Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered April 12 2020

cici_sweetheart · 2020-04-20T03:15:35+00:00

Venting: Ok I recently have been working on my health and appearance I’ve lost almost 40 pounds since the gyms are closed I started walking around my neighborhood I am constantly being cat called and honked at I ignore these jerks but I want to say fuck off one man drove past me 5x and kept turning around to honk at me what the hell sense does that make! Men are weird you want to get my attention park your car introduce yourself be kind and courteous hand me $100 bill with your number on it and leave not harass me for 15 minutes!

pinksuede · 2020-04-20T00:36:01+00:00

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dzgata · 2020-04-19T23:17:41+00:00

It’s kinda wild how LVM love future faking when getting to know a woman. What are your experiences with future faking ladies?

adventurelillypad · 2020-04-19T22:47:55+00:00

Off topic but not really, just need to get this off my chest somewhere:

My best friend dates a ton of guys. EVERY time she automatically takes on the interests and style of the guy. Right now she’s with this new dude who she’s been obsessed with for months, even while in another relationship. Suddenly her style has done a 180 from what it was during her other relationship, and she’s all of a sudden into obscure, borderline pretentious ~film~ that she’s told me multiple times before that she doesn’t care about (I’m definitely interested in it myself, and now she’s acting like an expert?) all because of the new guy she’s with who’s in school for it. I feel bad, she’s my best friend and I love her. But it’s just cringy seeing her not be herself.

uselesssdata · 2020-04-19T14:23:22+00:00

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shine_flower · 2020-04-19T11:12:46+00:00

Hey, its hard to write this down but I'm hoping it will be a step toward forgiving myself and finding peace. Hmm, long post ahead, sorry.

I'm new in the dating scene. It was only mid 2019 when I started using OLD. I'm 24 turning 25. And by that time, never been kissed or touched. I was really curious and lonely and just wanted to "belong" to someone.

So been talking to this guy, he is american, and I'm asian btw. This guy goes to my country every once and a while for business. So I thought we are friends, in my naive mind I never thought that I ever flirted with him, and he never did with me too. We were just casual, friends just making small talks over the span of 3-5 mos. And in December we decided to meet, when I started OLD my boundaries are clear, I never would enter someone's home. Coz I never really knew how to handle situations like that.

So we met in the mall, when we saw each other in the meeting place, what he had in mind is to go back to his airbnb which is walking distance from the mall. And I d k, I never really protested and I was caught off guard. I didnt know that that is the plan. I know it makes no sense not to actually say no. I just dont think that he is the kind to do that, when in the first place we have not been flirting. I was really having low esteem during this time. Due to lack of success in my previous dates. And just wanted to feel "wanted".

So this guy, I liked him appearance wise. And I thought in my mind, okay maybe I shouldnt make a big fuss abt it, its normal in their place. So we just began watching tv. And then he asked me to come closer, and proceeded to tell me im squirming and seems so nervous. Then he started kissing me and all. Which you have to know i like kisses, before this i had kissed some guys, and was feeling so horny and curious. I think then "its okay we can just make out, i dont have to have sex."

But yeah things got out of hand, i was saying no and told him I never had sex before. But I was curious too so curious, it never really felt that good. He didnt even touch or kiss my breasts, he just went straight to my pussy. By this time i was trying to get him off of me, but he was continuously trying to calm me. So despite it he proceeded, and we did penetrative sex. He didnt even pull out a condom. When I told him, he said he will pull out. I d k. Until now I couldnt seem to articulate this well on my mind. Yes he did pull out but im so scared, ill get something or get pregnant since i have not been using pills or any protection.

The silver lining is he came too fast, like he didnt even last for 5 minutes in the actual act.

I have mixed feelings abt what happened. I feel like i cant stand up for myself. I had a history of child abuse before too. I d k if maybe this thing affected me. I just wanna share this because everytime I remember this, i feel so stupid and i hate myself.

woiashenseea · 2020-04-19T03:24:01+00:00

I just need to get it off my chest cause it's so spicy:

I stopped indulging an LVM's bullshit (WE WERE NOT DATING NOR EVEN REMOTELY INVOLVED), and he is throwing an epic tantrum that has lasted two weeks now. When I leave this apartment in a couple weeks, I'm so excited to tell you all the story!! (I don't wanna post it while I'm here, just in case I have to go to court about it.)

He NEEDS attention from the Pretty Lady SO BAD that he's willing to trash his own things to get it... ladies it's so good, I cant wait!!

greenwalrus1999 · 2020-04-18T23:37:14+00:00

My boyfriend has been in constant, consistent contact with me throughout the duration of this whole thing and it's unbelievable. I haven't seen him in 7 weeks now, but he is just obsessed. I love it, but it almost feels like it just means he's crazy or something. It's what we all want but it's so foreign that it feels wrong. I've never had someone care about me this much before. It's weird. I just can't comprehend a male being this kind, caring, sweet, genuine, committed, and porn-free. I truly cannot

keithmorrisonsvoice · 2020-04-18T12:58:08+00:00

I’ve seen some say the vetting process should last from 3 months to 6 Months and even longer? How long does the vetting process last until you find out if he’s lvm or hvm. I get that you never really know someone. Edit* Should we just assume they’re all lvm until they prove otherwise. I feel like I meet men, sleep with them a few months In and while they are eager to commit and or tell me that they love me, they end up being emo unavailable, narcissists etc In 2-6 months.

duckfeatherduvet · 2020-04-18T06:59:01+00:00

I was posting a bit a couple months back about a male friend who had tried to play games with me, and when I started implimenting FDS to protect my time and energy it became increasingly obvious. Long story short the whole thing ended up with him trying to stand me up because I wasn't chasing him, when it became obvious I wasn't interested enough in hanging out in the first place for him to do that, he got increasingly weird on social media and I blocked him.

Guess who just sent me a long ass apology from a second account? It included all the right things but that's the problem isn't it? It just proved he was self aware enough to know what he was doing. I honestly just ignored it because there are no read receipts and I figured if I blocked him that would be like responding but then he send me another message so I've changed my mind

kamui_zangetsu · 2020-04-17T16:15:18+00:00

I’ve come to the realization that I need to stop dating and learn more about myself without the desire to pursue a partner, I need to take a dating sabbatical

hannah422001 · 2020-04-17T08:18:22+00:00

This sub has helped me tremendously more than my therapy but not quitting that !! But also all you women really motivate me to become the best version of my self <<3

endorphins_ · 2020-04-16T18:57:00+00:00

https://twitter.com/enews/status/1250619030186143750

YALL I AM FUMING RN. Classic DARVO. Fuck Michael Buble

2020-04-16T17:21:56+00:00

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wish_i_wasntavampire · 2020-04-16T11:12:29+00:00

Ladies, was about to make a post asking about "subtle red flags", based on an offhand comment I got from an otherwise decent looking guy online.

Then before I posted, it occured to me to go through his profile to see if it's the only possible red flag..... aaaaaand it's full of soft fetish porn.

a subtle red flag = indicator of a bunch of HUGE. BRIGHT. RED. FLAGS.
Trust your intuition.

dzgata · 2020-04-16T08:10:09+00:00

Ladies how do you interpret when a man asks you “do you need anything” or “let me know if you need anything” at the end of a conversation? It seems so sweet, but I don’t know what it means. Like what do they expect as a response exactly? What if I wanted some money like would they expect me to say that straight up lol? Idk this expression struck a cord with me.

On the other hand, maybe it’s a manipulation tactic, whether it’s conscious or subconscious, I always keep that in the back of my mind so that I don’t fall too easily for just any man.

I’d love to hear any thoughts or commentary from more experienced women!

level_up_always · 2020-04-16T04:24:58+00:00

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prettyexcitingnews · 2020-04-16T04:24:11+00:00

I’ve been reading Why Men Love Bitches, and this book is amazing. Highly recommend!

throwaway93731 · 2020-04-16T00:06:00+00:00

You ever do some Pickme shit and wish you could take it back, but the text has already been sent/action already taken, etc. even though you already knew about FDS??

I wish the path from Pickme to HVM was linear, but it ain't. I'm still learning and still fucking up. I'm much, much better than I once was, but there are some things I've done recently that I still wish I could take back, once I reflected on them.

Partyavoider29 · 2020-04-16T00:00:32+00:00

Just wanted to express gratitude for how much you've all helped me learn to value myself. I almost feel like "dating strategy" is just one offering of this sub - I've applied the thinking here to all of my relationships, most importantly to the one I have with myself.

My therapist and I have been talking about "self abandonment" and how willing I am to extend myself for years, but the handbook helped me understand exactly what that looks like.

I can't think of a better time to learn how to be kind to myself. I'm recovering from the virus and thinking about what a gift that is. Time to level up!

Be well all.

Cheapthrills96 · 2020-04-15T23:03:52+00:00

Long time lurker! I was so happy to find a community of like-minded women. I’m seeking some advice...

So a little bit about myself African American female. Child of two African immigrants. Christian. Currently in grad school. Applying to medical school next cycle.

I know FDS is not entirely in support of online dating but since I’ve moved to a new area for school I thought it be easier to manage compared to going out by myself in a new area. No dating app is great but I liked bumble because you at least get to set your preferences with filters (only 2 for free but I’m not that deep in that I’m going to start paying for anything). So I matched with a guy who seemingly has his life together. You all know it is difficult finding a man who even presents well, well it’s increasingly difficult finding a BLACK man who seems to fit the bill. Similar age, Ivy League grad, full time career and making almost 6 figures, taller than me, considerate, non-smoker, similar family structure, consistent, no kids but would like some in the future, has the ability to hold intelligent conversation, we both double majored in poli sci in undergrad which is very attractive to me because I like having conversations about the state of our nation and he cooks and cleans for himself. We’ve had really meaningful conversations where we’ve talked about love and loss. I’ve been utilizing FDS and matching his pace and he has already planned our post quarantine date and started using pet names (which I am NOT reciprocating ).

So I know it’s incredibly naive but when over 75% of black people in America are Christian you tend to think that’s just the status quo. Well the man I’m speaking with is not Christian (although his family is). I know he went to a Catholic high school but I think it was because they recruited him for their football team. He sometimes says things that reflect some of the teachings of the Church but hates the institution of the Church (for reasons that I can understand). When asked if he’s religious he says “not really” but he “think[s] there’s probably a higher power. [He] hate[s] churches taking advantage of their poor and naive constituency though.” As do I. The thing that is throwing me off is that when we were discussing musical tastes he shared that he’s into metal and punk, not two genres usually associated with black men but I won’t knock anything till I try it. So he sends me a little playlists to kind of see the range of his musical tastes and I like some! I think it’s very focused on instrumentation whereas the music I tend to listen to is very focused on lyricism. My dilemma is the few songs I didn’t like were mentioning the devilish stuff I just can’t get behind. He explained that the origins of metal are based in religious satire and hating the church.

Is there even a point in seeing where this goes? Like do you possibly entertain someone you would have difficulty marrying down the line because raising children would be confusing? I guess the larger question here is are we only supposed to date for marriage?

weasted_ · 2020-04-15T15:41:04+00:00

Hey guys, how are peeps able to cross post posts from other subs? I cant seem to do that for some reason

throwawaytck1001 · 2020-04-15T04:06:15+00:00

I have a petty justice/validation story to tell you. But it's a bit long.

When my ex's sister got married in a foreign country, I attended as my ex's date and also got to know the husband's huge family. It was a far away country and we spent a month with the new husband's huge family.

Ex and I broke up during that 1-month trip, in part due to pressure from his super toxic sister (the bride) and his mom who hated my parents for "no reason" (as she admitted, unbeknownst to me). (My thought at the time was: Thank god he showed his true colors.)

We pretended nothing happened and all was OK to avoid stirring any drama/take away from the wedding.

Dressed up, looked fabulous, laughed, had fun! I had guests congratulating me thinking I was the bride and giving compliments. (I wore a clearly non-bridal yellow non-poufy slinky evening gown, my hair was simple - my petty side takes it as proof that I looked better than the toxic sister bride haha).

Then... get this... one day, towards the end of the trip, the new husband's family were riding in a car with me and out of the blue, they started talking about how they couldn't connect at all with their new daughter-in-law.

They turned to me and said, "We wish our son had married you instead, we love you!"

DAMN that felt good. (At that point, the festivities were over so I felt OK to reveal that my ex and I had broken up. I told them I was sad that as a result of the breakup I didn't know when I'd meet them again.)

Three years later, the mom (the ex's mother-in-law thru his sister) still follows me on Facebook & Instagram and likes all my photos. <3

She only follows 24 people...

Petty validation indeed but I do adore her <3 Thank you, Mama!

stranger_thanearth · 2020-04-15T02:00:22+00:00

Long time lurker here! This sub has been such an essential ingredient in my growth over the last several months. It's fascinating to have gained perspective into my past self - some pick me tendencies I used to have, as well as FDS principles I always had natural inclinations towards. The self awareness this sub has established in me may never have come about anywhere else, and for that I thank you all.

As far as dating goes, I've taken a pretty cavalier approach for awhile because my default setting is one of self reliance...however there is someone in my (outer) circle of friends who expressed interest in me earlier this year before he had to leave for basic/advanced training for the army. He has very limited access to his phone (one phone call to family members each week) so before leaving, he provided me with his address in case I wanted write to him. So I did, and received a letter back within a week of writing to him. We have been writing back and forth ever since. At this point we are just friends, however I can't help but find endearment in this development during the "get to know you" phase, especially in a time of isolation when regular dating isn't a smart option anyway. It's just refreshingly wholesome and lacking in perversion.

Anyway, just felt compelled to share something nice. Thanks for reading. :)

throwaway-786786 · 2020-04-15T01:08:36+00:00

One of my friends is in a relationship with maybe a medium value man (from what she's told me, it's hard to say if he's squarely LV or HV). She mentioned that he had choked her during sex one time. She immediately told him she didn't like it and he never tried it again and it's been years since.

I think if a woman posted here about her partner choking her all of a sudden during sex, at least some of the comments would include "break up with him," but if the guy is genuinely apologetic and you believe he won't do it again, how do you deal with that?

level_up_always · 2020-04-14T20:52:48+00:00

how are y'all holding up? it's been almost a month of shelter in place for me. we have two weeks left but they say its likely to be extended longer. it was fine in the beginning as i'm already an introvert and work from home but it's starting to get to me! i miss being outside. people don't follow social distancing that well and i live in the city so i've just been avoiding it and i have a feeling things are only going to get worse as there's been an increase in crimes robberies etc. so for all those reasons i'm inside even more and starting to get cabin fever! doesn't help that it's the first warm today here in a while

Sunanas · 2020-04-14T17:25:53+00:00

I want to block and delete my ex from my life so badly, oh god.

He is not a bad person. During our relationship he was compassionate, very generous and giving, attentive, fun, funny, helpful, thoughtful, affectionate and supportive.

But he came from a very restrictive family. And he has a history of mental illness in his family (depression and suicide). He also is really passive aggressive and has a lot of repressed anger. Communicating with him was a chore at times because he wouldn't be honest, just tiptoe around things he wanted to say no to and avoid a lot. It happened twice in the year that I knew him where I'd mess up (be late for a show he really wanted to see) and he'd be really snarky with me, questioning me about it all night long and ruining the entire evening. Also, he was very handsome and vain about it. Also very insecure, constantly taking selfies and posting to social media. AT FORTY TWO YEARS OLD. He was deeply depressed (probably for his entire life) and he would cry often about life being hard. I'd be trying to sleep beside him and he'd be sighing and tossing and turning.

Just so, so emotionally draining.

girludontbringhome · 2020-04-14T16:09:42+00:00

I was just thinking about my previous relationships and got sad a little bit...every year there is this really fun fair that comes into town. It’s the perfect date and whenever I was single and go I’d always imagine going with a guy lol. It makes me kinda sad because I was almost official with my first bf and just became official with my second bf while the fair was in town in separate years and neither guy would go with me even though I asked them. Actually my first bf went with his friends without inviting me and we were actually official a few weeks later...Both guys were really cheap, the second one even said he didn’t want to go because he didn’t want to spend money. It’s so weird because I split everything 50/50 with both of them (I know now that I probably shouldn’t have done that) so I don’t know why they would think they would have to pay a lot for me. Plus when I go I just like to walk around and look at stuff, and there’s always ways to get discounted tickets so some years I leave literally spending only $21. It’s unfortunate and I wish I broke up with them right after that because neither of them were busy or had any other valid explanation not to take me. At least I’ve always had friends I went with but it still annoys me.

lolumadbr0 · 2020-04-14T15:32:26+00:00

I've had 2 guys ask me got dates this week.

The fuck????

EveningFires · 2020-04-14T09:37:30+00:00

I need some general advice that I’m not sure is worthy of its own thread.

What do you ladies think of teasing? I.e. men who tease as part of flirting with you. To be clear, I have never sensed any particular disrespect or derision from the teasers in my past. Nor have I felt ‘less than’ after being teased by the men I’m thinking of. But on the other hand, I know that teasing can be something of a gateway into worse, abusive behaviours, especially if it’s mean spirited.

Are there any red flags you’d recommend watching out for when it comes to teasing? Can teasing, in your experience or in your theoretical opinion, be a part of a healthy relationship?

Meredeen · 2020-04-14T09:06:13+00:00

Huh. You know, I think I'm done. I genuinely hate men. I don't see a reason to come here anymore. No need for dating strategy, I am completely devoid of desire for men after the shit I've observed over the course of this year.

Maybe hate isn't the right word. I feel... afraid, and disgusted.

velocity2ds · 2020-04-14T07:54:28+00:00

I haven’t worn a bra for a month and I don’t think I’m gonna go back to wearing one after quarantine is over

throwawaytck1001 · 2020-04-14T03:40:25+00:00

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cici_sweetheart · 2020-04-14T02:51:10+00:00

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Struggleis4real · 2020-04-14T01:48:35+00:00

A boy was talking to me (even before corona) but I just don’t know how to talk much over text. It was some convos and he even checked on me (without flirting in that particular convo) which was nice. It was still the very beginning and now we can’t see each other so I’ll never know? I keep trying to let him be the one to reach out? But I feel weird not reciprocating (but I’m refraining bc of what I read here?)

Like, he’s been complimenting me and I thought about doing the same to him by messaging first about a pic he posted. But I decided against it to try and see if he will contact me again without that. He keeps watching my stories, but he doesn’t post much himself.

I’m sure he can tell I like him. But it feels weird because im letting him do all the complimenting? Like if he tells me he likes my photo I just say thanks and there’s nothing to comment on back. Idk if I should do it to his photos too? 😭

Ugh is this the right way? I hate corona.

featherflowers · 2020-04-14T01:37:55+00:00

Pure Romance parties

Has there been a thread on this? If not, I am game to start one. I just endured one over two hours on zoom and I have SO much to say. Most of it is bad.

I have always flat out refused to go to these parties because I figured they would be misogynistic wastes of time and money that cater to the male gaze. I was not wrong. A friend in my circle was hosting and begged me to attend so I agreed since it was only online. Ugh. Never again.

DejaBlue_Chump · 2020-04-13T19:46:54+00:00

I just need to vent.

When I've done the OLD thing, I have always been up front about the fact I don't like texting; I think it is a terrible way to try to get to know someone. I put a note about it in my dating profile and when I start chatting with a guy, I always tell them that my preference is phone calls and Zoom (especially right now). However, when we finally exchange phone numbers, the guys will just continue texting me, and never call. I just cut off the last three guys with a comment that I was bored with the texting and had lost interest. All three acted stunned, as though this was out of the blue and I had never told them my preference! I don't think I'm asking too much for a guy to call if he is genuinely interested in me.

Deep-Blackberry · 2020-04-13T15:55:27+00:00

Talking to a male friend(yes, I know male friends aren't good to have) who I once had feelings for, I realized he wasn't what I needed in the end, after many years of back and forth. Long story there, but watching him to start dating again has been...interesting. I'm noticing things a lot when I was interested in him. There's a lot of controlling issues on his end with the women he is seeing. I'll have to make a post about this someday.

MalibuStacy06 · 2020-04-13T14:56:52+00:00

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parieta1 · 2020-04-13T14:00:46+00:00

I’m about to start taking so many Harvard classes and I’m excited. Finally planned out my educational goals and it’s been motivating me to do better

topumasum · 2020-04-13T09:50:47+00:00

Learning to cook various South Asian dishes.

Learning more about the company and product I'm working for. I'm genuinely in love with my work and i really care about the company. Being more active and initiative than my job description. I swear this is true love.

Threw away hand me downs and clothes my mum bought but never fit. Got some very basic clothes that fit and look great on me. I'm learning more about fashion. Also, corsets cause i love them so much.

Not interested in men right now, only money, investments, fashion and food.

Learning new Saas programs like animation programs, automation, graphic design and user interface research.

honeybeeroll · 2020-04-13T05:24:22+00:00

So I checked out dating over 30 for the first time. And WOW. Pickmeisha central indeed 💀. This girl was dating this broke ass dude (6 roommates!!), no ambition mf who she DRIVES everywhere and who she asked to move in with her. And now they're fighting all the time and she's like omg what do i do about our communication? And instead of being like girl....this guy has BEEN bad news, kick his ass out, several people are like "he seems sweet, try therapy!" 'well it's either emotional availability or financial stability, pick one" Uh, OP has both! Why shouldn't her boyfriend!? Ugh! Thanks to everyone on this sub for proving great discussion to drill this shit into my head daily. I have a friend who for a few years has been giving me good, FDS aligned dating advice, but nothing like seeing this stuff daily!

Skittleschild02 · 2020-04-13T04:45:48+00:00

I haven’t been here in awhile due to being essential employee. My updates;

-went to the store and was literally hit on by some dude sitting in passenger side of his friend’s ride while putting away my groceries. Who in the fuck thinks about sex during pandemic? Are you not getting it?

-added snapchat victim on my facebook for torturing. Found out that he has fuck toy who doesn’t know she’s a fuck toy. She came over for a visit during quarantine. I want to warn her. But I’m minding my business. I love a good shit show.

Now, I know why he was only texting me at work. Oh, this is going to be fun.

duckfeatherduvet · 2020-04-13T04:30:59+00:00

Some absolute twat tried chatting me up when I was out the other day! I was on my own in a remote location! WEARING HEADPHONES. IN THE MIDDLE OF A PANDEMIC. yes he was at least 30 years older than me. christ

IridescentSpirit · 2020-04-13T04:06:28+00:00

What does FDS say about dating a man with children? I don't recall seeing that anywhere. I'm 31 and it's becoming more common now to see men with children who are looking to date. It's not my preference, but sometimes I wonder if I should give it a shot.

caffeine_inmyveins · 2020-04-13T03:32:00+00:00

So there was this guy I was going out with a while back (I made a post about it sometime back about my experience if anyone is interested) . Basically I thought he was a HVM and I got turned down after 3 dates or so (I didn't sleep with him). He was a cool person so we still remained friends even though romance isn't in the cards.

Recently he reached out to me again and asked me to go to his place to socialize? With lockdown and quarantine going on?? I felt like I lost respect for him because even as friends hanging out, it is not the right thing to do now. I feel like I've dodged a bullet.

catgirlfordays · 2020-04-13T02:49:34+00:00

I have been chatting with a guy for about 3 months via texting/messenger app. We've video chatted quite a bit as well but did not get the chance to meet in person before the corona virus lockdown. This guy seems to be checking all the boxes for me.

Last week, he seemed to be really off. He told me he's been having a hard time mentally/emotionally with losing his job with the lockdown. He has also been pretty distant. Today he hits me with "I just want to be friends" and it stings pretty bad. I'm having a really hard time and did not expect to be so sad about it. Is this a cut and dry block/delete situation and I just need to suck it up? How can I help get myself out of this sad funk?

Brandimdhdn · 2020-04-13T02:47:57+00:00

Hey Gals... My ex-boyfriend who i was with for more than 4 years is in the hospital for another psychotic episode... He lives less than five blocks away from me and calls me because I'm his only support.. I think his psychosis is due to his drug and alcohol issues. I don't know how to let him go but I can't help him anymore

mshourglasss · 2020-04-13T02:14:04+00:00

Hope all of you are safe & good Had my abusive Narc LVM ex email me some long drawn out email about 2 wks ago.. I only skimmed it (& I did not bother to reply). He was saying just very desperate things; that he missed me & loved me (someone who loves you doesn't abandon you & abuse you). Also saying very stupid stuff (that he wanted to be with me, marry me). Ummm no I'm good. I'd rather slice my left arm off then be with you. All I kept reading was me, me, me!! Boy bye!! So grateful to be here & single. I'm still sober too (455 days to be exact)

herblandeggbell · 2020-04-13T00:52:29+00:00

I blocked this guy I was talking to for 5 years in January. We live in different countries and our form of communication was whatsapp, which is where I blocked him and deleted his number from my phone. I also deleted my instagram and have no other social media. Today he texted me through regular text messaging as I didn't think to block him there. For some reason, I feel like a horrible person for ignoring his text. I didn't give him any reason when I blocked him, I just got tired of no commitment after 5 years. Also after some instagram snooping, I found another girl's profile with pictures of him and her on vacation together and she has "in a relationship" on her profile.

I want to message him to at least give him my reasons for blocking him. I know in my head I don't owe him an explanation but my emotions want to talk to him. I felt like he was my friend for 5 years and to end it the way I did, without telling him why was mean. It's frustrating because obviously he didn't care that much about me given his actions but I still care about his "feelings".

DunRuther · 2020-04-13T00:43:48+00:00

I read something from one of you ladies a few days ago (don’t remember which thread it was in) that said you’ve always got to be ready to leave a guy at the drop of a hat. I’ve been thinking about that a lot this weekend. Even though things have been really good with the guy I’ve been seeing, we’ve only been together for five months and I can’t get too invested this early.

I’m having to reframe my mindset that has been warped from past relationships with LVMs. So I want to say thank you for being such a great resource and help. I’m so happy that being active here has helped me not return to my pick-me ways.

throwaway23004345 · 2020-04-13T00:43:29+00:00

Why can’t we post cross community??

mightbethrowawayyy · 2020-04-13T00:25:21+00:00

Matched with a guy 2 days ago and have been texting a bit (about 10 long messages from each side). Now he asked to video chat. So far he seems like a decent person and the convo was good, but not exciting enough for me to want to take the time & effort to put makeup on. What should I do? Thanks in advance ladies

Wriothesley · 2020-04-13T00:22:41+00:00

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dreamyDarla · 2020-04-13T00:07:41+00:00

I am quite new here. Texted with a guy on tinder for a few days. He sent long messages with questions about my personal interests. Then stopped texting just to tell me ten days later his last message wasn’t sent. I am not pleased with this, shall I tell him and give him a chance to make up for this or unmatch right away?

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Title	Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered April 12 2020
Author	NecessaryCook
Upvotes	33
Comments	194
Date	April 12, 2020 11:59 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/g07pcw/weekly_fds_chat_checkin_quick_questions_answered/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/weekly-fds-chat-check-in-quick-questions-answered.678477 https://theredarchive.com/post/678477

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