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Yes, I was on a dating app once (CMB) and my queue was 300+ a few days in. If someone is acting kinda sus, that's fine. Thank you, next.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 08:03 PM
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The "green flag" tag is pretty good, I like to read through those, and eventually I started framing in my mind that I not only want to be aware of red flags to nope out of, but to sieve the guys through the green flags they have. It's useful because I think the more we think about something, the more we will see those. So we not only want to put our minds in a "vetting unacceptable behaviour" mode but a "let's look out for great behaviour & encourage them!" mindset. I also believe you attract th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 06:02 AM
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Her reply seems completely fine? Looking cute can mean a lot of things, not just in a sexual way. How tf is his wife supposed to know he meant it in a sexual way or just as a compliment, women ain't mind readers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 04:25 AM
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Oh yes, definitely, I had another job interview and the interviewer was saying that his staff had to have long hair because it's his preference. I noped out of there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 02:43 PM
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Congratulations! I'm so happy for you. When you won't settle for scraps and you're okay with being alone until someone who meets your standard comes along, either you remain happy single or become even happier with a great partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 07:14 AM
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I'm crazy about spin class these days! I'm slowly getting back to my pre-pandemic weight. Also trying to improve my mental health, been seeing a therapist, doing mindfulness exercise etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 03:45 PM
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Oh dear... He's actually looking at women as numbers. Nothing about their personality or who they are as people but just - hot, cute, bangable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 02:58 PM
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She's so gorgeous, I'm not sure if she's doing it for the views or to prove that she's not a golddigger but I keep seeing her on my youtube reels of tiktok and her reels are variations of how she pays the bills and earns more. I'm all for healthy and mature relationship dynamics and I'm hoping she is doing it only for views, but it's kinda promoting the "build a man" mentality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 08:00 AM
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Oh my god, I had a crush on this guy (coping mechanism after i got out of a LTR, I'm not proud of it) who obviously, painfully knew I had a crush on him and was sorta leading me on because he knew how vulnerable i was. He kept asking me to introduce my X, Y friends, "do you know ___? She's my type" such a narcissistic move. He was much older than me, and asked me to intro him girls almost half his age 🤢 I moved on since then, and met a lovely guy, thank goodness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 03:59 PM
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Agree. This seems like really petty behaviour and a waste of time. We can be ruthless but this is bordering pettiness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 03:42 PM
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If you don't like me enough to fear rejection, then you don't like me enough! Guys who are afraid to make the first move sound passive and they'll probably guilt trip you down the line.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 09:08 AM
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I also think it's because by making such comments, they could encourage more men to call in to boast about their conquests. They want more drama, more entertainment more listeners. I doubt anyone would want to call in to be told off. Unfortunately we do need better, and as small as it can be - that would be voting with our attention and not consume such misogynistic media/entertainment/content.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 09:48 AM
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Expensive? You're not a sex worker. That's so rude!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 05:37 PM
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I'm a people pleaser myself and I know it's so hard despite what everyone else says. Great job on enforcing your boundaries!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 05:14 PM
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Yes sure, I'm an active person and would love signing up for a rock climbing session. You on?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 05:10 PM
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Your husband sounds like a wonderful man, I imagine those teenagers must be feeling so cold and shitty, having a car breakdown on Christmas. Their Christmas might have been ruined if there's no one to help them out! Kindness is such an attractive trait and it doesn't even cost anything (except some time) but it makes the world so much better. Your ex sounds like an ass though and I'm glad he's an ex. Money aside, there could be identification documents that are important and a hassle to be repla…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 04:10 PM
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Men from China are horribly outnumbered compared to females thanks to their one-child policy. Daughters are also getting better education the last 2 decades, and refuse to marry down simply because due to the imbalance, they can demand higher standards. In fact some women choose to be single even though they can have their pick. I think it's a win for women. I won't be surprised why your friend and her husband thought it was a lucrative business given this circumstances. But I'm glad you held yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 02:29 PM
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Jealousy aside, I don't think it's not cool to wear counterfeit items, moreover she's on TV? I can think that it's cool that she can be mysterious and flirty, but not cool when she's wearing counterfeit items when she's appearing on tv and aspiring to have her own fashion label. Sure it has been blown out of proportion, especially by jealous people, but that doesn't make the fact that she's wearing fake items okay. She has apologised and should be just left alone after that though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 02:31 PM
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Not therapist, but I've had a friend who married a controlling guy and it feels like she's getting us all to settle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 05:08 AM
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Meanwhile some of my friends had engagement rings that were thoughtfully designed by their partners with stories behind each gemstone and design. The proposal is thoughtfully planned as well. One even had a instagram page detailing the progress as he went along (to show her when she agrees to marry him). I just thought it was so sweet!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 05:58 AM
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Tell me about it. I'm dabbling in crypto, and the cryptocurrency sub is full of "wife-changing money" jokes I'm so sick of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 02:33 PM
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I think one more thing is that if you have mutual friends, it's good to hear their unbiased view about him, especially if those friends are older women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 01:59 PM
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I'm sorry to hear that it didn't work out for you. Glad that he's an ex now! Mine was consistent so far, he treats everyone equally well (unless it's someone who's being unreasonable or taking advantage of him) so for me the cat was just the icing on the cake. My neighbour's dog love him to bits too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 01:57 PM
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Fair point!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 04:00 PM
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Yes, they really do exist. Someone who's brought up right, treats everyone nicely. After all the bs I had to went through after breaking up with my ex and having a series of meh/bs dates, I'm so glad I found my current partner. He is truly compassionate (on many occasions he has helped out strangers), is respectful to everyone. I just knew he's the one when we went to a cat cafe and a cat just walked over and sat on his lap randomly. I think animals can really sense if a guy is good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 05:11 AM
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I don't subscribe to 100% of the FDS ideologies. But I like the whole idea about having standards for expectations and not lowering them, at the end of the day you can just pick out the ideas that work for you. The energy has to be there, I want to be chased and pampered. A guy who loves you will love to treat you well. He's going to be proud he meets your standard. Don't devalue yourself and treat yourself like the prize. It's not hard to understand and it's not rocket science. (My boyfriend kn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 02:47 AM
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I'm in my late 20's as well. I dated my first boyfriend in early 20's for 6 years (almost 7) and didn't sleep with him because it was my principle, even though at the start he tried to. It turned out to be a good call because he had mental issues, lied to me etc. I'm currently dating my current boyfriend for slightly more than a year and he's been very respectful towards my stance. He really loves and takes care of me, is attentive and buys me gifts/things I mentioned in a passing. We've both me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 06:21 AM
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I definitely agree. I was in a very vulnerable position years back when I ended a long relationship and wow, guess what happened.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 03:14 AM
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Oh my god. I have a friend who's husband sabotaged her working out and is constantly saying that she's fat. Like dude, wtf you want??? Guy had MAJOR control issues and refuses to let her participate in any workout classes that could potentially have men around. We only could do barre. He also made her cancel her classpass because there was once I was really tired from work the day before, and because I'm not going, she's not allowed to go by herself and therefore it's a waste of her money, she s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 01:42 PM
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This brought tears to my eyes. So lovely!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 12:32 PM
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Oh, I agree with your stance and I'm saying it's great that you're making this post because there needs to be a shift back to levelling up. I'm sorry if my message wasn't very clear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 02:51 AM
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I think there needs to be a shift in FDS back into improving ourselves/levelling up and actual dating. Perhaps your definition of HVW is different, it's fine. We all level up in our own ways. I agree that there needs to be posts about recognising LVM (especially for those ladies currently in abusive relationships!) and its fine to joke about them but lately it just feels like the whole sub is a lvm-trashing sub. Of course there are so many LVM around and it's so, soooo important to recognise the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 02:12 AM
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The ones that I thought were okay are usually gay... No surprises hahah.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 01:34 PM
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Rant. I feel like i'm looking at car crashes and train wrecks when I look at some of my girlfriends. I wonder what it'll be like had they been exposed to FDS but I feel like it's too late. Friend A: married to extremely controlling guy. He's someone who insisted to her manager that she is not put on the same shift as male coworkers. Friend and I went to exercise class together but had to switch classes to a class geared towards "female" because he doesn't want male instructors or participants ar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 03:04 AM
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The problem with this post is that it feels like she's compensating for something but otherwise I think there's nothing wrong about the post. I'm adopting a more minimalist lifestyle and I could do without more material things. My man buys me presents and flowers for occasions and it's great, cos it shows he values me and remembers. But I'm not too particular about insisting that he buys certain things (designer brands) or often to pamper me because it's not financially sound. I think there's va…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 02:36 AM
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Whenever someone comments on my weight gain, I'll just tell them - yes, I gained weight, and that's cause I'm in a happy relationship now! Happy relationships make both parties gain weight. It usually shuts them up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 07:48 AM
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I've not heard of a troll sub and I won't be too bothered by it. It's just a bunch of guys angry and having nowhere to direct their anger at. Let them shout into the void if it makes them feel better. They are exactly the men FDS is warning women about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 03:09 PM
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My place is on a mini lockdown, exercise classes are resuming in another week. I've already planned out which classes I want to go for! My classpass has been on hold for too long!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 02:59 PM
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He is clearly not valuing her. He just wants to break her down so that she'll be more submissive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 12:11 PM
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He's saying he is old and can't work in a normal job, also expects a young woman in her early 20s, the age where she should be furthering her education/starting a career/exploring who she is, but instead take care of his shady online business and do his household chores while he slacks off. Sounds like a great offer!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 12:09 PM
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Abby could have used the extra time on the weekends to go for a hike, take yoga classes, do household chores in a smaller house (for just one), watch a movie on Netflix with some wine and cheese, and have a guy take her out on a nice date. Instead of just being an unpaid, unappreciated babysitter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 06:37 AM
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My man woke up early to buy me some limited edition cookies because they were sold out everywhere daily and even online. I mentioned it in a passing, and he specially went to buy it for me before work, when the shop opens because they make daily batches. I just feel so lucky and loved even though they are just some cookies. When a man loves you he'll show it by his actions and you'll know it. He has been really consistent so far, and none of the flaky, guessing nonsense. We've been together for …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 05:23 AM
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Even my mother who has been married for 30 years laments about how my father doesn't help around the house. A prime example of how marriage isn't the end game. For many men, it seems like in a woman's point of view - we just want to get married and that's the ultimate goal. It is not - life isn't a fairytale and it ends with "they got married and lived happily ever after" - in real life, marriage brings a whole new set of challenges.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 07:47 AM
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If he isn't trash, would the girl have stayed around even though she discovered FDS? Absolutely. Then the problem is him, not FDS. I'm all for love, but I'm all for self-respect too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 02:17 PM
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Men are not scared of golddiggers digging their money if they could afford them. They're worried about their girlfriends leaving them for more stable men if they realized they have no education, job or skills.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 05:30 AM
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My man doesn't make big money, but he's in a job he's interested in and he is also my biggest cheerleader. He always sends me home after dates (would be mortified sometimes when I said I want to go home by myself), never insisted on 50/50 for dates (I'm the one insisting sometimes) - he cooks for me, buys me flowers and remembers things I mentioned in a passing - then buys me those things when he chances upon them. When I'm in a tough spot at work, no matter how busy he is, he'll drop any dinner…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 07:17 AM
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Oh my god I love gintama and its humour! They break the 4th wall and make fun of themselves so often, I can't take them seriously. Perfect show to destress to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 01:29 AM
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It's likely he didnt want to deal with the toddler's tantrums, and skip right to the age he can be the cool dad who plays soccer with his kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 12:48 AM
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I think so too. I don't see this as aggressive? I think it's an honest mistake. But if you're not vibing, then it's alright not to entertain him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 03:06 PM
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Unfortunately not. They'll still get together with the female they are not attracted to, while they got free sex and a maid to take care of them. At the same time they look out for someone else better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 10:49 AM
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Because they want to be seen as cool and edgy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 03:11 PM
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I just finished reading the book "Kim Jiyoung" and I'm so frustrated by the men inside that book.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 05:42 AM
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The reason why higher educated and intelligent women are single is because they see through the bullshit men are spewing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 01:53 AM
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"women don't actually entertain the thought of having sex with me"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 03:10 PM
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Oh believe me. I know Japanese women. I've worked with them in my first job for a few years. They are materialistic, love their designer brands, and they can tell the educated expatriates making bank from the weeaboo losers. And wow your nihongo is jouzu? They tell that to every single one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 02:39 PM
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When I was 24 I've completed my degree, just started my first job, I was in a relationship for 5 years (that eventually ended). Now I'm slightly older, I've got a new partner who treats me like a princess, I'm starting my second job (unfortunately I'm in a covid impacted industry). I take workout classes with my girlfriends, have a healthy social circle and I feel like I have my life ahead of me. Whatever, just let them say whatever they want to feel better and hopeful about their situation. At …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 02:35 PM
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The worst thing about this is not men, but women who have also internalised this idea that all we have to offer is our youth and beauty. One of my good friends (whom unfortunately I am unable to rescue from a controlling relationship) has mentioned to me how sorry she feels for some other women who was lead on by a guy, dumped in her late 20s because "a women's worth is in her youth". It's as if she saw that as a bad end, that this woman was not married to this guy who was lukewarm about her, ra…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 02:30 PM
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I burst out laughing. Its just ridiculous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 01:58 PM
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"I want to get married, is what I'm saying. If I do, she could see me even when I go to the Tokyo Detention House (where death row inmates are kept).I was thinking it'd be good to have someone who supports me. She'd be able to come and see me here, and bring me things. " While most men are not psychopathic to this extent, there's still lots of LVM looking for a woman to make use of. Be careful out there, ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 01:41 PM
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You sound like you have a very cool style I can only hope to pull off! I've been wanting to dress in a more alternative manner but I feel like i'm too girly to pull it off sometimes. However you shouldn't feel that you have to compete with her, because she's an ex for a reason. I think you might want to try dating around if you guys are not exclusive yet and not be fixated on a single guy so soon - the fact that you've seen his ex girlfriend's social media says something. It sounds a bit of retr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 01:14 PM
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I've been in a relationship with a guy for a couple of months or so and I'm amazed how things are going. A while ago I would have never imagined this. A month plus of seeing each other, he asked me to be his girlfriend and he mentioned that he sees a future with me. He has just been so sweet all the time, he sends me home after all our dates, he is extremely supportive of my goals and career. I'm not withholding sex on purpose, but I'm a very traditional lady and he has respected that and never …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 04:04 AM
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Honestly with the amount of men who disrespected women, I won't blame him if all the men around him were misogynistic and he found associating with such people tacky. But if he had no friends at all... That's kinda sketchy. Even the least sociable man would have at least a few acquaintances from hobbies, school, workplace that he could develop a friendship from.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 03:52 AM
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Good lord. Today a guy on my social media just ranted about how he bought a girl an expensive meal (we're talking mid 4 digits) and she never replied. He's just setting himself up for failure. If the girl reciprocates, that's because she's a gold digger. If she doesn't, he does his whole niceguy act "but I bought her an expensive meal!!!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 01:37 PM
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It's easier to admit that it's the other women's fault, than to blame yourself for not vetting enough, and making the wrong decision.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 10:36 AM
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When I broke up with my ex, I got myself a ring too! (just a pandora one, nothing too fancy).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 12:56 PM
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I've got a female friend who's assertive in everything, outspoken and gets her point across, except... in her relationship. She's such a sweet friend but she's getting married next month to someone who's deeply insecure and controlling. An example: Last week I asked her out for a workout class, the fiance asked a thousand question, made sure there were no guys in the class (partipants or instructors), asked her to wear baggy clothes he gave her, wanted her to take a selfie to make sure that ther…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 12:32 PM
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Booby prize, you mean.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 02:52 PM
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I have no idea what he's writing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 01:59 PM
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"maybe down the road" This is not an unpaid internship. You don't intern to be someone's girlfriend where they don't give you fair remuneration, while they look at your job performance and decide if you're worthy for the role of a girlfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 01:57 PM
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He probably have attachment issues. Sounds pretty avoidant to be honest. It's one thing to not settle, yet if he spoke about them in such a great light but think they are not good enough/not the one, perhaps there is only an ideal woman in his head and he'll be forever chase after that... But well we all know she doesn't exist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 01:54 PM
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Dom, more like Mom - am I right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 09:22 AM
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This is so satisfying to read! I hope he suffers consequences as a result of it. If he isn't capable of his job, he shouldn't be drawing a salary at whatever pay grade he is at now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 11:49 AM
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I want to give you a hug though. It's likely they haven't got their shit together either and the girl they marry is just putting up with that. They only show you the curated parts they want you to see. I hope you find a HVM you deserve someday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 06:00 PM
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It's about who has the fastest car, bigger house, prettiest wives. I pity those women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 05:50 PM
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I have ZERO respect for anyone who is asking to meet in person especially when there's a quarantine/pandemic going on. Not only you are putting yourself at risk but also the people around you. Anyone who is asking to meet at these times is selfish and what's worse is that: - you are a complete stranger to him - he is having a goddamn PARTY (I don't even want to think about the risk he is putting you in) Is this the kind of person you see a future with? No matter how cute/interesting he is it'll …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 04:16 PM
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Is this guy in middle school?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 04:08 AM
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If he doesn't like you the way you like him, then he is not the guy for you. Chin up! Find someone who will treasure you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 03:01 PM
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I am a virgin by choice and as a woman in my mid 20s I can tell you it scares them because they know how unyielding I am and how I don't take bullshit. I have my values and I'm never compromising them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 05:26 PM
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Can confirm this is true. A guy who turned me down before lockdown because I didn't sleep with him told me we were perfect if not for the lack of sexual chemistry. No idea what he's trying to pull but I wouldn't surprised if he's trying to manipulate me into proving him wrong. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 05:37 AM
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I'm getting "Gone Girl" vibes from this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 09:02 AM
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I died 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 02:53 AM
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I came out of a 6-7 year relationship last year and many of my friends were shocked. They were like "but you seemed to get along so well/you guys were so happy!" To be honest I wasn't 100% happy with him but like all relationships I held on, because I believe there's always some sort of compromise. 5 years in and he was hesistant to talk about marriage. (As for why I stayed with him so long, we started dating since we were in our college years) Guess what happened? He wanted to be a woman. 🤦‍♀️😂…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 01:39 PM
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Yes you are right. 😔 I need to work on cutting some "friendships" off but it has been hard. He probably knew no woman in her right mind would risk it now going to someone's house, much less meet someone new.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 11:19 AM
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Yes, I did consider if it was too soon to call him one. As for why I thought he could be a HVM... He has been very respectful during dates, shown concern over my work/life/interests and plans dates according to my interests, all paid fully, was offended if I tried to split bills. Very observant and gentlemanly during dates. Has a career and is continuously upgrading himself. Though all these could just have been an act and he could just be well trained over the years to portray what girls want t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 05:22 AM
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So there was this guy I was going out with a while back (I made a post about it sometime back about my experience if anyone is interested) . Basically I thought he was a HVM and I got turned down after 3 dates or so (I didn't sleep with him). He was a cool person so we still remained friends even though romance isn't in the cards. Recently he reached out to me again and asked me to go to his place to socialize? With lockdown and quarantine going on?? I felt like I lost respect for him because ev…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 03:32 AM
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I posted a casualiama the other day, and some guy asked me where I was located because he'll love company and don't mind travelling. Dude?! At this point of time? How about practicing some social distancing? Oh, and one more asked for a fling after "this whole thing is over" - okay, good on you, at least you're more self aware than the other guy, but none of which is related to my casualiama.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 08:16 PM
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Wow, I felt like I needed to read this too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 08:34 AM
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This totally sounds like me! I could have swore I wrote this. I've followed the rules but I feel like a phony. Clearly there's more to be worked on, on my mindset. I used to wonder why despite being prettier/more well-educated/popular, why some girls seemed to have happier relationships which I thought were so unfair! Then I realized it's such a pickmesha mindset. Also, I've talked to a few friends I've realized life on instagram is very different from how it is in real life. A girl whom I thoug…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 08:19 AM
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OP sounds like me - except I have a great family and parents were always there for me, when I'm growing up. Unconditional love, till now we still have a great relationship. It's funny because I've read the book and I feel like I am anxiously-attached whenever I get into a romantic relationship - I don't have the same problem at all when it comes to friendships (and I have a great social life). If not, I'm probably unlucky and all the guys I've met so far are avoidants. That seems to be my takeaw…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 08:08 AM
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8 years of bullshit. The girl deserve much better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 12:13 PM
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As an asian woman I want to roll my eyes. I have guys trying to hit on me thinking I'll magically accept their low effort just because I'm perceived to be docile. It especially sucks when you have to deal with such people for work. Usually my colleagues and I just smile (because we don't have a choice) and bitch behind their backs. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 12:05 PM
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Tell me about it. I posted a casual iama on my other account and I get people messaging me asking me for a hookup after this whole thing is over! Or even worse, where I am located because they want to hang? Dude, have you not heard of social distancing? Seriously! Did they think my standards are magically lowered just because we're in a pandemic?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 11:54 AM
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He sounds emotionally unavailable. Good on him if he realize he's wasting your time - but if he is saying this to make you a FWB then I've got no more words. No matter the excuse, a "no" is still a "no" - you deserve someone who's 101% into you, no matter the excuse. He could be a high-value guy or one that fluctuates, but if he's not into you then he is not the right guy for you, no matter how "HVM" he is. It's okay to feel sad. I feel sad too. But you're not alone, we're in this together. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 09:57 AM
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I've had a bit of an epiphany last week. Background story : came out of a LTR, currently in my mid/late 20s. I dated around and caught feelings too soon even without evaluating if the guy is "right" for me. I kinda figured it out (after being turned down by a guy) that I'm trying too hard to force connections because I'm not used to being alone, and I was trying too hard to make up for "lost time" from my past relationship. That I was trying to look for some form of "stability" when I haven't pu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 09:41 AM
3

Maybe he wanted sex? And didn't get it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 03:11 AM
3

I read this baggage reclaim post recently that had this idea of: if you're too fixated on your looks, then superficial people are the ones you'll attract. Looks do open many doors, but without subtance, people will find out soon enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 03:10 AM
3

Was there any progress with physical intimacy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 01:25 AM
10

Same for me. I lost count of how many times the universe has been telling me this and I've been ignoring it. I feel like the kid who got held back in the same grade multiple times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 03:31 AM
21

whoa, this is totally me. I feel you, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 03:30 AM
24

All the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 03:29 AM
1

It's not, but if it is physical touch then it's a red flag most of the time. Many will use this to ask of physical intimacy from you. There's a post about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 12:02 AM
11

Also in retrospect, not sure if I am trying to make myself feel better but he did had a few warning signs: asking what my love language was (no guessing what his was) made some mild sexual jokes at the start but I drew the line. I think there's no point thinking about it any longer. Maybe it's a bullet dodged, maybe it's a lesson learnt. I guess it's all over and I'll be focusing the energy on myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 03:43 PM
21

Onwards and upwards, we go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 10:54 AM
9

Yup, I was in a long-term relationship with an ex, we had an amiciable break up and later on found out he has lied to me on multiple times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 06:01 AM
3

Actually I have a question - so we're supposed to take things slow but we are expecting them to ask for exclusivity by the 2-4th month? Of course we're not talking about physical intimacy but this seems kind of ironic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 11:07 AM
9

Same. I have 3-4 guys asking me out for dinner just within the last 2 weeks but I cancelled those because I felt the lack of chemistry. I'm just kind of busy with work and upgrading myself, I don't see why I should waste my time with those I don't feel a connection to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 07:30 AM
5

I think it definitely depends on where you are. Anime is watched casually in my country where most people grow up watching it and understand that it is just another medium. Just like netflix. As long as it's not an obsession I think it's fine.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/20 02:44 AM
7

Says the person who is unattractive his whole life. Lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 04:58 AM
6

Just about almost month? That's way too soon to catch feelings, right? I see him once a week.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 10:55 PM
16

I am relapsing into my pickme ways. Went out with this pretty great guy a few times. It's too early to say anything yet but I find myself getting jealous of other girls he is seeing. This is pretty ironic because I do talk to other guys as well, but none of them are as interesting or neither do they put in as much effort as him. How should I go about handling these feelings of jealousy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 09:54 PM
35

I saw her picture and she looks goddamn cute! And this guy thinks she's not out of his league and a "practice girlfriend"? What a fucking joke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 08:48 AM
7

Oh on a side note, some scrote just messaged to ask me if I was waiting tables with my psych degree. No honey, I'm travelling around the world for work but nice try. Meanwhile he just posted on reddit about teaching English online. I wish I could ss that and we could laugh at him too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 01:30 PM
7

Hahaha it was on an OLD platform. I ss-ed it and showed it to my former classmates and we chuckled over it. One of my friends asked me to ask him "so are you interested in me extrinsically or intrinsically?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 01:26 PM
14

Same! It's like you have this nice storyline and the author JUST has to add in females for the fanservice and they contribute absolutely nothing to the plot except turn up and let their titties bounce around. I get it they have to keep the male audience around but come on, the story was great. Did you really have to make this irrelevant female big-boobed character show up once every 4 episodes and fangirl over him? Ironically these are better than the animes where it's just a harem for no appare…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 11:42 AM
27

Reminds me of a guy who was dropping "difficult words" to sound smart while pretending to understand what it means. I met a guy who was trying to use "big words" to describe something (eg. extrinsic and intrinsic) without knowing what it actually means, and he even tried to mansplain it to me! In this case he asked me if "extrinsic (being kind to other people) or intrinsic (being kind to your partner)" - was what I was looking for. I just called him out and told him it's not used that way and it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 08:54 AM
31

I don't have a list because a good half of them are garbage. Anything with harem in the series tag. If you search youtube for trailers and there's bouncing titties, upskirt shots or girls that look waaaaay too young, there's a pretty good chance it's garbage. (p.s. If you have a guy you're seeing and you're unsure if his favourite series is a red flag, feel free to message me. I'll look it up for you.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 06:30 AM
47

It's not just tv series and sitcoms, anime too. Anime get a bad rep because of this as well. I love anime as a storytelling medium and there are lots of great series out there - adventures, psychological thrillers, philosophical series etc. Then there's the garbage where the plot is a bunch of good looking girls fighting over this one mediocre guy who has nothing going on in his life. I'm a huge anime fan but I bail when a guy tells me his favourite series is one of these garbage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 05:53 AM
16

Same. There was this guy who was so obsessed with knowing the number of ex-boyfriends I had, and when I called him out, "oh because I am interested in you, if I weren't I wouldn't ask about your dating history" So I told him - you've never asked about my interests, my hobbies, what inspires and motivates me, what goals I am working towards? And you said that you are interested in me? I am more than a number and a dating history. Anyway, I stopped talking to him. They think we don't know. What a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 04:02 AM
11

Oh yes, the number of men I meet who tell me "you should be careful of the players, not me" always turn out to be fuckboys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 03:58 AM
55

If a guy wants to take me out to dinner he has to take a queue number and earn the right to do it. My social calendar is so full that if I have free time I rather spend it on myself or meet up with my friends. I've been on dinners where I was absolutely bored out of my mind and I believe my time is worth more than some 50 dollar dinner that I can afford. Yet they think it's below their dignity to pay for dinner. It's a privilege, thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 11:59 AM
3

"I'm single by choice. 😉"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 11:42 PM
27

Good lord, if we're not going to entertain them in real life or on online dating platforms, what makes them think they deserve our attention on an online forum?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 08:22 PM
20

I've just started not long ago and I have the same thoughts. All/mostly LVMs. If they hint sex at all before meeting they are off the table. There's a guy in particular who seems keen on a date even when I told him I have other plans after meeting him. But I'm not gonna be too optimistic or wear my rose-colored lens out and I'll see how it goes. Please keep me grounded, sisters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 08:08 PM
27

That sounds like praise, why wouldn't I want to be called one?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 03:31 AM
2

So I see some people say that is a LVM "testing waters..." The perfect response is to drop him like a hot potato of course, but what's a good comeback at the moment?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 09:11 PM
51

Probably from some men who either can't get a girlfriend or a dude who forgot his flowers 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 09:05 PM
7

She said there are lots of 1s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 11:20 PM
3

Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel S. F. Heller is a great book! You'll understand in the book why some people stay toxic relationships etc. Opened my eyes so much!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 08:17 AM
31

I came here to say this 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 06:30 AM
7

Amen. What is it about having knights in shining armour rescue you? Wear that armour and save yourself please.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 10:21 PM
27

This year's Vday I'm planning to make-out with my study notes. 😂 I celebrated Vday in advance with one of my girlfriends though - we went to watch a movie, had a nice lunch and had a mini gift exchange! ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 05:38 AM
34

Oh my god. I'm in love with you. 😂 (your username checks out)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 05:20 AM
7

And he knows how to wait until you give the OK. Most men can't do it. You snagged a good one, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 02:59 AM
7

Press X to doubt 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 02:58 AM
6

Please be careful, there's something called "love bombing" when they overwhelm you with love at the start and slowly withdraw it while they show abusive behaviour. Enjoy being courted but keep your guard up. Leave when you see red flags even if you're committed in a relationship down the road.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 02:44 AM
1

"Wolves at the door" - by Bad Seed Rising. It is so badass, especially the part of the chorus that goes "keep one eye open and your hand on the shotgun". I run this music while I do my makeup. I've just checked, unfortunately it is not available on Spotify. You can find it on YouTube however, and I really recommend it. "Lion" by (g)idle is great too, if you don't mind kpop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 02:13 AM
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FULL BODY PIG. I'M CACKLING
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 02:07 AM
8

I'm not sure if you play or have played pokemon when you're younger, but I compare good men to shiny pokemons. The catch rate is somewhere between 1/4096 - 1/512 (with charms and different breeding methods) I've started to have the same mindset when it comes to guys. I want a shiny pokemon. The rest might have good stats but if its not a shiny its just another normal one. Next!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 03:20 PM
8

I'm in my mid 20s and still a virgin as well by choice. I'm Asian so it's slightly more conservative here and slightly more excepted. Women have much more risks associated with sex compared to men. Not to mention we tend to be more emotionally attached to the act. I've had friends ask me "are you not worried a great guy get turned off by the fact you are a virgin because they are scared about your expectations, lack of experience etc even though they like you?" My answer is "That's great, I want…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 03:16 PM
8

I just started OLD a week ago and I'm really amazed by the flirty and sexual messages. Dude I barely know you and you're making your intent so obvious already. 😴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 09:17 AM
3

Thank you, this is pretty interesting!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 05:17 AM
10

I felt like I really needed this. There was a guy who was constantly sending flirtatious messages to me without any intention of following up. I think he just likes the attention of a pretty girl. I'm trying to move on but I felt kind of disappointed because I thought he was a great guy, but I guess he had issues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 05:08 AM
11

I was just listening to this the other day and thought the same!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 02:30 AM
7

I think I'll save this picture and remind myself whenever I need a confidence boost. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 07:05 PM
7

Ignore the 70 year old, smile at the dog pictures.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 07:02 PM
13

Sometimes I wish I had this level of confidence. Where did they get it from?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 06:46 PM
1

I mean one-night stand. That was pretty informative. I feel like I'm so new to this and not ready... 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 06:29 AM
4

Oh my god. You just hit the nail on the head about this guy I've texted for a while. Thank you for highlighting this. I've went no contact with him for a while already but I felt like I needed to see this, so thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 04:11 AM
1

What do you mean by that? Like they already have an idea if you're relationship potential, a ONS?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 02:09 AM
2

Yes, and eventually when you meet one that seems "good enough" you'll just hope that it works, ignoring the red flags because it's so tiring to screen through more, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 02:07 AM
3

Curious but what's the grey rock method?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 02:03 AM
17

They send you hateful DMs because that's the only way they can talk to you. Because they'll never be given a chance in real life or on OLDs. If you're gonna ignore an ugly LVM on tinder or bumble, why engage them here?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 04:59 PM
4

man, I just downloaded OLD last week because I got out of a LTR and I wanted to see what's the fuss about. Reading what you ladies said just scared me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 03:00 PM
3

running - especially doing long-distance running. The time spent with yourself is almost meditative and it's a very good activity for keeping fit. Also I love museum visits, I prefer to slowly read and understand things so it's good to go alone sometimes. I've also watched movies alone and it's pretty fun.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 02:59 PM
6

I'm so grateful for my male platonic friends. Some of them are really great HVM but sadly I don't have chemistry and neither do I want to ruin our friendships. (especially some of them are like my brothers) I do try to keep a lookout for them if I think I have any suitable girlfriends though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 11:52 PM
3

That's a pretty interesting idea, thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 11:44 PM
5

Actually this makes sense too. I have the same idea with the other poster, I think it makes sense to have a coffee date because I'm not sure if I'll click with the guy. But what you just said does make sense about it being very "business-like". Guess I'll vet more carefully and have dinners with the ones I'm really interested it. Or maybe I'll try both out and see what conclusions I'll draw.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 10:28 PM
3

That's a great idea, thank you! And yes I like the idea of having a guy you like invest in you. Makes me less guilty of ignoring them if they don't make the cut. (I know its perfectly fine to make them pay because they only want sex but argh I'm so new to this)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 10:19 PM
5

Thanks for your reply! Unfortunately I've already graduated from college (not as young anymore). How I wish I was still in school. 😂 Currently I'm in my mid/late 20s, working full time and taking extra courses to level up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 10:14 PM
10

Just started OLD a few days back. I know this is against the rules, but I honestly have no time for dinner (especially if it's gonna be with a guy I'm not sure if I can click with). I'm not joking but my March calendar is starting to be filled up with activities, dates with my girlfriends, classes etc. A coffee before class sounds much better to me and fits into my schedule. In this case, is it gonna make me look cheap? Is it gonna be harder for me to "promote" the guy to a dinner level further …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 02:05 PM
5

It's hard, but you need to do this for yourself. In 5 year's time, you'll thank yourself for doing this. You are your own validation. All the best!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 01:11 PM
13

Instead of actually levelling up and being a more decent human being, you spend time and harass people you don't know, some probably states and halfway across the world from you. 🤔 Sure that would help you in your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 10:23 AM
89

I have to admit I snorted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 06:30 PM
73

I love how it's titled. Indeed, it's a dating battlefield. Sometimes I also question why I can't be my easy-going self, why is there a need to "play games". Things are harder now than ever with the rise of OLDs. Sadly love is never easy, play the game or be played. The moment you're stepping into the world of dating, you're already in the battlefield, FDS is just giving you a weapon to defend yourself, so that you can shoot down LVM and one day you'll be able to find your Mr Right. (Note: I don'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 04:56 PM
46

I love it when trash labels themselves. Makes it easier for us to take it out. We shouldn't shame this, but rather promote this kind of mindset in men. It's so much better than trash that is wrapped up in immaculate wrapping paper - only for you to unwrap and discover it's trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 03:30 PM
3

We're of the same age but you have been through much more than me, and I think you're much more mature as a result. We're still young with our lives ahead of us, let's work towards our career and our own happiness. HVM, or no relationships at all. 💪 Coming from a sister to another, all the best for you this year.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 03:27 PM
20

On the bright side, if you add up all of their numbers, it's a 9. (reminds me of the trope of 3 kids pretending to be an adult in a trenchcoat. Unfortunately 3 LVMs do not add up to one HVM.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 12:15 PM
-2

Are you sure this is not an unattractive woman?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 05:22 PM
82

I know of a wealthy LVM that has 0 EQ. He posts inappropriate jokes on his social media, and people actually laugh (I'm not sure it's because he's wealthy and people just want to suck up to him or people are laughing AT him). The guy actually takes photos of his expensive car and then complains when gold diggers turn up. Or he puts "I'm tired of sugar dating and I'm looking for something real" in this dating profile. 🤡 Thank goodness a few of his friends called out his bullshit and he changed to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 03:06 PM
3

This makes me want to go and get myself a chanel bag right away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 02:42 AM
48

This is a great mindset to have. Recently watched a video on how men versus women think when it comes to relationships. Men tend to start with "100" and keep reducing points whenever something happens, and women, more often than not, keep adding points to it and forgetting to subtract because of infatuation, wearing rose-tinted glasses etc. Remember both his good and bad points. Add and minus accordingly. Some bad points can be overlooked if they are minor, because realistically speaking nobody …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 07:58 AM
11

It's gold. A very good response. I loved how she conveyed her expectations and boundaries. I'm taking down notes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 07:41 AM
7

I hope their titties get picked. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 07:34 AM
18

I know. I see so many great girls around me. Guys? Yes but the ratio is maybe 10:1. I see some of my colleagues dating down and settling. I really don't understand why. Whenever I feel a bit lonely, I just go to their LV bf's Instagram and tell myself - it could be worse, I could be dating this guy and be blissfully unaware. (LVM as they have no ambitions in life, doesn't take care of their looks, dating/manipulating multiple women while gaslighting my friend etc)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 03:23 AM
3

I feel sorry for the baby already. If you're gonna bring another being into the world, do it out of love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 03:19 AM
12

Good job! Keep your love and give it to someone who is worthy of it. ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 09:33 PM
8

Walk in the park? Sure, feel free to join me on my weekend 15 mile run at the park. If you can keep up, that is. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 07:31 PM
3

This is so beautiful and poetic. I'm going to print this and frame it up. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 05:42 PM
1

Sounds like a great idea, I'm going to practice doing that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 05:31 PM
3

Thank you for your message. I needed to hear this! ❤️ Sometimes it tends to be a glass-half-empty kinda view for me when it comes to self-improvement. Your message just reminded me that it is also half-full and hey, there's water in the glass! It's also liberating to think that we'll always be "in progress" because that makes things much more exciting and we'll have more things to look forward to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 05:30 PM
9

I've got a question for all the ladies here that may not be related to FDS, but how do you keep your self esteem high if you feel like you're a constant "work in progress"? On paper I feel like I'm alright, but I can't help but keep comparing myself to my ideal self and feel that I have such a long way to go. I have a degree, a full-time job (that doesn't pay that well but allows me to travel all over the world), I'm taking classes to master a 3rd language while at the same time taking up a cour…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 01:32 PM
18

I don't know you personally but I want to give you and the other ladies here a big hug for all that you have gone through. To be honest, I'm quite lucky that I discovered this before I was used or got my heart horribly broken but my heart goes out to all that have been through all these. You ladies deserve better. Anyway, I just found out that a family friend (my dad's friend) cheated on his wife. I was so surprised because that family had 3 grown up kids my age (all three whom are married) and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 08:07 AM
11

It's funny because he had rejected her and talked to her for months (yet not made a move). She's attached and suddenly he's interested? What a POS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 04:52 PM
6

Yes, it is. Great book to read.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 04:50 PM
10

Sounds like he's an avoidant. I've just finished reading the book "Attached" and I'm starting to see something here. Sounds like he wants what he can't have so he'll be able to have an idealised image in his mind. Very dangerous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 04:28 PM
30

I work for a Japanese company and I can attest that it's true - so much is expected of Japanese women. It's almost like they are second class citizens in their own country, and cheating is not considered illegal if it was with a sex worker. Therefore lots of women turn a blind eye with their husbands cheating, some event think that it's expected for men to have mistresses. I've had married men hitting on my younger female colleagues. It's that bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 10:51 AM
2

Tell him it's OK, you don't have to try anymore. Bye.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 01:32 AM
20

Shows how little her sense of self worth was when she needs to feel validated. Imagine she's in her 50s and 60s no longer attractive... She would have nothing to fall back on because beauty and male validation was all she had.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 01:02 PM
13

There's a guy I was pretty interested in who tried to pit me against other girls. I just used back the same method and let him have a taste of his own medicine because dick is abundant :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 05:09 PM
35

If you ask me to pick, it won't be a cheap place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/19 11:02 AM
16

*a man who had never gotten laid
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/19 08:57 PM
8

Reminded me of a shitty ex-colleague. He asked another colleague (girl A) out on Valentine's day, bought her jewelry, while going out with another colleague (girl B) on a holiday with only two of them. He told girl A that girl B was just a sister, and she told girl B the same thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 10:42 AM
3

It's slightly different here - while there are lots of people into casual sex, the norm here is still to only have sex with a significant other or only after marriage. While that is ideal in terms of FDS (sleeping with guys only when you have commitment, and 90 days to boot) I realize lots of my girlfriends are stuck with trashy men who settle with them and promise commitment because well, they know the girls will sleep with them. Then after "promising commitment" the guys still cheat, or they g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 05:24 PM
35

Pikachu girl is busy advertising her patreon to earn money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 02:12 PM
4

Sounds like a troll.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/19 10:37 AM
11

I'm 26 now, just got back into the dating scene after ending a LTR of 7 years. I was a pretty nice girlfriend and a pick me, until I realize that my ex was just stringing me along and keeping me around for convenience. (He had his own issues - like gender dysphoria, which I put up with because I felt like I was so invested - but that's a story for another day.) I found this sub after I was looking around for dating resources because things are so different now. It's great because I'm getting lot…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 08:52 AM
18

Lots of girls are mistaking high value for material. This guy just sounds like a low value man, but with money. This is something I constantly remind myself too. Those are the worst - especially if he knows he has money and lots of girls would throw themselves at them because of the money. Cut your losses and go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/19 04:12 PM
9

Omg I snorted. Well, then ask them to find those women then. They are clearly looking at the wrong target audience. Oh wait, those women are just unattractive pick mes they won't even look at.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 11:40 AM
22

I remember someone mentioning how guys in their 50s or older hit on younger girls. Some chalk it up as confidence over the years, I'll just say its because some of them got older, past their 40s and realizing nothing changed, so they are just hitting on everything that moves since they have nothing to lose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 08:23 AM
2

Reminded me of this one time I was talking to a guy about baking. He had talent for it and made beautiful cakes. But somehow he had to add "by the way, I'm a banker and baking is just my hobby" - and the icing on the cake? He sent a picture of his name card. Eww, just no. And we were having a great conversation until he decided to pull that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 08:32 AM
3

Because the other ones who wouldn't sleep with him, aren't here to say that they wouldn't. In fact, there's no girl in my immediate friend circle who would. (I'm 26F)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/19 09:09 AM
8

I think you can just treat him as a friend and make it clear at the beginning. If you're upfront that you aren't interested in a relationship and he continues to pursue you or ask you out if he enjoys your company, then so be it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 09:44 AM
33

Yes because instead of having easy sex from nice, willing girls, they gotta pay for sex workers instead. You gotta admit this sub is win-win for us girls - nice girls don't get duped anymore, and sex workers get more business! Of course it's bad for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 05:10 PM
64

Can we talk about the number of women who got involved with a guy emotionally, only for him to have used her for sex? So upset because I had girlfriends get emotional vested for a guy - do things for him and ended up he was there only because it was convenient for him. Smh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 04:48 PM
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I signed up for a penpal site thinking of getting some overseas penpal, made the mistake of uploading my photo. Within days my inbox were flooded with men who are clearly not interested in being penpals (we're talking about close to 50 messages a day) and some even from my own city - what the hell! I'm looking for an overseas penpal, not a hookup or a mate. Closed my account days after, r/penpals is a better place. Shows how desperate guys can be even in the most inconspicuous places. And we're …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 03:02 PM
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This is why I'm so skeptical of initiating dates or asking guys (I'm interested in) out. All the replies from guy friends will be like "just do it, he'll be flattered" or "there's no loss for you except rejection" - well except he'll just take it because "hey it's free, why not?" while waiting for another girl to come by, even if he wasn't that interested. I've known women who've been in relationships for years (we're talking about 8, 10 years) and she's the one pushing for marriage and planning…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 08:58 AM
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I agree with this. My ex-boyfriend was dating his ex for over a year - they even talked about marriage so the girl slept with him. Shortly after, he dumped her to go after me (which I didn't know at that point of time). He told me that they were just casually seeing each other (nothing serious - his words) when the girl gave him her first. Poor girl was broken, but luckily she ended up with a great guy now (am good friends with her and her current SO). Guys will say anything to get into a girls …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 05:31 PM
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