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NAH, SISk20_4/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 03:04 PM
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DISCUSSIONk20_4/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 02:32 AM
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COCKHOLM SYNDROMEk20_4/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 04:47 PM
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DUMP HIS ASSk20_4/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:39 AM
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DISCUSSIONk20_4/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 11:51 PM
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FIELD REPORT k20_4/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 11:23 PM
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DISCUSSIONk20_4/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 04:21 PM
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FIELD REPORT k20_4/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 06:24 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEk20_4/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 01:18 AM
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STRATEGYk20_4/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 07:42 PM
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COCKHOLM SYNDROMEk20_4/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 06:07 PM
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There are lots of reasons. Maybe she met you and decided that you guys didn't mesh. Maybe shes talking to someone else. Maybe shes got her own things going on and it has nothing to do with you. Honestly, life is too short to worry about someone who doesn't want to spend time with you. I know men like a chase, but she has to give you a little bit of a hint. Of you're dying of curiosity, I'd ask, but that may come across desperate. I'd just let it go.
/r/seduction30/09/20 09:46 PM
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One of my close friends had been seeing a guy she thought was HV, and then she told me one night after a little too much wine he told her this. I told her to never see him again, it's terrifying to be alone with a man who says "most or all women fantasize about getting raped." How could you ever feel safe?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 12:34 PM
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You're not wrong there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 04:48 PM
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Isn't it frustrating how FDS is hard to swallow pills for most people? Everyone deserves to be the best version of themselves, and to be able to pursue healthy relationships with other great people if they wish to do so. I don't understand, doesn't everyone hate seeing unhappy people trapped in bad relationships?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 04:27 PM
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This comment is so underrated. Imagine if all the teenage girls now whipped that out every time a man in their 20's-30's tried to shoot their shot. It would be a revolution lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 07:10 PM
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I may need to get Twitter before I think about dating again. These men willingly put this information on the internet with their name and picture associated to it? How could you be romantically involved with someone who has views like that about women?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 11:05 PM
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"Any other questions regarding my smile or my wave need to be directed towards my office."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 09:35 PM
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I literally just saw that my ex watched my story. I swear it's like this sub reads my mind sometimes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 11:37 PM
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As a tall Amazonian woman, This is how I'm going to answer questions from here on out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 08:41 PM
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How do men feel about women who are always busy?
/r/seduction24/08/20 03:10 AM
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Gosh, it may be terminal 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 01:47 AM
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These are great! Sometimes I feel like FDS is so tucked away in our own little corner of Reddit, let alone the internet, that seeing other people (of the opposite sex even) communicating the same positive boundaries and guidelines for women is very reassuring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 09:46 PM
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As a woman in her 20s who also works in an industry where it's your job to be nice, why is it always the same type of man? It's always someone significantly older, they always guess that you're older than you are (I'm 20, I look 20) and come up to you during your breaks and time off the clock to try and "get to know you" or "shoot their shot."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 01:23 AM
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Yeah, I think so. The whole purpose of the post was to distinguish if what I has seen so far was HVM Behavior, that's why it was a field report & posed more like a question than a statement. Just because someone displays HVM Behavior, it doesn't necessarily mean he's HVM. Thanks for your input 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 04:12 PM
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After reviewing everyone's thoughts, I think I've come to the conclusion that no matter what his intentions were or what I think about this guy, that I'm just not ready to date. I don't have an idea of what I want because I kinda just take whatever I get and make myself be happy with it, and that's not what I want or deserve. He and I really have had pretty platonic interactions so far, so maybe tomorrow night I'll scratch the date idea and really solidify that we're buddies. I've clearly got to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 03:14 AM
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Yeah, maybe it wasn't as great as I thought. 🙃 It just felt so good to be treated like a human being and not an object/piece of meat, you know? Talk with someone and not fend off creepy comments or advances. After this, should I not see him? Or tread lightly?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 01:48 AM
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Honestly, that's why there's a "?" in the title. I've had so much bad luck that it's really hard for me to figure out what behavior is considered actually being treated well or not. I appreciate everyone's feedback and truly just want to help myself establish good standards for what men should and should not be like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 01:32 AM
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When you say draw a line, draw a line as in what things are/will be? I think what I like most about what is going on is that there's no physical expectations, so we kinda just get to enjoy yourself each other's company in a really innocent way. I'm sure in the future we would discuss what we want, but since we're not doing ant relationship activities, I really like that it's not being brought up. There's no pressure to make things happen. I am interested at this point, but I wouldn't say that I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 12:29 AM
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Do we have any tips for avoiding men who we know are bad news/low value, but still can't help wanting? I know someone is bad, but I can't get myself to block him, and whenever he comes back into my life, I yearn for his attention and start to miss him, even if I hadn't thought about him before he reached out again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 11:25 PM
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Learn to vet them better. I get tired if juggling them too, but I also find myself talking to guys I'm not that interested in. Make some traits that you need in a guy, if a guy blatantly doesn't have some if those, let him go. If he's not actively trying to get to know you, let him go. If he's not inviting you on dates, let him go. If he's too busy to meet up, let him go. If you truly vet the guys, you will find that the actually promising options will only be a couple guys. If you're not feelin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 07:37 PM
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Posts like this make me question why people see this as a negative sudreddit. A woman, who was miserable but desperately clinging to a doomed relationship because society taught her she needed to be pretty and likeable for the ultimate prize: a POS husband. She broke things off with him, started treating herself better, and started making plans for better herself & advancing her career. I swear FDS is Pickmeisha Rehab, and I'm here 👏🏻for 👏🏻 it 👏🏻 FDS doesn't hate men. It's one of the few places …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 11:18 PM
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Indian matchmaking. It's my new guilty pleasure lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 10:18 PM
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That show is actually sooo good. Aparna is my spirit animal
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 03:06 PM
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I am pro-choice. I'm a young woman, who doesn't want to have kids, who wouldn't subject herself to raising a child at this age and jeopardize my education/career as well as raise a child in poverty. If I tell a man I'm dating/sleeping with this, about 50% of the time they get upset with me because of the possibility of them getting me pregnant accidentally. They always say "well it's MY sperm, it's half my kid, you don't get to decide." Oh, but I do. Because that baby grows inside of ME. MY atte…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 02:35 PM
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Thank you everyone, I'm going to go ahead and block his number. I'm not here for low effort backpedaling, I appreciate all the advice ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 01:36 AM
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Sometimes we can't recognize a HVM when he's right in front of us. We go chasing after these LVM who seem mysterious and fun and look where that got our girl Pocahontas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 11:33 PM
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We have to. We have to assume that any man giving us too much attention could be dangerous, especially those of us who live on our own/in areas without much social support. Men attack women at a rate that is too high for most women to comfortably do most public activities without safety precautions (i.e. carrying pepper spray, running with no music, etc.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 01:53 PM
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Why. Are. You. Messaging. Me. And. Pursuing. Me. If. You. Don't. Find. Me. Attractive. You're wasting my time and yours.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 02:55 PM
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I took the last message my ex sent to me and copy-pasted it into a note titled "why were not going to get into a relationship until we're sure ever again." We dated 6 months and the whole time we were together, he spouted off about he was only "dating seriously" and we broke up because he couldn't/wouldn't say I love you back. For your viewing pleasure: "Let me just start by saying I’m sorry. It was nothing that you ever did. You were the perfect girlfriend. You gave me all love and I really app…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 11:10 PM
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We could also add some of my personal favorites: number of children, criminal history, substance abuse, hatred for womankind, racism.. I could go on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 12:24 AM
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I had a friend like this for years. She was an unbelievably sweet person but her life choices were leaving her exhausted & depressed, and any type of get together with her involved begging her to come do something or dragging her out of the house. When I went off to college and she stayed in our hometown, I tried to keep the friendship going over text. She hardly ever reached out, if I did message her, it would take DAYS or WEEKS to respond which frankly, is offensive. She texted me about a mont…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 12:19 AM
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I used Bumble BFF as a twenty-year-old transferring to a 4-year University from a community college. I met my current best friend and some of my closest girlfriends through it and I highly recommend it for people my age. As for using it to find girlfriends in your 40s, that may be a little different. If I were you, I would try visiting gyms with women's only sections and seeing if you could meet anyone there. If there are fitness classes open in your area I would also look into joining some of t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 12:02 AM
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A cautionary tale for my fellow FDS followers: I had seen a guy a few times who had a lot of potential. From the start, he seemed like a very decent guy -educated -nice job -nice car -strong female role models -gentlemanly (paying for everything, walking on the street side of the sidewalk, etc.) -shared life goals/values We had seen each other 4-5 times and I decided I wanted to get to know him a little better, so we delved into some heavier topics. Somehow I got on the topic of LGBTQA+ people a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 11:57 PM
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I was wondering, if possible, what would be some HVM indicators in a tinder profile? I know I watch out for the bad things, but don't know of any consistent profile characteristics of men worth talking to
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 12:30 PM
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It got Doc Antle pretty far
/r/seduction03/07/20 03:02 AM
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That is the most akward text ever, "if we go out, you'll kiss me?" What? Who says that? Is he that desperate for affection?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 12:19 AM
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He found a job a few states over and asked me to come with/move in with him. I'd only known him a month, had my own apartment to still pay for/look after, and a job I'd have had to leave behind. So I said no, even in a state of self-sabotage I knew that moving away with him was a terrible idea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 03:58 PM
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I [F20] went to a [M28] guy's house for dinner. We went on one date and lived an hour away from each other, but this guy was tall, dark, & mysterious and I was intrigued, so I agreed. He gave me his address which turned out to be a small ranch in the middle of nowhere with overgrown shrubs & trash/debris littered all over the yard. I pulled up in his driveway and his black African mastiff ran out to my car and looked terrifying, I didn't even know he had a dog and was scared it would be aggressi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 03:31 PM
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I really don't understand where they even get the notion. Because we encourage women to have self-worth and not trap themselves in a miserable situation with partners who offer them no value in a relationship? Because we refer to some men as no/low value? We aren't dehumanizing them. We are saying that self-respecting women who don't want to be held back should avoid any romantic interaction with them, that is it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 03:23 PM
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I had a match who would agree to plans saying he was doing nothing, and then text and tell me he was busy doing something else and wouldn't be able to make it. He did it 3 times before I deleted him on everything. There are so many guys out there, don't feel bad for dodging some rando for a walk. If he can't show up for a casual walk, would he show up for a date? Not to mention he didn't apologize for not getting back to you in time or texting after the original meet up time. These two guys didn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 03:04 AM
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Things I've seen in the lasts couple days: Men wanting you to prove that you're worth a message back."Impress me, make me laugh, make me want to message you back" Bitterness, one guy said that if girls are the app they're "cheating on their man, bored and wasting men's time, toxic, or just wanting to hookup" Guys who just got out of relationships and want to "have fun" for a while. Guys who want a housewife, guys who want to just "see where things go" My personal OLD Bible: 1) he must message fi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 03:27 AM
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Does anyone else look at OLD profiles after FDS and mentally say "lvm, lvm, lvm, nvm," while swiping left? Just by the bios I can rule out so many men now that I know better. I wish little girls could get this when they become teenagers, it would've saved me so much grief.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 10:28 PM
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Surround yourself with loved ones. I know it's difficult right now, but even if its Skype or FaceTime calls to the most important people in your life, rely on them. Take care of you. Do whatever it is that makes you feel good. Buy a new outfit, treat yourself to that book/video game you've had your eye on, get outside, get lost in a good book/show/movie, find other things to put your mental energy toward. Organize your life. Make your space clean and tidy, make a list of your priorities, make a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 07:55 AM
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Do You ever get burnt out? I love the attention from dating lots of men but a date for me means being 100% my most attractive, bubbly, interesting self and that's exhausting. I like dates but I don't at the same time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 03:52 AM
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I too have tried this one and have found that it's the best one yet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 10:54 AM
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This! Honestly, I feel most women deal with things that would be deal breakers for a lot of people but just continue on because they don't want to be "crazy" or overreact. So what of you overreact. If he is really worth being with, or you're meant to be together, things will work out and you'll get back together. He will make changes, he will ask for you back. If he doesn't? Good riddance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 11:19 PM
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In my opinion, if you guys were hitting it off and you cancelled twice, she's frustrated. She feels like she's chasing you but thinks she shouldn't have to, so you need to lay out plans and a time, tell her you want to see her and are looking forward to it, and you absolutely cannot bail.
/r/seduction30/05/20 11:55 AM
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It may just be my area, but whenever I did have tinder, I'd have at least 4-5 of those every time I'd swipe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 07:11 AM
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You forgot #11: Farmboy Fred who has 12 pictures of his truck, dog, and fish/deer. The one picture that shows his face will be with friends and will be blurry, far away, and he'll have a signature "Busch latte" in his hand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 05:14 AM
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I go back and forth. I work and go to school and am fairly introverted, I don't like to flirt with coworkers or classmates because I see both as potential career opportunities and professional relationships, so I'm not sure exactly where I'm supposed to meet men. Studying at the library? Grocery shopping? Sitting alone reading at the park? In the middle of the woods on a hiking trail? Working out with earbuds in at the gym? And customers at work are a definite no. I agree that most men on there …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 01:12 AM
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What a shitty person, ew. I'm sorry. I hope that you can find a better work environment soon. I've been there and it's not fun.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 03:56 PM
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I worry that I'm this friend, but it's crying because I left another fuckboy/found out the new guy was just another lvm, and upset that I can't find anyone worth keeping around. Anyone else dealing with this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 04:13 PM
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"I love you" means jack shit, without "I love you" actions. Very well said. If he says one thing and does another, that old saying "actions speak louder than words" really starts to make a lot of sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 05:05 AM
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The title of the page, I'm crying 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 02:29 AM
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This! Guys who work hard for their money and do ok do not care at all. They'll come see you, give you gas money, pay for dates, & get you gifts all without batting an eye.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 03:28 AM
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My best friend's step mom growing up was two kids in when she finally realized that her husband was controlling and there was reason his family, exes, and other children wanted nothing to do with him. The house was in his name, the car, she had no credit card, bank account, or job. She had a 2 year old and a newborn. The idea of her situation serves as a constant reminder of why I have to support myself, and why I can't financially depend on anyone. Love the idea of a "fuck off fund." Having one…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 12:55 AM
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Yes! Let's start Rate my boyfriend, a Rate my professor style spinoff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 02:30 AM
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You do make a very good point. I think everyone is going through their own sort of struggle right now, and in some way each of us is trying to deal with that. You're right though, you're better off not associating with crappy men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 04:30 PM
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Do you guys ever just think about letting guys you know that aren't ideal into your life, maybe not necessarily as a partner or in a relationship, just because you miss having company? This is my first summer living alone and I just feel so damn lonely. Having a guy to cuddle up to at night is great, even if he's not husband material, you know? I went to the lake tonight at sunset all alone and just sat looking out across the water, I wish I could've had someone to share that with. Someone to dr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 03:28 AM
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Underrated comment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 06:05 PM
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Can confirm, my LVM ex ate 2 ramen noodles every night except Sundays, when I'd have him over to make dinner and spend time together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 06:02 PM
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When I started implementing some of the tactics of the sub into a relationship I was unhappy in, and my partner's behavior towards me changed. I realized that it wasn't just bad luck with men, that my eagerness to be in a relationship and be kind to someone was working against me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 03:59 PM
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This is the only OLD tip you need^
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 09:39 PM
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This reminds me of my ex. He was 23, I was 20, we had been dating for 6 months & spent all of our time together. He was serious enough about me to introduce me to his entire family, his childhood friends, his college friends, and suggest that we move in together in those 6 months. When I disclosed to him that I loved him, he got visibly angry, declared that he was still heartbroken over a girl from years before, and didn't think he'd ever be able to love me. It hurt, but I saw his true colors. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 11:10 AM
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That's insane, I'm sorry. Some people are unbelievably selfish. I'm glad that you're in a happier relationship, it's unfortunate that you can't get that time back but at least it was 5 years and not 10
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 10:23 PM
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Same girl 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 01:30 AM
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I was having a conversation with a male friend the other day. I live close to my college and had tinder before Covid, even during covid with most students gone, I was getting 10-15 matches a day. My female friends have had similar experiences. My male friend in a much larger city gets ~5 matches/month.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 05:06 PM
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Phase 2 is important to talk about too. It's difficult to identify HVM of you have never been around/in a relationship with one. Keep trying and keep demanding more, I wish you the best of luck and congratulations on your realization!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 03:48 AM
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Second this, congrats on moving on and realizing your worth <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 03:16 AM
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Exactly! And what did he do if you asked him to change even in the slightest way.. let me guess, got angry and flat out refused? I've dealt with that too, it's no good. Thank goodness for the sisterhood of FDS and growing as a woman!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 03:01 AM
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Having to defend your opinion or give a disclaimer before expressing yourself is detrimental to your mental health as well as being a sign of an extremely toxic relationship, thank you for sharing that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 02:59 AM
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This! Thank you for sharing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 02:56 AM
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I think lots of women do this. We so desperately want to find something in common with these guys, when in reality, it probably makes sense that we don't have anything in common with them, especially LVM/NVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 02:56 AM
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I recognize I few behaviors you mentioned, honestly finding FDS was wonderful. It feels so good not to think that you have to settle for behavior like that guy showed you. We live and we learn though, and you know what to watch out for if another handsome, accomplished & wealthy man happens to come along
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 02:54 AM
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I'm sorry, I'm glad that you've moved on from that though and that you recognize that behavior is not ok. On to better lives and relationships! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 02:52 AM
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Frat sloth is glorious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 07:51 PM
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Did you also notice his mannerisms? The arrogance and like asshole air about him which I'm all too familiar with in my dating history. I wish it was always this blatantly obvious that he's not a good guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 06:02 PM
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Am I wrong to think that even if people grow, if you go back to them after changing, you're kind of taking a step backwards and becoming the version of you that you already improved upon? I feel like after being in a relationship with someone, it's hard to "start fresh" or establish different ways of being in a relationship with that same person. 2-3 weeks after breaking up with my ex, he begged for a second chance, and it was so painfully awkward and difficult that it wasn't even worth it anymo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 05:33 PM
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Thank you, I did ask him to delete it that day, he made it my contact photo in his phone.. i may just let it go, I'm not sure I want to risk seeing him again to confront him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 08:41 PM
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Something that I don't want to accept but need to accept is that I don't need a partner. I don't need to love someone, I can take all of my love and energy that I so desperately want to give someone else and put it into myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 02:39 AM
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Hey everyone, I've been bothered by something. I've had a FWB relationship with someone since before Covid, we're only seeing eachother and are trying to be responsible as possible, but the other night he was talking about how he has no photos of me for a profile picture and then said he did have one photo, which was of my ass, in revealing shorts that I wear to bed to feel cute. I never knew he took the photo, not to mention that he had it saved in his phone, and it really bothers me. I'm not g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 01:06 AM
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Then 5'10 women like me get messages like "I'm short but we could make D1 babies" First, ew. Second, me, I'm the one that provides the tall athletic genes. I could make a D1 baby, but what went through your head that thought a) that I'd want to have a baby with you and b) that making that statement would be a good opener/acceptable?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 09:39 PM
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What I find funny about men posting "no big girls/fat chicks" on their profile, is that if they don't swipe on women of a certain body type, they can't match. Most decent human beings know traits they prefer and just naturally seek out or swipe on people with traits they find attractive without announcing it. This guy though, he had to say "hey! just in case you weren't aware, I'm a really big douche and need to make it KNOWN that I don't date fatties, because I'm insecure, sexist, and just a ge…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 09:36 PM
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Happy cake day!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 06:22 PM
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I once mentioned that I had a ONS with a frat guy to the guy I was seeing. The guy I'd been seeing was driving with me through my college town and saw a frat and said "is that the one?!" I was confused for a second and then disgusted... I'm a chronic over-sharer, but him making that comment was a wake-up call to stop telling men these things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 12:21 AM
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Me too. It's happened a couple times in public and I don't know how to handle it either. I always feel for the girl, and usually they're very pretty, just crappy men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 12:19 AM
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Talk to him about it. I prefer talking on the phone, especially if I want to ask him a specific/pressing question or make plans. I've mentioned to a couple different guys that I prefer a quick 5-10 minute phone call over 1-2 hours of texting to get the same info. One guy continued to text me and the other calls me out of the blue just to talk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 01:31 AM
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I honestly think whoever you're with should be proud to be with you. I'm not saying you should be all over social media all the time talking about your relationship, but a flattering photo or an appreciation post doesn't hurt. I've been with men who have never posted me, and men who have had me all over their social media. Everybody has a preference but it feels good to have someone who thinks you're so beautiful and amazing that he wants to brag about you to any person he gets the chance to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 10:40 PM
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You put yourself and and what's best for you above everything else. You'll become more confident, and by changing your mindset and after putting more time and effort into yourself, you'll radiate that confidence and self-love. Women who know their worth radiate that boss babe energy because they won't accept any less than what they deserve.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 09:02 PM
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Yes, I agree
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 08:16 PM
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This is the only way I'm accepting communication from exes from here on out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 05:55 PM
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I feel like many women who try to date multiple men to keep their options open end up falling into the false dichotomy that the woman in the post did. She didn't HAVE to be with Alex or her husband, but because she wanted a relationship and had such a bad experience with Alex, she settled with him. I've found myself in relationships I wasn't satisfied with because of the same false dichotomy. You talk to a guy who seems alright, but in reality you know he doesn't give you butterflies, so you mee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 05:48 PM
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That's exactly what I think. What is she, the live-in maid that he has sex with occasionally? That's not a healthy relationship. They're both home, both should be contributing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 09:58 PM
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Why not screenshot some incriminating messages, block out your name and number, leave his photo or number on them, and send them to her via an anonymous account. Say "hi, I saw you are engaged to blank, he's been messaging me and I know I'd want to know if my fiancee was talking to other people in this way. Take this as you will, but woman to woman, I wanted to look out for you." You don't even have to see what she says, you can block both of them and never deal with this issue again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 09:50 PM
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I know I do this all the time too. I meet a man with potential and start analyzing his personality in terms of what I think a husband should be like. Although this is important, you are only 23, and marriage could be quite a ways off especially with grad school coming up soon (good on you!). I think you should enjoy this process of getting to know him and try not worry too much about music tastes or more minute characteristics. If you guys begin dating and things between you get more serious, th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 09:28 PM
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The other night I decided I wanted to start being a little more healthy during Quarantine and pickup running. I live alone on a busy street, so I don't want to be watched when I run during the day, so I decided to go at night. My 25 minute route barely was a 10 minute one because I was so scared to be out running by myself on a busy street with street lights at 9 o clock at night. It's just sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 06:22 PM
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When I was a kid, I remember wishing I could hear people's thoughts, because I know what my thoughts when I'm out and about are. "I'm hungry, I could go for a cheeseburger right now" "did I do that reading for tomorrow?" "that lady has gorgeous hair" "I haven't talked to Emma for a while, maybe I'll see how she's doing." And then there are creepy pedophiles like that man lurking about, fantasizing about harming young women? That's absolutely terrifying. What percentage of the population thinks l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 04:20 PM
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Sure!
/r/seduction12/04/20 10:16 AM
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Yes, some women will be attracted to status/possesions/money. Know that if those things are what gets a woman to come to you, if for whatever reason those things go away, she most likely will too. Because of that, I would try to win someone over the old fashioned way--by getting them to like you for you. Do you go for a certain type of woman that may not be into you? I have a male friend who, although I'd never tell him to his face, has outrageously high standards. He's in his 30's, overweight, …
/r/seduction12/04/20 09:57 AM
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Honestly, is it worth the headache even if he isn't? After one date you owe him nothing, and if you already feel like he's hot and cold or trying to play games, move on. Any guy I've had the same issue with that early on has continued to be a headache until we stopped talking. There are lots of fish in the sea girl, I say toss him back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 09:35 AM
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It's undoubtedly shady and inconsiderate. Technically, he didn't have to use his points to get her a ticket, and the points used for her ticket are points he can't use for one for himself, but they both wanted to go on the trip. I don't know the man or woman's financial situation, but most people who have flown enough or have a job that flies them places that frequently can typically afford a 4-day couple's retreat every once in a while. Personally, I know that the men that I date at this point …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 09:29 AM
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Where is the post about older men?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 03:37 PM
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Hey ladies, I hope everyone is living their best lives and keeping Covid-free. I have a question for the younger women of the sub but would love for everyone to weigh in, have any other young women experienced older men offering money, gifts, trips, flying you out to see them, or even bringing up moving in together very early on? I want to know what you guys think of this behavior, I can't decide if it's indicative of a HVM or LVM. I've had two different guys do this in the past year, offer to p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 01:29 AM
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Happy cake day!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 08:53 PM
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Preach!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 12:25 AM
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Yes! I don't know why in the past I wanted to cling so desperately to a man. I knew I could get other men, I knew that I was attractive, but for some reason I wanted to stick things out. 1 week off is fine, you talk about it. Months that feel off and leave you constantly stressed and questioning? It's a toxic relationship.that you don't need.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 06:08 AM
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It's very eye opening
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 01:56 AM
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I'm having this exact dilemma now. Doesn't everyone want to be with someone who thinks of them as a 10?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 08:20 PM
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Me alegra que sabes que lo que estás haciendo gastando tanto tiempo con hombres que en realidad no te trata como deben tratarte.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 05:13 AM
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I am dating a man, we're both in our early 20's, and he switched constantly between being very HV and LV, which in my mind makes him LV. I was very into him, at one point I wanted to tell him I was in love with him, but he didn't seem to reciprocate those feelings and now I don't think I really have feelings for him at all. I started reading this sub pretty religiously after I didn't feel he felt the same, and now that I'm pulling away and letting go of all of my pickmeisha-y tendencies, he want…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 04:21 PM
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Yes. We were together for YEARS and I had to ask him to send me something for my birthday, that's what he decided to send.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 03:05 AM
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He refers to you as "a girl" when talking to his friends. He forgets special occasions like birthdays or holidays or sends hurtfully thoughtless gifts (e.g. a gas station sympathy card as a birthday card). He makes you pay for half/everything early on. The only time you two hangout is at night at his place. You do all of the driving. Basically my last "situationship."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 02:07 AM
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This was very helpful, thank you! I can't deny that I do wish his reaction was different, it definitely hurts my feelings that he is so passive about it. I receive it like he's sure that I wouldn't ever cheat on him, which from a romantic standpoint would typically be good, but I also kind of take it as "she couldn't do any better than me/wouldn't dare." I tend to feel guilty if a man asks me out or shows interests even if I never hinted at wanting that kind of attention, so that's the main reas…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 03:59 AM
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I like to be forthcoming with him when men approach me because I'd like to know when/if women approach him. I'm 20 and in college, he's 23 and graduated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 02:06 AM
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He does have social media and I don't believe I'm on any of it, although my name is in his phone with a kissing face emoji, and I didn't ask him to do that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 01:25 AM
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Yes, I'm introduced as his girlfriend, we go to parties and play games with some of his closest friends. His parents have seen me quite a few times as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 01:24 AM
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What does it mean if you're in a committed relationship, have met his family and friends, but when you get asked out to dinner by other men, he laughs and says "go ahead."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 01:10 AM
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You're not wrong
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 11:33 PM
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Yes lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 06:15 PM
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My dad told me to never date a man who licks/bites his lips frequently and is constantly grooming himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 02:42 AM
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I needed to see this, it's definitely time to start prioritizing myself for once
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 01:26 AM
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My current BF had some LVM qualities earlier on in this relationship, but has otherwise been high value, and as of late, has done just about everything right. We're going on 5 months together and we haven't said I love you, and that makes me extremely uncomfortable. Last night, I asked him how many people he has told that he loved, he told me 2. I asked if he actually loved both, and he said yes. Then the subject was changed. My r/relationship_advice post
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 04:05 PM
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at nozium Not a hater, just trying to help a sister out: ad nauseam <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 06:08 PM
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Doja Cat! I love a ton of her music. Her new album Hot Pink is full of good songs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 04:16 AM
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Want to share some of your tips & tricks?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 05:59 PM
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Guys never forget the girl who hurt their ego. This is true! One of my male family members always had all kinds of girls. To my understanding, he never really took any of them seriously, until he met his future wife. Their relationship wasn't much different than any of the others in the past, but she was the only girl to ever leave him, and it really hurt him. He played sad music in his room and cried over her for days. A few years later, they got back together, and now they've been married more…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 04:31 PM
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Men are going to do what they want. People are going to do what they want. Picture a HVM, would he really let you have any doubt that he may be sleeping with someone else? I feel like if you aren't sure that you have a man's undivided attention from the start (only texts during the week, never answering the phone or responding to you on weekends, never meeting up for dinner on a Friday or Saturday night or just never doing dinner in general), then those are red flags right there. I wouldn't let …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 03:30 AM
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LOVE how you wrote this out, I've never looked at it this way but it makes total sense. Straight men choosing women is an entirely different process than straight women choosing men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 02:42 AM
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I know a lot of people idolize John Legend and Chrissy Teigen's relationship, as well as Steph and Ayesha Curry's.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 05:36 PM
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When I dated online, I would ask to face time or Skype my dates before we met. I never was surprised that they weren't who they said they were on a date, and I could get a feeling for if I was going to feel comfortable around them or not. Most guys were happy to do it too. When I was living at home with my parents, I'd have to give them the guy's name and age before I left, just in case anything happened. I'd usually text a friend the information if I didn't want to share it with my family. Driv…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 05:31 PM
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This! I used to use OLD to find someone to spend time with down at school. One time I met someone and this guy seemed great, handsome, solid job, nice car, wanted to meet right away, respectful, charming. He was 25 and I was 19. He was visiting the frat members who were freshman when he was a senior down at my school, they're now seniors. We went out to eat, and started making out, and he kept saying "you're such a baby" "you're so young" "you're younger than my cousins that Ive always considere…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 02:48 PM
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I'm happy for you! I was in your situation not too long ago. The only thing I'd say here is make sure you let him down easy. You do not have to kiss him or sleep with him, but if he was kind to you like you said he was, make sure he knows he didn't do anything wrong, you just don't think that you guys are compatible. I love the sisterhood of this sub, it's nice to see so many women realizing their worth and that their lives do not have to revolve around a man, but I worry that we can sometimes b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 03:41 PM
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When I was younger, maybe 12-14, I was harshly bullied in school for being tall and unattractive. Now that I'm 20, I feel I'm normal in terms of my level of attractiveness, but I try not to put all my energy into that. I'm going to school to be an attorney, I volunteer, I'm more focused on being beautiful on the inside rather than the outside. I'm fairly optimistic, and it was pretty disappointing to read men spout off about how they treat ugly women vs. pretty women. Disgusting actually. In my …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 03:24 PM
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The fucked up thing is that man will have reassured that woman that he didn't just want sex, even when he did. So then she will assume that what he tells her is he actual intention. There are women who just want to have sex too. I don't understand why some guys will manipulate women who want relationships when there are women who want the same thing that they do--just sex, fwb. Is it really so hard for them to get girls that are attracted to them that when one finally comes along, he has to lie …
/r/MGTOW29/12/19 04:41 PM
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Ultimately it's up to you, you have an important decision to make. If he's the man you want to come home to, raise children with, and grow old with, then wait for him to be ready. On the other hand, don't settle because you want to get married soon though, or pressure him into speeding things along. Neither of you will be happy if you do that. You absolutely have time. Freeze some eggs if you're really concerned about fertility. If you have to ask if you should stay, I think you already made up …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 03:56 PM
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