'll still be glad you invested in yourself instead …
/r/askTRP25/05/20 08:44 PM
1

AskTRP is not your personal dating site. See Rule #1 in the side-bar.
/r/askTRP25/05/20 08:34 PM
2

Not sure that exists. After all, why would alpha guys want to spend time training strangers for free? You could find someone with a good reputation on the RP subs, and offer to pay them for their time to coach you, though.
/r/askTRP25/05/20 08:31 PM
3

This is a trade-off situation that strangers on the internet can't really help you with. Only you know the situation enough, along with how it affects you. That said, here's some things you maybe didn't consider: You can meet women at their place. It's not always an option, but it sometimes is. So its not a complete bust in that regard. Friends and collaborators can still come visit you at your place. Just give them a heads up that you got an alcoholic stumbling around, then hang out in the base…
/r/askTRP25/05/20 08:28 PM
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I'm scared that I won't do well during sex. [...] It would be soo embarassing. You mean you're afraid of not stacking up to the expectations of worthless strangers you'll never see ever again? Think about that for a while. In the past when you've done "embarrassing" things in public... have you noticed that almost nobody even noticed? And the few that did notice didn't give a shit? And you never saw them again, so it didn't matter? Go meet them, bust a nut in two pumps, say "thanks" and kiss her…
/r/askTRP25/05/20 08:19 PM
4

If that music affects you like that, stop listening to it. That makes a real difference on your outlook and motivation. Music tastes are pretty subjective. Heavy metal isn't for everyone, but most of it won't depress the shit out of you. Makes excellent music when it's time to pump iron or get things done. Otherwise, classical music is... classic.
/r/askTRP25/05/20 08:13 PM
1

She responds about 40 minutes later "I'm down". Well that's all that matters in the end. She accepted. This girl is a former model and I'm sure she has plenty of guys to choose from and just wants me to be an orbiter. And like you said before: your main objective is just to get experience and get better at talking to women. So go do that! And knowing that she's going to try to catch you in her orbit means you can get first-hand experience in how to spot those moves and avoid them. As long as you…
/r/askTRP25/05/20 08:09 PM
2

Yes, it's an excellent book to give you important foundational knowledge on gaming women. It also drives the point home that there's more than one way to skin a cat. Some guys in the RP subs mistakenly think there's only ONE way to game women. The book does a great job at showing the big picture, but the RP subs are much more time-relevant and give a better practical framework. After all, Greene wrote that in... the mid-90's? The RP subs take modern times into consideration, along with the persp…
/r/askTRP25/05/20 08:02 PM
3

She's a woman. Women like to be pursued. At this point, she hasn't done anything wrong. Your next message needs to set up a specific plan. "Ok, let's go for a walk at [the local park] on Wednesday at 7pm. I'll meet you at the water fountain." Change the details as necessary. The point is to make it easy for her to just say yes. Either she accepts and you meet her, or she gets soft-nexted and you focus on your next opportunity. Either way, this will get handled quickly if you don't waste time wit…
/r/askTRP25/05/20 07:56 PM
3

Perfect! That's a high-demand field, which you can use as a ticket out of your country and land a much better job. In fact, if you're already good at it, you can even consider looking for a job now without a degree. I've known a couple people who went this route and became very successful. Or, if you decide to finish your degree and stay in your country, I think you should be able to live comfortably with 1 or 2 room mates. It should be easy to advance your career further after that, and start l…
/r/askTRP25/05/20 07:49 PM
3

Ok, then in the next two years, your job is to play by your parents' rules so they keep paying for your schooling. Work hard on your studies, and put in extra work to make yourself a better job candidate. Would moving to another country give you better job opportunities? What are you studying?
/r/askTRP25/05/20 07:05 PM
1

This is extremely common. On the plus side, this is very easy to handle. You control how often you respond. So stop responding. Take a step back and think about how often you want to talk to her. If its just a short conversation once per day, then so be it. Plates are replaceable. You shouldn't be re-arranging your life for a wet fuck-hole.
/r/askTRP25/05/20 06:49 PM
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Your parents are abusive, and you need to leave. Since they're paying for your university, and since you're almost done (I assume since you're 21), I'd say you should keep playing by their rules in the short term. Once you graduate, though, you need to get out of there immediately. Can you pay for rent if you split the bills with 1 or 2 other room mates? Do everything you can to save money now. Research what jobs you will get once you have your degree. Is there something you can do in the next y…
/r/askTRP25/05/20 06:47 PM
1

I wouldn't frame it in those terms. "Soft-next" is the better mentality.
/r/askTRP25/05/20 12:05 PM
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she asked me if i want to marry soon. I have told her yes I don't care what words you said to her, but if this happens to be the truth, then this is a problem. You cannot achieve BP goals using RP tactics. She then told me that she is only looking for serious stuff. Keep portraying yourself as interested in something serious with "the right person." Then escalate like normal. If you're not in her pants by the end of the third date, then it's over with her and you move on to the next woman. If yo…
/r/askTRP24/05/20 06:20 PM
3

Glad I could help!
/r/askTRP24/05/20 03:42 PM
2

You don't set boundaries for plates & FWBs. In fact, you want them to do what they naturally desire. You observe what they choose to do of their own free will, and you take mental notes. So when a plate/FWB fucks other guys, you say to yourself, "That is perfectly fine for her to do that, but this means she is permanently disqualified from LTR status." Then you continue fucking them like normal. No anger, no butthurt. The ideal LTR candidate won't want to spend her time with other guys. She won'…
/r/askTRP24/05/20 02:48 PM
3

Sounds like you've learned nothing so far. So let me break it down for you: You lack outcome-independence. In your mind, you need this relationship in order to feel complete, instead of seeking fulfillment from your mission and path to self-actualization. This always ends badly. Your frame is weak. You let your emotions get engaged, which showed your LTR that you're a lot weaker than she thought you were. You also proved that, moving forward, she can control your emotions to get what she wants. …
/r/askTRP24/05/20 02:34 PM
3

All women start in plate status. If they're fun to hang out with outside the bedroom as well, you promote them to FWB status; this can be done rather quickly (in under a week). However, the jump from FWB to LTR status is much more serious. You are to evaluate her qualities over the course of 6-12 months. In that time, you pay close attention to her past & present behaviors, looking for red flags. After 6-12 months, if there are no red flags, and plenty of green flags, then you have the option of…
/r/askTRP24/05/20 02:26 PM
3

I’m a little confused here. Is she going to be plating the both of us now or what? Why do you give a shit? She's a plate. You're not supposed to be caring. And why is she still willing to see me if she’s “serious” with another guy? Its a classic pressure tactic women use to push a guy (i.e.: you) into commitment. On the plus side, your response was perfect. Soft-next her until she's ready to play ball again.
/r/askTRP24/05/20 02:20 PM
3

he's liked all of her most recent photos, and she has liked his. Red flag. This is enough for you to demote her to FWB. on her twitter she liked one of his tweets that was something along the lines of Red flag #2. Also enough on its own to demote her. What do you guys think I should do? Firstly, you need to demote her to FWB; her behavior proves she is not LTR material. Secondly, you need to reflect on how you fucked up and promoted the wrong woman to LTR status.
/r/askTRP24/05/20 02:16 PM
9

the fight we had [...] we had a huge fight Never argue with a woman. I broke frame And what did you learn from that? can this relationship be salvaged? To ask this question implies more broken frame. It shows dependence on this relationship.
/r/askTRP24/05/20 02:09 PM
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Sounds like something similar to PTSD. Get into therapy. That can really help you take the edge off. Also try going after the single moms yourself! Get yourself into shape if you're not already, get some nice clothes, and hit the dating scene. You'll build up confidence through success. As an absolute last resort, know that MDMA has been shown in studies to be extremely effective against PTSD. I've also read success stories of people getting MDMA from street sources and handling it themselves. I…
/r/askTRP24/05/20 02:42 AM
2

It could be a million things, but from your story, it sounds like the medication messed with him. See if he can consult another doctor about the side-effects.
/r/askTRP24/05/20 02:32 AM
5

Instead of "socialize with friends" how about "socialize with new friends". You said your existing ones might not care much about you, so they're not worth investing in. Times might be tough for that, but keep it in mind for the future.
/r/askTRP24/05/20 02:29 AM
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I noticed her becoming distant and « off », so I pulled the plug You don't understand how to manage plates and your expectations with them. Plates are wet holes you dump your cum into. That's it. You don't expect them to be your semi-girlfriend. You don't expect ANYTHING. They are free to come and go. If this hurts your fragile ego, then you have a wet paper bag for a frame.
/r/askTRP23/05/20 06:21 PM
0

Read his post again. He's running into single moms and wants to know how to game them. He's not interested in whether or not you personally approve of single mothers. Don't be a faggot. Wait, which male is experiencing attraction to another male in this situation?
/r/askTRP22/05/20 04:57 PM
0

"I hate computer programming. If YOU don't hate computer programming too, then you're wrong and stupid and an idiot and I hate you."
/r/askTRP22/05/20 04:51 PM
0

I recall a time when such advice was de rigueur on TRP circa 2015 And yet your frame is still this weak? Reflect on why words from a stranger triggered you. While you're still working on the basics of RP theory, you should refrain from answering questions in AskTRP. This is a place for experienced guys to help beginners.
/r/askTRP22/05/20 03:38 PM
10

I know im missing on some crucial game and some golden opportunities. Indeed you are. Their dating dynamics are completely different with a kid in the picture, so they have a lot more pent-up sexual frustration. Learn how to tap into this gold mine, and you'll be rewarded handsomely. It's usually a different game with the single moms. They don't seek hookups nearly as often. Instead, they at least want the illusion of someone to rely on. So give them that. Portray yourself as someone who's open …
/r/askTRP22/05/20 03:34 PM
9

Found the 19 year old who read the side-bar twice last week.
/r/askTRP22/05/20 03:20 PM
2

the guys might be [...] my friends say a reason might be [...] Seems like a lot of assumptions and hearsay. I wouldn't be so quick to assume the worst, especially if there's a lack of other evidence. But I certainly would ask the party hosts directly. If they're your friends, you should be comfortable in simply asking if you can come. If that answer is no (or you get nervous looks, stammering, or deflection), then you know they're not your friends. Finding the truth about what people really cons…
/r/askTRP21/05/20 10:10 PM
3

Women who seek validation from other men are not LTR material. The ideal LTR candidate only seeks validation from you. Since your girlfriend's attention isn't focused on you, the clock is ticking down. Eventually the right guy will hit on her at the grocery store and she'll be putty in his hands. how would you handle the situation? I would immediately demote her to FWB, then reflect on why I fucked up in promoting the wrong woman to LTR status.
/r/askTRP21/05/20 06:32 PM
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#2 is the most serious. A pattern of abusive men in her life tells you a lot about her perspective. It tells you that emotional, physical, and/or sexual abuse has been normalized. People like that bring massive drama and problems into your life. That shit is more than enough to avoid her as a plate. In fact, if you knew this ahead of this weekend adventure, then you massively fucked up by going through with it anyway.
/r/askTRP21/05/20 05:24 PM
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From just this one text, I'd estimate there's a 10% chance she's going to be an excellent slutty plate for you, and a 90% chance she's crazy. Thing is, crazy women don't do just ONE crazy thing. You spent three whole days with her... if she was crazy, there would be many red flags showing. Assuming your perceptive abilities aren't dog-shit, you would have caught on in the first couple hours. So what happened over those 72 hours?
/r/askTRP21/05/20 05:05 PM
2

Where did I mess up? You fucked up in the following ways: By not achieving & maintaining abundance mentality, allowing this oneitis to take hold. By not building any semblance of a frame. By not studying the side-bar, resulting in you thinking that BP goals can somehow be achieved with RP tactics. I tried to keep the sparks alive, such as by sending a bouquet of flowers to her office I just threw up a little bit in my mouth. Dude... you got a LOT more of RP basics to learn. This isn't even inter…
/r/askTRP21/05/20 04:58 PM
1

I was annoyed cause wtf Butthurt. Not that experienced in LTRs Now that I could already tell. You can't soft-next your way out of a shitty LTR. Your job was to properly vet her as a potential LTR back when she was in FWB status. Then you would have noticed that she wasn't worthy of promotion. Specifically, you'd notice that she was much too self-absorbed to deserve your exclusivity. That, and there were outstanding behavioral changes that you'd still need to make (i.e.: talking about period issu…
/r/askTRP21/05/20 04:46 PM
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The plate broke. It happens. If I were to guess why, it would be because she wants to be more than a plate. And since you just invited her over for more sex and not a date, she realized she's not on the path to making that happen. For future reference, you have a couple options in this scenario. The first is to keep doing what you're doing. Eventually you'll find a rotation of women who are cool with just fucking on occasion. The second is to toss them scraps from time to time to make them think…
/r/askTRP21/05/20 04:38 PM
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Silently demote to plate/FWB. If you're compromising on the necessities of your LTR, then you've made a mistake (likely due to scarcity mentality). I've personally had plates/FWBs that don't give blowjobs, and things worked out fine. When I was in the mood for a BJ, I'd just hit up one of the other women in the rotation.
/r/askTRP21/05/20 04:25 PM
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He might not be the best example to use. He doesn't give a shit because he's a retard, and can't comprehend the world. Dude went to North Korea and fell for all their bullshit propaganda because Kim Jong Un smiled and put on a show. He came back and babbled about NK being "misunderstood." Then people educated him about the death camps and he was like "...oh..." Of course that didn't stop him from going back and getting duped a second time. Because he's a retard. So to answer your question: if yo…
/r/askTRP19/05/20 05:19 AM
1

You said it only happened twice. That's not enough to necessarily conclude that you're doing something wrong. It could just be the women you picked. You could try to turn up the charm during dinner prep and eating. Escalate. Make some jokes. Throw in some kino. Also don't go for the jugular (the "hot zones" as you call them). Tease her with some kissing and leave her wanting more. That way she escalates. Work in some back/body massages to get her comfortable and relaxed. After all that, she'll b…
/r/askTRP19/05/20 04:36 AM
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What are some qualities to look for when looking for a roommate? Do they keep a clean living space, or do they create messes? What is their schedule like? Do they stay up all night and make noise while you try to sleep? Are they respectful of other people's boundaries? Are they driven to succeed in life and take school seriously, or are they just interested in partying? What are some things which I can spend money on, to increase my SMV but also to Invest in MYSELF. Look into long-term stock inv…
/r/askTRP19/05/20 04:01 AM
1

Well, that might be the key behind why guys don't like a person. Not everyone with Asperger's is disliked, but some don't manage social interactions well. Knowing if someone has Asperger's would change how to address the issue. Instead of just saying "stop giving a shit about other people" or "stop being creepy", you could come at the issue more intelligently. I'm not an expert on Asperger's, so I can't give any specifics if the answer was yes. But I'm sure there's a lot of resources available o…
/r/askTRP19/05/20 03:33 AM
2

I saw her in IG stories on my friend's instagram account. I don't use IG, but surely there's a way to block her from showing up. I have no passions really. Finding your mission is now your #1 priority in life. RP theory is a framework for following your path to self-actualization. Chasing your mission is your vehicle towards that. Too few people ever realize that this is the only path to happiness in life. Your mission cannot be assigned to you; it is unique to each person. You need to actively …
/r/askTRP18/05/20 11:33 PM
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To wonder why a woman acts the way she does is the first step to entering her frame. You shouldn't be giving a shit. Treat her comments like shit-tests. Nuke them with AA/AM responses, and she'll stop. Or she doesn't and you pull out a soft-next to put her in her place.
/r/askTRP18/05/20 10:11 PM
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Then why the "Sorry nvm" and why nothing since. It's a classic hook to get a guy's attention and try to get him to chase and initiate. But this is just an informational point, since you're in no position to safely deal with her. I didn't block her number because [...] The reason didn't matter. What matters is that you block her now on everything, and then follow the rest of the steps I suggested. What is your life mission? You do have one, right?
/r/askTRP18/05/20 09:52 PM
4

If you want a friend-with-benefits, you need to pay attention to the friend part. An FWB is like a male friend: you hang out and socialize... but you also fuck. How would a male friend feel if you ignored him for weeks? He'd feel like you're not a very good friend. So the problem is that you treated this woman as a plate. And this plate broke.
/r/askTRP18/05/20 09:49 PM
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The bigger question is: why does your life revolve around women? Why don't you have a real mission? RP theory is a framework to find your path to self-actualization. Beginners think it's but a guide for getting laid. Nope. The guys who have non-bullshit missions are using their time very wisely to learn new hobbies, further their careers, reflect on their path, and improve their lives. That's what you ought to be doing too.
/r/askTRP18/05/20 09:44 PM
2

Honest question: have you been tested for Asperger's? Do you have problems reading people's intentions?
/r/askTRP18/05/20 09:39 PM
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she texted me at 1 am on a Saturday, "Can I see you?" 1 minute later "Sorry nvm." FYI, she wanted to fuck. Those in the intermediate and advanced stages of RP theory can make this happen without any consequences, but those in the beginner phase (i.e.: you) absolutely cannot FWB an ex-LTR without failing spectacularly. But I thought I'd point it out. Why isn't her phone number blocked? Someone in your position needed to hard-next her. I've seen instagram stories of her You shouldn't be looking at…
/r/askTRP18/05/20 09:37 PM
2

What matters is action. A response is a good sign, but a penpal isn't your end goal. Escalate like any other situation. Either it works or it doesn't.
/r/askTRP18/05/20 09:31 PM
1

She hasn't told him about me. Red flag. She has announced that she is meeting him for a walk tomorrow Normally not a red flag, but becomes one in light of the other red flags. she took 2 hours to get ready to see him first time I have seen her straighten her hair in a month Red flag. Immediate hard next ? That's one option. The other option is you immediately & silently demote to FWB. Either way: no talking. There is nothing you need to talk to her about. Just decide on which option you want, an…
/r/askTRP18/05/20 06:20 PM
2

I'm just not sure what to do of it, especially when we're in a group. Isolate and escalate. Invite them to something alone with you, then escalate like any other situation. One risk you run is that they will want more than you're willing to give, they can't handle this, and blows up your friend group. On the positive side, you'd find out rather quickly who your real friends in this group are. Personally, I don't think you'd lose anything of value if that happened, but its worth being aware of.
/r/askTRP18/05/20 06:12 PM
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Have you ever heard of a "shit test"? Side-bar.
/r/askTRP18/05/20 06:06 PM
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Right, but she didn't take initiative to set up a meeting. So either you do that, which will classify you as her orbiter that she can get attention and validation from, or you soft-next her again until she's ready to play ball. If she starts some chit-chat again in a couple days, you respond with a joke or AA/AM. But it stops there. You are to show zero initiative until she starts putting in a lot more effort.
/r/askTRP18/05/20 04:45 PM
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Wait a minute... you've known her for under a month, and say "she was LTR worthy"?? No, that thought would not have entered your mind if you had proper abundance mentality. LTRs are to grow organically (i.e.: you do not look for them; they find you). You carefully vet a woman over the course of 6-12 months and look for red flags. Furthermore, her behavior shows that she's not that interested in you. You're the dick she gets from time to time when nothing better is available. You are her plate. S…
/r/askTRP18/05/20 04:17 PM
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Nope, not at all. Soft-next means she's dead to you until/if she initiates contact.
/r/askTRP18/05/20 04:06 PM
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Ok, that's new information. Yes, if you've been chasing her too much lately, its time to back off. A soft-next, though, isn't necessary. Just lay low for a couple days, then resume things like nothing happened. Soft-nexts are generally for fixing her behavior, not for fixing your mistakes.
/r/askTRP18/05/20 03:21 PM
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I generally just became cold = butthurt. In the short-term, you need to stop showing butthurt externally; that's not ever going to sploosh her panties. Then work on your frame so you don't feel butthurt internally either. Getting turned down three times doesn't mean anything. But if it becomes a pattern, and your libido is higher than hers, you may need to re-evaluate her LTR status.
/r/askTRP18/05/20 03:17 PM
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Since she got soft-nexted before for losing interest, your best move is to soft-next again. Force her to take more initiative. Otherwise, if she sees you being too available/too eager, she'll lose interest again.
/r/askTRP18/05/20 03:12 PM
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Generally, when you make a big enough of a mistake, you need to own up to it and apologize, like an adult. Small mistakes you shouldn't worry about. I zoned out of her explaining something important to me. This isn't a mistake. People's attention spans are limited, and if they're given too much to process at any one time, information gets dropped. This is fully normal human behavior. That said, you should be mindful of what's happening to you. If you're inundated at the moment, and important inf…
/r/askTRP18/05/20 03:08 PM
2

Basically just ruined all of the fucking fun, didn’t I? Based on what evidence? Anyway, soft nexting now Why? From your post, she's done absolutely nothing wrong. Soft-nexts are for when her behavior needs correcting. You next move is to act normal in front of her, as if nothing's happened. Because nothing did happen. After that, you need to learn about frame, outcome-independence, and abundance mentality. Lacking in all three has caused you to make these mistakes.
/r/askTRP18/05/20 03:02 PM
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Glad I could help. Good luck!
/r/askTRP16/05/20 05:39 PM
2

Take depression, for example. Some people are depressed because they think about the world in the wrong way. They feel entitled to success, and when the world doesn't bend over backwards to give it to them, they feel like the world fucked them over. This leads to a cycle of failure, which makes the depression worse. In this case, the root cause isn't a brain chemistry issue: its based on a flawed thought process. Once this person realizes it and changes their mindset, their depression evaporates…
/r/askTRP16/05/20 05:28 PM
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Firstly, you cannot control other people. You can only control yourself. You cannot make someone want you in their life. You can, however, apologize for any wrong things you've done in the past. After that, its up to him to decide if he wants to restore a relationship. Either way, you need to work on your frame if you're getting into "heavy arguments". Words should never engage your emotions.
/r/askTRP16/05/20 05:13 PM
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she's the first girl I may date and ultimately marry within a year You cannot achieve BP goals with RP tactics. You are posting in the wrong sub. Nobody here can help you.
/r/askTRP16/05/20 05:09 PM
3

I was sitting at McDonald’s Self-respecting people eat at McDonald's? I didn't know this. It makes me feel like there’s something wrong with me. You need to stop giving a shit about what other people think and do. You mentioned having anxiety, so perhaps it's easier said than done. I'd highly recommend working on fixing your perception and thought process first (this isn't my area of expertise, so I don't have any resources offhand for you). After giving it your best shot... if you really aren't…
/r/askTRP16/05/20 05:07 PM
1

"All I want is a son that starts praying again" "To which gods/godesses? Mankind has invented over 100,000 of them..." while also trying to not get too deep into it to not be disrespectful It goes both ways. You have every right to believe something based on facts and reason. If that offends them... that's their problem, not yours. Is this something to expect with most women, or is my sister just toxic? This is a religious nutjob problem, not a woman problem. But the end result is the same: toxi…
/r/askTRP16/05/20 02:12 AM
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Why do you like to waste your time? Read my comments again.
/r/askTRP16/05/20 12:02 AM
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Oh lol
/r/askTRP15/05/20 08:41 PM
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Glad I could help lol
/r/askTRP15/05/20 08:10 PM
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Using my time wisely? Yes, very much so. I also help out on this sub from time to time. lol Pro-tip: "lol" is often interpreted as a nervous laugh. I means "hey, I'm not too confident in this thing I just said, so if you disagree, I wasn't really being serious..." Try writing without it for a while, and you'll see what I mean.
/r/askTRP15/05/20 08:07 PM
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Yes, she was DTF. It doesn't get more obvious than that. The better question, though, is why are you stuck living in the past? If you had a non-bullshit mission, you wouldn't be worried about missed opportunities in the past, because you'd have plenty of new ones coming up. What is your mission?
/r/askTRP15/05/20 07:55 PM
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Why do you give a shit? Rhetorical question, because I already know the answer is because you don't have a real mission. This quarantine has been a true gift to those who have their shit together in life. More time to work on your startup business, more time to learn new hobbies, more time for introspection, more time to properly plan your diet. Put your extra time to good use instead of wasting it worrying about other people.
/r/askTRP15/05/20 07:51 PM
2

One time your wife was PMSing a bit and the kid was getting on her nerves. "One more peep out of you, and you'll spend the weekend with your old dad, and Todd & I will go without you!!" She knew she fucked up even before her kid burst into tears. After the dust settled she realized that, with her new life, she really doesn't have much to complain about...
/r/askTRP15/05/20 06:47 PM
1

Even the detectives noticed she moved on a little too soon. But her alibi checked out, and the evidence of an accidental drowning was all consistent. They soon concluded she was just making the best of an unfortunate turn of events. Does it make you feel better that your kid was depressed for a couple months? More so for losing the concept of a dad, than anything. But Todd's got that charisma, you know? It didn't take many awesome weekend trips before the three of them were starting to look like…
/r/askTRP15/05/20 06:05 PM
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You gotta admit: Todd's a pretty good guy, and he's great with kids. Your kid sure is happy when they go to the park together, so you can't be too upset about that... Your wife... well... its hard to get over the fact that she moved on so fast. You're not even gone four fucking weeks, and she was already meeting guys for coffee?? Get another 6-pack before you head out this weekend.
/r/askTRP15/05/20 05:47 PM
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It got into your head, didn't it. You're really picturing your kid having fun on the weekends with their new, cool step-dad. But beer takes the edge off, right? Speaking of which, how much are you bringing with you this weekend? You have time to get more, right?
/r/askTRP15/05/20 04:57 PM
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When you're drunk and fishing this weekend, you're going to think to yourself, "If I drowned, would my wife and kid miss me?" Nope. Your wife would pretend to be upset, but she'd be on the dating market in under 4 weeks. If your kid is under 10, they wouldn't know you enough for the resentment to take hold. So they'd miss the concept of you. So...that’s a no on the $8 then? No. I'll give you $800 if you promise to spend it all on alcohol this weekend by yourself. Again... the quicker your kid ge…
/r/askTRP15/05/20 04:26 PM
2

You almost sound as retarded as OP. You got a 1-2 buckets of lead paint chips to eat before catching up. But you're making good progress!
/r/askTRP15/05/20 04:06 PM
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It’s always the same people eviscerating over there, I need some redshirts Oh ok. Well, I have no problem roasting yet another retard. How old is your kid? I'm hoping they're under 5, that way his future step-dad can replace you more easily. You know... without the therapy. I'm actually starting to regret calling you out now. Because instead of this family imploding sooner and getting it over with, now you might understand 8-12% of what I said. This will delay the divorce by a couple years, whic…
/r/askTRP15/05/20 04:04 PM
1

I have better things to do than try to "win over" some girl I never suggested that you should. I suggested words.
/r/askTRP15/05/20 03:01 PM
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I very rarely get attitude back, because I filter that shit out before I start talking to anyone. For me, its pretty easy to pick out the cunts from 8 miles away. I'm kind of amazed by the other guys in here who can't... then they get angry at women in general for it.
/r/askTRP15/05/20 02:13 PM
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This post perfectly encapsulates the essence of a drunk captain. Focused on sex instead of leading the family? Check. Disregards family's interests for personal interests? Check. Dude... I'll give you $6 if you copy/paste your post into the AskMRP sub. I want to watch them eviscerate you for your autism. I feel bad that the kid has a shitty dad. But on the bright side, maybe his future step-dad will be pretty cool and makes up for it! Hopefully your wife picks a real captain next time.
/r/askTRP15/05/20 02:10 PM
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One of the markers of guys still in the beginner phase of RP knowledge is that they hard-next everyone when even the slightest shit-test is tossed at their wet paper bag of a frame. And hey... I'm not criticizing you for being a beginner. We all were at some point.
/r/askTRP15/05/20 01:59 PM
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"I'm trying to hold back so I don't get another stalker." "And what's in it for me?" "I don't think you bring enough to the table for me to try, though."
/r/askTRP15/05/20 01:57 PM
2

I mentioned IT since its pretty easy to get into and makes a lot. I don't know about automation testing, but if it makes more, then go for it. Find the skills you're missing, and spend your nights and weekends learning them.
/r/askTRP14/05/20 06:53 PM
3

Gain abundance mentality so you stop giving a shit.
/r/askTRP14/05/20 06:50 PM
2

As a software tester, you got your foot in the door for IT. Talk to the IT admins at your company. Ask them what skills a junior admin would need to get into that role. Then work nights & weekends to learn what you need. Get good at IT, and VERY high paying opportunities will open up for you.
/r/askTRP14/05/20 06:47 PM
2

It doesn't resolve around a woman like you think Oh it doesn't? Because my browser says "she" appeared in your post twenty-eight (28) times. You're lacking the self-awareness needed to fix the root cause of being a tampon.
/r/askTRP14/05/20 06:37 PM
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At 23 years old, you're barely scratching the surface for your full potential as a man. You've got a LOT more to go. a solid career Oh, you're already founded a Fortune 100 company? You already changed the world with it? How long is your Wikipedia biography page? DM the link to me, please. Glad to hear you're on the right track for your career, but if you think you're "done" with moving it forward, it'll all implode on you. Or you'll tread water while everyone else steamrolls you. What if my mis…
/r/askTRP14/05/20 06:28 PM
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She pulled back and said she didnt wanna be used Your move was to say "oh, ok", then casually walk out the door. Then soft-next until she responds to your escalations. There's no getting upset. You just remove your attention and focus on your next opportunity.
/r/askTRP14/05/20 04:02 PM
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If i just stayed in touch with the community i would be happy knowing my future is secured. This is classic BP thinking. "I'm entitled to a good family life once the rings are on." No, women are women regardless of culture and religion. They still want a strong man with a vision. They still want to follow someone who will lead them to success. Your peers who are getting married way too young don't know this, and they're going to have a very rough time soon... I've been reading redpill for a year…
/r/askTRP14/05/20 03:58 PM
3

You've done fine with the very first steps. Your next move is to escalate.
/r/askTRP14/05/20 03:47 PM
3

"It takes money to make money." Get an old-fashioned job and scrape together initial seed money.
/r/askTRP14/05/20 03:44 PM
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I'm top of my class in University Yet you don't know how to use paragraphs? how do I find and keep my frame Stop giving a shit about women and start caring about yourself and your mission. Count the number of "she"'s in your post. Your whole thought process revolves around a woman. It should instead be revolving around your goals in life.
/r/askTRP14/05/20 03:42 PM
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She needs to put in effort to send you a direct message for you to respond. Otherwise, you'll just be playing into her orbiter plans. Ignore everything on social media. But you should be doing that anyway...
/r/askTRP14/05/20 01:59 PM
2

I don’t understand why they do it. Because they're not your friends.
/r/askTRP14/05/20 01:10 PM
0

By soft-nexting, you signaled to her that you're higher SMV. Hence, she's now at least a little interested. If you game her properly, you can fuck her. If you don't, she'll try to make you her orbiter. Keep ignoring her reactions on social media, but escalate the next time she reaches out to you directly. Either she's receptive to it, or she goes back on soft-next.
/r/askTRP14/05/20 01:04 PM
1

Your post breaks Rule 1 of this sub. When you over-use boldface, you simply make it harder to read the text instead of drawing attention to a key point like you intended. You sound angry. Why have people's LTR posts triggered your emotions? (Rhetorical question.) The guys with strong frame didn't get triggered.
/r/askTRP14/05/20 12:59 PM
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My LTR is definitely the type to crave male attention These are the types of women you do not promote to LTR status. Your vetting process should have picked up on this while she was in FWB territory and permanently disqualified her from further promotion. What’s the likelihood she ends up fucking this dude? Doesn't matter. What matters is that it's just a matter of time. Eventually the right guy is going to hit on her at the grocery store, and she'll be putty in his hands. What do you guys think…
/r/askTRP14/05/20 03:02 AM
1

We fight and argue routinely Never argue with a woman. usually finds a way to get arguments from anything "I know I can get his attention and control him with arguments, since he's easily taken the bait in the past, so I'm going to do it again now!" I assume she wasn’t always like this. Well, either your vetting abilities are dog-shit, or your poor leadership lead her down this path. Since then she recommended space "because I immediately smothered her for validation since I'm a good little beta…
/r/askTRP13/05/20 11:20 PM
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Sounds like you don't have a mission. You're starting to realize first-hand why having one is so important: because women on their own do not lead to long-term happiness and fulfillment.
/r/askTRP13/05/20 11:11 PM
1

Nobody can control you but you. Either do things that you want to do, or don't.
/r/askTRP13/05/20 11:09 PM
0

If you properly vetted your LTR (which 99% of guys never do), then you'd already know that it was a mistake and you wouldn't be worried. This event on its own means nothing.
/r/askTRP13/05/20 10:33 PM
1

Do your job well, make sure it's known, and you have nothing to worry about.
/r/askTRP13/05/20 10:28 PM
1

You did fine. Other options include AA/AM responses. Study up on shit-tests in the side-bar.
/r/askTRP13/05/20 10:24 PM
2

Guys often come in here asking for help with oneitis, thinking that their case is special. It never is, and this one isn't either. The standard method to get over it (which is known to work extremely well) is to block her everywhere, work on your mission, and spin other plates. Eventually you'll forget all about her. My Asian parents are strict and loving but they make me feel worthless and at times suicidal. Work hard on your mission and ignore what anyone else says--including your parents. Its…
/r/askTRP13/05/20 10:23 PM
3

Your move was to say "no problem", followed by an immediate soft-next.
/r/askTRP13/05/20 10:17 PM
1

You're on the brink of oneitis, so yes... you need to dial down your attention to her while you work on fixing your frame.
/r/askTRP13/05/20 10:13 PM
1

Cool story, bro.
/r/askTRP13/05/20 07:20 PM
1

Many people in your position have tried, but very few have succeeded.
/r/askTRP13/05/20 07:17 PM
2

Some people don't have the ability to do things in moderation. Sounds like that's you. Your only option, then, is to avoid those things entirely... including the people who tempt you with it.
/r/askTRP13/05/20 06:53 PM
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I asked this girl [...] who her ex was. You shouldn't be giving a shit. Get a non-bullshit mission and you'll find that you have actually important things to be worrying about.
/r/askTRP13/05/20 06:51 PM
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she chased after my sister with a butcher knife and stabbed the door saying shes gonna kill her That's when you call the police. she just threatened to kill me. CALL THE POLICE NOW! Get the fuck off Reddit immediately and call the police.
/r/askTRP13/05/20 06:44 PM
3

Its a basic shit-test to try to pull you into her frame. I just sent a 'lol ok?' Protip: "lol" often comes off as a nervous laugh. Cut that out. Study up on Agree & Amplify (AA) and Amused Mastery (AM) responses. This is basic side-bar material.
/r/askTRP13/05/20 06:41 PM
1

And let me guess... the reason you're wasting time thinking about this horse shit is because you have a bullshit mission, if you even have one at all? Given the choice But nobody has this choice. Thinking about it is just mental masturbation while the clock is ticking down. Did you fucking lift today? How's your startup business doing? Worry about the real things that bring you happiness and success, not this bullshit.
/r/askTRP13/05/20 06:39 PM
1

Sounds like your dad is indeed a piece of shit. Hard nexting girls is one thing but completely cutting off my father is another thing. You hard-next anyone in your life who is toxic... including family members. It may not be easy because you want to cling to hope that he might turn around and start being a good dad, but the chances of that are slim. "The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior." Once you get a clear pattern of behavior over years of time, that's pretty much it. They w…
/r/askTRP13/05/20 06:34 PM
6

If you want That's the thing: I don't. Nobody does. Delete this wall of text and write another post with three paragraphs or less. Then people will read it.
/r/askTRP13/05/20 06:28 PM
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Pay me $25 and I'll be motivated to read this novel and give you advice.
/r/askTRP13/05/20 04:07 PM
1

You sound like a 19 year old who learned the basics and now thinks they're an expert. Also: why did a few words cause such an emotional response from you? Rhetorical question, because I already know the answer.
/r/askTRP13/05/20 04:05 PM
2

she was in a committed relationship at the time but still flirted. (Red Flag 1) This is not a red flag for plates/FWBs. This would, however, tell you that she may never ascend past these levels into LTR status. Now I know I’m still in relationship mode, literally weeks off a breakup. You need to break out of this. LTRs are to grow organically after a woman put in the effort through the plate and FWB phases over the course of 6-12 months. The fact that you're immediately looking for a relationshi…
/r/askTRP13/05/20 01:10 PM
1

any tips and tricks to actually get it done? Realize that your happiness is important. Realize that other people's emotions are not your responsibility. Also: stop being a little bitch. But that's not going to happen, now is it.
/r/askTRP13/05/20 12:43 AM
1

What's my motivation to read this wall of text?
/r/askTRP13/05/20 12:38 AM
1

You need to take an active role in the process. What did you used to dream of doing? What job approximates that? Then talk to people actually working in the field. Are they happy with it? What don't they like? What's their day-to-day life like? Quite a lot of people land in careers because they imagined it to be a certain way, then get miserable when its not what TV/movies portray it as. (Law especially comes to mind...) In 2020, you can easily find tens of thousands of hours of content on any h…
/r/askTRP12/05/20 07:32 PM
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Im fucking entitled to some emotion Indeed you are. And non-shitty women that you invite into your life would be perfectly OK with accepting this. So it comes down to two possibilities. Either you really lost control (you used the word "rage") and you set off red flags in her mind, or you picked a shitty girlfriend. Which is it?
/r/askTRP12/05/20 04:46 PM
3

Some people do everything they can to drag you down out of jealousy. If they can't be successful, then they don't want you to be either. These people are toxic and are to be removed from your life. It doesn't matter if they were your best friend for 10+ years, or even a family member. Once it becomes clear what's happening, they're out. But here you are, worried about what an ex-coworker is doing. That tells me a lot about your frame...
/r/askTRP12/05/20 03:52 PM
3

I want to decline So the decision, when made within your own frame, is to decline? Then you decline, period. Part of me thinks this plate will break Worrying about what a woman thinks is to operate in her frame. Also, you lack outcome-independence. (Which of course I don’t care about) "Except I do, since I made a post about how to best operate in a plate's frame to keep her from leaving me."
/r/askTRP12/05/20 03:47 PM
2

stopped working out after the covid bullshit, got fat as fuck There are plenty of bodyweight exercises you can do with no equipment. You can also start walking, jogging, and/or biking outside now that its warm. Being in lockdown is not an excuse. been abusing benzo drugs for a few months [...] going trough withdrawals. This shit is serious. Many people die from them--even after they quit due to relapses. You need professional help for this immediately. Im college for IT,stopped learning code a f…
/r/askTRP12/05/20 02:24 PM
1

Some guys have a high sex drive, so sex many times per week isn't a stretch by any means. And regarding the drama/time investment, you are 100% in charge of that. You choose who you let into your life, how long they stay, and how they're allowed to act (through boundary enforcement). For starters, I have a well-tuned filter to eliminate high-drama women from the get-go. From there, its mostly smooth sailing. If they text me too much, I dial down my attention until its at the level that I want. E…
/r/askTRP12/05/20 02:14 PM
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Some women are DTF right away. Some women need to feel validated before they'll fuck. One of the cornerstones of RP theory is that you should always be doing what YOU want. So if talking to a woman is too boring for you, then don't do it. Never re-arrange your priorities just to get pussy.
/r/askTRP12/05/20 02:09 PM
1

When you find your mission, you'll actually look forward to going in to work on Mondays. You'll even feel a little resentment when Friday creeps up on you too soon. Sure, sometimes you'll get burned out and need a break, but most of the time, you'll be very happy with your work life. You need to find your mission. This isn't something other people can simply assign to you. Its different and unique for everyone. You have to take initiative to find what your calling is. Things are difficult right …
/r/askTRP12/05/20 02:03 PM
1

Sorry for your loss. I, too, lost a friend in recent times. There isn't really anything to do. You think about things, you feel bad, you feel better, you feel bad again. It all happens on its own whether you want to or not. Eventually you come to accept it. You'll still be sad and even angry from time to time, but the waves don't hit you as often or as strongly as they did at first. You just keep moving.
/r/askTRP12/05/20 01:57 PM
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I don't know what her deal is. She wants the power rush that she gets when she acquires a new orbiter, that's what. She just randomly sent me a message telling me how rude it is that I ignore her texts [...] what gives? Its a manipulation tactic to pull you into her frame.
/r/askTRP08/05/20 05:11 PM
0

The only thing different here is that she's your neighbor. Think in terms of worst-case scenarios: you fuck her a couple times, she wants more but you don't, she gets upset. Now you have a resentful neighbor. Are you ok with this possibility? For me, this falls in the same category as women at my gym. My gym is my safe place. I'm there to lift my fucking face off, and get out with no drama. I don't want the distraction of a woman giving me dirty looks, bad-mouthing me, etc.
/r/askTRP08/05/20 05:09 PM
4

This is what scarcity mentality looks like.
/r/askTRP08/05/20 01:41 PM
28

What would a hot guy with other options and an important career do? That should be your thought process.
/r/askTRP08/05/20 01:36 AM
1

I don’t mind dropping her. Why would you do that? She's done nothing wrong. If anything, her cheating past would prevent her from ascending into LTR status in the future. As long as a plate/FWB is still fun, you keep her. I’ve been extremely bothered these last couple days This is due to your insecurity. You think she's yours? Nope. She's a plate. She's free to fuck other guys--and she probably already is. The real problem is your mindset in relation to your plates.
/r/askTRP07/05/20 07:41 PM
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wants to be together with me but wants me to change myself for the better. And since you have weak frame and scarcity mentality, you're going to let a woman chip away at your identity. How should I proceed to keep this ltr alive "How can I use RP tactics to achieve my BP goals?" And here is yet another example on why you don't get yourself into LTR's in your early 20's: you don't have solid frame, nor experience with women in order to withstand their pressure tactics.
/r/askTRP07/05/20 07:33 PM
1

That's a moral decision that only you can make. The way I see it, their relationship is fundamentally broken already. It'll remain broken if I fuck them or not, therefore it has no effect on my decision-making process.
/r/askTRP07/05/20 07:28 PM
1

Study up on LMR-busting techniques. Yes, you can fuck her.
/r/askTRP07/05/20 07:26 PM
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Is this a red flag? No.
/r/askTRP07/05/20 07:25 PM
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simply cannot always get put down to the man for the ending of a relationship. "I refuse to take responsibility for the failures in my life." You're putting women on a pedestal Nope. It goes against the "Law of Averages" No idea what this even means. Protip: when presenting a point in an argument, be sure to include supporting statements & evidence. You can do everything right, and you can be numero uno at vetting, but you will get caught out at some point. No LTR will last forever... and nor sh…
/r/askTRP07/05/20 05:39 PM
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OP never cheated, she did. Indeed. But beginners never ask themselves "why"? Simple: because your SMV was never high enough to keep her interest and/or you promoted the wrong woman to LTR status. All that is YOUR FAULT. One of the key markers of guys in the intermediate and advanced levels of RP knowledge is the realization that women aren't doing anything wrong. They're simply acting like evolution programmed them. They, like all humans, are self-interested creatures. There's no anger. There's …
/r/askTRP07/05/20 03:28 PM
2

LTRs in your early 20's are always a bad idea. You only barely learned how women work, so its not going to go well. And like you said, you're stuck with fucking only one woman, when there's an entire world of others out there. but when we're together it just brings me so much joy. This is the beginnings of oneitis, caused by scarcity mentality. Thinking long term happiness [...] Women can not and will not ever give you happiness and fulfillment in life. That alone comes from following your missi…
/r/askTRP07/05/20 03:16 PM
1

Looking back now, I don't know if agreeing to do fun couple shit was a big blunder on my part or not and thats what I have come here ask you guys. Your blunder was allowing yourself to fall into oneitis. You may have read some RP material, but you've never internalized it. But my question for now is, should I actively avoid doing fun things outside of the bedroom with women henceforth? That is absolutely not the solution. Until you internalize the basics of RP theory, you will always get oneitis…
/r/askTRP07/05/20 03:06 PM
1

I've started going to the gym about 3 months ago Well here's your problem. Three months is nothing. In fact, you didn't even come close to maxing out your beginner gains yet! You got another couple years before you build a decent body. I never had sex or a girlfriend(17M) but I tried on at least a dozen girls which all of them rejected me but they were all like 7,8 or 9 So you're a 4/10 and you're surprised when 7+'s reject you? If you were farther along with your lifting and still having troubl…
/r/askTRP07/05/20 02:57 PM
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Today, i hit her with screenshots Why? So you could vent your butthurt? Get validation from her for your decision? To inflict emotional distress for your own satisfaction? Each possible reason is a lame blue-pill reason. Count me out in exclusive dating, this bitches got none to offer other than pussy And here we have another beginner in RP theory who can't fully understand women. It's not her fault. It was YOURS. YOU failed to vet her properly. YOU failed to keep your SMV high. She merely acted…
/r/askTRP07/05/20 02:40 PM
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She's handling this well so far, so that's a plus. the apartment office is generally unresponsive. Learn how to be a pain in the ass. Its easy to ignore one complaint, but how about one complaint every 24 hours for days on end? The squeaky wheel gets the oil. then report to the police I'm not seeing anything in this post that warrants getting the police involved. Making inappropriate comments while doing his job won't get you a police order of protection nor a court's restraining order. You shou…
/r/askTRP06/05/20 05:13 PM
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asking if I'm okay "Yeah, why?" Then continue the conversation as if nothing had happened.
/r/askTRP06/05/20 05:05 PM
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Your SMV was never high enough to for this half-open LTR. That's where the problem was. If you had high enough SMV, she would not have dumped you for not marrying her. Instead, you were in the "chump provider" range. What's the value to her of keeping a chump provider who won't fully commit? Nothing whatsoever. She got back together with you for dick and free meals. Despite her words, she had no real motivation to give you exclusivity, especially after learning that she couldn't reel her chump p…
/r/askTRP06/05/20 05:04 PM
1

"No problem." Then resume talking about whatever you want. You're overthinking this.
/r/askTRP06/05/20 02:52 PM
1

Friend tried to AMOG me in front of one of my plates I had a "friend" like this in high school through my early 20's. He was really insecure with himself, and would never pass up an opportunity to throw me under the bus. It was tiresome. Eventually I ended our friendship over it. No regrets. She is an 8, keeps the betas at bay)only uses them for attention Women that seek attention and validation from strangers are NOT girlfriend material. The ideal LTR candidate is someone you vet for 6-12 month…
/r/askTRP06/05/20 02:48 PM
1

If it became a minor annoyance, I'd put her in a time-out for 12-24 hours. If she kept doing it, I'd upgrade it into a soft-next.
/r/askTRP06/05/20 02:40 PM
2

On face value, this is just a silly shit-test. However, it may also imply mental instability. If you know how to filter out the crazies (most men don't), and she's not throwing red flags in this department, then you just treat it like any other shit-test. Otherwise hard-next. Never stick your dick in crazy.
/r/askTRP06/05/20 02:37 PM
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In the end, you cannot control other people. You can only control yourself. That said, you can have a talk with her and explain the issue. Sounds like that probably won't work, but its worth a shot anyway. After that, all you can do is minimize her in your life and try to head off the problems she makes ahead of time. If you know that she's damaging your relationship with someone (or is about to), deal with it as early as possible. If she's really a moron and you're not, then worthwhile people w…
/r/askTRP06/05/20 02:33 PM
2

Yes I do. I'm talking about injecting two (2) gallons of steriods into butt-cheeks, since there's apparently "no longterm study showing significant health risks." That means there's no limit! 550lb slab of muscle, here I come!! lmao How many gallons did you get in before your ass fell off?
/r/askTRP06/05/20 02:26 AM
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Well, then! Inject one gallon of Tren-A into your left ass-cheek, and inject another gallon of Tren-E into your right! Let's get this party started!!
/r/askTRP06/05/20 01:41 AM
1

Estrogen is not a bad hormone to have its very important in the male body. I'm aware.
/r/askTRP05/05/20 10:39 PM
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I've never used them, but I've done research on the topic. Some people get absolutely no short-term side-effects, and others get plagued by them. Seems to depend on the person. Long-term side effects are very common for everyone. When your body gets blasted with extra testosterone for years, it'll stop producing it naturally and increase its estrogen output; quitting entirely later can leave you with a rather fucked up physique and energy level. There is an increase rate for various cancers. Whe…
/r/askTRP05/05/20 06:34 PM
2

What can I do to handle confrontations in a better way Study up on Agree & Amplify (AA) and Amused Mastery (AM) responses. Basically, you'd not take them so seriously and roll with it. You'd entertain yourself. I am a coward, have been so most of my life and I am sick of it. I wanna be brave and confident, i wanna be that guy who no one wants to mess with. Then you should be pumping iron like your life depends on it. Slam protein in your face every day (if you're not sick & tired of chicken in t…
/r/askTRP05/05/20 06:25 PM
1

I see some older guys saying that they heyday of game was in the mid 2000s to 2010s. And that it's less effective now. I ran game back then too, and I can say this is false. The game was different back then... not necessarily better. I simply adapted to the changing times. In fact, for me personally, its gotten even easier than before! Anyone who says its gotten harder simply peaked already and can't deal with their crashing SMV. Its their own fault for getting lazy and refusing to do what it ta…
/r/askTRP05/05/20 05:35 PM
1

You can buy clippers for $13 and do it yourself. Might not be your ideal hair style, but it'll grow back. Besides, you need perfect hair for the next couple months for some reason?
/r/askTRP05/05/20 05:27 PM
2

Aside from buried in my post history somewhere... nothing comes to mind.
/r/askTRP05/05/20 03:59 PM
1

All women like attention and validation (as do men), but some are particularly fixated on it. You should be able to spot these types out easily: everything they do revolves around getting attention from strangers. Their social media is a thirst-trap, its impossible for them to wear non-revealing clothing outside, etc. These types of women are only loyal to whoever gives them the most attention in the last 24 hours. Obviously, they make horrible LTRs. On the other hand, the ideal LTR candidate st…
/r/askTRP05/05/20 02:24 PM
2

Very few people have shitty genetics that keep them skinny, but many jump to that conclusion without realizing they're not eating enough calories and protein. The first step is to find your TDEE (total daily energy expenditure). This is the amount of calories you need to maintain your weight. There are plenty of websites/apps to calculate it for you (search "TDEE calculator"), but it's essentially a formula based on your height, weight, age, gender, and activity level. If, say, your TDEE was 2,0…
/r/askTRP05/05/20 12:14 AM
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A woman who would cheat on a vacation without you would also cheat when a guy hits on her at the grocery store. The solution to both scenarios, then, is to only LTR women who show greater loyalty to you (note that this loyalty is never absolute; it is relative, and there are plenty of women won't/can't respect you enough to resist that temptation. Those women should get eliminated during your vetting process). In other words, if you vet your LTR properly, and you pay attention to her primary mot…
/r/askTRP05/05/20 12:06 AM
3

Yes, social media has spread this concept of entitlement to some middle/upper middle class circles. But still: this doesn't affect supply & demand whatsoever. They will either land with a man that the dating market considers to be equivalent, or they stay single. Period. Just because another 10 people (out the hundreds) showed up to the dealership this weekend and demanded a car for $10K, doesn't mean the dealership has any increased motivation to lower the price. There are still many other buye…
/r/askTRP04/05/20 07:42 PM
3

but I can’t help but have so much regret and think about all the youthful years my depression took away from me. I constantly compare myself to my peers who are all having fun and experiencing the college lifestyle [...] When I was in undergrad, I broke my fucking ass with two STEM majors and a part-time internship. I wrote papers, studied for tests, and worked my job on weekend nights while everyone else was partying around me. One time I got assigned a new school project that was due in three …
/r/askTRP04/05/20 07:19 PM
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Social media has amplified the idea in some circles that they're entitled to so much, but don't have to bring anything to the table themselves. However, that doesn't greatly affect who they're able to actually get because the mechanics of supply & demand aren't different. Consider this: if you went into a car dealership and demanded that they sell you a $30K car for $10K, how do you think that would play out? Simple: the forces of supply & demand would very strongly dictate the outcome. If there…
/r/askTRP04/05/20 07:02 PM
1

we will get into a big argument Never argue with a woman. You will only get drawn into their frame. I started to not argue as much and let her win sometimes just so that it doesn’t damage the relationship. This would be lack of outcome-independence, lack of abundance mentality, and weak frame... none of which you even understand at this point (hint: the side-bar will tell you). when my mum asks me for money to borrow Never lend money to family or friends. You run the strong risk of permanently d…
/r/askTRP04/05/20 06:47 PM
1

Stop being a lazy-ass and read the side-bar.
/r/askTRP04/05/20 06:39 PM
3

First of all, you made a mistake by talking about it. Women let their looks slip when they're with a guy they know they can take for granted. In her mind, you're classified as her provider who will always be with her no matter what. She doesn't see that you have other options. Apply dread. Dial down your attention to her, and spit some game at other women. Develop abundance mentality. She'll notice that you're a hot guy who has other women available--prettier women, no less. At that point, she w…
/r/askTRP04/05/20 06:35 PM
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What should I do? Strangers on the internet cannot tell you what you want. However, I can point out that your post implies you lack outcome-independence and abundance mentality. You also don't seem to realize that this may be a shit-test. So even though you've been "applying redpill in my life and ran game on her all through the relationship", you don't seem to have internalized these core beginner concepts. You have more work to do.
/r/askTRP04/05/20 02:20 PM
2

Side-bar. This is called "soft-nexting", and is very, very well documented.
/r/askTRP04/05/20 02:15 PM
3

I steered the pillow talk towards sex frequency. I actually laughed while reading this. Now I'm trying my best not to make a comment about this being the gayest thing I read in a month. Here's constructive feedback: affection cannot be negotiated. Either you act like a strong man who naturally splooshes her panties, or she'll re-frame you in her mind as her safe provider. Or sometimes, a particular woman will never appreciate you despite being your best self; in that case, you replace her with s…
/r/askTRP04/05/20 02:14 PM
1

There's no magic to it. When the time comes, just suggest you meet for coffee/a drink/etc. She'll probably accept given her past reactions. Then you just be your normal charming self and escalate occasionally.
/r/askTRP03/05/20 02:06 PM
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This quarantine is a godsend for those who have a mission and are working hard on it. Stop worrying about women and put your extra time to good use.
/r/askTRP03/05/20 02:03 PM
1

Do you know what victim-puke is? Its basically your entire post. Time to put your big-boy pants on, my dude. Sounds like now is a good time for you to go into monk-mode and pour your heart & soul into getting your mind and mission in order. The good news is you're probably in quarantine, so this will be much easier. Start studying and internalizing the side-bar. Realize that women are self-interested humans like all humans are, and they pursue goals accordingly. They have flaws like everyone, bu…
/r/askTRP03/05/20 01:49 PM
1

Part of life is that things can come up at the last minute. Canceling plans every once in a while is normal. When that happens, there's nothing wrong with suggesting another time. But pay attention. If this becomes a pattern over time, then the ball will be in her court to re-schedule. Eventually this can earn her a soft or even a hard-next.
/r/askTRP03/05/20 01:42 PM
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It means you definitely have a shot. Women won't invite losers over, but rather guys they want to further things with. Go there and cook/study/whatever she said. After a little while, start escalating.
/r/askTRP03/05/20 01:39 PM
21

This is a normal question for someone who is a beginner and doesn't understand women. If you want to be toxic to randos, Twitter would be more your speed.
/r/askTRP03/05/20 01:36 PM
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This is a basic shit-test, my dude. The fact that it got into your head means you failed it. Read up and study the basics of shit-tests. You're not going to get very far if you can't even identify them.
/r/askTRP03/05/20 01:34 PM
1

Read the rules of the sub. Your post breaks Rule 1.
/r/askTRP03/05/20 01:33 PM
1

This post violates Rule 1.
/r/askTRP03/05/20 01:31 PM
1

Ok, kids... this is what operating in a woman's frame looks like. OP doesn't have enough real shit to do in his career and life that he's over-analyzing his LTR's text timings. Because he lacks abundance mentality and outcome-independence, he's overflowing with insecurity. He also doesn't know how to properly vet women he promotes to LTR status, because if he did, he wouldn't be worried about this nonsense.
/r/askTRP01/05/20 10:43 PM
2

Treat it as a shit-test. And if she's serious... her loss! You'll just replace her with three FWB's.
/r/askTRP01/05/20 10:38 PM
2

Men aren't friends with women. And furthermore, they aren't in your life right now either, so what do you have to lose? If they're interesting, escalate. Otherwise ignore.
/r/askTRP01/05/20 04:54 PM
1

She likes talking to you and got your attention. That's your sign to escalate. Also, work on your spelling and grammar. That counts for a lot these days.
/r/askTRP01/05/20 04:52 PM
3

Found the 14 year old.
/r/askTRP01/05/20 04:51 PM
4

You think TRP is just about running game on women? Nope. TRP is a guide for attaining self-actualization. And there are many things you can do to further your mission at this time. But in your case, you need to start by 1.) understanding why a mission is needed, and 2.) start looking for one. This quarantine is a godsend to those who have at least the beginnings of their shit together.
/r/askTRP01/05/20 11:30 AM
1

You're not ignoring him hard enough. But if that doesn't work, tell him to stop bothering you. One of those two methods is guaranteed to work.
/r/askTRP30/04/20 10:17 PM
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I've been on TRP for almost 4 years now [...] Decided to LTR a plate of 2 months Wait, you've been reading TRP for 4 years and you STILL didn't learn how to properly vet women?? I know all girls stalk their exes, but isn't this a little far? Yes. Will the police even do anything about it? Hey, I know a way you can find out! Collect and keep all her communication, but do not respond to any of it. Radio silence. Next time something happens, get the police involved immediately. Ask for an order of …
/r/askTRP30/04/20 10:16 PM
1

You LTR'ed the wrong woman. If you vetted her properly, you wouldn't have made this mistake.
/r/askTRP30/04/20 10:08 PM
2

False claims by who? Your girlfriend, or her narcissistic daughter? But either way, if you're not enjoying yourself in their company, you should remove yourself from the situation until it improves. The core of RP theory says you should always be doing what YOU want. Also: never argue with a woman. You have nothing to gain from it. Women need to either follow your lead, or they get the fuck out, post-haste. Moving forward, I'd put your girlfriend into a time-out to cool off, then I'd lay down th…
/r/askTRP30/04/20 03:00 PM
2

Should I or should I not answer and explain? Should I give only the direct answer (Yes/no) and wait for them to see if they want a longer explanation, or should I give the full explanation by default (the way a professor would do)? You can learn quite a bit by teaching, because students always find a way to ask questions about what you don't know. So you're forced to think in new ways and understand the material deeper. As long as you're not doing it because you're a spineless people-pleaser, bu…
/r/askTRP30/04/20 02:45 PM
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I have my own house [...] me and her mother had a massive go at her and I've not been back since Dude. This is YOUR fucking house. You do not abandon your house. Surely, they must have their own place, no? Go back to your house, and immediately start loading up their things. The only words out of your mouth should be "I am dropping your stuff off at your place." No talking. No arguing. Just silent action. Its up to your girlfriend to crack the whip on her kid. And if her kid has this shitty atti…
/r/askTRP30/04/20 02:24 PM
3

Is this post real? Dude... why do you give a shit about whether lipstick lesbians are real? You're wasting time thinking about this bullshit when you should be working on your mission. You do have a mission... right?
/r/askTRP30/04/20 01:36 AM
1

You sound triggered due to weak frame. Do you need a hug? Spend your time fixing that broken frame you have. You got another 12-18 months before things are back to normal.
/r/askTRP29/04/20 05:54 PM
0

Personally, that seemed disrespectful to say it wasn’t worth her time to communicate with me. You shouldn't be caring. I just have a hard time accepting that I couldn’t make my girlfriend cum if I decided to LTR her. The fact that you're here making this post confirms that this is a problem for you. Hence, because she isn't exactly what you want, she is not worthy of an LTR. I’m paranoid she is just using sex to lock me down and once I commit (or even married if it goes far enough) the sex will …
/r/askTRP29/04/20 03:02 PM
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but i wanna show her "I need to seek her attention and validation, because I learned a couple RP ideas, but failed to internalize them." How would you proceed in this situation? I would immediately smack myself upside the head. Then I'd hard-next her, and get to work reading the side-bar. Then I'd start looking for a non-bullshit mission.
/r/askTRP29/04/20 02:54 PM
2

She's streamer [...] she's hot and we hit it off. You are her orbiter. You will never stick your penis into her vagina. This chick is really getting to me. [...] It's the way she spoke to me and how hot she is. She is very well-versed in acquiring new orbiters. And it's how she makes money. It's not oneitis exactly cause I have other girls I care about Yep.... it's oneitis. this infatuation is a recurring issue with me when a really hot funny chick spends time talking to me You need to start rea…
/r/askTRP29/04/20 02:51 PM
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Sounds like you should read the raisedbynarcissists subreddit. Plenty of people have cut their parents out of their lives, and it can work extremely well. Just make sure you go completely no-contact. Half-measures often make things worse.
/r/askTRP29/04/20 02:41 PM
3

Generally, people who detract from your mission are to get minimized in your life. But this isn't so straightforward when it comes to family. In that case, just avoid talking to him about those topics. If he brings them up, just ignore them and change the subject.
/r/askTRP29/04/20 02:38 PM
3

you realize people under the age of 50 have very very little risk right? 1.) We are still learning new things about this virus (just last week we were surprised to hear that it kills by excessive blood clots, not destroyed lung cells!), and 2.) Even if people under the age of 50 aren't directly affected, they will still be indirectly affected due to the healthcare system being overwhelmed. Re-read my comment regarding the infected wound. But yes, because there are so many retarded people in this…
/r/askTRP29/04/20 01:54 PM
3

With that attitude, you're absolutely right!
/r/askTRP29/04/20 02:59 AM
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compared to how many ppl get this thing and don't even notice. This doesn't matter. What does matter is the burden on the healthcare system. Once it gets pegged at 100%, people start dying of unrelated, preventable things. Do you want to go to a hospital with an infected wound where the doctors were beyond burned out three weeks ago and still haven't reset? I sure don't. if the global economy collapses It will drastically shrink, but an actual collapse would require critical supply chains to col…
/r/askTRP29/04/20 02:58 AM
3

How can I tell her to get more sexual without looking butthurt? With your actions, not your words. Initiate it yourself, and if she drops the ball, dial down your attention. She'll get in line.
/r/askTRP28/04/20 10:23 PM
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so my abundance is hurting big time right now. Then you don't really have abundance mentality. Spend this time working on your mission. For people who have their shit together, this quarantine is a godsend. Put your extra time to good use. To answer your question, though: it is a very real possibility that we stay in lockdown or partial lockdown for the next 1.5 years until a vaccine is widely available.
/r/askTRP28/04/20 10:20 PM
3

What does it matter? It's not something you can fix anyway. Forget about it entirely, lest you fulfill your own prophecy.
/r/askTRP28/04/20 10:17 PM
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So I soft nexted Why? She didn't do anything to warrant that. Seems like you don't know what the purpose of soft-nexting is. just being clingy and blowing me up with messages when i wake up. You deal with this by dialing down your attention until its at the level you want. im really just confused on how attractive this girl is yet she was so needy and obsessed I can't tell with such little details. She could have borderline personality disorder, or she could have cabin fever. If you don't get a …
/r/askTRP28/04/20 10:16 PM
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The markers of NPD include: does she excessively use social media? Do conversations usually revolve around her? Does she constantly talk negatively about other people and tear them down? Is she overly sensitive to slights against her? I find any of those behaviors to be huge turn-offs. Some guys were surrounded by narcissists growing up, so they have trouble filtering them out.
/r/askTRP27/04/20 09:48 PM
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If you vetted her properly before promoting her to LTR status, you wouldn't have a reason to be concerned. From what you've written, I don't see that she's done anything wrong. Using Snapchat on its own isn't a red flag. If she started using it recently, you can ask her why, out of curiosity. So far it seems like this is just your insecurity coming through.
/r/askTRP27/04/20 09:44 PM
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The core of RP theory is that you should always be doing what YOU want. Other people are free to whine and complain that you're not prioritizing them enough, but in the end, you should set and enforce those boundaries. Prioritize yourself first. Use AA/AM responses to deal with people who whine. Eventually, you can put them into time-out, or even soft-next them.
/r/askTRP27/04/20 07:36 PM
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You know, some people don't speak English natively. In that case, give them credit for learning most of it and trying.
/r/askTRP27/04/20 07:34 PM
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You should be paying attention to all her other behaviors. If she used to seek attention on social media, then you shouldn't have LTR'ed her in the first place. Same thing if she'd regularly dress to get attention from men. You implied that she switched your communications to iMessage from... Snapchat? If so, I'd ask why out of curiosity. If she's secretly flirting with men, there's an extremely high chance her other behaviors would betray her. That is... if you were perceptive. Fit this new dev…
/r/askTRP27/04/20 07:33 PM
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I don't have a problem picking out people with NPD. A lot of other people can't, and THAT'S the evolutionary reason the disorder exists today.
/r/askTRP27/04/20 06:17 PM
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Keep focusing on yourself. You're on the right path. Under normal circumstances, when someone is a pain in your ass, you minimize them in your life. This doesn't work so well in your position, since you're living in their household. My move would be to tell them "I'm working really hard to invest in myself. This is going to take a while, but I'm sure it'll be worth it in the end. I'll have plenty of time for a girlfriend later, don't worry." Chances are they still won't understand immediately, b…
/r/askTRP27/04/20 05:34 PM
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The preferred method is the one that works for you. Some guys crash & burn in person (or don't enjoy it) but clean up on Tinder. Some get zero matches on dating apps, but do really well making small talk at the grocery store and dog park. Learn the techniques that work for other guys, and try them for yourself. You'll find that some avenues work better with your personality.
/r/askTRP27/04/20 05:26 PM
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If you're attracting women with depression, that isn't your fault. Depression has increased quite a bit in the last 15 years due to social media. They can still make fine FWBs. If you're attracting women with narcissistic personality disorder, borderline personality disorder, and/or severe daddy issues, then this IS your fault. Your filter should have caught and eliminated them well before you got yourself involved.
/r/askTRP27/04/20 05:23 PM
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I feel guilty fucking another girl when my sheets smell like the girl from last night. This makes women want you more. Side-bar. You should be making the decision from a hygiene perspective, not a what-do-other-people-think perspective. Every 1-2 weeks.
/r/askTRP27/04/20 05:17 PM
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I started replying to your previous comment that you deleted, but it turns out this answers your updated response too: Are you trying to tell me its okay for someone to snake a girl especially if it was one of your friends and let them get away? Firstly, realize that she's not yours. Its only your turn. Secondly, if you're with an attractive woman, guys will always hit on her. If they're not, then she isn't attractive. When this happens, the worst thing you can do is show insecurity. Ideally, yo…
/r/askTRP25/04/20 12:07 AM
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I already reported this post to the mods for breaking rule #1. Read the rules in the side-bar, and you'll see how your post is inappropriate for this sub. Lastly, the fact that words from a stranger on the internet triggered you proves that your frame is as strong as a wet paper bag. Investing is great and all (I do it myself), but someone this new to RP theory would be better off spending their time reading the sidebar material.
/r/askTRP24/04/20 11:57 PM
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1.) Is it possible to demote to fwb/plate at this point? In theory, yes. But that's strictly for guys with intermediate/advanced RP knowledge (which is clearly NOT you based on this post). If a beginner tries to this, they will most certainly get caught up in a whirlwind of drama and bullshit. 2.) What do I do about the expensive gift she got me for my birthday? Keep it. Or not. As long as you decide on your own terms without letting yourself get influenced. 3.) is it possible to fake an LTR but…
/r/askTRP24/04/20 11:54 PM
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I have been 'friends' with these guys for a few years but I don't think they're worth the friendship. Thus it has been decided. The next day I confronted and called him out saying "The next day I made sure he & everyone else knew how insecure I was about my relationship." Anyway, was wondering if I should cold turkey drop these friends who clearly don't respect my boundaries The bigger question is: why do you need strangers on the internet to tell you its OK to drop them like you already want to…
/r/askTRP24/04/20 11:43 PM
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2/10 shitpost. See Rule #1 of this sub.
/r/askTRP24/04/20 11:37 PM
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She sounds like a simpleton. You're talking about things she can't understand or has zero interest in. Keeping her attention using a limited set of topics for another couple months might be impossible. There's nothing else you can do. Oh well. Use this time to work on your mission.
/r/askTRP24/04/20 11:34 PM
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I can already tell that my (female) therapist thinks I’m sexist or misogynistc. There's nothing sexist of misogynistic about the core ideas. However, you CAN still express them in that way. Also, I see a lot of guys (usually still in the anger phase) that can't separate their butthurt from the facts, so they merge the two. Frame it in terms of women and men having key differences in motivations and strategies for attaining their goals. They aren't good or bad... they just are. Pretty much any of…
/r/askTRP24/04/20 09:32 PM
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I just re-read it in its entirety just to make sure I didn't miss anything. Here's what I found: because i like to play the slow game at work, if any at all No. You don't "play the slow game at work." You don't shit where you eat, period. Your second problem here is loss of frame. You're giving a shit about what your coworkers--women no less--think about you. You should be focusing on doing the best job you can, and not worrying about other people.
/r/askTRP24/04/20 06:18 PM
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girl at my job [...] who was displaying interest Stop right there. You know about the rule that says never shit where you eat? In other words: it doesn't matter if women there are interested in you. You're there to exchange labor for money. That's it.
/r/askTRP24/04/20 06:04 PM
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To anyone passing by in the comments here: this is what shattered frame looks like.
/r/askTRP23/04/20 02:11 PM
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Hey retard. Your shitpost breaks rule #1 of this subreddit. Also, your emotional response shows that you have weak frame. So while you're reading the rules, be sure to read the side-bar as well.
/r/askTRP23/04/20 11:23 AM
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why do I feel attacked when I know Im clean?!? Because your frame is weak. Men with strong frame wouldn't have been rattled by some hearsay from a woman. What can I do? Two things: calm down and stop worrying about things you have no control over. In a couple days you'll know the truth, and you can handle it from there. After that, start putting in the hard work to fix your frame.
/r/askTRP22/04/20 11:36 PM
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If you have a cuckold fetish, then you've landed a jackpot! Otherwise, you need to immediately demote to FWB. No talking about it, no discussion. Just re-frame it in your mind and dial down your attention. This LTR is done.
/r/askTRP22/04/20 11:30 PM
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Everything is going well. You've got a plate who's interested. Keep your intentions hidden, and respond vaguely when pressed about it. "I'm just taking things one step at a time." Keep yourself busy with your mission and other plates, and you'll have a good time with this one while it lasts.
/r/askTRP22/04/20 11:27 PM
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More weak frame. Not only do a woman's words trigger you, but so do words from internet strangers. You got a long road ahead of you to fix this. Stop wasting time.
/r/askTRP22/04/20 06:12 PM
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Learning self-defense techniques is exactly what you need. Something proven to be practical, like BJJ, boxing, or MMA. You'll develop your mental state as a direct result of training. In the meantime, start watching street fight videos on Youtube. There are many. Watch how they play out. Study why the loser loses, and why the winner wins (hint: size & strength can be easily neutralized by someone with superior tactics). You'll start to notice patterns and then come up with strategies. This, pair…
/r/askTRP22/04/20 02:44 PM
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This sounds like depression, which you need to see a doctor for. Why can't you go see one now? Otherwise, try to think about your long-term plan. Think about what you want 5, 10, and 15 years from today. Do you want to be a business owner? A solid career in a respected field & company? There has to be something that interests you in the long-term. Break it down into milestones and goals, then start making progress on it. In the short term, you need to start taking care of yourself. The pace you'…
/r/askTRP22/04/20 02:17 PM
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AskTRP is not your personal online diary. Its for asking questions, and you don't have a single question mark in either paragraph. Delete this post and go put it up on Tumblr.
/r/askTRP22/04/20 02:08 PM
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The fact that you're caring so much about what other people are doing proves that you haven't gotten very far in your mission, if you even have one at all. Guys that are busy improving their lives with lifting, running a startup business, and working on their hobbies don't have time to be angry at women/society/chumps. Get to work.
/r/askTRP22/04/20 02:07 PM
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2/10 shitpost.
/r/askTRP22/04/20 02:03 PM
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What is her intention? To get your attention and validation for as little effort as possible. Either she needs to put in effort to move things along, or you ignore her. If you had a non-bullshit mission, and were busy making progress on it, you wouldn't have even noticed her.
/r/askTRP22/04/20 02:02 PM
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This isn't the place for children to whine about their mom.
/r/askTRP22/04/20 01:59 PM
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This post reeks of weak frame. A woman complained to you about some nonsense, which triggered your emotions. A man with a strong frame would have laughed it off and made a joke out of it. Six seconds later he would have forgotten all about it.
/r/askTRP22/04/20 03:36 AM
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I literally have oneitis for a girl I've never met. She's said she loves me [...] me and her completely hit if off Dude... you got a LOT to learn... Any advice now that you know this? Yes. You need to read the remaining 75% of the side-bar material that you haven't gotten to yet. Then once you do, you'll smack yourself upside the head for being this retarded. She. Isn't. Real.
/r/askTRP22/04/20 03:31 AM
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How do i stop feeling inferior/salty towards them? Men that put in the years & decades of hard work and have seen the fruits of their success never feel inferior. The fact that you're getting so easily triggered tells me that you either aren't very far along your mission, or you don't have one at all. That is your real problem. Stop focusing on what other people are doing, and start making plans for improving your life and career. You'll notice that the more you focus on yourself, the happier yo…
/r/askTRP22/04/20 03:27 AM
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You take an active approach to learning instead of a passive one. You start by pumping iron and getting that on a schedule, along with your diet. You start looking for a mission, then break it down into goals and milestones. You take a couple beginner RP ideas and learn how to use them in real situations, then master them. Continue until you've mastered all beginner tactics, then move on to the intermediate ones, etc. And as for your specific situation, stop being a pathetic orbiter. You're only…
/r/askTRP22/04/20 03:20 AM
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Why do I have oneitis for this girl? Because you haven't gotten anywhere in internalizing the side-bar. Because you think RP is just some casual reading that instantly brings rewards instead of being a years-long/decades-long journey. Stop wasting our time (and your own). Start getting serious about improving yourself.
/r/askTRP22/04/20 03:10 AM
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Nobody here is going to hold your hand through the process. Start reading and internalizing the side-bar. Nobody's going to mentor a stranger for free.
/r/askTRP22/04/20 03:08 AM
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That's a pretty big detail you left out. Ok, well... you still need to go to a lawyer to figure out your child support situation. This is NOT something you can ignore. I don't know how it works in the UK, but in some parts of the US, any payments you make without a child support agreement in place count for nothing. So if parents had a verbal agreement and the man has been paying $2,000 per month for the last 5 years, it doesn't matter; the court considers him to have paid $0 each month for the …
/r/askTRP20/04/20 08:24 PM
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What would you do in my shoes?? I'd get a lawyer, post-haste, and not bother with asking what randos on the internet think I should do. A divorce lawyer will know exactly how to handle this situation. They know the law AND they do this for a living. They'll give you reasonable options to consider. While you're there, ask them what your options are for minimizing contact with your wife--both immediately and once the divorce is finalized.
/r/askTRP20/04/20 08:13 PM
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Sounds like she doesn't normally decline without a reason. In that case, it would seem that she's trying to get you to chase her. I'd give her the soft-next instead.
/r/askTRP20/04/20 02:50 PM
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Catcall the guy back. Yell about how cute he is and how you'll pay $20 to watch your girl peg him with a huge black strap-on. $40 for him to suck the dildo clean afterwards. Pull money out of your wallet and wave it at him.
/r/askTRP20/04/20 02:46 PM
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I landed in a similar situation lately. I didn't know that my new plate was friends with my work acquaintance. Plate eventually asks what we are, I deflect, and then work acquaintance starts asking me questions like "what kinds of relationships do you normally have? Are they all just casual? Do you ever have serious relationships?" It was obvious that these questions were by proxy. At first, I didn't answer. Its not anyone else's business. But giving a blunt response to that effect wouldn't work…
/r/askTRP20/04/20 02:42 PM
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Yes. Dread always works. Your post even confirms this: your "main" girl is getting more and more jealous. If you respond with AA/AM and you'll sploosh her panties even more, but if you respond like an insecure beta, you'll drown in a whirlwind of drama and shit-tests. So the last time she was getting moody with me about my "other hoes" she slipped in "and they're not even that pretty, seriously". "Its not my fault, I'm just such a hot piece of man-meat that all these women keep rushin' my shit! …
/r/askTRP20/04/20 02:31 PM
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Stop living in her frame and get into your own. You shouldn't be giving a shit about this. Does she continue to follow your lead? Does she continue to bring value to your life? If yes, you continue. If/when that changes, you drop her.
/r/askTRP20/04/20 02:19 PM
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how can I can I get straight to their house when we first have sex? "Let's go to your place." There's no magic secret here. Just tell them you're going to her place. Either she accepts or you fall back to using yours. Above all, don't act insecure about your situation. They'll pick up on that.
/r/askTRP20/04/20 02:15 PM
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Life isn't about chasing women. In fact, one of the cornerstones of TRP theory is that you should be chasing your mission, and women come as a result of that success. There's plenty of things you can do to improve your life. Start a business. Do all the physical activity your condition allows you to. Do volunteer work and contribute to society. Lastly, your physical condition is likely temporary. In 5-10 years you might have badass cybernetic legs!
/r/askTRP17/04/20 10:23 PM
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Once you lay down the rules, she can either comply or you withdraw attention until she's ready to obey. Your outcome-independence means you shouldn't be concerned with which she chooses. Secondly, never argue with a woman. She either follows your lead, or you soft-next her until she does. Thirdly, she's posting her ass on social media? That's an automatic and permanent down-grade to FWB. Any attention-seeking behavior proves that she is not worthy of an LTR. You failed at properly vetting this o…
/r/askTRP17/04/20 10:18 PM
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I took my dog and went out to see who is trying to make a joke of me. You retard. That could've easily been a set-up for an armed robbery. And you took the bait like an idiot. I’m pracitally a stranger to her. And you dropped everything to rush out and meet a nobody. Because you have no mission. Because you don't value your time. Because your SMV is dog shit. Because you haven't even begun to internalize the side-bar... if you even read it at all. The biggest problem here has nothing to do with …
/r/askTRP17/04/20 10:12 PM
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Here's a summary of your post: "Dear Random Internet Strangers: Could you please tell me what I want in life?" No. Nobody can. Only YOU can figure out what you want.
/r/askTRP16/04/20 09:54 PM
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because I'm idealizing her Around here, we call this "oneitis." I was thinking of dropping her but want a partner during isolation. For what, exactly? Because you're afraid of being alone? Because you're desperate for pussy? If you didn't have oneitis, your best move would be to demote her to FWB since she's not worthy of LTR status. But that won't work for someone in your position. You've got to follow the standard oneitis procedure: hard next for your own sanity.
/r/askTRP16/04/20 09:52 PM
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I read the title and legitimately laughed. Dude... if pot is the only reason you're "friends" with someone, then they're not your friend. There are plenty of other people in this world that you can go out, meet, and have a good time with... while living a healthy lifestyle. You've got time during lockdown to get your personal life in order: stop smoking, start exercising, and start planning on how to live your life without it revolving around drugs. Read up on the Meetup app/website and find som…
/r/askTRP16/04/20 09:48 PM
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I guarantee you that there were red flags. You just missed them, and/or rationalized them away. Now that you're older, wiser, and (hopefully) more perceptive, perhaps you'll catch the warning signs much earlier. Or if you don't, admit to yourself that you're not good at vetting women and that you might be repeating history; this can keep you in check.
/r/askTRP16/04/20 07:50 PM
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"a bit harder", you say? What, like 1.2%? No, he's in an authoritarian hellscape that punishes original thought. The icing on the cake is having to get married before having sex, and maybe getting executed if he stares at another woman for too long.
/r/askTRP16/04/20 01:25 AM
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Well, if this was me, I would have noticed the red flags WAY before this happened. I would have terminated that relationship well beforehand. The problem you should instead be focusing on is how you landed in a marriage where she thought so little of you to begin with. Did you choose your mate poorly during the dating process? Did you turn into a beta bitch through weak behavior spread over years of time? One way or another... YOU fucked up. Since you want to learn something for the future, lear…
/r/askTRP16/04/20 01:04 AM
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Get the fuck out of that bullshit culture.
/r/askTRP16/04/20 12:58 AM
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Pay attention to her actions, not her words. Her words say she wants to be "friends." Her actions say she wants to start things up again just like they were. Invite her over to "watch a movie" or "play cards" or whatever. If she asserts that she doesn't want to have sex, use an AA response like "Obviously. I friendzoned you a long time ago already." Then escalate like normal. If she resists, kick her out. Either way, spin more plates.
/r/askTRP16/04/20 12:56 AM
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She stayed with a meth head for 2 years. Here's your main problem: you derped so hard that you married a piece of trash. Getting rid of your wife is trivial compared to what you need to un-fuck your head so you don't do something else ultra-retarded. Now lay in the bed you made. Keep the peace until the lease is up, then file for divorce and get your own place.
/r/askTRP16/04/20 12:52 AM
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I do care about her a lot [...] she has the most red flags I've ever seen This shows me that YOU have red flags. You're catching oneitis for some one-dimensional woman who brings nothing special to the table. Why is that? Why do you have such a low bar set for yourself? (Rhetorical question; I already know the answer.) You need to raise your self-confidence considerably. THAT is your #1 problem in life... not what happened to some instathot's family.
/r/askTRP16/04/20 12:49 AM
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Actually I'm a STEM guy myself, but that's not what girls want me for. Hey... if you like spending your time with basic women, there's nothing wrong with that. They need loving too, after all. You honestly sound like the typical Indian IT nerd who thinks having a decent job will get you girls. STEM isn't even that special lmao. Translation: "I'm a barely average STEM guy who passed computer science classes by the skin of his teeth. I fail to impress anyone with my career mainly because I can't e…
/r/askTRP14/12/19 02:07 AM
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Jealous feminist dance therapy major detected. Get me a coffee.
/r/askTRP13/12/19 11:17 PM
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My time to shine. Firstly, if you think STEM is boring, why are you in it? If you're not excited to knock it out of the park every day, you shouldn't be in this line of work. Secondly, while you're right that it does attract lots of beta male providers and people actually on the spectrum, that doesn't mean that you can't be a leader with strong frame, nor an interesting guy. Plenty of non-basic women do count STEM careers as optimal for potential mates. Sure, some of that comes from the high ear…
/r/askTRP13/12/19 06:25 PM
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This post violates rule #1 of this sub. This sub is for asking about advice and getting clarification.
/r/askTRP11/12/19 03:36 PM
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"Ok, no problem", immediately followed by a soft-next.
/r/askTRP09/12/19 03:38 PM
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One of the core ideas of RP theory is that you should always be doing what YOU want. Other people's desires or expectations should have no bearing on you. You can go to bars and clubs without drinking. You can run game anywhere. The world is your oyster.
/r/askTRP06/12/19 05:47 PM
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There are good reasons to ghost & hard-next someone, but more often than not, people do it for emotional reasons. When that happens, a red flag should pop up in your mind that your frame isn't as strong as it should be. Men with strong frames don't lash out emotionally. One of the other key points of RP theory is that you should always be doing what YOU want. Other people's desires and expectations should have no bearing on you. So the fact that she wants this from you shouldn't influence your d…
/r/askTRP06/12/19 03:43 AM
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My LTR (8) ... you're dating an 8 year old? looks like my relationship needs more passion, but not sure what to do. Apply dread. She's gotten bored with you because you're predictable and safe. You're not being a hot guy who gives her the tingles. "We don't do things together" isn't the real reason. Read up on the marriedredpill sub. The guys in there are especially good at fixing LTRs.
/r/askTRP05/12/19 03:55 PM
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Yep, that's a good idea. Study up on escalating strategies beforehand, too.
/r/askTRP05/12/19 03:09 PM
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Low SMV men still manage to mate with low SMV women. That's how low SMV children get made, after all. But OP was talking like baldness = permanently stuck as a 0/10 man, with no hope of ever improving. That's bullshit incel thinking.
/r/askTRP05/12/19 03:07 PM
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My wife cheated on me You mean your ex-wife, right? I am bald and 30 pounds over. You say that like its a death sentence. If women really didn't like bald men, then the baldness genes would have been weeded out hundreds of thousands of years ago. Keep your back and sides trimmed tight or shaved, and it won't count against you with the ladies. As for the weight: get your ass in the gym. The new years gym discounts are coming up very soon, so you should capitalize on that. Start on the StrongLifts…
/r/askTRP05/12/19 12:29 AM
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Start with learning how to build strong frame. The fact that some 5/10 left for another guy should have no effect on you. Game other women so you attain abundance mentality. That, too, will help when you don't get a particular woman you're after. And yes, soft next. When/if she comes back, escalate immediately and get your penis inside her. Don't waste too much more time with her. In the meantime, lift and work on your mission.
/r/askTRP05/12/19 12:21 AM
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When it comes to BPD women, you do not ghost them. This dumps fuel on the fire. Instead, you repulse them with bluepill behavior. Ask yourself, "What would Billy Beta do?" Then do that. Start texting her heart emojis. Start blowing up her phone with questions like "Do you love me?", "When you look up at the stars, do you just feel that we're right for each other??". Put that pussy up on a pedestal. "You're the perfect woman. I will love you forever no matter what." If she doesn't give you comple…
/r/askTRP04/12/19 04:11 PM
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I'd tell the same joke over and over again too. Its a meme now. I'd tell the same girl stupid & ridiculous jokes in front of him. I'd make a joke out of trying to hit on her way too hard.
/r/askTRP04/12/19 04:03 PM
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Both can be handled like shit-tests. Use AA/AM responses, then continue doing whatever important thing you were doing. That keeps you operating in your own frame, instead of entering hers.
/r/askTRP03/12/19 11:46 PM
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it was the way she responded after Well aside from the crying, you said she went and took a shower, told you to get out of her way, and refused sex. So which part are you butt-hurt about? The correct answer should be: none. there is just a bunch of little things happening that would take too long to put into text Hey genius: this is a text-based forum. So you either put it into text, or you don't get help.
/r/askTRP03/12/19 10:28 PM
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My girlfriend is not focused on self improvement. That's because you didn't lead her properly. You've set an example with yourself (which is good), but stopped there. Have you suggested that she come to the gym with you? If that idea got shot down, then you start applying dread. She'll either get in line, or you replace her with someone who does. we had an argument Never argue with a woman. You can explain your perspective, and maybe listen to hers, but that's where it stops. Arguing only wastes…
/r/askTRP03/12/19 09:44 PM
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I tell her to apologize Wait, you think she did something wrong? Explain. it really seems like it took a wrong turn, should I just call it off? Translation: "My frame is so weak that the moment something is even slightly outside my comfort zone happens, my go-to response is to burn it all to the ground and run the fuck away." Yeah, dude. Do that. Or learn how to adapt to slight variations of human behavior. Fact is, what you did was beyond what she was comfortable with. Its not your fault, and i…
/r/askTRP03/12/19 09:26 PM
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You need to get back on your meds. Also, please don't go on a shooting spree. I don't want to hear more anti-gun propaganda for at least another 6 months.
/r/askTRP03/12/19 09:20 PM
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I easily encounter both groups, but maybe that's because of where I live.
/r/askTRP03/12/19 06:10 PM
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I stop dealing with them. Life is too short to waste your time on basic bitches who bring nothing to the table, yet think they're entitled to be the center of attention. Either they need to bring value to my life, or they're out, post-haste.
/r/askTRP03/12/19 03:31 PM
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Thoughts on how to get her to straighten it? Tell her you like it a lot more straightened. Since this is apparently a HUGE problem for you, if she doesn't comply, reduce your attention to her. Possibly downgrade to FWB/plate/nothing. The way you ask this question suggests you think RP theory can be used to directly control people. It cannot. You cannot control anyone but yourself. The only thing you can do is invite people into your life who bring value, and minimize or avoid people who don't.
/r/askTRP03/12/19 03:29 PM
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For me, that's just wayy too much for a potential LTR in my opinion. Then that settles it. Why should you care what random internet strangers' opinions are? Are you hoping someone will talk you out of it? which sucks because it really limits your dating pool. Why are you dependent upon having a pool of potential LTRs? If you had strong frame and were making progress on your mission, you wouldn't need women to fill any holes in your life. You would not need women to feel complete, nor would you n…
/r/askTRP03/12/19 12:30 AM
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on every attack you tried I legitimately did not attack nor intend to insult you at any point. A man with strong frame doesn't ever need to do that... because why would he? He doesn't a have flimsy ego that needs protecting. Plenty of insecure people will lash out with their emotions, but that never matters. It has no impact on his mission, nor his path to self-actualization. The fact that you took my words personally, though, is further proof that your frame is weak. This is another reason why …
/r/askTRP02/12/19 06:03 PM
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We’ve had each other’s iPhone locations the entire time so I know she’s clearly lying. You're living so deep in her frame that you check up on her. ex who has been sending her letters the entire summer and goes to the other college campus nearby.[...] she cried about him on the first date and was always weird about him And here we have Exhibit A on the importance of vetting potential LTRs carefully over the course of 6-12 months. But you didn't do anything close to what's required... because of …
/r/askTRP02/12/19 04:11 PM
1

She brought a bottle of Vodka which she drank 3/4 of in a matter of 2-3 hours. Red flag #1. Everything that came out of her mouth were either stupid to the point of me wanting to kill myself or just completely unstable. Red flags #2 though... 15? This was the point at which you needed to silently get up, get your stuff, and walk out the door, briskly. But you didn't. Because of scarcity mentality. She wanted me to beat her up with closed fists during sex. I knew she was into this before this wee…
/r/askTRP02/12/19 03:51 PM
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Why did you feel the need to prove yourself to a stranger on the internet? You felt that your ego was attacked. This is what weak frame looks like. A man with strong frame doesn't even blink when a random throws vocal chord noises at him. Because he's confident in himself through years of succeeding on his mission and path to self-actualization. So far you've shown that you're stuck in the anger phase (which puts you solidly in the beginner level of RP theory), and you have weak frame. This make…
/r/askTRP02/12/19 03:34 PM
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Translation: "I lack abundance mentality and outcome-independence. Furthermore, I have weak frame. All this is probably because I haven't gotten very far in mastering the side-bar material, if I even read it at all..." There's the root cause of your problem. It'll follow you around in life and poison all your dealings with women if you don't start fixing it.
/r/askTRP01/12/19 03:20 PM
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Woman only accept vulnerability if: 1.) its from a guy who already solidly established himself as highly capable and worthy of following, AND 2.) it happens very rarely. Women don't find weak men to be attractive. That dries up their vag quicker than the Sahara desert.
/r/askTRP01/12/19 03:17 PM
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Any AA/AM response will work. "I haven't found my sugar mama yet." "This video explains why: [link to rickroll]" "Because I'm still looking for a hot tranny to peg me." You shouldn't be giving a shit about what a "good response" is. Give less fucks.
/r/askTRP01/12/19 03:14 PM
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Here's another tip: you'll never get a job in corporate America if you talk like you're a hood rat. Speak correctly. Use proper grammar. You probably dress like a hood rat too. Don't. While you still got a couple years before applying to real jobs, start upgrading your style in the meantime. Its unlikely that you'll be able to do it all at once without the interviewers figuring it out. If you put enough hard work into this, you can still pull it off. But you need to focus and prioritize it.
/r/askTRP01/12/19 03:11 PM
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The fact that you're caring about how you might look shows that you're not living in your own frame. She didn't do anything wrong. She's still a fun person to hang out with, no? In that case, you continue on like nothing happened.
/r/askTRP30/11/19 08:53 PM
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I cold approached this girl 5 months ago and we are in a ltr for about 3 months now. Mistake. Proper vetting for an LTR takes 6 months at bare minimum. Unless you're weak and desperate, that is... Girl works like 15min away from my home [...] But seems to want to hang out only for an evening once a week. That's because she's busy fucking other guys. If you vetted properly, you would have figured this out and not LTR'ed a slut. Basically I want to see and bang her more, andnot giving her the atte…
/r/askTRP30/11/19 03:34 PM
1

Please read old post first If you're not going to post a link to make it easy for me, I'm not going to read it. But a part of me is worried what if she sleeps with someone If you have a real concern about this, you vetted your LTR poorly. You likely fucked up because you lack abundance mentality, outcome-independence, and frame. What should I be doing other than lifting? Start reading and learning the absolute basics of RP theory, because its clear that you haven't even started. In the meantime,…
/r/askTRP30/11/19 03:27 PM
1

Hey, its OK to be 20 years old. That's not the problem. The problem is that we can't have beginners "teaching" other beginners on this sub. If you're under the age of 25, you need to keep quiet and learn. Guys with real experience and knowledge will properly guide the younger crowd.
/r/askTRP30/11/19 03:21 PM
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Its not a comeback. Feeling the need to defend myself would imply weak frame, no? I'm legitimately curious to know your age. I get the feeling that most of the guys spouting off nonsense in this sub are inexperienced in life (i.e.: under the age of 25). They learned a few RP basics from an academic standpoint, but they don't know how it really works. But this doesn't stop them from confidently flapping their gums, which sound great to other inexperienced guys, ultimately creating an echo chamber…
/r/askTRP30/11/19 02:18 AM
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What the fuck did I just read.
/r/askTRP29/11/19 09:21 PM
0

Honest question: are you 19 years old?
/r/askTRP29/11/19 09:20 PM
0

Anger phase detected. You've got more sidebar to read, bro. And weight to lift. And a mission to follow.
/r/askTRP29/11/19 03:52 PM
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I have booked a hotel room tomorrow because I really don't want her to know where I live and I'm planning on keeping all communication through Facebook, so I don't have to give her my number either. Am I paranoid or smart? This strongly implies that she is crazy, because why else would you be worried. In that case, you're a retard for thinking about sticking your dick in crazy. This isn't a thing you need to do when you involve yourself with mentally-sound women.
/r/askTRP28/11/19 04:15 PM
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I will be going on vacation will my family in 2 weeks for a month. So I know I can’t do much for now just yet. Yes you can. You got 14 days to pump iron. You got 14 days to start learning an interesting hobby. You got 14 days of ignoring the video games that are beckoning to waste your precious time. You got 14 days to break down your goals into a roadmap, with a schedule to hit reasonable milestones. You got 14 days of healthy eating. And then when you're on that one-month vacation... guess wha…
/r/askTRP28/11/19 04:08 PM
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It was pure manipulation to be honest. The entire world works on manipulation. How else do you think people end up buying massively overpriced electronics, $500 T-shirts, and other shit they don't need? Through the creation of perception. Should I just break this plate intentionally? No. You never get rid of a woman, unless she is showing signs of actual crazy behavior (or you caught oneitis and you need to escape). Otherwise, when you have more interesting options you dial down your attention t…
/r/askTRP28/11/19 04:00 PM
1

Why are you shit-posting on asktrp?
/r/askTRP26/11/19 07:18 PM
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I fully agree. But that's not what's' going on in OP's story. OP is trying to de-escalate, and guys are throwing fists in response. This is a textbook self-defense scenario.
/r/askTRP26/11/19 07:02 PM
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Right off the bat, you're thinking about this wrong. You shouldn't be caring about what might or might not be going on in a woman's' mind. Worrying about what other people think the first step of losing frame. What you instead do is look at behaviors. When you first meet a woman, she is in plate status. If she's fun to hang out with outside the bedroom, you promote her to FWB (this can be done rather quickly). If she's got a boring personality, you leave her in plate status and don't hang out wi…
/r/askTRP26/11/19 07:01 PM
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For starters, if the place you live is this fucking shitty, the solution is to move. This doesn't happen in decent places. Secondly, by apologizing for your mistakes, you've already taken steps to de-escalate. After that, if they act aggressively, say "There's no need to be upset. It was just a mistake." At that point, you've attempted to de-escalate twice with words. If that doesn't work, its unlikely anything else will. There's no more talking. They can have whatever meltdown they want while y…
/r/askTRP26/11/19 06:54 PM
2

Other people will tell you it's not worth it Self-defense is always worth it.
/r/askTRP26/11/19 06:43 PM
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This would work in theory, but its too much effort. OP just needs to keep doing what he's doing and she'll stop soon.
/r/askTRP26/11/19 03:09 PM
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You already are politely rejecting her. Keep doing what you're doing. Unless she has a real mental illness, she will figure it out soon and stop.
/r/askTRP26/11/19 03:08 PM
1

Well that sure settles it.
/r/askTRP24/11/19 10:41 PM
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Toxic people are toxic people. It doesn't matter if you happen to be related to them; you cut them out of your life anyway. Admittedly, this is harder when it comes to family. So your first move is to minimize him as much as possible. Don't talk to your dad about anything important in your life. When he starts asking, just say "everything's fine" and change the subject. There's a good chance that will fix the problem. If not, you need to remove him from your life completely. You don't need anyon…
/r/askTRP22/11/19 08:24 PM
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Its not, but it really should be in a fortune cookie. Because then people would start taking more responsibility for what happens in their own lives, instead of blaming the world. Another good fortune would be: "Reading the side-bar can be done in days, but mastering & internalizing the side-bar can take years." I know its a little long, but what do you think, Chadster113?
/r/askTRP22/11/19 07:03 PM
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Why do you think I'm here? I'm here to help those who need it. I'm pretty sure your emotions are blinding you right now, but I'm hoping my words will start to make sense later.
/r/askTRP22/11/19 04:27 PM
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One more thing: the side-bar has resources for building frame. Now, its very easy to read through it and say "ahh, yes... this makes perfect sense!", but its entirely something else to internalize it all. A lot of guys come in here thinking they know about frame, but then they crumble when some words from an Internet stranger disagree with them. Imagine what would happen when faced with even a slight shit-test from a woman! Nevermind what would happen when faced with a real problem in life... Th…
/r/askTRP22/11/19 03:53 PM
2

I take it that hit a little too close to home. If you're looking for someone to sugar-coat the truth, you came to the wrong place. In this sub, you're going to get drop-kicked in the throat with reality. You're welcome. Bonus fact: if someone's words trigger an emotional reaction from you, your frame is dog-shit. Real frame isn't rattled by words.
/r/askTRP22/11/19 03:44 PM
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Strong frame is about always doing what YOU want. So if you want to meet her tomorrow, then you do that. If you'd rather do something else, you do that instead.
/r/askTRP22/11/19 03:19 PM
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Broken people attract other broken people.
/r/askTRP22/11/19 02:54 PM
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If it was a soft-next, you say "No, why?" and continue the conversation exactly where it left off. If it was a hard-next (and assuming you did it for a proper reason), you do not acknowledge her existence; you immediately remove yourself from the situation, post-haste.
/r/askTRP22/11/19 02:52 PM
0

Mad, bro?
/r/askTRP21/11/19 09:27 PM
1

Do you need a hug?
/r/askTRP21/11/19 08:54 PM
2

You lack vital knowledge on the topic. Yes, I am aware that insecure guys exist. Thanks for reminding me. I treat this post exactly the same as if a gf told her boyfriend she wanted to fuck other dudes Ok. If you're that insecure with bisexual women, I'll allow you to dump her. Please send her my way! Want me to send you videos of us tag-teaming hot women together?
/r/askTRP21/11/19 08:32 PM
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got pretty upset "FUCK! Now she's going to want threesomes and foursomes with me and other hot women. How did I make such poor choices in life to land here???" Are you sure your friend is attracted to women?
/r/askTRP21/11/19 06:48 PM
1

I can tell.
/r/askTRP21/11/19 04:52 PM
0

This isn't Twitter, dude.
/r/askTRP21/11/19 04:48 PM
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Getting over oneitis isn't easy, but it is straightforward: add distance between yourself and her, keep busy with your mission, and game other women. If you catch it in its early phases, a soft-next may be enough. If it reaches full-blown oneitis, though, your only move is to hard-next.
/r/askTRP21/11/19 04:04 PM
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Apologize to your friend, because you fucked up. Ignore your ex, because she's only trying to get a response out of you. All the logic in the world won't get her to stop; her feelings are controlling her. She just wants to hurt you. Block her everywhere and hard-next her. After that, learn your lesson to keep your mouth shut when people tell you secrets.
/r/askTRP21/11/19 04:00 PM
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These are the parts that imply your frame is cracking: say things that catch me off guard [...] I have to stop myself from wanting to punch their lights out Nobody's words ever evoke an emotional response to a man with strong frame.
/r/askTRP21/11/19 12:42 AM
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In terms of a LTR, wouldn't withdrawing attention encourage infidelity? Encourage her to find a new man? If you vetted your LTR properly, no. If your vetting process was dog-shit and you LTR'ed the wrong woman, then you lost nothing of value.
/r/askTRP20/11/19 11:19 PM
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Qualifiers like "long term plate" or "main plate" have no meaning. Plates are plates. Either they're worthy of upgrading to FWB, and possibly later on to LTR, or they're not. Would it be disrespectful One of the key points of RP theory is that you should always be doing what YOU want... not worrying about other people's opinions or desires. So the fact that you're asking this question implies your frame isn't on solid ground.
/r/askTRP20/11/19 11:16 PM
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They're shit-tests. And given how they're rattling your frame so easily, you're failing them. why women im attracted too make it so difficult They are acting in their own best interests. They need to check that the guy they're attracted to is actually attractive. In your case, they're quickly finding out that you're not attractive (because its unlikely that you're hiding the fact that their shit-tests are cracking your frame).
/r/askTRP20/11/19 11:12 PM
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I kind of want to tell you to keep your mouth shut because talking about it will only blow up in your face. On the other hand, I sense that you've got oneitis, so you blabbing like an idiot would start a huge fight that will eventually result in you being single and recovering your senses...
/r/askTRP19/11/19 02:17 PM
0

The fact that you're worried about this strongly suggests that it is not a good move for you.
/r/askTRP19/11/19 02:12 PM
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At this point, there's nothing else to do but roll with it. Either they know you lied, or they don't. Don't act guilty, and you'll probably get away with it.
/r/askTRP19/11/19 05:30 AM
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Theoretically, someone with intermediate or advanced RP knowledge, along with high SMV, would be able to turn her into a plate in this situation. Given that she was treating you like shit, that means you weren't very high SMV while dating her. So unless you've raised it massively since then, you're just going to end up her orbiter. You should probably ignore her.
/r/askTRP19/11/19 05:27 AM
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One of the major components of strong frame is not giving a shit about what other people think. That includes whether or not a bunch of strangers on the internet think writing down things is "cheesy."
/r/askTRP18/11/19 08:51 PM
1

Removing the privilege of sharing bed due to bitchiness (a behavior, not just words) is valid. Showing butt-hurt and emotions against someone's words OR behaviors is proof of weak frame. AA/AM responses will nuke those shit-tests. And if they don't... then its time to re-evaluate your LTR. I fully stand behind my responses.
/r/askTRP18/11/19 08:32 PM
1

If you're not going to listen to the feedback you get on this sub, why did you bother posting? If you're looking for an echo chamber filled with yes-men, you went to the wrong place.
/r/askTRP18/11/19 06:10 PM
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I'm 90% sure this is a troll post. But ok, I'll take the bait... I hate when she c***s Bro. This is the internet, not kindergarten. Fucking talk. I don’t know if I can marry her, knowing this. First of all, you shouldn't even be considering marriage in 2019. Read the sidebar. Secondly, if you had abundance mentality, you wouldn't feel pressured to put up with something you don't like. If there's something about a woman you don't like, drop her and go talk to one of the other ten women that are e…
/r/askTRP18/11/19 05:42 PM
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Hey retard, re-read your own post. Her words DIRECTLY caused you to get upset and kick her out of the bed and to the couch. Your insecurity lets your emotions lead you through life. This is a major fundamental problem that is causing your weak frame. Sidebar. As for your mission: "getting rich" is not valid. You should be following your path to self-actualization, not chasing money. Money and women come from being successful in life. Trying to chase them directly does not lead to happiness. Many…
/r/askTRP18/11/19 05:33 PM
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What, the part where your emotions got triggered by a woman's words? The problem with that is words should not have such an effect on you. Men with strong frame wouldn't even be fazed by it. They'd use an AA/AM response, laugh it off, and move on. Are you lifting hard at the gym? Do you have a mission? Are you focused on making progress on that mission?
/r/askTRP18/11/19 04:02 PM
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Welcome to life. Most people are not privy to RP theory, and act accordingly. People that annoy you should get minimized. Only invite people into your life who bring value to it. In the meantime, keep yourself busy with lifting and your mission.
/r/askTRP18/11/19 03:57 PM
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I decided to not yell at her How the fuck would this even be an option to begin with? Only a weak man with no frame would resort to swinging blindly with his emotions. I gave her a chance to speak to me Why? So you can possibly argue with a woman? Mistake. Talking about it would not accomplish anything but drag you into her frame. When we got in bed she was very bitchy, rude, in general nasty so I told her if shes going to be like that then she can go to the couch. "Your behavior is having an ef…
/r/askTRP18/11/19 03:53 PM
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There are plenty of guys in the same situation as you, but have used other methods to successfully strengthen their frame. Namely, they started lifting hard at the gym, and working on a mission (in your case, that would be finding a career, and pursing and education if that's required). So the military isn't your only option. As for which path is best for you, that's not something strangers on the internet can decide. That's a choice only you can make.
/r/askTRP18/11/19 03:44 PM
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You cannot control anyone but yourself. A lot of guys come in here to ask how they can "fix" their friends, brothers, cousins, etc. The fact is: you can't. RP knowledge cannot be forced upon anyone. Aside from leading by example, the best you can do is drop a couple hints. If they ask follow-up questions, you can take it a little further. But in the end, they have to be open and willing to learn on their own.
/r/askTRP18/11/19 03:40 PM
2

One of the cornerstones of RP theory is that you should always be doing what YOU want. Guys with strong frame are never influenced by other people's desires nor expectations. The fact that you're posing this question tells me a lot about your wet paper bag of a frame. Fix this.
/r/askTRP17/11/19 10:53 PM
3

In my state there is a law that we are considered married if a certain time goes by and she lives with me. Common law marriage, as its called, does not work this way. It doesn't just happen by living together for a certain period of time. That is one of the requirements, but so is "presenting yourself to the public as a married couple." In other words, as long as you don't change your Facebook status to "married", introduce her to people as "my wife", and/or hold a sham wedding ceremony, you're …
/r/askTRP17/11/19 10:50 PM
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First of all: out of sight, out of mind. Block her on everything, and get rid of all the things you have that remind you of her. After that, go into monk mode. Lift your fucking face off at the gym, and find your mission. Pour your heart and soul into making progress in that. Handle one day at a time and eventually, you'll forget all about this (except for the valuable lessons).
/r/askTRP17/11/19 10:36 PM
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Simple: keep your mouth shut after you nut.
/r/askTRP17/11/19 10:33 PM
1

This, in turn, stresses me out when she tells me about whats going on with her but refuses to accept or do anything about the fact that she’s so stressed Other people's problems are not yours to fix. Sure, you can help with some parts, but the key word here is "some". You've got a mission to focus on, after all. This issue is fixed by you dialing down your attention to her problems. Unfortunately I can’t just not worry about her because I do care about her Ultimately, you cannot control anyone b…
/r/askTRP17/11/19 10:32 PM
3

There are plenty of resources in the sidebar for how to build frame from scratch. The basic idea is you lift your fucking face off at the gym like its your job, and get to work finding your mission. Follow your path to self-actualization and start internalizing the idea that you're an important person. This takes years of work, but its very well worth your time.
/r/askTRP16/11/19 04:27 PM
2

Later on, we are lying alone together. She starts asking me deep questions about my life, like about my family history, and talking about her own feelings regarding her dead father. So instead of escalating, you decided to talk. Are you sure you're attracted to women? Also, you talked to her about feeling regarding her dead father. Yeah, I'm sure that splooshed her panties... I thought this was going well Yeah! It was going great! With her pussy splooshed like the Sahara Desert! but she refused …
/r/askTRP16/11/19 01:51 AM
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We hung out a few times after without sex. Was no sex your idea, or her idea? If it was her idea, then you fucked up. You should always be doing what YOU want. (To be clear, I'm saying you cancel the meet-up, not rape her.) Then she's posting shit on Instagram You're checking her social media? Let me guess: because you have no mission keeping you busy? Or is it because your frame is weak so you're living in hers? Any tips? Yes: get out of her frame and into your own. Work on a non-bullshit missi…
/r/askTRP15/11/19 08:53 PM
5

Theoretically, someone in the intermediate or advanced levels of RP theory could indeed salvage this (although... if they were at that level, they wouldn't have been shit-tested to this degree to begin with...). It is indeed possible to turn her into a personal slut of an FWB without getting dragged down in a whirlwind of bullshit drama. But you? You're not anywhere near that level of knowledge nor strength in frame to navigate it correctly. It'll just blow up in your face and wreck your mindset…
/r/askTRP15/11/19 06:39 PM
1

The side-bar covers this in detail, but in short its about living from your own perspective. You do things because YOU want to do them, not as a reaction from what other people do or want. And yes, it includes not reacting to nonsense, but its more than just outward appearances; its about legitimately not caring, because you have unshakable confidence in yourself and an important mission to work on. Lots of people have learned it from an academic standpoint, but then crumble when the real world …
/r/askTRP15/11/19 05:20 PM
1

You'd be caring about shit that doesn't matter. You'd be exposing a fragile ego that's about to crack at any minute. Men with real frame wouldn't even notice... much less be fazed.
/r/askTRP15/11/19 04:02 PM
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Well there you go. Now, bringing up what she said, or reacting to it in any way, would be seen like this: "I am insecure and triggered by these words because I am not a strong man with a mission who keeps him focused and busy. Furthermore, I am living in your frame instead of my own." See how this fucks you over?
/r/askTRP15/11/19 03:58 PM
0

and you don’t want to hear that kind of language out of her mouth or see it on her social media. "I am insecure and triggered by these words because I am not a strong man with a mission who keeps him focused and busy. Furthermore, I am living in your frame instead of my own." Nope.
/r/askTRP15/11/19 03:54 PM
2

I think most of y’all misunderstand my view. I’m not sensitive to words. I just wanna know if it’s a red flag. But your post IS centered around her using a particular word, and whether or not this is enough of a problem that it should change your views. Like I said before... words are just words. They have no inherent meaning. What does matter is context. So I'll ask again: if you stripped those words out of what she posted, and you look at her behavior as a whole, is she actually racist?
/r/askTRP15/11/19 03:50 PM
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Words are just words. What matters is context. If you stripped it out of her words and left everything else the same, is she actually racist? Racism is much more than just a word. I definitely grew up thinking that Hispanics who said that are potentially racist. FYI, by being overly sensitive to it, you give those words power over you. If black people stopped caring and reacting to it so strongly, those words would no longer have meaning, and hence... they would no longer be used. Notice how whi…
/r/askTRP15/11/19 03:38 PM
5

ltr of two months after two months of dating. Proper vetting of a potential LTR happens over the course of a minimum of 6 months. and we ended up fighting for two hours over the phone. Never argue with a woman. But now that you have: did it accomplish anything? Nope. You just wasted two hours of your life for nothing in return. she ended up questioning the relationship Of course she did, because you looked weak as fuck arguing about nonsense with your emotions engaged. She has every right to sec…
/r/askTRP14/11/19 05:15 PM
2

Ask if she wants someone to take her. Go with her if she says yes.
/r/askTRP14/11/19 05:02 PM
4

As long as you have good financial discipline, you can pay off $100K in two years with a $110K salary. In those two years, you can still go to her place or the occasional hotel. Another option is to find another job at the 1-year mark... somewhere with a lower cost of living but with the same salary and career options.
/r/askTRP14/11/19 02:30 AM
2

You're right to not bring it up unless you have to. That point seems to be coming up soon. Just tell her the truth. There's no shame in being in the middle of a divorce. If you were dating long-term and decided to end it, there wouldn't be a legal mess to sort through. One of you would move out after a couple weeks. Done. So why should a legal complication change anything? For all intents and purposes, you are a single man now. Internalize this idea and you won't show insecurity about it. After …
/r/askTRP14/11/19 02:24 AM
5

Apply dread (see the side-bar). Either she gets in line or you replace her. Keep in mind that she may never get in line. In that case, it would be a mistake to try to shoe-horn your life around someone who doesn't meet your requirements. There's 3.5 billion women on this planet. Find the ones who fit your criteria and are willing to put in the work to keep up.
/r/askTRP14/11/19 02:19 AM
1

If she finds a man who is higher value than you or has something you don’t, even if you’re alpha super chad, there is still a real possibility she will cheat. Correct. All women will branch swing given the right circumstances. And furthermore if a guy comes along who beats you in every aspect, then you deserve to lose. Save for increasing your SMV, there is nothing you can do about this. Controlling her will not change anything. But not allowing her to go on vacations alone with her friends is a…
/r/askTRP14/11/19 02:07 AM
1

It is noted that you have no logical response to my points. It is also noted that your personal attacks show that your emotions are engaged.
/r/askTRP14/11/19 12:26 AM
1

They’re saying he should next if she goes on the cock carousel vacation. As I've said before in other threads, I agree. My point is this: when your vetting abilities aren't dog-shit, the trips she goes on are not "cock carousel vacations." Because you filtered out the types of women who are drawn to that behavior. If you're afraid of what will happen on vacation, are you going to let her go to a grocery store by herself? Are you going to follow her to work for 40 hours per week? Vacations are no…
/r/askTRP14/11/19 12:23 AM
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All Girls trips are girls gone wild trips. When your ability to vet women is dog-shit, this is certainly true. But just because you keep LTR'ing whores, doesn't mean the smart guys are too. And explain to me how you vet a girl and gain the information that she’s going to take a girls trip 2 years into the relationship. You don't. You do the vetting in the 6+ months of time after you first meet her. Is it the way she she holds her phone? Maybe the way she sips her drink on the first date? You sta…
/r/askTRP14/11/19 12:17 AM
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Women sometimes change their mind and do shit out of the blue. You'd notice a change in her behavior, and that would be your cue to demote. Whether or not she actually goes through with cheating on you doesn't matter. Once she's made that decision, that is the precise point at which your LTR is done. Any and all mate-guarding you do will have zero effect on the outcome.
/r/askTRP13/11/19 11:50 PM
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Some people need the tough love.
/r/askTRP13/11/19 11:46 PM
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Interesting thanks for this. As for her social media account. She has pics of her and girlfriends, pictures of us on there together as well as selfies of herself. Context matters. Would you say that any of the pictures are designed to get attention from men? If so, that's a major red flag. Red Flag popped up a couple of weeks ago when I mate guarded her when some guy text her on WhatsAPP. I went in and asked to see her phone what the convo was about and lost frame in the process. Showing insecur…
/r/askTRP13/11/19 09:03 PM
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For instance someone else told me that I should tell her again [...] Quite a lot of TRP beginners come in here and start spouting off. "A little bit of knowledge can be really dangerous." Refer to my replies in other threads. with girlfriends like these. Like what? I mentioned in another thread that going on a trip in and of itself is not a problem, but if she's going with a group of party-girls, that changes everything.
/r/askTRP13/11/19 08:55 PM
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Proper vetting is done over the course of 6+ months. You pay attention to her behaviors: how excited is she to see you? Does she initiate conversations? Does she put in extra effort to put plans together to see you? Does she follow your lead? Does she have a social media presence that suggests she's dependent on male attention & validation? Does she add value to your life? You keep your eyes open for red flags. If she passes, then you may upgrade to LTR. She know how I felt about girls trips. He…
/r/askTRP13/11/19 08:46 PM
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I'm not sure what you mean.
/r/askTRP13/11/19 08:39 PM
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I agree, but some women are much more tempted than others. Take a look at social media. Some women run a thirst-trap because they are dependent on attention and validation from men. Other women seek attention and validation from one guy and aren't interested in being the center of attention all the time. All women will branch swing given the right conditions, but those conditions are met much more often with one group vs the other.
/r/askTRP13/11/19 08:38 PM
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She is going on a ggw trip. If this is actually happening, then you fucked up by vetting poorly and/or becoming a weak man who lost her interest. In that case, 1.) it is YOUR fault, and 2.) your LTR has no value, hence you lose nothing. if any woman you were with was doing something you didnt like you WOULD say something No, I speak with my actions. I'd re-evaluate her worthiness as my LTR, and adjust my attention accordingly. Speaking with your words is weak. That's what women do. Are you sayin…
/r/askTRP13/11/19 08:35 PM
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Even if you don't care what she does you should care about what you are willing to put up with. Agreed.
/r/askTRP13/11/19 07:28 PM
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Yes. She will be distant, she will start hiding her phone from you (or now there's a lock on it), her attention level will shift, and/or your priority in her life will move down, etc.
/r/askTRP13/11/19 06:59 PM
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Like I said, I'm interested in collecting and curating a knowledge base of peer-reviewed studies that prove various aspects of TRP theory. But right now, it doesn't exist. Pulling that together would take many hours over the course of months. Furthermore, I have a mission to chase down right now; I'm certainly not going to upend that just win one internet argument. In the meantime, nobody here cares about what you believe or do. Feel free to not follow the common advice of properly vetting a wom…
/r/askTRP13/11/19 06:54 PM
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Properly vetted women simply aren't tempted as often as the average woman. Yes, all women will branch-swing given the right conditions, but those conditions are much more rare for the ideal LTR candidates when your SMV is high. Assuming your perceptive abilities aren't shit, if she cheats, you'll find out soon. The red flags will light up. Besides, do you honestly think any LTR will last forever? She fucked men before you, and she will fuck men after you too. Its just your turn.
/r/askTRP13/11/19 06:46 PM
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Why are you yelling? Let's use our indoor voices. it is up to you to provide evidence for your claims Ok, I formally retract all my claims. They are all 100% false. I wish you the best of luck in navigating life.
/r/askTRP13/11/19 06:39 PM
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Explain to me how you can go through a relationship without reacting to anything. You react to things that matter: when you're leading your life towards a goal, but your tactics aren't working and need to be adjusted. Or when you learn someone is being toxic in your life and they need to be ejected. You do not change your plans or let your emotions run free when she chooses to do something. That is lack of frame and lack of outcome-independence. Her choices in life are hers to make. You're not h…
/r/askTRP13/11/19 06:36 PM
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I have a degree in the (hard) sciences Me too. Several, in fact. And while I do heavily prioritize hard science over subjective experiences, not everything has been tested in a formal study. When many people experience similar things, which also fall in line with what studies and theories have proven, they are very much worth listening to. There are zero good statistics or research papers to verify anything you're saying Not necessarily. I simply didn't quote them, and you didn't find them. This…
/r/askTRP13/11/19 05:25 PM
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the funny thing is, even with vetting, their mindset changes simply as you become more familiar/the longer they're with you Vetting properly only sets the stage for day 1. Strong frame, and applying dread when necessary keeps things on track after that.
/r/askTRP13/11/19 05:10 PM
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Biologically speaking, I do not think this is true. You can rationalize endlessly about this, but experience with women clearly shows that some women form fleeting bonds with men, while others seek to establish strong bonds. Humans are imperfect systems and I think 'vetting', at least how this sub describes it, doesn't do much. Incorrect. You can determine quite a lot by looking at a woman's social media posts, for example. Is she posting pictures of herself designed to get attention? Women who …
/r/askTRP13/11/19 05:07 PM
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Having a high SMV doesn't prevent women from wanting new dick. Yes, but there is quite a lot of variability in this. Some women are cock-hungry monsters, and others are cock-hungry monsters who just want one guy's cock. And various shades in between. Your job is to vet potential LTRs properly so you promote a woman who is on the better side of that scale. Sure, under the right circumstances, all women will branch swing. But my point is that with the ideal LTR candidate, those right circumstances…
/r/askTRP13/11/19 04:43 PM
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This is not a troll. And the fact that you're trying to insult someone on an internet forum further shows that your frame is dog-shit. And hey... that's OK. You have to start somewhere. But this strongly implies you need to learn the basics of RP theory instead of answering questions from other beginners. Now get to work. The clock is ticking.
/r/askTRP13/11/19 04:37 PM
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it's a group of friends/women I know and approve of (there are some whom I know their husbands and know the women for 10+ yrs; there is another group who she doesn't travel with who are divorced and out of control (tinder single moms)) AWALT but there is definitely a difference on what the 2 groups do for fun at night. it's a destination we do not have on our bucket-list (certain places we want to go-to together, period.) it's discussed before she books, maybe because we share a bank account,the…
/r/askTRP13/11/19 04:26 PM
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Why did some guy's comments on an internet forum crack your frame? That reply of yours was designed to protect your fragile ego. Meditate on why this happened.
/r/askTRP13/11/19 04:21 PM
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Let's say there's a guy with high SMV (attained through many years of hard work) with an LTR that he vetted properly. She books a vacation with her female friend. That guy knows that he's the prize, so he isn't worried that she will cheat on him. In fact, even if very physically attractive guys hit on her, she wouldn't even notice. Furthermore, in the unlikely case that another total-package kind of guy takes a liking to her, he knows that with everything he brings to the table, he can replace h…
/r/askTRP13/11/19 04:18 PM
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Re-read your entire post. See how much you're reacting to her actions? This should be setting off alarms in your head that you're living in her frame instead of your own. Furthermore, the fact that you're caring about the possibilities shows lack of outcome independence. Assuming you have high SMV and you vetted her properly, you have absolutely nothing to worry about. She'd know she's got quite the prize waiting for her at home, and she wouldn't dare do anything to lose it. In fact, since you'r…
/r/askTRP13/11/19 04:05 PM
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Are you trying to get us to do your philosophy homework for free? TRP is a tool that has proven itself at being very effective in unlocking a man's full potential. It is a framework for following the path to self-actualization. Beyond that, its up to you how much you want to believe in it or not. Follow it or not. Over-analyze the world or don't. Nobody here cares what choice you make, because the advanced practitioners are already winning.
/r/askTRP13/11/19 03:55 PM
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I didn't bother reading most of this post, because the details don't matter. What does matter are these two points: Marriage is horse shit. You should never do anything only because someone else wants you to. I also spotted these gems in your text: she is 5.5 who is approaching the wall [...] I believe I can do much better [...] Last year I tried to make her dump me Sounds like she's not even LTR material, but you're too much of a pussy to end it. Start reading and mastering the sidebar. You hav…
/r/askTRP13/11/19 03:43 PM
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she didn't look pregnant at all You fucked a fat chick, didn't you. What are my options? Get a lawyer. Regardless of whether or not you want to be in the kid's life, you absolutely need to make sure you're covered in this situation. Any other opinion you get on this matter from a non-lawyer--including on this sub--is worth precisely dog shit.
/r/askTRP12/11/19 11:23 PM
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Why are you so worried about her feelings? Those are hers to deal with, not you. I suspect the reason is that your frame isn't strong enough to weather the pressure to upgrade the relationship. You're afraid you're going to get roped into doing something you don't want. The solution to this is to strengthen your frame.
/r/askTRP12/11/19 07:20 PM
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Your AA/AM responses are perfect. Keep that up. Either she's intentionally trying to drop hints for a threesome, or dread is working its magic. Ask if she's ever wanted to grope some tits. Her reaction will tell you which it is.
/r/askTRP12/11/19 07:16 PM
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Applying dread is guaranteed to fix this. The other side of this involves fixing the root cause. Namely, you started to become too available and too complacent. Dial down your attention to her, and start prioritizing your mission. That will prevent things from deteriorating again.
/r/askTRP12/11/19 05:45 PM
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You just reach out like a normal human and see how she's doing. Say something interesting. Either she responds or you soft-next. The fact that you're over-thinking this shows you have lack of abundance.
/r/askTRP12/11/19 04:50 PM
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No. You have no proof that this was intentional. If this happens once, it means nothing. If it becomes a pattern, however...
/r/askTRP12/11/19 04:48 PM
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You're in an LTR while in high school?? There's your first mistake. Mate-guarding is your second mistake. Immediately demote to FWB, stop caring about what she does, and game other women.
/r/askTRP12/11/19 04:32 AM
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to prove to yourself you can say no to people No, this isn't about proving anything to anyone. This is about learning how to handle people who you do not want in your life. This extends far beyond the situation of a hobo asking for money. I prefer to not risk someone carrying a gun/a knife, or getting attacked by a guy's friend. Projecting power and self-control lowers the chances of being attacked, as you imply that you are not an easy victim. Bullies look for weaklings. One time I was walking …
/r/askTRP12/11/19 03:44 AM
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No kidding. Let me break this down for you, so you can understand. If you're at risk of getting shot or stabbed, at least one of these must be true: You're in a shitty part of the city that you shouldn't be in. Your entire city/country is a shit hole and you should have left it 5 years ago. You look like a good victim. All of the above are under your control.
/r/askTRP12/11/19 03:26 AM
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If you're a strong man and you still have to be afraid of hobos and ghetto trash, then you're doing something wrong. You're either going to dog shit areas of the city unnecessarily or your entire city is dog shit and you need to leave. Or you're not a strong man.
/r/askTRP12/11/19 12:42 AM
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I’ve read the sidebar. I know about frame, dread, etc. There's a BIG difference between reading the sidebar and mastering the sidebar. You're asking questions that prove you don't have a very strong grasp of the core concepts. but losing a woman who had extremely high interest in you is a terrible feeling. This is scarcity mentality. When you say act like it’s not a big deal - is that as simple as not mentioning anything? It means get out of her frame and into your own. Once you do that, you'll …
/r/askTRP12/11/19 12:40 AM
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I’m not sure if I should verbally let her know? Speaking with your words instead of your actions is weak. Act like its not a big deal. Because it isn't. A lot can happen in 5 weeks, she can lose interest and find another guy Then she didn't deserve to be your LTR in the first place. Hence, you'd lose nothing of value. she is likely insecure about me going to America. This is called dread, and it works to your advantage. That is, unless you fuck it up by acting like an insecure beta. she currentl…
/r/askTRP11/11/19 11:34 PM
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You're handling the issue well on the outside by making jokes and getting her away without insulting her. But the bigger problem you have is that its triggered your emotions. Why did it rattle your frame?
/r/askTRP11/11/19 04:05 PM
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Are you lifting? Being stronger than most guys would give you confidence when the riff raff shows up. It also wards off quite a lot of them, since you don't look like a target anymore. That, and your body language would tell them too. Practice saying no when beggers come up to you. Look them dead in the eye and say it with authority. "No." should sound like it ends with a period, not a question mark.
/r/askTRP11/11/19 03:38 PM
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