I am what you girls would call a pickmeisha but recently I've been trying to make better. I started lurking FDS and read the handbook and all your posts and honestly you all both inspire me and make me feel ashamed as hell. Up until a few months ago I was completely obsessed with this guy who was cheating on his girlfriend with me. I thought it made me special and he would eventually leave her for me but it never happened. Idk if I was just growing out of it or growing tired or bored of his bullshit but when he blocked me the last time, I felt nothing. I didn't miss him or feel relieved or have any weight lifted off my shoulders, I felt normal. I rarely think of him. Yesterday he contacts me, we act friendly, it was fine up until he says some of the most disrespectful ass shit. I do not want to repeat it but something to the lines of "you're nobody to me lol" but phrased in a way to make it seem like he was joking around. I know he didn't forget 3 years of a toxic relationship. I know I am more than nobody to him. But for him to act as though I was and expect me to take that shit while pretending it was a joke or some dumb shit was so disrespectful and just annoying. I told him that was fine and blocked him and now I still don't miss him or regret anything. I read the post about the women who had both had children with a toxic man and grew to be best friends and it made me really want to contact his girlfriend and try to tell her how horrible he's been. I know she knows about me, we haven't met though. I just don't know anything about her or what to do. Idk if I'm out of my place or just dreaming but he is a genuinely terrible and manipulative person and I don't want him to be with any woman. My worst thought is she'll tell her boyfriend about it and he'll try to hurt me. I don't know what to do so any of your thoughts are really appreciated.