So. I like sex. I love sex. Well... No.

I love good sex.

I've been with 3 guys. High school boyfriend (8 years) (24yo), FWB for a month (28yo), and one bordering for a 7 month relationship (28yo). Ages are as of time of break up.

Both 28 year olds sucked in bed. They had issues staying hard. I like having sex twice a day, and neither could keep up, one told me he had to completely stop masturbating.

The high school boyfriend was amazing. He could last an hour in bed and go 4 times a day if I wanted. When he came, if I didn't, there was no question, I didn't have to remind him, he'd get set to finishing me off. He kept that up for the 7 years we were sexually active.

While I think porn is the source of a lot of sex issues, I didn't have the standards I have now regarding porn - I didn't care if they watched it. All 3 watched porn. So I don't think it was necessarily porn in this particular case.

I'm considering the possibility that I don't want to date men ever again. I'm not swearing them off for good, but my standards are so high I don't consider finding someone a goal anymore - if it happens, it happens.

But I'm considering the possibility that IF I ever want a look up, I will probably need to have sex with a sub-25 year old who can actually maintain an erection.

I guess my real question is - for ladies having sex with men 30 and above - is it even good?

Toys are my best friend for now. I'm not totally closed off to men, but their chances don't look good.

I also understand that emotional connection is great and enhances sex because they care more about getting you off. I think that's largely went sex with guy #1 was the best; time together meant he knew what I liked, it was emotional and not just sexual. But after reading FDS for several months, I know I'll never settle; I know I have other priorities in life and won't look for a guy either. It's possible I'll never have sex with a guy again... But if I do, should I also consider the guys age?