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| 29 | "If he wanted to, he would" is NOT A REFLECTION OF YOU CHARACTER.In my mid-twenties, I was head over heels for a guy in his late-thirties who lived across the country in a posh metropolitan area. He had a “fancy” job title at a household-name company. I’d guess that almost half of FDS members and lurkers own at least one product that he personally was very instrumental in creating and have probably even seen his name in relation to the product. He was always inviting me to VERY exclusive events such as product launches and industry expos. I flew cross-country… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 04:15 AM |
| 9 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: October 16 2020I was at my boyfriend’s house this weekend and he got a call from his sister who lives across the country. He went to the garage to take the call and I went to take a shower and get ready for the day. When I was done, I came back to the living room and I could hear him still talking to his sister, but he obviously didn’t know I was there. (Side note: We’ve been together for almost a year, but I’ve never met his sister since she lives so far away, and also they weren’t speaking to each other for … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 02:01 AM |
| 105 | I used to go to Starbucks often & the cute barista would always write my name with a heart on it. I asked once about a little treat that comes w/ coffee and he always remembered it & gave me more than he was allowed. Every. Time. If a random guy can do this ur bf can remember the things you likeMy ex could never remember my parents’ names, even after five years and seeing them on all holidays and other times throughout the year. It always made me feel like he didn’t give a shit about me, because he couldn’t be bothered to learn the names of the people most important to me. It even took him a couple of years to remember my middle name. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 01:39 AM |
| 16 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered September 1 2020Just a little story of something that happened this weekend: I currently rent and was telling my boyfriend of almost 10 months that when my lease is up in exactly one year, I hope to be buying a house. He responded with a smile “who knows, maybe we’ll be ready to live together then and we can get a place together.” This is the first time we ever directly talked about living together/the future, so I responded “not without a ring and vows I won’t,” to which he agreed. He brought it up again yeste… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 10:19 PM |
| 3 | Even in 1960, the 50/50 pickme chick wasn’t the woman you truly wanted to be withThanks for the info! When I Googled Helen Williams, I saw one site that said Vanessa’s mother was a model named Helen, and another said she was a teacher named Helen. Looks like she was a teacher, and the other site is mistaken. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 12:04 AM |
| 5 | Even in 1960, the 50/50 pickme chick wasn’t the woman you truly wanted to be withIs this Vanessa Williams’s Mother? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 11:43 PM |
| 78 | When he says that he didn't feel a spark, it means that there was another woman in the picture all along. Never trust a "perfect" first date!!Same here, when I’ve received that line in the past it was because he had found another woman. Either (A) I wasn’t putting out and he found someone else who did, or (B) I did sleep with him, but he found someone he thought was hotter/easier to manipulate/his dream woman. Scenario (A) - Some men just want to pump and dump, so if they haven’t been able to bed you in a few dates, they find someone else who is willing to have sex with them. There’s a good chance that he just pumped and dumped her an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 06:00 PM |
| 11 | I kinda want to know the most insane/funny stuff a score has ever said to you!When I broke up with my ex, he told me that I’m going to have a hard time dating because I’m old for a woman (I was 32). He also said that men age like fine wine and just get better with time. He was 36, starting to bald and had gained at least 60 pounds during our relationship. The last time I saw him (maybe four or five months ago), he looked like he gained another 20 pounds, which would put him around 300 pounds at 5’7”. His face literally looked like a balloon that was about to pop, I’m wond… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 05:10 PM |
| 7 | Insecure yet cocky men men are a disease. Avoid them like the plague.I don’t think it works as often as they think it does, but sadly it works on some Pickmes because they want to try to convince or prove to him that they’re not (whatever negative thing he said about them). Those women usually have very low self esteem, which makes them easy targets for shit like negging and abuse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 04:58 PM |
| 21 | Am I being too tough on the OLD match?If the question is “Am I being too tough,” the answer is always no. Remember that women have been conditioned to bend over backwards and cater to men, so deviating from the script even slightly feels like we’re being too tough. In reality, we’re finally learning to stand up for ourselves, and it feels so good! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 04:46 PM |
| 15 | Why are there so many men on tinder who are poly or couples who are looking for a unicorn?When I first started dating my ex in 2014, he introduced me to his friend group of 20 or so people. I noticed an extreme overlap in the amount of people who were poly, into BDSM, and liked LARPing. Everyone in the group was into at least one of those things, but most were into all three. Others characteristics these people all shared: Unattractive. Most of the guys were morbidly obese, and the ones who weren’t were unhealthily stick thin with no muscle. Most of them had wardrobes that consisted … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 04:35 PM |
| 20 | He's thinking of leaving her because she's not his "playboy bunny" anymore.I don’t know, but he says he’s one! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 01:51 AM |
| 52 | He's thinking of leaving her because she's not his "playboy bunny" anymore.But he’s “a In Executive,” so he must be very smart | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 12:15 AM |
| 2 | My friend recently got back into the dating game and just sent me these screenshots of a man asking for all the benefits of a girlfriend but to only hang-out as "friends." The nerve.I wonder if any woman has ever said been impressed by Joe Dirt here sliding into her DMs asking her to do meth with him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 01:21 AM |
| 38 | this is life without FDS...“Maybe next time he leaves to fuck a woman from Tinder, you should offer to go with him and help! Threesomes really spice up a relationship. In fact, male biology is wired to require threesomes! Also, he’s looking at porn so much because you are now 21, which means you’re an old hag who has hit the wall. You have to understand that male biology means they only want young fertile girls, not used up roasties who are old enough to legally drink.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 12:36 AM |
| 28 | this is life without FDS...“Have you tried communicating? He’s not a mind reader. Until you tell him otherwise, he has know way of knowing that you don’t like being beaten within an inch of your life.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 12:30 AM |
| 156 | Peak LVM right hereShe’ll never be able to forget what he said. I know that from experience. She needs to leave him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 06:47 PM |
| 6 | Can older guys even fuck?I’m not. I did in the past. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 10:23 AM |
| 11 | Can older guys even fuck?My boyfriend is mid-30s and gets rock hard and occasionally can do back to back sessions. In my experience, in addition to porn, the other main factor that leads to soft dicks and bad sex is obesity more so than age. Every morbidly obese guy I’ve been with had trouble staying hard, in addition to a small dick (because there’s a huge fat pad that covers half of it). In addition, the sex is bad because they can’t go as deep (small penis + their huge gut gets in the way) and they’re not physically … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 02:17 AM |
| 6 | What are some professions, industries or hobbies that are likely to have a higher percentage of HVM?My boyfriend is an engineer, and the first HVM I’ve been with. 90% of the people I work with are male engineers, and most of them seem HV—married, seem to love their wives and family and always say positive things about them, and are respectful to everybody at work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 12:56 AM |
| 6 | For real thoughPaying the bills is the bare minimum. That’s like saying send me a pic of you breathing oxygen | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 07:09 PM |
| 6 | Pickmes be like, "If I just say the cost of the engagement ring does not matter and confirm that I have no standards, the LVM will finally feel compelled to propose to me" as if that's how it actually works. Subtly lying 2 yourself about accepting bare minimum as "love" won't make him love u harder!I feel like a real man would be embarrassed to have his fiancée showing off an $80 engagement ring. It’s a reflection of him, it just shows that he can’t and won’t provide for his future wife. I like to think that a HVM would want to give his fiancée the best ring he can afford, and he will take pride in her having a nice ring and showing it off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 04:28 PM |
| 3 | Found an old cringey pickmeisha conversation of mine. Long but worth it.My ex did the same thing, he would try to pressure and guilt me into threesomes. He even tried to gaslight me by saying that mandatory threesomes was a condition I agreed to in order to have a relationship him. Never once in my life did I ever agree to that, but he swore up and down that I did and even said that I was “violating the verbal contract” by refusing them. I’ve since realized that a man who puts his sexual fantasies of threesomes over his partner’s happiness and sexual boundaries is a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 04:21 PM |
| 4 | Link this dude sends his matches. Click and decide if you wanna laugh or cry.was raised by a single mother. Watched her get hurt many times and make many mistakes from which I learned a lot. Made me believe how important it is to treat a woman right. Yet his third sentence says he refuses to date single mothers. Guess it’s because he saw his mom get hurt by LVMs and he knows he will be the same way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 04:14 PM |
| 4 | How do I recover from a guy I was dating ghosting (and possibly blocking) me?Now you delete, block and forget about him. Once you reached out to him, he’s now “trying to set up a date?” Sis, I don’t want to sound like Yoda but there is no “try”...he literally has to just ask you if you want to go to X place at Y time. This man is a loser who is wasting your time. Never reach out to a man after he goes silent. He was probably talking to someone else those two days. That’s what men like him do. That’s fine, because you don’t want a man like that anyway. You want a man who’… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 04:05 PM |
| 18 | there was no need to put other women like that. I guess she just wanted to be all 'look at me, I'm better than you!!1'Same here. My two exes were short (5’8” and 5’7”) and were abusive. My current boyfriend is 6’1” and is amazing. I would never dream of posting something like this with him and saying how short men are abusive. And I sure as hell won’t call him my king! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 03:37 PM |
| 29 | “She takes care of me and the kids and provides financially...but I like sleeping with you.” Can we take art supplies away from men?Why did he draw the man as a normal looking, attractive guy but drew the woman as some kind of grotesque, deformed, Michael Jackson-looking abomination? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 07:09 PM |
| 3 | Man asks for tips to help him stalk a Twitch streamer because her likes her. We can’t have anything nice without men trying to insert themselves and their desires.I once met a man who told me liked watching a certain YouTube channel, and one day the channel did a video that introduced the hand model that sometimes appears in videos. I guess it was the first video that showed her face. He said that he thought she was pretty, so he sent her a message on Instagram asking her if she wanted to get to know him and possibly date. Ca you imagine the scrotacity you’d have to have to do something like that? They don’t even live on the same continent. Why does he th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 01:52 AM |
| 6 | Woman buys her husband an Apple Watch for their five year anniversary. He gets her...Reddit gold. 🤡Done with men who don’t know how to give gifts. I was recently thinking about how my ex literally never got me a gift. Ever, in the 4+ years we were together. At the beginning he would say “buy something on Amazon and I’ll pay for it”. Umm, I have a job, I can do that myself. Toward the end he used the excuse “Valentine’s Day/Christmas/birthdays are just made up capitalist money grabbing blah blah blah.” My current boyfriend on the other hand got me a Christmas gift and he’s not even a Christian… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 01:33 AM |
| 2 | Are most men really able to have sex with most remotely attractive women?I’m not who you were replying to, but thank you for such informative comments! It confirms what I had thought to be true. I had read something before that said men didn’t go around trying to “spread their seed” by having sex with every single woman who crossed their path, due to the fact that resources are finite. They would have children with one woman who was almost guaranteed to get pregnant instead of sleeping with dozens and dozens of women and having to spread the resources so thin by prov… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 08:04 PM |
| 19 | I have no words. This guy doesn’t want to live with his girlfriend and future baby because the relationship is too “new.” I hope this woman gets out before the baby comes.I’m just not sure yet where I see us long term Umm, hopefully he sees the two of them raising a child together, regardless of whether or not they’re still romantically involved. Is he not aware that he’s now tied to this woman for life? We dated for eight months before she got pregnant. She’s currently 14 weeks and has decided to keep the baby. Okay, that means it’s been almost a year now. And he still doesn’t know where he sees the relationship going long term. He has no intention of marrying h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 07:39 PM |
| 126 | Excuse the profanity, but her passion spoke to me. I’ve been here. Black women, you DO NOT need to struggle behind a man to one day be worthy of love!! You are not losing anything by letting go of a man who mistreats you!“I bring three tables to your table, and chairs” Yes! I love this so much! So tired of hearing men say “So what do you bring to the table?” Like what they bring to the table is so great and now we have to prove we’re good enough for them. Even though as women, we typically bring to the table emotional support, 50% of the rent and bill money, 100% of the child birthing and its related risks, 100% of the child rearing and 100% of the housework. Why are they asking anyway, we could bring only our b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 07:21 PM |
| 1 | Is it okay to continue having a busy schedule with a boyfriend?I actually go over there more often. Mostly because I prefer it because it means I can get up and go whenever I want, plus he always buys a lot of food for us to cook and he has a grill, sous vide, smoker and a lot of cooking stuff I don’t have since he owns a home and I’m in a small apartment. Also, he has a dog and it’s easier for me to periodically check on my cat than it is for him to keep running home to let the dog out and then come back. He’s brought the dog over before, but he hates gett… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 04:30 AM |
| 14 | Is it okay to continue having a busy schedule with a boyfriend?Wont stay over because he doesn’t like your cat? Instant block/delete. My boyfriend doesn’t really care for cats, but when he comes over he lets mine jump in his lap. He knows how much she means to me, and if he has a problem with it, well let’s just say I hope the door doesn’t hit him where the good lord split him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 04:19 AM |
| 20 | Subtle “dick pick” with a side of “emotional connection”Looks like just hobbled off the crapper | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 04:01 AM |
| 22 | I’m in my 50’s, and so is this guy. Ladies, tell your moms/sisters/older friends about this subreddit. These scumbags are still doing it when their older. His next message was “I can add you on messenger” when I didn’t respond, he deleted the whole thread.So in his opinion, the only options are either go for a drive together alone down old country backroads (creepy!) or meet his family? There is no in between? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 02:16 AM |
| 5 | 🤣🤣🤣🤣Yup. Different sides of the same coin. Makes me think of something I saw on here that said something along the lines of “the far right wants women’s bodies as private property, and the far left wants women’s bodies as public property” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 12:56 AM |
| 68 | Aw you tired from carrying around all that audacity?This kinda reminds me of a woman I used to work with. She said she’d ask her husband to do things around the house (such as hang a picture or cut down a tree), and he’d always say “I’ll get around to it” and give excuses as to why he couldn’t do it right away. She learned that if she told her husband’s best friend about it, he would come over to do it. As soon as her husband saw his friend starting to work on it, the husband would send him home and would end up doing it himself right there on th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 09:59 PM |
| 30 | Thanks to FDS I can see all the red flags in this sloppy attempt to reel me back in. They know what they’re doing & they don’t care till their access is revoked. He’ll be waiting for that reply forever.So tired of hearing men half-ass apologize for “charitably” ghosting because “I was wasting your time” or “you deserved better”. Everyone knows he ghosted because his peepee encountered someone or something else that made it hard. As soon as he (or more likely, the other woman) lost interest, he goes down his contacts list sending this same bullshit message about how he was “just doing the right thing at the time” by ghosting. Puh-lease. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 09:54 PM |
| 170 | What was the biggest/most shocking FDS revelation for you?I’ve always known that men look down on women who chase them, but just recently I was shaken to the core by a post I saw on FDS. It was a screenshot of an askmen post, and a man said something along the lines of “I’m leery of women who are interested in me. If she likes someone like me, what other kind of sleazy, lowlife, disgusting things is she into? I deserve better.” That “I deserve better” line was like a slap in the face. A self-admitted piece of shit thinks he deserves better? Does not co… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 09:41 PM |
| 51 | Why do men do this, it really irritates me. If you know you're not ready for a relationship or don't want one with her, then just leave her alone. Don't string a woman along just to feed your ego.Exactly! So many men are just looking for a chance to “upgrade”. As soon as he finds that 18 year old billionaire Victoria’s Secret model who he deserves, he’s outta there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 09:15 PM |
| 58 | Why do men do this, it really irritates me. If you know you're not ready for a relationship or don't want one with her, then just leave her alone. Don't string a woman along just to feed your ego.What a great, comprehensive comment! So many of these are things I saw in my last relationship, things I was gaslighted into believing were okay because “It’s the 21st century, men and women can be jUsT fRiEnDs!” or “It’s 2018, threesomes are sO FeMiNiSt and eMpOwErInG!” And I was “jealous”, “insecure” or “controlling” if I didn’t like it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 09:13 PM |
| 40 | Since they always want us taken while they remain single...I can’t believe how many men do this. I had this happen years ago, and I thought it meant there was something wrong with me—either I wasn’t good enough because he wanted to do this, or maybe I’m just naive to be upset about it because all men do it, it’s nOrMaL and ExPeCtEd for men to do this! But really, now I know that the men that do this are the ones that have something wrong with them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 03:47 PM |
| 3 | Dumped.. 😞Life only gets better from here, because now you’re learning what to look out for and avoid. Think about it—you’ll never have another LVM/NVM in your life ever again! That is so freeing! I’m 33 and I’m in my first healthy relationship after a failed marriage and a failed long term relationship. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 9 months, and things have been great, but I know that I can pull the trigger at any moment and leave if I need to. I’d rather a temporary heartache than years wasted with t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 03:18 AM |
| 24 | The double standard is astoundingAgreed! And if it’s not size, LVMs and NVMs will find a way to criticize breast shape, nipple size, shape, and color, the appearance of veins or nipple hair, whether the nipples are inverted or not, the direction(s) the nipple(s) face, breast perkiness or lack thereof, how they look in a bra, how they look without a bra, how they look head on vs how they look from the side, how they fall when you lie down, how dense they feel, whether they’re symmetrical or not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 03:08 AM |
| 25 | This is the kind of guy that would say "wOmEn aRe ToO pIcKy" despite listing TWENTY-NINE extremely specific things he wants in a woman...She wants to wear clothes from Altar’d State, but wouldn’t know where to begin altardstate dot com would be a good start | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 12:33 AM |
| 25 | When men think your options will dwindle without their golden penisAgreed. He was always talking about how “sex work is empowering” and “porn is empowering”...notice how all the “feminist” ideals he championed were ones that benefit him and other men? Meanwhile he tried to coerce me into threesomes I didn’t want, he called me “loose”, and he said I’d never find anyone because I’m old for a woman and I have a daughter. He also never lifted a finger around the house. Last I saw him, he invited me over to grab some things I’d left behind. He was living with anothe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 11:54 PM |
| 8 | How to propose in 2020... the bar was already so lowI just want us to propose to each other How does that even work? “Ok, on the count of three, we’ll both say it. 1, 2, 3...Will you marry me? “ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 10:23 PM |
| 4 | Questions I Cant AnswerI was just talking about the this today with my friend. All NVMs I know either are incapable of building/fixing things or are too lazy/pretend not to know. My current boyfriend is well-educated with an office job yet does his own mechanical work on his car (and mine!) and is in the process of renovating his house by himself. It was so surprising to me when, before we started dating, he told me he completely replaced his sewer line and changed out all the copper water pipes under the house to som… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 10:19 PM |
| 43 | When men think your options will dwindle without their golden penisThank you for sharing! That was a great read. Very satisfying. He was such an asshole for pointing out that his girlfriend is “big” and saying he was surprised the tall tattooed guy would be with his girlfriend when he could instead have someone “hot”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 10:07 PM |
| 38 | When men think your options will dwindle without their golden penisWhen I left my ex, he told me “good luck finding someone else, because you’re 32 now and it’s hard for women your age.” Meanwhile he’s 36, and the best of all is that he’s a self-proclaimed “woke feminist.” And yes, I actually ended up having great luck because I wasn’t even looking for a boyfriend but I had a man heavily pursue me and ask me out. I gave him a chance, and here we are still together 9 months later and I’ve never been treated so well by a boyfriend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 09:53 PM |
| 50 | Came across this old post. Sadly, it’s not satire. There’s just so much wrong here.Sounds like it might be a creative writing assignment lol. At first I thought it was a satire sub making fun of people who act like that, but sadly it’s not. This guy is either for real, or he’s writing fanfiction for other men who are eating it up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 02:08 AM |
| 30 | Dirty John: Betty - why I am so glad to have shifted my mindsetI’m listening to the original podcast Dirty John now, and can’t wait to watch the shows after I finish. A lot of times I find myself saying aloud “how could you believe that?!” in regards to the lies John would tell Debra, but then I remind myself that when you’re gaslighted and abused, you start to believe many things you wouldn’t otherwise believe. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 01:53 AM |
| 4 | Some Scrote set up an OnlyFans account for me using my email that I posted on a Tutoring Service flyerWhen I was in my early twenties, my older half-sister’s extremely NVM dad, who I never even met in person except once when I was like 10, made a fake Facebook page using my pictures and my name. Under “job” he wrote “under the desk at the holiday inn” and also posted a lot of risqué pictures that weren’t me. All of the friends on the account were pervy looking old men. I have no idea why he did that or what I ever did to him—like I said, I only saw him one time in my life when I was 10, and it w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 12:36 AM |
| 30 | Men meet tons of high value relationship worthy women every day and they just aren’t interested. High value women are a dime a dozen. Meanwhile we are thirsty for every single drop of attention a mediocre male gives us.He says he’s having a hard time falling in love because he’s had his heart broken in the past, but let’s be honest—he probably just can’t find the 18 year old, 5’11, 115 pound, F cup, 20 inch waisted, large round butted billionaire model of his dreams that he deserves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 11:09 PM |
| 8 | The message I got after the last comment I posted here...Bold to assume he has a job at all! :P | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 10:43 PM |
| 3 | Name a film you used to love but now makes you cringe because of the glaring toxicity it's encouraging or trying to market as drama/romance.Wow I forgot all about She’s Too Young! And it reminded me of Girl, Positive as well | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 09:40 PM |
| 3 | How are we supposed to find a HVM when males are openly lusting after teen girls? IMDB reviews for Train to Busanhis pregnant wife You mean the “knocked-up girl, which is for sure unattractive”? These men are disgusting and need to be removed from the gene pool. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 09:24 PM |
| 33 | Ladies, please for the love of GOD do not have children OR marry a cheater! Don’t ever take back an ex - EVER. This woman took back her cheating boyfriend after the first year together. Now 5 kids later it’s ramped up online again. He had the AUDACITY to blame her for finding out.Clearly he only sees her as a breeding machine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 10:31 AM |
| 5 | When LVM Abandon Their Responsibilities To Be Petty.I hope you get to keep the cats when you guys finalize the separation or divorce. Keep all these screenshots. Best of luck, and that’s a beautiful kitty ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 12:54 AM |
| 15 | *barf emojis everywhere*Also, is it just me seeing things or are their stains on his shirt? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 12:51 AM |
| 15 | So, I’m putting into practise never meeting someone for drinks.... And men insist on being LV. Boy bye. (The photos were of his friend and him driving around and eating sushi? I don’t even know you, why would I care to see this...)“You can order a water! I’ll even pay!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 12:50 AM |
| 8 | Instead of sending this reply, I blocked him. Not spending time on guys who don’t do the basics.And apparently even “real” engineers are guilty. My boyfriend, who has a bachelors in Mechanical Engineering, said that while his job title is Engineer, he technically shouldn’t be called an engineer because he doesn’t have a Professional Engineer license. Apparently it’s the law in some states. His company doesn’t care about PE licenses though and calls anyone with the degree an engineer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 12:10 AM |
| 8 | Instead of sending this reply, I blocked him. Not spending time on guys who don’t do the basics.Hate it when men misrepresent their job. My ex claimed to be a “tenured professor” with a PhD, and even had his email and online personas as “doctor(hisname)”. He also had a disgusting holy t-shirt he constantly wore that said “doctor of philosophy” in huge letters. He was actually an instructor at a community college who had a masters degree. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 12:01 AM |
| 36 | Do they really like women?I always think of that famous post from the guy who complained that women’s vaginas are too close to our anus, and because of that, we don’t deserve to be confident and have good self-esteem. It’s like dude, it’s clear that you’re gay, and that’s completely fine! Why spend so much energy complaining about female anatomy? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 11:57 PM |
| 85 | r/niceguys: im a really nice guy and if you dont fuck me im going to call you a whore and threaten your life. meanwhile what the scrotes are whining about on r/nicegirls:She didn’t even call everyone ugly! She said most guys are ugly, not everyone. Also I like how he conveniently didn’t mention the part where she said that most guys are also cheaters. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 08:47 AM |
| 22 | Why are men allowed to look like this? 🤢🤢🤢I was flipping through a tv streaming service today and saw a show called “Beauty and the Geek” that I guess is a reality dating show featuring model-tier women with fugly nerds. There would never be a show with “unattractive” women dating hot men. If they did, they would fetishize it, such as another show I saw on the same streaming service that had 500+ pound women whose boyfriends fetishized their obesity and try to make them gain even more weight. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 11:40 PM |
| 4 | What is your opinion on freemasonry?My HVM dad is extremely involved. His lodge is pretty much nothing but senior citizens and he’s met some really good friends who seem to be decent people and many are business owners, influential people, etc. They do a lot of fundraising for the community. His lodge really supports the Eastern Star ladies that also meet there. He seems to be more spiritual ever since joining. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 01:37 AM |
| 43 | I Guess the r/TheRedPill Dorks' Plan to Rebrand Themselves as "Men's Self Help" rather than Misogynist, Emotionally Abusive Rapists isn't going well. Notice how you have NEVER seen something this manipulative on r/FemaleDatingStrategy despite all the claims we're "the same".she will be reeling with all kinds of bonding drugs coursing through her body This reminds me of Bob’s Burgers, when Dr. Yap watches the video from the Prince of Persuasia. “Make up a story about how you single-handedly murdered a wild animal. Your story is gonna release a hormone deep inside her body called "insatia." It makes women ovulate... for sex!” “Dress like her dad, it releases a hormone called Moanatonin.” After hours of sex, I still had not cum...[censoring out racist and sexist slurs… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 12:47 AM |
| 43 | Boyfriend of three years still refuses to give me his passcode to his phone. Is this a red flag?It’s a red flag. He’s hiding something. My ex was the same way, and I can only imagine what he was hiding, because he was out in the open about his porn addiction, desire for threesomes, and hanging out solo with his female “friends.” If he’s open about that stuff, what the hell was he hiding? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 02:38 AM |
| 1 | Really need advice/rescue mission!!!I know I am more than nobody to him. Sis, you have to remember that some men are narcissistic and have tendencies to actually not care about others. Some men can have you believing they think the world of you, only to throw you away the next day. And they really don’t care, and their victims really mean nothing to them because they saw the victim as just a pawn in their game. Even his own girlfriend obviously means nothing to him since he cheated on her for years. Please take what he said at fac… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 01:30 PM |
| 16 | How do you deal with threatened Pickmeshas who see you as hostile competition when you're with a man or men she likes?I’m glad you asked this question, I’m looking forward to the responses because I’d also like to know how to deal. A woman recently started working at my company. I rarely see her, except when I visit the people in her department (I used to work in that group with them). At 31, she’s close to my age, all the other women in the dept are 55+. She started on day 1 with a chip on her shoulder, acting like she was better than everyone else and is the most important employee, even though she is basical… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 06:39 PM |
| 53 | Where have all the good women gone? Scrote with ex issues laments that he only meets women with ex issues.I like his disclaimer about how he gets a lot of messages from dudes and also messages from women who want to send him nudes and have sex with him. Sorry bud, those are actually dudes too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 09:15 AM |
| 11 | This was empowering to watch. If you aren’t getting what you deserve, dump his ass!!That’s so smart of you! Thanks for the tip. It’s funny, they’re all about the love languages when it’s their turn to say their language is physical, because they use that as an excuse to say you owe them sex by date 3 or they’re out because it means you’re not “compatible.” Even though the “physical” love language was not supposed to be about only sex! And what I find even more egregious is these clowns using “love language” talk on date 1 or 2, for starters we’re not in love yet and let’s face … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 11:39 PM |
| 4 | "You should’ve asked"Every partner I’ve ever lived with (there have been 2) has told me regarding cleaning the house “I just don’t know what to do. If you’d just tell me what to do, I’ll do it!” This comic is the perfect illustration of everything that’s wrong with that statement. Thanks for sharing! I’m going to pass this on to many of my friends. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 11:25 PM |
| 14 | What are some random things you filter out early on OLD?Asking about his ex is genius! Because like you said, if he says she’s crazy, unmatch. But also, you can unmatch if he says something like “we’re still besties and I refuse to let any woman come in between the close bond I have with her. If you and I end up in a relationship, you can maybe meet her in six months if I deem you worthy of being in her presence. Also, she was the hottest, most beautiful woman I’ve ever met and I’ll never have better sex than with her. She and I still have lengthy co… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 11:11 PM |
| 14 | He wants her to wear a bra because it makes HIM uncomfortable! 🤣🤣🤣I understand that the answer is usually “talk about it and find a boundary that works for both of you,” but I’d like a different perspective to understand whether my boundary is overly strict or oppressive. You don’t get to make any boundaries regarding what someone else can or cannot wear. Period, full stop. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 08:53 PM |
| 10 | Have you ever had your career/job fetishized?Yes, I used to work in a library. The “sexy glasses-wearing librarian” thing got old. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 10:51 AM |
| 48 | Self Described Unicorn goes off on Tinder when I challenged his ego. Enjoy the lack of self awareness.That had me rolling 🤣 Maybe it was a Freudian slip and he’s into that kinda stuff 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 01:49 AM |
| 120 | Fetishizing a race is so gross, dehumanizing, and insulting. No woman wants to hear that you find her attractive because your depraved ass thinks she looks like a "small boy going to soccer practice." So gross and so sorry to my other sisters out here being fetishized like a porn-hub category.Loves it when a woman looks like a small boy? He sounds like a pedophile. Nothing wrong with women having that body type of course, but the fact that he seeks it out is suspicious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 06:03 PM |
| 79 | Never, ever settle for a scroteous LVM thinking he’ll stay loyal because you’re a literal goddess.I was just thinking that. They all look like they smell like BO | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 05:42 PM |
| 55 | I didn’t even read the whole thing; title was enough WTF for meEspecially since he kept calling her a lesbian. Just like how cheaters always accuse their partners of cheating on them. Makes me think he’s gay. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 02:22 PM |
| 90 | My LV husband impregnated my daughter 🤡 Watch out ladies, never let a LVM around your kids.Nothing gets an incel off more than the thought of verbally demeaning an “old” wife’s looks and running into a younger, “hotter” woman’s arms—bonus points for fitting in Pornhub’s #1 category, incest. Even extra credit because the woman’s injury was caused in part by a man’s powerful peepee via corrective surgery due to childbirth, and he impregnated the stepdaughter too meaning he successfully “destroyed” her body as well, setting the story up for him to find an even younger, fresher woman to s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 02:14 PM |
| 32 | What common bio phrase you’re tired of seeing on OLD?“I love tacos and watching The Office” After you’ve matched with them: “What do you bring to the table?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 11:32 AM |
| 8 | LmfaooooWhy do scrotes think the best angle for a selfie is to take it with the phone at waist-level, angled up and don’t forget to double check to make sure all the chins are on full display? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 05:16 PM |
| 49 | Boyfriend shamed girlfriend for sleeping in the same bed as her mom on a trip he wasn’t even invited too. This is what happens when men watch too much porn...THE AUDACITY 🤢Or even better, slept in his own bed since he wasn’t invited! I can’t believe he just invited himself like that. She should have cut him off and dumped him when he insisted on going. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 05:00 PM |
| 36 | Saying “Men get raped too” in response to female rape discussions is the same as saying “All lives matter” in response to BLMAnd when it is a woman rapist (for example, a high school teacher who raped a student), a lot of men say “yeah bro he’s lucky, I wish my teacher did that to me! Who would turn that down?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 11:39 AM |
| 18 | I'm thinking I didn't miss much....And then complain that “nice men like me, who are just trying to find ‘intimacy’ are diScRiMiNaTeD against because women are tOo PiCkY and only want cHaDS!!!1!1” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 12:57 AM |
| 82 | The most audacious part of this is that they continuously use the term “partner” instead of “bangmaid” 🤮hanging clothes out to dry are among the chores men are most likely to botch to avoid having to do them again They botch hanging clothes to dry? Wow, they’re really committed. How do you even mess that up? It’d be easier to just do it properly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 12:52 AM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 30 2020We don’t work in the same department and don’t ever need to see or deal with each other at work. I could work there and never see him again if I wanted to. It’s kind of a unique place I work at. Nobody at work knows about us, but the organization we work for has many married couples and couples who met each other at work, as well as many parent-child employees. If we decide to advance our relationship and tell HR and our bosses, nobody will mind. In fact my boss was married to a guy from work, s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 12:43 AM |
| 3 | Reason #826 why OLD is a waste of time. Log in for the first time in a month or so and am reminded that if left unattended for too long, man-children will really pull this BS. I think this is it for me and online dating lolHard to get? Yes, because repeatedly saying “hey” is such hard, grueling effort, and I like seeing you suffer through the mental anguish of typing those three letters. You should have kept going. I only respond after the 17th “hey”. (Or if I’m feeling generous, maybe after the 14th “wyd,” but never earlier than that bc I’m hard to get) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 09:54 PM |
| 5 | A train wreck of a tinder profile. From shaming other women to embarrassing his ex to requiring women to be his “savior” (aka therapist).I was having a hard time figuring it out too, but I think he’s trying to say his ex-girlfriend sent him one of her nudes via Google Pictures, and his girlfriend found out and broke up with him...which is a completely reasonable thing for her to do 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 09:39 PM |
| 5 | A train wreck of a tinder profile. From shaming other women to embarrassing his ex to requiring women to be his “savior” (aka therapist).I think it’s the flag of Singapore, which I assume is what “sg” means in his profile | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 09:37 PM |
| 4 | Scrote mad because he can't jerk off to pictures of some women because they have their kids with them.OMG, do NOT click on that link if you’re easily disturbed...not just the main story but even reading the titles of the linked articles made me sick to my stomach. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 09:34 PM |
| 11 | Blocked and deleted: I disclosed I wasn’t into sports on our first date but shouldn’t have let him waste my time. (full story in comments)Don’t waste time trying to overanalyze it. He made it easy for you by throwing himself in the bin, saving you the time and energy. And thank God he did it now so you didn’t waste another second on him. I don’t put too much stock in whatever excuse a man gives for the reason he doesn’t want to be with me. I usually assume he just found another woman he’s more interested in because we all know most men struggle finding matches on online dating and wouldn’t drop someone over such a silly thing, plu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 08:23 PM |
| 81 | Women are more likely to stay in marriage when their spouse is ill, yet men are more likely to leave if their bangmaid is too sick to put out anymoreThis really sickens me. It also terrifies me. How can we know if our seemingly HVM will turn into this monster if we get sick? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 07:40 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 30 2020Yeah sis, don’t give up! We met through work actually! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 07:29 PM |
| 51 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 30 2020My boyfriend texted me earlier today and said I’d left something at his house and wanted to know if he could bring it. I told him sure, but I kept racking my mind trying to think of what it was I left. He stopped by with a beautiful bouquet of flowers. I’m 33 years old and it’s the first time I’ve ever received a “thinking of you” bouquet just because (not a holiday or my birthday). Feeling really happy right now! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 07:37 PM |
| 252 | It’S biOloGiCaL male strikes againDo you actually understand what men are Disgusting scrotes? Yes, I do now | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 10:04 PM |
| 10 | The bulk of this post is focused on telling the world how unattractive he used to think women like his future wife are. Colorism affects these LVM's brains to the core. They will not accept what a white society tells them not to.I think it gives them a sick feeling of power, since many men see sex as a degrading act anyway. It also sickens me when I hear about White men marrying Asian women and both the man and the woman are disappointed when they have a son because he’ll be half-Asian, and both parties of the relationship look down on Asian men. It also makes me think the man would have sexual feelings toward his daughter. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 02:53 PM |
| 10 | BLACK PILL PPD TRUTH SERUM TIDBITS ON HOW MEN DISTINGUISH BETWEEN GF/WIFE & FWB MATERIAL...EYE ROLL. NOTHING TO DO WITH BEING A SO-CALLED "NICE /GOOD /LOYAL WOMAN"He’s full of it. Frequently when men are ready to settle down, they’ll marry the first Pickmeisha who is within arm’s reach at the moment. Also, men’s “standards” for what they find attractive is usually dictated by whatever today’s media is defining as attractive. Many men will pass on the most beautiful woman (inside and out) because she doesn’t meet society’s current definition of “conventional beauty”—for example, maybe she’s a bit overweight or she’s “hit the [imaginary] wall”. Those same m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 02:42 PM |
| 3 | Men post things like this to get a Pickmeisha to dance for themIs it even half-fried? It looks straight up raw! 🐖 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 02:09 PM |
| 49 | Anyone else getting this pickmeisha recommended to them on youtube constantly?She’s Ben Shapiro’s sister too 😩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 09:07 PM |
| 23 | Can someone explain the idealise devalue discard cycle?I’ve noticed that you’ll also see idiots in the comment sections saying “I’ve been with my girlfriend for two years and have never said I love you. It’s not important, she can tell by my actions.” What is it about these comments sections that draws the outliers and the crazies? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 05:22 PM |
| 13 | How pickmes look 🤡 I used to love howls moving castle. Seriously be careful what movies you watch and show to you kids/younger siblings as they can promote misogyny and pickme culture.I never watched any of the Studio Ghibli movies, but my daughter loves them. She started watching them when my ex showed them to her. He’s a “woke libfem” sociologist and told me that they were good, feminist uplifting stories that she should watch. I have no idea if that’s true or not. Back then I took his word for it, but now I realize his idea of feminism is a little different than mine. Now I’ll be watching them with her so we can discuss. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 12:48 AM |
| 3 | This post boiled my blood. Don’t EVER shrink your success for a man!! Especially for a man with no job!!!Yeah, there’s nothing like a parent’s tough love to embarrass you and straighten you up and away from LVMs! My dad helped me move my stuff back into my NVM ex’s house after I rented an apartment for a year and a half and decided I’d try to make it work. The NVM just sat on the couch “with a headache” while the movers, my dad, my brother and I moved everything. I’m talking 2 beds, 2 dressers, dining table, a whole house worth of furniture. Then almost two months later my dad helped me move everyt… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 12:16 AM |
| 8 | 10 years off and on... sis let it go.The famous “if we were dating”.... spiel. Sick of it! It’s just dating, I’m not asking you for marriage right here right now, or asking you to cut off your arm or give me your firstborn! So sick of all the levels these LVM want to go through: First “talking,” then we can be “FWBs,” then we can be “dating,” then we can be exclusive with no labels, then we can be boyfriend/girlfriend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 10:45 PM |
| 5 | 10 years off and on... sis let it go.Did you end up leaving him because of his refusal to get married? What a liar, I’m glad you’re free of him now. Ugh, your story reminds me of my boyfriend’s friend from out of town. He’s been with his (probably forever) girlfriend for 3 or 4 years. When I met them for the first time, they were visiting us in our city and we were at a huge high-end flea market type place that sells handmade goods. I don’t know what exactly happened because I missed the first part of the exchange, but my boyfriend… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 10:40 PM |
| 97 | 10 years off and on... sis let it go.I feel like some men get off on showing their girlfriend a ring and getting her hopes up, and then not proposing. Or talking about marriage, maybe even asking “what would your dream proposal be?” And then shaming her and embarrassing her later by saying “Wait, what? You didn’t think I was going to propose did you? What how could you think that?” Also what kind of friendship is that where his “buddy” just gives him old jewelry he has lying around that he doesn’t want anymore? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 03:10 AM |
| 9 | Men lack everything but the audacity.I didn’t know what you were talking about until I looked at the big picture of him...oh my god...what happened to the lower half of his face? It looks like he got hit in the face with a frying pan a few times in utero. That’s also one of the most well-formed neckbeards I’ve seen in a while. Since he likes rating people, I’ll return the favor: 2/10 looks 🤢 1/10 personality 💩 9/10 neckbeard 🥇 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 11:26 PM |
| 5 | They're fucking everywhere.Right?! What kind of archaic mindset does he have? Does he think men with tattoos are easy too? He’d probably see my one tattoo and think I’m the world’s biggest sl*t—it’s a small 2” line tattoo of a cat, he’d probably think I use it to advertise my pussy 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 10:26 PM |
| 34 | They're fucking everywhere.My ex used to watch tattooed, pierced, colorful -haired “alternative girl” porn and I’m pretty sure he would have left me for one of those women, even though he told me he liked the fact that I am a career woman who can’t look like that even if I wanted to. He definitely 100% was trying to setup threesomes with women like that (it never happened because no one wanted to, most importantly I didn’t want to). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 10:19 PM |
| 1 | Guys who don’t have any social media .... do you get suspicious?I have no social media accounts, and have had a few men tell me that made me suspicious. Those men were younger than me and I guess are more used to everyone having accounts. I closed my Facebook account in 2016 and haven’t looked back. I got tired of the political drama and the people trying to one-up others by bragging and showing the curated, best parts of their lives. My boyfriend only has Facebook, and he has lived all over the country so he uses it to keep in touch with his family and frie… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 08:01 PM |
| 3 | Mum moves in with a LVM after 3 months of dating who won’t let daughter practiceDating since only March and moved the daughter in to her boyfriend’s house in May? I’ve been with my boyfriend since November and I haven’t even let him meet my daughter yet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 07:41 PM |
| 3 | If you make a woman choose between you and her pets...the HVW will choose her pets EVERY. TIME.Sis, I feel your pain. I did that exact same thing years ago. I re-homed my kitty because he was “allergic” but only to long-haired cats, he said (BS!). He told me to go adopt a short haired cat to make up for it. While I still have the short haired kitty to this day and love her to pieces, I can’t forgive myself for re-homing my other cat and sometimes I seriously consider going to therapy for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 07:32 PM |
| 4 | "I am still dead set on it" haahahahahahaI’m glad I’m not the only one who finds exactly 0 appeal in having more than one man. Finding one HVM I’m compatible with is hard enough. I can’t imagine how thin I’d have to spread myself to get in the “me” time I cherish so dearly, while also continuing to grow my relatively new relationship with my boyfriend AND starting something new with someone else. I don’t see how anybody would win in that scenario. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 07:12 PM |
| 99 | ExactlyThe same thing happened to me about six years ago! Was dating a guy LDR. Found out that four months after we started dating, he found another girl that he liked so much she was moving across the country to live with him. However, he was still talking to me and invited me over. On the trip to visit him, I saw him messaging someone. I looked up the username on the app he was using and found out who it was. Told her what was going on and she thanked me and said she was leaving him. We even kept con… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 07:03 PM |
| 5 | Never let a LVM know that you are angry with him. Men simply don't fear female anger in the same way that women fear male anger. In fact, men seem to actively enjoy it.I have been trying for the 8+ years I’ve known her to get her away from that situation. Sadly she refuses to budge. A few years ago, he hit her and she actually called the cops and left him. Her family, friends and I were so proud and supportive. I remember her dad gave her all the money she would need for a lawyer because he hoped she’d divorce him. Then a couple of months later, her husband’s mom died and she felt bad for him and took him back. Sadly it’s just gotten worse since then. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 07:23 PM |
| 3 | This is what you're missing out on, ladies!This. My last ex was disgusting, and I assumed it was due to laziness. Wrong. His parents, one of whom was a top ranking official at a local institution, lived in a $1mil+ lake house they had built at the beginning of our relationship. It was a shock to see such a nice, new place in that condition—if it was a horizontal surface, it was covered in junk and knickknacks. They also had three dogs and around five cats so you can imagine the fur. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 07:17 PM |
| 5 | This is what you're missing out on, ladies!“If I’m the only one who’ll wipe his ass, he won’t be able to leave me! I’ll be indispensable. Finally I’ll get to be someone’s forever girlfriend 😍” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 07:13 PM |
| 7 | Lol the purple pill is a complete jokeSo what exactly is purple pill supposed to be? I’ve heard of red pill and pink pill. I know purple pill, blue pill and black pill exist, but I don’t know what they are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 06:50 PM |
| 2 | Beware of LVM/Scrotes in therapy!I went to a therapist a few times who was nothing but a gossip looking for a juicy scoop. I was trying to break up with my then-boyfriend and was having a hard time going through with it. She basically just wanted to hear me explain all the details, and never really did anything to help. She also would tell me stories about her friends, patients, neighbors, children, husband, etc. Of course she wouldn’t use names or identifying details, but she got pretty detailed into a story about the marriage… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 04:48 AM |
| 149 | What's it called when you feel like you have to defend everything you to say to a man?It was a test. When you called him out, he realized you wouldn’t take his shit and that meant he doesn’t have the ability to gaslight you and manipulate you in the future. Therefore, you are useless to him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 04:35 AM |
| 6 | What differentiates HVM behaviour is an attitude, regardless of status and wealthThe story of the man saying you look elegant reminds me of something that happened to me. I work in a place that puts me around a lot of military members (I’m a civilian). Many of them are young, and I don’t typically think of them as HVM. However, there was this one man who looked to be 20 years old max. I passed by him and he said “ma’am, I don’t want to be disrespectful or out of place, but I just wanted to tell you that your shirt is very pretty.” It made me smile because he was shy and I co… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 02:37 AM |
| 48 | Never let a LVM know that you are angry with him. Men simply don't fear female anger in the same way that women fear male anger. In fact, men seem to actively enjoy it.In contrast, nearly all of the LVMs I have dated constantly picked fights over petty nonsense. I'm convinced it's a control thing. My last ex was a huge narcissist and anytime I expressed literally any opinion (or even an objective fact!) he would go devil's advocate. Wow, this actually sounds like someone I know from work. She’s married to the most NVM I’ve ever met, he basically won’t allow her to disagree with him. So she has a tendency to take out her frustrations on everyone else, and wants… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 01:31 AM |
| 6 | "Just don't be fat"I’m jealous, your hair sounds gorgeous..my hair is 2a, I wish it were thicker and either completely straight or actually curly instead of the weird in-between wavy thing I’ve got going on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 09:22 PM |
| 24 | "Just don't be fat"I’ve never heard of RPW before this post, but wow, that sounds like a group of pickmes trying to cater to what men want. To men, in order for a woman to have nice hair, she must have long, thick (but not too thick!) luxurious locks. Men think women shouldn’t be allowed to have hair shorter than shoulder length. For themselves, men think their hair should...oh wait, they have literally no standards about their own hair and will try to rock the Homer Simpson two-strand look | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 09:14 PM |
| 42 | "Just don't be fat"To men, “just not be fat” for a woman = have an hourglass figure with large breasts and booty, with a flat stomach, and don’t go over the arbitrarily-set maximum of 125 pounds regardless of your height. To men, “just not be fat” for a man = as long as you’re mobile (with or without the assistance of a scooter), you’re fine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 09:07 PM |
| 21 | Wtf, and men complain that women have “impossible” standards.It’s like that classic line on many guys’ dating profiles: “Must be under 125 lbs.”. They refuse to take height and weight distribution into account and only care about an arbitrary number on a scale. Once I posted a relationship advice question/complaint online that had nothing to do with weight, and I got a PM asking me how much I weighed, along with a line telling me that if I’m “over 140” I have no right to complain because I’m fat and I better take what I can get. I’m currently 10 pounds ov… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 08:39 PM |
| 28 | Wtf, and men complain that women have “impossible” standards.I don’t think race comes into play as much as you think Lists a handful of races he’s attracted to, excluding others | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 08:21 PM |
| 3 | Need your kind wordsMen neg because they know how much better you are than them. He was terrified and ashamed at how trash he was compared to you, because he knew he didn’t deserve you. So he criticized you to try to knock you down a peg and make you think that you better not leave him because he’s the best you can do. Don’t ever think that—you’re a queen and you’re so much better without him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 08:45 PM |
| 7 | During initial dating phase, when should you expect some emotional labor from men?To me, even if someone is busy they can fire off a short kind text. Agreed 100%! If a man can’t spend 30 seconds texting you back, it’s because he doesn’t want to, not because he can’t find time. Hell, worst case scenario, there’s alway the time he’s on the toilet 🤣 Men have been using that “I’m sooo busy” excuse for years in order to ignore us and/or spend time talking to other women. No excuses why a man can’t take one whole minute before bed if need be to send a text. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 08:28 AM |
| 190 | Men stop putting in an effort, and then are perplexed when you’re no longer cheery, feminine and enthusiastic about sex.Over the years, my female friends and I have discussed another reason why we have stopped wanting sex in a relationship: we started to feel bad about our bodies after one or more comments our boyfriend or husband made about us. Comments on weight, breast size, “looseness”, comparisons to other women, etc. Every close female friend I’ve ever had as an adult has told me she lost attraction for her partner when he started making rude comments about her appearance, and I’ve experienced it too. And t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 07:53 AM |
| 12 | What the fuck lmao.This makes me sick to my stomach. Please let this be something some random person photoshopped and not something he said about her. Look at her smile, she looks so happy. Why can’t scrotes appreciate what they have? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 02:07 AM |
| 40 | Im so tired of seeing some pickme in the comments of engagement posts.Classic Pickmeism. In hopes of getting picked, they try to prove to all the men that they’re more easygoing, laidback, less shallow and not a gold digger unlike the other women. I wouldn’t be surprised if some of them take extra joy in acting like this around the newly engaged men these posts are about. I think some of them get a sick thrill if they can somehow show him that they’re better than the fiancée. It’s obviously not spoken or typed out, but I can’t help but think that what they imply w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 12:28 AM |
| 16 | Does anyone else notice the difference between the way your pick-me friends treat you vs. men?I would definitely dump her as a friend. I hate to say that, because female friendships are important, but if she’s getting mad at you for spilling your feelings, she’s not really a friend to begin with. To answer your title question: Not a friend, but my boss. I don’t know her very well even though I’ve worked for her for two years and known her for 8, because she’s very private. But she seems like an extreme Pickme. I work in a group of 25 or so people in an office (which is part of a company … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 12:20 AM |
| 50 | Please tell me this is not for real...He was mad that she posted this on reddit? He thinks it’s an echo chamber? He’s not wrong. Considering most men who frequent Reddit think chasing young women is a God-given right and girlfriends/wives are just the old ball-and-chain who prevent them from scoring with hot young pussy, I can’t imagine anywhere on the Internet being friendlier to him. If even the people of reddit think what he did is messed up, then he should realize how f*cked it was. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 09:34 AM |
| 5 | In your experience do most men drink beer/alcohol like its water?My boyfriend (33) might have an IPA with dinner one Saturday a month, but that’s about it. The only time I’ve seen him drink more than a couple in a day was when our friends were visiting and we were out on the river. I’ve never seen him get drunk. I think it might be an age thing—he said in his college days he was the typical 20something heavy drinker. From stories I’ve heard, I don’t think I would have liked him as much if I met him back then. I’m glad he’s settled down now that he’s in his 30… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 10:28 PM |
| 89 | Wife is expected to replace husband’s pants because he quit working out100% chance that if she gets the courage to tell him he’s gained weight, he’ll accuse of her of also gaining weight (even if it’s just a pound) and turn the conversation around and make it about he’s not happy about her weight gain. If she hasn’t gained weight in the course of the relationship, he’ll find something else (whatever part of her body he knows she isn’t happy with or wants to work on) and complain about that, again turning the conversation around and making it about how he’s unhappy.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 09:48 PM |
| 7 | My boyfriend hasn’t been paying attention to me since quarantine.Obvious fake. I’m surprised “she” didn’t refer to “herself” by saying “I am a FeEeEMaLe”, that’s usually the first telltale sign. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 08:04 PM |
| 78 | Queen shittytWas she trying to impress him, or was it an “f you” move? Showing the world (and him) that she is still beautiful and rocking and she knows it, and she’s not going to let him being her down? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 07:56 PM |
| 16 | Married man (with kids) cut his wife out of his profile pic and still had the audacity to "search for friends, something more tbd". Blocked and reported.Yup, some Pickmes see it as a challenge...they think they can show him how much better they are than his wife. The Pickme will want to prove that she’s better in bed, prettier, younger, hotter, whatever and the guy will eat it up. This is why Pickmeism is nothing but a boon for men. They don’t have to do anything and they get women fighting each other and trying to be the best version of themselves to outdo each other | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/20 08:59 PM |
| 18 | In order to not end up miserable, you should keep leveling up to derive power and self-esteem from other sources than LVM validation.Right?! I’d be happy for the break, it gets tiring and annoying dealing with their glances | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 04:49 PM |
| 16 | I'm so proud, I got my first creepy stalker from posting on here. I've made it in life. LOLHe’s jealous obviously. None of those things are bad, yet he’s a useless scrote which we can all agree is an unfortunate condition. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 02:37 PM |
| 40 | I'm so proud, I got my first creepy stalker from posting on here. I've made it in life. LOLAgreed, nothing wrong with divorce. And like you said, often it’s not a huge tragedy. I’ve been divorced for almost seven years now, and I still have people say “oh I’m sorry to hear that” when I tell them. Well I’m not sorry, I’m living my best life now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 02:34 PM |
| 7 | He might as well put up his resume. Someone loves himself a little too much...I remember my grandpa used to wear jeans like that. The picture cut off too high, but I’m assuming he’s got those Velcro shoes on because that’s how Pappy completed his outfit too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 02:26 PM |
| 6 | He might as well put up his resume. Someone loves himself a little too much...Whoa, was on The Price Is Right? That one line is what sold me /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 02:23 PM |
| 16 | Pretty much all of the comments were telling her she needs to COmMuNiCaTeUgh, reminds me of my ex. I’d ask him to watch something with me and a lot of times he’d only agree if we could “watch” it on the laptop while he played video games on the tv. Yes, he wanted to do both at the same time, and in fact said that’s the best way for him to watch something because of his ADHD. Funny thing is he never used that excuse of having to play video games at the same time as watching something when he watched porn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 02:19 PM |
| 13 | Does physical attraction grow over time?I’d usually say no, it does not grow over time. But I have to ask, have you seen him in person, or only through pictures online? There is a chance that he photographs terribly and looks better in real life. I admit it’s a slim chance, but it’s possible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 01:55 AM |
| 22 | What do we think about burping and farting?My brother is 28 and still thinks farts are funny. I just got back from visiting my parents (he lives there) and we were all playing a game. I asked him a trivia question and for the answer he literally said “one second”, lifted his rear off the chair and farted, and said “that’s the answer” 🙄 Thankfully he has no intentions of getting a girlfriend anytime soon, if ever. He also has no intentions of getting a job or a drivers license... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 01:47 AM |
| 1 | What Seemingly HVM have you dated? What were his HV traints and his LV traits?Yeah, it was caste, so he said it was religion related and I didn’t know much about his religion. That’s why I was hesitant to comment but it seemed LVM to me. He always talked about how not only was he in one of the highest castes but also he was in a special subsection of that caste which was even more revered, and therefore he was always discriminated against. He even talked about how if we had kids one day they’d be discriminated against in America because they’d be white and Indian and appa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 09:12 PM |
| 20 | What Seemingly HVM have you dated? What were his HV traints and his LV traits?I had a short LDR with a guy a few years ago who at first masqueraded as a HVM. HVM Traits: Software engineer in NYC at a very well-known company, made well into the six figures A touch short but very handsome Tri-lingual, well educated (Masters Degree) Was very accepting of the fact that I have a daughter Talked about wanting to get married one day LVM Traits Obvious porn user, because he was a late-20s virgin and when we had sex for the first time, he couldn’t stay hard and couldn’t finish wit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 10:35 AM |
| 126 | MEN KNOW THEY ARE SHALLOW AF-THEY JUST BANK ON BEING ABLE TO HOODWINK US-PPD GEMS (EYE ROLL)This seems like a post he wrote to try to convince himself he’s okay with the fact that he never found another woman who “fit” like she did. Also, I’d love to see how hot and handsome this sexy hunk must be, the way he’s talking he must be perfection since he deserves “hot” women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 10:08 AM |
| 30 | Reminder: Don’t be Barb the Builder (on a thread asking men what made them “settle down”You’re welcome! Put your waders on if you go read it, there’s a lot of bs in that thread 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 08:44 PM |
| 110 | Reminder: Don’t be Barb the Builder (on a thread asking men what made them “settle down”And it’s so obvious that he thinks of his wife as the runner up! He salivates over his ex in the post and has nothing good to say about the wife. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 08:43 PM |
| 16 | Reminder: Don’t be Barb the Builder (on a thread asking men what made them “settle down”Askmen | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 08:42 PM |
| 240 | Reminder: Don’t be Barb the Builder (on a thread asking men what made them “settle down”Also shows why you shouldn’t date a guy who talks in detail about his ex—he’s clearly not over her. Thank you u/Kimpractical for your post referring to another response on this thread, it’s what brought it to my attention. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 08:24 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 15 2020Yeah, I thought it was weird because in the past I’ve gotten a few messages from angry butthurt scrotes who were apparently triggered by something I wrote. One guy called me a cheap slut—it’s like dude, did you even read what I wrote before you sent me that love note? Because I am the complete opposite of that. I just ignored and blocked them all. I thought that maybe this could be one of those guys, trying to pretend to be a woman so I’d take the bait. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 08:15 PM |
| 158 | When you reject a NVM and his feelings are hurt, it shows.He was asking you for free food? Then bragging about getting McDonalds for another woman? What a Loser with a capital L. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 08:01 PM |
| 8 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 15 2020What should we do when someone sends us a message on reddit asking for advice, and says they are a woman/from FDS? I looked at their profile and they only had a few posts, one of them was to a dating subreddit and it implied they are a woman, but anyone can make a fake post. I just ignored it, and then changed my settings to not accept chats and messages unless they’re from mods/trusted users that I designate. I feel bad if she really is someone in need, but something told me that it might have … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 07:57 PM |
| 19 | When they hide it so well...Oh sis, I’m so sorry to hear about that. But I’m really glad you’re free of him now. Don’t give up, with time, patience and some work you’ll be able to trust again. Don’t let him take that from you, the ability to trust is a beautiful thing. Now whether or not you want another relationship again is totally a different story, may you have peace in whatever decision you make 🧡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 07:47 PM |
| 37 | This was on an askmen thread about former players explaining why they finally decided to settle down. Guys... we are not responsible for “filling your void”. Fill it on your own first and stop making us do your emotional labor. Using women for sex as a way to fill it is not appropriateWow, I spent a few minutes reading through that post...lots of answers that make me 🤦🏼♀️ The most egregious one I read: The guy described in elaborate detail the Dreamgirl he had who he kept cheating on and how wonderful she was. He said she made him change his ways, and he ended up marrying “the next one” (his exact words). Clearly thinks of his wife as a second place prize, he didn’t say anything about her except that his wife knows the story about his ex and how she made him change. Goes on … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 07:37 PM |
| 107 | This was on an askmen thread about former players explaining why they finally decided to settle down. Guys... we are not responsible for “filling your void”. Fill it on your own first and stop making us do your emotional labor. Using women for sex as a way to fill it is not appropriateI’ve frequently heard that when men like that are “ready to settle down”, it’s frequently with whatever Pickme is within arm’s reach at the time. Because they just want to “settle down”, which means either 1) they give in to parental/societal pressure to get married or 2) they no longer can “pull 9s and 10s” like they used to and they just want to guarantee steady, free sex (I threw up in my mouth a bit when I typed “pull 9s and 10s” 🤢) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 06:07 PM |
| 28 | Never let a man make you feel bad about your bodyHe was small and had ED from pornsickness 🤣 Current boyfriend has absolutely no problems with me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 05:54 PM |
| 41 | Never let a man make you feel bad about your bodyMy ex gained around 60 pounds throughout the course of our relationship and had the gall to comment on the 20 pounds I had gained. At the end when I broke up, he also told me that women my age have a hard time dating...I was only 32 at the time. I broke up with him, and he twisted it to make it that he broke up with me because I wasn’t intellectual enough anymore. He said there are plenty of “hot” women in academia who will want him. I wonder if he ever found one? I’m sure there is a long line o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 05:52 PM |
| 6 | What does chemistry in a relationship mean to you?Sometimes I wonder if I’m broken—I don’t know if I’ve ever felt a second chemistry. It’s like I either feel chemistry with someone and it’s sustainable, or I just don’t feel chemistry with them and never will. I used to think that I could over time develop chemistry with anyone—maybe not as strong as it’d be if it came naturally, but I thought it was something I could make happen. I now know that’s not the case—I went on a few dates with a guy at the beginning of the year, and he seemed so woode… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 02:34 PM |
| 46 | What does chemistry in a relationship mean to you?I’ve asked a similar question before about “the spark” because I wasn’t sure what it meant. I described what I have with my boyfriend and many people said it sounds like their definition of chemistry/the spark. We always have something to talk about and are never bored with each other, but we’re also comfortable just sitting next to each other doing our own thing. We have similar a sense of humor, want the same things in life, and share common goals. We have similar beliefs about money, religion… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 01:22 PM |
| 15 | Signal phrases that suggest a guy is LVMElon Musk or Jeff Bezos = 👎 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/20 03:46 PM |
| 13 | Signal phrases that suggest a guy is LVM“What do you bring to the table?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/20 03:45 PM |
| 435 | This man got chewed out in the comments. If I was his wife, I would leave him.I personally think even naming a celebrity is wrong, but saying a woman he knows in real life is just absolutely stupid. I hope she leaves him, if not for lusting over another woman and embarrassing her in front of their friends, then at least for being an absolute idiot. There’s no way he hasn’t thought about having sex with the instructor. How hard is it to just say your wife. She should feel like she’s her husband’s dream woman. Even if he fantasizes about someone else, if he loved her he sho… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/20 01:17 PM |
| 24 | Seeing how marriage is such a joke nowadays how many of you guys think you will still get married?Was married before, and hope to be married again one day. I’m only 33, and I feel like I still have a good amount of time to get married and have kids, though I’m lucky enough to already have one who’s almost a teenager. My parents are still married after over 35 years, and all of my grandparents were married until my grandmothers passed away. I don’t care about random celebrities and don’t let their shitty marriages affect my perception of the concept of marriage, which I see as a legal institu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/20 12:21 PM |
| 49 | Men thinking they know how women's bodies work better than women.I wonder if his butthole is permanently gaped open? Because I bet he poops at least a few times a week, and It’s not like the anus is made of elastic | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 08:31 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 7 2020Do the posts in the handbook occasionally change? There are a couple of posts that used to be in the handbook that I can no longer find. I remember reading somewhere that some of the more popular content on here would be moved over to the new FDS website, but I tried searching it and couldn’t find the posts there either, but I think my phone isn’t correctly showing the search results because it’s just a white screen—I’ll check soon on a computer. The posts in particular I’m looking for I don’t r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 08:28 PM |
| 15 | Glad the trash threw itself outDegrees in Engineering Well, it was gonna be a left swipe, but eNgInEeRiNg? Nvm sign me up 🤤 —Said no girl, ever | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 11:57 AM |
| 7 | TruthDo you mind me asking what the surgery involved? I’m not considering it at all, I’m just curious because my ex had ED from pornsickness and death grip and he also told me I was loose and wanted to pay for me to have the surgery. Glad I didn’t have it. I have a partner now who doesn’t watch porn and he has absolutely no problems with my vagina--actually the only problem he has is that every once in a while he finishes very quickly and is embarrassed. Honestly after being with my ex who could jack… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 01:03 AM |
| 27 | This is just sadAnd she thinks she has the right to offer her shitty opinion regarding OP’s situation which she also doesn’t fully know | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 07:45 PM |
| 5 | Men who prefer a toxic woman over a loving, respectful HVWYou know, my ex husband did the same thing. I remember once I told him I was tired of asking, then telling him to do things and he would never do them. He actually told me that he didn’t think I was serious because I wasn’t yelling at him about it. He said that’s what his mom does to his stepdad, and in the future if I want something done, I have to yell and scream at him about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 07:38 PM |
| 25 | Men who prefer a toxic woman over a loving, respectful HVWThank you for the reminder not to put too much stock in men’s opinion of women! I really don’t know the specifics of how she acted so I can’t speculate, and I shouldn’t trust his opinion as gold. Thankful for FDS and the wonderful women here! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 11:08 AM |
| 3 | PSA: THIS is the energy from now on when men harass FDSI’m dead 🤣 Does she have a YouTube channel? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 12:28 AM |
| 36 | Financial Abuse - I've said it before, there's no such thing as "our" money in a relationship, unless it's mostly your money.I wonder what the lawsuit was about. I get a feeling he either did something bad to someone, or maybe it’s related to a previous marriage of his such as a custody case. Probably nothing she had anything to do with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 12:21 AM |
| 15 | Psychological abuse from scrotes makes you stupid, we should talk about that moreAnd a lot of times, women share their stories, flaws and all, on here as a warning for other women who might be in the same or similar situations. Opening up about these embarrassing and hurtful times in our life is very hard, but it’s worth it if it helps even just one woman. To spill our hearts out and then see those callous comments is very defeating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 11:48 PM |
| 90 | If he makes an unreasonable request, let him GO. No sticking around, no explaining, no negotiating.This is an excellent post! Thank you. We don’t owe men an explanation. We don’t owe them anything. Even though we have been raised and conditioned and molded to think otherwise. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 10:18 PM |
| 37 | Psychological abuse from scrotes makes you stupid, we should talk about that moreYes, a lot of times I’ll see posts on this subreddit where a woman will tell a story about something terrible a guy did that she believed/accepted/ignored instead of breaking up with him, and there will be comments from our own FDS sisters such as “omg how did you fall for that” or “wow even the worst pickme in the world would have left after that, why didn’t you?”. What some people don’t realize is that gaslighting makes you do things you’d typically never do, and makes you believe things you’d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 10:11 PM |
| 25 | "What's your love language?" ALL OF THEM.It’s so funny too because many (most?) of these OLD bros don’t ever want to be in “love”, they just want a rotating cast of women to sleep with. Yet they pull this “my love language is physical touch” crap. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 09:25 PM |
| 22 | How do you deal with your LVM ex treating his new girlfriend much better than you?Like everyone else said, stop getting updates on him. But also, this reminds me of a post I made the other day, about how some guys will have a Dreamgirl who they’ll do anything for. Even if they’re in a relationship with someone else, that person will never get treated as well as the Dreamgirl. A lot of the replies to my post said that usually the dreamgirl is only the dreamgirl because she got away. There’s a good chance that he’s doing all this for her because he’s still in the honeymoon phas… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 09:19 PM |
| 3 | She Was "Raised" To Be This?!make sure he’s up for work the next morning This is the exact opposite of what my mom taught me. I remember two things she’s taught me, that she said her mother taught her: 1) find a man who loves you more than you love him, and 2) make sure he joyfully provides for you and happily gets up to go to work—don’t be with a lazy man you have to beg and plead to go to work. My sister did not take this advice, and I see her busting her behind to provide for her family while her husband can’t keep a job… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 09:59 PM |
| 10 | Have you ever ended a relationship because you realized his Dreamgirl wasn’t you—it was an ex or one of his friends?Why didn’t he and Emily just date each other? I guess it’s more comfortable to have each other as a lifelong backup instead of risking it all by actually dating each other? I’m getting Robin and Ted from HIMYM vibes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 08:52 PM |
| 3 | Have you ever ended a relationship because you realized his Dreamgirl wasn’t you—it was an ex or one of his friends?Thank you! I’m so glad I left him too. My current boyfriend is the complete opposite of him, and I’m really happy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 08:49 PM |
| 8 | Have you ever ended a relationship because you realized his Dreamgirl wasn’t you—it was an ex or one of his friends?I guess I let him hang out with his ex at first because I was naive —due to having a child, I have to maintain communication with my ex-husband, and there is absolutely nothing going on between us. I naively thought that would be the case for every grown ass adult. I was wrong. Also, gaslighting and manipulation is a hell of a drug, and that of course plays into it as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 08:46 PM |
| 122 | So helpful when they tell on themselfGuy fills out the “what you should know about me” section of a dating app with the above information, then gives it a once-over to make sure he’s satisfied with what he wrote. Guy: “Yeah, that should do it. This will have all the ladies’ panties wet. I’ll be drowning in pussy in no time.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 05:20 AM |
| 16 | This is why we don’t accept walks as first dates ladies! In the comments, he admits he doesn’t go above and beyond with nice dates, and that she should be grateful bc she’s a student with no income.I got so mad at my ex because he admitted to making a woodwork piece for his ex after they broke up, so I asked him to make me one, since we were, you know, actually in a relationship. You would have thought that I had asked him to sacrifice himself at the altar for me. He absolutely flipped out, really lost his shit, saying that it was so hard to make and he doesn’t want to do it again and I’m just jealous of her. Then he went on to note all the things I must be jealous about: he said she’s a b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 02:09 AM |
| 27 | In the words of Amy Schumer “ I’m a 160 pounds and can catch a D whenever I want” Seriously though- it’s ok to have preferences but men can be so shallowI’d bet dollars to donuts that he couldn’t accurately pick out a UK 8/US 4 if he tried. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 10:56 PM |
| 133 | And he’ll somehow still make her feel insecure about all 2 of her stretch marks as he tries to flirt with younger women.And men say our standards are too high. I once saw a man’s dating profile that said “swipe left if you’re over 125 pounds.” Now, he gave no height preference, so does that mean he’d be okay with a 4’11” woman being 125 (slightly overweight) but not okay with a 5’9” woman being 130 (low end of normal)? I bring this up because he was like 32, and had the same hair style as Montgomery Burns...completely bald except for the sides and back, and all of that hair was gray. He was also obviously morbidl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 10:51 PM |
| 20 | And he’ll somehow still make her feel insecure about all 2 of her stretch marks as he tries to flirt with younger women.I have faded stretch marks from pregnancy 12 years ago, and I’ve never had a man comment on them. My current boyfriend always calls me sexy/beautiful, and even my last LTR, who was genuinely a piece of shit, never said anything bad about them—in fact he said he’d never say anything because he had stretch marks too. The only person to ever comment on them negatively was my mom, who never got them with any of her three pregnancies. She told me I got them because I didn’t use lotion as frequently a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 10:36 PM |
| 45 | Never tell a man about your past!And her age was completely irrelevant to the story too, he just wanted to add it in to brag about how he bagged a hot young chick and his old wife must be jealous. Little does he know it just further exposes him as the ass he is | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 09:30 AM |
| 11 | If “grasping at straws” had a story, this would be it.Did you see the guy in the comments who was passionately defending the age gap anytime someone brought it up? I think he must have left five comments talking about how young women prefer older men and how those relationships are happier and less likely to divorce (probably because the man dies first from old age 🤣) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 09:45 PM |
| 1 | Amen! Anyone else got any similar stories?One guy called me vampire because of the shape of one of my teeth. I wasn’t a teenager then—I went 31 years being fine and happy with my smile and now the last few years I want to cover my mouth when I smile. Thankfully I have an appointment with the dentist for a crown. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 09:25 PM |
| 39 | How do you ladies feel about men using OnlyFans?One thing you can do is in the very beginning—I’m talking first date—ask him what is thoughts are on porn, before you tell him you’re anti-porn, that way he doesn’t know your stance yet and isn’t tempted to lie. A lot of men will take your question to mean you’re comfortable/open with porn and maybe you’re even “easy” since you’re bringing it up on date 1...well that just makes it easier to eliminate those guys early on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 07:02 PM |
| 2 | Goddamn right she walked away. Found on r/choosingbeggarsWhen I was young (like elementary school aged, so we’re talking around 25 years ago) there was a really good appetizer at Applebee’s that was a very thin crust spinach pizza. My parents and I loved it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 02:29 AM |
| 49 | Men marry at the RIGHT time, not the right PERSONDoes she know that her fiancé feels this way? Did her best friend tell her what he said? This is so sad. The part about him wishing she wasn’t so accommodating stings. I feel like so many men prefer women who treat them badly over women who will bend over backwards for them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 01:20 AM |
| 3 | She had me in the first half 😂This was a nest made of dirty, unwashed clothes and towels. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/20 03:23 AM |
| 26 | Share your WORST date story.This wasn’t really a date, not by FDS standards but in my Pickmeisha days I thought of it as one. A few months after my divorce, I went on a real date with a Military Bro who told me he was going through a divorce and it was almost finalized. We went out for dinner at an Italian place, it was good and I went on another real date with him after that. Our third date was the famous “how about come over my house and we can cook better Italian food than we had at the restaurant?” Pickmeisha me was ha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/20 01:33 AM |
| 1 | If he says this it's a red flagAt one time there was a post in the handbook about why guys shouldn’t talk about their exes, but I can’t seem to find it. Might still be there somewhere. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/20 12:21 AM |
| 1 | If he says this it's a red flagI just asked this same question recently. Here’s the link, hope it helps 🧡 https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/g4pwmc/comment/fodur4v | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/20 12:18 AM |
| 5 | If he says this it's a red flagOh phew, I was hoping that was the case and not that he said “hold on hun, I have to run out and have sex with my ex real quick or she’ll be depressed” 😂 I think it is a red flag, because guys shouldn’t be bringing up their exes, and certainly not to talk about their sex life. What purpose did it serve for him to even tell you that? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/20 12:08 AM |
| 28 | Date= kiss me?!!!!! KiSs mE?!Those 3/10 balding obese guys are the worst about the whole “LeT’s sEe WhErE tHiS GoEs” stuff too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/20 12:01 AM |
| 24 | Date= kiss me?!!!!! KiSs mE?!Probably in his case, half the price of a cheap dinner because I’m sure he’s a 50/50 guy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/20 11:57 PM |
| 27 | Date= kiss me?!!!!! KiSs mE?!Yup, probably tells people she’s a golddigger for expecting a date | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/20 11:56 PM |
| 1 | If he says this it's a red flagWas he saying it happened when he was with her? Or was he saying that he was going to go have sex with her while dating/in a relationship with you? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/20 11:54 PM |
| 48 | If you make the first move he will settle for you even if he thinks less of youAhh, this makes sense! They want arm candy to show off so other bros will think highly of them. Of course, a lot of men only care about what other men think. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/20 10:00 AM |
| 31 | If you make the first move he will settle for you even if he thinks less of youI don’t understand either. I mean, they supposedly all want new pussy daily anyway, so they’re going to get bored with even the hottest woman. If I couldn’t stop myself from imagining sleeping with every woman I saw, and deep down had a desire for a new woman every night (as a post I just read suggests is men’s true nature), I’d put less emphasis into my partner’s looks because no matter what I’m always going to end up bored and imagining other women during sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/20 09:57 AM |
| 62 | If you make the first move he will settle for you even if he thinks less of youThis numbers thing is so demeaning. Every man thinks they’re going to get an “8” or better. I mean, is there even enough to go around? I was just wondering if men who employ this “hotness scale” see it as a bell curve, did some reading and found a reddit post from a guy who said 1-10 isn’t enough, we should use 1-30. Don’t want a woman who’s uglier than a 7 but hotter than a 5, yet still not hot enough to be a full-blown 6 muddying up the true value of 6. Another guy said the scale is personal a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/20 09:41 AM |
| 12 | A book EVERYONE HERE should readWhat do you all think about that part that men will imagine sleeping with someone else while sleeping with you? I’m not a fan of course...but I guess there’s really nothing we can do to stop it, and no way to know if it’s happening. I know a lot of people have the idea that it’s just imagination so it’s okay, but I don’t know, I think if I knew it was happening, I’d be hurt. Makes me nervous now because I know sometimes my boyfriend closes his eyes during Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/20 09:28 AM |
| 58 | Her mind is set for sureI’m so glad to hear that at least some women back then were able to get divorced if they needed to. My grandma got divorced in the early 1950s with one son. I don’t know the story of why, but she got remarried to my grandpa who took in her son like he was his own. Sadly, that story repeated itself twice—my mom got divorced at 25 with a 3 year old daughter, and a few years later my younger dad married my mom and treated my half-sister as his own. I got divorced at 26 with a 5 year old daughter. I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/20 10:09 PM |
| 6 | The Spark: Do you think it exists? If so, what is it?A lot of women start sexual relationships with men they admit they don't find attractive, but he's "nice" or whatever. I find it utterly baffling because I would never ever want to do that. Maybe you are baffled by women having spark-less relationships in the same way? This is probably the case—even in my prime Pickmeisha days I would never get in a relationship with someone I wasn’t attracted to. Thank you for your insight. Comparing this relationship with others I’ve had as well as failed date… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/20 09:52 PM |
| 82 | How are LVM always this delusional? 😂Is that Colleen in the picture he posted? I can’t tell because her profile pic is so small/not head on Either way, what he did was rude | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/20 05:07 PM |
| 27 | they seem so proud!Seems like half the answers are “I like women who wear makeup everyday” and the other half are “women look better without heavy makeup.” One guy even said his girlfriend looks weird with makeup on. Imagine if women were asked this same question about men. I’d bet there would hardly be any answers that are related to men’s looks, instead we’d say things about the way men act and treat us. If there were a few answers about guys’ appearance, it would be “I like when men use soap, deodorant, and too… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/20 03:07 PM |
| 55 | I.....WHAT? The things some women will put up with. FDS is so necessary it’s not even funny.Exactly! If your boyfriend didn’t invite you over for three years, wouldn’t you think something was wrong, such as he’s married and trying to hide it? No turns out he’s just an animal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/20 06:27 AM |
| 13 | If you’re at the point where you feel this is necessary, just throw the entire LVM away sisI read the bottom shirt and first thought it was some kind of social distancing thing, and I was like “ok yeah I respect that.” Now I see what it really is...also those guys definitely look like they’re military which means there’s a good chance they’re already married to the women on those shirts 😩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/20 12:45 AM |
| 1 | Forever Girlfriends--how do we avoid becoming one, and how do we proactively spot men who will never propose so it doesn't get that far?She does know. Sadly, she doesn’t care. When I found out about her, I told her how I was dating him too, and how I also found out he had just moved another girl out of his house. At first she was going to leave him, went no contact with him and everything. I thought she and I were going to become friends, because we remained in contact. A couple of weeks later she messaged me that she changed her mind, she was getting back with him, and I never heard from her again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/20 12:23 AM |
| 50 | This sub is going to get banned soon. It’s time to leave Reddit ladies.I just looked at saidit.net, it looks promising. Looks exactly like old reddit. I saw a lot of people there saying they were from gendercritical | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/20 11:18 PM |
| 57 | LMAO COULD NEVERRRRR BE MEHardly a hairline in sight | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/20 10:14 PM |
| 26 | Drive 30.6 miles for a guy? Nope.Sounds fun...for a couple 15 year olds, if it were 1988 maybe | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/20 10:05 PM |
| 4 | Forever Girlfriends--how do we avoid becoming one, and how do we proactively spot men who will never propose so it doesn't get that far?Men only marry when they want to. They marry someone they're into when they want to get married. I’ve heard this before—sometimes men don’t marry “the one”, sometimes they just want to get married and marry whatever Pickmeisha is nearby at the time. I think that’s kinda what happened to one of the guys I dated. I was only with him for a few months before leaving him because he had started dating another woman simultaneously. I also found out he had a loooong pattern of doing that: finding a youn… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/20 08:35 PM |
| 99 | Men are jerks. "I kept breaking her heart and she still was so kind to me". Found in r/relationship_adviceExactly, they think they can finally bang the mile-long line of 18 year old models that have been waiting for them. Turns out that line doesn’t exist, and in order to sleep with anyone, even women far “lower” than what they think they “deserve”, they have to put in way more effort than they ever had to in their relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/20 10:45 PM |
| 105 | Men are jerks. "I kept breaking her heart and she still was so kind to me". Found in r/relationship_adviceMy family and friends used to love her...but they dislike her after what I’ve said about her to them. When I think of it now, it’s not even true. I’ve noticed a recurring theme where men badmouth their ex (or soon-to-be ex) when going through a breakup,l. I had this happen during both of my breakups. They ran to their family and told them all of our business, twisting it to make it look like I was the bad guy and they were poor, abused victims. Men always trash talk the woman and fail to mention… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/20 10:41 PM |
| 46 | His Bucket list includes making it to japan and his other picture is him sticking his tongue out. The fact hes dressed as the joker already shows the clown nature. I downloaded and deleted after 5 minThat picture screams video and/or role playing game addict who only wears anime t-shirts with holes and demands a 10/10 fit beautiful woman to pay at least 55% of the bills | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/20 08:18 PM |
| 140 | Pathetic m*le cries when girlfriend refuses to have sex with him because he hadn't showered in MONTHS and offered to 'use more febreeze'My ex, after getting comfortable in our relationship, got to a point where he would shower maybe every two days, but wouldn’t use soap because he said 1) it’s a scam, 2) it’s not needed, 3) Americans are too obsessed with cleanliness, and my favorite is 4) his exes told him he smelled so good he didn’t need it. I stopped going down on him and finally admitted it was because of the odor. He tried blaming it on a medication he was taking but at least he started using soap again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/20 08:13 PM |
| 40 | LETS 👏 TALK 👏ABOUT👏THIS👏Wow, I never thought about it this way. My brother is five years younger and he could do whatever he wanted. In high school I had to ride the bus but my mom dropped him off and picked him up everyday because “kids are mean to boys and pick on them”. He never even rode the bus to find out if that was true, meanwhile I told her kids were picking on me and she ignored it and made me feel guilty when I’d ask her to pick me up once every two months. I was made to do extracurricular activities, I had … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/20 04:50 PM |
| 15 | Advice for dating religious men?That’s an interesting note about mothers and rabbis that I was unaware of. My boyfriend is Ashkenazi Jewish, and he consults with his mother a lot before making big decisions. I don’t think he’s a “momma’s boy” because he doesn’t necessarily do what she says, and I’ve heard him disagreeing with her and respectfully arguing his point, and will then carry on with his own decision. But it was odd to me how a mid-30s guy would always consult with his mom (who lives across the country) before making … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/20 02:18 PM |
| 16 | JEALOUSY: The thread. Post your examples so we can get a better look at the different ways it manifestsMy NVM used to tell me that I only got to where I am because of privilege...I didn’t graduate college until I was 31, as a single mother who worked full time. Anytime I got a promotion or a raise it was rubbed in my face that it’s only because I’m a “privileged white female”, not because I’m a hard working college graduate. Not to mention I was only the second in my entire family (both sides) to graduate college, the first being my dad who did it in his forties also while working full time. When… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/20 01:43 PM |
| 49 | Imagine Being 30+ And Thinking Like ThisAnd are the orgasms better if they come from different women? Do the orgasms get less good if the same woman is providing them? The mind boggles. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/20 12:24 AM |
| 216 | Imagine Being 30+ And Thinking Like ThisWhat a sad, pitiful existence. Though as a 33 year old, I’ve seen it so often. I can’t wrap my brain around how sleeping with multiple “hot” women is supposed to better than finding a loving, supportive partner and settling down. Surely sleeping with a person you love, with whom you get to spend everyday learning about each other’s body, has got to be more fulfilling than just chasing randos for one night stands. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/20 09:00 PM |
| 79 | What's with men constantly calling women bitches?And if it’s not bitches they’re calling us, then they’re referring to us as “females”. Or “girls”. I don’t get it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/20 04:47 PM |
| 1 | This post made me so sad, as did the comments. When will girls realise we deserve so much more than the bare minimum?I used to have these fantasies where exes would wake up one day and realize they’re old and alone and how great things were when they had me. I’d imagine they’d realize what a mistake it was to leave me or ghost me because I treated them so well. Well, I’ve come to realize that will never happen. Men like that don’t miss women. They don’t even appreciate what they have when they have it, and quite frankly they probably immediately forget about the women they took advantage of. They’re the type o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/20 01:35 PM |
| 7 | The subtext here is they ALWAYS want more than the “simple” things they demand, they just take for granted that most women are socialized to meet their needs firstAnd the huge breasts have to be perky even without a bra, and have no veins or stretch marks. The nipples have to be perfectly centered and can’t be bigger than the size of a dime. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/20 12:46 PM |
| 19 | It never gets better does it? Fetish after fetishI think he shoves it up his butt—with it being butter it will soften easily so he has less of a chance of it getting stuck. Disgusting, but that’s just a guess. I’d also be concerned that he’s possibly doing it on camera or taking pics and sending them to other men or posting them on gay sites. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/20 12:35 PM |
| 2 | What led you to find this sub?Datingoverthirty | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/20 12:04 PM |
| 30 | What led you to find this sub?I used to frequent a certain dating subreddit that had a rule about “no FDS language”. Once I saw a post on there from a woman who used the term “Pickmeisha” (the first time I’d heard of it) and saw that the commenters were being rude to her because they saw she was an FDS poster. That sub was toxic anyway, lots of “if a woman doesn’t offer to pay on the first date there won’t be a second” and encouragement of situationships and FWBs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/20 03:03 PM |
| 83 | Girl’s 30 year old BF manipulates her into anal and gaslights/verbally abuses her when she expresses she feels manipulated“Open your ass for me” has to be one of the most disgusting things I’ve ever read, and I can’t believe people can say that or, even worse, do it and find it a turn on 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/20 03:38 AM |
| 45 | Adam the asshole.Pickmes like to respond to guys like this because they think they’re special enough that he’ll change for them. A pickme think she’s prettier, younger, and sucks dick better then “all those other girls” because she’s “not like other girls” and wants to prove it. And men eat that shit up. Any guy who advertises how terrible he is does it because he knows it’s like catnip to pickmes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/20 02:12 AM |
| 5 | NEVER have a NVM's children: NVM red piller impregnates wife three times and complains that she is now hideous and that he has been "cucked by mother nature"Exactly! We’re supposed to be mothers but we better instantly snap back into shape. Women that get stretch marks or gain weight after pregnancy are just pure lazy and ugly. However, don’t forget that once they’ve knocked us up they’ve earned the right to a hot, sexy Dad Bod™! Everybody knows that ejaculating into a woman and then walking away means you’ve earned that hairy beer gut and moobs, and as a bonus, women loooove it too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/20 02:06 AM |
| 2 | Anyone ever met a catfish irl?I’ve had this happen. Guy told me he was a former Marine and all of his photos showed a good looking, fit guy. Well, it turns out he must have gained 75 pounds since he left the service. He said something that implied he got kicked out too. Also I asked him a question, don’t remember what it was about and he ended up telling an extremely long sob story about his ex. It was obvious he was obsessed with her. I ghosted him. I didn’t say anything because I didn’t want to be rude, but that was when I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/20 01:44 AM |
| 24 | Please keep your clothes on, Christian. We’re begging you...46 and probably still unsure if he wants marriage and/or kids. But hey, he’s a guy and they age like the finest of wines, right? So he still has a while to age into perfection and he’ll be able to marry any 18 year old he wants. After all, why would an 18 year old want a hot, strong fit man of her same age who can go all night long when she can instead have an obese oldster whose ass she has to wipe? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/20 09:35 PM |
| 2 | She was deceived for years about her fiancé’s weight gain fetish.What in the Sam Hill?!?!?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/20 09:28 PM |
| 2 | Men who think they can do betterReminds me of a guy I met who told me he saw a girl on YouTube he thought was cute so he found her on Instagram and actually messaged her to ask her if she was single and would she like to get to know him. Literally the most pathetic thing I’ve ever heard. The saddest part of all is that this girl is a hand model and only showed her face one time on the channel. As soon as he saw her face he messaged her. I was instantly turned off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/20 09:23 PM |
| 3 | Men who think they can do betterOh yeah. He said all kinds of stupid shit to me: When I found out about the other girl, he was sooo shocked and told me he thought we would never find out because he and I lived across the country from each other and she lived in a different state too (and was in the process of moving in with him). Absolutely no remorse and didn’t apologize, was just shocked that I found out. Truth is, I found out because he got sloppy: I was visiting him and he kept typing on his phone throughout the day. I wal… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/20 09:12 PM |
| 3 | Men who think they can do betterLol, hot pockets. Interestingly enough, this guy told me that he only dated Asian women before me. He had a relationship for a few years with a girl from Japan and the girl before me was Vietnamese. He said I was his first blonde and that it was exciting to him. The girl after me was Latina. For a period of time I kept in contact with her (you can see one of my other replies for more details) and she told me that he made a big deal of her being Latina too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/20 08:56 PM |
| 4 | Men who think they can do betterUgh. What a loser. Did he think she was going to respond favorably to his comment? Like she’d respond “What?! A sexy beast like you was actually kind and generous enough to swipe right on me? How did I miss that? Please accept my sincerest apologies along with a steak and a blowjob.” Uhh, no dude, it’s obvious that she left swiped you, otherwise you would have matched by now 🙄 Glad you’re no longer with him. I agree, the “nice guys” who are usually the least attractive are the ones that cause th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/20 08:48 PM |
| 6 | Men who think they can do betterI hope this can happen one day. When I found out he was seeing another girl and moving her in, I found her on social media and told her everything. I didn’t want to hurt her but I felt like she had a right to know. She was very thankful and friended me on Facebook. We even talked on the phone a few times and planned to meet up because we found out we had a lot in common, including daughters the same age. She told me at one point that she went no contact with him and I supported her and reminded … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/20 08:35 PM |
| 6 | Men who think they can do betterI think you’re 100% right, and you said it so eloquently. Men just want to use us, as many of us as possible until they start to feel empty inside and decide to “settle down”. I guess that’s why you see 40 and 50 year olds on OLD saying that one day they’d like to get married and maybe even have kids, they’re not sure yet though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/20 08:22 PM |
| 6 | Men who think they can do betterThankfully my standards have been raised! No longer am I impressed by job title or salary. No longer will I tolerate future-faking, long-distance relationships or men who refuse to call me their girlfriend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/20 08:11 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered June 17 2020I’ve not heard of that study but I’d love to read it! It proves that men see us as their mommy. Mommy not feeding her baby = abuse | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/20 01:03 AM |
| 2 | Hurt Bae Asks: Why Did You Cheat? Exes Confront Each Other On Infidelity (#HurtBae Video) He says: “Why wouldn’t you just leave?” Always walk away.Agreed! Also proof that no matter how hard you love a man, you can’t make him be with you if he doesn’t want to. You can tell she absolutely loved him. So he has absolute unconditional love from a beautiful, intelligent woman and it wasn’t enough for him. Ladies, you can be an 18 year old PhD Victoria’s Secret model virgin and love him, worship him and die for him and it still wouldn’t make him stay if he didn’t want to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/20 02:37 AM |
| 33 | Hurt Bae Asks: Why Did You Cheat? Exes Confront Each Other On Infidelity (#HurtBae Video) He says: “Why wouldn’t you just leave?” Always walk away.Proof that you can be absolutely stunningly beautiful and men will still treat you like trash. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/20 12:32 AM |
| 27 | Bye then.Did he graduate college at 16, or is he lying about his age or educational status? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 07:53 PM |
| 48 | This is a comment to a video of women working out in leotards, this is how porn destroys healthy sexualityMy friend (she’s in her mid-50s) told me that in the 80s, her friend would complain to her that her husband would leave bed in the middle of the night, turn on the tv and masturbate to aerobics videotapes, sometimes pausing the tape when there was a crotch shot that came across the scene. She and her friend were (and still are) horrified at the scrotery of him to do that. While I agree that what he did was disgusting, NVM behavior, I have to say that at least it wasn’t incest beastiality barely … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 07:48 PM |
| 13 | This whole post.. but that last line after it’s clear she’s unsure/uncomfortable😐Sounds like a manipulator, just like my ex. He wanted a threesome and I refused. He then pitched a fit and said that I was “backing out of my contract”. I said “excuse me? Contract? What contract, we’re not married.” He then tried to gaslight me into believing that when we first started dating, I agreed that in order to have a relationship with him, I must promise to have threesomes whenever he wanted them. 🤣 Yeah, I never promised that, but he swore up and down that I did. And get this, he said… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 04:01 AM |
| 186 | The scrodacityAlex, 27 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/20 09:47 AM |
| 38 | Not Everyone Can Be Saved or Deserves SympathyI see we work with the same woman. One of my coworkers, whom I actually consider a friend, is married to a chronically unemployed (25+ years), opiate-addicted abuser. They haven’t had sex since her youngest daughter was born in 2006. He makes her do all of the housework AND yard work. She’ll come home after working for 9 hours and cook him dinner and then mow the lawn, while all day he’s been sitting in his “office” on Facebook. Once he hit her and she left him, actually kicked him out. She was … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/20 04:40 PM |
| 59 | To all the pickmes browsing this subI’m not sure why I used to be a pickme. Grew up in a loving home, never wanted for anything and my mom had been teaching me FDS values that I always ignored. I think it’s because I had an ugly duckling phase in high school. I was occasionally picked on and my cousin (who was a year younger and up to that point had been like a sister) was popular and wouldn’t hang out with me in public. I had a crush on a guy and she told him even though I told her not to, and he publicly told me he wasn’t intere… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/20 01:52 PM |
| 48 | You've got to be kidding me. The scrotiest of scrotes are going to teach us how to be women?Thy are extremely...unfortunate looking | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 08:32 PM |
| 105 | Emotionally unavailable LVM that I ghosted tries to flatter me by comparing me to a potential one night stand from BumbleHe’s hoping you’ll get jealous and go all pickme to try to one-up this girl, by immediately running to him to give him pussy and whatever else he wants to prove you’re better than her. He probably didn’t even really talk to her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 02:36 AM |
| 5 | I know we’re splitting because I deserve better, but I’m still sadThe great thing is, you don’t necessarily have to lose his family. I loved my ex-husband’s dad and stepmom so much. After we divorced in 2013, I missed them so much but was too ashamed and embarrassed to reach out. Well, about a year ago his dad came to pick up my daughter from me—it had been the first time I’d seen him in years. He had a good talk with me and told me how he missed me and loved me and that I’d always be his daughter. He also told me he’d never forget how I was the only one who c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 02:29 AM |
| 5 | Have you ever dated someone from the past?I met my boyfriend three years ago when I sat next to him in a two-day class we attended. I didn’t talk to him very much, though I saw him watching a show on his phone during break and I told him how much I love that show. I thought he was really cute but out of my league. I know now there’s no such thing as “leagues” but I was still an uninformed pickme back then, in fact I was just beginning the process of starting to break up with my then-boyfriend...a long drawn out breakup that took almost … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 02:49 AM |
| 2 | Big Yikes 😳I remember circa 2013 or 2014 there was an app where you could rate men. I remember looking up some of the guys I was dating. I just looked it up, apparently it was called Lulu | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 11:18 PM |
| 10 | *LVM men be like...Blonde, why? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 11:26 PM |
| 41 | Guys who ask to be FWBs while expecting the girl to see no one else. Be careful of these types out there ladies, especially if you’re young or working on becoming more assertive.He’ll be the same, still refusing to commit yet telling people “I think I might want kids one day” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 09:34 PM |
| 62 | Guys who ask to be FWBs while expecting the girl to see no one else. Be careful of these types out there ladies, especially if you’re young or working on becoming more assertive.I remember once on that subreddit a guy made a post (since deleted) asking everyone’s opinion on whether it would be morally and ethically okay for him to date a girl for 3-6 months before dumping her and finding another girl, and continuing this cycle for the foreseeable future, meaning a new girlfriend every few months. He said the reason is because he wants to experience as many girls as he can but also have the girlfriend experience. I replied that no self-respecting woman would sign up for … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 09:33 PM |
| 150 | *LVM men be like...Omg, twice I’ve heard the excuse “you’re literally everything I want in a wife, but you’re not what I’m looking for in a girlfriend so we’re done”. I have yet to figure out wtf that means—isn’t the end goal to have a wife? So wouldn’t you want a girlfriend who would make a good wife? One guy who said that actually told me that he had another woman already and that he’s “probably making the wrong decision, she does drugs and is bad with money and my mom doesn’t like her and she probably won’t be … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 09:08 PM |
| 75 | How LVM be likeI love how accurate the penis size is | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 11:17 PM |
| 125 | Male Depravity - Boyfriend won't propose unless OP loses weight, he compares her body to p0rnstars.These guys are the worst. I got married young (20), and my ex husband once told me he’d pay me $300 to lose 20 pounds—and I’m 5’6” and at the time was like 150 pounds, so I wasn’t even overweight. He always told me I needed to lose weight. The funny thing is he’s remarried now to a girl who’s my height or shorter and is at least 200 pounds. I’m not judging her or criticizing her for her weight, but I just wonder if he does the same thing to her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 04:20 AM |
| 13 | The day before our first date! He’s been asking me out for weeks and now he reveals himself!!Another, from a past experience—“tenured professor” turned out to be an instructor at a community college, not tenured and a masters degree not a PhD like how he first claimed his title was “Dr. So and so”. He actually got in trouble for making business cards that said professor—since it was a state-run community college, they were all classified as instructors, there were no “professors” there and tenure didn’t even exist at that school. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 04:10 AM |
| 39 | Men who can’t plan thingsExactly. Then after you’re married he won’t be able to schedule his own doctor’s appointments, take the car in for maintenance, register the kids for school, give the dog his monthly heartworm prevention...it goes on and on. Been there done that. Speaking from experience, if a guy can’t plan a proper date, he’s also too incompetent to take care of himself, his family and his home. He wants or even needs a Mommy McBangMaid to do everything. And trust me, it gets VERY tiresome. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 03:43 AM |
| 9 | Oh manlets and their requestsAnd he claims to work in tech 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/20 11:37 PM |
| 1 | Should I cut things offWhat movie is that line from? Looking for something to watch :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/20 08:49 PM |
| 54 | I (45f) have become both the man and woman of the house because my husband (53m) does so littleI once worked with a woman who said that she learned over the years there was only one way to get her husband to actually do things around the house. If there was a project she needed done and her husband would just constantly say “I’ll get around to it” but never actually do it, she’d mention to her husband’s friend what she’d want and he’d come over to do it for her. Her husband would be embarrassed and emasculated and would tell his friend not to worry, he’d start working on it right now and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 02:37 AM |
| 9 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/22/2020Here’s a funny story to lighten the mood: Last weekend, I was at my boyfriend’s house. We were just sitting on the couch talking, and it was starting to get slightly warm in the room but not too uncomfortable. I don’t remember what the conversation was about, but he got up to get his iPad and said to me “so have you seen that only fan thing?” My heart dropped into my stomach and I felt myself get hot and I just knew I was turning red—is he really bringing up onlyfans? I asked him “what do you me… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 04:00 AM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/22/2020Not to mention the fact that in all actuality it’s not shameful nor out of the ordinary to have kids at a certain age. I’m tired of thirtysomething men acting like it’s a shameful, terrible thing for a thirtysomething woman to have a child. When I was on dating apps, some guys would try to shame me or act as if the fact I have a child is akin to me doing drugs or being unemployed. Look, I totally understand if you are childfree or otherwise don’t want a relationship with a mother. We won’t be co… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 03:47 AM |
| 18 | Guys who emphasize how "honest" they areMy ex, toward the end of the relationship, liked to say he was “honest” and used it as an excuse to belittle me, my education, and my career. He also did the same to his colleagues and friends. In a span of one year, he lost me and all but two of his closest friends. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 02:33 PM |
| 7 | LVM with Egos in the Legal Field and Black CommunityThis worries me! My boyfriend is culturally Jewish but does consider himself religious. His sister is now 30 and said she wants to find a Jewish man because she doesn’t want to be the first in the family to marry a non-Jew. He said he thinks that’s silly and that she’s throwing away a lot of good guys with that attitude...however since I am not Jewish, I still worry that maybe one day he’ll change his mind and decide it’ll cause too many problems to be with me... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 03:09 PM |
| 24 | Girl dating scrote 12 years her senior has him begging to fuck other girls while telling her he wants a monogamous relationship. She feels guilty for feeling uncomfortable 🙄This time he invites me to come see her too He was 100% trying to set up a threesome. Source: my past relationship | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/20 07:02 PM |
| 36 | I saw the post about “begging for a pandora CZ ring” and decided to look up that exact same ring. Sadly it’s not a joke 😥it haS not yet loss a diamond! It’s because it doesn’t have any diamonds to lose. And not yet, as in you expect it to happen any day now? Sis, you deserve more than that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/20 05:46 PM |
| 66 | Scroll to 0:50 for Elon Musk's new fiance (2nd wife) talking about him proposing after ten days, how she would have said yes to almost anyone, how her parents are traumatized by the whole experience, and how she often has the urge to escape.“Yeah he’ll be so different with me because I’m prettier/thinner/younger/suck dick better!” Sis, you could be a supermodel and it wouldn’t matter. LVMs gonna LVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/20 05:38 PM |
| 28 | Permanently Banned from r/relationships simply for participating in FDSI don’t know if they’re banned, but I’ve seen FDS posters on a dating subreddit for folks 30+ get ganged up on and chewed out just because they post here, even if their advice was non biased and they didn’t even mention FDS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/20 02:11 AM |
| 6 | Call out that double standard sis!I’ve also seen Facebook and Whisper posts that said only women of certain races have periods because they’re inferior/unhealthy whatever 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/20 02:01 AM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/6/2020That’s one thing I’m worried about—the possibility that he’s a momma’s boy. He calls his mom everyday and seems to take her advice quite often. I haven’t met her yet (she lives across the country) and I don’t know too much about their relationship, but I’ve heard him get a little heated on the phone with her a couple of times, though mostly he seems to value her opinion (hopefully not to a fault). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/20 09:57 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/6/2020I highly doubt he found out, and I’ve never mentioned any of the ideology. I agree, it’s about how they act not how they talk...I’m just so confused about why he mentioned these things so many times! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/20 09:53 PM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/6/2020He treats me wonderfully—both for the big things (always pays for dinner, trips and gifts; doesn’t watch porn; etc) and the little things (makes sure I get home safely; on the sidewalk won’t let me walk closest to the road; etc). Still not ready to call him HVM though, I still feel like I need more time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/20 09:52 PM |
| 8 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/6/2020I don’t know how to feel about this. Three times in the last few days, my boyfriend of 6ish months has made comments that were very similar—all about how women should be treated better than the man in a relationship: 1) “I can’t believe the neighbor bought a new car and his wife drives a $1500 beater...doesn’t he know the wife should always have the nice things even if it means he goes without” 2) (Scenario: guy is building a house and he showed us a picture, and pointed out how where his wife’s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/20 02:28 AM |
| 60 | Why can't a guy just admit he doesn't like you?Because he’s going after another girl but isn’t quite sure yet that she likes him back, so he’s keeping you on the back burner for access to sex until he finally convinces the other girl (this week’s FantasyDreamGirl™) to fuck him. Rinse, repeat next month when he finds FantasyDreamGirl™v91.0 and the cycle starts all over again | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/20 02:06 AM |
| 6 | HVM and talking with exes. Is this a no-no and automatic LVM behavior?If he’s already talking about two exes, believe me that it goes nowhere but downhill from here. I’ve mentioned before on this sub about an ex I had who was overly friendly with his ex—the first red flag I had with him was around month 2 or so when I was looking over at his phone because he was texting someone nonstop and said “who are you texting?” And he blew.the.fuck.up, told me to never look at his phone again and said it was his ex and I need to deal with it because they’re friends and he’s … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/20 02:26 AM |
| 193 | Wife stuck in Deadbedroom marriage sets up online dating profiles and is flooded with male attention, affection, and messages in under 10 minutes. Husband comes crawling back and wants "to fix it". THIS IS A DAILY REMINDER TO TAKE ZERO SHIT FROM MEN! NEVER LET THEM MAKE YOU FEEL UNDESIRABLE!About a week ago, he got his supply of his fetish item Yuck, that line made me gag...I don’t know what kind of fetish it is or what the item is, but I felt disgusted reading that. A fetish item that makes him not attracted to his wife anymore? Eww, I can only assume it’s porn-fueled as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 08:21 PM |
| 20 | Telling men that I don’t have a Snapchat saved my lifeTelling them you don’t have social media is a great idea. I don’t use social media and haven’t since 2016, and even then I was only using Facebook—maybe it’s my age (I’m in my early 30s) but Snapchat and Instagram never caught on with my friends. I have had a couple of guys question me, they either didn’t believe that I don’t have social media, or they thought it made me weird/suspicious. Quite frankly, those guys can go pound sand. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 06:53 PM |
| 65 | Is jealousy a pickme trait?When I was a pickme, I experienced jealousy, and a lot of time it was fueled by the LVM/NVM I was with. One of my exes would compare me to other women, saying things like “why can’t you dress like her?” or “her hair looks so good, you should do yours like that”. Another ex would watch porn daily, usually threesomes with tattooed “alternative” girls and he made it known how much he loved their aesthetic, even though I’m nothing like that and couldn’t be even if I wanted to. He would often try to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/20 06:56 PM |
| 8 | New euphemisms for Netflix and ChillOne that I fell for: was telling a guy I was having a minor problem with my car—just small talk, I wasn’t asking for help repairing it. But later that day he texted me “come to my house so I can fix your car”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/20 01:14 AM |
| 53 | Nah, sis .....that 52 year old man you are talking to on OLD is a DEAD ENDQuestion is what do most 53 year old successful men want from someone more than 15 years younger? Answer is: a free home health aide | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 09:27 PM |
| 19 | Is anyone else repulsed by men's double standards about what counts as "shallow"?I used to think the weirdest thing I’ve seen men critique about women’s bodies was nipple size and color—too pale, or too big (“pepperoni” sized). However, I recently stumbled upon a subreddit where they were talking about philtrum size and maxillary length and girl I just can’t even. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 09:27 PM |
| 8 | Braindead idiot has to divert from women getting raped to how men are the true victims.Did you see in a later comment that person claims to be female? Press x to doubt. Edit: they literally say “I am female” not I’m a woman...that in and of itself is a red flag | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 02:13 PM |
| 7 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 4/20/2020Ladies, is it a HVW trait to ask a guy about his past relationships, or is that just unnecessary? My boyfriend of 5 months was showing me photos from a trip he took with his friends about 5 years ago, and one of them was a picture of him and a girl sitting together and he had his arms around her. I’m guessing it was his girlfriend at the time. He quickly moved on to the next pic and neither one of us said anything. I’m pretty proud of myself, my old Pickmeisha self would have probably been jealo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 01:08 AM |
| 70 | Get commitment or get movingAnd even if they did think you were his girlfriend, why would that have been so offensive to him? I can’t figure out why some guys act like this. You were out together in a date-like environment, of course people are going to think you’re dating. Not sure why some men get so freaked out by labels. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/20 01:01 PM |
| 167 | LVM with 200k salary wants his gf to pay to sleepover; I hope she dumps his assHe should pay her to compensate for the days she’s having to pay rent for an apartment she’s not in (since she’s at his place). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/20 08:48 PM |
| 6 | What's with men on reddit? why do they think if a woman overweight they less attractive and they have no right to have preferences for themselves?In fact the media is trying to get us to believe that “dad bods” are sexy and desirable. I recently heard an ad for a “dad bod” contest where shirtless fat guys would parade around and the hottest “dad bod” would win. Can you imagine if there was a “mom bod” contest? Would never happen. Which is ironic, because when a man becomes a father, he experiences no physical changes whereas a woman becoming a mother gains weight and possibly get stretch marks, sagging breasts, tears downstairs etc. But w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/20 03:15 AM |
| 19 | I’ll take 2 of eachYes! I forgot about r/disneyeyes until you mentioned that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/20 08:45 PM |
| 267 | Woman reveals speeding/car crash fears to BF... he decides to drive 85 mph, making her cry. She ghosts him. THIS IS A DAILY REMINDER TO TAKE ZERO SHIT FROM MEN!I was thinking about this yesterday actually. When I was married, we had a small boat we’d occasionally go out in. He would purposely go fast whenever we passed over other boats’ wakes, causing the boat to go in the air and slam back down on the water, which made me uncomfortable and scared me. I’d tell him I was scared and he’d belittle me and said I was scared because didn’t trust him, which made him mad. Meanwhile the guy I’m seeing now likes to jet ski. He has a performance model that is one… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/20 02:04 PM |
| 82 | Man wants a girlfriend, but not a relationship. This is why it’s important to not put out and give girlfriend/privileges until they have shown commitment and investment!“I like her but I don’t think she’s the one” = she’s only an 8.5/10, I’m holding out because I know I can do better | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/20 01:52 AM |
| 9 | Imagine being this pathetic thoughI had a look as well. Its so funny reading them say “wow she looks so real!” about a doll with perfectly smooth skin (not a freckle or a blemish anywhere), a waist so small I can wrap my hands around it, and breasts that are perfect spheres the size of cantaloupes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/20 02:31 AM |
| 2 | What are some signs he JUST WAS NOT THAT INTO YOU that you wish you would have seen as a Pickmeisha?She’s in her early 30s now and married, with three kids. So happy that she found a man in her 20s who loves her and now they’re just enjoying family life. Much better than what I did, wasted my 20s with LVMs who loved me but were trash, and NVMs who didn’t care about me at all but I PickMe’d my heart out for them lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/20 12:49 AM |
| 31 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered April 12 2020I read something from one of you ladies a few days ago (don’t remember which thread it was in) that said you’ve always got to be ready to leave a guy at the drop of a hat. I’ve been thinking about that a lot this weekend. Even though things have been really good with the guy I’ve been seeing, we’ve only been together for five months and I can’t get too invested this early. I’m having to reframe my mindset that has been warped from past relationships with LVMs. So I want to say thank you for bein… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/20 12:43 AM |
| 27 | What the actual...DelusionalOh my god, he’s 36?? Just a few years older than me?? I used to think I looked young for my age, but man if this is what 30s really looks like...I wonder if younger folks see me and see this guy and think “yup they’re about the same age”. Nothing wrong with aging or looking one’s age, I think we should be proud but DAMN this dude looks older than my dad who’s pushing 60. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/20 01:05 AM |
| 8 | If you thought the male dregs of society gathered mainly on OLD, think againMy ex would use that to try to find threesomes (spoiler alert: nobody was interested). Apparently where I live that app is mainly used to solicit and peddle drugs anyway. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/20 12:40 AM |
| 9 | She screwed this dusty troll and he complains! This is the reality of LVM. They’re never happy because they’re deeply inadequate. DISGUSTING! Most of these women sadly find out most of those men barely scraped plane ticket money to get there!Hahaha 😂 you ladies always make me laugh. I needed that today! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/20 10:36 PM |
| 1 | Too bad that even some biological fathers aren’t like that with their kidsThis is honestly one of the only things I hate about being single—the fact that my daughter doesn’t get to have a stepdad like this, and she doesn’t get to see a man treat her mom with love and respect. She has her dad but we divorced when she was young, all he did was scream at and argue with me and now she says he just screams at and argues with his new wife. When she was 5 until around 10-11, I was with a guy who was a pretty good stepdad, but he was garbage in every other aspect and an LVM. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/20 11:43 PM |
| 95 | Do not play pretend with your nvm/lvm, they don't care about looking bad in front of others and could care less about YOU looking bad in front of othersI like this arrangement as it proves to me she is not with me for my money. Obviously I would not be with her for her money as she is a poor college student. He’s obviously not with her for her money, he’s obviously with her because she’s young and naive and nobody his age would put up with this shit. Of course he likes this arrangement. So tired of women having to bend over backwards to prove we’re not gold diggers while men get to dig for the youngest, smallest waisted, biggest titted because … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/20 01:53 AM |
| 24 | Forever Girlfriend™️ is finally waking up after 12 yearsI think that’s sound advice, but I think that 2-3 years might be even shorter depending on age. I’m in my 30s, I don’t want to waste 3 years waiting for a guy to decide if he wants to marry me! His over 30-year-old ass shouldn’t wait that long either! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/20 01:23 PM |
| 4 | What are some signs he JUST WAS NOT THAT INTO YOU that you wish you would have seen as a Pickmeisha?When we were in high school in the early 00s, my best friend loved meeting 21+ year old men on chat rooms (I know). Once I was at her house for a sleepover and she was IM’ing one of these dudes. He kept saying his name was Mike. Anyway, she ended up giving him a bj in his car at the mall parking lot for his birthday and later that day she asked for his full name and he told her that his last name was Hunt...that was obviously a lie. I think we were 17 then, the dude was like 24. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/20 03:49 PM |
| 26 | the LVM experience TMI was the same way, for the first two years or so in my last relationship with an LVM. Then when I started realizing my worth, and told him that would no longer work, he accused me of bait-and-switch, whining “you used to be so happy just watching me play video games, now you expect me to entertain you”...umm no, I just used to put up with it because I didn’t know better. And I don’t expect you to entertain me, but some conversation and acknowledgment that I exist would be nice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/20 01:12 AM |
| 108 | What are some signs he JUST WAS NOT THAT INTO YOU that you wish you would have seen as a Pickmeisha?Started taking longer and longer to reply to texts. Quickly removed anything I tagged him in on Facebook. Wouldn’t answer my calls, and would instead call me back at some weird obscure hour for a two minute conversation before he had to go. Told me “Sometimes I just don’t feel talkative and want to be left alone” yet would hang out with other people and blow up social media with pics of his adventures with them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/20 01:08 AM |
| 2 | Sustainable and stylish clothing brandsI like the Mercari app for buying second hand. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/20 12:19 PM |
| 15 | Deleting Social MediaI have no social media unless you count reddit (and I don’t, since it’s anonymous). I got rid of Facebook in 2016, and never had Snapchat or Instagram (I’m in my 30s and those weren’t as common with people my age as Facebook). I love that no social media means less drama in my life, and less self esteem issues. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/20 07:36 PM |
| 41 | He didn't even read itReminds me of working in a grocery store in high school, 15 years ago. We had a grocery rewards program and if you didn’t have the card, we could look up your account by your phone number. A lot of interactions with males went like this: Me: “Hi, how are you doing today?” Scrote: “555-867-5309!!” (yells phone number for rewards program, ignoring me and my question) It’s been 13 years or so since I worked retail but now I work in an environment where I see a lot of very young military men, and I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/20 05:10 PM |
| 14 | Yet Another Example of how Men KNOW when they’ve found their wife almost immediately. "I think it's a testament to the fact that when you find the right person, you can just kind of know. And it doesn't take a ton of time to know that." - Cameron from “Love Is Blind”Was just watching episode 2 and wanted to puke when Barnett asked LC “when I propose, how do you feel about a non-diamond ring?” And she laughed and said “Oh I love that”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 03:51 PM |
| 8 | “ period stuff freaks me out” Disgusting. This is why you shouldn’t get into a fwb situation with a man, some men really don’t deserve sexI loved those thermacare patches, but I can’t find them anymore :( I wonder if they’ve been discontinued? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 03:06 AM |
| 16 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 2/28/2020Has anyone seen Tyler Perry’s Acrimony? I watched it and was blown away, it showed exactly why you shouldn’t be a Pickmeisha/Roberta the Builder. It didn’t get great reviews, but I really enjoyed it and highly recommend it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 11:24 PM |
| 15 | Why won’t he give up his good looking, flirty female friends ??Are you me? I had the exact same thing happen—I had a boyfriend who has multiple female friends, one of which was an ex-girlfriend. Anytime we had relationship problems, he would run to her and they eventually stopped asking me to hang out with them. He was big on wanting to have a threesome, would talk about it all the time. One day he comes home and tells me this girl “just happened to bring up the idea of having a threesome with us, I didn’t even say anything to prompt it, she totally just wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 09:19 PM |
| 19 | LVM will take and take until one day you wake up and realize you aren't his SO, you're his mother.I recently realized how sad it was when my reaction to seeing my boyfriend’s house for the first time was “oh my god, this is so clean!” And in reality, it wasn’t above and beyond sparkling and squeaky clean...it was just a normal, typical house but I had been so used to trashy men that I thought it was special. And by trashy men, I mean my last ex who somehow had poop stains on the side of the tub next to the toilet when we first started dating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/20 11:10 PM |
| 6 | LVMs watching Miss Universe“Men going their own way” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/20 10:57 PM |
| 5 | Women can tell when a man’s watching pornSounds like Anansi! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/20 12:04 AM |
| 9 | (Field Report) Disappointed by dishonestyThe last guy I met online told me he was 6’, and in reality he wasn’t more then a few inches taller than me and I’m 5’6”. Not only did he have it listed in his profile, but on our third and final date he told me “At 6’, I’m the shortest in my family! Haha lol We’re all giants”. It was cringy hearing him lie so blatantly. I had no plans to go on another date with him after that, and thankfully the trash took itself out because he never contacted me again after that date. Guess I don’t have a poke… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/20 02:10 AM |
| 20 | Man dumps GF of 1 year, two years ago. He didn't think she was marriage material. He broke her heart. She begins getting closer to another man, appears to move on. He surprises NO ONE by suddenly feeling very hurt. DAILY REMINDER TO TAKE ZERO SHIT FROM MEN. ZERO SHIT!!!!!I got a text the day before Valentine’s Day from my last ex, apologizing for treating me the way he did and blaming it on being in pain and also wishing me a happy vday. I ignored it and enjoyed flowers, chocolate, and a waterfront seafood dinner with the guy I’ve been seeing. The same ex only got me a gift for one of the three valentines days we were together—he got me a bouquet of flowers and he had bought another bouquet to give to our “friend” who was “hanging out with us on Valentines Day b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/20 01:54 AM |
| 2 | Jobs in which you encounter the most LVM...Agreed! I used to work for the local city tax office and the firefighters (who also worked for the city) worked next door. They were all overweight and unattractive and they even got busted for downloading porn to the city computers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/20 02:18 AM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: VALENTINE'S DAY 2020 EDITION 💜Thanks, that’s what I was thinking too. One month in, fine I get not introducing me but now it shouldn’t be a problem. We were talking about it at dinner yesterday (and he did get me something for Valentine’s Day, he got me a dozen roses and took me out to eat) and it sounds like I get to meet them next month when they visit. I’m hoping that he keeps up the HVM behavior, this has been the healthiest relationship I’ve ever been in. He has a good job (he’s an engineer), saves 30% of his income, he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/20 02:09 AM |
| 9 | Jobs in which you encounter the most LVM...My good friend is married to a guy who claims to be an audio engineer/studio owner and he is the most LVM I’ve ever met. Makes no money, doesn’t have a real job and demands that my friend comes home from work, cooks dinner and mows the lawn while he sits in his “office” on the computer all day. He claims to be a very religious man (she is a faithful Christian as well) and he uses that to manipulate her, telling her that she has to respect him as the man of the house. He even told her “the Bible … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/20 03:14 PM |
| 15 | Okay homie, whatever you say 🤣For real! The guy I’m seeing is Jewish and said he never celebrated Christmas his entire life and he still surprised me with two thoughtful Christmas gifts. Not because he wanted to celebrate Christ’s birth but because it’s something that you just do! Same with Valentines Day! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/20 05:38 PM |
| 9 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: VALENTINE'S DAY 2020 EDITION 💜I’ve been with a guy now for three months and tomorrow will be the test, I’m curious to see if he’s going to acknowledge Valentine’s Day. Things are going good so far and he’s exhibiting HVM traits but I’m not ready to call him HVM yet after only three months. I have a question for you ladies: when do you expect a guy to introduce you to his friends? The guy I’m with doesn’t really have any local friends (new to the area), but he has had two (guy) friends come visit at separate times within the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/20 12:45 AM |
| 7 | This is why EVERY woman needs FDSBack when I was the Queen Pickmeisha, almost 6 years ago now, I once met a guy online and then paid twice to fly to him across the country. When I was at his place the second time (five months later), I helped him clean his washer and dryer because it was covered in a layer of dust an inch thick. I also showed him how to vacuum his fringed rugs without messing up the fringes, and I think I even cleaned up the disgusting kitchen. I also called 911 for him because he had a heart condition that req… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/20 12:29 AM |
| 6 | Does anyone else have a pickme mom?My mom taught me FDS values and I was too stupid to listen until recently, now that I’m in my 30s and have had two failed relationships (one was a marriage) with LVMs. She used to say that her mom (born in the 1930s) always told her to marry a guy who loves you more than you love him. She also told me to never marry a guy who you have to beg and plead to get up and go to work/take care of the family. She’s still married to my dad, who is a great guy who when he married my mom took her daughter (… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/20 11:50 PM |
| 8 | The cockacity!!!!I’m sorry I was caught. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/20 03:58 PM |
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