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You dodged a bullet there. And as we say here, men always come back. So prepare when that time comes, with how he is, I know it will be soon, he will breadcrumb you, love bomb you and disappear, and do it again, and again, if you let him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 02:55 PM
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Yeah. I find it really weird how we say that people should deal with the root of the problem and yet they dont see it that way for sex and procreation, women get pregnant because sperm gets to the egg. So, it would have been a bigger responsibility of men, given also that most of the time, sex is initiated by them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 03:53 AM
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We are currently doing a study on contraceptive methods, and very little are doing male initiated contraceptive like male sterilization eventhiugh it is found to be more effective and less invasive than the female counterpart surgeries. If I marry, I would also ask him to do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 03:12 AM
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Men love to overreact more than women do. We could also cope with challenges better without magnifying the stress it gave us. Meanwhile they bemoan everything bad and feel so victimized. They cry because in the grand scheme of things, they are way behind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 02:53 PM
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They take lots of liberties coz the society has silenced women and made people think before that it is just "normal", or that we are just too fussy. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 12:51 PM
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They think words like that would make them seem intelligent and their arguments valid 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 10:14 AM
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Thats fine. I hope you are well! Dont stressed too much abt it. And just continue to level up. Being single is better than attracting the attention of LVMs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 05:27 AM
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Thank youuu very much!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 03:48 AM
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And also, they hate this sub because we say that being single is better than dating an LVM/NVM. "But who are we gonna have sex with now?" "Who's gonna clean and cook?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 04:06 PM
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Yeah, i just realized how much she has been demonized by the industry because she is young, rich and successful and has millions of fans. There's nothing more terrifying than a successful woman. And then her fucks ran out and boom. She's bigger than ever!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 11:48 AM
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Yeah and we should be able to laugh at our own stupidity sometimes. I have magnified my mistakes before and it didn't help at all. Now, Im learning not to take myself so seriously. My goal is to love the old version of myself even with how "tainted" she is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 01:48 AM
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Happy Birthday! The greatest gift you could ever give yourself is realizing that your own company rocks. ❤️ Cheers to being the woman we all strive to be!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 02:36 AM
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Yeah. And HVM leads the relationship. He will be the first one to say lets go exclusive if he wants exclusive. If he wants to, he would. He is not a child. I would say that perhaps next time have this upfront, what you are looking for... he settled in the grey zone because he doesn't want to make it official.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 05:30 AM
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To some level I agree, but only if you know head on that the goal is not to actually "fall in love". Teens could be so impressionable so unless she can carry herself well and at such a young age, assertive, she could. But if she is not, I say stick to friends and hobbies and learn more about herself thru these social circles. Happy cake day :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 04:53 AM
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This is gold!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 03:03 PM
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Oh then, happy birthday! :) OLD is no fun but we cant help but hope to cross upon someone interesting! Keep having fun sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 11:09 PM
38

What if men use 0% of their brain? Then we get this....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 08:44 AM
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Even worse is when he pretends he gets how you are feeling and do it again. "Im sorry babe, let me do it again next month."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 08:40 AM
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I even made a powerpoint presentation once for this guy because he got jealous i fucked someone when we are not even exclusively dating. Argh. Sometimes emotions just lead us girls.. but at least cringing at it now means we are growing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 08:38 AM
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They don't add value to us. I always think abt it this way, I could buy anything with my money, be somewhere else with my money, I have good friends and a good career and a supportive family. What do I need you for? Sex? No thanks, I could get myself off better. I dont need a garnish to my main dish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 01:21 AM
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Yes because we tend to form bonds... I get you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 11:56 AM
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This is so true. Sometimes I look back and tell myself how I could be so stupid. Thats why my ultimate wish is for teens to find this subreddit before they experience some serious damage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 11:49 AM
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Maybe you're just in the wrong crowd! That's why they cant appreciate you. But at the same time if you cant find it outside, find it within you. What are the things that bring you joy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 11:34 AM
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Thats it. He never tells me something abt it. He ghosts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 04:16 AM
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Oh i didnt know about covert narcissism just the overt kind. But i looked it up and surprisingly covert narcissist mastered ignoring other people. "Rather than explicitly telling you that you're not important, they might stand you up on a date, wait until the last minute to respond to texts or emails, always show up late for events with you, or never make confirmed plans with you at all. There is no regard for your time or interests, leaving you feeling small, unimportant, and irrelevant."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 01:57 AM
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Its just a feeling. He made it clear before that cheating isnt his MO. I just have abandonment issues. I communicated it to him before. The advices I got are really good and made me realized that yes he is being manipulative. Not communicating with him now. My last text was last night asking him if he wants to breakup over it. Just taking some time off too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 01:46 AM
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I know. I hate MIA guys. I have a friend who has a boyfriend who didnt talk to her for a month, I keep telling her to dump the guy but she is hiding with the excuse that she also didnt want to be bothered sometimes. Makes me wonder why they stay together. Just another story.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 01:23 AM
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These are good points. Ill keep this in mind for use in the future if I ever start dating again. Id like to find a man like that because I always want to discuss problems we encounter. But maybe taking space before discussing would be good for me so I could internalize things first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 01:21 AM
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He is crazy. I get it now. Dodge the bullet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 12:48 AM
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I think before that it is him needing space to sort out how my action made him feel. But I get it out now, he was stonewalling me. Its not even that much of a big deal when I think abt it, i dont know if thats just me thinking that a sorry could fix things like that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 12:09 AM
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I agree with this. I told him that before that he's acting so childish and he argues that he is not, he is just punishing me for doing something wrong. Argh. I think no need to do the dumping coz he will do it. And im just lucky to be free
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 11:24 PM
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Thank you! I hope i would find someone like that in the future. For now, I'll think abt all the advises here and refrain from messaging him. The hardest thing is I already feel so attached to this guy and he is my first relationship. I have a hard time coping with changes when I bonded with people. But I need to put myself first, all the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 10:41 PM
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I could never do that. Im completely honest abt how certain things affect my emotions.. and im the kind to talk abt the problem and not skip the discussion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 10:38 PM
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No we dont, we live abt 1 hr apart. When I try to call him during the time we usually talk he is on another call. This happened often and I was just feeling sad abt not being able to talk on our schedule. And he sent me a video where he is referencing to someone. And its something abt what we talked abt days ago. I just forgot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 10:37 PM
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This made my day. Thanks for sharing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 06:33 AM
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Where is the desire to be "desirable" coming from? Will you feel worthy of attention if you are able to achieve this? I will just tell you to thread carefully and always level up for yourself and not for other people. Yes we all do need to upgrade, but it doesnt mean that what or who you are right now is undesirable. Ive been there, i could say that im pretty, but being a kissless virgin at 24 made me do things I regret now at 25. Kissless or not, virgin or not, only you could tell you're worth.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 10:28 AM
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Thats some serious shit! You were so young! I hope youre okay with it now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 08:32 AM
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I know... its hard to find that person you could let your guard down with... It seems like a constant battle of whether this guy is worth trusting or not. Its opening yourself to vulnerability which the world has taught us not to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 07:49 AM
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What I am afraid of is being deceived by a guy who seems to be an HVM but only pretending to be. Thats why being with HV women and being friends with them would be good. You could ask them to vet the guy for you. Its important to approach a relationship first objectively than be led on by our feelings which often happens when we vet on our own...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 04:37 AM
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Yeah i get your point. As i said it is just my perspective. Its not a big deal for me but it could be for others. The specifics should be decided for me if ever i found an HVM partner and become pregnant. I don't wanna invalidate what is written here. We have different experiences. And whats unacceptable for me is LV men saying that phrase and while being detached to the pregnancy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 12:41 PM
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I d k really the extent of the physical support. I see some posts of his partner also appreciating his actions (foot massages, random visits to stores at night for her cravings). As i said it is just me, im single and never been pregnant but i wanted something like what they have because it is solidifying a "partnership" in my mind. Its not something that I wanted to do alone even though we all know that basically women has to carry the child and birth on her own and has a different bond with th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 12:29 PM
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In an HVM perspective though it could be quite assuring. I saw a post like this by an HVM in my circle when they announced her pregnancy. He acknowledged that yes it is her who will be carrying and birthing the child but at the same time he is also saying that by saying "we" he is as invested as she is in the pregnancy by providing support in all aspect (emotional, financial, physical). And that his fatherhood starts also as her motherhood by creating a "new" life together. I think it could be i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 04:50 AM
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Its okay.. it will get better eventually. ❤️ We need an HVM or no man at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 10:46 AM
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You do not deserve this, girl! Better show him the door.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 10:08 AM
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Man child is the worst but the world is turning a blind eye on women who are burnt out having to raise her children and her husband.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 03:07 PM
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Its really really frustrating. I am happy for ladies here who found their HVMs but sometimes i feel like bumping into one is like looking for the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 12:37 PM
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You deserve so much better. I hope you wouldnt fall back and unblock him. It will get better eventually!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 10:30 AM
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I didnt call them pickmeisha. I was saying that some of the characteristics of pickmeisha in their lives aka their parents could influence them. It was an observation, and i do agree with your point. It is hard to actually discern whether it will be the quiet ones, i guess we are both saying that parental and family attention could influence child's behavior. For better or for worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 06:43 AM
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I hope it works out. And she could find space to heal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 04:20 AM
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Pickmeisha ways start young nowadays because yes women are being "conditioned" to behave as if all they can offer is their youth and beauty. And it is disappointing and very saddening. Pickmeisha moms may influence their daughters to adapt to their pickmeisha ways. And yes it is possible that 7th graders may act flirtatiously and appreciate that kind of "attention". Because they are raised into this lifestyle. :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 03:18 AM
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Its the same for me. But this subreddit is not telling us to stay away from ALL men, only certain types. That's why we should be discerning :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 12:36 AM
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If your friend didnt stick out for you, dont miss that person. I could never see how it could be okay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 11:33 PM
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Interestingly it was hidden in Japanese history books.. i dont know if they have already changed it. My teacher told me that when she was studying abroad, her classmate who is korean reported abt it in class and their japanese classmate was like, "what?!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 04:44 PM
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Its okay to choose yourself and your own growth. Do you think you could stick with him forever? It would only be delaying the inevitable if you let it pass. Change is uncomfortable but you'll be doing yourself a favor. And maybe even him, who knows. Maybe breaking up and being removed from your safety net would do both of you some good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 04:32 PM
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Yeah now i pretty much see it. We have been programmed not to draw too much attention to ourselves over such trivial things, "its not a big deal, get over it"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 04:23 PM
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This pretty much sums it up. Its sad knowing we live in this time where are voices are silenced or when we speak up, they made us doubt ourselves. That's why its good that community like this exists. Women should be united, if not (not yet) to end this culture, at least to lift each other up and our standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 04:20 PM
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Yeah! Maybe theyll change their mind if they searched for "comfort women" during the WWII. It was rampant in Japan and Germany during those times, their beloved soldiers needed to be "comforted" during the war, so they could perform their military duties outstandingly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 04:14 PM
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Yeah i agree that it could change the severity of the crime. Its easy to decide for those in black and white and we could say straight away that it is indeed a crime. But so many things fall in grey area. I asked a guy friend abt this and he said "well its just a kiss". And even the lady just shrugged it off. But this is assault. Even when the victim didnt feel the need to "press charges", it is still assault. For example catcalling, not really a crime (so much loopholes in street harassment and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 04:08 PM
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Yeah, in the interview that she made before though she said that she just was surprised after this and just went as if nothing happened. There are lots of discourses around this photo. If the victim here didn't think too much about this happening, how should we deal abt feeling so enraged abt it? Us being mad on her behalf? They even became somewhat friends after. What I only know is I wouldn't be okay if this happens to me..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 03:48 PM
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Everybody then was celebrating not being called back to the pacific for war. That guy over there was even with his girlfriend when this happened. Such a "weird" show of joviality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 03:19 PM
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I saw one post like this before posted by a doctor who practices using her maiden name. When asked why she does that she said, "well, he didnt go to Med School, I did"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 01:54 PM
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It happened in December and I was able to get local version of plan B. Sadly this experience made me so scared to put myself out there again. And I'm thinking about all the advises here, and taking them all to my heart. I'm learning to be better despite of this experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 11:17 AM
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Hey, its hard to write this down but I'm hoping it will be a step toward forgiving myself and finding peace. Hmm, long post ahead, sorry. I'm new in the dating scene. It was only mid 2019 when I started using OLD. I'm 24 turning 25. And by that time, never been kissed or touched. I was really curious and lonely and just wanted to "belong" to someone. So been talking to this guy, he is american, and I'm asian btw. This guy goes to my country every once and a while for business. So I thought we ar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 11:12 AM
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Exactly. The thing abt sex is they think it too taboo to discuss with their children. When in fact, almost everybody will do it or is doing it already. Even studies say that sex initiation happens in later age when parents talk abt it with their children. And when they do have sex, they know to use protection. Well just seems like they wanna exclude themselves from the conversation. When in fact, these things should be talked abt at home.. coz even in school, you rarely see teachers who can talk…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 03:12 AM
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