FDS approved!

Makor88 · 2020-05-11T03:39:36+00:00

I second this big time. I was married to a man that did this too me for 29 years. 34 together all up. Four children and a grandson. Once I started to have health problems and mental health issues all from being emotionally abused for all those years, at around 50 years old, he cruelty discarded me by a whats app message. Refused to talk to me except to say we were over. The dreaded silent treatment has always been a trait of his. I strongly recommend this quote to all women of all ages. The good news is..after this nearly destroying my very soul, 1 year after I’m starting to come better than ever. I like being on my own without a tyrant over shadowing me 24/7 If I had my time over again I’d have never bothered him again 1 month after we met. I have a long way too go however I’m coming good! I donot want another relationship at present however I am looking forward to maybe meeting the right man where love and respect is mutual. Armed with what I know now that may happen one day, if not, I’m happy on my own. Another quote I now live by is “ when they show you who they are? Believe them the FIRST time!” Hope this will help someone. Much love to u all.

itsaGAHDAHARHRAY · 2020-05-11T05:37:16+00:00

Started talking to a guy through OLD. Started asking questions to get to know each other better. On the second day of conversation I asked a question and he said, “Wow. Enough with the damn questions!” Blocked. Deleted.

The old pickme in me would have apologized. Nah. If me getting to know you is so disturbing to you, I’d rather not get to know you. Not worth it.

hungrylemon · 2020-05-11T01:06:42+00:00

I used so much of my mental emergy for someone who acts like I am his joy of life one day and I am disturbing him the next day... Even though I never initiated interaction with him, but he did to me, just to make me confused.

I am tired. I deserve honest behaviours and non-mixed messages.

ForevaBubbles · 2020-05-11T05:48:54+00:00

Yes, actions speak louder than words. I've always dropped guys if they started to act disinterested or wouldn't make time for me. They would say they liked me then made up excuses why they had to suddenly cancel last minute more than once, so I was done with it.

foxfaebae · 2020-05-11T04:08:14+00:00

My ex always made me feel this way. But if I was busy or wanted to spend time with my parents. He would call me non stop until I answered.

Now I freak out to text someone because of this. It was honestly mind blowing to watch him respond quickly to the girl he was cheating on me with. But yell and berate me for just calling to say have a great day. However, I have also learned to just leave people on unread or read. Until it's when I want to respond.

afrodeasyak · 2020-05-11T02:55:42+00:00

Wow this reopened a recently healing wound and you know what, I'm glad. Never again.

throwawayitst · 2020-05-11T01:56:16+00:00

YES, we are the prize❤️

Postcardtoalake · 2020-05-11T10:25:53+00:00

I love how so many of these comments can be used to describe a shitty friendship or relationship of any kind too. I’m learning so much here, thank you FDS women! I see how much I even settle with friends, though OFC I had an ex who did so much of what is written around me on this post. Thank y’all for the (much needed) education and support!

shine_flower · 2020-05-11T05:46:44+00:00

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Resident_Biscotti · 2020-05-11T17:19:06+00:00

I had a guy do this to me subtly from the 1st date. So I’d busy myself with something and he’d be all put out because I’m busy. Weirdly he’d get all jealous of something as simple as me reading a book. He’d want to interrupt me and get my attention. Same if i worked on my laptop or even engrossed in writing a Reddit comment on here lol. He’d try to see what I was so busy with. But when I put everything down, want to talk or spend time together he’s not interested. Strange little man.

radical__daphne · 2020-05-11T04:19:22+00:00

For all the obsessive vidya bros

Lattika · 2020-05-11T13:19:27+00:00

I mean... obviously I wouldn't be calling my bf during working hours but messages are fair game to me since he can respond to them at any time. I've had boyfriends who made it a point never ever to talk to me during working hours, even though they had breaks and did much less at their job than they pretended to do.

I'm not bombarding you with messages. I'm wishing you a nice day!

Mslucyfher · 2020-05-11T03:49:53+00:00

So tired of this attitude from men. Preach!!!!

ldnsurvival · 2020-05-11T08:40:40+00:00

WHY do they do this

goonbagholocaust · 2020-05-11T06:56:52+00:00

How to be a sociopath 101.

0kfornow · 2020-05-11T11:44:19+00:00

Ja... Solid.

shrimpcakewithcrust · 2020-05-11T08:16:22+00:00

Am i missing something? This just sounds like that "sit down and shut up" bs.

FlyingButtercupcake · 2020-05-11T14:59:48+00:00

YEA, fuck men! we are stongerr!

Alecto1717 · 2020-05-12T15:37:42+00:00

/r/thingsIwishIknewinmy20s

Title	FDS approved!
Author	NotYourBizThrowAway
Upvotes	1921
Comments	49
Date	May 11, 2020 12:34 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/ghd7ub/fds_approved/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/fds-approved.676495 https://theredarchive.com/post/676495

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