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5

Gets super into you in a couple of weeks, feels void, "loves you but is not in love with you", wants to break up but doesn't want to break up... Sounds like my bipolar ex. Whatever kind of shit is going on in this dudes head, it's not your job to sort it. Drop him and move on like it never happened.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 07:38 PM
5

I'd say: if you enjoy having sex - have sex, if you don't enjoy having sex - don't have sex. I didn't enjoy most of it at all, it was pure hope that one day it will get better, which kept me going 😅 in which case I'd say: get toys and experiment by yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 06:57 PM
18

Oh yeah, one dude was comaining to me about how receiving a straightforward "no" was hurting his feelings so much 😂😂 I suppose being led on and used for sex and then dumped, ghosted, slow-faded or kept around a side-chick are all so much better 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 10:32 AM
14

Wasn't there a study which suggested that women are getting prettier and men are getting uglier because good-looking parents are more likely to have daughters?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 08:28 AM
6

Maybe she has social anxiety. I've definitely clung to my ex at parties before because I don't like parties, get exhausted after an hour, and social anxiety is a bitch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 11:15 PM
8

It sounds like a blast reading it, but I understand that being there it might have not been fun. I don't blame the lady who clung to her husband, I probably would have done the same in that situation 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 10:43 PM
-2

Wait what? They don't live together, and the plates are for her. If they break up, they will stay at her place... It's only fair she paid for them. The real problem here is not that he didn't offer to pay, but that even though they are not married or living together, she treats it as if they were. She should set some boundaries and not treat him as a husband when he is not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 09:17 PM
47

Tell him that you haven't met the right person. That's the truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 07:49 PM
5

It's difficult for me too. I think it becomes much easier when it does not involve me, so I have no feelings associated with the situation and can be more objective (probably works that way for everybody).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 07:39 PM
9

Could it be that he wants to put only his name on the house? That's why he doesn't want to propose before buying it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 05:13 PM
25

He wants to set you up so you would jump through hoops trying to prove him that you're smart and not like other girls. He's also quite an advanced manipulator because he's trying to apear so modest or genuine (I'm not sure how to describe it well with words) with that "I hope you're smarter so I can grow to meet you". Come on, no man would ever truly think that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 03:40 PM
2

Having a fantasy and wanting to play it out are two completely different things. I have many fantasies that get me off, I don't want any of them played out in real life because I know it will never be as sexy (and consequently won't even bring me close to an orgasm). Hell, even the very idea of sex with a man is so much sexier in the fantasy, I'd rather fantasize then have the real thing 😅 Men seem to work completely different here, if they have a fantasy, they want to carry it out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 03:09 PM
21

Lmao yes, I avoided meeting up with good looking guys who where cool and popular because I automatically assumed they were players.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 03:01 PM
1

Yeah, I really don't see how this is better than nowadays... It was the norm and I'm pretty sure those suits were cared of by their wives or mothers. Edit: typo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 10:38 AM
4

My father is a piece of shit. I've watched him have emotional affairs when I was 6 and 7, I bet he thought I wouldn't remember... He also cries about how lonely he is now that mom has died, when him being a better husband could have gotten cancer diagnosed sooner and maybe she would still be alive today. He also started dating someone bare months after her death, but I think that lady has leveled up and dumped him already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 09:44 AM
1

He thinks he's funny. You're supposed to "prove" you have a sense of humor by swiping right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 09:32 AM
9

5 years is a big gap in 20s, especially when one person is a student and the other one is established. I've dated people with that age gap myself and it definitely didn't go well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 11:32 AM
8

He's too old for you. You don't know him well enough. He doesn't trust you to tell you what he earns yet, but you already consider him a HVM?The degree is the least of your problems here. That being said, one doesn't need to have a degree to make good money or be educated nowadays; however, his atitude of "I'm better than you" would definitely be a problem. But I'm sure the attitude comes from the age difference and the fact he's already established while you're just a student and not his lack o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 08:54 AM
5

He sounds inexperienced, how old is he? Is it reasonable to be inexperienced and all over the place at his age? I have nothing against late bloomers or inexperienced people btw, but it's best to date someone of similar experience level.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 08:46 PM
7

Sounds like it's a bit intense/moving fast. It's good to take things slower to make sure he's not a clinger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 07:05 PM
4

I agree on the baseball cap, but I'm genuinely curious why you hate backpacks?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 07:01 PM
13

I think that's a pretty big red flag. Personally for me, it's very important that people I'm with would keep their word and do as they say. Even if you don't care about the dishes, it shows that you cannot trust his word. Plus he's playing some weird "make himself look good" game.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 06:53 PM
7

Cleanliness. Some dudes always talk about how they clean and clean, but there's still hair all over the floor (and they don't even have hair on their head?!) and dust on sheves and windowsills.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 08:02 PM
12

Oh yes, hand soap and hand towel. And hot water from the hand washing faucet. One of my exes lived at his place for over a year and didn't notice there was no hot water coming from the hand washing faucet (the hot water tube was turned off, wasn't even a real problem). The dirty motherfucker just never washed his hands!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 07:59 PM
7

Holy shit, this is awesome! Everywhere should have laws like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 07:54 PM
13

I don't see a problem with the initial post, it is right. But them going with "this post getting few likes proves blah blah blah..." kinda shows they made it for the wrong reasons (them being attention seeking).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 07:45 PM
4

Yeah, I don't think a good man would be completely thrown off by woman paying once. Actually, it's a good way to test him, if he reacts to it by being embarrassed (emasculated) or has a really hard time accepting it, it would be a red flag. My ex always wanted to pay for me, but was really weird about accepting kind gestures in return. He would act embarrassed, try to brush it off, or thank me to the point of nearly crying, even for teeny tiny stuff. He had serious psychological issues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 09:11 AM
6

This is so funny, because when a woman chooses to date someone broke or someone with issues, naively expecting to help him up, it's always "she's stupid, she should have chosen better". But then there's also posts like this. From exactly the same "nice guys".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 09:36 PM
13

I don't know about FDS stance, but from my experience, having dates without sex is VERY important. Basically, if you're a great match and share a connection, you both should be fully satisfied just spending time together or talking. It should not feel like something is missing just because you did not have sex or physical intimacy. And if it feels like something is missing without sex, then it means something is really missing in the relationship regarding the connection /emotional intimacy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 09:19 PM
3

I think it's more of: "she wants me to change?? She's not happy with me? But I'm PerFeCt!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 09:11 PM
3

That is so true! Didn't even get you close, yet continues to think that his dick is a gift to the womankind while complaining about all the "hard work" 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 10:34 PM
23

Last time I've talked to one of my exes, he was bragging about how much he earns (not that much actually, since he never graduated) and about buying a new car. I asked him if he has paid back his debt (it's not a very big amount, could definitely be paid back by living a bit more modestly and being more responsible) and he was like "I'm still working on it". He also misread my text, thought that I was accusing him of something, and started arguing. I told him to reread, but he just went on and o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 09:57 PM
9

So why did you drop out o your studies? It sounds like the relationship with this quite accomodating guy has killed your motivation. You've probably been spending more time and energy on him than you're realizing too. You should be spending it on your schooling or learning skills instead. As other poster have said, you need to start focusing on becoming financially independent because a guy will only pay for your stuff until he gets bored of you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 07:37 PM
3

That is true, definitely a lot of assholes in engineering who think that anything remotely associated with femininity is below them. I'm in engineering myself, so I though it would be different with my ex because he was so supportive at first. But it was quick to change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 06:51 PM
6

My ex was very similar. Smart, logical engineer, very proud of his "pattern recognition ability". Yet he refused to acknowledge that him making fights every weekend, for months, due to his paranoid jealousy and tendency to jump to the worst conclusions was in fact a pattern of his own unhealthy behaviour which needed to be addressed. I got him to talk about some things with his family, and they told him he's being an idiot too, but he still refused to change his behavior or seek professional hel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 03:34 PM
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They're not stupid at their jobs though, only in relationships, which makes me think it's selective 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 03:06 PM
14

How do you deal with men hitting on you or trying to "ask you out" indirectly? I'm sure most ladies know the situation: you have a coworker or an aquintance whom you kinda talk with from time to time just to be nice and friendly, and then they start suggesting that you should hang out one on one, but it's not a direct asking out, which you could simply shut down with "sorry, not interested in that". It's always something which could be seen as friendly or something more, and they also throw some…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 09:48 AM
75

Lmao. That's the real reason men start dating aupair girls in their early 20s when they hit 30: they cannot stand the idea of a woman who's not dependent on them and has options.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 08:15 AM
25

Men don't see women as equals. In their mind we are always below them and not as smart/logical as them. Therefore when there's an argument, they see themselves as undoubtedly right and us as wrong, no matter what it's about. If a woman refuses to let him have his way and there's cosiquesces, he's of course going to cry wolf, because he thinks that he's right and entitled to getting this way, and he's hurt by not getting it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 08:07 AM
17

Lmao I read it as Manfred and was literally confused why was this post considered a pickme-post
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 08:10 PM
25

I watched it twice; the main character definitely isn't a decent human being, but I found the story quite interesting and overall it was quite entertaining. I suppose it's only a problem when someone admires the main character and wants to be like him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 08:03 PM
31

Locke with Tom Hardy. It's a movie about a dude who cheats, gets another woman pregnant, and doesn't say anything to his wife (they have several children too) until the moment the other woman is literally giving birth. Critics describe it as "a movie about a stoic family man who's trying to do the right thing in a difficult situation". Makes me want to vomit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 07:59 PM
30

Do men ever use the word "spontaneous" in a non-manipulative way? Seriously, I only seem to see it when someone is trying to get a woman to meet them for a hookup or "something casual" on a short notice. Kind of a red flag to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 07:39 PM
5

This has more to do with him than the way you rejected him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 09:58 AM
17

That's definitely not all European met, you've just found yourself a controlling clinger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 09:20 AM
34

That's horrible. Especially the part that he did it for no reason, just to mess with you. Also, he didn't "let you think" that, he made you think that. My ex also tried to make me think I'm insane. He insisted that I have cheated on him and have just forgotten it; of course, I have never done that. But he was pretty psychotic himself at the point it happened. Still, scary shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 08:30 PM
17

An abusive NVM can definitely affect your mental health in many ways. As far as I know, in order to be diagnosed with a personality dissorder you have to have symptoms and patterns across different situations/life areas, such as relationships, family relationships, work. So if it's only your romantic relationships that are causing problems, it's more likely to be a problem with the relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 08:49 AM
3

I love the show too! Watched it for the first time just recently and found it relevant and entertaining. The first episode (or was it?) where Carrie's friend's husband says good morning to her wearing no underwear was the most realistic representation of men in TV I have ever seen in my life lmao. The ending was so disappointing though, such a forced kitchy holiwoody happy ending where they all end up "happy with men". And Carrie getting together with Big was just sooo unrealistic and whatever. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 01:25 PM
28

Refuses to laugh at your jokes or acts like he did not get that you were joking. Like you'll make a joke and instead of playing along , he'll say "that's an interesting way to put it" or "what do you mean" as if he's confused by what you said. I think it's a form of gaslighting. He tries to make you think that you are confusing/unfunny /difficult to understand when really you're not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 01:05 PM
3

I have a question, do the men who are nice to you and help you out ever end up hitting on you? How do you deal with it? I feel like I have to just avoid men alltogether because ever time I have a longer chat with someone they end up hitting on me, crushing, or getting weird and expecting God knows what. I don't even want to think how entitled they would feel if I let them help me out or accepted favors from them. And that was the same when I had boyfriends and other men knew it (would never chea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 07:06 PM
13

If it's his house, why the fuck does she do the cooking??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 09:21 PM
23

Sadly, the momy or sister would still take his side. Guess how I know, my ex spied on me because he was jealous and delusional, and his sister was still like "you have to understand him, he loOoves you" and "I can't believe you want to break up with him, you're so mean". Or another case, a guy told me he wanted to "fuck other girls" while in a relationship with me, and his sister was like "you loved him in your way, he loved you in his". Lmao. Don't even bother, families of NVM are negative valu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 09:16 PM
8

I think the whole idea that a date is meeting up for dinner (which has to be a reservation) is just not there. People meet up to do different things as dates: museums, exhibitions, events, etc. I think a man coming up with something interesting to do and offering to pay for it is kind of an equivalent of booking a table and paying for dinner. It's kind of more casual too. Coffee dates or a walk in a park are very common. Usually they end with getting a meal if it's going well and you both want t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 03:32 PM
11

I don't think it's because of pickme culture. It's just different. When people want to go on a nice date, they don't think "dinner at an expensive restaurant", they think of something more cultural like a museum or gallery, or an escape room, or paddling on a boat, or some interesting event. A man will still offer to pay for those things if he's serious. It might also include a lunch or a dinner, if you get hungry after the main plan and feel like spending more time together. This is both for fi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 03:02 PM
62

Lol exactly what I was thinking! Some poor soul is probably going to find this "fun".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 12:08 PM
36

I know it's not FDS, but I really consider being asked out for coffee to be better than being asked out for drinks. Drinks is just an excuse to meet you late and try to get you in a place where you don't have your best judgment. I'm European, so dinner dates as a first date are almost unheard of here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 11:56 AM
132

I'm pretty sure that's exactly the reason behind any "drinks date".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 11:51 AM
24

Sounds like you were dating my bipolar ex. It was intense, with fast commitment, him acting all in love (love bombing), then it was suddenly "I love you but I'm not in love with you". No, he doesn't love you, he just wants to keep you around all on his terms and for his benefit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 01:25 AM
3

First two: my own lack of self-esteem and confidence. I thought that since we both had our issues, we could just support each other and grow together. Little did I know. The last two: I though they were genuinely good persons, but I made that conclusion way too early and it turned out not to be true. Overall, mostly projecting my own good qualities on them because I thought that we were similar based on something miniscule like shyness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 11:11 AM
7

The problem is them calling you at 1am, not them having the same problem again and again, imo. Even if they (or you) sollved it, they would most likely still call you at 1am, just with another problem. The solution here would be to set a boundary not to take calls from them in weird times or when you're busy with your own stuff, instead of trying to solve their problem for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 09:59 AM
19

Oh yes, let's leave fighting for equal rights and against patriarchy to men, it will definitely work out 😂😂😂 Oh yes, let's not get exhausted by working hard for what we believe in, because it makes us less pretty and less desirable, better get exhausted by washing his socks and picking after him and raising his retarded offspings 😂😂😂 Lmao didn't get through more than the first 3rd
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 09:20 AM
6

Even if you were OK with dating a single dad, never mentioning his kid (and also not caring about earning enough money to support his offspring property) is a big red flag, imo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 03:27 PM
5

This is how I feel when it comes to sex. If I have to ask him to go down on me, or pay attention to my body parts that are not my vagina, or ask him to put in effort, or ask for a foreplay, it just becomes a turn off and I don't even want it anymore. So much for "just tell me what you need!".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 10:11 AM
6

Maybe his roommates with "no guests" policy is actually his wife or gf?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 09:28 AM
24

Is Elon looking for a new gf already? 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 10:49 PM
9

Calling himself stupid can be manipulation. It's an appeal to your soft side to start seeing him as a harmless baby and let your guard down. My ex used to do it all the time. His favorite excuse was "forgive I'm young and stupid, I can change", when in reality he never even acknowledged that he had issues, let alone try to work on it. I guess it really appealed to my soft caring side, as well as established a common ground because I have my own insecurities and did things I wasn't proud of in th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 02:14 PM
2

Oh, I know how you feel! I broke up with my ex last winter and I still get those red flags or episodes popping up. He was so so sly and manipulative, I didn't get that things weren't what they looked immediately. It's best to keep yourself occupied as much as possible. I'm focusing on work and planning holiday trips. Just getting into anything that requires concentration and helps to pass the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 11:10 PM
54

I just love how men always go "my house", when most likely it belongs or is rented by both of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 10:53 PM
15

I like how he has already decided that she is consenting to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 07:54 PM
8

Well done on blocking! Sounds like he was playing games trying to get you to chase him. There's advice on the internet for men suggesting that they should prettent they don't care or don't have time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 07:44 PM
1

First, you need to read the handbook. Second, of course you are going to feel hurt when you give yourself to someone and they express that they don't want you, that's a natural feeling. That's why you should not give yourself and your feelings to men before getting to know them well and vetting them. Third, you are looking for stupid reckless men because you think that you are not worth better. This is a low self esteem thing. You think you will not manage with someone smart because he'll make y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 07:30 PM
60

I second this. Sulking is already abusive because it throws the sulker's partner in a panic mode and trying to guess what's wrong. Don't guess, just leave. Or it will only get worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 04:36 PM
75

I absolutely agree. And well done on leaving that asshole without a ride!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 04:31 PM
8

Thank you for your reply :) Yeah, it definitely felt like she put my brother on pedestal just because he's a man, like there's no way I could have achieved what I did by myself being a woman. FDS is definitely a lifesaver, and such a wonderful place where one can be heard and validated. I feel like it helps me a lot in coping with friendlessness :) But I feel like having no actual friends make me more vulnerable for predatory men and general predatory people. These types generally don't mess wit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 02:50 PM
2

True.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 01:16 PM
12

Should we vet potential (female) friends like we vet men? I met with a woman from a friend's making group and we had a great chat for the most part. I could see myself being friends with her in general. But there were two "red flags" that really bothered me. First one, I mentioned how my ex expected me to spend way too much time with him and it was the reason we broke up ( it wasn't the only reason as he was abusive, but I didn't want to get into it). And her reaction was "aww it's nice he wante…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 12:58 PM
8

So true! Where did they even get that idea? Like, you might never let a sound clearly never even moving to the direction of an orgasm and they will still think that having their dick in your vagina is the best thing that has ever happened to you 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 11:07 AM
26

You used to think he was handsome because you were in love with him. I think it's only natural, being in love makes the person you love the most handsome motherfucker ever. I still have those idealized images of my exes in my head when I think about our memories, but then I look at the real fotos I'm like "whaaat he's ugly, why did I even post this on Facebook lmao"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 10:56 AM
2

Umm a hypocrite? That's common for narcissists too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 11:43 PM
5

Narcissists think that people deserve to be abused for being stupid...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 11:16 PM
5

I think if you have time and are up for it, you should just meet them in person. It's really difficult to say when you've just talked for a few days. I don't really see any clear red flags here. Listen to your gut though, if it says something is off, then don't meet. Also, don't get too invested or give it too much though before you meet them them in person because texting really doesn't give you much info of what a person is like. A walk in a park and coffee is a common first date if you're in …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 09:27 PM
109

He's upset with you because he expects you to take whatever shit he throws your way, and you're refusing to take it. Him being upset is his attempt to "teach" you to just go along and have no boundaries. His behaviour on Friday was rude, he should be apologizing not giving you the attitude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 09:19 PM
14

My ex used to always tell me how strong, patient and much more emotionally mature than him I am. After every fight, which he would cause weekly over nothing 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 08:38 PM
2

Of course, a small gesture of appreciation or paying for dates that you both enjoy is absolutely normal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 08:13 PM
8

I think you should focus on improving your career situation first. It's difficult to do when you're dating because men expect so much of your time and energy. Plus, they're a real motivation killer, especially if you end up dating a generous man or a "provider type" who wants a family. They might legit make you believe that you don't need a job or career, but we all know how risky depending on a man is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 03:29 PM
7

My ex's sister called me gold digger. He had an average paying job, we lived in one room apartment he rented. I wasn't paying rent because he refused to take money from me, but I surely carried my weight by doing 95% of the grocery shipping (he only went to the supermarket for fun when he had nothing to do, and would buy useless shit), planned our meals, made sure laundry was always done, and did most of the cleaning (he would help, but he had no skill and refused to improve). We would pay any h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 01:07 PM
1

Yeah, men really expect to be fully accepted with their biggest weirdness while their not willing to do the same at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 12:49 PM
28

Who exactly expects men to be the sole providers for the whole family in this day and age? Most women work, and if they don't, it's because they're taking care of several children which is a full-time work anyway. So what's wrong in expecting to share the chores?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 11:30 AM
17

Number 6 is important. I sometimes see women here talking about gifts they've received from someone they've been dating for just a few weeks and I always see it as such a big red flag, even though FDS says you should just accept the gifts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 11:22 AM
17

You're not in a place where you can tell anything to his gf, as she won't believe you anyway. Just block him on everything and walk away, other women will figure it out themselves that he's no good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 11:09 AM
1

I don't think this is how it is. You make it sound like it's only the people in the top 10% who could ever be truly loved, since "everyone wants their dream partner". Yes, it is true everyone want a dream partner, but maturity is when you learn to find that dream partner in an average person. Because most people, no matter how hard they work on improving themselves and try to be their best selves, are still average. And there's nothing wrong with it. Nor are they settling by dating another avera…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 10:50 AM
4

Saying "I'll forget you if I see you only once a week" was manipulative and enough for a block. I mean come on, we live in the mobile phone age, you can communicate without seeing ezch other all the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 10:17 PM
1

But most women are high quality?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 08:22 PM
5

Sounds like a total player. Probably met someone else on his trip, but still wants to keep you around in case the other person is not that interested. The phone call with a friend seems to be proof that he was lying to someone and then just discarded her after she cought him. That's a deal breaker. Also, he had 7 relationships by the time of early 20s?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 08:16 PM
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This reminds me of a story which happened years ago. I had a nice manager and developed a small crush on him. Now, I knew nothing would happen because of many reasons and I never really even talked to him like ever because I was super shy at that point in time. But somehow this girl, who had a huge crush on him, noticed. She started acting so weird, like on one hand weirdly "emphasizing" with me and randomly saying things like "I understand", on another hand, kind of trying to show me that she w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 08:03 PM
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To be honest, I find this idea that "it's difficult for men to get dates/gfs" to be a total myth propagated by incels. It is not difficult AT ALL, provided that he looks somewhat average, has a job, showers everyday and does not get creepy while texting or on the first date. Seriously. Average guys find new girls to talk/date days after breakups. And they don't have to filter trough desperate creeps only interested in pump and dump either. They surely like to complain about how difficult it is f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 07:21 PM
3

Most people grow and change, and therefore have done mistakes in the past. That is nothing to be embarrassed about (especially since you acknowledge your mistakes and have learned from them) and if someone judges you for it, they're just hypocrites and you shouldn't mind them at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 02:20 PM
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First, they're shitty egoistical people, so they have no friends/lasting relationships. Second, they get bored/lonely/horny, so they keep coming back to that one person who they know will give them attention. Then they're gone once they feel energized enough to chase new victims. Rinse and repeat. Very common with narcissists who need an ego boost and bipolars who need a crutch to help them out of the depression phase.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 01:25 PM
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You have to block him on everewhere so he cannot come back. Else he'll continue wasting your time forever NEVER letting you fully move on. Also, you are the one who did the job to get clean. Stop giving him credit. Even if he did help you a bit (which I highly doubt), a simple "thank you" would suffice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 01:18 PM
4

Women aren't attracted to nice guys, because no self proclaimed "nice guy" is actually nice. It's like my ex who insistted that "he's just too nice" as a reason why things weren't working out, when the real reason was his jealousy, paranoia, clingyness, accusations, suspicions, lies, manipulation, spying on me and trying to trap me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 10:56 AM
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That's why being "ironic" or making jokes about feminism is just another way of being a shit head.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 10:50 AM
3

Omg I wanted to say the exact same thing just a few days ago! I had a dude do that to me and it just felt weird and I would shake his hand off (he was a complete narcissist who tried to treat me like a child btw). But the real realization of how gross it looks came when I saw someone do that to their gf/date as they were standing in front of me, it just looks so weird and gross. Not resembling of sweat couples who have their arms around each other's waists or shoulders at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 08:59 AM
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Did he grow up masturbating to underwear catalogs or something? 😂 You should have told him his boxers weren't matching his socks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 08:23 PM
2

"those who try to focus on you pleasure, but just don't notice you're not getting off, have a narcissistically fragile ego" Holy damn, I can't believe I missed that while watching the show! It describes one of my exes so well and confirms that he's a narcissist, if I ever needed a confirmation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 11:25 PM
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I agree, the bf should have stood up for her. The fact he did not means he either has his doubts, secretly enjoys the implication, or is a complete doormat coward.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 09:50 PM
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Everything's work for them, even sex during which they don't even get you close is "such hard work".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 09:42 PM
3

The question is, does he meet 100% of your needs? I mean truly, without you settling and cutting him slack and compromising? I'm sure the answer is no, so why would you (or anyone) meet 100% of his needs? And why would you or anyone further cut down on having their needs met just so he could get closer to his 100%? A relationship is a compromise, you get a partner, you say no to other choices.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 09:24 PM
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One of my exes was a jealous insecure partner and I ended up doing quite a bit of thinking on the topic trying to solve his issues for him. These are main points I have discovered that drive jealousy: 1) fear of vulnerability, getting hurt and the unknown. My ex was very jealous and controlling because he tried to prevent the possibility of getting hurt. He was afraid to just let go and accept what may come, so he kept scrutinizing, suspecting and keeping tabs, refusing to give a tyniest bit of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 02:21 PM
1

Now I'm really curious of what those 13 steps are just so I could know in case some dude used or ist going to use them on me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 10:53 AM
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Narcissists can "love", but it's a very conditional "love" based on the narcissist's partner providing narcissistic supply. A narcissist is not going to create emotional intimacy (most of them have an avoidant attachment style), nor is he going to care about partner's best interest. It all gonna be about narcissist having his needs met, and when their not met, the partner is going to be discarded. Narcissists are exactly the kind of people who leave their spouses in sickness. Additionally, a nar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 08:57 AM
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I feel like girls (women) were always more relationship oriented. I have honestly never met anyone who was into hookups (then again, I don't have that many friends). As for people going out of their way to complain about hook up culture, I consider it a red flag now. My ex would always complain about hookup culture, go out of his way to announce how "cheating is disgusting" (don't most people think that?), complain about break ups and divorce rates and the state of "modern society" in general. T…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 11:39 PM
7

Pro tip: advancing your career and earning money goes so much faster when you're single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 05:25 PM
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Wow, he basically wanted to go back to being a baby... How is that even a kink? Sounds more of a psychological issue and fear of being a functioning adult or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 05:13 PM
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Even the most shy and introverted people will find a way to express their interest when they really like you. Trust me, I used to be very shy, introverted and suffered from crippling social anxiety, still found ways to talk to people I liked. And in case he is really so psychologically crippled he cannot find a way, then he's not ready to date. Also, read the handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 11:15 AM
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You know he's bad news, you know you aren't able to just ignore him when he reaches out, time to do the right decision and block. Noone here has a magic wand to make your problem go away, only you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 09:28 AM
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Can someone please tell me how to use this swipy thing on mobile? I'm never able to see more than the first and the second pic, when they're uploaded like this 😯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 09:28 AM
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The thing is that a man reacting in a "good way", aka "oh yes, your ex sounds so shitty" is not necessarily good. Because their second thought is definitely going to be "well I would never do that, so I'm so much better, so she better appreciate me and worship the ground I walk". Then they either bring up how they're better than the ex in every argument or end up doing something on the same level of shittynes while still thinking that they're so much better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 09:20 AM
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True.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 10:07 PM
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Let me guess what his idea of a good personality is 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 12:46 PM
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I second this. A hug and a sencere "I'm sorry for your loss" should really suffice in this situation. Else it might come off as way too much and pushy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 12:39 PM
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Why is it a "no" to sent a man flowers?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 12:33 PM
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That "you know your relationship better than a stranger" is really a double edged sword. When I told my extremely clingy, paranoid jealous ex to either find a therapist or at least inquire other people/read about what healthy relationship expectations should be, he also gave me this "but they don't even know us" crap. I think hearing other people's opinions might have helped him a bit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 08:13 AM
13

Sounds like you need to improve self-esteem/self-confidence and then see if the problem persists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 03:29 PM
12

And how about "no smart woman would invest into something she has no idea if it's worth it or not"?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 11:31 AM
9

OK, it wasn't his intention, but he still hurt you? And it's happening continuously? Then it's enough to leave him. Sometimes people are dickheads unintentionally, that does not mean you have to keep spending time with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 11:10 AM
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Three dates is nothing. Maybe you just need more time to get to know him? On the other hand, if you don't like his smell, it probably means you are biologically a bad match. I don't think it's SNRI, but then again, it might affect different people differently. But in any case, please don't quit your meds just to give a dude you've gone on only three dates with a try.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 07:36 PM
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What's wrong with pink? I've been building a mobile app just to practice some skills and since design wasn't my focus at all, I took a very random decision to make it pink in color. But now whenever I show it to some male, they always start commenting about how it's so pink, start asking if I like pink or even accuse me of "pushing feminist propaganda". I don't get what the issue is, it's just a color. I guess I'll have to change it to blue just for the peace of mind 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 10:49 AM
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Well do you feel ready and would rather be a gf than some "exclusive" bullshit? Then tell him so. Else all this "I'm doing this for you" is total nonsense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 07:25 AM
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But sex is like pizza, even if it's bad, it's still a pizza. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 07:50 PM
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Is that true?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 05:58 PM
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I looked at your posting history. You really need to break up with him, he's very unhealthy for you. Also, he's not "your only chance", you'll find someone healthier, and even if you don't, you need to prioritize your mental wellbeing over this. This relationship is exhausting you and ruining your health.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 05:51 PM
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You need to get a break from him. Not for a weekend, but for a few months at least, to clear your head and figure things out. It kinda sounds like you both have your own problems and you seem to be triggering the worst in each other. Your bf also sounds mean for calling you things. I can understand that he might be annoyed by your behaviors, but in the end it is his responsibility NOT TO ALLOW HIMSELF to become abusive. He also doesn't seem to take your mental health issues seriously, which is a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 03:48 PM
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Now, if only he found a good therapist and said exactly that to them 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 10:18 AM
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It's manipulation: "prove me that you're not stuck up".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 08:48 AM
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Unpopular opinion: therapy can help but doesn't always, finding a right therapist is hard, and even a person seeing a therapist might not be adressing the right issues. I see people saying "you should see a therapist" and I completely agree, one should at least try, but it's not magic that will definitely fix all issues. On the same note, I knew a dude who was seeing a therapist and taking meds for his light social anxiety. He was a textbook narcissist, cheater, pathological liar; clearly he nev…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 08:19 AM
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I bet it's fake. Must be written by someone who wanted to prove some kind of point that men are seen as evil or that everyone is too quick to jump to "break up with him". "Husband came out of the kitchen holding two cups of tea"? Lmao. Nothing in this story sound realistic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 11:47 PM
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He's trash and possibly abusive. You are not projecting your insecurities; your feelings and suspicions that hes an ass and only wants sex are 100% justified. Well done on listening to your intuition and not meeting up with him, now block and never talk to him again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 04:12 PM
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I get your point, but the idea I wanted to express is a bit different. Let's say it's not porn, but erotic fiction or 50 shades of grey movie or whatever. I can see it and find it hot, but it does not make me want to go act it out, especially not without asking my partner what they think about it. Wherefore men just go for it like "I see, I do".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 12:48 PM
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Omg yes, nothing worse than someone bottling up their fealings and unleashing all the shit at once or only after you've guessed or proded what was wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 09:05 AM
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You need a new roommate and to read the FDS handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 09:00 AM
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The tread if full of dudes just joking around... It always struck me how men will try to replicate whatever they've seen in porn (like for example, putting their foot on their partners face????) wherefore I've never felt like replicating anything because porn /=real life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 08:44 AM
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I'm sure it's not the only time he perceived something you did or said as an attack or offense and tried to get back at you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 08:30 AM
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I'm sure if you were the one who misunderstood him, it would be "you decide which way you want to understand it"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 07:05 PM
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Sounds like it was just an excuse not to reply to a particular dude who was coming onto her?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 04:53 PM
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Men are entitled and think they deserve a woman who would live to serve them and meet their needs, and would have no life on herown. This is expressed by: A) they feel entitled to woman's time. If he makes advances and she does not respond, he gets pissy or even violent. B) in a relationship or marriage, he will expect her to cook, clean, give up her career in order to have more time to take care of kids (because he sees it as her responsibility), etc. In general, her goals and dreams will be se…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 02:36 PM
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It doesn't sounds like these men see you as a friend or a buddy. Why else would they need to lie to their wives? Maybe only go out with them when there's several people going and you're not one on one? Or if someone invites you one on one, maybe you could go like "oh, sure, let's invite A and B to join us too"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 01:48 PM
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You need to drop him. He doesn't see you worthy = he's not a HVM for you. Also, you won't change his impression of you and the more you'll try, the more desperate you will come off (which is a turn off). Spend some time to work on yourself, then start anew with someone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 10:59 PM
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Why do you think that the new coworker will be interested in your fiance or be giving him attention?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 10:42 PM
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Sounds like we're talking about exactly the same thing. In which case I have to ask you, what is the boring chitchat from your perspective then? Because it seems like we're about to reach a conclusion that anything can be "intimate sharing" with a close person or just a "boring chitchat" with a person we do not have a connection with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 04:43 PM
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I get what you mean, but there's only so many secrets you have and can disclose to someone. At least in my case. I used to talk with my ex about very mundane things, like what he had for lunch or what groceries I got, I think the point of those communications was to just see him/hear his voice/ show that we cared about each other. And I totally get bored if a friend starts telling me about mundane everyday things (which is why I don't have friends I would talk to that often), but it's different …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 03:49 PM
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Sounds like you entered a typical man's mindset: meet, have sex, pretend the other person does not exist until the next date 😅 Shouldn't be difficult to find men who want exactly that if you're open about it from the beginning, imo. Not sure if it would end in marriage and kids though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 02:22 PM
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Hmm, I'm an introvert and it's completely different for me. Talking with my partner every single day is an important part of a relationship and a way to create intimacy, even if it's not very intellectually stimulating. I've dated someone who wouldn't text or call me and gave me the "I prefer to talk when we meet" excuse, it turned out I was a placeholder girlfriend and he simply wasn't interested in my shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 02:05 PM
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I think "spark" is a spectrum. With some people there's no spark at all and with some people it's "omg I like him even though I don't even know him". Both seem to be bad. Then there's a "gentle spark" where you appreciate someone for treating you well and also find them quite attractive and it also seem to grow with time, if everything goes well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 08:09 PM
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I suppose it's the entitlement to suck your emotional resources without being neither a partner nor a friend that's putting you off. You can tell he wouldn't listen to you/be there for you, but he's fine to use you for attention when he's lonely and bored.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 08:47 AM
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You have to think about it as trash taking itself out. I've cried over guys in the past, but when I look back at it now, I'm like "thank God he broke up with me, he was awful" or "thank God he didn't want to date, he was so stupid, what was I thinking". I'm sure you'll feel the same one day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 08:29 AM
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These are such stupid and dangerous ideas. It makes me sad; I think my ex believed that red pilled shit, and it completely ruined our relationship. He kept questioning me if he "was my type" and accusing me that "he was not my type and I was just pretending to like him". And he would insist that I'm "not the kind of girl who would settle down, and he knows it" even though all I ever wanted was a partner to build a life with. And he was like "maybe another girl would appreciate that I'm a good gu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 08:50 AM
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The biggest nonsense I see is him saying "20 y/o women who appreciate these qualities marry young" as if it was sooo easy for a woman to find a loyal and respectful partner. As if you just need to step out on the street as a young woman, pick any guy and he'll be a HVM. He suggests that women who are over 30 and not married didn't WANT a loyal and respectful partner when they were younger, yet the reality is that they did, they just didn't find one. But I suppose his bullshit goes well with the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 08:36 AM
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Omg does he even live on the same planet?! 😂😂 "Women don't want a HVM until well into their 30s" Has he ever even talked to a woman? Like a sister or a friend?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 07:15 AM
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I believe that there's a big difference of what BDSM is supposed to be and what it is in reality. Like in theory it's supposed to be based on trust and mutual respect, taking safety precautions, and just the general quite utopic idea of "everyone is a good person and everything goes according to plan". While in reality men hate women, disrespect them for having sex with them, and self proclaimed Doms are nothing else than narcissistic abusers. Yet, some women get hooked on the idea before learni…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 08:35 PM
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It's honestly sad that idiocies like these are going around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 07:54 PM
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Oh, I'm pretty sure they have no idea that vaginas contract 'couse they've never given anyone an orgasm...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 07:51 PM
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They're just hypocrites. I mean, have you ever seen what responses a woman gets when she says she wants to wait for marriage? Damned if you do, damned if you don't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 07:50 PM
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One time my ex bf tried to feel me up/initiate sex with me early in the morning whole I was asleep. I was dreaming, and suddenly my dream turned a really disgusting way - that a stranger was feeling me up. I felt disgusted in my dream and wanted it to stop, but I couldn't speak up (I was sexually assaulted once and couldn't speak up and tell him to fuck off either, sometimes I have dreams were something bad is happening but I cannot speak up/have no voice). So I tried to get away from the touch …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 10:00 AM
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Sorry for off topic, but what the fuck is the "non working and having no ambition" way to find a man? Like seriously, what is this idea? The only man you would find by not working and having no ambition would be some redpilled loser looking for a trad wife who would depend on him for everything because he's too insecure to even imagine that any woman with options would willingly choose him. And he would be abusive too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 10:38 AM
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You'll never put a narcissist in their place, they'll always just flip it back at you and leave still feeling good about themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 10:18 AM
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I'm pretty sure that yes, you will. Edit: a quick Google search yes as well: "Yes. If you're in a group with someone you've blocked, you'll still be able to see their messages as they'll still be able to see yours. The blocking feature only works for 101 conversations, not group chats."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 10:01 AM
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Everyone on that post were telling her to call police so I don't see a problem here? And I can also understand how someone might be hesitant to call police on someone who is close to them in the shock of the moment, so it seems like relationship_advice has provided a decent response here?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 09:50 AM
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I really don't think that anyone who says "he's definitely treating his new gf in the same shitty manner" is getting joy out of the fact that the new gf is being treated like trash. It's just a reminder that shitty men do not change, so even though it might look like he's treating the new girl better, he most definitely isn't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 05:27 PM
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You don't have to be OK with something just because someone else is OK with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 04:41 PM
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Thanks for the recommendation, I'll check it out! BTW, there seems to be an audio version uploaded on YouTube, for those who are looking for it: https://youtu.be/gA1Fjo6_AxQ
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 03:11 PM
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Absolutely agree with you. Seeing understanding lacking comments here on FDS upsets me too. Noone deserves abuse. Even if they were stupid. Edit: formating
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 10:24 PM
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Whatever you do, please be very careful, don't share your real name or any other personal info with him. You literally don't know anything about this person except what he wrote you (which might not be true). This is worse than meeting someone from online dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 07:12 PM
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You know what, she can have them all, every single man on the planet. I'm really done with this shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 12:56 PM
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It might be really difficult to see how things truly are while you're with an abuser. Abusers are smart, they don't leave you alone for a minute and always keep you worked up over some petty fight they made, so you never get a chance to sit by yourself and wonder if things are healthy and make sense. It took me months after breaking up with an abusive ex to realize just how manipulative he was and that he has blatantly lied to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 10:24 PM
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I think it's a PUA tactic, they're trying to turn conversation sexual/ checking if she'll play along.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 10:07 PM
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I really don't get it why they won't be buying furniture and appliances from the pooled fund before sharing the rest? He probably gaslights her that furniture and appliances are "for her" and not both of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 10:01 PM
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Yes, they are. I had an ex accuse me of cheating because he saw vaginal discharge on my clothes/body and "that only happens after a woman had sex". And no, we do not live under a rock, but a modern European country. I suppose the way my lady parts look also had something to do with why he was constantly accusing me of cheating/having sex with everyone, but I only cough up on that after we broke up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 07:48 PM
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This is so true. My ex didn't get some joke I made and went on to believe some pretty absurd things about me. However, he still pursued the relationship hard, never bringing it up. It was only after he felt like he "got me" that he started lashing out. As it came up and I pointed out that it wasn't true and he just didn't get a joke, he insisted that no, it was not a joke! Then he started lashing out at me all the time, while at the same time trying to manipulate and beg me into staying with him…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 12:43 PM
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That's an advanced level narcissist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 02:49 PM
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That's because they see themselves as standing above you.They think it's OK for them to tease or make jokes at your expense and you're supposed to let it go and laugh along because that's the price you pay to be "rewarded with their presence". That's how they think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 02:47 PM
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*not even if he's taking care of you financially. He'll only take care of you for as long as he likes you, while your own money will never leave you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 09:57 AM
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Narcissists are very inconsistent, they will literally tell you one thing one day and the opposite another day. Like, they will tell you you're too skinny, but give you "wow that's a lot of food!" reaction when they see you eat, or they will mock you about something, then tell you you should just embrace it and get over your insecurities the very next day. It's crazy making.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 03:50 PM
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This is spot on! I used to score INTJ and was a very stuck up "holier than thou" kind of person at the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 08:19 AM
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That's awesome, I'm happy for you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 07:48 AM
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I cannot help but point out that when a man says "kiss" he usually doesn't mean just a kiss; they use "kiss" as en euphemism for sex, just like "cuddle". And I find it kinda weird that he would bring it up before the actual first date, as if he wanted to make sure that something physical would happen and he wasn't wasting any time. On the other hand, you guys seem to be pretty young, so maybe he does actually mean a kiss. In any case, I hope your date will turn out great and your guy will be jus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 09:50 PM
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Well I'm 30, and the options are definitely less at this age. It's not because of me being "old and ugly" or whatever, I still get plenty of attention, even more than when I was younger. But the quality of men in my dating range is horrible. Most people find a long term partner in their mid to late twenties, so if a dude is still single after 30, it's either because he did not want to commit or because he got dumped again and again due to his toxicity and abusive behaviour. Think about it, most …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 09:00 AM
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Oh yeah, my ex really NEEDS TO HEAL from that unsuccessful attempt to trap and control me 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 07:13 AM
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It sounds great and I truly wish it will work out for you! But keep in mind that you don't really know a man until at least 6 months in, so keep watching out for the red flags.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 12:01 PM
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I hope this won't come off the wrong way, but if your living situation is not so good (tiny home and in need of a better job), you need to absolutely make sure that leveling up and improving those things is your prioritity no 1 and you do not let men or relationships waste too much of your time and energy right now. If you're not too happy with your life and a man appears who treats you well (for now), you really risk getting too attached to him and become depended on him for the things he provi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 10:09 AM
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If this man wants to give 100% to his work and 0% to his family... Why did he start one?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 02:43 PM
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He sounds like a narcissist, that's why you feel so unstable right now. You need to keep away from him and after a few months, when you start healing, it will all make sense to you. He gaslit you by saying "I didn't tell you because I knew you'd get upset", so he knew you'd get upset and still did it and lied to you and wrapped it all up as your own fault? Gaslighting. Also, never believe a man who says "I'm talking to an ex because she's not doing well" or "I'm talking to that girl because she'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 06:35 PM
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Yes! And any man who complains about high divorce rates or modern relationships not lasting is a red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 12:13 PM
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I feel the same. All my past boyfriends were toxic and simply did not care about my wellbeing and safety, with the last one being a real lying, manipulative cherry on top. He tried to trap me really hard too, and I can only be happy I've escaped and he moved onto a new victim. I feel like men are simply not offering the emotionally intimate connection and companionship that I expect in a relationship. So why would I have to put myself in a position where I'm only being taken advantage of while n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 09:26 AM
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