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I did this too with an ex. I wanted to “give him a taste of his own medicine” and it just always turned out ugly. After I broke up with him, I found myself able to breathe but also with this lingering sense of habitual bad behaviors. I feel much better after so much time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 06:51 PM
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My ex’s mom loved me. She made him go get a costume ring from her jewelry box and told him to ask me to marry him. (Not a real proposal by any means but it was cute at the time 🤡) Then for the next two years he said that he wanted me to ask HIM to marry him. So we are definitely not engaged. Right? Fast forward. When breaking up I tell him that it has been 4 years of dating and he never proposed or even thought about it. He said, he thought we were engaged 🤡. And I ask, why tell me that you want…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 01:06 PM
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This is a good one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 12:31 PM
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My own father is like this unfortunately. I have caught him in several lies and his tell, is that he blows up. He deflects. And yells. He cannot (re: never learned how to) process his own emotions when he is in the wrong. His default emotion is exploding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 10:55 PM
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What’s funny is that there are men who will pick up that thing from the store, surprise you with a foot rub, shower you with love — and they make that idiot look like the poorly digested mouse skeleton barfed up by the cat of life that they are
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 12:56 PM
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He sounds like a piece of work. I am glad you are rid of him. Sorry for your loss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 01:53 PM
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Added to my list!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 02:12 PM
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Opened in browser, works! :) Also. Yeah this guy 🤣 He seems.. not worth it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 02:08 PM
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Pic links broke :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 02:02 PM
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Me too honestly. They’ve lived with me more than half their life, and they’re old now. Adapting to new homes is hard for older cats. And his lack of real care didn’t help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 11:54 PM
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When he didn’t want to spend my dead sisters bday with me and argued that he didn’t want to disappoint his friends. He would rather disappoint me. Oh well! Bye. Kicked him out and I kept his cats. He never changed their litter box anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 03:39 PM
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They DO exist and they’re amazing!! So glad you found this awesome guy :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 03:35 PM
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It’s cute for like Children graduating 4th into 5th grade or something
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 03:29 PM
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I would not treat people like this. This is not FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 12:39 AM
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Red flags abound
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 10:32 PM
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He missed the boat. He took his time walking to the pier. Stopped to enjoy other people while the boat was waiting. Didn’t take time seriously. And now the boat has left. It’s his fault. He doesn’t deserve her. He thought he could have it all and she would just stay forever despite his low effort
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 09:58 PM
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I agree completely!! I never knew what semen retention was before him. Every guy I had dated watched porn and had an orgasm every chance they got. It feels incredible to have a partner who listens and cares. I’m never going back
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 04:46 PM
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Thanks lady :) he’s my first who does this and I sincerely hope more men start. It’s worth it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 03:49 PM
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The difference When single I used my vibrator MAYBE twice a month. Whereas these dudes on nofap are jerking it a couple times a day :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 03:21 PM
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My current beau practices semen retention. When we have sex, he only has an orgasm once every four times or so. He started doing this because he wanted to make the best experience possible for me He lasts. He. lasts. For as long as I want him to. For as long as we want to He cares about my enjoyment. He enjoys sex when I enjoy sex. He cares about my safety and comfort and health. He is generous with the his love in so many ways. And know what he never does? Brags about how many “rounds” he can g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 03:19 PM
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I do my dishes as soon as I’m done with them. I cook even when I’m alone Bud light is trash No one has only Netflix COME UP WITH SOMETHING BETTER YOU UNIMAGINATIVE SCROTES
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 12:42 PM
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Beautiful. Thank you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 07:07 PM
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I know this is covid so it is way harder stay busy! Got something to do? Do it. Task Manage. When you finish one thing, move onto the next. And focus on it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 03:38 PM
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Meeeee A little over a year since kicking out my lvm ex. The last straw was when he argued against spending time with me on my dead sisters bday. I am happier, healthier, and my life feels bright again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 04:19 PM
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Males are so effing weird They’re obsessed with sex as power. So old hat. Go get a hobby you boring clowns
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 09:43 PM
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This is an excellent article
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 02:05 PM
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I went on one “date” (re: school function) with a guy who texted me the next day asking when I thought we would get married. Sorry you had to deal with this creep and he’s interfering with your life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 02:43 PM
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Lol yep. Good for you. Men like this won’t change. They’ll just keep finding ways to be lazy because you’re not their priority You’d didn’t dump him over just a chair. If he sees it that way, he never understood in the first place and definitely isn’t worth your time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 04:02 PM
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LVM Larper. So dumb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 07:31 PM
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I needed to read this today. Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 05:50 PM
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I was working from home and my ex had no job when I got the news that I was getting a significant pay bump. Significant like, my raise alone was more than he made a year while working. I was giddy, bouncing off the walls, could not contain my excitement. And all he could do was nod and simper. No big hugs, no big smile, no big “congrats I love you so much!!!” .... meanwhile I was supporting him while out of work and trying to help him advance his “career” etc. 🙃 dumb I even took him out for an e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 02:06 PM
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“Looks like harassing women online is a distraction from your shitty life”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 02:00 PM
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I am getting this embroidered and slapping it on a vest. Wow
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 02:35 AM
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He’s so hurt. Poor thing. Maybe his anime love doll will help
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 02:07 AM
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BUT MY BABY MOMMA THINKS WE HAVE A FUTURE AND I DONT AND LIFE IS HARD SO I DIAGNOSED MYSELF WITH NEEDING MORE SEX HAHA SEE YOU CAN HELP ME HAHA VAGINA LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 04:22 PM
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Lol he’s like an animal. Wow. The bar is so low
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 03:07 PM
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Yep. They also think I’m ditzy or not bright when I don’t take their stupid bate. Brochacho I don’t give a damn to fake like I care what you think. Imagine me a fool forever, I won’t be thinking of you all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 01:31 PM
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This is what I discovered. I love FDS for this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 01:27 PM
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I met a guy when he was 32 and I was 28. Pre FDS. He bought his first car a few months later. He lived on his own for 4 months when I met him, and only because his ex moved out of their shared apartment. He was working for the same company, night shift, for 12 years at only a few dollars above minimum wage. He had anger issues, didn’t listen and got enraged when he didn’t understand, and had no idea how to cook. Or clean. I’m a 🤡 for staying with him for 4 years trying to help him grow and chang…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 01:14 PM
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Muhahahahha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 02:56 PM
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That is stress for you. My cycle gets extended or shortened depending on what I am going through. Whenever I was with someone I was comfortable and happy with, the cycle seemed to hang on (what I like to call) The Marathon Pussy Stage. When I was with someone who stressed me out, that stage never seemed to happen. And my period cycle would be inconsistent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 02:06 PM
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Gotta be a joke
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 06:39 PM
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I knew my previous therapist was no good when she said “well he’s a guy and sometimes guys just need things really explained to them, ya know?” when the dude forgot my dead sisters bday after dating me for 4 years and blamed me for not reminding him of it, while planning and refusing to cancel a show for his band on that very day 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 03:16 PM
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This was my take too! Love it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 06:38 PM
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For me it was knowing that he couldn’t understand or see I had improved or changed. I realized he would always see the image of me he fabricated, and no matter what I did or looked like, it was impossible for him to truly perceive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 06:26 PM
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As someone who has participated in a number of threesomes.....I would have zero love lost if someone broke up with me because of it. People like this are highly insecure and if he can’t process three consenting adults having sex, then I don’t want to play therapist and hElP him understand. Big ole no thanks. Imagine what else he gets upset about. Butt plugs? Jesus. Dumb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 12:34 PM
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This makes me so happy. Good for you lady!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 08:54 PM
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Lol Let me cOnGrAtuLaTe this GeNtLeMaN for his graciousness and humility. TOO BAD LADIES ARENT SO HUMBLE FOR A FIRST DATE AT A SOUP KITCHEN DO THEY SERVE OYSTERS AT THE SOUP KITCHEN? NO? OH NOOOOO MY STANDARDS Edit to add: I have nothing against soup kitchens or the people who need them. I might, someday. But as of right now, if some dude brought me to one for a first date, I would politely decline. I’m looking for a different caliber of life and date. Something more akin to what I give to mysel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 07:40 PM
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..... wow... never realized that I haven’t met any animal who didn’t like women either. Only men 🤨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 11:17 PM
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Ok so Let me try to Uh Heterophobic (??? Lesbians ???) people are not [having sex with?] straight men.... And by the transitive property....they’re dying? How are they dying? What is going on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 09:38 PM
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Yes. Additionally, I don’t trust adults who don’t eat vegetables. Each one I’ve known, from any gender, who doesn’t eat vegetables because “they’re icky” tends to be wacky in one way or another
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 04:19 PM
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Truth Size matters to me because I enjoy slightly above average sized penises more than smaller, thinner ones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 06:35 PM
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Guys like these can’t be trusted. They say they’ll change. And they don’t
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 06:17 PM
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My value has only increased. I have money. I have experience. I have so much! These idiot scrotes who think our value declines? They’re looking for places to put their dick and hands to do their chores. FUCK THEM (metaphorically, because dont)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 05:31 PM
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Gosh it sure would suck to be a slave to my genitals. Luckily I don’t have a penis. FFS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 02:51 PM
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Exactly. It was definitely about the event. Super gross. It is more so about how he treated her afterward, minimizing and dismissing her attempts to communicate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 06:20 PM
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There’s a comic called “Y: The Last Man” that goes into exactly this. Premise is all males of every species on earth dies one day within a few hours. Only one male human left with a single male monkey (his pet) Was pretty ok comic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 11:58 PM
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A guy I was just starting to talk to began sending me all sorts cartoon porn. Hentai, etc. After I asked how much porn he watched he took it as an invite to talk about the morales of porn and stuff. “It’s ok as long as it isn’t real and just cartoon,” followed by pregnant cartoon women giving birth and immediate rap_d 🤢. Like, wow dude way to treat me like the weird one... 🤯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 11:21 PM
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Lol I dated this idiot who thought women who worked in offices had smellier vaginas because they would fart and it would go into their vagina because they were sitting He was 28 at the time. So dumb. Sooooo dumb
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 03:58 PM
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Happy thanksgiving :) I am thankful for this space. So thankful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 03:18 PM
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This is why FDS must exist. So scrotes don’t use us EXACTLY THE WAY THEY’RE DESCRIBING HERE Jesus fuck. I have never wanted to use anyone. I want to date and love and grow and build. And these hacks just want to fuck and dump. Nope. We are privy to your bullshit. Take it elsewhere, idiots.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 03:57 PM
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Leafs are too girly So is grenadine, pink donuts, and marmalade And probably those tiny fruit candy from 50 cent machines
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 08:08 PM
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Stay out of the sun Take care of your teeth Best. Advice. Yes. I live by these
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 03:24 PM
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Hahahaha BYE. What an ass. Wow
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 01:10 PM
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THIS IS SO TRUE. For you, for me, and probably for every woman on this sub... Just because we can, doesnt mean we should. AND WE KNOW THAT AND THAT IS WHAT FDS TEACHES
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 12:48 PM
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Lol this is why we vet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 04:23 PM
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Omg 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 12:14 AM
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This is definitely not true at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 07:33 PM
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What was going through his mind? Finding a wet place to put his d*ck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 05:05 PM
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Tantric sex practice yes — my partner and I have been doing that. Sex and enjoyment of it is the goal instead of climax. It makes everything so much more enjoyable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 03:44 PM
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Absolutely!! I had never heard of “semen retention” before him. Who’da thunk that stamina training would be so fun 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 01:21 PM
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https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/semen-retention#how-to This article has a lot on it about mental, physical benefits, which beau has backed up Basically: when he does masturbate, it is to “practice” and he does it as long as he wants sex to last with me (he asked me how long I would prefer him to stay erect and have sex, and he masturbates for that long WITHOUT an orgasm at all). Also, he does not watch porn when he does this. It is purely practice for us when we do have sex, he cho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 12:34 PM
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Lol They’re so dense. It’s like watching someone colorblind explain why rainbows are overrated
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 01:33 AM
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Lol I am the first round. And the second. If he can’t handle that, I am not interested 🤷‍♀️ dudes who aren’t pornsick are SO much more capable. SERIOUSLY The guy I’m with now: - doesn’t watch porn ever - doesn’t masturbate - practices “retention” which is where he just doesn’t orgasm unless it’s a special occasion - I climax at least twice each time we are intimate - he always makes sure I am comfortable - attends to my needs first And these are all HIS RULES. HE DECIDED THIS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 01:04 AM
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Super success. Good for you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 10:09 PM
6

Exactly this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 04:56 PM
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Yeah this is breakup material for me. Especially at that age. So dumb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 07:52 PM
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Saw this somewhere with an added caption “WOMEN JEALOUS WE DONT NEED MUCH TO BE HAPPY” Which is sad for many reasons and lots to unpack there, but biggest gaff for me is: of course they’re happy with basically nothing. They’re smoothbrains that don’t consider their future or life enrichment beyond enriched boil in bag instant rice and game achievement points My walls are filled with art. Nice furniture for entertaining. Sentimental gifts. Books. Plants. Life shit. Dudes who live this way are int…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 04:10 PM
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Oh yes absolutely as long as all of his assignments are complete and he’s back by 10pm because that’s quiet time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 03:44 PM
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Looking for a live in roommate. Must be male, 21-29, able-bodied and looking a free place to stay. Must be able to cook, clean, perform car/house/appliance/yard maintenance, and be reasonably not ugly. Hygiene is a MUST Cannot have any visitors or pets. No smoking. Serious inquiries only. Send photo and make subject of email the first meal you’ll prepare for me for fast correspondence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 03:38 PM
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But he’s doing rEsEaRcH 🔬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 12:38 PM
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So instead of reading he chooses to ask women in a women’s space to eXpLaIn 🧐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 12:04 PM
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Beautiful. Thank you for putting this so eloquently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 08:31 PM
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Good for you <3 glad you are here and welcome!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 07:54 PM
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You weren’t misinterpreted <3 all good!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 06:08 PM
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That’s a solid start. Contribute as much as you can and it’ll be huge before you know it And yep. We can only keep on keeping on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 05:52 PM
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Hey don’t be so quick to put yourself down. I don’t know your situation but I sincerely hope you’re able to save, own property, invest, RETIRE etc etc - it all has to start somewhere!! Get that excellent no-bs attitude and confidence and throw some at the finance department ✌️ I, a stranger on the internet, believe in you <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 01:58 PM
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Agree completely
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 01:44 PM
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I don’t hate men. I simply strongly prefer my life without most of them I don’t hate mango, I simply strongly prefer my life without ANY OF THEM ok I do hate mango
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 01:44 PM
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Nobody has to cook with THE PETER PAN METHOD Simply imagine what you want to eat and it’ll appear magically in the seemingly empty dishes before you!! If this doesn’t work for you then you have a terrible imagination yOu SiLlY aDuLt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 06:47 PM
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Lol yep. They use pet names so they don’t have to invest mental energy in remembering your name.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 04:19 PM
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Lol I wish I could intensify this. Wait. I can. *L.O.L.*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 03:46 PM
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Such dumb insecurity on his part. Jesus.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 01:50 PM
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Wish I could upvote this a million
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 12:46 AM
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Don’t give them money. Just don’t. It won’t work out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 12:39 AM
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Jeeze that’s like a horror novel. No thanks and hard pass on anyone who would need me to behave like this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 07:36 PM
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It’s not that I’m oblivious to men liking me. It’s that I choose to ignore them if they just seem awkward and loom around me without saying anything
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 02:28 PM
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Exactly. Boy, BYE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 07:14 PM
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What’s funny is that their hatred is what repels us, and therefore what prevents them from getting life experience and knowing better. They shoot themselves in the foot 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 07:07 PM
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Yeaaaah naaaw
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 03:54 PM
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I didn’t want this to be true. And for so long I tried so hard to find it to be not true (note: the below example is not the first example of my noticing this. That would be ridiculous. It’s the most recent example of a dude coming clean) It’s true. Y’all my boyfriend and I tripped balls on acid a week ago and among the things he said was that he was sorry for having misogynistic thoughts. I asked him to explain I would be cooking noodles. Handling a hot pan with onions, boiling water, preparing…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 12:36 PM
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First thing I thought. He couldn’t handle it so he went to the other woman who played life manager for him DONT PLAY LIFE MANAGER FOR YOUR PARTNER
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 12:27 PM
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And this is why you don’t have kids with little dick energy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 12:25 PM
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And it’s not that they cannot tell the two apart. They can. And then do mental acrobatics and latch onto other echo chambers of insecurity and hate and think if these people are doing and thinking this, it MUST be logical and correct!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 02:28 AM
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Exactly. It’s a ridiculous contrast
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 02:26 AM
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Thank you lady <3 it’s all a work in progress. Always trend upward!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 08:49 PM
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When I was 21 I moved a few states away to live with my boyfriend at the time. Broke up him within 2 years and moved back to my home state. My career took a hit during that time -- I work in a technical field, and had been lucky enough to get a paid internship throughout high school which eventually got me into a great job getting 42k/year from ages 19-21. That's the job I left to go live with that boyfriend. Back in my home state at 23-24, it took me about 2 years to get my career back on track…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 08:37 PM
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It’s funny because I’ve lived my life and it’s been quite the contrary, clearly this dude is a complete Jon Snow. Yawn. Boring
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 07:51 PM
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Once at a bar I frequented, I walked into the women’s room and witnessed a drunk male using the toilet with the door wide open. I turned around and left immediately, and laughed as I told the bouncer. I was young and thought it was kind of funny, as he was terribly drunk. The bouncer leapt off his chair, right into the restroom, and threw him out. Dude barely had his pants back on. Afterward I talked to the bouncer and admitted I felt kind of bad. He reassured me that it was completely out of li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 07:46 PM
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Yep that’s exactly how I work How could I be attracted to someone who can’t even clean up after themselves. Nope
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 03:35 PM
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You nailed it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 03:00 PM
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To all of the male lurkers thinking “SHES JUST SO EMOTIONAL AND RIDICULOUS. DOESNT SHE GET ITS JUST A JOKE???” Respect in a relationship is earned over years. When you disrespect your wife, your life partner, to your friends and make her a joke - she will stop thinking well of you. Stop trusting you. And she will divorce you in her mind. She is either trending upward with love for you, or downward with distrust and contempt. And it’s all up to you how that goes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 02:13 PM
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Truth. This is how much I spent on myself with my new VR setup Oculus Rift (2nd hand, first generation) = 300$ Oculus Quest (new, with shipping) = 530$ Oculus Quest accessories (travel case, 3rd party cables, grips) = 125$ New Gaming PC for Rift = 1530$ VR games estimate: 250$ Money money money money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 09:26 PM
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😬 eeee hmm some stuff to unpack here. In this scenario, the dude was 16 when this woman was born. He is old enough to be her (young) father. But seriously Imagining at 16 holding a newborn and thinking “she’s going to be my girlfriend in 18 years” highlights a weirdness about this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 08:47 PM
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Exactly my thoughts when I read this crap He did this to himself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 03:54 PM
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Good for you. You deserve so much better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 04:02 PM
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Males who act like this have no place in my life. If they can’t understand basic communication they’re either way too young, way too inexperienced, or ignorant. Nope nope and nope :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 02:11 PM
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Ahahahahaha your response is on point I sincerely enjoy reading interactions like these because it has helped me realize I can be blunt and state the facts. Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 03:16 PM
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Someone can tell me to bake a cake with olive oil instead of butter until they’re blue in the face and I know it’s not a good idea. Not gonna do it. These people can talk down about FDS until their fingers fall off and I’ll still know the methods work and that it’s not a good idea to go over unfamiliar dudes houses, to have sex early on, etc etc They can say whatever. Who cares? Our happiness is found elsewhere than the approval of random unknown persons online
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 02:49 AM
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A good friend of mine is currently pursuing her ex for child support. He’s basically just like this. Awful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 04:11 PM
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I love doing this. It’s not from a perspective of cheating when I do it with my partner. It’s a whole new “persona” He’s a bodyguard for a big wig whose firm moved into town. I am an entrepreneur whose project just got sold for mad stacks of cash. Stuff like that Sometimes we break out of character laughing at the ridiculousness of the personas we come up with. It’s all in good fun for us Edit to add: we don’t stick to these “personas” and making them up on the spot is fun. We don’t do it every …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 01:16 PM
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Ok so. Boy, read the room. Act first and then apologize IF she asks to stop? How about, to this new person you’re making out with, you ASK “are you ok with my putting my hand on your leg?” Or even better, a convo about boundaries
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 03:40 PM
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Giving women compliments = thanks and maybe a convo Giving men compliments = most likely becomes: kin I git dem digits tho
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 03:37 PM
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As someone who dresses head to toe in complete skin covering while in the sun/at the beach, I honestly have no care as to what other women wear. I’ve been told my skin tight catsuit swimsuit was inappropriate. Nope, not gonna mentally or internet shame other women for what they wear. Because it’s not my body. And plus it’s stressful to think like that. Why would I put myself through caring so much about women wearing shorts and crop tops in the summer? To feel that frustration inside because tHe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 12:57 PM
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It does have meaning for me One guy I dated for 4 years eventually said he wanted me to ask him to marry him. So he would know that I “was sure” Dude I’m dating now understands I want a dream car and not a ring. And he’s taking it seriously. We aren’t at marriage yet, but the fact that he’s taking this seriously means a lot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 12:55 PM
10

Cried after sex omg 😳😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 09:12 PM
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When I was 19/20 I visited a guys house from my class who wanted to watch an anime. Sure whatever We get 10 minutes in and he whips his dick out. I get skeeved and bolt, leaving my favorite hoodie. Then this idiot tells people in school I slept with him. So I went with it and said he had the most unfortunate penis I had ever seen, and pitied him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 12:33 PM
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That is seriously uplifting. He was such a father figure and I looked forward to knowing his character and felt really proud of him. He was a protector. Thoughtful. Smart. Loving. If he had any crush on a younger woman like that, it would seem out of character and forced
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 12:17 PM
19

Yep exactly. It may not affect us, but they do and will
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 11:10 PM
37

Ugh. I shared something recently that I really did not want to share. I had grown over it and it was old news, not affecting mine or anyone else’s life. And while talking to someone, it just came out. And then I regretted it so much 🙄 It was no longer big for me, but for them it was a point of contention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 10:39 PM
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My elderly neighbor had great advice that I’ve followed since I heard it. She is a smaller woman. When she is very mad, she whispers. She doesn’t yell or raise her voice, hit or throw things. She sits quietly and speaks incredibly softly and carefully. Otherwise when just having normal conversation, I tend not to care what males think of how I speak. I’m articulate and pretty s-m-r-t and the ones who can hold a conversation don’t care. The ones who are petty and need me to be performative for th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 08:02 PM
1

I like the discussions and snippet thoughts that turn into them I also very much enjoy screenshots and memes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 07:23 PM
52

They DO understand. Exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 10:37 AM
3

Exactly. I realized then that he would not be worth it, if I had to ask him about a blanket 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 10:34 AM
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No joke once I stopped seeing a guy because he tried to discreetly slide a blanket off a chair and onto the floor without me noticing. He was not discreet. I noticed. And it was like a switch was flipped off inside of me. Interested to not in 3.5 seconds
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 01:20 AM
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lol thank you for this. I was looking for a way to see my old self in a good light and you helped me find it. Sincerely appreciative!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 08:04 PM
16

Oh lort this boy 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 04:12 PM
7

I meant riding as a passenger on a motorcycle is intimate (like close, you’re basically spooning them) which is another big reason not to ride with guys you don’t know / don’t trust. They like you feeling them and pressing up close The comment is absolutely vulgar yes. Pre-FDS me didn’t realize how gross it was
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 07:30 PM
28

Lol If dude can’t buy his own PS5 I’ll buy one for myself and gloat (but I won’t buy a PS5 because any console < PC)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 07:09 PM
11

Welcome!! That’s exactly how I felt when I found this. Everything clicked and made sense Welcome to your new life <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 06:17 PM
13

Definitely agree. When anyone treats animals poorly I don’t want to associate with them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 06:08 PM
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Kind (to me, others, animals) Emotionally intelligent Mentally flexible (able to learn, grow, adapt new things) OH SORRY I MEANT HE’S 7 FEET TALL AND MAKES 7 FIGURES AND HAS A 7 FOOT DICK
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 05:55 PM
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What’s awful is that they’ll never have a real loving relationship with a woman. They’ll go their whole lives craving something they’ll never be able to create. It’s sad really
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 05:51 PM
31

Nuuuuuu you’ve revealed our goals!! FREE BURRITOS ARE WHAT I LIVE FOR 😭 BurritoDigger
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 01:29 PM
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Mac n cheese fish cracker dish is kinda cute. Neat pattern Separately - if this were a first date, I would not go to someone’s house. If it were someone I was familiar with then if I’d go to their house, I would be using their name, so makes me think super early dating. Which only needs to go wrong once
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 01:11 AM
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Ya know I don’t give a shit about height. I give a shit about how men treat me. Men have treated me weird because of their own insecurity about height comparisons A good experience: a guy I went on three “dates” with was 5’3. I’m 5’3. I wore 4 inch heels one day and he said nothing about it and seemed cool. He did make a face (like a smile) when he saw my shoes but didn’t say anything and was completely nice. I didn’t continue with him for reasons that had nothing to do with height. (He smoked 2…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:52 PM
11

He’s exactly the person we DONT want to date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:22 PM
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It’s so obvious why they’re incels
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 01:32 PM
13

When I was growing up, I was taught that if I were lost, to find a MOTHER WITH HER CHILDREN to help me. Not a man. Not a cop. Maybe a store employee if that’s where we were. But on a beach, at a park, in a crowded place — to find a mother with her children There’s a reason for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 12:19 PM
3

Beautiful. What a piece of shit that dude and his friends were.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 12:07 PM
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When I cook and others are eating it, I always: serve myself first, and make myself (what I consider to be) The Best Plate. I call it “the mommy plate” because I cooked it and therefore I am its creator 🥳 I get to choose I don’t currently and never have had any kids. The verbiage has been used to ensure my beau understands that I hold myself in high regard and make sure I’m happy. It’s important. I learned this from my mom. Who would choose the smallest pieces for herself. The burnt parts. The e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 10:48 PM
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🥳 congratulations!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 05:40 PM
3

This inspired me. Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 04:45 PM
13

You’re posting here so you probably already know what’s coming. These are the death throws of the relationship He won’t change. He hasn’t. You’ve cOmMuNiCaTeD and it hasn’t helped. Move on. You have so much life ahead of you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 04:17 PM
23

Jesus fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 07:34 PM
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Definitely a hard pass on that one. I would have blocked for sure
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 07:27 PM
3

I spent far too long contemplating how I would personally go about eating a jean jacket
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 06:55 PM
15

😂 I get you now!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 05:59 PM
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This is true But are there hundreds who band together like Boko Haram? Nope. Never
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 05:16 PM
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This topic is the most anger inducing to scrotes it seems. Of everything I’ve posted THIS gets the most DMs And yet none have shown me any evidence of a female version of Boko Haram. NOT ONE. I’ve gotten lists of cult leaders and killers. But damn. Do they not know how to read? Sorry, that’s rhetorical because clearly, they don’t. THERE ARE NO FEMALE VERSIONS OF BOKO HARAM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 04:30 PM
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I posted a long while ago here. “Show me a female version of Boko Haram.” NOT an example of a woman serial killer. NOT an example of a woman cult leader. NOT an example of a woman who convinced someone to murder. We know these women exist. Duh. Show me an organized group of hundreds(thousands?) of WOMEN who kill, rape, subjugate, and use MEN and BOYS. Who dump their bodies in mass graves after using them to the point of death. Look up Boko Haram and show me the equivalent with women who do that.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 02:28 PM
4

Le gasp!! I want to go! It’s now on my list 😊 thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 02:33 PM
4

Addams Family is a GREAT table! Definitely one of my favorites. I love that Thing comes out and grabs the ball, probably my favorite feature
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 02:05 PM
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Pinball. I looooove finding new tables to play. Or even the same tables that I love in new places. COVID struck that down pretty hard and I haven’t been to my favorite arcade since February. Before I discovered my love for pins, there wasn’t much I truly loved to do socially just for me. Pinball changed my life in that regard. I’ll track down bars with 1-2 tables, go with a cup of quarters or dollar bills, drink a lime and soda (don’t drink and drive!) and play for an hour or two before hitting …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 12:08 PM
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And it’s a shame I didn’t recognize it earlier! Here I was thinking he’s just shy and loves me even though he’s kind of a jerk 🤡 Thanks lady and I am glad they’re gone too!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 12:51 AM
18

Yep definitely insta block.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 02:38 PM
13

There’s been a few I met like that for sure I love it now that there’s more women. A few years ago WWE had the first women’s royal rumble and OMG it was amazing In AEW there’s a wrestler named Abadon (I spelled wrong I’m sure) who is 100% always in character and completely amazing. I love her hardcore
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 02:12 PM
14

Hey I love AEW. Meeeh!! This guy is an idiot though, not arguing that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 01:54 PM
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So much this A dude I was talking to actually tried explaining to me that it wasn’t his fault he had kids with his ex because “some women be like that” BE LIKE WHAT I asked so calm and understandingly “Like they really want you to cum in them and so you just do” Wow, my dude. Wowzer times 10.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 01:08 PM
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Truth! There’s a difference between asking someone what they think and asking permission. He seemed to think I needed him to let me do it. I was young and that was one of a dozen red flags at that point. But I was a 🤡 and so was he so...yep. Lived n learnt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 09:35 PM
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Nailed it! I’m glad he is too. The ex’s behavior was so weird in general. We dated when I was 21-22 and he was 27. He was 6’7 and easily had the least self esteem of anyone I ever dated. Ended up posting revenge porn of me/us (but without him at all 🙃) on a site with my REAL INFORMATION. I convinced him to pay the 200$ to take it down and then never talked to him again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 09:32 PM
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So boring. Been in a relationship with a few scrotes who went mad with anger when I didn’t “obey” them. YOU KNOW WHAT THEY WERE? Boring as shit. One didn’t want my nose pierced and I got it anyway. Pissed that I “didn’t listen” (pro tip: I listened and didn’t give a shit) One didn’t want me to lend males my lighter at bars and when I did, he was pissed and accused me of letting dudes eye fuck me (instead of joining the conversation he loomed awkwardly in the corner) One got mad that I listened t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 06:19 PM
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WHY SEXY FEMALE SLEEP SEXY NO WANT SEX?? 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 04:08 PM
7

Amazing guy <3 happy for you lady!! As others have mentioned, stay sharp
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 08:33 PM
4

Great advice! I completely agree with all of it 💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 08:32 PM
10

Ugh. That’s what I was thinking might happen. The moment I sent it, he would either block me, or use him owing me as a reason to have me talk to him? Or ask me out for a drink or dinner to repay? Also, who asks for 20 to 46 dollars specifically? 46 dollars? 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 08:14 PM
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Lol this is gonna sound funny A fabric shaver. Buy them for like $20~ on Amazon. Basically it’s a few razors that spin around behind a steel guard with holes in it. You run it over your older clothes that have pills (like sweaters, socks, even blankets and stuff). Reasons: it gives your clothes a longer life looking great. Ever find a killer garment at a thrift store but it’s all worn and pilled up with little beads of fabric? You try pulling them off and they just make dumb strands of fuzz? Fab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 08:11 PM
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You about summed it up..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 08:05 PM
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For real 🤔 Ya know. I have given money to (homeless/poor) people on the street with signs. I have given money to friends who ask for it. Keyword friends. People who talk to me and have a friendship with me. If he had made effort to get to know me and talk to me, and then asked, I probably would have considered it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 08:03 PM
3

Thank you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 07:35 PM
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Added this dude on FB earlier in the year because he’s friends with 10+ people I know from the music scenes I frequent. I never met him irl. The only times he messaged me prior to this was 1) late night to tell me that he is “lit”, and 2) asking me what I’m up to again very late at night to which I respond that I was going to bed. Neither “conversations” were more elaborate than what’s in the screenshots, and I deleted them. And then this after months of silence. I felt kind of bad for blocking …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 07:20 PM
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Thanks lady :) May your standards stay high and your life bereft of detestable behavior from men!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 07:04 PM
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Vagina dentata 😎
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 06:16 PM
4

Yay new mantra! Hahaha Yep. Let it go. (“Let it goooooo” 🎶😂)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 05:44 PM
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Yes!! FDS gave me clarity and happiness like nothing else. I’m comfortable with myself, my worth, my decisions, my expectations. I am dating a lovely man who treats me like an absolute queen. Why would I go back to dating and putting up with scrotes who put me down and treat me less-than? Nope, never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 03:17 PM
6

Yes. Asking for an STI panel is not embarrassing or out of place. If they put up a fight, just exit gracefully and move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 02:11 PM
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A guy started doing this to me at a bar some years ago. I casually ignored him for other people and then he inserted himself into a conversation with some of my friends who frequented the place, repeated what I said in a singsong voice that had nothing to do with what was going on, purely to mock me, and I just looked at my friends and made the super uncomfortable cringe embarrassed face. No one responded to him and it was a quiet moment of weird. He darted away and I didn’t see him again. Weird…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 11:25 AM
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They’re abhorrent and deserve nothing. Good on them for destroying their bodies on their own with hormones. They’ll look like saggy bags of skin wrapped on stringy old meat strands by the time they’re 50 if not sooner Reading their sub is like reading the Christian Bible. There’s nothing better to turn you completely off of them Imagine feeling like that toward anyone you’re supposed to love; they’ve made themselves hollow and unworthy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 11:19 AM
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Yep. It’s exactly what she should do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 07:29 PM
13

Always trend upward <3 you’re doing great lady
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 07:25 PM
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I dated multiple men like this in my youth There’s nothing you can do other than leave. Delete. Block. They’ll continue to try and control you by any means and in any ways they can. And when they can’t, they’ll try and control how other people see you by talking bad about you, making accusations, etc. Leave them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 03:18 PM
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Like the other women here, I strongly recommend you stop talking to this person. There are so many flags. So much disrespect. This is not a healthy relationship. He is a manipulator. You deserve so much better
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 12:13 PM
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He’s a child. Dump. Block. Abort. Peace to you, lady. You deserve better
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 03:08 PM
12

I have always wanted to jump onto a train and take it wherever it goes. Hitch a ride on the back of some train sitting in a loading depot. Not buy a ticket, not sit inside of the car. I’ve watched documentaries on it and it just seems so wild and thrilling to do just once
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 02:45 PM
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Good on you for getting out. You know what’s best for you and your child, and it is not him. I wish you peace and love in life for you both. You deserve it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 11:24 AM
4

I have many tattoos and love them all very much Tattoos don’t automatically mean low value. But as others have mentioned, quality and location matter greatly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 06:46 PM
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Wow. I’m sorry that happened to you I have one acquaintance in a friend group who uses steroids on a cycle. When he is on them he becomes.... terse. Angry on a dime at seemingly nothing. He once yelled at me because I mentioned a Marilyn Monroe movie and called me a basic bitch, quoted that “if you don’t accept me at my lowest” etc etc was super basic, something which I never mentioned at all. I was talking about a dress she wore in a movie. That movie didn’t include that quote. It was just real…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 06:14 PM
7

One of my favorite lyrics goes something like “if you’re under him you’re not getting over him”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 12:56 PM
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I will PM you :D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 05:49 PM
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Those are awesome, but alas, not the brand of my dream car. What I was is considered by many to be a “junk” car that’s idealized almost entirely for the era and brief popularity I would not say no to a Ferrari (or 10 😆) but wouldn’t consider it a marriage pact car
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 05:30 PM
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I told dudes in my life NEVER EVEN CONSIDER PROPOSING TO ME WITH A RING. I don’t want it and would actually be pretty pissed if they ignored my ask and preference and got a ring instead of what I really want to be proposed to with — which is my dream car. That’s right. Propose to me with my dream car. No ring. I’ve gotten a lot of shit for this. “You know how much that costs?!?!” Me: 🤷‍♀️ ok then don’t propose lol I would state what my dream car is, but that could elude to who I am since it is s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 02:02 PM
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Agree. OP deserves better than a wishy-washy maybe-baby.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 08:12 PM
6

Welcome <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 07:07 PM
25

Good analogy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 06:17 PM
4

👸 yes ma’am!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 05:16 PM
5

I prefer “Grand Queen Commander” but “Madam Archon” will do in a pinch
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 04:39 PM
5

🖐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 01:14 PM
1

That’s unnecessary 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 11:24 PM
1

This is Otis, part of Heavy Machinery in WWE. I really like Otis. And I love wrestling. It's like acrobatic soap opera. Also, BIGGEST HEARTS EVER for Charlotte Flair
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 07:35 PM
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This is the content I am here for
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 12:06 AM
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If I were you I would make other plans and focus on that. Don’t reach out. Find something YOU wanna do real bad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 08:06 PM
3

You’ll find them. They’re out there. <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 08:03 PM
12

Came here to say this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 08:02 PM
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Same. So very much the same. I felt anger at first when I heard about it, at HER, which made no sense. I’ve learned and grown. She was 16. Who was I when I was 16? Naive. She was not the architect of that relationship. Her parents and pedo husband were. This is why statutory rape laws exist, because as a child you don’t have the tools or experience to understand what is happening. Even if you say you do, do you really? Clearly, Courtney did not. Wish you the best, lady. Sorry I was a jerk. You d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 12:07 PM
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Ok so Step 1) meet woman, attracted to her. Step 2) don’t talk to her for years. Step 3) after X missed bdays with no contact, send 30$ gift with contact info. Step 4) panic. Step 5) post on reddit giving yourself away that you really do crave normal human interaction and romance but are a bitter, unsocialized jerk. The duck is going on in any these dudes heads?! Nothing much, it’s apparent
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 11:41 AM
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You know what is amazing? Life after 30. Fuck my twenties. This is way better. And dudes in their early twenties are still knocking at my door. But I’m less interested in them and more interested in this wonderful guy in his mid 30s I’m dating who would seemingly do anything for me, with pleasure. The wall? Hah. The only wall here is the one you put up between pissbaby scrotes while you create love for yourself and your (current and future) family
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 02:15 AM
3

Wow yeah nope lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 11:41 AM
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Forget this dude. He deserves to pay child support as he is only a sperm donor and parasite. Obvious idiot is obvious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 04:22 PM
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Ya know I didn’t even consider porn when thinking about why he did that 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 04:40 PM
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Friend of mine was dating a really lovely woman for a couple months. Then he broke up with her because they shared sexual history and he said he couldn’t stop imagining her with other people 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 01:48 PM
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I think it’s so hard because that phase changes the standard operating procedures. Like you’ll feel good about what you’re doing normally but when this cycle starts, it is different Good on you for keeping to a schedule, being aware, distracting yourself. It isn’t easy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 04:55 PM
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Aww shit are you me? Yes. Yes this happens to me like clockwork I have an app in my phone for tracking cycles and started tracking when the moods shift. Basically I end up grasping for dick, relationship security, maybe more dick, ok now some relationship security It’s the reason I totally bombed it with a guy I was crushing on hard. He ended up being incompatible but goodness my monthly weirdness prior to period + onset of COVID quarantine made for the worst possible scenario
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 04:41 PM
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When I was in my mid twenties I went to a party at my friends house. His cousins and her friends, all 18-20, were enamored with me. I was kind and polite and funny and they loved it One girl felt so comfortable with me that she blurted out probably the most troublesome problem she had at the time. Her ex bf had been using her for sex. I clammed up and said “I don’t know anything about that” and I felt shame then, the same that I do today. I did not know how to help her. I didn’t have words to ar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 12:59 PM
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I do not date men with kids. I won’t even consider them as a dating option
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 08:44 PM
2

Yes! I love to be happy about achievements my SO is proud of. I cannot fathom how he could say he loved me and also be so bitter about my success. Thank you for sharing your story
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 11:21 AM
2

Yes! Do it. Fuck yeah. Buy that house. Make it yours and make it awesome! I bought mine a few years ago and (was a pick me, I done got learnt thx FDS) moved my LVM bf in with me. He wasn’t even excited when I bought it. Just nodded the same way you would agree with a server as they asked you if you enjoyed your microwaved chicken cutlets
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 02:02 PM
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Maybe he doesn’t hit you... but every time you bring up something he did that hurt you, he denies everything first and ends up devolving into a self-depreciating mess and you end up consoling him instead :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 06:25 PM
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😂 I’ve taken to garnering a granny-attitude at those people. What do grandmothers do when their grandchildren are babbling at them about anything? “That’s nice, dear” and carry on ☺️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 12:56 PM
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Nope! If a man doesn’t want to provide for me then I will simply find a man who will 😘 I make good money. More than my current interest. He knows this. He still pays for all our dates. Once I tried buying him a single coffee for 3$ and he refused, then finally snuck dollars into my bag and only told me as he was leaving for his car so I couldn’t give them back 😭 😂 He provides so much more than money. It’s about the attitude
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 11:51 AM
3

And now it is mine also. Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 12:59 AM
6

Yeah like, I definitely have one. I know where it is. It’s not a mystery at all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 08:28 PM
4

This is deep and amazing. And I feel very relieved knowing these feelings I had are shared. After FDS began really sinking in, I started to realize a lot of the sex I was having was performative. Now I don’t feel obligated and life is better in so many ways. It took time to adjust
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 12:30 PM
15

It definitely, 10000000% exists
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 12:00 PM
3

So years ago, dude invites me on a date, I suggest my favorite restaurant. It’s an oyster and steak joint that I go to twice a month or so to treat myself We meet and walk to the place and he is visibly nervous about something. I attribute it to first date jitters. In hindsight I think it was because this place just looks expensive. We find a spot at the bar and I’m marking off the oysters I want on the little oyster menu. Then I mention I want a specialty cocktail (cucumber jalapeño) that they’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 08:07 PM
3

😂 oh lawd this woulda been me years ago. Good riddance to him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 07:52 PM
15

virtual hugs Proud of you, lady!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 03:43 PM
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You’ve got this. Keep swimming. He was a burden and you’re much better off now Much love, lady
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 03:18 PM
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Good on you, lady. You deserve it My ex didn’t have a job for months and yelled at me when I kept asking if he could find one. The guy I’m currently dating makes good money and pays for everything. They’re out there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 04:45 PM
3

Doing normal human things in front of my SO and vise versa is totally fine and normal. Of course there’s being rude in general with it, which is different. My last LTR we were so comfortable with each other, we both did it and 🤷‍♀️ it was funny and we were happy to be silly and comfortable together
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 09:11 PM
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Oh my god these are horrible. It’s like they’re written by aliens in human skin suits
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 05:55 PM
3

It definitely sounds like that, you’re right. I’m glad you’re out of that situation also!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 04:45 PM
7

Venting! Talked to this guy for months. He hit it off so well, after quarantine we went on a few trips. There was some relationship trust issue baggage shit on his end but hey we all have problems and I liked him enough to help But he keeps coming up with new problems. New issues. New reasons why one word I said while explaining something doesn’t make sense etc etc etc And today I blew up on him and told me to give me my shit and I’ll give him his, and to stop talking to me. I’m not proud of tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 12:57 PM
3

Better two than three or four. You’ll meet a few people throughout your life who may seem like “your person” but just keep in mind that your image of them in your head is just that - an image. Blind love happens to all of us. Just stick to your priorities and qualities :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 01:47 PM
2

OooOooo lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 01:03 PM
3

Yeah I was supremely weirded out by that comment. Things could have feasibly been cool until that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 01:03 PM
12

Damn!! I wish her well and hope she recovers. My thoughts exactly, too. I’m not issuing kisses to strangers during a pandemic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 04:01 PM
18

Went on a social distance date with a guy I had been talking to for a month or so When I didn’t kiss him at the end of the date, he became cold. Then texted me after I left that he was looking for something else. It was a fine message and I responded that respected his decision and wished him luck Then he followed it up saying that when I refused his “sanitary kiss” he knew I was fake 😂 Whatever dude, blocked!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 02:16 PM
2

You brought me to tears. Thank you so much for responding to me with your story and thoughts. You’ve given me a new way to look at this painful thing, and it doesn’t feel so painful anymore. I appreciate you immensely. You’re very strong to have developed this way, and I admire you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 02:14 PM
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👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 07:49 PM
7

I feel dumb because I like someone unavailable to me. All of my hormones are like !!!!! perfect mate !!!!! and I just keep redirecting my thoughts to improving my life. Which is working, and which I never feel bad about. But I still feel stupid for liking this person. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 07:10 PM
7

This reminds me of an extremely LVM ex. He needed such basic instructions to do anything. Stirring a pot of soup? Gotta tell him which drawer, which spoon, how to stir, where to place the spoon when done. And he would fight and groan the whole time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 07:01 PM
14

Don’t proverbially water the grass of a garden you that isn’t yours
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 02:49 PM
1

Good. Yes!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 02:18 PM
1

Better to be with no company than bad company
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 03:04 PM
38

Came here to say this. He’s not worth it. He feels bad because he got caught in a lie. He doesn’t respect her and is now trying to manipulate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 08:22 PM
16

I keep it moving by moving into my future without him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 08:20 PM
9

This is verbatim my last live-in relationship. He was out of work for a while and I urged him to go to school. He had taken one class the year prior (which I had to sign him up for) and it was literally the easiest, everyone-gets-an-A class. I was so proud 😑. He said he would take another class. I suggested bartending because it was only 2 days and then he could get to work pretty quickly. But he couldn’t, because his band had shows the only 2 nights the local college had the classes. And he nee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 01:20 PM
3

Sounds completely reasonable 😬 gosh what a jackass lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 11:46 AM
3

The only thing the acid would do would make those women realize more quickly how huge of a POS this scrote is and want to gtfo of his house
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 07:11 PM
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I’ve had success with identifying low value and low effort people from my life, both romantic and otherwise, and removing them without regret. I feel confident with my requirements to be treated well. I have had success mentally and physically and my life is overall better than it was before. The long term relationship success will happen, because now I know how to behave and what to expect. I’m extremely grateful for FDS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 05:38 PM
13

It is a difficult thing to realize that family is low value / pick-mes. You see through it and that’s supremely important. I wish you the best
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 01:23 PM
3

To add, we had been “dating” for about 8 months
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 11:54 AM
4

Thanks lady :) Well guy 1 was very wealthy. He paid for everything when we went out. But he wouldn’t plan dates, he preferred to ask me hours before if we could get together. Sometimes he would want to pick me up so we could fool around in his car :/ not sex, it got old and tired and I was no longer interested. He showed a pattern of not texting me for days followed by inviting me over for messing around last minute Edit to add: the only reason it lasted as long as it did, was he initially was v…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 11:54 AM
1

Thank you!! :D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 05:45 PM
15

I dress conservatively because it’s often very comfortable. Dresses, sleeves, etc. A friend’s friend once told me “you don’t dress like you’re an exciting person but you’re pretty cool.” I was wearing my “Christian cat mother of 50” floor length floral skirt, and a loose cardigan. When I go to arcades or with friends, weather permitting, I’ll wear short workout skorts and silly shirts with a windbreaker. That being said I do have a vast collection of very nice dresses and such for work/outings e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 04:39 PM
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I was VERY casually seeing a guy who seemed high value but for reasons, he isn’t. I’m not broken up about someone who just isn’t right for me Now I am currently feeling very love struck for someone new. He passes the initial requirements (income, good to family, respectful, smart, funny, not angry, easy to joke around with, similar interests). I’ve known him for years and now we are just starting to get to know each other romantically. I cannot wait for quarantine to be over so we can really dat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 02:10 PM
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You helped me interalize this today. Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 06:10 PM
2

Happy for you, happy for us! <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 02:30 AM
21

Boring and insecure. Next!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 10:25 PM
4

Don’t feel guilty for making him cry. Feel relief that you won’t have to deal with him anymore after you dump him. Keep your eye on the light at the end of the tunnel lady and get him tf out of your life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 01:44 PM
5

Every time I read “MGTOW” the song “You can go your own way” by Fleetwood Mac plays in my head. I sincerely hope they go into “monk mode” and isolate their weirdy selves for the rest of their lives
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 01:39 PM
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So I had a boss a long time ago who got tired of me asking her to confirm my work. I was a nervous kid in the IT field and wanted to be perfect. One day after I asked her to check something I did, she said that if I were not confident and really wanted her to look, and if again everything was correct, then I owed her a breakfast sandwich. It sounds kind of silly but it started me on a track of trusting my own judgement. In this situation OP seems to know better than to entertain this person, but…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 01:52 PM
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The older I get the more I know this to be true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 12:27 AM
1

Block and delete
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 06:35 PM
1

A desperate clown until his last breath 😂 omg you opened my eyes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 06:34 PM
1

Great show and when I rewatch it will be through a different lens <3 thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 06:32 PM
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Thank you. This was insightful and helpful. And it also pissed me the fuck off because I have been there. This helped identify and solidify the lessons learned
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 06:29 PM
2

Biggest eye roll in history lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 04:51 PM
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Never in my life have I desired a male physically and also wanted to destroy them because I couldn’t have them. This is mental illness. Inceldom is a mental illness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 04:19 PM
60

Srsly all of this Before FDS I stayed with an asshole who made a scene in a parking lot because my period started unexpectedly and I wanted to go home. He made himself a bigger problem than bleeding out into my pants. Never. Again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 12:24 PM
4

You’re awesome, thank you for sharing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 02:49 AM
1

That’s awesome! I always had trouble finding a good mat for DDR. The PlayStation ones back in the day were either really cheap and didn’t last long, or were way too expensive for me. Thanks for the advice :) happy to see another DDR fan~
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 12:00 PM
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I love my: -ability to entertain myself -smartnessity -ability to submerge myself in freezing water without hyperventilating (achieved just last year!! Woot!!) -career -that I have developed the ability to not care about impressing other people, and work to impress myself (that one took a while)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 08:00 PM
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Awesome, thank you! I definitely want custom songs, I’m even more excited now :D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 07:05 PM
2

You got this! Be calm and stick to your guns 👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 05:35 PM
5

Nailed it!! I don’t want to rule another person. I want a companion, a partner, an equal. Someone loving and affectionate. Once you understand FDS there’s no going back
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 02:36 PM
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During quarantine I have been cleaning my house and working out. Lost 5 lbs! Also I ordered a new gaming computer and a VR headset. Something to keep me occupied when I exhaust my other hobbies. I loved Dance Dance Revolution in the 2000s and am itching to play Beat Saber! I do miss the DDR days when my girl friends and I would go to the arcade with a stack of dollars and play until our clothes were soaked with sweat. Good times
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 01:28 PM
3

Love it!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 12:52 PM
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Yep, end it. It’s already down a path and you can’t reverse or change it. You cannot control how he responds when you cut him off so just be honest, clear, like you’re firing an employee. Because you kinda are - he was an applicant in your romantic life and it just isn’t working out. “It’s been real. It’s been fun. Wish you the best.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 12:51 PM
14

He’s just looking for additional ways in. Nailed it. He doesn’t give a shit about her feelings
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 05:23 PM
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You ARE good enough. But he isn’t because he isn’t meeting you needs and doesn’t seem to care to. It sounds like he may have an addiction to porn. There are many other things you mentioned that are red flags but below is something you can benefit from for your own self development now Recommendation: when someone asks you if something is a bother, be honest. Otherwise you encounter the outcome you described where you feel disappointed he didn’t make the “correct” decision. You may end up disappo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 05:12 PM
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We were together for about 10 months. We had known each other for 6 years before we dated, as we knew each other from college. It was tough for me because I truly did connect and enjoy him as a person, but..... let’s put it this way. If you are familiar with Dr Who, you know the Doctor has companions who he brings on adventures. Well, he was the companion and I was almost always the Doctor. He would bring me out on nice dates, and pay for things, and was very sweet, smart, empathetic. He would p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 09:22 PM
5

Yes I have. I just didn’t feel “it” 🤷‍♀️ anymore. He was a great person and we were super connected. But I didn’t feel like he was it. On a lighter note, once I broke it off with a guy because he tried to discreetly drop a blanket off my couch. He didn’t want the blanket there, and pretended to turn around or stretch using the back of the couch, and the blanket slipped off. He turned back and smiled at me. He couldn’t move it or ask me, he had to be weird about it 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 08:00 PM
2

Definitely not true! Be you, be awesome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 03:51 PM
5

When I would calmly start talking to my ex about an issue, he would immediately get defensive. Here’s how it would go 1) I calmly bring up issue 2) he refutes the issue happened and asks me to explain 3) I explain calmly 4) he starts getting loud, claims either he “didn’t mean it like that” or that I “took it the wrong way” 5) I swallow my anger and continue to explain calmly 6) he repeats 4 and adds that I need to calm down and relax. By now he is very loud. 7) I am now trying to explain why 1,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 12:53 PM
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Totally. He must be the same person who shits his pants yelling on the street about the end of the world
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 11:51 AM
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How stressful and unfulfilling it must be to behave like that. I’m so happy I can enjoy my life and not have some weird urge to go be embarrassing to people on the internet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 10:30 PM
5

99% of the time, don’t. Years ago my boyfriend at the time was tight on money. His paycheck was just about 100$ more than all of his expenses. So I gave him 300$ for breathing room, and told him be wise with it. Use it for food or save it. So of course he bought a new TV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 06:30 PM
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Effing shiz. We dated the same guy. Whenever I would bring up something serious or casual (forgetting my moms death day, my birthday, asking him to do something he said he would, etc) he would immediately spring to A) defending himself by being angry, followed by B) getting angry at me for “thinking” he was angry, and then C) getting angry that he wasn’t good enough. Stupid pickme kept tRyInG tO cOmMuNiCaTe and went through the same pattern for 4 years. 4 wasted years. After I realized the patte…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 12:53 PM
1

It really is that easy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 02:43 PM
2

This is the best ever ohhh my goooosh 😍😍😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 01:11 AM
2

Well I had a bag of clothes to donate laying around. I decided to use some of them as scrap material to sew a weird cape/dress thing. Think glamazon RuPaul’s Drag Race inspired this lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 08:50 PM
9

The goslings are the most adorable! My heart melts every time I see those little yellow puffs teetling along behind their parents. So sweet. And they grow so fast
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 07:35 PM
26

Hahaha I legit laughed out loud
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 07:21 PM
12

They most certainly are Great name btw :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 07:21 PM
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Me too! They’re territorial, super family oriented, and I’m pretty sure they mate for life. They care about their mates and babies. It’s interesting. In the spring, with the male-female mate pairs, the females are usually head in the grass and eating while the male keeps watch for predators and other geese. They certainly understand some stuff about being good spouses. I like to imagine that the male goose knows that the female is preparing to lay eggs and feels protective over her and makes sur…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 07:14 PM
2

I really love this post. Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 03:52 PM
2

Yes!!! It is easy to be cold and cruel. Love is strength.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 03:45 PM
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I feel for women in positions like this. My great grandmother told me, only marry a man after five years of dating them. People change a lot. Situations change a lot. I’m 32 now and single. My last serious relationship, now over a year and a half ago, lasted 4 years. If I had been exposed to FDS sooner it probably would have only lasted a few months. Live and grow. I hope the woman in this post finds her way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 03:59 PM
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Why would this motivate any adult to do things on their own?? Why not just be a lazy ass and wait for someone to give you things for accomplishing basic adult tasks. Smh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 07:10 PM
2

I am for sure on the outskirts of FDS when it comes to drug tolerance. That being said, smoking weed from time to time / once a week is not a dealbreaker for me. The other pieces are huge flags absolutely, and I would strongly advise against dating anyone with substance abuse issues. “Hardcore” drugs to me are meth, heroin, Percocet, crack cocaine, etc. which I would never do, nor date anyone who does The occasional LSD or mushroom trip, that is entirely different. NOT abuse of these substances,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 02:20 PM
1

Phone number and facebook. Luckily he didn’t post my address along with my phone/FB when he put up a video of us on a revenge porn site.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 03:35 PM
2

Welcome!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 03:13 PM
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Before FDS I went on a pity-dinner with a coworker on Valentine’s Day. (Ugh, yes, I’m cringing too). We were friendly and neither of us had plans for Valentine’s Day. It was not a date, we agreed on that. But as soon as we were at the pub he started getting angry and snappy at me. ”You only see your boyfriend once a week since he lives in another state. You only get fucked once a week!” Oh, how my internal feathers ruffled happily. Fuck this dude, metaphorically. I explained that no, I get fucke…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 02:56 PM
41

Learned that my boss is an HVM. His wife got sick suddenly. She is a hot shot lawyer who travels a lot. He drove from our work back to his home state 2 hours away immediately after her call, didn’t even pack his desk away. He brought her to the doctor, stayed with her for the entire week, waited on her hand and foot. “She’s my love, the mother of my children. I was so scared.” Brought tears to my eyes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 01:22 PM
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It’s a mental illness to hate what you desire. They’re the demand, and hate the supply.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 05:04 PM
3

Cut your losses If his attention isn’t on you, it’s somewhere else. Do you want to be 2nd? Nah. Now you go take your attention elsewhere and make yourself happy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 03:41 PM
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1000000000% an LVM. Other posters have nailed why He won’t get better. Leave him behind and look in other directions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 03:38 PM
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Witnessing their vile behavior is extremely depressing. It’s just sad that so many of them are like that. Like looking into a lonely dark little box full of garbage and hate. It’s all the more reason to manifest and hold onto the beacon of light and love in your heart. I’m not a religious person. However, I do believe that there is love, and opposing it there is nothing. There is only love and the lack of it, just like there is heat and the lack of it. There is nothing that generates cold. There…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 03:34 PM
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Sounds like he is mentally and emotionally very stable and is successful in both friendships and relationships /s What a lonely loser. Good riddance
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 03:29 PM
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I play video games daily. I earn six figures through a career I’ve worked very hard at. I am physically fit and workout five days a week. I have many hobbies which I enjoy very much, and that don’t include men at all. To say any woman who identifies as a gamer is automatically low value is inaccurate at best. Peace to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 02:58 PM
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Me: “That day that you planned a concert on is my dead sister’s birthday. Remember? We spent the last 2 years together and it happens every year...” LVM: “YOU should have reminded me. I can’t cancel this show now. Google calendar doesn’t let you repeat events each year!” Oh boi I learnt from you, you sad angry thing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 02:02 PM
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Whenever I get a nastygram from a scrote I say in my head, with my favorite grandma voice, “That’s nice, dear.” 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 01:59 PM
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That tortilla tho
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 12:25 PM
14

😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 12:25 PM
3

Oh my gaw. You made something in me click. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 03:21 PM
8

Such sensitive, much trigger
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 08:49 PM
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”They assume everyone else is just as well-meaning, generous, and loving as them.” Oof, did you get this from my brain?? I was raised by loving parents with a very loving mother. It never occurred to me until my late twenties after many a failed relationship that most men just didn’t think like I did. I gave out so many benefit of the doubt cards that I could build a house :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 01:41 PM
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Oh jeeze. When I go out and pay for myself, I get whatever I want. Fancy cocktails, appetizers, expensive entrees. I like that shit. So when I went out with a guy “friend” (we were FWB 10+ years ago) for dinner and drinks, FULLY intending to pay for myself, I was taken aback when he scoffed at everything I ordered. He was angry that I had two 12$ cocktails and four oysters. Fumed when I ordered steak Oscar (8oz aged steak filet with crab meat and hollandaise sauce omfg yum) and argued against me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 01:30 PM
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This is great advice and I wish I could send it back in time to myself 10 years ago
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 11:16 AM
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It’s so sad. Sad for us because most males are like this, and sad for them because most will never realize and grow. OP is completely accurate and speaks to my personal experiences 100%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 02:49 AM
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How could you not fall in love with that? /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 02:40 AM
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100% relevant today 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 02:38 AM
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Listen to your gut. Your intuition sounds dead on and the fact that you’re posting here, seems you know. Trust yourself!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 01:52 PM
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Truth. Religions like Islam, Christianity — gosh I could list all of them here — all consider women property because those religions were made by males. They ingrained their own depraved desires in the “divine” which is the sickest, most not-divine behavior. Religion is man made and it is very obvious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 05:16 PM
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Your comment reminded me of a study regarding children. Two groups of children. Boys and girls separate. When the children were given enough toys where they didn’t have to share them, everything was calm and they played. When all but one toy was removed from the groups, something VERY interesting occurred. The girls without toys would ignore the girl with the toy. They would omit her from the social group and refused to talk to her until she gave up the toy, at which point the next girl with the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 05:12 PM
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”Men just cannot imagine sexuality without torture and violence.” Talking with males about sex and gender roles reveals this. I once talked to an ex about a threesome (MFM) and he stated he “wouldn’t do that” to me because he “respected” me. Going further he revealed that to him, a MFM situation would be automatically degrading to the woman. To him, in his imagination she would be used by them as opposed to three consenting adults enjoying each other. Thank you for your comment, it adds to and e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 05:07 PM
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That’s extremely interesting and I am going to research this. Your last thought was particularly interesting; they may have functioned like that for protection rather than to fill sick power fantasies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 05:03 PM
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Omg 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 02:40 PM
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Yes!! It took me a while to build up courage/gall/not give a frak. Now I’ll stare and cringe and shake my head. So opposite side of this, a while back some dude in a bar was eyeing me. He interrupted my friend and I and started complementing us saying how beautiful we were. My friend stated she was taken and I said I had too many boyfriends and didn’t need another. He looked confused and miffed, and later followed me out onto the patio. He stood in the middle of it and just stared daggers at me.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 02:39 PM
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I have been listening also. Very helpful and uplifting list. Spotify queen if you’re reading this, please add “Whistle while you work it” by Katy Tiz ✌️💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 12:46 AM
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Thank you for this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 12:15 AM
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This is a difficult and huge step. You are working in the right direction! Stay positive. You will find your thing. I have been in a position like yours and I still struggle with some of those feelings, although I have noticed improvement in myself in many ways. Here are some hobbies / activities I often do alone, just because I enjoy them. Other people can tag along but they’re things I truly enjoy for the sake of them. These are just examples arcades pinball (often bars or some restaurants wil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 02:47 PM
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Can relate. I would make dumb decisions the rare times I was truly really aroused. Having a toy helped me majorly (Side tangent: if males are horny daily like the few (1-2) times a month that I feel it, then damn, they truly are slaves to their hormones)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 07:53 PM
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Good insight. The attractive and athletic ones paid me no mind or were generally pleasant in passing. I didn’t realize any of this until today, wow 😳 Oh my goodness they do come out of the woodwork don’t they? One male who regularly made disparaging comments about me (in my vicinity and directed at other people but clearly loud enough for me to hear) in high school actually started talking to me on FB a few years later. He asked me not once, but twice — “so you lost a lot of weight after high sc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 07:23 PM
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Wow. You made me realize that yes, the males who taunted me when I was younger were all short and not conventionally attractive. I was a fat kid and changed massively after freshman year of high school. All of males who were awful to me were (I don’t even want to call these people “ugly” because that’s rude?? I feel weird about it still. Meh) not so attractive themselves. What’s funny is that after I changed (lost 60 lbs, boobs happened), most stopped interacting with me all together. Two of the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 07:08 PM
1

Yes. Although it is a flag. The (so far seemingly) HVM I am dating (1 year) is divorced. He is 51 (I’m 32) and has a daughter who is 16, and is very involved in her life and schooling. He divorced at 35 or so Usually I would never date a man with children or with such an age gap. This man has his own business, is wealthy, healthy (no drugs or alcohol, works out daily, good relationship with his parents), always pays for our dates + trips, is respectful and communicative, and understands my life …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 03:14 PM
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Beautiful improvements, great work lady! The phone use in bed is something I’ve been combating lately myself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 03:19 PM
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This has been on my mind for a few days. A great point
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 12:09 PM
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Came here to post exactly this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 11:52 AM
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This happened to me. I had moved 1500 miles away to live with my ex. During a solo visit back home I was raped. My ex was the first person I told. I called him crying and as soon as I told him I was raped, he hung up the phone. I frantically called over and over and when he picked up he said he almost threw all of my stuff out onto the lawn. He wouldn’t even hear what happened to me. He was awful and I was stupid. We broke up a few months later. I learned how to recognize a lot of red flags from…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 08:10 PM
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It is important to have the appropriate clothes for the outing in mind. An LVM I dated was convinced it was edgy and cool to dress completely mismatched, partial costume etc in public places. At first with my rose-colored glasses I was OOoOoOoO he’s so unique! He doesn’t care about what people think! and then I eventually realized it was because.... he honestly didn’t know how to dress normally. He couldn’t pick out an outfit that made sense and had zero situational awareness when it came to clo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 10:13 PM
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After my mom died suddenly in 2015 I took up yoga. I couldn’t bring myself to leave the house for a week and still wanted to exercise. It has helped a lot with my flexibility, however the biggest improvement I noticed was with my attention span while grieving. I was crying at everything because everything reminded me of mom. Moving from one yoga stance to the next helped me focus on the process, on just being. I joined a hiking/scavenger hunt club and that’s actually going really well. I’ve gott…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 09:33 PM
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Long time reddit lurker, this is the first sub that has A) inspired me to change my life and IMPROVED my mental wellbeing, and B) inspired me to make an account and interact with fellow redditors. This sub helped me realize that I was a huge pick-me in my early dating life and carried on bad habits into my recent ones. It opened my eyes to my own behaviors and has helped me make sense of the behaviors of others, women and men alike. I finally feel in control of myself. I can make decisions that …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 08:16 PM
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