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Losers want you to work for your own degradation. The wages of sin is death. God wants better for you than the compulsion to perform
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 08:52 PM
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Scallions (can substitute for leeks)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 02:08 AM
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I try to avoid "sorry" even when it would be appropriate... but I'm also living in the ultimaye LVM hotbed right now lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 11:59 PM
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probably was going to assault her tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 11:58 PM
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Sorry she is 100% right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 11:57 PM
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1) this is gold 2) Being cold destroys even the worst abusers. They need you to react.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 11:50 PM
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I've lost the right to be surprised by this but I did raise my eyebrows. Theyre so c h a r m i n g
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 11:44 PM
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new generation of women who are exceptionally woke, hello 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 11:43 PM
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So much respect for this!!! Dude, it's almost like a conspiracy feeling sometimes... are they ALL careless, selfish lovers? They can't ALL be, right? ... Yes, basically, all men. And dude the self-love is infinitely more satisfying than accommodating a man's pleasure - once you're over the """intimacy""" concept. You can always spice it up with a little weed or an espresso, why let a man drag himself in if he hasn't invested his heart fully? I'm really happy for you, and considering doing the sa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 11:41 PM
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Not lame!! Reclaim ALL that functionality, girl. This is a big deal. You're taking back your body. Don't let anyone who is self-conscious about their birth control take your shine here - there's a reason it feels good to put yourself first. Money saved, too. God Bless, I really am so happy for you!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 11:36 PM
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Zero lies and zero apologies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 11:14 PM
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BIRTH CERTIFICATE LMAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 12:48 AM
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"Lmao" Usually its sad to see people respond to this baiting but I'm glad you drew some texts out of him to show us.. because this made me laugh-laugh, like out loud
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 12:48 AM
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when she said, "the embarassment?" it hit me in the guts, remembering the landfill full of trash I've dealt with. Good riddance indeed, so glad for you that that's not on your radar now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 12:39 AM
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An actual 40 year old fat short fully bald man once asked me, "what do women provide?" I was actually stunned
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 12:38 AM
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I never watch the videos posted here but glad I watched this. I dont "like" profanity either, but she's not censoring herself for ANYONE and I know exactly what you mean by her passion reaching you. Same. I needed this exact message right now, wasn't really looking for it but got it anyway, praise God! She is right. Every word. EVERY word. And anyone, ANYONE could watch this and criticize her... and she would not be fucking bothered because she brings 3 tables. AND CHAIRS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 12:37 AM
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GIANT red flags all over
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 09:31 PM
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Look up "medical trauma." Don't ignore this feeling. Im really sorry by the way. Exam rooms are not mentally healthy environments and our minds already know that there are threats there - your instinct picked something up. Could just be the authoritarian nature of healthcare? Or something totally different. Please don't let anyone tell you to ignore these feelings and blindly trust hospital staff
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 09:27 PM
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I still think you should reconsider. Yes she's probably going to defend Garbageman over here for at least another 5 years, but every bit of shame that sticks to her will make her Awakening that much more difficult and less likely. It's tough because her defense of him is detestable, but we're all here because we're all in the business of purging that same sexist brainwashing <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 04:36 AM
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I think they are horny enough to sense that short men are disadvantaged, but too stupid to realize that it's because short men are SUPER DUPER mean and insecure 100% of the time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 10:32 PM
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Her face says everything
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 10:29 PM
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It's not right to distribute this woman's distress and humiliation online, nor even a video of her that she didnt want taken. You should take it down. Yes the man is complete garbage, and we shouldnt be gawking over his stupidity and cruelty at the expense of this lady
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 05:02 PM
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U n a c c e p t a b l e 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 10:34 PM
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She was making a joke lol! "Yoaz" for 2 seconds I thought it was a bible name 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 01:06 AM
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Why are people mad at you lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 01:21 AM
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Yes because those men are exactly the low/negative-VM that fall in love because of your scolding or admonishment. They want that dynamic; they dont actually want to be good men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 01:05 AM
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and he threw a glass bottle at me Precisely
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 01:01 AM
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They really and truly dont even care about the children... maximum depravity. I'm disturbed and scared for that little kid
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 12:43 AM
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Sidebar
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 12:41 AM
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P r e a c h ❗ my friends still go on chain-dates... they think of cooking together as romantic... I've stopped trying to wake them up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 12:36 AM
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IM LAUGHING IN THE REAL LIFE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 12:32 AM
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Lol right, it's a weird thing to try to visualize! It doesnt mean I dont use my free time though, gladly. I mostly enjoy things like cooking, organizing, making or getting gifts for people (small things or cards), singing, and "background" things while I work or get chores done. I'm sure some people would call some of those hobbies, but I dont. Judging by some of the reactions I've gotten, it looks like not having hobbies is what differentiates me from others the most 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 12:30 AM
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It's not directed at you, nor better or worse than any man or woman. I just dont like men who are too frantic with their free time and pursuits. The way I engage with the world is too much for a written comment, sadly - I'm busy with healing and prayer and planning my next business steps. But, those are not hobbies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 03:41 PM
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Reading books is hot and underrated
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 03:40 PM
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No, that's just me personally. I dont feel the need to "strive" as hard as men generally do. I like to be "passive" about enjoyment, I like leisure or unstructured time. I do think that men who have multiple time-passing hobbies are too feminine for me though, yes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 03:39 PM
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Exact essence of truth here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 05:10 AM
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👏 IT'S CALLED DEVELOPMENTAL TRAUMA we ALL have it - period, no one comes away clean. No one! No man nor woman. Everyone is in this boat by default. Everyone feels like this. Some people aggressively default to denial, and never stop being in denial about it. The people who dont seem to feel like this, are the ones who have channelled all the pain into hurting others, or themselves - bullying, hoarding power, domestic violence, emotional manipulation, verbal abuse... "benign" or otherwise, they h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 05:02 AM
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Uh their dating pool is literally no one then
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 04:55 AM
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STOP HAHAHA
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 04:54 AM
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drywall
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 04:53 AM
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Since you asked, I will tell you my previously-formed and dearly held position on "hobbies" - I don't fuck with hobbies. I don't have them, and I don't expect any man I let into my life to have them. Why? To pass the time? If you're painting a painting, that's not a hobby; it's a painting you're making. If you have no clue how to paint, so you just try it, that's not a hobby either, it's a learning process. But if a man spends 10 hours of their free time a week painting, not to get particularly …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 04:50 AM
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women literally never ever say that shit - that is from the movies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 04:33 AM
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You're probably beautiful and have to deal with The Horde(TM). Same boat. Shut them up - your "oh no thank you" is very polite! It just sounds like "FUCK YOU" to entitled men 🤷🏼‍♀️ no harm done. Refusing to delicately fondle a fragile ego is not "rude." You dont want your fragile feelings hurt, dont throw them at random women. Peace
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 04:32 AM
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THE 👏 CHILDREN👏 ARE 👏 OUR 👏 FUTURE!!! Give to the ACTUAL little boys, the real-life children who do need attention and affection (and loving discipline, not shame!), before they slip through our fingers and grow up into cogs of the status quo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 04:26 AM
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Can I ask how many men this has panned out this way for you? Not to give them credit, but only because it sounds like maybe you're having these particularly transactional dynamics befall you because of men with avoidant attachment? Dont get me wrong, NONE of them want to be chased and ALL of them (intelligent or not) take advantage of when women are generous - but I do believe there are men out there capable of their version of love (which is not ours). Their version of love isnt what we're brai…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 04:24 AM
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I'm really sorry to hear this. As you (hopefully) know, this wasn't your fault. I want to thank you, because you just woke me up to an issue that, I'm realizing now, is actually putting me in a lot of danger. Thank you, thank you, thank you for posting your story here. I'm glad you have someone to talk to <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 04:15 AM
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Girl it's true, women with low self-esteem dont know how to raise their daughters to have any. I was in the same position. I estranged from my parents & siblings 5 months ago and WOW! I recommend it - it's like the free feeling of cutting off NVM, but on steroids. It changes you and makes so much more possible. But! Only you know your journey. Peep r/raisedbynarcissists if you havent already... oh gosh they will validate tf out of you. In any case glad you have a good perspective on where your c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 04:08 AM
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Not my chair, not my problem. Let them get MAD mad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 04:04 AM
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Are you my spirit animal
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 04:03 AM
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Literally my landlord who is obsessed with me. He calls women "females" and is too obvious 🤣 oo sorry I'm on the rag sweaty 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 04:01 AM
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Girl me too, this is not even a meme it's like an ominous warning. But it's true. And lions give their prey a quick end, not like hyenas, hyenas are the NVM of the savannah
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 04:05 AM
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The egg does not swim to the sperm. HAHA GIRL YES!! Oh my gorsh that's too funny! You hardcore leveled up. Your perspective sounds mature and humble, keep leveling up - jk I know you will do that anyway. GROWTH. This is blessed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 04:03 AM
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Unspoken sentiment from this awesome post: A man who actually loves you will be SUPER EAGER to give you what you want, and if he doesn't have it, he will go get it - so if he doesn't pop the question/meet the standard, HIS "LOVE" IS NOT WHAT YOU WANTED
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 03:47 AM
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Like 30g of protein
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 03:16 AM
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Have you ever had a dream where you, you, you wish, you wants
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 12:59 AM
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The truth will set you freeeee 🦅♥️♥️♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 12:57 AM
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No, stop that - those women are busy living their lives and spending time with their husbands. They dont have as much time to spend on the internet talking about it. Despair = self-pity = we can do better <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 05:27 PM
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Girl holy shit same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 02:57 AM
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This might be worth a post if you're down for it. That is hardcore gaslighty entitlement. Ew. Sorry that whole shit went down... the violence and the blame. What a trash way to treat someone, I'm glad you're far from that kind of situation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 02:56 AM
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Basically a toddler.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 02:54 AM
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👏👏👏👏👏 P e r i o d
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 02:54 AM
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I started laughing BEFORE I read the text because of this POSE and the FACE AAAAAHAHHAHA I love this THANK U
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 02:52 AM
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PLEASE DO, and THANK YOU! and also so glad for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 02:50 AM
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This could be a resource for us to show to other pickmes... like my old best friend, who I'm drifting apart from now specifically because of her serious but totally innocently ignorant pickme bs. Do you feel like indulging me and telling me some good parts of it? I dont watch/have TV, but I'd love to check it out and send it her way. Consider making a whole post about this, btw!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 02:49 AM
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Thankfully you threw him away ✊ You are correct - I would consider those 2 to be major red flags, dealbreaker shit, like doesnt-need-investigating-at-all bullshit. I'm disgusted too.... dystopian isnt it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 02:47 AM
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I appreciated your comment and loved your username
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 02:45 AM
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Girl YES. This is a sign of major healing. Think of it like an emotional wound that was infected and poisoning you (the relationship). Psychologically, to get you functioning, a band-aid was slapped on it... but it didnt quite heal. Now that you're in a position to do deeper healing, your psyche knows, so it's revealing the wound to you. But the wound has been festering, so it's more painful and gross now. Healing it involves hurt - rubbing alcohol on an infection HURTS, just like stitches and p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 02:43 AM
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Oooooh it's really spicy that I'm catching you in the very beginning of your journey 👀 I'm excited for you!! Journaling is such an excellent way to dig in on trauma and self-reflection... seriously, I AM excited for you! Please post and tell us more when you have revelations. If I can leave you an idea? Charting or even just taking note of what parts of your menstrual cycle seem to create what kinds of emotion & thought. I consider the cycle to be a MAJOR asset in emotional recovery of all kinds…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 02:36 AM
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First of all, so glad for you! Your joy is awesome and it's great news to me to hear about it ;) About the article though, I actually mean this: the only thing I can say right now is, wow
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 02:32 AM
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Your toddler sounds EXTREMELY PAINFULLY CUTE!!! Can we PLEASE all make this a meme??? Please!! Toddler vs LVM, let's go!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 12:15 AM
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He's going to kill her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 12:10 AM
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This is tragic. That baby girl is the victim. This is what we are preventing by not tolerating such hateful behavior. I feel for this woman and her daughter!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 11:54 PM
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Sounds like my father 🤣 you sound like you could use some r/raisedbynarcissists. In my opinion, as healing if not more so than FDS. (No offense to fds)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 11:51 PM
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Thank you for the new vocab!!! Didnt realize I needed a term for this until now - I just call them trash. But it's worth illuminating the various flavors of trash, so that every woman's palate can stay vigilant and become more sophisticated
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 11:49 PM
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why Bc they're trash
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 11:48 PM
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I adored this woman and I thought that this was acceptable behavior towards someone I love. In other words, I'm extremely entitled and deeply misogynistic but I allegedly don't know that at all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 11:46 PM
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FUCKING PREACH!!!! there are ALWAYS signs, this shit does NOT happen out of the blue!! I'm sure some people will point to the examples of sudden and extreme violence in public, but the issue at hand is the vast majority of domestic violence... which starts small and escalates. It needs to be tolerated in order to grow. There are always signs, period. It's not about the blame game. It's about not wasting your life with a trash husband, and not needing to blame anyone because you distance yourself…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 03:47 AM
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Literally JUST today I found myself seriously thinking, "why do I even listen to secular music anymore?" I've been on a hardvore worship music kick because I'm leveling up my relationship with the OG HVM (Jesus<3), and trying to stay close by keeping that music on repeat. I "took a break" for a few days and today realized... worship feeds my soul. Other music just stimulates my ears and my brain. My preference is shifting. And when I allow myself to feel loved (which society brainwashes us to re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 03:42 AM
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It is a massive run for the hills waving battalion of red flags for someone to choke you without talking to you about it first. This is all you need
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 03:30 AM
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Yes, I second that motion!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 03:27 AM
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I just need to get it off my chest cause it's so spicy: I stopped indulging an LVM's bullshit (WE WERE NOT DATING NOR EVEN REMOTELY INVOLVED), and he is throwing an epic tantrum that has lasted two weeks now. When I leave this apartment in a couple weeks, I'm so excited to tell you all the story!! (I don't wanna post it while I'm here, just in case I have to go to court about it.) He NEEDS attention from the Pretty Lady SO BAD that he's willing to trash his own things to get it... ladies it's so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 03:24 AM
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THREE women in the front have their hands near their mouths like they dont wanna make a scene by accident
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 03:16 AM
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I didnt even read it, YES SIS FUCKING TELL HER!!!!!!!! Thank you for even considering it!!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 01:05 AM
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OH. HONEY. I have attracted almost exclusively this kind of abuse. My father was this way with my mother. He LOVED talking about the "emotional bank account." (Wow I am super de duper triggered typing that out, thank you for this grieving opportunity FDS♥️) He also used "love languages" against my mother a lot, and I always had to hear these stupid conversations in the background after my younger brother got into high school. So so many manipulations of written material I cant even count the boo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 01:01 AM
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I've noticed this too but also for "low status" assholes like truck drivers and line chefs at chain restaurants
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 12:52 AM
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Doctors and their arrogance! The god complex is RAMPANT among medical worker men; the higher their position, the worse the entitlement. People with either strong empathy or an exaggerated ego go to medical school, and when men cannot accept being humbled by the fragility of humanity and the authoritarian medical system, their minds completely rewire to edit out the depravity. They become deeply sociopathic. Ladies please avoid doctors, male nurses, PAs, RNs, RAs, surgeons, residents, all of them…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 12:48 AM
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Porn! Get woke
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 12:42 AM
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It definitely was related
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 12:42 AM
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It's also projection because they LOVE crocodile tears. So disturbing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 12:40 AM
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That is very disturbing and awful. I want to hug 20 year old you, too. We really do see and hear you sis. Truly depraved and I'm sorry. It's extremely over now ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 12:38 AM
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We have all been there!! Your love is no longer a punchline to an idiot with a sick sense of humor, my dear <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 12:35 AM
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...that's the actual solution to all the world's problems. Healing women & strengthening each other; we do everything anyway, so it's a more complete & robust Fix This World Taskforce 🤣🙌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 12:30 AM
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a generation of toads in a cultural hellscape I like this creative & expressive phrasing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 12:29 AM
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I'm loved and cherished by people who have no sexual agenda and that speaks volumes. Girl YES I am so glad to hear about another (anotha one) woman thriving without men's bullshit in her hair. I'm craving that kind of community so much, and your well-wishes are appreciated ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 12:28 AM
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Dude yes, they are not intrinsically motivated unless by sex. It would be tragic if it wasn't so old now. The results are in: men only want one thing 🤣 and that would be fine, if our standards were really & truly high, and we had 3 bn men working hard to reach them. It also teaches character, hard work - they're not doing anything and their trash integrity/morality is destroying the damn planet. Cant second your sentiment enough, SANITY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 12:24 AM
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I agree. From a faith perspective, I think this is what God is calling us to do on the whole. Women are taking on EVERY responsibility and becoming incredibly strong. He's blessing us so we can save the children. Save the kids, save the world; a generation or 2 of boys raised with loving discipline and not neglected, and we will be flooded with HVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 12:20 AM
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New floor!! That's really exciting!!! And food is always exciting lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 12:18 AM
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Is this a fellow RBN in the wild
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 12:16 AM
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I would also like to distribute some blame to negligent parents :D When a girl gets no discipline, she grows up reckless and prone to addiction. When a boy gets no discipline, well he grows up the same way! And gets addicted to pornography. Cue liberal feminism encouraging the pornography, case closed, RIP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 12:16 AM
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Dude! Thank you! If real men in real life cannot offer even a sexual experience including orgasm & basic (basic!!!) decency... what is the point? No use trying to lap spilled milk up off a dirty floor, much less keep crying about it. I think that since almost all women are shamed so intensely about their intimate pleasure & world, that our years being "alone" are actually the perfect opportunity to familiarize ourselves with pleasure. I talk about that a lot... I think it's really important. Lad…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 12:13 AM
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Holy shit yes this is accurate. Yes my dear it is true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 09:15 PM
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BLESSED!! Welcome to the spiritual awakening! If you have Christ in your life, WHITE KNUCKLE GRIP that holy relationship because the ride to woke gets w i l d
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 09:14 PM
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GIRL. HELLO. YES. This was me!! TO A TEE!! You describe the feelings in ways I couldnt before - I'm bookmarking this to use to explain to friends when they do ask about my sociopath "ex" and why I didnt used to talk about him. This is trauma, and I can guarantee you its OLD trauma; your experience with this man was not the first iteration of this dynamic in your life. It was compelling enough to stay for 2 years, because it was already very familiar to your psyche. Begin by healing the trauma fr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 09:09 PM
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I think the foundational sentiment of FDS is, if a woman is psychologically or emotionally vulnerable to those situations AT ALL, she should not date AT ALL until she has healed. The point to any woman would be, if you're not able to be ruthless and unapologetic about dismissing misogynistic men from your life IMMEDIATELY upon clocking them, then you should not be in the dating arena, because it is packed with predators
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 09:03 PM
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Perhaps my favorite FDS post ever. I love love love this and it was the comix relief I needed today. It is also TRUE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 08:46 PM
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SEPARATE comment to remind everyone: If the sex is trash, you can INTERRUPT it to leave. Just say you're going to the bathroom. Yes, it is "allowed," you can leave the encounter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 08:45 PM
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YES to this too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 08:43 PM
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YES
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 08:43 PM
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LMFAOOOOOOO I once made the mistake of complaining to a male "friend" that men don't care about my pleasure. He goes, "well did you get on top?" I go, "I didnt get the chance, we only had 5 minutes"🤣🤣🤣 Disgusting but hilarious!! This level of entitlement is what I USED to consider the absolute apex of male bullshit, but GOLLY did I learn there were no limits 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 08:42 PM
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Queen Supreme INDEED, link please!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 08:40 PM
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2020 mood: Queen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 08:38 PM
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Yes there's a word, you had it right: discharge. It's clinical, you know, fluid that comes from a vagina. Like when we get infections (ewww) or before/after menstruating (yucckkyyyy), or sometimes, for some women, we don't know who or why, but some women have discharge when they have sex. Make sure it doesnt smell bad, or it will RUIN your sex life!! Female bodies arent supposed to be "sexy." We're supposed to be cows. MOO MOOO I live to serve 🤢🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 08:35 PM
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Fax📠
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 08:31 PM
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Your comment is as juicy as the original post THANK YOU!! it's so absurd... I'm still pretty upset that I dissociated out of my own pleasure because I didnt know what it was. Its because of everything you just said here. Why wouldnt a person's mind dissociate out of all that shame? "Foreplay" is nonsense lady stuff GIRL I AM SAYING. Hit the nail on the head. Ladies, learn your bodies FIRST. The desire for "~the intimacy~" will fucking disappear once you know how to pleasure yourself properly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 08:30 PM
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Can someone fix the wikipedia article about the clitoris while we're here??? It says the clitoris is "the homologue to the penis." I assume you see the problem. Thank you OP I agree and am outraged... less outraged now that I understand my own anatomy and how to use it for its intended purpose, BY MYSELF, because that organ is not designed for reproduction as I was very late to find out. The language, the products, the culture, the brainwashing is for the worship of male pleasure and the shaming…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 08:24 PM
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NOTHING. Best comeback is to not come back
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 04:23 PM
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This is TEXTBOOK domestic abuse, someone call Lundy cause we got an excerpt for the next book. Pray for this mama
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 04:15 PM
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HAHAHAHAHA OMG She's my hero 🤣 Bible app is free, fellas! Save your sorry souls because we're to busy too kiss your arses
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 04:13 PM
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The Lord will grant you whatever is needed to be free from the "yoke of slavery" that is having an LVM in your life. This story is one of those ones that breaks the "how dare you!" ceiling, and moves into "... what the fuck lol!!" territory. They call it a technique on some PUA sites - literally "audacity" as a technique. It's super effective 🤣 I'm sorry for the bullshit. I hope it doesnt come to the antidepressants, but this goes to show how much fucking energy LVM can suck out of a person. A m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 04:12 PM
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THEY KNOW THEY'RE DOING IT. "but" NO. THEY KNOW.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 04:08 PM
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Those things are also necessary, yes. It's when we innocently wander out into the world without giving due credit to the sophisticated ways that men are privileged (and inclined) to exploit those good qualities in order to subdue us or trap us, that we victimize ourselves more than we need to - meaning, yes, taking responsibility for avoiding intimate partner violence, by avoiding violent partners. Once their male shit is purged from a womans mind, she inevitably will either find out 1.) She's i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 01:26 AM
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you're welcome but I will be more vigilant next time so watch it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 03:02 AM
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I honestly believe those churches dont thrive/stop thriving because Christ sees that they're a threat to His other children, so He neutralizes their impact 🤷🏼‍♀️ He only disciplines us out of love - those churches DO get a chance to preach biblical behavior, but when they fail.... well, Grace Chapel happens, everyone ditches, church authorities collect their salaries I suppose, and the people disperse to the pastures Jesus leads them to. Thank you for the prayer!!! I've literally asked God to ke…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 03:01 AM
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Came back bc you replied and laughed AGAIB but this time I peed myself a tiny bit Enough is enough
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 12:52 AM
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Blessed that you're not picking up after them!! Or sharing tbh. In my case, its become so small on my radar that I can afford not to care. The past year of my life has been brutally traumatizing, and my focus being here is to eat and rest and recover. I'm loving the new area I moved to, so I just do the dishes I need so that I can go back to enjoying my Coronavirus vacation, living off the fuck-off fund and tanning. When I dirty them, I leave them back in the sink (less dishes for me, and I make…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 12:50 AM
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No for real you're right, in my area where there were a lot of colleges, a LOT of the younger people who came to the non-denominational places I was at, were actually pretty hardcore "progressives." In quotes because they were the college-type, the people who go so far that it's not at all about progressivism, it's just their personal grievances painted blue. They DO leave room for the "fringe" people. It's a beautiful way to have a church - Christ's reach is wildly expanded!! - but a risky way …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 12:46 AM
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she is always consistent with making sure I eat I hope that woman stays at her parents or goes back to her own place, never to return. This is vomititious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 09:25 PM
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That's why I am EXCLUSIVELY hanging out with Jesus right now!!! No dumbass pickmeism from my old circle, no self-pitying alcoholic shit from my old bestie. No bullshit. Just the "spirit of love, power, and self-discipline."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 09:23 PM
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RIGHTEOUS INDIGNATION
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 03:32 AM
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<3!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 03:31 AM
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I dont want to chew your ear off with all the detail - search mad in america, or Bruce Levine, or niall McLaren, on google, for a sampling of the evidence. I was on meds for half of my life. They change your personality, sadly, and have a shockingly intense track record for causing semi- & permanent sexual dysfunction. I've been off them for almost 2 years now (yay!) and in the past 2 months have started orgasming again. After 13 years including puberty. One kind also gave me type 2 diabetes, re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 03:29 AM
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Red flags of abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 03:26 AM
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No. And, no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 03:25 AM
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You did yourself a favor!! God was with you that day! He overreacted, as men do tend to do. This was a major blessing. It's ok if you only realize it later. Now that youve dodged a bullet, you need to wake up to the ways men will make you angry at yourself for "losing" them. They are not that special, I promise! If you dont want tough love from us, give yourself tough love. Seriously, do the right thing, what you deserve, and push yourself to recover faster and be more strict. Learning experienc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 03:23 AM
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You're giving me life by understanding it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 03:17 AM
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Girl let me tell you!!! Beautiful women get some horrid nasty shit from them! It is not our looks - they want us to think that, so they say stuff about our looks. Women with self esteem get the MOST shit. Pickme's like my formerly popular self get treated better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 03:16 AM
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Read the whole thang
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 03:12 AM
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Feeling less feelings will absolutely create more stability. But! Feelings are necessary for healing. Just a tip
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 03:12 AM
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Quit the meds, cant lie to you but my HEART screams at me to warn other women. That's an actionable step! Do your research FIRST if you like that idea tho. Outside that, CRY!!! I had no self-esteem either. Its trauma baby! Cry! Do whatever the fuck makes you cry. Fasting for a day, watching the notebook, piano music, gross food, whatever makes you upset enough to cry. Then cry a lot. It releases the trauma from your body. It's the easiest way to start - from there, further steps will feel more c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 03:11 AM
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This man is intellectualizing about the visible contents of his own rectum. In other words, he doesnt understand feelings. That's all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 03:07 AM
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YES
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 03:06 AM
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You will HOPEFULLY look back on this "relationship" with embarrassment for the affection you felt for him. RIP the bandaid off. Its OK(!!!!) to have fallen for their bullshit, and to have gotten attached to trash. It's ok, it happens to ALL of us in the beginning!! But now, you want to be with someone who's not trash? Or you just want a trash-free heart? Then it's time to let go of trash. Children sometimes hoard pieces of trash - wrappers, papers, broken trinkets. Its because they're afraid, ma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 03:05 AM
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:( Mods you might wanna put a nsfw tag on the image. A sad and common kind of story here! I feel for her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 02:55 AM
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DID YOU JUSY SAY Y CHROMOSOIDS 🤣🤣🤣💀 ETA your username omg youre my comedy hero this friday
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 02:53 AM
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I would say it's probably in line with FDS. Personally I REFUSE to date muslim men or to even consider them, and I've discussed that here and people understand. A core tenet is that your standards are your standards, and we dont try to change other poster's standards. If they dont want to date Christians, they have every right & privilege to refuse to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 02:51 AM
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I'm Christian too :) We need to welcome this criticism. It will inform us of where and when our global church is harming people. God brings us to these criticisms in order to help us! Sadly, they are not bad apples; there are fields full of trees rooted in abusing Christ's name. I was one of those bad fruits, thinking I was "Christian" without love! Let's listen and see how the people are reacting to Christian brothers... and then lovingly DISCIPLINE them out of their bullshit on Sunday
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 02:48 AM
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I feel you. Jesus does a fair share of the "weeding out" for you there, though; HVM will have experienced God's discipline of their character, and they will have listened when Jesus leads them away from misogyny. Theyll act right at the least. Anything less, and you know they're breadcrumbing the Lord, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 02:44 AM
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Omg idk where you're at, but in my experience (east coast), Catholics are by FAR the worst! We had a ton of non-denominational churches, and they were usually packed with people who were raised secular or who were hardcore about the relational aspect (i.e. the bible says this, I was confused, so I asked God to clarify, and it turns out he doesn't want me to keep slaves and servants). Interesting the differences we've seen! (Christ was controversial too, its fine lol)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 02:42 AM
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“Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven. Many will say to me on that day, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name and in your name drive out demons and in your name perform many miracles?’ Then I will tell them plainly, ‘I never knew you. Away from me, you evildoers!’ Matthew 7:21-23 These men "follow" Christ because they want to reap the benefits of the Western Biblical Patriarchy™. If t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 02:39 AM
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We CAN and should blame the parents!!! Abuse is everywhere, it's truly a worldwide problem - but America's (and to some extent the whole west's) problem is neglect. We were industrialized hard and fast, and we still are, to the point that it's our culture, in lieu of a genuine culture borne out of heritage & time. The generations that failed to adjust, have already passed on their trauma like a game of telephone. It is genuinely a horror; but, invisible, because we SMILE in America! :) dystopian…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 02:23 AM
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Not for the geese! They seem content to honk and eat grapes. There's hope somewhere
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 02:20 AM
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My roommate is doing this right now. Dirtying all the dishes so that I HAVE to clean dishes if I want to have post and utensils to use. That's why I'm ditching this place. A relationship sounds way more intense. I'm sorry but at the same time glad you're awake
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 02:15 AM
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LVM are not your friends! They're parasites
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 02:15 AM
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Oooo it's long af, I'm excited to read this thank you!!! Edited to add cause I read it, and others linked from the bottom of the page; FDS is literally the revolution they dreamed of. What can motivate men more to either become human, or to die off, than women recognizing their value and demanding recompense for their emotional, physical, sexual, psychological labor & effort? Once boys grow up seeing they must be mature if they want to be paired up, the generations will become freer as they go
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 12:17 AM
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I enjoyed this. SOAP DOESNT WORK! LMFAO!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 12:17 AM
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I have to very very strongly disagree!! Let me encourage you: Until this year, I believed I was trans. It showed - men's clothes, no makeup, hid my figure under bigger clothes because when you're a thin woman, men just see you as a Barbie, so I didnt even give them the chance to judge. I'm probably what most would call "GNC" although I dont use that label. I'm definitely masculine, even my friends have said it many times as a compliment! I still am "masculine" - very much so. But I value that ab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 12:12 AM
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TAKE THAT BACK lmfao NOOOOO help me 🤮🤮🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 11:58 PM
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Men are literally not as intelligent as women. I do mean all men and all women, yes a generalization. Ed could happen in no other world
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 11:57 PM
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YES
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 11:56 PM
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Local FDS woman (32) goes on a RAMPAGE OF DESTRUCTION, obliterating the ego of 3 men (25, 35, and 75), one of whom was her elderly uncle. The weapons involved were a quick wit and a sense of self-respect. Hate speech inciting hateful violence indeed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 11:52 PM
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Ladies I hope we are all drinking their tears rather than wasting this moment. Just enjoy. Don't bother to comment on that post
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 11:50 PM
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"Why dont you get a job" yes, let me abandon our child to a shit-tier daycare for 8 hours a day 5 days a week because I cant afford a better daycare without your help - I'm glad you don't mind our baby potentially being in danger or falling behind developmentally because of a lack of appropriate care & attention! the stigma needs to go. Period
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 11:47 PM
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I would trust ANY domesticated goose from the park over the men in my area. HONK HONK they defend their babies AND their ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 11:44 PM
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I don't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 11:30 PM
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This is 2020 energy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 11:26 PM
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There are times I allow myself to be baffled - Do men not know how to touch themselves?? Do they not know they can buy a "warm hole" and have their way with it, without needing to involve a woman? Do they understand that they can have all that pleasure they want, without needing to wrestle it from women? Then I remember sex is barely about sex to LVM. It's about power, acting out porn, and their own entitlement. Back to reality, but it's ok because I know all those things about pleasure so I'm b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 12:11 AM
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Every single word is truth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 01:39 PM
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Check out r/raisedbynarcissists
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 01:35 PM
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Never forget 😭🤣 THEY FUCKING KNOW!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 01:22 PM
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Hello Moto 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 01:21 PM
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THANK YOU for this!! I really love men too 😭 they can be so magical... it is a terrible shame that so few men act like adults!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 01:20 PM
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Projection
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 06:59 PM
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The way I see it, generations of neglect are finally compounding to their boiling point. Boys are so egregiously neglected that they basically dont recover. The other main thing would be that in lieu of socialization, they are raised by the terrifying content accumulated on the internet/the media (pornography, scary shit in general, sexism, etc.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 06:57 PM
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IT IS NO WONDER
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 06:53 PM
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GIRL I LOVE THE WAY U PHRASED IT "Make the noises" lmfao but you're FUCKING RIGHT 💯❗ ugh I needed this exact comment today, that is blessed so thank u
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 11:50 PM
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Like women who abuse their kids and let them get abused by their trash boyfriend or husband Like my mother? Yeah that's why I have Cancelled pickme behavior in my life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 11:48 PM
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Bruh she was dead-on about the side effects of not coddling men. Can't even add to it tbh Edited to add!! For shits and giggles, she mentions "always offended" and "walk on eggshells," but have you heard of: too sensitive prone to miscommunication misinterpreting things not listening right lying causing drama being cRaZy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 11:45 PM
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Seen it too many times - NO!! I am very sorry to report this, but men are not nice!! They will NOT do this for any reason other than to see if they have a shot with a woman, niceguy style or otherwise. Dude, I have stopped talking to women over their repeated mistakes in this area. He IS hitting on her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 11:37 PM
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doesn't own a car My react is a combination of several memes. Kicked him out 2020
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 02:42 AM
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AAAAAAAAH HAHAHA no this is TOO real!!! No doubt EVERY one of us knows at least 2 of this guy ... excuse me, knew in the past 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 02:40 AM
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Ur username made my week
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 02:39 AM
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That's very tragic, I'm sorry <3 You said exactly what I needed to hear right now!! It's almost creepy! Thank you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 05:48 AM
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PFFFFFFFF "6" OK
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 08:50 PM
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Actual fav comment of all time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 08:46 PM
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No no no no no pls All red flags
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 08:45 PM
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THIS IMAGE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 01:38 AM
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have always been LVM I got the heebie jeebies right thur
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 01:37 AM
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Lol, you might doubt it less if you think of all the things LOW value men see as "spent on a woman"; the gas to drive, the laundry detergent/soap to be decently hygienic for dates, the food that provided the calories necessary for opening a door 6 (six!!!) whole times on average per date. We are so NEEDY 🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 01:36 AM
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Also true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 02:41 AM
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Oh my llllaaaaarrrddd fucking PREACH and THANK YOU "I had really great parents" NOPE YA DIDNT, otherwise you would already know not to stay with men who start abusing you homegirl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 02:40 AM
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It has become contentious though - when women are fully aroused and then fully satisfied (takes longer than a 4 min solo orgasm), they respond like men do, which is full relaxation and tiredness. It's a nervous system thing, not a sex-organ thing, as they would have us believe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 06:59 PM
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Literally YES, definite and absolute impending regret if I allowed that 🤮 perfect reminder, thank you and thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 02:17 AM
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Of all men? Maybe 15% yeah I feel you. Of all SINGLE guys? 5% in the USA, best guess
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 02:04 AM
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It is. "I'm hungry" turns into a buffet with the guy I dont care for, but "I miss you" gets silence every time LMAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 02:03 AM
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It's literally true. It counters all the brainwashing we've received, so it seems unreal but.... it's too real
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 02:03 AM
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I can second these observations as someone who stupidly and FULLY IGNORANTLY attracted parasites nonstop from puberty to 2 yes ago 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 01:57 AM
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Being with someone, anyone, can feel less lonely, if you are the type of person who avoids spending any time alone at all costs. Literally hit the nail on the head. Lassies, don't be this person, I was this person for WAY too long and oh the time I wasted not discovering my wonderful self!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 01:55 AM
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He is the guy who takes 10 minutes to figure out something that feels good, then when she moans he stops doing it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 11:54 PM
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"I always avoid gluten, stuff like pizza & sandwiches. I do like hotpot and Korean bbq though." UGH WOMEN ARE SO FRUSTRATING, why wont she just say where she wants to go???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 11:53 PM
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Do ittt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 11:52 PM
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Give them a chance
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 11:51 PM
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beliefs Girl you are way ahead of the game knowing that this is where the root lies 💪🏻 write, write, write!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 11:48 PM
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Keep in mind that your fingernails, real or fake, are decent temporary weapons and (more importantly) collect DNA from scratches. I remind myself often that I CAN drop the "dont wanna fuck up my nails" hand movements, and use them for self-defense, if need be. They're easy to forget about, but its served me well in the past. I keep those shits long and pointed💪🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 11:42 PM
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Block & delete cannot be praised enough... it actually will make it easier, OP!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 11:40 PM
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WE'RE COMMENTING BECAUSE YOU'RE WORTH IT 👀 believe your eyes here girl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 11:39 PM
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Ha, "space" should be in quotes! If he wanted space he could have taken a weekend self-vacation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 11:39 PM
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Good on you!!!! Your idea of failure is still a level of personal success and development that the world's richest men fall short of. My advice, and I mean this seriously: think of it like being WAY too drunk. Throwing up over the toilet till theres nothing but bile, back aching from the strain, dizziness and nausea, its hell on earth, but everyone who winds up there KNOWS that all they have to do is wait it out. Wait it out!! And when you're in the emotional equivalent of the next morning, yup …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 11:36 PM
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Such an incredible savage talent should not waste a second of her life on a man. Good for you, Adele
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 11:33 PM
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Disappointing is the perfect word. OP I'm sorry he wound up being a dud - keep some hope, and good on you for picking up on the dishonesty and not making excuses for him. Zero shit, and dude that shit was really disrespectful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 11:30 PM
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YES!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 11:22 PM
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Trust your gut ♥️ that's a very very painful position. I'm sorry. It's of extreme value that you recognize it like you do
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 11:22 PM
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Smart move on this commentors part
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 11:21 PM
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I see your hairline bud
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 08:20 PM
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YES
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 08:20 PM
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A perspective outside of this relationship: This is incredibly bad. Seriously. You've been gaslit like crazy. DISENGAGE would be the only option here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 08:19 PM
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GIRL. YES.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 08:16 PM
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What's SEA?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 08:16 PM
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Fucking THANK YOU
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 08:12 PM
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Girl bye this is MY list 🤣 keep it and expand it 💪🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 08:12 PM
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OMG yes!! No potheads!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 08:10 PM
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Edit to add!! I LOVE that our lists have so many differences; I love that, while there is the absolute standard of respect and respectability, we all have such different preferences about lifestyles in men we consider. This is HEALTHY af, set YOUR standards and keep them!!! Doesnt know anything about male violence etc. Dislikes children Racism or homophobia Religion-basher or atheist No car Socially awkward (GET IT TOGETHER HON) Fat WITHOUT muscle Says anything even RESEMBLING a potential insult…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 08:10 PM
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Yes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 08:06 PM
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Dont give him the credit; "fuck off, Steve"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:39 PM
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"I know you dont want anything to do with me, but can I make you change/explain yourself one more time?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:38 PM
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Yay! I dont have a YouTube account, but please dm and keep me posted if you pursue making a video - if me and you do it it will look that much easier and more enticing for other ladies to join ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 04:03 PM
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Yup. I know a PARTICULARLY balding man who is by far the hottest I ever met - big smile, nice clothes, clean, interesting personality, good work ethic. Women want him. Ugly = low effort, nothing more. Theres a GOOD REASON we are not attracted to ugly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 04:00 PM
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Perspective: I had a BIG crush on a very nice and good-looking talented man, and waited four years before I got over it. Was never once mean or nasty to him, never cajoled, never badgered, because I had respect for him. It is very very easy to wait for sex when you have respect for someone If it seems difficult at any point for the man you're talking to, he does not have respect for you. It is harder to wait for a pizza to come out of the oven, truly I tell you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 03:57 PM
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That shit is really cute and tasteful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 03:56 PM
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You dont owe him anything, honestly ghost. Yes it will make him sad, yes it is an opportunity to learn. Dont do the extra work, he'll be just as sad except he'll feel more entitled
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 03:55 PM
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If one person makes an account and a "starter" video, 5 minutes or so, that person can receive videos from other FDS gals and post them on the account? And several people could "host" these videos on their accounts too if they wanted! I would contribute
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 03:53 PM
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Edible 🙌🏻 go for the notebook lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 03:51 PM
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Keep crying!! Cry!! A lot!! When you're done, watch the notebook and cry more! Then write or talk to yourself, then chop some onions and CRY homegirl!! So proud that you're not wasting your time on him right now 💪🏻 happy Valentine's Day ❗♥️💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 03:50 PM
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Yay! Today is a legit normal ass day for me, got a nice opportunity for some extra work hours yesterday, so I'm gonna do almost nothing today - wash my hair, eat mad vegetable soup, hot tub, maybe work out, nap, write and pray. Every damn day is special because I love myself lmao so here's to another one ladies 🥂💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 03:49 PM
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Bro open your eyes, this is an online dating app, show your literal eyeballs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 12:38 AM
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but I'm so [bad at masturbation] GET YOUR SELF-CARE RIGHT lmfao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 12:20 AM
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Bless you for that- the medication route is scary and risky and often deadly. Do you mama!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 11:51 PM
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Oh lord, known boys like this... is there a REALLY bad example/role-model he's around at school or in extended family? Just an idea. And I know what you mean. I suspect some kind of epigenetic memory coming down to our kids now; girls "know" to be aware, boys "know" to push harder
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 11:51 PM
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How many? None, because I wasnt attracted to them and so they weren't my Russell Williams
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 10:02 PM
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Wait, I meant your username! BUT ALSO THE FLAIR!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 09:57 PM
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I know, right?!?! I get off EASY with my own body and imagination... and this is after a decade os sexual dysfunction! No porn no problem... the guys who say they "need" it arent lying, they're just addicted
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 09:55 PM
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I'd say just wait for him to show his true colors. OP kind of dodged a GIANT bullet here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 09:51 PM
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That is very fucking sad indeed. Obviously this is a grieving sesh :( I wanna say dont draw conclusions right now about the dating world for your whole future - yeah it looks bleak, and still, success stories happen! Maybe the guy who's worthy of you is too young right now - maybe he has to be 5 years older, and you do too so that the fates can align you both? What I mean is, INFINITE possibilities. If there was no hope in patriarchy, women would have made a global suicide pact centuries ago. Yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 09:49 PM
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SORRY, BEST PART BY FAR I don't like the thought of competing with other men for her time, either. Okie dokie then, bye! She lived it right, and the LVM fall away as she enjoys a valentine's date
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 09:43 PM
8

Yes and so is your flair 🙌🏻♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 05:53 PM
2

Thank you for asking! I dont have any strong women in my life atm so this is big blessings for me ♥️♥️♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 05:36 PM
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INTERESTING INDEEEEEED
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 05:35 PM
3

Honestly, the first step (kind of unconventional, it was personal) for me was giving myself explicit permission to COMPLETELY ignore men, to not make eye contact with them, be totally unfriendly with them as if they didnt exist. I dont "recommend" that, but I just moved out of state to get away from a male abuser of decades; I was being sexually harassed at work, sexualized at home, there was too much male gaze and sexist shit, and my instincts were SCREAMING at me - "AVOID MEN!!" So I finally j…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 02:51 AM
3

Ok I will
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 02:00 AM
6

Bruh how did you hope for cgi and get disappointed by a living hot woman
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 01:58 AM
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SANITY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 01:58 AM
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Haha my phrasing was off I'm realizing - what I meant to say, is that when I meet men for the first time (new coworkers, strangers, cashiers or what have you), now I feel like I can extend them a little trust as another human. I dont feel like I'm risking very much anymore by being kind to strangers (the male ones), because my foundation feels so much more solid
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 01:56 AM
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I USED TO BE A RAPE APOLOGIST and when I heard of these I was pissed!!! I didnt know what rape culture was, and I hadn't been involved enough in The World to experience the aggression of men. Now I wanna buy these.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 10:37 PM
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I'm confident you will never abandon that standard because WOW the low value knows no limits... That's also a standard I didnt know I had till just now, thank you for informing me. Also upon a quick re read I love your standards, if it is possible to "love" someone else's standards lol 🤣 no trash on your plate 💪🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 03:25 AM
1

Not the right place for this my dude
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 01:17 AM
2

hates animals/children The ultimate, Master Red Flags
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 01:13 AM
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Girl I feel you, I'm a believer too and atheist men dont really seem able to respect the difference. You'll find a man who GROWS your faith, as long as you keep blocking/ignoring the trashtheists
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 01:12 AM
1

Did you just say DISHES in the BED
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 01:09 AM
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Any contempt or insult, even "sarcastically." Someone who is attracted to me, as a human woman, wouldnt dare risk that. Someone who sees me as an object would crack jokes like that. INSTANT goodbye, got to use it a few times especially lately and it feels good to have respect for myself :) nope, no apology necessary, dont speak to me when you see me, bye
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 01:07 AM
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The ones that join by choice are authoritarian and have less exposure to women; the ones that enlist for the GI are boys who never got the chance to grow into men outside of all-Male environments And their statistical rates of committing abuse & DV are scary af
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 12:50 AM
2

I'll be there!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 04:08 AM
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LMFAOOOOOOOO this hit me SO HARD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 04:02 AM
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FDS mindset has recently allowed me to cross the threshold where I feel i can choose to trust certain men as strangers. I'm not nearly as afraid anymore in public - it's like I got the sexually depraved male gaze out of my own head, and it made room for me to recognize decent (if not high value) men out in the wild, coworkers and the like. Thanks again ladies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 04:01 AM
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Of COURSE he works in medicine 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 02:55 PM
2

If that oil splatters shes gonna have a BAD TIME
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 02:54 PM
1

For everyone saying that rapid pacing of the relationship is a sign of abuse - DUH!! Is it not already assumed that women on FDS are appropriately educated to the red flags of abuse?! Don't we already know the "it could be love bombing" stuff?? An informed and self-respecting woman will easily know the difference - no, I'm not blaming women, I'm holding us accountable. Yes, there are true psychopaths who are exceptions, but even the NUTCASES I've been involved with were men I could have avoided …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 02:29 PM
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Much better
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 02:24 PM
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Thanks - please keep speaking up to other men. They dgaf when we say it, but they usually shut up and reconsider if a man condemns them. We need you guys to do that shit on the regular
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 02:22 PM
2

Seeing it now... OP get woke and leave
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 02:17 PM
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Sole proprietor here - YUP. and we all need reminding, so thank you!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 10:53 PM
2

Someone else is woke to the risks of medication 💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 10:26 PM
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You need to leave this guy. Read the sidebar and other people's posts. Hes never gonna change hon
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 10:23 PM
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OH MY LARD THANK YOU!!! I've been trying to say this for so long, so many of us have!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 09:29 PM
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my time is running out I dont want to sound rude bc I want every woman to start learning this stuff like I'm starting to, but... NO, you are not running out of time!! You will still be fertile for a WHILE, and if you take care of yourself your fertility will still flourish!! Aside from that, what else could be "running out"? Whatever it is, it's not going to run out bc it's not finite. This myth of the timing for a family IS a MYTH and it's designed to put pressure on you to settle around this a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 02:54 PM
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Why downvote OP? She has questions we have answers? OP read the sidebar it will DEFINITELY answer a lot for you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 02:28 PM
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Dont let a man be the "missing piece" in your foundation - let a man be an addition to your mansion!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 03:32 PM
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Which is why estranging from my whole family was the best decision I ever made 😍 And why I had to do that FIRST before I was able to recognize my value and worthiness as a woman, as a human
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 03:30 PM
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I want to say maybe he didnt want to make you use any emotional energy on worrying about his finances, esp if he still takes care of you the same way & has cut down on HIS spending rather than on his obligations to you... But your gut is telling you that the way he handled it is suspect. TRUST YOUR GUT. That advice is ALWAYS relevant
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 03:28 PM
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Right? This is phrased as a "compatibility" issue when it's really basic dignity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 03:25 PM
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burning nerve pain HOLY GOODNESS rape culture is getting INTENSE if that is not an automatic NO for penetration
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 03:24 PM
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used as a metaphor That is projecting female intelligence onto men 🤣 you've taken this meaningless concept and made it into a valuable & useful metaphor... men actually BELIEVE it literally! We are more lucky than we realize ETA this sounds mean but I'm actually agreeing w ur interpretation and laughing at garbagemen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 03:21 PM
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More than a few times I've had a protein shit turtle back up into my rectum. Tried it; dont like it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 03:13 PM
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First guy I started going out with casually had the most perfect lips on Earth. He can be stupid and basic all he wants... he will always have those beautiful thangs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 11:25 AM
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They really love brainlessly walking into verbal territory that literally no one wants to hear!! I'm sorry dude, that sounds violating af... extra gross of them I think L/NegativeVM really just see ALL obstacles to getting laid as equally invalid - hence their fundamental tone deafness to ALL reality. They're down to just bulldoze people, its scary
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 04:40 AM
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BLESSED
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 11:17 PM
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Its funny you say that, I actually want a man who looks older than he is... in the "right" way, i.e. some wrinkles and some graying. I dont know how I would feel dating a 30 y.o who looks 25... maybe I just subconsciously want a partner that scares other men more than I can accomplish myself 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 11:13 PM
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I don't date white guys FDs iS rAciSt!1
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 11:12 PM
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Or, a diet very heavy I processed food, and very lacking in healthy fats/essential minerals, can do it. The ultimate neon sign that says "I am not in good health, do not mate with me"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 11:08 PM
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Extremely true and extremely relevant - the ugly ones are WORSE!!@
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 11:04 PM
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DID YOU JUST SAY VISIBLE EFFORT TO MAINTAIN THEM LONG.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 11:00 PM
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I'm pretty fucking forgiving, and naturally my standards have been called "shallow" waaaaay before I found FDS! I'm ok with receding hairlines (I dont know why, but it doesnt bother me) and somewhat crooked teeth. Major NO's: shorter than/around my height (5'). These guys always have a fucking complex and NOW I actually am repulsed by men around my height. "white people lips" which is so awful to say, but NO nonexistent lips!! Moobs, pear-shape, all the things that show an estrogenic lifestyle (…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 10:59 PM
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Ooooh wait, so this new idea of "this 1 is my love language" is not even relevant or in line with the book?? LMFAO MEN. Of course they've twisted this around
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 10:49 PM
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Dont get me started, oops sorry too late No offense to any of you who find value in conceptualizing expressions of love as "languages" of sorts, but I have NEVER seen "love languages" propogated by anyone other than manipulative men. "Touch isnt my love language" "gifts are his love language, he did his best." What the fuck??? Dude, if I want quality sex twice a week, you cant just say it's not your "love language" and expect a woman to hang around. Gifts are not a love language, they are gestur…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 10:44 PM
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Let's not get our hopes up :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 10:37 PM
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My car is so fucked up that I can tell you this is a wise policy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 02:10 AM
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functionally independent but emotionally needy Fucking SAME and that's the perfect way to express the exact thing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 02:09 AM
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Too luxurious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 02:06 AM
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LMFAOOOOOOOOOO you just KILLED me rn!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 02:01 AM
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Glad she leveled up My ex used to make me sit on his lap. Like, he insisted. And I was a good 20 lbs heavier than this mf while I was underweight tryna fit on his 5 inch wide thigh like a brainless bxxxx
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 02:00 AM
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Men literally hijack EVERYTHING in order to justify themselves I would give examples but its literally EVERYTHING 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 01:58 AM
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I'm only a year into minimalism and my intact consciousness has NEVER created an aesthetic like this even by accident. They are just so used to all their excuses "working" (women being done with the matter because of obvious stupidity like this room)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 01:57 AM
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Imagine calling the above image "minimalism" 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 01:56 AM
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So much to unpack here, but thankfully I dont fuck with men's baggage anymore
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 01:55 AM
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Yyyyoooo I thought I was SO woke for knowing I had attachment trauma, and then you come in here and perfectly express my attitude towards my career THANK YOU bc that shit needs to s t o p
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 01:52 AM
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Short sweet to the point and accurate. Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 01:51 AM
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Yes, they are not ready for a relationship. But they are ready to indulge the natural manifestations of their unexamined minds, in the form of pursuing something "serious" with the first woman who resembles their (UNEXAMINED) attachment desires. Hence, the new gf who is clearly not what he wants in a wife
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 01:49 AM
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Onto purplier pastures
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 01:45 AM
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A man who really wants to love you will go out of his way to be t h o u g h t f u l
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 01:44 AM
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AAAHH this is the sentiment behind my new habit of dressing to be NOT attractive to men - a beautiful byproduct of wearing comfortable clothes that allow a full range of movement Bathing suit? No problem; stop shaving 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 01:43 AM
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Nature retreats?? That IS extremely progressive! OP maybe you can also look outside the "box" for healing methods for what's happened with this man... anything that helps you rest even for a brief time could help <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 01:41 AM
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Its abuse - leave while you still can
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 01:52 PM
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Extreme respect, PM me if you want OP I second this opinion
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 01:37 PM
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I dont mean to be contrary, but I have to add this out of my heart: Intensive psychiatric treatment, including commitment (even voluntary) is a gigantic risk factor for losing your rights/legal autonomy. Other people have the opportunity to influence legal decisions about you, if that happens a certain way (which it often does). People naturally mean well when they recommend treatment, but women who have been abused are one of the groups most harmed by psychiatric care, so OP use extreme caution…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 01:35 PM
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Hi, I'm not dealing with DPD, and feel free to discard this comment if it's not helpful: I would recommend considering if your personality or mind is truly disordered, or if you have been responding to the conditions of your life. As long as your legal rights are not under the authority of a physician who determines how sane you legally are, you still have the right to define if your mind is valid or not, as well as how to change the things about it that are harming you or holding you up. If he …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 01:33 PM
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His ego was not safe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 01:23 PM
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This is NOT meant to sound "reddit-preachy" by any means, but since your first read of the sidebar was from the perspective of knowing you would be altering the info to make it relevant to your needs/desires, I think it would be helpful to read through it again; there are a couple parts in there that go into detail about how to re-frame dating relationships with men so that it suits YOUR plans regardless of his level of commitment. I mean, DUH OBVIOUSLY you know that cause you're here, but in pa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 12:50 PM
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men will do ANYTHING for sex Keep in mind also ladies, that sex means something different to men. They equate it with power, status, sometimes the right to call themselves men and to exist. They WILL take it from you, they WILL pursue it as a matter of their psychological survival. They are NOT looking for what we're looking for out of sex; don't project your connotations of sex (intimacy, love, satisfaction) onto them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 03:05 AM
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LOSE INTEREST!! Not attracted to you = unattractive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 02:55 AM
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Well, why not keep enjoying whag youre enjoying, and enjoy this mans company as well? If he IS spectacular, he will show you :) it's probably not realistic to think you can know off the bat, so take the pressure off of yourself and let HIM take the burden of wooing you. If he wants to get exclusive, you guys can address that after hes shown you he brings something to your life. If you find it's something of value for your life, you might find yourself feeling enthusiastic about being exclusive w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 12:33 AM
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Lmfao im TRIGGERED My father used to beat that verse into our heads, to shame us for being women and existing in a state of desirability to men!! What happened? Men, as usual 💀 Thanks for reclaiming that for me 💪🏻♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 01:23 PM
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GIRL SAME. we learned and that's over now 🙏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 09:44 PM
3

Absolutely fantastic - concise and clear
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 09:13 PM
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toilet paper 🤣🤣🤣💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 09:08 PM
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GOD WANTS BETTER FOR YOU THAN LVM smhhhh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 09:07 PM
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Among men? Surprisingly high 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 03:33 PM
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piss bottles I'm triggered, my ex did that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 03:33 PM
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Ideal
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 03:31 PM
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BEAUTIFUL And exactly the sentiment I've been looking for :) when I'm emotionally sound and secure and healed up from what I just left behind, I'm excited to throw myself back into my work helping people, too <3 that is, clients who are SCREENED for their motivation & readiness to heal with me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 03:24 PM
4

Fantastic post!! Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 03:19 PM
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proles We are speaking the same language, I trust your input
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 03:15 PM
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HAHAHAHAA FUCKING YES
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 11:15 PM
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Why do men not enjoy masturbating? I love being so horny I cant breathe, then I get to, ya know, PLEASURE MYSELF and it feels good. Like hello men HI THERE you ok?? Did you know you can do this All By Yourself, or were you waiting for Mom to teach you...?????????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 11:03 PM
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THANK YOUUUUU I've been regularly seeing my dildo for 4 months now, and I smile just thinking about it. It is always hard for me!! I take good care of it, because it is VERY consistent in taking care of me 😍! Yeah it doesnt vibrate, but vibration isnt what I want. I want to feel the exhilaration of putting effort into my orgasm, letting it build up, with all the worship in between, and sure enough it waits for me... no matter how long it takes. It supports my goal of orgasm, and it supports me u…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 02:22 AM
2

Notarized and filed, next
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 02:13 AM
6

I feel that way too - sad that my idea of "a partner for life" may just be a projection of female qualities onto men that I want to act like adults :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 02:13 AM
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Really appreciate this and have come to accept that it's TRUE (no, self, you are not imagining it, you're SEEING it because it is true). AND a question for you - is love real? Is there ever a point, after marriage, where a woman can be vulnerable with her husband? And that he will not lose respect/interest? Because if there is NOT a point like that, I want to be single forever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 02:10 AM
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GIGANTIC RED FLAG HE WAITED FOR YOU TO EMOTIONALLY INVEST Take time OFF and AWAY from this guys company!! Reassess!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 01:52 AM
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Thank you autocorrect
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 01:50 AM
3

Long fingernails = single-use weapons
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 01:41 AM
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I can usually spot abusive people instantly I bet people tell you all the time, "you cant know that right away!" Quick reminder that they are wrong, lots of respect for your well-honed instinct
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 01:34 AM
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YES YES YES I have STOPPED being "friendly" in the past month and WOW my life has become drastically more peaceful It does actually intimidate them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 01:32 AM
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You can’t love someone if you don’t love your damn self. Period. EXCLAMATION POINT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 01:31 AM
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for nothing Dont worry, theres still plenty of LVM bullshit to be disappointed by :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 01:30 AM
2

Hmm, might be a good idea to indulge a one-off craving for giving away some home-cooked food in an act of generosity... and see how long it takes before he pushes to see if you'll do it again? Just an idea on the topic of the cooking, in light of what you wrote. Just to test the waters and see if it's a womans responsibility in his mind... ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 01:26 AM
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Can I briefly mention the man who I was "with" during a drug-fueled crazy period in my earliest twenties, who got SERIOUSLY angry at me for eating half a can of tuna, an english muffin, and a slice of Kraft "cheese" at his house, which he offered to me because I was "too thin," because i was eating all his food. These memories have hardened my heart in the BEST way - now that I eat like a fucking instagram vegan princess, and knowing the work that goes into that, I'm not fucking sharing unless y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 01:21 AM
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EXACTLY!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 01:12 AM
3

YES ENJOY!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 01:11 AM
5

THE BOOK Do read it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 01:08 AM
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THAT WAS RLY FUNNY TO ME IN THIS MOMENT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 01:06 AM
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The classic "I have this image of who I want you to be, please be that woman or at least DON'T have any personality features that conflict with that image"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 01:05 AM
3

G i a n t truth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 01:02 AM
5

Rat men omfg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 02:14 AM
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I dont think this gentleman understands lighting, or that women exist outside of porn shoots
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 02:09 AM
4

Y E S
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 02:06 AM
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professionally as well YES. IT DOES. Love this shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 02:00 AM
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Thank you BOTH!!! This stuff is so important even for those not in the know about their value
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 01:59 AM
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DONT go wild shaving your genitalia or anything that's staying under your clothes the whole night anyway My friends have done this and said "what a waste" ans girl your body is not a waste in any way shape or form. It's also time-consuming, dont bother
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 01:57 AM
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Ok I'm back and I just have to say THANK YOU FDS FOR GIVING ME MY 20'S, because I really was about to blindly let a major chunk of them get wasted on men, and trying to get myself "right" for a relationship. I've heard it said that if the You from six weeks ago doesnt seem like a dumbass to You Now, then your spiritual journey still needs to rev up. I'm so grateful to have the vocubalary and emotional infrastructure to intentionally cultivate a life free from LVM influence
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 01:52 AM
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YES
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 01:50 AM
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You just TRIGGERED me back to my old bestie.... girl, I pulled out every single stop for that woman. I REALLY loved her!! If a man would ever treat me with one half that affection, I'd be liable to get hooked
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 01:48 AM
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I feel you, I think part of it might be that now at their age, the guys in the older generations just come off as MUCH more clear about their value - so the good hearts stand out as awesome, and the trash STINKS from a mile away. Young guys seem to be more willing to shapeshift based on what their chances seem to be w any given woman... in a few decades, theyll either become fully bitter/entitled, or blossom into their emotional intelligence
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 01:46 AM
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This continues to baffle me, even with all the other bullshit men did that I have come to accept as Their Way
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 03:03 AM
9

55 *32
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 03:02 AM
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Oh I have one: Happy new year, thinking of you... 2 days later AM: hey how are you doing? PM: I'm worried about you dude 10 days later: hey you S t o p
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 03:01 AM
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Dont smile in the blank space in a conversation Only make eye contact when it makes sense to Raise eyebrows in surprise when they say something borderline rude "What?" When they say something questionable. Not polite, not pointed either, just "what?" Dont laugh unless you cant help it, i.e. only laugh at things that make you laugh Neutral eyelids. Saves a lot of energy for me They notice this shit so much more than I thought they would. I'm not even dating, and I'm enjoying the absolute fuck out…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 02:55 AM
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be a police officer GIRL YOU ARE NOT MISSING SHIT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 12:49 AM
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Look I never left short men off the table at the start And after meeting SO MANY WALKING RED FLAGS who were short, I consider shortness to be a red flag They're like twice as fucking aggressive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 12:35 AM
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Hashtag upgradeyourtech2020 🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 12:27 AM
2

LMFAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 12:27 AM
5

Truth hurts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 12:25 AM
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Ok THANK YOU idk why I'm trying to allow myself to reorganize my life for dates Wtf is this pickme bullshit I was on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 12:24 AM
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LMFAO me too with the fasting!!!🤣🤣 for what it's worth, I've found fasting to be my number ONE healing method - I attribute my "miraculous cure" to extended/intermittent fasting. I hope it has similar effects for you! What do you usually do for dates, then?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 12:24 AM
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I could, and now that you say this, the excuses that pop up in my head are making me realize I judge myself REALLY HARD for not eating off the menu at places. I mean, wouldnt someone who ACTUALLY wants my company just keep pitching different dates until they found an idea I was down for? Duh right??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 12:19 AM
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SAME, I've even asked women who work w me at my gym if they are coincidentally going to any workout classes at my gym at the same time as me.... I feel like a less pathetic version of a man trying to go on a date with ANY woman 🤣 ultimately tho, I know that having a "desperate" vibe will hurt my social life even more, even if I do feel desperate sometimes. I'm with you Chica ...any chance you're on the west coast USA lol ETA yes true about the tea!!!!! Wait DUH lmao I can bring my own tea bag an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 12:16 AM
8

WHO MEN
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 12:13 AM
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HE IS 24?!?!? GIRL BYE Omg they do not grow up do they
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 12:12 AM
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Sounds like a member of an entire demographic of people who refuse to p a r e n t themselves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 12:11 AM
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Thanks for asking and I'm not offended, but I'm so exhausted from trying to explain it over the past year lol, I dont even have the heart to get into the details To summarize: I was severely injured 2 years ago. I should not have recovered but I did, and now I have to be careful lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 01:44 PM
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I cant eat at them :( trust me it is so ridiculous, I try to not even tell The Public because it's so hard to believe /explain
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 01:42 PM
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I cant eat processed food, and I'm vegan, and I dont drink. Long story short, restaurants are a HUGE NO for me. Adults make fun of me for it because it IS kind of ridiculous tbh lmao I dont even know what to say to friendly women who want to go out to eat/drink with me for fun... does anyone have any ideas of how to respond for food-related date/outing requests, which you wouldnt take as "shes sarcastically declining me"?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 11:40 PM
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BUT W A I T look I'm not feeling the tattoo itself (lol she has guts to do that!), but let me put it to you this way: I'm a WAY out there person. Not on the surface, but once people get close and find out my Inflammatory Views(TM), they tend to think I'm insane. Honestly tho... they're not meant to be in my circle. By being OUTRAGEOUSLY herself, the woman who got this tattoo is actually weeding out more LVM and incompatible HVM as a byproduct of getting this tat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 11:28 PM
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LMFAO I actually do feel u there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 11:26 PM
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IS THAT SARCASM LMFAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 10:41 PM
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THANK YOU
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 10:33 PM
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YES And to any Christian sisters out there: if you clear out your social circle and find yourself ALONE-alone (like me right now), you are INVITING God to fill your life with kindred spirits and inspiring people!! And if you're not christian then DO IT ANYWAY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 10:18 PM
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You know that song that starts "I can see clearly now, the rain has gone"? The next line is "I can see all obstacles in my way." You're no longer running into the world blind to things you didnt know you were blind to! You will find that fish because he will pursue you with affection
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 02:04 PM
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Fightthenewdrug Yourbrainonporn Or search this sub or femaledatingstrategy just for the worst "porn" and you get some crazy shit! I'm glad you dont hate yourself - women always develop a level of emotional intelligence that makes us that much less vulnerable to brainwashing imo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 03:13 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/er6fwz/its_not_men_vs_women_its_high_value_vs_low_value/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 02:33 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/er6fwz/its_not_men_vs_women_its_high_value_vs_low_value/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 02:32 AM
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If you're feeling conflicted - read up! There is so much to know about porn... the entire industry is exploitative, all of it. It's sad but it's TRUE, and when you know the real story you will not want to watch it anymore
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 02:26 AM
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T H A N K. Y O U.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 02:25 AM
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This ones litty ty
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 04:19 PM
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This is how I would feel about my child trying new foods
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 04:17 PM
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Dont go trying to meet them!! That's not your job! Men are everywhere, do you and be out in the world doing what you need to do to enhance your joy and live your life, and a man who KNOWS he wants only YOU will actually run across two intersections at green lights to catch up to you and ask if he can take you on a date They will seriously embarrass themselves for the chance to ask you out, if they WANT to ask you out. You dont need to look, you're female, that's not your job. Do your education a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 03:33 PM
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They're terrified of rejection because they dont deal with their trauma
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 03:30 PM
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Ding ding ding! I have long blonde hair and whether it's up or down makes a big difference in how much catcalling I get It's not even the "nice" kind of hair magazines tell you to strive for. It's just long, and blonde, and it's just there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 03:29 PM
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They're (subconsciously) looking for markers of conformity to gender norms, which show that she will probably also conform to the gender role of Pickme Doormat BJMachine
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 03:27 PM
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He looks like he might even be locked in someone's basement
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 03:19 PM
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LVM!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 03:13 PM
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Yes it is Read about abuse Get away from him and good for you for breaking up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 03:12 PM
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BYE IAN
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 03:10 PM
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I feel like everyone in the USA has the mentality of a scared, captive animal. We kind of are, and I definitely act like that at times still, it's sad. Avoid them lmfao blessee
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 03:10 PM
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I've only ever been to Canada and italy outside the USA, and let me tell you the men in the USA are way more violent on the streets than they are over there. Solution: avoid men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 03:07 PM
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If she didnt have that man in her space, she would have more than enough time to do ONE person's dishes and chores - her own!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 03:05 PM
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Legit I do not usually have time to get on top, so idk why the fuck they even complain
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 03:03 PM
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F a c c s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 03:02 PM
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And he makes it explicitly clear about 5 million times to the reader that it is the man's fault: "yes, they know what they're doing, heres proof" / "no, he does not feel bad, heres proof" / "no, you cannot influence this behavior with your own responses, heres proof"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 02:57 PM
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Dweeeeet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 11:54 PM
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YYYYYYEEEEEESSSSSSS ABSOLUTELY FUCKING ESSENTIAL PERIOD! I cannot stress how fucking highly I agree, please excuse my language but THIS is THE book to read for any woman, if just one book had to be chosen. It is so compassionately and clearly written, extremely informative and priceless. Reading this book changed my life. Like, estranged from my abusive parents, different state, changed my name, feeling more free than a pterodactyl soaring across continents type of FREEDOM. Because inside, the i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 11:53 PM
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RED FLAGS OF MAJOR DISHONESTY cut him off
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 11:48 PM
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I hope this shit happens to my mother. She never fucked any of my dates, but she is a horrid beast and she deserves this same exact level of misery
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 11:46 PM
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NO IT WAS NOT AN ASSHOLE MOVE you're a bad bitch in the best way
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 11:45 PM
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I'm sayin In my opinion, Obama would have changed the world so much more if he was the president somewhere else. The White House doesnt seem to let good people accomplish what they intend to. Obstruction on all sides... AND YOU KNOW, he didnt leave his rock Michelle out of the frustration of it. He knew her value was greater than the system of the USA
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 10:21 PM
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THIS IS SO SPICY I LOVE IT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 10:19 PM
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I wish I wasnt a brainwashed tea party idiot when they were in the White House I literally missed it But they're still in love ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 10:17 PM
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The thing here that shocks me is a man contributing value to a woman's life Shouldnt shock me since you value yourself, clearly ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 04:43 PM
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And you also just saved yourself A LOT of trouble 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 04:40 PM
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One of them commented on how a virgin gave a great blowjob... sorry we're better at sex than you guys, maybe you should level up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 01:40 PM
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Thanks ♥️ :) I've honestly come to recognize that this utilitarian mindset about things is really a part of my personality. And I love it. And yeah people made fun of it when I ONLY had those dumpy clothes, but they're not laughing when I put a thousand in the bank while I'm not out shopping for "things I need" at Staples or the mall, because I already have the shit that I need, and I'll only spend when i upgrade the important stuff (you know, the stuff that actually improves my life lmao) You'r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 01:27 PM
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Ah yes, the foundation of "knowing your worth" and the way it's essential to continue to improve your own life regardless of whatever men are doing in the background (i.e. dumb weird shit). It takes a certain amount of self-esteem to really take stock of what your friendships look like, but once you do, you can see if they reflect your worth... or if they reflect a lack of self-esteem. If it feels normal for a woman to be a people-pleaser/ to over-function in her friendships, how the hell is she…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 01:22 PM
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Women are rejecting the flaws of men. And this is where we break the endless cycle. I feel like OP is trying to encourage us on that front; without blaming ourselves for their bullshit, we can take responsibility for what relationships (platonic or romantic) we will tolerate. She is just taking it as "assumed" in this post, that we know men's behavior is not our fault nor our responsibility. So she's talking from the vantage point of, "OK, most men are not gonna treat you decently, so get right …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 01:18 PM
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THANK YOU 🙌🏻 AMEN
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 01:11 PM
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Sidenote - hey mods, I think this is worth a pin or addition to the sub resources!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 11:55 AM
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SO BLESSED!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 11:54 AM
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I HAVE SOMETHING TO SAY AND I LOVE this piece!! Look, I dont "look like" a HVW to the average person. I wear thrift store mens clothes that will last. Clearance rack mens shoes that are 7 years old. I DRIVE THAT 15 Y.O RUSTY CIVIC (the guy at the shop knows me by "rust bucket honda lady"). When I tell you EVERYTHING I own is strictly utilitarian, I mean it. I do not eat out, ever. I dont go to shows, bars, or any paid events. I sew my clothes when they get messed up. I have charitable giving, bu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 11:53 AM
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This is spicy as fuck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 11:41 AM
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Sounds like my "loving parents," specifically my father. They are so full of shit. Every insult a man ever lobs at you is projection. I find that almost incredible, but I dont make the truth I just observe it and the evidence is IN ladies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 11:37 AM
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Wait good point
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 02:32 AM
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I agree and this was really articulate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 02:31 AM
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Oh my god, he should go to the fucking wedding are you kidding me??? Reading the whole post, that shit is crazy and what the fuck, no no I would be at my nest friends wedding. I feel strongly about it tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 02:29 AM
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I'm in the same phase. Because of FDS lol Since I feel like all that's left for me to do now on the dating front, is fucking ignore men, it forced me to realize I HAVE THE FREEDOM and skills to boss my life the fuck up, and then turn around and be generous with women children and animals. I've made a commitment to not let men distract me unless they consistently distract me with joy or something else of value, without detracting from my life. So yup, not involved rn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 02:20 AM
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YES!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 02:15 AM
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"So, your car is a Toyota, which means it needs Toyota parts" /pikachuface "INTERESTING GO ON"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 02:13 AM
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Lmfao right, I dont feel guilty either. I used to. I was a dumbass for sure 🤣 Toast to the good life 🥂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 02:13 AM
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In some ways it feels like being condescending is the instinctive LVM response to a woman who MIGHT interest them - just to see if she knows shes not as smart as he is. If she is deluded into an idea of being smarter than he is, well the poor dear just needs more information so here let me explain bla bla bla Props to you, having an easy trick to weed them out is always a plus, but this skill is a well paid career 💪🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 02:12 AM
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They sell cheap dildos that are well worthy of your emotional attachment If you dont want to waste your investment, please invest your cash first, not your heart
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 01:56 AM
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Lemme just say I had MAJOR mommy issues myself, plus the daddy ones. Shits not easy to heal but what do ya know, I did it, and you gals all work in it inwardly, and now we dont need enmeshment and coddling. Quick reminder to anyone that needs this: Men don't have an excuse and they're not your responsibility
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 01:54 AM
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Faxxxx📠📠📠📠📠📠📠📠📠📠
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 01:53 AM
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HATFISH STOP IT I HAVE TO PEE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 06:50 PM
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Such a fucking shame when I see a woman who has somehow applied her makeup like a beautiful, detailed, equally subtle & bold, fine painting around her features... only for some people to comment and reduce it to "fake" or "caked on" or "basic." I'm over here thinking "holy shit how did she do that in 30 minutes and how does she know how?!" No wonder men are intimidated... they cant admit they're impressed by a woman's talent. Unless, of course, they're making a big fuss about mEn CaN dO iT tOo s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 06:49 PM
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Video game? FORGET IT. They've made it clear we're not to have any interest or preference on the subject 🤣💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 05:48 PM
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Y e s it really is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 04:01 PM
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Yes. Would also love anyone's tips on screening for this, or the most obvious signs of a man who doesnt watch porn. I have my own ideas, but would love to hear from you queens
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 04:01 PM
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You're ahead of the game
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 04:00 PM
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Word I'm down for a deeply Christian man!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 03:59 PM
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DO NOT BE AFRAID TO HURT HIS FEELINGS Thank you!! I wish I learned this earlier; men's egos are so fucking fragile that if you try to avoid hurting them, you'll wind up avoiding being alive/human
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 03:57 PM
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SOUNDS LIKE AN ABUSIVE SITUATIONNNNNNNN where he is all put together and shes falling apart. Because she cares and he doesnt, and ya know how those abusers love to look the part of a HVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 04:00 AM
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Legit lay one of your own arms across yourself and see if that doesnt prompt a deep breath of relief People dont think it works because they dont try it, because they dont think it will work Hug yourself I'm not even joking
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 03:57 AM
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nip fetish This man has never interacted with a living, breathing woman
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 03:54 AM
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can't No, they choose not to control themselves, and no one forces them control themselves :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 03:53 AM
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THANK YOU
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 03:53 AM
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Yep, giving victims olanzapine to shut them up is also mainstream af in the rest of the USA
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 03:51 AM
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I believe what she means is when you're first dating, it's way too soon to be doing relationship-style supportiveness
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 03:38 AM
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"you can make time to live your life, but not to come see me?" Yes, actually
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 03:31 AM
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Absolutely 100% my pleasure - I think people dont talk about how distressing it can be to have a sex drive that's pushing them into doing things they're not sure about, hell, even things they hate! I dont imagine we're the same, but I didnt realize at 19 that being on Prozac for 9 years had absolutely disrupted the eve loving FUCK out of my body and brain. Add 5 cups of coffee a day (five?! Wtf was wrong with me??), little sleep, too much work on my feet, and adderall here and there... I was so …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 02:42 AM
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These concepts are tools that men at large have created to make women seek out things they dont really want... things that benefit men. At 20, very few women understand how to pleasure themselves to true satisfaction (men, too). I can guarantee (GUARANTEE) that the sex you're having with yourself now is more satisfying than any sex you can have with a man in your age range. It's an illusion; they cannot satisfy you, they will not give you the experience of intimacy and pleasure and orgasm that y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 03:02 PM
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UM BIG SAME 💪🏻 Keep claiming your authority over your body sis - we dont need them like they want us to think we do ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 02:54 PM
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I'm not giving you shit I'm agreeing lol Edited to add p.s. it was not good vibes that cured me. It was hard work and trial and error and the hardest 18 months I've ever had to survive in this life. GOOD news is, I'm legit not afraid of anything anymore cause nothing will ever top that shit 🤣💪🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 04:47 AM
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Girl how did you read my mind right there wtf I got injured and became (allegedly) chronically ill, and during an unremarkable moment of languishing on the porch, I said "No. I will not be chronically ill." And then I fucking cured myself... without help. Because no one fucking cared except me 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 03:43 AM
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Trauma is possible to heal from but it requires a lot of validation, support and resources. I have good news for you - even these are not necessary!! I went from full-blown "which way is up, whose voice am I hearing, I'm going to kill myself" mode, to stable, self-respecting, and calm, without any support and an extremely limited experience of validation. It can be done :) and maybe OP is trying to tell us that, too - that when you're really screwed, you dont even "need" what you should need, an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 03:36 AM
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Blessed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 03:34 AM
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If I may add... Compassion and kindness from outside sources can feel healing and are psychologically healthy to experience however We are living in a fucking dystopia, and are now at the point where expecting this level of decency from friends and/or family is actually a risky gamble!!!!!! Internalize a compassionate response to yourself; this is the end-goal of receiving kindness from others in the first place. This world does not honor the nature of humans to be vulnerable and to need comfort…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 03:33 AM
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Yes I have been thru this! And my solution was: Get familiar with the female anatomy and how to ACTUALLY pleasure it. I was still ashamed of masturbating, still rushing it (3 or 4 minutes smh), still always having only 1 orgasm, which was usually weak, and never felt satisfied. I would try to use penetration with myself, but it hurt and felt strange by myself. Self-pleasure should be so satisfying that you forget about men for at least 24 hours after you finish a round with yourself. If this is …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 03:27 AM
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PSA!!! Like cops, there is a strong and statistically significant learning towards authoritarianism among physicians. My political views totally aside, male doctors and nurses make the CREEPIEST and most aggressive comments out of anyone... I havent bothered to try to date any of them, but Beware!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 03:20 AM
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I'm so glad you do - it's the least I can do to return the favor to the FDS community at large ;) thank you ♥️❗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 07:06 PM
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I'm really glad we're able to offer you helpful things here!! <333
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 03:28 AM
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... take care of your child? Be a high value man by not abandoning your child, and providing for the child's development and future? They're gonna start asking the internet "how do I breathe and exchange oxygen for CO2 in order to survive?" And people are gonna say "just spin more plates"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 02:56 AM
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chasing ... ? Every time you look over your shoulder, hes trying to do something that makes you happy and gets your attention. Not included: disrespect of any kind
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 02:38 AM
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Basically men are juvenile-aged cats who do weird shit in the living room and frustrate you, while optionally ruining your furniture
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 02:37 AM
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That sounds like a bunch of responses to sexual trauma. I've been there :( One week is VERY short, please do not act on these impulses right now. Write about them, like you did here now, in a journal, and see if it helps you process it mentally/cry it out/ un-repress emotion? Seek out psychological and emotional means of release and comfort before you offer yourself to men for their pleasure, please! You do deserve that at the VERY least
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 02:35 AM
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AHEM ty
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 02:33 AM
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Do any men think of how incredibly meaningful it would be if they offered to serve a woman a bottle of wine while she watches him make a dinner for them both, a HOME COOKED MEAL? That is not an expensive thing to organize, not at all. But no. We are gold-diggers who do not need nor appreciate flavor, ambience, nutrition, or thoughtful efforts. FORWARD SLASH S
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 02:33 AM
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He could: Be nervous Have low blood pressure Have a stressed cardiovascular system Have an iodine deficiency Have a problem with his endocrine system Be afraid of demons who will haunt him if he has sex on Tuesdays or Thursdays All of these would be HIS problems. Let him sort them out. If you'd like him to pleasure you again, ask for it! If sex is shitty and hes soft, dont have any until he proves to you he can be suitably hard to give you a satisfactory experience. Honestly... dont help him out…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 02:30 AM
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I'm new so take me with a grain of salt How I improve value & satisfaction in my life? I strive to be the fullest version of the MOST important things about me, for myself. These are the things I consider MOST important in a partner. Am I down on myself sometimes for not having a solid savings or investment plan/retirement savings? For having an old car? For working hourly jobs in between? Yes. And as long as I'm prioritizing careful progress in these things, WITHOUT prioritizing men, I am bound…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 02:16 AM
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how Patriarchy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 02:05 AM
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I would say you're starting well - when your standards are high, few men will meet them or even catch your eye. You dont need to go and be around them, men who truly like you and want to get to know you will MAKE themselves known to you, hell or high water. Anyone who does less than that is being opportunistic, testing the waters rather than having the courage to take a chance and approach you. You wont need "experience" with shitty men in order to "learn" how to be for a good man. You are the p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 02:03 AM
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I Love This So Much Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 01:56 AM
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I believe this moment is happening today. Much of what's on TV is past the "soft core" level of explicit... and I know plenty of parents who have watched those movies & shows with their kids
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 01:52 AM
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Duly noted... new leveling up for me to do
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 01:48 AM
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Yup. Estranged from my family after the backlash of telling them my father exposed himself to me... as well as my mother having EVERY trait described above by OP. Low value, low value everywhere
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 01:48 AM
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men are the only males that kill their own females over it. Good point wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 01:27 AM
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Ever seen a guy's attractiveness do a 180 because he grew OR cut his hair? Or because he stopped wearing hats? Or because he changed his style of pants? Or because he shaved/grew a beard or EVEN just a mild moustache? That shit is so much easier than shaving half your body everyday, growing giant glutes or paying for implants (no shame if you have, it's just more effort than showering and washing your balls lol), or any of the other INTENSE shit that women allegedly need to be baseline "dateable…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 01:27 AM
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<3 thank you, I am well now and NEVER AGAIN with that bullshit!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 12:35 AM
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It probably sounds weird and maybe even judgmental, but I dont mean it that way. This world is under some serious oppression, and as women especially, none of us get to escape childhood without traumatic experiences, and false lessons we learn from them. I cant know exactly what parts of your life molded your subconscious and your heart, in good or awful ways, but everyone gets molded by the painful things that happen to them. Read up about what "complex trauma" means, and see if anything resona…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 12:27 AM
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Thank you, but gladly I'm past blaming myself and also past bothering to blame him. Some people abandon their brains and hearts before they turn 30, but that lesson was as packed with value as it was with pain. Dontsleepwithzeros2020&beyond 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 12:20 AM
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My body reacts on it's own and that's something I can not control with rational thoughts Sanity I know the reasons for my behavior so it helps me not to do hasty descisions. More sanity My self-esteem has never been this good though Big sanity I'm really sorry to hear that's how it went down... that sounds like the ultimate combination for tearing a child down. But I see you are up and fighting and claiming your future 💪🏻 that's too fucked up, I'm proud of you though and that's a fuckin inspirat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 12:19 AM
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Abusers keep a good public profile Makes their victims seem less reliable in the court of public opinion He's a good example of a psychopath
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 02:06 PM
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Oh I have one!! My predatory sociopath father suddenly developed terrible pains all over his body in the 2 months before I estranged from my family... he would constantly be limping in pain and suddenly buckling under his own weight... like only when I was there in the room. And my pickme mother, I'm sure, needed to tend to him so my female ass could get tough enough on my own to save my own husband someday. Thank you mother, for inspiring the heart that is now so enthusiastic about FDS. Couldnt…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 01:50 PM
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This HAS to be a troll acct please god
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 01:45 PM
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anxiety Ok buddy sorry women make you FEEL so much because of your faint heart
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 01:41 PM
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I also like to go around reddit and let people know this: therapy doesnt always benefit people. Either because of a SHIT therapist, or a terrible modality... or so many other ways it can go wrong. Good therapy is fantastic!! But if you've already been burned by it, it's worth considering if it's not worth making yourself so vulnerable (AND paying $$ for it) when you can do therapy by yourself :) please know that self-therapy of INFINITE varieties is an extremely effective option available to EVE…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 01:40 PM
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Oh my goodness what a reckoning to experience Never again, not even close, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 01:36 PM
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He is a Real Life Psychopath Poor Beyonce... I mean she has a million dollars and shes successful af I hope she leaves but this is a pity Hes a monster. More motivation for me to stay on FDS and not Tinder
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 02:20 AM
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don't like woman Ok
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 02:16 AM
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I hate petty shit but this is not petty... this is savage and I do not discourage it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 01:56 AM
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Sounds like an actual psychopath
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 01:55 AM
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I let a man who was an actual zero (YES, AN ACTUAL ZERO IN EVERY DEPARTMENT) be my first fuck. His dick was, I shit you not, 4 inches long, and about the girth of 3 fingers. The condom did not fit well. He immediately asked me afterwards if I was really a virgin, because "it didnt feel like it." This man would later rape me, and berate me as I faded out from consciousness in an unsuccessful suicide attempt. And got mad at me for peeing on his mattress... because I was unconscious Be very careful…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 01:52 AM
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missing Trauma. It is trauma. That is the vacuum-in-your-heart feeling
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 01:48 AM
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If you did 5 years in therapy and didnt see permanent improvement (FIVE years!!), your therapist was NOT AN EFFECTIVE THERAPIST. take heart - complete healing is possible
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 01:43 AM
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I got ur books: Why does he do that - lundy bancroft From surviving to thriving- pete walker Daughter detox - peg Streep .... anatomy of an epidemic - Robert Whittaker, if you dont want to do psychiatry
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 01:42 AM
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I didnt either so I didnt do it :) you dont need it. "Release repressed emotion" - crying, yelling into pillows Speak to yourself in words the way you would speak to your own precious child that you would die for Write down and analyze your feelings BE NICE to yourself Research "why tf would I feel this way" (hint: it's not "muh brain," its unprocessed emotion. I'm new as fuck to holding men to a high standard, but I'm an expert in this particular arena lol, dont fret sis it can be resolved with…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 01:41 AM
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And I’m even more mad I basically got gaslighted and bullied out of prioritizing my own orgasm. ME TOO comrade, we are fixing this shit so make sure you get nice and smug whenever you come by yourself. Regardless of the presence of dick in the room or not
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 01:05 AM
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Oh dont worry they feel violated when you gently express the truth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 12:40 AM
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This is GOLD and CLASSIC men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 02:08 AM
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"Please don't do x y z" We have not even matched yet and you're telling me what to do LMFAOOO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 11:13 PM
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Set of 2 cheap resistance bands at target, 1 15 lb dumbell, and MAYBE a yoga mat can get you going and last for ALL your workout for a month at least, if u want a cheaper option <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 11:12 PM
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GIRL EXCUSE ME BUT YES I AM because I am realizing (THANKS, AGAIN, TO FDS) that my season of hardcore healing & self-compassion has been hijacked by self-pity. FUCK that. Why would I pity myself?? I busted my ass, and my soul and heart and body, to get to this spot where I can heal peacefully. And now I'm letting myself think I'm not valuable enough to take this opportunity to rest and grow the way I prayed I could someday?? Because creepy men are "stressing me out"????? HAHA NAH, thank you OP f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 11:08 PM
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Oooooh I love this idea, the cocktail party moment! Great post! Mine would be: we were working on a [insert taboo activism here] project, and we made a great team. The project was really impactful, and he asked me out on a date at the little party the team had in honor of a successful project. He said he wanted to wait, because clearly the goal of our work was too important to me for him to mix romance into it when I was so dedicated. Also he continues to do this activism work WITH me, and we GE…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 10:26 PM
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Drugging ourselves to get away from men's irrresponsibility... fuck birth control. Anyone wanting to come off of it: THATS NOT SELFISH. It's your damn body
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 10:37 PM
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Queen in training?! You #dumpedhisass2019!! Official royalty AND GOOD FOR YOU!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 12:13 AM
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I love everyones comments rn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 11:57 PM
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Men are just stubborn about thinking not knowing how to understand other people makes them better. It just makes them less developed because they can't let go of their own conclusions for long enough to reach them again, which is a crucial aspect of the enquiring mind: trusting your methods to take you to the same result each time, no matter what curveballs people may throw when you actually listen to them. How can your love of yourself supercede your love of pursuing truth? No I actually love y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 11:57 PM
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UM THANK YOU THANK YOU FOR MAKING MY WEEK. Personally I dont believe in any of these diagnoses (pls dont pick a fight, you cant convince me and I cant convince you and let's not), but I did receive all 3 and then some as a young, YOUNG teen. Then I realized my father was sexually and verbally and financially abusive... and got off of medication to find that I was left with sexual dysfunction from 13 years of drugs concurrent with puberty (it's ok imma cure it). But hey, I'm not depressed, not an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 11:54 PM
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