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FDS MOVIES & TVVmwvi/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 03:16 AM
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You forgot existing in the same dimension and existing in general.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 07:47 AM
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Statistically, there are more teen mothers than teen fathers by a pretty large margin. Make of that what you will.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 07:38 AM
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Pre-nups. Discuss how assets are to be split with a good couples therapist or if you can't find one, directly with each other.Draw up contracts e.g. if you cheat the marriage is annulled and I get this much as compensation or in case of a divorce we keep what we had before the marriage and do so-and-so with what we earned after.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 07:14 AM
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Finish your exams first if you don't you risk having to wait another year if the guy your dating tries to sabotage you. It's not wrong to want a relationship, just if it's your final year and your final exam, that takes priority. After you pass your exam, and only after you can look into dating but look for jobs in the meanwhile; don't let men consume your life. You don't want to become financially dependent on a man. You should be aiming to save enough to move out preferably into your own house…
/r/askFDS25/08/21 05:10 PM
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(B). (A) sounds like they bore you to death, are completely unmotivated and has no life outside of maybe work and twiddling his thumbs. You sound significantly more interested in (B). Unless it's something like person (B) is in debt because of his family (in which case they should focus on paying it off first) or his family members have asked you for money when you met them, it doesn't really make a difference. So long as both he and his family are respectful and generous and you're happy in the…
/r/askFDS19/08/21 10:20 AM
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Don't have kids with this guy. He wants you to work directly after your pregnancy. There's a reason they give you a break and it's not because pregnancy is easy or risk free. Not to mention that if you get hurt during the pregnancy this guy is most definitely the type to coerce you into working. Don't believe the "we'll hire a nanny" rhetoric what he means is you'll hire a nanny and handle everything vaguely related to the children even directly after a traumatic pregnancy while he takes the cre…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 02:39 AM
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A good relationship should make you feel happy, not anxious or bored. You shouldn't be constantly thinking about them but spending time with them should make you happy. If all you're feeling for someone is "eh" you're wasting your time dating them, even if they do turn out to the the nicest person in the world. At the same time though, a feeling of instability isn't good either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 04:28 AM
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Exactly. He isn't even paying for the car why would he get a say in her choice of car?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 04:05 AM
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And even if they do do it in public it's almost always to women and defenseless women at that. Suddenly they can control themselves when faced with a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 04:02 AM
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Go for it. Dating dumber men does not mean that they'll be any nicer the way dating less attractive men doesn't make them any nicer. High IQ and high EQ is not too much to ask. If the guy "becomes" condescending he was a condescending jerk in the first place and no number of PhDs will change that. Even if he was uneducated he'd still mansplain and condescend in a "Your PhD is worthless" way, because no matter how great your achievements are, LVM will try to put you down for them, whether it's in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 03:11 AM
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Because the women are rightfully afraid of being assaulted by the men at the homeless shelters and because women get prostituted by pimps targeting vulnerable women or trafficked or killed by the men. It's also why you see less homeless women; they have to hide much better to survive. Where a man could just sit on some random park bench to beg, a woman would have to check escape routes, scan the area for threats and even then they're still at risk. Men are also more likely to be "professional be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 02:45 AM
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It's so everyone knows the man is a golddigger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 11:55 PM
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A childfree partner means they have never had children, adoptive or otherwise, don't want children and does not act like a child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 05:43 AM
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The relationship you're describing still seems pointless and gay or not, he's still flaking on you, pushy, rude, constantly late, unorganised and deliberately ignores commitments that he's agreed to. Gay doesn't instantly mean HV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 11:25 AM
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For her birthday? Seriously? He pressures her into a most likely unwanted sexual act as a birthday present? This is clearly a gift for him, not for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 10:19 AM
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I do game, but any man who comes out and says "I'm a gamer" straight up without you asking is a red flag. Normally it's done in a way that sets it up as an excuse e.g. "I'm a gamer therefore I can't be bothered to respond/spend time with you/want you to sit there doing nothing and watching me while I game". If they bring it up unprompted and it isn't their profession it's a red flag (and even if it is their profession that tends to be a red flag). I would also check what type of game he's playin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 02:34 AM
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She's saying moving cities especially for the men and the female/male ratio. She's doing it because she's worried that she'll be unmarried by 30. She says she already has her dream job so either she's planning on inconveniencing herself daily to move away or give that up completely to move to a city with more men. She's also going to be moving away from her friends and hobbies, family relationships and volunteering opportunities (considering she's lived there 3 years.) If it were "moving cities …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 12:20 AM
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Don't move cities for men. It's like exchanging a large trashcan for another trashcan (no offense to trashcans or trash). If there's something you like in life e.g. wide open spaces, lively areas with lots of people etc. go for it, but don't force yourself to go somewhere because the men there might be marginally less trashy. There's over 7.6 billion people on Earth; all you're looking for is one. If you move cities for a hypothetical man you will be disappointed. Even if you do meet the prince …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 03:40 PM
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Men are so much better because they're consistently sociopathic and inconsistent./s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 11:08 AM
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Yep. Be careful around your husband. Plenty of people will fake good behaviour for a while only to go back to being what they were before or even worse the minute they think they can get away with it. Make sure you have an escape in the case of DV for you and your children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 08:39 AM
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Yeah, unfortunately women with the "it doesn't matter if we're not perfect because everyone has flaws" mentality normally turns out to be "I'm a supermodel-level beautiful woman, who does all the chores, works a full time job, has children who I'm pretty much the sole caretaker of but occasionally has an eyelash out of place or has only "natural" makeup, while my highly unattractive, unhygienic husband's list of red flags could be wrapped around the earth twice with plenty to spare. But of cours…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 12:56 AM
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Whether 6 figures is a big deal depends on where you live and what currency you're using e.g. euro or american dollars. For example, in some places 100,000 dollars doesn't count towards much because of the cost of living is so high. (Congratulations you have enough for 1/10th of a house and not even a particularly expensive one like a beach house assuming you somehow legally evade tax and never do anything with your money, including eat, buy clothes etc.) It's definitely hard if not downright im…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 04:42 AM
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She could just send the part where he mentions "low self esteem" and mention that he send videos of his d*ck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 04:00 PM
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In my family, it's pretty much always been the man transfers his salary to his wife's bank account and she handles finances regardless of children. The house is in her name (added bonus of tax reduction without much risk to either side since it'd still be split in the case of a divorce anyways) and the husband's account is the debt account. It wasn't legally mandated through a prenup, it's just how finances were handled. I'd suggest you get a prenup for it though since there's always a chance th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 03:21 PM
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This man is treating you like a slave. This is literally how pimps traffick their victims; leaving them VISA-less and illegal. Honestly you have a better shot in a literal jail than with this man; at least in a jail you're away from him. You can most definitely apply for a VISA; with all the COVID problems getting tourists home many people are stuck in foreign countries. You can even get an annulment after your VISA has expired in some countries, though I recommend getting one ASAP. You should t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 10:57 AM
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Not-so-fun facts: Men's urinals don't have toilet paper. Most men use the urinals when they need to pee.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 10:15 AM
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Yeah, this is 100 percent true. Once I watched one of the wedding games where they raise an object to say who they think is more likely to do something and one of the things that stood out was that they were on completely different wavelengths.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 09:32 AM
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Don't stay with a man like this. This isn't puppy school; it's a grown man who know what he's doing. You can try all you want to "train" them but at the end of the day they still secretly or sometimes even openly hate you and still only want to use you. Leaving is the consequence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 07:54 AM
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I doubt it's a girlfriend. And even if he was taking them for a girlfriend, that's still incredibly LV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 07:09 AM
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Ugh, he takes on the role of an average married woman with children, minus the trauma from childbirth for the smallest amount of time and he ruins his entire family's life. Just goes to show how a bad relationship is worse than no relationship at all. Without him at least she'd have enough subsidies to survive, no kids to take care of and money in case of an emergency (which he wasted on drugs), but because of him all she has is debt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 06:56 AM
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I've heard that "Why does he do that" is good for identifying ways men will try to manipulate you and abuse you e.g. gaslighting, but focuses more on how to identify these men. (Take this with a grain of salt because I've never actually read the book, but from what people have said about it it seems to be useful for identifying these tactics.) However, you've already identified that he is toxic. How you deal with him depends on your situation. Normally, you would cut a man like this off, but I g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 12:27 PM
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6 year age gap. All you need to know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 09:09 AM
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That's pretty much what a narcissist does. They're fine and act all lovey-dovey when you fit their mould of who they think you should be but the minute you disagree with them you break their illusion and they show their toxicity. He's showing his true self in those arguments; devoid of empathy and viewing everything as a transaction. Narcissists create the image of a perfect man and use it to treat you like garbage. They're "nice" some of the time; whatever they feel is enough to keep you around…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 08:32 AM
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I think he's already proven himself - proven himself incapable of meeting the bare minimum of decency through his treatment of kindness as transactional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 06:37 AM
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Get rid of him. He sees all good deeds as transactional and will treat them like brownie points to coerce you into doing things for him. (e.g. Remember 10 years ago when I held a door that was already open? That means you owe me so and so.) Like the "nice guys" who only do nice things when they're trying to get laid, their niceness is fake and a means to an end; making you feel indebted to them in this case.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 01:06 PM
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Even if he asked for exclusivity and hasn't gone anywhere the whole time you've been dating, assume he's cheating with the whole country, men and women, when deciding whether he needs an STD test. You don't know if he got an STD from a past relationship and is lying about it or if he's one of the types to only ask for exclusivity because he wants you to be exclusively his but not to be exclusively yours.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 09:01 AM
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*To men. While there are some pick-mes who will be catty to you in the hopes that it'll endear the to the men, it's mostly the men who will see you as less human than them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 12:11 PM
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I think a neurodivergent man would be the same in that if he doesn't show he loves you, he probably doesn't. There are definitely HVM who are not neurotypical who have their own ways of showing affection or invent new ones, whether it's by putting ridiculous amounts of effort in small things like the setup of a date to make it perfect or through special secret codes; like the story of the woman whose husband/boyfriend developed a code where he would tap 3 times to say I love you and did it so of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 11:48 AM
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Yep. Violent and unstable men gravitate towards the military, because they can shoot things, hurt things etc and get paid for it. They're normally lacking in empathy (because a job that involves killing people, including innocent ones, isn't exactly made for Mr Empathy). They are then trained to be even more lacking in empathy (think don't save your friend because your officer said so). As a woman in the military, you're more likely to be r*ped by someone on your side than be shot by the enemy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 09:03 AM
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Ugh. And the fact that the could have used a sperm donor to get a healthy baby for a fraction of the price the entire time but they chose to risk the women's lives repeatedly in expensive, risky, invasive operations for a baby that would most likely have many health issues because of the man's ego is nauseating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 01:37 AM
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This is called premediated attempted murder in English.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 06:51 AM
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I don't like the term "demi-sexual" because it implies that by wanting to feel affection and to have the person you are having sex with and risking STIs, pregnancy and risk death for return that affection is somehow abnormal. It's like the term "metrosexual" (where a man shows an interest in looking any better than a bridge troll through good fashion and self-care choices) which was invented so men could feel that being decently kept was strange and to justify their own poor appearance. It also …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 11:23 AM
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I like how both secrets and porn addiction have an extra layer over the words (the hand and the strap) to keep them hidden, while all hers are out in the open. And "Heart on sleeve", while not the best trait to have when you are dealing with terrible people, is not "baggage". Also, the "toxic ex" is very unlikely to be actually toxic, just responding to terrible treatment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 06:51 AM
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Not to mention that they get the women to choose only one as a "bonus", as if part of bare minimum is a bonus and you can only have one feature.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 10:31 AM
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I feel like the actual reason for this is that so many women feel like they have to put "able to hold down a decent paying job without gambling everything away" as their highest standard, or they're shallow and not seeing a man for "who he is" (which in most cases is still trash, just less attractive looking trash). How many films have an actually "ugly" (not Hollywood completely made up face, perfect body) older yet irresponsible woman with her life in shambles end up with an attractive success…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 07:49 AM
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Yeah, women died during the women's birth control trials; men had mild headaches. Guess which one they deemed too inhumane to go into further testing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 05:45 AM
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Yeah, they can be hard to get out of your life since they normally double down when they feel like you could escape your grasp. They tend to be super toxic and draining. If they insult your hobbies, are controlling of your time and life, particularly your friend group, it's a pretty good sign that they're trying to hold you down instead of pulling themselves up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 06:40 AM
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I seriously hope he's an ex boyfriend by now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 10:42 AM
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Nothing? If you aren't getting your name on the house it's not your property. You have no responsibility to anything on it, boyfriend or not. He's your bf til you're married and picking an engagement ring means nothing if he doesn't go through with it. You already are doing more chores because he's not bothered to make time and you're planning on buying him food and paying his bills as well as contribute a significant sum of money to the closing fees despite your student debt for a house that yo…
/r/askFDS18/05/21 02:56 PM
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Exactly. This type of man isn't going around "complimenting" his male friends, or even male strangers. Also if your "compliments" make people afraid for their lives, then maybe you should reconsider what you define as a compliment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 09:27 AM
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Not to mention that he had more than one viable heir, but still went on to have six wives in total and a whole bunch of affairs. He had a illegitimate son while still married to the first wife and a son with the third. He could have stopped there but he didn't. His terrible genetics were causing all the miscarriages, but he still blamed his wives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 03:16 AM
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Great now he knows how to trick other women into having sex with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 12:02 AM
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Yeah FDS says no military men since most of them were violent and incapable of showing much empathy from the start (military work tends to attracts that type) and even if they were empathetic, they're trained to lose that empathy and follow orders. They get so many benefits for being legally married and the wife is treated as a side piece. The murder rates of women married to military or even police men is significantly higher. They probably will have killed and watched other soldiers die that t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 11:45 PM
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Yeah, he also wanted to leave her to freeze to death on the mountain after she bought food for him and his reindeer and saved his life from the wolves. The only reason he didn't was he wanted money and a new sled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 10:35 AM
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Get him to change his last name if he wants the whole family to have the same last name for practical purposes. Any children should 100 percent have your last name (you literally have to suffer through 9 months of torture, push a large object out of your vagina and take care of a screaming crying baby for the next 18 years). You can be a Mr and Mrs with your last name; there's literally no reason that it has to be his. It's his "rite of passage" to take not yours. If he tries to push his last na…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 08:11 AM
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Just extending the analogy, if you aren't getting anything back out of it (normally when you sell or rent the fixer upper house house), you're ending up financially and emotionally drained from an unworthy investment. You've given it free labour and wasted your time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 10:46 PM
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Find a new boyfriend? It's not your job to change him. If you need to overthink about the conversation on something as below-bare-minimum as a skincare routine, then you should reconsider the relationship. If he has permanently flawless skin and applies SPF, it's excusable, but if he doesn't, and has done nothing to change it, that's an indicator of his lack of care for his own body and your opinion of him. You should also not be giving him brownie points for far below the bare minimum (e.g. hyg…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 12:34 PM
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I used to have the same problem. Just remember that these "super-shy" guys will have no problem ditching you because of their so called "shyness". They also will have no problem being able to ask out the girl they actually want and if they're flirting, it's normally for a cheap hit of validation. They will also 100% leave you on a rock to die if any trouble crops up because they're not brave enough to do the right thing, now or ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 11:14 AM
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I meant that he happened to be going to Harvard med and she was going to apply to Harvard law school. But we 100 percent don't date potential.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 07:24 AM
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Admittedly they had me in the first half with the "once in a lifetime" and "everything I sacrificed" talk, but choosing a man over a career is one of the worst life choices possible. Law schools opportunities don't hang around and unless her boyfriend just happens to be going to Harvard med school, she just sacrificed her future for trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 07:02 AM
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Ugh, LVMs would flock to you yelling not all men, and in the process, proving all men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 07:11 AM
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"We grew lazy" while she's taking care of 2 kids and one addicted man-child on top of herself 24/7 and presumably works.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 10:26 AM
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Exactly. Women on the streets either have to hide nearly 24/7 to protect themselves from men, get picked up by pimps or trafficked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 02:27 AM
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This 100%. Ron literally insults Hermione from day 1 and does his best to prevent her from dating anyone better, despite never asking her out (see: Trizwizard tournaments, Ron's jealousy over Harry and Hermione). He hates her for being smarter than him. He literally drives her to make a suicidal decision (fighting the troll) and wastes his time, relying on Hermione to act as a secretary and second mother by organising his study timetable. Ron wanted to copy off Hermione and would have not studie…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 10:15 AM
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LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 03:44 AM
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Why have you spent over 60 000 rupees on him? That's a huge waste of money, especially considering you both don't earn anything, and he in no way intends to pay you back (he has no job and has not gotten one to pay back the tens of thousands you gave him). You approximate him as spending a tenth of what you spend on him on you. From your post it seems like he's uninterested in reciprocation and is with you for the money. You should expect so much better. He should definitely be doing more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 06:52 AM
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I do know that women live longer and happier lives in matriarchal societies, while men experience no change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 01:43 AM
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Don't link, we don't want to give them more views.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 12:05 AM
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Ew. He's a NVM, don't call trash like that a HVM because he's got coins to throw around. Glad you left him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 10:52 PM
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You dump him and find a man who can cook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 10:44 PM
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Great we can switch. They can fear being murdered, r*ped and assaulted daily, get taken less seriously, risk pregnancy every time they have sex, be expected to handle the entire household while holding a job, cook, clean, care for any potential children and we can be no longer targeted by crazy, non-committal men. All these men are conveniently forgetting that many of our greatest discoveries were made by women and stolen by men. Not to mention the typical "house husband" lies on the couch while…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 06:09 AM
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I'm pretty sure those are the three free awards besides silver.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 09:08 PM
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It's one of our sister subs. It's in the sidebar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 11:23 PM
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Yeah, for example, my sister's husband looks like a HVM because he earns a lot and as is traditional, lets her handle his finances (his earnings go into her account and she budgets) but he's racist, homophobic, overweight, jokes about strippers and wants to have children while my sister doesn't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 11:13 PM
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I think women tend to be more naïve about the depravity of some men or trust men too much, because they have so much empathy and can't even imagine doing such terrible things to others, which is why we're seen as "dumb" or "ditzy" for believing men at face value. Statistically, we tend to be above average in intelligence (in subjects such as English, Maths and Science) but men are more extreme, with a high concentration at the bottom, but taking up the top spots. This is mostly due to laziness o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 07:20 AM
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It shouldn't even be a situation in the first place. The school 100 percent would know that prom matters to the girls much more than to the boys and are using it to exploit them. I hope that their alternate party is amazing if it comes to that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 05:19 AM
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No, they'd cut them off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 10:31 PM
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Even in this situation, it was a woman who, despite being shot 3 times and having a fractured skull, tried to help as many women as possible. The men just stood by.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 10:16 PM
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I'd still be annoyed that, once again, women are being forced to move over and downgrade from what's rightfully theirs for trash men. The newspaper idea is probably the better one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 10:13 PM
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They're actually drones only; they fight to breed with the queen bee when she decides to take a mating flight and die immediately afterwards. The ones who don't are thrown out in preparation for the winter. All worker bees are female, as well as the queen bees.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 09:32 AM
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Don't bother trying to educate men; they could know with a single google search but they'd prefer to use the labour of women instead of making the effort to educate themselves. If your "friend" needs to be spoon fed information on such a well known, easily found statistic then you should reconsider your friend group. You aren't his kindergarten teacher. If he wanted to he would. He knows how to google something, he knows how to find sources, but he'd rather waste your time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 06:20 AM
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Not to mention the shirts. Gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 05:59 AM
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The extreme hormone swings would probably make it worse honestly. They're moody enough. Not to mention extreme hormones causes side effects like hair growth. I think, Besides, poor diet and lack of self-care (no sunscreen, lack of self control, no skincare), is what causes all the "man boobs". Fit guys can have man boobs if they were particularly fat in the past.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 06:50 AM
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Yeah, they would not enjoy being hit on aggressively by a hairy larger man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 05:40 AM
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It's not a formal rule, just a common stereotype on what women want, normally brought up as a "women have too high standards" type of thing. You decide your own rules based on what you want from a partner e.g. if you make 7 figures you go for people making 7 figures instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 07:08 AM
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The feeling of dread is your intuition. If you're not feeling loved, then leave the relationship. If you get a bad feeling around them leave. Your brain is picking up the subtle hints of abusive behaviour that you would normally ignore. Relationships are meant to make your life better and less stressful; not more stressful. If you dread being near him, dump him. You don't want to date a guy you have to be constantly afraid of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 06:27 AM
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He should be the one cooking for her. They aren't even married and she's already playing second mother. She's paying to feed him like he's a baby. Even she admits he's spoilt. Just because someone has a mental illness doesn't mean they're incapable of doing things for themselves and those that they actually care about. He's capable of eating, talking and complaining, indicating that he should have enough intelligence to cook his own meals and pay for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 10:15 PM
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FDS applies 100 percent. Even if you don't have a baby and have a thousand backup plans in case you fall pregnant it doesn't protect you from falling ill, sustaining an injury or a LVM trying to trap you into a marriage by sabotaging birth control. Not to mention the men who'll target childfree women just to try to pressure you into having kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 06:13 AM
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Read the handbook. This isn't a red flag, it's many, a literal parade of red flags. He was most likely grooming you and he didn't care about your pleasure. How would that not be a red flag?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 07:07 AM
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Mostly for selfish reasons, yes. Men who dehumanize women will regret losing free labour due to their terrible behaviour. They'll fake regret to get their free labour back. They might also "regret" it if they lose something that they want over it, like being fired, but they'll mostly resent the women for daring to inconvenience them slightly. Some might eventually but it's more of a "look at me, I regret everything bad I've ever done so I should be instantly forgiven" type of thing, normally at …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 07:03 AM
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He should want to treat you well if he's actually interested in you, but giving "wife benefits" is devaluing yourself. HVM will not see rushing into things as a good sign; LVM will see it as you being easily exploitable. If he is still doing the same things he was doing in the first stages of dating e.g. dressing up for your dates, taking you out on dates, respecting your time, thanking you for contributions you make and is compensating you appropriately for your efforts (he cleans your place du…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 05:50 AM
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Honestly, I wouldn't date anyone who you actively see as imperfect, especially hoping that they'll change. Flaws are red flags. Cut off whoever said that you can't expect someone to be perfect, they're deliberately trying to lower your standards because they benefit from your lowered standards. Not everyone is toxic. While it is a toxic mentality to sacrifice your mental and physical health for "perfection", asking for the bare minimum is not toxic. An example of an actual "imperfection" would b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 07:15 AM
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I almost automatically downvoted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 10:26 PM
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Honestly just vet, vet, vet. What's important is that you're fulfilled single. You don't have to actively look for a HVM. HV people are attracted to other HV people and so long as you're happy having "a man" doesn't really matter. You can give up on actively dating. If you really want to date, go to places where people with similar interests are, e.g. art club, book club, volunteering centre etc. and see if you like anyone there. If you don't then you have a new club and new friends. If you do, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 06:11 AM
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Unfortunately for you, it is against the rules for anyone to post here, mainly because subreddits that do allow men to post get bombarded with "not all men". They might let it slide; if you went through the automatic deleting of posts for people without a flair until the mod team can review your post they probably will let you keep it up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 05:48 AM
10

Wearing a mask is tiring work to them? Seriously, what's wrong with them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 06:00 AM
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Madonna-wh*re complex right there. He used her for sex once, now he only want to use her for sex and have a "pure" virgin wife while he sleeps around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 06:58 AM
24

That's a LVM or NVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 06:15 AM
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Men do not need pornographic videos (which is what you're making) and you should never share nudes or pornographic videos of yourself, not even your husband besides a mere fiance or boyfriend. You're idolising his good traits while ignoring the bad. He was far, far below your standards and yet you dated him, and built a man until he passed your standards. You dated a guy who smoked when you hated smoking, a guy who was skinny and had no muscle when you were into muscle and a guy with a dead end …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 09:29 AM
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I think that's already Female Level up Strategy though. (FLS). Or maybe Female Level up Strategy was FLUS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 05:42 AM
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It most definitely should be longer. 3 months is the bare minimum. Even if you're both deeply in love, there isn't a single red flag, he's physically highly attractive to you and every person he's ever interacted with thinks he's the best man that ever lived, you should be waiting longer. Always get a STD test before sex and screen him genetically if you don't think you would 100 percent want to and be able to abort an accidental pregnancy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 09:34 AM
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It's kinda funny how he gave himself a bigger part of the "heart" shape, lie he knows he's getting way more out of it than you. And the fact that he drew you clearly unhappy while he drew himself happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 09:11 AM
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7jke7Vql-90 Not my channel, but I found this pretty awesome. Note: Not completely accurate, but pretty entertaining.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 10:25 AM
158

So basically he wants a supermodel mother/maid that he can have sex with while he has no redeeming qualities. What's new?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 05:39 AM
75

Exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 05:35 AM
3

Exactly. That's why he's all over her. A seemingly dumb, mute and pretty teenaged girl with powerful connections who's desperate for male validation, has no support circle and is easily manipulated is a pretty much a LVM wet dream.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 09:27 AM
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That doesn't invalidate any of the other points. I've stated before, abusive parents or not, she made poor life decisions. You haven't addressed any of my other points. Just because a man is not outright abusive does not make them HV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 07:54 AM
1

She bet her life on marrying a man, obsessed over him like crazy. Eric barely knew her and had a major madonna-whore complex idolising whoever had Ariel's voice as the one (having Vanessa hanging off his arm in public and being willing to marry her), only to not care about her at all when he finds out that she doesn't have a pretty voice anymore. She still gave up her voice and it still doesn't change the fact that she gambled HER WHOLE LIFE on a man. Just because what's actually in a Disney mov…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 07:45 AM
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So you deny the fact that he wasn't conscious enough at the time to recognise her face and the only thing that he knew about her was that she had a pretty voice? Then how did Ursula (whose disguise was very dissimilar to Ariel and had a very very different personality in the movie) fool the prince? Are you saying that she did not gamble away her soul (a major plot point) for a man? Yes they added in the point that she'd obsessed over life on land for a while, but the fact that she only was so de…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 07:17 AM
2

He literally didn't even see her, couldn't recognise her at all without her voice, she spent the whole movie chasing him, giving up things for him, (her voice, her family, her sisters, her friends, her support circle, her dignity) and literally sold her soul because she was desperate for a man she had never even talked to and he went for another woman (Ursula in disguise). He has no personality or shared interests, and at the end of the day, all she knows about him is that he's a prince. Not to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 06:47 AM
1

Would you date a 9 year old? Because that's how old you were when he was 22.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 05:55 AM
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They always say it like women aren't one of the main targets of violence by men. "Equal fights"? OK, then can we start taking steroids and beating up men in the streets for fun until they're too scared to go out alone? Should we perpetrate crimes at the same rates that men do? Should we strangle and beat up men, almost killing them and call it "kink"? That type of man doesn't even really want "equal fights" besides equal rights. They just want to beat up women and get away with it. Cut them off …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 06:31 AM
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I'm concerned that that information could be used for doxxing, especially if there's pictures of the owners. I'd suggest that anyone sending links to their shops DM it unless you have no identifying information on your shop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 05:47 AM
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You honestly should have left him anyways. If he can support an industry based around the degradation of women to get off and sees no problems with it that are meaningful enough for actual change until his girlfriend threatens to dump him, he's not HV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 07:16 AM
1

Red flag, he wants you to change your entire belief system to suit him and worship a god you don't even believe in just to satisfy him. Don't convert for a man and don't force a man to convert for you. He's definitely trying to pressure you into joining his religion (sending un-asked for books and PDFs of his religion and expecting you to read them). He's not willing to give up his beliefs, but he wants you to give up what you believe in to please him? Honestly it seems more like a control thing…
/r/askFDS21/02/21 02:17 AM
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Nope. He's looking for a hookup on the side, and you're on call sex to him.
/r/askFDS21/02/21 02:07 AM
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If you're not attracted let them go. Not every seeming HVM is meant to be your HVM. If they're preventing you from dating a HVM that you're attracted to they're at best a LVM to you. Biologically, if you're unattracted to a man, it might have something to do with your genetics being incompatible (pheromones signifying lack of reproductive compatibility). If you aren't attracted to them, then you're wasting your time and theirs, and you will eventually resent the relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 09:38 AM
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He can always go to a gay bar, but he knows random male attention, especially from someone trying to sleep with you, is worthless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 06:31 AM
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It isn't 50-50. I've seen this copypasta before, and one of the things you notice is that the woman is always giving more than the man. (suit costs more than shoes, dinner cost more than lunch, when she has a bad day there's no mention of him doing anything.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 06:28 AM
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Why does it not show the egg and the pregnancy? I get that there's large amounts of labour, but the pregnancy, the risk of dying, the risk of permanent damage to you body, morning sickness, hormonal swings, the risk of genital mutilation after a pregnancy are also major factors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 06:09 AM
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You should break up with him. It's a dead end relationship. There's no romance, no caring, no emotion from his side, just indifference. To him you're just a source of status, sex and emotional labour that he's paying a hugely discounted rate to get.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 09:43 AM
2

Is it a Maltese terrier? I have a soft spot for Maltese puppies/dogs in general.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 08:37 AM
55

You're basically a "sugar baby" at this point, but less well payed and with no gifts. You give him sex and your company, and he throws cash at you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 07:20 AM
52

He's not a really good guy, he's a rich one who does everything by throwing around cash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 07:19 AM
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They know what they're doing. They'll pester you like babies in the hopes that you do everything for them and pretend they don't know basic things (Sexual assault is wrong? They've never been told that, certainly not by you at least 5 times this week and all throughout their lives.). They play dumb when it benefits them and get away with it without being thought of as a dumb ditz because they're passed off as "just a typical man". These double standards allow them to get into the top positions a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 09:32 PM
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Your mindset is perfectly healthy. "Selfish" is honestly better than selfless. Completely "selfless" people often are that way because they have no self esteem and chase validation from those who don't deserve them. Don't give up anything for a man that you wouldn't give up on your own (particularly hobbies, a good job, friends etc.) because you need those things in your life. Don't ever overinvest in a man and don't do things for people who won't return the favour. You aren't a side character i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 05:58 AM
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*A child. 15 is underage. I hate it how it's always an "underage woman" when people are talking about sexual assault, especially when grown women get called "girls".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 05:45 AM
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Don't even offer to split the bill; it's obvious that he doesn't want to date you unless you put yourself on a huge discount. He either can't afford to date you or doesn't want to date you. He sees you as a cheap in-between forever girlfriend. Also, don't do bar dates, that's a way to get drugged and date raped.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 05:38 AM
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It probably is, since there's a part 2 and she should have blocked and deleted on the spot. I'm more concerned which pickme agreed to put down other women for male validation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 08:07 AM
19

Exactly! It's disgusting. Leaving the seat up, not washing their hands, barely showering; it's all a sign of how little they care about anyone's health, least of all yours.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 11:47 AM
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Why are the only options 15-17? You shouldn't be too concerned with dating in those years. 30s are a much better time, when you have your life goals and career sorted. Maybe late 20s if you're actually "mature for your age" and have your whole life sorted and set in stone with legal contracts and a house to protect yourself. Besides 15-17 coincides with the years where you have stressful high school exams, and dating would impede your studying. Not to mention that stress causes you to make bad l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 07:35 AM
7

Exactly. It's all projection. So many men are 2D, bland and have shallow relationships and project it onto women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 06:45 AM
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No HVM asks you to go to his place after the third date, especially not with the implication of sex. That's a LVM or a NVM you have there. At best, it's a seeming HVM that will reveal the fact that he is a NVM over time. At worst, you might become part of a femicide statistic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 06:41 AM
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We can only compare with HVM. What a HVM does is just what is expected of the average woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 06:38 AM
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Not the original commenter, but I would "next" him 100%. No LVM is worth the "testing" of your boundaries. And anyone who classifies women as wife material and sex material, especially in such degrading terms is trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 06:36 AM
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It's not like they're actually incapable; the truth is they aren't bothered to stick to a porn-free lifestyle; plenty of them would rather have it kill them. Not to mention that most of them are pretty deep into the depravity so even if they stop their pickme girlfriends have to deal with their pornsick fantasies and them treating them like they're a second rate replacement for porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 07:39 AM
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Not to mention those stats are only from the people who survived the poisoning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 05:44 AM
7

Nope. Never.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 10:01 AM
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They probably mean bisexuals or straight women that are pickme enough to fulfil their sick fantasies by pretending to be lesbian. The whole point of being a lesbian is that you aren't attracted to and don't have sex with guys; only women. That or they're rapists. Either way stay far far away from them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 07:28 AM
2

The flowers are amazing! I literally was wondering if it was a painting because the blue orchids were so pretty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 06:59 AM
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I always wondered how that train of thought worked. Are you going to steal one of the most important symbols of your grandparents' love for each other (assuming they're part of the small percentage that are happily married and still alive) or are you going to rob your dead grandmother once she's dead because you're too cheap to buy a ring? And even if you obtain it legitimately, why would you want memories of a DEAD family member permanently cemented into your relationship. It's an easy way out …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 06:49 AM
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That they are never even nearly half as good as you think they are. Even the best cases were disappointing; I was projecting everything good about myself onto them, whether it was academic ability, skill, commitment to self improvement, enthusiasm, empathy or wittiness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 02:10 AM
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Technically this post should go under Ask FDS. Post it there if you haven't already. That aside, dress how you want to. It's not worth "being pretty" if you don't feel pretty. You don't have to dress in one particular way to be FDS. I'd advise against anything that you feel like you're wearing for the sakes of others e.g. big fancy dress that people say looks good you hate wearing because it's uncomfortable, painful high heels etc. Dress how you like. Don't let the threat of random men stop you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 01:32 AM
10

Not to mention a young woman was murdered by one of the men and he's treating it like a plot device for his character development. Literally their only reason for change given was because the woman threatened to walk out and he's dependent on her acting as his 24/7 servant, and knows he can't find someone else to put up with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 06:30 AM
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There are, but you don't want to date them, because you aren't attracted. You aren't obliged to be attracted to every HVM in the world. If you're dating him because "He's so HV! I'll never find a HV man ever despite there being billions of people on the planet." then he's a middle value male at best (He's not adding as much as a HVM to your life because you don't want to be intimate with someone you're not attracted to and he's preventing you from finding a HVM for you). Just a note, if he is un…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 06:19 AM
11

Exactly. If he watches porn he's a complete LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 07:10 AM
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You want to redo college in a subject you don't even like for a chance at boys? Why are you so focused on the ideal of A "HVM" instead of focusing on what you want from life? There is more to life than dating and dying. A "HVM" will not magically fix all your problems, even if they should try their best to help. FDS means chasing the best version of you, not some unicorn man that may or may not appear. Also I would like to point out that you're basing your stats on an art college, which is not a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 09:35 AM
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Don't date men who don't have houses. Problem solved. There's nothing to say that he has to immediately live with you, and if he has his own house that should be no problem. Once you're married he can rent out his house for extra money for your savings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 09:07 AM
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I don't know, and I hope not. I think it was because in primary school, where we're supposed to learn about our uterus the boys got split up, and high schools assume people know that stuff. My parents never taught him anything about it. His school was a boys school, and counted as average to above average academically. It makes me wonder how sex ed is in the countryside.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 02:09 AM
10

I'm not an American, but I'm in a so called "first-world" country and our education system is terrible when it comes to sex ed. My little brother, who was in Year 9 at the time once asked me what a "womb" was, said he didn't know what a uterus was, didn't know what STIs, STDs or AIDS was, didn't know how people got pregnant, thought babies literally came from the stomach and still expected any woman unfortunate enough to marry him in the future to have kids with him. I thought he was lying (he's…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 12:59 AM
1

To your knowledge, yes. In actuality it's probably much longer than that. He has clearly shown he values her significantly more than you. He didn't bother giving you anything yet finds plenty of time and money to spend on this "friend". Stop making excuses for men who don't value you. He is clearly triangulating you with her and keeping you as a side piece in case pursuing her fails. He is low effort and honestly couldn't care less about you or your feelings. (He's not bothered to get a gift for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 07:51 AM
2

You have a "boyfriend" of 10 months who not only hasn't bought you a gift but has bought some other girl a gift, spends time constantly with this girl and is more than willing to make time for her, but not for you; the real question here should be is he your boyfriend or hers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 06:59 AM
13

Yep. Either I'm emotional and too loud or a stuck up swear word. I wonder why I don't smile around these people./s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 10:50 PM
11

The first dates should be formal and expensive, however, if he passes your vetting, after a few months other forms of high effort dates can be allowed. For example, a pre-planned picnic on a beautiful day with a charcuterie board, good food that he has made for the picnic, a nice location and an adequate setup is high effort, however it is advised against as a first date, as it allows a stranger to take you to a place you would not enjoy in the case that they ghost and puts your safety at risk i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 10:45 PM
2

Is your heart rate normal before eating this stuff? It might have something to do an already fast heart rate or arrhythmia (where your heart rate is abnormal). Do you have pain before eating or only after and do you normally feel tightness in your chest? You could use an online symptom checker (it could be quite a few things).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 10:34 AM
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I've told this story before, but someone in my high school was found to have been "upskirting" girls and women (Underage and adult) in school, on public transport and in public gyms over the course of 2 years. He even showed pictures to his friends, who apparently disapproved but didn't report it. He was released without a criminal record, he is going on to try and become a doctor. It's atrocious how these people are allowed to not only prey on the vulnerable, but to earn ridiculous amounts of m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 10:12 AM
1

There might be an inbreeding problem if female-female reproduction isn't available (studies have been done, it is possible and the rat developed from the embryo lived longer than average.), but I think the world would be a better place. That's just natural selection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 08:29 AM
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Can we not call women "babies"? It's patronising and infantilizing, the same way calling women "girls" but not calling men "boys" is. I'm glad she didn't give her LVM boyfriend the console though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 11:17 PM
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Don't bother. Because we're in a fairly stressful situation, chances are you'll be bait and switched out of a real relationship by some LVM pretending to be a HVM for a pandemic girlfriend to be their emotional support and personal maid. Check the "be aware of online dating" post if you want to see what a cesspit that is. Expect low quality one word "conversations" that consist of "hey", algorithms that are designed to get you hooked and paying, and treats you as a product. The problem with onli…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 11:09 PM
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We look good for our own sakes not for some man. If you like being glammed up, then by all means do it, but if you don't like the look, then don't do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 10:43 PM
1

While you are definitely beautiful, I would advise against posting your pictures online in case someone, particularly a male troll, tries to dox you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 11:45 PM
3

Get out. 50-50 is a red flag (normally means he pays 50 percent less on rent in exchange for a free personal chef, maid and free access to a woman) He's trying to lower your self confidence, has repeatedly molested you, and threatened to murder you. Try your best to find a female roommate or some other place you can afford in Chicago. Be very careful after you move out, he might attempt to murder you, so make sure your new place is secure. Forget sociopaths, he's a psychopath. Try your best to f…
/r/askFDS12/01/21 01:33 AM
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"Mild"? Not a chance. Calling the world-wide brainwashing into lowering already far below bare minimum standards "mild" is like calling the lockdowns a trivial tweak to routine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 01:28 AM
13

One of my teachers apparently had her UNIVERSITY thesis stolen by a (male) professor (her research was on pest control) and he was on TV being lauded for his great ideas, giving her no credit. He started a company on her discovery, and she didn't receive a cent. Eventually they went out of business because better pesticides were invented.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 11:30 PM
56

Basically he isn't ready to date you ever, but wants you on the side or is trying to ghost slowly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 04:13 AM
20

Personally, I go from the physical attraction. If you aren't attracted, why would you ever want to be dating them? In my pick-me stages, I did "cast a wide net" and I caught trash. I could see it was trash from a mile away, I knew it was trash, I knew that there was no way I'd be comfortable with trash for the rest of my life, and yet I reeled it in. Thank god it was restricted to pickme behaviour and time wasting crushes. It normally takes some time to develop an attraction for me, or for me to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 05:47 AM
16

He doesn't even care that he's punched his wife, probably knocking her out according to what he told the 911 operator, stabbed his wife, and she is in need of medical assistance, he just wants to be absolved of all sin by admitting he wants to murder the person he married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 11:22 PM
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They're currently raging over the men over 35 - sperm has a biological clock post, and attempting to use that to justify pedophilia. How is men under 35 the same as women under 18 in their deluded little minds, I'll never know. Even they gotta admit it's "grounded in science" and they have to throw a strawman pedophilia argument. The ideal age for women to give birth according to the very first search result you get is 30.5, because there is less of a risk of complications due to underdeveloped …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 10:57 PM
8

It looks amazing! What's the stone? It looks like a pink diamond.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 04:22 AM
16

Pulling out "a bit of hair"? This NVM is a psychopath.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 11:05 PM
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So basically the mother is selfish for staying instead of abandoning the kid like the father did, because the father's actions are her fault. Note how he links to the incels. Try to block and delete whenever possible though. These failures aren't worth your time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 08:09 AM
54

That or covered up. It annoys me to no end that if I want to search up the discovery of double-helix DNA, I get two men that stole Rosalind Franklin's work without giving her an ounce of credit. That and she didn't get the Noble Prize, because she had died of ovarian cancer. Not to mention, the person who split the atom was a woman, but her male lab partner took all the credit and excluded her from the noble prize.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 12:38 AM
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There is a lot to dissect here. This article seems to be promoting porn as a great place to learn how to have sex, that has the side effect of ED and low effort in bed, not to mention, promotes the lie that porn usage should be treated as something so normal that it's a matter of how much porn someone watches. Let's take a few examples. "and maybe still goes back to it once or twice a year when sex with a partner, for some reason or another, becomes scarce. " (Regarding porn usage.) No HVM will …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 05:59 AM
3

Why is he not your ex-husband?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 12:47 AM
2

There is no such thing as an otherwise HVM. That's you making excuses for a NVM. I'm sure some women in abusive relationships think their husbands are perfect, besides the blatant abuse and porn usage and 101 problems. This was a complete NVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 11:18 PM
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You should definitely still try to find a better one. Ask a few friends who seem to be HVF if you can. If you had a problem you could be forced to deal with it until you're clearly dying from it because of such dismissive behaviour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 01:04 AM
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Yes, 100% you should be expecting more. This guy isn't proud enough of you to put you on his social media without you pressuring him when he should be yelling it from the rooftops. Not to mention "private" with his girlfriend, who watches him game. It's also around Christmas. If you didn't receive a gift from your boyfriend, that's worth dumping him over. (It's not about the gift, it's about the thought that went into it, e.g. 10 ps5 games when he has a ps5 and you don't is inconsiderate at best…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 01:04 AM
6

Throw him out. You shouldn't be giving him free money when he won't even do his own job. Find another ob-gyn. This one is worse than useless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 11:58 AM
1

Of course, if it's not a place YOU like, and is not a place that's good for YOUR career, you should refuse. Be careful of situations where it's perfect for him, but a very meh place for you and your job, e.g. it's a nice enough city, with 101 jobs for his field, but very few opportunities for you to advance your career. Also make sure it's very clear that this is temporary, and be aware that you are giving him a huge amount of access to you. Be careful of him taking your time and energy for gran…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 06:27 AM
13

My mother is the same. "Boys just matures slower, he'll beat you in high school/university/out-earn you." The goalposts shift further every time, because they know that no way is a lazy, low-effort boy beating me at anything except maybe a highly specific or non academic subject. The only reason my mother saw it happen was because women like her were getting engaged to deadweight men, and gave up their jobs to be side characters in their husband's careers. It also is because high school/universi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 05:39 AM
16

Not a chance, are we settling. If they look like trash, you instantly know their self-care/skin-care is trash; and if they can't even look after themselves, what makes you think they'll be bothered to look after anyone else on their lives? Not to mention if someone's trashed their body, and it's staying trashed, and they are fine with it to the point that they aren't doing a thing about it, that says a lot about them. Eventually, one of you if going to end up resenting the relationship, you beca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 11:48 PM
2

He hasn't hit bare minimum yet, but he can keep going. At least he hasn't mentioned breathing in the oh-so-long list of things expected of men. Minus the 6 feet+, I could literally walk down a busy street and find 10 women who meet these requirements.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 11:26 PM
4

I probably won't have them, ever. If I "had" (loose definition of had here, but bear with me) a child (no way am I ever having more), it would probably be in a "sorority" type of group, with female only friends who want children living together in a household and co-parenting, and even then, I wouldn't want to be the one getting pregnant. The method would be some form of IVF using two X chromosomes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 03:01 AM
3

It sounds very performative. The "If you see a mess, don't clean it up" sounds very passive aggressive like he wanted praise for doing a third of what his girlfriend does for him every day. Not to mention the fact that she was put into a situation where she had to ask him to act likes he lives there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 03:00 AM
9

Using your $1000 - $500 model (where these are your rent costs), if he finds a place which is say $1200, will you be paying $600 ("50-50", and an all round terrible idea, it'd raise your cost of living for a place HE wants to be in), $500 (where he pays $300 less, while you pay the same), $400 (where you pay in the ratio that you were paying before), $200 (where he only makes you cover what he can't afford) or $0?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 07:22 AM
17

Don't. You pay less because of your scholarship for housing right now, and it is more convenient for you (presumably because you like where you live enough to stay there, whereas he could choose any low quality place and keep your spare change). If you stop living there and there is even a sliver of a chance that you will be unable to resume living there at the same rate, don't leave. You're saving yourself large amounts of money. Furthermore, if he's looking for cheaper places, who's keeping th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 03:10 AM
30

If their father and brothers are going to try to claim ownership of them the minute their bodies start developing, you need a divorce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 03:06 AM
41

This happened to my mother. She was younger by 4 years, more successful than him (she got valuable bonuses in the form of company stocks, which were worth a lot at the time) AND he was (according to her) fat at the time but she gave him a chance. Some time after they got married or the first kid was born, she was pretty much demoted to secondary character. He went to a different country to do his masters, while she stayed at home with her parents to care for her kid and to fund his expenses. Unf…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 10:25 PM
12

Date attractive, considerate and rich. It's not like they're incompatible traits, or impossible standards. Attractiveness, consideration of others and generosity are bare minimum. If they work hard they'll have a fair amount of money to show for it. Money is literally the quantifiable representation of their work. Also, trust me, don't ever date potential. The trend I've noticed is the women I feel have "potential" live up to it in so many ways, whereas the men just flop so badly it's sad. Datin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 08:15 AM
10

What you're looking for is winning a lottery crossed with Russian roulette. It's risking your life and your money, and while you can win, don't count on it. Play only when you can afford it, and be careful with who you trust with your life. Go with lower taxes and Col. How often will you be utilising the food services in EC (expensive city), and how vastly superior is the standard of living that it should cost 2x as much just to be there, and be taxed significantly more? If you want to have acce…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 08:05 AM
6

Putting another woman down to make you feel good is a LV complete red flag of a move. It's just like the "not like the other girls" neg, putting down others and expecting you to take it as a compliment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 06:37 AM
21

Even men with $5 in savings going 80-20 (with their girlfriend being the 80) will call women gold diggers. LVM gotta LV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 06:08 AM
18

Yep. I can't wait until an embryo can be made without male sperm at all (It has been done on mice with female skin cells and bone marrow. It also has the advantage of being healthier because there are less mutations in the "sperm").
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 07:00 AM
16

Drop him. Trash gamer men are half a dime per thousand. He enjoys videos terrible enough to be banned on that website, and plenty of women play games. He is NVM, he causes stress and adds nearly nothing to your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 06:09 AM
67

Exactly. I'm having so many "Am I a lesbian with compulsive heterosexuality or just a bi woman with standards?" moments, it's unreal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 05:57 AM
14

100%. My mother gave up her life when she married, (she was younger, significantly thinner than him and earning more because she got bonuses and in a male dominated field, no less). She had a kid, isolated herself, while working as basically a mother and breadwinner, then helped pay for my father to move to another country, supported him through his masters by giving up her high paying job and working at a restaurant, and had more kids. She ended up financially dependent in a sunk cost fallacy "…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 12:24 PM
4

Oh goddesses, this is making me rethink every crush I have ever had.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 11:03 AM
2

So far all I've heard from this article is "Men are trash so settle". What's new?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 10:40 AM
71

One of the things I had to look up myself was that lying down is one of the worst positions to have a baby in, besides hanging upside down or something insane. The only reason women have to give birth in that position, risking their lives and their baby's life further, is because a male doctor liked seeing them like that. The clitoral tearing was also never mentioned (probably because most couples can't even find the clit). It's sad how people don't know this stuff before, and even after they go…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 04:02 AM
19

Plenty of the males in my high school are porn-sick, and I've found less than 5 male people physically attractive (and that's being generous with the definition of "attractive"). And even then, I don't know if their appearances will go to hell later. Being attracted to men sucks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 04:01 AM
3

Could you subtly link her to FDS?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 07:28 AM
10

For a moment I thought I was on relationship advice. He's a complete NVM. Unless you want to be raising your family solo, while taking care of a old (he's 5 years older, you're in your early 20s, he's probably a predator as well as a leech) lazy, man-child with a gaming addiction. Dump him. Side note: You are not a "gold digger" for wanting a man of equal or greater financial status. A man too lazy and unmotivated to work hard for HIS OWN future is a NVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 06:28 AM
3

Exactly. Don't settle because he doesn't treat you like trash and you think it's the best you can get. The guy you love who loves you, or singledom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 06:24 AM
62

It's stress induced. Once the stress is gone, the disturbance is gone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 11:36 AM
10

Exactly! My (male) history teacher was seriously right wing and started hating on her in class once. No way would he have done that if she was a boy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 09:16 AM
19

Just dumping them works as well. If you have to beg for decency, then just why?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 10:52 AM
15

They're like the chess king; they need an army to protect themselves, since their (side) pieces have been doing all their fighting for them, and will sacrifice others to protect themselves, even temporarily. They rarely ever defend anyone else, or have a use, but in the case that they do, they back down the minute they're threatened, they sit at the back, barely moving for most of the game, they never sacrifice themselves for the rest of the team, and need to be constantly monitored, yet are kno…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 10:55 AM
4

I'm going to start using the first one to vet partners.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 10:48 AM
7

Don't date until you're ready. The last thing you need is more stress. Get your life in order. Don't date now, you're in a bad place, and feeling unsure of your own worth. Do your best to stay calm (yes, I know, not very comforting). Just because you were diagnosed doesn't change much. It makes the situation better, not worse, because you know what's wrong, and are (presumably) getting treatment. You've already been living with this condition. Focus on self improvement. Meditation might help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 10:44 AM
13

We'd be making billions off every single date if that was the case.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 10:37 AM
6

Personality fishing now? What's next?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 10:35 AM
39

"A devil can change a right woman."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 10:20 AM
264

He basically came over, got her some stuff from her fridge while she was in too much pain to move, got in bed with her and watched Disney+ on her subscription because he was irresponsible enough to get a barely legal 16 year old girl pregnant, and now this mother thinks it's the holy grail of HV-ness. It's basic decency to take responsibility for your actions when they have hurt someone you care about. It's sad that that's what's considered worth crying tears of joy over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 10:13 AM
4

Block and delete. You're the protagonist of your own story, not the side character to his. Act like it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 12:59 AM
79

FDS: killing my attraction to the opposite gender since 2019. But, seriously, that is one efficient way to kill a crush.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 10:05 PM
1

You need to move on from this one. Block and delete. You're wasting your life fantasising about a trashy ex. I understand that you're angry, but karma getting your ex won't help you move on. Level up, get your life back together. "Karma" does nothing for you in the long run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 10:00 PM
6

Without even reading I know you're ignoring a gut instinct or a full blown red flag. The fact that you need to bring it up shows that you've been thinking about it, and you know there's a problem. Trust your gut. You just said why it was completely correct. You only want HV friends. Get rid of him. He's keeping you as an option.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 10:56 AM
18

If not their money, what else? They know they have no redeeming qualities, just money, so they think every girl is after their money. He sees no other reason they should date him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 09:39 AM
10

Same. I actually got my account after lurking here for a while, because I wanted to post here. Been here for over a year now. Before I was a complete pick-me with no self respect. FDS definitely helped.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 06:57 AM
3

There was a comic on this, where a princess lives with her dragoness friend. Every time a prince comes to "save" her, the dragoness tells the princess about them, and she gets to choose e.g. rude entitled person comes along, princess refuses them, dragoness scares them off or burns them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 10:00 AM
25

Don't take a man home. You don't want them to know your address until you've vetted properly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 07:08 AM
15

They're all about controlling bodies for their greater good until it's their bodies being controlled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 07:00 AM
70

Tell his mother. Dob him in. If he wants to act like a petty 5 year old when your best friend has died, he better be prepared to face the consequences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 06:56 AM
76

NVM. They're the same ones who like to talk over women to make themselves feel big.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 06:44 AM
7

It's so widespread I kinda wish I was taller so I could instantly tell who's lying. My sister's husband lied about his height and she knew and they still got married. And people are treating it as if it's normal. No, lying about your height isn't normal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 08:42 AM
28

I would like to place a bet on less.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 07:36 AM
44

Yeah no. Don't settle. If the guy you love isn't they guy who loves you, ditch him by all means. But don't stick with the guy you don't love because he loves you. Women are conditioned into the "growing to love" mentality (cough, Stockholm syndrome, Beauty and the Beast, almost every Disney movie ever, cough), but even if you do, you're still settling big time. I don't think it's pickme to want to be attracted to a person you are dating, and for them to meet your standards. Bare minimum should n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 07:06 AM
3

Olivia Rodrigo-All I Want. This was from High School musical: The musical: The series. Love this song! Do you know "Born to be Brave"? It's from the same series.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 05:44 AM
5

It depends on how long they've known you, and how long you've known them. If you've known him for a year, and been dating for a month, then "I love you" is more acceptable. If you met a month ago, and he's already jumping to soulmates and "I love you", that's a no. An "I love you" within the first date/first few weeks is a red flag. Make sure he's showing it, not just saying it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 01:38 AM
42

"It's (year) pay for the date I invited you to!"/s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 10:27 PM
1

That's amazing. What do you normally practice?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 12:15 PM
2

Be very very careful. The 5 year age gap is pretty creepy already. Not to mention these are still the early stages.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 11:47 AM
2

Less. Resale value isn't that good and a LVM will probably buy the cheapest ring and keep the change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 11:40 AM
1

He's triangulating you. Not to mention the "honeymoon stage" thing. The "honeymoon stage" is when a LVM love-bombs you. With a HVM the "honeymoon stage" should be the whole relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 11:37 AM
2

I wouldn't even give him a chance. Red flags mean stop, not wait for a bit and continue blundering your way into a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 10:58 AM
3

We have more receptors and therefore feel more pain, but men complain far more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 10:53 AM
7

It's not like say, fathers tend to be the abusive ones and their sons tend to be the ones that perpetuate the abuse. Just look at Hitler and Stalin, who did NOT have abusive fathers. (Both of them did.) It's not like women have to fear rape every day of their lives. It's not like there's a therapist in schools for both boys and girls. It's not like men are the perpetrators of the things they blame on women. It's not like male paedophiles get off with a slap on the wrist. It's not like men are th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 10:33 AM
18

I'd just like to add "egalitarianism" to the list. Even in my pick-me days that annoyed me to death. There are a whole bunch of people going around saying "I'm not a feminist, I'm an egalitarian" which is basically "I'm not even going to bother hiding that I'm only performatively an activist".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 09:31 AM
8

LEAVE. NOW. He's porn-sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 06:14 AM
15

I read hobgoblins as hobo-goblins, and now I can't get it out of my head.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 05:53 AM
28

LVM are mad any day ending in y.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 05:48 AM
11

Why are you still married? Even if you're 80 you have at least another 20 years. Don't sunk-cost fallacy your way out of a happy life. Level up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 11:48 AM
15

You would be amazed how many suspensions there are for porn-sickness in my school. Which is literally meant to be a school for the top scoring kids. I wonder how some of these kids got in sometimes. There was a boy in Year 10 who was taking pictures up girl's skirts everywhere. And I mean everywhere. In gyms, on public transport, in class. 100s, maybe even thousands of photos, collected over at least 2 years. And of course, he's getting off with not even a slap on the wrist. No criminal record, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 10:10 AM
8

Might be a bot. I got one too 4 hours ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 09:26 AM
9

I hope this was pre-FDS. Remember, your happiness > some porn-sick guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 09:22 AM
7

I'm considering if this is an attempt at a bot, a test of a bot, just stalking and harassment or all three of the above.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 09:20 AM
19

She pays for HIS therapy? There are so many things wrong here, and that's just one of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 07:22 AM
15

You're sacrificing for his better tomorrow, which might just end up bettering yours, maybe. If you're not even married and you're planning your whole life with this guy, dropping your own well being in the process, you need to rethink your relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 07:21 AM
56

I think he stalked her. It says after her date. I wouldn't put it past a NVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 06:39 AM
19

I don't think this is a good reminder. It's just a girl being handed the task of domestic labour and being taught to not ask people for help when she actually needs it. Not to mention she sounds young. I have this image of a grown man handing a 5-12 year old a plunger and getting her to clean the toilet. I agree we shouldn't rely on men to do it, but it's cleaning a toilet, and this is presumably a young girl. Not to mention the "don't need anybody's help" mentality they're trying to instil in h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 09:45 AM
111

You're (insert vaguely complimentary phrase here) for a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 09:37 AM
18

Correct me if I'm wrong, but aren't vegans normally that way because they can't stand to know animals are being hurt for their benefit, even if it has a practical purpose? These men see the women as worse than animals. No anaesthetic is being used. And the congratulations, the cheap validation for being permanently scarred for a one time public display. I can't. Self harm shouldn't be sold as empowering. Playing out the same thing misogyny does to women over and over again for an "awareness" cam…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 08:25 AM
26

This is disgusting. We already know women are treated worse than animals is so many places. This is just a repeat of what's been happening to so many women, branded as empowering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 08:21 AM
4

Inch is very very very generous. Are we rounding up here?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 08:05 AM
9

Only in comparison to his penis. But then again, compared to his prick, a quark is huge.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 08:02 AM
4

I thought it was a doormat at first, but it was a vandalised car. That's horrible and inconsiderate, as well as a crime at best, and a obsessive psychopath rapist stalker at worst.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 07:31 AM
26

Does anyone know any good vetting strategies to weed out creeps? I'm 5'0, Asian and look younger than I actually am, so the dating pool looks a lot like a cesspit to me. I know the dumb fox strategy and general red flags, e.g. "I love (random requirement that completely objectifies you)" or "I love women with (feature you don't have)". I'd never want to date one of those guys who want me around to feel better about their failings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 07:20 AM
11

So don't do it. Cutting out LVM means cutting out all LVM, including the one that wants you to be an unpaid maid. FDS means boundaries outside of romantic relationships as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 06:03 AM
8

My brother started lying young. He was constantly lying about what tests he had (literally school exams, I couldn't make this up if I tried), of all the dumb things. And my LVM dad and pickme mother were always excusing him. I heard the "it's just a joke" line so many times and got told to stop talking so loud, despite the fact that they were talking loud. But trash will be trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 03:12 AM
15

Triangulation probably. I feel sorry for his fiance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 03:10 AM
8

Chances are they're going after more than just ducks when their wives are not around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 03:00 AM
20

I went on redpill women once because I wanted to know what it looked like. Never again. It was basically be a doormat 24/7 and baby your husband, and maybe he'll only cheat on you with 2 other women instead of 3.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 02:57 AM
4

It's not his fault his only value is his worthless sperm. Oh wait, yes it is because he's a lazy self pitying rapist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 02:44 AM
153

Men have already proven more than capable of grooming women. Why not themselves?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 11:09 AM
113

This made me laugh because it's so true. Men; taking credit for women's work since the beginning of time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 12:57 AM
12

Link her to FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 07:17 AM
10

"Still look amazing". *coughing fit* Define ""amazing"".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 07:01 AM
19

Exactly. Getting told you do something "like a man" is the worst insult. No, I do it like a woman, stop attributing all women's work to men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 07:00 AM
8

Tell him to get a vasectomy. Either he gets a vasectomy or don't have sex. You aren't married, and sex is NEVER a requirement either way. Why are you already having sex with him, and why are you sacrificing your body for HIS pleasure. There is no reason to pump yourself full of hormones and irritate your whole reproductive system, all while raising your chances of getting cancer, because a man doesn't want to pull out. Not to mention, why isn't he already using condoms? Birth control is not fail…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 06:47 AM
507

"I go there every day". All you need to know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 12:49 PM
8

Yes, that's rape.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 05:51 AM
48

Link her to FDS and leave it at that. You can't stop someone from drowning if they don't want to breathe.
/r/askFDS11/11/20 06:44 AM
2

Dump him, or you have no one but yourself to blame for your LVM deadweight trash. He picks fights with you and doesn't put in effort TO PLEASE YOU, because that's not what makes him happy, you said so yourself. He only cares about his own pleasure.
/r/askFDS11/11/20 06:39 AM
1

Lovebombing and gaslighting. Just because men are trash doesn't mean you settle for the one that doesn't seem to stink as much; it can still oozes poison.
/r/askFDS11/11/20 06:37 AM
3

There are so many red flags here. Triangulation as well? He's projecting big time. He's selfish and ungrateful. If he doesn't want you, good. He is NOT decent.
/r/askFDS11/11/20 06:35 AM
4

No, you are not weird for this. 34 is already wayyy too high for someone who's only 28 by my standards. If you'd only date a year or two younger than you, why would you date someone who thinks dating that many years younger is appropriate?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 05:16 AM
51

I thought it was in Celsius and thought, that's not a bad temperature, but walk dates are still unacceptable. But 20 degrees FAHRENHEIT? Not enough clown makeup in the world...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 06:48 AM
12

I want to know, who carries the kid if it's a sperm donor? Even carrying a kid is already a huge career roadblock (having to take time off, less efficient work because you're tired from creating a literal human being), not to mention, pregnancy and childbirth isn't exactly easy. I'm asking because I've been thinking about something like this since I found FDS, except with the two eggs procedure. It's not so doable now for me right now because I need to finish my education, but maybe in the futur…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 11:00 PM
2

Edited!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 10:39 PM
10

Exactly. Unless you're both playing and having fun, why? That just shows how little they care. That or just complete incompatibility and a lack of social skills/empathy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 10:08 PM
16

Also the hugging. Why a hug, an act that involves a lot of touching after the description of attempted r*pe? It does sound a lot like trauma bonding. Not to mention his childhood friend was the cause, and the whole white knight/saviour complex. He doesn't sound like he thinks of you as a "friend".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 07:03 AM
2

NOT A HVM. A seeming HVM. No way is a pedophile ever HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 07:05 AM
1

I'm so glad she said no. Definitely putting her on a pedestal. And the pressuring to marry him...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 07:58 AM
10

If I had to, I'd use two female genetics instead of a sperm donor. It has a 100% chance of the child being female.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 05:44 AM
12

Link her to FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 05:33 AM
8

I want you doesn't mean I appreciate you or love you. It means they want yo. The same way little children want a horse or a fire-truck or a jet plane. Just cause they get what they want doesn't mean they'll appreciate it or what its worth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 09:39 AM
41

They put sex as more necessary than morality, achievement, friendship, family, respect of others and acceptance of facts. That's all you need to know about them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 05:33 AM
0

Yes. The "purity" ring thing sounds like its been pushed on to them from a very young age. The fact that only her sisters are prepared for it implies that there is definitely pressure being put on them to accept the ring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 05:30 AM
9

Did you link her to FDS?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 05:26 AM
14

That would be a lack of effort on his part (he could just be copying some rom com to get you to have sex with him or not be bothered enough to learn how to actually please you: finding the clit, making sure you're relaxed, etc.), instead of his pornified 5-minute jackhammering version) or an attraction issue. If that's the case, you might have a case of compulsory heterosexuality. Here are some key points someone posted. Do any of these match you? Viewing relationships with men as a chore, burde…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 10:23 AM
388

They started living together when she was 20 and started dating when she was 19? No, no and no. Grooming, 100%. She out-earns him and isn't married to him, but wants to be, and have his kids, while he's a jobless former bartender and doesn't want to take care of his own kids. And he was double her age when they started dating? So many things wrong with this. I feel sorry for her. 15 years of her life wasted by THIS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 09:52 AM
3

Same! I found this sub when I was 14, and pretty much in the same situation. It stopped me from making quite a few bad decisions (asking out someone who wasn't interested, not focusing on self improvement when I had a crush, etc.).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 11:09 PM
35

They're the same thing, just by a different name.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 06:24 AM
4

No. Definitely not HVM. If he only treated her well and treated his exes badly he'll eventually do the same to her. Not to mention she's out of his league, which is the only reason you're seeing the good behaviour. And you aren't the one dating him. Just cause he pays doesn't means he is good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 03:27 AM
6

What women are saying: Please look decent and act with basic decency. Have even half of the emotional intelligence of a puppy. Show that you're actually interested and not in it for the arm-candy. ​ What pickmeishas hear: I have *gasp* standards. I am evil for having bare minimum standards of decency because all the poor men who are looking for nothing but my body and who want to put in below bare minimum effort can't have me. ​ Typical "go with the flow" talk on letting everything slide, like s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 07:01 AM
50

She calls the FDS account a sl*t after advocating for free prostitution from all women (except of course, her). The irony is tangible here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 06:00 AM
71

"Or whatever you can afford" gives it away. If you can't afford $50 and your most prominent positive trait is your money (thus why you'd be so afraid of "gold-diggers"), you seriously need to re-evaluate before thinking you can put beautiful and successful women (let's be serious, no way is he trying to date someone even half as broke or trashy as he is) through the Hunger Games for your trashy grocery store shopping date. Seriously. At this point, he's looking for cheaper-than-dirt-cheap prosti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 12:38 AM
1

Remember Anne of Cleves? Henry the Eighth thought she was too ugly. Henry the Eighth. That's all I have to say on that. The only difference now is more Henry the Eighths are allowed to speak to the Annes of Cleves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 12:16 AM
5

This could be the stupidity as well. If you're going to lie and devalue the work of very successful and famous women, make sure you know when the 19th century was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 11:50 PM
6

The victim blaming is heavy here. So many excuses for a boyfriend who doesn't care about his girlfriend. It's almost like it was written by a boyfriend who doesn't care about his girlfriend...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 12:50 AM
67

Men trying to bring down beautiful and successful women has happened all throughout history. Then the internet happened.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 11:13 AM
10

Soo? They don't match your "vibe" according to you, you're settling for balding or bald, they don't have a personality that you vibe with; what makes you think that settling is going to work out? You're wasting your own time with a scarcity mindset here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 03:28 AM
3

Gross. One of the top posts is literally 'it's unfair that a grown man take out the trash instead of the underage daughter, even if it's night because gender equality'. It's not even the girl's fault. It's someone else they're quoting, probably a man talking about his own household. Then there's someone being upfront with their expectations. Then there's a literal SIGN that say that a woman wants a man who can talk, help with chores and fix things, with a car and a generous disposition and that …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 02:12 AM
10

That's even worse. The one I found on Etsy costed $156 and though are even cheaper ones. One of them costed around $20, because it was on discount.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 12:07 AM
31

Nope. That amulet costs $156 USD max on Etsy, and only if you get it in sterling sliver, with turquoise and the full necklace. Less depending on whether you get the full chain or real turquoise or if you want it in brass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 12:00 AM
59

Yeah. I heard two songs from it "Almost There" and "Dig a Little Deeper" and I noped out. She gives up her life dream for a gold-digger of a man who tricked and coerced her into a kiss she only accepted so she could afford to open a restaurant, only for him to not give her the money and doom her to life as a frog. Not to mention that she's known this man for a day before getting married. And he's jobless and she's obviously prettier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 03:24 AM
54

That's not even a mentally sound person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 10:21 AM
55

Too Long : Didn't Watch: basically a man needs his emotional and sexual need met but a woman doesn't; therefore lower your standards, because men are pretty bad in general, and can't meet bare minimum standards. And of course, she can only mention height and income as a "laundry list" of requirements. Apparently a man's list is soooo different and so undemanding, because they only want you to do unpaid emotional labour, look attractive 100% of the time, have sex, ditch your (high earning) job to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 11:30 PM
12

If you went into her class with low expectations they were proven to be accurate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 11:25 PM
3

I thought the person was talking about men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 10:20 AM
18

Be careful of the aside from that mentality. It's part of the scarcity mindset. If it's "aside from this" instead of "including this" that's a problem. It's how people start ignoring red flags because "apart from red flag he's perfect." The red flags are there for a reason, you just were lucky enough to notice one of them before going straight to a relationship. I'd suggest holding off on sex. Be careful, this guy dated you when you had low self esteem, and might see you as another trophy-girlfr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 11:27 PM
89

Red/orange/yellow flag: it's been 7 dates and he's still calling you pretty lady instead of your name. If "pretty" is the only trait he sees in you, that's a red flag. He might be trying to use you to fulfil some fantasy of chivalry. Be wary of him trying to make you fit into some sort of script (in this case, probably the swooning damsel in distress). I would keep my guard up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 05:34 AM
101

It's not. Teddy bears are pretty great compared to LVM. In this case, the prize was more like a burning bag of dog poo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 12:35 AM
6

Only do it if you own the house that's being rented. If he wants to live with you so desperately, then make sure he's not a psychopathic abuser/murderer first, and make him pay for your mortgage. Or just dump him. Chances are if he's making you pay his mortgage while you're his girlfriend, he appreciates you as much as a random stranger. Unless you're being signed on as the house's owner, I wouldn't recommend moving in either in case he turns out abusive or you break up, because it's much harder…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 12:45 AM
9

No. No. And for good measure, no. Why would you get back together? There's a reason you've broken up so many times. He doesn't love you and isn't afraid of losing you. He's keeping you around because you're easy. Because you're free sex. You think what you deserve is him. Sorry, but we can't help you with that. Until you get rid of the leech dragging you down, you can't level up. If you want drama, that's what you're getting. Your boyfriend is a drama "queen". He's taking advantage of you C-PTSD…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 07:00 AM
37

Not to mention the women who are only in jail to cover up for their boyfriends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 01:10 AM
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He forgets you're already dumping him for a better person. You.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 12:15 AM
1

What were the flags you noticed? I'm always wondering if I'm missing red flags because I tend to project as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 06:58 AM
2

I'm probably going to change mine to something that I prefer (I don't really want to keep my dad's last name), and if we really need to take the same one, he can take mine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 06:54 AM
2

I've listened to Heathers. One of my friends got me into it. Not many of the characters are HV but I think Veronica is getting there at the end. So probably. My favorite song is "I say no" because it shows when Veronica realises JD is blaming his actions on her, but it wasn't in the original. What's yours?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 07:57 AM
2

Well, the more something's worth, the higher the tax is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 03:56 AM
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