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PORN SICK, LIMP DICKthrowawayitst/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 07:07 AM
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RANTthrowawayitst/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 08:20 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYthrowawayitst/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 06:49 AM
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FDS SUCCESS!throwawayitst/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 09:04 PM
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BOOK REPORTthrowawayitst/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 06:27 PM
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QUEEN SH*Tthrowawayitst/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 06:50 PM
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NICE FOR WHAT?throwawayitst/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 05:24 AM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYthrowawayitst/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 06:44 AM
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BOOK REPORTthrowawayitst/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 05:10 PM
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BOOK REPORTthrowawayitst/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 05:53 AM
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LEVEL UPthrowawayitst/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 09:54 PM
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SHOWER THOUGHTthrowawayitst/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 06:24 PM
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FDS RESCUE MISSIONthrowawayitst/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 06:22 AM
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SEEKING ADVICEthrowawayitst/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 06:04 AM
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LEVEL UPthrowawayitst/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 02:02 AM
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MOOD FOR LIFEthrowawayitst/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 12:43 AM
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SEEKING ADVICEthrowawayitst/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 05:50 PM
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MINDSET SHIFTthrowawayitst/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 04:38 AM
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RANTthrowawayitst/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 06:28 PM
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How-To High Valuethrowawayitst/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 10:17 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEthrowawayitst/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 04:36 AM
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RANTthrowawayitst/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 07:16 PM
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NICE FOR WHAT?throwawayitst/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 08:44 PM
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How-To High Valuethrowawayitst/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 05:23 AM
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DISCUSSIONthrowawayitst/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 12:24 AM
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Blocked and deleted and thats on fds
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 06:22 PM
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How am I clinging sooo hard when Ive said several times that I am willing to change my mind about him? You had no comment about the meat eating carnivore diet when I told you facts. You keep going ON and ON presenting weak or no evidence, slandering and Im tired of it. Your comments have completely ruined my day and wasted my time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 06:21 PM
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All ive been is agreeable and kind. Maybe deal with your issues with feeling like everyone’s attacking you instead of worrying about JP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 06:19 PM
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Ive now read two articles you have send me: they had quotes like these : Nevertheless, compared to most of the gasbags filling up our collective headspace, Peterson is reliably smart and interesting. I’ve tried to interview him twice now, but he’s declined both times. And know that Peterson received some criticism recently for endorsing, or appearing to endorse, “enforced monogamy.” To be fair, this is a very particular anthropological term that doesn’t imply that the government is literally for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 06:15 PM
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If they do, ill be checking them out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 06:05 PM
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You insulted me first. And no i have not read those articles because they are bs. As an academic, I do not see values in articles such as those
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 06:04 PM
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You attacked my ability for being a role model first. Before that, I was completely respectful. I do mean what I said though, it was extemely uncalled for. All i see are articles from secondary sources that only want a headline. If you can provide one direct source w Peterson, it would greatly change my opinion indefinitely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 06:03 PM
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Send me a youtube video of his or the original source where he said that please and thanks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 06:01 PM
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I googled it and found nothing on him advocating for rape. I think he would lose his clinal psychologist license if he did anything like that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 05:57 PM
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I dont think thats true at all. If that is anywhere near true, I would disengage any support for him. Your a Throwaway rn.. and I used to be a disciple. Havent had a lot of time to contribute anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 05:53 PM
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You talk about being an fds role model but youve been here, shorter than a minute. Please get in your lane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 05:49 PM
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Ive watched a lot of his videos. Ive read in depth about the health issues of his daughter (she cannot eat anything else- she has an extreme inflammatory disorder) and him including his drug dependence from barbiturates. He has helped tons of people. Including myself. I dont support all his views including the diet. Again, they have hereditary illness. Lastly, i dont enjoy his daughters content but she takes no shit from others. I feel you are wasting an incredible amount of time and being very …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 05:48 PM
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Originally yes! But im so far removed that I dont understand Pakistani men or women. Btw literacy rate in Kashmir is 78% compared to the 45% national avg. just googled. Its from a research study published in 2015 by rehman and jingdong. Super impressive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 05:44 PM
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Also, pretty much all their friends are literate too. I should look up the literacy rate haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 05:18 PM
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Most my cousins are literate, handsome and 6 foot tall. They dont have no game though. Heres to hoping.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 05:17 PM
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Disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 05:12 PM
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she looks fine as hell in that pic. Beautiful glowy skin, beautiful well manicures hands. Perfect hair. I mean, any man would be lucky to be in her presence. Gives no one any license to harass though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 05:11 PM
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Fds really helped me be secure in me and my femininity. Before that, i was embarrassed of wearing pink and my self hate projected to other females. I mostly made male friends that left me feeling hollow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 05:10 PM
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I love and support your message. The way you recommend bringing it up is perfect too. V helpful for me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 05:08 PM
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I don’t think we should even talk about incels as they are mostly miserable wastes of space. I dont even know their beliefs so I cant add to this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 05:07 PM
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Any opinions on Pakistani Kashmiris
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 05:06 PM
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I have another reply to this question on actual pluses
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 05:05 PM
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Right but his own daughter has multiple degrees. I think his angle is for women to have work like balance so that they are still able to be a mother. But you do you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 05:04 PM
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Dude I need more info please and thank you. Id love a post on cultural differences and interaction differences. You’re right about them not being good looking. Makes me sad. But also, why the imran khan hate? He actually handled the pandemic well and has improved the country imo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 04:31 PM
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No savings, no investments, no property, nothing. Im embarrassed for him. Looking forward to the trial.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 04:24 PM
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Wait.. so she holds primary custody and has to pay child support to make a 0 income persons living situation the same as a 36k/ mon + x amount investment income income. That’s ridiculous
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 04:04 AM
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I agree wholeheartedly and I feel he is getting better with them. In the past i feel hes said things more for the controversy and getting headlines but now he doesn’t need to do that. I also saw him say that successful women are scary to men and the better women get, the smaller the eligible men market gets and I think I agree
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 03:54 AM
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I think i got it wrong! Anti lib fem would be more accurate. I wound recommend the power of pu**y. I found it free online but to make a better recommendation, assuming your interested, it would be better if i knew what you were looking for or struggling with! I found that its very hard to have find a good dating book with a feminist twist. By good i mean well rated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 03:14 AM
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No fap= aight okay. And I totally understand! And feel similarly. But cmon, telling someone ur alpha is so not alpha. Dw tho, itll all be okay:) we’ll all kind our person one day
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 02:47 AM
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Id have to research it. He has core values against lib fem though and his counter suggestions
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 01:25 AM
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Thats soo weird. Harddd pass. Just because they are a fan, doesn’t mean they should put stuff like that in a bio. Imo. Doesnt make for a great convo at all. It be like me saying rich girl, no anal. Just cringy intro. Little social acuity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 01:23 AM
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He also agrees that lib fem doesn’t benefit females
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 08:26 PM
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Hes aight, he believes in marriage, and calls it out when he sees man child behavior. There are many videos on him saying that. Advocates men to keep their rooms clean, take responsibility, grow up and not be on the peter pan frequency. Says porn is a disease. Those things like up with fds but he still has some problems. Edit: i said he was ‘aight’. Not that I support or loved him. Please refrain from having lengthy discussions on this as I believe it’s irrelevant to the sub and a waste of time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 08:26 PM
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Just read the ones on there. They are just more rad fem than lib fem but they are good, ive read quite a few off of there!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 08:19 PM
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Ive dmed tons and they almost all got back to me. Ive made friends with a few too. I guess i just got lucky
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 04:41 AM
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I agree. And for those saying these things dont exist don’t really understand men. All they do is compete with eachother, and if they aren’t doing better than the other men, they aint worth it. Simple. If they aren’t making money or getting respect or providing, they will feel their position in the pyramid drop and stress about it. Some peoples pyramids are fucked up though/ their value systems
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 04:33 AM
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I love this dude. You need an award
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 04:31 AM
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I agree. Sadly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 05:21 AM
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A lot of my friends in very high demanding jobs joke about that haha:) doesn’t help that misogyny and patriarchy gave been additional stressors for you (and us) in the workplace
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 04:24 PM
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My personal additions: Is okay with stopping in the heat of the moment without complaining about (and blaming you ) if something comes up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 04:21 PM
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This!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 04:05 PM
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😂 dead
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 04:03 PM
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Lots of love to you, being a litigator is cool af!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 04:02 PM
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I was going to say the same.. my pride is too high to say any of these. I dont mind the money aspect, im not that broke. But these make me seem like i hate paying, i dont. I just wanna be cared for like this, and most men love to pay, especially when you thank them with a simple smile after
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 03:59 PM
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excellent share.. extremely violent pornography is at almost everyone's fingertips and softcore sonography is the gateway for it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 09:28 PM
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its only cringy till you evolve
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 11:10 PM
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wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 06:52 PM
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i have a post i made a couple months ago, check my history:)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 06:52 PM
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this is gold- so some things i will not tolerate signs of negging - saying stuff like 'and yeah if you really impress me we can go for ice cream later' being whiny about my boundaries any actions not lining up with words making me feel uncomfortable/not being considerate/ not buying me stuff on birthdays/anniversaries/special occasions cheapskates 'im a bad textor's'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 03:04 AM
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ooh do share the reactions!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 03:00 AM
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Proud of you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 02:55 AM
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my heart is touched by your comment <3 I am sorry that you had to go through that experiance of meeting someone not so great- I am glad you also liked that book! not all abuse is so obvious or the same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 05:11 PM
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yess please get back to be about which ones you love- i haven't yet finished 4/9/11/12 :) but 2 of those books tell you to make changes(4- meditate) or practice games (the stress relief one) and I've been doing that! i love reading!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 03:00 AM
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thank youu <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 02:58 AM
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Amazing share!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 04:11 AM
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Yeah its kind of sad when they do this! Preying on people empathies:( the sad this I discovered reading why does he do that is that a lot of men lie about being abused and such
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 03:25 AM
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Ayy love a cultured sis💗🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 03:14 AM
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😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 03:13 AM
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A couple 😊/😅 you? Or no reply- too low effort
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 12:43 AM
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I feel like this is a bit much for someone you barely know but you do you! And obviously i dont know your situation Update- i also got permanently banned for this u/TheOGjammies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 12:41 AM
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I love that💗 thank you! I love us
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 09:01 PM
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Im so so sorry how you felt when you didn’t have your bf love you right and when you didn’t know what okay love from a man was - ive kinda been there and it sucks! Im glad you’re done with all of that now and joined FDS- i wish you happiness, love and success
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 02:32 PM
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Fds heavily advocates not talking about past relationships. you talked about your trauma which i think is fair- just don’t talk about your relationships or anything- its all about your future now- and you can use this blip - make sure he’s extra gentle with you in the future because of it. and I personally think you should be a bit more cautious and light - let him continue to make you feel special by his initiative - as others said these things happen- dont rush the ilys and the other physical …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 05:21 PM
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Can you send the link of the original post? I wanna read the comments
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 04:30 PM
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Low value women*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 04:28 PM
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Nah this is the time where fakers reveal themselves and their intentions easily
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 05:58 AM
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Link please - and no I wouldn’t just assume shes a lvw - he’s literally asking reddit if hes an a hole after his own parents told him it was- marriage vows aint just for the ceremony
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 04:42 AM
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❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 12:03 AM
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Yep! You want friends who are self aware and on your side! They wanna help you grow and see you happy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 09:33 PM
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Never be jealous of your gfs! Thats the game men want you to play- you only need one guy to love you and that guy will be there - the masses you should not give a hoot about! I do think ur friends being disrespectful but it depends on if you clearly stated that thats not cool- either way she doesnt seem too considerate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 04:45 PM
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Yep- ur smart for realizing some men just wanna play games
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 02:58 AM
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Dont define how long- just a certain level of comfort and commitment- just read a book on it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 03:46 AM
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You dont
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 03:44 AM
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Great job on taking me time for yourself and loving life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 03:43 AM
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School of elegance is basically FDS with a twist:) who cares what the others say
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 06:02 PM
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She can say she wants an answer in a month and he has that time to decide- in a nice way
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 05:19 AM
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Is he that great if hes lied to you repeatedly? Dont lower your worth! Guys are really good at pretending to be great especially when you wanna believe it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 05:17 AM
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Yes- word
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 05:16 AM
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They just say that so we too can lower our value, waste our time and energy sleeping with lvm to prove something (that we’re not fem cel- that doesn’t exist)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 05:09 AM
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You’ll find a good ambitious young adult! 🤗search is exhausting but just like a good job is exhausting to search and apply for- so is a good guy! You have to really find ways to make it be less taxing- know how to vet and leave in a way that doesn’t make them chase you and waste your time. I guess you can try to enjoy dating until then as you’ll likely have to see a couple men to find the right guy. And after that- id suggest keep reading other peoples experience so you dont make mistakes and sp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 04:51 AM
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This us such a weird conclusion
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 04:45 AM
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That’s really smart but i took myself off the market to focus on work:( perhaps i should date but i just felt ljke focusing on the level up and dating in a yr or 2. Im 21. 22 in nov. i think maybe hanging out with my friends more will be good for me! Thank you! I think your suggestion was really solid!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 03:53 PM
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Thanks hun! Yeah i miss that image he helped me curate along with my naive brain really wanting that You’re right- i miss the fantasy of us being a happy couple :( Im sorry it was a struggle for you too. Are you doing better now? Has it been long for you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 03:44 PM
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Thank you very much for this heartfelt comment❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 02:48 AM
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Thanks very much!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 02:47 AM
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Med jargon-self depc humour
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 05:33 AM
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Its always hard to leave-it always feels harder than we can handle- you do it and deal with it earlier than later. No point being on a ship on fire
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 05:15 AM
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Dont use trp terms like beta please🙈
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 05:10 AM
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Dont post pls op- trust
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 05:04 AM
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Just wait - healing happened faster than I expected for me- but i actively seeked it and my thing was quite a lot shorter - i cant imagine how more than doubling it into 7 years would feel like but i faith you’ll make it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 06:47 PM
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Yep! They need to be vetting unbiasedly on your behalf and being an impartial judge
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 06:21 AM
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I went through a very similar thing and i feel for you- it taught me a lot about vetting and i think itll save me a ton of future issues. I wish you all the strength and stability- keep visiting fds- it kept me strong during this period
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 06:15 AM
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Of course - your body, you decision! I wish you the very best
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 03:18 AM
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Dont get your tubes tied for anything related to men. Giving birth is a gift. No disrespect
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 02:54 AM
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This is quite helpful now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 11:38 PM
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Thank you for explaining!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 11:38 PM
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Most books say oral is the same as the other stuff if not more (for giving) and not to be had before commitment (same with hand stuff for giving minus the more)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 09:46 PM
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I don’t subscribe to the apps are bad - idea, lota of fds approved books are the same! May i ask how the initial convo/dates between you guys went? Maybe you can make a post
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 02:06 PM
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No i don’t think so Man who likes you should be telling you you are the best
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 04:56 AM
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Also, the cats soo cutee!! Lucky woman!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 04:48 AM
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Wow😍😍😍😍😍😍❤️❤️❤️☺️ soooo sweet, like better than disney prince cute! I wish you guys the very best! May i ask where you met him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 04:47 AM
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Maybe you can ready why men love bitc*** and the power of the p*****
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 01:17 AM
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That comments feels like more of a ‘if you are not a target audience, instead of disliking the book, just leave’ Its on my reading list!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 01:17 AM
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I think hes doing well:) maybe adding stuff like candles and petals or giving you a massage sounds nice!! Maybe take whipped cream and strawberries to the bedroom! Overall i think you have a good man from your description
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 05:19 PM
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Cultivate your feminine energy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 05:17 PM
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You got this:) 💗💗💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 04:08 AM
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You got this hun😊 sometimes these things are easy to put up with in the short run and changing seems like too much work but i think future you will thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 12:42 AM
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Im so sorry but you need to do less and if he wants your time or energy, he needs to do more:) best of luck hun
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 06:54 PM
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Know that the compliments and nice things they say don’t have to do with you- thats their natural way of trying to get a girl- they are very exaggerated- dont let ur emotions get to tied to them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 06:51 PM
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Read the power of pussy- the right guy is supposed to find you hot sexy at any size- you’ll undoubtedly gain weight as a women (during pregnancy) - if they are pulling this shit now they are human SCUM How rude- i bet hes a porn addict- not wanting sex is the least masculine a man can be a in a relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 06:49 PM
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She told him he OLD, she knew what she was doing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 02:51 PM
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Mens fear- their parter will be impregnated/sleep w by another better guy Short replies to paragraphs laughing at him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 04:56 AM
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Thats why u should leave
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 04:52 AM
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The reply was prolly to get him to think/ like its not weird- just leave
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 04:50 AM
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Wow! Thank you for sharing your story- i wish you always stay close to your loved ones- I didn’t think object permance could stay past childhood !! I mean! Thats the point of the game peek a boo! I wish i could send a more elaborate response but ty! Have a great day
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 02:32 AM
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I think vetting is just too annoying and energy consuming- legit call guys use apps these days
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 10:16 PM
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Maybe thats how he thinks he’ll get notice or maybe hes just sharing conversation topics or tying to seem like hes fun Ive seen how douches advertise themselves and its not usually like this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 10:15 PM
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I dont think thats true and not even close to the most important thing I’ve learnt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 04:53 PM
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Im not an introvert 🙈 but ty for trying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 03:32 PM
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I dont think that’s me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 03:31 PM
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Exactly- guy i was speaking to (great guy otherwise) wanted to know what i ate every day and talk for hours and wanted to talk everyday (i neg for ever other day)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 03:30 PM
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Yess! But i dont wanna talk much either esp if it goes on for hours and is about mundane stuff
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 03:28 PM
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Ty for this! The insight is spot on - its soo easy to fake
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 03:26 PM
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Hmm. I m just busy I think. i don’t want them to like not care about me and day just because I usually dont like talking about it on phone or text and im not looking for sex, romance /intimacy and in person non bed activities àre great
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 03:25 PM
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I love the in person ones - i am quite a busy person- reddit is my past time when i cant fall asleep like rn- had caffeine too late
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 07:10 AM
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Thanks for the help sis! :) whenever they ask me about my day- i want it to sound nice and its not fun! Ill share if i want them to know:) i guess ill figure it out I understand!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 07:09 AM
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Exactly! I dont wanna be rude - i also wanna have thos conversation sometimes when something about my day was cool or new things were happening but my life is not rapidly changing rn and im quarantining:/ Have you found a way to make it work?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 06:49 AM
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Like i want the intimacy and romance but i hate the chit chat! It started after i went through a ldr where chit chat was the bulk of it- i def wanted it then but i had free time then and.. I hadn’t worked on and healed some of my past traumas
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 06:43 AM
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Just a relief to know there are others! None of my friends are clingy at all- we text once a week, hang 2x a month but always there for me anytime! I am not big on chit chat!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 06:28 AM
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If it was past me- I totally would’ve but new me just doesn’t care that much- i have internalized fds too much. I want a man for all the stuff stuff like a home with 2 loving adults, children, time together, a protector/provider , affection but i don’t have the time for chit chat and long calls - i dont need the friendship.. maybe i need more time on my own
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 06:26 AM
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We want a guy to impress us but when he tries to be impressive we say its too much? Let them do the most to get noticed!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 04:11 AM
4

It def can if you’re atleast soso about him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 01:10 AM
1

All low value men can get what they deserve! If thats loneliness , so be it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 05:10 AM
1

No sis that is not okay- if you dont wanna change him thats fine but we DONT let another girl get used like collateral damage! Atleast warn her- or tell her to stand up for herself and that she can do better!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 05:02 AM
1

Girl- teach her!! Dont let this injustice go on- help your brother high value- i teach my brother how to high value - the happy bonus is he buys ME stuff! He insists on paying for my phone and chips on for my laptop, even exam reg fees, even though he has NO obligation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 03:58 AM
3

Yeah - I totally agree and ive looked at those stats too- esp applicable for people not in early 20s- that was for the above person
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 05:36 PM
12

2 years MAX if he’s serious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 07:13 AM
2

Go through the feelings and acknowledge them - just like any would itll heal and before you know it you wont even be able to find the invisible scare! Be conscious in your decision to leave him behind- take your lessons and grow❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 05:17 AM
2

Yess
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 05:15 AM
20

Nah- its not about her being fat- its about him controlling her and keeping her feeling bad about herself so she doesn’t have the courage to leave!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 09:38 PM
12

Exactly! Theres a healthy kind of love - where you expose someone to nee kinda of healthy food etc then theres the typical controlling kind
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 08:59 PM
1

Thats exactly right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 06:46 PM
21

Thats exactly right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 06:46 PM
196

Mans a snake if hes telling you how to eat / pressuring you to loose weight
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 06:31 PM
2

You can look put together and comfy ❤️ i bet you look and FEEL so much more elegant
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 05:35 AM
34

Exactly! Thats why i tell women to get the guy who pays- thats what it took to survive as good men the past few generations and along with it probably come other good traits like generosity and giving nature
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 05:02 AM
82

If we all demand more- men will improve- they will propose more- they will watch less porn- they will pay on dates and the bar will be raised. Men will do what women require or their genes will not be passed- those whose genes will not be passed will be .. eradicated and then we will have bread for a different man 🙈
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 04:49 AM
2

Love that ❤️❤️ she had a free seminar type thing lately but time was definitely a factor for me on that one! Her best video is probably about who should pay on the first date and another one where her parody video got taken down!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 02:19 AM
36

This is a great list! If you ask him what his goals are and he doesn’t even mention the idea of being married and having a family in any shape or form- and he has any criticisms about marriage- he aint it Like he will tell you- you just have to be strong enough to know its time to walk away
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 06:59 PM
61

6 months and you’ll just know! You’ll feel it in your gut- especially if you make your values known!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 05:40 PM
4

Yah that women only wears blouses sis 😂 looking like a 1000 bucks on Sunday - i bet she also doesn’t even laze around tho😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 03:59 PM
9

Its okay! you didn’t make me cry, it was the shitty people you have dealt with that made me cry. Keep rising sister- message me anytime or post here and I’ll follow you, you got this, lotsa love ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 03:58 PM
41

I cried my eyes out- i feel incredibly sad- im so sorry:( i wanna go on a complete guy detox - im so sad:( more than anything i dont ever wanna be hurt again- i hate all abusers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 06:32 AM
2

Same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 04:38 AM
5

I look school of affluence for Annas energy and brutal truth telling + view on feminism! Im not so much seeking an affluent guy out of my range 🙂 i love her queen energy and funny comments and how she can say that she also can be wrong once in a while
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 04:38 AM
1

I think depends on how thats making her feel and how itll make her feel if she continues to be in this- i think its time for a - look i really like you (if thats true) and id love for us to be married (because that’s what i believe in/ the kind of woman i am) you have the next 2 months- if it doesn’t happen- i am sorry but ill be packing up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 06:07 PM
8

Hug your siblings, stretch, workout, meditate, get massages- give yourself random head scratches, shoulder rubs - get creative
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 06:02 PM
33

I love reading and i really enjoyed reading the ones on the approved list, i also watch the approved you-tubers - i have yet to internalize the handbook but i try:)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 05:59 PM
8

Absolutely impossible:) dont let some bs ex who probably hurt your confidence let you be like that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 02:07 AM
39

If you still wanna be a head turner(i think it’s pretty low importance- external validation is fickle and .. anova) - start working out and getting stronger- eating healthier and working on that confidence- you can be a head turner at any age
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 12:07 AM
15

I would be against that. But i 100% agree for the min age of consent for a porn to be higher than 18. Min 21
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 06:01 AM
1

Just me meditating helped me soo much to deal with the family issues :) or any emotionally heated situations!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 05:47 AM
8

I remember when my ex would say things like .. id never do this or that for my ex but id do it for you.. it was all bs- they pick and chose a couple things to change that they didn’t do with their last ex- but they’re still as bad - pay no mind to it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 10:55 PM
3

Mediation has been so key for me and my family issues. Thank you for joining 💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 06:35 PM
3

Im happy for you. Stay strongg❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 06:27 PM
6

Lucky to have you❤️❤️❤️ i have learnt similar lessons from FDS- and i fully agreee with everything
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 05:46 PM
2

I know exactly how you feel
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 04:29 AM
55

Exactly-thats why the min I’ll accept is simping lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 03:50 AM
3

Ill donate a small amount to the fund(a couple coffees worth:) ) . Weve all been there where its hard to leave a male whos not good for us- shes very lucky she has you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 03:49 AM
28

You’re a good person for protecting her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 02:03 AM
6

I think we can fds and bumble. But thats just me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 05:52 PM
1

I changed my comment to some
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 04:06 PM
1

100% for sure
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 04:05 PM
2

Asshat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 03:50 PM
8

D manose helped me with my chronic utis extremely well however it is not that well researched so i try to take it sparingly- it is the active ingredient of cranberries- sorry for your experience
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 03:43 PM
13

Never again sis, indeed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 03:39 PM
20

Same- i wish i could shove this pic down my exs throat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 03:39 PM
4

Just send a fuck u and then move on and never make the same mistakes again- fds will teach you. Im so sorry for your pain
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 03:31 PM
6

I was mega selective on bumble and the first time i had it, i had no confidence to reply- and then when i gained it- i made a bumble and had 0 confidence issues - that in itself was nice- and the filtering features are cool
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 11:11 PM
2

Read the power of the p****y. She says to do the prince charming test b4 hand- its a situation to see how quickly he comes to your aid and how well he performs and then before sex have the talk pf what u want from it ! Before not after
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 05:00 PM
2

1- date as usual- just keep it casual- tell them you wanna enjoy yourself (pick a high v male) 2- let him feel like he did something to earn it so he keeps doing it. Give him food after hes done some action
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 04:56 PM
5

So we should make a fake email to join huh?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 04:51 PM
11

Hey- is everything okay? Are you going through something difficult?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 04:51 PM
2

Id say you can trust FDS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 04:47 PM
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I think women are more interested in pursuing fields that match their strengths whatever they may be. E.g “women talk about people while men talk about things” - women are more emotional and have a different moral compass- they like making a difference at work- they will take a slightly lower salary if the work is more meaningful etc They are more likely to go into healthcare(doctor,nurse, social work)- etc- women do gravitate to certain fields more than others Women do tend to want a life more …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 06:11 PM
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Some of the stuff he said is true- but these are not the things appropriate to highlight for a question like that. I sense issues
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 12:01 AM
1

He said hed be picking me up in an uber.. i get what you mean- its too personal- but soa highly encourages it. It also depends in how much you know or trust them and your gutt feeling! Date went well:)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 11:58 PM
1

Fds advocates for letting a man be a man/gentleman and letting him do stuff for you School of affluence is an fds approved youtuber and she highLY advocates for it too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 09:37 PM
59

Damnn- wow- so now you’re being tribalistic for having a religious preference- hilarious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 09:10 PM
1

He offered:) he said he wanted to give me the traditional date experience . It was nice 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 09:08 PM
1

i do think hes a good guy- maybe not the right one for me- but we’ll see:) Falling for him= gives me warm fuzzies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 02:38 AM
4

I am only savage if their true colors are ugly:)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 02:37 AM
3

Thank you! Me too😊 if not- ill be fine and content.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 07:58 PM
5

Yess❤️ thats what i was thinking! I was really loving my life before he entered it and i still want to vibrate to my tune. I definitely dont feel the need to make him the centre of it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 07:57 PM
5

Thank you for the encouragement and recommendation ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 07:56 PM
9

Okay:) thanks a lot. This is exactly what i was looking for. Its always the same feeling of “no im sure hes a good guy” which soon turns to i was so blind
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 04:37 PM
2

I think flight attendants just work odd timing shifts and not as often because its not healthy to be on planes regularly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 03:59 PM
8

I knowww 🙃its not like im attached but i do get the warm fuzzies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 03:58 PM
6

I checked and hes also a flight attendant
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 05:11 AM
7

I likey! He a good guy! She has a big smile on her face- I think it’s probably a short term thing because he sounds happy and satisfied - i feel like thats less likely to be if he has no life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 05:05 AM
23

This was a great video
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 05:01 AM
8

It might be hard- but try to distract yourself and keep looking forward- keep thinking about your goals- try to be strong and not reply- you got this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 05:01 AM
9

Wow- this is funny/next level
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 04:53 AM
3

Pink pill feminism for me- but like- I understand it was a it much- :( wish they just asked for better moderation instead of deleting it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 01:39 AM
2

u/lonewanderer001
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 05:10 AM
2

Same. I felt a profound sense of loss. Lets try to keep it clean and respectful here. I hope that helps. I love this sub too much for my own good
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 05:03 AM
0

Its more about how they use it than weather and the frequency and type are other important considerations
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 10:01 PM
2

🙁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 05:37 PM
4

I did🥰 i dmed them for my code on ig
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 05:36 PM
48

Just when i started to feel like a part of this community and soo grateful for it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 01:15 AM
2

If you want good nsa stuff you can try r/randomactsofmuffdive -if you look at the top post of all times- theres an accountant who lucked out- if you apply fds principals to that- i think youll have fun and a good time- but like best case scenario go full fds and find a proper hvm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 01:14 AM
19

I am so happy for you 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 01:09 AM
6

Hey hun- im so sorry for your experience- I recommend you pay them no mind (you don’t necessarily have to leave) - and work on you and leg the success speak 🧡 also - i feel for every women whos had her boundaries repeatedly broken- she probably had lv family members/ father etc. you can break the cycle. Best of luck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 01:09 AM
16

We love and appreciate you ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 12:52 AM
185

Im so scared of losing my beloved sub
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 12:47 AM
6

Curse ph
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 08:36 PM
2

Im sad😞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 03:23 PM
6

Im staying for FDS 🥺
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 03:06 PM
6

Agreed. Thank God!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 03:04 PM
19

Yes please!- hopefully a conspiracy theory style video
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 03:01 PM
2

They stick with people from their own cultures and circles unfortunately!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 09:57 PM
22

Insult to the hognose!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 09:50 PM
1

Yayyy❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 09:24 PM
2

I mean regardless they will be the ones puking multiple times a day- feeling nauseous not being able to eat regular food/ having their hormones hijacked. - i had an abortion.- i cant even comment on the after birth and breast feeding portions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 05:04 AM
3

Exactly- let the women keep what she makes. Men have the provider role- women make babies and halt their career and do unpaid labour. Please understand
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 03:33 AM
30

Inconsiderate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 03:31 AM
4

He tox ;) the book is great! Get it on kindle- sorry for the terrible typing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 11:48 PM
9

You can do it- joining fds, healing your traumas (how to fix your gps guy picking system by dawn maslar is excellent) - you need a guy detox - man ban- get rid of any source of male validation must read
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 05:51 PM
2

If you guys are very young (early 20s or lower, you can buy a smaller thing for him like dessert etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 05:48 PM
10

He pays for everything because he wants to impress YOU. https://youtu.be/-CdJcwFe_TM Heres a must watch from an fds approved youtuber
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 05:47 PM
21

Its like when a guy doesnt treat you like you deserve so you reframe it to just be with him But in that case the thing you get is a guy that likes you but not enough to what a relationship with you in which case you say ‘boy bye’ because you don’t owe these boys nothing and no relationship is better than a bad one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 05:45 PM
1

You need to read not the price of admission. Download it on kindle. It will help in healing you https://www.amazon.com/Not-price-admission-relationships-childhood-ebook/dp/B019GIVB3Q So much love for you, you can do this ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 01:37 AM
3

I had broken with my ex and i would browse subs like r/breakups, r/nocontact etc and then i looked for some level up subs and i found fds. My whole life has changed since then! what i loved about it initially is that there were soo many women going out of their way to advise other women. When i had a genuine concern, i made a post and got so many replies. Then i found some role model users who i could ask questions. It was very nice The first post that stuck with me what this post of bad subs ta…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 06:23 PM
3

Can u share how it has changed?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 06:17 PM
2

This is great advice . Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 03:55 AM
3

I think enjoy as much as you can on your own (indirectly avoid) and just say you had a lot of fun and he’ll understand to plan something next year if he wants to have your time on an important day
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 09:24 PM
14

What i learnt from the rules and other books is that dont marry a man after hes backed out several times because he might back out on your wedding day
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 09:22 PM
31

Ive been calling other frustrated sisters from other subs to check it out 🙂 has been life changing for me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 09:19 PM
6

Competitions can encourage ed type behaviors in the long run and cost a lot in time and money so def dont jump into it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 09:15 PM
3

I understand how u feel- my dad used to care more about the opinions of whichever child had the better grades- it was so petty.. meh whatever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 08:16 PM
6

What hes doing is really terrible- he’s disrespecting you and weakening your boundaries. He has show u that he has not rhat much regard for his own mother- i suggest not giving him anything that you would regret later as this may go downwards. Be strong and brave
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 05:10 AM
33

Riddance straight from the heavens
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 02:23 AM
7

💗💗💗💗🥰 yes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 08:39 PM
1

Ive been in your shoes. Of he isnt trying let him go. Itll be hard AF but worth it. Also actions over words. Always
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 05:39 PM
5

Im realizing sex addiction is a real thing and very insidious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 05:37 PM
12

Been there. He was veryyyy grateful for all i had done for him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 05:31 PM
59

Ty for this post💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 05:30 PM
11

Theres a difference bw interest and aligning of interests and being needy /clingy/ low self worth/ low value of his time / overall lack of ambition/ being a doorat/ lovebombing. No self respecting guy will do the latter
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 05:30 PM
28

Read the power of p***** and not the price of admission. Being attracted to aloof tortured guys will not serve you well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 05:28 PM
3

This was an amazing read. Ty! I do wish u the best. May i ask how open you are with sexuality and him nowadays. Someone mentioned the cupids poisoned arrow. I read the book description. Even though i waited sufficiently the one time this happened.. i was wayy to generous. That just made him try less. If thats too much. Nw. Thanks anyways for the post!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 07:05 AM
85

Dont lower your standards- you were completely right to wait- it weeds out the bad ones
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 03:58 AM
2

Thank you for the nice words and im proud of you for what you’ve climbed out through. Wishing you love and happiness
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 03:54 AM
2

Mm.. its the one things i feell like idk if anyone could understand how truly scarred and alone i felt. I was in the final year of school just praying I didn’t throw up in class. Im really glad everything went okay abortion wise and that my life is normal/great now. In the long run i guess it was a good lesson and test of my endurance
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 03:54 AM
4

At 20 i had an accidental pregnancy which scarred me for good. My parents are extremely religious and didn’t know the guy. It was the scariest time of my life. Ex lived far away (for school). I was throwing up 1-3 x a day. I was nauseous all the time. I felt so alone. Going to the ultrasound and abortion alone was soo heart breaking. I was crushed. When he came to visit me a week after abortion. I made him pie and invited him to a concert. Somethings happened where he went way over my boundaries…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 02:38 AM
2

How to heal a broken heart by guy winch
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 02:29 AM
3

I have 3 younger sibs, 2 of them sisters. I would honestly say something like “if I had a sister who treated me well, maybe i would be able to diff bad and good behavior” to “ rn you’re being way worse than him by using this, atleast he xyz” or “ it is extremely disrespectful bringing that up, Idk why I thought you could be trusted”. My sisters almost worship the ground i walk on because i am fair- I respect their boundaries, i dont ask for too much, push too much. I am there for them and cook f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 02:26 AM
2

Ah i see🙂ty
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 02:18 AM
3

Thanks for your reply. I understand. I dont ever like try to pursue them. But I really like being able to be the first person to message (its more on my terms). If you had to suggest a first message or first few conversation topics, what would you suggest. I usually say hello, how are you doing cyz. I also dont know how to talk about serious topics.. :( any help would be appreciated
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 11:42 PM
2

Can you please do a guide on the first message youd send (on something like bumble). Ill be grateful forever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 10:02 PM
1

Do it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 05:43 AM
2

Same.. it starts our fine then it bights you doesn’t it:( You’ll be okay hun🧡 we all will
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 04:48 PM
1

I thought about what else could be useful and 1 thing i will add which is a common theme on FDS is to not mention your past in too much details - especially not the negative parts! You probably already know this but i and many others have made this mistake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 03:44 PM
3

Np. :) i got them from men chase women choose and the power of the pu***, if you wanna read em. Best of luck ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 05:09 AM
7

First pic- main focus on your face, and smile Wearing red is very attractive (strange as it may sound) If you want to attract relationship types then not too many body/racey pics If you don’t really care, then feel free :) Feel free to flirt lightly but dont pursue. They’ll do that:)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 05:06 AM
1

Thank you.. fds is confusing that way because when i made a most about my situation people told me everything about how bad this person is (narcissistic/abusive/ trash) but now- well my situation is no longer that bad. The situation has remained the same but the judgements are so different Thanks for your POV and reply.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 08:41 PM
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Id love to know the reason for the down votes - if i suck i need to know
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 11:12 PM
-7

Please roast me Also hed come once a month And id also take the train to him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 10:59 PM
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When ex drove 7 hours to visit me for 1.5 days (could only stay weekend minus drive back) - he 1- would always be late / never get flowers or anything special Last time we met he had to edit something of do some work and he mentioned that on day one in bed and i was soo annoyed I guess i havent tolerated much but Putting up with occasional jokes that are not funny and bring me down? The worst thing ive done is stay with someone who has amazing traits and is an amazing person but sometimes i feel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 06:21 PM
-1

In the power of p*****, the author recommends doing that. Its called practice dates, + entertainment- guys go out with girls they aren’t super interested in all the time then ghost when convenient
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 06:18 PM
0

That’s hilarious 😆 but no thats not technically right We often dont run away from frogs and we dont give up easy because thats how we are with children. Thats why we need to be taught
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 06:15 PM
0

Thats not the same as being a visual creature AT all! That just means your league is models types and you’re attracted models- Having good 8+ looks a must for me too but i dont consider myself a visual creature because if hes not stimulating my brain regularly and being a gentleman- im no longer attracted Just because you like and love and need visuals doesnt mean what they mean when they say men are visual creatures The parts of your brain that differentiate men and women are different. Women a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 06:14 PM
8

Reject that wholeheartedly- women have to be less scared of setting the bar higher and i try to do that whenever possible Thats why in asians cultures its quite common to do for the best most educated and man from a good family and not bald etc. if you dont pick the best man your parents str8 wont accept u guys being together and you can never introduce him to fam! And thats stuff quite important
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 06:25 AM
121

Im the happiest ive ever been, been 3.5 months since i broke up with the ‘love of my ..’ nativity BS ☺️ I go to sleep feeling grateful everyday and it has changed my life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 05:24 AM
9

I love this. Yes there are low caliber men everywhere but this had a lotttt of truth to it. Esp about parents verifying and how long till you get married, reaction to pregnancy etc Western pick me culture inflates the supply of women who dont care about sleeping around and ruin the game but oh well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 04:43 AM
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Bruh NO. There are no accidents here. You have real feelings and he just isn’t doing all that i think you should care to deserve. Firstly make a list of things you want a man to do for you or qualities of a good man to you, then narrow it to 10. Then pick someone who at-least fulfills most of the important ones He seems to be the kind of guy only interested in the chase since he didn’t make a move when u sorta conveyed you were ready
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 04:25 AM
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🧡🧡🧡🧡 to all the fds women who dont think anti- porn exist - they do and they can
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 10:50 PM
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Heyy. Nw!! Everything you said was correct and sound 🧡🧡 dont even worry about it- i was raised in a very religious country and they believed in no premarital sex therefore no BC education. Sorry for worrying you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 10:48 PM
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They didn’t teach me / outside the bio book and my mom (a gynaecologist) - There are pros to having periods- its more natural normal and men are more attracted when you ovulate as the pheromones change during that period and hormonal types prevent that But yes, mirana iud is a good option. Anything is a good option over accidental pregnancy Honestly using condoms is a trust and relationship building exercise. Its team work too - always insist on it. But obviously its all up to u
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 10:15 PM
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Meditation, and weight training for me too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 10:07 PM
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Excited fir you to dump the piece of shit scrote! Dont let the scrote get the way of you getting your Prince Charming
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 10:04 PM
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The most attractive trait in a man if how well he treats you. How good do feel in the relationship? If he makes you feel good (mostly) than stay. If youre crying / anxious/ frustrated tiptoeing leave
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 09:59 PM
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I would
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 09:57 PM
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Yep- all women have to do is show up- let the men do the rest
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 09:56 PM
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Honestly condoms and avoiding sex. Another reason for why I recommend that is that usually women will give it all away and then the man has no reason or need to upgrade the relationship Or Iud. Iud is the safest if you do not 1000% trust yourself. A copper IUD has almost no hormonal side effects, it’s really easy to remove. Cons- it can hurt to insert, in rare casses copper ions leach out and it can make periods hurt Do not pleasee under any case rely on plan b 1/8. Get pregnant or on an abortio…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 09:54 PM
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You are smart, beautiful, and strong🧡 you can do it!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 09:46 PM
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Im proud of you🧡 you deserve more and better! P.s I recommend reading the power of the pu*** by kara king, if you type the title in followed by pdf on google a free copy pops up. Best of luck on your journey
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 06:27 AM
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Its good
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 05:05 AM
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They may like the girls in a relationship because they love what they cant get/ unavailable people. :) you seem pretty great p.s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 05:04 AM
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I dont have specific advice but that dont let your fears get in the way of anything. And that, its love thats transforming for a person, the whole process of falling in it, not really the person alone. :) happy for you ❣️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 02:13 AM
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I read something that i wanna share- You are the prize and the contestants can get your attention and time but the winner gets your love and respect From the power of the p*****
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 05:14 AM
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Lots of hugs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 02:40 AM
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Im glad you came here to us. Clear ditch. Its time to control your emotions and dont let them control you. Read ‘the power of the p***** by kara king. It has some really good advice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 01:34 AM
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Sure except Im the kind of lady who doesnt like doing that! Its also a religious thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 10:26 PM
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You got this hun! I highly recommend reading ‘ the power of p****, its a bit much but its ideas are very sound!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 09:57 PM
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Permission to add this to the wiki- u/theogjammies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 09:55 PM
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Heres a book list for you- The price of admission Why men like b**** The power of p***** From heart break to hearts desire, fixing your GPS (guy picking system) Getting the i do I believe in you and you must read these to begin, no excuses! This community loves you so stick with it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 09:52 PM
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This is soo FDS. Fds is what the video describes- women setting higher standards. The book power of p**** on the reading list is literally all about this- and highly recommend
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 09:49 PM
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Stranger to gf - some attention and some emotional connection to find out if we function well together Gf to fiance - cutt off any other guys, have a public relationship/ able to meet family, attention, and emotional relationship Fiance to wife - move in, sexual relationship, children
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 09:09 PM
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Depends on how they make you feel and change when they do - youre going to get a lot of walk aways because its the simpler easier thing to do esp when its hard for ppl to be objective with how they feel after a confrontation of whether it was wrong or right. If rhey make u slowly loose pieces of you Make a disagreement into warfare Make you feel bad or pity them Blame you or become a victjm Punish u later ‘Ot change their actions than leaving is easier
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 02:25 AM
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Yuck ahh poor woman ahh. Omg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 12:37 AM
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Just nasty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 11:58 PM
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Women should never travel for men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 11:51 PM
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100%, it cannot hurt- if hes truly not what the book describes you can benefit from it in all other areas of life, and its really eye opening. Get in on kindle for $10 If for anyone who doesnt feel great in a relationship but doesn’t really know why
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 10:15 PM
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You tell them what you want and they say it back to you and charm you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 09:46 PM
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Read if hes so great why do i feel so bad asap. Ill make a post soon with a summary wn a week
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 09:44 PM
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Read how to heal a broken heart by guy winch and men chase women choose. Ofc its going to hurt for but in 3 months youll feel more alive than ever, i promise. You’re going to realize you scared you were and how easy it feels now and you’re going to thank yourself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 09:41 PM
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Esp for people who mostly watch pov porn. You do what you get off to and not a lot of oral for f in .. but you’re entitled to your opinion
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 09:37 PM
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Try face sitting if you havent. It allows you to take charge and not have to ask. Id recommend looking at r/facesitting (soo hot🙈), and its a lot less neck pain / way more fun Also- id recommend internalizing that you pleasure is pleasurable and a must, i looked up r/askmen cunnigingus i think and saw that almost 90% really liked, do check it out And also the comments of any r/facesitting videos do the same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 09:36 PM
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Emotionally manipulative/leavee.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 06:41 AM
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Well, the title is not a great representation of the book. B**** = not a doormat, has her opinions and knows how to best deal with men/ and their behavior/ doesn’t do long paragraphs/ knows how let a man be a man and do his duties Nice guys aint shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 03:11 AM
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Its a good book! Men chase women choose is amazing too, and why men love bitches
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 03:01 AM
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Oh i get it! Absolutely do not worry about late texts! Focus on you and plan out the next couple days for you to keep yourself busy! Do not let anxiousness get to you. Calmly cooly wait, obviously if he doesnt text you in 3 days and isn’t consistent after id say drop him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 03:00 AM
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In not your mothers rules the author says what to do if they dont text after they set the date /time (concrete plans). Just text on the day before of the date to say something loke so what time are we meeting again, and obv if he doesnt reply well block and delete. But be calm and cool
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 02:57 AM
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You can find someone w/n a year or two who’d make a good hv dad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 02:55 AM
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Read not your mothers rules, men chase women choose and getting the ido. Go to singles event, join old websites that are actually serious (not tindr bumble), level up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 02:54 AM
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I like his content but i cant judge if hes a good bf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 02:47 AM
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This is disgusting. Im so sorry for all the black/african americans. This is NOT okay
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 01:40 AM
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Time away from men/ sexual materials etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 10:18 PM
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:)))
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 09:39 PM
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Aww🧡🧡🧡 i wanna be this kind of parent
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 07:43 PM
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You too hun 💗🧡 its all good! My mom has always shows me love, and i found God.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 06:52 PM
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You are a queen and deserve the world. Your also smart af
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 05:07 PM
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Thank you for this uplifting piece. I remember when i was young my dad would say “i dont need you (kids), you are a liability (i pay the bills for you)”. Now that im older /in my early 20s and can support myself financially to some degree (never have to ask for $/items) i can tell he basically is useless (to me). Wish i didn’t have to hear that as a child. Wish my parents thought more about parenthood and what came with it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 05:04 PM
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I wasnt trying to shame you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 04:58 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/ebw4y5/the_importance_of_cunnilingus_male_vs_female/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf Also a good read
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 05:12 AM
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Also I recommend just getting sometimes and not returning back to see how they respond
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 05:06 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/dgacqi/sex_goals_receive_oral_sex_twice_as_much_as_you/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf Read this. And honestly id give a guy purposely bad oral, let him teach you to get better then you can openly teach him to. Be better wo him being butthurt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 05:01 AM
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Wishing you success and enjoyment 💛☺️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 04:51 AM
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Slept with him too early which i know you know but i think making him go in stages and invest gradually wouldve been better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 04:46 AM
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Thank you! Understand that you revealing to much too soon may be you trying to get something to connect or sharing too much so you guys get close quick so he’ll wanna stay. Its a natural desire to just be open because it works irl with others but its not a good idea because you dont know who he is- what his intentions are etc. and if tell him what you like and love it makes it really easyyy for him to tell you what you wanna hear and you wont know how well he is able to converse if he wasnt gett…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 04:39 AM
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Honestly men are really conditioned by porn and don’t really get giving. But if you can make him feel really good for getting you to consistently cum he’ll hopefully do it more /more enthusiastically
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 04:30 AM
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Wow that sucks. Hes being a shit partner. It’s getting into the unhealthy dynamic. If you wanna fix this I recommend having a talk. Ask him what is frustrations are. I know the books say that men dont really like obligations but they love doing stuff that pleases you. So maybe remind him that you feel really good when he pleases you and thats a big part of s** for you. I would also recommend not sleeping with him for a while and just getting off by yourself. Bad habits are really hard to get rid…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 04:27 AM
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Just have fun. Find out if your personalities mesh or clash. Do say or do anything that you aren’t ‘f *** yes ‘ about or would mind if it became a permanent thing. Dont put on w performance or say things he would wanna hear. Be yourself and remember to have fun
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 04:15 AM
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Once my ex held my wrists because i asked him too, i wanted to see if i could break free. It made me feel pretty helpless that I couldn’t. He was confused why i felt like that but.. anyway just wanted to share
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 03:30 AM
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Damn thats terribleee. Im sorry. Thats why i never even put myself in a position where im competing with a guy because that puts you in the category people the wanna compete with ie other men. If you expect him to treat you like a gentle lady, he will, otherwise we skeet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 03:29 AM
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In my past relationship I didn’t understand this either. I always thought he was being annoying on purpose but he was doing his version of playing/having fun
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 11:50 PM
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I know thats very typical fds response but we should leave that decision to OP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 10:31 PM
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🧡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 09:56 PM
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Read not your mothers rules and men chase women choose. Both helped me move on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 09:55 PM
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Guys love play fighting. And having fun. They like winning snd feeling like a man. But its more his attitude of how he dealt with it. I encourage you to trust your gut
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 09:55 PM
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Honestly guys who wanna date you dont do that. Only guys who aren’t looking to invest/just hook up. So when he said something like you pay next, just say no to the next date, say your busy, seem un interested, he should get the hint. You can try telling him, that you didn’t enjoy last time but dont tell him specifically why? If he likes you, he’ll ask you out again, and pay. If he asks why you dont like paying, say something like you dont mind treating someone you’re exclusive with, but otherwis…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 09:52 PM
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Wow, he pretends to be all ‘yeah props to you, that’s totally fine’ but then he goes behind her back to shame her. Yuck🙃 good riddance
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 05:33 PM
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I fully agree. When i posted a q here i just thanked all the jumpy people and focused on the good stuff but the comments did get to me and sit in the back of my head. It wasnt till i had a meltdown that I realized they were really not true at all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 05:58 AM
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🧡🧡🧡 np, i do rec the big book of stress relieving games
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 01:34 AM
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Welll. Yes and no. I think reading both books is best to know but essentially its not about the person and your not threatening them into a decision. Its about what you want and how long youre comfortable being in that relationship while not getting what you want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 04:25 PM
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Hmm. An exercise i found in the big book of stress was to imagine the worst case scenario which progressively gets worse and worse until the world collapses and its all gone. Now that youve done that, minor signs of rejection dont feel so scary anymore. You can also try the cleansing breath. Take a deeeep breath in, hold for 5, slowly exhale all your stress away. And repeat. No point in being scared of rejection. But hope this helps
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 04:30 AM
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❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 06:11 PM
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This account isnt about me. Your post history doesn’t say much about you either except that seem to be really into your looks. Im 21 too. Since you have close to no real experience with guys, you have no idea what you like tbh. Id consider myself clueless before my last relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 07:34 AM
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But you dont know anything about me except what i choose to show. Katniss was still inlove with Gale in the first movie. Im competitive, i make my opinion heard, i workout (participate in competitive sport) and i can be plenty feminine at the same time. She was in no relationship in that movie actually. She was inlove with gale who wouldn’t run away with her and she had to pretend to be with peta who loved her so they could survive the games. Maybe your caution has turned into hyper vigilance an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 07:16 AM
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Do not call peta a soft boy. Ewwww ahhh. The words soft boy make me cringe. Peta was perfect, and plenty masculine and strong. Gale was just damaged and emotionally unavailable/absent. She initially like gale/wanted to run away with him. It wasnt till mocking jay when gale really stopped caring about her that she realized that peta was a good person who loved her I dont know any of the other ones. I dont seek masculine men because im weak or cant stand up for myself. Im plenty strong and have pl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 07:03 AM
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Why do you like soft men? What makes you go for those guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 06:20 AM
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I can still judge you for asking me dumbass questions tho, no?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 05:58 AM
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Because he lived closer and we didn’t know where he would end up getting accepted for med school and also, he was willing to give religion a chance and made concrete steps to do that. We obviously weren’t perfect but at the end there were too many factors in the way. We continue to be on great terms today and wish eachother the best. Agressive and forceful = abusive and pornsick. Dont mix that with non abusive good/masculine men You also did not need to ask me about my history
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 05:54 AM
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Definitely more traditional. i once thought i like softer boys too. But then I realized thats all I thought i could go for. But anyway, i hope mr right finds you:)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 05:47 AM
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The ex I referenced lived 7 hours away, was a different race and a different religion and he wasn’t willing to convert so we called it quits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 05:45 AM
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I understand. I was just appalled ngl sorry. Um my exes have always protected me by making my life easier, whether that be by driving me, making or buying me food, keeping on the safer side of the road. If im already in bed and want something, they go get it. If i hear a strange noise they go find out what it is etc. Men are bred to be masculine and if you’re looking for a soft boy, you are looking for something .. thats not suppose to be .. Imagine your bf is now your huband and you have all yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 05:20 AM
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I dont like soft boys. I want a man who can protect me, and so i can pass off those genes to my babies. Hes got to learn how to do both
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 05:08 AM
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Love to see an educated women doing well for herself and not saying yes to any lvm/scrotes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 05:06 AM
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Just ignore it, unless its sexual Or inappropriate. Id just say yeah i know im pretty awesome or something like that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 05:03 AM
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He couldve just asked how to build a plant room but instead he wrote all this bs to get some sympathy. What a loser
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 05:01 AM
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Everyone who read why does he do that knows its never just one incident before everything was just perfect
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 05:01 AM
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My heart broke reading this. Poor woman. Ah. I feel really bad for her. Oh man, imagine the love of your life destroying everything that matters to you. Ouch
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 05:00 AM
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She didn’t need to drive out for him you know that right?? A guy is going to get whatever he can, i can tell her to say no, and not reply if he doesn’t respect that and not commit till shes ready.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 04:53 AM
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I clearly did not read thoroughly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 04:51 AM
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No you’re totally right. But men pursue women and women chose and in the old times the most manly man who was richest, tallest, kindest got the most women and hence children to pass on genes but honestly it’s something you can use to your advantage. Dont make him feel like the best when he hasnt earnt. For example if you see him not helping around the house/ e.g broken xyz , ask if you can ask your male neighbor to do it instead and see how he responds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 04:51 AM
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Also i have read the wiki and handbook, and i dont believe my recommendation went against them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 12:35 AM
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Look i totally understand. But that’s something id say to any man i was with before we even got sexual. Her post did not make me realize that he was disrespectful or abusive. Leaving indeed the solution to that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 12:34 AM
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I may not have conveyed it properly but the author is a harvard yale berkly taught neuropsychiatrist
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 12:26 AM
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I understand what you’re saying but theres a lot of pickmeshas that like that so making that clear can be beneficial. I didn’t tell op whether the man is worth it or not. Just how to deal with her problem effectively. Im not saying its a problem worth dealing with
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 12:23 AM
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Np 🧡🧡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 12:22 AM
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The author says that not showing emotions a trained thing. I find my brother really doesnt care about competing with men, but he has 3 sisters, and was homeschooled. Making him feel useful as a man seems to validate him I guess. I would recommend readings :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 12:20 AM
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Ill add it to my list of books. Im still dealing with my dad but im moving out within the next 3-5 years max.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 09:40 PM
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We deserve to be treated like queens 🧡 in the past, men would go to wars for us, the least they can do now is treat us really well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 09:39 PM
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Abusive man. Clear and simple. Entitled af. Im sorry hun. Reading why does he do that was very helpful in understanding
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 09:37 PM
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Okay. Im going to tell you what Dawn Maslar in men chase women choose said and trust me, id think carefully about this advice because im sure you’re about to be hot with a whole lot of conflicting advice. She said not to give a man an ultimatum because even if he wanted to before, he wouldn’t enjoy it anymore. Also, not your mothers rules said something very similar. Its been a while since ive read them so ill try my best to state it. You have to let him know, calmly and kindly that you’re someo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 09:36 PM
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Yes. If hes good in other areas yes. But give anyone too much love and they become tooo complacent so id be careful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 09:30 PM
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Ah i see. I love how one of the rules here is to be pro female friends and not defending males excessively. I hope you enjoy the book🧡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 09:27 PM
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Hundred %. Often its not that they lack but they pretend to be clueless and dont wanna put put more effort than they have to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 09:25 PM
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r/sextips is better
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 08:46 PM
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Yuck. Either he changes or you leave. Theres no shortage of better men. My ex barely used sm, and he barely followed girls but there was this one girl he liked a couple photos of including one with cleavage and i told him it was insulting and to unlike it and he did. I kind of regret doing that because it was a one off thing and it was because of a funny caption (in french, I didn’t know) but he understood why that would look bad for me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 08:44 PM
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Double standards. They may ask you to accept their apology after they’ve fucked up but when you f up they dont give you the same courtesy. Some men pretend to be narcissistic but they are just abusive hiding under the veil of only able to think about themselves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 08:41 PM
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Wow im getting down voted for summarizing a book? Remember this is not a dating book. It’s just for understanding men better. Ever wonder why guys like to see who can burp the loudest, fart the loudest etc? They seek to be the best even at anything
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 08:39 PM
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Its almost natural. Lies are not but exaggerating and over stating/ over the top flattery, is all ages actually sorry if my post made it unclear
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 08:35 PM
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Update: also, finding solutions rather than empathizing is their way of being helpful. A man is a natural protector and provider. One of mans worst fear is that he will be raising someone elses son/the women will sleep with another guy. Which builds on the fact that if you give a guy 100% loyalty and full commitment/wifey benefits too easy, he will not value you too much because he hasn’t earnt it yet and hasn’t done enough to show he’s trust worth and a hvm needs to be earn it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 07:08 PM
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As if she thought the dancer picked that fat looser on purpose
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 06:33 PM
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The wife was right about what she did and the other girl was doing her thing- its not like she picked the fat loser purposefully.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 06:32 PM
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Yuck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 06:11 PM
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I think thats girth but still
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 06:10 PM
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Yuck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 06:09 PM
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Guy was a loser and totally deserved the humiliation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 06:09 PM
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🧡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 05:16 PM
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Just tell him you’d like to take your time b4 you commit and hard no to anything you’re not comfortable with. Tell him you’re not into that or any porn induced interest
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 04:30 PM
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Please dont <\3 It’s really disgusting and degrading. Its more like r/sexinpornos
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 03:40 PM
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Absolutely yes. He will absolutely drive to you or not at all. Do not take this kind of shit from men. But dont be outwardly mad at him. Just be cool, uncaring, and joke around
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 05:36 AM
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One firm chance is okay but id still make him win your love back. And dont forgive him until its a fuck yes kind a feeling. I dont think i would if i was in your shoes have forgiven so easy. Id just be nonchalant start chatting up other men tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 05:35 AM
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Call him sweet when he actually does something significant / actions
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 05:33 AM
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Hes not ‘understanding’ anything so dont thank him for nothing. Read rules or why men love bitches tbh. They recommend not sharing what you’re doing but if you do share to ‘sell’ how many interests and hobbies you have and how busy you/how much your times worth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 05:32 AM
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Same. Ask men , and r/sex and triggering too. I also didn’t realize how bad they were until I opened my eyes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 05:29 AM
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Np. I found it free on library genesis🙂 has excellent reviews and was excellent for my mindset
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 01:35 AM
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Worked for me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 09:50 PM
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Doctors tend to be more humane because they’ve been vetted heavily for their social/people skills atleast in Canada. My ex used to say that interacting with me and doing the CASper had similarities lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 09:49 PM
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Casual guys will leave and those apps attract those- if say move to number but im not sure
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 09:47 PM
2

I take 30 min mostly and less occasionally, more if i forget or busy but im not waiting bw, just planning my day and what to do and doing that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 09:46 PM
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Th price of admission was very good too🧡 im proud and happy for you sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 09:45 PM
3

Very abusive:( i hope you do your best to heal and lmk if you want book recommendations
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 09:03 PM
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I got 92% for communication but 42% for stress and nit tht much better for conflict Im gonna go ahead and say that most women are pretty decent and communication and tgat it takes 2 to communicate. YT channel school of life has lots of tips on general stuff if u wanna check it out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 06:18 PM
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Also working on stress management goes a lot way for feeling reassured about yourself and your place in life so you dont constantly seek reassurance / being all pick to get him. It allows you to calmly wait and not blow your cool girl cover even accidentally
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 04:06 AM
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Have a lottt of self worth/ self respect / dignity. Be nice but willing to walk away and dont be afraid to have your own opinions. Also dont stroke his ego, make him work for it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 03:34 AM
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my exs mom, she got him into grooming and looking good because she was w his lv dad and he wouldn’t do any of it and it bothered her! But it def was not for the other women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 03:07 AM
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I know exactly what you mean
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 03:03 AM
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My ex bf was like that and he was not a bad guy at all. Just dont validate his looks too much like me because it’ll end up with him being the prize
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 02:52 AM
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Same girl. I realize self respect and dignity are they to stop being one. And an exit strategy + never having a dependent mindset
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 02:44 AM
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Np hun. 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 01:51 AM
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Also changed it. Im not racist. You seem really aggressive and toxic. But i do agree with a lot of your comments so maybe we can just call it a day
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 11:25 PM
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Omg soo not racist. No i just chose to not type the whole thing. As you could see i was not interested in typing. I was literally saying Japanese women Were NOT oppressed. You’re the racist one hating on Muslims and islamic law
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 11:19 PM
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I understand however FDS is a safe space and we are very anti porn here. I even have multiple posts explaining how porn is damaging and how kink and bdsm is not good for you. I totally understand. Better safe than sorry. My bad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 05:13 PM
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I didn’t wanna link because ive linked her like 5 times in the last two days 😅 i dont wanna appear to be a creep but if you look at my comment history, i linked her a couple comments ago
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 05:06 PM
1

Shes another fds woman!! Total inspiration
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 04:48 PM
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Learn self respect, regain dignity and forgive yourself. Its not your fault, and theres so much out of your control
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 04:27 PM
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R/blackopium777 I dont wanna link her because i feel weird but she’s really inspirational. I suggest you follow her and read her comments about not seeking external validation and more more than your physical self. Shes also 6’0 like her husband and taller in heels
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 04:09 PM
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Np!🧡 here to contribute. Lots of love
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 04:03 PM
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Only 1 guy messaged me about my porn post and he didn’t reply when i sent him facts. Arming yourself with real knowledge and facts is the way to fight the fight. And hun, you’re right. Dont let the scrotes convince of anything
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 04:02 PM
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Same girl, same. To the T. I also blame lib fem. and i also made other posts about this if you wanna read. You’re are about real ‘control’ and real self respect. Trust me i was the same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 04:01 PM
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:) knowing that your a good partner and lover is a nice joy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 01:56 PM
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Good, minus the too long
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 01:27 PM
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Yess. Read my post on porn if you wanna ! You did the right thing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 01:25 PM
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I get it. You wanna let him know how much of a piece of shit he is, but the truth is he likely knows and leaving is a great way of telling him you no longer wanna put up with it. Just it might not feel better after you’ve done it. It might make you feel like you’ve stooped to a lower level. He also might retaliate. I suggest the best thing you might be able to do is not give a shit about him, leave, and also get as much as you can from him before that. Obviously you do you and know best at the e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 12:59 PM
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Ty
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 05:39 AM
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/u/blackopium777 Such a HLW and role model. Thanks /u/EmergencyShit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 03:23 AM
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Omg. Nutts. There were some drop dead gorg girls and guys getting 6. Audacity on next level
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 02:55 AM
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Focus on yourself more. Your interests, your friends. Get really involved with a project. Make him miss you a bit. When he tries to get you back, make sure it’s something worthy. Dont make him the centre of your life. Even if hes a good man and really cares about you he needs space. Turn him down once in a while and keep him guessing You can also ask him to initiate a bit more frequently and plan more activities but i dont rec this approach over the first one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 02:14 AM
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Preach. And its so much healthier
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 12:30 AM
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Talk to a bunch of other guys and be with who ever puts in most effort. Then you dont have to be waiting for any single guy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 12:27 AM
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When a man likes a women he pursuess, just keep brushing it off
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 12:24 AM
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.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 12:22 AM
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Yep
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 12:21 AM
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Username @blackopium777 is my role model for how to stay in and leave a relationship that isn’t beneficial for you I think i love her but her advice is better for single ladies or people with savings/ not in the position you’re in but for the other fds ladies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 10:47 PM
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Np:). Best of luck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 10:17 PM
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Heyy. Its not your fault hun. It has nothing to do with you. Legit it could come down to his genetics. Some men do the numbers game and some men believe in monogamy Just say. Hey, i only do committed relationship. I do not believe in that kind of intimacy until long term potential is established. If you are on board with that, you have to understand that we need to take things slowly. If not, theres plenty of fish in the sea. If hes a long term man he’ll suddenly respect you a lot more. If there…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 10:01 PM
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Guys who go for that stuff are looking for casual only
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 09:56 PM
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I hate that. Soo much entitlement. Disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 09:00 PM
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Success but poor her. The scrote clearly did not care until she was done with him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 08:11 PM
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Yes i do. Ive put in a lot of healing work. Im not quite ready yet but after a couple other parts of my life are sorted out yes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 07:59 PM
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Internal validation. Stop comparing with other women. Stop caring about male validation at all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 07:54 PM
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Yes! Do it but make sure you can get a good rec letter too. Id honestly just make a reason why i have to leave and be kind for a couple more weeks and try to get a letter. No need to give him a reason to try to make ur life hell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 07:04 PM
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Excellent
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 07:01 PM
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Excellent
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 07:01 PM
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Yess or park like dates are more something id do with friends family or a long term partner, maybe we can ..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 06:58 PM
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The books explain it better than i can
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 04:41 PM
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100% valid! Might sting for a bit for sure. You can take out lessons from this. I wasn’t implying you were seeking external validation. Just that itsgood to practice not getting a high off it and focusing on getting validation from within
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 04:38 PM
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Leave if u can. Withdraw if u cant. Hes a stranger to u now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 04:14 AM
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Yes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 04:14 AM
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I learnt that what they say at first is not the best indicator of them. Wait till they think the girl is for them/ after the first 2 months. I think its a lv behavior tho It indicates not trying enough Id not tolerate that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 04:11 AM
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Mmm loveee this 🥰He is less concerned about himself and more concerned that I am happy. Makes me feel warm and fuzzyy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 04:10 AM
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So. The first book is written by a masters in science and the second book is written by a harvard yale berkly md. Half of the male brain is citations and research studies. Every scientific claim made in men chase women choose is linked in the book to the research paper.- for kindle Those things don’t guarantee success, and not doing them doesn’t guarantee failure. But its the safer smarter choice. And the FDS way. Do you know why? Because its trial and tester by 100 of years of experience of wom…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 02:59 AM
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Tysm! I really appreciate it. You’re right. Be clear upfront so they arent surprised. Get someone who already is on board with the main issues. I feel like your not the kind of women to do long paragraphs with your bf! Is that true. No need to explain your side and your feelings and just go on and on about feelingss. Thats what i used to do. I even read a couple relationship books to make it work better. I learnt it takes two tho. But I really liked the guy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 12:11 AM
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Just read the books fam. Thats not true in the least and you’ll never be happy living like that unless you get lucky. On ask men or r sex they asked how long you would wait. Guys are on two extremes. When you are a cautious lady who doesn’t sleep with just anyone who hasn’t vowed to win you over. You get the other kind of guy. Waiting an being cautious has the power of changing their literal brain and activating the sides that make him a monogamists man who takes care and provides for his mate f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 11:46 PM
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Its not about respect/ only about respect. It gives them time to vet them to see if they wanna make a life with them. Having sex = potential babies so you gotta see if hes the right man for that. Wont abandon you in pregnancy will share child cost and be financially able If you dont want a relationship then you dont and shouldn’t want to have to wait! Waiting is not waiting when you’re just building a bond. Getting him to invest, and finding out if hes the one for u
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 10:26 PM
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If you wrote a book i think i would buy it. Your point on how to think and not think while comparing yourself with someone else/ and not seeking external validation was very moving! I agree completely about forgiving! I feel like if i was in your shoes id probably feel like it was an unreasonable request anyway after he apologized but then i would become resentful if i did it. I would have trouble standing on my stance esp if he gave reasonable reasons as push back or implied i was being control…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 10:22 PM
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Theres nothing more beautiful than a healthy non toxic couple who supports eachothers growth and sticks with them. Really. I cannot imagine it. Also the beauty of someone who knows their worth and has a high self respect. Who stays because they want to be with that person not because they have to. Would you say you’ve forgiven him now? P.s i wanna be more like you. Ive actually never seen a more attractive mindset. Congratulations on the baby boy/ mother hood ❤️ glad to see it’s going well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 07:43 PM
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I wake up everyday with a smile on my face now that ive embraced myself with the help of FDS. Thank you guys❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 02:12 PM
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Love is so powerful. Source men chase women choose by dawn maslar. But scrotes lie and lv people attract lv people
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 01:51 PM
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No external validation should mean too much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 01:12 PM
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An ex of mine said me listening to future and The Weeknd was bad because they degraded women- but he also watched a lot of porn 🤔 double standards much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 01:09 PM
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Ty
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 01:08 PM
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Only gets better
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 01:06 PM
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Can you please make an update about this. Your knowledge and attitude is something I aspire to share. Tysm for sharing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 10:07 AM
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Beautiful 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 09:59 AM
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The watch out for bit is soooooo spot on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 09:55 AM
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For the person getting it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 05:39 AM
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In men chase women choose and the male brain, both say that waiting will weed out the bad ones and get the respect of the good ones/ and get the good ones. The more they wait the better e.g a couple months to max a year id say. But also as long as it takes for him to prove that he’s invested/loves you and ready It brings the best out of the man biologically. He needs time to change and his brain literally changes in terms of neuro transmitter receptors
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 03:51 AM
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He seems like someone who could stop watching porn if given the info about it. I would hate to be in her shoes <\3 Make frequent porn usage a deal breaker. Dont normalize and tolerate it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 03:50 AM
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Ah they are my weakness. I find them cute (obv not the ones in which the guy clearly looks like a lvm)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 11:57 PM
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Thanks Shokkolatte. Such a sweetheart 🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 11:54 PM
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Thank you. This sub is a living version of my message ❤️ Dont forgot to tell yourself everyday how beautiful and worthy you are and how you you’re complete on your own. Your man will add to your life but you’re complete on your own (thus you can leave whenever the relationship stops being beneficial for you) and dont need no man to complete your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 11:03 PM
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Some how my reply didn’t send so here it is again. Firstly, have a mindset of I can leave anytime if this isn’t good for me anymore. Dont give them complete security of ill be with you forever. - no matter how great things are rn/ seem like they are going. There should be atleast 5 positive interactions to 1 bad one. If he knows what you like and need and doesnt do them, leave, no excuses. If he continues to do things that you’ve told him make you feel bad leave. If hes entitled or showing doubl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 09:30 PM
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Actions + words
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 09:24 PM
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Yes. When i let my ex pay for more dates he was best and most caring to me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 08:49 PM
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Men hunt. The more they have to work for it the more worth it they think it is and the better they will be in the long run. Women wanna be protected and provided for/ cared about. Yes some men wont put in the work. Those were not meant for you. But if they happen to find a twinkle in you, they will work for it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 08:47 PM
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Geniune regret and remorse means nothing. Its his mindset of entitlement. Hes an abusive man. She needs to leave <\3 My little heart hurts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 08:40 PM
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No problem:) I think I’d be okay with slight domination in the bed room after i am 100% sure he can be trusted and he has committed and been consistent. I too pondered where my turn ons came from. I plan on getting therapy to help me rewire my brain towards certain stuff that i feel like I was groomed to enjoy. I feel like the books are unlikely to cause you danger if you remember that they are fantasy and also consume music, info, etc that is what you’d wanna see irl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 07:35 AM
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Yuck omg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 05:12 AM
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The only part of this that is okay is the ones that will like you will be with you while the ones who wont. The rest is abusive bs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 05:11 AM
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Well. Its a lot better. But consider these :) You have to be honest with yourself and ask yourself what risks you are willing (if you expose yourself to things you wouldn’t really want irl- you dont wanna normalize bad boy types) to take and what purpose it is serving in your life. Obv dont read anything with bdsm or pickme mindsets. Read books that if you were the main character in them you’d feel happy and healthy. Books like 50 shades can cause a lot of problems if you any predispositions at …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 04:15 AM
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Yes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 04:06 AM
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Good advice. Spray it on your over sized shirt and wear it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 04:06 AM
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If you let that kiss slide he’ll do it again and again but they wont be just kisses anymore. Lesson learnt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 04:05 AM
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You keep repeating it till you believe it. You say no to negative thoughts and solve rhe issues that resulted in then to the best of your ability. You surround yourself with genuine leveled up boss women who are not afraid to call you out. Read books on self love. Dawn maslars - from heart break to hearts desire, how to fox your guy picking system (gps) is a great starting point for all of this. Good luck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 04:04 AM
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I love and support this so much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 04:02 AM
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Preach sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 02:08 AM
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A mans job is to be calm and collected. Men try so hard to keep their emotions in check. If hes being panicked, for a little bit, sure okay. But afterwards, hes just seeking attention and being manipulative. Good on you for your stance!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 01:03 AM
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Support the weaker party, be there for her, tell the man to take some God damn responsibility if he asks for advice. Unless ofc the woman tricked him into having a child. Then support both. Support women. Supporting men does not get your their respect. It makes you a target for their abusive ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 11:56 PM
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Aww hunny❤️ thats so sweet of him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 09:02 PM
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What a mess indeed. Good on her for being mature, and self protective. Good on her for withdrawing from abuse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 09:01 PM
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I feel the same hun. It sucks that we had to go through that but now, we’ve learnt enough lessons for a lifetime. We can learn about abusive men, porn and more and we can heal ourselves and spread the message. We can prevent him our daughters and sons from going through that make ripples of change in our world. Lotsa love. And im sorry
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 07:52 PM
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Thank you so much, you are helping me so much ❤️ that you for sparing the time and energy to write this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 07:45 PM
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Yes and no. Religious people know they’ll get bad deeds for doing bad things and being abusive. They have an external moral compass and awareness. They believe more in fidelity and marriage. Not all but trust me. There are out there. The book in my sources also said the most common abusers are white men btw.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 07:40 PM
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P.s i applaud you wanting to grow, learn and improve. Its not easy or comfortable holding a mirror to yourself. Please have self compassion for past you who was just trying to do your best given what you knew and what was handed to you. You also carry the abuse with you. Last very important book. Filled with self love guidance is https://www.amazon.com/Heartbreak-Hearts-Desire-Developing-Healthy-ebook/dp/B008HRM99I
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 07:37 PM
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Ive posted my sources in the post now. Heres the link for the free ebook. You can download and open it in books or kindle. I cried sooo much tho. I realized reading it that I need therapy to teach me and rewire my brain about whats wrong and right. My ex, my dad and my book havits have left me going for men and actions that are miserable for me. https://robertwjensen.org/articles/by-topic/gender-sexuality-and-pornography/getting-off-pornography-and-the-end-of-masculinity/ for never watching porn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 07:30 PM
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Usually older/mature woke men. Those who ponder about privilege and abuse People who are self aware and see that porn is prostitution and abuse and degrading to women and even objectifying to men. I told my ex about the abuse I suffered and how porn contributed both in and after our relationship and he claims to have finally understood. They are def out there but either way its unadvisable to be with someone who watches a lot of porn, frequently and without flinching
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 07:23 PM
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Ill put my sources in the original post. Ty very much. I really appreciate your comment. Even one more person knowing understanding and believing this makes a big impact! Getting Off: Pornography and the End of Masculinity https://robertwjensen.org/articles/by-topic/gender-sexuality-and-pornography/getting-off-pornography-and-the-end-of-masculinity/ (Free book- you will never look at porn again after reading this) Why does he do that? Inside the mind of angry and abusive men By lundy bancroft ht…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 07:11 PM
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If we stand up to normalized porn and educate us, we can fight the multi million /billion dollar industry, and its lobbyists! When a guy tells you he watches porn, tell him you find it offensive and less attractive. This news will spread. It won’t stick for all men but it’ll stick for some. Watching porn is a privileged position and it comes at the expense of abusing others (women)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 07:06 PM
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Update- if you’re wondering why he seems to lose interest when you initiate or want something different or on your own terms - its not just because he cant handle criticism- it’s because you are an object for him to use to get off to- which he learned from porn, his role models and is toxic masculinity to dominate and control. If you begin displaying your own will or agency, he senses he cant control you, he doesn’t like that, he cant handle it, he’s abusive and he seeks to dominate submission w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 07:03 PM
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Trust me there are a ton of good guys. Some bad guys make you feel like they are so amazing and theres no one else like that but its not true. You just have to educate yourself, be careful, have your own life and mature growing close friends. Im so sorry you’ve been through those hurtful experience. I cannot tell you that I know what you went through but ive also seen abuse and been used and so have so many others. This sub-has been a great place (albeit some people are clearly a bit burnt and j…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 06:53 PM
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Not true. No fap has a lot of members. Most religious people know its atleast very wrong and avoid it and keep it hidden (wont have the audacity to say its normal). Everyone may watch porn from time to time yes but woke people recognize the nature of the porn industry. How women are paid more to do more degrading acts and so on. Yuck yuck yuck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 06:49 PM
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Male audacity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 04:29 PM
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Just dont take any shit whatsoever. Dont put up with any. Dont justify his behavior ever. Have a No 2nd /3rd chance rule. I wouldnt wanna compete with men and get on their level either
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 04:09 PM
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Abortion is fucking traumatizing guys
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 04:07 PM
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This
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 04:06 PM
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Yes you are
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 04:06 PM
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Woohooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 04:06 PM
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❤️❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 04:03 PM
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If you dont wanna dump him atleast withdraw. Be aloof and pretend to be absorbed in your own life/ get some self love
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 04:01 PM
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Other than the books do you have other recommendations to not be like that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 04:00 PM
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Yuck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 03:58 PM
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I know it seems really hard to see but he seems like hes gonna be BAD for you. You dont even have to ask him the porn q. If you do, Dont say speaking of r rated activities (as you already told him youb werent on board by not engaging), maybe just ask how do you feel about porn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 01:39 PM
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Ynta(sp?). Guys do that so they can be minimal effort right in front of you. Please be weirded out by it. You are precious creature who does not tolerate that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 01:35 PM
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This is what entitlement abusive controlling men do. They keep your self esteem low so you keep coming for more and keep tolerating their bs so they can put has little work in as possible
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 01:32 PM
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Yes I agree. Im pretty grateful to find a community of woke people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 12:28 PM
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Taking your time before falling inlove can help. Leaving when you feel any amounts of entitlement. Dont tell him what to do, or what you really want because you’ll be manipulated. If you feel bad for people easily and you forgive dont tell him or show him that. Dont tell them your anti porn. Just say, what do you think of porn or what kind you watch or when you began watching. It’ll usually come out. You can talk about whether they think porn is far removed from the truth. What they think of the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 12:27 PM
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They aren’t narcissistic or self centered. They are entitled, seeking control and will abuse to get it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 07:57 AM
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Yasss 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 10:35 PM
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Disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 04:49 PM
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Love can be very healing but always consult with a therapist in heated moments and make sure he himself has delt with his. 1 healthy one less healthy is fine but two unhealthy people might be a sinking ship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 03:34 AM
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Why men love bit*** agreed with this approach. Also makes them take you out more
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 03:32 AM
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He should be happy that she respects herself more now and support her growth:(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 03:31 AM
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Self control, meditate, keep busy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 01:52 AM
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Because it gives meaning to our life, it fulfills biological purpose and love releases drug like chemicals especially in the first couple years. Don’t forget to remember the bad times
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 08:34 PM
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❤️🥰🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 08:20 PM
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Yess 💗💗💗🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰 your flowers are gorgeous too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 08:19 PM
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Shes def one of the artists that led me to normalize abuse but I would’ve gravitated to something else like billie or mellanie if she hadnt existed. It wasnt until i dealth with my issues myself and gained awareness that I stopped listening to bad music (for me). Shes right tho, she can put out whatever she wants but that doesn’t mean we should listen to it. Ariana and doja cat both have upbeat inspiring music like ty next and juicy! Dont know much about Doja but they both give me fierce vibes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 01:41 PM
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Read some relationship books (i rec men chase women choose), vett your guy properly to pick a great guy you have compatibility with, https://youtu.be/4aN5TbGW5JA Have positive expectations, but be strong enoughly to withdraw or leave when they dont act right, and never stop living your life (when they come around) Also- deal with any childhood demons such as your attachment to your parents if it was flawed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 01:35 PM
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Yep
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 01:29 PM
1

Taste is important as are your other senses such as touch, smell, visuals, voice and you compatibility. Its is NOT a must. People in some cultures dont kiss before they marry or touch! You can use your other senses
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 01:28 PM
15

Fuck that. No ones stepping over my boundaries ever again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 01:21 PM
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Im gonna do that from now tyvm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 01:20 PM
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For me, I broke up with a guy because he went too rough without saying anything. The next guy(my current ex), who was my first love, for whatever reason i was fine with engaging in it and I really enjoyed it(i had parents who believed in physical punishment so mixing love pain and fear were not unknown to me). But it was really dysfunctional. We stopped making love. Bdsm is athe opposite if gentle. Bdsm controls not listens. There was a lot of times where there was coercion. I didn’t know what i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 06:02 PM
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Thank you. Its an honor to have contributed. This subreddit was the reason I started questioning my ideas on kink/rough sex/bdsm. Since then I’ve read a lot of helpful material. Im lucky to have discovered this young otherwise I would’ve continued to seek things not beneficial to me. Sucks that books like 50 shades are so prevenlant and popular for youth and theres no education explaining consequences on this behaviour. Makes me sad to think some other girl would let a guy choke her and then tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 08:46 AM
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Mixing love with aggression (for dom) and some fear (for sub) is not okay with me any longer. I never engaged in anything severe, not even ties but it had mental consequences for me and my love life. Subdom dynamics are power play. Do what i tell you to or you’ll be punished(basic conditioning)- not okay. Pair them with humiliation, degradation etc- fear and agression/bdsm makes you release endorphins which make you feel high which make you wanna do more each time to get the same rush. If a guy …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 08:41 AM
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Thank you for sharing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 05:52 AM
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Thank you for your service, Queens
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 04:54 AM
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In my opinion, never do the, do onto you as you would others. Just ask for what you want and need, you dont have to do them back and same for the other party. If you’re comfortable with it then do it it. Dont be malleable. Shave if you dont mind it. If u do, try a trim and shave the bikini region!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 04:51 AM
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Getting this out there means a lot to me. Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 04:43 AM
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100% spot on. Asking a man to participate in bdsm with you is like sticking your neck in a lions jaw and hoping he participates perfect. You wont escape with out atleast a couple scars and maybe a broken neck. While the media is out there feeding you bs about how much closer youll be and how empowering it is. Its a bunch bs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 07:14 PM
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💔💔💔💔 yeah. Abuse taught me that I need boundaries. I need so much more work on them. And get therapy. I teach my sisters the concept of boundaries, I show them by setting boundaries. The media(books, movies, forums) are so corrupt. Ive even see healthy men who are naturally repulsed by bdsm asking how they could please their partners.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 06:51 PM
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Yep. I didn’t know till i came out of it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 05:53 PM
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You probably dont make a lot of drama and arent clingy/asking for reassurance all the time Please dont let a guy sense that you wanna hold him down because once he does, he’ll stop putting in any effort. Hes happy when hes free to leave and he feels lucky.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 05:53 PM
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He seems like he’s leveling up and hopefully its not too late. Instead of focusing on debt, focus on y’all not moving. And you should himt thinks you want him to improve, and make it seem like they are his ideas such as working out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 05:50 PM
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I dont understand
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 05:45 PM
1

Yep
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 10:19 AM
6

No playing wifey or momma
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 09:37 AM
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I say meet but dont be too excited. Stay aloof, nice but mysterious and keep doing your own thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 09:36 AM
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He’s probably just doing that to see your reaction. Stay aloof. Stay working on you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 09:34 AM
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Ah this hit my little heart HARD OP. I feel your pain, and im sorry. My bf got me flowers once, 3 months into us when he asked me to be his gf. He kinda also told me excitedly that he got them for cheap. They were perfect tho. Then never again in our 1.5 yrs. I also hinted at them. He never showed anger but he also called me high maintenance The key is to make then work for it, be a little aloof, be a little distant, dont reassure all the time and share all details (then he wont have any reason …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 09:33 AM
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❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 09:26 AM
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Him saying that is just him pretending to be aloof and seeing how you react. When a guy really likes someone, he tries to be cool because hes scared. So yeah, confront him. Keep it short concise and relatively gentle
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 09:25 AM
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Yes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 09:21 AM
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Not your mothers rules and why men loves bitches helped me a lot. And listening to different non misogynistic music and non fairytale movies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 09:21 AM
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Helps so much. Thank you for sharing your knowledge! The last three really resonate with me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 09:16 AM
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Yep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 09:12 AM
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Thanks girl❤️ Im never going back to where I came from. Its level up season
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 05:04 AM
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No one should be able to tell you how you are feeling or what you are doing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 05:03 AM
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🥳🥳 yay uss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 02:18 AM
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We weren’t compatible. If we were we would’ve been married. I was too obsessed with being married asap and thats what made me act like a low value women. And have little dignity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 02:18 AM
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I made a whole post talking about my pickmesha ways. Even this post is one. Basically i was the lv one. Ive seen posts here where someone talks about finding a hvm and they literally describe how my ex was like. I was too clingy and too much and drove him away
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 02:16 AM
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He probably drove you to that point! If he was keeping you happy and satisfied, you would’nt have done that. You dodged a bigger bullet hun💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 09:58 PM
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You should really read why men love bitches - i highly recommend using kindle
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 07:49 PM
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Im so sorry.. i cant believe you gave 4 years of your life to this lowlife. Im sure you learn a life times worth of lessons from him. Those who compromise their standards and settle are those who’ll be contemplating leaving/divorce. I also wont move in until he proposes and picks a date otherwise there is little incentive for him to do so. Lots of love
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 07:41 PM
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I was not attached before sex. The book said orgasm makes a huge spike in oxytocin- so yeah, it can be the change. Men mayyy need sex more (not more sex) because their pursual spot is 2.5x as big as us Both the books i read were written by women Just because you think that way about sleeping with someone doesn’t make it true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 07:09 PM
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Im no longer going through a tough time (3 months post bu). We can agree to disagree
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 07:00 PM
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I read a scientific book on love(dawn maslar), a book on the male brain (harvard yale berkly md). Trust me i know what im saying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 06:59 PM
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Exactly. After the first year i started waking up and asking for a bit more but the bad habits were already in place and i went about it the wrong way. We we stay despite the disrespect, we show we value the relationship more than us. And thats when we really fail because we fail to realize our value. They realize they dont need to do much and we’ll stay despite the complaints. Im 3 months b/u and im finally free of the emotional ties he had on me. Even imagining the lovely dovey stuff doesn’t h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 06:58 PM
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I read a whole book written by a love researcher Dawn Maslar and the neurotransmitter released during intercourse will def make a girl in love and attached. It isn’t something we give power to. Its a biological reality
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 06:48 PM
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Exactly! Thank you for the message.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 06:39 PM
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I will watch it. I thought our love was worth my dignity but that likely made him love me even less, made me love me less too. Thanks girl! Im glad im better now too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 06:39 PM
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We dated for 5 months before s**. I became too clingy because i needed this relationship to work because i wanted the first person i slept with to be my last. You don’t know my story. He was the most emotionally available person ive ever met. He would be there for me whenever i wanted him to and we’d talk for hours Yes we were incompatible. But i wasnt willing to let go and was making it work at a cost to me. I became paranoid and clingy And yes, clingyness is an issue for females in general. An…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 06:37 PM
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We have to maintain our individuality and togetherness, im so sorry for the discomfort or hurt you have been through. Im proud of you for your growth. If you’re the kind of person who likes working, please dont give up that for a guy or make decisions for him. Its gotta be for yourself ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 06:33 PM
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Kindle is a great reading tool too:)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 06:31 PM
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Ill make a book summary on it when im done! :)) i have made a book summary on men chase women choose previously
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 06:31 PM
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I didn’t respect myself enough. I was comfortable enough to recieve freely. And I didn’t have enough self worth to leave when the disrespect began. Ive learnt a lot tho. Thank you so much for your kind message
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 06:30 PM
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The last paragraph is so true. And you are right. The offenses began when he began to show me he respected me less. He’d say stuff like -something about him realizing im just like the other girls.. I also am practicing valuing myself more with my friends and getting more comfortable with receiving. Most my friends are really great at reciprocating selflessness and so am i but its a terrible relationship dynamics as it shows lack of respect for me. Thank you for your message. I greatly appreciate…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 06:29 PM
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Wow. Love that. Reading why men love b*****. Omg, highly rec, i am such a ‘nice girl’. I previously read the male brain, its by an md, really good book but not really for dating, just for life in general
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 08:09 AM
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Thank youu
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 08:08 AM
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Keep trying. Took my mom a long long while. Remember to point it out when her male fs uo because women are blind to love
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 08:07 AM
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As a muslim, i think i speak for the rest of my muslim brothers and sisters when i say islam placed a lot of emphasis on respecting women. Theirs a hadith that say “paradise is under a mothers feet” and that men are your protectors and providers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 01:37 AM
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Reciprocate 2/3 of the time for advances for attention. Itll keep him guessing. Dont put your hands on him in public unless he promts you to or puts your hands on him. Don’t introduce him to your friends until he does his or asks to. Let him say this is my gf.. instead of you introducing him. Dont be too mushy gushy esp until you see him making efforts for you. Just my opinion. It gives them too much power otherwise
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 01:34 AM
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Sex /intimacy too early, may not let him be a man /provide protect. Not voicing your wants or hints for what you want and deserve. If you want a relationship- put more pics of your smiling face on your profile and fewer sexy pics. I recommend reading men chase women choose
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 01:29 AM
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Yep
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 01:24 AM
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You won’t regret it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 09:00 PM
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Love seeing this. Im sorry your story got downvotes. Not all muslim men are great and not all american men are shit. Glad you found a great one 💗 Keeping up with religious obligationsX and making meals for family is a good sign
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 07:55 PM
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Btw i only said its okay because i have masturbated next to my ex when he was asleep and yes he was v shocked too when he found out but I just didn’t wanna wake him up or be a burden and i was turned on by him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 07:03 PM
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From now tell him you come first. I was also v shy about getting my needs met
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 07:01 PM
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Read men chase women choose by dawn maslar. Itll give you everything you need to get started including why we get so fearful and anxious around guys
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 06:29 PM
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Ever since i pointed out to my mom that guys in my culture are shit because they grow up in a house where they get treated different than their sisters, she stopped putting my brother on a pedestal. She realized if she continues, he’ll end up like my dad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 06:25 PM
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Please share that discussion as its vital
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 06:23 PM
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There will be somone you are perfect for. Best to develop a killer personality, good work ethic and self care routine. Theres a mate for everyone. Humans are a normal distribution curve so 99 % are +-2 sd from the average and not that different from eachother. Manifest beauty and kindess too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 06:22 PM
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Hinting is better if you really wanna do it. And yes its not a good move and the only case it works is if they guy wanna gonna do it anyway and you just did it first. It can hinder him from loving you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 06:19 PM
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Yes. Science supports this too. If you want love, prolong your clarity so y’all can see if you’re a good match first. Avoids heartbreak and much safer in the long run
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 06:18 PM
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They are constantly reminded that porn is wrong. So they wont sleep with you like they do in the pornos or if they do, they cant be surprised if you tell them thats not how it’s supposed to be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 06:13 PM
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Thanks for your knowledge OP. I would love more insight on this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 06:06 PM
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Usually they try to limit intake as its a sin. They def dont watch wo feeling guilty
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 06:06 PM
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You def misunderstood. Giving him ego boosts is important as his testosterone drops in a committed relationship. I get a boost from being able to give him an ego boost This book is very scientific and uses a lot of studies to back up claims. I would smile snd thank him specifically for the ego boost and my tone wouldn’t be how i say ty to the waiter FDS promotes not taking little as possible. I think the whole self sufficiency thing is dumb. Self sufficiency would have one doing all the chores. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 04:02 PM
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They might not admit to publicly because feminism, but they get a testosterone boost from it and its very well explained by the author. For my ex, id always smile at him when i said ty when he paid for my meals and hed wink back and i know it would give him a boost. Also, reaching tall places But she also talks about how men aren’t a fan of having obligations and being tolerant when their forgetful as that is something they get worse at when they commit. She gives helpful strategies to deal with…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 02:07 PM
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Can you make a post on how this one’s different?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 08:21 AM
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My humble apologies. Never would I do that to a fellow xx homo sapien. I apologize for my bluntness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 07:23 AM
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Read this book - not the price of admission, thank me after
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 05:57 AM
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Def rely on your gfs! Dont let your bf become your everything but rely on someone mature and with experience and self worth. Not a pickme with terrible dating history
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 05:55 AM
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Book recs- read these when you get the time https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/29440863-men-chase-women-choose And not your mothers rules.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 05:49 AM
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Remember you dont compete with other girls for him because you are the prize, the biggest greatest prize so live your life like you mean it and own that shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 05:46 AM
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When and if he falls in love you’ll be the most beautiful thing to him, then you can hopefully get commitment and his brain will basically shy away from other women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 05:45 AM
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Sorry.. if you do wanna fix the situation, start being a chase from now, if he doesnt bite(chase) let him go. Remember there will be other guys and you can learn from this I didn’t mean to shame you or make you feel bad, i know how hard it can be and ive been there. Im not a guy and i will never shame you for your natural urges. Good vibes to you, and i shouldnt have spoke in absolutes when humans unpredictable and dynamic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 10:13 PM
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Yep. Good hvm will be future minded. I so regret being as open as i was in my last and digging about his past. Etc. im glad you are happy in your current relationship. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 08:27 PM
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Yes you right!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 05:49 AM
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I like the general vibe! Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 04:28 AM
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Tyvm!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 03:06 AM
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Thank you! Did you also read that one. Which one do you recommend putting first?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 02:09 AM
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YES, we are the prize❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 01:56 AM
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Thank you ❤️ its on my list now!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 01:55 AM
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Hugs for you :’)🤗🤗🤗 you made my day Tough_Fruit 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 01:53 AM
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Man im gonna make a website- its too hard to share this info with so many people. When you slept with him the chance of it progressing to a real relationship are gone, dead reduced, nada. Hard to explain but its done Read this book https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/29440863-men-chase-women-choose
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 09:48 PM
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Thank you 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 09:46 PM
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Im making an empowering girl power playlist rn. Music def affects us a lot and way much music is misogynistic and makes us expect less and accept toxic partners
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 09:26 PM
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Your neuro transmitters wil give you hell. Stay strongg. If you want him to come back you can. But i suggest asking for advice here first and being very very very strong. Ready some break up books maybe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 09:22 PM
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Im so sorry 💔. Hugs to you. Listen to what everyone else is saying. Its not your fault, your body didnt cause this. You are worth so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 09:20 PM
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Dont block. But dont reply back when he does until consulting this sub. Dont get excited. I know its hard
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 09:17 PM
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Love it ❤️❤️❤️❤️ yes, 100%. Good parenting is worth your weight in gold.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 09:16 PM
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This sub has been so sweet and loving for the most part. Ahhh i feel so lucky to be accepted by my ‘sisters’. Love y’all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 09:15 PM
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Im glad there are those of us here that are less naive then me.. we all need a friend like you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 09:11 PM
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If they begin dropping investment in you, consistently not doing enough, withdraw, give them time to see if living wo is worth i. While you withdraw work on being able to leave if his answer is no. Then if he choses you consistently again otherwise 2 strikes and leave. Yes he could totally be exactly that.. im gonna do some research and lyk about prolonging the period -feeling like they were tricked into it but off the batt picking someone with the same vision of future as you and core beliefs w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 07:35 PM
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Thats what i was shocked about. Legit men are evil and no one said anything. Gotta spot these red flags and stay away from such monsters
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 07:29 PM
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Yes woman face their trauma and past it together and teach other how to not fall in traps again. Yes its not your fault your parents didnt love/adore you as you so deserved 💕 but you have to work through it by having friends who do and not accept anything less than great treatment from your lover. Heal and work on your past trauma to gain freedom. Idk why most men are such psyhos :/ but I know good men exist as well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 07:28 PM
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😰💔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 07:23 PM
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Yes, you sound amazing and like the right woman and any guy would be lucky to talk to you! But i dont trust sweet talking men anymore. They’ll say all the right things but don’t believe em until you’re sure
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 09:49 AM
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Id be happy my partner was sharing me in his interests. I remember when i went playing board games with my ex and i had never played that game before and instead of being helpful he was being full on competitive and almost taking advantage of my lack of skill
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 09:16 AM
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Fair and women should be picking hvm, but 50% of people dont have secure attachment patters and 60% have seen trauma. Im not gonna be apposed to someone with one absent parent and i know i put myself at a higher risk of being hurt/betrayer/ wasted my time but im gonna try my best to pick my best suitor. I refuse to be like these men tho..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 09:12 AM
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Let a man always lie to you when he wants to tell you great you’re doing, you should always be doing good as far as he’s concerned. Let him flatter you- she could be doing great for a nube. The message of this pic is quite different.. its a man peacocking his gaming skills and using them to protect his partner/show off how great he is. Let them peacock, reap the rewards
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 07:41 AM
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“Showing your partner a game youve mastered for years” Ofc shes not gonna be as good
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 07:32 AM
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You. Tanking everything doesn’t have “” its factual saying shes either new or not good. He has years of experience wasting his time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 07:32 AM
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Thats your trauma speaking
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 07:30 AM
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You’re wrong. As someone whos played loads. The meme is pretty sweet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 07:30 AM
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Yes. But if you find out 15 yrs into a meaningful relationship, be there for him and recommend therapy. We would never use that to our advantage and use and abuse. But yes, lets seek out men who have dealt with their trauma and wanna improve and level up in all areas of their lives
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 07:29 AM
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Nah. The stuff shes speaking out have no real use strategically. Obv men are gonna react. Men are supposed to pursue women. If they were unaffected by women it would be boring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 07:27 AM
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“You’re doing great in the pic” and he helps teach her how to skate board. Who cares what he says on the internet. Thats the last of it. You can go down and do male dominated activities for the heck of it all your want.. Its a waste of energy..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 07:24 AM
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🥺🥺🥺 we need to be there for our sisters and educate our daughters young Who knows what personal info the past men I’ve ever dated have used to their advantage
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 07:22 AM
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For sure. But honestly i think women should not be ‘one of the guys’. I legit never had to speak. Only all men speak so by chosing to speak unnecessarily i felt like i would just be attemtion seeking when i could play just fine without. For the one or two times i had to speak when stuff was going DOWN in a 4 player max game i would and it would be nbd and more so the men would try to protect my player more but only has happened a couple tomes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 07:21 AM
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Gaming is a useless skill Making money/cupcakes is not Saying women suck at useless skills is nbd, infact makes us look like we have better things to do Plus this post is about making sure his girl is happy and having fun while gaming- she could just be a beginner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 07:18 AM
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I watched the first 5 min and i could not watch longer. I never had to speak outloud in the mic while gaming. I never needed to or thought it was wise either. Watching gaming makes me wanna game Men like that are trash yo. They were meant to literally be cavemen and hunt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 07:17 AM
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Let men be better at gaming, better at buying you shit, better at giving you head, better at giving- paying the bills/mortgage leases, etc. Who caressss.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 07:13 AM
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Thanks and will do! Either way I personally wouldn’t consider this meme a male depravity just given the amount of information we have.. And i never reveled my gender while playing. Didn’t need to. I had the same-ish name as my Reddit name. I feel like feminist have made the world better and worse for women..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 07:05 AM
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There was 1 actually helpful comment that said ask her to get counseling/ therapy. Everything else was absolute depravity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 06:56 AM
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Thats vile. Please go do some self healing- your trauma is showing. Gaming is useless so its gotta be another USELESS yet fun activity. What do i do thats somewhat useless.. hmm be good at social media.. Helping my man save his is social media/fb/ig like a pro so he looks good infront of his friends/family. Plus men protect and provide. So, cupcakes would be an example of providing..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 06:55 AM
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Makes me realize that guys are not like women. Ive always had a guilty conscience/ do no harm mentality. Then i see this! Ladies trust slowly and do you due diligence! Dont fall inlove quick unless you wanna risk ending up with someone like this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 06:50 AM
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pic says “making sure shes happy and having fun”, idk about you but thats not a red flag for me. I dont think its condescending. Woman have better things to do than mastering their video gaming skills. This is coming from someone who considers themselves pretty good at video games (starting in grade 4 with my brother, haven’t played consistently in the last 2 yrs tho). I was obsessed with making records back in the day. I still think theres a lot worse examples of male depravity and this doesn’t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 06:45 AM
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Well, fuck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 06:30 AM
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That’s actually pretty cute. Let men provide and PROTECT. Idc if saying woman are not good at video games women hating. Let men compete with other guys for YOU. Don’t compete with men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 06:29 AM
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Men need vasopressin to fall inlove but their levels drop when they ejaculate so not having s** before they commit is key
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 05:32 AM
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If you sleep with him you’ll love him way more and be a lot more upset when he doesn’t reciprocate. So hold off on orgasms for him and you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 05:16 AM
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Im gonna figure it out and lyk! But remember if you dont have a ring on your finger you’re single. So do go around assuring him how you’ll never leave him and how he doesn’t need to be jealous ever and how you love him sm and think hes so cute. Dont give him so much security then he’ll get lazy with his prize/ you. Im gonna give you a definitive answer by tom hopefully. Im reading a book rn called men chase women choose. Its very scientific. And i have another such book on my list about how men …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 05:14 AM
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Best way to get over the death of relationship is heal past trauma, work on self esteem, join fds, read not your mothers rules snd put your self out there/on apps
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 06:44 PM
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Same🙃 i was in love with the oxytocin / hormones/ lust/ his cute face/and the almost trauma bond. My insecurities that everyone knew about us and that my pickme friends thought he was so great made me stay. Lesson learnt. Stay strong!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 06:35 PM
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Exactly.. miss me with that bs. Luckily i come from a religion where the norm is still marriage in the 20s and both men and women will face parental and societal pressure.. still my dumbass had to waste 1.5 yr on agnostic white guy.smh women love drama.. and romance and romea juliet shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 05:20 AM
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They give up until they decide they’re ready. What is he gonna do at 40 when he has no one to tell his jokes to and no children to come home to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 05:10 AM
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I powerlift, bake, read books and connect with gfs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 04:50 AM
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The horror😩not the ring even but him letting you pay for food/hotel and having the nerve to call you materialistic. Ouch. Good for you for seeing the truth of it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 04:48 AM
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Yep. Bur most men will chase harder if your giving them less attention i think
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 04:43 AM
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Yeah as long as your dont share it with the guy. Share with ur gfs all you like right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 04:22 AM
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Why even date nasty people you’ll end up hating?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 04:21 AM
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You will never get hurt. You will have your self respect and boundaries. Its not fun in the short term but in the long run it’ll be worth it. Just dont be flattered by gestures of love. Drove 4 hours to see you, so what, he’ll do it for a concert and has enough free time for video games. Says you’re so beautiful, or asks for a compliment “i guess your not bad yourself”.. im still learning myself. Its not to be bitter, or jaded but let them earn it, let yourself be a challenge and hard to get. Th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 04:20 AM
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This was supposed to have the flair “nice for what”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 04:17 AM
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Yas girl! You will read the rules, and you will level up. No more pickmeisha sort of attitude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 06:39 PM
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💗💗💗💗💗💗💗 women leveling up. This made me cry even though I didn’t want to. Woman need secure bonds a maternal figure. Yes to love bw women!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 06:37 PM
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Hating an ex and have no positive thing to say about them sends a lot of red flags tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 06:35 PM
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You can read books on trauma like not the price of admission- they talk about how your brain tricks you seek similarity and almost miss the emotional intensity of the abuse but you gotta be strong and say no. Read books on trauma and when a thought pops uo in your head about him or that doesn’t benefit, make it stop. Ask yourself does thinking this way help me. Practice mindfulness training so you dont ruminate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 06:34 PM
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So much yes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 06:30 PM
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Not your mothers rules explains the why. And shows good/bad examples of this. Also.. since he cant ask you out because quarantine, make him work to plan something else- video chat with him sending you some food. Or at least make me double/tripple text you. Make yourself a challenge. Dont tell toooo much about what you’ve been doing just that you’ve been busy because whatever he’s gonna imagine may be better than what you were doing anyway
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 06:21 PM
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Keep busy and away from your phone. Always reply with shorter texts than him, always leave first. Keep the video chats not too long in duration (1 hr max~) and not too often. Take a couple hours to reply if it’s something low effort unimportant. Make him work for it. - if you want the long term partner/gain. Otherwise- if you in for some short term fun i guess just dial the guidelines down
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 08:32 AM
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Thank you. Ill be sure to mix it up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 06:05 AM
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Just say id rather not talk about it or the right guy just hasnt come along!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 04:40 AM
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Im reading not your mothers rules rn! Men want a challenge and women want safety. Sending you positive vibes💗 i also have a free pdf version of the book that I downloaded from gen.lib. I can make a google doc link for you if you wanna read it!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 01:19 AM
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Please help her. I dont know how to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 10:48 PM
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Learn about the pursuer distances dynamic. Theres some good yt videos on it. It explains why you do what you do. Once you learn and unlearn you’ll be much better. Also- you need to deal and heal from the past trauma. Not the price of admission is a good book. I got more clingy ws the relationship started meaning more to me. You’re engaged so i can say you should chill. He aint leaving. Do your thing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 10:41 PM
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I actually dont know the answer. Maybe send him some findings about how harmful porn can be and send him the no fap Sub reddit but you cannot tell him what to do or ask him to stop - he has to make the decision. You can state your wants and preferences and if he doesn’t repect them you can reinforce it with being distant. Not really sure. I personally stopped and he decided to join me and he stopped for many months and would tell me all the benefits. But its a drug and he went back when we were …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 10:31 PM
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I like elon a lot. I hope they’re happy. To clarify, I admired his ability to reach his goals, work hard af, and dislike working with jerks. I do think he makes a shit partner based on the history
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 10:21 PM
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You are the best and seem like the coolest! Keep getting support on here or with free or not free resources(i used good2talk as a Canadian, and journaled) if you struggle during this period. I seriously think you’re on the right track. Sending lots of virtual love
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 09:43 PM
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My ex was the same. I felt like the fact that my needs were only getting met with amazing answers (talk) distracted me from me actually getting them met. I take responsibility for the fact that i shouldve changed my actions. I still gave him more than my all(i know now why i did this) despite him not changing his actions and I really regret it. You gotta change how your reward him and how you interect with him and change it meaningfully for a long enough time and dont revert back and be so happy…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 09:41 PM
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Im so sorry but you’re young and have so many amazing qualities and you can learn so much from this and do so much better!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 08:44 PM
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Never put him on the pedestal!!! Also, if you can ask for these things in a calm reasonable way it might work much better than criticizing. Hopefully hes open to learning
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 08:43 PM
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If you focus on your self and your hobbies and make distance from him trust me that he’ll wanna want more connection too. Look up the pursuer distancer dance. It might not be worth it for you to go through the pain thag comes from feeling like a lover is rejecting you but its worth it! Step away, do mindfulness training so you aren’t thinking about him, focus on your hobbies, passions learning, watch tv, whatever makes you happy. Work on your individuality. Cant loose that in a relationship with…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 08:42 PM
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I think it’ll be worth it but you level up yourself. If a hvm makes u feel uncomfortable about looking at your own lv qualities then you wont wanna pick them. But remember its you making yourself feel that way, not a hvm. Also we pick the love we think we deserve.. best of luck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 08:37 PM
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Thats the sweetest thing ever 💗 i know what you mean about feeling like you didn’t waste that time. I also had to deal with that!! At first i felt like it was the friends that came from that experience. I really connected with his best friends gf and we took care of eachother. But the biggest way i deal with that is all the knowledge i gained about myself, why i sm the way i am, what makes me tick, what i need to be happy, how i should be looking for compatible world views etc. im still working …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 08:34 PM
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Good on you for moving on and helping others. Im sorry he caused u unhappiness for so long
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 02:25 AM
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You’re totally right. I feel like instead of pushing him away by blocking, i need to walk away by moving on in my life and putting my energy into living my best life. Tysm!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 02:24 AM
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Perhaps he over promised and was a little lazy. A lot of those things depend on intentions. I dont think he was malicious. But thanks for your input
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 02:18 AM
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Same. I enjoy cold guys - who dont joke around or be silly. Its a result of my dad. But i have learnt A Lot about my attachment pattern- anxious and also avoidant. Ive learnt that i self sabotage and get overwhelmed and blow up about too many small issues. Next guys i be with, im gonna take the understanding if that relationships that start fast with lots of emotion and attachment dont end well. Im gonna pick based on compatible, chemistry, compassion. And no more trauma bonds for me. I dont min…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 04:35 PM
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Im reading not your mothers rules rn. Why does he do tay sounds good. Ty:)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 04:27 PM
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He was always nice kind sweet caring when we interacted. He was mature and raised by amazing parents. Never was he mean or made snide comments. Would apologize. Listen when i wanted to talk about anything for hours. He was great. He was loyal. He never talked about females, i knew his phone password i think. But he was flawed for sure
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 04:27 PM
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The miserable thing was him knowing how weak i felt, not treating me with the compassion other than that of a stranger. And being a little cold and replying once a day saying it was emotionally taxing to reply
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 04:25 PM
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Good point.. i know for sure regardless of whether i block or not (learning towards block to show him im not writing for him to change his mind about us), i refuse to text him or reply.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 04:24 PM
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How is he a user? He didnt mind that i was on good terms with my past exes who had been good to me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 04:22 PM
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I havent messaged him or had any desire to. Thanks tho
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 04:20 PM
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Been doing that. Any book recs?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 04:19 PM
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Feeling much better! He would have little micro aggression to mainly boost his self esteem and competency at my expense which was making em feel dumb aand not as competent and i feel much better now. Ive been using the pain to learn about myself and ive learnt a lot about my attachment patterns- how to deal with trauma and more. Good on you for feeling better. No more putting a guy on the pedestal for being a decent human being. I have no urge to contact him. I just wanna show him that im not wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 04:19 PM
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Id be happy for him if he got a new gf. Not my concern anymore. As you can see from the pros i mentioned he was far from a shit human. Hes VERY inactive on social media and i dont find myself obsessing ovee it at all. I dont ever feel jealous or inadequate based on external factors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 01:11 PM
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But what about all the positive/good times we shared? The times we were there for eachother?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 01:04 PM
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Im so sorry. I have a book for you. Its called not the price of admission. Read it. Move to Canada when this is over and start over. We have a much better socialist system here. Free healthcare, cheap university, subsidized education. Please give us a Cinderella story. Sending you 100 hugs. I believe you. You and your body did not cause this. I dont know you but im so sorry your life has been so hard. Pls if you want me to email you a pdf copy of the book. Im so sorry. You are so brave for doing…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 11:12 AM
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I thought i just like it a lot too but i sometimes used itnas an escape in our relationship. It was something that was fun and worked while doing other things together didnt. Now i wont fall into that trap. Dont have sex if hes mistreating or mot doing what he’s supposed to
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 10:55 AM
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2 months post break up and i was terrified of breaking up with him because of similar reasons. Its nor so bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 10:52 AM
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Dont go on dates till they demonstrate they are a kind caring individual who wants to learn about you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 10:45 AM
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